Speaker 1: Welcome back to good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 1: I'm Mila.
Speaker 2: Happy New Year tribe, Happy fucking new Year. It is
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: Welcome to a new year, a new you. And maybe
Speaker 1: not because you know, I really do look at New
Speaker 1: Year's as just another day. I feel like it's just
Speaker 1: a reminder to kind of take note, reflect and adjust
Speaker 1: if adjustments need to be made.
Speaker 2: I do. I think people put so much emphasis into
Speaker 2: like new Year, New me. I've never been good at discipline.
Speaker 2: That is not my strong Pointreka knows because I've been
Speaker 2: going on to detox for five years. So I hate that.
Speaker 2: And I also just hate like the expectation that we're
Speaker 2: like supposed to make a huge change all in one day,
Speaker 2: like don't do anything, don't eat me, don't drink, wake
Speaker 2: up early. I mean, essentially, I do think that's probably
Speaker 2: if I ever do do that.
Speaker 1: Detalk okay for me, though I do enjoy those type
Speaker 1: of things, That's what I mean. Like for me, it's
Speaker 1: like a reset in in ways. But I think people
Speaker 1: like put these really high expectations, like this year, I'm
Speaker 1: going to make six figures, and it's like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: should you should set that goal, but like, don't stress
Speaker 1: yourself out, don't like this, don't let the sadness come
Speaker 1: sit in already, like too early, because you know, maybe
Speaker 1: January starts off a little bit slow, like I want
Speaker 1: to ease into the new year January I is.
Speaker 2: Supposed to feel.
Speaker 1: In my mind, what I've told myself is I'm entering
Speaker 1: January with ease, and so maybe that's today's affirmation.
Speaker 2: Todays I'm entering the new year with these I am
Speaker 2: entering the new year with ease. Yes, I'm saying that
Speaker 2: voice though, I am entering the new year with ease.
Speaker 1: Yes, be kind to yourself, be gentle to yourself. Just
Speaker 1: glad on in this bitch speaking of, you know, trying
Speaker 1: to reset. It's day four of the Open Challenge. You
Speaker 1: guys have heard us talk about that. We're doing a
Speaker 1: thirty one day challenge with Open, which is an app
Speaker 1: and also an in person studio in Venice here in
Speaker 1: LA and it's been amazing so far. I started before
Speaker 1: the New Year, but it's been really nice to have
Speaker 1: something to look forward to. Every morning. Five minute meditation,
Speaker 1: sometimes I do a ten minute breath work and it's
Speaker 1: just really helping me float in with ease in January.
Speaker 2: I don't know if anybodyody else's into numerology, but if
Speaker 2: you know us, we are, and also everybody in our discord,
Speaker 2: because if you're in our discord, you know that the
Speaker 2: angel numbers are angel numbers, and no matter what time
Speaker 2: zone you're in, bitch, you're about to get these angel numbers, okay,
Speaker 2: because all day I'll be like I'm just saying five
Speaker 2: to five.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, it's five.
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, it's two forty five. But I'd be
Speaker 2: taking those opportunities of to manifest on the East coast, bache.
Speaker 2: I'll be manifested in all time zones, okay. I know
Speaker 2: even in our even in our team, our team, uh
Speaker 2: discord discord. I saw somebody put the meme like you know,
Speaker 2: one of your friends, there's always like five five, five
Speaker 2: six four four four, and they acting like they know shit.
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's me, okay, because I'm going to take
Speaker 2: every fucking opportunity to think of some shit that I want.
Speaker 1: M M.
Speaker 2: But numbers are like the universal language, and I think
Speaker 2: people forget that. So when people are thinking about like
Speaker 2: you know, the time and location that you're born. The
Speaker 2: coordinates like those things make a difference because no matter
Speaker 2: what university, travel and numbers are a constant. I'm pretty
Speaker 2: sure the aliens speak numbers. So I don't know a
Speaker 2: lot of people have explored numerology, but even our names
Speaker 2: and our birth dates, if you add up your birth date,
Speaker 2: there's no double digits. So if you get a ten,
Speaker 2: it's a one. But you add everything up and then
Speaker 2: it gives you like your life number, and so a
Speaker 2: lot of times, depending on what life number you came
Speaker 2: as this time you're here for different purposes. So anyway,
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three is the year. Is the number seven,
Speaker 2: and you know number seven is lucky. So I just
Speaker 2: want to tell you guys quickly what I looked at
Speaker 2: real quick. The number seven. People will have a lucky
Speaker 2: year in twenty twenty three. Overall the year will be good.
Speaker 2: But numerology twenty twenty three for number seven suggests that
Speaker 2: you spend as much time as possible with your family.
Speaker 2: That's in bold, and you should set goals for yourself
Speaker 2: and work hard to achieve them, basically what you should
Speaker 2: do every year. But it also says seven emphasizes introspection,
Speaker 2: emotion analysis, intuition, reflection, seclusion, research, and faith. This is
Speaker 2: meant to be acquired inner year in which you can
Speaker 2: learn the answers to your most burning and often avoided questions.
