Speaker 1: Hell, I Suck a Dating with the Younger and Dared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast. Welcome everybody to the
Speaker 1: help I Suck at Dating episode live recording on the
Speaker 1: Stereo app. Just download the Stereo app if you'd like
Speaker 1: to talk to us directly. We're gonna be answering listener questions.
Speaker 1: We're going to be interacting with everyone for the next
Speaker 1: who knows how long. It could be twenty minutes, it
Speaker 1: could be four hours, could be the rest of the day. Anyways, Jared,
Speaker 1: how's it going over there? Oh? You know, just live
Speaker 1: in the dream right now on the East Coast, it's
Speaker 1: actually quite nice. Uh. You know, Ashley and I are
Speaker 1: planning to watch Christmas movie. I'm thinking Christmas Vacation. That's
Speaker 1: personally my favorite Christmas movies of all time. Elf is
Speaker 1: up There to Home Alone is a great one. Um.
Speaker 1: Ash wants me to see Best Man's Holiday. I've actually
Speaker 1: never seen it, so that's another one we have to
Speaker 1: watch before December. But other than that, Man, we are
Speaker 1: doing well. How was How is things over on the
Speaker 1: West coast? West Coast is good weather, It's perfect. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be a very warm Christmas out here this year.
Speaker 1: Although I don't plan on being here for Christmas. It's
Speaker 1: nice to know that I can play some golf leading
Speaker 1: ups for the next couple of weeks before I get
Speaker 1: out of here. It's a little bit different than I
Speaker 1: think you're experiencing out there, But eventually I'm gonna drive
Speaker 1: up to Montana and celebrate with my brother whilst quote
Speaker 1: quote celebrate with my brother up there. But Jared, we
Speaker 1: have a very special stereo episode today for our listeners. Right,
Speaker 1: we have a Q and A that you put out
Speaker 1: there on Instagram. We're gonna be answering some questions live
Speaker 1: here on the Stereo app, like we just said, and
Speaker 1: we're excited. We're excited to be on the stereo app.
Speaker 1: We've never really well we've done a live podcast before,
Speaker 1: but we've never done a live audio podcast on stereo,
Speaker 1: and what better way to kick it off than here.
Speaker 1: But I gotta say your avatar is spot on. That's
Speaker 1: what I said. I made it, and someone said I
Speaker 1: didn't look all that cool, and I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I think it looks exactly like I do. But yeah,
Speaker 1: well that doesn't necessarily mean it looks cool, but it
Speaker 1: just looks exactly like right, Well, that's that's kin. I
Speaker 1: see you have a little so you have a little
Speaker 1: heart under your left eye. Yeah, that's just kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, that's how I see myself. I I wish
Speaker 1: I could get a face that too. I just don't
Speaker 1: think the society is ready to handle that yet. Uh. Also,
Speaker 1: I think you're a little too tan in your avatar
Speaker 1: than you're in real life. But I tried to give
Speaker 1: myself a little color. You know, I'm not going to
Speaker 1: make myself pale on this thing. Yeah, that's fair. That's fair,
Speaker 1: all right. Jared asking some questions, Man, what do you
Speaker 1: got for us? All right? So we asked some questions
Speaker 1: on the help I Stuck at Dating Instagram, which, again,
Speaker 1: if you're not following us, go follow us. It's a
Speaker 1: grand old time. Um. And this is some of the
Speaker 1: response that we got from Suck Army, which, if you're
Speaker 1: new to this podcast, help us Suck at Dating. We
Speaker 1: of course referred to our wonderful listeners as suck Army,
Speaker 1: which did and I have a little is pump musical
Speaker 1: rendition of sucks suck, suck, suck suck everybody. So that's
Speaker 1: always fun. Um. So, anyway, the first question from our help.
Speaker 1: I suck a dating Instagram is for you, Dean ers
Speaker 1: It's uh says what was it like the first time
Speaker 1: Dean met Kalin's family, which I believe very recent. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I've actually met her family kind of in two
Speaker 1: different scenarios. She's got a grand grandparents live in Las Vegas,
Speaker 1: and her uncle and aunt live in uh in the
Speaker 1: same neighborhood, and so I met them a while ago.
Speaker 1: But just this past Thanksgiving, I finally got the chance
Speaker 1: to go and meet her her parents in Virginia, her siblings.
Speaker 1: And it's always a stressful time. I gotta say. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you can attest to this as well. It's
Speaker 1: like meeting someone's family for the first time. Is it's
Speaker 1: just a lot. It's like, you know, you have to
Speaker 1: kind of like hunker down and get ready for like
Speaker 1: some big, deep, serious conversations and um, you know, put
Speaker 1: your best foot forward. We were there for like two
Speaker 1: days and so it's you know, it's forty eight hours
Speaker 1: of of trying to impress and like prove to her
Speaker 1: father that I'm like a you know, uh, what's the
Speaker 1: word capable? Man? No, Uh, what's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 1: Not capable but like deserving of Klin's affection and love
Speaker 1: and all those things, you know. So it's it's pretty stressful,
Speaker 1: I guess. But at the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: think pretty well. I don't want to speak for her family,
Speaker 1: but I think that, you know, I knocked it out
Speaker 1: at the park. I like them. I think that they
Speaker 1: like me at least enough to where there was I
Speaker 1: really wish we could get I really wish we could
Speaker 1: get Calin's family on this podcast too. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like to hear the different stories. I mean, I'm sure Dean.
Speaker 1: First of all, they obviously love you. Everybody loves you.
Speaker 1: You have this warm warmth about you whenever you meet somebody.
Speaker 1: But I'm curious about what their thoughts were about you
Speaker 1: before they met you, because I'm confident they fell in
Speaker 1: love with you as soon as they see you. But uh,
Speaker 1: sometimes your reputation, You're reputation precedes you reputation. Well here's
Speaker 1: the thing too. If and when I become a father
Speaker 1: and I have a daughter, and in you know, twenty
Speaker 1: five years after she's born, she brings a guy over
Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving that you claims to live in a van
Speaker 1: and doesn't have a job and these things. It's like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna not be excited to meet this guy, so uh,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like a it's it's a bit of
Speaker 1: an obstacle to overcome, I think, but you know, hopefully
Speaker 1: I was able to to hurdle it with with with
Speaker 1: some some aptitude, but I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I it went well for me. I had fun. I
Speaker 1: met her siblings, who she adoors, and you know, she
Speaker 1: loves them, and obviously she's really close with her mom
Speaker 1: and dad, so it was nice to be able to
Speaker 1: kind of meet them for the first time. It's it
Speaker 1: was it took a while. It was a year and
Speaker 1: a half after dating before I finally got the chance
Speaker 1: to get out there and meet them, which, um, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm probably is a little little longer than it should
Speaker 1: have been, but it is what it is, all right.
