WEBVTT - “I THREW MY EX’S STUFF OUT”

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<v Speaker 1>the episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Call from Amy.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hi, Amy, what's going down? Amy? Am I

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<v Speaker 1>on the speakerphone right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>You are sorry, I'm outside.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you take me off the speakerphone place?

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<v Speaker 2>Let me try I gotta find some headphones to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you, guys, what do you mean? Just you

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<v Speaker 1>just take me off speakerphone and you put it you

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<v Speaker 1>the way that people used to do phones is just

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<v Speaker 1>put it up to their ear.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I know, but I'm on a laptop right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You're right, you're calling me on a laptop.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my phone was dying.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you going to? Where are you right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you at a house?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're in Mississippi near the beach.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, can you go inside?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm inside?

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up Amy? How you doing? What's going on with you?

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<v Speaker 1>How's life?

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<v Speaker 2>It's pretty wild. I'm actually here with my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>We were calling because we actually got dumped two weeks

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<v Speaker 2>apart from each other, and that was just a real

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<v Speaker 2>bonding experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So is this is this like girls weekend? Like

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<v Speaker 1>we're both we're both freshly single, going to go out

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<v Speaker 1>to the beach and party type vibes. I can't I

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<v Speaker 1>can only hear one of you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that was Brent. So yeah, we're just trying to

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<v Speaker 2>have a good, good girls.

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<v Speaker 1>Week Okay, how we're both of the breakups like bad?

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<v Speaker 1>Were they hard breakups? Or were they?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? It was brutal.

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<v Speaker 1>What made them brutal?

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<v Speaker 4>One of them packed his stuff the night before and

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<v Speaker 4>just did not want to tell me that he did

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<v Speaker 4>not want to live there anymore and just left wall.

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<v Speaker 1>He packed his stuff the night before. He did he

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<v Speaker 1>ever tell you that he didn't want to live there.

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<v Speaker 2>He told me in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>That's kind of smart, to be completely honest.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it's so rude.

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<v Speaker 1>Well when that doesn't that make sense when you want

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<v Speaker 1>to pack up. Look, here's the thing is, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>moving out, like, wouldn't you want to pack up all

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<v Speaker 1>your stuff first and then tell them that you're moving

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<v Speaker 1>out before you know? Because we've all seen the like

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<v Speaker 1>in the movies where somebody will like, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>there's a guy like standing on the street and then

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<v Speaker 1>like a girl like throwing all this stuff out the window.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>See, that was basically my situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Who am I talking to? I can only hear one

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<v Speaker 1>of you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, this is Amy Now, Yeah, I kind of did

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<v Speaker 2>the whole throwing stuff off the porch thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, so you threw his stuff off the porch?

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<v Speaker 2>It was a girl stuff. Uh, we hadn't been living together.

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<v Speaker 2>We had broken up and then got back together, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I just had some possessions still, and I got

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<v Speaker 2>dumped over text while I was in a COVID quarantine.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just kind of freaked out and threw everything

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<v Speaker 2>in the yard.

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<v Speaker 1>So it sounds like the guy who packed his stuff

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<v Speaker 1>up beforehand kind of had the right idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I you know, I can't really disagree with you that

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<v Speaker 2>it was a good method.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So so I'm gonna I'm gonna live. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna talk. Can you Can you put me on a phone,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, can I or know you're on your laptop?

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<v Speaker 5>Fuck it?

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<v Speaker 1>Who cares?

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<v Speaker 6>All?

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<v Speaker 1>Right, So your breakup was over text and you had COVID,

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<v Speaker 1>and so you threw all of this stuff out. So

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<v Speaker 1>why did you throw all of his stuff all out

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<v Speaker 1>of the window.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't the window, it was the porch. But I

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<v Speaker 2>just was like, we've already broken up once before. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't need to like be sentimental. I just need to

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<v Speaker 2>like get this stuff out of my face, because if

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna be trapped in my house alone, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>be trapped in my house alone with a bunch of

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<v Speaker 2>stuff that reminds me of a bad time.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you just like leave it out on the porch?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What kind of stuff was it?

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<v Speaker 2>Like clothes and dishes from each other's house? And like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh jeez, I.

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<v Speaker 8>Don't really know.

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<v Speaker 2>We like had cats, so there was like some cats supplies.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you how the cat food out?

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<v Speaker 2>Not cat food? There's like a cat carrier And I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of feel bad because it was like covered in pea,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was covered in her cat's peace, So like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I only felt bad because I was

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to clean it and then I just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>threw all her stuff on top of a cat feed carrier.

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<v Speaker 2>Not intentional though.

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<v Speaker 1>So how long were you guys to go together before that?

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<v Speaker 2>Like two years?

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<v Speaker 7>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>How did they react to use throwing this is is

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<v Speaker 1>your girlfriend your ex girlfriend?

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<v Speaker 2>Ex girlfriend? But at that point we had gotten back

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<v Speaker 2>together kind of after a few months, and we never

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<v Speaker 2>like really said if we were like girlfriends again or not.

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<v Speaker 1>How did how did she react to you throwing her

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<v Speaker 1>stuff out of the on the porch.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think she knew because a lot of friends

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<v Speaker 2>and just like helped me take stuff to her. I

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<v Speaker 2>think she might have picked up some of this stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I might have put it in trash bags

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<v Speaker 2>once it was outside. I can't remember. I was really sick.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that whole week was just a total blurk.

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<v Speaker 1>So so both of these ended badly.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, all right?

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<v Speaker 1>How old are you guys? Uh?

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty three and twenty one?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? What what is your plan for the week? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you like going bar hopping? Are you so? Okay? Let

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<v Speaker 1>me ask you a question about this weekend? Is this

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<v Speaker 1>weekend or it's fucking Monday? But whatever? Is every I

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<v Speaker 1>don't every every every day is day? All right? So

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<v Speaker 1>this trip not this weekend? This trip? Is this a

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<v Speaker 1>like is this a going out to get laid trip?

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<v Speaker 1>Or is this like a going to forget?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't say it, but she said it on the

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<v Speaker 2>way up here. She goes, I think our only goal

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<v Speaker 2>should be eating crawfish and getting laid, And I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't like argue with you on that point.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice crawfish and pussy the only things on the menu.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I could I could get down with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I here about seafood?

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<v Speaker 1>So are you? What are you do?

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<v Speaker 4>You?

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<v Speaker 1>Guys?

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<v Speaker 7>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Where is this again? You're in Florida?

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<v Speaker 2>Almost like we're in Mississippi, like just kind of in

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<v Speaker 2>the Delta area.

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<v Speaker 1>What is that where you guys? Do you guys live

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<v Speaker 1>in Mississippi?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, why hold on? Why did you pick Mississippi.

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<v Speaker 2>To go vac family? My family lives down here.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay are you living?

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<v Speaker 6>Are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait? Is your dog sitting for your family? So your

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<v Speaker 1>family's not there?

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<v Speaker 2>No, they're not there.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I feel like yeah, because I feel like Mississippi

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<v Speaker 1>is not the greatest going out to get laid vacation place, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Not New Orleans.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you guys, are you guys going to gonna gonna

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<v Speaker 1>go to New Orleans as part of the trip?

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<v Speaker 4>Yees?

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<v Speaker 2>Just today?

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<v Speaker 1>Just today? What what are you gonna do in New Orleans?

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<v Speaker 2>We like spooky stuff, so we'll probably check that out

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<v Speaker 2>and eat vignets and uh, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably get drunk that watch out for STDs. There's probably

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<v Speaker 1>some gnarly stuff flowing around there.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you both said I hadn't use it.

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<v Speaker 2>Get tested.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so what did you so you you two broke

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<v Speaker 1>up at the same time. That was nice. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>did you emotionally support each other?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, like a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>It was.

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<v Speaker 2>It was messy, but it was cute for us to

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<v Speaker 2>have each other at least.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, well, oka, way, so I'm talking to you,

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<v Speaker 1>let me talk. Give the laptop to what Brianna is

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<v Speaker 1>her name? When let me give the laptop to Brent.

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<v Speaker 1>How was your breakup? I only heard about it through

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<v Speaker 1>and I mean you guys, I have no idea which

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<v Speaker 1>of you was talking, but.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we have very similar voices. It was interesting. We

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<v Speaker 4>had a puppy and everything together and he had just

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<v Speaker 4>woke up one day and he was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 4>do this anymore and just walked out, and I was

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<v Speaker 4>okay bye. That was like literally the first thing he

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<v Speaker 4>said in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, okay, damn. So did you have no

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<v Speaker 1>idea that he was even remotely feeling like that?

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<v Speaker 4>Not really, I mean I had a little bit of

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<v Speaker 4>an idea, but I didn't think it was that bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me just say, as a best friend, I knew

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<v Speaker 2>it was going to happen into it really.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So so so first of all, okay, tell me your

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<v Speaker 1>what you said. You had a little idea, What where

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<v Speaker 1>where did that little idea come from? What did he

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<v Speaker 1>do to give you that little idea?

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<v Speaker 4>We had gotten into a fight some months before and

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<v Speaker 4>he was trying to light to me about something and

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<v Speaker 4>I had called him out on it, and then he

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<v Speaker 4>was trying to light to me about it again, and

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<v Speaker 4>then I like I was like fuck you dude, like

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<v Speaker 4>stop it. And then like after that, I had a feeling.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, Oh, I messed up, And yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But what was he lying to you about? Oh, did

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<v Speaker 1>you want to share?

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't even remember what it was.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just something stupid, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And then uh, Amy, you had a you you you

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<v Speaker 1>knew it was going on. You had far more than

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<v Speaker 1>an inkling of an idea.

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<v Speaker 5>What gave you the.

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<v Speaker 1>What gave you the strong confidence that that this was impending?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. We just both talked about each other's relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>like really openly, and there was just the way that

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<v Speaker 2>she talked about one fight that they had that like

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<v Speaker 2>I just kind of like, this is hurting you on

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<v Speaker 2>a different.

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<v Speaker 5>Level.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just obviously striking a chord with her that

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<v Speaker 2>I hadn't really seen before, and we get like very

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<v Speaker 2>emo together, so like, I don't know, I could just

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<v Speaker 2>tell something was different this time.

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<v Speaker 1>Hm hmm. Do you feel like that has this has

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<v Speaker 1>this girl's weekend to Missouri been therapeutic so far.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it has been.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, what the fun? What is there? Where? Where in

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<v Speaker 1>Missouri is like southern?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Mississippi?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they? They're the same place, aren't they.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean there's a lot of nothing in both.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a seven eleven. Look, all I'm saying is

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<v Speaker 1>in Missouri right now, there are two girls named Jamie

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<v Speaker 1>and Flynn. Yeah, and they're broke up with their boyfriends

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<v Speaker 1>who also have similar names, and they're doing the exact

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<v Speaker 1>same thing. That's how similar Missouri and Mississippi are. The

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<v Speaker 1>Missouri people, they're gonna go on a crazy bender in Columbus, Ohio.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn.

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<v Speaker 4>Columbus. Why.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why for any of anything that I say?

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<v Speaker 6>Ever?

