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Speaker 1: this one right here. You hear that, right here, right now,

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Speaker 1: It could be yours. You never know, you never know.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is a straw Thank your nephew's subject.

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Speaker 1: He's always sharp and smelly. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm in

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Speaker 1: my late fifties and I'm dating a man that is

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Speaker 1: a few years younger than I am. We've been together

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Speaker 1: for eight years, and it's been on and off because

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Speaker 1: we live in a small town, so everyone is always

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Speaker 1: in everybody's business. He's a cheapskate and he knows he

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Speaker 1: doesn't make enough money to support me and his drinking habit,

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Speaker 1: so I've asked him for years to get a better

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Speaker 1: whenever he got drunk and got a cute cheating on me,

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Speaker 1: whether it was true or not. I got tired of

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Speaker 1: his public intoxication, and he finally said to get me back,

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Speaker 1: he'd work on his drinking. So we've been back together

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Speaker 1: for about four months, and there's an all new problem

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Speaker 1: that's worse than all of the drinking and cheating. He's

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Speaker 1: got a problem with taking showers or baths and wearing

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Speaker 1: deodorant and clean undergarments. Don't get me wrong, whenever we

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Speaker 1: step out, he steps out correctly, and he's sharp from

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Speaker 1: and he accessorizes with Dora's so he's always turning heads

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Speaker 1: in our small town. He's also turning noses too, and

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Speaker 1: I could see it on other people's faces when they

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Speaker 1: broken up during COVID, he was working from home a lot,

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Speaker 1: and he decided that taking showers every other day or

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Speaker 1: a few days a week was okay. I've noticed that, if,

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Speaker 1: for example, showers on Monday morning, he won't shower again

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Speaker 1: until Tuesday night or Wednesday morning. I have to constantly

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Speaker 1: encourage him to take a bath, and he will only

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Speaker 1: wash up if he's too sleepy to take a full bath.

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Speaker 1: It's made our sex life very difficult because of his aroma.

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Speaker 1: How can I get this sharp but smelly man to

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Speaker 1: improve his hygiene? Please advise? Okay, this letter is crazy.

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Speaker 1: He drinks and stinks. So I got to ask you, really,

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Speaker 1: why do you need help from us? I mean, this

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Speaker 1: is a problem that you can clear up yourself. I

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Speaker 1: mean I wouldn't put up with it. I know Steve

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Speaker 1: wouldn't go for it either. I don't know anyone who

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Speaker 1: tolerates stink but a stinky person himself. So why are

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Speaker 1: us to tell you to? I don't get it. This

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Speaker 1: should be a deal breaker. But here you are in

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Speaker 1: this letter making excuses for him, talking about he works

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Speaker 1: couple of days a week. He steps out correctly when

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Speaker 1: he steps out, What but he still stinks? You've got

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Speaker 1: to stop this and let his stinky drunk but step

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Speaker 1: out stinky and drunk by himself. You know, if he

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Speaker 1: won't wash or stop drinking. I say nothing about this

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Speaker 1: is sexy and you know that, Yeah, it makes your

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Speaker 1: sex life very difficult. How can you even sleep with this?

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Speaker 1: Why isn't this a deal breaker for you. You can't

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Speaker 1: I mean, after eight years, you should be able to

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Speaker 1: let him know exactly what's on your mind, how this

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Speaker 1: damn since we should. First of all, he's too old

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Speaker 1: run into this right after that. We need to quit

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Speaker 1: but see, I just small town. That's gonna come up

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Speaker 1: several times in this letter. So that's why I'm curious

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Speaker 1: First of all, he's a cheap skate. He don't make

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Speaker 1: now let me do some man for you. He came

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Speaker 1: same time where he worked, she said, he don't make

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Speaker 1: buy a film or farty girl. You cutting into the rent.

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Speaker 1: So I've asked him for years. Listen to me. I've

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Speaker 1: he ain't a cheap skate, this man, Poe, see you

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Speaker 1: call you keep labeling it wrong. He not a cheap skate,

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Speaker 1: he Poe. You've asked him to get a better job

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Speaker 1: He can't afford drinking in you pick one. I used

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Speaker 1: I just I'm really gonna have nothing to say for you.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just trying to read this letter and see

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Speaker 1: what since it made. Because they don't make no damn sex.

