WEBVTT - Know Yourself, Know Your Worth 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.640 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.000 the Vitamin D with Dawn Day Podcast and I am 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:09.640 your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:11.600 your life so that you can live life on purpose 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:13.680 and for a purpose. And this is your first time 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:17.040 tuning in and welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of our name. 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:19.240 My name is Dawn, and you get Vitamin D from 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:21.440 the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:25.000 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:28.040 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:29.960 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.720 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:35.720 So join me on this journey of living our best 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:39.680 lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:46.760 assad Make room. I can't implore enough from you to 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:51.280 make room. Make room for yourself, make room for other 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:56.400 people to show up, make room for beauty to happen 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:03.120 in your life. Oftentimes we get so used criticizing people, situations, 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:08.760 not seizing opportunities, all simply because we have a closed mind, 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:15.200 the closed heard, a closed ear, just a closed point 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:19.600 of view. Online, It's time to open it up. It's 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:23.360 time to make room. I don't know about you, but 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:28.400 I'm calling forth abundance. And I understand that in calling 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:31.400 forth this abundance, there's probably some things I need to 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:35.039 clear out. There's probably some things I need to space out. 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:40.240 There's probably some things I need to erry. It's the 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:43.400 time to face whatever is going on in your life 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:48.080 head on, face it on, because oftentimes when we aren't 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:52.559 facing situations, it's simply false evidence appearing real. It's that fear, 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:57.000 and it shows up in procrastination. It shows up in 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:00.840 closing walls, it shows up in a raction, it shows 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.800 up an anger, it shows up in ways that don't 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:07.680 serve in the better light of you. And you know, 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:12.200 just like Kabad said, I'm thinking that you pack like, 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.240 pack like with the room that you are allowing in 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:22.639 your life. Make room for joy, make room for that peace, 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:26.280 make room for love, make room for you. You deserve it. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:28.840 And when you make room, that means you allow people 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:31.800 to show up as they are. That means you allow 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:41.280 yourself to show up as you are, and you extend grace, grace, vulnerability, love. 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:46.480 That's what I want for you. You deserve that, you 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:49.080 deserve room to show up as you are, how you 0:02:49.120 --> 0:02:52.520 are right now, and you don't have to wait for 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:58.280 anybody to give you permission. You simply existing is enough. Now. 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:01.360 What you can do is extend this grace to someone 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:06.720 else who may not be so adamant, strong minded and 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:10.440 standing on their own for who they are right now. 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:13.640 But we can all serve as a life or someone 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.520 else right I mean, that's what we're all here for. 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:20.920 This little light of mine. I'm gonna let it shine, 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:26.720 Let us shine, let us shine. Get your vitamin right 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:34.680 with me. I get excited about good morning, good afternoon, 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:38.480 good evening, wherever you may be. Yeo, you consume to 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:40.920 the Vitamon Diva Doings a podcast. I didn't even tell 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:42.880 Jeremiah what we're recording right now. Right now we are 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:47.080 recording a ah A check in, or if I had 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:51.280 in my way, I would call it what's happening now. 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.080 I say that because I'm about to give you update 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:56.640 what's going on with me. But let me say this. 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.440 When I was like having the vision, I said, you know, 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.960 when vitamin D is gonna be on the radio, or 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:03.840 maybe I didn't even think vitamin D. I said, well, 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:06.480 I'm gonna be on the radio. I wanted to be 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:09.680 ensure to use the implementations that I learned when I 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.680 was over at BLS and Wendy Williams was on air 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.520 and this guy named Goose, he was like her producer. 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:19.479 They had what's it called a three sixty dang, I 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.719 don't even know what it's called. But now they got 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:23.440 it all on the computer and you just pressed the 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:26.400 buttons there. But before it was like this machine shortcut 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:32.400 shortcut three sixty. I had plans. I had plans with 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.440 that because I wanted all the sound effects from the 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:39.760 movie's quick sayings like you may catch you know, Chris 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:44.479 rock Off on Friday, damn or um, you know Martin, 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.240 damn Gina. But you know, there's so many rights now, 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.800 so that kind of was like a little damper or whatever. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.200 But I mean, I can re record it or perhaps 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.039 if I find somebody else. I don't know. I just 0:04:56.080 --> 0:05:01.400 wanted to share that. Um. Also, let me just say 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.320 this to uh. I think I said good morning already. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:06.840 Clearly I got so much energy because I used I'm 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.640 coming in the evening, So listen, pull out your pin 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:11.360 and paper. You better take notes because I'm about to 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.200 go off. And I can't really tell you how my 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:15.320 brain is gonna go. But as I was thinking about 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.440 that and the sound effects of radio, it made me 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.600 think of this conversation that I had with Bill May. 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:23.120 Bill May is helping me developed vitamin D with on 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:26.480 day okay, And one day I was talking to him 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:29.159 and I was asking. I was like, basically, who are 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:32.440 the ships nails like the ban by the bang when 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.279 it comes to radio? And he was like who My 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:37.440 My mouth rushedbore and I was like, oh, yeah, I 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:39.520 never thought of it like that. Now, let me put 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:43.360 a clearance. We all know how the game of telephone works. 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:48.720 Pardon me if I get a person confused. Okay, just 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:53.520 understand the storyline. So anywhere, he said, if I would 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:56.279 have put my MoMA rushmore together, I would have Howard 0:05:56.320 --> 0:06:02.719 Stern Charlemagne. Wait, how are Stern Charlemagne and Russia Lombard? 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.920 And I said, well, what about Wendy Williams Because you know, 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.160 I'm thinking like a pioneer. Oh you see the translation 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.880 talking about the sound effects coming back to Wendy. Okay, 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:15.200 glad you're checking, And I'm thinking, like, what about Wendy 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:19.279 Voliames And he was basically, damgn this was not shadey. 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.320 He was just saying, basically, her tenure in radio, uh 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.480 not staying you know so long. And I don't know 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.000 if it matter about the impact because I look at her, 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.920 it's like kind of like the a freaking American woman 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.560 version of Howard Stern And I don't even like to 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:33.800 compare like that, but I'm just saying this fact is 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:37.520 being raunchy and whatever. And sidebar. You know, when we 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:39.640 had this conversation was a while ago, but did you 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:41.799 see on social media. I think it's something squirreling around 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:43.599 that she might be having her own podcast coming out. 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.159 She did something about the Wendy Williams experienced that I 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:48.160 don't have the information right there, but I'm just giving 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:50.560 you a lead to sniff on one. She Winty might 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:52.360 be back. I don't think I think she will be, 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.080 But anyway, the point is the minute he said that, 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:57.880 you know, I got the vision of myself up there. 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.279 I know, and I'm grateful because I think it's so 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:04.200 important to talk to people that expand your horizons, that 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:08.760 make you think exceedingly and beyond. And I just smiled 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:10.880 to myself. I'm like, yo, that would be done because 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:12.920 I want to be that person. Which reminds me of 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:15.160 a conversation I had with Jennifer Line Grouper. This was 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:18.120 like what it was a few years several years ago, 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:21.440 maybe around UM twenty nineteen, we were in New York 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.840 and we were out there for the Urban Music Festival. 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:27.800 I probably made that up. It was like, it's basically 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:31.520 the marketing meetings where all the labels come out and 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:33.840 they introduced us to their artists and we can hear 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:36.160 the music, we give our feedback. They want to, you know, 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:38.440 say why you know they want us to put in 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:40.880 rotation at I heard. But anyway, the point is, I 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:44.920 asked Jennifer, I said, who are the first chairs when 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:48.200 it comes to women? Now, if you're unfamiliar, you said, 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.120 on what is the first chair? Well, if you think 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:53.080 of radio, um, let's just say the Steve Harvey Morning Show, 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:56.360 Steve Harvey is the first chair. When you think of 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.680 the Time Joining morning show, Tom Joyner is the first chair, 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:02.400 not the breakfast Club. That's all three of them, So 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:03.960 I don't know who. I think they kind of balance 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:05.280 it out, but they may have a lead, but the 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:09.080 first chair is the lead who show it is and um, 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:13.200 she mentioned, Oh got Ellen Kay? She said, Ellen Kay 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.640 is a first chair and I believe she at one 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:19.000 point and I could be misconstrolling list. And I'm learning 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.040 she was partnered up with Bryan Seacrest for a bit 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.320 and then I was like, um, and then you know, 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:28.360 there's Dana Cortez. But I'm thinking to myself, what about 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:33.480 Dawn Day Dawn Day comen which leads me to my 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:37.559 next thing. Going after your dreams isn't easy. I've been 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:39.880 I think I've been having a moment. I've been having 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.000 a moment and I'm giving myself grace in space for 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:47.120 the moment and what I mean by that. Sometimes I'll 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:50.600 be like, God, why you put all this on me? 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.079 Like why is it that I have to do this? 