Speaker 2: So I don't know, I'm excited to see what your
Speaker 2: numerology year number seven brings us. I feel all those things.
Speaker 1: I feel called to spend more time with my family, actually,
Speaker 1: like in a different way than just oh it's the holidays,
Speaker 1: like carrying that with me through the new year. I
Speaker 1: feel like there's like some healing and healing wounds that
Speaker 1: are being healed right now in my family. And I
Speaker 1: don't know, like I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just feel like.
Speaker 1: I feel for sure than in twenty twenty three, there's
Speaker 1: going to be a shift for me in my relationships
Speaker 1: in my family. And I've been feeling that lately strongly,
Speaker 1: and so it's funny that you said that.
Speaker 2: I agree with that. I feel that, And I feel
Speaker 2: like I've been thinking a lot about like mortality and
Speaker 2: just that we all die, and that you know we age,
Speaker 2: and that you know there's parents that are getting older,
Speaker 2: there's grandparents that are getting older, and I think just
Speaker 2: being a parent in general I as my kid gets older,
Speaker 2: I'm just like, damn, Like you know, like none of
Speaker 2: this is permanent. This time is borrowed. And I think
Speaker 2: it's even if you're on a healing journey, sometimes it's
Speaker 2: easy to isolate that experience and maybe even take it
Speaker 2: to like your inner circles. But when it comes to
Speaker 2: your family, it's sometimes it's easy to avoid because we're
Speaker 2: adults and we're living our own lives and da da
Speaker 2: da dad and da da da. But like oftentimes the
Speaker 2: most pressing wounds that need to be healed and the
Speaker 2: most triggering are the ones closest to us, and often
Speaker 2: the ones that like causes the wounds, And I think
Speaker 2: it takes a lot of work, a even different type
Speaker 2: of like commitment you're healing to address it within your
Speaker 2: own family and oftentime with elders who are not a
Speaker 2: lot of times in the same wave as you, because
Speaker 2: you know, fucking therapy and healing and wellness. Didn't like
Speaker 2: trauma wasn't a trigger word before, But I do feel that,
Speaker 2: and I feel like my sometimes even right now, most recently,
Speaker 2: my circumstances are forcing that to happen, and not necessarily
Speaker 2: like because maybe I wouldn't initiate it to that extent,
Speaker 2: even though knowing I need to. But just like circumstances
Speaker 2: are shifting so that we kind of have to show
Speaker 2: up for our family and like have to spend that
Speaker 2: time and have to address wounds. So I think that's
Speaker 2: interesting too. Yes, I.
Speaker 1: Feel also like when you were saying that, like angel
Speaker 1: numbers don two like are like you can ask for
Speaker 1: what you want in any time zone. I think there
Speaker 1: also is just a reminder of like doing the work,
Speaker 1: because that's also what it's about, is like having whether
Speaker 1: it's angel numbers or you having affirmations written on a
Speaker 1: fucking mirror or an alert in your phone telling you, hey, bitch,
Speaker 1: remember that thing you're working on, Think about that, talk
Speaker 1: about it real quick. Like that's what it really is,
Speaker 1: is like, and that's the power existency, and that's the
Speaker 1: power of the law of attraction, and that's the power
Speaker 1: of manifesting and all those things. And that leads us
Speaker 1: to like January too, Like I know, in January we
Speaker 1: wanted to focus on the law of attraction and asking
Speaker 1: for what you want, and we're going to be exploring
Speaker 1: that all month and just sharing how we've asked for
Speaker 1: what we want and how we've gotten it, sharing other
Speaker 1: people's perspectives and just like just really I think exploring
Speaker 1: this idea that you can actually make your wildest dreams
Speaker 1: come true.
Speaker 2: You know, they show up differently, but.
Speaker 1: I think we as human underestimate our powers in that
Speaker 1: space absolutely, And I feel like if we all could
Speaker 1: just like believe in our fucking self like magic, It's yeah,
Speaker 1: So I'm really excited. I'm really excited because, you know,
Speaker 1: just like heading to the retreat and like having opportunity
Speaker 1: even there to like continue that work with all these
Speaker 1: women out there is just like I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: setting myself up to have like the most epic year ever,
Speaker 1: the luckiest number seven fucking year ever.
Speaker 2: And this other site says, now that we have grown
Speaker 2: in tandem with others, we need to sit back and
Speaker 2: see how we ourselves have changed in response to the growth.
Speaker 2: Twenty twenty two asked of us, where are we different?
