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Speaker 2: Call from Amy.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi, Amy, what's going down? Amy? Am I

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Speaker 1: on the speakerphone right now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: You are sorry, I'm outside.

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Speaker 1: Can you take me off the speakerphone place?

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Speaker 2: Let me try I gotta find some headphones to do that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you, guys, what do you mean? Just you

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Speaker 1: just take me off speakerphone and you put it you

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Speaker 1: the way that people used to do phones is just

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Speaker 1: put it up to their ear.

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Speaker 2: Well, I know, but I'm on a laptop right now.

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Speaker 1: You're right, you're calling me on a laptop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my phone was dying.

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Speaker 1: Why are you going to? Where are you right now?

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Speaker 1: Are you at a house?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're in Mississippi near the beach.

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Speaker 1: Okay, can you go inside?

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Speaker 2: I'm inside?

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: What's up Amy? How you doing? What's going on with you?

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Speaker 1: How's life?

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Speaker 2: It's pretty wild. I'm actually here with my best friend.

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Speaker 2: We were calling because we actually got dumped two weeks

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Speaker 2: apart from each other, and that was just a real

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Speaker 2: bonding experience.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So is this is this like girls weekend? Like

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Speaker 1: we're both we're both freshly single, going to go out

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Speaker 1: to the beach and party type vibes. I can't I

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Speaker 1: can only hear one of you guys.

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Speaker 2: Oh that was Brent. So yeah, we're just trying to

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Speaker 2: have a good, good girls.

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Speaker 1: Week Okay, how we're both of the breakups like bad?

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Speaker 1: Were they hard breakups? Or were they?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? It was brutal.

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Speaker 1: What made them brutal?

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Speaker 4: One of them packed his stuff the night before and

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Speaker 4: not want to live there anymore and just left wall.

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Speaker 1: He packed his stuff the night before. He did he

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Speaker 1: ever tell you that he didn't want to live there.

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Speaker 2: He told me in the morning.

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Speaker 1: That's kind of smart, to be completely honest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's so rude.

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Speaker 1: Well when that doesn't that make sense when you want

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Speaker 1: to pack up. Look, here's the thing is, if you're

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Speaker 1: out before you know? Because we've all seen the like

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Speaker 1: in the movies where somebody will like, you know, like

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Speaker 1: like a girl like throwing all this stuff out the window.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 2: See, that was basically my situation.

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Speaker 1: Who am I talking to? I can only hear one

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Speaker 1: of you guys.

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Speaker 2: Well, this is Amy Now, Yeah, I kind of did

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Speaker 2: the whole throwing stuff off the porch thing.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so you threw his stuff off the porch?

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Speaker 2: It was a girl stuff. Uh, we hadn't been living together.

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Speaker 2: We had broken up and then got back together, and

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Speaker 2: then I just had some possessions still, and I got

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Speaker 2: dumped over text while I was in a COVID quarantine.

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Speaker 2: So I just kind of freaked out and threw everything

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Speaker 1: So it sounds like the guy who packed his stuff

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Speaker 2: I you know, I can't really disagree with you that

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Speaker 1: Okay, So so I'm gonna I'm gonna live. I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna talk. Can you Can you put me on a phone,

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Speaker 1: by the way, can I or know you're on your laptop?

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Speaker 5: Fuck it?

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Speaker 1: Who cares?

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Speaker 1: Right, So your breakup was over text and you had COVID,

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Speaker 1: and so you threw all of this stuff out. So

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Speaker 1: why did you throw all of his stuff all out

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Speaker 2: It wasn't the window, it was the porch. But I

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Speaker 2: just was like, we've already broken up once before. I

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Speaker 2: don't need to like be sentimental. I just need to

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Speaker 2: like get this stuff out of my face, because if

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be trapped in my house alone, I can't

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Speaker 2: stuff that reminds me of a bad time.

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Speaker 1: Did you just like leave it out on the porch?

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Speaker 1: What kind of stuff was it?

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Speaker 2: Like clothes and dishes from each other's house? And like,

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Speaker 8: Don't really know.

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Speaker 2: We like had cats, so there was like some cats supplies.

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Speaker 2: Not cat food? There's like a cat carrier And I

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Speaker 2: kind of feel bad because it was like covered in pea,

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Speaker 2: but it was covered in her cat's peace, So like,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I only felt bad because I was

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Speaker 2: supposed to clean it and then I just kind of

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Speaker 2: threw all her stuff on top of a cat feed carrier.

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Speaker 2: Not intentional though.

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Speaker 1: So how long were you guys to go together before that?

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Speaker 2: Like two years?

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Speaker 7: All right?

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Speaker 1: How did they react to use throwing this is is

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend your ex girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Ex girlfriend? But at that point we had gotten back

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Speaker 2: together kind of after a few months, and we never

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Speaker 1: How did how did she react to you throwing her

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Speaker 2: I don't think she knew because a lot of friends

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Speaker 2: and just like helped me take stuff to her. I

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Speaker 2: think she might have picked up some of this stuff.

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Speaker 2: I think I might have put it in trash bags

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Speaker 2: once it was outside. I can't remember. I was really sick.

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Speaker 2: Like that whole week was just a total blurk.

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Speaker 1: So so both of these ended badly.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, all right?

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Speaker 1: How old are you guys? Uh?

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Speaker 2: Twenty three and twenty one?

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Speaker 1: Okay? What what is your plan for the week? Are

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Speaker 1: you like going bar hopping? Are you so? Okay? Let

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Speaker 1: me ask you a question about this weekend? Is this

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Speaker 1: weekend or it's fucking Monday? But whatever? Is every I

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Speaker 1: don't every every every day is day? All right? So

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Speaker 1: this trip not this weekend? This trip? Is this a

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Speaker 1: like is this a going out to get laid trip?

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Speaker 1: Or is this like a going to forget?

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Speaker 2: I didn't say it, but she said it on the

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Speaker 2: way up here. She goes, I think our only goal

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Speaker 2: should be eating crawfish and getting laid, And I was like,

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Speaker 2: I can't like argue with you on that point.

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Speaker 1: Nice crawfish and pussy the only things on the menu.

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Speaker 2: You know, I could I could get down with that.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I here about seafood?

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Speaker 1: So are you? What are you do?

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Speaker 4: You?

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Speaker 1: Guys?

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Speaker 7: Like?

