Speaker 1: I can't see the thing. Okay, what's up, y'all? Welcome
Speaker 1: to hand me my purse the podcast. I am Mimi Walker,
Speaker 1: and I will be here forever host each and every
Speaker 1: single time you tune into this podcast. So go ahead
Speaker 1: and get comfortable. Get yourself a glass of your favorite beverage,
Speaker 1: whether that's alkaline water, red koolaid, a high cup of
Speaker 1: tea with honey, a glass of Cabernet, Sauvignon or Hennessy,
Speaker 1: and light yourself a candle, some incense or burn some
Speaker 1: sage and just get ready to chill out and have
Speaker 1: a good time. What's up, friends and ken, It's Mimi
Speaker 1: Resident Auntie Supreme here at Hammy my personal podcast, and
Speaker 1: today I am sipping on some hot maringaity with lemon
Speaker 1: and honey. Why because coronavirus. That's why, COVID nineteen. Trying
Speaker 1: to make sure that my body is ready, my immune
Speaker 1: system is up and ready to fight off any viruses,
Speaker 1: particularly the coronavirus. Okay, on every show, I'm going to
Speaker 1: tell you what I'm drinking that day, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to ask you what you're drinking. And I know you
Speaker 1: probably find it weird that I'm asking you because you
Speaker 1: will not respond while I'm recording it, but I would
Speaker 1: like it if you would tell me what you're sipping
Speaker 1: on under whatever post that I post regarding this episode.
Speaker 1: So if I post a snippet of the episode, tell
Speaker 1: me what you are sipping on while you're listening to
Speaker 1: it or while you listen to the show, I would
Speaker 1: love that. So, guys, every episode, I am going to
Speaker 1: have a segment. I'm kind of walking you through the
Speaker 1: segments because it's the first episode, so I'm walking you
Speaker 1: through the segments so you get an understanding of how
Speaker 1: the show is formatted. There is going to be a
Speaker 1: segment called Antimme's Jam, and basically that is just going
Speaker 1: to be a song for that show that is one
Speaker 1: of my jams, okay. And so it's a it's a
Speaker 1: playlist that I curated on Spotify that is like Generation
Speaker 1: X Heaven okay. And so it is a great like
Speaker 1: hodgepodge of all different genres of music. But these are
Speaker 1: all songs that like, I love that I remember from childhood,
Speaker 1: my teenage years, college, well into adulthood. There's gonna be
Speaker 1: a lot of music from the late seventies, the eighties
Speaker 1: and the nineties are in there heavy. Okay, eighties and
Speaker 1: nineties was that is when I was really introduced to
Speaker 1: music and I could really like fall in love with music.
Speaker 1: There may be some music from the sixties, probably not
Speaker 1: a lot, but there will be some there, and not
Speaker 1: too much music from current times. But the eighties and
Speaker 1: the nineties are kind of dominating the playlist. And so
Speaker 1: if you go to Spotify, like I said, I curated
Speaker 1: this playlist, it's called hand Me My Purse. If you
Speaker 1: go to Spotify and you search hand Me my Purse,
Speaker 1: the podcast of course will come up, but the playlist
Speaker 1: should come up as well, and I suggest you go
Speaker 1: over and follow because I'm always adding to it. If
Speaker 1: you have any suggestions, please feel free to DM them
Speaker 1: to me or email them to me and you will
Speaker 1: find out how to get in contact with me at
Speaker 1: the end of the show, when I give you all
Speaker 1: of the information that you need. So for this show,
Speaker 1: my jam is actually not gonna be found on the
Speaker 1: playlist because it's not an actual song. It's like a
Speaker 1: remix tom actually with coronavirus. I'm sure you have seen,
Speaker 1: and if you haven't, I'm probably gonna put it in
Speaker 1: the show notes because I want you to see Cardi
Speaker 1: B's rants about the government and coronavirus and how like
Speaker 1: it's got her shook, and there is quite a bit
Speaker 1: of cursing in it in it excuse me, but if
Speaker 1: you can make it past that, you'll be fine. It's
Speaker 1: really funny. But while it's funny, she is really dropping
Speaker 1: some knowledge over there for us all. And I talked
Speaker 1: about it and posted it on my Instagram page, which
Speaker 1: I will tell you how to find that as well
Speaker 1: at the end of the show. But it is the
Speaker 1: coronavirus remix to one of Cardi B's rants, and the
Speaker 1: account can be found on Instagram and on YouTube, and
Speaker 1: the account is at I am as a mary A
Speaker 1: r k k E y Z, so it looks like
Speaker 1: it reads I Mark Keys with a Z on Instagram.
Speaker 1: Please go listen to it. It is the best. The
Speaker 1: visuals that go along with it just really push the
Speaker 1: fact that black people are geniuses, okay, creative geniuses, Like
Speaker 1: there's no way to get around that. So please, when
Speaker 1: you get a chance, go check it out. And I'm
Speaker 1: gonna play a snippet of it for you right now.
