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Speaker 1: As I left the car in the parking lot, I

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Speaker 1: reach into my purse again, but this time for my iPhone.

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Speaker 1: I could use a great listener, And at this point

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Speaker 1: I didn't care who it was or where the empathy

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Speaker 1: was coming from. I obviously couldn't have been killing it

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Speaker 1: for Christ's sake. The moment I set foot in any office,

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Speaker 1: I was a queen, comfortable and commanding in her castle.

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Speaker 1: So why was I allowing myself to become a chambermaid

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 3: I'm Nila.

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Speaker 1: Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday, bechees.

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Speaker 2: You don't even realize we need to do what? We

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Speaker 2: need a Humpday shirt? Ooh, you know what I think?

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Speaker 3: I told you this?

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Speaker 2: You did.

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Speaker 1: I feel like me and Erica are pinking in the brain.

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, let's do this, and then three days

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Speaker 1: later she's like, I have the greatest idea. I'd be like, Erica,

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Speaker 1: I literally said this to.

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Speaker 2: You when recently, like a month ago, Well, why didn't

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Speaker 2: we do it?

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Speaker 1: Because I probably forgot I was expecting you to remember.

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Speaker 1: I'm happy to remember.

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Speaker 2: Here we are.

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Speaker 3: We do you need a Humpty shirt? Because we'll be humped.

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Speaker 1: We do and our podcast comes out on Humpty because

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Speaker 1: it's important.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Amen, how are you feeling?

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Speaker 2: I'm good. I'm good. I'm comfy in my good mom's

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Speaker 2: merch today. You know, I have our vintage tea on.

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Speaker 2: I know you look beautiful. I love our this shirt

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Speaker 2: specifically because I feel like it just goes with everything.

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Speaker 1: It really does, and it looks classy and it just

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Speaker 1: like it has a nice vintage wash on it, and

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Speaker 1: it fits on the breast just perfectly.

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Speaker 2: It looks good with my gold accents and jewelery. Yes,

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Speaker 2: there are about some gold loving beaches. I know. I

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Speaker 2: tried to like this is silver. It's like the only

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Speaker 2: silver thing I own. It's cute. I mean it has

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Speaker 2: gold on it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I couldn't stray because gold is for royalties with

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Speaker 3: silver flour coourse.

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Speaker 1: The fuck pants medium to wealthy peasants, medium wealth. It's

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Speaker 1: for medium wealth. But girl, this is for grand wealth.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, got it? Yal okay. I'm so excited.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm all energized because Costa Rica is

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Speaker 1: very soon. I'm feeling in my wellness space. I'm ready

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Speaker 1: to like just let go and crack open and cry

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Speaker 1: and shit. I've been in therapy, so I'm just feeling

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Speaker 1: just rather empowered and ready for twenty twenty two. Someone

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Speaker 1: told me that twenty twenty one whatever, it's a year

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Speaker 1: of a five, twenty twenty.

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Speaker 2: One and that's not good.

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Speaker 1: What but twenty do that? But twenty twenty one. But

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, so yeah, but this year's good. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm not mad at this.

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Speaker 1: I'm not mad at twenty twenty two, and everything's I

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Speaker 1: It feels better to be in twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Better here. But I was good there. I mean, I

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Speaker 2: You got you really high? And I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I was hallucinating basically, so I said.

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Speaker 3: I take it upon myself to take a full tink

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Speaker 3: shirt today. Feeling good, feeling right.

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Speaker 2: Well, don't worry, baby girl, I'll take the reins from here.

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Speaker 2: Thanks you guys. Today we have a special guest. We

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Speaker 2: have yet me sucking it up, Saddy Sanchez us in

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Speaker 2: our accents.

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Speaker 3: Today we have Chatty Sanchez.

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Speaker 2: You like my sexy voice, Chattis I did that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys made it sound really cute, really sexy.

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Speaker 2: Jatty Sanchez is here. She is the mama entrepreneur. Do

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Speaker 2: her of many things. I've been stalking your instagram and looking.

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Speaker 2: I was like, she's a chef. I'm like, I need

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Speaker 2: to come to her house. Plus, her kitchen looks really nice.

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Speaker 2: I was like, what is his countertop?

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Speaker 1: Me and Erica are like niggas sliding your DM so hard,

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Speaker 1: Like she looks so pretty, she looks so cool.

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Speaker 3: Oh she could cook.

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Speaker 2: I love cook, I know, and actually sounds smart. Connected

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Speaker 4: Was like, no, you have to meet her. You guys

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Speaker 3: From now on. Like I was, like, he's so full

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Speaker 2: He's happy. Bay guys, we talked about talked about him

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Speaker 2: in the past, but like, yeah, you've talked about him

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Speaker 2: and his energy is unmatched. It's unmatched, and he's a

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Speaker 4: I had a dream about him last night, really, but

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Speaker 2: I literally feel like he's with health.

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Speaker 2: Specially I got to care about over there care and ship.

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Speaker 3: I was like, Wow, this is a great job. We're

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Speaker 2: Sounds like him, I really care about her well being,

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Speaker 2: making sure that she can also get therapy while working

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Speaker 1: I literally I wish that I could read dreams, because

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Speaker 4: Very I have very wild, vivid dreams me too, very

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Speaker 2: When's your birthday?

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Speaker 3: February eleven? Oh, Aquarius, Aquarius? What about you?

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Speaker 2: Guys?

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Speaker 3: Cancer cool even to the stars and moons and knowledge?

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Speaker 3: What tors rising capricorn moon.

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Speaker 2: Are you very organized?

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Speaker 4: But it's just because I just like nice things and

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Speaker 2: Like I think as you get older too, like it's

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Speaker 2: y'all love some comfortable, luxurious shit at all times, including

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Speaker 2: She just likes like, first of all, she's like a

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Speaker 2: My mom is a glandma I call her. My mom

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Speaker 3: Was speaking of the moons and the stars were such

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Speaker 2: What's your rising? I know what's your moon.

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Speaker 1: It's Tarot time, lady time, and today, well actually shout

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Speaker 1: out to the mahogany tarot deck that we've been using

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Speaker 1: to Kashira Hickson.

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Speaker 2: Go and check out the mahogany tarot deck. It's a

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Speaker 1: But today we pulled the World card, and I I

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Speaker 1: think it's about travel. And there's a naked woman wrapped

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Speaker 1: wands or baton's like the one the magician holds. It

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Speaker 1: World card appears in a tarro reading You're glowing with

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Speaker 1: a sense of wholeness, achievement, fulfillment and completion. A long

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Speaker 1: of closure and accomplishment. This card could represent graduation, a marriage,

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Speaker 2: When did you start taking therapy?

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Speaker 3: And I love my therapist MS Marie.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you gotta stay therapist. Therapist.

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Speaker 4: Wait Marie, she's over here and I've seen it.

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Speaker 5: Yes, oh my god, yes, yeah, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so yeah, that's fucking great.

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Speaker 3: So wait a minute, oh my god. When you just

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Speaker 2: Like five and a half years ago, what five or

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Speaker 3: Isn't she amazing?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she just keeps she's so she keeps it real. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, girl, you already know that nigga's not for you. Yeay,

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Speaker 2: Like the first few sessions she was like, girl, what

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Speaker 2: So I came. Yeah, she did. She had a message

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Speaker 2: get that to day. I remember, I remember you called me.

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Speaker 1: She's like, Nila, I went to see my therapist alone.

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Speaker 1: She had to post it with bullet points.

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Speaker 2: Stitch. She had a posted with bullet points as to

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Speaker 2: Like I know the work that you've done. You know

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Speaker 2: You already know, like it's too soon. You all should

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Speaker 4: No, she's been such an integral part of my growth

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Speaker 2: Like I love her so much.

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Speaker 3: That's so cool. That's so cool. I'm going to see

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Speaker 2: A minute, I am see you tomorrow. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I think she thinks it's weird that I'm like, so

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, mother friend.

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Speaker 3: She's like, you know, they're usually like so quiet. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I do feel better feeling connected to my therapist. I

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Speaker 3: I've been doing the.

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Speaker 1: Work, work work, and like, no matter how broke I

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Speaker 4: When I first saw I went on Psychology Today to

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Speaker 3: I just like broke down crying.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but she saw me right away and like she's

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, they're nothing bad that can come of therapy.

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Speaker 4: She have a therapist, but yeah, everyone should definitely have therapy,

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Speaker 3: I think everyone would benefit from it.

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Speaker 2: I think the mistake that I've made the therapy is

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Speaker 2: She was like, we weren't talking about shit. Let me

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Speaker 3: You weren't just like key king right.

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Speaker 2: And she was like, girl, I don't want to take

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Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, now I'm just in here, key King.

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Speaker 1: second appointment and she was like, oh, I mentioned my brother.

439
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Speaker 1: My brother's name is Massi. She's like, I have a

440
00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:47,959
Speaker 1: Mazzie in my family.

441
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:48,760
Speaker 2: I was like, oh really.

442
00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,240
Speaker 3: I kept talking and she's like.

443
00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 1: You know, when you came in last week, I thought

444
00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:55,040
Speaker 1: you reminded me so much of my sister, and I

445
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:55,720
Speaker 1: thought about if.

446
00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:56,720
Speaker 3: I could keep you as a client.

447
00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:59,280
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh really, and she was like,

448
00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:02,600
Speaker 1: my sister passed away and her brother, I mean, her

449
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,760
Speaker 1: son's name is Mazzie and I raised him. And she

450
00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:07,640
Speaker 1: was like, and you, well, I guess she's like and

451
00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:09,480
Speaker 1: she's such a light and you kind of remind me

452
00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:11,399
Speaker 1: of her. And I was kind of triggered. She's like,

453
00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:14,760
Speaker 1: but in twelve years of practice, she's never come in here,

454
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,280
Speaker 1: So I guess it's time.

455
00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:19,400
Speaker 2: And I was like about to cry. I was like wow, I.

456
00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:19,840
Speaker 3: Was like maybe.

457
00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 2: I was like maybe.

458
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,680
Speaker 1: I genuinely feel like in life, like as we coexist,

459
00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,760
Speaker 1: like sometimes you have a message for people, and sometimes

460
00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:28,520
Speaker 1: people have a message for you, and we miss opportunities

461
00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:30,399
Speaker 1: not to connect with people that we feel like we

462
00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:33,399
Speaker 1: don't know or we have guards up and like even strangers.

463
00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,879
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes if you're open to receiving messages from

464
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,720
Speaker 1: every you know, every entity around you, God will send

465
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:40,720
Speaker 1: those messages that way.

