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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya ren An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello,

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Speaker 1: Happy Monday. Becca again is out of town. She actually

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Speaker 1: left Haley today, So we have my other half, my boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: Robbie Anagar scrubbing in. Good to be here. Thank you

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Speaker 1: guys for having me. First of all, it's so cute

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Speaker 1: how I like into this and excited you are. And

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Speaker 1: we were driving over here and I was just kind

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Speaker 1: of like looking at my arms and I was like,

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Speaker 1: did think I got any color because we just got

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Speaker 1: back from Cobbo And he was like save it for

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Speaker 1: the air professional that I was really quiet. The whole

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Speaker 1: drive over here is like, Okay, I think my parents

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Speaker 1: would be so proud of me to finally fulfill their

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Speaker 1: pretend dreams of me becoming a doctor and scrubbing in.

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Speaker 1: So I think this is a it's a big moment

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Speaker 1: for us, it's a big moment for everybody involved. I

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Speaker 1: did talk to I message Becca because I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you saw. There was video of Haley actually pulling

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Speaker 1: Becca up and serenading her at one of her shows

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Speaker 1: last night, and so I asked her and she said, basically,

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Speaker 1: every night she sings us her song pretty girl to

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Speaker 1: a fan, and because it was Becca's last night on

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Speaker 1: the tour, she brought Becca out and sing it, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was really beautiful, beautiful. But Becca will be back

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Speaker 1: next week, but for now. I message Becca in response

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Speaker 1: to that post, actually, and she responded right before we

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Speaker 1: got here, asking me if I'm ready for my debut? So, oh,

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Speaker 1: are you nervous? A little bit nervous? Yeah, what are

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Speaker 1: you nervous about? No, just I mean, I'm just a

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Speaker 1: little bit nervous, never having done this before, but I'm good. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So basically what we would do now is we talk

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Speaker 1: about our weekends. And it's very funny because we spent

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Speaker 1: the whole weekend together, so it's gonna be we had

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Speaker 1: a great weekend, similar stories. But what's interesting is, um,

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Speaker 1: I did something. If you're scrubber, you know that I

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Speaker 1: have vowed about something, vowed I would never do this

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Speaker 1: in my current relationship, and I broke that vow this weekend. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's kind of a big deal, but it's actually really

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Speaker 1: really funny. So we were leaving to go to Cabo.

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Speaker 1: We had like an early flight out on Thursday, and

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Speaker 1: we had a lot to do from when we woke

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Speaker 1: up to when we left for the airport, and and

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Speaker 1: so we woke up and I had to go peace.

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Speaker 1: So I just you know, we have one toilet like normal,

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Speaker 1: you know, we're not like Megan Trainer and have like

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Speaker 1: two toilets in the bathroom. We just have one toilet.

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Speaker 1: And so he was getting ready, like washing his face,

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Speaker 1: doing his stuff at the sink, and I was like

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Speaker 1: on the toilet, which is totally normal. I wasn't expecting

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Speaker 1: this to happen. And you know that I'm like issues

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Speaker 1: going to the bathroom, and so when it comes, like

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Speaker 1: I'm sitting there and I was like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to the bathroom. Wait. So so I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: like getting ready and I look at her and she

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Speaker 1: looks very focused, but like also like her eyes were

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Speaker 1: like a little bit glazed over. And I made a

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Speaker 1: comment I was saying, said I don't know what was

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Speaker 1: going on. I said, you look you look like you're

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Speaker 1: very tired. Because we woke up a little bit earlier

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Speaker 1: than usual to make the fly. They said, you actually

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Speaker 1: look a little bit tired, and she just like barely responded.

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Speaker 1: It was just staring straight ahead with this like deer

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Speaker 1: in the headlights look in her eyes and didn't find

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Speaker 1: out what was actually going on until hours later, when

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Speaker 1: she for some reason confessed. I didn't want to say thing,

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Speaker 1: so I'm just like literally sitting there praying that he

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Speaker 1: so then he eventually like leaves and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: like dodge that bullet. I get ready. We go to

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Speaker 1: the Star go on our way to the airport, and

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Speaker 1: I ended up saying I have to tell you something. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know that it needed to be confessed.

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Speaker 1: I think we just would have gone forever not knowing

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Speaker 1: that that happened. I mean, that's definitely a wall that

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Speaker 1: upset that I broke it, but I felt like it

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Speaker 1: was so interesting. It just goes to show you how

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Speaker 1: like I literally tell you everything because I felt weird

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Speaker 1: not telling you that like that you had that you

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Speaker 1: the airplant. Just for future reference, feel free to hold

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Speaker 1: that back, but just in hindsight knowing that look on

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Speaker 1: your face that that was what was going on. And

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Speaker 1: no no no. That was like a very stealth operation. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So the vacation started out with a bang, and we

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Speaker 1: went to Cabo, had the best time, slept a lot,

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Speaker 1: eight a lot. I put Robbie in charge of putting

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Speaker 1: sunscreen on my back the first day, and I don't know,

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Speaker 1: you can't obviously see my back, but my back is fried. No,

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Speaker 1: in my front. There's like a little patch about my

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Speaker 1: armpit that I didn't seem to get and right here

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Speaker 1: I did an expert job with the sunscreen, and yet

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Speaker 1: somehow her back got totally burnt. Yeah, everywhere everywhere. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not much of a sun girly, you know, like

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Speaker 1: I do like the sunshine. It's funny because my book

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Speaker 1: is called The Sunshine Mine. But I try to stay

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Speaker 1: out of the sun. But I put like fifty SPF

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Speaker 1: on and still just fry just your back. They got

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Speaker 1: fried literally just my birthday. Yea, yeah, interesting, right, that's

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Speaker 1: what I said. I was like, we had the theory.

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Speaker 1: She had the theory that she was laying on this

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Speaker 1: day bed that was like particularly rough and maybe that

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Speaker 1: apply that expertly to your back. Yeah, but yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: what happened there. But two day two on, you did

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Speaker 1: do it wrong on the first day. Yeah. Did you

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Speaker 1: enjoy the trip? I love the trip. Um the hotel

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Speaker 1: was beautiful. Robai got pooped on by a bird. I

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Speaker 1: saw that on the internet. That's so lucky. Where do

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Speaker 1: you guys fall on this being good luck or just

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Speaker 1: being not good luck? I think it's bad luck. Yes,

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Speaker 1: It's never happened to me, thankfully, and I don't want

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Speaker 1: I've been pooped on by a bird a few times

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Speaker 1: and it's never happened to you. Here is it happened

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Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good luck. I mean,

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Speaker 1: so that's really good reference. Hana does not like to

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of people in this room right now,

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Speaker 1: we're asking everybody. Yeah. Yeah, it's basically fifty No. I

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Speaker 1: think we have this weird thing where we where anything

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to make people feel about word. Oh sorry,

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Speaker 1: it's okaye, bleep yeah, let it fly. Um yeah, rain

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Speaker 1: like the great um Alanis said, uh yeah, I've never

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Speaker 1: been defecated on by any creature. Um And I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to keep it that way. But I like the attitude

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Speaker 1: I was going to say, because it happened on Sunday,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give it some time, but if luck comes

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Speaker 1: your way, we're gonna attribute it to the I can

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Speaker 1: attribute it to the word for sure. It was out

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Speaker 1: of nowhere too. It wasn't like I was near a

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Speaker 1: want to say so I for reference, I've told Robbie

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Speaker 1: and so the other day he's like straight faced in

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Speaker 1: the shower and he's like, hey, babe, and I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he goes, can you please start washing your feet for me?