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:56.000 Like some people can live their life just functioning, and 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:57.640 I don't think anything's wrong with that. You have to 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:01.080 figure out what works best for you. But for me, 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.720 I don't even know what life would be like to 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:08.559 not pursue my dreams, but so all my dreams of 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:12.000 being on radio on TV using my voice to inspire people. 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:17.360 I don't know what life there is yet. At the 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:21.199 same time, in this process, in this journey, for my dream. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:24.400 I was just telling um my colorist. I was just 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:28.280 telling her this last night. I said to her, you know, 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.640 I'm standing optimistic about what I want because I don't 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:34.640 think it's a mistake that I'm sitting here when very well, 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.680 a little over ten years ago, maybe eleven or twelve, 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:42.880 I was in the office of Premiere Networks. Now we 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:44.760 fast forward, I'm in the studio and if you if 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:46.720 you're watching this on video, if it makes it to video, 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:49.280 you'll see behind me. It says the same thing. While 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.160 I was talking to her, I'm like, I know what 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:54.440 I'm going after, And I said, it's almost like being underwater. 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:59.160 If you can imagine yourself in an ocean, deep deep 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.480 down under, and you look up and you can see 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:05.200 the surface. You can probably see the sun, you can 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:06.800 see the birds, you can see the clouds, you can 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.440 even heck, see the boats and maybe even people swimming, 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.960 and you're just working to get there. But for some 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:16.760 reason it's like you're not there, but you can see it. 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:18.439 Is that the same when it comes down to your 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.360 vision and your dream, because you got the vision right, 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:23.720 And they say faith without works is dead, and you 0:10:23.800 --> 0:10:26.840 just gotta keep paddling. You gotta keep treading, you have 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:28.720 to keep going. And it's like sometimes you want to 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.360 give up. And when I think about Dawn, well, let 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:33.160 me be mindful of my words, because I don't want 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:35.800 to say give up. Sometimes I'm just thinking like, what's 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:37.920 happening next? Or is this gonna happen? Or how is 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:39.400 it gonna happen? When I'm getting in the way of 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:42.960 the doing rather just than doing, then that's when I 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:45.240 find myself on the end of not having as much 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.840 courage as I need to have courage. And as you 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.280 can notice, I'm being mindful of how I use my words, 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:52.640 and I think we all need to be mindful of 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:56.400 that because words have power, and I'm very I'm working 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.319 to be I'm not working. I am being intentional about 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:01.240 the way I use my words, because what do I 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:04.199 say how you do anything? It's how you do everything. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.040 And if we know life and death on the power 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.040 of the tone, what are you speaking over your life? 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:10.679 So as I'm looking up at the top and I'm 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:14.000 just like, God, what is gonna happen? I know that 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:17.280 it's there, and it's just like Dawn, just keep going. 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:23.640 But I'd just be like man, so that's what's going 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:28.400 on that end. I'm really working on it because in 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:32.320 mama thirties, I don't know where I imagine myself to be. Well, 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.200 yes I do. I don't know if I put an 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.840 age on it, but I imagine living adult life of 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:44.840 lux traveling, you know, um for me and when when 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:46.480 we I guess, when we do the things on our 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.000 timeline and we're not trusting the process, We're constantly looking 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:53.319 in the next line of someone else. Well, if I'm 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:56.760 asking for exceedingly and beyond, far more than what I 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.280 could ever imagine, what hell I've already imagined saying that 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:03.160 I'm gonna you picking it hop for Hey, everybody's very 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:08.160 play Damie Kelly and your tuned into Invitamin D podcast 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:17.520 Daily Dope Vitamin D with my Girl down day Dad is, So, 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:22.120 what are you comparing it to? It's interesting that you 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:26.960 can't do a comparison when you are the blueprint. And 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.560 I want to encourage you with your life to understand 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:33.400 that you are a blueprint. There is not a specific 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.240 instruction of how to do something. It's just a matter 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:38.520 of doing. And I say this to you as I 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:40.920 say this to myself. These are the things that what 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.880 I said, what's going on that I'm working to balance, 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.120 and that since I don't want to say balance, I'm 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.280 learning this new thing about introducing the word of harmony. 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.200 Harmony is important because if you try to get things 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.880 in balance, something is always going to be short changed. 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.079 But when I think of harmony, it reminds me of 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.000 that of a yen in the yang, you know, like 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:04.120 the black and the white. They kind of bleed in 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.360 and they surface in one another. They're never completely equal 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.680 at the same time because they're ever flowing. And I 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.200 think like in life, if you you choose to flow, 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:16.839 you know, things can be superb. But if we are 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:20.000 the blueprint what you're checking from, that's what I have 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:25.200 to constantly remind myself. Next up, did you hear the 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:29.240 interview that I have with Kiana Monroe? Yes? Yes, child. 