WEBVTT - Season 2 Premiere: A Love Story with Jo Koy 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:03.440 Okay, hi everybody. Oh, welcome to what is the name 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:07.200 of this podcast again, dear Chelsea is what it's called. Welcome? 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:10.200 Hi Catherine, Hi, Hi. I noticed your hair is all 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:13.119 pink today. It is, It'll be a different color tomorrow. 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:15.640 I don't understand how you get away with dyeing your 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:18.160 hair so many different colors and then your hair remaining 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:19.800 on your head. If I did that to my hair, 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:24.000 I would have no hair. It's actually a color depositing conditioner, 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:26.159 which is great, so it actually makes a nice and 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:30.440 healthy and soft and yeah, it looks very shiny and silky. 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:33.960 Thank you. Your husband must really really like running his 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:37.960 fingers through your hair, you know. I actually asked him recently, 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:41.839 of all the colors of hair I've had, I've had teal, pink, purple, 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:44.440 all kinds of things. I said, of all the colors 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:49.320 I've had, what's your favorite? And he said brown, very pointedtly, 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.440 so you know, but he loves me anyway, So you 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:56.320 dyed pink. That's nice. Good for you, Good for you. Well. 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:58.920 We have a very very special guest today. We are 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:02.320 actually recording this out of New York City because I'm 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:07.240 on tour with my lover Joe Koy, who was performing 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:11.399 all weekend in various parts of the Eastern Seaboard. Well, Albany, 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:13.920 we started in that's not really the Eastern Seaboard, but 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:17.600 it's part of the East Coast. Then we went to Portland, Maine, 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:21.120 where he had a show, and then we ended it 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:25.240 at the King's Theater in Brooklyn last night, which was 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:30.560 fucking awesome and a beautiful old theater and he crushed it. 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:33.319 And I did guess That's all weekend with him, which 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:36.640 was super fun. And yeah, I've been talking about him 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:38.600 a lot recently, so I thought there would be no 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:42.840 better way to start season two of my podcast than 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:46.880 to bring my paramore on with me and discuss our 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:51.440 beautiful love story. Honey Bunny, Hi, Joe Koy, Oh, I 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:57.600 love you in uh well, I thought it would be 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:59.360 nice to share with my listeners since you know, I 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.520 always I'm talking about how fucking stupid and annoying men are, 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:05.240 and I know a lot of people think I hate men, 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.680 but that's really not the case. I hate a very 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:10.079 as Joe actually put it, I hate do you want 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:13.480 to finish it? I hate a very specific kind of guy, right, 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:15.840 finish it? No, he doesn't want to finish it. He 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:19.000 just because there are certain things that only you can say. Well, no, 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:21.560 you're a guy, so you can kind of you can. 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:24.000 I can say whatever I want. And you're also Filipinos, 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:26.080 so you can say whatever you want right now. This 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:30.240 is this is your free zone right now. Yeah, how's 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.560 my opportunity. But you said somebody was talking about me 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.919 on something you did, and I heard you say. They said, 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:39.919 doesn't Chelsea Handler hate white men? And you said, no, 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:43.800 she hates a very specific kind of white man. So 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.440 and I don't hate them, but I dislike them a 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.800 great deal. But I'm so excited to be with a 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:52.200 man that I don't hate, is what I'm saying, and 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:55.320 that obviously this is very helpful for all of our 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:58.560 listeners who probably agree with me or feel the same 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.400 way I do about men, which is a little bit 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.720 hopeless and a little bit frustrated that there isn't a 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.760 better selection. And then I found out that the best 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.120 selection was just standing right in front of my face, 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:11.200 and I didn't even notice it for a really long time. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:12.880 And I know you know you did. Well, I know 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:15.480 that's your version of things. Why don't you actually tell 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:17.840 your version. That's actually the best version. It's my version. 