WEBVTT - Hands On with Red Star

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya ren An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Happy Monday. Becca again is out of town. She actually

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<v Speaker 1>left Haley today, So we have my other half, my boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>Robbie Anagar scrubbing in. Good to be here. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>guys for having me. First of all, it's so cute

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<v Speaker 1>how I like into this and excited you are. And

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<v Speaker 1>we were driving over here and I was just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like looking at my arms and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>did think I got any color because we just got

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<v Speaker 1>back from Cobbo And he was like save it for

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<v Speaker 1>the air professional that I was really quiet. The whole

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<v Speaker 1>drive over here is like, Okay, I think my parents

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<v Speaker 1>would be so proud of me to finally fulfill their

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<v Speaker 1>pretend dreams of me becoming a doctor and scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think this is a it's a big moment

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<v Speaker 1>for us, it's a big moment for everybody involved. I

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<v Speaker 1>did talk to I message Becca because I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you saw. There was video of Haley actually pulling

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<v Speaker 1>Becca up and serenading her at one of her shows

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<v Speaker 1>last night, and so I asked her and she said, basically,

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<v Speaker 1>every night she sings us her song pretty girl to

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<v Speaker 1>a fan, and because it was Becca's last night on

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<v Speaker 1>the tour, she brought Becca out and sing it, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was really beautiful, beautiful. But Becca will be back

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<v Speaker 1>next week, but for now. I message Becca in response

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<v Speaker 1>to that post, actually, and she responded right before we

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<v Speaker 1>got here, asking me if I'm ready for my debut? So, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>are you nervous? A little bit nervous? Yeah, what are

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<v Speaker 1>you nervous about? No, just I mean, I'm just a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit nervous, never having done this before, but I'm good. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically what we would do now is we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about our weekends. And it's very funny because we spent

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<v Speaker 1>the whole weekend together, so it's gonna be we had

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<v Speaker 1>a great weekend, similar stories. But what's interesting is, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I did something. If you're scrubber, you know that I

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<v Speaker 1>have vowed about something, vowed I would never do this

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<v Speaker 1>in my current relationship, and I broke that vow this weekend. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of a big deal, but it's actually really

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<v Speaker 1>really funny. So we were leaving to go to Cabo.

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<v Speaker 1>We had like an early flight out on Thursday, and

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<v Speaker 1>we had a lot to do from when we woke

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<v Speaker 1>up to when we left for the airport, and and

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<v Speaker 1>so we woke up and I had to go peace.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just you know, we have one toilet like normal,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we're not like Megan Trainer and have like

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<v Speaker 1>two toilets in the bathroom. We just have one toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he was getting ready, like washing his face,

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<v Speaker 1>doing his stuff at the sink, and I was like

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<v Speaker 1>on the toilet, which is totally normal. I wasn't expecting

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<v Speaker 1>this to happen. And you know that I'm like issues

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<v Speaker 1>going to the bathroom, and so when it comes, like

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<v Speaker 1>I have to just like let it come. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sitting there and I was like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to the bathroom. Wait. So so I'm I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like getting ready and I look at her and she

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<v Speaker 1>looks very focused, but like also like her eyes were

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<v Speaker 1>like a little bit glazed over. And I made a

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<v Speaker 1>comment I was saying, said I don't know what was

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<v Speaker 1>going on. I said, you look you look like you're

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<v Speaker 1>very tired. Because we woke up a little bit earlier

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<v Speaker 1>than usual to make the fly. They said, you actually

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<v Speaker 1>look a little bit tired, and she just like barely responded.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just staring straight ahead with this like deer

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<v Speaker 1>in the headlights look in her eyes and didn't find

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<v Speaker 1>out what was actually going on until hours later, when

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<v Speaker 1>she for some reason confessed. I didn't want to say thing,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm just like literally sitting there praying that he

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<v Speaker 1>can't hear me or like know what's going on. And

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<v Speaker 1>so then he eventually like leaves and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like dodge that bullet. I get ready. We go to

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<v Speaker 1>the Star go on our way to the airport, and

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<v Speaker 1>I ended up saying I have to tell you something. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know that it needed to be confessed.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we just would have gone forever not knowing

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<v Speaker 1>that that happened. I mean, that's definitely a wall that

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<v Speaker 1>we don't want to break. But I know, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>upset that I broke it, but I felt like it

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<v Speaker 1>was so interesting. It just goes to show you how

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<v Speaker 1>like I literally tell you everything because I felt weird

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<v Speaker 1>not telling you that like that you had that you

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<v Speaker 1>were holding it holding a lion. Yeah, Like I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to tell you something before we get to

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<v Speaker 1>the airplant. Just for future reference, feel free to hold

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<v Speaker 1>that back, but just in hindsight knowing that look on

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<v Speaker 1>your face that that was what was going on. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to have a conversation with you and

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<v Speaker 1>just weren't responding. Is so I was just like, I

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<v Speaker 1>need him to get out of here asap. If I

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<v Speaker 1>don't engage in conversation the quicker, he's going to get

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<v Speaker 1>out of here. But no sound, no smell, no nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>no no no. That was like a very stealth operation. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So the vacation started out with a bang, and we

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<v Speaker 1>went to Cabo, had the best time, slept a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>eight a lot. I put Robbie in charge of putting

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<v Speaker 1>sunscreen on my back the first day, and I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't obviously see my back, but my back is fried. No,

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<v Speaker 1>in my front. There's like a little patch about my

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<v Speaker 1>armpit that I didn't seem to get and right here

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit and like a little bit right here.

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<v Speaker 1>I did an expert job with the sunscreen, and yet

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<v Speaker 1>somehow her back got totally burnt. Yeah, everywhere everywhere. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not much of a sun girly, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>I do like the sunshine. It's funny because my book

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<v Speaker 1>is called The Sunshine Mine. But I try to stay

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<v Speaker 1>out of the sun. But I put like fifty SPF

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<v Speaker 1>on and still just fry just your back. They got

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<v Speaker 1>fried literally just my birthday. Yea, yeah, interesting, right, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I said. I was like, we had the theory.

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<v Speaker 1>She had the theory that she was laying on this

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<v Speaker 1>day bed that was like particularly rough and maybe that

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<v Speaker 1>came off in the morning, and then when she flipped

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<v Speaker 1>over she got burnt. Yeah, but I'm positive that I

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<v Speaker 1>apply that expertly to your back. Yeah, but yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>what happened there. But two day two on, you did

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<v Speaker 1>not get burnt. Yeah, no burns, So maybe I did

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<v Speaker 1>do it wrong on the first day. Yeah. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy the trip? I love the trip. Um the hotel

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<v Speaker 1>was beautiful. Robai got pooped on by a bird. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw that on the internet. That's so lucky. Where do

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<v Speaker 1>you guys fall on this being good luck or just

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<v Speaker 1>being not good luck? I think it's bad luck. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>It's never happened to me, thankfully, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>it too. But I just feel like it's a bad sign. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been pooped on by a bird a few times

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<v Speaker 1>and it's never happened to you. Here is it happened

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good luck. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's really good reference. Hana does not like to

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<v Speaker 1>be on the microphone, so okay, just taking an informal pole. No. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of people in this room right now,

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<v Speaker 1>we're asking everybody. Yeah. Yeah, it's basically fifty No. I

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<v Speaker 1>think we have this weird thing where we where anything

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<v Speaker 1>that is like just bad and sucks, we say is

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<v Speaker 1>good luck. Like rain on your wedding day, being shot

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<v Speaker 1>on by a bird. I think it's just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to make people feel about word. Oh sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okaye, bleep yeah, let it fly. Um yeah, rain

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<v Speaker 1>on the wedding day. That's ironic, you know, like like

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<v Speaker 1>like the great um Alanis said, uh yeah, I've never

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<v Speaker 1>been defecated on by any creature. Um And I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to keep it that way. But I like the attitude

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<v Speaker 1>of looking at it like it's good luck. Like well,

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to say, because it happened on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give it some time, but if luck comes

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<v Speaker 1>your way, we're gonna attribute it to the I can

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<v Speaker 1>attribute it to the word for sure. It was out

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<v Speaker 1>of nowhere too. It wasn't like I was near a

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<v Speaker 1>tree or anything out of nowhere. Yeah, I also do

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<v Speaker 1>want to say so I for reference, I've told Robbie

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<v Speaker 1>not to listen to the podcast. I was like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is like girl talk and it's not really for you

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<v Speaker 1>to hear or like listening on. So he kind of

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<v Speaker 1>made that pack when we first started dating. But he

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<v Speaker 1>does see the clips that go up on on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>and so the other day he's like straight faced in

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<v Speaker 1>the shower and he's like, hey, babe, and I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he goes, can you please start washing your feet for me?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, that's how we found out, That's how

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<v Speaker 1>I found out. Well, that's good, right, that like you

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't tell from an odor or anything like crust or

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<v Speaker 1>anything like that. That's the thing the thing that I

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<v Speaker 1>think I was like more shocked than anything because Tanya

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<v Speaker 1>is otherwise one of the most hygienic people I know,

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<v Speaker 1>like ultra hygienic, super clean with everything she does. So

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<v Speaker 1>to find that out, I was just baffled. But thankfully

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<v Speaker 1>she's come around and now she's uh she's on the

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<v Speaker 1>foot washing. Yeah, make you curious what other parts of

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<v Speaker 1>her she's not washing. I thought, I've been watching. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been watching like intently. Not. Yeah, normally I don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't pay attention to what you're watching. It to be

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<v Speaker 1>watching everything. But since then I have been paying attention,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're doing a really good job. Yeah, you did

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<v Speaker 1>a great job. But she did all the other thing

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<v Speaker 1>that she did recently that I thought was a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit on the hygienic. Potentially, I was out of deodorant,

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<v Speaker 1>and she offered for me to use hers, which I

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<v Speaker 1>thought was very kind of I've done that before. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's a deeply intimate thing. Oh maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it is. I don't know. It's more dangerous for you, Tanya,

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<v Speaker 1>because like you, they're gonna get hair on it, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think it's like, it's just it's kind of gross.

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<v Speaker 1>We swap spit every day. Okay, what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>is what do you think is grosser? Sharing deodor and

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<v Speaker 1>or sharing a toothbrush? I would share both of them

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<v Speaker 1>with you, okay, but you have to pick so they're

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<v Speaker 1>both totally fine. Yeah, Okay, the tooth pressures were I

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<v Speaker 1>draw the line. Really I'm weird about I don't know why,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I agree, like you're swapping DNA in other places,

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<v Speaker 1>but the toothbrushes, I don't. I don't do that. It's

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<v Speaker 1>funny because I would be more into using the chairing

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<v Speaker 1>the toothbrush. I feel like the toothbrush is very clean.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it has toothpaste on it. Then you rinse

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<v Speaker 1>it off like there's nothing, and it's like a plastic bristle,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's like there's nothing going on there. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like soap. Okay, soap soap, we agree, is self cleaning,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you use a bar of soap, right, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean maybe you wipe off like a little layer

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<v Speaker 1>on top, but it's self cleaning, right, Okay, So I

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<v Speaker 1>would use someone else as soap. The deodorant though, there's

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<v Speaker 1>not a high chance of food getting in the in

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<v Speaker 1>the armpit though, That's where I'm at, Like, there's like

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna be a chewed up piece of steak in

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<v Speaker 1>my armpit. Really, I don't want to share toothbrushes on

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<v Speaker 1>the regular, but I just feel like it's not the

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<v Speaker 1>grossest thing. Are there chewed up pieces of steak on

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<v Speaker 1>your toothbrush? I mean when you're done brushing, well, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if it did its job, you know, it's not my

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<v Speaker 1>mouth anymore, you know, God willing, it's on the toothbrush.

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<v Speaker 1>So you shared her deodorant. I did not share, just

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<v Speaker 1>went with that. But I also like, I'm not I

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<v Speaker 1>don't always wear to you. I like, not a smelly

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have. Yeah, I don't have that. It's probably good, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It is interesting, like if I went no deodorant for

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<v Speaker 1>the amount of time that you do, I would be

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<v Speaker 1>so smelly. I don't. I don't. I don't have smell.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very annoying, kind of perfect and yeah, very bad.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something I'm proud of you, not that I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>had bo And it's terrible that if every day, if

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't use deodor and I would be a little bit. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't get something. I was watching your Guys weekend

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram. Was really fine. I'm impressed with how hard

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<v Speaker 1>you go on the workouts on vacation. Oh not every vacation,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is vacation. This was like a reset. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like a take care of ourselves, be healthy vacations.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not really like drinking right now, so it was

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<v Speaker 1>like we weren't hungover. We were like getting up with

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<v Speaker 1>a little pep in our step and we want to

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<v Speaker 1>have a couple of drinks. Yeah. We had like yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>not like how we normally go. Yeah yeah, yeah, no

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<v Speaker 1>drinks at dinner. No drinks at dinner. We had like

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<v Speaker 1>a beer, Like I had like a beer the first day.

