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Speaker 3: My fiance's entire family treated us poorly, so we cut

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Speaker 3: This is a very long story, so bear with me.

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Speaker 3: I twenty six female, am writing this on behalf of

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Speaker 3: my fiance twenty five mail as he is now second

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Speaker 3: guessing his decision and would like some outside perspective. By

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Speaker 3: characters Uncle, fiance's uncle thirty eight male Steven, uncle's kid,

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Speaker 3: fiance's cousin fifteen male aunt, fiance's aunt forty five and

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Speaker 3: eight male Sam, mom's kid, fiance's half brother three male,

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Speaker 3: Oh p me twenty six female, Oh There's more, Oh

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Speaker 3: my God. Yachtce twenty five male Bibi op and fiance's

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Speaker 3: mother in law's grandson. First, a bit of backstory of

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Speaker 3: the day before the incident, New Year's Eve. We had

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Speaker 3: our own plans for New Year's Eve. Just stay at home,

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Speaker 3: first year he's ever been up for New Year. He

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Speaker 3: But that clearly means nothing. Anyway, Fiance said no again

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Speaker 3: back to her house with Sarah and Lauren. Aunt then

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Speaker 3: We ask her if she left it at Fiona's house,

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Speaker 3: We had to explain this to her five times. Eventually

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Speaker 3: in her coat pocket the whole time, the coach she

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Speaker 3: my goodness, I would not want to go to any

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't even know, because I just when people

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Speaker 4: But like it's hard when it's family, you know what

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Speaker 3: I I have no idea. The thing is like, you

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Speaker 4: Still, yeah, it's tricky. It's very tricky.

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Speaker 4: Uncle's chill, which is good. Yeah, that's good.

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Speaker 3: So Aunt had been shouting outside and wouldn't keep it down.

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Speaker 3: up multiple times. Aunt then started calling Fiance horrible names bester, ale, wiener, head,

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Speaker 3: then shoved her heart after she hit him, and because

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Speaker 3: I thought, ohpe, he shoved her far too hard, and

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Speaker 3: I'm like what and aud didn't hit him across the

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Speaker 3: taking baby and leaving, and mother in law says, no,

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00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 3: you're not, You're not taking baby. Then physically stands on

430
00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,680
Speaker 3: the staircase blocking her axis and shoves fiance back when

431
00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:53,000
Speaker 3: he tries to get past. She then tells us to

432
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,280
Speaker 3: get him in the morning. I insist on getting her son,

433
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 3: as I am no longer comfortable leaving him with fiance's family.

434
00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,959
Speaker 3: Mother in law would not let either of us passed,

435
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,160
Speaker 3: insisting we will get him in the morning, and it's

436
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 3: not fair to wake baby up and Sam up at

437
00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 3: this time two am. Then outside mother in law's house,

438
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,880
Speaker 3: mother in law is once again telling fiance that it's

439
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,600
Speaker 3: karma and it's his own fault, that she had an

440
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 3: awful night and nobody cared about her or checked to

441
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,880
Speaker 3: see if she was okay, and as far as she's concerned,

442
00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 3: we all decire for what we got that night. She

443
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:24,440
Speaker 3: launches into I had to take care of your son

444
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,399
Speaker 3: and my son. I'm not saying it's a problem, but

445
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 3: he's your son, not mine. Is this all on New

446
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:33,159
Speaker 3: Year's Eve? So much is happening right now. This is

447
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 3: the longest night. He didn't go to sleep until eleven

448
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 3: forty five pm. I had to take care of him.

449
00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:39,399
Speaker 3: I had to take him to the toilet, change his

450
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 3: nap because he pooed, and take care of Sam. Nobody

451
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,879
Speaker 3: thought about me. Maybe I wanted to get out, And

452
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 3: what will my neighbors think of everything tonight? I don't

453
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:49,720
Speaker 3: even want to talk to you or see you. The

454
00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,240
Speaker 3: amount of times that people asked if you needed help

455
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 3: or if you needed them to take care of the babies.

456
00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:56,960
Speaker 3: And I'm like, if i'd known baby was up at all,

457
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 3: and especially at that time, i'd have handled him and

458
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 3: taken him home. And it's not like we didn't check.

459
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 3: She kept telling us to f off, and now she

460
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 3: won't even let me dig my son home. We obviously

461
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 3: don't get anywhere with mother in law. She's just blaming

462
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 3: the whole situation on fiance. We go home, fiance passes

463
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,679
Speaker 3: out of sleep. I stay up all night because I

464
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:19,200
Speaker 3: can't sleep knowing my son is with those people. Mother

465
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 3: in law eventually messages at seven forty am saying that

466
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 3: baby was awake. She messaged fiance's phone, so I didn't

467
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 3: see it straight away. I saw it at seven fifty

468
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 3: am and message we're on our way, And she then

469
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 3: messaged two minutes later saying she had put him back

470
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 3: to bed. So I'm livid she knew I wanted to

471
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 3: get him straight away. And then you say, I don't care.

472
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 3: I don't freaking care that's my kid. I'm gonna call

473
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,400
Speaker 3: the police if you don't give me my kid. Yeah. Literally,

474
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 3: we're in the grounds for no contact here or very

475
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 3: very late in contact. I mean this physical assault. And

476
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 3: also she's like keeping your kid is blaming you being

477
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 3: like your fiance being attacked on him.

478
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:58,159
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know.

479
00:22:58,280 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 3: She keeps saying like I'm so done with this family.

480
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 4: You're not gonna talk to you again.

481
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 3: I'm good, good, I don't want to talk to you.

482
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 4: Like finally she's she's making the decision.

483
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, so me and fiance head down in my car

484
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:11,879
Speaker 3: at eight fifteen am to get him. We're sat in

485
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 3: the car outside mother in law's house, phoning mother in

486
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 3: law to say we're here, as she wanted to hand

487
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 3: him over at the door. Beyonce really didn't want any

488
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 3: contact with Uncle Laurant. We phoned four times, no answer,

489
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 3: gave it fifteen minutes, phoned a few more times nothing.

490
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 3: Fiance said to give it another ten minutes. He didn't

491
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 3: want to wake anyone up because he was still trying

492
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 3: to be nice. It gets to eight forty five am

493
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 3: and we call a few more times, still nothing. We

494
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:38,959
Speaker 3: walk around the house to see if anyone is up

495
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: and if the door would be open. We can see

496
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 3: the older kids up in the kitchen, but no adults.

