1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: My husband abruptly adopted a Burmese python. 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:06,479 Speaker 2: It terrifies me and I want. 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: To rehome it. Riley, would you ever have a pet snake? No, 4 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: I disagree. I would have a pet snake. I think 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: they're really cute. I had a friend who had a 6 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: pet snake, and I thought he was really cute. 7 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 3: I'll have a pet snake with legs a lizard. Yeah, 8 00:00:18,079 --> 00:00:19,280 Speaker 3: I'll do that anyway. 9 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 2: Scared of snakes. 10 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 1: Oh, that's not good. Says for context. I'm twenty four 11 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: female and my husband is twenty six male. Maybe this 12 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 1: would be more appropriate on R slash snakes, But the 13 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: problem is less about the python itself and more about 14 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: my relationship with my husband. So personally, I don't think so. 15 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 3: Imagine putting this into R slash snakes looking for a 16 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 3: relationship dwies not the right audience. 17 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: The stake people are like, I don't know much about 18 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: relationships that I can tell you about snake. 19 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 3: I can tell you how to maintain a relationship with 20 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 3: your snakethon, but not with your husband. 21 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like, let me relate this back to the 22 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 1: python to use it as a metaphor. 23 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 2: Your husband is a snake in the grass. 24 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: Six months ago, our corn snake unexpectedly died. 25 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 2: Oh so they've had snakes before. 26 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: Okay, my husband and I were both very upset. He 27 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 1: was a cute little guy, and still they're young. My 28 00:01:18,880 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: husband has owned several small reptiles during his lifetime, and 29 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: he told me he was thinking of trying a milk 30 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: snake this time instead of a corn or carter instead. 31 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: Two months after our corn died, he came home with 32 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: the baby Burmese python. 33 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna have to see what this looks like. 34 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:37,479 Speaker 2: They're big, they get really big. 35 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 3: I'm not really afraid of snakes. 36 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:39,960 Speaker 2: I'm not afraid of snakes. 37 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 3: I have a spider. 38 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: I'm also not afraid of spiders. I would say I'm 39 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: afraid of hornets. Yeah, no, they get huge. I don't 40 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: even think it's just like fair to own a Burmese 41 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: python in a house. 42 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. 43 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: These these guys, they're they're big, they're very strong, and 44 00:01:57,200 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: they can be very I think they can be quite 45 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: nice if you train thumb or something or like. 46 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 2: I could be totally wrong about that. I don't know 47 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 2: too much about snakes. 48 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 3: Snake alert, snake alert if you're scared of snakes. 49 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: If you're sced of snakes, snake alert. 50 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 3: Just stop eating right now. 51 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think snakes are really cute. Honestly, they've got 52 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,360 Speaker 1: like little smiles, like, look. 53 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: How cute that snake is. It's adorable your baby, the baby, 54 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:22,360 Speaker 2: you know. I think, I honestly think they're quite cute. 55 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: Apparently it's always been his dream to own a Burmese 56 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: not only am I pissed that he got something like 57 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 1: that without consulting me. On the up side, where we live, 58 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: they are legal, but I had several reservations that had 59 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: only grown since we've owned it. Are they legal in California? 60 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 2: Do we know that? 61 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a secret question. Yeah, I'm gonna say Florida. 62 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,679 Speaker 3: I'm guessing Florida. That makes sense usually is this is 63 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 3: some Florida activity. Earl here. People in Florida love snakes. Yeah, 64 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 3: I mean they're I feel like they just go down 65 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 3: to the bottom of Florida and pick one up and 66 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:53,679 Speaker 3: take it home. 67 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:55,639 Speaker 2: Just adopt a snake on the side of the road. 68 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 3: Okay, Florida, Texas, Georgia, Oklahoma cannot have. 69 00:02:58,680 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 2: A Burmese python. 70 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 3: In cal Well, these snakes can grow up to twenty 71 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 3: three feet and weigh over two hundred pounds. 72 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 2: Oh my god, pet, Oh my god, that's so big. 73 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 1: Jesus, Opie continues, I have generalized anxiety disorder, and that 74 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 1: thing triggers my anxiety like no other. When I was 75 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: doing research about Burmese pythons, I kept reading stories about 76 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 1: them killing pets, children, and even their owners. 77 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 78 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 1: So now I'm freaked out, and I've barely slept for months, 79 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: oh for four months. 80 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 2: True. 81 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 1: This has made worse by the fact that my husband 82 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: has no experience with large snakes, and the larger the 83 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: python grows, the more it shows, and also by us 84 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: having a cat, and the larger the python grows, the 85 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: more it shows, and we. 86 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 2: Also have a cat. 87 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: The other snakes we've had are corn snake and my 88 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: husband's old garter snake pose no threat, but now I 89 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: constantly worry that the python is going to get out 90 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: and eat her. That is terrifying. I've taken to locking 91 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: the cat in our bedroom at night, which interferes with 92 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: our sleep since she meows and ratches at the door, 93 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: but I'm constantly worrying about her when she's home alone. 