Speaker 2: How has our outlook changed? It's safe to say that
Speaker 2: many of us have experienced internal shifts as the world
Speaker 2: acclimates to the new abnormal, and now is the moment
Speaker 2: to get clearer regarding those changes. As much as you
Speaker 2: think you know yourself, perhaps you have altered in ways
Speaker 2: you didn't even realize. Sometimes in order to process change,
Speaker 2: we must be confronted with it directly. And that's what
Speaker 2: this year is all about. We have collective opportunity to
Speaker 2: come to terms with ourselves and develop a better understanding
Speaker 2: of the ways we've evolved while we were just living
Speaker 2: our lives. I knew you has been slowly forming when
Speaker 2: you didn't even realize it. Wow, Now it's time to
Speaker 2: fully integrate that existence and go forward with a stronger
Speaker 2: sense of awareness. This process won't occur overnight, but that's okay.
Speaker 2: The seven Energy is not one to be rush. Move slowly,
Speaker 2: dipping your toe in the tests, the waters which with
Speaker 2: each step until you fully immersed yourself. And that's what
Speaker 2: I feel called to enter this year with ease.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if I really feel that way, and I feel
Speaker 1: really ready to explore the deeper parts of me and
Speaker 1: like really, I just I don't know, I feel like
Speaker 1: for me, I don't know if there's any scorpios listening,
Speaker 1: but like in our like in the readings I've been
Speaker 1: seeing online, it's a lot about like really removing like
Speaker 1: these old archaic lenses of who you think you should be,
Speaker 1: like you're finally ready to like really shift really like
Speaker 1: go deep and really.
Speaker 2: And happily and excited.
Speaker 1: And that's kind of how I feel and like, just
Speaker 1: even recently, like the way I handle this situation that
Speaker 1: like in any other time, I probably would have been
Speaker 1: like crying for days, and I did cry for myself
Speaker 1: feel but I'm I already feel like there's a shift,
Speaker 1: like oh my God, like I'm I'm ready to like
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like there's just this like
Speaker 1: feeling of like really inviting more joy into my life
Speaker 1: because I have so much to be grateful for and
Speaker 1: I know that, but like it.
Speaker 2: Just feels different. It feels really different.
Speaker 1: So this year I have really high hopes for I'm
Speaker 1: open to anything happening, all the good and the bad,
Speaker 1: because the good doesn't feel good without some bad, bad choices.
Speaker 2: You got to do both, Lauren knows. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 2: if you're just like that bit is if you have been,
Speaker 2: you know, following the journey of good Mom's bad choices
Speaker 2: in just the last few years, it's been a hell
Speaker 2: of a motherfucking ride, and there's been a lot of
Speaker 2: bad choices and like a lot you guys don't even know.
Speaker 2: So many bad choices you don't even fucking know, and
Speaker 2: so many that you do. And I do. I feel
Speaker 2: I feel these like these these internet articles they're accurate,
Speaker 2: just because it has been a wild ride and it
Speaker 2: has taken a long time and we're still growing and
Speaker 2: then we're still deepening, and it's just like it's so
Speaker 2: exciting to kind of like sit back and be like, damn,
Speaker 2: like you did fuck your baby daddy all those times,
Speaker 2: you stupid bitch. Look where you are now, you know,
Speaker 2: look at you now, Look at you now, like I
Speaker 2: knew you had it in you and you're like, yes, God,
Speaker 2: I did you know. I feel so I'm like I
Speaker 2: knew I could do it, you know. And it's just
Speaker 2: really a true testament to like baby steps. And I
Speaker 2: feel that I feel like the ease, like not that
Speaker 2: everything has been easy, but I feel like once we
Speaker 2: sat back and recognized that we could do it, everything
Speaker 2: else has really been with ease, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: It's just like, you know, for two bitches who have
Speaker 2: like severe add undiagnosed, untreated just week.
Speaker 1: Week right here, I'll just say we are treat I
Speaker 1: don't know if this is actually helping. I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's I don't know if it actually helps they
Speaker 1: undiagnosed add But.
Speaker 2: But we've come a very long way and we've manifested
Speaker 2: a lot of things because just using our words, being
Speaker 2: impuccable with our words, and just growing to love ourselves,
Speaker 2: you know, like slowly accept and love ourselves, and like
Speaker 2: even choosing the name good Mom's Bad Choices. You know,
Speaker 2: we didn't know what we were doing, but like it's profound,
Speaker 2: you know, it's just like we knew then that they
Speaker 2: were going to like there's development that needs to happen,
Speaker 2: you know. Even when we started, we're like everything's that
Speaker 2: perfect and we know it, but we're gonna roll with it,
Speaker 2: you know. And I just it does just take one
Speaker 2: step at a time, one day at a time, and
Speaker 2: just kind of like dealing with yourself with ease, dealing
Speaker 2: with yourself with grace. And it helps to have friends
Speaker 2: that do that, Like you have helped me love myself
Speaker 2: and give myself grace in ways that Like I've said
Speaker 2: this a lot, Like I was so frustrated with my ass,
Speaker 2: my own ass. I was like, bitch, I'm done with you.
Speaker 2: But I couldn't be, you know, like I'm here, you know,
Speaker 2: and especially when you have kids and stuff and you
Speaker 2: see people mirroring you and people that like act like you,
Speaker 2: and just you know, you hopefully want to be better.