497
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 3: Fiance wants to give it more time, but at this

498
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,960
Speaker 3: point it's nine am, and I'm like, it's a reasonable

499
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 3: hour to wake anyone up, and if we don't go

500
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 3: into the house and get baby, then I'll phone the

501
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 3: police to get him and everyone will be awake anyway.

502
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 3: At this point, she has had my child since last

503
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 3: night and was not physically allowing us to get them.

504
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 3: Fiance knows I'm serious, so we go in as the

505
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 3: front door is open. I say hi to the older

506
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:08,880
Speaker 3: kids and ask if any of the adults are up.

507
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,880
Speaker 3: They say uncle is sleeping, mother in law is sleeping,

508
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 3: and aunt just came in an hour ago and is

509
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 3: passed out. Dang, she like she was out all night wild.

510
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 3: So fiance sneaks upstairs to get baby, who was not

511
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,120
Speaker 3: back asleep but was playing with toys in the dark

512
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 3: bedroom and a soiled nappy while mother in law and

513
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,919
Speaker 3: Sam were still sleeping. So fiance brings baby down and

514
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 3: I've grabbed his bag, coat, and shoes. Fiance then goes

515
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 3: back upstairs and sneaks around the room to grab baby,

516
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 3: Sucky's cuddly toys, pillows, and dummy. He comes back down

517
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 3: without waking any of the adults and we f off

518
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,399
Speaker 3: home and never speak to them again. Edit. This was

519
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 3: the straw that broke the camel's back. There are other

520
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 3: things over the years, and we've had enough. That was

521
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 3: a pretty big straw. Yeah, I'm you know. We read conversation,

522
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 3: we read stories where there's no communication and then you

523
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: just cut contact. This is not one of them. This

524
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 3: is a crazy, crazy family. Yeah, And you don't have

525
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 3: to deal with them. Don't put up with them, not

526
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 3: at all this year alone. End of June, Beyonce's grandparents

527
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 3: are up from down South, and them plus aunt's family

528
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,199
Speaker 3: plus mother in law's family go on days out for

529
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 3: family meals at restaurants. We asked ahead of time if

530
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 3: there were any plans, and we're told no. Then fiance

531
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 3: will look on his family tracking app and notice they

532
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,480
Speaker 3: have fed off, and when he confronts them, it's always

533
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 3: the same. It was a last minute decision or we

534
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,719
Speaker 3: weren't sure you'd come. We never refused ever, and they

535
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 3: could have messaged or asked. Then there was the bonfire

536
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 3: night this year. We asked if there was any plans

537
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 3: to meet up, got told there everyone was doing their

538
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 3: own thing. So we went to McDonald's and as we

539
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 3: pulled up, who were all in there enjoying time together.

540
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 3: Mother in law's family, aunt's family, and his grandparents. Beyonce

541
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 3: obviously said something to them. They brushed it off and

542
00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 3: told us to sit with them. Then they left before

543
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 3: our food even arrived. Then there was baby's birthday this year.

544
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 3: Not one of fiance's family wished baby a happy birthday.

545
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 3: My family was messaging me since six am saying happy

546
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,199
Speaker 3: birthday to baby. My brother even messaged as soon as

547
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 3: he got up for work he was working night shift,

548
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,120
Speaker 3: and not one message from fiance's family. I then sent

549
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 3: videos photos of baby's birthday at the carnival on my

550
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 3: family chat and everyone was interacting and stuff. Then fiance

551
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 3: told me to post it on his family chat, so

552
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 3: I did. Keep in mind, none of them have said

553
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 3: happy birthday at all we got was a thumbs up

554
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 3: emoji from fiance's granddad. Even the next day, New Year's Eve,

555
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 3: when we were at mother in law's house, she wasn't

556
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: interested in how her only grandchild's birthday was. And that's

557
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 3: just this year. This type of stuff has been going

558
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 3: on since I first met my fiance eight and a

559
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 3: half years ago. I mean, yeah, this is your your

560
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 3: family is or his family is just really really whack

561
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,439
Speaker 3: not so yeah, yeah, like I think this is you know,

562
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 3: you can try and have a really limited relationship with them,

563
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 3: but I think unfortunately you have to get rid of

564
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 3: the expectation that they are going to do anything to

565
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 3: you or try and involve you in any way. Yeah,

566
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 3: because they clearly just like don't care about you in

567
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 3: the way that you've been trying to care about them.

568
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 3: And I think it's just like time, you know, you

569
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 3: can focus on your own family ope mm hm h

570
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 3: and your extended family on your side because they clearly

571
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 3: care about you. Guys, yeah, and just just put some

572
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 3: distance between your fiance's family.

573
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 4: Absolutely, it's not worth it, not worth it at all.

574
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 3: Mother in law would always leave fiance in his room

575
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 3: and go out to dinner or days out with her

576
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 3: long term boyfriend and Henry, their son, fiance's half brother,

577
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:44,359
Speaker 3: and not tell fiance. Fiance would go downstairs, not knowing

578
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: that they had gone, and phone to ask where they

579
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 3: were and be told they're having family time, and defend

580
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 3: for himself. When my fiance was eighteen and stayed with

581
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 3: her and her long term boyfriend, he would transfer his

582
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 3: mom money one hundred pounds a month. Eventually, this led

583
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 3: to conflict between my fiance and his mom's boyfriend, as

584
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 3: his mom's boyfriend owned the house and was accusing fiance

585
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 3: of not paying the full amount. Fiance had to show

586
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 3: his mom's boyfriend his bank statements to prove he had

587
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: been paying. Yeah, he's giving them like one hundred dollars

588
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 3: and he's like, dude, I'm literally paying you on hundred dollars.

589
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:21,399
Speaker 3: Why are you complaining? Yeah? Yeah. Turns out mother in

590
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 3: law had been taking some of fiance's money for herself

591
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: and not transferring the full amount on. Of course, she was.