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<v Speaker 1>At lunch, I had a wine for me mescal margarite

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<v Speaker 1>the second and then I had a Mexican meal the

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<v Speaker 1>next day. You know, you got to do that. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like, so there's two pools at the hotel.

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<v Speaker 1>They have like a they having a I guess a

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<v Speaker 1>quiet pool, and then they have a party pool. So

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<v Speaker 1>we were hanging out at the quiet pool most of

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<v Speaker 1>the time. It's like very chill, beautiful. But then this

0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:40.839
<v Speaker 1>last day we want to mix it up, so we

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<v Speaker 1>went to the party pool. We got some alcohol, and

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<v Speaker 1>we made it a party. Yeah. It is pretty crazy

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<v Speaker 1>because I like look at like some other vacations that

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<v Speaker 1>we've gone on and like we raged so hard. We

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<v Speaker 1>would like down like bottles of wine and then like

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<v Speaker 1>drink at dinner, and this was like very much the opposite.

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<v Speaker 1>We were just like, you know, recharging, that's good, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but also I can't I can't day, drink and drink

0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.200
<v Speaker 1>drink anymore. Also, we like working out together. We like

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly like like doing everything with you. I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I do too, like genuinely like I if I could

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<v Speaker 1>have you with me all the time, I would. No,

0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:23.000
<v Speaker 1>we're very much on the same WAYM length about so

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<v Speaker 1>many things. Yeah, um, but let's get back to your

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<v Speaker 1>tan real quick. Oh okay, So do you guys think

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<v Speaker 1>that she got color? Yeah? I see it? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>really yeah? I mean forgetting the red red spots of color? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my face looked tan. Well I don't think you got that.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that much. Call. I mean while I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I look like, yeah, you got tan

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<v Speaker 1>straight out of a Ricky Martin video or something. Very

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<v Speaker 1>I did. Also just want to say, oh there, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a couple of things. There was a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of questions from scrubbers that I want to get into,

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<v Speaker 1>but we can get into those because we'll get into

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<v Speaker 1>this a little bit later. Um, I do want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about just because this is super out of your

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<v Speaker 1>comfort zone to be doing this. I feel like when

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<v Speaker 1>we first started dating, I said that you were a businessman.

0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:12.360
<v Speaker 1>I just like kept it very page like could anybody

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<v Speaker 1>ask me he has a briefcase. Yeah, Harry's a briefcase.

0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:21.280
<v Speaker 1>He's just like a businessman. And you're so you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>a great job. By the way, thank you, You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wanted you to talk about what you actually

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<v Speaker 1>do for a living, because I like, I know what

0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:32.200
<v Speaker 1>you do, like I know, I know what you do,

0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:34.480
<v Speaker 1>and I know what it's all. I know exactly what

0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:38.160
<v Speaker 1>you do. Um. But for people listening that may not know,

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<v Speaker 1>how would you describe it? Well? So the funny thing

0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.480
<v Speaker 1>about that is that for a period of time, the

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<v Speaker 1>picture that Tanya had of me on our phone was

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<v Speaker 1>a briefcase, which is like a little bit of an

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<v Speaker 1>inside joke. But uh, no, I'm not a businessman. I'm well,

0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:57.280
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I guess I am a businessman on some level,

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<v Speaker 1>but no, I'm a I'm a lawyer. I'm a corporate lawyer,

0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:05.200
<v Speaker 1>transactional court attorney, corporate transactional attorney, which means that we

0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:12.400
<v Speaker 1>don't litigate, don't go to court, don't argue or deal attorneys. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get into kind of that a little bit more.

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<v Speaker 1>But so I have a small firm of Beverly Hills

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<v Speaker 1>UM and we represent um, early to middle stage companies, entrepreneurs,

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<v Speaker 1>wealthy individuals, professionals, got it doing all kinds of transactions.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is what I would say too, right, Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who asked me what you did, this is what

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<v Speaker 1>you'd say. All right. So we do everything from like

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<v Speaker 1>two people starting a company to raising money for their company, um,

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<v Speaker 1>all the way through you know M and A, which

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<v Speaker 1>is mergers and acquisitions, which is buying or selling their company. Yes,

0:15:50.400 --> 0:16:03.120
<v Speaker 1>everyone's nodding here. This is really boring and jobs. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we do kind of every day every kind

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<v Speaker 1>of type of commercial contract, day to day commercial contractor between.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically anything contract related I do. Yeah, he's your guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm your guy. You have a contract, hit up Robbie Outagar. No,

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<v Speaker 1>actually did my entire book deal. Wow. Yeah. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to get anybody like, we didn't want to involve

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<v Speaker 1>any other person besides like Raquel and myself, and so

0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:31.040
<v Speaker 1>we needed somebody to kind of hash out the legalness

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<v Speaker 1>of it all. And I'm the guy. He was the guy.

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<v Speaker 1>How aggressive of a negotiator are you when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to that kind of stuff? Uh? It depends, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it just depends on the deal. I can be super

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<v Speaker 1>aggressive and I can be very kind of laid back,

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<v Speaker 1>just depends on the deal. Why No, It's just like

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<v Speaker 1>that's such a hard thing for most people to do,

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<v Speaker 1>I think, especially like on their own behalf. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>always so curious about that part of it because it's like,

0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:00.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, don't want to blow the whole thing. We

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<v Speaker 1>also want to get the most money for your client. Yeah, yeah, yeah, no,

0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:09.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean lawyers, breaking deals is definitely a thing, and

0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:12.399
<v Speaker 1>sometimes it has to happen if the other side is

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<v Speaker 1>being unreasonable. I don't break many deals. I really try

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<v Speaker 1>to get the deal done. But but yeah, I always

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<v Speaker 1>in the best interest of my clients. So you're right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a tricky thing, but you know, we get it done.

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<v Speaker 1>We close deals. Try dating an attorney. It's so funny

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<v Speaker 1>because whenever we get into fights, which isn't often, but

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<v Speaker 1>like we have disagreements and stuff. But it's so funny

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<v Speaker 1>because I can see like everything is through your attorney lens,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like I will like bring that up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say, like, this is an attorney, Robbie, this is

0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:52.240
<v Speaker 1>relationship heart dealing Robbie. Because he can get so argue

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<v Speaker 1>all the sides, and I'm like, we're not doing this

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<v Speaker 1>right now, but very logical, Like I'm I think I

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<v Speaker 1>became a lawyer because I'm a very logical person and

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<v Speaker 1>that's the way I think, Like I always you know,

0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:08.000
<v Speaker 1>any very emotional person, right, I'm emotional too, Yeah, but

0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm like logic driven and like on the l side,

0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:14.359
<v Speaker 1>like logic portion was my best score. So I'm a

0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:17.040
<v Speaker 1>very logical person. But I'm not a litigator, Like I

0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:20.200
<v Speaker 1>don't I don't argue every day. I'm not trying to argue.

0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.560
<v Speaker 1>I try to make deals. So we're to fight. I

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<v Speaker 1>try to bring us together trying to do it's Actually

0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:30.080
<v Speaker 1>we went to the J. Shetty Show and he did

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<v Speaker 1>this whole segment. He does this whole segment about like

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<v Speaker 1>fight styles, and it was kind of this like Eureka

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<v Speaker 1>moment because he described the three different fight styles and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like very much. I can't remember the names now,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was very much in one category and Robbie

0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:45.280
<v Speaker 1>was like very much in the other category. And it

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<v Speaker 1>made me kind of like go, like, oh, this actually

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<v Speaker 1>makes a lot of sense because Robbie is the kind

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<v Speaker 1>of guy. If we're getting an argument he needs time

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<v Speaker 1>away to like process and everything, And because I am

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<v Speaker 1>the way that I am, always felt like that would

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<v Speaker 1>give me so much anxiety if he wanted to like

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<v Speaker 1>step away, take a day or take a night, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, to discuss it the next day. I was

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<v Speaker 1>always just like, no, we got to do it now.

0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.480
<v Speaker 1>It would do it now, would do now, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>we have to figure out, well, I think we have

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<v Speaker 1>figured out a way how to like compromise. Yeah. I

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<v Speaker 1>For me, it's really more I just need time to

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<v Speaker 1>digest what is going on between us and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>what we're really arguing about and how I feel about

0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:31.160
<v Speaker 1>that thing I don't necessarily know right away. And also

0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.080
<v Speaker 1>I feel when you say I need to take time,

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<v Speaker 1>like if he says I need to get back to

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<v Speaker 1>this tomorrow, I get so anxious. Yeah, I get anxious

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm an anxious, attached person. And so I'm like, oh,

0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:45.040
<v Speaker 1>he's just like got one foot out the door, you

0:19:45.040 --> 0:19:46.280
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Like that's where my head goes.

0:19:46.280 --> 0:19:48.639
<v Speaker 1>And it's like, actually, not the case at all. But

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<v Speaker 1>I found it to be very interesting. So Hannah is

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<v Speaker 1>handed me a thing. It's venting, hiding and exploding or

0:19:53.440 --> 0:19:56.359
<v Speaker 1>the three different types, right, I'm the venting, you're the hiding.

0:19:57.200 --> 0:20:00.399
<v Speaker 1>I don't love yeah, because I don't. I'm really not

0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.080
<v Speaker 1>trying to hide. I think. I also think that you

0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:05.720
<v Speaker 1>need time to process. But I also think generally across

0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:10.800
<v Speaker 1>any relationship, it must be beneficial to not discuss things

0:20:10.800 --> 0:20:13.640
<v Speaker 1>when emotions are high. I just think you're better off

0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:17.359
<v Speaker 1>waiting for emotions to cool down a little bit, even

0:20:17.400 --> 0:20:20.239
<v Speaker 1>if the feelings are still there. There's kind of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in the middle of that fight or argument,

0:20:24.000 --> 0:20:26.720
<v Speaker 1>you're emotionally wound up, and I just think that you're

0:20:26.760 --> 0:20:31.359
<v Speaker 1>better off waiting forgetting like my need to digest the issue.

0:20:31.920 --> 0:20:34.440
<v Speaker 1>I just think everyone is better off waiting until emotions

0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:38.400
<v Speaker 1>kind of calmed down a little bit. It's a really

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<v Speaker 1>fun dating lawyer. Do you not agree with that? No,

0:20:41.680 --> 0:20:43.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm joking, I do. I do. I do. It is bad.

0:20:44.000 --> 0:20:45.720
<v Speaker 1>I think you are very good for me in that

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<v Speaker 1>sense because I am very emotional and you are really logical,

0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:53.879
<v Speaker 1>and I know that about you, So I know always

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<v Speaker 1>when you're like saying like we need we need to

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<v Speaker 1>be when to come back to this, Like, I'm always like, Okay,

0:20:58.040 --> 0:21:00.439
<v Speaker 1>he's right. Usually come back to what's just as much

0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:03.080
<v Speaker 1>fire and emotion but like still but also you tend

0:21:03.119 --> 0:21:07.159
<v Speaker 1>to bring things up at like nine fifty pm, you know,

0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:10.960
<v Speaker 1>we're like trying to wind down and go to straight up,

0:21:11.000 --> 0:21:13.560
<v Speaker 1>and I'm just like all I want to do is

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<v Speaker 1>go to sleep. That's usually the time I either I

0:21:17.320 --> 0:21:20.640
<v Speaker 1>fight most right before a bed, or I stare at him.

0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:25.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh the staring. I'll be like watching TV, so like

0:21:25.400 --> 0:21:26.959
<v Speaker 1>the TV's like to the right of the bed, and

0:21:27.000 --> 0:21:29.679
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like staring straight at him. So awkward. I mean,

0:21:29.680 --> 0:21:32.080
<v Speaker 1>I can just imagine, just picture that We're like we're

0:21:32.119 --> 0:21:36.360
<v Speaker 1>cuddled watching I'm watching TV, but she's staring at me

0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:40.920
<v Speaker 1>and I'm staring over her head at the TV. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so I used to not know how to react to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I just ignored and like give her like a

0:21:46.320 --> 0:21:49.080
<v Speaker 1>weird side glance like you're doing it, you know, like

0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.119
<v Speaker 1>hopefully like he'll point at the TV. Are you looking

0:21:53.160 --> 0:21:55.040
<v Speaker 1>for something in return, like if you want him to

0:21:55.080 --> 0:21:56.960
<v Speaker 1>stare back at you or do you want to turn

0:21:57.000 --> 0:22:00.040
<v Speaker 1>the TV off? Or what's the end goal with the

0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:03.800
<v Speaker 1>tape of behavior? You know, it depends on the day.