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Speaker 1: I was like, that's how we found out, That's how

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Speaker 1: I found out. Well, that's good, right, that like you

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Speaker 1: like ultra hygienic, super clean with everything she does. So

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Speaker 1: foot washing. Yeah, make you curious what other parts of

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Speaker 1: her she's not washing. I thought, I've been watching. I've

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Speaker 1: watching everything. But since then I have been paying attention,

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Speaker 1: and you're doing a really good job. Yeah, you did

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Speaker 1: a great job. But she did all the other thing

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Speaker 1: bit on the hygienic. Potentially, I was out of deodorant,

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Speaker 1: thought was very kind of I've done that before. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if that's a deeply intimate thing. Oh maybe

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Speaker 1: it is. I don't know. It's more dangerous for you, Tanya,

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Speaker 1: because like you, they're gonna get hair on it, right.

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Speaker 1: I just think it's like, it's just it's kind of gross.

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Speaker 1: We swap spit every day. Okay, what do you think

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Speaker 1: is what do you think is grosser? Sharing deodor and

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Speaker 1: or sharing a toothbrush? I would share both of them

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Speaker 1: both totally fine. Yeah, Okay, the tooth pressures were I

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Speaker 1: draw the line. Really I'm weird about I don't know why,

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Speaker 1: but like I agree, like you're swapping DNA in other places,

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Speaker 1: but the toothbrushes, I don't. I don't do that. It's

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Speaker 1: funny because I would be more into using the chairing

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Speaker 1: the toothbrush. I feel like the toothbrush is very clean.

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Speaker 1: You know, it has toothpaste on it. Then you rinse

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Speaker 1: it off like there's nothing, and it's like a plastic bristle,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's like there's nothing going on there. It's

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Speaker 1: like soap. Okay, soap soap, we agree, is self cleaning,

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Speaker 1: Like if you use a bar of soap, right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean maybe you wipe off like a little layer

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Speaker 1: on top, but it's self cleaning, right, Okay, So I

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Speaker 1: would use someone else as soap. The deodorant though, there's

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Speaker 1: not a high chance of food getting in the in

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Speaker 1: the armpit though, That's where I'm at, Like, there's like

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Speaker 1: not gonna be a chewed up piece of steak in

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Speaker 1: my armpit. Really, I don't want to share toothbrushes on

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Speaker 1: the regular, but I just feel like it's not the

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Speaker 1: grossest thing. Are there chewed up pieces of steak on

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Speaker 1: your toothbrush? I mean when you're done brushing, well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: if it did its job, you know, it's not my

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Speaker 1: mouth anymore, you know, God willing, it's on the toothbrush.

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Speaker 1: So you shared her deodorant. I did not share, just

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Speaker 1: went with that. But I also like, I'm not I

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Speaker 1: actually like turn my head to the TV. Um, Okay,

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00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 1: we have to take a quick break. We're gonna come back,

422
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: and I do want us to go through. We're really

423
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 1: big into Love is Blind season four, so I want

424
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,719
Speaker 1: us to give our predictions because I saw a lot

425
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 1: of scuttle in the Facebook group about people that are

426
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,120
Speaker 1: watching that show. Excellent season of Love Is Blind. Yeah,

427
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna get into some questions from the

428
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:54,200
Speaker 1: scrubbers and just a quick little blip in the hot

429
00:22:54,240 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: topics when we come back. You know, some people would

430
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:15,160
Speaker 1: say that they were blessed to be adored by somebody

431
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 1: as much as I thought. You definitely blast, but it

432
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 1: is insane one of the many funny things that you

433
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,359
Speaker 1: do that I love about you. Okay, So Love is

434
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:32,200
Speaker 1: Blind season four, We're just so I don't know how

435
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 1: they did it this year, but they basically like frontloaded

436
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 1: all their episodes except for the final episode and then

437
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: the reunions. So there's two episodes left, and there's four episodes.

438
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 1: We don't really know. We don't know. It looked like

439
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: last night there were four episodes left. Basically they left,

440
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: They showed everything except for the I do so like

441
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 1: the very last episode, and I don't know how long

442
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 1: it's been out, but basically the new episode comes out

443
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: April thirteenth, So we're all kind of stuck in this

444
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: like eating period. So I just want to go through

445
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 1: the couples and Robbie and I are going to make

446
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 1: our predictions and then we'll see who wins. Okay, So

447
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:10,439
Speaker 1: we're basically gonna say whether they say yes or no,

448
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: and what we think for each couple. Um, okay, kwam

449
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: So Kwami for me is a no. I think he's

450
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: gonna say no. I think that he you can just

451
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 1: say yes or no. We gonn't have to go in. Oh,

452
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: we don't want to get into it. Okay, No, I'm

453
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 1: gonna say yes. Kwami's gonna say yes. What about Chelsea?

454
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 1: Chelsea we already we already know said yes and she

455
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 1: said she was gonna say yes. I think there's no

456
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 1: mystery there. Yeah, so I'm saying yes too, all right, Brett,

457
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 1: So Brett and Tiffany for me or yes is not

458
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:42,800
Speaker 1: to get ahead, but I think they're like the most

459
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:46,439
Speaker 1: solid couple. I would be shocked if there was a

460
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: no there. I put yes for Brett and Tiffany as well. Okay,

461
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 1: Mica hard no, Mica is a hard no on Paul? Okay,

462
00:24:55,800 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 1: I said yes for Mica. And what about Paul. Paul's yes, Yeah,

463
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: I said yes for Paul too. Okay, what about Zach

464
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:09,199
Speaker 1: Zach is for sure yes? I said Zach is for

465
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 1: sure yes as well. And then what about Bliss? Bliss

466
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 1: is a no? I said yes for Bliss as well.

467
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: So I basically said yes for every single person. Yeah,

468
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: you said yes for everybody, which is not going to happen,

469
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 1: So you're gonna be wrong. It's a hopeful. I'm just

470
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 1: hoping for the best for all of them. I just

471
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: can't see. I mean, we don't want to talk about

472
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: it at all, you just want to just yes. I

473
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: just can't see Mica and Paul ending up together at all.

474
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 1: I think that that doesn't it's not a couple that works.

475
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: And then Bliss has got to come to her senses

476
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: on this Zach guy, because that's just he's just too

477
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: weird for me. He is there's something so off putting

478
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 1: about him, and I like to give people the benefit

479
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 1: of the doubt, but he is so if I was

480
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,400
Speaker 1: in a room with him, like I would be nervous. Yeah,

481
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: no's a he has like this weird energy. He seems

482
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: like a genuinely nice guy, which is why I feel

483
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 1: conflicted saying, but he's he's such creep vibes that it's

484
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: hard to Yeah, so I'm excited. What are we gonna bet? Well,

485
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,679
Speaker 1: I just I'm so. I just don't like that we

486
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 1: can't binge it. It's I don't even understand the format.