Speaker 1: All right, now, let's get on into this show. So guys,
Speaker 1: let's talk coronavirus or COVID nineteen. I love COVID nineteen,
Speaker 1: that term. I don't love the virus. Please. First of all,
Speaker 1: let me just say that somebody said something and was like,
Speaker 1: you know, you're gonna get the virus to me, don't
Speaker 1: say that because for my generation, that means something totally different. Okay,
Speaker 1: saying that you have the virus is saying to me
Speaker 1: that I have HIV or AIDS. Don't say that to
Speaker 1: me because in my generation, that is how we address
Speaker 1: or at least maybe it's a local thing. It could
Speaker 1: be a local way of saying it, but just don't
Speaker 1: say that to me. Either way, all viruses are bad,
Speaker 1: but don't say that I got the virus. I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not a fan of who you saying that to me.
Speaker 1: But let's talk. I want to hit it from a
Speaker 1: different perspective. I want to talk about how we are
Speaker 1: coping in the black community amidst this global pandemic. This.
Speaker 1: I have never experienced anything like this in my life,
Speaker 1: so I can't even like lie or you know, say that, oh,
Speaker 1: this is the same as mercer or saws or the
Speaker 1: swine flu the word flu ebola, Like every two years,
Speaker 1: there's always something going on, And initially I didn't take
Speaker 1: it as seriously as I do now because each day,
Speaker 1: like everything just gets more and more aggressive in terms of,
Speaker 1: you know, what's going on and how they are addressing
Speaker 1: the situations. I want to check in with my people.
Speaker 1: I want to see, like, how are we coping? Because realistically,
Speaker 1: a lot of times, you know, I just feel like
Speaker 1: if you are black in America, particularly because that's what
Speaker 1: I am, we are so focused on so many other
Speaker 1: things that when stuff like this happens, it's almost like
Speaker 1: we look at it as if it's outside of our
Speaker 1: realm of existence, right, But I think the real situation
Speaker 1: for this is that like this is, this is real,
Speaker 1: and we are all really affected. Even if we are
Speaker 1: not getting the virus at rapid rates. We ain't at work,
Speaker 1: I tell you that much, because I haven't been to
Speaker 1: work in a minute, and I thank God that I'm
Speaker 1: blessed to have the job that I have. But I
Speaker 1: just think, all I keep thinking about are the people
Speaker 1: who work in malls, because I worked in retail, you know,
Speaker 1: all through college and even after college, I always kept
Speaker 1: a part time job at a retail store to just
Speaker 1: have some extra play money. But think about the people
Speaker 1: who their job full time is in retail or the doctors,
Speaker 1: the nurses, like God bless them, and I'm so grateful
Speaker 1: for them. But just think about the people who can't
Speaker 1: work and that it makes me really sad. And it's
Speaker 1: hitting us in a different kind of way. So it's
Speaker 1: hitting in our pockets. Our kids are home from school.
Speaker 1: Some of your parents are forced to be with y'all
Speaker 1: kids all day every day. I know that it is
Speaker 1: stressing you guys out For me, I'm an educator, so
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie I missed the kids. Do I
Speaker 1: miss them? I'm ready to go back to work. I
Speaker 1: want to see the kids. But you know what, I
Speaker 1: think it's good that the parents get to sit home
Speaker 1: with the kids and see what's really going on as
Speaker 1: far as like online with this online learning thing. But
Speaker 1: I want to get back to how we are coping.
Speaker 1: So a lot of times I think we don't take
Speaker 1: things seriously. But something that has really hit me is
Speaker 1: something that I saw on the internet the other day
Speaker 1: and I'm going to read it to you guys, and
Speaker 1: it's about trauma, and it hit me because to me,
Speaker 1: it is totally the black experience in America. So it
Speaker 1: says why some trauma survivors are feeling calmer during this time.
Speaker 1: As trauma survivors, we are always on alert for the
Speaker 1: danger to come. We've been preparing for it our whole lives.
Speaker 1: So while we are obviously horrified by this, and there
Speaker 1: is definitely a lot of caution and grief giving given
Speaker 1: excuse me, the devastating losses around the world, now that
Speaker 1: there's a tangible danger that has arrived, that we know,
Speaker 1: the ins and outs of our survival skills are kicking in,
Speaker 1: and we feel more prepared than most emotionally wise. In addition,
Speaker 1: now other people are feeling in a similar way as
Speaker 1: we do on a daily basis, which cuts through the
Speaker 1: alienation that we often feel and offers some validation for
Speaker 1: a reality we live in every day. Though we couldn't
Speaker 1: excuse me, though we wouldn't wish it on anyone, we
Speaker 1: are all in this together. That said, it shouldn't take
Speaker 1: a global pandemic or collective trauma for people to develop
Speaker 1: empathy for others or see their perspective. May there be
Speaker 1: collective healing on all levels ahead for everyone, and this
Speaker 1: came from I want to say it is an Instagram
Speaker 1: account self care Warrior. I believe that's where it came from.
Speaker 1: If I'm wrong, please correct me. But I just thought
Speaker 1: it was awesome, and like that's pretty much our existence,
Speaker 1: Like we are so used to like living in a
Speaker 1: space of trauma, and this is not all black people's experience.
Speaker 1: So if this ain't you, okay, it ain't you, sit
Speaker 1: this one out, sis, But I know for me, I'm
Speaker 1: a trauma survivor, so I get it, and it's the truth.