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Speaker 1: Where is this again? You're in Florida?

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Speaker 2: Almost like we're in Mississippi, like just kind of in

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Speaker 1: What is that where you guys? Do you guys live

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Speaker 1: in Mississippi?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Okay, why hold on? Why did you pick Mississippi.

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Speaker 2: To go vac family? My family lives down here.

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Speaker 1: Okay are you living?

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Speaker 1: Wait? Is your dog sitting for your family? So your

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Speaker 1: family's not there?

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Speaker 2: No, they're not there.

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Speaker 1: Okay. I feel like yeah, because I feel like Mississippi

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Speaker 1: is not the greatest going out to get laid vacation place, but.

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Speaker 2: Not New Orleans.

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Speaker 1: Oh you guys, are you guys going to gonna gonna

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Speaker 1: go to New Orleans as part of the trip?

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Speaker 2: Just today?

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Speaker 1: Just today? What what are you gonna do in New Orleans?

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Speaker 2: We like spooky stuff, so we'll probably check that out

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Speaker 2: and eat vignets and uh, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Probably get drunk that watch out for STDs. There's probably

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Speaker 1: some gnarly stuff flowing around there.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you both said I hadn't use it.

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Speaker 2: Get tested.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so what did you so you you two broke

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Speaker 1: up at the same time. That was nice. Did you

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Speaker 1: did you emotionally support each other?

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Speaker 2: Yes, like a lot.

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Speaker 2: It was messy, but it was cute for us to

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, oka, way, so I'm talking to you,

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Speaker 1: let me talk. Give the laptop to what Brianna is

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Speaker 1: her name? When let me give the laptop to Brent.

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Speaker 1: How was your breakup? I only heard about it through

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Speaker 1: and I mean you guys, I have no idea which

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we have very similar voices. It was interesting. We

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Speaker 4: woke up one day and he was like, I can't

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Speaker 4: okay bye. That was like literally the first thing he

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Speaker 1: It was like, okay, damn. So did you have no

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Speaker 4: Not really, I mean I had a little bit of

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Speaker 4: an idea, but I didn't think it was that bad.

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Speaker 2: Let me just say, as a best friend, I knew

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Speaker 2: it was going to happen into it really.

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Speaker 1: So so so first of all, okay, tell me your

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Speaker 1: what you said. You had a little idea, What where

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Speaker 1: where did that little idea come from? What did he

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Speaker 1: do to give you that little idea?

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Speaker 4: We had gotten into a fight some months before and

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Speaker 4: he was trying to light to me about something and

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Speaker 4: I had called him out on it, and then he

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Speaker 4: then I like I was like fuck you dude, like

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Speaker 4: stop it. And then like after that, I had a feeling.

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Speaker 4: I was like, Oh, I messed up, And yeah.

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Speaker 1: But what was he lying to you about? Oh, did

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Speaker 1: you want to share?

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Speaker 4: I didn't even remember what it was.

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Speaker 2: It was just something stupid, okay.

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Speaker 1: And then uh, Amy, you had a you you you

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Speaker 1: Yes, what the fun? What is there? Where? Where in

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Speaker 1: No, it matters a little bit. But well, is there

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Speaker 2: Thank you all, practice safe, suck, go, get tested, don't cheat. Uh,

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Speaker 6: All from Forest.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi, who is this?

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Speaker 6: This is Forest?

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Speaker 6: I'm all right?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 1: What's going on with you? Uh?

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Speaker 6: Not much? I just finished a six hour shift and

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Speaker 6: I make momoothies. I work at Dumba Juice.

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Speaker 6: Sorta not super particular, but like I guess sorta, I guess, all.

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Speaker 1: The brain's a weird thing. It did. It'll it'll tell

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's it's really confusing, and like, I'm at a point.

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Speaker 1: That sounds good. That doesn't sound like a bad way

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Speaker 6: I feel like that. I think that I was already

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, well, I mean, I mean I don't know,

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Speaker 6: My guess is that I just I guess I'd was

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Speaker 6: So it doesn't really bother me. And like I feel,

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Speaker 1: Like you know, you know, you should talk to a

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Speaker 1: That's a fascinating thing. Well, that's a fascinating thing that

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Speaker 6: He passed it down to me, And for a long

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Speaker 6: and relaxation, at least for me. You know, someone else

451
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 6: might live the opposite and be happy as hell, but.

452
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Speaker 3: I don't know.

453
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny. I've read I've like, by ready

454
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 1: any overall footnotes. Anytime on this podcast, I say that

455
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 1: I've read into something and means I skimmed a Wikipedia

456
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 1: article once. Okay, well that's that's what that means. As

457
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 1: I've briefly read into some Buddhism stuff and it just

458
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,680
Speaker 1: I know that's the central tenant. I usually I don't

459
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,119
Speaker 1: do like deep dives. I usually just I get the

460
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:16,880
Speaker 1: central tenants and I think on it, you know, so

461
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: that I mean that's central tenant, that the attachment is suffering.

462
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: I mean it's an interesting idea, right, because it's kind

463
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 1: of true. You know when I think about like things

464
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 1: that make me suffer, things that I guess make anybody

465
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:36,360
Speaker 1: suffer are like attachments, attachments to people, attachments to jobs,

466
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:42,120
Speaker 1: attachments to things, attachments to you know, places, and I mean,

467
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: fuck even attachment to your own life.

468
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 7: Yeah.

469
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 6: It's just I mean, like exactly the root of all

470
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 6: evil in my opinion and a lot of others is

471
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 6: attachments are the evil, and and money and stuff like

472
00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 6: that too. It's just like, I money is really what

473
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 6: it comes to. I can go onto this. I'm not

474
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:06,239
Speaker 6: gonna chat your ear off, but it's yeah, I've been

475
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 6: like trying to just not hold onto things, whether that

476
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 6: be people that make me feel shitty or objects that

477
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 6: I just keep up space or shit like that, or

478
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 6: a job that makes me unhappy, like I let go

479
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 6: of so much in the past like four months. It's

480
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 6: I feel like I've started not just a new chapter,

481
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 6: but a new book of my life, and I'm only nineteen,

482
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:30,119
Speaker 6: so I can't wait to like make more books. I

483
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 6: guess with my life.

484
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:37,720
Speaker 1: I like that. I like that. Yeah, you know, I'll

485
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: say this before we go. I know you have a

486
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 1: lot of people in your life telling you that you know,

487
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: maybe that you're you're going about this the wrong way.