487
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 1: If we're gonna be able to watch all of them

488
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 1: next week or are they gonna be one every week?

489
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: I think it's I think the final episode of is

490
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 1: like all their weddings and one. We're gonna be able

491
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 1: to binge the ending. Well, but we've already seen half

492
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 1: of Kwamie and Chelsea's wedding. We're waiting for Kwamie to

493
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 1: say something. Then they're going to go to a new wedding. Yeah,

494
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 1: so I think so you said not that, you said

495
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 1: that they're gonna I don't know, Okay, I don't really know.

496
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: But what are we betting on? I like, what's the bet?

497
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: If I win? I don't think our bets are appropriate.

498
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 1: I will make that bet. Tell anyone a bet when

499
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 1: we were on vacation, which but what did I know

500
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 1: one the air? Oh yeah, I didn't win a bet

501
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 1: on vacation. I love winning beat, especially when they're on

502
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,479
Speaker 1: vacation and they are not appropriate. I thought I had

503
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: that in the bag. We can say with the bet,

504
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: not the stakes of the bet, but what was the Yeah,

505
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: we had a friend. We have a friend who posted

506
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: on her story that the movie Air, which is the

507
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:26,959
Speaker 1: NEWE Yef movie. She posted, Air is the best movie ever,

508
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: and we had just seen it. We had just seen it,

509
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 1: and we and I have I know friends whom you

510
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 1: know are kind of the influencer types of guests who

511
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 1: who have all been promoting this movie and I've seen it,

512
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 1: Air is the best movie ever. Yea, So I really like,

513
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: genuinely like loved the movie, Like I came out feeling

514
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 1: very much a certain type of way. So continue on. Yeah,

515
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 1: so we saw this friend post it and I was like,

516
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, I think I think So and SO

517
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: is is promoting. She said, no, I think it's genuine.

518
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: And we made the bet and turned out it was

519
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: a genuine wow, genuine post, which I was shocked at

520
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 1: because it's certainly not the best movie ever. Um soundtrack

521
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: was great, but socially won the bet and I was

522
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 1: that was dated. Yeah, just a little food for thought.

523
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: When it is promotional, they have to put ads somewhere

524
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: on the Oh, so you kind of cheated, not not cheated,

525
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 1: I just knew. Okay, air partner hashtag air partner info,

526
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: we will, we will. Mean that's already been paid off,

527
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: so there's not really about that. It was a win win.

528
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: Let's just say that. Oh man, okay, Um, we're gonna

529
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: go into some question. Oh actually, let's discuss some of

530
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: the biggest stories over the weekend, because it was a

531
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 1: very pop and weekend. While we were on vacation, I

532
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: was bombarded with the news at Taylor Swift and Joe

533
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: all Win, after six years of dating, have called it quits.

534
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: Very sad. You did not even know they were dating,

535
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 1: but it's still sad. I know. Actually I was reading

536
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: some of the stories and I'm like, why did we

537
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: not see this coming? She? You know, she she replaced

538
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: invisible String in her set with um the one. Invisible

539
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: string is about the love that yes, yes, fun fact,

540
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: Hey babe, she replaced invisible string with the one, and

541
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: the one is about kind of like it could have

542
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: been you, Like, you know, so we were anything, so

543
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: it could have been you. So you're saying that that

544
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: was reference to them breaking up? Yeah, I think so

545
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:41,719
Speaker 1: you replace the song that's about this chismic connection with

546
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: somebody and you replace it with like, oh, it could

547
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: have been you. Feels significant if you ask me for it. Yeah. Um,

548
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. How do you feel about the news?

549
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: Are you? Like? I was shocked? I was. I was too. Um.

550
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,479
Speaker 1: I really thought they were going to be together forever.

551
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 1: I don't know too much about him, you know, but

552
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: I like the idea they'd been together for so long

553
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 1: and dating her must be the craziest thing in the world.

554
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: So that's what I was reading. I was reading on

555
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: people basically like they had insider you know, sources or whatever,

556
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 1: saying that it was their personal differences in their personalities

557
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: and that he never could really he was never on

558
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 1: board or on board, but her level of fame was

559
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: never something that he was comfortable. Those were two very

560
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: different things. It's either, I mean, is it her personality

561
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: or is it personality if him wanting to be away

562
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: from the limelight and hers liking to be in the limelight. Okay,

563
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: but what about all the other stuff like her like

564
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: I mean, from what I barely know about her, very

565
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: you know, very emotional person. Is it about that stuff

566
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: or is it just about the fame stuff? Do you think? Um? Look,

567
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 1: I mean these articles don't share much, so that's all

568
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 1: they said. But I do find it interesting because they've

569
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 1: written songs together. They wrote he worked on I think

570
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 1: it was nine songs. And I think Becca's take on

571
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 1: this didn't she like, didn't she recently have a whole

572
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: thing about how she could tell if people were going

573
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 1: to stay together? And yeah she did. We didn't detail

574
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: they were not on the list. I mean, they weren't

575
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: even in consideration they did seem so strong. There's no

576
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: way she could have predicted this. No, I know. But

577
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: you know what, if he can't handle her fame, then

578
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 1: he can take a hike because she will always be jewels. Okay.

579
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 1: Is insane though yeah, her fame is pretty big. He

580
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: co wrote Um Sweet Nothing just on Midnights, but then

581
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 1: he did some on Folklore and on Evermore too. That's

582
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: right under the pen name William Bowery. Yeah. Yeah, but

583
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 1: if he is also a songwriter, maybe there was some

584
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 1: jealousy there. He's not by treason actor. I think he

585
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: just did it so they could like like, how you're

586
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: doing this with me? You know? Okay, but then still

587
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 1: he wants he's an actor. Maybe he like was jealous

588
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: of the fame as opposed to that. Yeah, it's interesting

589
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: because I'm like, how are you an actor but you

590
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: don't want to be in the limelight, Like, and didn't

591
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: you start dating her when she was a peak? She

592
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: was already like yeah, you know the supernova she is now?

593
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't trust right, so you can't

594
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: get into it ign for this. Yeah, yeah, you're right,

595
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 1: I don't trust this guy. Moving on, good riddance, good

596
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: goodbye Joe, Goodbye Joe, onto our next era. And then

597
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: the other news this weekend, Well, this isn't like anything

598
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: to discuss, but we want to say congratulations to Olivia

599
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: Colpo and Christian McCaffrey who got engaged over the weekend.

600
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: We love Olivia Colbo, so happy, We love Christian McCaffrey

601
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 1: and fantasy football. Yes, so hopefully this kind of energizes

602
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: him in the upcoming season. Oh that's yes, Yes, it

603
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: is funny. I will d m Olivia being like, my

604
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: boyfriend has your boyfriend on his team? I did, I

605
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 1: did this every year we redraft. But yeah, yeah right,

606
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: I'm so exciting news for them. And then Kylie Jenner

607
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: and Timothey Chalome are dating. This shook me to my core.

