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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone today for our first day
Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Shana.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she
Speaker 2: tells us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. First, Ryan, how long has it been has
Speaker 2: you heard from Shana?
Speaker 3: It's been about three days now, three days. I know
Speaker 3: that doesn't feel like a long time, but after like
Speaker 3: our day, it feels like forever because she was responding
Speaker 3: so much before.
Speaker 4: You know, Okay, why don't you tell us about the
Speaker 4: day and how you met her and stuff.
Speaker 5: Cool.
Speaker 3: So we met during a pub pro It was fun.
Speaker 3: She wasn't out very long, but like I got her
Speaker 3: number before she left, and we thought that, like we
Speaker 3: talked about him, would like we'll have a proper date.
Speaker 3: There's this little pocket of the city that has a park,
Speaker 3: one of my favorite pizza places, and like an ice
Speaker 3: cream spot next door. So I was thinking, like that
Speaker 3: might be actually a really fun date. We get multiple venues,
Speaker 3: a little extra time depending on how well it goes,
Speaker 3: you know. Then I found out there was a band
Speaker 3: performing at the pizza place one of the nights, so
Speaker 3: I asked her out for that and she said yes,
Speaker 3: and like it was such a great vibe. We had pizza,
Speaker 3: we had drinks, We laughed so much, like you know
Speaker 3: when your stomach actually hurts from laughing. Yeah, and then
Speaker 3: we ended the night with like we both didn't want
Speaker 3: to really go home, so we went and we did
Speaker 3: get the ice cream and we had a really nice
Speaker 3: kiss at the end.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Had like so much fun with her, and I feel
Speaker 3: like there's a little bit of mystery to her and
Speaker 3: I really want to get to know her more. She's like, guys,
Speaker 3: she's like so pretty. Like I just couldn't get enough.
Speaker 2: Well, what do you think happened? It sounds like it
Speaker 2: was so sweet.
Speaker 3: I made a joke, and sometimes jokes don't always come
Speaker 3: across when you're nervous. She had dropped something on the floor,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I noticed that my shoes were
Speaker 3: in time. Mother, won't you just tie my shoes while
Speaker 3: you're down there? And like I was just.
Speaker 2: Not gonna lie, Yeah, hey, tie my shoes and make
Speaker 2: me food like that? Oh no, just might be it.
Speaker 2: What did she do though? When we were like, tie
Speaker 2: my shoes.
Speaker 3: Actually tied my shoes, and I was like, no, actually
Speaker 3: did yeah she does?
Speaker 2: She laugh? Does you were serious?
Speaker 3: I was not serious whatsoever. And at the time I
Speaker 3: didn't really think it was a big deal because it
Speaker 3: kind of felt like playful, like she was like here done,
Speaker 3: you know. But then when I told my buddies about it,
Speaker 3: they couldn't stop like making fun of me. And I
Speaker 3: genuinely feel that because it's just one of those things,
Speaker 3: you know, like when we're nervous, we're out with somebody
Speaker 3: that we like, we sometimes say stupid stuff. And I'm
Speaker 3: not that guy who would be like, you know, like
Speaker 3: you were saying, like tie my shoes and make me
Speaker 3: a sandwich. That's not me.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 3: It is genuinely a bad joke, and that's all it was.
Speaker 3: But now it's been three days and it feels pretty
Speaker 3: glatant because she was always responding like right away. Like
Speaker 3: I would text her, I would think about like what
Speaker 3: to say, and I text her. I'd spend like twenty
Speaker 3: minutes and then morein like thirty seconds, she'd be back
Speaker 3: with my ten texts. And now it's just been nothing.
Speaker 4: I mean, you know what Jubil always says. Though Jubil
Speaker 4: always says, it's all about the delivery. So if you
Speaker 4: thought you were being funny, but if it didn't deliver.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you, guys. I'm with you, guys. I
Speaker 3: wish I could go back and change you know what.
Speaker 3: She kissed you afterwards, a really nice long kiss too,
Speaker 3: where I was like, Okay, she's feeling the connection too.
Speaker 2: Did it seem like she wanted to kiss you or
Speaker 2: where did you also go? And now give me a kiss?
Speaker 6: No, there's your reward now, I'm playing, sweet thing, and
Speaker 6: your jokes are funny.