488
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: But I mean, look, especially because you're only fucking nineteen,

489
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: I feel like you can you know this, this this

490
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: way of life that you have going for you right

491
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 1: now that you're into of letting go really easily and

492
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: being sort of transient through everything, give it, give it

493
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 1: a shot, and you know, figure out on your own

494
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,679
Speaker 1: whether or not it's beneficial for you.

495
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 7: Yeah.

496
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a far time to run that experiment.

497
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's like the best part about being alive and

498
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 6: this young is that I have so much time to

499
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 6: do things like That's what's me really going is knowing

500
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 6: how much I haven't even tasted of life yet. There's

501
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 6: so much.

502
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 1: What is your name again?

503
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 6: Forest?

504
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: Forest?

505
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 7: Uh?

506
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 1: Well, Forest, have a good rest of your life. I'm

507
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,679
Speaker 1: gonna you've inspired me after this. After I'm done recording this,

508
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna skim a little bit more on

509
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: the Wikipedia page for Buddhism.

510
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,880
Speaker 6: Well, I'm glad that I've got you interested. It's a

511
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:55,120
Speaker 6: great way to live.

512
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you gonna say to the people

513
00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 1: the computer before we go?

514
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,400
Speaker 6: Respect all life, no matter what. That's all I want

515
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 6: to say. Take care, man, Thanks until your day. Goodbye

516
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:09,919
Speaker 6: all from Alan?

517
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 7: Pick up my guy.

518
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: I just did.

519
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 7: Hello. Hello, it's me.

520
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 1: What's up?

521
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 7: How are you? Man?

522
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 1: I'm doing good man? How are you?

523
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 7: I'm chilling, bro and chimming real. I always want to

524
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 7: say congrats you like you came so far, Bro, Like

525
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 7: I've been seeing me since twenty twenty man, for real,

526
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 7: So like.

527
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: Thanks Man, I'm it's so funny. Every day I'm like

528
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 1: how much longer am I?

529
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 5: Well?

530
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: Am I allowed to do this? And you know, look

531
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: every day every day that that God or Jesus or

532
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 1: Moses lets me live in a universe where I'm a

533
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 1: gecko on the computer talking to strangers. It's a good day.

534
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: It's a good day.

535
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 5: What are you up to?

536
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: What's is there a thing that you called in to

537
00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:58,119
Speaker 1: want to talk about?

538
00:26:58,680 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 5: Alan?

539
00:26:59,280 --> 00:26:59,399
Speaker 2: Bro?

540
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,679
Speaker 7: I what's not my real name? I had to use

541
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 7: something fake just because, like you know, I didn't want to, like, well,

542
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 7: you never know whoever can be watching this ship.

543
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: But like I don't get why people. I don't understand

544
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 1: why people do people do this all the time. They

545
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: say they say they say my name is Alan, but

546
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: that's a fake name. The whole point of the fake

547
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 1: name is that it's I'm supposed to think it's real.

548
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 1: Why do people keep saying that their fake names are fake?

549
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: That in validates the point of the fake names?

550
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 7: Funny, right, I don't know, just human error. I don't know, dude.

551
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 7: I just I just do it just to protect my identity. Man.

552
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 7: But anyway, yo, so thank you for like taking up Yo. So,

553
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 7: like I have like this like this love connection romantic

554
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 7: situation type of thing, and I wanted to like break

555
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 7: it down to you, even though like I kind of

556
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:50,480
Speaker 7: figured it out. I just kind of just wanted to

557
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 7: talk to you about it because like I just kind

558
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 7: of been like obsessed with this woman that like kind

559
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 7: of inspired me in like in a musical in a

560
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 7: music like art way, you know. So, like I'm a

561
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 7: DJ and I'm producer, and I like I've been doing

562
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 7: that since I was sixteen. I'm thirty now, and and

563
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 7: like I've recently just like started going back into the

564
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:15,439
Speaker 7: underground club scene and whatnot. And I've been seeing like

565
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,199
Speaker 7: the evolution of just like just me in general, just

566
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 7: going out into different like environments and just exploring like

567
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 7: different like just you know, like underground teams or whatever whatever.

568
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 7: But anyway, I met her? Why didn't meet her? Why

569
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 7: did I actually seen her? The first time? Djaying, I

570
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 7: was so enamored by the way like she would spin

571
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 7: or whatnot. And yeah, man, like ever since then, I've

572
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 7: just been like changing on my style, bro, And I like,

573
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 7: I have like a huge crush on her and brow

574
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 7: like real and we bumped in a couple of times.

575
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 7: But I would like I'd be so shy, Like I'm

576
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 7: just like a shy dude when it comes to like

577
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 7: someone like I have like this crush on and like

578
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 7: you could tell, like some females are, like you can

579
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 7: they can tell when like you're they can like like

580
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 7: kind of like feel when you're like, oh, this dude

581
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 7: has something from here, something here, he's acting weird whatever.

582
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 7: But but yeah, it's been.

583
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 6: Like a year.

584
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 1: I gotta, I just gotta as we stand now at

585
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: this point in the conversation, I am confused as to

586
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: whether or not you know this woman or if she

587
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 1: is somebody you saw on TV.

588
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 7: No, I know her. I know her.

589
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: We met, We met, okay, and did you ask her

590
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: out on a date?

591
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 7: Nah? Man, That's the thing. I don't know if it's

592
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 7: ego or envy, and it's just a bunch of emotions

593
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 7: that I feel. And it's just like I had to

594
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 7: process this ship like I'm like, no, why am I

595
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 7: ignoring her? Like idated like other girls, but like you're

596
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 7: the ones that just like it's not It's just like

597
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 7: one of those things where.

598
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: Like, okay, what's your alan? Okay, we gotta slow down

599
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 1: for a second. I gotta wrap my head around. Your

600
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: brain is firing on all cylinders right now, and I

601
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 1: need we need to slow down. I'm gonna wrap my

602
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 1: head around this. So you have a you here's the

603
00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 1: here's the here's here's the great thing about being You're thirty.

604
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: You said you're thirty. Yeah, Here's the great thing about

605
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 1: being thirty compared to being twelve is that when you're

606
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: twelve and you have a crush on a girl, there

607
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: you really there's fucking nothing you can do about it. Really,

608
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: I mean you can go up and you can ask

609
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: her on a date. But you're not you're twelve. You

610
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 1: can't take a girl out on a date. That's not anything.