608
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: Didn't see it coming. I'm not sure what it is.

609
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: Happy for her, happy for him. I know very little

610
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: about either of them, but I will say it just

611
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: seems like to me, these things are very pr to me,

612
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: I don't know, yeah, like the Kardashians are always going

613
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 1: after Like like Timothy Chalomi is kind of like the

614
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: sex symbol right now, you know what I mean, Like

615
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: he's like the guy you know, Like I know nothing

616
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 1: and I know that, yeah you know that. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

617
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't pick him out of a lineup, but I

618
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 1: hear he's very sexy. But also like I don't know,

619
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 1: I don't know who she normally dates, but like I'm saying. So,

620
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 1: I mean, it's interesting question. People have types. Clearly she doesn't.

621
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: But clearly she doesn't Travis Scott. She's with Tiger. Is

622
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 1: that right? Am I missing someone to be honest? Right? Yes? Okay, yes, okay,

623
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,720
Speaker 1: uh yeah, I mean that's a pattern that she's breaking

624
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 1: with Timota. It's exciting, Timid, It is exciting, you know.

625
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 1: And you know what, if there's anything that Calling in

626
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 1: the One taught me, it's that your dating patterns are

627
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: if they're leading you down to not the right path,

628
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: you should break those patterns. And maybe she read Calling

629
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,360
Speaker 1: in the One and she realized that her dating pattern

630
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,880
Speaker 1: was not great and she's like, I'm going to switch

631
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: it up, and she met Timoda and here we are.

632
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 1: So we'll definitely be keeping you posted on all things.

633
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 1: We'll be watching with great interest. Yes, watching with great,

634
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: great interest. Okay. So I wanted to ask some of

635
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 1: the questions that Scrubber has had for you in particular, babe, Okay,

636
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:55,839
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna get into We have a couple

637
00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: extra emails because I wanted, you know, um, if people

638
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: wanted your male perspective, which I think is unique because

639
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 1: again we were saying how you're very a very logical person. Um,

640
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 1: I do think that you would give really good insight

641
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 1: because it is funny, like he Robbie goes into the

642
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 1: Facebook group and he'll be like, did you see you

643
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 1: what they were asking? Facebook group is my favorite thing

644
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:23,280
Speaker 1: on the internet and give your opinions. Easton is incredible

645
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:25,280
Speaker 1: in there because he'll get in there and start mixing

646
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 1: it up in the comments. But it's really no can

647
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: I just say it's really let's just take a second here,

648
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: because that Facebook group is amazing forgetting we'll get to

649
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: the entertainment value. It's so cool that you and Becca

650
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 1: and all of you who are part of this podcast,

651
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: and I've said it before, have created this unbelievable community

652
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 1: of girls and women, UM. And I guess some men,

653
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: but primarily girls and women across the country and the

654
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 1: world who um have come together like this where they

655
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 1: trust each other, they support each other, they give advice,

656
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:12,839
Speaker 1: they literally help each other, um financially in certain situations. Um. Uh,

657
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: It's it's just a really beautiful thing. Um. But then

658
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: this Facebook group is just I go. I look at

659
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: it multiple times a day. I haven't used Facebook in

660
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: years other than you're like wishing, what happy birthday? But

661
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: I go to multipimes a day and you'll have, you know,

662
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: you'll have one post that is a deeply heartfelt emotional

663
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 1: life crisis, you know, post for of somebody who really

664
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: needs kind of help and advice. Um, And then the

665
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 1: next one will be about you know, what to do

666
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,919
Speaker 1: with your butt crack hair. And then the next one

667
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 1: will be you know this in you know, someone's going

668
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: for promotion and and you know, give whatever advice I

669
00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 1: need for this you know, life accomplishment, whatever it is.

670
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: And the next one will be advice about you know,

671
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: how to have a threesome with you know, my husband,

672
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: and this you know, such a such a person. It's

673
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 1: just the best of all worlds. You laugh, you cry, Um,

674
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 1: but you guys creat you guys are creating community. Yeah.

675
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 1: So we went to the Facebook group, and so I

676
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 1: wanted to do some more like um, those man only

677
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 1: type questions. So we have a couple extra emails on

678
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: Hunna pulled um that we're gonna get to, but I

679
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: wanted to fire off some of these kind of more

680
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:30,919
Speaker 1: rapid fire questions for you if you don't mind, no shoot, Okay, uh,

681
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: what qualities do you think Becca brings out of Tanya. Yeah,

682
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: it's a good question. So I actually think you guys

683
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:43,720
Speaker 1: are way more similar than people, uh think. So obviously

684
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: the food stuff. You know, your diets are very different,

685
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:50,720
Speaker 1: and you're sleeping patterns are very different. Um, you're funny.

686
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 1: She's not really that funny, Okay. Um, uh, she's very

687
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: You're very funny back, I really mean it. Um uh No.

688
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: But the quality, I mean, I don't if it's a quality,

689
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,720
Speaker 1: but you definitely like hold on to me less hard

690
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 1: in pictures now, um, which is nice, less grasping the

691
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 1: claw like. Yeah. I think Becca is able to point

692
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:21,760
Speaker 1: that out in me correct. Yeah. Okay, so that's probably

693
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: the big one. Okay. Um, what song does Robbie think

694
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: describes your relationship? Well, I think we have we have

695
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: one song that is really meaningful to both of us,

696
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 1: the Bones song, which I think just goes to kind of, um,

697
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 1: the foundation, the strength of the foundation of our relationship

698
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,839
Speaker 1: and the fact that it's built on um, a really

699
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 1: strong foundation of trust and and loyalty and respect and admiration. Um.

700
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 1: So that's a you know that I would say is

701
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: number one. But then there was also I don't even

702
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 1: know the name of it. But when we were at

703
00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 1: jingle Ball and Lewis Capality saying that one song, oh yeah,

704
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: I think it's called Pointless. Yeah, yeah, that sounds right.

705
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 1: That sounds right, that song. Like I was like, I

706
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 1: was just you weren't with me at the time because

707
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: you were doing stuff for the show and I'm sitting

708
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: there and that words were on the screen, you know,

709
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,280
Speaker 1: and it was kind of karaoke style going through the words,

710
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: and I was just definitely like, thought about you a

711
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 1: lot doing that song. It's really cute because that song

712
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: just came out that day, so I hadn't even heard it,

713
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 1: and he was watching it and he told me that

714
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:29,840
Speaker 1: night he was like, that Louis Capaldi song, it's like

715
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 1: our song made me think of you. And I'm like,

716
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:32,839
Speaker 1: I have no idea. I didn't even know. And then

717
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,919
Speaker 1: I listened to Yeah, I like sounds dark, but okay

718
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 1: that I listened to it later on and I was like,

719
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: really really beautiful, and so I thought that was really

720
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 1: really sweet that you just like because he's not much

721
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: of a lyrics guy, you know. He ye, I'm not

722
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: a lyrics guy. I much prefer the music. Yeah, yeah.