466
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:41,400
Speaker 3: Absolutely.

467
00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 2: So when she said that, I was like, oh wow, Okay.

468
00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:44,679
Speaker 3: I was like okay.

469
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:46,639
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm happy you decided to keep me

470
00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:48,760
Speaker 1: and I feel like it's time too.

471
00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:50,320
Speaker 2: And I hugged her on my left.

472
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:54,679
Speaker 1: I was like, because I'm fucking emotional for no reason.

473
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 3: Like thank you God, because you knew that I know

474
00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:57,560
Speaker 3: that she needed me and I.

475
00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:00,560
Speaker 2: Needed her right now. No, it's true, I mean nothing.

476
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 2: We know this that like pretty much everything and when

477
00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:05,879
Speaker 2: you're in your alignment, like everything is divine, even this

478
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,879
Speaker 2: moment where we just discover that we all share the

479
00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 2: same therapist. I mean, it's this type of shit does

480
00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 2: happen all the time where it's like you can't it's

481
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 2: not coincidence. It's not like there's just like an acknowledgement

482
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:21,359
Speaker 2: of like, Okay, god, I know I see the alignment. Yeah,

483
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:25,440
Speaker 2: speaking of therapy and alignment, do you have an information

484
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Speaker 2: that maybe you can share with us today?

485
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:31,960
Speaker 4: So lately I've been really keen on this one because

486
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 4: I like to control a lot, right, And I was

487
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,439
Speaker 4: like listening to this book by Deepak and he said

488
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 4: everything is as it should be, nothing is out of alignment.

489
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:45,639
Speaker 4: And so I wake up in the morning and I

490
00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,399
Speaker 4: like literally say that I'm not going to fight with

491
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 4: the day. I'm not going to fight with what is.

492
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 4: I'm not going to fight with whatever happens. Everything is

493
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 4: exactly as it should.

494
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 3: Be in this moment period.

495
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 4: And when that like this level of like peace just

496
00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:02,120
Speaker 4: washing it is over you, over me, Like when I'm

497
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:04,679
Speaker 4: like that's total like surrendering.

498
00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, So everything is as it should as it

499
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 2: should be, and.

500
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,639
Speaker 4: Everything is as it should be, nothing is out of alignment.

501
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,680
Speaker 2: Everything is as it should be, nothing is.

502
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 3: Out of alignment.

503
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 2: And wow, that being the affirmation right after this conversation.

504
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:27,919
Speaker 3: It's so cool, honestly and truly.

505
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 1: I know sometimes like we have guests every week, we

506
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 1: have productions every week, and like you know, there's a

507
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: lot of conversations to be had, but like it's so

508
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:40,400
Speaker 1: good when it just it always just flows because we're

509
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:42,879
Speaker 1: in direct alignment, and it's like and that's how it

510
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 1: happens in your alignment. This is totally off topic, not really,

511
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:50,199
Speaker 1: but I was reading in the comments section. Okay, I

512
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 1: guess Tiffany Hattish had basically said something actually wants some

513
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 1: type of love or relationship.

514
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 2: Broking news Tiffany hash single beach and comment un fucked

515
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 2: up again because he keeps leaving bad bitches. I don't know, Like,

516
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 2: how do you go from Angela Rye you have, Tiffany Hattish?

517
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 2: What the nigga's got problems? I'm convinced. I don't care

518
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 2: how woke you are in common. I know that there's

519
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 2: something going on with it.

520
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 3: They're like the super woke ones, so that are like

521
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 3: the ones that are asleep and like, just like you,

522
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 3: you're overthinking it, nigga. Yeah, okay, yeah, I was like,

523
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:25,720
Speaker 3: they don't be woke.

524
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 2: You don't overthought it. And now I'm gone, you know.

525
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 2: So I saw the cat.

526
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 1: And the comments my black love relationship coach.

527
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 2: Oh god, the trigger. Okay, So we have this therapist

528
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 2: that's not a legal therapist on that has lots of followers,

529
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:46,119
Speaker 2: and she's a black love relationship coach. However, she's not

530
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 2: in a relationship nor married.

531
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 3: However, she came in because.

532
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 2: She didn't know it's a black marriage relationship, black marriage

533
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 2: and she's not married, never been, but she just wants

534
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 2: to do. So we brought her on because if Jamila

535
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,400
Speaker 2: had a relationship like two years ago and she ended

536
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,679
Speaker 2: up cheating on him and she basically was like going

537
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: to be the mediator in this conversation. It was on Patreon,

538
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,320
Speaker 2: and Miela was not pleased with this woman at all.

539
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: Well, I just after I like took a second look

540
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 1: at the situation.

541
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 2: Not my actions per se, but just wait, what was

542
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 2: the name of this episode? Because people need to look.

543
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 2: If you're on Patreon, you need to go back and

544
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 2: watch this shit. And then I did cheat it on

545
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 2: Adventure Bay and then I cheated That's something like that.

546
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 3: And then I cheated and then I cheated whatever.

547
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: I just found out about a new app, which is

548
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 1: surprisingly the first of its kind. Nowadays, there's an app

549
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: for just about anything, from identifying constellations in the sky

550
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 1: to getting someone to help you hang up a picture

551
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 1: on your wall. But up until now, single parents haven't

552
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:51,200
Speaker 1: had a dating app specifically designed for them. Now they do,

553
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 1: and it's called Stir.

554
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 2: Oh my god, girl. Stir is finally a place where

555
00:24:56,480 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 2: I can feel normal as a parent who's dating. Stir

556
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 2: is a place where single parents can just be single.

557
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: Stir is where you don't have to apologize for having

558
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 2: a crazy schedule. Stir is the app designed for singles

559
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 2: who just happen to be parents. Download Stir or tell

560
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 2: your single friends to try out Stir. Click the link

561
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 2: in this episode description to try Stir for free today.

562
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 1: Anyway, The fucking comment says, I know no one really

563
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:30,239
Speaker 1: wants to hear this.

564
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 2: No they don't, but you have to.

565
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: Women have to choose. Are you going to be a

566
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: woman a career woman? Are you going to be a

567
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: woman with a career, Because if you want love, you

568
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 1: have to give it time to show up and like

569
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 1: the time that you need. So it just triggered me

570
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 1: that you think that as a woman, I should either

571
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: be a career woman or a woman with career because

572
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: I should be able to step away from my career

573
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,399
Speaker 1: to invest in a relationship.

574
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: But so she was saying that you can't invest in

575
00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 2: a relationship and also have.

576
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 1: A career, Basically, you can't have you basically, Like, I'm

577
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: just I don't know.

578
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 3: It's so then why why can the men do it?

579
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 2: Exactly? I guess exactly somehow because the women are the

580
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 2: women done sacrifice.

581
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 3: That's why somebody always has to find and it should

582
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 3: be me.

583
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 2: I believe that there is a like a recalibration that

584
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 2: is happening in society right now because men are not

585
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 2: accustomed to women being busy. Like I was just having

586
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 2: this conversation with a friend of mine. She's a chef

587
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:24,360
Speaker 2: and she's fucking killing it, and she was just saying,

588
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,199
Speaker 2: how like the past two men that she's dated have

589
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 2: been like, yeah, you're too busy for me, Like I

590
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 2: don't want to date you.

591
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

592
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't know what to do with themselves. Yeah,

593
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 2: they're like what I'm like, so let me get this right.

594
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 3: You're making you're getting a bag, so.

595
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,959
Speaker 2: They can't handle it. Yeah, Like she canceled like a

596
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 2: like a dinner date like at nine am that was

597
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 2: supposed to be like eight pm, and it was too

598
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 2: much for him because she was about to go get

599
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,360
Speaker 2: a big ass bag for chefing, like an event.

600
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 3: That was stress out even like they even arguing me

601
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 3: with me about this, because that wouldn't even be a

602
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 3: question about on the other end, like no, please get them.

603
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 2: Go go get that money. I'll after you.

604
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 3: You don't pay on you, you know, just be cool

605
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 3: about it.

606
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 2: I don't. Yeah. Yeah.

607
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 1: So I was like immediately triggered by that, and then

608
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 1: I came up with my own, which I think is

609
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: the truest and the truest.

610
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: It's fact.

611
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: I feel like if you are walking in your purpose,

612
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 1: you'll for sure walk into your partner.

613
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 2: Amen.

614
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 3: Amen, Amen, that's absolutely right.

615
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: Because you know what, Yeah, because you're walking into everything.

616
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 2: Everything is aligned.

617
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: I don't have to worry about it if I'm too focused

618
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: here that I'm not going to find love, because I'm

619
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,400
Speaker 1: going to find a love in alignment in fact, with

620
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: my existence, because my existence is a part of my

621
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,879
Speaker 1: purpose in this realm. Like what I'm doing is so

622
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: much bigger than me, and you're never going to step

623
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 1: in and dilute that, and you're not going to shame

624
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 1: me or guilty or make me feel bad for pursuing

625
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 1: that purpose.

626
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 3: In fact, you're going to be in the purpose.

627
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 2: You're part of the purpose part. That's what you get

628
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 2: to be part of it. You get to be team Meland.

629
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, no, that's so true. And what a

630
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 2: bitch to write that. Honestly, Well, of course you put like,

631
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 2: I know it's going to know that the marriage counselorate. No. Oh,

632
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 2: she wrote that. She's the one who wrote the comment.

633
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 2: I said it, what a bitch. I wanted to I

634
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 2: wanted to respond. I was like, let me leave. Some

635
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 2: people say shit just for she wants people to go

636
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 2: to her Instagram exactly.

637
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 3: And some women and you know what could.

638
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 2: Want to be Kevin Samuels. Oh my god, she's a

639
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 2: female Kevin Samuel.

640
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: Kevin Samuels, Oh my god, she's the female Kevin Samuel.

641
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 3: Kevin Samuels would tear her apart because she sounds like it.

642
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 2: No, she's not him, because it's just not the same thing.

643
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:31,919
Speaker 1: But she's the opposite of him.

644
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:33,399
Speaker 3: Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.

645
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 3: I saw that in the shade rim. I just everybody

646
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 3: did know that I was pissed. I didn't like that,

647
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: and I don't remember.

648
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: Ship, but if I remembered the specifics of this caption

649
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: in this quote, I was very I just think that

650
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: as like as multi dimensional women sexual beings. I mean,

651
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 1: because let's face it, you cannot be a woman without

652
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: also you know, you.

653
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 2: Can't remove the sex.

654
00:28:57,680 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 3: You can't remove the sex from being a woman.

