WEBVTT - Best Bits with Amy: They Admit The Weirdest Things The Internet Has Made Them Do 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:03.320 With the best bits of the week with Morgan. 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.400 Part one Behind a scene with a member of the show. 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:10.360 What's up everybody? Happy weekend. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:13.880 I'm joined on this fabulous Saturday by Amy. 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:14.200 Hi. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:14.920 How are you? 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:16.200 I'm good? How are you? 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:17.239 We've had a crazy week. 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:19.320 There's a lot going on in Nashville this week, so 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:20.680 it's a little crazy over here. 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:23.439 Yeah, CRS week. It's always a good time. 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:25.840 Yes, And we will dive into that a little bit. 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:27.400 And I got some stuff to talk to Amy about. 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.960 But first and foremost, in case you want to check 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:31.840 out the bits and catch up on the show this week, 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:35.080 what you're gonna get over there? He Thurman interview. Bobby 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:39.800 shared his sleep study results, Lunchbox almost got arrested. I 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:43.360 have a long distance admirer. Amy's daughter changed her name 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:46.720 at school. Raymundo wants to do shots with Sam Hunt 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:48.599 and a Elder versus Millennial Championship. 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:49.840 It was a big week on the show. 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:52.319 There's a lot there, so if you want to get 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:54.040 caught up Part two, that's where you're gonna hear that. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.480 All right, Amy, have you been watching anything? I know 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:58.360 it's been like super busy, but have you been watching 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.520 anything lately? That you want to like review talk about. 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:03.600 I've well, I've watched a lot of the I still 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.520 haven't finished it yet. I got really into it last weekend, 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:10.000 but the who the blank did I marry the TikTok thing? 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:11.880 Yeah? I also saw you put up on your TV 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:13.520 so you could like watch it as a series. 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:18.440 Yeah, it's on YouTube. Someone loaded up all fifty parts 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:21.119 but split it into two different YouTube videos. So one 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:23.880 YouTube video is parts one through thirty and the other 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.279 one is parts thirty one through fifty two or something. 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:28.920 It's five hundred minutes worth of content. 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:29.720 Oh my god. 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.920 But I haven't finished, and I've sort of just lost 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.600 interest probably, which is a bummer because I would like 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:40.560 to see how this ends up. It's just more you 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.560 were so intrigued and it was fascinating that it was fascinating, 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:47.840 and then now you just feel bad for everybody involved, 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.640 and it just reminds me. It reminds me too that 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:56.400 I mean, sometimes yeah, people are just awful. It doesn't 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:58.560 excuse or justify any of their actions. If they are 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:03.240 a pathological liar or they behave in a certain way, 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:05.160 then I don't know, it's just gonna being clear that 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:09.440 it's like a mental health problem, and then you just 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:12.520 feel kind of bad, like, oh, man, if he could 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:14.360 have been aware, he could have gotten the proper help, 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:17.560 like maybe his life wouldn't have anyway. I don't want 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.120 to ruin it in case people are going to start it, 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:19.680 but I do. 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:20.600 Know a lot of people have been watching it. 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.640 I'm pretty sure she has like over three million followers 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:23.800 now just from the series. 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:26.640 Wow, your name's like Reese, right, is her name Rea 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:28.280 or Reesa Tessa? 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:30.400 It's yeah, her first name is with the R and 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:31.760 the last name is of the t Okay. 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:33.440 I was gonna say, I just know her from the username, 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.200 so I'm not sure her name, and I've heard all 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.240 about it, but I haven't watched it, so but it 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:38.680 sounds like it's a. 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:41.040 Lot of content. I think that was my turn off. 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:44.079 When I tried to go watch like the first episode 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:45.840 of it, I was like, oh my gosh, this is 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:46.639 this is forever. 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:50.560 She's very detailed. She does not miss a detail. And 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:52.919 then I guess as people would send in comments or 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.480 ask questions, she would do some of the videos are 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:59.560 clarification videos, so she'd be like this part, I'm gonna 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.600 go ahead and clarify this, this, this, and this, just 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:05.040 to set the record straight. But she did a good 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:09.080 job of detailing what happened to her and her her 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:15.160 whole point in sharing it was two hopefully help someone 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.280 else never get in the situation that she was in, 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:19.200 because there was a lot of red flags at the 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:22.640 beginning that she just ignored, and so obviously her talking 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:24.840 about it it might help let other people have their 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.720 their red flag radar up. Yeah, she got it, the 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:29.200 United Nations of Red Flags. 