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<v Speaker 1>What? What's? What? Huh? Do you are you? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>looking for love or just just blind passion? And you

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<v Speaker 1>guys keep saying things in Unison. Both of you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are not looking for love, You're just looking for passion

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend?

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<v Speaker 7>Sure, Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you open to love? Or have you closed

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<v Speaker 1>yourself off to it?

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<v Speaker 2>It's only been like three months and that's like after

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<v Speaker 2>three years of loving Somebody's like, I don't know I'm

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<v Speaker 2>probably not ready for that, but it's cool if it happens,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess. Yeah, same here for the most part.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know what I think. I think you guys

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to look for love because I think you

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<v Speaker 1>have it right here. You seem to have a deep

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<v Speaker 1>love for each other. Yeah, that's beautiful. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's good that you're leaning into that. This is like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because that's the thing, or I can just

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<v Speaker 1>tell here's the thing. The fact that you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>on a girl's trip to Mississippi. It's Mississippi, right, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not Missouri. Yeah, it's okay. The fact that you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are on a girl's trip to Mississippi and then you're

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<v Speaker 1>still out here with the you know, going out to

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<v Speaker 1>get laid, going out, the party mindset, whatever it is all.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what it means. It means that all you

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<v Speaker 1>guys need to have a party, to go crazy, to

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<v Speaker 1>live your best life easy each other, And it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>even matter that you're in Mississippi.

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<v Speaker 2>So real, I'm gonna cry it. Yeah, I think it

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<v Speaker 2>kind of does matter.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it matters a little bit. But well, is there

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<v Speaker 1>anything else you guys want to say to the people

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<v Speaker 1>of the computer before we go. Any final thoughts on

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<v Speaker 1>any of this.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you all, practice safe, suck, go, get tested, don't cheat. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>give your pets some love for me. That's all.

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<v Speaker 1>Take care, get blessed.

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<v Speaker 2>Bless you too.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know somebody, I'm gonna get a d M

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<v Speaker 1>from somebody in Mississippi being like, no, we have a bar.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called Shuckers and it's corn themed and I got

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<v Speaker 1>laid there last week. And you know what, I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>whoever dms me that is telling the truth. And I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta go.

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<v Speaker 6>All from Forest.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hi, who is this?

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<v Speaker 6>This is Forest?

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<v Speaker 1>How you doing Forrest?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm all right?

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<v Speaker 7>How are you.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 5>Man?

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on with you? Uh?

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<v Speaker 6>Not much? I just finished a six hour shift and

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<v Speaker 6>I'm waiting for my partner to come over.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, a six hour shift doing what.

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<v Speaker 6>I make momoothies. I work at Dumba Juice.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been a big Jamba juice sky.

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<v Speaker 6>It's honestly, I don't blame you. It's a lot of

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<v Speaker 6>sugar and a lot of sweet. But if you get

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<v Speaker 6>our plant based stuff, I love all that. It's just

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<v Speaker 6>like all natural and like really yummy. I like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, well you see, you have a twisted I

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<v Speaker 1>actually I like the sugary bad stuff and the natural

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<v Speaker 1>like carrot stuff. I don't like. Oh I should, I should,

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<v Speaker 1>I should eat more blended carrots and whatnot.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's honestly I need to as well, but I

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<v Speaker 6>really don't like the way blended carrots smell. It just

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<v Speaker 6>smells like a farm start up.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm hmm. Okay, so you just finished the six

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<v Speaker 1>hour shift and your partner is coming home. Well, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>let me ask you that, is there any particular reason

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<v Speaker 1>why you called in? It's okay if not.

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<v Speaker 6>Sorta not super particular, but like I guess sorta, I guess, all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, what's the sort of what's the sort.

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<v Speaker 6>Of I just got out of like an almost three

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<v Speaker 6>year serious relationship about three months ago, and I have

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<v Speaker 6>started I'm a new relationship now that I've been in

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<v Speaker 6>for like two weeks and it's been going really well.

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<v Speaker 6>It's really nice and I don't feel like pressure or

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<v Speaker 6>anything in any aspect. But like, just because of how

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<v Speaker 6>society views like relationships and stuff, my brain is like,

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<v Speaker 6>did I move on too fast? Am I doing the

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<v Speaker 6>right thing? But like I don't feel anxious at all.

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<v Speaker 6>I only feel anxious because I think I'm supposed to hah.

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<v Speaker 6>So I don't know, it's kind of a silly I'm

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<v Speaker 6>just trying to like go with the flow and hope

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<v Speaker 6>and just like let god life take me where it

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<v Speaker 6>wants to.

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<v Speaker 5>Flah.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, well, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Man.

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<v Speaker 1>The brain's a weird thing. It did. It'll it'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you if something's wrong and make you wonder whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not it actually is.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's it's really confusing, and like, I'm at a point.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I'm only like nineteen, but I'm at a

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<v Speaker 6>point in my life now where I just let things

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<v Speaker 6>happen and I just like hope I can deal with it,

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<v Speaker 6>and if I can't, then I help I get my

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<v Speaker 6>people to help me.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds good. That doesn't sound like a bad way

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<v Speaker 1>to go about doing things. You feel like you moved

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<v Speaker 1>on too fast.

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like that. I think that I was already

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<v Speaker 6>over the relationship much earlier than when it ended. But

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<v Speaker 6>everyone around me is like, are you sure you're moving

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<v Speaker 6>on like the right speed? And I'm like, I know myself,

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<v Speaker 6>I know me, but everyone's making me doubt myself. So

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like, do I know me.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, well, I mean, I mean I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>man like this, this is uh what you've been with

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<v Speaker 1>this person for two weeks?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, well almost three. We just started like seeing each other.

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<v Speaker 1>It's pretty casual, okay, and you let me look you're

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<v Speaker 1>feeling good about it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he's super nice. I enjoy him a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I mean from what you've told me, doesn't sound

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<v Speaker 1>like uh that crazy of a crazy of a problem.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I I'm just not

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<v Speaker 6>scared of getting my heartbroken like most people are, so

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like I can deal.

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<v Speaker 1>With fascinating, fascinating. Tell me more about that. Why are

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<v Speaker 1>you not scared of getting your heartbroken like most people? Lie?

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<v Speaker 6>My guess is that I just I guess I'd was

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<v Speaker 6>kind of like cringe, but I've experienced it a lot,

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<v Speaker 6>so it's just something I'm pretty used to. And like

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<v Speaker 6>being like disappointed from people is that Like this sounds

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<v Speaker 6>so sad, but like genuinely, I'm so used to people

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<v Speaker 6>disappointing me, so when people do now, I just don't

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<v Speaker 6>get surprised anymore. And I'm like, all right, whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>M.

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<v Speaker 6>So it doesn't really bother me. And like I feel,

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like inhuman almost sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know, you know, you should talk to a

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<v Speaker 1>real therapist about this. I'm very curious what they would say.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a fascinating thing. Well, that's a fascinating thing that

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<v Speaker 1>you bring up, that you that you are used to disappointment,

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<v Speaker 1>so and yeah, yeah, yeah, that you're that you're used

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<v Speaker 1>to disappointment. So when it happens, you're not even disappointed anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're one. And and the debate about whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not that's a sad thing or if it's a good

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<v Speaker 1>thing because it's helped you not to I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>be so invested in in external things. Yeah, I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I'm really into like I've been try trying to.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to get more into like stoic philosophy stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like that's a h a tenant of that,

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<v Speaker 1>like trying not to put your weight so heavily in

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<v Speaker 1>anything external that that gives it the power to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally harm you. I don't know if I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if that's sad or not. That's a good question.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I honestly like I've been I grew up Buddhist,

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<v Speaker 6>so I've been like trying to really like follow the

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<v Speaker 6>mentality of just having attachments is eternal suffering. And yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I've probably been taking that too literally and doing that

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<v Speaker 6>with everything ever, but I genuinely it's this sounds a

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<v Speaker 6>little crazy, but it's so relieving when shitty things happen

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<v Speaker 6>and I don't feel like the world is ending around me,

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<v Speaker 6>and I'm like, I can do this, I can handle this,

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<v Speaker 6>like whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. Yeah, I mean, look, you say it sounds sad,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't really there might be something more complex

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<v Speaker 1>going on there that I don't understand, but that does

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<v Speaker 1>sound like a good thing. It sounds I mean, it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds very monk like.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I tried how I was raised. It's I

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<v Speaker 6>just like, I don't know. It took me a long

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<v Speaker 6>long time to just be chill with everything.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyways, are you are you tell me more about

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<v Speaker 1>being raised Buddhists, like both your parents we were Buddhists.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, well, my dad practiced it more. My mom was

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<v Speaker 6>just kind of like there, but like he was mostly him.

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<v Speaker 6>We had like lots of I think the biggest thing

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<v Speaker 6>we had around our house was just tons and tons

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<v Speaker 6>and tons of Buddhist statues is hairy psychotics. But my

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<v Speaker 6>dad taught me meditation and how to like let go

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<v Speaker 6>of things and that like holding on to materialisms and

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<v Speaker 6>stuff like that is never going to get you anywhere

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<v Speaker 6>in life. And if you really want to be happy,

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<v Speaker 6>only hold on to the things you truly deeply put

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<v Speaker 6>in your heart to heart?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that kind of Is that a philosopher that your

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<v Speaker 1>dad gave you?

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<v Speaker 6>He passed it down to me, And for a long

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<v Speaker 6>time when didn't agree with it, I always was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm gonna surround myself by things like for you, Dad,

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<v Speaker 6>But I realized that it's true. It's like not like

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<v Speaker 6>having things you truly only care about bring such peace

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<v Speaker 6>and relaxation, at least for me. You know, someone else

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<v Speaker 6>might live the opposite and be happy as hell, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's funny. I've read I've like, by ready

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<v Speaker 1>any overall footnotes. Anytime on this podcast, I say that

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<v Speaker 1>I've read into something and means I skimmed a Wikipedia

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<v Speaker 1>article once. Okay, well that's that's what that means. As

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<v Speaker 1>I've briefly read into some Buddhism stuff and it just

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<v Speaker 1>I know that's the central tenant. I usually I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do like deep dives. I usually just I get the

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<v Speaker 1>central tenants and I think on it, you know, so

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<v Speaker 1>that I mean that's central tenant, that the attachment is suffering.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's an interesting idea, right, because it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of true. You know when I think about like things

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<v Speaker 1>that make me suffer, things that I guess make anybody

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<v Speaker 1>suffer are like attachments, attachments to people, attachments to jobs,

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<v Speaker 1>attachments to things, attachments to you know, places, and I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>fuck even attachment to your own life.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>It's just I mean, like exactly the root of all

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<v Speaker 6>evil in my opinion and a lot of others is

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<v Speaker 6>attachments are the evil, and and money and stuff like

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<v Speaker 6>that too. It's just like, I money is really what

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<v Speaker 6>it comes to. I can go onto this. I'm not

0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:06.239
<v Speaker 6>gonna chat your ear off, but it's yeah, I've been

0:24:06.280 --> 0:24:08.639
<v Speaker 6>like trying to just not hold onto things, whether that

0:24:08.760 --> 0:24:12.200
<v Speaker 6>be people that make me feel shitty or objects that

0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:15.240
<v Speaker 6>I just keep up space or shit like that, or

0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:18.040
<v Speaker 6>a job that makes me unhappy, like I let go

0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:21.040
<v Speaker 6>of so much in the past like four months. It's

0:24:21.280 --> 0:24:23.679
<v Speaker 6>I feel like I've started not just a new chapter,

0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:26.920
<v Speaker 6>but a new book of my life, and I'm only nineteen,

0:24:27.000 --> 0:24:30.119
<v Speaker 6>so I can't wait to like make more books. I

0:24:30.160 --> 0:24:31.960
<v Speaker 6>guess with my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. I like that. Yeah, you know, I'll

0:24:37.720 --> 0:24:38.960
<v Speaker 1>say this before we go. I know you have a

0:24:39.000 --> 0:24:44.560
<v Speaker 1>lot of people in your life telling you that you know,

0:24:44.720 --> 0:24:48.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe that you're you're going about this the wrong way.