0:22:03.960 --> 0:22:08.719
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes my staring means like seduce, me. Sometimes I'm just

0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:11.960
<v Speaker 1>like admiring him and just like having these like thoughts

0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:17.280
<v Speaker 1>of you know, happiness. At other times, I just don't

0:22:17.280 --> 0:22:19.480
<v Speaker 1>care what's on the TV. It sounds really nice, the

0:22:19.560 --> 0:22:21.840
<v Speaker 1>thoughts of happiness thing, but it doesn't make it any

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<v Speaker 1>less freaky. Sometimes I'll like, honest like, sometimes I'll like

0:22:27.840 --> 0:22:34.040
<v Speaker 1>actually like turn my head to the TV. Um, Okay,

0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:35.800
<v Speaker 1>we have to take a quick break. We're gonna come back,

0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:38.600
<v Speaker 1>and I do want us to go through. We're really

0:22:38.680 --> 0:22:40.600
<v Speaker 1>big into Love is Blind season four, so I want

0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:42.719
<v Speaker 1>us to give our predictions because I saw a lot

0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:44.840
<v Speaker 1>of scuttle in the Facebook group about people that are

0:22:44.880 --> 0:22:48.120
<v Speaker 1>watching that show. Excellent season of Love Is Blind. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we're gonna get into some questions from the

0:22:49.920 --> 0:22:54.200
<v Speaker 1>scrubbers and just a quick little blip in the hot

0:22:54.240 --> 0:23:12.080
<v Speaker 1>topics when we come back. You know, some people would

0:23:12.119 --> 0:23:15.160
<v Speaker 1>say that they were blessed to be adored by somebody

0:23:15.480 --> 0:23:17.720
<v Speaker 1>as much as I thought. You definitely blast, but it

0:23:17.880 --> 0:23:24.000
<v Speaker 1>is insane one of the many funny things that you

0:23:24.080 --> 0:23:28.359
<v Speaker 1>do that I love about you. Okay, So Love is

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<v Speaker 1>Blind season four, We're just so I don't know how

0:23:32.240 --> 0:23:34.600
<v Speaker 1>they did it this year, but they basically like frontloaded

0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:37.919
<v Speaker 1>all their episodes except for the final episode and then

0:23:37.960 --> 0:23:41.080
<v Speaker 1>the reunions. So there's two episodes left, and there's four episodes.

0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:43.800
<v Speaker 1>We don't really know. We don't know. It looked like

0:23:43.880 --> 0:23:46.400
<v Speaker 1>last night there were four episodes left. Basically they left,

0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:50.000
<v Speaker 1>They showed everything except for the I do so like

0:23:50.040 --> 0:23:53.440
<v Speaker 1>the very last episode, and I don't know how long

0:23:53.440 --> 0:23:56.840
<v Speaker 1>it's been out, but basically the new episode comes out

0:23:56.880 --> 0:23:59.480
<v Speaker 1>April thirteenth, So we're all kind of stuck in this

0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:02.320
<v Speaker 1>like eating period. So I just want to go through

0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:04.439
<v Speaker 1>the couples and Robbie and I are going to make

0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:08.600
<v Speaker 1>our predictions and then we'll see who wins. Okay, So

0:24:08.640 --> 0:24:10.439
<v Speaker 1>we're basically gonna say whether they say yes or no,

0:24:10.680 --> 0:24:14.600
<v Speaker 1>and what we think for each couple. Um, okay, kwam

0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:17.480
<v Speaker 1>So Kwami for me is a no. I think he's

0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.720
<v Speaker 1>gonna say no. I think that he you can just

0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:21.199
<v Speaker 1>say yes or no. We gonn't have to go in. Oh,

0:24:21.200 --> 0:24:25.600
<v Speaker 1>we don't want to get into it. Okay, No, I'm

0:24:25.600 --> 0:24:30.240
<v Speaker 1>gonna say yes. Kwami's gonna say yes. What about Chelsea?

0:24:30.400 --> 0:24:32.800
<v Speaker 1>Chelsea we already we already know said yes and she

0:24:32.840 --> 0:24:34.359
<v Speaker 1>said she was gonna say yes. I think there's no

0:24:34.400 --> 0:24:37.600
<v Speaker 1>mystery there. Yeah, so I'm saying yes too, all right, Brett,

0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:41.080
<v Speaker 1>So Brett and Tiffany for me or yes is not

0:24:41.160 --> 0:24:42.800
<v Speaker 1>to get ahead, but I think they're like the most

0:24:42.800 --> 0:24:46.439
<v Speaker 1>solid couple. I would be shocked if there was a

0:24:46.480 --> 0:24:50.600
<v Speaker 1>no there. I put yes for Brett and Tiffany as well. Okay,

0:24:50.640 --> 0:24:55.400
<v Speaker 1>Mica hard no, Mica is a hard no on Paul? Okay,

0:24:55.800 --> 0:25:00.840
<v Speaker 1>I said yes for Mica. And what about Paul. Paul's yes, Yeah,

0:25:00.880 --> 0:25:03.760
<v Speaker 1>I said yes for Paul too. Okay, what about Zach

0:25:04.600 --> 0:25:09.199
<v Speaker 1>Zach is for sure yes? I said Zach is for

0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:11.600
<v Speaker 1>sure yes as well. And then what about Bliss? Bliss

0:25:11.680 --> 0:25:13.920
<v Speaker 1>is a no? I said yes for Bliss as well.

0:25:14.520 --> 0:25:17.280
<v Speaker 1>So I basically said yes for every single person. Yeah,

0:25:17.320 --> 0:25:19.920
<v Speaker 1>you said yes for everybody, which is not going to happen,

0:25:20.080 --> 0:25:22.560
<v Speaker 1>So you're gonna be wrong. It's a hopeful. I'm just

0:25:22.600 --> 0:25:25.080
<v Speaker 1>hoping for the best for all of them. I just

0:25:25.119 --> 0:25:26.680
<v Speaker 1>can't see. I mean, we don't want to talk about

0:25:26.680 --> 0:25:29.040
<v Speaker 1>it at all, you just want to just yes. I

0:25:29.040 --> 0:25:32.600
<v Speaker 1>just can't see Mica and Paul ending up together at all.

0:25:32.640 --> 0:25:35.399
<v Speaker 1>I think that that doesn't it's not a couple that works.

0:25:35.720 --> 0:25:37.840
<v Speaker 1>And then Bliss has got to come to her senses

0:25:37.840 --> 0:25:40.800
<v Speaker 1>on this Zach guy, because that's just he's just too

0:25:41.000 --> 0:25:44.280
<v Speaker 1>weird for me. He is there's something so off putting

0:25:44.320 --> 0:25:46.399
<v Speaker 1>about him, and I like to give people the benefit

0:25:46.400 --> 0:25:49.399
<v Speaker 1>of the doubt, but he is so if I was

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:52.400
<v Speaker 1>in a room with him, like I would be nervous. Yeah,

0:25:52.480 --> 0:25:56.040
<v Speaker 1>no's a he has like this weird energy. He seems

0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:59.080
<v Speaker 1>like a genuinely nice guy, which is why I feel

0:25:59.119 --> 0:26:02.600
<v Speaker 1>conflicted saying, but he's he's such creep vibes that it's

0:26:02.640 --> 0:26:07.840
<v Speaker 1>hard to Yeah, so I'm excited. What are we gonna bet? Well,

0:26:08.040 --> 0:26:09.679
<v Speaker 1>I just I'm so. I just don't like that we

0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:12.320
<v Speaker 1>can't binge it. It's I don't even understand the format.

0:26:12.320 --> 0:26:14.480
<v Speaker 1>If we're gonna be able to watch all of them

0:26:14.520 --> 0:26:16.600
<v Speaker 1>next week or are they gonna be one every week?

0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:20.040
<v Speaker 1>I think it's I think the final episode of is

0:26:20.119 --> 0:26:23.640
<v Speaker 1>like all their weddings and one. We're gonna be able

0:26:23.680 --> 0:26:25.920
<v Speaker 1>to binge the ending. Well, but we've already seen half

0:26:25.960 --> 0:26:28.639
<v Speaker 1>of Kwamie and Chelsea's wedding. We're waiting for Kwamie to

0:26:28.680 --> 0:26:31.080
<v Speaker 1>say something. Then they're going to go to a new wedding. Yeah,

0:26:31.119 --> 0:26:33.560
<v Speaker 1>so I think so you said not that, you said

0:26:33.560 --> 0:26:36.800
<v Speaker 1>that they're gonna I don't know, Okay, I don't really know.

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 1>But what are we betting on? I like, what's the bet?

0:26:40.880 --> 0:26:46.240
<v Speaker 1>If I win? I don't think our bets are appropriate.

0:26:48.320 --> 0:26:51.320
<v Speaker 1>I will make that bet. Tell anyone a bet when

0:26:51.320 --> 0:26:53.680
<v Speaker 1>we were on vacation, which but what did I know

0:26:53.840 --> 0:26:58.680
<v Speaker 1>one the air? Oh yeah, I didn't win a bet

0:26:58.720 --> 0:27:01.080
<v Speaker 1>on vacation. I love winning beat, especially when they're on

0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:04.479
<v Speaker 1>vacation and they are not appropriate. I thought I had

0:27:04.480 --> 0:27:07.720
<v Speaker 1>that in the bag. We can say with the bet,

0:27:08.040 --> 0:27:12.320
<v Speaker 1>not the stakes of the bet, but what was the Yeah,

0:27:12.359 --> 0:27:15.840
<v Speaker 1>we had a friend. We have a friend who posted

0:27:17.160 --> 0:27:20.280
<v Speaker 1>on her story that the movie Air, which is the

0:27:20.280 --> 0:27:26.959
<v Speaker 1>NEWE Yef movie. She posted, Air is the best movie ever,

0:27:27.880 --> 0:27:30.800
<v Speaker 1>and we had just seen it. We had just seen it,

0:27:30.920 --> 0:27:34.919
<v Speaker 1>and we and I have I know friends whom you

0:27:34.960 --> 0:27:37.320
<v Speaker 1>know are kind of the influencer types of guests who

0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:41.280
<v Speaker 1>who have all been promoting this movie and I've seen it,

0:27:41.320 --> 0:27:43.919
<v Speaker 1>Air is the best movie ever. Yea, So I really like,

0:27:44.040 --> 0:27:47.520
<v Speaker 1>genuinely like loved the movie, Like I came out feeling

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:52.360
<v Speaker 1>very much a certain type of way. So continue on. Yeah,

0:27:52.359 --> 0:27:55.879
<v Speaker 1>so we saw this friend post it and I was like,

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:58.080
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I think I think So and SO

0:27:58.359 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 1>is is promoting. She said, no, I think it's genuine.

0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:03.240
<v Speaker 1>And we made the bet and turned out it was

0:28:03.280 --> 0:28:06.080
<v Speaker 1>a genuine wow, genuine post, which I was shocked at

0:28:06.119 --> 0:28:10.320
<v Speaker 1>because it's certainly not the best movie ever. Um soundtrack

0:28:10.400 --> 0:28:13.159
<v Speaker 1>was great, but socially won the bet and I was

0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:16.920
<v Speaker 1>that was dated. Yeah, just a little food for thought.

0:28:16.960 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 1>When it is promotional, they have to put ads somewhere

0:28:20.080 --> 0:28:22.680
<v Speaker 1>on the Oh, so you kind of cheated, not not cheated,

0:28:22.760 --> 0:28:29.560
<v Speaker 1>I just knew. Okay, air partner hashtag air partner info,

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:33.600
<v Speaker 1>we will, we will. Mean that's already been paid off,

0:28:33.640 --> 0:28:37.520
<v Speaker 1>so there's not really about that. It was a win win.

0:28:37.640 --> 0:28:40.720
<v Speaker 1>Let's just say that. Oh man, okay, Um, we're gonna

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.080
<v Speaker 1>go into some question. Oh actually, let's discuss some of

0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:45.680
<v Speaker 1>the biggest stories over the weekend, because it was a

0:28:45.760 --> 0:28:49.240
<v Speaker 1>very pop and weekend. While we were on vacation, I

0:28:49.280 --> 0:28:51.920
<v Speaker 1>was bombarded with the news at Taylor Swift and Joe

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:55.800
<v Speaker 1>all Win, after six years of dating, have called it quits.