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:31.720 I love it. That would have been helpful for me, 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.400 like six years ago. So I like it. Okay, anything 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:37.640 on TV, anything else that you've been watching, I know, 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:38.040 you know. 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.160 Look I started that on Apple, the Fashion one because you. 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:43.320 Were watching Masters of the Air too, right, Yeah, Apple, 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:47.120 which I love, like that is selling like something with 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.520 the World War II stuff right now is what Apple's 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:51.760 focused on clearly with the New Look and Masters of 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:52.520 the Air. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:54.640 That's probably why I like watching them both at the 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:58.840 same time, because I'm I'm you're really dialed in on 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.880 what was happening were there during that time, but seeing 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:06.600 it from the fashion perspective, and these elite people where 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:10.360 they're there, where they live has just been taken over 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:12.520 by the Nazis and now their whole world is changing. 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:15.040 Yeah, and it's based on a true story. Yeah, like 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:17.520 that's wild for me to think about like that. I 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.560 never knew these designers in that light. 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:20.240 Do you know what I mean? 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:23.400 Yeah, Christian Dior and Coco Chanel, and like what they 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.040 had to do, what they had to overcome, how they 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.640 had to contemplate, like wait, what I have to make 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:33.640 a dress for the wife of a Nazi. No, but 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:35.599 then when you get into the nitty gritty of it, 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:37.080 they were trying to survive as well. 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.799 Yeah. Wow, so crazy. Okay, so both two really good ones. 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:43.240 I did go on like kind of a movie bender. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.080 So if you're looking for movies, all of these are 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:49.320 pretty emotional. But I started with Priscilla that's on Max now, 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:51.400 the one about Elvis Presley's wife. 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:52.159 I watched it. 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:54.800 Did you like it? I did. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:58.320 A little confused by something. 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:00.720 Hey, okay, we oh, okay, we'll have to talk about 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:02.360 that after, just in case so we don't spoil it. 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:05.960 I don't want to spoil anything, So just just I 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.920 mean that part of their story in her age that's known, 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.800 it's known that she was young. Yeah, but I just 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:17.840 don't understand why. Like, to me, I couldn't get over 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.360 the fact that I felt like he was trying to 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.279 find himself a vision and then preserve her that way 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:27.480 until he was ready to marry her. Because it's not 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:31.960 like he was being all virgin ish, you know, he 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:34.960 wasn't at all, but he wanted to keep you know, 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:36.919 he wanted to preserve her. 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.480 What I do, like, I do find it really interesting 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:42.120 because we've had all these movies from Elvis's perspective, right, 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:44.839 and this comes from Priscilla's and she was an executive 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.040 producer on it, so like she. 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.040 Approved it, you know what I mean. 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:50.279 Like whatever the storyline that played out, it wasn't like 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:52.600 she wasn't part of it. She was. I think she 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:55.960 was like executive producer or something on it. So she 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:58.560 was approving what was happening, which means for. 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:00.000 Her, that was her story. 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:02.920 And that's what I felt like so alarming was there 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:05.479 were just so many things I didn't realize. I guess 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.720 I made assumptions based on their age gap, but I 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:11.839 just you don't want to make those assumptions, right, Like 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:13.479 you just are like, Okay, well, maybe I don't know 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:16.400 everything watching that movie, and I'm like, oh, I know everything, 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.400 and that feels weird. It paints him in a different 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:22.080 light for sure, like still a struggle and still some 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:25.200 messed up things, Like I still think he's a really 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.359 talented artist, but it's definitely a way different perspective that 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:29.120 I never had before. 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:29.800 On Elvis. 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:31.560 Yeah, I recommend people watch it. 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:32.640 Yeah, that's a good one. 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:36.240 And then the new version of The Color Purple is 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:39.440 also on Max. I didn't realize there was an older version. 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.239 I just saw like this new one. Have you watched 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:42.600 that yet? 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.479 But I haven't. I didn't know there there was a 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:46.479 new version, so I'm gonna go check it out. Though. 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:47.360 Yeah, it was really good. 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.960 It made me cry, like that one was super emotional. 