Speaker 2: And I just hope that this year everybody gives themselves
Speaker 2: the grace to do that. And like, even if you've
Speaker 2: been listening, even if you haven't always made the best choices,
Speaker 2: like this is always a new.
Speaker 1: Day, always a new day. You put one foot in
Speaker 1: front of the other and that's it. Sometimes that's all
Speaker 1: you can do that day is just do that and
Speaker 1: just start there. You know, it doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: some big grand act. And I think that's also like
Speaker 1: this pressure that you know, New Year sometimes brings to
Speaker 1: people where they feel like I gotta set everything up
Speaker 1: this month, like and it's like, no.
Speaker 2: You don't.
Speaker 1: You've already been doing the work, even when even if
Speaker 1: it's you know, even if it's you know, taking time
Speaker 1: to get even to this space right now, Like if it's.
Speaker 2: On your mind, you've started doing the work. If you're
Speaker 2: not just an oblivious dumb bitch, you're like fuck it,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. If it's been on your mind,
Speaker 2: like bitch, you need to change, maybe you could do better.
Speaker 2: Then like that is already the beginning of starting the work.
Speaker 2: And you know what that's if you.
Speaker 1: Have the patience to sit and listen to two bitches
Speaker 1: talk about their personal development, then you're already doing the
Speaker 1: work because you are there's something calling you to listen
Speaker 1: to a perspective and that enough is is that is
Speaker 1: good enough? And also it is valid and important to
Speaker 1: even beginning to do the work is like questioning everything,
Speaker 1: listening to someone else say hey, this is what I did,
Speaker 1: and being like, okay, well that was interesting.
Speaker 2: I lost the perspective. I hadn't thought of am I
Speaker 2: doing this? And like just being self fucking reflective is
Speaker 2: a part the beginning stages of doing the work. I mean,
Speaker 2: it's all the stages of doing the work. Always, if
Speaker 2: you don't can't tell yourself you're fucking up, then just
Speaker 2: ignorant bliss and ignorance, you know, ignorance and bliss. Fucking
Speaker 2: ignorance is bliss. Ignorance is bliss.
Speaker 1: You know sometimes though, you know, sometimes I I'm okay
Speaker 1: with living in ignorance and ways in my life, certain
Speaker 1: things I'm like, I really just don't I don't there
Speaker 1: to know.
Speaker 2: But for how long I don't know? Certain things?
Speaker 1: Let me too, like ribs, like I don't need to know,
Speaker 1: you know, just certain shit like people have autonomy over
Speaker 1: their choices and I can't control them all. I don't
Speaker 1: need to know them all. I don't need to, you know,
Speaker 1: Like I re going and get candy out of the
Speaker 1: cabinet behind my back, like.
Speaker 2: Okay, you got one overall.
Speaker 1: You got it ewin, you know, like obviously there's certain
Speaker 1: things can what you can. Obviously there are things I
Speaker 1: need to know. And I've also realized that too. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I need to be more investigative in twenty twenty three. Okay,
Speaker 1: I need to really scope the scene because fully.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe more investigative, more reporting, yeah, but not investigative,
Speaker 2: be a little crazy. I told my therapist.
Speaker 1: I was like, so I think that, like I just
Speaker 1: need to start going through niggas phones I'm in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty three because I don't really do that, So might
Speaker 1: just do that, like maybe just start there, like maybe
Speaker 1: that's like normal, is it?
Speaker 2: Maybe that's not crossing boundaries. I told you. I was like,
Speaker 2: maybe that's.
Speaker 1: Actually not crossing boundaries and it's just having autonomy over like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck do you want to do moving forward after.
Speaker 2: You do that? Well, I I let me tell you,
Speaker 2: as a bitch who one thousand percent would never I
Speaker 2: would never be like I'm looking, I want someone, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna give someone permission looks through my phone. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: ask looks to your phone, I'm gonna give you my
Speaker 2: my fucking location. I would think that's ridiculous. And if
Speaker 2: someone told me that, like as a friend, I'd be like,
Speaker 2: this dumb bitch is dumb, Like your relationship is stupid,
Speaker 2: and you guys not no for you know I'm judging,
Speaker 2: and you know I'm judging everyone is dumb. You know
Speaker 2: I say that a lot and I always mean it, but
Speaker 2: sometimes I do. But I would feel immediately like that
Speaker 2: is based on security. Well, because I've been in a
Speaker 2: relationship where people look through my shit all the time,
Speaker 2: even when I wasn't doing shit. I've been in relationships
Speaker 2: where I well, you.
Speaker 1: Have to change a perspective and not look at it
Speaker 1: as like a violation, looking at it as like love
Speaker 1: and honesty and that we're really here and and eventually
Speaker 1: you don't even care to know.
