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Speaker 1: Okay. So I was on a business trip with my

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Speaker 1: in Colorado, and it was to speak in front of

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Speaker 1: five hundred business professionals, insurance professionals, and you know, they

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Speaker 1: want you to come and stand at the podium and

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Speaker 1: just speak for forty five minutes, which is different than

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Speaker 1: sometimes a moderated moderated que and hey, when you sit

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Speaker 1: down and someone sort of just asks questions and you

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Speaker 1: get there anyway, because you take it on your own journey.

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Speaker 1: It's effectively like doing stand up because I don't I

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Speaker 1: can't have notes, I can't have pieces of paper, and

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Speaker 1: I don't do well with prompters because I just can't

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Speaker 1: be focused in present. So you stand up there and

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Speaker 1: you literally don't know if you're gonna bomb, because they

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Speaker 1: just they're not your typical fans. And what I was

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Speaker 1: supposed to speak about was philanthropy, and philanthropy is very

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Speaker 1: complicated and has many tentacles, and so I just get

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Speaker 1: up and start and wing it and it's going well.

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Speaker 1: It is going well, and it goes well and people

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Speaker 1: are enjoying it, and you see that they really do

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Speaker 1: want you for the right reasons. They want to talk

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Speaker 1: about philanthropy and giving and how you navigate it and

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Speaker 1: scandal and scams and all these different things. So I

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Speaker 1: talked about philanthropy and all my efforts and how we

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Speaker 1: do it in a different way, and it's rogue and

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Speaker 1: effort and how I navigate it and how to get

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Speaker 1: involved and just like real talk. Not there's no rubber

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Speaker 1: chicken dinners, no pamphlets, no celebrities performing. It's the money

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Speaker 1: to the people. It's our model. I'm proud of it.

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Speaker 1: Billionaires and very wealthy celebrities and individuals come to us

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Speaker 1: to donate because they're sick of the bullshit too. They

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Speaker 1: want full transparency. They're sick of celebrities just posting links.

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Speaker 1: And it's because they're famous that people are donating, but

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Speaker 1: they don't even personally know exactly where the money is

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Speaker 1: going because they're not handling and controlling the money. So um,

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Speaker 1: it's just a new world in a new way of

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Speaker 1: doing relief work and philanthropy. And I just think it

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Speaker 1: was great. It was a great talk, and I loved

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Speaker 1: that they wanted me to talk about it, and then um,

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Speaker 1: then someone asked me a question in the Q and

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Speaker 1: A about what I've experienced as a woman in business,

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Speaker 1: meaning like being treated poorly or unfairly. You know, there's

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Speaker 1: it's always a question I've gotten, and I often answer it.

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Speaker 1: This I mean, I didn't know how to answer it

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Speaker 1: for years because I hadn't really experienced it. My own

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Speaker 1: personal experience was I never really thought about being a

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Speaker 1: woman or a man. I just entered into I entered

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Speaker 1: into cocktails, which was a total male driven universe. There

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Speaker 1: It was the wild, wild West, and I'm putting sugar

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Speaker 1: in my coffee. That's the noise you here. And I

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Speaker 1: entered into I entered into the cocktail business. Just went

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Speaker 1: had known how crowded it was going to be and

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Speaker 1: how intense it was, I probably wouldn't have entered into it.

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Speaker 1: But I entered into it sucking all in and just

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Speaker 1: be better than the men. I recently have learned that

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Speaker 1: it's not so overt the way men treat women differently

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Speaker 1: that I did not know what the word man explaining

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Speaker 1: asking me about. Meaning when a man talks to you

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Speaker 1: and you don't always realize it. It's just that like, okay, honey,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's a little bit of like a pad

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Speaker 1: And so I was on stage and I was explaining

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Speaker 1: me who spoke down to me, you know that you're

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Speaker 1: not a senior partner. I'm at a junior partner. We're equals.

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Speaker 1: So let's get the fucking out of the way right now.