94 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: I'll reiterate this thing is ef thing huge. He's already 95 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: six feet long. Oh my god, that is longer than me. 96 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 3: You it's just shorter than me. 97 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,840 Speaker 1: To put that out there. I am six foot I'm 98 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 1: home more than my husband. So I have to feed 99 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: it and change its substrates, often substrates. 100 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 2: I don't know what that is. 101 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: I hate doing both so much, especially now that he's 102 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: graduated to eating. 103 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 2: Rabbits and pigs. Rabbits and pigs. Pigs. Pigs are big, 104 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 2: like live pigs. You're bringing live pigs. How expensive is 105 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 2: it to feed this? 106 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, creature like rabbits. If obviously a snake, I just 107 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 3: would keep it at mice. 108 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: I mean, that's what usually if you have a snake, 109 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 1: you're feeding it mice like live mice. 110 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 111 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 2: But like, but this rabbits and pigs. 112 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 3: I'm going to guess baby pigs. 113 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 2: That's so sad. 114 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 3: I cat to comprehend this. 115 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: The pigs part, Oh my god, I'm so confused and shocked. 116 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 1: I honestly think that since my husband brought him home 117 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: without consulting me, that caring for it should be his 118 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:05,799 Speaker 1: sole job. 119 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 2: But I'm not going to let it go hungry or 120 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 2: live in its own waste out. 121 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: Of pride again, we have these husbands that won't take 122 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: care of the pets that they want, like that they 123 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: brought home. I honestly don't think we'll be able to 124 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 1: give the snake the best quality of life, which I 125 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: think is essential for all pets. He's getting too big 126 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: for the tankies in, which is his third since we've 127 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: gotten him, and I don't think we have the room 128 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: in our house for the enclosure my husband wants to 129 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: build him. His food is very expensive. Yeah, if you're 130 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: getting him whole pigs and eating into our savings, but 131 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: it's twenty means, so we can't downgrade. The python does 132 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: not deserve to live in a tiny space and eat 133 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: inadequate food because my husband wanted one as a kid. 134 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: At the same time, it's a good possibility it could 135 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: eat us out of house and home, or just eat you. 136 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: I don't want kids while we own a python, and 137 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: these things can live up to twenty years. I don't 138 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: want to never have children, which I've dreamed of because 139 00:05:57,400 --> 00:05:58,040 Speaker 1: of a python. 140 00:05:58,320 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 2: No no, no, no. 141 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 3: Major red flag major that he did not consult her, 142 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:07,239 Speaker 3: because she's like now figuring this out on her own. Yeah, like, okay, 143 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 3: the python's here, How can I live life with this thing? 144 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 2: With this thing have a child? 145 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 3: Apparently heat kids, Apparently it's pets. 146 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:15,799 Speaker 2: Apparently it's owners. 147 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 3: Oh, don't worry, it's going to only live for twenty years. 148 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 2: Yaikes. 149 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: Because of all these reasons, but especially the ones about 150 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 1: our cat and its quality of life, I think we 151 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: should rehome the python, preferably to a wildlife sanctuary or something. 152 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. 153 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 2: Absolutely. 154 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: I gently brought all of this up to my husband, 155 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: how much mental anguish it causes me, how worried I 156 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 1: am for a cat, how the snake is unsustainable, and 157 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: all he's done is tell me to get over it, 158 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: Accuse me of not caring about his happiness. 159 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 2: You're not caring about your your wife's. 160 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: Happiness, and tell me I'm being prejudiced against animals that 161 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:53,919 Speaker 1: aren't cute and cuddly. None of this is true, not 162 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: even the last accusation. I liked his smaller snakes a lot. Yeah, 163 00:06:57,520 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: we already know that they've had smaller stakes in the past, 164 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 1: and this was never an issue. 165 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 3: The smaller snakes were funner because then it costs as 166 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 3: much and they didn't scare the living at that year. 167 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: It's like having a tiger in your house and being like, hey, 168 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: I don't I'm not comfortable with having a tiger in 169 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: the house, and they were like, well, you just don't 170 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: like cats that are big. 171 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, How can I communicate productively with my 172 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 3: husband about this issue? 173 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: He already loves the snake, and I think that's getting 174 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: in the way of him seeing reason. 175 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 2: There is an edit for the snake. People. 