Speaker 1: Another question coming from the Instagram, what's your best pickup line?
Speaker 1: I heard this pickup line when I was in middle
Speaker 1: school and it's stuck with me ever since I don't
Speaker 1: think it's appropriate. I don't think you should really use it.
Speaker 1: It's pretty funny, I would say. And again, this is
Speaker 1: twelve year old Dean that would say this just because
Speaker 1: I thought it was hilarious. Would walk up to a
Speaker 1: girl and I would say, Hey, is that a mirror
Speaker 1: in your pocket? And they'd be like, what, No, there's
Speaker 1: no mirror in pocket. Your pocket in my pocket and
Speaker 1: be like, Oh, that's weird because I can see myself
Speaker 1: in your pants. Oh god, him got him after? That worked? Never,
Speaker 1: it didn't. It didn't work once. But it's you know,
Speaker 1: I think it was a little ahead of its time,
Speaker 1: is really what it was. Yeah, you just you needed
Speaker 1: to wait another like six or seven years before you're
Speaker 1: able to drop that. You were just a man before
Speaker 1: your time. That's all. Let me hear what yours is. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I exactly had one. One of
Speaker 1: my favorites, of course, is are you from Tennessee? Because
Speaker 1: you're the only ten I see. That's always a good one.
Speaker 1: I'm also looking up some cheesy pickup lines on on
Speaker 1: the old Internet. One of my favorite is, Hey, my
Speaker 1: name's Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight? I
Speaker 1: also like this is a good one. Well here I am.
Speaker 1: What are your other two wishes? Hey? Jared, before before
Speaker 1: you read the next hour will pick up line We've
Speaker 1: got a message and I want to top to play?
Speaker 1: Is that okay? Yes, please, Okay, we've never done this before.
Speaker 1: We're recording live on the stereo app, and so we're
Speaker 1: learning as we go. It's it's it's been fun. But
Speaker 1: let's see how this message. Here we go, here we go? Ready? Hey, wait,
Speaker 1: this question is for Dean. Do you man escape? And
Speaker 1: if so, what pattern do you do? Do you do
Speaker 1: a landing strip? Do you do like a heart? I'm
Speaker 1: just looking for some inspiration that is from user A
Speaker 1: one to just some random anonymous user. I guess he
Speaker 1: sounds like douche. Wow, that's I mean, it's a very
Speaker 1: personal question. Do I man escape? Story? Short? Is I
Speaker 1: do man escape? I probably don't do it as frequently
Speaker 1: as I should. And it's this is actual. Really it's
Speaker 1: a good question because I feel like men don't talk
Speaker 1: about the patterns that they shave into their you know,
Speaker 1: their pubic regions enough and we should start to normalize
Speaker 1: this conversation. So I do man escape. I what I
Speaker 1: like to do is everyone's most men at least have
Speaker 1: a happy trail that goes from their belly button to
Speaker 1: their waistline. And what I like to do is just
Speaker 1: kind of carry that happy trail down all the way
Speaker 1: down to the base of you know, my my the genitals,
Speaker 1: I guess, for lack of a better word, Um, so
Speaker 1: it's just it's just one continuous line of hair, just
Speaker 1: a giant landing strip that goes from my belly button
Speaker 1: down to the base. Uh and then the rest of
Speaker 1: it is just nice and clean shaven. So that's kind
Speaker 1: of my that's my method. It's it's it's worked for me.
Speaker 1: I'm happy with it every time I see it in
Speaker 1: the mirror. Um. It detracts from the the the the
Speaker 1: very embarrassingly small size of my other man parts. So
Speaker 1: you know, it kind of keeps me, keeps me happy
Speaker 1: because of all that stuff. Jared, what about you do
Speaker 1: you man? Escape? You know I used to really stay
Speaker 1: on top of it. My poor wife. Now you know,
Speaker 1: once you as you've known, once you get into a relationship,
Speaker 1: you get comfortable, you start uh losing yourself a little bit.
Speaker 1: And I would include manscaping and that I'm no I'm
Speaker 1: no pattern guy or I'm no landing strip guy. I
Speaker 1: just you know, I you know, I just shaved the
Speaker 1: whole thing. I'm a hairy man. If you haven't noticed
Speaker 1: from my chest hair, very hairy ass, just the lots
Speaker 1: down there. It's quite growth disgusting. Uh and uh, so
Speaker 1: I I do my best, not as good as I should, though,
Speaker 1: but you know, like you said, when you're you know,
Speaker 1: clean up down there. Uh, the the you know Junior
Speaker 1: grow you know, he just looks a little bit bigger,
Speaker 1: And that's always the nice. Absolutely. Hey, I'll take anything
Speaker 1: I can get. I need all the advantages, you know,
Speaker 1: so I appreciate that. So I should do a job.
Speaker 1: Do you go like electric razor? Do you straight razor?
Speaker 1: How do you electric razor? All the people who straight razor?
Speaker 1: That part if you're a man, Uh, you're insane, that's
Speaker 1: you're crazy. I've done it a few times, you know,
Speaker 1: as like a young curious kid in my late teens
Speaker 1: or like twenties, and I'm never gonna say it ended poorly,
Speaker 1: but it just it just creates so much just comfort
Speaker 1: down there. Yeah, it's just do you have are you harry? Uh?
Speaker 1: In general? Like do you have hair on your butt? Uh?
Speaker 1: It's a really good question, Jared. Uh. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: actually I'm pretty hairless for the most part. I don't
Speaker 1: really grow facial hair. I don't really go chest chest
Speaker 1: hair the but I will say, ever since a young boy,
Speaker 1: all of the hair that I wasn't growing on my
Speaker 1: face and on my chest and stomach congregated on my
Speaker 1: butt crack, and so I have a hairy butt crack.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it's overly harry. I think that
Speaker 1: it was fully growing the butt crack care when I
Speaker 1: was like fourteen. It fully grew out, and it just
Speaker 1: kind of maintained that, you know, that bushy nous ever
Speaker 1: since then. So it's not like abnormally bushy down there,
Speaker 1: but it definitely was the first part of my body
Speaker 1: that started growing hair was the crack of my butt.
