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Hey, Siri, I commanded holding down the home button. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:10.759 Remind me to call Womanizer at eight pm tonight. There's 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:15.800 an excerpt from our Girls, Christine Michelle Carter's book mom AF. 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:18.960 It's sexy, it's hilarious, it's a quick read, and it's 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:23.840 for moms. Go to Christine Michellecarter dot com slash MOMAF. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:35.000 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:35.559 I'm Nila. 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:39.000 Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday, bechees. 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:41.399 You don't even realize we need to do what? We 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.520 need a Humpday shirt? Ooh, you know what I think? 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:45.160 I told you this? 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:45.560 You did. 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.319 I feel like me and Erica are pinking in the brain. 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:48.880 I'd be like, let's do this, and then three days 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:51.880 later she's like, I have the greatest idea. I'd be like, Erica, 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:53.320 I literally said this to. 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:58.240 You when recently, like a month ago, Well, why didn't 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:58.960 we do it? 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:01.320 Because I probably forgot I was expecting you to remember. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:02.160 I'm happy to remember. 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:02.680 Here we are. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:08.280 We do you need a Humpty shirt? Because we'll be humped. 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:11.880 We do and our podcast comes out on Humpty because 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:12.480 it's important. 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:12.880 Yeah. 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.160 Amen, how are you feeling? 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:18.880 I'm good. I'm good. I'm comfy in my good mom's 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:21.320 merch today. You know, I have our vintage tea on. 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:24.360 I know you look beautiful. I love our this shirt 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:26.720 specifically because I feel like it just goes with everything. 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:28.960 It really does, and it looks classy and it just 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:31.480 like it has a nice vintage wash on it, and 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:33.320 it fits on the breast just perfectly. 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:36.000 It looks good with my gold accents and jewelery. Yes, 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:38.320 there are about some gold loving beaches. I know. I 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.280 tried to like this is silver. It's like the only 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.160 silver thing I own. It's cute. I mean it has 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:42.760 gold on it. 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:47.760 Yeah, I couldn't stray because gold is for royalties with 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:49.760 silver flour coourse. 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:55.720 The fuck pants medium to wealthy peasants, medium wealth. It's 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:58.799 for medium wealth. But girl, this is for grand wealth. 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:07.120 Oh okay, got it? Yal okay. I'm so excited. 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.120 I feel like I'm all energized because Costa Rica is 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:14.520 very soon. I'm feeling in my wellness space. I'm ready 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:18.239 to like just let go and crack open and cry 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.520 and shit. I've been in therapy, so I'm just feeling 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:26.680 just rather empowered and ready for twenty twenty two. Someone 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:30.240 told me that twenty twenty one whatever, it's a year 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:33.760 of a five, twenty twenty. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:35.960 One and that's not good. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:40.040 What but twenty do that? But twenty twenty one. But 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:43.520 twenty twenty two is a year of a six, so 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:44.160 that's good. 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:46.840 Oh okay, so yeah, but this year's good. I don't know. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:47.640 I'm not mad at this. 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:49.920 I'm not mad at twenty twenty two, and everything's I 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:52.040 did well, We're not mad at twenty twenty one, twenty one. 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:53.440 It feels better to be in twenty five. 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.840 Better here. But I was good there. I mean, I 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:57.760 had a lot of anxiety, but I had to face it, 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.040 and I feel better. I've been facing that, so I 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.040 haven't had like a lot of anxiety over the last 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:03.320 few weeks or months. 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:05.680 Yeah, I feel renewed. 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:10.080 I'm sorry, guys, I'm high. Heard the usual. I took 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.160 a tink shure, which I usually don't do, but if you. 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:13.680 Ask me right before, She's like, should I take this? 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:15.880 You got you really high? And I was like, yeah, 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:17.520 but I had COVID. When I took it, I didn't 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:19.080 know I had COVID and I took the shit and 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:22.000 I was hallucinating basically, so I said. 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:23.360 I take it upon myself to take a full tink 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.159 shirt today. Feeling good, feeling right. 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.800 Well, don't worry, baby girl, I'll take the reins from here. 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:33.840 Thanks you guys. Today we have a special guest. We 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:39.480 have yet me sucking it up, Saddy Sanchez us in 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:40.680 our accents. 