176 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 1: I acknowledge that now that our husbandry is probably wrong, 177 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: proving my point even more. Also, I have been informed 178 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: that the snake probably wasn't a baby if it's at 179 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: this size now, so take that into account. I'm not 180 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: the most knowledgeable about snakes, and there are some relevant comments. 181 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you think she should do? 182 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, I think the right choice is to 183 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 1: take the snake to a wildlife reserve, But I don't 184 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 1: know what to do if the husband isn't leaving or isn't. 185 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 3: On the same page. On the same page, yeah, yeah, 186 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 3: Because like, as a husband, you want to make sure 187 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 3: like your wife is feeling protected safe, And if you 188 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 3: bring home a pet like this and she wants to 189 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 3: have kids like within the next three to five years, dude, 190 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 3: you got to make some compromises you, Yeah, stick with 191 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 3: the cute snake's not the big python. 192 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, you could still have snakes. Those were never an issue. 193 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: It's just a giant Python. It's also not fair to 194 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: the python. 195 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 3: It's not fair to the python because like, you don't 196 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 3: have the resources for it. You're having to dip into 197 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 3: your savings to take care of this python. I know 198 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 3: you've always wanted to have it, but wait till you're 199 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 3: in another stage of life to do that. Yeah, Like 200 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 3: I want like old, nice looking car, but like twenty three, 201 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 3: I can't do that right now. 202 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't have the funds for it, you don't 203 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:40,719 Speaker 2: have the space for it. 204 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 3: It's a big one. 205 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that you should continue having these conversations. 206 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 1: Maybe someone else has a better idea of. 207 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:49,079 Speaker 2: What dope he should say to her husband. 208 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think if he's truly not listening to you, like, 209 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: maybe consider I just. 210 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 3: Think it's very immature that he did not beforehand talk. 211 00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:59,320 Speaker 2: To her because that's a big decision. 212 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 3: Huge decision. 213 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: I mean, it's a huge snake. Every foot is another 214 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: addition to the decision. Relevant comments, Oh dude, Opie says, 215 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: as far as worrying about the python getting out and 216 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: killing the cat slash future kids, slash us. Opie's husband says, 217 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: I won't let it get out. You need to get 218 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: on new anxiety medication. Oh unbelievable. Never mind the fact 219 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: that both the corn and the garter. 220 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 2: Snake escaped from their tanks. 221 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Ohpie's husband says, well, what are you 222 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: gonna do? Let it starve just because you don't like it. 223 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 2: That's cruel. 224 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:34,679 Speaker 1: And then he says that we have room for the 225 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: enclosure and that will find money to keep buying at food. 226 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: He says I'm ridiculous to not want babies while we 227 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: have a python, and says everything will be fine. I 228 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: don't find any of his rebuttals particularly compelling because they're 229 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: just no, that won't happen to a concern of mine, 230 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:52,199 Speaker 1: without explaining why it won't happen. I can't believe he's 231 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: using her like anxiety as like against her. 232 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:57,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, like, even someone. 233 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: Who doesn't have anxiety would probably be worried about this. 234 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 3: I'm worried. I might have anxiety, but I do. 235 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 2: Have anxiety, and I would still be worried like. 236 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 3: That anxiety thinking about it? Does that count that if 237 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 3: I have anxiety. 238 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 2: Not exactly, but thank you for your solidarity. 239 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:13,640 Speaker 3: You're wome. 240 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 2: This is not a red flag for you. This is 241 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 2: a red flag for that. 242 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:18,840 Speaker 3: Oh okay, cool, cool, cool cool. I knew it was me. 243 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 3: I have no red flags for. 244 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:24,199 Speaker 2: The husband, big red flag. I just he's not listening 245 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 2: to her, his wife at all. 246 00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 3: He's not. It's a fucking snake. Ah. I had to 247 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 3: like take away the picture looking at it, I think 248 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 3: I've now grown a fear of snakes. Yeah, and I 249 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 3: was so okay with my life until this. 250 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: I still like snakes, but I just know that I 251 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: couldn't raise a python. 252 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 3: No lot, snakes or spiders. Which one are you guys 253 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 3: afraid of? 254 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,959 Speaker 2: But there is an update. Yeah, hopefully something good happens. 255 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 3: Yeah they get rid of it. 256 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, they get rid of it. A baby that's happily 257 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 2: in a reserve. 