723
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 1: I remember when we were like newly dating. There was

724
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 1: Leon Bridge's song and it's called Beyond, and it basically

725
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 1: talks about like she might just be my everything and

726
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 1: via it's all about like making her his wife and

727
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 1: like all this stuff. And I remember, so this is

728
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 1: so good. So like he made like a I swear

729
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 1: you said something about the song. Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure.

730
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 1: In the moment, I said something about how oh that

731
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: you know that's like, uh so that reminds me of you.

732
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:15,800
Speaker 1: So I stuck with it for years. I was like,

733
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: oh my god, this song makes him think of me,

734
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 1: like he wants to be he wants me to be

735
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 1: his wife, like all this stuff. Yes, this one, Yeah,

736
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 1: this doesn't have any of the lyrics, but I don't

737
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 1: get ahead feeling things on there. But it's kind of

738
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 1: hard for me to explain her personal So now years

739
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: later I made a passing comment for a split second.

740
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: Years later, every time the song comes on, she said,

741
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 1: do you remember when you said that? He's like, no idea,

742
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:51,200
Speaker 1: I said that, but yeah, song's been so meaningful to

743
00:40:51,280 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: me for like two years. Now. What is the most

744
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: difficult part of dating with kids? Oh? So that's a

745
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,800
Speaker 1: that's a that's a really an important question, I think, UM,

746
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 1: one that I can not just how difficult it is.

747
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: I mean, there's so many aspects of it, the difficult,

748
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 1: the great um uh and something I can probably talk

749
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: about at depth maybe at a different time in different place, UM.

750
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 1: But I mean, I do you know when I first

751
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: got separated and then divorced, UM, I found that a

752
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: lot of guys in particular, but also some some some

753
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 1: girls women who were getting divorced kind of shortly after me,

754
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: around the same time as me, UM, for whatever reason,

755
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 1: would come to me for advice and to kind of

756
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 1: get my thoughts on all aspects of kind of that

757
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: process because it's it is so challenging in so many ways,

758
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 1: and certainly the kids are the most important part of that.

759
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: And it's something that I you know, I probably you

760
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 1: know should I mean I thought about it afterwards, kind

761
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: of spending time and maybe creating something to address that,

762
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: UM or help help people or give my advice to people.

763
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 1: So I'd be happy to like talk about that more

764
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: in depth, UM maybe somewhere else. But as far as

765
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: kind of the framework around the kids, you know that

766
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:42,439
Speaker 1: they're the number one most important priority for me when

767
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,320
Speaker 1: I was going through everything and it continues. It doesn't

768
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 1: end right that the process continues, it just changes over time.

769
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: So the most difficult part is the fact that, uh,

770
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: oh my god, there's a lot of difficult parts. The

771
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: most difficult part, I mean, really they really are. But

772
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: I think the most difficult part is is the fact

773
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: that they despite you know, how wonderful I mean, I can,

774
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 1: I can talk about our situation specifically, despite how wonderful

775
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: you are and how great you are to them and

776
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 1: with them, UM, you know, they're going through their own

777
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: process too that is really entirely separate from you, the

778
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: person UM and this you know that the other, the

779
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 1: step person coming in UM, and you know you have

780
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 1: to give them space to deal with that, while at

781
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: the same time making sure that you're building and fostering

782
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 1: the relationship with that you're significant other and the person

783
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: that you bring into that. So that dichotomy of what

784
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: they're going through personally and the challenges that they're going through,

785
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 1: and then also kind of bridging that with transitioning to

786
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 1: kind of a new future or to a new person,

787
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 1: a different person out of mean to saying new, but

788
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 1: a different person is really challenging and it's interesting for me.

789
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: I could talk about it for days too, because it's

790
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:18,359
Speaker 1: it is so complex, there's so much to it. Because

791
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,359
Speaker 1: I remember when we first started dating, like I wanted

792
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 1: to meet them a month in and I couldn't wrap

793
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 1: my head around you not wanting to introduce me to them,

794
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: because I was like, how are you supposed to know?

795
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 1: You know? But it is this like fine line of

796
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 1: like you don't want and you were so adamant. You

797
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 1: were like, I don't want them to just meet women

798
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 1: in my life. I don't want it to be this

799
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 1: open door policy where they're just like meeting whoever I'm dating.

800
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,880
Speaker 1: I wanted to really really mean something and in a

801
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 1: weird way, like it was really hard for me. But

802
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: looking back on that year where we did, like I

803
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: hadn't met them, it kind of was because you know me,

804
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 1: when I go in and a relationship, like I'm like

805
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: all in, and I feel like it gave us that

806
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: built in space that I don't think I would have

807
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: accepted otherwise, and it was like, Okay, he's with his kids,

808
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Whereas like when I'm

809
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 1: like all and I go in on a relationship I

810
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 1: want to be with you twenty four to seven, and

811
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: I feel like I'd dive in, and so it was

812
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: like a nice thing for me to be able to

813
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 1: kind of have that separation. Yeah, I know, the built

814
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 1: in separation. Yeah, I get it now, you're I think

815
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: you're right. So I look back on that and I'm like,

816
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 1: I'm I'm grateful that we that we had that time.

817
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: And I also think two now on the flip side,

818
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: I think the kids knowing how much care and thought

819
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: and intention you put into introducing me to them, you know,

820
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: like you didn't just introduce me, because then you never

821
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:45,800
Speaker 1: lied to them about who I was or you know

822
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 1: what I mean, like our relationship or when we started dating,

823
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: any of that stuff. You know, you said like I

824
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: didn't want to introduce you, guys, I didn't. I wanted

825
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 1: it to be somebody that I knew was important enough

826
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: to meet you. I feel like now they have a

827
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 1: different level of respect um for you and for me

828
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:08,240
Speaker 1: and for how you viewed them in this whole process. Yeah,

829
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: you hit on a couple of things that maybe I'd

830
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 1: like to talk about it a little bit more. But first,

831
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:14,520
Speaker 1: just kind of the last thing. First, it's that you're right,

832
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you saying that I and I and

833
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 1: I hope that that's true, and I agree. Um, but

834
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 1: I think kids have a um the younger. The younger

835
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: they are certainly the more so. But they have a weird,

836
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 1: um warped sense of time. So that's a challenge. Right.

837
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: They think about time very differently than we do. They

838
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: don't understand what a year ago means, right, you know

839
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 1: when they're younger, certainly now you know when if you know,

840
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,359
Speaker 1: if you're eleven, you get that, but you know, when

841
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 1: you're six seven, a year ago is harder to really grasp.

842
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: So that's a that's a weird that's a that's a

843
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: weird challenge. But um uh to your other point, and

844
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 1: this is maybe some advice for anybody who's out there

845
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 1: who is going through this or might be going through

846
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:02,760
Speaker 1: this in the future. Um, every situation is so different

847
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: and so unique. And you know, by the time you

848
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: know you're in that situation, if you ever are, you're older, right,

849
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 1: so you know you're probably in your thirties or your forties,

850
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 1: could be earlier, but you're you're later on in your life.