Speaker 1: And I was actually really self conscious about it for
Speaker 1: a long time because I would like see my friends
Speaker 1: growing like beards and you know, mustaches and stuff, and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, well, I've got butt crack care if
Speaker 1: that's like any consolation for you guys. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: it wasn't. I'm pretty hairy down there, unfortunately. And there
Speaker 1: was actually on the show there was a group date
Speaker 1: where there was a wrestling group date where the guys
Speaker 1: had to wear I forget what they're called, but you
Speaker 1: know what the sumo wrestlers wear where their butt cheeks show,
Speaker 1: so the guys had to wear those and think I
Speaker 1: was dude, I was sweating, for lack of a better phrase,
Speaker 1: my balls off. I was so nervous that they were
Speaker 1: gonna put me on this group day and that I
Speaker 1: would have to wear this thing. And honestly, I was
Speaker 1: gonna say no because America was not ready to see
Speaker 1: my ass cheeks. Uh, And I didn't know what I
Speaker 1: for a second. I was like, am I gonna have
Speaker 1: to go up and like just going the shower quickly
Speaker 1: and try to shave as much as I can. Before
Speaker 1: you know I, I take off my pants and we
Speaker 1: do this thing. Thank god that you're telling me you've
Speaker 1: got hair on your cheeks, Oh dude, Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1: Not to get t m I, but all over. And
Speaker 1: one time I shaved, I I shaved everything, and it
Speaker 1: was the worst decision of my life because it was
Speaker 1: it was it was itchy, it was uncomfortable, it was
Speaker 1: so cold. My ass has never been so cold in
Speaker 1: my life, and it was just it was just uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: And I was like, never mind, I'm never doing that again.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna accept you know me as me, and
Speaker 1: you know I'm just a little bit of a gorilla
Speaker 1: down there. And that's quite all right self. Love is
Speaker 1: beautiful on the contrary to that story. So my brother
Speaker 1: is a big I don't I hope he doesn't mind
Speaker 1: to share the story. I don't think he'll ever know
Speaker 1: that I shared this story. But he's a big outdoorsman.
Speaker 1: Uh you know, he hikes and and and goes back
Speaker 1: country skiing all the time. And he had a month
Speaker 1: long excursion in Alaska where they sat at the bottom
Speaker 1: of a of a mountain on a glacier for for
Speaker 1: an entire month, they slept in a tent, uh you know,
Speaker 1: freezing conditions, peeing and pooping outside. And before that trip,
Speaker 1: for preparation, he got his This is what he told me. Obviously,
Speaker 1: I don't have anything to confirm the story, but I
Speaker 1: believe him for for no, I don't don't know why
Speaker 1: I wouldn't believe him. He got his butt crack waxed,
Speaker 1: not shaved, but waxed like a Brazilian wax because he
Speaker 1: didn't want he wanted to have cleaner poops. Essentially, you know,
Speaker 1: you don't want to have to worry about a dirty
Speaker 1: butthole when you're out in Alaska skiing glaciers every single
Speaker 1: day for a month. And he said it was the
Speaker 1: most incredible experience of his life. You know, he said
Speaker 1: that he moved more freely. And I wonder if the
Speaker 1: waxing is different than that's shaving, and that's what maybe
Speaker 1: makes the difference there. But he said, that's waxing permanent.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, Okay, just yeah, you know the more you know,
Speaker 1: absolutely not. We have another we have another voice question.
Speaker 1: Do you have baby names picked out for your future children? Ah?
Speaker 1: So user Becky. Becky wants to know, can you last?
Speaker 1: Becky wants to know do you have Jared? This actually
Speaker 1: kind of more pertains to you and actually because hey,
Speaker 1: you plan on having kids, But do you guys have
Speaker 1: a child names picked out? We do, Well, we have
Speaker 1: one name picked out and Ashley, Ashley likes it for
Speaker 1: both sexes, where I just like it as a dude.
Speaker 1: So we have a name. We don't we're not saying
Speaker 1: what it is. But if it's a boy, if we
Speaker 1: have a boy, uh, then we we definitely have a
Speaker 1: name picked out. If we have a girl, we have
Speaker 1: to discuss further because the name I don't think suits
Speaker 1: a girl as well as a boy. So, but we
Speaker 1: got name picks out. We talked about it, you know,
Speaker 1: we just will you tell us what it is? No,
Speaker 1: we said we were not gonna say anything. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know if you're heard in the background. My
Speaker 1: my wife a k A. The you know, devil on
Speaker 1: my shoulder who's always lottoming and just waiting to pounce. Uh,
Speaker 1: is told me not saying anything, so sorry on your shoulder,
Speaker 1: but also the angel on the other shoulder, she's both.
Speaker 1: I think, all right, I have names, I'll share them.
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not a scared little bitch like you, Jared.
Speaker 1: This is ridiculous, I think so. I think I was
Speaker 1: listening to someone. Some people were saying the effort, So
Speaker 1: I think it's free, free game. Um, if I have
Speaker 1: a boy, I'm gonna I'm gonna name him a Hunter.
Speaker 1: And if I have a girl, I'm gonna name her Debbie. Uh.
Speaker 1: And I understand Debbie is kind of a dated name,
Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of more of like a boomer
Speaker 1: name for lack of a better the word. But I
Speaker 1: think I think everything is cyclical, and I think that
Speaker 1: name will come back into into style. I also don't
Speaker 1: hear the name Alex. I think Alex can go either
Speaker 1: girl or guy. So, um, those are the three names
Speaker 1: that I'm kind of like, you know, leaning towards. I
Speaker 1: like Debbie. That's cute. Yeah, thanks, thanks, Yeah, I like Debbie.