655
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 2: What is it? Am? I mean? Sexuality? Sex, all of it,

656
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: like is the.

657
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: Divine feminine that is a part of my existence. I

658
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: just think that we get fed so much like false

659
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: messaging around being a mother and also being sexual, even

660
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Speaker 1: though that we had sex to be moms.

661
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 3: But I just like, how do you get a lot

662
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 3: of backlash from that?

663
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: Because sometimes we do, I mean a lot of times

664
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Speaker 1: we don't because people are empowered.

665
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: But like also just that like.

666
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: Your mom you should sit down, or like oh now

667
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: you're my woman, you should have a seat.

668
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 3: Do you have to you like deal with those challenges

669
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 3: because we do.

670
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 4: I used to a lot back in the day on

671
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 4: my like ratchet thoughty days that it is still in me.

672
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 3: You know, I just grew up, you know what I mean?

673
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 4: But I would get that a lot, like just from

674
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Speaker 4: people commenting and how man I dated.

675
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Speaker 2: I mean I think even I mean I know that

676
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 2: you were a teen mom, and so like being able

677
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: to feel empowered in your ratchet thoughtiness even at that

678
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 2: age and saying can and just pushing through me like

679
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 2: that's who I am, bitch. Where do you think that

680
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 2: comes from? Was it something that you just kind of

681
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 2: avoided avoided and or like ignored or and just.

682
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Speaker 4: I'm just always like like that's a good question, like

683
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 4: where does that come from? I feel like I was

684
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 4: always very big on like honoring myself at every stage

685
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 4: of my life, like even as a young as a

686
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 4: youngin like I was always like outspoken and like just

687
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 4: very outgoing and just very like I am me, Like

688
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 4: you're gonna take her, you're gonna leave it, Like that

689
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 4: was always my attitude.

690
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 2: So that's how I dealt with it.

691
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 4: But I was how New York you yeah, yeah, and

692
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 4: so but it did still affect me, like those comments

693
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 4: had me. I went through a lot, Like you know,

694
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 4: I was bullied a lot, cyber bullied, and it even

695
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 4: like I was even suicidal at one point because of

696
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 4: the bullying.

697
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 3: Just people saying you're a.

698
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 2: Whole you should.

699
00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,479
Speaker 3: They had said things like you're a terrible mother, not

700
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 3: knowing who.

701
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 2: Who I am as a parent, You're a.

702
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 3: Disgrace, like you should die, like just like crazy.

703
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 4: Whit shit, like people are crazy, people are crazy online.

704
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 4: But you know, as a as a young girl like

705
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 4: eighteen nineteen, reading those things, I was very firm, I

706
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 4: like on who I.

707
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 2: Was, But you don't know who you are yet.

708
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 4: I mean, you know what I'm saying. I'm growing, So

709
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 4: reading those things, I took it very personal and I

710
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 4: took it as and I brought it on as like

711
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Speaker 4: part of my identity and I.

712
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 2: Lived with a lot of self hatred for a while.

713
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, this story could go no, no, I left.

714
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's really important conversation, especially I

715
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 2: know that you were a teen mom, Like how old

716
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 2: do you mean had your daughter fifteen? I mean you're

717
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 2: a child essentially a baby? Yeah, raising a baby, And

718
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 2: I mean I'm sure there was a lot of even

719
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 2: shame in that too.

720
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: A lot of shame.

721
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 4: So like, so me and her dad decided together to

722
00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 4: have the baby, but this was after I didn't want

723
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 4: to at first, because I didn't want to disappoint my

724
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 4: mom and all of this, but again timing and just

725
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 4: you know, no incidences. It's so crazy how it happened.

726
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 4: Like I remember I skipped school that day to go

727
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 4: to Planned Parenthood and make the appointment, and you know,

728
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 4: they give it to you in an envelope and stuff.

729
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 2: So I had the envelope in my book bag.

730
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 4: I walk in and my mom's like, so the door

731
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 4: is there, the kitchen's right here, and my mom's like,

732
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 4: you weren't in school today And I was like, yes,

733
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 4: I was. She's like, no, you weren't come here, give

734
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 4: me your book back.

735
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh shit, Mom's just me knowing.

736
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 4: So she like grabbed my book back for whatever reason,

737
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 4: like she never ever looked through my book back, but

738
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 4: that day she wanted to look through my book back.

739
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 4: She grabbed the envelope and was like what is this.

740
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 4: She started reading it, so she barely can read English.

741
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 4: She's you know, she's Dominican, and so she takes it

742
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 4: to my sister and she's like, read this, translate this

743
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 4: for me, and I like run away from home and

744
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 4: you like like ran.

745
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 2: That moment out. You're like, I'm out. I ran for

746
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: the door. I was like, I'm out. Then I ran

747
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 2: for the door.

748
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 4: I ran away from home, like I like ran away,

749
00:32:58,880 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 4: called my baby father.

750
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 3: I was like, let's run away. We were like planning

751
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 3: the first like Bonnie and Clyde.

752
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 2: Oh that song that Dusney child that played in my head.

753
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 2: We literally like ran away together. Where you go?

754
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 3: So like his friend's house up the street, the street,

755
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 3: and like his friend was like providing shelter for us.

756
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 3: It's so dramatic, but for how long?

757
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 5: Just for like a few hours, not providing shelter in

758
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 5: teenage and teenage time, that's a long time.

759
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Speaker 3: We were on the run.

760
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Speaker 4: So my sister knew, you know, one of my sisters

761
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 4: who was also Hella Cool, she knew about me having

762
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 4: a boyfriend, so.

763
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 3: She would like always hide little secrets for me. But

764
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 3: she knew where he was at.

765
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 4: So anyways, we got caught and his mom and his

766
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 4: sister and him were.

767
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 3: Like, don't kill the baby, don't kill the baby.

768
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 4: And then I just then me and him decided and

769
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 4: we're like, oh, you know what, actually, yeah, let's have

770
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Speaker 4: the babies.

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Speaker 1: Nothing's worse than going somewhere and then overheating and then

772
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Speaker 1: wondering if you smell bad or not.

773
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 2: I know, girl, it's the worst, especially when you're out

774
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Speaker 2: out like you're not, you have no plans on going

775
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Speaker 1: You have no deodorant in your bag and you have

777
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Speaker 4: You know, my mom took me the Planned Parenthood though

829
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 4: she was like you're keeping this appointment. I don't care

830
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Speaker 4: what you say, like you're keeping this appointment. So she

831
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 4: takes me on. Took Planned Parenthood on the day. I'm

832
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Speaker 4: in the waiting room and I.

833
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Speaker 2: Like, walk out. She wanted you to do.

834
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Speaker 6: Yeah.

835
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Speaker 4: She took me to the and I was always so

836
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 4: scared of my mom. So I was like, oh fuck,

837
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go. Like she wants me to do this,

838
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,800
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go. So I like sat in the waiting

839
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 4: area and I was just like I couldn't do it,

840
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 4: So like I got up and I walked out, and

841
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Speaker 4: my mom.

842
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Speaker 3: Was like, what are you doing?

843
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Speaker 4: She made like this whole scene up and was like

844
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:38,319
Speaker 4: telling the ladies to like make me go inside the room,

845
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 4: and they were like, ma'am in this country, like this

846
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Speaker 4: is her body, her choice, so she we can't force

847
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Speaker 4: her to do anything.

848
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Speaker 3: And mom was like, what kind of country is this?

849
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Speaker 2: Like America?

850
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 3: America? And then like we go eat KFC, and then

851
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 3: she starts talking to like my family and they're like yeah,

852
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Speaker 3: she says she's gonna keep it. Not over that, not

853
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Speaker 3: even conversation in front of you over fifteen minutes hasn't passed. Yeah,

854
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Speaker 3: fifteen minutes later, we.

855
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Speaker 4: Like having fried chicken and she's telling my whole family

856
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Speaker 4: in dr Then I'm like decided to have this baby.

857
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Speaker 4: I'm just like, oh my god. But obviously now my

858
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Speaker 4: daughter's like my mom's like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what was it? What was the what was your

860
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Speaker 2: the support? Like after that, I mean you had you

861
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Speaker 2: had men support.

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Speaker 4: So after that, I mean, me and my mom didn't

863
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Speaker 4: speak for a bit. But then when I went to

864
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Speaker 4: go get the sonogram to find out the gender, I

865
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 4: didn't expect her to call me, but she like called

866
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Speaker 4: me and was like did you find out?

867
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Speaker 3: And I was like it's a girl. She was like oh,

868
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 3: and then like she was like all happy.

869
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Speaker 4: And then like after that, she would come home from

870
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Speaker 4: work all the time with clothes and things for the

871
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Speaker 4: baby and yeah, and then when I went back to

872
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Speaker 4: school right away, just like I didn't even wait.

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Speaker 3: I think I waited.

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Speaker 2: Like two weeks and I went back to school because

875
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Speaker 2: I was.

876
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Speaker 3: On a mission. I was like, what grade were you in?

877
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 3: Ninth grade? I was a freshman. Oh my gosh, so

878
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 3: you can already.

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00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,240
Speaker 4: Know like all the teachers, counselors, everybody was like looking

880
00:38:58,280 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 4: down on me.

881
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 2: So I had to prove some thing.

882
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm graduating on time in a New York

883
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 4: assistant called Region's diploma, meaning you scored higher than a

884
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 4: seventy five on all your exams, meaning that's like an

885
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 4: above average or whatever, so you get like a special

886
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 4: thing for that. So I was like, I'm going to

887
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:15,800
Speaker 4: do it, and I'm going to get my region's diploma.

888
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 4: So I was, like, I'm back in school, like and yeah,

889
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 4: I graduated on time and everything. But that obviously thanks

890
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:27,919
Speaker 4: to my mom and his family, who till this day

891
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 4: are there you know him not so much.

892
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's amazing though, that you were able to

893
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 2: complete like a complete A will first of all, complete

894
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,800
Speaker 2: high school because you had your baby in ninth grade.

895
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 2: I mean that's four years of like really trying to

896
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 2: navigate such a critical time in your life. And were

897
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: you able to participate in like the activities of like

898
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 2: a typical high school or were you just I tried.

899
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 4: Like, so I dealt with like a lot of like

900
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 4: guilt when I would like want to hang out with

901
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 4: my friends after school.

902
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 2: I dealt with a lot of guilt.

903
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,879
Speaker 3: My mom never really made me feel guilty though, So.

904
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 4: I will say that, like my mom was never like

905
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 4: a because I feel like she understood.

906
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 3: You know, I started working too, So I worked at

907
00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:11,840
Speaker 3: the children's place after.