258 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: First of all, I have to say thank you for 259 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: the outpouring of support I got, especially from the reptile 260 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: enthusiasts who happened to be browsing the sub. You guys 261 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: are awesome. Maybe you should have gone on our slash 262 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 1: snakes update One update one Thursday night, while I was 263 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: replying to people in my post, several people suggesting talking 264 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: to my husband's friend, who owns Burmese pythons, is an 265 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:24,200 Speaker 1: experienced reptile keeper and could be a huge help. I 266 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: was too blinded by the situation and my own anxiety 267 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: to even think of that. I messaged him on Facebook 268 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:33,319 Speaker 1: Thursday night and told in the situation. He was shocked 269 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: at how bad things were. But apparently he tried to 270 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: warn my husband that that owning small snakes and then 271 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 1: jumping to a Burmese python is like thinking owning housecats 272 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: makes you qualify to own a tiger. 273 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 2: That's exactly what I said. 274 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 3: You're getting too good at these Reddit stories. 275 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 1: Literally, But my husband didn't listen. He's been busy going 276 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:53,199 Speaker 1: to reptile shows. This is the husband's friend, and he 277 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 1: breeds venomous cobras. He's kind of badass, so he only 278 00:11:56,880 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: saw the snake in person once we just got it, 279 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: and was imb deedeately disturbed when I told him about 280 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:05,480 Speaker 1: the overfeeding, my husband's desire to start it on live food, 281 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:09,240 Speaker 1: and the fact that it free roams and is handled alone. 282 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 3: Wait a second, I didn't even think about the live food. 283 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 3: If you're teaching a snow a snake to eat live 284 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 3: food and then it seize your cat. 285 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's gonna eat your cat one hundred percent. It's 286 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: gonna eat your cat. 287 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 2: Also a free roams. What do you mean in free roams? 288 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 2: He told me he'd come. 289 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: Over the next day, Friday and give my husband a 290 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: real talking to, as well as do anything he could 291 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 1: do to help us rehome it nice. I decided I 292 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: couldn't live another day in the house like that, and 293 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: neither could my cat. So Friday morning, I moved out 294 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: to my mother's while my husband was at work. It 295 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:41,959 Speaker 1: was a bit sneaky, but I knew that if I 296 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: tried to leave while he was home, he tried to convince. 297 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 2: Me to stay. 298 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: I called him on his lunch break, though, and told 299 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:50,840 Speaker 1: him i'd left until the snake was gone. He was 300 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: very upset, but started accusing me of being so petty 301 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:56,959 Speaker 1: as to let a snake wreck our marriage. I had 302 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 1: nothing productive to say to that. 303 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 3: No, it's not the snake and it. 304 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're ruining it because you're not listening to your wife. 305 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 3: I'm just just so feeling so ichy right now, like 306 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,480 Speaker 3: with the ah. 307 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,280 Speaker 1: Well, my husband's friend was so angry at what he 308 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: saw the snake that when he got to the house 309 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 1: when my husband was home from work, he gave him 310 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: the tongue lashing of his life and told him in 311 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 1: playing terms that now that he saw how woefully inadequate 312 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:29,560 Speaker 1: we were as big snake keepers, there was no way 313 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 1: he was going to let that snake stay at our house. 314 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 1: Being yelled at really affected him. When my husband drove 315 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:37,720 Speaker 1: over to my mother's to talk to me, he looked 316 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: like a kicked puppy. He broke down and told me 317 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 1: that he loved me, that he was sorry for the 318 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 1: hell he put me through, and that it taken having 319 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: reason yelled to him by an expert for him to 320 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: really see what was going on, and that he understood 321 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:52,800 Speaker 1: now that the snake could no longer live with us. 322 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: I know that at that point that the sorrow he 323 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:57,200 Speaker 1: felt was due to having a snake taken away, not 324 00:13:57,280 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 1: of real understanding, not yet, so don't worry, he's not 325 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:02,959 Speaker 1: completely off the hook. It was cathartic to hear this, 326 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: though His friend contacted a herpetology society he worked with regularly, 327 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: and then a member of the society whose specialty is 328 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 1: rehabiliting the snakes that irresponsible pet owners get and then 329 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 1: mistreat on his ranch. So snake went yesterday to the 330 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: guy's ranch where he'll be fed the right food and 331 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:24,240 Speaker 1: go on a diet apparently, and live in a space 332 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: big enough for him. 333 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 3: Let's go. 334 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 2: That's great. 335 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 1: I'm so happy. But how much were they feeding him? 336 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: Because they said overfeeding and I didn't realize. Ope, he 337 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: didn't really mention that before, and maybe she didn't really 338 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: understand that it was overfeeding until, like the guy said out, 339 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 1: My husband and I have talked about this, and he 340 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 1: acknowledged that his fervent desire to fulfill his child a 341 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 1: dream made him careless and selfish. That he wasn't trying 342 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: to be malicious towards me, but he just wanted the 343 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 1: snake so badly he do and say anything to keep it. 344 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 1: It still seems like, though, that he hasn't learned, which 345 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 1: I'm not expecting this early, but it's still a mite disappointing. 