Speaker 1: I really like Hunter. Hunter was the name of my
Speaker 1: best friend that died when I was like really young,
Speaker 1: and so I've always wanted to like let his legacy
Speaker 1: live on through that. You should totally do that. I
Speaker 1: just think it's a badass name too. It's like, you know,
Speaker 1: even if I wasn't doing it to commemorate my friend,
Speaker 1: I still think it's a cool name. You would totally
Speaker 1: give birth to a Hunter like that is just like
Speaker 1: the ultimate Dean child Hunter, because I think of Sean
Speaker 1: Hunting is pretty good. Yeah, I think of Sean Hunter
Speaker 1: the Boy Meets World and Sean Hunter is like one
Speaker 1: of the coolest characters to have a grace my television screen,
Speaker 1: And like I could totally see and give birth to
Speaker 1: a Hunter and him being like just a full school
Speaker 1: didn't he adopt like a drug addiction at some point
Speaker 1: on that show? Um No, I don't think so. I
Speaker 1: heat No, there was an episode where they tried alcohol
Speaker 1: and like Sean had like a sip or two and
Speaker 1: got so drunk and Corey was like traumatized watching that
Speaker 1: episode back in age the best. It was definitely like
Speaker 1: catered to scare you know, twelve year old little Jared
Speaker 1: not to drink, and it worked right right, it worked
Speaker 1: never drink out all in his life. All Right, we're
Speaker 1: gonna do another voice question here. I'm gonna press the
Speaker 1: button this time. I don't know if I pressed the
Speaker 1: last time, but I'm pressing it again. What is your
Speaker 1: favorite thing about each other? Oh, that's a favorite question.
Speaker 1: I'm like, like I'm blushing. I'll let you, Dared go first.
Speaker 1: My favorite thing about Dean, there's so many. Probably my
Speaker 1: favorite thing about you, Dean is just your overall, uh,
Speaker 1: your your overall personality. It's hard to quantify you into
Speaker 1: a single sentence, but you always have a smile on
Speaker 1: your face, always make people around you feel very comfortable.
Speaker 1: I think one of the things that I really love
Speaker 1: about you most is the fact that you just you
Speaker 1: truly care about other people's feelings to the point where
Speaker 1: you want to make sure that everybody's happy and smiling.
Speaker 1: And you'll go out of your way to make sure
Speaker 1: other people are doing okay, and not everybody possesses that
Speaker 1: quality and you do. That's one of my favorite things
Speaker 1: about you. Oh man, it's so great to hear you
Speaker 1: say nice things about me. I love it. It doesn't
Speaker 1: happen often, so don't get used to it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: My favorite thing about Jared, I think is it's funny enough.
Speaker 1: It's it's it's ironic because the thing that I like
Speaker 1: most about Jared is also kind of the thing that
Speaker 1: I make fun of him the most. Four. I really
Speaker 1: like how Jared gets so excited about like the nerdiest
Speaker 1: things like Star Wars, Disneyland movies, you know, just the
Speaker 1: boy bands, all of those things. Uh. And I think
Speaker 1: the reason I make fun of you for it is
Speaker 1: because I'm envs of your ability to, like, you know,
Speaker 1: be so passionate and excited about these things. Um. And
Speaker 1: so I really admire that that characteristic that you're able
Speaker 1: to You have, you know, really good passion and really
Speaker 1: strong passion for those types of things. And well, I
Speaker 1: think that buddy, Yeah, I think I think one of
Speaker 1: the reasons I admire you so much for that is
Speaker 1: because that's something that I wish that I could see
Speaker 1: more in myself so I could keep that up. Buddy,
Speaker 1: it's thank you. Well, it's funny because I feel like
Speaker 1: that's one of the things that actually and I really
Speaker 1: bonded over when we first started becoming friends and then ultimately,
Speaker 1: uh you know, partners, uh, partners in crime, Bonny and Clyde.
Speaker 1: Really that's what they call us. Yeah, But as everybody knows,
Speaker 1: Ashley has no shame, and that's one of her best
Speaker 1: qualities is the fact that she is just so transparent
Speaker 1: and she is passionate and lets everybody knows what she loves.
Speaker 1: And I'm very similar to that. I I played a
Speaker 1: little bit more close to the chest, but the chest,
Speaker 1: but once like you know, somebody brings up something that
Speaker 1: I'm really passionate about, then like they see the other
Speaker 1: side of me. And so that's one of the things
Speaker 1: that really bonded over early. What's the next question, Dean,
Speaker 1: let's play it. I know you're in relationships now, but
Speaker 1: when you guys were dating, what was your number one
Speaker 1: non negotiable deal breaker? Like we need to know, like
Speaker 1: we need to nap a non negotiable breaker I have.
Speaker 1: I had a pet peeve when we were dating. I
Speaker 1: went on a date one time and the girl that
Speaker 1: I went on was just very ignorant to the bar
Speaker 1: and waite staff, and I cannot stand that, especially hospitality background,
Speaker 1: like when somebody comes over and introduces themselves, or if
Speaker 1: they're a bartender and they say hello, make eye contacts,
Speaker 1: say hello back, don't you know, wave your hand. I
Speaker 1: just remember the waiter came over and he started doing
Speaker 1: his spiel. You know, He's like, I'm so insolve be
Speaker 1: taking care of you. These are specials, and like halfway through,
Speaker 1: she was like, oh, I'll take a pomegranate martini. And
Speaker 1: it was like, you know what, No, you won't, because
Speaker 1: this state's over. You just confronted them. She didn't even
Speaker 1: look at the waiter when she said it. She was
Speaker 1: looking down at the menu, and I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: how you treat other people is a big, big factor
Speaker 1: in whether I want to go on a second date
Speaker 1: with you. So that was definitely a deal breaker. Nice, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good one. I would say my biggest deal
Speaker 1: breaker would be, uh, this is kind of like a
Speaker 1: weird blanket that doesn't apply. But I'll get more specific
Speaker 1: as I explain it is, uh just close mindedness. So uh,
Speaker 1: you know, for things like religion or politics, you know,
Speaker 1: those things are naturally going to come up in conversation.
Speaker 1: And if people like have your beliefs whatever they are,
Speaker 1: that's great. But if you like just choose to not
Speaker 1: even just like try to see the other perspective on
Speaker 1: things like religion, politics, and obviously other things kind of
Speaker 1: down that lane, that's kind of a big deal breaker
Speaker 1: for me because, uh, you know, like I said, believe
Speaker 1: what you want to believe. That's perfectly fine, but I
Speaker 1: think that it's you still should at least take the
Speaker 1: time to try and see it from other people's perspectives
Speaker 1: as well, And if you can't do that, then that's
Speaker 1: a big deal breaker for me. Completely agree. Yeah, i'd
Speaker 1: say both those things that we just discussed, and if
Speaker 1: you're a New York Jets fan, deal breakers see it.
Speaker 1: But oh the Jets fan, huh I'm I'm I'm I'm
Speaker 1: half kidding. See, I think you're kind of be like
Speaker 1: a turn on for someone to be like a Raiders fan,
Speaker 1: you know, uh why, Oh you're a Broncos fan. That's right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I could see that. There's like a line, right, like
Speaker 1: Ashley and her family are Giants fans. That's a little
Speaker 1: bit of rivalry, you know, seeing how they beat his
Speaker 1: toys and Super Bowls that I can have fun with.