Speaker 2: And then sometimes you really need that shit. And and
Speaker 2: obviously I've also been a sneaky bitch. You know I've
Speaker 2: have I've had and like maybe years ago like shit
Speaker 2: in there, you know, not that many years ago. So
Speaker 2: you also feel like it's good to hold you health accountable. Well,
Speaker 2: I know you're going to be any Please God for me,
Speaker 2: Please have your my coat. I'm liable to do some function. No,
Speaker 2: I'm past there. I've been pasted there. But but in
Speaker 2: the beginning of me in Orlando's relationship, when we were
Speaker 2: living in different states, and like you know, granted, me
Speaker 2: and Orlando dated and we're friends for like a year
Speaker 2: before we were in a relationship. And when we got
Speaker 2: in a relationship and he was like, share your location
Speaker 2: with me literally, and my heart was like, I was like,
Speaker 2: what the this nigg is on crack? That's what I thought.
Speaker 2: I was like. And then and then you know what
Speaker 2: I thought, because I met like my my initial sneaky
Speaker 2: bitchness was like, who cares? He doesn't know where the
Speaker 2: fuck I am. He doesn't know any streets in LA
Speaker 2: I was like, he's stupid, not stupid, but like that
Speaker 2: was my because I was so against that, but I
Speaker 2: did it. To appease him. And then even I think
Speaker 2: because we were friends, like having each other's fun codes
Speaker 2: and shit, they didn't really bother me because I really
Speaker 2: didn't have anything to happen.
Speaker 1: Because he offers you guys offer each other such a
Speaker 1: sense of freedom that that doesn't really feel like like purgatory.
Speaker 1: It doesn't really feel crazy because you it's not crazy
Speaker 1: because the rest of your relationship is very free and open,
Speaker 1: and that's open too.
Speaker 2: Well, well, it totally changed my perspective of it, you know,
Speaker 2: and I never expected that being in a relationship with
Speaker 2: someone and I would be like, I can look at
Speaker 2: his phone all times. And I looked at this phone
Speaker 2: when he was asleep, not looking at his phone. I
Speaker 2: was using it for something and Luna was like, you
Speaker 2: know his code and I was like yeah. She's like
Speaker 2: I thought, wow, this is seven year old. No, you
Speaker 2: don't do the shit right. But I feel at ease,
Speaker 2: like I don't check his fucking whereabouts, but he can't,
Speaker 2: Like it's it's just that I don't need to look.
Speaker 2: And even the time that I have, which has only
Speaker 2: really been one time, i'd be like, hey, look I
Speaker 2: looked at your phone and this is what I don't
Speaker 2: fuck with or whatever, and he, you know, like, why'd
Speaker 2: you do that? I was like, I didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 2: This is my right, this is my birth right, all
Speaker 2: of your belonging. But you know, we had a we
Speaker 2: had a lot of heavy pushback from uh Mac the
Speaker 2: therapist and when he said, like, that's the that's the boundary. No,
Speaker 2: that is like, if you cheat, that is to be expected,
Speaker 2: you know, expect that and welcome it. To have everyone
Speaker 2: in our episode.
Speaker 1: About like having full transparency in your relationship after you cheat.
Speaker 2: Or like people did not like that, but I really
Speaker 2: felt like, like sometimes it's a bitch's knee. Well okay,
Speaker 2: but that's okay.
Speaker 1: His was more so based and after something has gone wrong,
Speaker 1: now you have to have a level of transparency in
Speaker 1: order to get the you guys.
Speaker 2: Started, I'm saying, if you start there, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: you don't feel like someone is going through your phone
Speaker 2: to spite you or because they don't.
Speaker 1: You've got to find two people that really understand that
Speaker 1: and don't look at it as like, uh, like a
Speaker 1: violation of privacy.
Speaker 2: It almost wasn't me. I did look at it a violation.
Speaker 2: I thought I was getting over but when when it
Speaker 2: worked in my favor, I felt safe. Yeah. So I
Speaker 2: don't know how we got on this fucking topic twenty
Speaker 2: twenty three. Looks at your niggas phone, get that pasta.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you Okay.
Speaker 1: I think I told my therapist that and she was like, Erica, no,
Speaker 1: that's not She was like, bitch, no, And.
Speaker 2: That's why I love her. I shout out to my therapy.
Speaker 2: He didn't say bitch she wanted to say. Sometimes she
Speaker 2: was talking to you like she's like bit yeah.
Speaker 1: She was like uh uh she said, uh cause she
Speaker 1: lack And I was like, I know that's crazy, right,
Speaker 1: It's not that, it's not.
Speaker 2: It's not crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, I mean, I you know, I'm Transparency
Speaker 1: is everything to me, and that's why I really I
Speaker 1: feel like I try to be as transparent as I can,
Speaker 1: but it's hard to meet it's hard for people to
Speaker 1: do that, and it's hard to it's challenging to meet
Speaker 1: people as transparent as I like, really crave in my relationship,
Speaker 1: which I realized sometimes I'm like, maybe I just do
Speaker 1: share too much.