908
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 4: School, and you know, I was making a little money

909
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 4: and I was like able to get clothes for my

910
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 4: daughter from there because you get like crazy discounts and

911
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 4: like whatever.

912
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 3: So like she wasn't like hard on me because I

913
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:23,720
Speaker 3: was also like a good kid all around.

914
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 4: I was just like, you know, just making this choice, yeah,

915
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 4: making this choice, Like I owned up to this choice

916
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 4: that I made, and but I would hang out with friends.

917
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:32,359
Speaker 2: Yeah.

918
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 4: Like I went to school in the city on twenty

919
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 4: third and seventh av I went to Fashion Industries, graduated

920
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 4: with majored in fashion design. I like wanted to be

921
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 4: a fashion designer, but I was able to have like

922
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 4: a to the most part, a nice teenage what is

923
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 4: it time dating.

924
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 3: My baby father?

925
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 2: I was eighteen okay, okay, yeah, we.

926
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 3: Was on some together forever.

927
00:40:58,560 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

928
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 4: So but and then you know, after eighteen, I was

929
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 4: just like I started doing music videos.

930
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 2: So I got how did how did that happen? You

931
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 2: were like, fuck children's place, I need to get this

932
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 2: money real quick, and I'm too fine and cute.

933
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 3: People would be like, you should be in music video.

934
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 3: You should be in music videos, and I was like, okay.

935
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 2: The fact that like music video specifically, yeah, you have

936
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 2: a music video girl.

937
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: Look, so that Wassically that was my childhood dream.

938
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 2: I think a lot of us.

939
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 1: I was like, I want to yea Gloria on the

940
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,879
Speaker 1: big pimpin video was like my hero.

941
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 5: Yes.

942
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 4: Want.

943
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 2: I was like, when I'm older, my body will look

944
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 2: like that.

945
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 1: My dad let his friend's babysit me, and they're like,

946
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: what do you want to be in your girl? Or

947
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: I'm like a dancer and they're like, like a ballet dancer.

948
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:42,800
Speaker 3: I was like, no, like a video dancer.

949
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:44,720
Speaker 2: Oh my god, say that's five.

950
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 4: I'm a background dancer. Like yeah, But I always wanted

951
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 4: to do something in entertainment, like as a kid, I wanted.

952
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 2: To model or act or whatever.

953
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 4: So I was like, oh, you know, this is kind

954
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 4: of like acting. I guess like I went and I

955
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 4: was like on Craigs was like responding to ads all

956
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 4: the time, like need video vixen, need video models. And

957
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 4: then like I was seventeen, a junior in high school,

958
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:07,239
Speaker 4: and I got a fake ID and I.

959
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 2: Was like, you know, because you have to be eighteen.

960
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,959
Speaker 4: So I was like, I'm eighteen And I got into

961
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 4: this video for the dream rocking that thing, and it

962
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 4: was just like such a bizarre time in high school

963
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 4: becuse people are like, are you that girl like from

964
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 4: the music video who was also a teen mom like,

965
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 4: you're crazy, but I'm doing it.

966
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 3: Though, yeah, so it was interesting. I don't rarely do

967
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 3: I get to talk about this, bringing up a lot

968
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 3: of memories for me right now.

969
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 2: Did you enjoy it though? Like did you feel empowered

970
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 2: at doing it? And then I like it?

971
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 3: Yeah?

972
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:41,759
Speaker 1: You know, what I think is really interesting about this

973
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 1: story is like a lot of times when you hear

974
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: about like teen pregnancies, nobody really talks about the teenagers

975
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: right a lot oftentimes that's taken away from them their choice.

976
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: Like I was pregnant in ninth grade and I felt

977
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 1: really connected to this like baby, because I was scared

978
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: to tell my mom and eventually had an abortion, but

979
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 1: I also felt like that was my only choice. I

980
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: also felt like that's what I wanted to do too,

981
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 1: and like I'm grateful that I had that choice. But

982
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: we rarely talk about the teen moms that are really

983
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 1: good moms and the teen moms that want to stick

984
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: in their decision and want to have a baby. And

985
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 1: that's sometimes like reluctantly like your mom like lay her

986
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 1: ass down, Oh you can't like, and then you spend

987
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 1: the whole time not supporting them, you know, and hopefully

988
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: you have parents that like if you decide to do this,

989
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to have your back no matter what. But

990
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 1: a lot of times that's not the case, and you

991
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 1: are ostracized by your family and by your community every

992
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,919
Speaker 1: little mistake, every little thing you make. It so you've

993
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 1: made this decision.

994
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 3: You you know you want to go to prom, Well.

995
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 1: You did that, and you made this choice, and you're

996
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: not empowered in it. And it's just like, you know,

997
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: everybody has the choice, a choice, no matter how old

998
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: you are, as women and as girls. And I mean,

999
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 1: I'm not like Luna would definitely try to make them

1000
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 1: keep her there, but you know what I mean. But

1001
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:59,959
Speaker 1: like it's just it's nice to hear like a real

1002
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: story from like a success story ultimately, because it's not

1003
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,879
Speaker 1: always the sadness or like.

1004
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be I think. I mean, of

1005
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 4: course there's going to be like the trials and tribulations.

1006
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 4: It wasn't fucking easy.

1007
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 2: You know.

1008
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,400
Speaker 4: And because my daughter had to grow with me, I

1009
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,359
Speaker 4: call her like my little writer died, my little writer

1010
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,239
Speaker 4: because she was with me through so many mistakes and

1011
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 4: so many like I couldn't give her what I wanted

1012
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 4: to from a young age. I couldn't, you know what

1013
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 4: I mean, So but then again, it's like when are

1014
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 4: we ever really ready for parenthood? We can be financially ready,

1015
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,399
Speaker 4: like if we want to call it the readiness that

1016
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 4: then it's like financially ready. But yeah, regardless, I feel

1017
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 4: like there's still a lot of a lot of nice

1018
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 4: and good you know. I just think like the lessons

1019
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 4: and just the empowerment I found in it and all

1020
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 4: those choices that I made, Like, yeah.

1021
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 2: Do you think that because your daughter has grown with you,

1022
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 2: like and you kind of grew together, Like you were saying,

1023
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 2: what are some the like things that maybe I don't know,

1024
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 2: like maybe some of your regrets that have now cultivated

1025
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 2: and maybe you have changed, like maybe be able to

1026
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 2: rectify in some way or maybe not, Like was there

1027
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 2: ever a time where you were like damn, Like she

1028
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 2: had to experience that because I was a child and

1029
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 2: I didn't know better, you know.

1030
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 4: So there was a point when I got really busy.

1031
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 4: So after I got into music videos, then I just

1032
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 4: like my life just took off. And this was like

1033
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:31,760
Speaker 4: at the beginning of Twitter and social media and Instagram.

1034
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 4: So that's when like girls were like hosting parties, get

1035
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 4: in a bag real quick.

1036
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,439
Speaker 2: That was the beginning that I never forgot about that shit.

1037
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know it's because of.

1038
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 2: This, but it was like heavy.

1039
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1040
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 4: So I was like one of like the pioneers, like

1041
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 4: so to speak, because I was when Twitter first started

1042
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 4: and then Instagram came on, Like I think on Instagram,

1043
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 4: I got an Instagram calling twenty eleven, and so I

1044
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 4: was gone a lot, hosting parties and shit, hosting parties

1045
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 4: and shit and.

1046
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 2: Making a lot of money. I'm making a lot.

1047
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 4: Of money, yeah, yeah, And I was able to, like,

1048
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 4: you know, I moved out at a young age. I

1049
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 4: was like paying rent at twenty, like I was just

1050
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 4: like handling it all on my own, right. So I

1051
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 4: just feel like I missed out on some on some moments,

1052
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 4: and I feel like she might have like wanted me.

1053
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 2: Around a lot, which a lot more because she ever,

1054
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 2: do you guys ever have those kind of conversations like

1055
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 2: about your pit past versus like who you are as

1056
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 2: a mother now? Because I know she's she's a teenager now,

1057
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 2: like how old is she?

1058
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 3: Fifteen? Fifteen?

1059
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 1: Isn't that so crazy to see her and like know

1060
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 1: that you had a baby at that age saying I.

1061
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 4: Know this was like honestly, when she turned fifteen. This

1062
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 4: year was such an emotional like birthday because this is

1063
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 4: like when I gave birth to her, And you know,

1064
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 4: I always wondered about what this time would look like

1065
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 4: for us. Like I'm always like, oh my god, when

1066
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 4: I turned thirty, she's going to be fifteen.

1067
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 2: What is that going to be like?

1068
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,439
Speaker 4: And like here I am, and it's just like, first

1069
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:56,280
Speaker 4: of all, time please slow down, right.

1070
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: But also what the hell?

1071
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 4: Like, I don't know, time is just such a trippy

1072
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 4: concept for me.

1073
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 2: I think especially parents really see it in motion. Yes,

1074
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 2: you see the evolution in your house every day you're

1075
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 2: like what the fuck?

1076
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 3: Truly truly, but yeah, I think it was that.

1077
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 4: And you know, she was like at the babysitter a lot,

1078
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 4: or like with my mom, and like I know, she

1079
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 4: didn't have the best time at the babysitter, which I

1080
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,720
Speaker 4: didn't find out till later on that she just didn't

1081
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 4: like it. And like, you know, just think those kind

1082
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 4: of things in which I wish I was a little.

1083
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:37,080
Speaker 3: Bit more prideful, mindful, mindful and present. Yeah, I think

1084
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 3: no matter what age we have kids, like there's always

1085
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 3: gonna be like especially your first.

1086
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 2: Kid, you just don't know. There's no blueprint. You're gonna

1087
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 2: fuck up.

1088
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:48,879
Speaker 1: You're gonna do things that you're like later on, like damn,

1089
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 1: I could have been more intentional, Like damn should I

1090
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: have done that?

1091
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:51,439
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1092
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: Damn sure that she did. This person have to know

1093
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:55,520
Speaker 1: my kid, Damn, Like you know what I mean, there's

1094
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 1: all these like obviously when you're older, you're like a

1095
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:00,879
Speaker 1: little bit more maybe aware of like the the hurt

1096
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: that you've experienced as a child, but as you like

1097
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:05,279
Speaker 1: girl and you know.

1098
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 2: Just be a parent.

1099
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: It is really about growing yourself and realizing your parents

1100
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:12,320
Speaker 1: fucked up with you so that you can provide a better,

1101
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 1: you know, like situation for your kid. And like I'm

1102
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: a safer place, but ultimately there's no avoiding it.