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:43.040 Today we have Chatty Sanchez. 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:46.000 You like my sexy voice, Chattis I did that? 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:49.000 Yeah, you guys made it sound really cute, really sexy. 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:53.600 Jatty Sanchez is here. She is the mama entrepreneur. Do 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:57.280 her of many things. I've been stalking your instagram and looking. 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:59.600 I was like, she's a chef. I'm like, I need 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.040 to come to her house. Plus, her kitchen looks really nice. 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:03.400 I was like, what is his countertop? 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:08.160 Me and Erica are like niggas sliding your DM so hard, 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.120 Like she looks so pretty, she looks so cool. 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:11.000 Oh she could cook. 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:14.680 I love cook, I know, and actually sounds smart. Connected 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:16.480 us and he was like, you have to meet her, 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:19.040 egg because that's how you are. Yeah yeah, yeah, it. 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.039 Was like, no, you have to meet her. You guys 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:22.080 are going to be best friends. 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.880 From now on. Like I was, like, he's so full 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:26.640 of positive energy. 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.800 He's happy. Bay guys, we talked about talked about him 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.480 in the past, but like, yeah, you've talked about him 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:32.840 on this podcast. Yeah, and he but he's like one 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:35.360 of my best friends. Like I love that man dearly, 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.520 and his energy is unmatched. It's unmatched, and he's a 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:39.440 great connection. Truly. 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:41.719 I had a dream about him last night, really, but 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:45.479 I think because I was coming here. The dream was 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.719 that he was trying to hire an assistant. 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.360 I literally feel like he's with health. 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:51.400 With health benefits. 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:55.520 Specially I got to care about over there care and ship. 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.520 I was like, Wow, this is a great job. We're 0:05:58.560 --> 0:05:59.719 going to give her health benefits. 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.600 Sounds like him, I really care about her well being, 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:05.120 making sure that she can also get therapy while working 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:05.479 with him. 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:08.279 I literally I wish that I could read dreams, because 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:09.800 this is quite the specific one. 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:14.320 Very I have very wild, vivid dreams me too, very 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:15.160 very wild vivid. 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:16.080 When's your birthday? 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:20.840 February eleven? Oh, Aquarius, Aquarius? What about you? 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:22.040 Guys? 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:26.120 Cancer cool even to the stars and moons and knowledge? 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:30.320 Yeah I am, yeah, you know you're rising in yours? 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:34.960 What tors rising capricorn moon. 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:36.880 Are you very organized? 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:41.159 Yeah, I think like I'm very organized, and I think 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.640 like because Aquariuses are also very just like aloof and 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:47.400 like very airy, go with the flow, right, But the 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:51.159 Capricorn grounds me in which like I work really hard, 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:55.320 I'm almost orcolic like, and i really need to accomplish things, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.440 like I'm very big on that. So that's where that 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:02.360 comes from. And then Taurus is like super earth grounded down. 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:05.360 My daughter's a Taurus. I think my daughter too really 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:07.480 game is my name some advice because she'll be a 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.000 teenager one day? Yeah, they say the Taurus is also 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.080 love luxury, which I've seen across the board. My god, 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.240 seen it across the boarding my six year old. 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:20.200 Yeah, my friend's been calling me bougie lately, just lately, 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:22.440 more now than ever. 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:25.560 But it's just because I just like nice things and 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:27.240 comfortable things in my home. 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:30.160 Like I think as you get older too, like it's 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.040 just like that's you lean into that, you lean into 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.440 whatever it is you're meant to lean into. And Tauruses, 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:41.840 y'all love some comfortable, luxurious shit at all times, including 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.160 my six year old child, which is strange. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:46.440 What does she what is it? 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:48.320 She just likes like, first of all, she's like a 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:50.400 little bit o CD, like she needs things to be 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:56.000 like organized and clean, and she just loves soft things 0:07:56.200 --> 0:08:02.000 like she's really into like, oh my god, my daughter too, yeah, blankets, soft, sweatshirts, soft, 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:06.240 anything like yeah, And it's the same way and just 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:09.520 like cute shit. She just always wants like I don't know. 