Speaker 1: But if they were Jets fans and I was like
Speaker 1: surrounded by green and white New York Jets paraphernalia everywhere,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, you know what, this is kind of
Speaker 1: disgusting and I lose respect for you. Yeah. Well, I
Speaker 1: guess I think it's kind of hot in the sense that,
Speaker 1: like disgusted has to be one of the strongest emotions
Speaker 1: humans can feel, you know, So like if I'm disgusted
Speaker 1: by the black and silver, or in your case, the
Speaker 1: blue and white, or after the green and white, whatever
Speaker 1: the heck Jets colors are, uh, it just I think
Speaker 1: it's just kind of like, you know, create some passion there,
Speaker 1: so like heated. Yeah, no, I could totally see, like,
Speaker 1: you know, some some passionate moments being made that could
Speaker 1: be quite fun. But in terms of like a long
Speaker 1: sustaining relationship, yea, not having it? Sure? Sure? Well, I
Speaker 1: mean yeah, because unfortunately you don't have to deal with
Speaker 1: that all right, next question, we're going to get into
Speaker 1: it right here. Hi, I'm going on a first date
Speaker 1: with this guy that I met on a dating app.
Speaker 1: Do I show up early and sit in the car
Speaker 1: and wait till he shows up? Or get a table first?
Speaker 1: Or do I show up a little bit late? What's
Speaker 1: the best way to go about the situation? Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for the question. I know, and a great name, Nancy.
Speaker 1: That's my mother's name. That was Nancy. I have an
Speaker 1: aunt Nancy, who I adore. So yes, all around, A
Speaker 1: great name and a great question, and it's it's one
Speaker 1: that we actually I don't think we've ever even discussed
Speaker 1: on our podcast. I want to say, I hope we
Speaker 1: disagree on this, but I want to say, just show
Speaker 1: up when you show up. Who cares if you're early?
Speaker 1: Who cares if you're a little bit late. Time is
Speaker 1: just the number that we assigned to the position of
Speaker 1: a son. It's like, who cares if you're five pence
Speaker 1: early five minutes late? If you do show up earlier, though, Nancy,
Speaker 1: if you do show up early, do not just wait
Speaker 1: in the car, Go inside, get a table, Maybe you
Speaker 1: order yourself a drink. You know, it depends what if
Speaker 1: you drink. If you don't drink, don't but you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, there's no need to just kind of
Speaker 1: sit in the car and wait, just go in, hang
Speaker 1: out and then when he texts you or whatever that
Speaker 1: he's there, like, great, I'm inside, come on in, you know.
Speaker 1: Leave it up to the guy living in a van
Speaker 1: to tell Nancy it doesn't matter if you show up
Speaker 1: on time. Time is relative being an hourly. Who cares?
Speaker 1: What the reason? Yeah? Um? No. Well, first of all, Nancy,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for the question. Of course, we
Speaker 1: are on the stereo app right now recording live. This
Speaker 1: has helped by second dating, dany babies, and myself uh
Speaker 1: answering questions. This one comes from Nancy. So shouldn't she
Speaker 1: be on time for a date? I think so? I
Speaker 1: think being on time? Uh. One of the turnoffs for
Speaker 1: me is when somebody's running late and they don't let
Speaker 1: me know, and they're like, I don't mean like five
Speaker 1: minutes late, that's fine, But if you're running like fifteen
Speaker 1: twenty minutes late, already a bad taste in my mouth.
Speaker 1: I think there are different rules for a guy and
Speaker 1: a girl. I think for Nancy, you're fine not showing
Speaker 1: up early. Um, you can show up right on time
Speaker 1: or even five minutes late if you want, but be
Speaker 1: you know, be respectful of other people's time frames. If
Speaker 1: you do get there early, my suggestion is don't go
Speaker 1: to the table. My suggestion is checking with the host
Speaker 1: dam let them know you're there, and then go to
Speaker 1: the bar. Like Dean said, even if you don't want
Speaker 1: to drink, order yourself water or you know, coke. Uh,
Speaker 1: you know, do whatever you want. But for some reason,
Speaker 1: I find it quite sexy when if I show up
Speaker 1: there the woman that I'm on a date with is
Speaker 1: at the bar. I don't know why. Maybe it's just
Speaker 1: me working at bars all my life. But because you've
Speaker 1: seen one too many James Bond movies or something, you know,
Speaker 1: I always envisioned myself being James Bond when I go on.
Speaker 1: It's especially when I fall on a full text. You know,
Speaker 1: I walk up, I order a strawberry jack ory shake
Speaker 1: and not stirred. Um. It's good stuff. I will say too.
Speaker 1: Just to be clear, Nancy, I don't think you should
Speaker 1: intentionally be late. I think that plan to get there
Speaker 1: on time, but sometimes life gets in the way and
Speaker 1: slows you down a little bit. And so if you
Speaker 1: end up being late, like Jared said, just communicated clearly, uh,
Speaker 1: and say hey, I'm gonna be five ten minutes later,
Speaker 1: however long it is. Because I agree with Jared, if
Speaker 1: you don't even communicate that you're going to be late,
Speaker 1: that's very frustrating, just like cand of keep the other
Speaker 1: person in there now. Yeah, don't be You could be fashionable,
Speaker 1: fashionably late, but let them know, be respectful of somebody
Speaker 1: else's time. Alright, next question. Hi, So I have kind
Speaker 1: of an unrelated question, but a bunch of my friends
Speaker 1: are considering getting back with their exes because of quarantine,
Speaker 1: and I was just wondering if you had any advice
Speaker 1: on how to tell them to not do that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: remember why you guys broke up in the first place. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I definitely. It's funny because I feel like, I think
Speaker 1: this question from a few other people like that I'm
Speaker 1: friends with. Uh, it's just like convenient and comfortable and
Speaker 1: you kind of know what you're gonna be getting yourself into.
Speaker 1: It doesn't come with a prerequisite of we're just gonna
Speaker 1: be together for quarantine and then break up again afterwards.