Speaker 1: You are, excuse me, always expecting, you know, something bad
Speaker 1: to happen, or you've already experienced so many bad things
Speaker 1: that it's like, okay, it's a global pandemic, whatever the
Speaker 1: hell that means. I'm going to get my hair done,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get my nails done, I'm going to
Speaker 1: the carry out, or I'm going on this trip. My
Speaker 1: life is going to continue. But unfortunately, for some people,
Speaker 1: it's not really going that way, you know. And so
Speaker 1: for me, the reality is that we might need to
Speaker 1: just sit our asses down for a second. We have
Speaker 1: to take this seriously. Now. One thing I don't believe
Speaker 1: in is buying into fear culture, because the media will
Speaker 1: drown you and smother you with fear tactics. You know,
Speaker 1: I know people who just sit and like watch the
Speaker 1: news all day. That kind of stuff affects your spirit.
Speaker 1: So you got to find other ways to get the
Speaker 1: information that you need and to keep it moving and
Speaker 1: to take precautionary measures that are healthy and that are smart.
Speaker 1: One thing I want to say is, you know, as
Speaker 1: a black woman, I understand when they close the barbershops
Speaker 1: and the hair salons. I kind of choked a little
Speaker 1: bit because I have hair appointment on this Friday that
Speaker 1: I won't be able to go to. I need to
Speaker 1: get my hair cut and I need to get my
Speaker 1: hair done. I won't be able to do that. I'm
Speaker 1: concerned because I don't like doing my own hair. But
Speaker 1: guess what I gotta just, you know, take this l
Speaker 1: because I can't be out in the streets getting my
Speaker 1: hair done. Don't get your nails done. This one is
Speaker 1: really killing me because I have a standing nail appointment
Speaker 1: with my nail tech, who I love, love you, Tara,
Speaker 1: but I can't go get my nails done because they
Speaker 1: said I can't. And when you really think about it,
Speaker 1: like It's just dangerous because I could have the virus
Speaker 1: and not know, go get my nails done, infect her.
Speaker 1: She then in turn infects the people in her house.
Speaker 1: Then if you know, somebody in her house is still
Speaker 1: going to work, they could go and infect more people.
Speaker 1: And then we'll be out here like Italy. And we
Speaker 1: ain't trying to be like that, like on some real shit.
Speaker 1: We're not trying to be like that. Okay, So you know,
Speaker 1: do your own nailsis okay, do your own hair. I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna be The good thing about me is that
Speaker 1: I like hats. I have probably over twenty five different
Speaker 1: types of hats. I will just wear hats or better yet,
Speaker 1: if I'm in the house, I'm just gonna stay in
Speaker 1: the house. How about that. You know, this is something
Speaker 1: that most people did not think about, but I thought
Speaker 1: about it just based on who I am. What are
Speaker 1: dope boys doing right now? For you, those of you
Speaker 1: who don't know what a dope boy is, a dope
Speaker 1: boy is a drug deal Okay, so what are they
Speaker 1: doing right now? They're not practicing social distancing because if
Speaker 1: they are practicing social distancing, they're not making money. And
Speaker 1: if you know, they're not making money, then they don't eat.
Speaker 1: You know, man don't work, man don't eat, Okay, So
Speaker 1: I wonder what they're doing. And not only that, I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure that their customers or their clientele are definitely
Speaker 1: not socially distancing themselves from anything because they have an agenda.
Speaker 1: They are focused, and they are trying to get what
Speaker 1: they need to get to get through their day. So
Speaker 1: that's just something to think about because those are people
Speaker 1: that a lot of times you don't hear anything about
Speaker 1: them on the news. And because of who I am
Speaker 1: and my experience in life, and no, I'm not a
Speaker 1: drug dealer. I've never been a drug dealer. Child, I'm
Speaker 1: scared of jail. I don't play those kind of games, okay,
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm an educator in Baltimore City, So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think about those kind of things because I
Speaker 1: think about students, I think about parents of students, and
Speaker 1: just based on my life period, that is something that
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think about because I work in Baltimore City.
Speaker 1: Like you can't avoid those two humans in Baltimore City.
Speaker 1: But those are people that I think about, and you know,
Speaker 1: I have empathy for them. And while most people won't
Speaker 1: because most people will say things like that goes back
Speaker 1: to that whole judgment thing. You know, I'm not judging them,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I might judge the office they have them,
Speaker 1: I might do that, But aside from that, like people
Speaker 1: aren't gonna naturally have empathy for them because they're breaking
Speaker 1: the law or there in their minds they're choosing to
Speaker 1: do drugs. That's not really how addiction works. And I'm
Speaker 1: just much more of an empathetic soul than that, and
Speaker 1: I just those are just people that I've been thinking about.
Speaker 1: In that I'm keeping in mind people who are not salaried,
Speaker 1: who you know, aren't just gonna still get paid because
Speaker 1: they're not at work, Like this is affecting people, and
Speaker 1: I really just wanted to go away. Naturally, how we
Speaker 1: cope as a people, there are some things that we
Speaker 1: do and I com miss some because I'm no expert.