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:20.519 I'm excited to hear it. Why don't you extrapolate that 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:23.679 on that, honey, your version of since since let's take 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:25.679 people back in case they're not familiar with the fact 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:27.799 that we've known each other for a very long time. Yeah, 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:30.640 we we've known each other for very long months seven months, 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:36.160 seven months, eighteen years, eighteen years, sixteen years, vague. Joe 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:38.200 has a lot of memories. Let's be honest. Joe has 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:43.680 a lot of memories that I do not recall. Hers 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:48.200 are lost. She she had them and then she lost them. 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.440 I have a six month memory. I think the furthest 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:55.760 you go back is eight hours and then everything's a blur. 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:59.000 She's like, what happened at midnight? No, that's not true, honey. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.400 First of all, wait, first, well, let's start this just 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.760 what makes what makes me sad is that you don't 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:09.880 remember any of the things that I remember in my head. 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:14.160 In my head, it's just it's such a beautiful story. 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.920 And then when I'm finished telling you, you go, really 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:22.520 that happened. It's a cute story though, Because so Joe 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.799 was on my show Chelsea lately, my very old show 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.560 that I had for seven or eight years and which 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:29.279 was super fun. We had a lot of fun on 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:30.880 that show, and we had a lot of comedians on 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:32.479 that show, and show was like one of the top 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:34.760 comedians that was always on because he always delivered, and 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.680 he was always funny and always sweet, and we had 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:41.279 a good repartee going all the time. You interpreted that 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:49.920 as a sexual flirtatious not gonna do this is exactly 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.120 for a really long time, honey, and the world had 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.840 a crush on you know, you had a very specific 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:00.080 crush on me. We had good chemistry. Our chemist, she 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.239 was amazing, Yes, and you thought that chemistry was sexual, 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:05.640 And never did I ever say that. I thought it 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:10.000 was comedic. Katherine, are you listening to this? Katherine's listening. 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.040 She's a producer. She has to listen, whether she wants 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:14.400 to or not. No, that's not how it went down. 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.719 We just had our chemistry was so good. Yes, that's 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:22.680 our banter was organic, It was genuine, and I think 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:25.600 the fans saw that. I think everyone knew that right 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:28.000 whenever I was on the panel, they knew that Chelsea 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:29.440 and I were going to go at it and it 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:32.360 was going to be fun. Yeah, it wasn't gonna be scripted, right, 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.320 But it was abusive on my end, very abusive. I 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:39.800 abused you. Hey, but you know what, that's what therapies for, therapy. 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.000 But what you mean you being on the show was 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.359 like therapy getting abused by me. No, no, going after 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:49.279 the show. I was going to therapy after the show 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.280 do but about ten years. But no, I was abusive 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:54.080 with him, But that's kind of it was fun. Well, 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:55.400 it was fun for you because you have a great 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:59.400 attitude about everything, honey, especially with regard to me. In retrospect, 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.760 I realized said it was abusive in a very schoolyard 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:06.080 playground kind of way, which when the girl has a 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:08.800 crush on the kid on the guy, and that's what 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.400 it was, just like had a crush. Okay, well okay, 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:13.680 I didn't know if I had a crush on you. 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:17.000 I didn't know about it. But if you believe that's true, 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:19.520 what's happened so far in our relationship is that Joe's 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:23.279 version of things eventually becomes my version of things because 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:27.040 I eventually capitulate And wait, are you saying I'm manipulating you? 