611
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 1: What you people normally do is they ask their friends

612
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: to ask them if they like you, and then you

613
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: kind of strategize and you're nervous and you have to

614
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,479
Speaker 1: kind of take all these peripheral actions around it. But

615
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: you don't have to do that. You're thirty. You're an adult.

616
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: That's the great thing about being an adult is if

617
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: you like somebody and take your adult confidence and you

618
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 1: go up to them, you tell them that you like them,

619
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: and then you ask them if they would like to

620
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: to you know whether or not maybe maybe they like you,

621
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: or or you ask them if they would like to

622
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 1: go out for them to see if they like you too,

623
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: and and and it goes from being this horrifically. It

624
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: gets complicated later when you It gets complicated once you're

625
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: in a relationship, but the actual courting process is far

626
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: less complicated than it was when you were twelve. You

627
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 1: have that advantage, Alan, So tell me what in that

628
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: courtship process, what are the the issues there? Plainly and simple,

629
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: because here's because if you answer this with something that's

630
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 1: like a thousand sentences long. It's just a tile of

631
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: what's there. Please give me a straight answer to this.

632
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 7: To this question the reason, Okay, I'll go slow. I'm

633
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:39,959
Speaker 7: kind of excited talking to you, bro.

634
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:41,959
Speaker 1: No, I'm excited to talk to you too. I'm just

635
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 1: I just want to know. I just want to know

636
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: what the issue is here.

637
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 7: The thing is is that, well, I don't want to

638
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 7: force it, I guess because you know now that she's

639
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 7: like really a prominent DJ in the scene, Like, I

640
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 7: don't know, like I just kind of feel like I

641
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,959
Speaker 7: just don't want to do follow her to every single

642
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:03,719
Speaker 7: event like she's eating.

643
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to Alan Alan, Alan, Alan Alan. Nobody

644
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: said anything about following her to every event that she's at.

645
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 1: What are you talking about?

646
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,479
Speaker 7: I don't know. I just don't want to be a weirdo,

647
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 7: you know. And I think it's just just like somebody

648
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 7: like this guy always like and he's just not saying

649
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 7: anything to me, even though I'm giving him like like

650
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 7: eyes and stuff. You know, I don't know, Mat, i'd

651
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 7: be over calpulicating it.

652
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: You know, You're well, I don't You're one hundred percent

653
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: of over complicating this, I can just like an already

654
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: tell are you does this? How many conversations have you

655
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: had with this girl ship?

656
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 7: Like probably like too too?

657
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: Okay, do you word? Do you guys have some kind

658
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 1: of thing where you're recurring least do you have her

659
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 1: on the Instagram or the phone number or anything like that?

660
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 7: The IG waves? Yeah, I do, but I don't have

661
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 7: a number.

662
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 1: Though, Okay, if you talked on the on the i G.

663
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 7: I tried, man, but she doesn't follow me back, and

664
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 7: so like I tried sending a message to her, but

665
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 7: you know, at some point, it's just like I couldn't

666
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 7: even make comments like on her IG stories. I don't know, man,

667
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 7: like I just that's why you could?

668
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: You could? What do you mean you couldn't make comments

669
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: on her i G stories?

670
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 7: Yeah? Like you know how some people just like you

671
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 7: can make a comment and then like somehow some some

672
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 7: random like some people just like kind of like turn

673
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 7: off the comments of certain people can't like comment on

674
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 7: their stories.

675
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 1: Did she turn off your specific specifically your ability to

676
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: comment on her stories?

677
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 8: I don't maybe okay, has she wait.

678
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 7: A minute, hold on weird, it's weird.

679
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 1: Okay, when you talk to this person. When you talk

680
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: to this person, how did the conversation go?

681
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 7: I mean, it's pretty flow. It's just like, hey, how

682
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 7: are you how you doing? He's like, Oh, I'm good,

683
00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 7: I'm good, I'm fine, this and that and like kind

684
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 7: of just like just tries to not even like we'll

685
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 7: not even try, but I guess doesn't try to like

686
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 7: complete like it's just a small talk. But then like

687
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 7: we bumped into certain places and it's like, excuse me

688
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 7: to these eyes where it's just like okay, like you're

689
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 7: giving me these eyes and like you're kind of showing

690
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,479
Speaker 7: me interest. But then again, like are you even shy

691
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 7: like me? Like are we having the same type of

692
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 7: like dilemma where none of us, like none of us

693
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 7: are going to try to like innately try to like

694
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 7: ask each other out, you know what I mean. So

695
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 7: that type of vibe that I was getting, So it's

696
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 7: just kind of like kind of like I kind of

697
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 7: just came up to the conclusion because I was talking

698
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 7: to them. I was like, yo, just let it go,

699
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 7: and just like you're DJ too, right, And I was

700
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 7: like yeah, like so yeah, you're going to be out

701
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 7: in the scene and you're just going to be collaborating

702
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 7: with the certain promoters. So probably oddly enough along that way,

703
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 7: you're probably gonna beat up with her again and then

704
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 7: you're gonna probably like have like a conversation but like

705
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:12,799
Speaker 7: off of like DJINGG or whatnot. So so, yeah, I

706
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 7: had I had realized a couple of things about my situation.

707
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 7: I realized that I can't put nobody on a pedestal, man,

708
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 7: And I think that's my biggest thing. I can't. I

709
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 7: think I was putting her on a pedestal, and I'm

710
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 7: just like and and I'm just like, man, that's that's

711
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 7: a no brain, I can't do that.

712
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 8: You know what.

713
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 1: You know, as I'm listening to you talk, I'm realizing

714
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:38,359
Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm actually rethinking everything I've said to you.

715
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 1: Because I told you that the courting process I've made,

716
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: I've made a whole bang about how it was easy.

717
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: It's not. It's no part of any of this is easy,

718
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: now that I'm now that i'm hearing you talk about it. No,

719
00:35:55,000 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 1: it's difficult. It's all difficult because you know you're trying

720
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: to First look, here's the thing. I don't know what

721
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: the whole deal is with this Instagram thing. If you

722
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: think you haven't blocked by her on Instagram, that is

723
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 1: a clear sign, which is fine. You know, you'll live,

724
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 1: you can move on with your life.