Speaker 1: I'm an expert on being black, though I will say
Speaker 1: that some things that we do naturally. We laugh, we
Speaker 1: find humor, and we will party and commune. So this
Speaker 1: is where we struggle, because what we do in our
Speaker 1: community and in our families is naturally we come together
Speaker 1: in times of Christis. Any times of trauma, we find
Speaker 1: each other. We surround each other with each other so
Speaker 1: that we can be there for each other and so
Speaker 1: that we can fix it and work it out right.
Speaker 1: This post is an issue for us because we can't
Speaker 1: really commune because we don't want the heavy gebs and music.
Speaker 1: That's something that always helps us and being creative. Here's
Speaker 1: a tea. We didn't found a way around all of
Speaker 1: this because we black and we magic, and that's just
Speaker 1: what we do. If you are on social media, or
Speaker 1: even if you are not, because my aunt, actually my
Speaker 1: aunt's not on social media, but she found out about
Speaker 1: this d Nice, who was a DJ and a hip
Speaker 1: hop pioneer in the eighties and early nineties. He hosted
Speaker 1: several days of like parties where he just DJ for
Speaker 1: hours on Instagram live and he reached well over one
Speaker 1: hundred thousand people were in the live recording and he
Speaker 1: just played all day. He changes his hats up, which
Speaker 1: I thought was super cute because, like I just said,
Speaker 1: I'm a lover of hats. So he wore different hats.
Speaker 1: He would change his hat and you could see where
Speaker 1: he was DJ and when it was bright and sunny
Speaker 1: outside and then it was dark and it was nighttime outside.
Speaker 1: I think he was going for like nine hours straight,
Speaker 1: not really taking too many breaks to like really eat.
Speaker 1: I want to really talk about how self sacrificing that is,
Speaker 1: because on some real shit, he didn't have to do that,
Speaker 1: Like really he did not. I saw somebody wrote something
Speaker 1: like all superheroes don't wear capes, and that's the truth,
Speaker 1: because he came through. I don't need no fucking Superman.
Speaker 1: He was all the superhero that we needed, and not
Speaker 1: just the black community, because I'm sure that there were
Speaker 1: people from all different races, all different backgrounds. It doesn't
Speaker 1: matter the color of your skin. It was just a
Speaker 1: big party and it was so cute. It was called
Speaker 1: the hashtag was like club quarantine. But that's just how
Speaker 1: we operate. We just make a way out of no way.
Speaker 1: So while we couldn't commune in the physical sense, we
Speaker 1: commune the best way that we could through social media.
Speaker 1: And I mean like people were calling people, so many
Speaker 1: people with texting me, sending me DM saying girl getting
Speaker 1: this live. He is jamming, sending me messages with screenshots
Speaker 1: saying he's playing our song get in here, And that
Speaker 1: is so amazing. To me that for me and not
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not I can say what I want
Speaker 1: to say one because this is my podcast and it's
Speaker 1: my opinion. But that is godlike, because that is sacrificing
Speaker 1: that that he could have laid up on his couch
Speaker 1: all day eight chicken wings, potato chips, and drank grape
Speaker 1: soda and watched movies. Or he could have got online
Speaker 1: and figured out how to make money during this. He's
Speaker 1: not getting paid for this. He did not get paid
Speaker 1: for that. And not just him, it's so many DJ's.
Speaker 1: My cousin's boyfriend is a DJ. He did the same
Speaker 1: thing for like three hours. He played a set on
Speaker 1: Facebook Live. And somebody else told me that some other
Speaker 1: DJs did it. I know a local DJ, DJ Quicksilvera
Speaker 1: did it. Anthony Hamilton did a live concert in his house,
Speaker 1: fully dressed with no shoes on. Okay, you know, I
Speaker 1: think Erica Badou did it. Also, I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: she actually came through. But you know, we find a
Speaker 1: way to make a way out of no way. It's
Speaker 1: what we do. And you know, I do a lot
Speaker 1: of going back to slavery. But like these are generational blessings,
Speaker 1: These are things that our ancestors have taught us without
Speaker 1: us even realizing that they taught us. Okay, So I'm
Speaker 1: grateful to all of these celebrities, and even if you're
Speaker 1: not a celebrity, people who are just taking time out
Speaker 1: of their day to do something kind and just a
Speaker 1: random act of kindness, a random act of goodness out
Speaker 1: of the kindness and the goodness of their heart while
Speaker 1: they are just bunker down in the house. And I'm
Speaker 1: praying to God that there's a return on their investment
Speaker 1: of time and faith, and I hope that this comes
Speaker 1: back and this blesses them tenfold. I really do. And
Speaker 1: if you missed out on it, you missed a good time,
Speaker 1: because I ain't gonna lie d nice was jamming like
Speaker 1: jam and so many people said that they were just
Speaker 1: dancing in their house, having a good old time. And
Speaker 1: I mean, that's really what we need right now, because
Speaker 1: you know, it's a dark time globally, which is one
Speaker 1: of my favorite words to say, apparently according to my
Speaker 1: producers sets on globally, it's a dark time for us,
Speaker 1: it is, and I just really believe that on the
Speaker 1: other side of this, it's nothing but light and goodness.