346 00:14:58,040 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 1: He talked yesterday about getting a ball python, and I 347 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: put my foot down. I don't think we should get 348 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: another snake for a long time. Unbelievable he learned nothing. 349 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 1: I think balth that pythons are smaller but still. 350 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 3: Like pythons are like the ones that like wrap around 351 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 3: you though, right, Yeah, well I remember them coming two 352 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:15,960 Speaker 3: hours school when I was younger. 353 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, same, Yeah, all pythons are smaller. Yeah, no, he 354 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 2: ruined it. 355 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 1: They could have just kept getting small snakes and everything 356 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 1: would have been fine. 357 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 2: Oh, he continues. 358 00:15:24,160 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 1: I don't find any of his rebuttals particularly compelling. On Sunday, 359 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: I sat him down and asked him to tell me 360 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 1: the truth of how he got the python, because walking 361 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: into a pet shop for a milksnake and just finding 362 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 1: a burmese was sounding more and more implausible the more 363 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: I thought about it. Yeah, I feel like he like 364 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 1: planned this. He admitted that he arranged to get one 365 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 1: with a breeder online while he was telling me he 366 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: wanted a little snake, meaning he was actively lying to me. 367 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 2: Break up with this. 368 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 1: Man, divorce him. This breeder is also a state away, 369 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: meaning my husband participated in something illegal when he met 370 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:02,120 Speaker 1: up with him to get it, since transporting Burmese pythons 371 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: across state lines is against the Lacy Act. 372 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 373 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm very angry about this. I'm upset about his lies, 374 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 1: and I'm upset that he blew me off for months. 375 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: He admitted he lied just because he knew i'd say no, 376 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: which shows such an immaturity that it almost disgusts me. 377 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: I'm upset that he broke the law, absolut my god, 378 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 1: it skittspersmers. 379 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 2: I'm upset that he. 380 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: Only listened to what I told him when it came 381 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 1: from someone else. Apparently he's been having a quarter like 382 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:29,800 Speaker 1: crisis that he didn't tell me about because he feels 383 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 1: that he should have accomplished more with his life at 384 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 1: twenty six. He never went to college. I feel sympathy 385 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: for him with that, but that's no excuse to treat 386 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 1: me badly. 387 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:39,800 Speaker 2: Absolutely not. He's so immature. 388 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you're twenty six and this is yikes. I 389 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 1: moved back home with Kitty last night, but our marriage 390 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: is in severe jeopardy right now due to the lying 391 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: and the lack of respect my husband has shown me. 392 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 1: But I made vows to stick with him, and I 393 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 1: don't take those lightly. We're going to be getting counseling, 394 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: which I hope will make him see what was wrong 395 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 1: with what he did rather than an jerk response to 396 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: being in trouble, so to speak, and will strengthen us 397 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:07,080 Speaker 1: if not, well I'll have to consider my options. And 398 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:09,440 Speaker 1: there is a PS. And one more update. 399 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 3: I don't like his attitude. 400 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: Still, I don't like his attitude, and I understand not 401 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: wanting to like divorce him right away over this, but 402 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 1: I think it is a red flag to keep an 403 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: eye out on and you know, make sure he's not 404 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 1: doing this again. 405 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I mean, are you one strike for not 406 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 3: communicating beforehand? 407 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 2: Not communicating and. 408 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:29,479 Speaker 3: Then reacting this way. You could have come to like 409 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 3: realization with your wife. You had an expert to tell 410 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,160 Speaker 3: you this. Yeah, blow his mind. 411 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,440 Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing, Like the wife brought those concerns 412 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: forward and he didn't listen to her until someone else 413 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 1: outside was like, hey, don't do that. 414 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 2: That's wild. 415 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,119 Speaker 1: I also think that's a lot lack of respect to 416 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: your wife. 417 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, but there is a PS. 418 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:49,760 Speaker 1: People were saying in the other posts that we were 419 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 1: actually feeding the snake guinea pigs, and that I was 420 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 1: lying to make the snake look bad. Well I was 421 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 1: fudging the truth, but not in that way. We were 422 00:17:58,680 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 1: feeding a dead pig. 423 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 3: That's what I thought. 424 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,479 Speaker 1: I get, needing to feed an animal the things that 425 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: it needs. Yeah, However, this is a huge undertaking for 426 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 1: someone who did not agree to it, and the husband's 427 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 1: not even doing it. My husband's cousin owns a working 428 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:15,880 Speaker 1: ranch with several pigs, and my husband was buying them 429 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,399 Speaker 1: from him for a pretty penny. I didn't want to 430 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 1: say because I thought people would focus on the snake 431 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 1: eating baby animals and start calling for its blood instead 432 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 1: of offering me advice. No again, animal's got to eat. 433 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: When an animal's gotta eat, that's not the issue. It's 434 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: just the husband. 