Speaker 1: I personally don't think it's a good idea. I think
Speaker 1: Jared probably agrees with that. It's just like, like, like
Speaker 1: Jared said, it's like, why did you break up with
Speaker 1: them in the first place? Are those problems resolved? I
Speaker 1: think that when we start to like kind of think
Speaker 1: about our exes when we're single and lonely, we kind
Speaker 1: of romanticize the relationship and only remember the good things
Speaker 1: about it and forget about all of the reasons why
Speaker 1: we broke up with them in the first place. So
Speaker 1: at least to bad things. Yeah, I agree, I think Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: I think the user name was Alison. Thank you Alison
Speaker 1: for that question. Uh, listen, Unfortunately, sometimes your friends just
Speaker 1: don't listen to you. They have to experience it for themselves.
Speaker 1: And so even though you know it's a bad idea
Speaker 1: for them to get back together with their X, I
Speaker 1: feel like the only way for them to realize that
Speaker 1: it's a bad idea is by getting back together with
Speaker 1: them and then being reminded of all the reasons why
Speaker 1: they broke up. So, unfortunately, the best course of action
Speaker 1: might be for them to get back together with them
Speaker 1: and then realize a couple of weeks in like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's right, there's a reason as to why this has
Speaker 1: ended because there's there's a difference between someone telling you
Speaker 1: it's not gonna work and then it actually not working.
Speaker 1: I agree, And it is kind of it's it kind
Speaker 1: of like closes the door on it completely, where it's
Speaker 1: like maybe you would have spent some time wondering whether
Speaker 1: it would work again or not, and sometimes you just
Speaker 1: need like that that that, yeah, you get some closure.
Speaker 1: All right, Jared, we're gonna try something here. So it
Speaker 1: said there's someone waiting a mind to talk to us.
Speaker 1: Are you ready to talk to someone? I'm a little scared.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. We don't usually do this dating.
Speaker 1: I'm pressing the button here on the stereo app. It's
Speaker 1: me and Jared talking live with someone. Here we go, Oh,
Speaker 1: change partner. No, I don't want to change partner. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. We're going to ask you, okay. Claire
Speaker 1: and Dale have me questioning love at first sight, and
Speaker 1: I want to get your ays as perspective on that.
Speaker 1: Is that real? Do you think love at first sight
Speaker 1: is real? Or is that just a factuation? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I need to know. I need to know more on that.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I need to know. I'm sorry making
Speaker 1: fun of it's only it's only because we love them
Speaker 1: so much and they're so near and neared our hearts.
Speaker 1: And thank you so much for listening. What was what
Speaker 1: was your name toward Bell? Yeah? Yeah, well you know
Speaker 1: that was Tori are one of our very very favorite listeners,
Speaker 1: and she has made it very clear that she is
Speaker 1: our biggest fan and said, Tory, we appreciate that question.
Speaker 1: She stalks us both it's kind of like creepy sometimes,
Speaker 1: like she just constantly d ms or comments. It's like
Speaker 1: getting a little moms. We appreciate the love and the comments.
Speaker 1: There is just being facetious love at first sight. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I necessarily believe in love at first sight.
Speaker 1: I don't. Uh, I don't know, maybe just because I've
Speaker 1: never experienced it myself, so it's hard for me to
Speaker 1: rally behind the idea of it. But it's hard to
Speaker 1: imagine like just that happening for me. What do you think? Well,
Speaker 1: my wife would kill me for saying this, but I
Speaker 1: do not believe in love at first sight either. She does,
Speaker 1: she said, and it's the sweetest, most endearing thing, and
Speaker 1: it's so great because she says that she fell in
Speaker 1: love with me at first sight, which is so Disney
Speaker 1: and fantastic and I love every second of it for
Speaker 1: Dale and Claire. I don't know, it's so hard. How
Speaker 1: do you know the difference between love and lust? Literally
Speaker 1: the first time you set eyes on someone? Like, how
Speaker 1: does how can you have listen? I'm well, I'm a
Speaker 1: believer in emotional intelligence, but like, my god, how much
Speaker 1: I'm more should intelligence must you need for you to
Speaker 1: be able to decipher the difference between love and lust?
Speaker 1: Literally the second lay eyes on someone, Like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if I can buy into that or not, because like,
Speaker 1: here's what, Here's what I think love at first sight
Speaker 1: is even a thing is because, like you just said,
Speaker 1: we're lusting for someone. We see someone, we're like, Wow,
Speaker 1: that person is really hot. I wanted to know them better,
Speaker 1: And then when they get to know them better, they
Speaker 1: realize that they do love them as well when we
Speaker 1: like that. The reason that love at first sight exists
Speaker 1: is because we're always reminded of the success stories of
Speaker 1: love at first sight, and we're we always forget about
Speaker 1: the failures which happens to us. You know, nine nine
Speaker 1: out of a hundred times love at first sight fails
Speaker 1: at us because we're attracted to someone at a bar,
Speaker 1: we go up and talk to them, we realize we
Speaker 1: have nothing in common, and then we move on. We
Speaker 1: we don't hear these stories. We hear the I walked
Speaker 1: up to them, we fell in love, and now we're
Speaker 1: married with three kids kind of thing. Um, that's kind
Speaker 1: of why how many times have you heard or I've
Speaker 1: heard it before? We're like they someone says they thought
Speaker 1: it was love at first sight and then it proves
Speaker 1: itself that it wasn't love at first sight and it
Speaker 1: didn't work out. And like, I I completely agree with you, Dean.
Speaker 1: I think, listen, there's you know, you might feel those
Speaker 1: those you know, infatuation feelings right away and then you
Speaker 1: grow into love with someone, and that's fantastic. But I
Speaker 1: don't think like because it also you know what it
Speaker 1: like really just devalues what I believe love is by
Speaker 1: saying you can truly love someone, uh, only by seeing
Speaker 1: them for you know, ten seconds, fifteen seconds, Because like,
Speaker 1: love is complicated, and it's intense, and it's hard sometimes
Speaker 1: and it takes effort and and like you know, it
Speaker 1: takes trust, and there's so much that goes into love. Um,
Speaker 1: The idea for me personally, that something so heavy can
Speaker 1: happen so instantaneously is something that I just choose not
Speaker 1: to believe because I feel like a d values what
Speaker 1: I think love is. Yeah, well said, well said? All right,
Speaker 1: well guys, we are recording live here on the stereo app.
