1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty, and relationships. It's The Velvet's 2 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson. Check check check check the 3 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: Solo podcast. You guys know, I'm not the biggest fan 4 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:18,119 Speaker 1: of these, but I have been getting a lot of 5 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:21,280 Speaker 1: requests to answer more emails from you guys, and then 6 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: when I do my Instagram like question and answer session, 7 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: there's always people either asking the same questions or wanting 8 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: more info, and so I figured I would just pick 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: a couple of those and go into some more in 10 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: depth answers on the podcast here. I actually haven't seen 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: these questions. I had my assistant kind of go through 12 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: them and pick out the ones that we got most repeatedly, 13 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: um or that I've gotten a lot in the past, 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: or that she just thought we're interesting that you guys 15 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: would go through someone answer my top I don't know, 16 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: ten to fifteen questions. We'll see how long the answers 17 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: take and see where we go. Okay, So to start this, 18 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: this first question says I want to see how you walk. 19 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: If you guys don't know what this is referencing. I 20 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:06,759 Speaker 1: get this question a lot or this comments a lot. 21 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 1: I get it on my Instagram pictures. But I did 22 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 1: a podcast with my boyfriend, who really does not enjoy 23 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: the public eye. So he is a very involved on 24 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: my Instagram or the podcast. I'll mention him, um, but 25 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: we don't really have like a public relationship, which is 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 1: a little bit odd for a person who shares their 27 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: life so publicly. But I do respect him for that, 28 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: and I try to respect his privacy as well as 29 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: his daughter's privacy. And so they're mentioned briefly, but I 30 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: don't go into too many details. However, he did do 31 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 1: one podcast with me. He came on the Velvet's Edge 32 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: podcast and it's called the International Man of Mystery as 33 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: a joke, obviously because nobody knows who he is, um, 34 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: but he talked a lot about when we first met, 35 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 1: and someone asked the question, what was the first thing 36 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: you noticed about Kelly? And he talked about it a 37 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: couple of times in the podcast, but he referenced to 38 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: my walk. Now, I have no clue what this means. Really, 39 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: I'm just walking. I'm just living my life. I don't 40 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: even know how I do it, or like, what's so 41 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 1: special about it or anything that caught his attention about it. 42 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: But apparently I have some sort of strut that I do. 43 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: So maybe I'll make a video. Maybe this is good 44 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,239 Speaker 1: TikTok material. I don't know. You guys know, I don't 45 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: really understand TikTok either, but he did mention that, and 46 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: if you haven't listened to that podcast, it was a 47 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: big hit because people loved hearing from him, and he 48 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: has a really sexy voice. If I'm being really honest, Um, 49 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: it's like a little bit raspy. I don't know, he's 50 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: just real cute. So search that podcast. It's called The 51 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: International Man of Mystery and it is with a man. Okay, 52 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: this next question says, how do I Oh, I'm sorry, 53 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: I'm dating a single dad his sixteen year old daughter 54 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: is not having it. Any advice. Well, this kind of 55 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: goes hand in hand with talking about my boyfriend. He 56 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: has two daughters. Um, they are nine and seven, so 57 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: they're a little bit on the younger side. And I'm 58 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 1: sure when you get involved with a person and who 59 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: has a teenager it might bring a few different issues 60 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: than I've had to face. But I do understand this transition. 61 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: And in my experience, UM, I was the first one 62 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: to date my guy after a divorce, and so you know, 63 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,239 Speaker 1: there's a lot to navigate there, and it was difficult 64 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: for all parties on some level, I think, but we did. 65 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: We were able to kind of navigate through that in 66 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: a team like manner, which I think is super super 67 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: important if you can do it. Um and and it's 68 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: just the right thing to do for the kids because 69 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: they have a lot of emotions going on. They don't 70 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: want their parents to be dating other people. They want 71 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: their parents to be together. And I had to accept 72 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: that and not take it personally. But you know, that 73 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: was some of the battle that we went through at 74 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: the beginning, was just sort of like why do you 75 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: have to have a girlfriend? Which I get and I 76 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: know that um with my thinking about my parents doing 77 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: that's just really hard to think about. So I do 78 