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:30.839 Is peple? You have a narrative which is always positive 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.880 sunshine and roses and that eventually I just get on 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:36.720 board with your narrative. And I tell Katherine, what you 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:39.560 think I did? This was a plan, Okay, let me 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:44.800 tell you there's an outline to this eighteen year strategy 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:48.599 that I've done. This was all strategically planned, put together 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:52.240 a timeline. Joe had a vision board, okay, and he 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.320 had and then he manifested all of this exactly. And 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:56.920 so there was a trip to Hawaii and then there 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:00.080 was a picture of Chelsea right next to it. So 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.320 let's just say the trip to Hawaii crossed out eighteen 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:08.880 years ago. I'll tell you my version of it because 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:11.800 it's really cute. And and again, I just want women 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.720 to understand, like if I fell in love with somebody 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:16.680 and I and I feel this way and I'm so 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.840 excited and like committed and devoted, then I really do 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.600 believe that there is a lid for every pot, and 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.440 that that's not the most romantic way to frame it, 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.680 but I do believe that like women shouldn't ever. First 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:30.800 of all, you should never be desperate about meeting somebody, 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:33.320 because that's not how you meet somebody. You should just 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:36.480 make sure you're keeping your eyes open with a the 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:38.800 people who are already in your life and be the 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:41.080 people that you may not look at that way or 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.520 think of that way, but you do really have a 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:47.240 lot of respect and caring for because those feelings can 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:49.320 develop it to something else. And I thought for sure 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:52.559 that would never happen to me because truthfully, I felt 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.600 like you were like, you know, brother energy, Which is 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:58.160 funny because you do have my brother's energy, my brother 0:07:58.200 --> 0:07:59.680 that passed away. You have a lot. He is a 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.280 lot of similar qualities that my brother had. So in 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.400 many ways, like I just feel so completely safe and 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:08.320 I feel like, oh, this is family. Like I I've 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:10.760 always felt that way about you, that your family. I 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.680 just didn't want to suck you before. But so what 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.720 happened was so Joe had a book called Mixed Plate 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:20.960 that was being released before the pandemic, right right before 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:25.360 the pandemic. Yeah, so bad timing, actually bad timing. So 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.720 please get yourself a copy of Mixed Plate, okay, and 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:29.440 then send it to us and we'll both sign it. 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.360 And he asked me for a blurb, right, He texted me, 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:36.000 I hadn't heard from you in years, right, years? Years? 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:39.000 I said, of course, and he sent me the book 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:41.760 and read it in a day, like she always does 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:46.880 with books. She has a library stored inside her brain. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:50.440 And that's the truth. You always have a different book 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.320 with you and like the next day it's like another book, 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:55.400 another you'd ripped through. I did a quote that Bert 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:58.880 Chrisher sent me a quote, right, just like this motivating, 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:02.560 motivational quote. You know, you don't do quote, you read 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:06.480 a quote. Just let me finish this, okay, and then 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:08.560 you'll be right for the rest of the show. Okay, okay. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.520 And then so he sent me this quote. I read 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:14.599 it to Chelsea and then she knew exactly who the 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:17.000 quote was from. And it's just like that stats who 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:19.960 Chelsea is? Mary Anne Williamson. It was a Mary Anne 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:22.680 Williamson quote, and you know she I read it, and 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:24.320 by the way, the way I read is not good, 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:27.199 So for her it's not understanding what I was saying. 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:30.240 If anyone in this relationship is going to read something, 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:33.040 it's going to be me. Hey, han, I already already 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:36.160 told the world I can't read. Okay, you don't have to. 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:38.680 You have so many other childs you can read. Just 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:42.480 you know, yeah, you can not. Well, that's not Yeah, 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:47.280 it's well, actually that was good. Well anyway, back to 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:51.520 my literacy, but no, and then I asked her for 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.120 the quote and then she goes, Okay, I'm gonna write 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:57.400 this for you. Excellent. Yeah, she wrote this amazing quote. 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:00.840 And then he texted me and he said, can I 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:02.839 call you? And I said, not if you're going to 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:04.920 hit on me? Do you tell what I really said? 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:07.440 You said, because you go, I go, can I text you? 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:09.400 And then you go, not if you're trying to fuck me? 