Speaker 1: Still we have a couple more questions. We're gonna get
Speaker 1: to this next one right now. My question is for Jared. Jared,
Speaker 1: I am a diehard Jets fan, and I know you
Speaker 1: are a diehard Patriot fan, So I'm wondering, how is
Speaker 1: it living with a Giants fan after they beat you
Speaker 1: twice in the Super Bowl? Oh? Wow? Yeah, Jetman coming
Speaker 1: in hard with the questions. Uh. You know, when I
Speaker 1: first met Ashley's parents and we went downstairs, I saw
Speaker 1: a blow up poster of Tom Brady getting sacked by
Speaker 1: Michael Strahan and Super Bowl for you two, and it
Speaker 1: just maybe want to leave the house and never come back.
Speaker 1: But luckily we've won three Super Bowls since we lost
Speaker 1: twice to the Giants, So honestly, the Giants losses don't
Speaker 1: even hurt me that much anymore. I mean, we've won
Speaker 1: six for Christ six, Like, how much more can I
Speaker 1: possibly ask for where the best of all time? No
Speaker 1: other franchise has ever won six Super Bowls in the
Speaker 1: span of twenty years. Like, hey, it's pretty good. You know,
Speaker 1: I could be worse. I could be a Jets fan.
Speaker 1: Dang think I hate Patriots fans. You guys are such losers. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's so easy to be a fan of the best
Speaker 1: team for the past two decades. Yeah, congratulations on your
Speaker 1: six Super Bowls. Why don't you try having a freaking
Speaker 1: losing season for once in your life. Oh, you're gonna
Speaker 1: have one this season, and you're gonna cry about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't wait to see you cry about this losing season.
Speaker 1: You guys are dude. It sucks. That's why. Like I
Speaker 1: never took for granted in the past twenty years. It
Speaker 1: was like, I know that someday this is gonna end
Speaker 1: and it's gonna suck afterwards. So like, I'm going to
Speaker 1: enjoy this as long as possible. And trust me, I
Speaker 1: know where you're coming from, because now as an outside
Speaker 1: er looking in, God do I hate the Chiefs. I
Speaker 1: just want the Chiefs to lose well, and the Bills
Speaker 1: Man Bill's Mafia is real this year, So you got
Speaker 1: that I know, but the Bills are good like whatever,
Speaker 1: but the Chiefs are like really good. And you know,
Speaker 1: people are already like saying Maho, like will Mahomes catch
Speaker 1: Brady six bowls? And it's like, shut up, can Homes
Speaker 1: just win a second one before we start talking about six?
Speaker 1: So I'm getting really tired. The Broncos played them pretty
Speaker 1: competitively last week too. I have to say that. I
Speaker 1: just want to point that out. I like, if you
Speaker 1: give us a real starting quarterback and not a freaking
Speaker 1: practice wide receiver to run quarterback for us, we you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say we're the best team, but I
Speaker 1: will say we're more competitive than our record set. Uma,
Speaker 1: are we gonna try this phone call thing again? Before
Speaker 1: we sign off? I will have two more questions to
Speaker 1: get through. I'm scared if I take the phone call,
Speaker 1: it's gonna push you out and then bring them in
Speaker 1: and you won't be on the thing anymore. So one
Speaker 1: more question. Okay, what is the equivalent of flowers to
Speaker 1: a guy? Like? For example, a guy can get a
Speaker 1: girl flowers if like they're sorry or on a first date,
Speaker 1: But what can a girl get a guy like? That's
Speaker 1: an item that's equivalent to flowers. I know exactly what
Speaker 1: Jared's going to say about this. Do you hear me
Speaker 1: going in the background shared say no, No, Jared's gonna say,
Speaker 1: we don't know how, we don't know who's listening, the
Speaker 1: age demographic that's listening. So I don't think this is
Speaker 1: an a teen plus platform. So I wasn't gonna give
Speaker 1: an eighteen plus answer. I was gonna say, Jared is
Speaker 1: gonna say, just get me flowers, Jared. I think Jared
Speaker 1: thinks that flowers as a gift can be given to
Speaker 1: guys as well, Like the male equivalent of getting a
Speaker 1: girl flowers is getting a guy flowers as well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I gotta be honest, I don't know if I'd be
Speaker 1: too happy if I actually got me flowers. I'd be soaked.
Speaker 1: If Kalin got me flowers, I do feel I feel
Speaker 1: so cool about that. What type of flower would you want?
Speaker 1: Would you want roses? You know? I roses are very cliche,
Speaker 1: I gotta say, but I still wouldn't hate Maybe just
Speaker 1: like a nice medley of flowers. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't see why flowers have to be so gender specific,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't why not just get your boyfriend
Speaker 1: flowers for that listener that that sent that question, Hannah,
Speaker 1: I think what's your name? Um, Hannah? If you if
Speaker 1: you made your boyfriend upset and you want to do
Speaker 1: something to make him feel better, just get him some flowers.
Speaker 1: I think you'd really appreciate it. Or maybe buy him
Speaker 1: you know called duty cold war. Uh, maybe get him
Speaker 1: like a platter of wings from ling Stop. I think
Speaker 1: all of these are are adequate. It is kind of
Speaker 1: funny though, when you think about like flowers are seen
Speaker 1: as like this universal gift that all women love, and
Speaker 1: like there isn't like I'm trying to think of something
Speaker 1: towards a guy that you can get him, Like I
Speaker 1: don't even know a TV? Is that? Like? You know? Well,
Speaker 1: it's funny because Caroline was talking about what she's gonna
Speaker 1: get me for Christmas and I was like, the only
Speaker 1: thing that I want that I don't have right now
Speaker 1: is an Xbox, like the new Xbox just came out,
Speaker 1: and she was like, I've tried so hard to get
Speaker 1: you a new Xbox, but they're sold out everywhere. So
Speaker 1: if anyone works for Microsoft and listening to this live
Speaker 1: recording on the stereo app of help. I second dating,
Speaker 1: Please send me an Xbox for Christmas? Very much. All right,
Speaker 1: we're gonna get to the next question. Here we go.
Speaker 1: What has been the silver lining of That's a good question,
Speaker 1: you know. Here what do you think has been the
Speaker 1: silver lining this year? The spardine? I think it allows
Speaker 1: us to like realign our priorities and our interests. You know,
Speaker 1: there was a bunch of stuff mid quarantine. I remember
Speaker 1: seeing that was like if if you have an excuse
Speaker 1: not to do something and it was time and you
Speaker 1: still haven't done it during the quarantine, then you don't
Speaker 1: have an excuse that It's not that you don't have time,
Speaker 1: it's that you're lazy. And so it's kind of allowed
Speaker 1: us to like maybe see ourselves more clearly. You know,
Speaker 1: because a lot of people are working from home, a
Speaker 1: lot of people are furloughed or you know, collecting unemployment
Speaker 1: and are hoping to get back into the workforce eventually,
Speaker 1: and so a lot of us have a lot of
Speaker 1: time on our hands to do things, and I think
Speaker 1: a lot of us are kind of taking that for granted.