1103
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's something I take really to heart that I've

1104
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 4: been like making peace with. And I think it's like her, Okay,

1105
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 4: so I didn't really have a father figure, right My

1106
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 4: father story is very complex, but like for her, just

1107
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 4: but this was out of my control. I mean, like

1108
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:40,399
Speaker 4: her dad is addicted to drugs and I'll cal and

1109
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 4: like to the point where like he's messed himself up mentally,

1110
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 4: like he's like not okay up here.

1111
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 3: You know.

1112
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 4: So I just like for me, it was like heavy

1113
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 4: because I'm like, damn, y'all like this, I didn't want

1114
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 4: to repeat this story, you know, making I've made peace

1115
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 4: with it, because do you mean to repeat the story

1116
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 4: in the sense of like no father cycle the cycle,

1117
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 4: the cycle, because like with your father around or no,

1118
00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:05,399
Speaker 4: yes and no, but not for the same thing.

1119
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I get it.

1120
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: I mean even the the stigma being a single parent,

1121
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:12,840
Speaker 2: Like you're saying, like that's that's the whole that's what

1122
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 2: we are sitting here every day trying to like like

1123
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 2: destigmatize essentially.

1124
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 4: But then it's also like it's very conventional at the

1125
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 4: same time, right, like the whole idea of like two

1126
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 4: parents in the home and why can't it be okay

1127
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 4: to just be a mom with with your child And

1128
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 4: that's also okay.

1129
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 2: That's also beautiful. You know, you can also do both.

1130
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: Doesn't have to be the story that I guess society has.

1131
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 2: Sold us, you know, like despair.

1132
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, like two parents in the home, Like I have

1133
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 4: plenty of friends I have had two parents in the

1134
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 4: home and are like literally like on antidepressants and.

1135
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 2: Like all kind of stand each other.

1136
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 4: And because the parents, because the parents there is no

1137
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:57,359
Speaker 4: perfect way to be honest, and like this is our

1138
00:49:57,440 --> 00:49:59,720
Speaker 4: way of doing it. Like I'm like, we're a little team.

1139
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 4: It's me and my kid, Like we're in this together.

1140
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 4: I always saw her that and and that's also.

1141
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: Fine, you know. Yeah, and that's also so cool, so cool,

1142
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 2: you know, Like I feel like I don't know, I'm

1143
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 2: obviously we have girls, but I'm so grateful that I

1144
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 2: have a girl. I'm so grateful that, like if I'm

1145
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 2: gonna be single and be a single parent, I have

1146
00:50:18,680 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 2: my little girl, my little girlfriend. Yeah, and we are

1147
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 2: in this together and we can have these conversations and

1148
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 2: I'm going to make sure you're better than me. And

1149
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:28,439
Speaker 2: I promise you that you will leave when I leave

1150
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 2: this earth, you will be better than me. That is

1151
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 2: my goal.

1152
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 4: Already, I can always tell she's she's way cooler than me,

1153
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 4: she's smart, she's just everything.

1154
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:40,399
Speaker 2: Like yeah, and that's where and that's where like all

1155
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,359
Speaker 2: the shame and the guilt. Like I'm like when I

1156
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:46,760
Speaker 2: see like what I consider better showing up, I'm like, okay,

1157
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:47,320
Speaker 2: it's working.

1158
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like okay, I'm giving her all my good.

1159
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 2: Shit, sprinkling our past trauma, and I'm like don't do that.

1160
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 1: So also just like just like setting her up to

1161
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:01,439
Speaker 1: be prepared for the gas lights, like to catch them,

1162
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: you know, Like I think that's as women, there's so

1163
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 1: much of that that happens second guessing ourselves. I'm just like,

1164
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:10,319
Speaker 1: if I could just correct those little moments of like

1165
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 1: she's like, she says something to me, she's just like

1166
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,479
Speaker 1: her dad wouldn't play the song she wanted him to play.

1167
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 1: She's like, Daddy isn't fair. He sometimes isn't being fair

1168
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:21,959
Speaker 1: to me. And I couldn't even like say shit because

1169
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to hear this shit either.

1170
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 2: He isn't fair.

1171
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 1: I wanted to suggest the song too, you want to

1172
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 1: hear Booty Lshoues and I, but it was just like

1173
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,839
Speaker 1: you know, just letting her know like sometimes people are

1174
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: going to play.

1175
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: Do it anyway, you know, like turn up anyway, like no.

1176
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,200
Speaker 1: It's not you, you know, And it's just like as women,

1177
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 1: you know, specifically like apologizing like you know, but we

1178
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,280
Speaker 1: first have to evolve about a certain shit that we

1179
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 1: were taught was okay to like then pass it down.

1180
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: But as we do, it's just like those cycles slowly

1181
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: begin to break, those cycles that, like, you know, like

1182
00:51:57,120 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: they're going to be so much more intentional than we

1183
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:01,319
Speaker 1: were because we're giving to the game early, you know,

1184
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: less distracted by niggas hopefully, you know, like just like more.

1185
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,720
Speaker 2: The dating of boys is scary, you're around that stage,

1186
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 2: I'm scared, scared as hell.

1187
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:17,480
Speaker 4: But honestly, I'm on the the non gender what is it?

1188
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 3: Non binary? Non binary? Sorry, I'm like, I sound so old.

1189
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 6: This.

1190
00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 3: She's a star.

1191
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 4: No more gender norms, mom, Okay, so then what what's happening?

1192
00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:35,120
Speaker 4: She's like, I'm she her but okay, I don't know.

1193
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 2: She's just I'm just acknowledging that.

1194
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:40,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, so she's trying to teach me how this is going.

1195
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 4: And then like I think at one point she was

1196
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 4: like wanted to be non binary?

1197
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 2: How do you? How do you deal with that? Not deal?

1198
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:50,399
Speaker 2: But like I'm just curious, like especially for someone who's

1199
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:52,439
Speaker 2: STI understanding it and learning it and like being able

1200
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 2: to support her if that's what she if that's what

1201
00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 2: she wants to do for now or whatever.

1202
00:52:58,040 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 3: Or long term.

1203
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 4: Honestly, I just my kid, Like whatever is clever, you

1204
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, as long as you're not hurting

1205
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:08,840
Speaker 4: yourself for anybody else. So that's my that's like my foundation.

1206
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:12,839
Speaker 4: Like but yeah, like she has said, like she's bisexual,

1207
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 4: and I'm.

1208
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 2: Like, cool, that's cool. That's the's up. That's everybody else, girl,

1209
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 2: you and everybody else.

1210
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 3: Yes, right, so I'm like, okay, cool. So it's just

1211
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 3: but you know, dating not so much, like she's not

1212
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 3: really into dating.

1213
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:31,000
Speaker 2: I just think these labels.

1214
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:32,800
Speaker 3: So overwhelming, overwhelmed.

1215
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 2: They're overwhelming for kids they don't even know, like today,

1216
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 2: I feel this way. So I'm this now.

1217
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: But and it's so it's so I think right now,

1218
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: like and I'm all about the wave of inclusion, you know,

1219
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,839
Speaker 1: like everyone's experience is valid. I do fear that it's

1220
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 1: such a thing right now.

1221
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 3: That yeah, I feel like trend.

1222
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:49,720
Speaker 2: It's such a trend.

1223
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:53,040
Speaker 1: It's trendy, and it's like you know, I it's just

1224
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 1: it's a bit much. And I honestly like just for like,

1225
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 1: like for me feel hary about you want to feel,

1226
00:53:57,719 --> 00:54:01,080
Speaker 1: but like just for like clarity and like fluidity, can

1227
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 1: we just stick with the with the fun because I

1228
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 1: refuse personally, I'm never going to be like I'm a

1229
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:07,240
Speaker 1: cisgendered woman.

1230
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:11,840
Speaker 3: I'm never gonna do that because the you know, like

1231
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:12,399
Speaker 3: I just don't.

1232
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I should have to put a

1233
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 1: hyphen in front of being a woman. I have a baby,

1234
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:18,799
Speaker 1: I believe, I like, I don't have to do that.

1235
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 4: Like, well, now they're gonna sorry to cut you off.

1236
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,239
Speaker 4: My friend just told me that at the g y N,

1237
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 4: they're making you say, identify specifically what women are you

1238
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 4: like like not like so like a period having woman,

1239
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 4: like a menstruating woman. I'm gonna be like in your

1240
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 4: chart because you know the.

1241
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:39,839
Speaker 2: Ob gy N would also.

1242
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 3: But that's medical history.

1243
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: You have to know that, like do I have am

1244
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 1: I am I experiencing preview.

1245
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 2: Women go to the ob gyn, I guess.

1246
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, because if you're gonna if you have a vagina,

1247
00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 3: no do you yeah?

1248
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,359
Speaker 2: I mean I'm not. I'm just saying, like, if there's

1249
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 2: any problems with it, I ask I need to ask

1250
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:01,240
Speaker 2: a trans woman. I need to know. I'm curious, genuinely, genuinely,

1251
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 2: I'm curious, very curious as well, like do you have

1252
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 2: do they have to check in there?

1253
00:55:05,920 --> 00:55:10,800
Speaker 1: Like from my understanding, I check in there. A doctor

1254
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 1: wouldn't even know from the outside.

1255
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:16,959
Speaker 2: I'll be g I m looking at your vagina going

1256
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 2: into inside of you. So I'm just curious if that's necessary,

1257
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 2: if there's like, if there's a specific there's got to

1258
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 2: be a specific doctor for trans men and women. Specific

1259
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: there should be I'm sure. I think I should take

1260
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 2: that on. I think that that be lubrative industry. And

1261
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 2: I think that because because, yeah, you have to understand

1262
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 2: what they've been through and what you're you know, observing anyway,

1263
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 2: I don't know who you got this.

1264
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 5: Sorry, oh, because because she said that at one point

1265
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 5: she's like non binary and whatever, will I agree, like

1266
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:55,359
Speaker 5: there are no gender norms, you know what the fuck

1267
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 5: you want, but just you know, let me just be

1268
00:55:58,920 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 5: a woman regular.

1269
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's more like if I who's going

1270
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 2: through that, I'd be like, baby, you don't have to

1271
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 2: update you do, you don't have to choose whatever you

1272
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 2: fall on. I'm good with. Yeah, we're cool.

1273
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:12,040
Speaker 3: Pretty much pretty much exists. Try it all you have, yes.

1274
00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 2: So most of the time.