592
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 3: This wasn't the only thing that she had done to

593
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 3: cause the relationship between my fiance and his mom's boyfriend

594
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 3: to break down, which resulted in him getting punted out

595
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 3: more than once until I rented a flat at eighteen

596
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 3: and offered for him to move in. We dated just

597
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 3: over a year before moving in together. There have been

598
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 3: times where Aunt has been irresponsible and fiance would receive

599
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 3: calls off his mom begging him to go to aunt's

600
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 3: house and stay there until Aunt came home, usually intoxicated,

601
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 3: so there was an adult in the house. Even if

602
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 3: fiance had work at five am, it didn't matter. Mother

603
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 3: in law cry on the phone to him, saying, please

604
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 3: help your mother. I can't go because of your brothers

605
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 3: and families meant to help family except when fiance needs help.

606
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 3: Of course. Of course, of course, this happens several times,

607
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 3: including when I was pregnant. The day we found out

608
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 3: the gender of our baby, we were at aunt's house

609
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 3: until two am looking after her kids because she decided

610
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 3: to just go out. Oh my goodness, this aunt is

611
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 3: a terrible mother, honestly neglectful, even marry neglectful. I mean,

612
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 3: she's going out all hours of the night and drinking

613
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 3: and not leaving her kids with random people.

614
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 4: Yeah exactly.

615
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 3: So, Yeah, they're selfish and we don't need people like

616
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 3: that in our lives. Fionce deserves better. He is worth

617
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 3: way more than how they make him feel. He is

618
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 3: sadly convinced himself at times that he's adopted, as in

619
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 3: his mind, this is the only logical reason his family

620
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 3: doesn't appear to care or leave him out of everything.

621
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 3: I think a better way to think about that is like,

622
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 3: maybe you're adopted because you're the only sane person here. Yeah. Yeah, Honestly,

623
00:29:58,120 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 3: it breaks my heart to hear him talk about it

624
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 3: self like this, and I remind him how much he's

625
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 3: left by me, our son and my family. My family

626
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 3: and I are in full support of fiance and know

627
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 3: he deserves so much better. He means the world to us,

628
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 3: and there is no way I am letting babies suffer the

629
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 3: same as fiance has. It stops now. Mother in law

630
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 3: also chucked it in our faces that she bends up

631
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 3: her back where it's to help us out with childcare

632
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 3: so I can work. She hasn't elp since April twenty

633
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 3: twenty four. Mother in law goes five months, if not

634
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 3: more at a time without seeing baby, her grandson, talking

635
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 3: to him, or even asking us how he is. She

636
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 3: doesn't care, and it's so obvious she only cares when

637
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 3: somebody asks her about her grandchild. It's all about appearances.

638
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 3: But you know what can appear on your Spotify, Apple

639
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 3: podcast or iHeartRadio. What full episodes of stories just like this,

640
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 3: just look up okay, story time, no way, But there

641
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 3: is a little bit left to the story, I mean,

642
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: final thoughts.

643
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 4: It's sad, but it's necessary that this separation kind of

644
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 4: needs to happen a little bit. You know, maybe you

645
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 4: could do things here and there for like family events

646
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 4: or for like the nieces and nephews like birthdays or something.

647
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know you can.

648
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 4: You can take them out for special occasions, because I'm

649
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 4: sure that's probably the saddest part about yeah, the disconnectationship. Yeah,

650
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 4: but at the same time, it's like this is not

651
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 4: gonna be good for your mental health.

652
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 3: No, so no. And also safety, yeah, you know if

653
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 3: true husband got attacked. Yeah, there's a little bit left

654
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 3: to the story. Also, like I say, we don't use

655
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 3: her for childcare, and the few times that she offered

656
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 3: and we accepted at the start of the year. She

657
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 3: now throws in our face and says we never offer,

658
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 3: which we did, but she always says no, And eventually

659
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 3: we told her to tell us if she wants to help,

660
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 3: because we're sick of being told no, but she just

661
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 3: throws it in our faces and calls us ungrateful. I

662
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 3: have since removed both mother in law and aunt off

663
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 3: the collection list and emergency contacts for our son at nursery.

664
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 3: There have been so I'm updated since this incident, which

665
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 3: I can add if you would like. Hence why fiance

666
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 3: is second guessing himself and wondering if he has gone

667
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 3: over the top by cutting them all off. So am

668
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 3: I the angle for going no contact with my fiance's

669
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 3: whole family and cutting them out of our lives? Was

670
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 3: our answer, big old no, absolutely not. You do not

671
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 3: deserve this treatment. Just be around the people who support

672
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 3: you and love you, and show that support and love

673
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 3: and don't expect it's not just one side it like

674
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: they expect all this stuff from you and then don't

675
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 3: actually show up.

676
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, absolutely absolutely you are worth more than that.

677
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 3: Sam.

678
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,280
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680
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Speaker 3: My boyfriend's friend ruined my designer bag. I'm considering legal actions.

681
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 1: I'm about to legally throw you in jail for that.

682
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 3: What I'll try to keep it short and sweet. I

683
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: recently bought an authentic designer purse. I realized the pri

684
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 3: which I have to do so, but I work an

685
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 3: extremely demanding job that requires I work very long hours

686
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,719
Speaker 3: and get compensated well to do so. It's something I've

687
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: wanted my entire life, and I've finally reached a point

688
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 3: where i could afford to do it. By the way,

689
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 3: this comes from Catdog and that is twenty two And

690
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:16,560
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Speaker 3: the r slash. Okay, storytime supparate it's not super relevant.

692
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 3: But I grew up poor, so in a way it

693
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 3: was cathartic for me to buy something frivolous that I

694
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 3: really wanted, which is partially why it means so much

695
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 3: to me. I've had this purse less than a month

696
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 3: and I've only worn it out twice, once to a

697
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 3: work event and once to a nice dinner we went

698
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: on with my boyfriend and his friends this last weekend.

699
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: We were hanging.

700
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 3: Out at my boyfriend's friend's house after the dinner, and

701
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 3: I hung my purse on the chair behind me. At

702
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 3: this point I trusted everyone in the house and wasn't

703
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 3: really concerned about it. We've all been hanging out for

704
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 3: years now. We moved to another room right next to

705
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 3: the one we were in to play a game. When

706
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 3: I came back, my purse was right where I left

707
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 3: it when we left for the night. I grabbed it

708
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 3: and thought it felt heavier, but didn't look inside of

709
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 3: it until I went to unload it when we got home.

