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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, my beautiful people. Welcome to this episode of

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Speaker 1: Cheeky's and Chill. So what do mean Albert Einstein, Frieda, Gailo,

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Speaker 1: and Michelle Obama have in common?

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Speaker 2: Any guesses? Okay, I'll tell you.

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Speaker 1: We all journal and that's exactly what we're going to

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Speaker 1: be talking about today. I've been doing it for years

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Speaker 1: and it's been such an outlet for me and I

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Speaker 1: want to share with you guys. So let's get started.

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Speaker 1: So what is journaling? Let me explain real quick what

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Speaker 1: journaling is. Journaling is an intentional practice of writing down

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Speaker 1: your thoughts, emotions, your prayers, your dreams and reflections. There

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Speaker 1: is no one way to do it, and it's not

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Speaker 1: all about perfect grammar or fancy notebooks. It is about

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Speaker 1: truth and expression.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Journaling is also a way of integration, of integrating. What

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Speaker 1: does that mean? Basically reflecting? I have been doing it

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Speaker 1: a lot, especially since I went through like this spiritual

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Speaker 1: d talks or retreat whatever it is that we want

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Speaker 1: to call it, because there's a word for it, and

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Speaker 1: I can't remember right now, but one thing my spiritual

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Speaker 1: teacher told me was integrate, and I was like, okay, wait,

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Speaker 1: what do you mean, she's like, make sure that you

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Speaker 1: write down, which is journaling, write down what visions, what

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Speaker 1: feelings you had, because you're going to forget. And it's

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Speaker 1: crazy because I'll look back on my journals from years ago.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not telling you I journal every day, because

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Speaker 1: I'd be lying if I did.

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Speaker 2: And I'm not going to.

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Speaker 1: Tell you that for the wow, fifteen plus years I've

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Speaker 1: been doing it.

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Speaker 2: Actually more, oh my gosh, more.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to tell you that I have all

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Speaker 1: my journals or that I did it continuously, because again,

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Speaker 1: i'd be lying. I write here and there for like months,

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Speaker 1: and then I just fall off. I feel like it's normal.

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Speaker 1: But I will tell you that journaling has really, in

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Speaker 1: some ways saved my life. It is a form of therapy,

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Speaker 1: and it's nice to look back, kind of like my

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Speaker 1: spiritual teacher said, you're going to forget, so make sure

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Speaker 1: you write things down. It's nice to look back and

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Speaker 1: read some of the things.

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Speaker 2: I just did this. The other day.

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Speaker 1: I came across a journal that I had put away,

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Speaker 1: and I wish I would have brought it so I

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Speaker 1: could read it to you guys. Maybe I'll share it

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Speaker 1: on Sincerely Jane, But AnyWho, I was so relieved when

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Speaker 1: I read it, and I'm like, thank God, I'm not

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Speaker 1: in that place anymore. And I think writing it down,

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Speaker 1: there's a power in writing things down, especially with a

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Speaker 1: pencil on a piece of paper, that helps you just

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Speaker 1: release things, like you're releasing emotions that we suppress or

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Speaker 1: that we can't tell anyone. And right now, when I

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Speaker 1: was thinking, I was like, how long have I been journaling?

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Speaker 1: Is because I used to have a diary, So that's

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Speaker 1: also journaling.

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Speaker 2: Guys.

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Speaker 1: We need to go back to diaries, which is why

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Speaker 1: I like doing Deer Cheeky's and I like doing sincere

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Speaker 1: religion a because it's a way of now. It's where

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Speaker 1: this is the new age, you know, and everything is technology.

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Speaker 1: So it's just basically releasing and in a way surrendering.

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Speaker 1: And it felt so nice to just say, Wow, I'm

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Speaker 1: not there anymore and I'm glad. And even with prayer,

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Speaker 1: people think, oh my gosh, with prayer, like I don't

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Speaker 1: know how to talk to God, and it does have

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Speaker 1: to sound all pretty the way they do it at church,

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Speaker 1: and no, it's the same thing with journaling, guys, like

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Speaker 1: it does. You don't have to have perfect grammar. Your

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Speaker 1: penmanship doesn't have to be perfect. If you want to

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Speaker 1: use the notes in your phone, that's fine. I've done it,

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Speaker 1: I do it. But for me just having that time

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Speaker 1: I don't have the best penmanship, guys, I really don't.

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Speaker 1: it's for you to be honest, for you to be raw.

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Speaker 1: It is a form of therapy. And that's why even

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Speaker 1: And of course writing down the date. I even like

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Speaker 1: sometimes it doesn't even make sense, but I'm just writing

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Speaker 2: You need those.

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Speaker 1: And a lot of people have asked me, like, how

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Speaker 1: do I even start. I would probably tell you start with.

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Speaker 2: What are you grateful for?

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Speaker 1: And I know you guys have heard this before, because

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Speaker 1: I do feel like people are talking about it a

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Speaker 1: three things that you're grateful for. I'm sure you can

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Speaker 1: find three things. And there's no again, no right or

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Speaker 1: taking the time for yourself. It's part of self love.

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Speaker 1: I like to do it in the morning. I like

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Speaker 1: to do it reallyier in the morning, even sometimes before

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Speaker 1: the sun comes out before I meditate usually, and then

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Speaker 1: and that's totally fine. Whatever works best for you. What

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Speaker 1: Is there anything I could have done differently? Do I

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Speaker 1: have to apologize to someone tomorrow for I don't know,

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Speaker 1: maybe I snapped or whatever. I just like to kind

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Speaker 1: of replay quickly in my mind. But maybe you can

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Speaker 1: I personally, like I said, I like to just start

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Speaker 2: It helps you release.

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Speaker 1: And the reason I keep saying release, guys, is because

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Speaker 1: I just talked about it on Instagram about releasing about

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Speaker 1: us carrying around a backpack full of rocks or bricks,

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Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it, and each is resentment, anger,

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Speaker 1: And we have this backpack on and we're trying to

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Speaker 1: reading a book on it, and I'm going to share.

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Speaker 1: It's called Letting Go the Pathway of Surrender, Okay, and

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Speaker 1: it's by David Hawkins, just in case you guys want

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Speaker 1: to look it up. But he's giving me a visual.

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Speaker 1: I've always known the importance of releasing and surrendering. I've

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Speaker 1: not tangible. But anyway, back to the backpack. We're carrying

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Speaker 2: And I know we've all had those moments.

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Speaker 1: And it's again whatever, however, your phone a notebook in the.

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Speaker 1: these things and I was like, Okay, Jenna, yeah, absolutely not,

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Speaker 1: We're not going back because I was just in survival

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Speaker 2: So I would forget.

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Speaker 1: to jot everything down. I'm a note taker. I love

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Speaker 1: post it notes, I love writing things down. So I

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Speaker 1: me let go of this person. Another suggestion in your journal,

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Speaker 1: if you're dating someone that you're not sure of, make

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Speaker 1: a line. Write the person's name down. Write the good things,

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Speaker 1: all the pros, and then the cons, and then you

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Speaker 1: check to see what weighs more. The good things are

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