Speaker 3: Consent is my move? Is I always say, can I
Speaker 3: kiss you?
Speaker 7: That's my move?
Speaker 3: And she smiled and she was like yeah, and she
Speaker 3: pulled me in okay, and like the last thing that
Speaker 3: I actually texted her was actually like that. I was
Speaker 3: thinking about her and then I couldn't wait for the
Speaker 3: next date to kiss her again and nothing.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about you because my shooters came on time. Sorry,
Speaker 2: I couldn't help it. All right, man, we'll figure it
Speaker 2: out for you. We'll play a song, come back and
Speaker 2: then call her and see if she'll tell us why
Speaker 2: she's ghosting you. Okay, I'm good. All right, place, I'll
Speaker 2: come back here your first day follow up next. Right
Speaker 2: in the middle of today's first day follow up if
Speaker 2: you're just joining us, Ryan is on the phone and
Speaker 2: he's getting ghosted by Shana. So we're about to call
Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting
Speaker 2: him and maybe get him another date. But real quick, Ryan,
Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Shana.
Speaker 3: We met during a pop crawl. We ended up going
Speaker 3: to on a separate night pizza, ice cream, there's a
Speaker 3: live band. Had a great kiss. I made a bad
Speaker 3: joke asking her to tie my shoes. She actually did it,
Speaker 3: And now I think I might have lost an amazing
Speaker 3: opportunity to get to know someone really cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you liked her a lot, right, I did.
Speaker 3: She's so pretty. It's crazy and cool and fun and smart.
Speaker 2: Sound Yeah all right, man? You ready for us to
Speaker 2: call her?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 3: Please?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, Ma, speak to Shana. Please,
Speaker 2: Hey Shana, how are you? My name is Jewbell, and
Speaker 2: I host the radio show. It's called The Jebel Show. Hi, Shana,
Speaker 2: the whole shows. Here. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. How
Speaker 2: are you Okay? This is joke. No, it's not. Have
Speaker 2: you ever heard the show before?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm on the radio.
Speaker 2: Yes you are. We're actually calling you because we do
Speaker 2: a segment called the First Aid follow Up. So if
Speaker 2: you go out on date with somebody and you end
Speaker 2: up ghosting them, they can email us to get you
Speaker 2: on the phone and ask why. And you're currently ghosting somebody,
Speaker 2: they like you a lot and they don't know why
Speaker 2: they're getting ghosted. Okay, any idea who that would be?
Speaker 5: I'm thinking maybe Ryan?
Speaker 2: Is that right?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 5: Gosh?
Speaker 2: Okay telling us why you're ghosting him.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know this might sound ironically that I'm
Speaker 1: being get picky about him, because basically I'm ghosting him
Speaker 1: because he kept picking on me about how I eat
Speaker 1: my ice cream.
Speaker 2: Picky about how you eat your ice cream.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I mean, I know it's weird that I
Speaker 1: like caramel on strawberry ice cream, but he started calling
Speaker 1: me a psychopath, and he just you know, he wasn't
Speaker 1: letting go of it, and I was like, I.
Speaker 5: Know, it's weird. But then he started commenting how I
Speaker 5: hold the cone, and then he started making jokes about
Speaker 5: like I don't know, just other things like being picked
Speaker 5: with me.
Speaker 2: Was he joking?
Speaker 1: I don't think so, but like, I don't know, it
Speaker 1: was like I just, you know, like I take paramel
Speaker 1: and he says it's caramel, and it's just all started
Speaker 1: to be a little bit too much, and it just
Speaker 1: didn't feel like the kind of guy I want to
Speaker 1: spend so much time with.
Speaker 2: Okay, so he felt like he was ripping on you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the whole night he's pouring my pigtails, you know,
Speaker 1: And I just I just want to have peace with
Speaker 1: somebody on the date.
Speaker 2: You know, you kissed him after though he told us that.
Speaker 1: I did, because he's really cute and he's really nice,
Speaker 1: and I know he's really trying. But you know, I
Speaker 1: just I don't know if I want to sign up
Speaker 1: exactly for another night of that.
Speaker 5: But being picked on the whole.
Speaker 3: Time, Ye does that makes sense?
Speaker 5: Like I just I know that. And I don't mean
Speaker 5: to be a ghoster because it's.