851
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: And we all, we all have had many experiences, relationship

852
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: experiences leading up to who we decide to marry. And

853
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 1: you know, or many of us do have a lot

854
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 1: of experiences. But everyone when you get divorced, you're getting

855
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 1: divorced for the first time, and so you're learning that

856
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: and figuring that out all on your own. And every

857
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: situation is so unique, so everybody's advice is so specific

858
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:46,399
Speaker 1: to their situation, and no one knows exactly kind of

859
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 1: your situation and how best to do with your situation.

860
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: So I had a lot of preconceived ideas as to

861
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 1: what was the right way to do things, specifically in

862
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:03,319
Speaker 1: connection with you know, how to introduce you or for you,

863
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 1: how to introduce anybody to them, and when that that,

864
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 1: when that happens. And I said to myself, you know,

865
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm not going to duce anybody until I'm ready to,

866
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: you know, marry that person. Turns out that's not possible, right,

867
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: You can't. You can't have a really meaningful relationship and

868
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 1: get to the point where you're ready to marry somebody

869
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 1: without them having already built a relationship with your kids

870
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: or seeing how that relationship looks like. So um So,

871
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 1: these preconceived ideas you have, you know you. I think

872
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:37,439
Speaker 1: you have to be flexible and realize that, um, every

873
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: situation is different and you have to kind of uh

874
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: be able to adapt and figure things out as you go. Yeah,

875
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 1: we really could talk about it for days, because it's

876
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 1: like a different stages, you know what I mean, like

877
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 1: when we first started dating, and then in the middle

878
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,320
Speaker 1: and then then you don't know. It just it's always

879
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: evolving and it's a very uh it's something that I've

880
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: never experienced before either, so we're like both doing it

881
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 1: for the first time. Yeah. So yeah, it's definitely something

882
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 1: that is worth talking about more. I think yeah, um, okay,

883
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 1: I think we should go into emails. I had one

884
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 1: quick question. Do the constant proposal questions bother you before

885
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: we take our next questions? You mean, like everybody on

886
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 1: social media say or like DM ing me? Yeah, people

887
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: d I get d ms all the time. Uh, they

888
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: don't bother me at all. I'm I mean, I know

889
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:34,879
Speaker 1: that I'm not a public person, but I think I

890
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 1: you know, that stuff doesn't phase me at all. I

891
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: don't you know. Um, I actually you know, I look

892
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: at it more from kind of your perspective. So my

893
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: reaction to those things is one. On the one hand,

894
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: it's really nice that you have again this amazing community

895
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: of people who love you so much and care about

896
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 1: your happiness so much and are so invested in, you know,

897
00:49:57,040 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 1: in you and your happiness and your love and our

898
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: story actually beautiful to me. But on the other hand,

899
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:05,440
Speaker 1: I actually do sometimes worry if it's putting pressure on you.

900
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 1: You know that. I think it's I just think you

901
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 1: can tell you something. Pressure makes diamonds, so you're already

902
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: a diamond. But you know, it's kind of like it's

903
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: like anything, like you know, okay, so so so you

904
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: you get engaged, you get married, then everyone's asking, okay,

905
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:23,799
Speaker 1: when you're gonna have kids, when you gonna have that's

906
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 1: what everybody everybody's natural way. Yeah, it's a natural it's

907
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: a natural way. And I think also too for me,

908
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: it's like it's nothing that I mean, you knew knew

909
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:35,240
Speaker 1: from day one. Early on in our relationship, I was like, okay,

910
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 1: like this is what I want and this is you know,

911
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: I've just been wearing a lot of white lately, so

912
00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:46,360
Speaker 1: you know whatever, Okay, We're gonna come back with some emails,

913
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,799
Speaker 1: all right, Mark is not oh East, and you can

914
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: read the emails. Do you have him? I do, so

915
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:13,760
Speaker 1: let's do this. This first one's from Ashley. My boyfriend

916
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:16,719
Speaker 1: and I recently began discussing moving in together. I would

917
00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 1: be moving into his house, and I'm struggling to think

918
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 1: of it as my home because I don't want him

919
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 1: to feel like I'm taking over the space he built

920
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 1: on his own. For context, I'm thirty, he's thirty five.

921
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 1: I plan to share these feelings with him as well,

922
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: but I'm curious if Tiny has experienced this while moving

923
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:33,399
Speaker 1: in with Robbie, and he advised on how to make

924
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: his place feel more like ours rather than just his

925
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:40,840
Speaker 1: house that I'm staying in. Is that a question for me,

926
00:51:40,880 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 1: your question for you both of us? But please no,

927
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 1: I mean totally get it. It's a it's a real thing.

928
00:51:50,040 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I think, in an ideal world, the best

929
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 1: move is to start a new in a new place

930
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 1: that you guys both make your own. But I understand that,

931
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: or you know, the realities of the world sometimes make

932
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 1: that not possible for any number of reasons. So I

933
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 1: think it's just a matter of like you said, I

934
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know that it's so complicated. I

935
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:12,280
Speaker 1: think it's a matter of figuring out a way to

936
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 1: add elements of yourself to his place in a way

937
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 1: that makes you feel like that is more your home

938
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 1: as well. And it's all a matter of just communicating

939
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 1: and having those conversations. Tany and I are having those

940
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: conversations right now, and again, our situation is, you know,

941
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 1: complicated in terms of immediately getting a new place, but um,

942
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 1: you know, we're constantly communicating about it, maybe more than

943
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:48,359
Speaker 1: I would need to or like to, but yeah, I

944
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 1: just think you you you have to talk about it.

945
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:51,719
Speaker 1: If you can't kind of start a new in a

946
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: new place, just figure out what what makes you comfortable,

947
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:57,920
Speaker 1: and then you guys have to compromise and figure out

948
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: what makes sense. Yeah, it's interesting because it's like I

949
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: totally get where she's Ashley's coming from, because I did.

950
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 1: I felt I felt that way for a very long time.

951
00:53:07,560 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 1: I was like, I just feel like I'm again like, yes,

952
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:12,839
Speaker 1: I think in our ideally we want to get our

953
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: own place together, that's kind of like our goal, but

954
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,719
Speaker 1: temporarily like I'm going to move into your home, and

955
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:23,360
Speaker 1: so it's like, how do you make a home that

956
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: your own? Because when I had my apartment. I got

957
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: to do whatever I wanted, Like I made it exactly

958
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: I wanted to have a little pink accent chair and

959
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:33,720
Speaker 1: like did everything that I wanted. And it's so interesting

960
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 1: because it's just like that is what a relationship is,

961
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's like a ying and

962
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: the yang. But like get given a take and so

963
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 1: it's not going to be exactly what I want, um,

964
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 1: but I can make it feel more me And like

965
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 1: you've actually done a really good job. You know, you

966
00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 1: were not like a big dishes like he could leave

967
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: dishes for days and for the evening and I can't

968
00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 1: go to bed with dishes in the sink, Like I

969
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 1: just I need dishes to be clean, and like so

970
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:06,399
Speaker 1: I'll just take that responsibility on my own and I'll

971
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: just do them. But like you actually are so great

972
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:10,319
Speaker 1: and I feel like you have done a better job

973
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 1: of like doing the dishes or like cleaning up just

974
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: being a little bit more on the kneater side than

975
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 1: you used to be, which I like see and I

976
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:20,160
Speaker 1: really appreciate because it's like I see that you're making

977
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 1: those changes for me. You have a smile on your face.