Speaker 2: Maybe I even to shut the fuck up. Just wish
Speaker 2: for on all the angel numbers and you'll get it. Okay. Literally,
Speaker 2: that's what happened to me. Please God and find me
Speaker 2: a husband that I could be myself and I don't
Speaker 2: feel any worry and then God is like, here you go, bitch.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, it's that easy, asking with ease and
Speaker 2: expecting with ease and not worrying how it's going to come,
Speaker 2: because it will come.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, look at like, bitch, you already know the story,
Speaker 2: like how we got this book. Deal crazy, it's really crazy,
Speaker 2: just like it's a really crazy with EA's story. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I mean not the part where we wrote it,
Speaker 2: but no, that's not that was not with ease. That
Speaker 2: was challenging.
Speaker 1: Wow, shout out to all the writers of the world
Speaker 1: because wow, well.
Speaker 2: You guys speaking of the writers of the world. Honestly, bitch,
Speaker 2: it's like I've been waiting to really use that. I
Speaker 2: don't even know if I put it in my bio,
Speaker 2: But like, author, you're you're an author, You're a published author,
Speaker 2: and I can't wait to go somewhere and I'm like, oh me,
Speaker 2: I'm an author. Oh yeah, what do you do?
Speaker 1: I'm an author.
Speaker 2: I'm an author. My book is available on Amazon for
Speaker 2: pre sale and Barnes and Noble and like, what bit
Speaker 2: that's crazy, It's crazy. Wow.
Speaker 1: I hope you guys like it. There's a lot of well,
Speaker 1: you know, I think I was. You were saying, like,
Speaker 1: you guys don't know everything that we don't share. I
Speaker 1: feel like the book is it's like it goes deeper,
Speaker 1: deeper elements that I mean that I didn't that I
Speaker 1: thought i'd already shared. I think writing for me exposes
Speaker 1: a different part of who I am and allows me
Speaker 1: to really like get it out in the way that
Speaker 1: I want. And also like this book really explored me
Speaker 1: to really push me to explore things that I had
Speaker 1: forgotten and I had pushed down and that I didn't
Speaker 1: even really process all the way you know that I like,
Speaker 1: I know happened, but I never I didn't dissect it. No,
Speaker 1: So going back from from like the lens of someone
Speaker 1: like looking back on that, like that's that that's of me,
Speaker 1: but it's also the past and and seeing where I
Speaker 1: am now it makes me just really excited. And I
Speaker 1: was even thinking about the books too, and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, when we read this book when we're
Speaker 1: like even in our forties, we might read it and
Speaker 1: be like, like we're different from even then, because I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm constantly evolving and we're definitely gonna be different,
Speaker 1: but it would be nice to have them.
Speaker 2: No, it's like like a frame.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like a snaps, a snapshot, a snapshot.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm getting high, but you know, Oh, I
Speaker 2: don't know if anybody has joined me. I'm sure a
Speaker 2: lot of you have because I've been I watched The
Speaker 2: Best Man the New Final Chapter on Peacock, and you know,
Speaker 2: like the whole promise of the movie is that Harper
Speaker 2: wrote this book about his friend's circle then exposed everybody.
Speaker 2: So I've been like watching that and like seeing him
Speaker 2: like rise to the This is like this fictional story,
Speaker 2: but it's really good and it's about like love and friendships,
Speaker 2: and it's just been giving me. I'm like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: When this book strops, is like all the exposure are
Speaker 2: going to be like I'm gonna be getting phone calls
Speaker 2: from people, Oh you're like Harper. I mean there's some tea.
Speaker 2: There's some tea, and I'm sure it's not going to
Speaker 2: take a lot for people to like put two into together.
Speaker 2: I mean, not that Wendy Williams. I read the tea
Speaker 2: of our book talking shit, but for real, I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm nervous, and I'm excited and I'm definitely I'm definitely
Speaker 2: excited for our people to get to meet us in
Speaker 2: a different art.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's our testimony and it's our perspective, and it's
Speaker 1: you know, how people are going to have opinions because
Speaker 1: they're allowed to and they're entitled to them.
Speaker 2: And this is mine.
Speaker 1: This is how I've digested my life so far. This
Speaker 1: is my life so far. And yeah, I'm really I'm really,
Speaker 1: really excited. So make sure you check that out. Officially
Speaker 1: releases on Mother's Day, but you can pre order it
Speaker 1: now and put the link in this episode description so
Speaker 1: you can click it and pre ordery and support your girls.
Speaker 2: Support two single moms. Well, oh, you know what I
Speaker 2: was thinking what we're about to say. Sorry I cut
Speaker 2: you off. No, I was thinking about doing things with ease,
Speaker 2: and I was thinking that. First of all, I'm a
Speaker 2: bitch of ease, Like I like leisure activities, but that's
Speaker 2: part of the reason I really like this challenge that
Speaker 2: we are doing together as a tribe. If you haven't heard,
Speaker 2: we are doing a challenge With Open, it's an app
Speaker 2: that it facilitates different practices meditation, yoga, breathwork, and they
Speaker 2: have all different types of classes in there. They have
Speaker 2: a studio out here in Venice that we're gonna go.