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:14.199 And then I go, God, Chelsea, do you think everyone 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:17.480 just wants to funk you something like that? I don't 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:19.400 think you wrote that, but you said, God Chelsea, And 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:25.320 of course you know I have stood good go through 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.160 our text chains for the and finding that one. Okay, 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:33.640 any anyway, so then we started talking. You started calling me, 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:36.600 and then you came over to my old house one night. 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:38.760 We hung out. We got stoned, and we laughed on 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.720 my couch. But it was COVID times, so we definitely 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:45.280 kept our distance until we hugged. Well we hugged, but 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.400 we had masks on. So we hung out at my 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.280 house and we had a great time, really fun, right, 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:56.360 We laughed our asses. He bought me a product little person. 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.400 I said, you could take that right back, because I mean, 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:01.400 you know, I'm not going to wear a purse that 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.600 says product on it. I don't like labels like that. 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:06.240 And you were offended, of course, But we had a 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:10.360 fun time anyway. And then I went to Whistler for 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.880 three four months and then we faced times all the 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.240 time because you were up my ass. Well, I was 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:19.439 in Whistler and you were so excited about my skiing 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:23.120 and you were jealous of the skiing, right, and yeah, 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.439 he's skied and then he's skied in Vegas, so that's 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:29.720 a different kind of skiing. But skiing it's snow and 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:36.080 then there's okay, so it's skiing difference. What am I 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:40.600 skiing down sand dunes? I don't know, are you? But 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:47.719 it's an indoor skiing in Minnesota. It's it's not, No, 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.920 it's outdoor. It's on a mountain. You thought was that 0:11:52.000 --> 0:12:00.960 cir circus just going down black Diamonds. Anyway, that happened, 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:03.160 and then you sent me a bunch of flannels which 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:06.000 were really cute because my brother chat that I talked 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:08.280 about in my book, and we've talked about on this podcast. 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:11.360 Used to wear flannels all the time, and even when 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:13.440 he passed away, I remember I would go into his 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:15.880 closet and he had this like curtain in his closet 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:18.280 and I would go in there and just smell all 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:20.960 his shirts because his smell never really went away. And 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.040 then Joe wears flannels all the time. But I never 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:25.520 really made that connection. But there is very something warmth 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.000 warming to me about a man in a flannel. Her 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:30.400 compliments always came to me, and I didn't realize it 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:34.360 until like later when we started getting serious. But every 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:37.439 time I put on a flannel, she would always compliment me. Yeah, 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.680 she'll be a whistler and I'll be in Vegas and 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.720 I'd have my flannel ones and she goes, oh, you 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:48.360 look good in that flannel. You should wear flannels more 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:52.720 more often. But we were just friends talking. Yeah, yeah, 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.360 but you were in love with me at that point, 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.800 probably right, did you? Were you? Honey, tell the truth. 0:12:57.840 --> 0:12:59.240 You can tell the truth. I mean, we're just doing 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:03.560 a podcast. I mean, of who wouldn't, well, a lot 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:07.000 of people wouldn't, but you, you know, I've always loved 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:16.840 You're so cute. I told you, Yeah, of course, you know. 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.200 And one thing that I treasure the most with Chelsea 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.600 is her friendship because she's such When when you get 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:24.120 Chelsea to be your friend, it's going to be the 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.760 most solid friend you'll ever have. So you want to 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.320 secure that, you know. So I always wanted to make 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:33.480 sure that she was happy, and and I just wanted 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.080 to secure our friendship because I loved it so much, 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.439 so I didn't want to do anything wrong. Yeah, you 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:42.800 want to spoil the friendship, Yeah, because I'd rather have 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:46.920 her with me as a friend forever than trying to 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.000 make something happen for a weekend. That's not worth it 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:52.120 to me. What was it that pushed you kind of 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:56.120 over the edge into romantic feelings? That's when she roofed me. 