Speaker 1: And joy, and I'm just I'm excited to see that
Speaker 1: part because I'm tired of being stuck in the house.
Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna lie. I'm tired of it. Okay,
Speaker 1: over it dot com is what I am. So I
Speaker 1: want to offer some coping methods most people. I shouldn't
Speaker 1: say most people because I don't know. But you know,
Speaker 1: some people already know about doing some of these things.
Speaker 1: But if you don't, and maybe you know about them
Speaker 1: and you just don't do them, what better time. Time
Speaker 1: in the present. It's time to get up off your
Speaker 1: ass and find a way to do something to make
Speaker 1: you feel better so that you don't fall into a
Speaker 1: state of depression or so that you don't go into
Speaker 1: this dark state that the world is in you fight
Speaker 1: through with light. Okay, So the first one I want
Speaker 1: you to do is to find and or seek laughter
Speaker 1: if you stuck in the house, watch TV shows or
Speaker 1: listen to podcasts like this one that are funny to
Speaker 1: you or that bring you joy that makes your spear
Speaker 1: feel light. Watch some funny movies for me. Funny movies
Speaker 1: for me. Anchorman Part one is one of my favorite movies.
Speaker 1: Coming to America is one of my favorite movies. Kings
Speaker 1: of Comedy is something that will always make me laugh.
Speaker 1: Or I will just sit and watch Martin reruns all day.
Speaker 1: I will also watch Two and a Half Men reruns
Speaker 1: all day. If y'all don't know about Two and a
Speaker 1: half Men, y'all gotta get with it, because let me
Speaker 1: tell you something. Yes, that is a show. You may
Speaker 1: see one black No, I think two people. I saw
Speaker 1: the Green Mouth the God. May he rest in peace.
Speaker 1: I don't know his name. I think it's Michael. It
Speaker 1: is Michael Sasson. Okay, so his name is Michael. I
Speaker 1: don't know his last name, but may he rest in peace.
Speaker 1: He was on there as one of the neighbors and
Speaker 1: his daughter went to Jake School. If you don't know Jake,
Speaker 1: then it's not gonna make sense. But not a lot
Speaker 1: of black people on the show. Okay, but the show
Speaker 1: is hilarious. Another funny show for me is Bob's Burgers.
Speaker 1: Yes it is animated. Yes it is funny, but you
Speaker 1: gotta figure out where to find your joy. Figure it out. Also,
Speaker 1: thank god for FaceTime, Thank god for technology. So although
Speaker 1: I'm a generation exer, I'm glad we got millennials. I'm
Speaker 1: glad that they pushed the agenda of technology so hard
Speaker 1: because I can FaceTime my family all over. I can
Speaker 1: FaceTime my best friend in Louisiana or my best friend
Speaker 1: across the city. Like I can talk to whoever I want.
Speaker 1: I can call people, I can text people. I can
Speaker 1: find ways to laugh. My cousin, he has four kids.
Speaker 1: They're really, really cute. I can FaceTime with him. The
Speaker 1: kids are doing ridiculous things. It's good for me. It
Speaker 1: makes me feel good about my life right. Another thing
Speaker 1: is to seek support. A lot of therapists are still
Speaker 1: working amidst this pandemic, so while some of them may
Speaker 1: not be having in faith sessions, they are offering teletherapy
Speaker 1: and video therapy. My therapist, yes, I go to therapy.
Speaker 1: And it is good for everybody that I go to therapy,
Speaker 1: not just me, everybody. It is good for everybody on
Speaker 1: the planet that I go to therapy. Okay, my therapist,
Speaker 1: she's amazing, is offering teletherapy and video therapy. And I
Speaker 1: have an appointment on Wednesday, and I'm excited about it.
Speaker 1: So seek some support, and this is something that in
Speaker 1: our community we don't really do. We're starting to get
Speaker 1: out of that whole notion that you know therapy is
Speaker 1: for white people, or I don't need to go therapy.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna give it to Jesus, right, or I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna pray. No, baby, we got to do more
Speaker 1: than just pray. Because I'm not really good at the Bible.
Speaker 1: It's not really my jam. It's not really what I do.
Speaker 1: But I know in the Bible, and this is what
Speaker 1: I always say. I don't know where to find it,
Speaker 1: but I know it's in there, and it says faith
Speaker 1: without works, it's dead. So God wants you to do
Speaker 1: some work. God can fix anything. We already know that,
Speaker 1: but you gotta do some work. So I don't know how.
Speaker 1: An argument with my grandmother about this before you gotta
Speaker 1: go to therapy. People gotta go to therapy. Okay, go
Speaker 1: to therapy, implement the methods and the coping strategies that
Speaker 1: they give you, because that's also showing God. Hey, God,
Speaker 1: I'm asking you for this thing. But not only am
Speaker 1: I asking you for but I'm going to do the
Speaker 1: work that I need to do. So I want you
Speaker 1: to know that I'm serious about this. Right, So seek
Speaker 1: some support, and even if the support is your pastor,
Speaker 1: or your spiritual advisor or just somebody. Just make sure
Speaker 1: you have a strong support system in place to help
Speaker 1: you through this time. Another thing is mindfulness techniques and meditation.