Speaker 1: And um, you know, I I see myself do all
Speaker 1: the time too. It's like you know, I've gotten a
Speaker 1: lot done. I've learned how to play the saxophone. I've
Speaker 1: worked on my van a lot, I've done a bunch
Speaker 1: of other things that I've I've wanted to do for
Speaker 1: a long time. And I finally have been able to
Speaker 1: use this as as kind of like the catalyst to
Speaker 1: push me there. But then I also feel myself kind
Speaker 1: of like sliding into these lazy rets where I just
Speaker 1: played too much call of duty or you know, I've
Speaker 1: play a lot of golf, which is fun for me,
Speaker 1: but maybe not the most constructive thing for my life overall.
Speaker 1: So I think it really kind of like allows us
Speaker 1: to see ourselves more clearly. You know. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: First of all, we need more videos if you playing
Speaker 1: the saxophone, because I need to see the progress in this.
Speaker 1: You were posting and then you stopped. Yeah, I I
Speaker 1: haven't taken a lesson probably in a good two or
Speaker 1: three months. Uh. And it's you know, it's it'll get there.
Speaker 1: I think once we moved to our own house and
Speaker 1: I finally have like a recording studio per se, I'll
Speaker 1: be able to to practice a lot more. So. Ah um, Well,
Speaker 1: so I think for me, the silver lining for twenty
Speaker 1: luckily has been the time we've been able to spend
Speaker 1: with family um as as funny as it was to
Speaker 1: quarantine at my parents, you know, my my in laws
Speaker 1: for for three months. Really, UM, the idea of like,
Speaker 1: I mean, that's just never gonna happen again. You know
Speaker 1: that that that time that actually was being able to
Speaker 1: spend with their parents because we were quarantined, like, that's
Speaker 1: probably never gonna happen again. So that was definitely a
Speaker 1: still aligning the ability to just really be with be
Speaker 1: with family. UM. Once again, we are on the stereo
Speaker 1: app uh coming to you live help by Second Dating.
Speaker 1: It's Pappy's dad A K. Dean and myself JAREDY and
Speaker 1: we're gonna answer one more question on the app uh. Dean,
Speaker 1: you want to press play because you've been doing it.
Speaker 1: I don't want to screw it up. Here we go, Jared,
Speaker 1: what is your best piece of a marriage advice? But well, Dean,
Speaker 1: I think you can answer this to saying how you're married. Um,
Speaker 1: best marriage advice would be whoever you're going to marry,
Speaker 1: just don't forget that this is somebody that you're going
Speaker 1: to have a conversation with every day. Multiple times a
Speaker 1: day for the rest of your life. And so I
Speaker 1: would just say, make sure whoever you're going to marry
Speaker 1: that you know you have a friendship with, because this
Speaker 1: person will ultimately become your best friend, whether they are
Speaker 1: or they're you know, whether they're your actual best friend
Speaker 1: or not, because you just spend so much time with
Speaker 1: this person. Luckily, for Ashley and I, you know, we're
Speaker 1: obviously very close friends for quite some time before we
Speaker 1: started dating, and I, you know, I've seen the difference
Speaker 1: in this relationship compared to previous ones, um because of
Speaker 1: that strong foundation that you know, we were able to
Speaker 1: luckily build. Um, you know, just coincidentally, just because you know,
Speaker 1: obviously I was a little hesitant jumping into a relationship
Speaker 1: with her. We don't have to go down that story,
Speaker 1: but I would say that's my best advice is the
Speaker 1: idea that like this person that you're going to marry,
Speaker 1: which you hope to spend the rest of your life with,
Speaker 1: is somebody that you will ultimately become best friends with,
Speaker 1: whether you want to or not. UM. So I think
Speaker 1: I think that you're a big thing for a successful marriage,
Speaker 1: speaking from experience as well, is insparency and communication and
Speaker 1: I know, like you you hear that beat to death.
Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about communication like talking about your
Speaker 1: feeling obviously, talk about your emotions and your feelings and
Speaker 1: your desires and your requirements and all those things. That's
Speaker 1: that's very, very important. But I think transparency in the
Speaker 1: sense of everything across the gambit. Like Kalen for instance,
Speaker 1: you know, she has her her face, uh log into
Speaker 1: my phone, my passwords, she can log into any one
Speaker 1: of them, like, not that she ever would, don't like
Speaker 1: she never would log onto my Instagram, but like she
Speaker 1: has the ability to at any point. We have you know,
Speaker 1: each other's like bank logins, we know each other's credit scores,
Speaker 1: we like everything like she like she literally is an
Speaker 1: extension of me. And if anything, if I ever needed
Speaker 1: to get into like I'm like logging into my Facebook
Speaker 1: sometimes and I'm like, hey, do you remember my Facebook password?
Speaker 1: And she'll like tell me that. And I just think
Speaker 1: that that has kind of allowed us to have like
Speaker 1: a deeper understanding and trust in each other. Um. And
Speaker 1: so that is my advice for all transparency. I think
Speaker 1: that's great advice. Yeah, yeah, well, I think that's going
Speaker 1: to do it for our live Stereo episode, Jared, we
Speaker 1: recorded live on the Stereo apps for the first time,
Speaker 1: and I think we're gonna do this a few more
Speaker 1: times actually, so be sure to follow Help I Suck
Speaker 1: a Dating be sure to download the Stereo app in
Speaker 1: the app store. Uh, and we'll kind of keep you
Speaker 1: guys posted if and when we do this again, because
Speaker 1: it's nice to be able to hear live questions, um
Speaker 1: and answer them here live as well. And and the
Speaker 1: live kind of adds a whole new dynamic to it,
Speaker 1: you know. If we're recording prerecorded on the Help I
Speaker 1: Suck a Dating podcast, we can like take things out,
Speaker 1: but this not so much. Whatever we say sticks around forever.
Speaker 1: So uh, what do you think? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, alright,
Speaker 1: we're gonna say by now. I'm sorry I was reading
Speaker 1: something while I was while I was saying the Fords,
Speaker 1: So we're gonna say by now. Thank you guys for
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