Speaker 1: No fun, you know, But I'm just like, oh god,
Speaker 1: I just don't want to be criticized. And I don't know,
Speaker 1: I moved around a lot as a kid, and I
Speaker 1: was really shy and a little insecure and I'm I'm
Speaker 1: trying to get over that, but it's just it just.
Speaker 5: Takes it just kind of ruins the night. A little bit.
Speaker 2: Constant picking can be a little triggering. I get that. Yeah, well,
Speaker 2: thank you for being honest with us, and now I
Speaker 2: have to be honest with you. Ryan is actually on
Speaker 2: the phone. Listen.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Okay, okay, Hi Ryan, Hi, Okay. So, first, sorry, I
Speaker 8: didn't realize that I was doing that, But also I'm
Speaker 8: hugely relieved that it wasn't the shoe tying thing, because
Speaker 8: I was so afraid that you thought I was this
Speaker 8: one guy who's just like time of shoes, Get me
Speaker 8: a sandwich, go do.
Speaker 3: This where I was just nervous because I was just
Speaker 3: joking about that. By the way, the shoe thing, I'm like.
Speaker 5: I got the joke. I got the joke. I didn't
Speaker 5: love it, but I wouldn't ghost you over it.
Speaker 3: Okay, thanks, but I'm sorry. I am so used to
Speaker 3: hanging out with my buddies and all we do is
Speaker 3: roast each other, and I guess that's been affecting me
Speaker 3: so much that I didn't realize that I was doing
Speaker 3: it too much. I honestly think it's so cute the
Speaker 3: way that you were holding your cone and the way
Speaker 3: that you pronounce words. I am just you know, sorry,
Speaker 3: that's not the experience. I wanted you to have a
Speaker 3: bad one. But I will say this, with dating, sometimes
Speaker 3: you write people off so quickly and communication. You're such
Speaker 3: a great communicator, Like thank you for telling me through
Speaker 3: the radio about what I did wrong. Like I would
Speaker 3: be willing to work on that, you know, like I'll
Speaker 3: lock it up no roasting if you were to go
Speaker 3: out with me again, and if I do, and then
Speaker 3: make sure compile to just call it out. Yeah, yeah, okay, exactly.
Speaker 1: And I know, I know I have like weird little
Speaker 1: habits and it's caramel and I know I hold my
Speaker 1: cone funny and all that.
Speaker 3: It's what makes you you. I think it's lovely.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 3: I was just nervous trying to make jokes and trying
Speaker 3: to make sure you have an extra good time and
Speaker 3: then doing so, I kind of messed up. And I'm
Speaker 3: sorry you thought that.
Speaker 5: No, no, I would think it.
Speaker 3: You know, I might have gone too far, But honestly,
Speaker 3: like you haven't even seen a real psychopath until you
Speaker 3: see me eat hot dogs.
Speaker 7: You can always you know, that's what everybody says. You know,
Speaker 7: everybody says. I just love some meat, all right.
Speaker 2: With Ryan again? And maybe eat a hot dog and
Speaker 2: watch how much he loves me. Eat another day.
Speaker 5: I mean, I just.
Speaker 1: Want you to be like I do, get jokes, and
Speaker 1: I know I'm a little sensitive, and I just I
Speaker 1: don't think I'll handle the constant clowning around very well,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 3: But I mean, no more clowns, no more clowning. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna show up in my super high.
Speaker 1: But I still like you to be I don't want
Speaker 1: someone to not be themselves around me too, you know.
Speaker 1: But I mean, you're so nice and you're so lovely,
Speaker 1: and to go try to contact me to a radio station.
Speaker 5: I mean, nobody's ever done that for me before.
Speaker 1: So I mean, I know you put so much effort
Speaker 1: into finding all those really fun places and.
Speaker 2: On all that.
Speaker 5: So I mean, yeah, let's go on another date. Let's
Speaker 5: give it a shot.
Speaker 2: Sweet Yay, Congratulations Ryan, you got another date.
Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank.
Speaker 3: You guys for making it possible, and thank you Shane
Speaker 3: and Hi. You won't regret it, and if you do,
Speaker 3: you can roast me right back.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I will make fun of you and the way
Speaker 5: you eat hot boggs.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, it's it's really weird. You gotta see it.
Speaker 3: I know you will have.
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, it's really bad.
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