725
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,839
Speaker 7: Of course, it's better like that. I think. I think

726
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 7: I just have to just let it go, dude, Like

727
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 7: this whole life.

728
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: I mean, it's truck. Can I tell you? I don't

729
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: know you that well, but I know the one thing

730
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: that I know about you is that this is driving

731
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 1: you insane.

732
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, man, yeah, for like a year, dude, And I

733
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 7: just like I'm like, man, why the fuck am I

734
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 7: like even overthinking like this ship. Why don't I just

735
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 7: approach it and then just end it and then be

736
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 7: like fine, I fucking did it. And I don't have

737
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 7: no fucking, like fucking crazy daydreams about this woman that

738
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 7: like should have, could have would a scenarios that kill

739
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 7: every man inside their mind, and it's just like it

740
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 7: just disturbs you, you know what I mean? You know,

741
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 7: I keep that under control. Like, don't get me wrong,

742
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 7: I'm not crazy anything like that. But just like when

743
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 7: you when you sincerely like kind of like feel a

744
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 7: connection from somebody and it's like really like really like

745
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 7: you feel it. It's just like that's like a point

746
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 7: where it's like, damn, I don't want to be vulnerable, though,

747
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 7: what if something crazy, Like what if I come off

748
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:19,720
Speaker 7: like like an idiot dude? No bro, like I'm spiritual

749
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 7: like you, I feel like just some sort of spiritual also.

750
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,399
Speaker 7: But it's just like these people. Sometimes we have these

751
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 7: connections with people and it's just like you can't really

752
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 7: explain it. But then like either you go and jump

753
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 7: and like jump in the water.

754
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: Alan, Alan, Alan, look, Amata, I think you're a good guy.

755
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 1: I really do. I think you're I think you're a

756
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: sweet soul. I think one day you will find a

757
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: woman who loves you as much as you love her.

758
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: I think everything's gonna be okay with you. But I

759
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 1: need to I need to tell you something.

760
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 7: Alan, that's good.

761
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: You've you've you've told me that you have spoken to

762
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 1: this woman two times. Yeah, just okay. You've spoken this

763
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: woman two times, and for an entire year, you have

764
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: been using only the limited amount of information in your

765
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: surface level conversations that you have had with this girl

766
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 1: and assumptions that you have made from looking at her

767
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: eyes to build up this this grandiose portrait of who

768
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: she is that is based off of virtually no actual

769
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: data or experience, and that's where you're working off of

770
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: and falling in love with, and like we have both

771
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:45,919
Speaker 1: agreed upon, it is driving you insane. Yeah, okay, so look,

772
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: you're your DJ, right, just just give me short answers.

773
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:54,760
Speaker 1: You're a DJ, right, okay. You you have a passion,

774
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 1: you have there's a whole community of DJs. You go

775
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: to parties, you meet tons of people. You have in

776
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 1: your you're young, you have in your hands such a

777
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:12,919
Speaker 1: beautiful life to freely explore without the chains of this

778
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: perceived image of a person that's weighing you down and

779
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:22,839
Speaker 1: driving you crazy. Release yourself from these chains and go

780
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: live your fucking life, dude.

781
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 7: Right, can you do that for him?

782
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:30,399
Speaker 1: Yeah?

783
00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:36,719
Speaker 7: Definitely, bro, definitely Okay, Okay, this is so good. This

784
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 7: is so awesome, man. Like I definitely was not going

785
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 7: to say, like money, no therapist. I was like, yo,

786
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 7: let me, let me get you out, dude, because like

787
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 7: I seen Ross like COVID and you had like JPEG

788
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 7: Mafia and ship bros. I'm like, yo, You're like I did,

789
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 7: I didn't have JPG MA.

790
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 1: I'ld be cool if you.

791
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 7: Want, Danny, I think you're right you Danny Danny Brown.

792
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:00,359
Speaker 1: No, you're probably thinking of Denzel Curry.

793
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 7: That's so funny. Yeah dude, but yeah, man, like I

794
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 7: appreciate you for picking because like, you know, it's it's

795
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,720
Speaker 7: you're right. It's like this perceived notion, like with no data,

796
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 7: and it's just.

797
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 1: Like, by the way, let me tell you, look, you're

798
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 1: not you're not. Look people are Look, people are gonna

799
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: try to meme on you, all right, They're gonna be like,

800
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, don't It's okay, it's what you're What you

801
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 1: are doing is a natural human impulse. I've done it

802
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: myself plenty of times, and it has driven me in

803
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 1: my life crazy plenty of times. I remember when I

804
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: used to be addicted to Tinder, Like, uh, you know,

805
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:45,439
Speaker 1: I would like send, like exchange two messages with some

806
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: girl and like look at her pictures and just imagine

807
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 1: you know, you you you project so many ideas of

808
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:55,439
Speaker 1: who she is and how you guys will get along,

809
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 1: and it's it's based off of fucking nothing. But it

810
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 1: could make you feel obsessed, okay, and you just you

811
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 1: need to realize what's going on and you need to

812
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 1: squash it and and open your brain up to the

813
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: beautiful abundance of other things going on in your life

814
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 1: that you've been shoving to the side in favor of

815
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 1: this projected image you have of a person.

816
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 5: Is this all?

817
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: Is this speaking to you right now?

818
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 4: Yeah?

819
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:24,800
Speaker 7: Man? You are okay?

820
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,800
Speaker 1: Good? Good? Okay? Can you do that? Alan?

821
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 7: Definitely? Definitely?

822
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: Bro? What do you do? What kind of music do

823
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: you make?

824
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 7: Man? That's that's a good quest. I mean right now,

825
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 7: I've been doing like club music. I do hip hop,

826
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 7: I do R and B. You know.

827
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 1: You're gonna be You're gonna hang out in the club,

828
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: You're gonna meet people, you're gonna have you have a

829
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 1: nice you have a nice life. Man, go live it, Okay,

830
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: don't spend it in your brain fantasizing. Live in what's

831
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 1: actually going on. You'll be happier.

832
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 7: So yeah, it's like the best advice I've gotten.

833
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

834
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

835
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:10,399
Speaker 7: Ah? Man, damn what else to say? Ah? Shit? Really

836
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 7: live in the real life. I know this ship, like

837
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 7: I probably somebody else probably goes through the same ship.