0:28:55.880 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 1>Very sad. You did not even know they were dating,

0:28:59.040 --> 0:29:01.480
<v Speaker 1>but it's still sad. I know. Actually I was reading

0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:03.120
<v Speaker 1>some of the stories and I'm like, why did we

0:29:03.120 --> 0:29:06.240
<v Speaker 1>not see this coming? She? You know, she she replaced

0:29:06.280 --> 0:29:10.880
<v Speaker 1>invisible String in her set with um the one. Invisible

0:29:10.920 --> 0:29:15.160
<v Speaker 1>string is about the love that yes, yes, fun fact,

0:29:15.200 --> 0:29:19.880
<v Speaker 1>Hey babe, she replaced invisible string with the one, and

0:29:20.560 --> 0:29:22.920
<v Speaker 1>the one is about kind of like it could have

0:29:22.920 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 1>been you, Like, you know, so we were anything, so

0:29:29.360 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 1>it could have been you. So you're saying that that

0:29:33.040 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 1>was reference to them breaking up? Yeah, I think so

0:29:37.880 --> 0:29:41.719
<v Speaker 1>you replace the song that's about this chismic connection with

0:29:41.800 --> 0:29:43.880
<v Speaker 1>somebody and you replace it with like, oh, it could

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:52.600
<v Speaker 1>have been you. Feels significant if you ask me for it. Yeah. Um,

0:29:52.800 --> 0:29:54.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. How do you feel about the news?

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:59.040
<v Speaker 1>Are you? Like? I was shocked? I was. I was too. Um.

0:29:59.360 --> 0:30:01.479
<v Speaker 1>I really thought they were going to be together forever.

0:30:02.520 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't know too much about him, you know, but

0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:07.720
<v Speaker 1>I like the idea they'd been together for so long

0:30:07.800 --> 0:30:11.920
<v Speaker 1>and dating her must be the craziest thing in the world.

0:30:12.080 --> 0:30:13.480
<v Speaker 1>So that's what I was reading. I was reading on

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:16.960
<v Speaker 1>people basically like they had insider you know, sources or whatever,

0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:21.560
<v Speaker 1>saying that it was their personal differences in their personalities

0:30:21.680 --> 0:30:24.880
<v Speaker 1>and that he never could really he was never on

0:30:24.920 --> 0:30:28.280
<v Speaker 1>board or on board, but her level of fame was

0:30:28.360 --> 0:30:31.280
<v Speaker 1>never something that he was comfortable. Those were two very

0:30:31.280 --> 0:30:34.640
<v Speaker 1>different things. It's either, I mean, is it her personality

0:30:34.760 --> 0:30:37.800
<v Speaker 1>or is it personality if him wanting to be away

0:30:37.840 --> 0:30:42.680
<v Speaker 1>from the limelight and hers liking to be in the limelight. Okay,

0:30:43.440 --> 0:30:45.040
<v Speaker 1>but what about all the other stuff like her like

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:48.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean, from what I barely know about her, very

0:30:48.800 --> 0:30:52.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, very emotional person. Is it about that stuff

0:30:52.520 --> 0:30:55.520
<v Speaker 1>or is it just about the fame stuff? Do you think? Um? Look,

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean these articles don't share much, so that's all

0:30:59.120 --> 0:31:02.240
<v Speaker 1>they said. But I do find it interesting because they've

0:31:02.280 --> 0:31:09.720
<v Speaker 1>written songs together. They wrote he worked on I think

0:31:09.840 --> 0:31:12.360
<v Speaker 1>it was nine songs. And I think Becca's take on

0:31:12.360 --> 0:31:14.600
<v Speaker 1>this didn't she like, didn't she recently have a whole

0:31:14.600 --> 0:31:16.200
<v Speaker 1>thing about how she could tell if people were going

0:31:16.240 --> 0:31:19.360
<v Speaker 1>to stay together? And yeah she did. We didn't detail

0:31:19.800 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 1>they were not on the list. I mean, they weren't

0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:25.160
<v Speaker 1>even in consideration they did seem so strong. There's no

0:31:25.200 --> 0:31:27.800
<v Speaker 1>way she could have predicted this. No, I know. But

0:31:27.880 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 1>you know what, if he can't handle her fame, then

0:31:30.520 --> 0:31:33.800
<v Speaker 1>he can take a hike because she will always be jewels. Okay.

0:31:34.040 --> 0:31:37.960
<v Speaker 1>Is insane though yeah, her fame is pretty big. He

0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 1>co wrote Um Sweet Nothing just on Midnights, but then

0:31:43.040 --> 0:31:45.840
<v Speaker 1>he did some on Folklore and on Evermore too. That's

0:31:45.920 --> 0:31:51.800
<v Speaker 1>right under the pen name William Bowery. Yeah. Yeah, but

0:31:51.840 --> 0:31:54.240
<v Speaker 1>if he is also a songwriter, maybe there was some

0:31:54.360 --> 0:31:57.000
<v Speaker 1>jealousy there. He's not by treason actor. I think he

0:31:57.120 --> 0:31:58.600
<v Speaker 1>just did it so they could like like, how you're

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:00.840
<v Speaker 1>doing this with me? You know? Okay, but then still

0:32:00.880 --> 0:32:03.520
<v Speaker 1>he wants he's an actor. Maybe he like was jealous

0:32:03.520 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 1>of the fame as opposed to that. Yeah, it's interesting

0:32:06.080 --> 0:32:08.480
<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, how are you an actor but you

0:32:08.520 --> 0:32:11.920
<v Speaker 1>don't want to be in the limelight, Like, and didn't

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 1>you start dating her when she was a peak? She

0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:17.680
<v Speaker 1>was already like yeah, you know the supernova she is now?

0:32:17.760 --> 0:32:19.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't trust right, so you can't

0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:23.520
<v Speaker 1>get into it ign for this. Yeah, yeah, you're right,

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:27.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't trust this guy. Moving on, good riddance, good

0:32:27.760 --> 0:32:32.000
<v Speaker 1>goodbye Joe, Goodbye Joe, onto our next era. And then

0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:35.120
<v Speaker 1>the other news this weekend, Well, this isn't like anything

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:37.280
<v Speaker 1>to discuss, but we want to say congratulations to Olivia

0:32:37.320 --> 0:32:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Colpo and Christian McCaffrey who got engaged over the weekend.

0:32:41.960 --> 0:32:44.960
<v Speaker 1>We love Olivia Colbo, so happy, We love Christian McCaffrey

0:32:45.000 --> 0:32:47.840
<v Speaker 1>and fantasy football. Yes, so hopefully this kind of energizes

0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:50.920
<v Speaker 1>him in the upcoming season. Oh that's yes, Yes, it

0:32:51.040 --> 0:32:53.200
<v Speaker 1>is funny. I will d m Olivia being like, my

0:32:53.240 --> 0:32:56.800
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend has your boyfriend on his team? I did, I

0:32:56.840 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 1>did this every year we redraft. But yeah, yeah right,

0:33:00.320 --> 0:33:02.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm so exciting news for them. And then Kylie Jenner

0:33:03.120 --> 0:33:10.360
<v Speaker 1>and Timothey Chalome are dating. This shook me to my core.

0:33:12.200 --> 0:33:15.840
<v Speaker 1>Didn't see it coming. I'm not sure what it is.

0:33:17.720 --> 0:33:22.920
<v Speaker 1>Happy for her, happy for him. I know very little

0:33:22.920 --> 0:33:24.880
<v Speaker 1>about either of them, but I will say it just

0:33:25.000 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 1>seems like to me, these things are very pr to me,

0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:31.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, yeah, like the Kardashians are always going

0:33:31.960 --> 0:33:34.640
<v Speaker 1>after Like like Timothy Chalomi is kind of like the

0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:36.440
<v Speaker 1>sex symbol right now, you know what I mean, Like

0:33:36.440 --> 0:33:38.840
<v Speaker 1>he's like the guy you know, Like I know nothing

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:43.040
<v Speaker 1>and I know that, yeah you know that. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

0:33:43.920 --> 0:33:45.520
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't pick him out of a lineup, but I

0:33:45.560 --> 0:33:49.400
<v Speaker 1>hear he's very sexy. But also like I don't know,

0:33:51.120 --> 0:33:58.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know who she normally dates, but like I'm saying. So,

0:33:59.040 --> 0:34:01.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's interesting question. People have types. Clearly she doesn't.

0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:07.080
<v Speaker 1>But clearly she doesn't Travis Scott. She's with Tiger. Is

0:34:07.080 --> 0:34:11.840
<v Speaker 1>that right? Am I missing someone to be honest? Right? Yes? Okay, yes, okay,

0:34:12.200 --> 0:34:14.720
<v Speaker 1>uh yeah, I mean that's a pattern that she's breaking

0:34:14.800 --> 0:34:19.920
<v Speaker 1>with Timota. It's exciting, Timid, It is exciting, you know.

0:34:20.200 --> 0:34:22.239
<v Speaker 1>And you know what, if there's anything that Calling in

0:34:22.280 --> 0:34:25.719
<v Speaker 1>the One taught me, it's that your dating patterns are

0:34:26.800 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 1>if they're leading you down to not the right path,

0:34:29.280 --> 0:34:31.920
<v Speaker 1>you should break those patterns. And maybe she read Calling

0:34:31.920 --> 0:34:35.360
<v Speaker 1>in the One and she realized that her dating pattern

0:34:35.600 --> 0:34:37.880
<v Speaker 1>was not great and she's like, I'm going to switch

0:34:37.880 --> 0:34:40.560
<v Speaker 1>it up, and she met Timoda and here we are.

0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:44.400
<v Speaker 1>So we'll definitely be keeping you posted on all things.

0:34:44.520 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 1>We'll be watching with great interest. Yes, watching with great,

0:34:47.320 --> 0:34:50.080
<v Speaker 1>great interest. Okay. So I wanted to ask some of

0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:54.160
<v Speaker 1>the questions that Scrubber has had for you in particular, babe, Okay,

0:34:54.320 --> 0:34:55.839
<v Speaker 1>and then we're gonna get into We have a couple

0:34:55.960 --> 0:35:01.240
<v Speaker 1>extra emails because I wanted, you know, um, if people

0:35:01.320 --> 0:35:04.560
<v Speaker 1>wanted your male perspective, which I think is unique because

0:35:04.640 --> 0:35:08.680
<v Speaker 1>again we were saying how you're very a very logical person. Um,

0:35:08.719 --> 0:35:10.359
<v Speaker 1>I do think that you would give really good insight

0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:12.600
<v Speaker 1>because it is funny, like he Robbie goes into the

0:35:12.680 --> 0:35:14.799
<v Speaker 1>Facebook group and he'll be like, did you see you

0:35:14.800 --> 0:35:17.839
<v Speaker 1>what they were asking? Facebook group is my favorite thing

0:35:17.840 --> 0:35:23.280
<v Speaker 1>on the internet and give your opinions. Easton is incredible

0:35:23.320 --> 0:35:25.280
<v Speaker 1>in there because he'll get in there and start mixing

0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:27.239
<v Speaker 1>it up in the comments. But it's really no can

0:35:27.280 --> 0:35:29.120
<v Speaker 1>I just say it's really let's just take a second here,

0:35:29.160 --> 0:35:31.759
<v Speaker 1>because that Facebook group is amazing forgetting we'll get to

0:35:31.760 --> 0:35:36.160
<v Speaker 1>the entertainment value. It's so cool that you and Becca

0:35:36.280 --> 0:35:38.759
<v Speaker 1>and all of you who are part of this podcast,

0:35:39.080 --> 0:35:43.120
<v Speaker 1>and I've said it before, have created this unbelievable community

0:35:43.760 --> 0:35:47.879
<v Speaker 1>of girls and women, UM. And I guess some men,

0:35:48.040 --> 0:35:50.680
<v Speaker 1>but primarily girls and women across the country and the

0:35:50.719 --> 0:35:59.520
<v Speaker 1>world who um have come together like this where they

0:36:00.040 --> 0:36:04.919
<v Speaker 1>trust each other, they support each other, they give advice,

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:12.839
<v Speaker 1>they literally help each other, um financially in certain situations. Um. Uh,

0:36:13.200 --> 0:36:17.000
<v Speaker 1>It's it's just a really beautiful thing. Um. But then

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:21.600
<v Speaker 1>this Facebook group is just I go. I look at

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:24.120
<v Speaker 1>it multiple times a day. I haven't used Facebook in

0:36:24.200 --> 0:36:26.840
<v Speaker 1>years other than you're like wishing, what happy birthday? But

0:36:27.440 --> 0:36:29.319
<v Speaker 1>I go to multipimes a day and you'll have, you know,

0:36:29.640 --> 0:36:34.960
<v Speaker 1>you'll have one post that is a deeply heartfelt emotional

0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:39.680
<v Speaker 1>life crisis, you know, post for of somebody who really

0:36:39.719 --> 0:36:43.000
<v Speaker 1>needs kind of help and advice. Um, And then the

0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:45.359
<v Speaker 1>next one will be about you know, what to do

0:36:45.360 --> 0:36:47.919
<v Speaker 1>with your butt crack hair. And then the next one

0:36:47.920 --> 0:36:51.839
<v Speaker 1>will be you know this in you know, someone's going

0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 1>for promotion and and you know, give whatever advice I

0:36:54.719 --> 0:36:56.680
<v Speaker 1>need for this you know, life accomplishment, whatever it is.