Speaker 2: We going to get our tribe to get there to
Speaker 2: go check out, and we're doing a thirty one day
Speaker 2: challenge and so it's really just taking ten minutes at
Speaker 2: most out of your day to just sit still and participate.
Speaker 2: It's either doing breath work or meditation or yoga, and
Speaker 2: it's just with easy. Just do it honestly like ease,
Speaker 2: because it's only ten minutes exactly.
Speaker 1: I don't like anyone that says I don't think, so
Speaker 1: why why?
Speaker 2: Girl? Just do it? Like commit to something.
Speaker 1: This is the first step if you're like wondering, like
Speaker 1: I don't know, like I don't I don't like you
Speaker 1: don't know how to start your year off, or you're
Speaker 1: not feeling like you're even in a good space and place,
Speaker 1: and you know, not everyone is where everyone else is at.
Speaker 1: This is a great place to start just making intentional
Speaker 1: time for yourself to tap into yourself and to try
Speaker 1: different practices. So definitely check out Open. We're doing it.
Speaker 1: I've been doing it, and I feel better.
Speaker 2: I do. I feel a lot better.
Speaker 1: You don't, like I forget to breathe. Like literally, I've
Speaker 1: talked about this on the show before. It's like, I
Speaker 1: hold my breath so much. It's so habitual that I
Speaker 1: really don't even notice it half the time.
Speaker 2: But then sometimes I will.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'll be like, oh my God, Like I've
Speaker 1: really been holding my breath and I'm feeling anxious. And
Speaker 1: the only reason I'm feeling anxious is because I'm holding
Speaker 1: my breath. Nothing else is wrong. So breath work has
Speaker 1: been such this amazing reminder of just to breathe consistently
Speaker 1: throughout the day. But anyway, we pulled a card at
Speaker 1: the top of the show. Oh it's late too. It's
Speaker 1: it's late on the on the fourth of December, December,
Speaker 1: I mean January.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, Jesus Christ. I did smoke gris.
Speaker 1: Because I'm floating and floating in with ease.
Speaker 2: And how do you do that? You smoke my of course,
Speaker 2: I agree, marijuana makes you for us.
Speaker 1: So I pulled the star card. I feel like I
Speaker 1: pulled this. I've pulled this card before. The star card
Speaker 1: is upright, represents hope, faith, purpose, renewal, and spirituality. The
Speaker 1: star card shows a naked woman kneeling at the edge
Speaker 1: of a small pool. She holds two containers of water,
Speaker 1: one on her left hand, the subconscious, and one in
Speaker 1: her right hand, the conscious. She pours the water out
Speaker 1: to nourish the earth to continue the cycle of fertility,
Speaker 1: represented by the lush greenery around her. The other container
Speaker 1: pours the water onto dry land in five rivulettes representing
Speaker 1: the five senses. As a star follows the tower card
Speaker 1: in Taro, it comes as a welcome reprieve after a
Speaker 1: period of destruction and turmoil. You have endured many challenges
Speaker 1: and stripped yourself bare of any limiting beliefs that have
Speaker 1: previously held you back. This I resonate with the ship.
Speaker 1: You are realizing your core essence, who you are beneath
Speaker 1: all the layers. No matter what life throws your way,
Speaker 1: you know that you are always connected to the divine
Speaker 1: and pure loving energy. You hold a new sense of self,
Speaker 1: a new appreciation for the core of your being. You
Speaker 1: may also want to find or rediscover a sense of meaning, inspiration,
Speaker 1: or purpose in your life. You are making some significant
Speaker 1: changes in your life transforming yourself from the old to
Speaker 1: the new, from the old to the new you, and
Speaker 1: in doing so, you are bringing out a fresh perspective,
Speaker 1: out with the old and with the new.
Speaker 2: Amen. This is a pround.
Speaker 1: This is a profound spiritual journey that will bring greater
Speaker 1: meaning and purpose into your life and will renew your
Speaker 1: inner energy. Strip back the limiting beliefs, facades, or deceptions
Speaker 1: and live in your authentic nature. Be open to new ideas, growth,
Speaker 1: and listen to the still voice within.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: I really resonate with that because I I don't know,
Speaker 1: like lately, I've just been feeling really connected to this
Speaker 1: like voice, like open to like these clear messages that
Speaker 1: have been coming to me. Like I told you the
Speaker 1: other day, I have like this download and yoga.
Speaker 2: It was crazy, like it was just like this is
Speaker 2: when this is what you must do. Sometimes it be
Speaker 2: that guy and I was like fuck damn. And then
Speaker 2: there was one eleven.
Speaker 1: Bit and then it was one eleven because I was
Speaker 1: like stressed, like what do I do? I had I
Speaker 1: need to honor myself. How do I honor myself? How
Speaker 1: do I like like respect me myself? How do I
Speaker 1: not feel how I'm feeling right now anymore?