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: think it's really important to respect the kids feelings and 79 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,119 Speaker 1: try as hard as you can not to take things 80 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: personal because it isn't person and all. It isn't about you, 81 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: It isn't about what you do or don't bring to 82 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: the table. It's just them navigating through their emotions and 83 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: their kids. So in this case a teenager. So let's 84 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: not even get started on the hormonal aspects of all 85 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: those things. Happening, but um, I do. I was told 86 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:16,919 Speaker 1: very early on, and then I read this in a 87 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: lot of blogs about this this kind of stuff transitioning 88 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: into dating someone with kids, but that consistency is the 89 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: most important thing that you could do. So for me, 90 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: it was small things at first, like I'm gonna wake 91 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 1: up every morning when the girls wake up, and I'm 92 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: gonna help them do their hair because that's a skill 93 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: set that I have, and um, it was a good 94 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:39,479 Speaker 1: way for us to bond. And then it became this 95 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 1: small thing that I do that's not you know, it's 96 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: not like life changing. Their dad could help them put 97 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: their hair in a ponytail if he needed to. Um, 98 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: and their mom's gritted hair too, so they get it 99 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 1: on the other side. But the best part for me 100 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: was that that became something that they could count on 101 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: every day and so it was just our routine. And 102 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:02,359 Speaker 1: once we started developing small things like that, like little routines, 103 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:03,840 Speaker 1: or they knew I was going to be the one 104 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: to do it, or they knew to come to me 105 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 1: for certain things, it really did start to create this 106 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,559 Speaker 1: bond between us that is now very very strong. And 107 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: I really have noticed, you know, I've started traveling again 108 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,919 Speaker 1: with work, and when I'm having to miss them a 109 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 1: lot because of the scheduling or I don't get my 110 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: qualities time with them, I can't show up in the 111 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: ways that I do. It takes a minute for us 112 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: to kind of adjust back, and I can sense their 113 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: feelings of like, is this person going to really be 114 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: there for me? Or is she going to disappear again 115 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 1: because of work or whatever it is. And I just 116 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 1: think because of the transitions that all kids go through 117 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,479 Speaker 1: in the breakup with their parents, that consistency is something 118 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 1: that they really can rely on. So UM, as much 119 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: as you know life can happen or work can happen, 120 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: I do try to show up and be consistent with 121 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: very specific things to where they know they can rely 122 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: on me and that I'm going to show up and 123 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: be there for them whenever they need me. Hi, I'm 124 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 1: curious about your fertility journey. How are you coping? Um? 125 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:08,160 Speaker 1: That is an interesting question. So if you haven't followed 126 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: my fertility journey over the last couple of years, I 127 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: tried to freeze my eggs multiple times. I just turned 128 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: thirty nine, but I started this process probably when I 129 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: was thirty six. Thirty six. Um, and if you're a 130 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: girl listening, you know that when you go to the guy, no, 131 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: when you turned thirty five, if you haven't had kids yet, 132 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:29,359 Speaker 1: they really start to press you about this because everything 133 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: after thirty five, according to a gynecologist, becomes geriatric. That 134 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 1: was a tough one to swallow when I gonna dropped 135 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: that one on me. So if you get pregnant after 136 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: thirty five, they start referring to it as a geriatric pregnancy. 137 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: I mean, that is like the biggest shots fired ever. 138 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: But okay, we'll just take it. These are the battles 139 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: that women have to go through that I'm just want 140 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 1: to shake men sometimes and be like, ah, you have 141 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: it so easy in this realm. But anyway, my Ganda 142 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,920 Speaker 1: really started to, you know, preach to me about fertility 143 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: and what was happening to my body and how when 144 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: we're born, we're born with a certain amount of eggs 145 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: and it just goes downhill from there. You never can 146 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: get eggs back, so, um, we're constantly losing eggs. And 147 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: so that's why it's a lot easier to get pregnant 148 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 1: for most people when you're in your twenties or early thirties. Um. 149 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: And not to say that it can't happen obviously, but 150 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: it does get harder. So in my journey, I really 151 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: started to investigate into egg freezing UM at about the 152 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: age of thirty five, early thirty six. And I was 153 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: doing this because you know, I was really busy with 154 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 1: work at that point. I was super career focused. UM. 155 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: I was on a TV show, I had just started 156 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: a podcast, I was running my brand, Velvet's Edge, and 157 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: I still did hair, makeup and styling for all of 158 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: my celebrity clients um here in Nashville and the music business. 