0:36:56.760 --> 0:36:58.719
<v Speaker 1>And the next one will be advice about you know,

0:36:58.840 --> 0:37:01.640
<v Speaker 1>how to have a threesome with you know, my husband,

0:37:01.680 --> 0:37:04.200
<v Speaker 1>and this you know, such a such a person. It's

0:37:04.239 --> 0:37:08.280
<v Speaker 1>just the best of all worlds. You laugh, you cry, Um,

0:37:09.280 --> 0:37:13.040
<v Speaker 1>but you guys creat you guys are creating community. Yeah.

0:37:14.000 --> 0:37:15.799
<v Speaker 1>So we went to the Facebook group, and so I

0:37:15.840 --> 0:37:18.399
<v Speaker 1>wanted to do some more like um, those man only

0:37:18.480 --> 0:37:20.160
<v Speaker 1>type questions. So we have a couple extra emails on

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.600
<v Speaker 1>Hunna pulled um that we're gonna get to, but I

0:37:22.600 --> 0:37:24.600
<v Speaker 1>wanted to fire off some of these kind of more

0:37:24.680 --> 0:37:30.919
<v Speaker 1>rapid fire questions for you if you don't mind, no shoot, Okay, uh,

0:37:30.960 --> 0:37:35.120
<v Speaker 1>what qualities do you think Becca brings out of Tanya. Yeah,

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:37.399
<v Speaker 1>it's a good question. So I actually think you guys

0:37:37.400 --> 0:37:43.720
<v Speaker 1>are way more similar than people, uh think. So obviously

0:37:43.719 --> 0:37:46.200
<v Speaker 1>the food stuff. You know, your diets are very different,

0:37:46.360 --> 0:37:50.720
<v Speaker 1>and you're sleeping patterns are very different. Um, you're funny.

0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:56.759
<v Speaker 1>She's not really that funny, Okay. Um, uh, she's very

0:37:56.760 --> 0:38:02.560
<v Speaker 1>You're very funny back, I really mean it. Um uh No.

0:38:02.680 --> 0:38:06.200
<v Speaker 1>But the quality, I mean, I don't if it's a quality,

0:38:06.239 --> 0:38:09.720
<v Speaker 1>but you definitely like hold on to me less hard

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 1>in pictures now, um, which is nice, less grasping the

0:38:15.200 --> 0:38:19.319
<v Speaker 1>claw like. Yeah. I think Becca is able to point

0:38:19.320 --> 0:38:21.760
<v Speaker 1>that out in me correct. Yeah. Okay, so that's probably

0:38:21.800 --> 0:38:25.080
<v Speaker 1>the big one. Okay. Um, what song does Robbie think

0:38:25.120 --> 0:38:29.680
<v Speaker 1>describes your relationship? Well, I think we have we have

0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 1>one song that is really meaningful to both of us,

0:38:33.800 --> 0:38:39.320
<v Speaker 1>the Bones song, which I think just goes to kind of, um,

0:38:39.800 --> 0:38:43.520
<v Speaker 1>the foundation, the strength of the foundation of our relationship

0:38:43.600 --> 0:38:46.839
<v Speaker 1>and the fact that it's built on um, a really

0:38:46.840 --> 0:38:53.120
<v Speaker 1>strong foundation of trust and and loyalty and respect and admiration. Um.

0:38:53.200 --> 0:38:54.600
<v Speaker 1>So that's a you know that I would say is

0:38:54.719 --> 0:38:56.640
<v Speaker 1>number one. But then there was also I don't even

0:38:56.800 --> 0:38:58.000
<v Speaker 1>know the name of it. But when we were at

0:38:58.080 --> 0:39:01.760
<v Speaker 1>jingle Ball and Lewis Capality saying that one song, oh yeah,

0:39:02.000 --> 0:39:05.560
<v Speaker 1>I think it's called Pointless. Yeah, yeah, that sounds right.

0:39:06.000 --> 0:39:08.520
<v Speaker 1>That sounds right, that song. Like I was like, I

0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:10.319
<v Speaker 1>was just you weren't with me at the time because

0:39:10.320 --> 0:39:13.640
<v Speaker 1>you were doing stuff for the show and I'm sitting

0:39:13.680 --> 0:39:15.640
<v Speaker 1>there and that words were on the screen, you know,

0:39:15.680 --> 0:39:18.280
<v Speaker 1>and it was kind of karaoke style going through the words,

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:20.960
<v Speaker 1>and I was just definitely like, thought about you a

0:39:20.960 --> 0:39:23.160
<v Speaker 1>lot doing that song. It's really cute because that song

0:39:23.320 --> 0:39:25.560
<v Speaker 1>just came out that day, so I hadn't even heard it,

0:39:25.920 --> 0:39:27.759
<v Speaker 1>and he was watching it and he told me that

0:39:27.880 --> 0:39:29.840
<v Speaker 1>night he was like, that Louis Capaldi song, it's like

0:39:29.880 --> 0:39:31.279
<v Speaker 1>our song made me think of you. And I'm like,

0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:32.839
<v Speaker 1>I have no idea. I didn't even know. And then

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:36.919
<v Speaker 1>I listened to Yeah, I like sounds dark, but okay

0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:39.359
<v Speaker 1>that I listened to it later on and I was like,

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:41.319
<v Speaker 1>really really beautiful, and so I thought that was really

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:43.640
<v Speaker 1>really sweet that you just like because he's not much

0:39:43.640 --> 0:39:45.200
<v Speaker 1>of a lyrics guy, you know. He ye, I'm not

0:39:45.239 --> 0:39:48.480
<v Speaker 1>a lyrics guy. I much prefer the music. Yeah, yeah.

0:39:48.560 --> 0:39:50.560
<v Speaker 1>I remember when we were like newly dating. There was

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:53.920
<v Speaker 1>Leon Bridge's song and it's called Beyond, and it basically

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:57.759
<v Speaker 1>talks about like she might just be my everything and

0:39:57.920 --> 0:40:00.400
<v Speaker 1>via it's all about like making her his wife and

0:40:00.400 --> 0:40:02.840
<v Speaker 1>like all this stuff. And I remember, so this is

0:40:02.880 --> 0:40:07.040
<v Speaker 1>so good. So like he made like a I swear

0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:09.359
<v Speaker 1>you said something about the song. Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure.

0:40:09.400 --> 0:40:12.040
<v Speaker 1>In the moment, I said something about how oh that

0:40:12.239 --> 0:40:13.920
<v Speaker 1>you know that's like, uh so that reminds me of you.

0:40:14.239 --> 0:40:15.800
<v Speaker 1>So I stuck with it for years. I was like,

0:40:15.840 --> 0:40:17.640
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, this song makes him think of me,

0:40:17.760 --> 0:40:19.360
<v Speaker 1>like he wants to be he wants me to be

0:40:19.400 --> 0:40:24.680
<v Speaker 1>his wife, like all this stuff. Yes, this one, Yeah,

0:40:25.080 --> 0:40:28.000
<v Speaker 1>this doesn't have any of the lyrics, but I don't

0:40:28.000 --> 0:40:34.080
<v Speaker 1>get ahead feeling things on there. But it's kind of

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:39.480
<v Speaker 1>hard for me to explain her personal So now years

0:40:39.560 --> 0:40:42.040
<v Speaker 1>later I made a passing comment for a split second.

0:40:42.600 --> 0:40:45.160
<v Speaker 1>Years later, every time the song comes on, she said,

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:48.440
<v Speaker 1>do you remember when you said that? He's like, no idea,

0:40:48.600 --> 0:40:51.200
<v Speaker 1>I said that, but yeah, song's been so meaningful to

0:40:51.280 --> 0:41:09.279
<v Speaker 1>me for like two years. Now. What is the most

0:41:09.320 --> 0:41:13.400
<v Speaker 1>difficult part of dating with kids? Oh? So that's a

0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:17.800
<v Speaker 1>that's a that's a really an important question, I think, UM,

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:21.239
<v Speaker 1>one that I can not just how difficult it is.

0:41:21.280 --> 0:41:23.560
<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's so many aspects of it, the difficult,

0:41:23.719 --> 0:41:28.399
<v Speaker 1>the great um uh and something I can probably talk

0:41:28.400 --> 0:41:35.000
<v Speaker 1>about at depth maybe at a different time in different place, UM.

0:41:35.120 --> 0:41:39.240
<v Speaker 1>But I mean, I do you know when I first

0:41:39.239 --> 0:41:46.680
<v Speaker 1>got separated and then divorced, UM, I found that a

0:41:46.719 --> 0:41:51.040
<v Speaker 1>lot of guys in particular, but also some some some

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:55.320
<v Speaker 1>girls women who were getting divorced kind of shortly after me,

0:41:55.360 --> 0:41:58.279
<v Speaker 1>around the same time as me, UM, for whatever reason,

0:41:58.320 --> 0:42:01.120
<v Speaker 1>would come to me for advice and to kind of

0:42:01.960 --> 0:42:05.560
<v Speaker 1>get my thoughts on all aspects of kind of that

0:42:05.600 --> 0:42:08.160
<v Speaker 1>process because it's it is so challenging in so many ways,

0:42:10.840 --> 0:42:14.080
<v Speaker 1>and certainly the kids are the most important part of that.

0:42:14.440 --> 0:42:17.719
<v Speaker 1>And it's something that I you know, I probably you

0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:19.880
<v Speaker 1>know should I mean I thought about it afterwards, kind

0:42:19.920 --> 0:42:22.960
<v Speaker 1>of spending time and maybe creating something to address that,

0:42:23.440 --> 0:42:26.120
<v Speaker 1>UM or help help people or give my advice to people.

0:42:26.120 --> 0:42:27.600
<v Speaker 1>So I'd be happy to like talk about that more

0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:32.719
<v Speaker 1>in depth, UM maybe somewhere else. But as far as

0:42:32.800 --> 0:42:36.600
<v Speaker 1>kind of the framework around the kids, you know that

0:42:36.800 --> 0:42:42.439
<v Speaker 1>they're the number one most important priority for me when

0:42:42.440 --> 0:42:45.320
<v Speaker 1>I was going through everything and it continues. It doesn't

0:42:45.480 --> 0:42:48.560
<v Speaker 1>end right that the process continues, it just changes over time.

0:42:50.800 --> 0:42:56.480
<v Speaker 1>So the most difficult part is the fact that, uh,

0:42:58.719 --> 0:43:00.279
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, there's a lot of difficult parts. The

0:43:00.320 --> 0:43:02.680
<v Speaker 1>most difficult part, I mean, really they really are. But

0:43:02.760 --> 0:43:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I think the most difficult part is is the fact

0:43:05.120 --> 0:43:14.279
<v Speaker 1>that they despite you know, how wonderful I mean, I can,

0:43:14.360 --> 0:43:17.040
<v Speaker 1>I can talk about our situation specifically, despite how wonderful

0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:18.480
<v Speaker 1>you are and how great you are to them and

0:43:18.520 --> 0:43:23.239
<v Speaker 1>with them, UM, you know, they're going through their own

0:43:23.280 --> 0:43:26.040
<v Speaker 1>process too that is really entirely separate from you, the

0:43:26.120 --> 0:43:29.520
<v Speaker 1>person UM and this you know that the other, the

0:43:30.239 --> 0:43:34.799
<v Speaker 1>step person coming in UM, and you know you have

0:43:34.880 --> 0:43:38.120
<v Speaker 1>to give them space to deal with that, while at

0:43:38.120 --> 0:43:42.400
<v Speaker 1>the same time making sure that you're building and fostering

0:43:42.440 --> 0:43:46.080
<v Speaker 1>the relationship with that you're significant other and the person

0:43:46.120 --> 0:43:50.480
<v Speaker 1>that you bring into that. So that dichotomy of what

0:43:50.719 --> 0:43:54.359
<v Speaker 1>they're going through personally and the challenges that they're going through,

0:43:54.600 --> 0:43:58.960
<v Speaker 1>and then also kind of bridging that with transitioning to

0:43:59.080 --> 0:44:01.920
<v Speaker 1>kind of a new future or to a new person,

0:44:02.560 --> 0:44:04.239
<v Speaker 1>a different person out of mean to saying new, but

0:44:04.320 --> 0:44:12.520
<v Speaker 1>a different person is really challenging and it's interesting for me.