Speaker 1: You can put yoga in this because yoga, you know,
Speaker 1: although it is a form of exercise, yoga is definitely
Speaker 1: a mindfulness technique, you know, learning different breathing techniques. As
Speaker 1: far as meditation is concerned, you can find really good
Speaker 1: guided meditations. I prefer guided meditations. My brain is always
Speaker 1: going at one hundred and fifty seven thousand million miles
Speaker 1: per minute. It's hard to slow my mind down. But
Speaker 1: I kept trying because I really wanted to get into meditation.
Speaker 1: I kept trying, and now I can do spurts maybe
Speaker 1: like I have yet to go beyond about you know,
Speaker 1: between twelve and fifteen minutes. But I can do guided
Speaker 1: meditations and they are really, really awesome. You can find
Speaker 1: really good ones online. All you gotta do is google
Speaker 1: guided meditations. Okay, you can find them on YouTube. I'm
Speaker 1: sure you can find them on iTunes. I am a
Speaker 1: Spotify Premium member, so I have a lot. I have
Speaker 1: a playlist actually called Iyehel, and I have a lot
Speaker 1: of really good guided meditations on Spotify. There's a really
Speaker 1: good podcast called Meditation Minis that I listened to and
Speaker 1: they have short like ten to fifteen minute guided meditations.
Speaker 1: I listened to it. It's good for me. It works
Speaker 1: to me. So if you say I can't meditate because
Speaker 1: I can't call my mind, this is a great way
Speaker 1: for you to start physical recreation. Okay, go outside and
Speaker 1: get some fresh air, go for a walk, go for
Speaker 1: a run, or just go outside and get some sun.
Speaker 1: Work in your yard, wash your car, or just go
Speaker 1: stand in the sun like that is God's way of
Speaker 1: smiling at you. Go stand in the sun. Another thing
Speaker 1: you can do is dance in your house. Look at me,
Speaker 1: this girl over your dropping stuff. Sorry, guys, go stand
Speaker 1: in the sun. Dance in your house. Turn on some music.
Speaker 1: See if d nights is spending on Instagram. If not,
Speaker 1: find some music, turn it on and just dance. Go
Speaker 1: up and down the steps. Just get your body moving,
Speaker 1: get them endorphins moving, get your adrenaline pumping, because not
Speaker 1: only will that distract you from thinking about gloom and doom,
Speaker 1: but it's also setting off chemicals in your brain. Good chemicals, right,
Speaker 1: and that's what we want Another thing is just some
Speaker 1: self care. So wash hair, do your hair, do your nails,
Speaker 1: clip your toe nails. Brother, please clip your toe nails
Speaker 1: because they need to be clipped. I'm sure. Take a
Speaker 1: hot long bath, take a hot shower, use some fancy soap.
Speaker 1: Just do something to just get your mind off it.
Speaker 1: And if you have to watch TV and the news,
Speaker 1: just don't oversaturate yourself with the media because it's just
Speaker 1: too many sources of negative energy. Find some you want.
Speaker 1: You need positive vibes right now, that's what we need.
Speaker 1: We need good vibes only. So watch the news for
Speaker 1: a little bit if you just need an update, but
Speaker 1: really you can find an update. The best place to
Speaker 1: get your information, if you want me to just keep
Speaker 1: it a stack with you, is to get your information
Speaker 1: from the CDC. Okay, and if you need like local information,
Speaker 1: I get watching the news just for local information as
Speaker 1: far as like work is concerned and like closures. But
Speaker 1: if you are curious about facts, I suggest that you
Speaker 1: get your information from the CDC. Some people don't know
Speaker 1: what the CDC is. That is the Center for Disease Control.
Speaker 1: It is a government agency. They have all the information
Speaker 1: that you need and you can find them at www
Speaker 1: dot CDC dot gov. Again, that is www dot C,
Speaker 1: d C, dot g o V. So I want to
Speaker 1: wrap this up. I'm praying for the world right now.
Speaker 1: I'm really hoping that this turns around soon because from
Speaker 1: a very selfish standpoint, I want to get out of
Speaker 1: the damn house. I'm tired of being in the house.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of restrictions being put on me, saying I
Speaker 1: can't do this and I can't do that. I want
Speaker 1: to go to the bar and sit down and have
Speaker 1: a drink with my friends. I want to get my
Speaker 1: hair done. I would like to get my nails done,
Speaker 1: you know, like I want this to be over and
Speaker 1: I want to go back to work. Like I missed
Speaker 1: the kids. I miss my co workers. I want to
Speaker 1: see them. I want to laugh with them. I miss
Speaker 1: my cheerleaders. I know I told you that I coached here,
Speaker 1: and if I didn't, I coach cheerleader. I missed them,
Speaker 1: and I'm tired of them texting me every day. I
Speaker 1: would rather just see them at work, I really would.
Speaker 1: I just hope that everybody is finding a way to
Speaker 1: find some light in this, and I just want everybody
Speaker 1: to know that it's gonna get better. It's the only thing.