435 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:31,480 Speaker 3: Wow. 436 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 2: And a final update, Well. 437 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:37,119 Speaker 3: There's more, There is more, wait a say, Okay, ready, 438 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:38,120 Speaker 3: gave our thoughts on those. 439 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 2: So the snake is gone. 440 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 3: Snake's gone. 441 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, we found out that was rehoused. 442 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:45,640 Speaker 3: He wants another snake. Yeah, but she's like no. 443 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 1: And we're hoping they're going to counseling now hopefully. Okay, 444 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:52,120 Speaker 1: update too, Hi, I'm back. The snake is still gone, 445 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:54,879 Speaker 1: but I guess I'm coming back out of desperation. People 446 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 1: message me wanting to know how I was doing. On 447 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,719 Speaker 1: the surface, therapy has been going well. My husband has 448 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:03,480 Speaker 1: been doing everything right. He's been contrite, open minded, and 449 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:05,640 Speaker 1: treats me like a princess at all times. 450 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 2: That's good. 451 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: I can tell at home that he's making a conscious 452 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 1: effort to listen to my opinions and thoughts and incorporate 453 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 1: our therapist's suggestions into our lives, into our lives. I 454 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 1: feel like the hugest be saying this, but I don't 455 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 1: think it's enough. I think that that was such a 456 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 1: big thing that he did, and the guy, I feel 457 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 1: like it's fair to not be over it. 458 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 3: I just want to know what his effort is afterwards. Yeah, 459 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 3: his attitude's still the same. 460 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, well it seems like it's changed, but you know. 461 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:34,160 Speaker 3: It doesn't seem like he wants the relationship. 462 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Ope he continues. 463 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:38,159 Speaker 1: Over these past few weeks, I've had to come to 464 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 1: terms with the fact that something about how I view 465 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:44,880 Speaker 1: my husband has fundamentally changed. And finally, after extensive soul 466 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: searching a few days ago, I realized what it was. 467 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 1: I have no respect for his intelligence anymore. After all 468 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 1: this just like he's a freaking idiot. That is very, 469 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 1: very important to me, and now it's just gone and 470 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:58,919 Speaker 1: I don't know how it can come back without him 471 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:00,639 Speaker 1: getting a personality overhaul. 472 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,200 Speaker 2: It's killed my physical attraction to him. 473 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,960 Speaker 1: I normally have a high libido, and prior to all this, 474 00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:08,720 Speaker 1: we made loved four to five times a week. 475 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 2: Now, since all this. 476 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: Went down, we've been intimate three times a week or 477 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:14,359 Speaker 1: just total. 478 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 3: I would say total, oh. 479 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 2: To be fair. 480 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 1: While Snake was here, we were down to two to 481 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 1: three times a week, but it was still more frequent 482 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 1: than this. 483 00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 2: Oo yikes. 484 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: I think it would be so funny if this was 485 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 1: posted on our slash Snakes. 486 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 2: She's like, my libido is down, and they're like, well, 487 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 2: I can only tell you about Snake's libido. 488 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: Despite all the changes he's making, he's still himself and 489 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: I don't think I could like who I know him 490 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,200 Speaker 1: to be now. Oh, he's still his goofy apps in 491 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 1: mind itself. Who needs me to balance the checkbook and 492 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 1: pack his lunch? 493 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 3: Oh my god? Oh no no no, no, no. 494 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:53,639 Speaker 1: No, no no no. I can't respect that anymore. I 495 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: don't want to be his mom or a naggy sitcom wife. 496 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: I used to love doing these things for him. Throughout 497 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:01,240 Speaker 1: our relationship, I've taken care of him, patched him up, 498 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 1: and helped him solve his problems. I always saw it 499 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:07,120 Speaker 1: as the ultimate expression of love. Now I'm just sick 500 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:10,399 Speaker 1: of it. He can tell something still wrong. He's irritated 501 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:13,440 Speaker 1: about my lack of forgiveness and lack of sex drive 502 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,480 Speaker 1: lately when he's objectively doing all the right things, but 503 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: his lack of understanding towards my apprehension makes my feelings 504 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:23,000 Speaker 1: even more pronounced. I realized the other day that I 505 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,280 Speaker 1: love him dearly as a friend I've known him since 506 00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,880 Speaker 1: I was nine years old, but no longer as a husband. 507 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:30,440 Speaker 2: Ouch. That's rough. 508 00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:33,880 Speaker 1: That devastates me. I can't believe I'm thinking divorce after 509 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:34,639 Speaker 1: less than. 510 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 2: A year of marriage. 