WEBVTT - Ep. 5 "Hoe'ing Doesn't Heal"  feat KasFacts

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<v Speaker 1>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion too

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<v Speaker 1>talked Back. Thank you guys for tuning in for a

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<v Speaker 1>new episode of We Talked Back. It's your girl a

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<v Speaker 1>j Hey, y'alls, Tim Bam, I missed you. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>voice you want to use. Hey, y'all, Hey y'all, Hey y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Do how y'all Valentine's davin? All right? We want to

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<v Speaker 1>know email us tell me how you did that? Gone

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<v Speaker 1>four thousand over the weekend for a teddy bear? How's

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<v Speaker 1>your Valentine's? My Valentine's was good. I spent it in St. Thomas.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the first time on to St. Thomas. Is a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful island. We smoked it like weed because it's damned illegal.

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<v Speaker 1>Next is smoking weed at the airport. Bitch. He was

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<v Speaker 1>looking all like sun kiss and stuff. Girl was all out.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, let this big. Ain't she's shaking them

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<v Speaker 1>in the microphone y'all for y'all. Yeah, haven't got I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't got no titties for that. He's gonna be stabbing

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<v Speaker 1>me in my teeth in the summertime. You know, my

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<v Speaker 1>titty is used to really stink, and they just don't

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<v Speaker 1>know more like, so I ordering under these titties and

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<v Speaker 1>between them and underneath them. That's how that's a sign

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<v Speaker 1>you got a big because mine don't like cup under it.

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<v Speaker 1>Tempoo's our black history batty for the week. Our Black

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<v Speaker 1>history batty this week is Bessie string Field. She was

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<v Speaker 1>a badass bit since rode her motorcycle all over the

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<v Speaker 1>United States in the nineteen thirties, and since was only

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen years old. Now this is during the time where

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<v Speaker 1>streets weren't paved, there were dirt rolls, that there were

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<v Speaker 1>rolls at all. She had to face oppression and prejudice

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<v Speaker 1>based on being black and a woman. But she said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what funk that, I'm gonna do what I

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<v Speaker 1>wanna do, and what I wanna do is robing my god,

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<v Speaker 1>damn Harley. She lived by a simple credo. What I

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<v Speaker 1>did was fun and I loved it. She would navigate

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<v Speaker 1>through all these different challenges, like there wouldn't be places

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<v Speaker 1>for her to stay at night, and she would sleep

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<v Speaker 1>on the back of her bike and her jacket would

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<v Speaker 1>be her pillow. She would sleep at gas stations because

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<v Speaker 1>they wouldn't let her sleep in hotels or nothing. Since

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<v Speaker 1>got married six times she was not playing like all right,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you yes. And then she also eventually became like

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<v Speaker 1>a dispatcher for the army, so she would use her

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<v Speaker 1>bike and dispatched messages from base to base on her bike. So,

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<v Speaker 1>Bessie string Field, you were a battie who talked back.

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<v Speaker 1>We salute you and we celebrate you since. So let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell y'all what happened without Nika. It was so

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<v Speaker 1>cold and without I. But I, you know, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to stick to my guns and do what I say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do. So when outside my building, right across

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<v Speaker 1>the street of some houses, and I went to the

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<v Speaker 1>very first house, there was a white house, and I

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<v Speaker 1>thought about Donald Trump in the White House, and I

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<v Speaker 1>got angry. So I walked up to the house and

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<v Speaker 1>I just and I took off, running fast as I could.

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<v Speaker 1>And then this little agent lady right now, he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>what the funny are you're doing? She had a knife.

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<v Speaker 1>She started running behind me, and it was so crazy

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<v Speaker 1>that like, so I ran through the gate. I know

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<v Speaker 1>your mom used to beat your ask for line. What

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<v Speaker 1>are you talking about? He may have that big collaborator

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<v Speaker 1>story that quet that's good you up, because I was

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<v Speaker 1>about to tell you red oh finished, finish, please finish.

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<v Speaker 1>So she ran behind me. She had the knife like this,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, she had a pointing down so she

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<v Speaker 1>was like running with it. Accident was moving fast. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was gone. I was looking back, but I was running.

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<v Speaker 1>She stabbed herself in the thigh and she's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. So I came back because I felt bad

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<v Speaker 1>for her because I started to shoot with her. So

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<v Speaker 1>I came back and then I called. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>that went where I need help? This Asian lady stabbed herself,

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<v Speaker 1>So ambulade came. The amblams came and picked her up.

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<v Speaker 1>When we her to the hospital, her husband came met

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<v Speaker 1>me there, gave me reward money for helping her. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I bought the food that the spirits that

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<v Speaker 1>we ate it. What the bitch da how she gave

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<v Speaker 1>me likes. You are an amazing storyteller. That's quick off

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<v Speaker 1>the dome with the lives. Yeah, I didn't go. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>trust this bitch. That was too cold. I didn't go

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<v Speaker 1>out there. I stayed in the house and watched Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I watched that movie Judas and the Black Messiah Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I was in here pacing the floor, mad as hell.

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<v Speaker 1>What you want to do, We'll be a nigga knocking

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<v Speaker 1>fights and white people. I want to fight some black people. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't see it, so I want to. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was like this one nigga who just was always one nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>I always want juice. There's always one nigga, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I wanted to fight white people today. The

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<v Speaker 1>way they killed Fred Hampton, it's just they shot him up.