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:11.560 My mom is a glandma I call her. My mom 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:15.560 is also like level twenty five bougie and so them together, 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:18.320 they're like my mom is like nurturing the bouginess in her, 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:20.960 and I'm left behind because my mom has always been 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:23.600 like why are you so cheap? And I'm like, I'm not. 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.040 I just would rather have experiences. She's like, no, you 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.400 should have matching pajamas at the underwears need to match. 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:32.520 The blush needs to match that. Like I'm like, oh 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:37.559 my god, the blush wonder. So yeah, anyway, I don't 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:38.880 know how we got on this tange. And now we 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:40.240 asked her what her sign was on I. 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.679 Was speaking of the moons and the stars were such 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:43.920 ally bitches. What's your sign? 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.120 What's your rising? I know what's your moon. 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:50.600 It's Tarot time, lady time, and today, well actually shout 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:53.800 out to the mahogany tarot deck that we've been using 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:55.160 to Kashira Hickson. 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.040 Go and check out the mahogany tarot deck. It's a 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:58.120 black deck and it's mom. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.439 But today we pulled the World card, and I I 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:02.880 feel like, I don't know if we've ever pulled this 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:07.880 card on the show, but the World card is I 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.880 think it's about travel. And there's a naked woman wrapped 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.480 in a purple cloth dancing inside a large lotrel wreath 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:17.120 and she looks behind to her past while her body 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:19.840 moves forward to the future, and her hands are two 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:22.520 wands or baton's like the one the magician holds. It 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:25.280 is a symbol that what was manifested with Magician has 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.920 now come to completion with the World. It means the 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:31.280 World card appears in a tarro reading You're glowing with 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:35.360 a sense of wholeness, achievement, fulfillment and completion. A long 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:38.760 term project, period of steady relationship or career has come 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:41.680 full circle and you are now revealing in the sense 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:46.120 of closure and accomplishment. This card could represent graduation, a marriage, 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.640 the birth of a child, or achieving a long term 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:52.080 hell dream or aspiration, or maybe a closing of a project. 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:56.200 You have finally accomplished your goal or purpose and everything 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.319 has come together and you are in the right place, 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:00.600 doing the right thing, achieving what you have vision, and 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:04.800 you feel whole and complete, and it encourages you to 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:07.559 reflect in your journey and honor your achievements and tune 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:11.319 into your spiritual lessons, celebrate your success, and bask in 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:13.520 the joy of having brought your goals to fruition. 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:17.080 Okay, maybe that speaks to you. I mean it speaks 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:17.280 to me. 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:20.920 I think all of us are workaholics. Yeah, and the 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:26.840 completetion sometimes it's like setting back, basking and what you've completed. Yeah, 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:28.960 sometimes it's hard for me to I don't I complete shit. 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:32.480 I don't even acknowledge it. I just keep going yeah, yeah, 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:36.120 I know, yeah, we're company over here. But yeah, sometimes 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:38.880 I complete ship and I don't even realize I completed it. 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:41.720 Like I moved on so quick that I didn't even 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.000 celebrate the win of the completion of the thing. 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.120 Well, because there's like then you've won and you have 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:48.280 to hold on to the wind, and like how do 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:50.360 you propel, Like how do you not go back down. 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:51.040 From the wind sphere. 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:53.320 That's like the thing I talked about last year saying 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:56.080 how like I'm a little bit afraid of success because 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.920 I don't know how I will maintain it, Like there's 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.839 this like level of life, especially like I'm glad that 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:04.120 like the progression of our podcast on our show has 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:07.640 been slow, because it's like when people go from like 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.320 zero to one hundred, Like I feel like there's even 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:11.880 more anxiety are at least there would be for me? 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:15.680 Yeah, right, I always hear that it's much better. Like 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:20.040 gradual successes is a lot long term mentality, right, you 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.520 want to think long term, so it's gonna take a 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:24.280 while to to. 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:25.280 Build, you know. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:28.319 Like I always think like how jay Z didn't put 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:30.040 out his first album, I think until he was twenty 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:33.360 six or twenty seven, and I think something like that, 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:37.760 which is considered like older, right, but look at him, 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:39.360 you know, slow and steady, like when. 