978
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 1: Was that really not in that meat. No, No, not

979
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 1: in like a gross way, like I don't think you

980
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 1: were ever like gross. I don't think you're gross like dirty.

981
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 1: But I'm just like I. I like to live in

982
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 1: a museum like I like it to look like nothing's

983
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 1: been touched, you know. So it's we're definitely just like

984
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:50,319
Speaker 1: having to meet in the middle. Okay, so yeah, communication,

985
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 1: but clearly I like to do that too much. We

986
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: will have talked about it for days, and then the

987
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 1: next day, should we do you want to finish the conversation?

988
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: All right? This ex cooks from anonymous. I've been with

989
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 1: my boyfriend for two and a half years. I'm thirty,

990
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: he's twenty eight. Clock is ticking. He has everything I

991
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:17,520
Speaker 1: could hope for, his thoughtful carrying, loves, his family, adventures, etc.

992
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 1: I find him attractive, but I don't get the vagina

993
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 1: tingles that Tanya has talked about scientific term when we

994
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 1: kiss or when we're being intimate, not even early in

995
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 1: our relationship. Should I be worried about this? Tanya always

996
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:34,279
Speaker 1: talks about connection over chemistry, which makes me feel like

997
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: this shouldn't be a big deal. I'm curious about your thoughts.

998
00:55:39,360 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: Would you like me to go first? Sure, yes, I

999
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: think it's character over chemistry, and that is imperative. Obviously,

1000
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 1: the vagina tingles are nice, and in an ideal world

1001
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 1: you can have both of those things. But to me,

1002
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 1: if he's like a really great guy, I don't think.

1003
00:55:56,800 --> 00:55:59,880
Speaker 1: To me, the clock is ticking is not should not

1004
00:55:59,880 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 1: be a factor because you're only thirty years old, like,

1005
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: there are plenty of fish out there. Your time is

1006
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 1: not ticking. But you said he is everything I could

1007
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:12,719
Speaker 1: hope for, and so that to me says that his

1008
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 1: character is really good. So I don't think it's a

1009
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 1: big deal. Yeah. But also I mean I'm not a

1010
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: vagina tingles expert, certainly not getting them. But if you're

1011
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 1: attracted to somebody, I mean you can there's a you

1012
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: can be attracted to somebody and not get vagina tangles, right,

1013
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a there's a room between those two.

1014
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 1: So I don't know that you necessarily need vagina tangles.

1015
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: And I think that that wears off. I mean I

1016
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 1: don't think you, you know, in any relationship, the you know,

1017
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 1: the attractiveness should not wear off. But this kind of

1018
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 1: vagina tingle level of kind of honeymooney phase feeling wears off,

1019
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:58,840
Speaker 1: and if you're talking about a long term marriage or

1020
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: lifetime marriage, um, that's going to go away no matter what.

1021
00:57:02,360 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 1: So ultimately you're left with character and connection. So if

1022
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:08,440
Speaker 1: he's everything you hope for, you are attracted to him

1023
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 1: sexually physically, then yeah, I'm not sure that you have

1024
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:16,800
Speaker 1: any issues. Good. Yeah, you can't build a relationship just

1025
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: on vagina tingles. No you can't. You can't just you

1026
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: also don't need vagina tingles for a relationship. But they

1027
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:29,600
Speaker 1: are nice, They are nice, They are nice. All right.

1028
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:33,360
Speaker 1: This next one's from Emily. I'm already reacting to this.

1029
00:57:33,440 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, what are your thoughts about me making my

1030
00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:38,920
Speaker 1: boyfriend unfollowed girls he has hooked up within the past.

1031
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:41,040
Speaker 1: I asked him to do so and he said this

1032
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:47,200
Speaker 1: was toxic and uncalled for this. Dude sucks. I'm sorry. Toxic?

1033
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 1: What the wait? I saw? I have the thing here,

1034
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:52,480
Speaker 1: So I think it's so I do. I mean not

1035
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 1: to throw any guys under the bus here. I think

1036
00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 1: it's so weird when guys just follow follow random hot

1037
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: chicks on Instagram. I think is weird. I mean, if

1038
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, if you're single, follow whoever you want, UM,

1039
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 1: But I find that to be a little bit weird.

1040
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 1: But this question is a little bit different. So this

1041
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 1: question is about people you specifically hooked up with, and

1042
00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 1: I think that maybe those people fall into two kind

1043
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 1: of categories. One is, you know, there's there's people that

1044
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: I've hooked up with in my past who I'm you know,

1045
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 1: it was friends with first, friends with now we don't

1046
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 1: have anything, it wasn't anything serious. We're friends who happen

1047
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 1: to have hooked up. And then there's people who still

1048
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: follow these people. Yeah, yeah, these are like these are

1049
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 1: like lifelong friends. Then there are we can oh. Then

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Speaker 1: there are people who you like, have just hooked up,

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00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 1: who are just people that you hooked up with, who

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00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: you just had a relationship with, UM, and you know

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00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 1: that's coming gone. I think it's very weird to continue

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00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 1: to follow someone that you've just hooked up with on Instagram.

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00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 1: Didn't you just I feel like we were laying and

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00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 1: then one day and your Instagram feed is like not,

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00:59:02,080 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 1: it's very not, um worrisome, Like when I look at you,

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00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 1: like it's so funny. So the funniest like the sexiest

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00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 1: pictures that I have on Instagram feed or like people

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00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 1: that I'm only friends with, because yeah, like Nickles, he

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00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 1: follows Natalie and so like she should post like pictures

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00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:22,440
Speaker 1: in her Bikinian stuff. And I was like oh, and

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00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 1: then I'm like okay, yeah, I'll be like looking and

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00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: it's just you know, it's someone in a bathing suit

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00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 1: or this who is that? Oh it's my friend. Yeah,

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00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, cool. But there was somebody like this

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00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:33,960
Speaker 1: is maybe a year ago, but I remember we were

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00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: looking at your Instagram and there was like this girl

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00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:37,560
Speaker 1: we like looked at her story and she was like

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00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 1: doing like weird kissy face to the like thing. And

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00:59:40,240 --> 00:59:41,760
Speaker 1: I was like, and I've never seen her before, I

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00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 1: never heard her name, Like who is this person? And

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00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:46,040
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, someone I hooked up with a long

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00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 1: time ago. And I was like you should follow her

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00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 1: two things, and then he did a quickly just unfeelollowed

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00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:52,440
Speaker 1: her right then and there He's like, I didn't even

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00:59:52,520 --> 00:59:54,920
Speaker 1: realize that I still was correct. There there is like

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00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 1: a tail period where you don't realize you're still following them.

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00:59:58,080 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 1: Then if their thing pops up, you got it. You

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00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:02,800
Speaker 1: got it of them. But also that was it a

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01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:05,440
Speaker 1: period of time that I think we're out of now where. Basically,

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01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:10,280
Speaker 1: any picture of any female on my Instagram, you would

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01:00:10,320 --> 01:00:13,439
Speaker 1: ask me if I hooked up with them. So that's true. Yeah,

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01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: we are past that. But yeah I hate this guy. No,

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01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 1: that's my cousin. No, that's my cousin who just had twins.