1275
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:18,239
Speaker 1: Once Yeah, But you know what's also interesting is like

1276
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 1: we fear with the teenage years because we remember like

1277
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: how fast and horny we were, and you know, like

1278
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:30,319
Speaker 1: based on statistics, though teenagers are having sex less less

1279
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: and later that because.

1280
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 3: They're because they're more on the techy.

1281
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't.

1282
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 3: They like to connect virtually.

1283
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:37,399
Speaker 2: None in real life.

1284
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:40,319
Speaker 4: In person, they don't even want to do it, I know,

1285
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 4: like they're too scared because.

1286
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 2: They just tell you to the screen.

1287
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:46,600
Speaker 1: Which is how did this change in like how like

1288
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: fifteen years that quickly I'll tell you.

1289
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 2: How, you know exactly how the fun changed iPhones, Instagram, Vine, Twitter,

1290
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,319
Speaker 2: like all the fame. Remember Vine? That was like the

1291
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:02,879
Speaker 2: next thing like face Book Friends at a time, TikTok, right,

1292
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 2: wasn't it, Like yeah, Vine was TikTok. Oh my goodness,

1293
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,480
Speaker 2: yeah I have Yeah, Like she's talking to somebody.

1294
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 3: I wonder if they're still talking to this girl in France.

1295
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 2: Okay in France, and she'll probably never meet her because

1296
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 2: she's fucking fifteen. So that's cool. She's getting to know

1297
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 2: I mean, you know what, Like it's interesting and it's

1298
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 2: cool that like kids can get to know people from

1299
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 2: other parts of the world in a way that they

1300
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:33,440
Speaker 2: would never be able to at that age most kids.

1301
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:35,920
Speaker 2: But then it's like, I don't know, like it's just

1302
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 2: such a it's just it's a crazy place to be

1303
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 2: because yes, you get to meet other people. But then

1304
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 2: also there's so much weird shit that goes on. There's

1305
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 2: so much shit you can't control anymore. You can't like

1306
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 2: there's so much access to everything.

1307
00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:48,280
Speaker 4: That's why I was like, I was talking about this

1308
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:51,040
Speaker 4: with a friend the other day about like how honest

1309
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 4: are you with like your kids, And.

1310
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, I have no choice.

1311
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 4: I gotta be all honest because this girl got Google

1312
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:59,720
Speaker 4: and YouTube like so she'll like go and find out

1313
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 4: for herself and then MAM's a liar, so I can't

1314
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 4: even do that, Like, yeah, that's it. It's just like

1315
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 4: the age of like innocence is like gone, like because

1316
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 4: like literally they have access to everything they want to know.

1317
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 4: They just got to ask their good old friend Google.

1318
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:20,560
Speaker 4: So yeah, And honestly, the Internet is raising.

1319
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 3: Our kids because at this point, I know that's all.

1320
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:26,080
Speaker 3: They'd be on those devices so much.

1321
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 2: You know, it's it's crazy. I think about my daughter's

1322
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 2: only six years is fifteen. Look what is the world

1323
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 2: going to look like when our kids are fifteen?

1324
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot it's going to change.

1325
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's eight years from now.

1326
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 6: It's like, are they turning into robots? Like I'm happy

1327
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 6: to hear it much sex, but.

1328
00:58:43,720 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm happy here turning it. I

1329
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 2: think they might need have more sex. Regular you need

1330
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 2: to connect, we need to everybody else.

1331
00:58:52,280 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 4: And then now with the pandemic and the school and

1332
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 4: the sixty depart and you need to wear masks in school.

1333
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 3: Weird.

1334
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 2: I was just telling my friend, we're in we're in

1335
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 2: the middle of this like a really big transition in

1336
00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:08,760
Speaker 2: the world and history that we're caught in. Like it's

1337
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 2: happened before in other times, but we never thought that

1338
00:59:12,120 --> 00:59:15,320
Speaker 2: we would be caught in it. I witness to it.

1339
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 6: I'm shocked and I can't believe it. Part of era.

1340
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 2: Gosh, yeah, I mean I sent twenty years will be

1341
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 2: past it. It will be leveled out and doing some

1342
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 2: other net level Jetsons type shit that will normalize and

1343
00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:32,520
Speaker 2: look back on this moment and be like, remember when

1344
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 2: like people like there was a whole pandemic and like

1345
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 2: everything started shifting. People were all right.

1346
00:59:40,200 --> 00:59:41,959
Speaker 6: Remember those poor people that we had in the world.

1347
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 6: I think we extirmated them.

1348
00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 2: Oh my god, remember when that U see his paper

1349
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 2: for money?

1350
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:52,240
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, forget about it with them cryptos, crypto coins

1351
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 3: and shit. Yeah, it's overwhelming people are.

1352
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 6: Just sex workers and others just sex workers on them.

1353
00:59:57,600 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 2: Maybe that's what I should do. We should just get

1354
00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 2: our kids into that part of technology, because I feel

1355
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 2: like IRI could probably understand crypto better than I could,

1356
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:06,919
Speaker 2: and like they can help make those decisions, like we

1357
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:10,280
Speaker 2: worry about like first world like things, and they do,

1358
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 2: like actually know it would be first world. We worry

1359
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 2: about like I don't know, like the previous world things,

1360
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 2: and they keep us. I don't want to do it.

1361
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:23,360
Speaker 2: I don't want to be involved. I don't I don't

1362
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 2: want to learn crypto. I do what I don't. Fuck.

1363
01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 2: Those are scary too. People are gonna just have sex

1364
01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 2: with goggles on.

1365
01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 4: I had a panic attack after I used the Oculus.

1366
01:00:35,640 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 2: Have you ever used the Oculus with porn? No, girl,

1367
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 2: it's yes.

1368
01:00:40,840 --> 01:00:43,840
Speaker 4: I was like dancing with this little robot and then

1369
01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:46,080
Speaker 4: I took it off and I started literally freaking out,

1370
01:00:46,120 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 4: like I was, like I had a panic attack, Like

1371
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:53,480
Speaker 4: my friends had to like lay me down. Yeah, it

1372
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 4: was trippy as fuck. You wasn't a whole other reality.

1373
01:00:56,440 --> 01:00:58,200
Speaker 4: You take them things off you back in the room.

1374
01:00:58,320 --> 01:00:59,280
Speaker 4: That was crazy to me.

1375
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:02,160
Speaker 2: Could you imagine and eventually taking those things off and

1376
01:01:02,200 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 2: being back in the room is going to be the anxiety,

1377
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 2: like being here will be too much.

1378
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's kind of how it fell in a weird way.

1379
01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:15,560
Speaker 6: Did you see the metaverse over there?

1380
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 3: Did you watch the Matrix?

1381
01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:18,320
Speaker 2: They couldn't find it.

1382
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 3: That sounds like you and I watched all Look up,

1383
01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 3: you've been talking about the metaverse this whole time.

1384
01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:29,760
Speaker 6: The metaverse party?

1385
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 2: What the fuck? I hate it here. I hate the metaverse.

1386
01:01:32,880 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to be a part of it, but

1387
01:01:34,040 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 2: I have to be. We went to this metopy. I

1388
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 2: went to his party, and on the way up, this

1389
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:38,880
Speaker 2: guy was like, you either got it. You gotta get in.

1390
01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:42,120
Speaker 2: Don't be stupid and not learn the metaverse and invest

1391
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:44,000
Speaker 2: yourself in the metaverse. You'll get left behind.

1392
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:47,360
Speaker 4: Where who was telling you that the same of the

1393
01:01:47,400 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 4: metaverse party?

1394
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 6: Snows?

1395
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 2: No? No, it was skiing.

1396
01:01:51,600 --> 01:01:54,919
Speaker 6: It was skiing. Everybody was wearing as a metaverse party.

1397
01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:57,160
Speaker 3: First of all, wait, where do you go to a

1398
01:01:57,480 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 3: metaverse Hollywood Hills?

1399
01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:00,920
Speaker 2: Of course, the actual.

1400
01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 6: Regular human party, but it was for the members.

1401
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 3: Yeah what does that mean? Though? Break it down, like,

1402
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 3: what's the party?

1403
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:10,440
Speaker 2: Was just a regular party?

1404
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:10,680
Speaker 6: Girl?

1405
01:02:10,760 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 2: I don't know. There was some people that owned some

1406
01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:18,280
Speaker 2: NFT like some NFT company and the obviously there's like

1407
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 2: there was yeah they were skiing, if you know what

1408
01:02:20,360 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 2: I mean, Oh it was skiing, and yeah we all

1409
01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 2: had ski outfits on. It's just anytime we get invited

1410
01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 2: to any sort of them, to anything we're in. So

1411
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 2: it didn't even matter if it was NFT whatever. If

1412
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 2: I get to dress up with a theme, I'm gonna.

1413
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:37,920
Speaker 3: Go, Okay, that's fun.

1414
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:43,880
Speaker 2: But anyway, I don't know if we have any horries

1415
01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 2: my love. No, No, I know I don't have any.

1416
01:02:51,200 --> 01:02:52,520
Speaker 2: I have had sex a lot, but I don't know

1417
01:02:52,560 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 2: if it's been like cool. I did feel like I

1418
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:55,560
Speaker 2: was making a porn the other day. There was like

1419
01:02:55,600 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 2: I just I realized that, like when you have sex,

1420
01:02:57,280 --> 01:02:58,920
Speaker 2: like really good sex, or at least for me, when

1421
01:02:58,920 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 2: I have really good sex with someone, like I want

1422
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 2: to just execute on a way higher level what I

1423
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 2: have mediocre sex. I realize my sex skills are very mediocre.

1424
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:09,760
Speaker 2: Like I'm give you, I literally give you that same energy.

1425
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 2: I think when I was younger, though, I would want that,

1426
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:14,120
Speaker 2: I would want to leave an impression, so I was

1427
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 2: more inclined to, like, you want to see these all these,

1428
01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:18,040
Speaker 2: all these every single skill, I'm gonna pull out every

1429
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:18,880
Speaker 2: single fucking one.

1430
01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:21,040
Speaker 3: I pulled out all of them this weekend.

1431
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 2: Yeah for you, thank you.

1432
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1433
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:28,000
Speaker 2: He has this like art exhibit behind his bed, and

1434
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 2: then he has a mirror right in front. And I

1435
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:33,200
Speaker 2: believe that mirrored sex is the only sex I want

1436
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:36,520
Speaker 2: to have in twenty twenty two, mirrored with like, yeah,

1437
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:38,040
Speaker 2: Like it looks like I was in the museum. I

1438
01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:40,640
Speaker 2: fucked in the loof. I fucked in the loop. I

1439
01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:42,160
Speaker 2: told you. I was like I fucked in the loof.