710
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 3: For some reason, if someone thought it would be funny

711
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 3: to put uncovered red yellow shots into my purse with

712
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:08,720
Speaker 3: a white interior, where they proceeded to leak the entire

713
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:12,439
Speaker 3: inside with stained a splotchy pink shade. And to say

714
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 3: I was livid is an understatement. We're all between thirty

715
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 3: to sixty. We have some older folks that are family

716
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 3: friends of people in the group who hang out with

717
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 3: us sometimes, so everyone is old enough to not do

718
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 3: something so stupid. I attempted to clean it, to no avail.

719
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 3: My boyfriend reached out to the group chat that I

720
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 3: was about half of his friends in it and asked

721
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 3: if anyone knew who'd done it. One person admitted they

722
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:34,800
Speaker 3: saw someone do it and told us who it was.

723
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 3: One of the older members of the group who's known

724
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 3: for messing with people's belongings, but never to this degree.

725
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 3: For example, when we went swimming last summer, he filled

726
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 3: the pockets of my shorts up with Chex mix. It

727
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 3: was annoying, but didn't really damage anything. Also, no one

728
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 3: really finds his antics funny.

729
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,439
Speaker 5: Well, that's some personal problem, because that was hilarious Chex

730
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 5: mixed pocket.

731
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 1: I'm fully on board with that.

732
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 3: In my opinion, it's common sense to refrain from putting

733
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: red goo that turns liquity when warm into a white bag.

734
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 3: But he claims that he was just being funny and

735
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 3: didn't think it would leak. I asked him for money

736
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 3: to either repair the bag or replace it, and he

737
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:08,760
Speaker 3: claims he does not have that much money. He says

738
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 3: the bag look cheap, so he didn't think it would

739
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 3: be a big deal even if the shots had lead.

740
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 3: I know that he has ample assets, multiple sports cars,

741
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 3: a million dollar home, et cetera, and can find a

742
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,240
Speaker 3: way to compensate for what he damaged. When I pointed

743
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 3: this out. He told me that it was my fault

744
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 3: for bringing around an expensive bag and that something could

745
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,760
Speaker 3: have easily been spilled on it instead. Wow, I would

746
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 3: have been upset if that had been the case. Obviously,

747
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:33,360
Speaker 3: I wouldn't have been anywhere near as upset. Because this

748
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 3: has been done intentionally and is now being blamed on me,

749
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 3: I can take responsibility and say I shouldn't have left

750
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 3: it out of my sight, but I knew no one

751
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 3: in the house would steal it or the contents in it,

752
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,680
Speaker 3: and I never would have thought someone would fill it

753
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 3: with sticky red goo, regardless of how expensive or cheap

754
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,320
Speaker 3: it was. I told him that he needed to define

755
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 3: the money or I would be suing him for the damages,

756
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 3: and a couple of people in the group think I'm

757
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 3: going too far. My boyfriend is thankfully as angry as

758
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 3: I am, and I don't want the situation to come

759
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 3: at the cost of any of his friendships. But I

760
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 3: all so want to be compensated for my property that

761
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: I worked my butt off for. Would I be the

762
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 3: ale if I take legal action or should I try

763
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 3: some other method to recoup my losses? I personally don't

764
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 3: think so, because this wasn't an accident, but some people

765
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 3: think I'm going too nuclear and there is an update.

766
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 3: I had my appointment to have the bag looked at.

767
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 3: They would be able to mostly repair it. However, it's

768
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,359
Speaker 3: likely that the liquid seep through the lining and may

769
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,279
Speaker 3: have damaged the bag beyond repair. They wouldn't know until

770
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 3: they really got into it. Even so, the smell of

771
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 3: crusty old jello and liquor would likely linger and deteriorate

772
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:33,280
Speaker 3: any resell value the purse may have in the future.

773
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 3: For these reasons, I will be going after him for

774
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 3: the entire value of the purse. Thank you to the

775
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 3: person who mentioned that this could hurt resell value in

776
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 3: the future. I didn't even think of this. I asked

777
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 3: the person that looked at it, and she told me

778
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 3: the severity of the staining and odor definitely would. Thankfully,

779
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,359
Speaker 3: it is not a limited edition bag and I can

780
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 3: currently buy anyone. Hopefully that this doesn't change anytime soon,

781
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: as I really love my bag. I am going to

782
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 3: reach out to my attorney in the morning to see

783
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 3: if he can help me or refer me to someone

784
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 3: who can. I can't update again with what they say,

785
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 3: but I'm pretty sure I have a strong leg to

786
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 3: stand on. To answer some questions, why don't I punt

787
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 3: this guy for the friend group? Easiest answer here is

788
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 3: that it isn't my friend group. The man is a

789
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,760
Speaker 3: family friend of one of my boyfriend's friends. He truthfully

790
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 3: isn't around much, but it seems like whenever he is,

791
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 3: he causes problems, so I'm not sure why he's still

792
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 3: invited even occasionally. My boyfriend and I made it clear

793
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:23,959
Speaker 3: we would never be in the same place as him

794
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,800
Speaker 3: ever again, which kind of puts the ball in everyone

795
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 3: else's court. Does he not like you? Or does he

796
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 3: torment everyone? He has a weird fixation with me mostly,

797
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 3: but he does also torment most of the women in

798
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 3: the group. I mentioned this in the comments, but it

799
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:38,359
Speaker 3: may have gotten buried. But during my first interaction with him,

800
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 3: I had left my phone out while I had quickly

801
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 3: gone to the bathroom. At some point, he snatched my

802
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 3: phone up once somewhere else else, took a picture of

803
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 3: his butt, and replaced my phone in the same spot.

804
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 3: I found the pictures a few hours later when I

805
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 3: opened my camera roll to show someone my dog, and

806
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:56,720
Speaker 3: my boyfriend asked me, horrified why I had a hairy

807
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 3: butt in my phone. I was mortified and had no explanation,

808
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 3: and it wasn't until this man was hammered that he

809
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:05,400
Speaker 3: admitted he did it. We were all disgusted and he

810
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 3: stopped being invited for a while because my boyfriend refused

811
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 3: to be around him. Last year, he started being invited

812
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 3: again and immediately started pranking me in harmless ways. He

813
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 3: likes to do this with new girlfriends, especially, I noticed,

814
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 3: and I am one of the newest in the friend group,

815
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 3: even though it's been a few years now. One of

816
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 3: my boyfriend's friends started dating a new girl and she

817
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 3: got a similar treatment, but nothing as severe. He really

818
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 3: likes to tamper with our clothes mostly. I hate that.