0:24:49.359 --> 0:24:52.720
<v Speaker 1>But I mean, look, especially because you're only fucking nineteen,

0:24:52.800 --> 0:24:55.560
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you can you know this, this this

0:24:55.680 --> 0:24:58.280
<v Speaker 1>way of life that you have going for you right

0:24:58.320 --> 0:25:01.720
<v Speaker 1>now that you're into of letting go really easily and

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:06.439
<v Speaker 1>being sort of transient through everything, give it, give it

0:25:06.440 --> 0:25:08.600
<v Speaker 1>a shot, and you know, figure out on your own

0:25:08.640 --> 0:25:10.679
<v Speaker 1>whether or not it's beneficial for you.

0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:15.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's a far time to run that experiment.

0:25:16.000 --> 0:25:19.399
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's like the best part about being alive and

0:25:19.480 --> 0:25:22.080
<v Speaker 6>this young is that I have so much time to

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:25.000
<v Speaker 6>do things like That's what's me really going is knowing

0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:28.320
<v Speaker 6>how much I haven't even tasted of life yet. There's

0:25:28.359 --> 0:25:29.040
<v Speaker 6>so much.

0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:31.400
<v Speaker 1>What is your name again?

0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:33.000
<v Speaker 6>Forest?

0:25:33.920 --> 0:25:34.320
<v Speaker 1>Forest?

0:25:35.080 --> 0:25:35.439
<v Speaker 7>Uh?

0:25:35.640 --> 0:25:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Well, Forest, have a good rest of your life. I'm

0:25:40.240 --> 0:25:43.679
<v Speaker 1>gonna you've inspired me after this. After I'm done recording this,

0:25:43.760 --> 0:25:47.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna I'm gonna skim a little bit more on

0:25:47.520 --> 0:25:49.200
<v Speaker 1>the Wikipedia page for Buddhism.

0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:53.880
<v Speaker 6>Well, I'm glad that I've got you interested. It's a

0:25:54.000 --> 0:25:55.120
<v Speaker 6>great way to live.

0:25:56.440 --> 0:25:57.720
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything else you gonna say to the people

0:25:57.720 --> 0:25:58.600
<v Speaker 1>the computer before we go?

0:26:00.640 --> 0:26:03.400
<v Speaker 6>Respect all life, no matter what. That's all I want

0:26:03.400 --> 0:26:06.800
<v Speaker 6>to say. Take care, man, Thanks until your day. Goodbye

0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:09.919
<v Speaker 6>all from Alan?

0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:12.520
<v Speaker 7>Pick up my guy.

0:26:13.000 --> 0:26:13.760
<v Speaker 1>I just did.

0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:16.960
<v Speaker 7>Hello. Hello, it's me.

0:26:17.119 --> 0:26:17.520
<v Speaker 1>What's up?

0:26:18.520 --> 0:26:19.359
<v Speaker 7>How are you? Man?

0:26:20.119 --> 0:26:21.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing good man? How are you?

0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:24.680
<v Speaker 7>I'm chilling, bro and chimming real. I always want to

0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:27.520
<v Speaker 7>say congrats you like you came so far, Bro, Like

0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:29.760
<v Speaker 7>I've been seeing me since twenty twenty man, for real,

0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:30.360
<v Speaker 7>So like.

0:26:32.000 --> 0:26:35.399
<v Speaker 1>Thanks Man, I'm it's so funny. Every day I'm like

0:26:36.240 --> 0:26:37.399
<v Speaker 1>how much longer am I?

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:37.760
<v Speaker 5>Well?

0:26:37.800 --> 0:26:41.760
<v Speaker 1>Am I allowed to do this? And you know, look

0:26:41.800 --> 0:26:46.080
<v Speaker 1>every day every day that that God or Jesus or

0:26:46.119 --> 0:26:49.639
<v Speaker 1>Moses lets me live in a universe where I'm a

0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:53.440
<v Speaker 1>gecko on the computer talking to strangers. It's a good day.

0:26:53.680 --> 0:26:54.480
<v Speaker 1>It's a good day.

0:26:54.640 --> 0:26:55.240
<v Speaker 5>What are you up to?

0:26:55.320 --> 0:26:57.320
<v Speaker 1>What's is there a thing that you called in to

0:26:57.359 --> 0:26:58.119
<v Speaker 1>want to talk about?

0:26:58.680 --> 0:26:59.000
<v Speaker 5>Alan?

0:26:59.280 --> 0:26:59.399
<v Speaker 2>Bro?

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<v Speaker 7>I what's not my real name? I had to use

0:27:01.720 --> 0:27:05.880
<v Speaker 7>something fake just because, like you know, I didn't want to, like, well,

0:27:05.920 --> 0:27:07.520
<v Speaker 7>you never know whoever can be watching this ship.

0:27:07.560 --> 0:27:10.200
<v Speaker 1>But like I don't get why people. I don't understand

0:27:10.240 --> 0:27:13.160
<v Speaker 1>why people do people do this all the time. They

0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:16.800
<v Speaker 1>say they say they say my name is Alan, but

0:27:16.840 --> 0:27:18.960
<v Speaker 1>that's a fake name. The whole point of the fake

0:27:19.040 --> 0:27:21.320
<v Speaker 1>name is that it's I'm supposed to think it's real.

0:27:21.760 --> 0:27:24.040
<v Speaker 1>Why do people keep saying that their fake names are fake?

0:27:24.080 --> 0:27:27.240
<v Speaker 1>That in validates the point of the fake names?

0:27:27.280 --> 0:27:30.800
<v Speaker 7>Funny, right, I don't know, just human error. I don't know, dude.

0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:33.600
<v Speaker 7>I just I just do it just to protect my identity. Man.

0:27:33.640 --> 0:27:37.600
<v Speaker 7>But anyway, yo, so thank you for like taking up Yo. So,

0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:41.480
<v Speaker 7>like I have like this like this love connection romantic

0:27:41.560 --> 0:27:43.600
<v Speaker 7>situation type of thing, and I wanted to like break

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:46.640
<v Speaker 7>it down to you, even though like I kind of

0:27:46.920 --> 0:27:50.480
<v Speaker 7>figured it out. I just kind of just wanted to

0:27:50.520 --> 0:27:52.360
<v Speaker 7>talk to you about it because like I just kind

0:27:52.359 --> 0:27:55.760
<v Speaker 7>of been like obsessed with this woman that like kind

0:27:55.760 --> 0:27:58.639
<v Speaker 7>of inspired me in like in a musical in a

0:27:58.720 --> 0:28:01.280
<v Speaker 7>music like art way, you know. So, like I'm a

0:28:01.320 --> 0:28:03.280
<v Speaker 7>DJ and I'm producer, and I like I've been doing

0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:07.760
<v Speaker 7>that since I was sixteen. I'm thirty now, and and

0:28:07.920 --> 0:28:11.879
<v Speaker 7>like I've recently just like started going back into the

0:28:11.960 --> 0:28:15.439
<v Speaker 7>underground club scene and whatnot. And I've been seeing like

0:28:15.520 --> 0:28:18.199
<v Speaker 7>the evolution of just like just me in general, just

0:28:18.240 --> 0:28:21.320
<v Speaker 7>going out into different like environments and just exploring like

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:25.160
<v Speaker 7>different like just you know, like underground teams or whatever whatever.

0:28:25.480 --> 0:28:29.560
<v Speaker 7>But anyway, I met her? Why didn't meet her? Why

0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:34.639
<v Speaker 7>did I actually seen her? The first time? Djaying, I

0:28:34.720 --> 0:28:36.840
<v Speaker 7>was so enamored by the way like she would spin

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:41.680
<v Speaker 7>or whatnot. And yeah, man, like ever since then, I've

0:28:41.720 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 7>just been like changing on my style, bro, And I like,

0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:45.680
<v Speaker 7>I have like a huge crush on her and brow

0:28:45.800 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 7>like real and we bumped in a couple of times.

0:28:49.560 --> 0:28:52.280
<v Speaker 7>But I would like I'd be so shy, Like I'm

0:28:52.280 --> 0:28:54.120
<v Speaker 7>just like a shy dude when it comes to like

0:28:54.240 --> 0:28:56.320
<v Speaker 7>someone like I have like this crush on and like

0:28:56.360 --> 0:28:57.920
<v Speaker 7>you could tell, like some females are, like you can

0:28:57.960 --> 0:29:01.760
<v Speaker 7>they can tell when like you're they can like like

0:29:01.880 --> 0:29:04.120
<v Speaker 7>kind of like feel when you're like, oh, this dude

0:29:04.360 --> 0:29:06.520
<v Speaker 7>has something from here, something here, he's acting weird whatever.

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:09.400
<v Speaker 7>But but yeah, it's been.

0:29:09.280 --> 0:29:09.680
<v Speaker 6>Like a year.

0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I gotta, I just gotta as we stand now at

0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:16.280
<v Speaker 1>this point in the conversation, I am confused as to

0:29:16.280 --> 0:29:17.960
<v Speaker 1>whether or not you know this woman or if she

0:29:18.040 --> 0:29:19.360
<v Speaker 1>is somebody you saw on TV.

0:29:19.800 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 7>No, I know her. I know her.

0:29:21.240 --> 0:29:23.760
<v Speaker 1>We met, We met, okay, and did you ask her

0:29:23.800 --> 0:29:24.480
<v Speaker 1>out on a date?

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:27.680
<v Speaker 7>Nah? Man, That's the thing. I don't know if it's

0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:29.960
<v Speaker 7>ego or envy, and it's just a bunch of emotions

0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:32.200
<v Speaker 7>that I feel. And it's just like I had to

0:29:32.240 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 7>process this ship like I'm like, no, why am I

0:29:34.280 --> 0:29:37.120
<v Speaker 7>ignoring her? Like idated like other girls, but like you're

0:29:37.160 --> 0:29:39.360
<v Speaker 7>the ones that just like it's not It's just like

0:29:39.360 --> 0:29:40.160
<v Speaker 7>one of those things where.