159 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: So there was just a lot on my plate. And 160 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: to be honest, I had no time for dating. So 161 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: it was really hard to think about, Okay, what am 162 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: I gonna go get a boyfriend and be like, hey, 163 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: so do you wanna have kids? Like how does that go? 164 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: You know? So I wanted to alleviate some of that 165 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: pressure on myself, on my dating life and just in general, 166 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: um on the idea of I have to have a 167 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: baby right now. So I started looking into my fertility 168 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: and pretty quickly found out that you know, it might 169 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 1: be a bigger struggle for me than I thought. UM. 170 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: I found out you go into the fertility doctor, you 171 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: find out sort of where your egg count is hitting 172 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 1: at that point in Every period is different, so some 173 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: months that could be higher than others, and so it's 174 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: a really important thing to start monitoring. I also found 175 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: out that I am really prone to assist, which is 176 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: really common, but it can disguise itself as an egg 177 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: on your ovary sometimes, and so it can be a 178 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: little bit confusing when you're going through the fertility process 179 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: and the doctor is just trying to navigate what your 180 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,560 Speaker 1: egg count is and you know when is a good 181 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,440 Speaker 1: time to try this, and YadA, YadA YadA. In that 182 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: if you have questions about this, I would say, do 183 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: your research, just start just go to the fertility doctor. 184 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 1: I've also done podcast with the women that helped me 185 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: through my journey, and they gave so much information and 186 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: insight and to cost into what the process actually looks like. 187 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: I ended up going through two egg freezing um journeys 188 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: and none of them worked for me. I was not 189 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: able to get any viable eggs um in the process, 190 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: and and that's where this is kind of landed. But 191 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 1: that does not mean that's going to happen for you. 192 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: I have plenty of people my age older than me, UM, 193 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:36,560 Speaker 1: that have successfully frozen tons of eggs. But I would 194 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: just say get started, especially if you don't see yourself 195 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: anytime soon being on that journey with a partner or 196 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: by yourself or however you plan to do it, but 197 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: just looking at your options. I think knowledge is power 198 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: in this situation, but don't shy away from it because 199 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: of fear, because the more time goes by, the harder 200 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: it's going to get, unfortunately. So this is one of 201 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 1: those like put your big girl paintings on and just 202 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: get your informa aation. You may go to the fertility 203 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: doctor and they're like, you have tons of eggs. You 204 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: don't need to worry about this for you know, another 205 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: three or four years and you're totally fine. So I 206 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: would say start saving, and also, um, just get your 207 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 1: information because that is where I kind of went wrong 208 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: and waited a little too long. Where does it stand now, UM, 209 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: I think it's sort of been put on hold for 210 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 1: me in a lot of ways. The process of trying 211 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 1: to freeze my eggs was pretty brutal. Um. Again, I 212 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: don't know if it's it's like this for everybody, but 213 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 1: my body just responds really sensitively to medicine in general, 214 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 1: and so all of the hormones being pumped in. Also, 215 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 1: I am a feeler, impath sensitive person, which you know 216 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 1: if you ever listen to this podcast. So, uh, yeah, 217 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: that was a crazy time in my life. I was 218 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: very emotional, still trying to work, and it's just exhausting. 