1440
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 2: We were we were living art. It was great.

1441
01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:47,400
Speaker 6: I like that.

1442
01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:50,120
Speaker 3: That sounds good. That sucks with myself.

1443
01:03:51,200 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 2: That's that's also crucial idea.

1444
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 3: The other day.

1445
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:57,080
Speaker 4: No, no, because okay, So a big thing for me

1446
01:03:57,160 --> 01:04:00,920
Speaker 4: right now is like being by myself, being being okay

1447
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 4: with being single and putting all that love I still

1448
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 4: want to give on someone else to myself right, honoring

1449
01:04:07,680 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 4: myself and all of that. That's like the theme for

1450
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:12,360
Speaker 4: me right now.

1451
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 3: And so.

1452
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 4: I had like a moment with myself where I got

1453
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:21,720
Speaker 4: in the shower, I did a body scrub. Then I

1454
01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:25,320
Speaker 4: put on like my oils and like my lotion, and

1455
01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:28,240
Speaker 4: then like my hair. I did my hair up, put

1456
01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:31,919
Speaker 4: my robe on, I went to my room. I looked

1457
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:35,040
Speaker 4: at myself in the mirror. I took my roball and

1458
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:40,640
Speaker 4: I was like tambitch, like you fine. Yes, I was

1459
01:04:40,640 --> 01:04:43,280
Speaker 4: like you fine. And then I was just like playing

1460
01:04:43,320 --> 01:04:43,920
Speaker 4: with myself.

1461
01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 3: And then I was like huh.

1462
01:04:46,080 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 4: And then I went to grab my toys and I

1463
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 4: had like the most amazing sex for myself. Let me

1464
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:57,440
Speaker 4: tell you, I orgasm so crazy, like and I stayed

1465
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 4: with the orgasm. You know, I didn't like, Okay, I'm

1466
01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:02,840
Speaker 4: done now, No, I like stayed in it.

1467
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:03,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1468
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:06,040
Speaker 4: And so I was like shaking building and I was

1469
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:09,800
Speaker 4: just like caressing my body and like yeah, I like

1470
01:05:09,880 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 4: literally made love to myself.

1471
01:05:11,160 --> 01:05:12,160
Speaker 2: It was so powerful.

1472
01:05:12,200 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 4: It was like I felt like a goddess or something

1473
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 4: like I was like summoning.

1474
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 3: Him the goddess you are.

1475
01:05:18,200 --> 01:05:20,120
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's first of all I'm really say,

1476
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 1: really to do that tonight.

1477
01:05:22,480 --> 01:05:23,280
Speaker 2: You know I've turned on.

1478
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,920
Speaker 3: Now shut it nice, like pour yourself a glass of

1479
01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:28,880
Speaker 3: wine or something, make love to yourself.

1480
01:05:29,160 --> 01:05:30,600
Speaker 6: Like yeah.

1481
01:05:30,640 --> 01:05:33,160
Speaker 1: I was actually watching only the first few episodes because

1482
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 1: I don't think I can get any further this this

1483
01:05:35,360 --> 01:05:40,240
Speaker 1: show called c with Fine Ace Jason Momoa, and nobody

1484
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:43,240
Speaker 1: can see in the whole anyway. The one of the women,

1485
01:05:43,440 --> 01:05:45,000
Speaker 1: one of the queens, is one of the one of

1486
01:05:45,040 --> 01:05:47,960
Speaker 1: her villages. She's like, I must pray, so then she

1487
01:05:48,160 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: like can't see, but she's like masturbating and praying at

1488
01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:55,360
Speaker 1: the same every time she needs to, like what the sore,

1489
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:59,080
Speaker 1: She's like masturbating, masturbating and praying like and then she's.

1490
01:05:58,920 --> 01:06:00,920
Speaker 6: Like and then at one point she even has a

1491
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:02,280
Speaker 6: survey come in and give her head.

1492
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:06,080
Speaker 2: Oh, she's going to go to keep this going. So

1493
01:06:06,120 --> 01:06:09,360
Speaker 2: it's just like how she prays, that's amazing, That's how

1494
01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 2: you should pray.

1495
01:06:09,960 --> 01:06:12,200
Speaker 6: Wow, okay, okay.

1496
01:06:13,000 --> 01:06:14,760
Speaker 2: It did feel very like a ritual.

1497
01:06:15,000 --> 01:06:16,600
Speaker 4: That did feel like when I did that, it was

1498
01:06:16,720 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 4: very like because after that I just felt like so

1499
01:06:20,880 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 4: beautiful and empowered and so like just in my power.

1500
01:06:25,880 --> 01:06:28,840
Speaker 2: It's like it's about like like always being there too,

1501
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:32,880
Speaker 2: like being able to maintain that like feeling because I've

1502
01:06:32,920 --> 01:06:36,840
Speaker 2: had those experiences to in masturbation and it's so like

1503
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:39,600
Speaker 2: I don't even know how to describe it, and I'm like, damn,

1504
01:06:39,600 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 2: why can't I just walk like this throughout life all

1505
01:06:43,240 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 2: the time? And this bliss and pleasure, like and I

1506
01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:50,040
Speaker 2: think that masturbation and I talk about this all the

1507
01:06:50,040 --> 01:06:52,520
Speaker 2: time on the show is such a powerful tool in general,

1508
01:06:52,720 --> 01:06:58,760
Speaker 2: just for self discovery, for manifesting, for obviously a personal pleasure.

1509
01:06:59,040 --> 01:07:00,680
Speaker 2: For not so I can beggause you don't need to

1510
01:07:00,680 --> 01:07:01,520
Speaker 2: be fucking.

1511
01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:03,680
Speaker 3: That's exactly a whole. And that's a whole not to.

1512
01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:05,320
Speaker 2: Take the edge off every time you want to call

1513
01:07:05,360 --> 01:07:07,080
Speaker 2: that again, just go Jack, Just go do your thing

1514
01:07:07,120 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 2: real quick and then think about it.

1515
01:07:08,520 --> 01:07:10,240
Speaker 3: Because your self worth.

1516
01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:12,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's like then you go and giving somebody

1517
01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 4: that energy that like they don't even honor you or

1518
01:07:15,240 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 4: they don't you know what I'm saying.

1519
01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:18,800
Speaker 2: But if you have that healthy, they don't even care

1520
01:07:18,840 --> 01:07:20,360
Speaker 2: to please you. How you would please you?

1521
01:07:20,440 --> 01:07:24,400
Speaker 6: What are they giving you in exchange? What energy do

1522
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:28,080
Speaker 6: they have? Like is your energy good? Or you haven't

1523
01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:28,960
Speaker 6: gone to therapy?

1524
01:07:30,320 --> 01:07:32,440
Speaker 3: If you want a therapy, goes to therapy once?

1525
01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:34,680
Speaker 2: Have you prove it?

1526
01:07:35,200 --> 01:07:37,280
Speaker 6: You can't fuck mer therapy?

1527
01:07:38,000 --> 01:07:39,760
Speaker 3: But what's your therapist's name?

1528
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 2: The energy?

1529
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Speaker 6: Energy?

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01:07:43,360 --> 01:07:44,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god, no.

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01:07:44,800 --> 01:07:48,560
Speaker 3: One hundred percent. That's facts. Yeah, And like sadness and

1532
01:07:48,600 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 3: they've given this sadness secrets.

1533
01:07:51,320 --> 01:07:55,680
Speaker 2: S keep your secrets and sadness in your own dick. Okay,

1534
01:07:56,160 --> 01:07:56,880
Speaker 2: I don't need that.

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01:07:56,880 --> 01:07:59,720
Speaker 4: Ship, but truly, yeah, it is an exchange of energy,

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01:07:59,760 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 4: and yeah, you gotta make sure you know who you've

1537
01:08:03,080 --> 01:08:06,440
Speaker 4: given that toy, truly. So that's why I'm like, you

1538
01:08:06,440 --> 01:08:08,760
Speaker 4: do know, I'm gonna stay to myself. I'm gonna, you know,

1539
01:08:08,920 --> 01:08:14,320
Speaker 4: do my little thing by myself and can nobody bother me?

1540
01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:17,360
Speaker 4: Like you know, it's been so nice. I've been enjoying

1541
01:08:17,400 --> 01:08:20,679
Speaker 4: being by myself. I'm like so excited to get home

1542
01:08:20,720 --> 01:08:23,960
Speaker 4: and like work on my desk by myself, like drink

1543
01:08:24,080 --> 01:08:26,799
Speaker 4: my energy, drink like myself.

1544
01:08:27,080 --> 01:08:30,479
Speaker 2: No one's going there's no chance of your energy being interrupted. Yeah,

1545
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,240
Speaker 2: and nobody needs to respond to that.

1546
01:08:32,280 --> 01:08:33,680
Speaker 3: I need to check on like what do you do?

1547
01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:37,599
Speaker 6: Are you cool? Are you hungry? Just now?

1548
01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:42,320
Speaker 3: Now? Just my kid, just my that's enough, that's enough

1549
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 3: and that's enough. So right now I'm really cool with that.

1550
01:08:45,880 --> 01:08:47,519
Speaker 6: How have you been doing that practice?

1551
01:08:48,840 --> 01:08:53,840
Speaker 3: I just started. I talked about it and with Miss

1552
01:08:53,840 --> 01:08:57,200
Speaker 3: Marie the last time too. She was like, good for you.

1553
01:08:57,280 --> 01:09:01,120
Speaker 3: Yeahs choosing yourself it's not always easy. I'm like, I

1554
01:09:01,200 --> 01:09:07,599
Speaker 3: choose myself every time. No, but yes, it hasn't been long,

1555
01:09:07,680 --> 01:09:10,240
Speaker 3: but you know, I'm just I'm trying to manifest, like

1556
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:12,640
Speaker 3: I want a life partner, I want a husband, like

1557
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 3: what's up? Like I want to be ready and I

1558
01:09:15,360 --> 01:09:16,599
Speaker 3: want to be ready when you show up.

1559
01:09:16,600 --> 01:09:19,759
Speaker 4: And also I keep saying yes so whatever comes along,

1560
01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:21,480
Speaker 4: then I'm confusing the universe.

1561
01:09:21,280 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 2: Confusing universe and blocking your.

1562
01:09:22,760 --> 01:09:25,280
Speaker 4: Blessings, blocking my blessing. So I'm like, you know what,

1563
01:09:25,360 --> 01:09:27,760
Speaker 4: I'm going to work with God this summer. I was like,

1564
01:09:27,800 --> 01:09:29,040
Speaker 4: it's just going to be me and God.