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:55.240 And then I also watched one now I got somebody 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:57.320 asked if I would watch this movie, and like endorse 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.360 and stuff, I was like, well, okay, let me watch it. 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:02.040 It ended up being really good. It's a movie called Cabrini. 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.080 Do you know that name? Does that name sound familiar? On? 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:07.000 Okay? So it wasn't for me either. 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:09.360 But she's an Italian immigrant and she was a nun 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.080 and she came over to the United States and Basically 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:15.800 it's her whole story of like bringing over her nuns 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:17.440 with her to the United States and like trying to 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.920 make the world a better place. And she's that's why 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:22.320 she's now like known as and in history as like 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:26.480 the mother Saint. And I'm not sure religion wise, I 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:29.000 think it's more Catholic than anything. 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:31.200 But it was really like. 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:34.280 A really cool, empowering story about this woman. And I 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:37.400 had never heard about her from history ever. So that's 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:41.000 another really emotional one. Like three really true story emotional 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:42.720 ones that are that are tough. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.000 Yeah, okay, I'm googling about Cabrini. 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:46.960 Yeah, so three good ones there. 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:48.000 It looks like a good one. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:48.920 Yeah. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.600 Now, speaking of like videos and stuff, I need to 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:55.800 take your advice because I got a TikTok video and 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.080 I need to know if I should take this as 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.880 a sign, because you're like the sign queen, you know 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.080 when it's like gonna be a you know, good or 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:03.840 should you listen to this kind of thing. 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.000 So there was a TikTok video. 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.800 Like you know when you're scrolling on TikTok and you're 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.240 on your for you page, yeah, and like you're not 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.080 going you're not searching content. You're just scrolling through it, 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.640 it's popping up. And this lady popped up and her 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.960 name's Brittany and she was reading cards. I think she 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:21.120 reads energy, kind of like your cousin Amanda, and what 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:23.880 she like was reading like there was no hashag, like 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:25.680 I didn't search anything. That just popped up in my 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.920 feed and it was like I'm getting some insane energy 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:31.440 that you're about to meet the love of your life. 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:34.520 And I'm like this, I was like, listen. 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:35.920 But that's popping up for a lot of people. 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.520 Yeah, but it's like all about the algorithm, right, So 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:39.720 like does it pop up for you? 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:40.720 It is kind of the question. 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:43.080 And that's why it's like this question with the sidekicks 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:45.480 on TikTok is like you're not going out and searching 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.520 this content, You're not going out and following them. It's like, 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:50.360 does it pop up in your feed, then it's for you. 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:52.880 And so I'm like, do I take that as a 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:55.920 sign like maybe like I have the feeling I listen, 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:57.880 I ate the great center of the table. I'm like 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:01.000 really putting a lot of effort in and now I 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:02.920 get this sign on my for you, pa, is this 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:04.360 like a sign I should take or is it just 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:05.040 a coincidence? 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.640 It could be whatever you wanted to be Morgan, I 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.800 feel like it could end up being just a coincidence, 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:12.720 But what if it is a sign? Like I'm okay 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.920 with you thinking that it's a sign. What if it is, 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:16.120 because like the way. 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:17.480 She was talking, she was like, listen, you had to 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:19.800 You've had to let some people go. She's like, you've 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:21.679 had energy come in and it was not the right 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.520 type of energy you were looking for. But on the 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.920 good news for you is that like these three other cards, 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:29.200 like you have the love of your life coming like 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:30.400 they are around the corner. 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:32.880 That's crazy, And I was like, okay, that feels that 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.320 feels a little on brand. I do think that there's 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.440 times where I'm scrolling and I come across something that 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:40.920 I needed in that moment. Maybe you needed you needed 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:44.280 that in that moment to maybe open yourself up to 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:47.080 that this year, like that was the thing that's going 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:47.880 to open you up. 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.520 Yeah, So maybe I just like the full So it's 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:51.320 like maybe. 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.360 You help you are a little Yeah, you're opening you 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:55.800 know fully fully or to be looking for it, you know. 