219 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 1: It's really hard on your body. UM. So really, if 220 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: you are thinking about it, just surround yourself with people 221 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:58,000 Speaker 1: who are very supportive and can help hold you up, 222 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: um and just help you to not so isolated, because 223 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: it can be really isolating. After I went through the 224 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: second process and we were not able to retrieve any eggs, UM, 225 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 1: I just decided I needed a break. And I also 226 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:13,600 Speaker 1: sort of like instinctually knew I don't think that's gonna 227 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 1: be the way I get pregnant. I just know in 228 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: my body somehow that that isn't my route. UM. I 229 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:22,559 Speaker 1: don't really know what is at this point, So I'm 230 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 1: trying to connect with the universe on that one and 231 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: just really stay in my body about it. UM. I've 232 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: been super lucky to be blessed with having these two 233 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,320 Speaker 1: wonderful girls in my life. The last couple of years 234 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: and they've given so much to me as far as 235 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 1: learning about parenting, being a part of a child's life, 236 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: receiving child's love, giving love, all of those things, and 237 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: it's really kind of filled a void that I definitely had. Um. 238 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: Maybe no matter what the outcome is, I don't know. 239 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 1: That's a hard one to think about because you know, 240 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,200 Speaker 1: they're not my kids at the end of the day. 241 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: But I've developed really amazing relationships that have fulfilled me 242 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: in a way that I know inside I will find 243 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,719 Speaker 1: a way to be a mother whatever that looks like. UM. 244 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: For me, lately, it's been with these two girls, and 245 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: that's been amazing. And I'm not trying to say I'm 246 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: their mom. Sorry, I don't want to get people coming 247 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:15,079 Speaker 1: at me for that, but it has filled that void 248 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 1: for me. UM. And yeah, that's where it sits right now. 249 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: I don't have a plan and I sort of need 250 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: to stay in that for the moment. So if any 251 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 1: updates happened, I will keep you guys posted. But as now, 252 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:41,079 Speaker 1: that is where it stands. What are the most fun 253 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 1: places to visit in Nashville. It's a lightening below there. 254 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,560 Speaker 1: It's a little easier Okay, So obviously if you come 255 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 1: to Nashville, you have to do Broadway once. Um, maybe 256 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: you love it and you want to stay the whole time, 257 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: but it's sort of like the Bourbon Street, Vegas Strip, 258 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: uh Beal Street in Memphis experience. Like you can't go 259 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: to Nashville and say you didn't do Broadway. It has 260 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 1: become a major tourist destination. If you go on the weekends, 261 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: I will forewarn you there will be a lot of 262 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 1: bachelorette parties. So you've heard Chip and I talked about that. 263 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: But hey, if you're a single guy listening, I mean, 264 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: great little uh great little easy route to find a 265 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 1: fun girl. But um, you have to do it once. 266 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 1: I suggest starting at like a Robert's or a toot Season, 267 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 1: just kind of bouncing around at the honky tonks. Obviously, 268 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm also a big fan of Derk Spiley with Whiskey Row. 269 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 1: There's all the different artists have bars down there now 270 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: and they're all fun. So just go down there at 271 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: least you one big night there. My favorite bar personally 272 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 1: in Nashville is Mother's Ruin. You've also heard Chip and 273 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: I talked about that. It is a bar that was 274 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: based out of New York first, and I used to 275 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:44,839 Speaker 1: go to the one up there all the time when 276 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,080 Speaker 1: I was there, and they opened one here, which was 277 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 1: so exciting to me because it's just a really cool vibe. 278 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 1: It feels a little bit like you're in a New 279 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: York or um a different city and it's just cool, chill, 280 00:13:57,760 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: very vibe. There's always fun people there at the bar. 281 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: Bartenders are amazing, the drinks are awesome. All of my 282 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: friends drink these shots called picklebacks, which I find disgusting, 283 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: but a lot of people love. And it's like a 284 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 1: Jameson shop followed by pickle juice. So maybe you're into that, 285 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:16,959 Speaker 1: and um, give it a go. My favorite restaurant in 286 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:19,640 Speaker 1: Nashville that I recommend to people is called The Optimist. 287 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: It opened actually right before COVID or during COVID or 288 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: something like that, and it's continued to thrive because it's 289 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: that good. It's seafood. Everything I've ever had on the 290 00:14:28,520 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: menu is amazing. They also have amazing drinks. I do 291 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: recommend getting a reservation because they fill up fast or 292 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: trying to go really early. Like if you like a 293 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 1: you know, senior, what is it senior special uh like 294 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 1: happy hour time you can usually get in at the bar. Um, 295 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 1: let's see when is a good time to accept that 296 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: it's best for you to be alone for a Season's 297 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 1: that you can learn and grow heavy. You know, I 298 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: don't know that anyone could give you the answer to 299 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: this but yourself. I just know for me, something I'm 300 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: starting to realize in life and jobs and relationships is 301 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: that if I can't say true to myself and I 302 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 1: continue to be so out really focused on someone else's 303 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: needs versus um taking care of myself, like I can't 304 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 1: take care of myself in that relationship and I'm constantly 305 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 1: self abandoning, It's definitely time for me to hit pause. 