1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 2: Only on the Jubile Show, Holly is on the phone 3 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 2: today for to Catch a Cheater and she thinks that 4 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 2: her husband of four years, Alan might be starting to 5 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:14,239 Speaker 2: see somebody else. Holly, thank you for coming on the show. 6 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. What's going on 7 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 2: with Alan? 8 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:19,440 Speaker 3: We've been married for four years, but we were together 9 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 3: probably three and a half years before that, so almost 10 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 3: eight years we've been together. He's just been really distant 11 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 3: all of a sudden, for like the past five to 12 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 3: six months. I don't know what's going on. I've asked him. 13 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 3: She's just like everything fine or it's not you. I'm 14 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 3: just going through some things. So I was like, okay, well, 15 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 3: if you're going through some things, do you want to 16 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 3: be in therapy or anything like that? And he was 17 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 3: like sure. So he started therapy, which I commend him 18 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 3: for and I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that you're 19 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 3: doing that. But he's still like distant, and even after therapy, 20 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 3: that's not like it got kind of worse. He spends 21 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 3: his time on Twitch and on his phone, and we 22 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 3: even used to once a week, like we would take 23 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,400 Speaker 3: our lunch breaks together from work and have lunch together, 24 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 3: and that stops like two months ago, Like, we don't 25 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 3: even do that anymore. 26 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 2: Huh. 27 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. So I'm suspecting there's 28 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 3: another person. 29 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 4: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside? 30 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 4: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure, 31 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 4: But have there been any signs of another person? 32 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: Well, he's always on his phone, right, like I said, 33 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 3: and we don't do our once a month lunch breaks 34 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 3: together anymore. 35 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 2: So did he give you a reason for stopping those? 36 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 3: Well, he just said he's swamped at work and everybody 37 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 3: knows that's a cliche. 38 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 2: Come on, really, I mean it could be. 39 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 4: I mean, have you tried to just show up at 40 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 4: his work with lunch and be like, hey, you couldn't 41 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 4: do that? 42 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 3: Do that? 43 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah's surprise. 44 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: I mean, for lack of a better to. 45 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: I do not have a to do that. 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 2: It's okay, okay fair. Does he interact with his friends 47 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 2: the same way that he was before? 48 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 3: No? Really, so that's kind of weird too. And I'm like, 49 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 3: who is getting all of this attention from him? 50 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 5: You know, because it's not me, it's not his friends. 51 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,360 Speaker 1: It is his phone, So I'm not going to go 52 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: through his phone like I tried to want we got 53 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: in a big argument, didn't work out, so I stay 54 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: away from going through his phone. 55 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 5: I just don't know. 56 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, so everyone's supposed to help, but it 57 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:58,679 Speaker 3: got worse. So now do I'd be like, stop going 58 00:02:58,720 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 3: to therapy. 59 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 5: I'm gonna look crazy. 60 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 3: Yeah. What if he's like having an affair with a. 61 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 2: Therapist, Oh, that would have been a potwaste. Yeah, then 62 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 2: I would say, ask him to stop going to that therapist. 63 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk 64 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 4: about ethics. 65 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 2: And yeah, teach you how to get over divorce. Because 66 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:20,279 Speaker 2: not getting. 67 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 4: A full blown, like one hundred percent cheating vibe from 68 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 4: this though, I'm getting more of a like something's going 69 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 4: on with him and he's just isolating himself from the 70 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 4: world's kind of a thing, which is tough because when 71 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 4: a guy gets to that space, it's hard to break through. 72 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 2: But if he's not acting like if he's acting weird. 73 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 4: With his friends also, that's what I mean, he's an 74 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 4: isolation phase. 75 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 2: I don't know. 76 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like it's got 77 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 3: to be something like he's never done a drug in 78 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 3: his life, so it's not drugs. 79 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 2: Well that's good, yeah, all right, Well we'll try to 80 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You 81 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 2: already told us what grocery store he's a Rewards card 82 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 2: member at, so we'll do the usual and call up, 83 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 2: pretend to be from the grocery store and say that 84 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 2: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six longstim red 85 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 2: roses delivered to anybody that he wants to, and we'll 86 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 2: see if he sends us to you or to somebody else. Okay, okay, 87 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 2: all right, we'll play a song. Come back and get 88 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,119 Speaker 2: your to Catch a Teater next, it's. 89 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 4: Time to Catch a Cheater only on the Jubile Show. 90 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's to Catch a Teater. 91 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 2: Holly is on the phone and she thinks that her 92 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 2: husband of four years might be messing around. We're about 93 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 2: to call him and pretend to be from the grocery 94 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 2: store that he is a Rewards card member at, and 95 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 2: say that every single month, we randomly choose one Awards 96 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,119 Speaker 2: Card member who gets free flower delivery from our Florida department, 97 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 2: and we'll see he sends those flowers to Holly or 98 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 2: to somebody else Holly. Before we do that, why don't 99 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 2: you refresh everybody's memory on what's going on with Alan. 100 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:42,239 Speaker 3: Alan and I have been together total of almost eight years, 101 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 3: four of them married. She's guys really distant. He spends 102 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 3: most of his time playing Twitch or on his phone. 103 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:54,600 Speaker 3: He stopped our monthly lunch date that we do together 104 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 3: from work. He did start therapy, but it only got 105 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 3: worst after Jappy and I don't want to go through 106 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 3: the phone and I'm not the tack of pop up 107 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 3: at work. 108 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 2: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here 109 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 2: we go. Hi, this is Jorable calling from I was 110 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 2: looking for our rewards card member named Alan. 111 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 5: Uh yeah, this is Alan. 112 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:34,359 Speaker 2: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a 113 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 2: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news. 114 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 2: You're this month's big winner. Thank you very much for 115 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 2: shopping with us. Yeah, clopping for We're here in the 116 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 2: office and everything. 