Speaker 1: It's the only resolve. It can only get better. We
Speaker 1: just have to be patient and just stick it out
Speaker 1: and just stay our butts at home. That's really you
Speaker 1: know it as This is a segment that I entitled
Speaker 1: straight Facts the damn good advice you never knew you needed.
Speaker 1: And this is basically a segment where like I offer advice,
Speaker 1: So listeners will submit questions, you know, about their life,
Speaker 1: about their friends lives, or they'll just submit questions that
Speaker 1: they just may need some advice on, and I will
Speaker 1: offer my opinion for free. And some of the questions
Speaker 1: that I get that I've gotten, excuse me, have been
Speaker 1: pretty interesting. So let's get into today's question. Today's question
Speaker 1: is from Denise from Fatteville, North Carolina, and Denise says,
Speaker 1: I have a friend who is dating a guy that
Speaker 1: she isn't really into. He's a nice guy, a college grad,
Speaker 1: good career, and is looking to settle down and start
Speaker 1: a family. He is everything she wants on paper, but
Speaker 1: she's not physically attracted to him. What advice should I
Speaker 1: give her? Now? Different people are gonna give you different
Speaker 1: answers on this, Denise, but I'm gonna just go ahead
Speaker 1: and say this, stop wasting that man's goddamn time, and
Speaker 1: stop wasting your time. Okay. While some people would say, well,
Speaker 1: you know, you can learn to be attracted to him
Speaker 1: and you can learn to love him, I ain't with
Speaker 1: none of that bullshit, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: if I can't, if when I lay down with you,
Speaker 1: I'm not attracted to you when I look at you,
Speaker 1: that's gonna cause problems for me. And you can call
Speaker 1: me shallow, you can call me say that I am
Speaker 1: a low wrung human being and that I don't I
Speaker 1: don't have any any depth, and I don't have any morals.
Speaker 1: I don't really give a damn what you say about
Speaker 1: me if I could really be honest with you, because
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, if I can't look
Speaker 1: at you and at least be remotely attracted to you
Speaker 1: or find something that I'm attracted to, that's gonna be
Speaker 1: a problem. Because I can't speak for anybody else. But
Speaker 1: when I see other men that are attractive, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: really pay attention to the fact that there are other
Speaker 1: attractive men. And maybe I'm shallow, maybe I am maybe
Speaker 1: I am a libra and we are you know, we
Speaker 1: like beautiful things, you know. But realistically this has nothing
Speaker 1: to do with astrology. This is about human nature. I
Speaker 1: would never want to be attached to someone for life,
Speaker 1: and marriage is serious, like I take marriage seriously. You
Speaker 1: make you make these vows for better, for worse, rich
Speaker 1: or for poor, sickness and in health, you know, and granted,
Speaker 1: anything can happen, you know, like you know you could
Speaker 1: be married to someone as beautiful as it just Elba
Speaker 1: or Andre Benjamin. God there find black men and something
Speaker 1: could happen to them. They could be injured in a
Speaker 1: fire and dismorphed. I don't know if I used the
Speaker 1: right word, but if I didn't, forgive me. Disfigured is
Speaker 1: what I meant, right, right, not dysmorphed, because I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about body dysmorphia, which could tie into it. But anyway,
Speaker 1: they could become disfigured, right, But that is a if.
Speaker 1: And as as some of our aunties and uncles have said,
Speaker 1: if if was a fifth, we'd all be drunk. And
Speaker 1: if you don't know about that, that's because you're probably
Speaker 1: too young. Listen, if you can't look at him and
Speaker 1: find something attractive about him unless you are a stone
Speaker 1: cold gold digger, and you can you can work through that.
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't care about how much money you have.
Speaker 1: I don't care how money college degrees you have. I
Speaker 1: don't care how nice you are. At the end of
Speaker 1: the day, I have to be attracted to you in
Speaker 1: some way, and I would not in return. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: want a man to be with me who didn't find
Speaker 1: me attractive in some way. I don't want that. I
Speaker 1: want you to look at me and be like, God,
Speaker 1: I love her with her cute ass, she's so pretty.
Speaker 1: I want that she's so beautiful. Whatever it is you
Speaker 1: like to be called. I don't really care about what
Speaker 1: you like to be called. But I'm just saying I
Speaker 1: want somebody to look at me and find me physically attractive.
Speaker 1: Because before we are anything else, before we are college graduates,
Speaker 1: before we are nice people, we are humans, and humans
Speaker 1: are very physical, you know, And so I just would say, like,
Speaker 1: stop wasting his time, because also, aside from you know,
Speaker 1: the selfish standpoint, like I don't want to be with
Speaker 1: somebody that I'm not physically attracted to. I think it's
Speaker 1: mean to do that to people. I think it's hurtful.
Speaker 1: It's not very kind if you are not attracted to
Speaker 1: them and you are just with them because they're good
Speaker 1: on paper, because it's paper, it's stuff, it's things. You know.
Speaker 1: Him being nice, him being kind is the best thing
Speaker 1: that you mentioned. Who cares about all that other stuff?
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter? And that's just my thought. What do
Speaker 1: you guys think? I would love to hear what you
Speaker 1: guys think. Please tell me, and I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: exactly how to tell me in just a few seconds.