0:29:40.240 --> 0:29:44.800
<v Speaker 1>Like, okay, what's your alan? Okay, we gotta slow down

0:29:45.160 --> 0:29:48.440
<v Speaker 1>for a second. I gotta wrap my head around. Your

0:29:48.480 --> 0:29:51.280
<v Speaker 1>brain is firing on all cylinders right now, and I

0:29:51.320 --> 0:29:53.080
<v Speaker 1>need we need to slow down. I'm gonna wrap my

0:29:53.120 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 1>head around this. So you have a you here's the

0:29:57.320 --> 0:30:00.840
<v Speaker 1>here's the here's here's the great thing about being You're thirty.

0:30:00.880 --> 0:30:04.640
<v Speaker 1>You said you're thirty. Yeah, Here's the great thing about

0:30:04.680 --> 0:30:09.920
<v Speaker 1>being thirty compared to being twelve is that when you're

0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:13.080
<v Speaker 1>twelve and you have a crush on a girl, there

0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:18.200
<v Speaker 1>you really there's fucking nothing you can do about it. Really,

0:30:18.280 --> 0:30:20.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean you can go up and you can ask

0:30:20.760 --> 0:30:22.480
<v Speaker 1>her on a date. But you're not you're twelve. You

0:30:22.520 --> 0:30:24.440
<v Speaker 1>can't take a girl out on a date. That's not anything.

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:30.040
<v Speaker 1>What you people normally do is they ask their friends

0:30:30.080 --> 0:30:33.640
<v Speaker 1>to ask them if they like you, and then you

0:30:33.720 --> 0:30:37.360
<v Speaker 1>kind of strategize and you're nervous and you have to

0:30:37.760 --> 0:30:40.479
<v Speaker 1>kind of take all these peripheral actions around it. But

0:30:40.520 --> 0:30:42.440
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to do that. You're thirty. You're an adult.

0:30:42.480 --> 0:30:44.040
<v Speaker 1>That's the great thing about being an adult is if

0:30:44.080 --> 0:30:48.640
<v Speaker 1>you like somebody and take your adult confidence and you

0:30:48.640 --> 0:30:51.760
<v Speaker 1>go up to them, you tell them that you like them,

0:30:51.880 --> 0:30:55.440
<v Speaker 1>and then you ask them if they would like to

0:30:54.680 --> 0:30:58.840
<v Speaker 1>to you know whether or not maybe maybe they like you,

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:00.320
<v Speaker 1>or or you ask them if they would like to

0:31:00.360 --> 0:31:02.960
<v Speaker 1>go out for them to see if they like you too,

0:31:03.400 --> 0:31:06.680
<v Speaker 1>and and and it goes from being this horrifically. It

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.880
<v Speaker 1>gets complicated later when you It gets complicated once you're

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:13.440
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship, but the actual courting process is far

0:31:13.600 --> 0:31:15.760
<v Speaker 1>less complicated than it was when you were twelve. You

0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 1>have that advantage, Alan, So tell me what in that

0:31:21.440 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 1>courtship process, what are the the issues there? Plainly and simple,

0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:29.760
<v Speaker 1>because here's because if you answer this with something that's

0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 1>like a thousand sentences long. It's just a tile of

0:31:33.720 --> 0:31:35.840
<v Speaker 1>what's there. Please give me a straight answer to this.

0:31:35.960 --> 0:31:38.800
<v Speaker 7>To this question the reason, Okay, I'll go slow. I'm

0:31:38.880 --> 0:31:39.959
<v Speaker 7>kind of excited talking to you, bro.

0:31:40.400 --> 0:31:41.959
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm excited to talk to you too. I'm just

0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:43.600
<v Speaker 1>I just want to know. I just want to know

0:31:43.640 --> 0:31:44.680
<v Speaker 1>what the issue is here.

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:50.480
<v Speaker 7>The thing is is that, well, I don't want to

0:31:50.600 --> 0:31:53.840
<v Speaker 7>force it, I guess because you know now that she's

0:31:53.920 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 7>like really a prominent DJ in the scene, Like, I

0:31:57.120 --> 0:31:59.080
<v Speaker 7>don't know, like I just kind of feel like I

0:31:59.160 --> 0:32:01.959
<v Speaker 7>just don't want to do follow her to every single

0:32:02.040 --> 0:32:03.719
<v Speaker 7>event like she's eating.

0:32:05.160 --> 0:32:09.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to Alan Alan, Alan, Alan Alan. Nobody

0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:13.720
<v Speaker 1>said anything about following her to every event that she's at.

0:32:13.760 --> 0:32:15.400
<v Speaker 1>What are you talking about?

0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:17.479
<v Speaker 7>I don't know. I just don't want to be a weirdo,

0:32:17.520 --> 0:32:20.440
<v Speaker 7>you know. And I think it's just just like somebody

0:32:20.600 --> 0:32:23.920
<v Speaker 7>like this guy always like and he's just not saying

0:32:23.960 --> 0:32:26.840
<v Speaker 7>anything to me, even though I'm giving him like like

0:32:27.240 --> 0:32:31.160
<v Speaker 7>eyes and stuff. You know, I don't know, Mat, i'd

0:32:31.160 --> 0:32:32.160
<v Speaker 7>be over calpulicating it.

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.000
<v Speaker 1>You know, You're well, I don't You're one hundred percent

0:32:35.040 --> 0:32:37.000
<v Speaker 1>of over complicating this, I can just like an already

0:32:37.000 --> 0:32:41.600
<v Speaker 1>tell are you does this? How many conversations have you

0:32:41.640 --> 0:32:43.560
<v Speaker 1>had with this girl ship?

0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:47.800
<v Speaker 7>Like probably like too too?

0:32:48.720 --> 0:32:52.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, do you word? Do you guys have some kind

0:32:52.680 --> 0:32:55.480
<v Speaker 1>of thing where you're recurring least do you have her

0:32:55.800 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 1>on the Instagram or the phone number or anything like that?

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:03.480
<v Speaker 7>The IG waves? Yeah, I do, but I don't have

0:33:03.520 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 7>a number.

0:33:03.920 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 1>Though, Okay, if you talked on the on the i G.

0:33:09.000 --> 0:33:11.680
<v Speaker 7>I tried, man, but she doesn't follow me back, and

0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:15.680
<v Speaker 7>so like I tried sending a message to her, but

0:33:15.800 --> 0:33:18.080
<v Speaker 7>you know, at some point, it's just like I couldn't

0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:21.960
<v Speaker 7>even make comments like on her IG stories. I don't know, man,

0:33:22.200 --> 0:33:23.880
<v Speaker 7>like I just that's why you could?

0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:25.400
<v Speaker 1>You could? What do you mean you couldn't make comments

0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:26.360
<v Speaker 1>on her i G stories?

0:33:27.200 --> 0:33:28.840
<v Speaker 7>Yeah? Like you know how some people just like you

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:31.400
<v Speaker 7>can make a comment and then like somehow some some

0:33:31.600 --> 0:33:33.520
<v Speaker 7>random like some people just like kind of like turn

0:33:33.600 --> 0:33:36.400
<v Speaker 7>off the comments of certain people can't like comment on

0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:37.200
<v Speaker 7>their stories.

0:33:38.760 --> 0:33:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Did she turn off your specific specifically your ability to

0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:43.480
<v Speaker 1>comment on her stories?

0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:55.200
<v Speaker 8>I don't maybe okay, has she wait.

0:33:55.080 --> 0:33:57.920
<v Speaker 7>A minute, hold on weird, it's weird.

0:33:57.680 --> 0:34:01.600
<v Speaker 1>Okay, when you talk to this person. When you talk

0:34:01.800 --> 0:34:04.120
<v Speaker 1>to this person, how did the conversation go?

0:34:05.600 --> 0:34:07.520
<v Speaker 7>I mean, it's pretty flow. It's just like, hey, how

0:34:07.560 --> 0:34:09.200
<v Speaker 7>are you how you doing? He's like, Oh, I'm good,

0:34:09.239 --> 0:34:12.279
<v Speaker 7>I'm good, I'm fine, this and that and like kind

0:34:12.280 --> 0:34:16.480
<v Speaker 7>of just like just tries to not even like we'll

0:34:16.520 --> 0:34:19.200
<v Speaker 7>not even try, but I guess doesn't try to like

0:34:19.800 --> 0:34:23.239
<v Speaker 7>complete like it's just a small talk. But then like

0:34:23.280 --> 0:34:25.560
<v Speaker 7>we bumped into certain places and it's like, excuse me

0:34:25.640 --> 0:34:28.440
<v Speaker 7>to these eyes where it's just like okay, like you're

0:34:28.440 --> 0:34:31.400
<v Speaker 7>giving me these eyes and like you're kind of showing

0:34:31.440 --> 0:34:34.479
<v Speaker 7>me interest. But then again, like are you even shy

0:34:34.600 --> 0:34:36.759
<v Speaker 7>like me? Like are we having the same type of

0:34:36.840 --> 0:34:39.319
<v Speaker 7>like dilemma where none of us, like none of us

0:34:39.360 --> 0:34:41.360
<v Speaker 7>are going to try to like innately try to like

0:34:41.760 --> 0:34:43.920
<v Speaker 7>ask each other out, you know what I mean. So

0:34:44.239 --> 0:34:46.680
<v Speaker 7>that type of vibe that I was getting, So it's

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:49.120
<v Speaker 7>just kind of like kind of like I kind of

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:50.799
<v Speaker 7>just came up to the conclusion because I was talking

0:34:50.840 --> 0:34:52.120
<v Speaker 7>to them. I was like, yo, just let it go,

0:34:52.239 --> 0:34:53.920
<v Speaker 7>and just like you're DJ too, right, And I was

0:34:53.960 --> 0:34:56.279
<v Speaker 7>like yeah, like so yeah, you're going to be out

0:34:56.320 --> 0:34:58.279
<v Speaker 7>in the scene and you're just going to be collaborating

0:34:58.320 --> 0:35:01.960
<v Speaker 7>with the certain promoters. So probably oddly enough along that way,

0:35:02.000 --> 0:35:04.560
<v Speaker 7>you're probably gonna beat up with her again and then

0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:07.880
<v Speaker 7>you're gonna probably like have like a conversation but like

0:35:08.360 --> 0:35:12.799
<v Speaker 7>off of like DJINGG or whatnot. So so, yeah, I

0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:16.560
<v Speaker 7>had I had realized a couple of things about my situation.

0:35:17.320 --> 0:35:20.520
<v Speaker 7>I realized that I can't put nobody on a pedestal, man,

0:35:20.560 --> 0:35:24.120
<v Speaker 7>And I think that's my biggest thing. I can't. I

0:35:24.160 --> 0:35:26.319
<v Speaker 7>think I was putting her on a pedestal, and I'm

0:35:26.360 --> 0:35:28.279
<v Speaker 7>just like and and I'm just like, man, that's that's

0:35:28.280 --> 0:35:30.040
<v Speaker 7>a no brain, I can't do that.

0:35:31.320 --> 0:35:31.799
<v Speaker 8>You know what.

0:35:32.239 --> 0:35:34.440
<v Speaker 1>You know, as I'm listening to you talk, I'm realizing

0:35:35.760 --> 0:35:38.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm actually I'm actually rethinking everything I've said to you.

0:35:39.160 --> 0:35:42.879
<v Speaker 1>Because I told you that the courting process I've made,

0:35:43.000 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 1>I've made a whole bang about how it was easy.