819
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 3: I don't know what the motive is, but he doesn't

820
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 3: usually mess with the guys, just the women. Yeah, did

821
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 3: he steal anything?

822
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 4: No.

823
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 3: As I mentioned, he's wealthy and I don't think he'd

824
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 3: really do anything like that. He doesn't seem like the

825
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 3: type to get a thrill from theft. Rather he wants

826
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 3: to annoy women. I only kept my credit card, a

827
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 3: small amount of cash, par keys, and a sentimental keychain

828
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,799
Speaker 3: in the bag. Everything was sticky and coated, in good

829
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 3: but everything was also their small edit. Also, all the people,

830
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 3: all of your friends, quote unquote, who think that you're

831
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 3: going overboard by wanting to sue him when he's behaved

832
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 3: like after the booty pick, well, she should never have

833
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 3: come back after that.

834
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 5: It's just like such a weird thing to take a

835
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 5: stance on when it's like his reaction should clearly be like,

836
00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 5: oh my god, it ruined your bag.

837
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: I can't believe I did this.

838
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 5: I'm so sorry, Like that was, oh my god, such

839
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 5: a dumb I'm so dumb for that.

840
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

841
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 1: Yes, and let me fix it. Let me do this,

842
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: Let me how do I make this?

843
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 3: Fat?

844
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 1: Do I fix this?

845
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 3: A lot of people have taken to accusing my boyfriend

846
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 3: of some nasty things, setting this up, not defending me,

847
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:29,840
Speaker 3: being spineless, et cetera. I just wanted to take a

848
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 3: second to say none of this is true and is

849
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 3: mentioned throughout the posts. The first instance of this man

850
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 3: being weird, my boyfriend screamed at him about how what

851
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: he had done to me was awful, whether or not

852
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 3: he saw it as a joke. We left immediately after,

853
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 3: and he told his friends that he did not want

854
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 3: to be invited when that man was around. It took

855
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 3: several years for it to blow over and for his

856
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 3: friends to attempt to have us all together again for

857
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 3: a birthday party. My boyfriend made it clear that if

858
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 3: he ever did anything to harm me again, that would

859
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 3: be it, and he promised he wouldn't. After all of

860
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 3: that situation, the offender did calm down towards me a

861
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 3: lot until now, which is why I didn't feel that

862
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 3: worried about him and comfortable leaving my purse out of

863
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 3: my sight for thirty minutes. My boyfriend not physically attacking

864
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 3: this man is in him being spineless. It's him being

865
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 3: mature and realizing that hurting him was only going to

866
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,240
Speaker 3: result in him getting charges that would impact his career

867
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 3: in life. How that this has all happened, my boyfriend

868
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 3: has defended me and said we will do everything we

869
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 3: need in order to get me a new purse. It

870
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 3: was me that was worried about it, causing him to

871
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 3: lose friends, as I know this group is very important

872
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 3: to him. Consensus not the a hole and Obie says

873
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 3: it was twenty eight hundred dollars. My understanding is if

874
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,440
Speaker 3: it can be clean, costs would be around four hundred dollars.

875
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: If it cannot repairs, could be anywhere from seven hundred dollars.

876
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 3: It just needing to be replaced. I am taking it

877
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 3: into being looked at tonight and I'll have a more

878
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 3: solid answer. If the liquids spilled in the car, I'm

879
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 3: shocked it didn't because they were borderline liquid by the

880
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 3: time I found them. The fact it didn't soak through

881
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 3: the exterior of the bag or on the friend's furniture

882
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 3: or in our cars shocking, but speaks to the quality

883
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 3: of the interior of the pack. Expost An attorney says

884
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 3: she needs proof he did it for small claims court

885
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 3: him responding to my text claiming he put jello shots

886
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 3: in a purse suffice, he refused to acknowledge it was

887
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 3: my specific purse via text, just kept saying that he

888
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 3: put them in a cheap looking purse and refused to

889
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 3: acknowledge that it was mine or brand. It's unfortunately not

890
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 3: my group to exclude him from, but after this I

891
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:18,240
Speaker 3: won't be present when he's around. I always felt gross

892
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 3: about him because of his tricks. When I first started

893
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 3: coming around, I had left my phone on the table

894
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 3: when I went to and we already found out about

895
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 3: the butt picture.

896
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 1: You're like, I refuse to talk about that ever again.

897
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 3: After that, we avoided him like the plague, until this

898
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 3: last summer, where he yet again targeted me, but in

899
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 3: a much milder way. We've seen him once or twice since,

900
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 3: and he didn't do anything to me or my stuff,

901
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 3: so I was hoping he had scaled back. He wasn't

902
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 3: supposed to be there this weekend. He wasn't invited to

903
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 3: the dinner, but sure enough he came after and was

904
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 3: acting normal, so I thought I was safe. Fries. My

905
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 3: boyfriend doesn't even care for the guy and would never

906
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 3: want to see something I care a lot about and

907
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 3: spent a ton on get damaged. Somebody says the purse

908
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 3: wasn't even that expensive, because since it wasn't thirty thousand dollars,

909
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 3: is this person the billionaire and not?

910
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: I guarantee you that person is just broke.

911
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 3: Twenty eight hundred is a lot when you work your

912
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 3: butt off. That he's married, though I've never met his wife,

913
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 3: so she could be made up, but I doubt it.

914
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 3: I can only assume she enjoys the money he brings

915
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,760
Speaker 3: in and ignores the fact that he's a jack butt,

916
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:15,479
Speaker 3: or maybe she's the same way. Who knows. Somebody says

917
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 3: the boyfriend and the prankster have an affair. Okay, a

918
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 3: lot of the crazy accusations have been made about my

919
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 3: boyfriend here, but this is the craziest. My boyfriend does

920
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 3: not have any close relationship with this guy, let alone

921
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,320
Speaker 3: some secret rendezvous. I'm also very confident that my partner

922
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 3: isn't attracted to the same gender. But even on the

923
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,720
Speaker 3: off chance that I somehow entirely miss gage is spicy

924
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 3: related identity in the several years we've been together, and

925
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 3: I wouldn't imagine he would have been having spicy relations

926
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 3: with an overweight, immature, stinky, fifty year old man. For

927
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 3: this theory to shake out, he must also be sleeping

928
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 3: with another man in the friend group, as he had

929
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 3: bullied another girlfriend in a similar manner. He had taken

930
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,320
Speaker 3: and hit her phone and made her think she lost

931
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 3: it once she panicked for a while searching, he gave

932
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:54,479
Speaker 3: it back.