511 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 3: Oh my wow. 512 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: I feel like such a failure. I haven't broached these 513 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,760 Speaker 1: feelings in therapy yet because they crystallized only a few 514 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,120 Speaker 1: days ago. But I don't know how to start, because 515 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: I know saying them will meeme my marriage will be over. 516 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,600 Speaker 1: I have talked to my mom and friends about this, 517 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 1: and they all tell me to wait longer, to stick 518 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,560 Speaker 1: it out because I made vows. But I feel like 519 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,919 Speaker 1: I found out something fundamental about my husband that I 520 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 1: wish I never had, and that nothing can be the same. 521 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 2: Ooh ouch ouch ouch. 522 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 1: I mean I don't love the thing about the vows. 523 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:06,919 Speaker 1: I don't think you owe someone that you're not in 524 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,399 Speaker 1: love with anymore, even if you've like married them. I 525 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: think that I think that was a pretty big thing 526 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: to find out. Like, I feel like it's fair to 527 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,639 Speaker 1: not be able to forgive your husband over that. 528 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 3: Perhaps, Yeah, I feel like he could have made a comeback, 529 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 3: for sure, he could have. 530 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,440 Speaker 2: He was trying to do the right things. 531 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,800 Speaker 3: The right thing was whenever she voiced her opinions, and 532 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,400 Speaker 3: you should have took like the wrong thing to strike one, 533 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:31,120 Speaker 3: you took it home without talking to her. 534 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 2: And then yes, he lied to her, broke the law. 535 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 3: Oh shoot, just thing he lives at twenty years and 536 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:37,359 Speaker 3: he could eat my cat and or kid. Yeah, we 537 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:38,359 Speaker 3: should probably get rid of it. 538 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, prior things he could have done. And I think 539 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 1: it's fair for her to be like he literally only 540 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:44,399 Speaker 1: listened when someone else told them. 541 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, like she had to bring someone else into their relationship, 542 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:48,359 Speaker 3: only being. 543 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 1: Like apologetic because the therapist told them so, Like, when 544 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: are we going to get like him realizing that he 545 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,879 Speaker 1: needs to take accountability. Yeah, Yeah, and he's still having 546 00:22:57,880 --> 00:22:59,400 Speaker 1: her make his lunches. 547 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 3: Balance a check book. 548 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 549 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 2: It seems like. 550 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,239 Speaker 1: Throughout the story he's been really immature and just like, 551 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 1: I totally get her being like, yeah, he's not intelligent. 552 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I feel like, in a way, this guy's 553 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 3: not being very his own man. 554 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 2: He's not being independent. 555 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, not being independent. Like as you're a woman, you 556 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:16,400 Speaker 3: are doing your own thing, You're making it happen. Being 557 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 3: your old man, you're like, you know, leading and like 558 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 3: you got something going on. It just feels like she's 559 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 3: kind of mothering him. 560 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just not a healthy relationship. 561 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,840 Speaker 3: It's like a mother child relationship rather than a husband wife, 562 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 3: Like he. 563 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: Brings home a pet and she's forced to take on 564 00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:32,919 Speaker 1: the mother role of like you, we cannot have a 565 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:33,399 Speaker 1: pet like that. 566 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,560 Speaker 3: She's taking care of it, feeding the pet. 567 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's fair for her to consider divorce. 568 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so sad to see after a year of relationship. 569 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,359 Speaker 1: And they knew each other since they were nine years old, 570 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:50,400 Speaker 1: which also might have contributed to this, you know, marriage, 571 00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 1: they've known each other so long, they probably started. 572 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 3: Dating when they were young, felt forced into it. 573 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 2: They might not have. 574 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 1: Felt forced into it, but like, you don't really know 575 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: anyone else. I guess you don't know anyone else. You 576 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,600 Speaker 1: don't know what what's outside of that gotcha relationship. 577 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. 578 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,800 Speaker 1: Again, I'm just kind of speculating that this relationship started 579 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,719 Speaker 1: earlier on because they've known each other for so long. 580 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 3: It's really interesting. The emotional intelligence part. 581 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's absent, but that's the whole story. The snake 582 00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:17,600 Speaker 1: is gone, they're on the road to divorce, and everything's good. 583 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,359 Speaker 3: Everything's good. Yeah. I think my dad used sold on 584 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,119 Speaker 3: a snake and then my mom made him get rid 585 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 3: of it, get rid of it before I was around. 586 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 2: Was it a big snake? 587 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:26,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, he just like let it out in the woods. 588 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,639 Speaker 2: It's terrifying. I'm just imagining like a snake being. 589 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 1: Let out like in the wild, and you're like you're 590 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 1: walking around the day and you see a giant like 591 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 1: Burmese python in the woods, Like. 592 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,280 Speaker 2: How did this get here? Burmese pythons aren't even like. 593 00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 3: Native to eating a baby deer. 594 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh that's terrifying. 595 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 3: That is terrifying. Yikes, yikes. Sorry, snake people. 596 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm very into snakes, but I think you have 597 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,120 Speaker 2: to know how to care for any pet that you get. 598 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 3: Neutral. 