0:35:45.080 --> 0:35:51.000
<v Speaker 1>It's not. It's no part of any of this is easy,

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 1>now that I'm now that i'm hearing you talk about it. No,

0:35:55.000 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 1>it's difficult. It's all difficult because you know you're trying

0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:02.640
<v Speaker 1>to First look, here's the thing. I don't know what

0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:04.440
<v Speaker 1>the whole deal is with this Instagram thing. If you

0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 1>think you haven't blocked by her on Instagram, that is

0:36:07.120 --> 0:36:12.439
<v Speaker 1>a clear sign, which is fine. You know, you'll live,

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:13.840
<v Speaker 1>you can move on with your life.

0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:16.839
<v Speaker 7>Of course, it's better like that. I think. I think

0:36:16.840 --> 0:36:18.719
<v Speaker 7>I just have to just let it go, dude, Like

0:36:19.440 --> 0:36:20.160
<v Speaker 7>this whole life.

0:36:20.280 --> 0:36:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's truck. Can I tell you? I don't

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:23.839
<v Speaker 1>know you that well, but I know the one thing

0:36:23.880 --> 0:36:26.080
<v Speaker 1>that I know about you is that this is driving

0:36:26.120 --> 0:36:27.800
<v Speaker 1>you insane.

0:36:28.040 --> 0:36:32.000
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, man, yeah, for like a year, dude, And I

0:36:32.160 --> 0:36:35.960
<v Speaker 7>just like I'm like, man, why the fuck am I

0:36:36.120 --> 0:36:39.400
<v Speaker 7>like even overthinking like this ship. Why don't I just

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:42.000
<v Speaker 7>approach it and then just end it and then be

0:36:42.080 --> 0:36:44.040
<v Speaker 7>like fine, I fucking did it. And I don't have

0:36:44.080 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 7>no fucking, like fucking crazy daydreams about this woman that

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:51.120
<v Speaker 7>like should have, could have would a scenarios that kill

0:36:51.320 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 7>every man inside their mind, and it's just like it

0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:56.200
<v Speaker 7>just disturbs you, you know what I mean? You know,

0:36:56.280 --> 0:36:58.200
<v Speaker 7>I keep that under control. Like, don't get me wrong,

0:36:58.239 --> 0:37:00.160
<v Speaker 7>I'm not crazy anything like that. But just like when

0:37:00.160 --> 0:37:03.520
<v Speaker 7>you when you sincerely like kind of like feel a

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:07.799
<v Speaker 7>connection from somebody and it's like really like really like

0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:10.239
<v Speaker 7>you feel it. It's just like that's like a point

0:37:10.280 --> 0:37:12.200
<v Speaker 7>where it's like, damn, I don't want to be vulnerable, though,

0:37:12.400 --> 0:37:15.480
<v Speaker 7>what if something crazy, Like what if I come off

0:37:15.600 --> 0:37:19.720
<v Speaker 7>like like an idiot dude? No bro, like I'm spiritual

0:37:19.800 --> 0:37:22.399
<v Speaker 7>like you, I feel like just some sort of spiritual also.

0:37:22.480 --> 0:37:25.399
<v Speaker 7>But it's just like these people. Sometimes we have these

0:37:25.400 --> 0:37:27.319
<v Speaker 7>connections with people and it's just like you can't really

0:37:27.360 --> 0:37:30.359
<v Speaker 7>explain it. But then like either you go and jump

0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 7>and like jump in the water.

0:37:31.680 --> 0:37:38.200
<v Speaker 1>Alan, Alan, Alan, look, Amata, I think you're a good guy.

0:37:38.840 --> 0:37:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I really do. I think you're I think you're a

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 1>sweet soul. I think one day you will find a

0:37:46.560 --> 0:37:48.600
<v Speaker 1>woman who loves you as much as you love her.

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I think everything's gonna be okay with you. But I

0:37:50.960 --> 0:37:52.440
<v Speaker 1>need to I need to tell you something.

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:54.319
<v Speaker 7>Alan, that's good.

0:37:54.920 --> 0:37:58.560
<v Speaker 1>You've you've you've told me that you have spoken to

0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:04.360
<v Speaker 1>this woman two times. Yeah, just okay. You've spoken this

0:38:04.400 --> 0:38:08.520
<v Speaker 1>woman two times, and for an entire year, you have

0:38:08.680 --> 0:38:14.200
<v Speaker 1>been using only the limited amount of information in your

0:38:14.280 --> 0:38:16.600
<v Speaker 1>surface level conversations that you have had with this girl

0:38:17.200 --> 0:38:21.080
<v Speaker 1>and assumptions that you have made from looking at her

0:38:21.080 --> 0:38:26.759
<v Speaker 1>eyes to build up this this grandiose portrait of who

0:38:26.800 --> 0:38:32.920
<v Speaker 1>she is that is based off of virtually no actual

0:38:33.000 --> 0:38:36.279
<v Speaker 1>data or experience, and that's where you're working off of

0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:39.200
<v Speaker 1>and falling in love with, and like we have both

0:38:39.239 --> 0:38:45.919
<v Speaker 1>agreed upon, it is driving you insane. Yeah, okay, so look,

0:38:46.000 --> 0:38:49.160
<v Speaker 1>you're your DJ, right, just just give me short answers.

0:38:49.239 --> 0:38:54.760
<v Speaker 1>You're a DJ, right, okay. You you have a passion,

0:38:54.880 --> 0:38:58.319
<v Speaker 1>you have there's a whole community of DJs. You go

0:38:58.360 --> 0:39:01.520
<v Speaker 1>to parties, you meet tons of people. You have in

0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:04.600
<v Speaker 1>your you're young, you have in your hands such a

0:39:04.640 --> 0:39:12.919
<v Speaker 1>beautiful life to freely explore without the chains of this

0:39:13.320 --> 0:39:17.960
<v Speaker 1>perceived image of a person that's weighing you down and

0:39:18.040 --> 0:39:22.839
<v Speaker 1>driving you crazy. Release yourself from these chains and go

0:39:23.640 --> 0:39:27.040
<v Speaker 1>live your fucking life, dude.

0:39:26.719 --> 0:39:29.080
<v Speaker 7>Right, can you do that for him?

0:39:30.200 --> 0:39:30.399
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:39:30.640 --> 0:39:36.719
<v Speaker 7>Definitely, bro, definitely Okay, Okay, this is so good. This

0:39:36.800 --> 0:39:38.920
<v Speaker 7>is so awesome, man. Like I definitely was not going

0:39:39.000 --> 0:39:41.359
<v Speaker 7>to say, like money, no therapist. I was like, yo,

0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:43.840
<v Speaker 7>let me, let me get you out, dude, because like

0:39:43.920 --> 0:39:46.920
<v Speaker 7>I seen Ross like COVID and you had like JPEG

0:39:47.000 --> 0:39:49.440
<v Speaker 7>Mafia and ship bros. I'm like, yo, You're like I did,

0:39:49.440 --> 0:39:50.440
<v Speaker 7>I didn't have JPG MA.

0:39:50.760 --> 0:39:52.160
<v Speaker 1>I'ld be cool if you.

0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:56.239
<v Speaker 7>Want, Danny, I think you're right you Danny Danny Brown.

0:39:56.960 --> 0:40:00.359
<v Speaker 1>No, you're probably thinking of Denzel Curry.

0:40:00.200 --> 0:40:05.759
<v Speaker 7>That's so funny. Yeah dude, but yeah, man, like I

0:40:05.840 --> 0:40:10.799
<v Speaker 7>appreciate you for picking because like, you know, it's it's

0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:13.720
<v Speaker 7>you're right. It's like this perceived notion, like with no data,

0:40:13.760 --> 0:40:14.400
<v Speaker 7>and it's just.

0:40:14.280 --> 0:40:18.359
<v Speaker 1>Like, by the way, let me tell you, look, you're

0:40:18.360 --> 0:40:20.719
<v Speaker 1>not you're not. Look people are Look, people are gonna

0:40:20.719 --> 0:40:22.360
<v Speaker 1>try to meme on you, all right, They're gonna be like,

0:40:22.719 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, don't It's okay, it's what you're What you

0:40:26.640 --> 0:40:30.400
<v Speaker 1>are doing is a natural human impulse. I've done it

0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:34.120
<v Speaker 1>myself plenty of times, and it has driven me in

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:37.520
<v Speaker 1>my life crazy plenty of times. I remember when I

0:40:37.600 --> 0:40:41.080
<v Speaker 1>used to be addicted to Tinder, Like, uh, you know,

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:45.439
<v Speaker 1>I would like send, like exchange two messages with some

0:40:45.520 --> 0:40:48.560
<v Speaker 1>girl and like look at her pictures and just imagine

0:40:49.640 --> 0:40:53.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, you you you project so many ideas of

0:40:53.520 --> 0:40:55.439
<v Speaker 1>who she is and how you guys will get along,

0:40:55.520 --> 0:40:58.279
<v Speaker 1>and it's it's based off of fucking nothing. But it

0:40:58.280 --> 0:41:01.080
<v Speaker 1>could make you feel obsessed, okay, and you just you

0:41:01.120 --> 0:41:05.440
<v Speaker 1>need to realize what's going on and you need to

0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:11.040
<v Speaker 1>squash it and and open your brain up to the

0:41:11.080 --> 0:41:13.920
<v Speaker 1>beautiful abundance of other things going on in your life

0:41:13.920 --> 0:41:16.960
<v Speaker 1>that you've been shoving to the side in favor of

0:41:17.000 --> 0:41:19.120
<v Speaker 1>this projected image you have of a person.

0:41:20.719 --> 0:41:21.120
<v Speaker 5>Is this all?

0:41:21.320 --> 0:41:22.680
<v Speaker 1>Is this speaking to you right now?

0:41:23.440 --> 0:41:23.640
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:41:23.719 --> 0:41:24.800
<v Speaker 7>Man? You are okay?

0:41:24.840 --> 0:41:27.800
<v Speaker 1>Good? Good? Okay? Can you do that? Alan?

0:41:28.920 --> 0:41:30.320
<v Speaker 7>Definitely? Definitely?

0:41:30.400 --> 0:41:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Bro? What do you do? What kind of music do

0:41:33.719 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 1>you make?

0:41:36.080 --> 0:41:38.040
<v Speaker 7>Man? That's that's a good quest. I mean right now,

0:41:38.080 --> 0:41:40.839
<v Speaker 7>I've been doing like club music. I do hip hop,

0:41:40.880 --> 0:41:42.439
<v Speaker 7>I do R and B. You know.

0:41:44.680 --> 0:41:46.480
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna be You're gonna hang out in the club,

0:41:46.560 --> 0:41:48.520
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna meet people, you're gonna have you have a

0:41:48.600 --> 0:41:52.000
<v Speaker 1>nice you have a nice life. Man, go live it, Okay,

0:41:52.080 --> 0:41:56.120
<v Speaker 1>don't spend it in your brain fantasizing. Live in what's

0:41:56.200 --> 0:41:57.680
<v Speaker 1>actually going on. You'll be happier.