0:44:12.600 --> 0:44:15.200
<v Speaker 1>I could talk about it for days too, because it's

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:18.359
<v Speaker 1>it is so complex, there's so much to it. Because

0:44:18.360 --> 0:44:20.359
<v Speaker 1>I remember when we first started dating, like I wanted

0:44:20.400 --> 0:44:23.919
<v Speaker 1>to meet them a month in and I couldn't wrap

0:44:23.960 --> 0:44:27.440
<v Speaker 1>my head around you not wanting to introduce me to them,

0:44:27.440 --> 0:44:29.279
<v Speaker 1>because I was like, how are you supposed to know?

0:44:29.640 --> 0:44:31.480
<v Speaker 1>You know? But it is this like fine line of

0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:33.920
<v Speaker 1>like you don't want and you were so adamant. You

0:44:33.920 --> 0:44:37.200
<v Speaker 1>were like, I don't want them to just meet women

0:44:37.239 --> 0:44:39.160
<v Speaker 1>in my life. I don't want it to be this

0:44:39.840 --> 0:44:43.440
<v Speaker 1>open door policy where they're just like meeting whoever I'm dating.

0:44:43.480 --> 0:44:46.880
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to really really mean something and in a

0:44:46.920 --> 0:44:48.920
<v Speaker 1>weird way, like it was really hard for me. But

0:44:49.360 --> 0:44:51.520
<v Speaker 1>looking back on that year where we did, like I

0:44:51.640 --> 0:44:55.160
<v Speaker 1>hadn't met them, it kind of was because you know me,

0:44:55.200 --> 0:44:57.160
<v Speaker 1>when I go in and a relationship, like I'm like

0:44:57.239 --> 0:45:00.719
<v Speaker 1>all in, and I feel like it gave us that

0:45:00.880 --> 0:45:03.279
<v Speaker 1>built in space that I don't think I would have

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:06.600
<v Speaker 1>accepted otherwise, and it was like, Okay, he's with his kids,

0:45:06.920 --> 0:45:09.359
<v Speaker 1>do you know what I mean? Whereas like when I'm

0:45:09.360 --> 0:45:11.040
<v Speaker 1>like all and I go in on a relationship I

0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:12.480
<v Speaker 1>want to be with you twenty four to seven, and

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:14.360
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'd dive in, and so it was

0:45:14.400 --> 0:45:17.800
<v Speaker 1>like a nice thing for me to be able to

0:45:17.840 --> 0:45:22.840
<v Speaker 1>kind of have that separation. Yeah, I know, the built

0:45:22.920 --> 0:45:26.359
<v Speaker 1>in separation. Yeah, I get it now, you're I think

0:45:26.360 --> 0:45:28.520
<v Speaker 1>you're right. So I look back on that and I'm like,

0:45:28.560 --> 0:45:31.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm grateful that we that we had that time.

0:45:31.400 --> 0:45:33.360
<v Speaker 1>And I also think two now on the flip side,

0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 1>I think the kids knowing how much care and thought

0:45:38.080 --> 0:45:41.680
<v Speaker 1>and intention you put into introducing me to them, you know,

0:45:41.719 --> 0:45:43.520
<v Speaker 1>like you didn't just introduce me, because then you never

0:45:43.680 --> 0:45:45.800
<v Speaker 1>lied to them about who I was or you know

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:49.399
<v Speaker 1>what I mean, like our relationship or when we started dating,

0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:50.840
<v Speaker 1>any of that stuff. You know, you said like I

0:45:50.920 --> 0:45:52.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to introduce you, guys, I didn't. I wanted

0:45:52.680 --> 0:45:56.680
<v Speaker 1>it to be somebody that I knew was important enough

0:45:56.760 --> 0:45:58.520
<v Speaker 1>to meet you. I feel like now they have a

0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:02.920
<v Speaker 1>different level of respect um for you and for me

0:46:03.200 --> 0:46:08.240
<v Speaker 1>and for how you viewed them in this whole process. Yeah,

0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:10.279
<v Speaker 1>you hit on a couple of things that maybe I'd

0:46:10.320 --> 0:46:11.799
<v Speaker 1>like to talk about it a little bit more. But first,

0:46:11.840 --> 0:46:14.520
<v Speaker 1>just kind of the last thing. First, it's that you're right,

0:46:14.680 --> 0:46:17.040
<v Speaker 1>and I appreciate you saying that I and I and

0:46:17.080 --> 0:46:19.880
<v Speaker 1>I hope that that's true, and I agree. Um, but

0:46:20.000 --> 0:46:23.319
<v Speaker 1>I think kids have a um the younger. The younger

0:46:23.320 --> 0:46:25.480
<v Speaker 1>they are certainly the more so. But they have a weird,

0:46:26.280 --> 0:46:30.120
<v Speaker 1>um warped sense of time. So that's a challenge. Right.

0:46:30.400 --> 0:46:32.680
<v Speaker 1>They think about time very differently than we do. They

0:46:32.680 --> 0:46:35.480
<v Speaker 1>don't understand what a year ago means, right, you know

0:46:35.480 --> 0:46:38.319
<v Speaker 1>when they're younger, certainly now you know when if you know,

0:46:38.320 --> 0:46:40.359
<v Speaker 1>if you're eleven, you get that, but you know, when

0:46:40.360 --> 0:46:45.960
<v Speaker 1>you're six seven, a year ago is harder to really grasp.

0:46:46.040 --> 0:46:47.600
<v Speaker 1>So that's a that's a weird that's a that's a

0:46:47.640 --> 0:46:52.719
<v Speaker 1>weird challenge. But um uh to your other point, and

0:46:52.719 --> 0:46:55.000
<v Speaker 1>this is maybe some advice for anybody who's out there

0:46:55.040 --> 0:46:58.000
<v Speaker 1>who is going through this or might be going through

0:46:58.000 --> 0:47:02.760
<v Speaker 1>this in the future. Um, every situation is so different

0:47:02.760 --> 0:47:06.160
<v Speaker 1>and so unique. And you know, by the time you

0:47:06.160 --> 0:47:09.080
<v Speaker 1>know you're in that situation, if you ever are, you're older, right,

0:47:09.160 --> 0:47:12.160
<v Speaker 1>so you know you're probably in your thirties or your forties,

0:47:12.280 --> 0:47:14.640
<v Speaker 1>could be earlier, but you're you're later on in your life.

0:47:15.080 --> 0:47:20.560
<v Speaker 1>And we all, we all have had many experiences, relationship

0:47:20.560 --> 0:47:26.640
<v Speaker 1>experiences leading up to who we decide to marry. And

0:47:27.120 --> 0:47:28.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, or many of us do have a lot

0:47:28.920 --> 0:47:32.840
<v Speaker 1>of experiences. But everyone when you get divorced, you're getting

0:47:32.840 --> 0:47:36.360
<v Speaker 1>divorced for the first time, and so you're learning that

0:47:36.440 --> 0:47:38.560
<v Speaker 1>and figuring that out all on your own. And every

0:47:38.560 --> 0:47:43.560
<v Speaker 1>situation is so unique, so everybody's advice is so specific

0:47:43.640 --> 0:47:46.399
<v Speaker 1>to their situation, and no one knows exactly kind of

0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:49.360
<v Speaker 1>your situation and how best to do with your situation.

0:47:49.440 --> 0:47:54.040
<v Speaker 1>So I had a lot of preconceived ideas as to

0:47:54.120 --> 0:47:58.880
<v Speaker 1>what was the right way to do things, specifically in

0:47:58.960 --> 0:48:03.319
<v Speaker 1>connection with you know, how to introduce you or for you,

0:48:03.320 --> 0:48:06.160
<v Speaker 1>how to introduce anybody to them, and when that that,

0:48:06.239 --> 0:48:09.080
<v Speaker 1>when that happens. And I said to myself, you know,

0:48:09.120 --> 0:48:11.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to duce anybody until I'm ready to,

0:48:11.360 --> 0:48:15.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, marry that person. Turns out that's not possible, right,

0:48:15.239 --> 0:48:20.080
<v Speaker 1>You can't. You can't have a really meaningful relationship and

0:48:20.160 --> 0:48:22.640
<v Speaker 1>get to the point where you're ready to marry somebody

0:48:22.719 --> 0:48:26.680
<v Speaker 1>without them having already built a relationship with your kids

0:48:26.840 --> 0:48:30.640
<v Speaker 1>or seeing how that relationship looks like. So um So,

0:48:30.680 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 1>these preconceived ideas you have, you know you. I think

0:48:33.239 --> 0:48:37.439
<v Speaker 1>you have to be flexible and realize that, um, every

0:48:37.480 --> 0:48:39.560
<v Speaker 1>situation is different and you have to kind of uh

0:48:40.680 --> 0:48:45.719
<v Speaker 1>be able to adapt and figure things out as you go. Yeah,

0:48:46.080 --> 0:48:47.920
<v Speaker 1>we really could talk about it for days, because it's

0:48:47.920 --> 0:48:49.840
<v Speaker 1>like a different stages, you know what I mean, like

0:48:49.880 --> 0:48:52.040
<v Speaker 1>when we first started dating, and then in the middle

0:48:52.160 --> 0:48:54.320
<v Speaker 1>and then then you don't know. It just it's always

0:48:54.360 --> 0:48:58.600
<v Speaker 1>evolving and it's a very uh it's something that I've

0:48:58.640 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 1>never experienced before either, so we're like both doing it

0:49:00.800 --> 0:49:04.480
<v Speaker 1>for the first time. Yeah. So yeah, it's definitely something

0:49:04.520 --> 0:49:08.960
<v Speaker 1>that is worth talking about more. I think yeah, um, okay,

0:49:10.080 --> 0:49:12.799
<v Speaker 1>I think we should go into emails. I had one

0:49:12.880 --> 0:49:18.120
<v Speaker 1>quick question. Do the constant proposal questions bother you before

0:49:18.160 --> 0:49:21.520
<v Speaker 1>we take our next questions? You mean, like everybody on

0:49:21.680 --> 0:49:26.040
<v Speaker 1>social media say or like DM ing me? Yeah, people

0:49:26.200 --> 0:49:29.799
<v Speaker 1>d I get d ms all the time. Uh, they

0:49:29.800 --> 0:49:32.640
<v Speaker 1>don't bother me at all. I'm I mean, I know

0:49:32.640 --> 0:49:34.879
<v Speaker 1>that I'm not a public person, but I think I

0:49:35.000 --> 0:49:37.319
<v Speaker 1>you know, that stuff doesn't phase me at all. I

0:49:37.360 --> 0:49:40.759
<v Speaker 1>don't you know. Um, I actually you know, I look

0:49:40.760 --> 0:49:43.040
<v Speaker 1>at it more from kind of your perspective. So my

0:49:43.200 --> 0:49:46.880
<v Speaker 1>reaction to those things is one. On the one hand,

0:49:47.080 --> 0:49:50.360
<v Speaker 1>it's really nice that you have again this amazing community

0:49:50.400 --> 0:49:52.640
<v Speaker 1>of people who love you so much and care about

0:49:52.640 --> 0:49:56.920
<v Speaker 1>your happiness so much and are so invested in, you know,

0:49:57.040 --> 0:49:59.160
<v Speaker 1>in you and your happiness and your love and our

0:49:59.200 --> 0:50:01.680
<v Speaker 1>story actually beautiful to me. But on the other hand,

0:50:01.680 --> 0:50:05.440
<v Speaker 1>I actually do sometimes worry if it's putting pressure on you.