306 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: And I don't know what that means in your life. 307 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is a dating relationship or 308 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 1: a work relationship or friendship dynamic. But I tend to 309 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: do the thing where I hold on too long. I 310 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: have issues or reservations about some things, but I kind 311 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: of lose my voice sometimes and I just do things 312 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 1: that you know, I want to keep the peace or 313 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:45,440 Speaker 1: keep the relationship going, or um make the other person happy, 314 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: because I think that feels like security to me when 315 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: in reality, I just am continuing to abandon myself and 316 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:54,480 Speaker 1: my own thoughts and my own feelings and my own needs, 317 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: my own wants, and that inhibits me from learning and growing. 318 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 1: So if you're in the luxury of being in a 319 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: relationship where you can learn and grow and take some 320 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: space if you need it, um, or you can learn 321 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 1: and grow with your partner or your friend or your 322 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 1: work buddy or whatever this is, I really think that 323 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 1: is like the goal because hopefully we're all constantly learning, 324 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 1: constantly growing and evolving. And if you can find someone 325 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:22,120 Speaker 1: or relationships where you can do that together, I think 326 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 1: that is the mecca. That seems like the goal to 327 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 1: meet in life, to keep doing that. So keep in 328 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:31,600 Speaker 1: mind what you're doing to yourself, how you're talking to yourself, 329 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 1: if you're in touch with yourself at your core. And 330 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 1: I think those are good questions to really think through 331 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 1: when you're asking yourself this, Um, let's talk about some fashion. 332 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: Let's go let's go back into easy things to talk 333 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: about and just fun, light things. Um. I got a 334 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: lot of questions about affordable fashion and also just like 335 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 1: what's in style, And I think what's in style is 336 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:05,400 Speaker 1: all over the place, but I do still see major 337 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 1: nineties trends happening over and over and over, and they 338 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 1: keep coming. The one I refuse to do is low 339 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: cut jeans like low waisted, no thank you, not happening 340 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:19,439 Speaker 1: for me. It does not work for my body type. 341 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: It does not work for my butt. I don't like 342 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: the way it feels, and I don't like being concerned 343 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: that my crack is going to pop out. You know, 344 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 1: there's a lot of things here that we can factor in. 345 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 1: I think that is a trend that I will leave 346 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: in my nineties days. Um, and I'm gonna keep going 347 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 1: high waisted with maybe a bigger flare. If you've notice 348 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 1: with jeans, they're saying skinny jeans are out, But I mean, 349 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 1: come on, guys, we're not going to really get rid 350 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:45,440 Speaker 1: of skinny jeans. But everything is a little bit more 351 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 1: straight legged, a little wider legged, all of those things. 352 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: And um, just nineties in general. Tops, hairstyles, even make 353 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: up trends a lot of nineties, a lot of neon, 354 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 1: another huge shirt thing. What I'm seeing is this like 355 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:05,520 Speaker 1: sheer printed material. And you'll know what I'm talking about 356 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,479 Speaker 1: when you see it's almost like a mesh material. It's 357 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 1: everywhere right now. They have short sleep versions, I've seen 358 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:14,320 Speaker 1: long sleep versions. Sometimes they have a magic skirt option. 359 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: I know Kylie Jenner has done it a couple of times. 360 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:19,400 Speaker 1: And it's just this graphic print. It can be multiple 361 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:22,320 Speaker 1: different things. Um, and they're everywhere, and that's another big 362 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: nineties one chokers all of those things. As far as 363 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,480 Speaker 1: affordable fashion, I have a couple of different places I 364 00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: go to for girls, I've got I love a SOS 365 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 1: Lulu's Vicci Dolls, and then also for dudes, um a 366 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:37,479 Speaker 1: SOS and then top Man, which is now owned by 367 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:39,879 Speaker 1: a SOS is also a great one. So those are 368 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 1: some really great options to keep in mind. UM. Last 369 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 1: question I'll do is about my clean diet. So when 370 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 1: I say clean, a lot of people, UM, you know 371 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: think diet and like misery. And I don't think that 372 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 1: that is where this should go. I think, actually, what 373 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 1: I've learned in the last you know, ten years of 374 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 1: my dieting or you know, how I eat, is that 375 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 1: you don't have to be restrictive necessarily. You don't have 376 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: to um hold yourself back. You