0:41:58.960 --> 0:42:01.560
<v Speaker 7>So yeah, it's like the best advice I've gotten.

0:42:02.000 --> 0:42:03.360
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything else you want to say to the

0:42:03.360 --> 0:42:04.839
<v Speaker 1>people of the computer before we go?

0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:10.399
<v Speaker 7>Ah? Man, damn what else to say? Ah? Shit? Really

0:42:10.600 --> 0:42:13.279
<v Speaker 7>live in the real life. I know this ship, like

0:42:13.360 --> 0:42:16.120
<v Speaker 7>I probably somebody else probably goes through the same ship.

0:42:16.200 --> 0:42:19.239
<v Speaker 7>I know y'all do. But like life is beautiful, you

0:42:19.440 --> 0:42:21.120
<v Speaker 7>just got to fuck up here and there. But hey,

0:42:21.120 --> 0:42:23.239
<v Speaker 7>that's why we take risks, right. It's better to just

0:42:23.239 --> 0:42:27.200
<v Speaker 7>go out there and take a risk and not to right. Yeah.

0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:31.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, ah, you take care. I'll talk to you.

0:42:31.440 --> 0:42:34.160
<v Speaker 7>Soon, you too, bro, Take care. Man.

0:42:36.680 --> 0:42:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Look, you're we've all you know, don't. I feel like

0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:45.319
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people have done stuff like that where

0:42:45.320 --> 0:42:49.640
<v Speaker 1>they uh uh fantasize about a person to a point

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:55.919
<v Speaker 1>where you you've conflated your fantasy with reality and again

0:42:55.960 --> 0:42:59.520
<v Speaker 1>it can drive you crazy. So wake the fuck up,

0:43:00.520 --> 0:43:05.400
<v Speaker 1>live your life. Hello, folks, it's Lyle. So this next

0:43:05.640 --> 0:43:09.279
<v Speaker 1>call is actually a street interview that I did in

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:12.840
<v Speaker 1>real life in the middle of the famous Shibuya crossing

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:16.480
<v Speaker 1>in Tokyo, Japan. Most of the people we interviewed there

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:19.520
<v Speaker 1>actually only spoke Japanese, so I had a translator with

0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:21.800
<v Speaker 1>me the whole time. But the woman in this clip

0:43:21.880 --> 0:43:25.719
<v Speaker 1>was visiting from Australia and told us some really fascinating

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:27.960
<v Speaker 1>stuff going on with her and her family and her

0:43:28.000 --> 0:43:31.080
<v Speaker 1>life that I will let you guys hear for yourself.

0:43:31.320 --> 0:43:33.880
<v Speaker 1>I love doing these videos where I travel around to

0:43:33.920 --> 0:43:36.520
<v Speaker 1>foreign countries and interview people on the streets. I've done

0:43:36.560 --> 0:43:41.120
<v Speaker 1>it in Mexico City, Guatemala, and now Japan. And if

0:43:41.160 --> 0:43:43.560
<v Speaker 1>you like this interview, you like this format, and you

0:43:43.600 --> 0:43:45.960
<v Speaker 1>want to watch the whole thing, I have linked it

0:43:46.080 --> 0:43:51.399
<v Speaker 1>in the episode description. All right, let's go to Japan. Hi, Grace, Hi,

0:43:51.600 --> 0:43:52.440
<v Speaker 1>how are you? I'm good?

0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:52.799
<v Speaker 8>How are you?

0:43:52.920 --> 0:43:54.120
<v Speaker 1>This is Kiko Hi.

0:43:54.320 --> 0:43:58.680
<v Speaker 9>Nice to meet you and yours, Lyle Lion, Lyle Lyle.

0:43:58.920 --> 0:44:01.839
<v Speaker 1>Yes, what are you doing here in Japan? Dude?

0:44:02.120 --> 0:44:03.960
<v Speaker 9>I'm just traveling?

0:44:04.239 --> 0:44:04.879
<v Speaker 5>Okay?

0:44:05.280 --> 0:44:08.920
<v Speaker 1>Where is Where are you traveling from Australia? Oh?

0:44:09.000 --> 0:44:11.399
<v Speaker 3>Yes, it's my second day in Tokyo and it's my

0:44:11.480 --> 0:44:12.399
<v Speaker 3>first time being here.

0:44:12.600 --> 0:44:13.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh really?

0:44:13.280 --> 0:44:13.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:15.200
<v Speaker 1>What made you want to come all the way over

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:15.800
<v Speaker 1>to Tokyo.

0:44:16.320 --> 0:44:17.640
<v Speaker 9>I've always wanted to come.

0:44:18.840 --> 0:44:22.240
<v Speaker 3>It just happened that my brother he's also coming to Tokyo,

0:44:22.320 --> 0:44:23.360
<v Speaker 3>but from Hong Kong.

0:44:23.440 --> 0:44:25.720
<v Speaker 9>So I'm like, no, I'll meet you in Tokyo.

0:44:25.840 --> 0:44:27.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh great, great, great?

0:44:27.280 --> 0:44:27.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:29.920
<v Speaker 1>What what's life like back in Australia?

0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:34.239
<v Speaker 3>Not very exciting, to be honest with you. Yeah, what

0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:36.160
<v Speaker 3>are you doing? What are you guys doing here?

0:44:36.719 --> 0:44:38.960
<v Speaker 5>You know I'm not one hundred percent sure myself.

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:44.600
<v Speaker 9>Oh what are here? Am I being filmed?

0:44:44.640 --> 0:44:47.000
<v Speaker 1>You are being filmed? Is that Okay, yeah, that's fine.

0:44:47.320 --> 0:44:49.680
<v Speaker 1>We're just doing little interviews with people who I happen

0:44:49.800 --> 0:44:52.279
<v Speaker 1>to be walking by androsing.

0:44:52.480 --> 0:44:55.840
<v Speaker 3>Okay, So do you guys have a YouTube channel or something?

0:44:55.880 --> 0:44:59.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's it's gonna be on YouTube maybe maybe.

0:44:59.280 --> 0:45:01.359
<v Speaker 5>Maybe I don't know, maybe it'll just I'll just watch

0:45:01.440 --> 0:45:02.160
<v Speaker 5>it myself.

0:45:02.320 --> 0:45:05.680
<v Speaker 9>Okay, how how long have you guys been sitting here today?

0:45:05.840 --> 0:45:07.560
<v Speaker 1>How long have we been sitting here today? You think?

0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:10.240
<v Speaker 1>Let's see, let me check we've been We've been sitting

0:45:10.280 --> 0:45:12.960
<v Speaker 1>here for oh, we've actually been sitting here for thirty

0:45:12.960 --> 0:45:13.600
<v Speaker 1>eight minutes.

0:45:13.719 --> 0:45:15.200
<v Speaker 9>Okay, that's not too long.

0:45:15.239 --> 0:45:16.960
<v Speaker 1>We've been sitting here for thirty eight minutes and we've

0:45:16.960 --> 0:45:18.719
<v Speaker 1>gotten very few people to come sit and talk.

0:45:18.920 --> 0:45:21.359
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like number two or three something like that,

0:45:21.400 --> 0:45:22.080
<v Speaker 3>something like that.

0:45:22.040 --> 0:45:23.600
<v Speaker 9>That's actually not too bad.

0:45:23.560 --> 0:45:26.200
<v Speaker 5>Not too bad, right? Your life?

0:45:26.280 --> 0:45:28.239
<v Speaker 1>Like, tell me about Australia. What do you do?

0:45:28.840 --> 0:45:33.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm an accountant, you're an accountant. Yes, it's not very exciting, but.

0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:35.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but yet you see you have an exciting energy

0:45:35.840 --> 0:45:37.280
<v Speaker 1>about you. Really?

0:45:37.960 --> 0:45:38.680
<v Speaker 9>Can you feel it?

0:45:38.760 --> 0:45:40.960
<v Speaker 1>I can feel it? Can you feel the exciting energy?

0:45:41.000 --> 0:45:41.640
<v Speaker 8>Really?

0:45:42.560 --> 0:45:46.800
<v Speaker 1>What were you able to get time off from accounting

0:45:46.960 --> 0:45:47.600
<v Speaker 1>to come here?

0:45:47.760 --> 0:45:48.760
<v Speaker 9>I'm actually.

0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:53.680
<v Speaker 3>Thinking about switching industry, maybe going to banking or something,

0:45:54.239 --> 0:45:56.759
<v Speaker 3>but I don't know yet. Let's see if I can

0:45:56.800 --> 0:45:58.239
<v Speaker 3>find a job, find a new job.

0:45:58.320 --> 0:46:02.640
<v Speaker 9>But yeah, I actually had a pretty shitty year. That's why.

0:46:02.719 --> 0:46:04.320
<v Speaker 1>Why did you have a shitty year, Grace?

0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:08.799
<v Speaker 3>It's pretty sad because my dad passed away. Yeah, but

0:46:09.000 --> 0:46:12.439
<v Speaker 3>you know, that's part of life. And yeah, it's kind

0:46:12.440 --> 0:46:18.800
<v Speaker 3>of changed my perspective of things because he passed away

0:46:18.880 --> 0:46:22.719
<v Speaker 3>really quickly, and it just happened very suddenly. And it

0:46:22.760 --> 0:46:27.000
<v Speaker 3>was back in March, so back then, so they're all

0:46:27.040 --> 0:46:31.120
<v Speaker 3>in Hong Kong. And back then, Hong Kong banned people

0:46:31.120 --> 0:46:34.239
<v Speaker 3>coming in from Australia. So in order for me to

0:46:34.280 --> 0:46:36.319
<v Speaker 3>go home, I had to go to New Zealand for

0:46:36.360 --> 0:46:39.920
<v Speaker 3>two weeks to wash out two weeks, and once I

0:46:39.960 --> 0:46:41.399
<v Speaker 3>reached Hong Kong, I still had to do.

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:43.320
<v Speaker 9>Two weeks quarantine.

0:46:43.680 --> 0:46:46.799
<v Speaker 3>Took me like four weeks to see my family.

0:46:47.000 --> 0:46:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Took you four weeks to your family.

0:46:48.960 --> 0:46:50.959
<v Speaker 9>Yeah, yeah, it was really bad.

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:55.040
<v Speaker 3>And the saddest thing was my dad passed away on

0:46:55.080 --> 0:46:58.160
<v Speaker 3>the day that I left for Hong Kong, so I

0:46:58.160 --> 0:47:01.160
<v Speaker 3>didn't make it like the when I stepped on my

0:47:01.239 --> 0:47:03.880
<v Speaker 3>trip like pretty much twelve hours later he's gone.

0:47:04.000 --> 0:47:05.600
<v Speaker 9>So it was pretty traumatic.

0:47:05.640 --> 0:47:09.719
<v Speaker 3>I would say, yeah, yeah, and and and then there

0:47:09.719 --> 0:47:13.600
<v Speaker 3>are all these family issues that because of its passing

0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:16.280
<v Speaker 3>that they were coming up. So I was like dealing

0:47:16.280 --> 0:47:20.960
<v Speaker 3>with a lot of shitty, complex things. So I had

0:47:21.000 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 3>a really shitty year. And that's part of the reason why.

