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Speaker 1: Would I be to a hole if I said my

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Speaker 1: daughter to fat camp. Hey, little fatso you're too fat,

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Speaker 1: so I'm sending you to fat camp. Okay, actually all right,

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Speaker 1: but if you get sent to fat camp, aren't you

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Speaker 1: just with a bunch of other fat people?

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Speaker 2: And also, I think it's all about branding.

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Speaker 1: But like your community becomes like like you are the

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Speaker 1: five people that you associate with, right, and so the

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Speaker 1: five people you associate with all that fat camp, the

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Speaker 1: probability of you being fat.

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Speaker 2: Oh interesting, we'll continue.

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Speaker 1: I thought, I thought you're you're The angle you were

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Speaker 1: taking is like, uh, the dad is just giving her

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Speaker 1: her community exactly, Like yeah, hey, also that it's the

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Speaker 1: want to be with my people, my fellow fatsos oh man.

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Speaker 1: All right, So I just got into a huge argument

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Speaker 1: with my ex husband about this. My fourteen year old

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Speaker 1: daughter Abby just hit two hundred and ten pounds.

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Speaker 2: How tall is she doesn't matter for two d I

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Speaker 2: mean she's like six eight.

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Speaker 1: That's pretty rough, and at fourteen, I think that's like,

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Speaker 1: I think it's one thing if you're an adult and

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Speaker 1: you're like, okay, whatever you're in, you're kind of an

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Speaker 1: adult and you're off, you're doing your own thing. But

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Speaker 1: like the kid being too ten man, that that that Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's unfortunate.

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Speaker 2: That's big, it's big.

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Speaker 1: Uh. This started about one point five years ago when

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Speaker 1: me and my ex's divorce was finalized.

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Speaker 2: Yo. In one and a half years, she gained like

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Speaker 2: one hundred pounds.

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Speaker 1: That's I mean, yeah, fourteen year old? Yeah probably, I

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Speaker 1: mean how much is how much? How much does a

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Speaker 1: fourteen year old girl?

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Speaker 2: Way?

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Speaker 1: I probably like seventy pounds, like definitely below one hundred,

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Speaker 1: one hundred and five, but still, I mean that's that's over.

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Speaker 2: That's over one hundred pounds gained. If she was at

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Speaker 2: a normal weight.

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Speaker 1: That is fourteen year old joints she weighs to fourteen

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Speaker 1: you're gravy. Oh okay, So growing up, Abby was always

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Speaker 1: an average weight. So yeah, she's probably one five until

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Speaker 1: we got fifty to fifty custody. When we were together,

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Speaker 1: I would do the cooking and the shopping, and we

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Speaker 1: ate a pretty good diet with some junk food thrown

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Speaker 1: in here there, which is fine. Yeah, the divorce was

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Speaker 1: kind of messy, but we sent the kids to therapy

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Speaker 1: and it was doable. Abby started gaining weight when we

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Speaker 1: went fifty to fifty co parenting. So basically, the mom's

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Speaker 1: probably like feeding her twinkies and like ice cream and

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, oh he's a wife. So the dad, oh,

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Speaker 1: the dad, dad would be yeah, the dad. The dad

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Speaker 1: got her fat at the beginning. I just thought it

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Speaker 1: was gaining weight before a growth spurt. But this was

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Speaker 1: not the case. It does not seem like I.

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Speaker 2: Could not grow either. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, I think like when she when she started

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Speaker 1: getting weight, she was like, oh, it's probably just like yeah,

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Speaker 1: maybe the change will even out, it'll even out, but

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Speaker 1: it didn't. At my house she was eating okay, but

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Speaker 1: at her father's it was all junk food. He doesn't cook,

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Speaker 1: and he makes it worse because he lives by if

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Speaker 1: it's on your plate, you eat it. So in short,

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Speaker 1: he is giving her way too big proportions of crap.

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Speaker 2: And she basically has to eat it. Oh that is

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Speaker 2: so stupid.