Speaker 1: This is a segment that I call we got to
Speaker 1: do better. And in this segment, I'm going to share affirmations,
Speaker 1: words of encouragement, and just all around positive energy by
Speaker 1: any means necessary. So that could come to you by
Speaker 1: way of quotes, it could come to you by way
Speaker 1: of song lyrics. It could come to you and like
Speaker 1: I said, by any means necessary. So however, I gotta
Speaker 1: get some positive vibes out I will. I just think
Speaker 1: it's a great way to close and in the show
Speaker 1: on a positive note, especially a show with the topics
Speaker 1: like with the topic I was trying to say with
Speaker 1: a topic such as this, because it's kind of heavy
Speaker 1: and I have if you're not really into affirmations, or
Speaker 1: you think they're bogus, or you don't understand them. I
Speaker 1: have a quote about affirmations just to kind of explain,
Speaker 1: and I really love this quote to just kind of
Speaker 1: break down what they are. It says, affirmations are statements
Speaker 1: going beyond the reality of the present into the creation
Speaker 1: of the future through the words you use in the now.
Speaker 1: And that is by Louise l Hey. I love that
Speaker 1: quote to explain what affirmations are. Today's affirmation and or
Speaker 1: good vibe quote or whatever you want to call it
Speaker 1: comes from Marian Anderson, the beautiful songstress that we call
Speaker 1: ours in Black America, and she said, I thought it
Speaker 1: was perfect for today. She said, fear is a disease
Speaker 1: that eats away logic and makes man in human. And
Speaker 1: I just want you guys to just think about that,
Speaker 1: just sit in it. And if you look at all
Speaker 1: the crazy shit that people have been doing over the
Speaker 1: past few weeks, like fighting in Walmart over toilet paper
Speaker 1: and like buying up all of the hand sanitizer. Like
Speaker 1: I get that it's a survival tactic and people's fight
Speaker 1: or flight is kicking in, but like it has totally
Speaker 1: destroyed their logic, and people are acting like psychos, like
Speaker 1: savage psychos, that's what they're acting like. And I just
Speaker 1: want us to get back to just being humans, and
Speaker 1: just like we gotta let all this go. While we
Speaker 1: do have to protect ourselves, I get that we just
Speaker 1: have to like let this whole fear driven energy that
Speaker 1: we have go and just get back to being like
Speaker 1: our whole selves. So I want to just say thank
Speaker 1: you to all of you guys for tuning in. This
Speaker 1: is my first episode, my first full episode. If you
Speaker 1: listen to the trailer, thank you, thank all of you.
Speaker 1: But I want to thank you for tuning in to
Speaker 1: this episode. I really appreciate it. It means a lot
Speaker 1: to me. I want to thank God for just giving
Speaker 1: me life. Like I don't really have to take that far.
Speaker 1: You know, some people take it real far and they say,
Speaker 1: I want to thank God for this and this and
Speaker 1: this and this and this, and while you should be
Speaker 1: thankful and grateful for all those things, I'm gonna just
Speaker 1: keep it real simple. I thank God for giving me life,
Speaker 1: giving me breath in my body, and giving me a
Speaker 1: voice so that I could do this. How about that?
Speaker 1: I want to thank my producer, Sasson Anderson. And that
Speaker 1: a slick name. It's not like Sassoon. It's Sasson rides
Speaker 1: me a Saffron, but it's not Saffron. It's Sasson anyway,
Speaker 1: Sasson Anderson, it's a fancy name. She's a fancy dame.
Speaker 1: I want to thank my family, my friends, my supporters,
Speaker 1: my listeners. Without you, guys, I wouldn't have anything because
Speaker 1: you know who would be listening to me, just me
Speaker 1: and Sason and that's not really gonna get me far
Speaker 1: in life. And I just can't wait until next time.
Speaker 1: Tune in next time. I'm hoping that you are engaged
Speaker 1: and intrigued. If I could, I would like you to
Speaker 1: I would like to, excuse me, ask you to stop
Speaker 1: before you exit out of whatever the medium is you
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Speaker 1: straight facts. I would also love if you guys would
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Speaker 1: your aunties even if there's no photo associated with it,
Speaker 1: quotes from your aunties, or just memories about your favorite
Speaker 1: auntie or you're not so favorite auntie, because we all
Speaker 1: got an auntie that you know, we don't really like
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Speaker 1: I want to thank you so much for your time.
Speaker 1: You know, people don't stop and thank people enough for
Speaker 1: just their time. I thank you for your time because
Speaker 1: that's an investment, because you can't get that back. I
Speaker 1: thank you for your energy, and I just can't wait
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Speaker 1: hated it, or actually, if you hated it, do tell somebody. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't really care. Just get them to listen because
Speaker 1: you might not like it, but they may like it.
Speaker 1: And if you do like it, you can expect a
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Speaker 1: same way you expected those checks on the first and
Speaker 1: the fifteenth early in the morning, you already know your
Speaker 1: girl is gonna have you covered on those days again,
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Speaker 1: find it there. I look forward to you, looking forward
Speaker 1: to listening, and I'm out this bitch