0:47:23.560 --> 0:47:26.600
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I'm in Japan now because I'm like, stop it.

0:47:26.640 --> 0:47:29.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm just gonna book this trip and make myself happy.

0:47:29.200 --> 0:47:30.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm just going to spend the money and you know.

0:47:30.719 --> 0:47:31.080
<v Speaker 9>Do this.

0:47:31.280 --> 0:47:33.319
<v Speaker 1>I love that. Yeah, I love that. So is that

0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:36.600
<v Speaker 1>part of because you were talking about how this this

0:47:36.760 --> 0:47:39.759
<v Speaker 1>all kind of even though it was shitty, gave you

0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:43.640
<v Speaker 1>a different perspective that you're like applying to how you're

0:47:43.680 --> 0:47:44.720
<v Speaker 1>now living your life.

0:47:45.040 --> 0:47:46.480
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think so, Like, tell.

0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:47.520
<v Speaker 1>Me more about that new perspective.

0:47:47.560 --> 0:47:50.360
<v Speaker 9>I think it makes me realize I can do so

0:47:50.520 --> 0:47:50.959
<v Speaker 9>much more.

0:47:51.280 --> 0:47:51.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:54.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because I've dealt with all these situations and I'm like, oh,

0:47:54.200 --> 0:47:56.040
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, you can actually do this. You can

0:47:56.080 --> 0:47:58.800
<v Speaker 3>deal with all these difficult people and difficult situations, and

0:47:59.280 --> 0:48:01.240
<v Speaker 3>why don't you go out then try something different.

0:48:01.280 --> 0:48:04.640
<v Speaker 9>Because I've been in my industry for like ten years and.

0:48:05.120 --> 0:48:07.319
<v Speaker 3>I don't see myself. I'll just tell you a little

0:48:07.320 --> 0:48:10.120
<v Speaker 3>bit more about my job. So I'm insolvency accountant, So

0:48:10.719 --> 0:48:15.440
<v Speaker 3>we do bankruptcy people dealing with bankrupt people or company

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:16.680
<v Speaker 3>going to liquidations.

0:48:16.719 --> 0:48:17.359
<v Speaker 9>Like it's all.

0:48:18.719 --> 0:48:20.799
<v Speaker 3>I quite like the things I do because every case

0:48:20.920 --> 0:48:24.080
<v Speaker 3>is different. But I also don't see myself in doing

0:48:24.120 --> 0:48:27.799
<v Speaker 3>this for very long. I don't see myself becoming a

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:31.200
<v Speaker 3>liquid data so I'm like, maybe I should do something else.

0:48:31.200 --> 0:48:33.640
<v Speaker 9>But anyway, it's just a lot of things happened this year.

0:48:33.680 --> 0:48:36.120
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, it comes to the point that this year

0:48:36.160 --> 0:48:39.319
<v Speaker 3>has it's coming to an end, and yeah, I think

0:48:39.640 --> 0:48:41.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm up for a new start for next year.

0:48:42.200 --> 0:48:44.880
<v Speaker 1>So you said that it's kind of helped you learn

0:48:45.040 --> 0:48:47.640
<v Speaker 1>that there are many things that you thought you couldn't

0:48:47.640 --> 0:48:49.680
<v Speaker 1>do the actually can do. Tell me about some of

0:48:49.680 --> 0:48:50.160
<v Speaker 1>those things.

0:48:50.360 --> 0:48:59.239
<v Speaker 9>Oh, it's probably gm. I just you know, family stuff.

0:48:59.120 --> 0:49:04.960
<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, So I know you said that

0:49:05.000 --> 0:49:06.600
<v Speaker 1>there was some drama, and it's okay if this is

0:49:06.600 --> 0:49:08.040
<v Speaker 1>something you don't want to talk about. But do you

0:49:08.160 --> 0:49:11.920
<v Speaker 1>feel like this might have brought your family like closer

0:49:11.960 --> 0:49:14.360
<v Speaker 1>together in any sense, because I feel like that tends

0:49:14.360 --> 0:49:16.920
<v Speaker 1>to happen when something like this happens is you know,

0:49:17.040 --> 0:49:20.320
<v Speaker 1>it's sad, but everyone kind of, you know, gathers.

0:49:19.880 --> 0:49:22.520
<v Speaker 3>And I think that's a really good point, Like we're

0:49:22.560 --> 0:49:27.880
<v Speaker 3>already very close, but definitely these events brought us closer

0:49:28.040 --> 0:49:30.439
<v Speaker 3>and we learn more about each other.

0:49:30.680 --> 0:49:35.040
<v Speaker 9>Like yeah, and can I ask you guys some questions?

0:49:35.800 --> 0:49:36.040
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:49:36.120 --> 0:49:39.719
<v Speaker 9>Yes, So, so how long have you been doing this?

0:49:41.160 --> 0:49:44.560
<v Speaker 1>I've been doing this for like two and a half years.

0:49:45.080 --> 0:49:48.440
<v Speaker 3>Oh, okay, out making context for two.

0:49:48.239 --> 0:49:52.040
<v Speaker 1>And a half years already, Yeah something like that. Yeah, yeah, wow,

0:49:52.080 --> 0:49:52.480
<v Speaker 1>this is.

0:49:53.080 --> 0:49:54.680
<v Speaker 5>My first time doing it in Japan.

0:49:55.600 --> 0:49:58.920
<v Speaker 1>I met Kiko on the phone actually, because I do

0:49:58.960 --> 0:50:00.920
<v Speaker 1>a show where I talk to people on the phone,

0:50:01.680 --> 0:50:05.360
<v Speaker 1>and she's come here to help me translate. But we

0:50:05.520 --> 0:50:10.520
<v Speaker 1>haven't yet found many like actually, you know people who

0:50:10.520 --> 0:50:11.880
<v Speaker 1>only speak Japanese.

0:50:11.560 --> 0:50:12.720
<v Speaker 2>No need for me to translate.

0:50:12.800 --> 0:50:16.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, all right, So how long are you planning

0:50:16.800 --> 0:50:18.760
<v Speaker 3>to be out here today?

0:50:19.960 --> 0:50:22.240
<v Speaker 1>As long as it takes, as long as it takes

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:23.280
<v Speaker 1>I suppose.

0:50:23.000 --> 0:50:24.239
<v Speaker 9>As long as the sun is out.

0:50:25.520 --> 0:50:29.000
<v Speaker 1>So okay, you said that you've learned. You said that

0:50:29.040 --> 0:50:32.759
<v Speaker 1>you learned more about your family. If it's not too

0:50:32.800 --> 0:50:35.560
<v Speaker 1>much information, can I hear some of the things that

0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:39.520
<v Speaker 1>you've learned? Like, did you learn anything new about your

0:50:39.560 --> 0:50:41.880
<v Speaker 1>your mother or or your your siblings.

0:50:43.640 --> 0:50:47.400
<v Speaker 3>I guess it's more about letting them learning me learning

0:50:47.480 --> 0:50:48.120
<v Speaker 3>things about me.

0:50:48.360 --> 0:50:49.920
<v Speaker 1>Interesting, what do you think I learned about you?

0:50:51.560 --> 0:50:51.759
<v Speaker 6>Oh?

0:50:51.920 --> 0:50:55.919
<v Speaker 9>Oh, this is too deep? I mean tm I yeah,

0:50:55.960 --> 0:50:56.319
<v Speaker 9>but you.

0:50:56.280 --> 0:50:58.319
<v Speaker 1>Don't have it's just.

0:51:00.800 --> 0:51:02.840
<v Speaker 9>Oh, yeah, this is TMI.

0:51:03.000 --> 0:51:05.560
<v Speaker 3>But my dad actually had another like he had a

0:51:06.400 --> 0:51:09.960
<v Speaker 3>he had a he had a partner, like outside of

0:51:09.960 --> 0:51:15.799
<v Speaker 3>the marriage. So we never two two families were we

0:51:15.840 --> 0:51:21.080
<v Speaker 3>don't acknowledge each other at all. But then because this happened,

0:51:21.160 --> 0:51:23.560
<v Speaker 3>so they came into contact with us.

0:51:23.760 --> 0:51:28.320
<v Speaker 1>Interesting, So did you not know them before?

0:51:28.680 --> 0:51:33.719
<v Speaker 3>We knew, like we knew about ten years ago, but

0:51:33.880 --> 0:51:36.839
<v Speaker 3>we never really My.

0:51:36.880 --> 0:51:39.520
<v Speaker 9>Dad still wasn't sure.

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:42.200
<v Speaker 3>If I knew about so I was like pretending that

0:51:42.239 --> 0:51:45.799
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, like trying to preserve the relationship, so

0:51:45.800 --> 0:51:50.680
<v Speaker 3>we don't we never talk about it. But yeah, it's

0:51:51.000 --> 0:51:54.680
<v Speaker 3>very The situation was really dedicate because there was a

0:51:54.800 --> 0:51:55.920
<v Speaker 3>child involved.

0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:59.920
<v Speaker 9>So my half brother is like just like ten or

0:52:00.000 --> 0:52:00.719
<v Speaker 9>twelve years old.

0:52:01.200 --> 0:52:04.480
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, it was a very delicate situation, like when

0:52:04.480 --> 0:52:06.960
<v Speaker 3>you have to break the news to the other side

0:52:07.200 --> 0:52:11.120
<v Speaker 3>and all those things. And at first we didn't really

0:52:11.160 --> 0:52:14.560
<v Speaker 3>want to come into contact with them. So I basically

0:52:14.680 --> 0:52:19.240
<v Speaker 3>contacted his school, told them about a situation and said,

0:52:20.719 --> 0:52:23.680
<v Speaker 3>the dad has passed away because because our father.

0:52:23.560 --> 0:52:27.520
<v Speaker 1>You contacted your half brother's school to let them know. Yeah,

0:52:27.560 --> 0:52:30.439
<v Speaker 1>oh my god. And did you had you even ever

0:52:30.560 --> 0:52:33.880
<v Speaker 1>met your half brother after that? Yes, So when you

0:52:34.040 --> 0:52:36.120
<v Speaker 1>when you called the school, he didn't even know who

0:52:36.160 --> 0:52:36.520
<v Speaker 1>you were.

0:52:36.920 --> 0:52:38.839
<v Speaker 9>Yeah, I knew his name.

0:52:39.239 --> 0:52:39.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:52:39.600 --> 0:52:44.040
<v Speaker 3>So what happened was my dad was like they he

0:52:44.520 --> 0:52:47.600
<v Speaker 3>lives with Obviously he looks after my half brother.

0:52:47.680 --> 0:52:51.200
<v Speaker 9>So they lived together, separating like separate.

0:52:50.960 --> 0:52:56.120
<v Speaker 3>Homes, and my dad was quite sick and basically one

0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:56.560
<v Speaker 3>day he.

0:52:56.560 --> 0:52:58.360
<v Speaker 9>Just left home. They knew that they were going to

0:52:58.360 --> 0:53:00.120
<v Speaker 9>the hospital, but he never returned, and.