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:57.560 Well, And I think so much of like you know, 0:09:57.600 --> 0:09:59.520 we talked about all the dating stuff and how just 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:02.000 tough it is. Is I think you go in these 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:05.280 rollercoaster feelings of like, Okay, yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.079 find my person, and then you like hit down and 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.720 you're like, I'm never gonna find somebody, Like there's no way. 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.600 And so maybe it was because that's kind of the 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:15.320 week I've been happening after like a few dates I 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:16.199 had where I just like. 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.199 Was questioning a lot of things, and then that popped. 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.640 Up and I was like, Okay, okay, yeah I am 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.640 So I think it pulled me back to the yes, Morgan, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.880 You're gonna find someone, versus the you know, the deep 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:29.000 well that I was in where I. 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:30.440 Was like, is it even possible anymore? 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.920 Well, then perfect it was for you. Yeah that's a sign. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.960 Okay, Okay, So what's the sign we're taking it? No coincidence? 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:37.960 I love it, or we're gonna take a quick break 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:43.959 and we'll be right back. I love looking at friendships, 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:47.920 especially female friendships. So Amy, what type of friend are you? 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:48.080 Like? 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:50.440 Are you the leader in the group that always plans things? 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:52.840 Are you more the laid back one and lets things happen? 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.040 What's like your rule and your friendships. 0:10:55.679 --> 0:11:00.199 I'm not the planner. I guess it depends. I I 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:03.680 am the I like to host. I'll be the hoster. Okay, 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:09.120 so key having people over. I'm definitely not the planner 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.800 because I have friends that are planners, Like I'm thinking 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:16.120 of a therapy Cat and Gracie. Those are two of 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.439 my close They are planners. They plan things. They like 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.240 to have things on the calendar, they like to have events, 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.960 they like to have activities, they like to go do 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:26.360 and gather in that way. I like to gather last 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:30.880 minute at my house. I'm not the planner. Okay about you. 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:32.760 I could see that, but I see you. I do 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.880 see you having the leadership ability to do it. But 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:36.559 I just didn't know what type of friends. Like It's 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.120 always based on the friends you have around you too, right, 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.720 like how do your personalities fall and what works for y'all? 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:44.400 And yeah, like that's what works. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.840 Like let me tell you if those two, if they 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:48.640 don't have something on the calendar to look forward to, 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:53.200 they're sad. I'm not. I'm like, wow, there's not a 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.720 lot on my calendar. I am happy, but I'm not 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:00.720 saying that's the healthy thing, and I still enjoy people 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.960 and being with people. It's not necessarily that, but I 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:08.080 just don't have to have an activity coming up or 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:12.520 a trip coming up or anything like that. Okay, Okay, 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.480 they that's they plan, they rally, And I'm thankful for 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:18.440 those types of friends because I will go to that. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.080 I mean, if it's on their calendar and end up 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:24.800 getting invited, then it's on my calendar. And I will 0:12:24.800 --> 0:12:26.720 say with some friends, like speaking of Gracy, we have 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:30.840 another friend Ali, and like we're intentional about planning our 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:35.960 hangtimes because we all work, we're all moms, and life 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.800 gets busy. So those are some girls where we have 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:44.559 a quarterly lunch or hang or walk and quarterly it's like, 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:46.240 oh wow, four times a year. We still see each 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:48.719 other more like I just spontaneously walked with Gracie the 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.720 other day, like last minute, can you walk? But we 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:55.600 know for sure we've carved out that. And I want 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:58.199 to say, maybe I was the one that suggested that, 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.320 but I think it was out of me wanting to 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:05.720 be more intentional about connection and me trying to do 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:09.200 some of that. But you know it was quarterly, so 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:11.160 that's how you know I was in charge, but it's 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:15.439 still it's I think it boils down to being intentional, 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:18.400 and I'm very very thankful for friends that have that, 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.080 that personality that gifts because it gets those of us 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:25.120 that are maybe not it's big planners out of our house. 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:26.360 Yes, yeah, no. 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:28.959 And it's funny you say that, because that's I'm a 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.080 little bit more like your friend's therapy cat and Gracie. 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:33.760 I am definitely the planner. 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:35.400 I'm also go go go, go, go go go. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:37.760 I love to do things and I like But what's 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:39.760 funny too, is I've noticed in my friendships now as 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:43.400 we've gotten older and busier schedules and as we progress 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:45.920 in our lives, like when I'll meet up with friends 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:47.960 while we're sitting there, before we leave each other, we 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.680 put something else on the calendar, like literally in our calendar, 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.560 like we're hanging out together, and it can't budch, like 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.480 we're not gonna move this for something else, like this 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:57.360 has to stay. 