0:50:05.440 --> 0:50:07.400
<v Speaker 1>You know that. I think it's I just think you

0:50:07.480 --> 0:50:12.880
<v Speaker 1>can tell you something. Pressure makes diamonds, so you're already

0:50:12.880 --> 0:50:17.719
<v Speaker 1>a diamond. But you know, it's kind of like it's

0:50:17.719 --> 0:50:20.000
<v Speaker 1>like anything, like you know, okay, so so so you

0:50:20.000 --> 0:50:22.239
<v Speaker 1>you get engaged, you get married, then everyone's asking, okay,

0:50:22.239 --> 0:50:23.799
<v Speaker 1>when you're gonna have kids, when you gonna have that's

0:50:23.800 --> 0:50:27.080
<v Speaker 1>what everybody everybody's natural way. Yeah, it's a natural it's

0:50:27.080 --> 0:50:29.000
<v Speaker 1>a natural way. And I think also too for me,

0:50:29.040 --> 0:50:32.520
<v Speaker 1>it's like it's nothing that I mean, you knew knew

0:50:32.560 --> 0:50:35.240
<v Speaker 1>from day one. Early on in our relationship, I was like, okay,

0:50:35.239 --> 0:50:37.640
<v Speaker 1>like this is what I want and this is you know,

0:50:38.680 --> 0:50:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I've just been wearing a lot of white lately, so

0:50:41.239 --> 0:50:46.360
<v Speaker 1>you know whatever, Okay, We're gonna come back with some emails,

0:51:04.560 --> 0:51:06.799
<v Speaker 1>all right, Mark is not oh East, and you can

0:51:06.800 --> 0:51:10.080
<v Speaker 1>read the emails. Do you have him? I do, so

0:51:10.480 --> 0:51:13.760
<v Speaker 1>let's do this. This first one's from Ashley. My boyfriend

0:51:13.760 --> 0:51:16.719
<v Speaker 1>and I recently began discussing moving in together. I would

0:51:16.760 --> 0:51:19.120
<v Speaker 1>be moving into his house, and I'm struggling to think

0:51:19.160 --> 0:51:21.040
<v Speaker 1>of it as my home because I don't want him

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:23.200
<v Speaker 1>to feel like I'm taking over the space he built

0:51:23.200 --> 0:51:26.080
<v Speaker 1>on his own. For context, I'm thirty, he's thirty five.

0:51:26.520 --> 0:51:28.319
<v Speaker 1>I plan to share these feelings with him as well,

0:51:28.360 --> 0:51:31.120
<v Speaker 1>but I'm curious if Tiny has experienced this while moving

0:51:31.120 --> 0:51:33.399
<v Speaker 1>in with Robbie, and he advised on how to make

0:51:33.560 --> 0:51:36.680
<v Speaker 1>his place feel more like ours rather than just his

0:51:36.719 --> 0:51:40.840
<v Speaker 1>house that I'm staying in. Is that a question for me,

0:51:40.880 --> 0:51:44.759
<v Speaker 1>your question for you both of us? But please no,

0:51:45.080 --> 0:51:50.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean totally get it. It's a it's a real thing.

0:51:50.040 --> 0:51:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think, in an ideal world, the best

0:51:53.520 --> 0:51:56.480
<v Speaker 1>move is to start a new in a new place

0:51:56.880 --> 0:51:59.920
<v Speaker 1>that you guys both make your own. But I understand that,

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:03.000
<v Speaker 1>or you know, the realities of the world sometimes make

0:52:03.040 --> 0:52:06.960
<v Speaker 1>that not possible for any number of reasons. So I

0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:08.600
<v Speaker 1>think it's just a matter of like you said, I

0:52:08.600 --> 0:52:10.200
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't know that it's so complicated. I

0:52:10.239 --> 0:52:12.280
<v Speaker 1>think it's a matter of figuring out a way to

0:52:12.960 --> 0:52:16.480
<v Speaker 1>add elements of yourself to his place in a way

0:52:16.520 --> 0:52:22.040
<v Speaker 1>that makes you feel like that is more your home

0:52:22.280 --> 0:52:25.319
<v Speaker 1>as well. And it's all a matter of just communicating

0:52:25.360 --> 0:52:28.319
<v Speaker 1>and having those conversations. Tany and I are having those

0:52:28.360 --> 0:52:33.960
<v Speaker 1>conversations right now, and again, our situation is, you know,

0:52:34.000 --> 0:52:38.759
<v Speaker 1>complicated in terms of immediately getting a new place, but um,

0:52:39.280 --> 0:52:43.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, we're constantly communicating about it, maybe more than

0:52:43.480 --> 0:52:48.359
<v Speaker 1>I would need to or like to, but yeah, I

0:52:48.400 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 1>just think you you you have to talk about it.

0:52:50.160 --> 0:52:51.719
<v Speaker 1>If you can't kind of start a new in a

0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:55.680
<v Speaker 1>new place, just figure out what what makes you comfortable,

0:52:55.719 --> 0:52:57.920
<v Speaker 1>and then you guys have to compromise and figure out

0:52:57.960 --> 0:53:02.040
<v Speaker 1>what makes sense. Yeah, it's interesting because it's like I

0:53:02.120 --> 0:53:05.640
<v Speaker 1>totally get where she's Ashley's coming from, because I did.

0:53:05.680 --> 0:53:07.520
<v Speaker 1>I felt I felt that way for a very long time.

0:53:07.560 --> 0:53:09.680
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I just feel like I'm again like, yes,

0:53:09.719 --> 0:53:12.839
<v Speaker 1>I think in our ideally we want to get our

0:53:12.880 --> 0:53:16.560
<v Speaker 1>own place together, that's kind of like our goal, but

0:53:16.800 --> 0:53:19.719
<v Speaker 1>temporarily like I'm going to move into your home, and

0:53:19.760 --> 0:53:23.360
<v Speaker 1>so it's like, how do you make a home that

0:53:23.719 --> 0:53:26.040
<v Speaker 1>your own? Because when I had my apartment. I got

0:53:26.040 --> 0:53:28.080
<v Speaker 1>to do whatever I wanted, Like I made it exactly

0:53:28.160 --> 0:53:30.359
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to have a little pink accent chair and

0:53:30.400 --> 0:53:33.720
<v Speaker 1>like did everything that I wanted. And it's so interesting

0:53:33.760 --> 0:53:35.800
<v Speaker 1>because it's just like that is what a relationship is,

0:53:35.840 --> 0:53:38.319
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. That's like a ying and

0:53:38.320 --> 0:53:40.239
<v Speaker 1>the yang. But like get given a take and so

0:53:40.480 --> 0:53:43.920
<v Speaker 1>it's not going to be exactly what I want, um,

0:53:44.000 --> 0:53:48.480
<v Speaker 1>but I can make it feel more me And like

0:53:48.520 --> 0:53:50.279
<v Speaker 1>you've actually done a really good job. You know, you

0:53:50.320 --> 0:53:52.759
<v Speaker 1>were not like a big dishes like he could leave

0:53:52.760 --> 0:53:59.719
<v Speaker 1>dishes for days and for the evening and I can't

0:53:59.719 --> 0:54:01.480
<v Speaker 1>go to bed with dishes in the sink, Like I

0:54:01.520 --> 0:54:04.560
<v Speaker 1>just I need dishes to be clean, and like so

0:54:04.600 --> 0:54:06.399
<v Speaker 1>I'll just take that responsibility on my own and I'll

0:54:06.440 --> 0:54:08.600
<v Speaker 1>just do them. But like you actually are so great

0:54:08.640 --> 0:54:10.319
<v Speaker 1>and I feel like you have done a better job

0:54:10.400 --> 0:54:13.320
<v Speaker 1>of like doing the dishes or like cleaning up just

0:54:13.400 --> 0:54:15.560
<v Speaker 1>being a little bit more on the kneater side than

0:54:15.600 --> 0:54:18.080
<v Speaker 1>you used to be, which I like see and I

0:54:18.120 --> 0:54:20.160
<v Speaker 1>really appreciate because it's like I see that you're making

0:54:20.160 --> 0:54:25.200
<v Speaker 1>those changes for me. You have a smile on your face.

0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:30.960
<v Speaker 1>Was that really not in that meat. No, No, not

0:54:31.080 --> 0:54:34.040
<v Speaker 1>in like a gross way, like I don't think you

0:54:34.080 --> 0:54:37.640
<v Speaker 1>were ever like gross. I don't think you're gross like dirty.

0:54:38.200 --> 0:54:40.440
<v Speaker 1>But I'm just like I. I like to live in

0:54:40.480 --> 0:54:42.600
<v Speaker 1>a museum like I like it to look like nothing's

0:54:42.640 --> 0:54:44.799
<v Speaker 1>been touched, you know. So it's we're definitely just like

0:54:44.880 --> 0:54:50.319
<v Speaker 1>having to meet in the middle. Okay, so yeah, communication,

0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:56.279
<v Speaker 1>but clearly I like to do that too much. We

0:54:56.280 --> 0:54:58.920
<v Speaker 1>will have talked about it for days, and then the

0:54:58.960 --> 0:55:02.120
<v Speaker 1>next day, should we do you want to finish the conversation?

0:55:05.560 --> 0:55:08.680
<v Speaker 1>All right? This ex cooks from anonymous. I've been with

0:55:08.719 --> 0:55:11.040
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend for two and a half years. I'm thirty,

0:55:11.120 --> 0:55:14.279
<v Speaker 1>he's twenty eight. Clock is ticking. He has everything I

0:55:14.280 --> 0:55:17.520
<v Speaker 1>could hope for, his thoughtful carrying, loves, his family, adventures, etc.

0:55:18.080 --> 0:55:21.400
<v Speaker 1>I find him attractive, but I don't get the vagina

0:55:21.440 --> 0:55:24.880
<v Speaker 1>tingles that Tanya has talked about scientific term when we

0:55:25.000 --> 0:55:27.480
<v Speaker 1>kiss or when we're being intimate, not even early in

0:55:27.520 --> 0:55:31.200
<v Speaker 1>our relationship. Should I be worried about this? Tanya always

0:55:31.239 --> 0:55:34.279
<v Speaker 1>talks about connection over chemistry, which makes me feel like

0:55:34.320 --> 0:55:36.920
<v Speaker 1>this shouldn't be a big deal. I'm curious about your thoughts.

0:55:39.360 --> 0:55:43.000
<v Speaker 1>Would you like me to go first? Sure, yes, I

0:55:43.040 --> 0:55:47.759
<v Speaker 1>think it's character over chemistry, and that is imperative. Obviously,

0:55:48.520 --> 0:55:51.920
<v Speaker 1>the vagina tingles are nice, and in an ideal world

0:55:51.960 --> 0:55:54.400
<v Speaker 1>you can have both of those things. But to me,

0:55:54.520 --> 0:55:56.640
<v Speaker 1>if he's like a really great guy, I don't think.

0:55:56.800 --> 0:55:59.880
<v Speaker 1>To me, the clock is ticking is not should not

0:55:59.880 --> 0:56:02.840
<v Speaker 1>be a factor because you're only thirty years old, like,

0:56:02.920 --> 0:56:05.480
<v Speaker 1>there are plenty of fish out there. Your time is

0:56:05.520 --> 0:56:09.239
<v Speaker 1>not ticking. But you said he is everything I could

0:56:09.239 --> 0:56:12.719
<v Speaker 1>hope for, and so that to me says that his

0:56:12.840 --> 0:56:16.520
<v Speaker 1>character is really good. So I don't think it's a

0:56:16.520 --> 0:56:18.880
<v Speaker 1>big deal. Yeah. But also I mean I'm not a

0:56:19.000 --> 0:56:26.040
<v Speaker 1>vagina tingles expert, certainly not getting them. But if you're

0:56:26.080 --> 0:56:28.759
<v Speaker 1>attracted to somebody, I mean you can there's a you

0:56:28.760 --> 0:56:32.080
<v Speaker 1>can be attracted to somebody and not get vagina tangles, right,

0:56:32.120 --> 0:56:34.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's a there's a room between those two.

0:56:34.760 --> 0:56:38.320
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know that you necessarily need vagina tangles.

0:56:38.320 --> 0:56:41.040
<v Speaker 1>And I think that that wears off. I mean I

0:56:41.040 --> 0:56:44.480
<v Speaker 1>don't think you, you know, in any relationship, the you know,

0:56:44.840 --> 0:56:48.480
<v Speaker 1>the attractiveness should not wear off. But this kind of

0:56:49.000 --> 0:56:56.799
<v Speaker 1>vagina tingle level of kind of honeymooney phase feeling wears off,

0:56:56.840 --> 0:56:58.840
<v Speaker 1>and if you're talking about a long term marriage or

0:56:58.960 --> 0:57:02.239
<v Speaker 1>lifetime marriage, um, that's going to go away no matter what.

0:57:02.360 --> 0:57:05.279
<v Speaker 1>So ultimately you're left with character and connection. So if

0:57:05.280 --> 0:57:08.440
<v Speaker 1>he's everything you hope for, you are attracted to him

0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:12.360
<v Speaker 1>sexually physically, then yeah, I'm not sure that you have

0:57:12.400 --> 0:57:16.800
<v Speaker 1>any issues. Good. Yeah, you can't build a relationship just

0:57:16.960 --> 0:57:21.280
<v Speaker 1>on vagina tingles. No you can't. You can't just you

0:57:21.360 --> 0:57:25.120
<v Speaker 1>also don't need vagina tingles for a relationship. But they

0:57:25.200 --> 0:57:29.600
<v Speaker 1>are nice, They are nice, They are nice. All right.