599 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,919 Speaker 1: Riley's neutral about snakes. But that that's all the stories 600 00:24:57,920 --> 00:24:58,960 Speaker 1: that we have for you today. 601 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,480 Speaker 4: Yes, this is an episode from deep within the archives 602 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 4: time for okop rewash. Mother in law steals my family 603 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 4: heirloom during my wedding, so I called the police. 604 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:14,880 Speaker 3: But what my family did next shock me to my core. 605 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 5: When they steal the family heirloom, sometimes you gotta call 606 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:20,160 Speaker 5: the police. 607 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, especially when your family heirloom is an antique 608 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 4: bone built out. 609 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,879 Speaker 5: Oh wow, that was not the direction I was expecting 610 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:29,400 Speaker 5: that to go. 611 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 4: So I twenty eight female, got married to my husband, 612 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 4: thirty four male, a week ago. We got engaged about 613 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,480 Speaker 4: a year ago, and when I got engaged, my mother 614 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 4: gave me a pair of earrings which she said every 615 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 4: woman for generations in her family has worn to their weddings. 616 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 5: Wow, that's a fairly, that's a family heirloom. That's you there. 617 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,880 Speaker 4: They are four carrot dangling earrings and they are worth 618 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,480 Speaker 4: a lot. I felt very honored to be given them, 619 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 4: and it made me feel closer to my grandmother, who 620 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,760 Speaker 4: had died two months prior. About three months after that, 621 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:01,399 Speaker 4: I went wedding dress shop with my mother, my sister, 622 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 4: and my fiance's mother. I brought all the jewelry that 623 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 4: I would be wearing to my wedding to see how 624 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 4: they would match the dress. When I put the jewelry on, 625 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 4: my mother in law kept going on about how gorgeous 626 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 4: the earrings are, just delightful, simpler smashing. Oh yes, My 627 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 4: mother explained the story and how they were a family 628 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,960 Speaker 4: heirloom passed down generations. I found the dress of my 629 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:30,399 Speaker 4: dreams and bought its nice. On the day of my wedding, 630 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 4: I had everything ready in my room, my wedding dress, 631 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 4: my flowers, my shoes, my makeup, and my jewelry. I 632 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 4: was in there with my soon to be mother in law. 633 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,360 Speaker 4: I then needed to go to the toilets, and when 634 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,960 Speaker 4: I came back, my mother in law was gone, disappeared 635 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 4: into the night without a trace. 636 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:46,199 Speaker 3: No. 637 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 4: I wasn't sure what happened, but I just thought she 638 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 4: might have just gotten called away to do something. Sure, 639 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 4: I then noticed something was gone. 640 00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,680 Speaker 3: That was the family heirloom, my earring. No. 641 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,480 Speaker 4: I knew straight away that she had taken him. That 642 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 4: freaking mother in law. Never trust him. 643 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 5: Nope. 644 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 4: I found her and confronted her, and she said I 645 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,160 Speaker 4: did not take them. I asked if I could look 646 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,880 Speaker 4: through her bag, and she said no and gripped onto it. 647 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,679 Speaker 4: I said that if she didn't let me look, I 648 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 4: would call the police, which I then did. She still 649 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 4: wouldn't let me look. 650 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:21,200 Speaker 5: Wow. 651 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,879 Speaker 4: The police arrived and searched her, and the ear rings 652 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:29,720 Speaker 4: were found in her bag. Yo, why like, at least 653 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 4: I hide them somewhere else. What are we doing here? Like, 654 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,159 Speaker 4: you're obviously gonna get caught other than law. This is 655 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:36,800 Speaker 4: the worst heist of the century. 656 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 5: This is in like, I don't the Matthew math. 657 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:41,879 Speaker 4: They were returned to me and they asked if I 658 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:45,679 Speaker 4: wanted to press charges. Oh, so I talked to my 659 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,679 Speaker 4: fiance first, and he said he would support me whatever 660 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,359 Speaker 4: I wanted to do. I didn't want to decide in 661 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 4: the moment, so I ignored it and had a great 662 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,840 Speaker 4: night because it was her fucking weddach. 663 00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:59,439 Speaker 3: Like, come on, guy, could she not enjoy that in peace? 664 00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:01,959 Speaker 4: That was a week ago, and ever since I've been 665 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,680 Speaker 4: getting loads of threatening messages and calls from my husband's 666 00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 4: side of the family. My mother in law has been 667 00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 4: sending me extremely hateful texts, and I think I want 668 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,919 Speaker 4: to press charges, but I'm still not sure if it's 669 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,640 Speaker 4: a good idea. Like, Yo, if you steal earrings from 670 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 4: someone and she catches you, like Why send a hateful 671 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,800 Speaker 4: text like, what is there to be mad about? 672 00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,880 Speaker 5: Where are you trying to achieve here? Keeping your family 673 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 5: out of whatever business happened? 674 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 4: I guess ridiculous, dude, this, this mother in law is 675 00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 4: a piece of work. 676 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,200 Speaker 2: You liked this story. 677 00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:38,320 Speaker 4: You like this other story where Opie throws one of 678 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 4: their family members in jail.