933
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 5: In what way could that have given him positive reinforcement? Yeah,

934
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,360
Speaker 5: everyone stared at me in an awkward silence as I

935
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 5: gave her phone backed, and then just generally moved on.

936
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 1: And tried to ignore what I had done.

937
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 3: I got a quote for repair, but it was likely futile,

938
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,799
Speaker 3: as the smell of cheap liquor would likely remain, even

939
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 3: if only faintly. Additionally, as a kind commetter pointed out,

940
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 3: doing so drastically effects resell value should I ever choose

941
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 3: to sell it. For these reasons, I was pursuing him

942
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 3: for replacement purse. I laid all of the information out

943
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 3: in writing tim and had my boyfriend in hand delivered

944
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 3: him summarize. I broke the cost of replacement down to

945
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 3: the penny, and threatened legal actions should he not replace

946
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 3: what he damaged. The next day, one of my boyfriend's

947
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 3: other friends showed up with a check made payable to

948
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 3: me for the entire amount. I'm sure you all wish

949
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 3: it was more exciting than that, but I, for one,

950
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 3: am just glad it's over. The only thing that could

951
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 3: be seen as funny is the memo line in the check,

952
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 3: which was see you next Tuesday, Bunny. I deposited the

953
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:50,319
Speaker 3: check and it cleared, so thankfully he didn't try to

954
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 3: play any additional games by having it bounce. I think

955
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 3: he knew I was serious and didn't want any more

956
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 3: costs adding up, should I take him to court? So yeah,

957
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 3: that's it. One other quick thing about my boyfriend. Since

958
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 3: most people didn't read the end of my og post,

959
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 3: people accused him of so many nasty things, setting up

960
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 3: the whole thing, not protecting me enough. One person even

961
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 3: theorized that my boyfriend was having an affair with this guy.

962
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 3: None of these things are true. My boyfriend really isn't

963
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 3: close with this guy. He's been around him occasionally, but

964
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 3: they never hang out one on one or talk outside

965
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 3: of when he's in a big group. He's gotten into

966
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,720
Speaker 3: arguments with him regarding how he treated me in the past,

967
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 3: and was firm with his dance on us not being

968
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 3: around him anymore after this incident. It seems like people

969
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 3: think that if he's not resorting to violence, he's a

970
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 3: bad guy, but I personally think the opposite. We both

971
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 3: have good careers and him attacking this guy would have

972
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 3: led to an arrest and charges, and we don't want that.

973
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is a great guy that stood by me

974
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 3: and helped me with all of this and was definitely

975
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 3: not involved. He's banned from them, and my boyfriend at

976
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:48,319
Speaker 3: the beginning of this said we would no longer be

977
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,760
Speaker 3: around him period if he wrote see you next Tuesday

978
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 3: or the actual word. He wrote the euphemism, so he

979
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 3: wrote see you next.

980
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:54,839
Speaker 1: He wrote down nice Tuesday was word.

981
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 3: I'm sure he thought he was being slicked more than

982
00:44:56,800 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 3: one way. He knew we refused to see him going forward.

983
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 3: To think saying I'll see you is an insult in

984
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 3: and of itself. It was a chanel. But that is

985
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:07,439
Speaker 3: the end of that story. Thank goodness that you want

986
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:08,399
Speaker 3: to have to be around this man.

987
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: Ever, you never have to spend twenty eight hundred dollars

988
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 1: on chanell ever again. Yeah, hey, y'all, it's John og

989
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: Host here.

990
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a

991
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 2: quick three minute break from as for more sponsors.

992
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 5: I bought my boyfriend flowers and then he got furious.

993
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 3: Maybe he was allergic.

994
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 5: Okay, So my boyfriend twenty two male and I twenty

995
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 5: one female, have been together for about five months and

996
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 5: it's been good so far. But about a week ago

997
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 5: I was at his apartment and he told me that

998
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 5: most men only receive flowers when they've passed away. He

999
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 5: then went on a bit of a rant about women

1000
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 5: not caring as much as men when it comes to

1001
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 5: their partners, and then men want shows of affection too.

1002
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:47,919
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from user quirky Wait seven

1003
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 5: seven to nine, and if you want to submit your

1004
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 5: own stories, go to the r slash Okay story Time

1005
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 5: stuff about it. I honestly took this all as a

1006
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:57,320
Speaker 5: hint that he wanted flowers, So yesterday I went to

1007
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 5: Whole Foods and picked out all the flowers I thought

1008
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 5: he would like and put them together in a big bouquet.

1009
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 5: I also got him a coffee, some chocolates, and a

1010
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,399
Speaker 5: few other things I thought he would like. I've done

1011
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 5: things like this before, just minus the flowers. I usually

1012
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,240
Speaker 5: put a game Pass gift card or a Lego set,

1013
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 5: et cetera. I feel like this is important because I

1014
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,760
Speaker 5: don't want anyone to think I don't show him affection

1015
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:23,439
Speaker 5: or get him gifts. I definitely do, so I show

1016
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 5: up to his apartment with literally the biggest smile. I

1017
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 5: was so excited to see his reaction, but when I

1018
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,399
Speaker 5: gave him the flowers, he got a super uncomfortable look

1019
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 5: on his face and wouldn't touch or kiss me at all.

1020
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 5: I asked him what was wrong and if he liked

1021
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 5: the flowers, and then he just kind of blew up

1022
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 5: at me, saying that flowers are only for apologizing, and

1023
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 5: that if I cheated on him, I needed to tell

1024
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 5: him right now. I was shocked and started crying because

1025
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 5: I have never and would never cheat on anyone. He

1026
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 5: took the flowers to the kitchen and threw them in

1027
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 5: the trash, which honestly felt like extremely disrespectful. He told

1028
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 5: me to get out of his apartment and that he

1029
00:46:57,680 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 5: didn't have time for cheating.