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01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:20,160
Speaker 1: As you can see, I'm looking at a picture of

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01:00:20,160 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 1: her with her twins. I don't like how he reacts,

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01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:28,040
Speaker 1: this guy, Emily's boyfriend. I don't like him reacting saying

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01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: it's toxic, Like if it makes her uncomfortable, then let

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01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:33,480
Speaker 1: you know, do it or have a conversation about it.

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01:00:33,480 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: Don't be like you're being toxic. That's not that unreasonable request. Yeah,

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01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 1: I agree that he should say it is toxic, but

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01:00:38,560 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 1: let's say that it was you know, I don't know,

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01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 1: again one of these people who I'm friends with, but

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01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 1: I also just happened to have looked up with at

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01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 1: some period of time. I do think it's it is

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01:00:49,640 --> 01:00:53,520
Speaker 1: it's unfair for someone to take it to the extremes

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01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 1: that you have to unfollow that person just because you

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01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 1: happen to have picked up with them, you know what

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01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 1: I mean. So I do a lot of people that

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01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:03,640
Speaker 1: I've hooked up with I do right exactly. Yeah, yeah,

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01:01:03,680 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 1: so it is. I do think it is a little

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01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 1: bit over the line to ask to unfollow those people.

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01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 1: But you know, the just hookups, I think it makes

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01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 1: this totally reasonable. And also if it makes you, if

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01:01:14,920 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 1: it bothers you, it bothers you. That's all I'm saying. Yeah,

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01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:25,680
Speaker 1: we have another anonymous email. I recently got my dream

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01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 1: job offer in London. I'm currently US based. I'm super excited,

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01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:32,560
Speaker 1: but currently seeing someone pretty seriously in the US and

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01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: we're living together. He's deep in his career as well,

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01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 1: but could find a similar role in London. How do

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01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:40,960
Speaker 1: I go about proposing the idea of a move this huge?

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01:01:41,040 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 1: I know it will be a long discussion, but I'm

1114
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 1: nervous about starting the conversation right rather than just proposing

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Speaker 1: an ultimatum move with me or separate. So the question,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not even sure I understand the question.

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01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 1: The question is how do I start the conversation? Yeah,

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01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you should answered herself. You definitely

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01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: do not give an ultimatum this point. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: don't know how long these people have been dating. I

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01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: don't know how you know she says, they're pretty serious.

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01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:06,760
Speaker 1: I don't know how old they are. I don't know

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01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 1: if they're on the brink of marriage, but they're living together,

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01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 1: so that's significant. Okay, So yeah, I mean there's so

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01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:19,720
Speaker 1: many life decisions that have to be made when you're

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01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:21,920
Speaker 1: thinking about spending the rest of your life with somebody,

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01:02:21,920 --> 01:02:23,680
Speaker 1: this is one of them. You start the conversation. I

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01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:26,640
Speaker 1: think you just start the conversation by saying, hey, this

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01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:30,520
Speaker 1: is happening. You know, what are your thoughts? How would

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01:02:30,560 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 1: you feel about potentially moving to London and starting our

1131
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:36,640
Speaker 1: lives there? Boom? And then it goes from there. I

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01:02:36,680 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 1: also think too, it doesn't have to be so permanent,

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01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 1: you know, Like I do think there's a world in which,

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01:02:42,040 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 1: again we don't know your ages, but if you're on

1135
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 1: the younger side, there is a world where you can

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01:02:47,200 --> 01:02:49,640
Speaker 1: take this job, move to London, do long distance for

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01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 1: a little bit, and then maybe see maybe you don't

1138
01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 1: even maybe you think it's your dream job and you

1139
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 1: freaking hate it and then you move back. You know,

1140
01:02:56,240 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 1: like there is a world where that could be the reality.

1141
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 1: Or you take this job. You guys realize like you

1142
01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:03,240
Speaker 1: can't be a partner. He just decides that he wants

1143
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 1: to move there to be with you. So I feel

1144
01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 1: like maybe even leaving it open end and just saying,

1145
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: this is my dream job. If I don't take it,

1146
01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:13,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna regret it. I don't want to lose you.

1147
01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 1: So let's just give it six months and see what

1148
01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 1: this is like and then make a decision in six months. Yeah.

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01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: I have a cousin who just went through this, who

1150
01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:25,600
Speaker 1: just got married. He's from New York married a girl

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01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:30,200
Speaker 1: who lived in la but also had in New York

1152
01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: in the past, and her family was from Miami. Anyways,

1153
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 1: this is a major topic of discussion for them, and

1154
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 1: they you know, they just started the conversation. They had it.

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01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:43,240
Speaker 1: It was, you know, this was kind of a I think,

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01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 1: a really important point for him and maybe less so

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01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 1: for her, and so they were able to come to

1158
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 1: an agreement and compromise and they're married and happily ever after. Yeah.

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01:03:54,920 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 1: I think this is good, good, good all, good good guy,

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01:03:58,280 --> 01:04:04,480
Speaker 1: good job. London's awesome. Yeah. Yeah, I vote yes for London.

1161
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:07,959
Speaker 1: I vote yes for London too, just to see because

1162
01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:12,680
Speaker 1: you might hate it. That's the end of our show.

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01:04:13,720 --> 01:04:17,280
Speaker 1: That's it. We're done. Yeah, and we're done. Else nothing

1164
01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 1: else unless there's something you'd like to share. Maybe ask No,

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01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 1: I think that's I can't think of anything that I

1166
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:27,000
Speaker 1: don't want to ask. No nothing, yeah, nothing, yeah, no

1167
01:04:27,120 --> 01:04:31,440
Speaker 1: questions come to mind. Oh weird. Yeah that's it. So

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01:04:31,880 --> 01:04:36,919
Speaker 1: thanks for scrubbing in Dave. This was so fine. Yeah,

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01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:40,080
Speaker 1: I hope I did. Okay, thank you guys. That was

1170
01:04:40,160 --> 01:04:43,400
Speaker 1: really a lot of fun. And um, where can everybody

1171
01:04:43,440 --> 01:04:49,760
Speaker 1: find you need any help? But they're wantin your service

1172
01:04:49,800 --> 01:04:52,960
Speaker 1: transactional matters? Yeah, there you go. You out a guard

1173
01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:57,680
Speaker 1: law PC. His instagram is private, so but I do.

1174
01:04:57,840 --> 01:05:01,440
Speaker 1: I'm private, but I have been ex accepting all scrubbers,

1175
01:05:01,440 --> 01:05:04,960
Speaker 1: so yes, he does, so I'm part of the community now.

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01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 1: Yeah that's right. Well, thank you, I love you, and

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01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:13,280
Speaker 1: we'll see back in next week. She'll be back with

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01:05:13,320 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 1: a lot of stories from her tour and we will

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01:05:17,320 --> 01:05:20,680
Speaker 1: not have an episode on Thursday, but so we back

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01:05:20,680 --> 01:05:23,480
Speaker 1: on Monday and love you bye, Love you two.