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Speaker 1: And it really does it just and not everybody in

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Speaker 1: as me as I as I am too correct that,

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Speaker 1: So along the way someone knows not to funk with you,

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Speaker 1: and that you're not open for inappropriate conduct or being

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Speaker 1: spoken down to, no matter what position you're in. But

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Speaker 1: I was then saying that that's what man splaining was,

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Speaker 1: and I always thought that man splaining was men telling

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Speaker 1: you that they wax their balls. And I said this

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Speaker 1: I realized that, like, it's okay to say balls at

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Speaker 1: an insurance conference. And then I said, I didn't curse today,

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Speaker 1: and I was told I could curse. So I was

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Speaker 1: using my store credit for saying balls. I guess in

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Speaker 1: the moment. I didn't plan to say balls. I just

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Speaker 1: was with my assistant Taylor, who's traveling with me, which

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Speaker 1: is effectively the same thing as the TV show Hacks. Literally,

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Speaker 1: I think her name is Jean Smart. I'm Jeane Smart.

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Speaker 1: My assistant is the girl who is her writer and

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Speaker 1: who deals with all the craziness of the two dogs

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Speaker 1: and selling on television and being a insane lunatic driving

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Speaker 1: a Rolls Royce but bargaining for figurines. Like it's effectively

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Speaker 1: like that, and my assistant. Taylor is in the car

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Speaker 1: with me later and we're crying the fact. She's like,

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Speaker 1: you said balls at an insurance conference. She called her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend to tell him and her parents, and she was laughing,

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Speaker 1: and I said, well, yeah, because I didn't really I

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Speaker 1: never really experienced man splaining, and that's what I thought

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Speaker 1: it was. And she said, I think that's manscape. Had

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Speaker 1: a calm voice in the car service on the way

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Speaker 1: from Colorado Springs to Denver Hotels, she said, and she

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Speaker 1: doesn't know what any of this stuff means, like girl Boss,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't know who anybody on TikTok is, she doesn't

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Speaker 1: damn or she's cool, she's amazing. She doesn't know what

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Speaker 1: this fucking ship means. She goes, I think that's manscaping,

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Speaker 1: and my eyes became saucers. A light bulb went on

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Speaker 1: over my head and I looked over at and I'm like, oh, right, Wax,

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Speaker 1: sing your balls is not man splaining, it's man escaping.

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Speaker 1: And then I proceeded to ask her, like, do you

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Speaker 1: think the audience knew that that's where I meant. I mean,

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Speaker 1: because we didn't figure this outntil later and I should

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Speaker 1: thinking that apple sauce and apple jack's are the same word.

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Speaker 1: I just did not know that it's between those words.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, many of you know that man splaining and

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Speaker 1: man scaping are not the same thing. So if I

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Speaker 1: get canceled because I said waxing balls and thought man

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Speaker 1: splaining and manscaping or the same thing at my insurance

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Speaker 1: conference in Colorado Springs at the amazing broad Moor Hotel,

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Speaker 1: you should absolutely visit there. It's a gorgeous, gorgeous, amazing,

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Speaker 1: gigantic hotel, good for like business or like a family adventure,

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Speaker 1: not for like a quiet moment of solitude. But if

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Speaker 1: I get canceled for that, it was worth it because

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Speaker 1: we peed our pants. We laughed. I laughed myself to sleep.

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Speaker 1: I woke up thinking about it, and we cried because

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Speaker 1: only I would say waxing balls at an insurance conference,

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Speaker 1: but it would turn into the greatest laugh I've had

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Speaker 1: of this year, which I think is two. And you know,

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Speaker 1: laughter is the best medicine. If you go on the

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Speaker 1: name of Marcus website to buy something, it's a mafia.

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Speaker 1: You can't press that back button to go to a

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Speaker 1: back to where you were. Like, let's say you were

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Speaker 1: on eBay or you were buying a rectile dysfunction medicine,

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Speaker 1: whatever the funk you were doing with your own personal life.

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Speaker 1: If you go to Nima Marcus to buy something and

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Speaker 1: you want to press the back button to get back

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Speaker 1: to where you were, now you live here. Now you

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Speaker 1: fucking live in NeiMa Marcus all the things you want.

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Speaker 1: If you want a rectile dysfunction cream, you better fucking

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Speaker 1: find it within name of Marcus. You know those sites

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Speaker 1: where you can't get the funk off. You're like, wait

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Speaker 1: a spect can I just came in here to check

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Speaker 1: on a pair of mules. I'd like to go back

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Speaker 1: to what I was doing before. Okay, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to live in the even Marcus. But guess what, that's

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Speaker 1: not your own body, your choice, so certain websites won't

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Speaker 1: let you the funk out. It's the Hotel California