117 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 5: Hey what did I win? 118 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 2: Every single month, we choose one rewards card member totally 119 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 2: random who gets free flowers delivered from our floral department. 120 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: So it's thirty six longstim red roses, a box of 121 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 2: candy or chocolates or whatever, and a car that sent 122 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 2: to anybody that you want. 123 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 5: Oh hey, that's pretty cool. 124 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 2: You said free, right, absolutely free, nothing out of pop. 125 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 2: It will give you confirmations on everything, so you know 126 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 2: that it's free. It's just our little way of saying 127 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,679 Speaker 2: thank you very much for shopping with us. 128 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:07,479 Speaker 5: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could 129 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 5: use that for sure. 130 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 2: Great. If you know the person that you want to 131 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: send the flowers to right now, I can do it 132 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: quickly over the phone in just a matter of minutes. 133 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 5: But yeah, I can give it to you on the 134 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 5: phone now, so it's easy. 135 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 2: The first thing that I will need would be the 136 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:21,919 Speaker 2: first and the last name of the person that you 137 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 2: would like to send the flowers to. 138 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 5: Okay, why don't you make the card out the judy 139 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 5: it's j U d Y. 140 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 2: Okay, and you have the last name on on judy. 141 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, what's the name? Is my last name? 142 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 2: So it was your last name? Is what was that? 143 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:36,119 Speaker 2: Your wife? 144 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 5: Uh? No not actually I'm going to put this in 145 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 5: the card. But if you could write I love you mom, 146 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 5: it's going to be okay. 147 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 2: Oh that okay, Yes, I can do that. Were it 148 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 2: and at this point, I'll just let you know that 149 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 2: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what, Yeah, 150 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 2: this is actually Jewbel from the Jewel Show. That's a 151 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 2: radio show. 152 00:06:58,080 --> 00:06:58,359 Speaker 1: Yeah. 153 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 2: I'm Nina on the radio show too, Hi, and I'm Victorian. 154 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 5: Yeah, and wait, what's going on? 155 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 2: Your wife, Holly is actually on the phone with us. 156 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 5: Holly, Are you kidding me? 157 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 2: Nope? Holly. Do you want to explain what this is? 158 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 3: Yeah? I kinda. I feel stupid now, but I kinda 159 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 3: ask them to do this because you've been getting like, 160 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 3: really really distant, and you haven't been telling me what's 161 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 3: been going on, and I've been asking you about it, 162 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 3: and you've spend most of your time on your phone 163 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 3: and you've been canceling Island State. 164 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 2: The segment is called to Catch a Cheater Alan, So 165 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 2: if somebody thinks they're significant other might be cheating, then 166 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 2: they will email us to call them and see see 167 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 2: who they send flowers to. 168 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 5: Oh no, okay, I've seen Now. Well, I gotta tell you, babe, 169 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 5: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry 170 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 5: that you even thought that. And yes, I've been distant lately, 171 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 5: and the truth is that I do have a secret, 172 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 5: but you know, it's it's nothing about you. It's actually 173 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 5: my mom has been getting sick. 174 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 2: Oh cancer, so sorry. 175 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 5: Oh we just kind of figured this out. And you know, 176 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 5: my siblings, they're not going to be helping me, so 177 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 5: it's it's like pretty much my responsibility here. Oh my god, 178 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 5: I'm so sorry. 179 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 3: I mean, your mom had Why why wouldn't you tell 180 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 3: me something like that. 181 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 5: I don't want to put the burden on you. I mean, 182 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:34,199 Speaker 5: you know me. I'm the kind of person who just 183 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 5: kind of deals with whatever is in front of them, 184 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 5: and I should have told you. 185 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 186 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 2: And also Alan, just a quick note, I get what 187 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 2: he's saying with that person that deals with stuff in 188 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 2: front of him. Everybody needs somebody to lean on, especially 189 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: if you have a wife. Sounds like you have a 190 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 2: supportive partner. 191 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 4: It sounds like it's been going on for a long 192 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 4: time and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to 193 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:57,079 Speaker 4: bear this by yourself. 194 00:08:57,320 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 2: I have six months and if you if your partner 195 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 2: can about you, it's not burdening them with anything. They 196 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 2: want to be there for you all. Do you want 197 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 2: to be there for him? 198 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 3: Of course I do. I'm even embarrassed that it had 199 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 3: to come this far to be on the radio, but 200 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 3: like I wish I would have known, like this is 201 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 3: a big deal. 202 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 5: I'm sorry, you know what, it is my fault that 203 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 5: you feel this way, And you guys are totally right. 204 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 5: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah, 205 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 5: I guess I could use some help myself. 206 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, there you go a little bit all that. 207 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 3: Okay, do you want to finish having this conversation like outside. 208 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 5: Of Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and 209 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 5: we haven't done it in a while because you know, 210 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 5: I've been so wrapped up in all this. But you know, 211 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 5: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think 212 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 5: if maybe we go to lunch today that I'd be 213 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:55,679 Speaker 5: pretty cool. I'm if you're up to it. 214 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 3: Of course, Yeah, let's do that. 215 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 2: Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, you have a lot to 216 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 2: talk about, and I'm glad that he wasn't cheating. 217 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,719 Speaker 3: Me too, me too. 218 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:11,079 Speaker 4: I am sorry to hear about about your mom, Alan, 219 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 4: and this is going to be a tough time for 220 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 4: all of you, but thankfully you have each other and 221 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 4: a lot of love, so you're lucky in that. 222 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 5: Thank you, And I appreciate you guys for that. 223 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 4: The Jewel shows to catch a cheater.