Speaker 2: How do I like get to where? Get to the
Speaker 2: finish line faster? Essentially in this space because I can't
Speaker 2: control it. I can't control this. It's done, it's done,
Speaker 2: what it's done, you know.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I have been really listening to
Speaker 1: this voice and she's talking louder and louder, and I'm
Speaker 1: just really excited for what she has to say in
Speaker 1: this year, and I feel like some shit is going
Speaker 1: to be said and change inside of me because of that.
Speaker 2: Well, when you listen, my love, she will get louder.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: I've always feel like I've been feel like I've been
Speaker 1: searching for the voice, and then suddenly I just stopped searching,
Speaker 1: and she was.
Speaker 2: Like, hey, hey, bitch, hey bitch, tap tap tap do
Speaker 2: is you're welcome anyway? What car did you pull? I
Speaker 2: pulled the Eight of Wands. The Eight of Wands says
Speaker 2: that the struggles of the seven awans have now all
Speaker 2: been but cleared, and you have the freedom and space
Speaker 2: to move forward with your plans once again. This eight
Speaker 2: is a dynamic card containing a high level of energy
Speaker 2: that propels you forward to reach your goals at a
Speaker 2: much faster pace than ever before. You can expect to
Speaker 2: be very busy, but this is one of those good
Speaker 2: busy periods during which you are enthusiastic about the progress
Speaker 2: you are making. The aid of wants encourages you to
Speaker 2: go with the flow, don't resist it. Everything is moving
Speaker 2: fast right now, So make the most of this forward
Speaker 2: momentum to manifest your goals and dreams. All the energy
Speaker 2: of the universe to flow through you and propel you
Speaker 2: closer to your goal. Trying to slow things down because
Speaker 2: you're not ready or you're fearful about the unknown will
Speaker 2: just waste this opportunity. Use the energy instead to fuel
Speaker 2: positive change and produce significant results. M H, be laser
Speaker 2: focus with your intentions and actions. I feel this. I
Speaker 2: feel that, like in my comfort zone, I could like
Speaker 2: back up and be scared and be fearful and like
Speaker 2: question everything, and I've been hearing clearly like and go bitch,
Speaker 2: and just like to walk in the purpose and to
Speaker 2: walk with my head high because I've earned it, you know,
Speaker 2: and to like just be open to all the things
Speaker 2: that are coming out because I know shit is about
Speaker 2: to get really busy, and really all these things. I
Speaker 2: feel that the one word that I love in that
Speaker 2: on that card is the flow though, Like even though
Speaker 2: it's busy, it feels easeful and purposeful.
Speaker 1: So it's not like you've prepared for this moment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I feel that, and I just feel like,
Speaker 2: you know, it's just the download to just walk into
Speaker 2: it with confidence and don't question it because everything is
Speaker 2: as it should be.
Speaker 1: Awesome. I'll say, well, you guys, I hope you guys
Speaker 1: are feeling good and that this week brings you that
Speaker 1: ease that we're talking about. I hope that you'll join
Speaker 1: us on the challenge to keep propelling you into this
Speaker 1: year on a positive and easeful note.
Speaker 2: Yeah, open skiving thirty one days free if you join
Speaker 2: the challenge to our listeners. So it's kind of expensive.
Speaker 2: I would take this opportunity to sign up for here.
Speaker 1: I love free shiite, okay, free shit, and I get better.
Speaker 1: Thank you please, Well, I love you.
Speaker 2: I love Happy New Year, Happy New Year, and I'm
Speaker 2: ignited and I'm ready for to accept all that is
Speaker 2: coming to us at the universe that Yessica is bringing
Speaker 2: to bring in the good shit, Yessica, bring her in.
Speaker 2: We finally name our entity. Yes, Yesica, Yessica.
Speaker 1: Yep, she's Latina, kind of like our intro music, fisty, spicy, get.
Speaker 2: To what she wants. Yesica, she's after Latina like me. Okay,
Speaker 2: well all right, well, happy fucking New Year. You got it,
Speaker 2: you got this. Come on the retreat, get ignited, welcome transformations,
Speaker 2: Go get what the fuck is yours own that shit.
Speaker 2: Be your fucking self. Listen to your downloads. Get still
Speaker 2: and quiet so you can hear the downloads. When you
Speaker 2: hear them, don't ignore them. There are no coincidences. This
Speaker 2: message is for you, so stop fucking playing and get
Speaker 2: with the program. Honor yourself and do your fucking best
Speaker 2: because you deserve it. You're worthy, and it's right there
Speaker 2: everything she said. You know where to find us, guys
Speaker 2: on Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices on Instagram. You can
Speaker 2: find me Mela with an h map Wait what is it?
Speaker 2: Mela underscore map on Instagram and follow our retreat at.
Speaker 1: The Good Vibe Retreat and yeah, everything else is in
Speaker 1: the link. Because I'm high and I'm tired, so tired,
Speaker 1: because I'm easing in, So I'm gonna go take nat
Speaker 2: Byep New Years