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.000 She came in because um I wanted her to share 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:37.400 her story about about her sexual abuse as a child 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:41.560 and how she's overcame that and she came on here 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:43.920 and she had may mentions. She said, you know, she 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:47.040 talked about a crayon theory workshop because she kept talking 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.560 about colors. She was like, you know, when it talks 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.480 about relationships and vulnerability. You have to match these colors. 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:54.120 And I said, what else this that you're talking about? Collins. 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:56.080 You can look at the clip all us on Instagram. 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:59.040 It's on YouTube Vitamin D Dawn Day. Check it out 0:13:59.800 --> 0:14:02.679 and I'll say, you know what, let me check it out. 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.480 Let me invest in myself. So, uh, congratulations to all 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:09.079 of you that would ahead and followed and shared and 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:12.240 you attended the workout workshop. Shout outs to Robin. You know, 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:17.760 she personally reached out Robin perry Um, but it was 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:23.920 phlomen at all. And it just reminds me of what 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:27.600 colors are we showing up as and what colors are 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:32.200 we seeing others as as they present themselves. In this workshop, 0:14:33.120 --> 0:14:35.640 it was all about identifying what it is that you 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.000 truly want so that we can have compassionate communication. And 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:43.640 how she uh articulated what compassion and communication consists of 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.560 is that you have to have a consideration of love. 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:48.760 And when you love somebody, you respect them, and more 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:51.000 than likely you respect somebody, you would trust them. And 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:53.760 if you trust somebody, you feel safe. So it kind 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:56.360 of builds up a kind of like a square of box, 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:58.080 but not so much to block you in, but just 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:00.840 so much that a flow can go through. And oftentimes 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:03.080 when any of those sides are missing, then you know 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:06.920 that compassionate communication is not taking place. As you know, 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.880 I said, Dawn, we're working on this level of vulnerability 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:13.960 because I say, how you do anything, it's how you 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.240 do everything. How am I going to show up to 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:18.480 you and talk to you if I'm not being vulnerable, 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:20.800 if I'm not being open, if I'm not opening the 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.840 door and sharing it so that we can walk through together. Okay, 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.480 But a level of vulnerability I feel in order to 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.640 let yourself out is to know who you are, and 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:31.360 that's what she was talking about the mirror thing, but 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:34.080 she talked about these primary colors and allowing yourself to 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:35.960 see because I want to open the door for not 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:40.040 only just platonic and business but also romantic relationships, and 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.480 that's seeing people who they are. So she talked about 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:45.840 how you can show up and see somebody and they are, 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.040 you know, down to their guns about what they want. 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.600 Then you have another person I might be free flowing. 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:53.000 Then you have another person that might be in the middle. 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:57.680 And it's important to realize or to um identify what 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.440 kind of love it is that you want. And often 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:02.800 times I think people are showing up to spaces that 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:07.120 we aren't seeing them in. What do I mean by that? 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:09.560 We have our own fixation of who they say they are, 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:11.520 and if we took time to listen, we could see 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.400 who they are when they show up as they are. Additionally, 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:16.840 she also talked about how important it is is to 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.880 make a safe space. Now, if you go back a 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:22.680 few episodes, heck, it might be back in the previous year. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:25.600 I talked about how I had a lot of pruny, 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.000 a lot of pruning process, a lot of friends had 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:29.200 to go, a lot of people have to go. By 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:30.800 the wayside of fact, that's when we were in the 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:33.240 other studio. Damn, you see how we're growing up here 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:38.360 under the cover in my house, in the closet, in 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.240 here in the other studio. Now we're in the studio. 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.680 My god, watch what's gonna happen next? And when you 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.280 look back at this, remember I said that. Anyway, So 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:47.640 when I was in the other studio, I was just 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.040 talking about how I had to let a lot of 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.360 people go. I had a lot of people go because 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:54.240 I didn't feel safe and I didn't feel comfortable. And 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:57.040 now it's making sense, And I say that is that 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:00.440 when we have the intuition and when we feel something trusted, 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.840 because being safe is so important. But I also understand 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:07.320 how important it is is to identify that safe space. 