838
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 7: I know y'all do. But like life is beautiful, you

839
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 7: just got to fuck up here and there. But hey,

840
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 7: that's why we take risks, right. It's better to just

841
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 7: go out there and take a risk and not to right. Yeah.

842
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 1: Oh yes, ah, you take care. I'll talk to you.

843
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 7: Soon, you too, bro, Take care. Man.

844
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: Look, you're we've all you know, don't. I feel like

845
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: a lot of people have done stuff like that where

846
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: they uh uh fantasize about a person to a point

847
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:55,919
Speaker 1: where you you've conflated your fantasy with reality and again

848
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 1: it can drive you crazy. So wake the fuck up,

849
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 1: live your life. Hello, folks, it's Lyle. So this next

850
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 1: call is actually a street interview that I did in

851
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 1: real life in the middle of the famous Shibuya crossing

852
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: in Tokyo, Japan. Most of the people we interviewed there

853
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: actually only spoke Japanese, so I had a translator with

854
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 1: me the whole time. But the woman in this clip

855
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: was visiting from Australia and told us some really fascinating

856
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 1: stuff going on with her and her family and her

857
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 1: life that I will let you guys hear for yourself.

858
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 1: I love doing these videos where I travel around to

859
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: foreign countries and interview people on the streets. I've done

860
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 1: it in Mexico City, Guatemala, and now Japan. And if

861
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: you like this interview, you like this format, and you

862
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: want to watch the whole thing, I have linked it

863
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:51,399
Speaker 1: in the episode description. All right, let's go to Japan. Hi, Grace, Hi,

864
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 1: how are you? I'm good?

865
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 8: How are you?

866
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: This is Kiko Hi.

867
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 9: Nice to meet you and yours, Lyle Lion, Lyle Lyle.

868
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 1: Yes, what are you doing here in Japan? Dude?

869
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 9: I'm just traveling?

870
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 5: Okay?

871
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: Where is Where are you traveling from Australia? Oh?

872
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 3: Yes, it's my second day in Tokyo and it's my

873
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 3: first time being here.

874
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 1: Oh really?

875
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 2: Yes?

876
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: What made you want to come all the way over

877
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:15,800
Speaker 1: to Tokyo.

878
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 9: I've always wanted to come.

879
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,240
Speaker 3: It just happened that my brother he's also coming to Tokyo,

880
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 3: but from Hong Kong.

881
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:25,720
Speaker 9: So I'm like, no, I'll meet you in Tokyo.

882
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 1: Oh great, great, great?

883
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 2: Yeah?

884
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:29,920
Speaker 1: What what's life like back in Australia?

885
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 3: Not very exciting, to be honest with you. Yeah, what

886
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 3: are you doing? What are you guys doing here?

887
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 5: You know I'm not one hundred percent sure myself.

888
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 9: Oh what are here? Am I being filmed?

889
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: You are being filmed? Is that Okay, yeah, that's fine.

890
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: We're just doing little interviews with people who I happen

891
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 1: to be walking by androsing.

892
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 3: Okay, So do you guys have a YouTube channel or something?

893
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's gonna be on YouTube maybe maybe.

894
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,359
Speaker 5: Maybe I don't know, maybe it'll just I'll just watch

895
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 5: it myself.

896
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 9: Okay, how how long have you guys been sitting here today?

897
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: How long have we been sitting here today? You think?

898
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:10,240
Speaker 1: Let's see, let me check we've been We've been sitting

899
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: here for oh, we've actually been sitting here for thirty

900
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 1: eight minutes.

901
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 9: Okay, that's not too long.

902
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 1: We've been sitting here for thirty eight minutes and we've

903
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 1: gotten very few people to come sit and talk.

904
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 3: And I'm like number two or three something like that,

905
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 3: something like that.

906
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 9: That's actually not too bad.

907
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 5: Not too bad, right? Your life?

908
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: Like, tell me about Australia. What do you do?

909
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 3: I'm an accountant, you're an accountant. Yes, it's not very exciting, but.

910
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yet you see you have an exciting energy

911
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:37,280
Speaker 1: about you. Really?

912
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 9: Can you feel it?

913
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 1: I can feel it? Can you feel the exciting energy?

914
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 8: Really?

915
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 1: What were you able to get time off from accounting

916
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: to come here?

917
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:48,760
Speaker 9: I'm actually.

918
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 3: Thinking about switching industry, maybe going to banking or something,

919
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 3: but I don't know yet. Let's see if I can

920
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 3: find a job, find a new job.

921
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 9: But yeah, I actually had a pretty shitty year. That's why.

922
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 1: Why did you have a shitty year, Grace?

923
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,799
Speaker 3: It's pretty sad because my dad passed away. Yeah, but

924
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:12,439
Speaker 3: you know, that's part of life. And yeah, it's kind

925
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:18,800
Speaker 3: of changed my perspective of things because he passed away

926
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 3: really quickly, and it just happened very suddenly. And it

927
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 3: was back in March, so back then, so they're all

928
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 3: in Hong Kong. And back then, Hong Kong banned people

929
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 3: coming in from Australia. So in order for me to

930
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 3: go home, I had to go to New Zealand for

931
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 3: two weeks to wash out two weeks, and once I

932
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:41,399
Speaker 3: reached Hong Kong, I still had to do.

933
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 9: Two weeks quarantine.

934
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 3: Took me like four weeks to see my family.

935
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: Took you four weeks to your family.

936
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,959
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, it was really bad.

937
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 3: And the saddest thing was my dad passed away on

938
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 3: the day that I left for Hong Kong, so I

939
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 3: didn't make it like the when I stepped on my

940
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 3: trip like pretty much twelve hours later he's gone.

941
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 9: So it was pretty traumatic.

942
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 3: I would say, yeah, yeah, and and and then there

943
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 3: are all these family issues that because of its passing

944
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,280
Speaker 3: that they were coming up. So I was like dealing

945
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 3: with a lot of shitty, complex things. So I had

946
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 3: a really shitty year. And that's part of the reason why.

947
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm in Japan now because I'm like, stop it.

948
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna book this trip and make myself happy.

949
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 3: I'm just going to spend the money and you know.

950
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 9: Do this.

951
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, I love that. So is that

952
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: part of because you were talking about how this this

953
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: all kind of even though it was shitty, gave you

954
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 1: a different perspective that you're like applying to how you're

955
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:44,720
Speaker 1: now living your life.