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:41.520 I mean look at no, look at uh this he 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:46.440 two chains oh changed? Okay? Oh yeah, his career his forties, I. 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:49.240 Think he was he was, yeah, he was around for 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:51.280 a minute, but like obviously did his pops in that. 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:53.120 Big success he had a different name. 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:55.040 He was like Rapha andandered it a whole different Yeah, 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:59.280 and has come a long motherfucking way just being steady steady. 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.000 But I mean, I mean we're talking about men. I 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:03.120 think the society is a lot more forgiving with men 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.240 when it comes to that. I think with women especially, 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:08.959 it's a lot different, especially if you're in certain forms 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:12.600 of you know, entertainment specifically. Yeah, I mean, God. 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.560 Was the expiration on you? Oh my god? 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:15.520 What was I watching? 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:18.480 I was watching something about like this actress was saying. 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:21.439 Like the Hollywood expiration date for actresses is like forty, 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:24.080 Like after forty her career changed and she couldn't even 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:27.600 get acting roles, and like it was just like the 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:29.960 agist in that in the industry of acting. I mean 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:33.120 I've even felt that way too, like being like being 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.760 acting since I'm like a kid, and then like getting 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.120 older and older still not making it in the way 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:39.640 that I wanted to, and be like am I going 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:41.080 to age out of this shit or whatever? 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:43.280 I even get where I feel like I should be. 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:47.000 Yeah, I mean it's it's it's in so many industries, 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:52.400 like the money, but I think that it's fake, It's 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:56.080 not real. Obviously because we all age, I know, I'd 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.760 just mean like not the aging part, but like that 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.320 you have to like hurry up and accomplish this thing 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.840 by a certain age, yeah, you know, and certainly like 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:08.719 social media doesn't help that in any way. I know, 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:09.720 you age out of that. 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.400 You just it's just all these expectations at certain ages, 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:16.480 especially because you see like nineteen year olds, you know, 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:19.040 like the millionaires, and you think it's just like everyone's 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:20.760 supposed to do it at the same time, like the 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.080 seven year old has a million dollar YouTube? 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:26.160 What the fuck am I doing? It's true, you know, 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:31.800 seven year old in comparison is hard. Well that was 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:33.679 a beautiful card, it is. 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.440 I feel really I'm looking forward to like I mean, 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.040 I feel like we're embodying it, and I feel like 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:41.960 I'm in that flow of just like you know, like 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:45.120 finally coming up and even just like just getting our 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:48.040 whole all of our shit organized one like slowly, one 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.959 by one, including ourselves, you know, going to therapy, getting 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:53.680 an account and getting this shit, like you know, the 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:57.200 little shit, like just the little therapy shout out to therapy. 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:01.120 When did you start taking therapy? 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:05.080 And I love my therapist MS Marie. 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:08.120 Oh my god, you gotta stay therapist. Therapist. 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:15.800 Wait Marie, she's over here and I've seen it. 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:23.160 Yes, oh my god, yes, yeah, oh my god. 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:28.440 Yeah, I'm so yeah, that's fucking great. 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.520 So wait a minute, oh my god. When you just 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.480 start going to miss Marie probably. 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.960 Like five and a half years ago, what five or 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:37.880 six years ago. 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:38.680 Isn't she amazing? 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:39.800 I fucking love her. 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:43.400 I love her so much, like she's like mom Auntie. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:48.120 Yeah, she just keeps she's so she keeps it real. Yeah, 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:51.080 because I'm grateful that she was my intro into therapy. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.200 I did go to like maybe one or two sessions, 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:55.280 but it was just like, I just love that she 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:57.040 doesn't just of course she says, well what do you 0:14:57.080 --> 0:14:59.200 think about that? Right? And then she'll also be like. 0:14:59.280 --> 0:14:59.960 Girl, you craty. 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:04.160 Yeah, girl, you already know that nigga's not for you. Yeay, 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:07.280 she just like I even brought I had a boyfriend 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.720 last year. We brought her a year before in twenty 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:10.920 twenty years, I went to. 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:14.280 Go here, I brought trying to have you bring him in. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:16.560 No, No, she didn't have him. It was him, And 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.000 I was like, well, if we're gonna go to therapy. 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:21.480 We're going to my doctor or my therapist. And we 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:25.200 went and the girl at I could see her face. 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:26.960 Like the first few sessions she was like, girl, what 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.920 are you doing? What are you doing? And then like 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.320 the last session we had with him, she was like, honey, 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:34.560 you should come by yourself one day. You should come 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:37.240 because I hadn't been in solo therapy for a while. 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.880 So I came. Yeah, she did. She had a message 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.040 for me. Okay, baby, I broke up with that and 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:45.520 get that to day. I remember, I remember you called me. 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:48.320 She's like, Nila, I went to see my therapist alone. 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:51.040 She had to post it with bullet points. 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:52.800 Stitch. She had a posted with bullet points as to 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:54.640 the reasons why, which she needed to talk to me 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.280 about immediately. In the red flag that she was saying, 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.040 she was like, you've done a lot of work on yourself, 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:00.760 Like I know the work that you've done. You know 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.040 you know that this is not right if you're in therapy. 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.160 You already know, like it's too soon. You all should 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:08.120 not be in therapy. 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:12.560 No, she's been such an integral part of my growth 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:13.840 the last three years. 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:15.520 Like I love her so much. 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:17.920 That's so cool. That's so cool. I'm going to see 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:19.880 her actually soon, so I'm gonna be like, wait. 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:23.400 A minute, I am see you tomorrow. Oh my god, 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:24.640 tell her, I said, how I will. 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.000 I think she thinks it's weird that I'm like, so 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.360 you know Erica, So you know me and Erica And 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:29.800 I'm like. 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:30.600 Oh yeah, mother friend. 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.400 She's like, you know, they're usually like so quiet. I'm like, 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.040 if you see me in public, you better speak. 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:37.160 I do. 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.960 I do feel better feeling connected to my therapist. I 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.920 know some people feel like they have to confide in them, 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:45.880 like very secret things, so there's like a level of 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.960 like separation, but like I need feedback. 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.600 I need you to like she will say, like what 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:53.320 happened to me? Not that you ask, but I'm like, yeah, 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:54.360 I need to know about you. 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:57.200 Too, so that we I feel a level of understanding 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:59.880 and like yeah, and she challenges me and will like 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:00.360 she does. 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:01.960 And I'm early. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:05.399 I'm early, and I'm probably like six sessions in and 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:09.240 now you can't tell me, like are you in therapy successions? 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:10.760 Cetter, I'm like, you need to go to therapist. 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:11.960 I've been doing the. 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:16.480 Work, work work, and like, no matter how broke I 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:19.000 am I'm going to transfer the money to take go 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.720 to eve Marie. Yeah, I like whatever, but like this year, 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.040 I feel like, is by any means necessary, No, Yeah, 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:28.840 I will like whatever I need to do to maintain 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:33.000 this level of just consistency and like like a real 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.440 accountability partner that you're not can maybe brush off like 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.439 it's your friend. Yeah, has been so deeply like I 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:40.439 know that I'm ready too. That's what she asked me. 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:41.879 She's like, have you been to therapy before? I was 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:44.080 like yeah. She's like, well, what makes this She's like, 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.399 what happened? I was like, eh, you know, shit happens. 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:48.679 I stopped going. She's like, what makes this time different? 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:52.359 And I was just like I'm ready. It's time. It's time. 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:54.320 I get ready. I go right in start talking. 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:55.359 Let me take about this week. 0:17:56.840 --> 0:17:59.600 When I first saw I went on Psychology Today to 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:01.440 find her really yeah, and. 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:02.680 I found her at a Facebook group. 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:03.280 Really. 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:06.479 I found her on Psychology Today dot com and I 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:08.240 was like, at the last I was in such a 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:10.320 really dark place in my life. I was like with 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:12.800 my ex who I was living with, we were having 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:16.439 like just such a difficult time, and like she answered 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:18.199 the phone, so we like schedule to call like an 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:20.480