just have to find 377 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:16,879 Speaker 1: clean options of real food. And if you're doing real food, 378 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: you know, my boyfriend talks about this in the podcast 379 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 1: we did together. But I cooked a lot during quarantine, 380 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: and I just had him start eating the way that 381 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:26,840 Speaker 1: I do a lot, and he lost ten pounds literally 382 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: in two weeks or you know, three weeks, whatever it was. 383 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 1: We were also working out a lot, but it couldn't 384 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,240 Speaker 1: have been because we cut back on alcohol, because I'll 385 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 1: tell you during quarantine we did not. So I know 386 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 1: it is all about your food, and when you're eating 387 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: real food, you would be astonished at the lower calorie 388 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 1: rate that comes in. So I don't do gluten and 389 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 1: I don't do dairy. Now do I do that perfectly 390 00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 1: all the time? No? Um? I try to focus on 391 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:56,240 Speaker 1: doing like the eight, which is like eighty percent of 392 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 1: the time, I'm going to try to do gluten free 393 00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 1: dairy free, and then when I go to restaurant, it's like, 394 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,399 Speaker 1: you know, it can be tricky. Although gluten free has 395 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: gotten pretty easy, UM, dairy it's just hard to say 396 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: what they're cooking with and all the ingredients and all 397 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 1: of that stuff. Um. But I do try really hard 398 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 1: to do gluten and dairy free. And the reason I 399 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,879 Speaker 1: started doing that was based off of a visit with 400 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,199 Speaker 1: a natural path and I just got tested for food allergies. 401 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: They make me really congested, my stomach bloats, I just 402 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,879 Speaker 1: don't feel good. I'm very lethargic. I get really achey 403 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: in my legs when I eat a lot of gluten. 404 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:30,639 Speaker 1: It's really bizarre. But for me, it's just causing a 405 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,359 Speaker 1: ton of inflammation in my body. And as I preach 406 00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,880 Speaker 1: about a lot of times, inflammation is the number one 407 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: thing that causes diseases, so we really want to keep 408 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,959 Speaker 1: that down in our bodies. Um. On top of that, 409 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: like I said, I really do try to eat real food, 410 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 1: so I try to stay away from process things or 411 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 1: if I'm gonna do chips, I like this company called 412 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 1: like ct A because chips and sausa are definitely my 413 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 1: favorite food. So um, there's a companies like that that 414 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: have grain free, gluten free, just junk free options for chips, tortillas, 415 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:05,959 Speaker 1: you know, all sorts of different things. Now they have 416 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 1: a dairy free ques so they have tacos seasoning. I 417 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: mean they're just all over the place and they're amazing. 418 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: So if you're loving you know, Mexican foods and can't 419 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 1: imagine living without things, like that. This is what I'm saying. 420 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,479 Speaker 1: You just have to find the cleaner version of what 421 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 1: you're already doing. If you love chicken wings, I'm not 422 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: going to tell you to don't eat a chicken wing. 423 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,320 Speaker 1: Go get a clean chicken from like a whole foods. 424 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:31,639 Speaker 1: Get an organic um meat that is that isn't full 425 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: of junk, non gmo, not pump full of a bunch 426 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 1: of different chemicals, and get a really great sauce. There's 427 00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 1: one by this company called Noble. It's a buffalo hot 428 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,719 Speaker 1: wing sauce that is insane and I would eat it 429 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,320 Speaker 1: even if it I mean like, I would eat it 430 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:51,960 Speaker 1: over these bad junk filled buffalo sauces. And I've got 431 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 1: my boyfriend on that, which I can say for sure 432 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 1: means that it's good because he is like a hot 433 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 1: wing specialist. So the fact that us, the kids, everybody 434 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,120 Speaker 1: will eat it means something good. And if you don't 435 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:03,920 Speaker 1: know where to start, what I would say is get 436 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 1: some cookbooks, because that was what really helped me learn 437 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 1: how to eat this way. Um, I did do a 438 00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 1: whole thirty cleans. You don't even have to do the 439 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 1: cleans though. Their recipes are so amazing and Um, I 440 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,920 Speaker 1: eat them even when I'm not doing the cleans or 441 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: the diet, if you want to call it that. Um. 442 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 1: There's another one by me McCormick that I use a lot. 443 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:25,280 Speaker 1: It's called My Pinewood Kitchen. She's also been in the podcast, 444 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,919 Speaker 1: and she got so sick to the point where she 445 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 1: could not even really eat food. She got down to 446 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:35,600 Speaker 1: like nine pounds because so many food allergies were happening 447 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,399 Speaker 1: in her body and she could not process food, and 448 00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 1: so the doctors even were like, we don't know what 449 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 1: to tell you, were