956
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think so, Like, tell.

957
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 1: Me more about that new perspective.

958
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 9: I think it makes me realize I can do so

959
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:50,959
Speaker 9: much more.

960
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

961
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've dealt with all these situations and I'm like, oh,

962
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 3: oh my god, you can actually do this. You can

963
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 3: deal with all these difficult people and difficult situations, and

964
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,240
Speaker 3: why don't you go out then try something different.

965
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 9: Because I've been in my industry for like ten years and.

966
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:07,319
Speaker 3: I don't see myself. I'll just tell you a little

967
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 3: bit more about my job. So I'm insolvency accountant, So

968
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 3: we do bankruptcy people dealing with bankrupt people or company

969
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 3: going to liquidations.

970
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:17,359
Speaker 9: Like it's all.

971
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 3: I quite like the things I do because every case

972
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 3: is different. But I also don't see myself in doing

973
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 3: this for very long. I don't see myself becoming a

974
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 3: liquid data so I'm like, maybe I should do something else.

975
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 9: But anyway, it's just a lot of things happened this year.

976
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 3: So yeah, it comes to the point that this year

977
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 3: has it's coming to an end, and yeah, I think

978
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 3: I'm up for a new start for next year.

979
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 1: So you said that it's kind of helped you learn

980
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: that there are many things that you thought you couldn't

981
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: do the actually can do. Tell me about some of

982
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 1: those things.

983
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 9: Oh, it's probably gm. I just you know, family stuff.

984
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, So I know you said that

985
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 1: there was some drama, and it's okay if this is

986
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: something you don't want to talk about. But do you

987
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:11,920
Speaker 1: feel like this might have brought your family like closer

988
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 1: together in any sense, because I feel like that tends

989
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: to happen when something like this happens is you know,

990
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 1: it's sad, but everyone kind of, you know, gathers.

991
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 3: And I think that's a really good point, Like we're

992
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 3: already very close, but definitely these events brought us closer

993
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:30,439
Speaker 3: and we learn more about each other.

994
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 9: Like yeah, and can I ask you guys some questions?

995
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 6: Yeah?

996
00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 9: Yes, So, so how long have you been doing this?

997
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: I've been doing this for like two and a half years.

998
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, out making context for two.

999
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: And a half years already, Yeah something like that. Yeah, yeah, wow,

1000
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 1: this is.

1001
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 5: My first time doing it in Japan.

1002
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 1: I met Kiko on the phone actually, because I do

1003
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 1: a show where I talk to people on the phone,

1004
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:05,360
Speaker 1: and she's come here to help me translate. But we

1005
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 1: haven't yet found many like actually, you know people who

1006
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: only speak Japanese.

1007
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:12,720
Speaker 2: No need for me to translate.

1008
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:16,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, all right, So how long are you planning

1009
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:18,760
Speaker 3: to be out here today?

1010
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:22,240
Speaker 1: As long as it takes, as long as it takes

1011
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:23,280
Speaker 1: I suppose.

1012
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 9: As long as the sun is out.

1013
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: So okay, you said that you've learned. You said that

1014
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 1: you learned more about your family. If it's not too

1015
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 1: much information, can I hear some of the things that

1016
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 1: you've learned? Like, did you learn anything new about your

1017
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 1: your mother or or your your siblings.

1018
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 3: I guess it's more about letting them learning me learning

1019
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 3: things about me.

1020
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 1: Interesting, what do you think I learned about you?

1021
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 6: Oh?

1022
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:55,919
Speaker 9: Oh, this is too deep? I mean tm I yeah,

1023
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 9: but you.

1024
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 1: Don't have it's just.

1025
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:02,840
Speaker 9: Oh, yeah, this is TMI.

1026
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 3: But my dad actually had another like he had a

1027
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 3: he had a he had a partner, like outside of

1028
00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:15,799
Speaker 3: the marriage. So we never two two families were we

1029
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 3: don't acknowledge each other at all. But then because this happened,

1030
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 3: so they came into contact with us.

1031
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:28,320
Speaker 1: Interesting, So did you not know them before?

1032
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 3: We knew, like we knew about ten years ago, but

1033
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:36,839
Speaker 3: we never really My.

1034
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 9: Dad still wasn't sure.

1035
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 3: If I knew about so I was like pretending that

1036
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 3: I don't know, like trying to preserve the relationship, so

1037
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 3: we don't we never talk about it. But yeah, it's

1038
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 3: very The situation was really dedicate because there was a

1039
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 3: child involved.

1040
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 9: So my half brother is like just like ten or

1041
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 9: twelve years old.

1042
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 3: So yeah, it was a very delicate situation, like when

1043
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 3: you have to break the news to the other side

1044
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 3: and all those things. And at first we didn't really

1045
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 3: want to come into contact with them. So I basically

1046
00:52:14,680 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 3: contacted his school, told them about a situation and said,

1047
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 3: the dad has passed away because because our father.

1048
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: You contacted your half brother's school to let them know. Yeah,

1049
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:30,439
Speaker 1: oh my god. And did you had you even ever

1050
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 1: met your half brother after that? Yes, So when you

1051
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: when you called the school, he didn't even know who

1052
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 1: you were.

1053
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:38,839
Speaker 9: Yeah, I knew his name.

1054
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1055
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 3: So what happened was my dad was like they he

1056
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 3: lives with Obviously he looks after my half brother.

1057
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 9: So they lived together, separating like separate.

1058
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 3: Homes, and my dad was quite sick and basically one

1059
00:52:56,200 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 3: day he.

1060
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:58,360
Speaker 9: Just left home. They knew that they were going to

1061
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,120
Speaker 9: the hospital, but he never returned, and.

1062
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 3: It just it was like over the course of maybe

1063
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:09,760
Speaker 3: three weeks, they were still in contact that my father

1064
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 3: was still in contact with the other side, but then

1065
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 3: eventually he got so weak and couldn't respond to any messages.

1066
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 9: So they left hanging there. I didn't know what was

1067
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:18,799
Speaker 9: going on.

1068
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 3: They tried to contact the hospital, but the hospital wouldn't

1069
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 3: talk to them because the mother isn't his lawful wife,

1070
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 3: so there's no like she can't get these information from

1071
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 3: the hospital. And one day they received this message from

1072
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 3: their school social worker that someone has told us that

1073
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:39,399
Speaker 3: your dad has passed away, so they reach out to

1074
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:43,800
Speaker 3: us and yeah, the whole drama begay.