0:53:02.400 --> 0:53:05.600
<v Speaker 3>It just it was like over the course of maybe

0:53:05.719 --> 0:53:09.760
<v Speaker 3>three weeks, they were still in contact that my father

0:53:09.840 --> 0:53:12.279
<v Speaker 3>was still in contact with the other side, but then

0:53:12.320 --> 0:53:15.840
<v Speaker 3>eventually he got so weak and couldn't respond to any messages.

0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:18.319
<v Speaker 9>So they left hanging there. I didn't know what was

0:53:18.320 --> 0:53:18.799
<v Speaker 9>going on.

0:53:19.200 --> 0:53:22.000
<v Speaker 3>They tried to contact the hospital, but the hospital wouldn't

0:53:22.000 --> 0:53:25.360
<v Speaker 3>talk to them because the mother isn't his lawful wife,

0:53:25.400 --> 0:53:28.600
<v Speaker 3>so there's no like she can't get these information from

0:53:28.600 --> 0:53:33.480
<v Speaker 3>the hospital. And one day they received this message from

0:53:33.520 --> 0:53:36.120
<v Speaker 3>their school social worker that someone has told us that

0:53:36.160 --> 0:53:39.399
<v Speaker 3>your dad has passed away, so they reach out to

0:53:39.480 --> 0:53:43.800
<v Speaker 3>us and yeah, the whole drama begay.

0:53:44.200 --> 0:53:47.880
<v Speaker 1>Have you maintained a relationship with the partner's.

0:53:47.440 --> 0:53:51.399
<v Speaker 9>Family, the boy, Yes, we still talk.

0:53:52.680 --> 0:53:55.480
<v Speaker 3>I actually stayed in Hong Kong for like two months,

0:53:55.520 --> 0:54:01.799
<v Speaker 3>so I really made myself available for them.

0:54:01.840 --> 0:54:03.719
<v Speaker 1>So it's very it's very sweet of you to make

0:54:03.719 --> 0:54:07.319
<v Speaker 1>yourself available for them, even though you had never known that.

0:54:07.440 --> 0:54:10.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's that's the thing that my family learned about me.

0:54:10.680 --> 0:54:13.000
<v Speaker 3>She's like, they're like, why can you be so nice

0:54:13.000 --> 0:54:16.200
<v Speaker 3>to them? I don't know, because there's just a child.

0:54:16.080 --> 0:54:20.520
<v Speaker 9>Involved, and I just feel bad. I think, I don't know.

0:54:20.560 --> 0:54:21.879
<v Speaker 9>I just I just did it?

0:54:22.000 --> 0:54:22.239
<v Speaker 7>Do you?

0:54:22.520 --> 0:54:26.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, do you feel like a connection to your

0:54:26.120 --> 0:54:29.000
<v Speaker 1>father through them in a sense because they were close

0:54:29.040 --> 0:54:29.680
<v Speaker 1>to him?

0:54:30.000 --> 0:54:31.200
<v Speaker 9>Not really interesting?

0:54:31.400 --> 0:54:31.840
<v Speaker 1>Not really.

0:54:31.960 --> 0:54:34.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't see him. I don't see my dad

0:54:34.280 --> 0:54:37.440
<v Speaker 3>in him at all. He doesn't look anything like my dad.

0:54:38.080 --> 0:54:41.000
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, yeah, he doesn't look anything like my dad.

0:54:41.760 --> 0:54:47.480
<v Speaker 3>We even did a DNA test to confirm a sneaky

0:54:47.520 --> 0:54:53.440
<v Speaker 3>one sneaky. So this is the kind of dramas that

0:54:53.480 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 3>I was talking about.

0:54:55.040 --> 0:54:57.160
<v Speaker 9>And how it can be a little bit t M. I.

0:54:57.400 --> 0:54:59.719
<v Speaker 5>Well, so I'm interested by a couple of things.

0:54:59.760 --> 0:55:02.840
<v Speaker 1>So your family, So, as you said, you've made yourself

0:55:02.840 --> 0:55:05.759
<v Speaker 1>available to this child who's clearly going through a really

0:55:05.800 --> 0:55:08.400
<v Speaker 1>hard time. And you didn't have to do that. You

0:55:08.440 --> 0:55:11.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know the gin, but you did it anyway. And

0:55:11.800 --> 0:55:14.440
<v Speaker 1>it's interesting that your family is saying to you, like,

0:55:15.040 --> 0:55:18.120
<v Speaker 1>why would you do that? And you're also kind of

0:55:18.120 --> 0:55:19.600
<v Speaker 1>a little bit being like why would I do that?

0:55:19.800 --> 0:55:24.320
<v Speaker 1>But but you're doing it, like something about like compelling

0:55:24.320 --> 0:55:26.359
<v Speaker 1>you to want to be there for him and have

0:55:26.400 --> 0:55:27.160
<v Speaker 1>that relationship.

0:55:27.280 --> 0:55:29.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I just felt bad for him because

0:55:29.680 --> 0:55:32.520
<v Speaker 3>he was He's so young. It's just such a young

0:55:32.560 --> 0:55:36.400
<v Speaker 3>age to lose his father. It's just I just feel

0:55:36.400 --> 0:55:36.960
<v Speaker 3>bad for him.

0:55:37.480 --> 0:55:40.080
<v Speaker 1>Do you think that? Is this all a recent thing?

0:55:41.320 --> 0:55:41.680
<v Speaker 5>Sorry?

0:55:41.920 --> 0:55:43.640
<v Speaker 1>Is this all a very kind of recent thing?

0:55:43.680 --> 0:55:44.759
<v Speaker 6>And this year? This year?

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:47.520
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, have you maintained a relationship with anyone else?

0:55:47.560 --> 0:55:49.359
<v Speaker 1>And in kind of that side of his.

0:55:50.160 --> 0:55:50.719
<v Speaker 5>Not so much.

0:55:51.120 --> 0:55:56.799
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Initially we were talking and she seemed okay, we

0:55:56.840 --> 0:56:00.800
<v Speaker 3>were like on good terms, I would say, but things

0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:06.240
<v Speaker 3>turned downhill pretty soon and now we're like not really talking.

0:56:06.239 --> 0:56:09.080
<v Speaker 3>But if I need to inform her of things. I'll

0:56:09.120 --> 0:56:12.360
<v Speaker 3>still message her. Yeah, tell me.

0:56:12.560 --> 0:56:16.080
<v Speaker 1>Uh So this this trip to Tokyo, is it like

0:56:16.160 --> 0:56:18.480
<v Speaker 1>a Is it like a decompression for you?

0:56:18.920 --> 0:56:19.240
<v Speaker 9>Definitely?

0:56:19.320 --> 0:56:21.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean it sounds like you've been through a whole

0:56:21.960 --> 0:56:22.600
<v Speaker 1>hell of a lot.

0:56:22.800 --> 0:56:26.879
<v Speaker 9>Yeah, definitely. I I don't.

0:56:27.880 --> 0:56:31.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't have like solid plans about where I have

0:56:31.200 --> 0:56:34.839
<v Speaker 3>to go, So I just go by feeling like I don't.

0:56:35.120 --> 0:56:36.000
<v Speaker 9>I don't wake up.

0:56:36.080 --> 0:56:37.960
<v Speaker 3>Super early in the morning and oh I have to

0:56:37.960 --> 0:56:39.399
<v Speaker 3>go to this place and slip this place.

0:56:39.480 --> 0:56:42.040
<v Speaker 9>No, I don't do that, So I'm just take it easy,

0:56:42.440 --> 0:56:44.480
<v Speaker 9>go with the floor, sit down and talk to you people.

0:56:45.760 --> 0:56:47.840
<v Speaker 1>Are you? Are you? Did you just come here by yourself?

0:56:48.560 --> 0:56:48.640
<v Speaker 2>So?

0:56:48.880 --> 0:56:51.600
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'm on my own now. But tomorrow I'll be

0:56:51.680 --> 0:56:52.400
<v Speaker 3>meeting my brother.

0:56:52.640 --> 0:56:55.240
<v Speaker 1>Oh great, great, great great. How has it been traveling

0:56:55.239 --> 0:56:55.800
<v Speaker 1>by yourself?

0:56:56.000 --> 0:56:56.160
<v Speaker 8>Oh?

0:56:56.200 --> 0:56:57.719
<v Speaker 9>I love it. I love it.

0:56:57.800 --> 0:57:00.800
<v Speaker 3>I don't need to look after anybody else is feeling

0:57:01.120 --> 0:57:03.239
<v Speaker 3>all that decided to go somewhere that I don't want

0:57:03.239 --> 0:57:04.479
<v Speaker 3>to go right right.

0:57:04.840 --> 0:57:07.680
<v Speaker 1>It's it's a symbolic thing because it's it seems like

0:57:07.760 --> 0:57:10.440
<v Speaker 1>you've been looking after so many other people and like,

0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:15.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, kind of in the in the weeds, of

0:57:15.360 --> 0:57:17.160
<v Speaker 1>all this stuff with all these other people, and then

0:57:17.200 --> 0:57:25.280
<v Speaker 1>you just have this time completely. Yeah, yes, very well deserved, grace.

0:57:25.320 --> 0:57:27.280
<v Speaker 1>Thanks for sharing all of this stuff with us.

0:57:27.320 --> 0:57:28.600
<v Speaker 9>Thank you for having.

0:57:28.880 --> 0:57:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Of course good Is there anything else you want to

0:57:32.200 --> 0:57:34.800
<v Speaker 1>say to the people of the computer before we go?

0:57:36.240 --> 0:57:40.200
<v Speaker 9>Not really, thank you for listening, because.

0:57:39.800 --> 0:57:41.840
<v Speaker 1>Have a fantastic rest of your.

0:57:41.720 --> 0:57:42.320
<v Speaker 5>Time and talk.

0:57:42.480 --> 0:57:45.880
<v Speaker 9>Thank you. Do you have like like do you do instagram?

0:57:46.960 --> 0:57:47.400
<v Speaker 1>Instagram?

0:57:47.480 --> 0:57:50.680
<v Speaker 5>Yeah? Well that was that was pretty interesting.

0:57:51.920 --> 0:57:52.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:57:52.280 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 5>Oh she was so nice. She had such a great energy.

0:57:55.680 --> 0:57:59.560
<v Speaker 1>It's so it's so interesting because it's like every time

0:57:59.560 --> 0:58:02.360
<v Speaker 1>I do this, it's like you can sit for forty

0:58:02.400 --> 0:58:05.040
<v Speaker 1>minutes and nobody comes to talk to you, and and

0:58:05.120 --> 0:58:08.080
<v Speaker 1>even if someone does, maybe they seem a little shy,

0:58:08.200 --> 0:58:13.080
<v Speaker 1>and then all of a sudden someone comes in, you know, kind.

0:58:12.880 --> 0:58:13.840
<v Speaker 5>Of with everything.

0:58:14.080 --> 0:58:14.880
<v Speaker 9>I'm glad you did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, how are you feeling, Kiko good?

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<v Speaker 5>I are you okay? Tired of you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 9>No, I'm good, I'm good. I wish that person would

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<v Speaker 9>come talk to us.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh me too. Maybe he will goes on the line

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<v Speaker 1>making your phone calls every night. Ever goes.

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<v Speaker 5>You're teaching your cloud your life.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not really an expert,