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.680 And it's it's kind of like what you're saying. 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:02.120 It's like once a month or something that I'll see 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:04.040 one of these girlfriends because she travels a lot, she's 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:07.000 an artist, and every time I see her we're like 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:07.440 on the books. 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:09.000 I'm like, Okay, which time am I seeing you next? 0:14:09.040 --> 0:14:10.040 What's the next date? 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.040 And we have it in our calendar and like it'll 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.079 it'll pop up. I'm like, dang, a month already flew 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.640 by and I haven't seen her, but it's on the calendar. 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.000 And it's funny that that's like shifted in my life 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.280 because that was never the case before. I was just like, Okay, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:22.840 I'll take somebody on a Friday night. 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:25.440 I'll be like, who's coming out tonight? You know, so impromptu. 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.160 And now I'm like planning weeks in advance just to 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:29.040 see my friends. 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:30.760 It's crazy how that aging. 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:35.880 Yeah, I don't love it. It's not as fun and spontaneous, 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.320 but it is important and that's how you be like 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:41.240 intentional and stuff. So I am typically the planner, but 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:45.600 my therapist has encouraged me recently to back off a 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:50.200 little bit more more so just because I love planning 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.160 and I love doing things, and I love being the 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:56.080 one to bring everyone together, the gatherer, but I also 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.920 love when that's reciprocated, and when you do it all 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.360 the time, it's often not reciprocated, you know what I mean, 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:01.760 and not. 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:04.440 Intentionally, it's just expecting you to do it. Yeah, it's 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:05.000 just what you do. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:08.200 That's what our friendship or our you know, relationships have 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:11.320 always been. It happens for me in all of my relationships, 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:12.040 not just friendships. 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.760 That's just what it is. And so. 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:16.880 A lot of that too, comes from, like I do, 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.480 like being in control of a lot of things, not everything, 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.960 but most things. And so the way she's like this 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:25.360 is like a double edged sword. So you have to 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.920 back off a little bit to relinquish some control and 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:29.800 like just allow life to happen a little bit more 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:32.560 and just to allow people to show up for you too. 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:36.280 And that's like a good balance for you to start 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:38.760 to have in your life, so you're not constantly always 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:40.800 doing it. You can do it more and you can 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:42.840 do it still be the majority one, but it's good 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:44.120 for you to back off sometimes. 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.080 And I'm like, Okay, I'll try. 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.600 It's really hard though, to do that, to not just 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.520 like want to just take the initiative and dive in. 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:54.000 I have to just kind of like wait, and I'm 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.040 not good at waiting, you know. I want to be like, 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:57.080 what are you guys doing? 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:59.240 Yeah, well, I think that's going to be a good 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:01.760 practice for you, and also just being still and seeing 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:05.000 what is brought to the surface for you when you 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:08.000 are waiting mm hmm. And it's because there might be 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:12.360 a reason why sometimes you're go, go go go go, plan, plan, plan, 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:13.680 fan plan, need to do you know. 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:14.360 Yeah. 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:15.960 And I know a lot of it comes from me, 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:19.520 like living alone, right, Like I want to be intentional 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:20.360 about making sure I'm. 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.480 Getting out of my house. It's really easy for me 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:23.040 to just be. 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:25.440 Like, Okay, see you guys in five weeks, I'm gonna 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:28.560 like burrow down and I'll just be watching movies. I 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:31.840 because that side of me is very prevalent. I almost 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:33.720 have to force myself to not be that way. And 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:35.800 I think that's where a lot of that comes from, gotcha. 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.080 But it's just more. 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.720 So that I don't have to always feel like the 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:40.360 weight of the world is on my shoulders, you know, 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.360 to plan everything, to always be the fun one, to 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:45.120 bring the life of the party kind of thing. 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:49.280 I'm pulling up a recent text exchange with Therapy Cat 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:54.200 because she got married actually two weeks ago this weekend, 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:57.440 and I think so I texted her on Tuesday of 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.400 this week and I said, how's life back into the 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:03.320