0:57:30.240 --> 0:57:33.360
<v Speaker 1>This next one's from Emily. I'm already reacting to this.

0:57:33.440 --> 0:57:36.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, what are your thoughts about me making my

0:57:36.080 --> 0:57:38.920
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend unfollowed girls he has hooked up within the past.

0:57:39.280 --> 0:57:41.040
<v Speaker 1>I asked him to do so and he said this

0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:47.200
<v Speaker 1>was toxic and uncalled for this. Dude sucks. I'm sorry. Toxic?

0:57:47.320 --> 0:57:49.560
<v Speaker 1>What the wait? I saw? I have the thing here,

0:57:49.640 --> 0:57:52.480
<v Speaker 1>So I think it's so I do. I mean not

0:57:52.520 --> 0:57:54.000
<v Speaker 1>to throw any guys under the bus here. I think

0:57:54.000 --> 0:57:59.400
<v Speaker 1>it's so weird when guys just follow follow random hot

0:57:59.480 --> 0:58:02.360
<v Speaker 1>chicks on Instagram. I think is weird. I mean, if

0:58:02.360 --> 0:58:05.000
<v Speaker 1>you're in a relationship, if you're single, follow whoever you want, UM,

0:58:05.280 --> 0:58:07.040
<v Speaker 1>But I find that to be a little bit weird.

0:58:07.360 --> 0:58:09.080
<v Speaker 1>But this question is a little bit different. So this

0:58:09.160 --> 0:58:12.480
<v Speaker 1>question is about people you specifically hooked up with, and

0:58:12.520 --> 0:58:15.880
<v Speaker 1>I think that maybe those people fall into two kind

0:58:15.920 --> 0:58:20.960
<v Speaker 1>of categories. One is, you know, there's there's people that

0:58:20.960 --> 0:58:23.520
<v Speaker 1>I've hooked up with in my past who I'm you know,

0:58:23.520 --> 0:58:25.560
<v Speaker 1>it was friends with first, friends with now we don't

0:58:25.520 --> 0:58:28.920
<v Speaker 1>have anything, it wasn't anything serious. We're friends who happen

0:58:28.960 --> 0:58:32.600
<v Speaker 1>to have hooked up. And then there's people who still

0:58:32.640 --> 0:58:35.320
<v Speaker 1>follow these people. Yeah, yeah, these are like these are

0:58:35.360 --> 0:58:40.200
<v Speaker 1>like lifelong friends. Then there are we can oh. Then

0:58:40.200 --> 0:58:42.280
<v Speaker 1>there are people who you like, have just hooked up,

0:58:42.320 --> 0:58:44.320
<v Speaker 1>who are just people that you hooked up with, who

0:58:44.320 --> 0:58:47.640
<v Speaker 1>you just had a relationship with, UM, and you know

0:58:47.680 --> 0:58:51.480
<v Speaker 1>that's coming gone. I think it's very weird to continue

0:58:51.480 --> 0:58:55.200
<v Speaker 1>to follow someone that you've just hooked up with on Instagram.

0:58:55.280 --> 0:58:57.400
<v Speaker 1>Didn't you just I feel like we were laying and

0:58:57.480 --> 0:59:01.440
<v Speaker 1>then one day and your Instagram feed is like not,

0:59:02.080 --> 0:59:08.720
<v Speaker 1>it's very not, um worrisome, Like when I look at you,

0:59:08.800 --> 0:59:11.960
<v Speaker 1>like it's so funny. So the funniest like the sexiest

0:59:11.960 --> 0:59:14.360
<v Speaker 1>pictures that I have on Instagram feed or like people

0:59:14.400 --> 0:59:18.320
<v Speaker 1>that I'm only friends with, because yeah, like Nickles, he

0:59:18.360 --> 0:59:20.720
<v Speaker 1>follows Natalie and so like she should post like pictures

0:59:20.720 --> 0:59:22.440
<v Speaker 1>in her Bikinian stuff. And I was like oh, and

0:59:22.480 --> 0:59:24.640
<v Speaker 1>then I'm like okay, yeah, I'll be like looking and

0:59:24.680 --> 0:59:26.760
<v Speaker 1>it's just you know, it's someone in a bathing suit

0:59:26.840 --> 0:59:28.800
<v Speaker 1>or this who is that? Oh it's my friend. Yeah,

0:59:28.960 --> 0:59:32.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm like okay, cool. But there was somebody like this

0:59:32.320 --> 0:59:33.960
<v Speaker 1>is maybe a year ago, but I remember we were

0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:35.640
<v Speaker 1>looking at your Instagram and there was like this girl

0:59:35.680 --> 0:59:37.560
<v Speaker 1>we like looked at her story and she was like

0:59:37.600 --> 0:59:40.240
<v Speaker 1>doing like weird kissy face to the like thing. And

0:59:40.240 --> 0:59:41.760
<v Speaker 1>I was like, and I've never seen her before, I

0:59:41.880 --> 0:59:43.840
<v Speaker 1>never heard her name, Like who is this person? And

0:59:43.880 --> 0:59:46.040
<v Speaker 1>You're like, oh, someone I hooked up with a long

0:59:46.080 --> 0:59:48.880
<v Speaker 1>time ago. And I was like you should follow her

0:59:48.920 --> 0:59:51.200
<v Speaker 1>two things, and then he did a quickly just unfeelollowed

0:59:51.200 --> 0:59:52.440
<v Speaker 1>her right then and there He's like, I didn't even

0:59:52.520 --> 0:59:54.920
<v Speaker 1>realize that I still was correct. There there is like

0:59:55.400 --> 0:59:58.080
<v Speaker 1>a tail period where you don't realize you're still following them.

0:59:58.080 --> 0:59:59.520
<v Speaker 1>Then if their thing pops up, you got it. You

0:59:59.560 --> 1:00:02.800
<v Speaker 1>got it of them. But also that was it a

1:00:02.800 --> 1:00:05.440
<v Speaker 1>period of time that I think we're out of now where. Basically,

1:00:05.480 --> 1:00:10.280
<v Speaker 1>any picture of any female on my Instagram, you would

1:00:10.320 --> 1:00:13.439
<v Speaker 1>ask me if I hooked up with them. So that's true. Yeah,

1:00:13.560 --> 1:00:16.040
<v Speaker 1>we are past that. But yeah I hate this guy. No,

1:00:16.160 --> 1:00:18.760
<v Speaker 1>that's my cousin. No, that's my cousin who just had twins.

1:00:18.800 --> 1:00:20.160
<v Speaker 1>As you can see, I'm looking at a picture of

1:00:20.160 --> 1:00:25.080
<v Speaker 1>her with her twins. I don't like how he reacts,

1:00:25.160 --> 1:00:28.040
<v Speaker 1>this guy, Emily's boyfriend. I don't like him reacting saying

1:00:28.040 --> 1:00:30.720
<v Speaker 1>it's toxic, Like if it makes her uncomfortable, then let

1:00:31.000 --> 1:00:33.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, do it or have a conversation about it.

1:00:33.480 --> 1:00:36.840
<v Speaker 1>Don't be like you're being toxic. That's not that unreasonable request. Yeah,

1:00:36.920 --> 1:00:38.480
<v Speaker 1>I agree that he should say it is toxic, but

1:00:38.560 --> 1:00:40.880
<v Speaker 1>let's say that it was you know, I don't know,

1:00:41.120 --> 1:00:43.680
<v Speaker 1>again one of these people who I'm friends with, but

1:00:43.720 --> 1:00:45.680
<v Speaker 1>I also just happened to have looked up with at

1:00:45.720 --> 1:00:49.080
<v Speaker 1>some period of time. I do think it's it is

1:00:49.640 --> 1:00:53.520
<v Speaker 1>it's unfair for someone to take it to the extremes

1:00:53.560 --> 1:00:56.920
<v Speaker 1>that you have to unfollow that person just because you

1:00:56.960 --> 1:00:58.400
<v Speaker 1>happen to have picked up with them, you know what

1:00:58.440 --> 1:01:00.280
<v Speaker 1>I mean. So I do a lot of people that

1:01:00.280 --> 1:01:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I've hooked up with I do right exactly. Yeah, yeah,

1:01:03.680 --> 1:01:06.600
<v Speaker 1>so it is. I do think it is a little

1:01:06.600 --> 1:01:09.560
<v Speaker 1>bit over the line to ask to unfollow those people.

1:01:09.600 --> 1:01:11.720
<v Speaker 1>But you know, the just hookups, I think it makes

1:01:11.800 --> 1:01:14.880
<v Speaker 1>this totally reasonable. And also if it makes you, if

1:01:14.920 --> 1:01:21.680
<v Speaker 1>it bothers you, it bothers you. That's all I'm saying. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we have another anonymous email. I recently got my dream

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<v Speaker 1>job offer in London. I'm currently US based. I'm super excited,

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<v Speaker 1>but currently seeing someone pretty seriously in the US and

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<v Speaker 1>we're living together. He's deep in his career as well,

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<v Speaker 1>but could find a similar role in London. How do

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<v Speaker 1>I go about proposing the idea of a move this huge?

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<v Speaker 1>I know it will be a long discussion, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>nervous about starting the conversation right rather than just proposing

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<v Speaker 1>an ultimatum move with me or separate. So the question,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm not even sure I understand the question.

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<v Speaker 1>The question is how do I start the conversation? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think you should answered herself. You definitely

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<v Speaker 1>do not give an ultimatum this point. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how long these people have been dating. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how you know she says, they're pretty serious.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how old they are. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if they're on the brink of marriage, but they're living together,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's significant. Okay, So yeah, I mean there's so

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<v Speaker 1>many life decisions that have to be made when you're

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about spending the rest of your life with somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>this is one of them. You start the conversation. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you just start the conversation by saying, hey, this

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<v Speaker 1>is happening. You know, what are your thoughts? How would

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<v Speaker 1>you feel about potentially moving to London and starting our

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<v Speaker 1>lives there? Boom? And then it goes from there. I

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<v Speaker 1>also think too, it doesn't have to be so permanent,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Like I do think there's a world in which,

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<v Speaker 1>again we don't know your ages, but if you're on

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<v Speaker 1>the younger side, there is a world where you can

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<v Speaker 1>take this job, move to London, do long distance for

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit, and then maybe see maybe you don't

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<v Speaker 1>even maybe you think it's your dream job and you

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<v Speaker 1>freaking hate it and then you move back. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like there is a world where that could be the reality.

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<v Speaker 1>Or you take this job. You guys realize like you

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<v Speaker 1>can't be a partner. He just decides that he wants

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<v Speaker 1>to move there to be with you. So I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe even leaving it open end and just saying,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my dream job. If I don't take it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna regret it. I don't want to lose you.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's just give it six months and see what

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<v Speaker 1>this is like and then make a decision in six months. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a cousin who just went through this, who

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<v Speaker 1>just got married. He's from New York married a girl

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<v Speaker 1>who lived in la but also had in New York

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<v Speaker 1>in the past, and her family was from Miami. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a major topic of discussion for them, and

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<v Speaker 1>they you know, they just started the conversation. They had it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was, you know, this was kind of a I think,

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<v Speaker 1>a really important point for him and maybe less so

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<v Speaker 1>for her, and so they were able to come to

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<v Speaker 1>an agreement and compromise and they're married and happily ever after. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is good, good, good all, good good guy,

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<v Speaker 1>good job. London's awesome. Yeah. Yeah, I vote yes for London.

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<v Speaker 1>I vote yes for London too, just to see because

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<v Speaker 1>you might hate it. That's the end of our show.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it. We're done. Yeah, and we're done. Else nothing

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<v Speaker 1>else unless there's something you'd like to share. Maybe ask No,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's I can't think of anything that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to ask. No nothing, yeah, nothing, yeah, no

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<v Speaker 1>questions come to mind. Oh weird. Yeah that's it. So

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<v Speaker 1>thanks for scrubbing in Dave. This was so fine. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope I did. Okay, thank you guys. That was

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<v Speaker 1>really a lot of fun. And um, where can everybody

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<v Speaker 1>find you need any help? But they're wantin your service

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<v Speaker 1>transactional matters? Yeah, there you go. You out a guard

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<v Speaker 1>law PC. His instagram is private, so but I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm private, but I have been ex accepting all scrubbers,

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<v Speaker 1>so yes, he does, so I'm part of the community now.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that's right. Well, thank you, I love you, and

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see back in next week. She'll be back with

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of stories from her tour and we will

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<v Speaker 1>not have an episode on Thursday, but so we back

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<v Speaker 1>on Monday and love you bye, Love you two.