1565
01:09:30,200 --> 01:09:34,000
Speaker 2: That's how my friend I felt, that's how I felt.

1566
01:09:33,880 --> 01:09:38,760
Speaker 3: Like that's very long because it's like it's me and God.

1567
01:09:38,840 --> 01:09:42,880
Speaker 2: It's just me and God. I'm committed to God. I mean,

1568
01:09:43,439 --> 01:09:46,800
Speaker 2: I don't mean to laugh please because I was laughing too.

1569
01:09:46,840 --> 01:09:49,080
Speaker 3: That just sounds crazy, like but.

1570
01:09:50,560 --> 01:09:52,439
Speaker 6: To yourself, yeah, committed to God.

1571
01:09:52,560 --> 01:09:54,559
Speaker 3: Commit Yeah yeah. So it was like it's just me

1572
01:09:54,600 --> 01:09:55,599
Speaker 3: and God this summer.

1573
01:09:55,680 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 2: I said, Oh my God, that is.

1574
01:10:01,240 --> 01:10:04,200
Speaker 6: I'm committing to God twenty twenty two and that's it.

1575
01:10:04,840 --> 01:10:06,960
Speaker 1: I'm a monk of Mela, a monk of Mela Church,

1576
01:10:07,240 --> 01:10:08,599
Speaker 1: the monk of Mela Church.

1577
01:10:08,680 --> 01:10:09,479
Speaker 3: Of Mela Church.

1578
01:10:10,000 --> 01:10:13,719
Speaker 4: But you know what if somebody comes along with their schlong,

1579
01:10:13,800 --> 01:10:17,160
Speaker 4: I won't know that. I'm like, hmm, you might could

1580
01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:18,160
Speaker 4: get it then, like.

1581
01:10:18,160 --> 01:10:21,280
Speaker 2: You can still have good you can still have sex,

1582
01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:24,000
Speaker 2: especially if you know, like you're having healthy sex. Yeah,

1583
01:10:24,000 --> 01:10:26,679
Speaker 2: it may not be like your forever partner sex and whatever,

1584
01:10:26,840 --> 01:10:28,400
Speaker 2: like do it I come, does.

1585
01:10:28,240 --> 01:10:32,479
Speaker 4: That actful honoring to adults, like you know, consensual and

1586
01:10:32,520 --> 01:10:33,080
Speaker 4: all that.

1587
01:10:33,080 --> 01:10:38,559
Speaker 1: Definitely working on my ability to understand that relationships don't

1588
01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:41,760
Speaker 1: have to be forever and that being okay with that

1589
01:10:41,840 --> 01:10:44,559
Speaker 1: and not feeling like I have to like cling and

1590
01:10:44,600 --> 01:10:47,200
Speaker 1: that like it has or like compete to stay in

1591
01:10:47,200 --> 01:10:49,439
Speaker 1: a certain space with you and like being grateful for

1592
01:10:49,560 --> 01:10:52,680
Speaker 1: like the passing of how like relationships in.

1593
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:55,519
Speaker 6: Hall Mmmm, because I think it's a women like stay

1594
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:56,639
Speaker 6: with me on the boss.

1595
01:10:56,920 --> 01:10:57,639
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

1596
01:10:57,840 --> 01:10:58,080
Speaker 2: Wow.

1597
01:10:58,200 --> 01:11:00,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's actually something that came up we certainly as well,

1598
01:11:01,439 --> 01:11:04,400
Speaker 4: like how I feel like in the past, and you know,

1599
01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 4: it's come up recently where I tried to convince these

1600
01:11:08,439 --> 01:11:11,800
Speaker 4: unavailable men that I'm the one. But it's more of

1601
01:11:11,840 --> 01:11:14,519
Speaker 4: an ego thing because like I don't know you and

1602
01:11:14,560 --> 01:11:16,360
Speaker 4: I don't even want you.

1603
01:11:16,800 --> 01:11:19,760
Speaker 3: I need you to see yeah, but I don't want you.

1604
01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:21,799
Speaker 3: So what the heck is that I'm like, that's toxic

1605
01:11:21,840 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 3: as fun. I need to like not do that. So yeah,

1606
01:11:25,880 --> 01:11:30,519
Speaker 3: like no, I just yeah, I don't know, Wait what

1607
01:11:30,560 --> 01:11:32,160
Speaker 3: was I lost my train of thought.

1608
01:11:32,240 --> 01:11:34,240
Speaker 2: I just think that even the most woke and healthy

1609
01:11:34,320 --> 01:11:36,400
Speaker 2: lovers can be toxic in ways, do you know what

1610
01:11:36,439 --> 01:11:38,479
Speaker 2: I mean? Like, we all have things we're working through,

1611
01:11:38,560 --> 01:11:43,920
Speaker 2: but I think that as long as we're self aware

1612
01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:48,320
Speaker 2: and we're in therapy, I always say that the most

1613
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:51,639
Speaker 2: self aware people probably need therapy the most because we'd

1614
01:11:51,680 --> 01:11:54,920
Speaker 2: be rationalizing our shit to know much. I know I'm

1615
01:11:54,960 --> 01:11:58,439
Speaker 2: doing function Okay, I'm completely aware that I'm participating in

1616
01:11:58,439 --> 01:12:01,920
Speaker 2: the fun shit. I will end this next November twenty

1617
01:12:01,960 --> 01:12:04,479
Speaker 2: twenty two. No, but no, I think I think that

1618
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:08,000
Speaker 2: therapy is something that everyone should definitely happ into. But

1619
01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:10,360
Speaker 2: I think the most self aware probably need it the

1620
01:12:10,400 --> 01:12:12,559
Speaker 2: most because we be thinking we know it all and.

1621
01:12:12,680 --> 01:12:15,759
Speaker 6: The shame and gill associated with fucking up.

1622
01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:18,880
Speaker 3: Because you know, oh my god, yeah.

1623
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:21,599
Speaker 2: Because everybody else thinks that you're you got it all together,

1624
01:12:21,720 --> 01:12:24,920
Speaker 2: so when you don't, it's like, fuck, yeah.

1625
01:12:24,800 --> 01:12:25,599
Speaker 3: I'm a fraud.

1626
01:12:26,200 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 2: Right No, why you just said that to me? Right now?

1627
01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:31,920
Speaker 2: I wish I could have got a close upon her face.

1628
01:12:32,200 --> 01:12:35,599
Speaker 4: I'm a fraud that came up with missus Marie last time.

1629
01:12:35,640 --> 01:12:39,559
Speaker 4: She was like, honey, you're human. Relax Like she literally

1630
01:12:39,600 --> 01:12:41,559
Speaker 4: was like, first of all, you're human.

1631
01:12:42,000 --> 01:12:43,599
Speaker 2: Relaxed because I'm like.

1632
01:12:43,560 --> 01:12:46,040
Speaker 3: I'm a fraud. How am I starting a wellness company

1633
01:12:46,080 --> 01:12:47,000
Speaker 3: and I'm not even well.

1634
01:12:47,560 --> 01:12:51,559
Speaker 6: She's like, oh my god, I say this an like you're.

1635
01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:54,280
Speaker 3: A you're a friend. She's like, honey, like you're huge.

1636
01:12:54,320 --> 01:12:55,360
Speaker 2: Wellness is a journey.

1637
01:12:55,439 --> 01:12:56,160
Speaker 3: It's a journey.

1638
01:12:56,160 --> 01:12:57,360
Speaker 2: Wellness is a journey.

1639
01:12:57,880 --> 01:12:59,360
Speaker 4: And then my best friend is like, yeah, when you

1640
01:12:59,360 --> 01:13:01,800
Speaker 4: said you need it embody, what you're trying to do?

1641
01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:03,960
Speaker 4: I was like, yikes, I'm like, bitch, why you tell

1642
01:13:04,040 --> 01:13:04,280
Speaker 4: me that?

1643
01:13:04,360 --> 01:13:06,720
Speaker 3: I sounded crazy.

1644
01:13:07,800 --> 01:13:09,720
Speaker 2: Sometimes your friend's just like, you know, let me let

1645
01:13:09,720 --> 01:13:10,559
Speaker 2: her figure it out.

1646
01:13:12,800 --> 01:13:16,120
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for having a community to be honest

1647
01:13:16,120 --> 01:13:17,040
Speaker 1: and sometimes.

1648
01:13:16,640 --> 01:13:17,599
Speaker 6: Like I want to figure it out.

1649
01:13:18,680 --> 01:13:23,040
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Well, thank you so much for coming

1650
01:13:23,080 --> 01:13:24,559
Speaker 2: on this ship, for having me.

1651
01:13:24,600 --> 01:13:25,599
Speaker 3: I had so much fun.

1652
01:13:25,800 --> 01:13:27,080
Speaker 2: This was very therapeutic.

1653
01:13:27,320 --> 01:13:27,599
Speaker 5: Good.

1654
01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:30,600
Speaker 2: I know. That's kind of about the vibe is this

1655
01:13:30,680 --> 01:13:34,400
Speaker 2: is my therapy. This is yeah, girl, this is amazing

1656
01:13:34,479 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 2: between Marie therapy.

1657
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:37,679
Speaker 3: Yes, these are great.

1658
01:13:37,720 --> 01:13:40,559
Speaker 4: You learn so much from yourself and these talking to

1659
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:44,479
Speaker 4: people from all walks of life and yeah amen amen.

1660
01:13:44,520 --> 01:13:46,240
Speaker 2: So how can people find you?

1661
01:13:47,400 --> 01:13:54,080
Speaker 4: So on Instagram? Yeah it is Underscore Sanchez. Yeah, just

1662
01:13:54,120 --> 01:13:56,639
Speaker 4: on Instagram. My Twitter got hacked.

1663
01:13:56,680 --> 01:13:59,599
Speaker 2: Oh no, this episode is actually going to come out earlier.

1664
01:13:59,680 --> 01:14:02,680
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1665
01:14:03,760 --> 01:14:07,879
Speaker 2: So if you want to watch our finesses talk our.

1666
01:14:07,760 --> 01:14:10,160
Speaker 3: Shit, have something cleavage out today.

1667
01:14:10,520 --> 01:14:15,000
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1668
01:14:15,040 --> 01:14:16,800
Speaker 2: go to rate and review us on Apple Podcasts or

1669
01:14:16,800 --> 01:14:21,479
Speaker 2: you get a second. I love you and take care.

1670
01:14:22,000 --> 01:14:37,479
Speaker 2: Bye bye