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Speaker 1: What does she want from us? All right, we'll let

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter today, he's always sharp and smelly. We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today. I'm just

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Speaker 1: glad to recap. Let's just go for the letter she dated.

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Speaker 1: The man is younger than hood. The subject is he's

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Speaker 1: always shot up his smelling, which is a contradiction within itself.

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Speaker 1: And when you live in a small towns and you've

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Speaker 1: been offing on because of everybody and everybody business. He's

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Speaker 1: here's a man that don't have enough to buy liquor

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Speaker 1: and food, This is not a cheap skate. This man

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Speaker 1: is poor. I've been here before, and please don't nobody

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Speaker 1: to get me wrong that I'm not knocking poor people.

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Speaker 1: I'm knocking the fact that you you're not labeling it right.

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Speaker 1: You're calling him a cheap skate because he can't afford

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Speaker 1: him for years to get a better job or a

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Speaker 1: I used to dump him whenever he got drunk and

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Speaker 1: he cheated on you, or you heard he was cheating

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Speaker 1: his public intoxication. He finally said to get me back,

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Speaker 1: he'd work on his drinking. What did that mean? So

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Speaker 1: he's working on it, He's been working on it harder.

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Speaker 1: So we've been back together for about four months, and

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Speaker 1: there's an all new problem that's worse than all the

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Speaker 1: What could be worse than drinking and cheating? Because what

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Speaker 1: Drinking and cheating is the ultimate. Because you all are

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Speaker 1: getting nowhere. But you think he got a problem. He

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Speaker 1: you don't, babe, shower where deodoring or clean underwear? Why

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Speaker 1: we've been back together for four months now? Don't get

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Speaker 1: me wrong, whenever we step out, he steps out correctly.

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Speaker 1: He shot from head to toe. He loved wearing suits

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Speaker 1: he always turned the heads in our small town. He's

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Speaker 1: also turned the noses too. I can see it from

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Speaker 1: your ass. Do you know how gay you got to

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Speaker 1: be when you can come through layers of clothing. You

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Speaker 1: just gait. I think when we were broken up doing COVID,

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Speaker 1: I'm nothing to notice that. See, And I don't know

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Speaker 1: you to watch the pattern develop? You got it down.

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Speaker 1: So when four months you notice on Monday, he probably

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna do nothing again a Wednesday. Right? For four

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Speaker 1: months now I have to constantly encourage him to take

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Speaker 1: a bath. Oh, now, your man a baby. Now you

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Speaker 1: gotta tell us, little seven year old boy, you had

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Speaker 1: to take a bath. I have to come. He will

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Speaker 1: of him. Roma, Roma, That ain't that's exactly. That ain't

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Speaker 1: a roman exactly. That's when you smell exactly like the

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Speaker 1: crack of your butt. That's what exactly is? How can

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Speaker 1: I get this shot but smelling man to improve his

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Speaker 1: highg we don't know. We don't know what you have

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Speaker 1: to say to a fifty year old man to wash

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Speaker 1: itself Me and shurely nothing to help you with this letter.

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Speaker 1: But let me help you with the title. He's always sharp, lady.

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Speaker 1: Chatter cheese is shot. The smell of varnish is sharp.

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Speaker 1: You have a smell turpret time? What that sharpe? How

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Speaker 1: about have you ever when you was a little boy

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Speaker 1: your dumb ass accidentally opened up a can't ball of

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Speaker 1: ammonia and smelled at real heart knocked men, that's sharp,

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Speaker 1: sor motor all is shock like these are all the

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Speaker 1: things that smell sharp. Then burger cheese is sharp, switch

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Speaker 1: cheese and sharp. Your man stink like cheese, blue cheese, burger. Now, lady,

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Speaker 1: we ain't got nothing for you. I don't I don't

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Speaker 1: know why you're dating this man. You need to really

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Speaker 1: check yourself. You need to move out this town because

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Speaker 1: it's time to move. Yeah, you need to at least

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Speaker 1: got to be somewhere small. I'm sorry, lady, we don't

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Speaker 1: have nothing for you. Do like you want to do

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Speaker 1: keep dating him. I think the real problem in this

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Speaker 1: letters you because you settle for a man that like this.

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Speaker 1: I think the bigger problem miss you. So wake up,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show