like, she finally did enough research 450 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 1: and enough learning to figure out how food can also 451 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:50,120 Speaker 1: heal our bodies. It doesn't have to be taking us 452 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,760 Speaker 1: down and making us sick, which is what's happening a 453 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 1: lot because of all the junk that's being put into 454 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 1: our foods Our meats, are vegetables, all of it. Just 455 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 1: chemicals that we shouldn't even be around, are going inside 456 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: of our bodies. This is why girls are getting their 457 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,240 Speaker 1: periods younger. There's all of this research about all these things, 458 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: and Me is a really great Her cookbook is a 459 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 1: really great place to start if you're trying to learn 460 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 1: about that because she has the very scientific background with 461 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,720 Speaker 1: all of it, and has done so much research and 462 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:19,919 Speaker 1: has so much knowledge on these topics, and she talks 463 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:24,520 Speaker 1: through why certain foods heals certain diseases within our bodies. 464 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: So that one's called My Pinewood Kitchen. You can also 465 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: check her out on the podcast. It's a really great podcast. Um. 466 00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 1: And then I'm just gonna those and out there True 467 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: Roots by Kristin Cavaliery. That's a great cookbook. She has 468 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: another one I think called True Comfort, and she gives 469 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: really great ways to take the gluten, take the dairy 470 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: out of your body, and get creative still and still 471 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 1: have really great meals. So I highly recommend all of 472 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:53,400 Speaker 1: those cookbooks. And if you're really just looking for ways 473 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 1: to get started on this journey, just start with one 474 00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:58,679 Speaker 1: and go from there because you'll just start learning and 475 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 1: it's overwhelming. You're just always is going to be learning. 476 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: I don't think that you can't eat anything. It's about 477 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 1: finding ways to make the foods you love in a 478 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:14,879 Speaker 1: much cleaner way. I said that was the last question, 479 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,639 Speaker 1: but I can't skip this one because I get it 480 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 1: all the time about my skincare routine and what skin 481 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 1: care products I use. So I've been lucky to have 482 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 1: the National beauty Girl excuse me, Carry Claudell on this 483 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:30,360 Speaker 1: podcast multiple times now. But she has taught me so 484 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,200 Speaker 1: much about skin. And she put me on this skincare 485 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: routine called Zeo Skincare by Abaji, and it has changed 486 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,480 Speaker 1: my skin. Um. I have tried a lot of different things, 487 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 1: but I think the key with this one and the 488 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,679 Speaker 1: thing that Carry has taught me the most, is about 489 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 1: really finding the product that your skin needs. You know. 490 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 1: It's like I could sit here all day and tell 491 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 1: you guys what I do, but is that really what 492 00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:56,760 Speaker 1: you need? I don't know. I'm not looking at your skin. 493 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: I'm not dealing with your skin. We could have totally 494 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: different skin to so it's not really a one size 495 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 1: fits all kind of thing. Um. Carrie did come on 496 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 1: the podcast to talk about that, So listen to that 497 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: podcast if you're kind of like where do I start? 498 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,640 Speaker 1: What kind of products should I be looking at? How 499 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 1: can I find out what products I need? She's a 500 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 1: really good explainer. Is that a word explainer about that stuff? Um? 501 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 1: She also came on the podcast and broke down why 502 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: she put me on zero and why it's working for 503 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: my skin. Which products I use. There's some that I don't. 504 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:31,119 Speaker 1: So this is what I'm saying. It's all about what 505 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 1: your actual skin needs are and finding the right products 506 00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 1: for that. She also came on and talked about botox, lasers, retine. 507 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,239 Speaker 1: I mean, we have a ton of stuff out there, 508 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,120 Speaker 1: so if you guys are interested in skincare. UM someone 509 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: told me the other day I have an age to 510 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 1: day and so I was like, Okay, well, I guess 511 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:50,400 Speaker 1: it's working. I hope that this is right. UM. But yeah, 512 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 1: she's really really helpful, really great, and UM unfortunately has 513 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 1: now moved, so I've had to find someone else. She's 514 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: helping me find someone else to fill that role who 515 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 1: also amazing. So I'll have more coming out soon. But 516 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: that's been the pause of why Carry hasn't been on 517 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: the podcast. She moved to Tampa. UM and last, but 518 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: at least natural beauty products. You guys always ask me 519 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: this too, because I talked so big of a talk 520 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 1: about what we put in our bodies matters, and I 521 00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: have to just be honest. That's why I just referenced CEO. 522 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,920 