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Speaker 1: He did not realize that he's like inflating his daughter. Literally,

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Speaker 1: I've talked to him so many times. I've tried to

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Speaker 1: let her serve her own food amount instead of him

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Speaker 1: loading up her plate, but he won't budge. So he's

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Speaker 1: he's literally like he's the problem, bro, Just just have

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Speaker 1: the food, like okay, whatever you're you you.

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Speaker 2: Just like crying on the table, just like what literally.

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Speaker 1: Just like here's the food, add it to your plate. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's simple, my god.

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Speaker 2: To be fair.

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Speaker 1: My parents also kind of had that rule where it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, don't waste food.

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Speaker 2: Ah, it's different, it's different.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like, yeah, the dad is like giving her

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Speaker 1: like huge portions and then like forcing her to it

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Speaker 1: too much. They're giving you like he's like he's giving

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Speaker 1: her equal portions to him, and he's probably overweight.

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Speaker 2: Too, that's probably right.

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Speaker 1: I got Abby into sports, which she enjoys for the

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Speaker 1: most part, but it's not enough to stop the weight gain.

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Speaker 1: I went to the doctor a nutritionists, and it comes

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Speaker 1: down to her basically eating three times the calories at

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Speaker 2: Three times.

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Speaker 1: If you think about it, that's like eating nine normal

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Speaker 1: meals a day. Nine.

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Speaker 2: That's insane. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: So, since Abby likes soccer, I found an overnight camp

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Speaker 1: from Friday to Sunday night, the days that he usually

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Speaker 1: has Abby. Okay, I can see where that could garners

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Speaker 1: some friction. I be seemed on board with the idea,

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Speaker 1: and this way, her dad will not be feeding her

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Speaker 1: or even really seeing her for the next couple of months. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's well yeah, borderline Dvius right there. Yeah, I would

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Speaker 1: at least, I mean, you can't really control it, probably

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Speaker 1: with the timing of it, but like ideally it's split

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Speaker 1: like you know or you know what, they changed the

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Speaker 1: cod parenting schedule so that way, like half of that

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Speaker 1: top half of the camp she's would have been her

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Speaker 1: mom's time, and then the other half is like the dad's. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I guess like the other you know that that

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Speaker 1: means she's still eating badly at her dad's some Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess it's less half of the time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I informed him of the camp and that Abby wants

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Speaker 1: to do it. It was a big argument that he

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Speaker 1: circled around to her weight. He accused me of sending

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Speaker 1: her to fat camp. So am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: And edit, I am currently talking to a lawyer to

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Speaker 1: try to get custody changed or at least a food

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Speaker 1: clause in the agreement.

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Speaker 2: There's food clauses. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it makes sense, like at the

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Speaker 1: end of it, like think about our contract.

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Speaker 2: It's like at the end of the day.

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Speaker 1: It's a very specific thing to like what we do

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Speaker 1: with a brand or whatever. So it's like all right

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Speaker 1: with the children. It's whatever you do with the children.

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Speaker 1: They have to agree on that thing. Bizarre, it is crazy.

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Speaker 1: I don't think the mall like sounds like it's something

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Speaker 1: that the kid wants to do. So it's like not

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Speaker 1: like bad for the kid. It is devious to put

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Speaker 1: on them. And then it's like the dad's not seeing

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Speaker 1: his kids, but the dad needs to, Like I think

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Speaker 1: the food clause thing is a good idea because it's

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Speaker 1: obviously affecting her child in a negative way. I think

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Speaker 1: if she like she's working with the lawyer and if

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Speaker 1: they brought the case of like, look, it doesn't even

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Speaker 1: have to be like during the dad's time, but like

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Speaker 1: some action needs to be taken where it's like he's

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Speaker 1: not he's basically forcing her to overeat like which when

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Speaker 1: you think about it that way, like really fucked insanity.

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Speaker 2: What you gonna do