1075
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 1: Have you maintained a relationship with the partner's.

1076
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:51,399
Speaker 9: Family, the boy, Yes, we still talk.

1077
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 3: I actually stayed in Hong Kong for like two months,

1078
00:53:55,520 --> 00:54:01,799
Speaker 3: so I really made myself available for them.

1079
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 1: So it's very it's very sweet of you to make

1080
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:07,319
Speaker 1: yourself available for them, even though you had never known that.

1081
00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's the thing that my family learned about me.

1082
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 3: She's like, they're like, why can you be so nice

1083
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 3: to them? I don't know, because there's just a child.

1084
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:20,520
Speaker 9: Involved, and I just feel bad. I think, I don't know.

1085
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:21,879
Speaker 9: I just I just did it?

1086
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:22,239
Speaker 7: Do you?

1087
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 1: I mean, do you feel like a connection to your

1088
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: father through them in a sense because they were close

1089
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 1: to him?

1090
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 9: Not really interesting?

1091
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 1: Not really.

1092
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't see him. I don't see my dad

1093
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 3: in him at all. He doesn't look anything like my dad.

1094
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:41,000
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, he doesn't look anything like my dad.

1095
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 3: We even did a DNA test to confirm a sneaky

1096
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 3: one sneaky. So this is the kind of dramas that

1097
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 3: I was talking about.

1098
00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 9: And how it can be a little bit t M. I.

1099
00:54:57,400 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 5: Well, so I'm interested by a couple of things.

1100
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 1: So your family, So, as you said, you've made yourself

1101
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 1: available to this child who's clearly going through a really

1102
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: hard time. And you didn't have to do that. You

1103
00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 1: don't know the gin, but you did it anyway. And

1104
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:14,440
Speaker 1: it's interesting that your family is saying to you, like,

1105
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: why would you do that? And you're also kind of

1106
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: a little bit being like why would I do that?

1107
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:24,320
Speaker 1: But but you're doing it, like something about like compelling

1108
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:26,359
Speaker 1: you to want to be there for him and have

1109
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: that relationship.

1110
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I just felt bad for him because

1111
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 3: he was He's so young. It's just such a young

1112
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 3: age to lose his father. It's just I just feel

1113
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 3: bad for him.

1114
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: Do you think that? Is this all a recent thing?

1115
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 5: Sorry?

1116
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 1: Is this all a very kind of recent thing?

1117
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 6: And this year? This year?

1118
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, have you maintained a relationship with anyone else?

1119
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: And in kind of that side of his.

1120
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 5: Not so much.

1121
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:56,799
Speaker 3: Okay, Initially we were talking and she seemed okay, we

1122
00:55:56,840 --> 00:56:00,800
Speaker 3: were like on good terms, I would say, but things

1123
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:06,240
Speaker 3: turned downhill pretty soon and now we're like not really talking.

1124
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 3: But if I need to inform her of things. I'll

1125
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:12,360
Speaker 3: still message her. Yeah, tell me.

1126
00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 1: Uh So this this trip to Tokyo, is it like

1127
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 1: a Is it like a decompression for you?

1128
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:19,240
Speaker 9: Definitely?

1129
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like you've been through a whole

1130
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 1: hell of a lot.

1131
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:26,879
Speaker 9: Yeah, definitely. I I don't.

1132
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 3: I don't have like solid plans about where I have

1133
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:34,839
Speaker 3: to go, So I just go by feeling like I don't.

1134
00:56:35,120 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 9: I don't wake up.

1135
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 3: Super early in the morning and oh I have to

1136
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:39,399
Speaker 3: go to this place and slip this place.

1137
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 9: No, I don't do that, So I'm just take it easy,

1138
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 9: go with the floor, sit down and talk to you people.

1139
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:47,840
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you? Did you just come here by yourself?

1140
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 2: So?

1141
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm on my own now. But tomorrow I'll be

1142
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:52,400
Speaker 3: meeting my brother.

1143
00:56:52,640 --> 00:56:55,240
Speaker 1: Oh great, great, great great. How has it been traveling

1144
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:55,800
Speaker 1: by yourself?

1145
00:56:56,000 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 8: Oh?

1146
00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 9: I love it. I love it.

1147
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 3: I don't need to look after anybody else is feeling

1148
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,239
Speaker 3: all that decided to go somewhere that I don't want

1149
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:04,479
Speaker 3: to go right right.

1150
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 1: It's it's a symbolic thing because it's it seems like

1151
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 1: you've been looking after so many other people and like,

1152
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:15,239
Speaker 1: you know, kind of in the in the weeds, of

1153
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 1: all this stuff with all these other people, and then

1154
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: you just have this time completely. Yeah, yes, very well deserved, grace.

1155
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing all of this stuff with us.

1156
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 9: Thank you for having.

1157
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: Of course good Is there anything else you want to

1158
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 1: say to the people of the computer before we go?

1159
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 9: Not really, thank you for listening, because.

1160
00:57:39,800 --> 00:57:41,840
Speaker 1: Have a fantastic rest of your.

1161
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 5: Time and talk.

1162
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 9: Thank you. Do you have like like do you do instagram?

1163
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 1: Instagram?

1164
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 5: Yeah? Well that was that was pretty interesting.

1165
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1166
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 5: Oh she was so nice. She had such a great energy.

1167
00:57:55,680 --> 00:57:59,560
Speaker 1: It's so it's so interesting because it's like every time

1168
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: I do this, it's like you can sit for forty

1169
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: minutes and nobody comes to talk to you, and and

1170
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: even if someone does, maybe they seem a little shy,

1171
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden someone comes in, you know, kind.

1172
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 5: Of with everything.

1173
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 9: I'm glad you did.

1174
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, how are you feeling, Kiko good?

1175
00:58:18,360 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 5: I are you okay? Tired of you?

1176
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:21,120
Speaker 1: Oh?

1177
00:58:21,200 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 9: No, I'm good, I'm good. I wish that person would

1178
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 9: come talk to us.

1179
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 1: Oh me too. Maybe he will goes on the line

1180
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 1: making your phone calls every night. Ever goes.

1181
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 5: You're teaching your cloud your life.

1182
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 3: It's not really an expert,