Speaker 1: The stuff that's natural just does not work exactly the same. 523 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 1: There is a natural company called Living Libations who I 524 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: use a lot of their oils, like I use their 525 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 1: poetic pits, like I talked about a couple of weeks ago. 526 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,480 Speaker 1: I don't use deodorant, and um they have a lot 527 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:38,520 Speaker 1: of you know, body oils, body washes, things like that 528 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,840 Speaker 1: that I do really subscribe by. UM. Whenever it comes 529 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:46,399 Speaker 1: to make up, though, I personally have not found a 530 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 1: line that I like as much as makeup with chemicals 531 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 1: if I'm being really honest, And maybe that's because of 532 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 1: what I do as far as you know, I need 533 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,600 Speaker 1: makeup to last all day, and so that's where, yeah, 534 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:01,160 Speaker 1: the chemicals are pretty helpful. UM. I'm huge still into 535 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 1: it cosmetics, and they have a couple really great cleaner products. UM. 536 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,639 Speaker 1: But if you really really want completely clean you know, 537 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,400 Speaker 1: the two that I can recommend that I've found products 538 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,919 Speaker 1: that I like would be Juice Beauty. They have this 539 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,560 Speaker 1: lip crayon that I still am obsessed with and it 540 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 1: puts really great color onto your lips, it's moisturizing, there's 541 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,520 Speaker 1: no junk in it. And then Beauty Counter is something 542 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,840 Speaker 1: that a lot of people really subscribe by. UM. There's 543 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:29,920 Speaker 1: some products that I like and some products that don't 544 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 1: really work for me. But I think this is one 545 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:33,679 Speaker 1: of those things of finding what works for you and 546 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 1: what your needs are. If you are a person who 547 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 1: is just going to an office every day, you might 548 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 1: not need the full glam that I need under big lights, 549 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,320 Speaker 1: or I need it to last all day. You know, 550 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,440 Speaker 1: it could just be as simple as the Juice beauty 551 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,400 Speaker 1: products that are very light, very um clean. They put 552 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,439 Speaker 1: the pigment on your skin and they're not bad for it. 553 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,679 Speaker 1: You're not putting junk into it. For me, they just 554 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 1: don't seem to work as well on set because I 555 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,760 Speaker 1: need a little bit of more, a punch with cameras, 556 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,240 Speaker 1: with lights, all of those things. But check out Juice 557 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 1: Beauty and Beauty counter Um and then of course it 558 00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 1: Cosmetics is one of my faiths. Okay, I think that's 559 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:14,119 Speaker 1: all I've got. I mean, I just did twenty seven 560 00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,919 Speaker 1: minutes of solo podcasting. That might be a record for me. 561 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,919 Speaker 1: Do miss having my banter? You know? I need a 562 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:24,280 Speaker 1: chip or a guest. I don't know, but here we go. 563 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:26,240 Speaker 1: I hope this guy's this was helpful to you. Guys, 564 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,439 Speaker 1: always keep the questions coming. Maybe I'll start doing this 565 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: more regularly like a monthly question. So if you have more, 566 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: if I can help you with more, uh, please let 567 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: me know. Email me at Kelly at velvet sedge dot com, 568 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,800 Speaker 1: and you can always also go check out velvet sage 569 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 1: dot com. In general. I've done a ton of blog 570 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,720 Speaker 1: posts over the years, so I've answered a lot of 571 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:49,120 Speaker 1: these questions as far as talking about face shaving or 572 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 1: any sort of beauty treatments, I'm doing, any sort of makeup. 573 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,400 Speaker 1: I'm loving style trends. I also talk a lot about 574 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 1: my diet. My coffee that I drink every morning is 575 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,760 Speaker 1: called Bulletproof Coffee. You can search that in the tab 576 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,680 Speaker 1: bar on velvet's edge dot com. Also any sort of 577 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,160 Speaker 1: spiritual journey, because you guys know, I wouldn't be wouldn't 578 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,920 Speaker 1: be me if I didn't mention that. There's a lot 579 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 1: of blogs going up, especially now about that we're trying 580 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 1: to do it a little more regularly with UM tying 581 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,640 Speaker 1: in some of the stuff that we're learning and I'm 582 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: learning and some of the guests that we have just 583 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 1: putting it up on the website too. It's really a 584 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 1: full blown lifestyle blog for you guys. So let me 585 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: know what else you guys want what other content you want, 586 00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,120 Speaker 1: What is really working for you guys, what you're kind 587 00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 1: of like, Man, I don't really care about that. UM, 588 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: I'll take it all. I'll love all the feedback. You 589 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 1: can hit me up on Instagram at Velvet's Edge or 590 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: just email me again Kelly at velvet's Edge dot com 591 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,840 Speaker 1: and I look forward to hearing from all you guys. 592 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 1: Have a great week and thanks for listening. 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