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:00.439 Would never waste roof you had an other person. I 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.360 would only give that to myself. Yeah, it's when she 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:07.959 roofied herself. I was in Whistler for three months. Then 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:11.040 he was coming to Vancouver because Steven Spielberg saw Coming 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:14.199 in Hot on Netflix, one of his three specials on Netflix, 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:18.040 and he gave him a movie called Easter Sunday, which 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:21.840 comes out next year April one, which is fucking awesome. 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:24.200 So he I was in Vancouver, but it was at 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:26.280 the height of COVID, so nobody could come in and out. 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:28.640 So even though he was going to come and ski 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:31.280 if he could, we couldn't do that. So then he 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.360 was filming his movie and he's like, oh, come down, 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:35.000 you can have a role in the movie. And I 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.080 was like, Oh, that would be so much fun. But 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:40.520 it didn't work out because I was leaving Whistler and 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:42.400 then I would have had to come back to Vancouver 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:45.360 where he was shooting his movie and quarantined for another 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.600 two weeks. And at that point I was quarantined out 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.840 and we weren't in love yet, so I didn't She 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.440 wasn't willing to do that until I didn't. Yeah, but 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:55.160 I'll regret that because the movie is going to be 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:57.200 so awesome and I saw the trailer and he's seen 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.280 the movie and it's gonna be awesome, and Tiffany Hattis 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.720 is also in it and a bunch of other and 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:05.080 it's just a great representation of Filipinos and it's fucking 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:07.440 funny and it's got heart and all of the things. 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.800 So then I didn't do that movie. So we didn't 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:12.840 see each other for about four months other than face time, right, 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.640 and then we started hanging out when we were home. 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:18.000 But yeah, I guess it was very organic. I remember 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:19.960 the minute we both got to l A, we were like, 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:22.280 let's go to dinner. You picked me up at one, 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.440 and then that would turn into like a seven hour 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.480 margarita festival. I don't know if you know this, Catherine, 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:30.120 but before she was dating me, bed time for Chelsea 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:34.840 was five forty in the afternoon, so she was done 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:39.720 at Jamas at six, seven at seven, and then New 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:43.400 York times at four am and then starts again. Yeah. 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:44.960 I went through a phase where I went to bat 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.520 it around eight and woke up at around five, and 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:51.480 that lasted through all of ski season. And then when 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:53.800 I came home for a little bit, then I started 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:56.240 hanging out with you, and that changed my schedule. I 0:15:56.240 --> 0:16:00.400 went from lunch to like lunch to coffee, and then 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:02.800 lunch coffee, what are we having for dinner? And then 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:06.760 it went from lunch coffee, dinner to let's have a 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:11.080 drink and now at midnight. Yeah, now we're just spending 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.320 time with each other and I go to bed. Now 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:14.880 at what time do we go to bed? Last night 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:19.360 at three o'clock in the morning. That's a real radical shift. Yeah, 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:22.280 no kidding. So there's not a lot of compromise going on. 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:24.960 It just feels like I'm adapting. I just want to 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:27.040 tell everybody that I traveled on a tour bus this 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.680 week and we flew to New York. We took a 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:34.400 tour bus with seven other guys. I love you. I 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:37.520 have a great crew, Katherine. I really do have a 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:41.080 great crew. Like we're we're a team, like legit a team. 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.280 We all have great roles. And I can't do anything 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:47.120 without these guys. I really can't. They're all great. Yeah, 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:49.400 they are good, and they're not assholes and they're not 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:53.320 BROI They're just all good human beings. The point being 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.080 is that I slept on a tour bus for you, 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.200 which is something that I hoped that would never happen 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.280 to She said that to me, She goes, oh, yeah, 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:03.240 tour bus not gonna work. Yeah. Everything I've told him 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:06.240 that I wasn't gonna do, I've done. And now I 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.160 guess what she said yesterday, Katherine that she goes, I'll 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:11.879 just leave this shirt here and the shoes on the bus. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:16.680 So now she has her own closet on the bush. Yeah, 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:19.720 and so that's the story, baby, Yeah, it was. It 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.600 was kind of cool how you didn't answer Katherine's question though, 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:24.960 So when did you? You said organically, but you never 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:27.280 gave a straight answer. But when you started having romantic 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:32.280 feelings towards me, well, I mean other than always having them. 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.240 I had to make the first move because I knew 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.560 Joe respected me too much and was never going to 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:41.680 do anything. We'll tell her what happened in Vegas? Well, yeah, 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:47.359 Vegas is when I was like I would love yeah, yeah, 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:50.720 because you know, she was beautiful on stage. I was 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:53.040 performing at the Mirage and he came to see me, 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.160 and we had been hanging out all that whole week, 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:58.000 and every day was just like a romantic comedy, watching 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.919 people like frolic around Santa Mat come and knock on 0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:07.200 our door and then been waiting for you. And did 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:11.840 you hear that Harmony thinks I can sing a dance. 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:13.480 That's how much he loves me. He can't even see 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:19.119 me clearly or hear me clearly. Um he uh. It 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:21.360 was after a lot of hanging out and a lot 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.119 of really fun times, like we would just laugh our 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:26.879 asses off and be silly and stupid, and you know, 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:29.320 end up at the pier playing air hockey or in 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:32.040 my house playing ping pong, or how about you getting 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:35.720 a little hammered. Yeah, and then not having a house key, 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:38.560 right right? Oh that was good one night. And then 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:40.880 you tell me that you left the purse. We heard 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:44.560 that story. I think I've told that story repeated. Yeah, 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:46.440 I think I did. I think that was a very 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:51.040 story pivotal moment right there. Pivotal, Yeah, why because that 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.760 was a night where you know, like I didn't know 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:56.560 what was going on with you. I dropped you off. 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.399 I thought you had a key. I saw you like 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:02.480 I always sure someone gets to the door. I always 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:05.399 do that and the door. No, but I saw you 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:07.359 go to the door. So then when I saw her 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.760 go to the door, she's got a bunch of trees 0:19:09.800 --> 0:19:11.400 by the way, so I saw a silhouette of her 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:14.520 going to the door. And then so I hurried up 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:16.159 because I had to hurry up and get back to 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:18.240 Santa Monica before the bar closed, because she said I 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:22.320 left my purse there. So I just hurried up, raced 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:24.760 over to Santa Monica, and as I'm going there, she goes, 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:27.200 where's my key? I'm like, what do you mean, where's 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:30.040 your key? And she goes I'm locked out. I'm like, 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:32.040 oh my god, let me go get your person. I'll 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:35.600 be back. So I went look for the She didn't 0:19:35.640 --> 0:19:38.520 tell you this part, did she? Well, I'm looking for 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:40.720 the first for an hour, asking a bunch of people 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:44.239 if they stole her purse, asking security, I go, you were, 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:45.760 And then there was a group of people that were 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:47.680 sitting at the booth next to us, and then when 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:50.000 we left, now they're sitting at our booth. So I'm 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:52.280 now I'm like, did you guys see a purse here? 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:54.399 Because she said she left her purse here, and then 0:19:54.440 --> 0:19:56.040 no one said they had the purse. So I'm just 0:19:56.080 --> 0:19:58.919 like being a detective at this place. And finally I 0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:01.959 just left. Now I'm calling her. She's not picking up 0:20:01.960 --> 0:20:04.040 the phone. So now I think she got into the house. 0:20:04.040 --> 0:20:05.520 But I don't know if she got into the house. 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:07.960 I kept calling her and calling her and texting or 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:11.680 texting her room. Nope, nope, See she didn't tell that. 0:20:12.000 --> 0:20:14.760 She didn't tell the story. I went home and got 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:20.200 my son because I left my son. I loved my 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:23.600 son's been waiting for he's he wanted to like go 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:25.280 out to eat or something. So I went home and 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:27.240 got my son. The minute I pulled up and go, hey, man, 0:20:27.960 --> 0:20:31.199 I think Chelsea's outside of her house and she's not 0:20:31.240 --> 0:20:33.560 picking up the phone. I went to go get her purse. 0:20:33.640 --> 0:20:35.840 She said she didn't have a key. I don't know 0:20:35.880 --> 0:20:37.919 if she got her key, but she's not answering. My 0:20:37.960 --> 0:20:40.440