1030
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: Witches these words.

1031
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:02,919
Speaker 5: Every time I tried to explain, he said he didn't

1032
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 5: want my excuses, and when I'm ready to tell him

1033
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 5: who the man is, then I can talk to him then.

1034
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:08,839
Speaker 5: But there is not a man, and I didn't cheat

1035
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 5: on him. I just thought he wanted flowers. I've never

1036
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 5: thought of flowers as just an apology. He's never gotten

1037
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:15,480
Speaker 5: them for me, but I just thought he didn't like

1038
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 5: showing love that way, so I buy them for myself

1039
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 5: every week. I'm just so confused and hurt by his reaction,

1040
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 5: and I don't know what to do to fix the situation.

1041
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for buying him flowers? Do

1042
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 5: women really only buy flowers? As an apology. I'm so confused.

1043
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:33,239
Speaker 5: There is an edit. I'm completely overwhelmed by the responses.

1044
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 5: Everyone's making me realize that he is not worth my

1045
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 5: time at all.

1046
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 3: Nope.

1047
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 5: I tried to do something nice for him and he

1048
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 5: threw it back in my face. I texted him and

1049
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 5: told him that we need to talk, and his response

1050
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:46,240
Speaker 5: was finally ready to confess or what. So that tells

1051
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 5: me he's done no critical thinking on his end about

1052
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 5: the situation. We're meeting for lunch tomorrow and I'll update

1053
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 5: everyone after. Thank you for the kind replies and for

1054
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 5: opening my eyes to what an a hole this guys is.

1055
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 5: I'm just glad I didn't waste years of my life.

1056
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 5: There's another edit. Clarify his parents gift each other flowers regularly,

1057
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 5: so he has seen flowers given to a partner for

1058
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 5: reasons other than cheating. His mother gifted him flowers for

1059
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 5: his college graduation, so he has received flowers previously and

1060
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 5: this is not the first time. Also, I have had

1061
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 5: a few people tell me it's weird of me to

1062
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 5: gift him things like the lego sets, et cetera that

1063
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:23,279
Speaker 5: I have mentioned. It's telling you this, don't listen to

1064
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 5: everybody who is telling you this. He told me at

1065
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 5: the beginning of our relationship that his love language is

1066
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:30,040
Speaker 5: gift giving and he loves receiving gifts.

1067
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:30,880
Speaker 1: That's why I do it.

1068
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm sorry.

1069
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: Like I love language is getting money.

1070
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:37,439
Speaker 3: Your love language isn't gift giving. If it's just that

1071
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:40,840
Speaker 3: you like receiving gifts, that's not what the love language

1072
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 3: gift gifting means.

1073
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 3: It means. It means that you like giving gifts. That's

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Speaker 3: what love language means.

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Speaker 1: I love languages. When you hear I like.

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Speaker 4: When people give me stuff like duh.

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Speaker 5: I did not think it would come across as weird

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Speaker 5: in any way. I only spend around fifty bucks each time,

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00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:57,919
Speaker 5: which is nothing for me as I have a well

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Speaker 5: paying job. I was in a relationship for two years previously,

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Speaker 5: and I gave my partner monthly gifts throughout the entire relationship.

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Speaker 5: So I'm in no way trying to love bomb him.

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Speaker 3: A love bombing thing. Anyone who said that was love

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Speaker 3: bombing is is not well versed.

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Speaker 5: I just always want my partner to know they are

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Speaker 5: loved and appreciated.

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Speaker 1: Big update.

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Speaker 5: Everybody. His mother is asking if she can call me

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Speaker 5: what do I do? His mother loves me and is

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00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 5: honestly an angel. I don't know what he's told her

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Speaker 5: about the situation. Should I be worried?

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Speaker 1: Sorry for updating so many times. I'm gonna take the

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Speaker 1: call from his mother.

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Speaker 5: I don't think she means any harm in calling me,

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00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 5: but if it gets hostile, I'll hang up. I'm also

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Speaker 5: considering canceling lunch tomorrow, but it partially depends on how

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00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 5: this phone call goes. I've also had someone suggest just

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00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 5: sending them both the link to this post, which I'm

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00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 5: considering everyone's opinions on that would be appreciated. I told

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00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 5: his mother she can call me this evening, so I'll

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00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 5: update after that as well. We have some comments bad

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00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 5: war What the hell? This dude is a major a

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00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:52,759
Speaker 5: hole for sure, certainly not the a hole I'd be

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00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,240
Speaker 5: over the moon to receive flowers, and this dude certainly

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Speaker 5: sounded like he was asking for flowers without asking for them.

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Speaker 5: This is either rage bait or your boyfriend is just

1108
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 5: a total knucklehead for sure, and showing his true colors

1109
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 5: blazing sunflower land. He probably wanted to vent about how

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Speaker 5: women have it so much better than men and picked

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00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 5: the one thing he thought he would never receive as

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Speaker 5: a man as his example of women having the good

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Speaker 5: life when men suffered.

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Speaker 1: When she showed up with.

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Speaker 5: Her gifts, she took away his ability to rant, so

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00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 5: he jumped into saying she cheated.

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Speaker 1: He just wanted to rant and insult her.

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00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 5: How dare she show up with a thoughtful give rather

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Speaker 5: than apologize for being a woman who uses men?

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Speaker 1: The next one's gonna say the same thing. Let's go update. Hey,

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00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 1: we're on the update Guyso.

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Speaker 5: All right, guys, this isn't the update any of you

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Speaker 5: were expecting. Or maybe it is, and it's definitely not

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Speaker 5: the one I was expecting to give. But his mom

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Speaker 5: called me, and it was both him and his mom

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Speaker 5: on the phone. I pretty quickly told them I wasn't

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Speaker 5: willing to talk to both of them. But my ex

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Speaker 5: boyfriend was crying, like crying, actual tears.

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Speaker 1: So I listen.

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Speaker 5: Is your Mommy told me that he had been talking

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00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 5: to her about us, and she wants him to talk

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00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 5: to me with her support so he can tell me everything.