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:09.879 And as I'm showing up in my level of vulnerability, 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:12.920 I even realized how I want to approach future relationships. 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:14.879 I want to let you know that it's safe for 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:16.680 you to be who you are because I want to 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:19.119 see you and I don't want to show up anything 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:20.720 other than who I am. And I don't want you 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:22.680 to do vice versa because I ain't got a kind 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.240 of ways like if we connected on the sense of 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.200 a vibe, if it doesn't work out in a romantic 0:17:28.280 --> 0:17:30.840 or business or whatever kind of way, there's other ways 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.400 that the relationship can flourish. But I gotta see you 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:35.919 so that you can show up that way when I 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.600 tell you. On in this workshop, I had to cut 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:40.720 the camera off because it was on zoom because I 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:43.439 was having emotional moments. Why because I think I was 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:45.399 allowing my style. I think I was allowing myself to 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:47.920 see areas that I didn't realize that needed to be seen. 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:50.080 How important it is to show up and say this 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:52.800 is a safe space how I can identify and share 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.359 with people like, Hey, I want this to be a 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:57.800 safe face. This is a requirement. What am I non 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:00.240 negotiables because we can think if we want this color 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:02.520 love and in actuality, this is the color love that 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.960 was showing up as So what is the website Jeremiah 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:10.560 for Kiana? I think, he said, Kianama Road dot com. 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.960 Make sure you check it out. Talking that Dawing Day 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:18.320 sent you. All right, Okay, he said, kianaman Road dot com. 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:21.879 Next thing, I want to talk about value and self worth. 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:24.520 I've learned a good lesson. I was talking to a 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:26.680 friend of mine, Um, he's actually coming out here because 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.440 we're getting ready for a photoship. Yes only you think 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:31.600 we're working out for no reason. Child, We didn't got 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:33.639 the hair color. We gotta get these locks a little 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:36.200 straightened out a little bit. But understand, we're getting ready. 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:39.560 And I had a conversation because he was talking about 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:40.560 he want to come out of here and do some 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:43.359 photo shoots from other people. Now, last time I worked 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:47.280 with him was damn, what's it about to see you? Damn? 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:53.600 It may have been two years ago, and while come 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:57.120 on full circle, it was ten years ago because I 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.359 was getting ready to move out here. Yeah, and I 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:02.960 had to get my website together, doing take speaks dot com. 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:04.560 I had to get my website together, so I said, 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:06.840 I wanted to get another photo shoot. This had been 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.280 um a couple of months or maybe almost a year 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:11.480 after my mom had passed. You know, I've been working 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:12.960 out in my short blind here. I said, this is 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:14.960 the movement. I'm coming out to l A. I'm doing 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.240 my voiceovers, I'm doing my radio, I'm doing my speaking. 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.440 We're about to do the damn thing. So fast for 0:19:20.560 --> 0:19:22.520 we're back in rotation. Because you can't stop on stop 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:24.680 and what do they say? You can't fail if you 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:28.280 don't quit. Well, it's interesting when you're looking at photography 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:30.520 and when you look at things that are right for you, 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:33.320 you have to see what captures the essence. And I've 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:36.960 seen some photographers out here, and uh, I'm gonna give 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:39.480 him a plug shout out to Zoe. Zoe can capture 0:19:39.560 --> 0:19:41.440 the essence of me. And I said, you know what, 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:42.679 I need you to come out here. I need you 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:46.000 to do this. So here we are fast forward. Now 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:48.800 he's gonna come out here. But anyway, in a conversation. 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:51.199 Leaning up to that, I'm telling him what the vision is. 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:54.080 Get ready, I'm gonna show y'all something like. I never 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:58.040 even seen him myself before. Hey. We were talking about 0:19:58.040 --> 0:19:59.639 pricing and what he would charge if you were to 0:19:59.640 --> 0:20:02.280 do some head shots, and I was like okay. I 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:04.080 was like, yeah, I don't even like to listen to 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:06.320 my services out there, but because people don't like to pay. 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:08.600 I said, what do you mean by that? He said, 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:10.359 you know, you show up and you tell people with 0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:13.440 the prices and they're constantly trying to negotiate. And I'm 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:15.720 saying I never thought anything wrong with that, And I 0:20:15.760 --> 0:20:17.480 even had to be vulnerable, and I shared with him. 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:20.080 I said, it's so interesting that And I think I 0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:23.320 said something before. Sometimes I feel like not sometimes I 0:20:23.400 --> 0:20:25.280 usually feel like somebody is trying to get over on me. 0:20:26.200 --> 0:20:28.919 I don't know why. Is that an abandma is an abandonment? 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:32.880 Is that neglect? I don't know what it is, um, 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:36.119 but I'm always feeling like you're charging me more than 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:38.840 I should be charged, rather than in the reverse, looking 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:42.560 at it as you're charging how much you're worth. And 0:20:42.920 --> 0:20:46.400 when I was talking to him, I really got introduced 0:20:46.440 --> 0:20:49.200