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Speaker 5: He started it by telling me how he hasn't felt

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Speaker 5: like I'm what he wants in a woman. I'm not

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Speaker 5: willing to move in with him yet, and he's someone

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00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,919
Speaker 5: who only wants to date for six months before getting engaged,

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Speaker 5: which he had not ever.

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00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 1: Told me before, so this surprised me.

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Speaker 5: This would mean he wants to be engaged next month,

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00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 5: which is way too soon for me. He also told

1141
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,719
Speaker 5: me that he has trauma around cheating because his high

1142
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 5: school girlfriend cheated on him in junior year and you

1143
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 5: guessed it, apologized with a rose. Then he told me

1144
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 5: that he wants someone who is less career focused and

1145
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 5: someone who wants to have kids and not work. He

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00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 5: said he thinks some of my ideals and morals are skewed,

1147
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:40,839
Speaker 5: but wouldn't tell me which ones or what he meant.

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00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 5: Then he just told me he wants a birthing unit,

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00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 5: essentially I'm paraphrasing. He also told me he's realized I'm

1150
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 5: a quote unquote radical feminist, which I think is extreme

1151
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 5: because while yes I'm a feminist, I don't hate all

1152
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,800
Speaker 5: men or think they're all bad. I never talked badly

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00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 5: about them to him and have really given him no

1154
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 5: reason to think that. Aside from being pro choice, he's

1155
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 5: been red pilled. He said he can't date someone who

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00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 5: doesn't respect him. And emasculates him. He said, the flowers

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00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 5: I gave him showed him that I viewed him as feminine,

1158
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 5: and also showed that I was cheating. Oh my god,

1159
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 5: he wasn't even kidding it was the flowers. I told

1160
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 5: him again that I was not and had never cheated

1161
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 5: on him, and asked if he had cheated on me before.

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00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 5: He was quiet and I kid you not for a

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00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:21,280
Speaker 5: full two minutes, and then asked me to define cheating.

1164
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 5: I asked if he'd slept with someone else, and he

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00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 5: said no. I asked why he mentioned the flowers if

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00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 5: you thought flowers were emasculating, and he said it was

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00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 5: more about the fact that men are treated and I quote,

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Speaker 5: more as slaves than humans in our society. He said

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00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 5: it was less about him wanting flowers and more about

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00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 5: him feeling like women aren't owed flowers. That was enough

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00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 5: explanation on where he was coming from for me. I

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00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 5: told him our relationship was clearly over and we don't

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00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 5: share the same ideals.

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Speaker 1: He said he was willing to work on it if

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Speaker 1: I would make changes to become wife material. I said

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Speaker 1: no and hung up.

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Speaker 5: So, yeah, lunch is definitely canceled and we're not together anymore,

1178
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Speaker 5: but don't worry. He would have skipped lunch to watch

1179
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 5: another Andrew Tait Mega compilation, clearly because that's where he's

1180
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 5: getting all of his thoughts and opinions from. His mom

1181
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:02,359
Speaker 5: didn't really say much other than that she would miss

1182
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 5: me and would always care about me. By the way,

1183
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 5: if you miss us and you care about us, you

1184
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 5: can go listen to full episodes the stories just like

1185
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:15,720
Speaker 5: this on Spotify. iHeartRadio, Apple podcasts. Wherever you listen to podcasts,

1186
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:19,879
Speaker 5: just search, Okay, story time, do it fifty eight consecutive

1187
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 5: days worth of stories. I know it all seems like

1188
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 5: it was best for me, but I'm heartbroken and I

1189
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 5: didn't expect our relationship to end like this.

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Speaker 1: He knew I wanted to work on my.

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Speaker 5: Career, wait to have kids, et cetera, and always said

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00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 5: he was fine with it, so it seems like he

1193
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,640
Speaker 5: changed all of his expectations suddenly. I've been crying NonStop

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00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 5: since the call, and I don't know what to think.

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00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 1: You should think?

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Speaker 3: Thank God, Hey, thank hallelujah, goodness gracious that I got

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00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 3: out of this relationship with this terrible baby man manchild

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Speaker 3: of a man.

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Speaker 1: The baby took the big red pill, and now he says,

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00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: google Goga, I hate women.

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00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:56,240
Speaker 5: Where's my Bugatti? Googoogoo, go Gotti. I feel so stupid

1202
00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 5: for not seeing that he was like this sooner, and

1203
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:00,359
Speaker 5: I just wish I had never dated him. I hope

1204
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 5: that gives some closure to everyone, and I appreciate everyone's

1205
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,440
Speaker 5: help and kind words. Thank you everyone. And we have

1206
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 5: some comments here. Let's just read the last one. Candid

1207
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 5: Quail nine nine to two seven says, just read the update.

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00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 5: I know it's rough, but wow, consider yourself lucky. This

1209
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:18,799
Speaker 5: guy is cheating in some way if it took him

1210
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:19,879
Speaker 5: so long to respond, yeah, oh.

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Speaker 3: My god, I forgot that. He'll also freaking said defined cheating.

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00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1213
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 5: Literally, was like, I'm gonna play a four D chess move,

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00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 5: so a defined cheating.

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00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 1: Hmm. Can I sleep with anybody?

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00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 5: No?

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00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:32,360
Speaker 3: No, I guess not.

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00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 1: And now you've already defined cheating, so I'm not a cheater?

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00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, can improve it, can't freakuld prove it.

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00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 5: Man, No one turns on a dime like he just did.

1221
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 5: You are both so young getting married after six months

1222
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 5: that your age is crazy. He has a lot of

1223
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 5: growing up to do and his mommy knows that you

1224
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:48,959
Speaker 5: will be just fine, hope. He says, I'm just glad

1225
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 5: our relationship ended when he started expressing these views.

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00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:54,360
Speaker 1: I'd rather that than him hide it from me. Boom.

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00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.

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00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 3: Indeed, bow Man, oh man, and watch out, guys, keep

1229
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 3: an eye out.

1230
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:04,280
Speaker 1: Thank god you could have had a red pill husband instead.

1231
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:08,120
Speaker 3: It's just a crazy and you can find a better,

1232
00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:12,360
Speaker 3: better person. Yes, baby, lordy, lordie, that's the end of

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00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:12,800
Speaker 3: that story.

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Speaker 1: Who and the end of that episode.

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Speaker 3: Yes. So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 1: We love you and see you now.