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<v Speaker 1>They shot up his bedroom with him and his his baby. Mama.

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<v Speaker 1>She know she she got shot though. She took she

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<v Speaker 1>took it. You know. I can't watch movies like that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I gotta really brace myself and really like it

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<v Speaker 1>stirs my soul and I feel like a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>it is just like to get us riled up, and

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<v Speaker 1>y'all niggas ain't gonna do it anyway. From I'm an

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<v Speaker 1>organizer that I am. Yeah, I want to organize the

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<v Speaker 1>real niggas, right, that's where real nigger. But you need

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<v Speaker 1>soldiers and you need organizers, and you need people that

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<v Speaker 1>just be on the back lines just doing making sure

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<v Speaker 1>she is situated because I can't be in the front

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<v Speaker 1>with the guns. I don't think I'm that woman. You

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<v Speaker 1>come to my house now, I'm gonna be at the

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<v Speaker 1>front with the guns. Yea, at your house. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>in the march down the street, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>if marching is really like it. Don't do nothing with that.

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<v Speaker 1>White people only respect, disrespect and money, nuns and if

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<v Speaker 1>they feel slighted any type of way, this country will

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<v Speaker 1>feel it. But for whatever reason, we can continuously, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just get spit in the face and we keep marching.

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<v Speaker 1>Our leader has gone down. Anytime we like build super

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<v Speaker 1>infrastructure like Tolsa, Oklahoma, they destroy it. Like it's just

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<v Speaker 1>countless times where we've tried to rise up and it

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<v Speaker 1>has just been completely destroyed. We have great leaders. They

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<v Speaker 1>take them from us, but we helped them times oftentimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Again there's a judas who helps take our great people down. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because a lot of times everybody wants to be the

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<v Speaker 1>chief Indians. You have to be an Indian. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>are born chief, some people are born leaders to be

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<v Speaker 1>that way. Yes, everybody isn't born that way, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's what creates a hater. They just can't be who

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<v Speaker 1>that nigga is because I couldn't be a safe Thomas

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend. Now she's bloting to see my fucking bracelet,

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<v Speaker 1>and I sleep. She got this cute bracelet on, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>and she spending the night. I'm gonna get her drunk

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<v Speaker 1>a little costume jewelry. It's so cute, though, Why you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't buy me one when you bought it. I know

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that type of friend. I always I want

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<v Speaker 1>to try to be that friend, y'all by just be

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<v Speaker 1>so sweet, may just be so sweet. I'm just not

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<v Speaker 1>that thoughtful. I don't even be thinking like maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>am a little bit selfish. I'm gonna work on that.

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<v Speaker 1>The next time you go into t J Max and

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<v Speaker 1>you see a cute little bracelet like that, you got it, friends,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna work on that. Now. I got to send

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<v Speaker 1>all my friends so cute ship, because I ship. Tammy

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<v Speaker 1>always got like a light, a little cute, little thoughtful

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<v Speaker 1>little book to write some And here's a grand book

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<v Speaker 1>I bought for you. It right down everything you're grateful for.

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<v Speaker 1>I did one time and never again, not again, because

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<v Speaker 1>one day I just meditated and I just came to

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, you know what the book was there?

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<v Speaker 1>I wrote some stuff down and that was speaking of

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<v Speaker 1>meditation session. Um well, not necessarily meditation manifestation. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>see what's been going around VI Simone the video she

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<v Speaker 1>made and went viral, and she was like, basically, be

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<v Speaker 1>the nigga you want, Like if you asking for a

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<v Speaker 1>man that has all these different qualities, you know, trying

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<v Speaker 1>to fulfill those qualities in yourself. Absolutely, I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>understand why, because it forces you to have self accountability.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't say anything wrong, you know what I'm saying. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>and you talk to your mama and U right, you

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<v Speaker 1>got other people in your life not that thing too,

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<v Speaker 1>or you're not that thing to yourself. Most importantly, I

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<v Speaker 1>agree with her. I want to talk to her about

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<v Speaker 1>it because she got a new nigger. Right, Yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 1>looking really good and happy and look they're just gett

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<v Speaker 1>a new nigga. Now it's like different on the on

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<v Speaker 1>the single Home Girls. That's why them just mad you

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<v Speaker 1>you wait till you got a nigga. Now you telling

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<v Speaker 1>us why we ain't got a nigga. That's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>That's but that I think that's an old video. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just going it's recirculating. You are who you beat, so

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<v Speaker 1>all right, there's a lot of women who would be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I never had a good man. All these niggas ain't ship.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just just not true. If every man you suck

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<v Speaker 1>with ain't ship, chances are you probably ain't. Yes, you're attracting,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like I mean, I've attracted plenty men

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<v Speaker 1>that were shipped. I just didn't like them, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I struggled to struggle relationship with somebody else to

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<v Speaker 1>get them to be like these people I had. I

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<v Speaker 1>think my issue and I need to unpack and I

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<v Speaker 1>need to discover what's wrong with me. Is I love

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<v Speaker 1>men that are unattainable for whatever reason. I body's husband,

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<v Speaker 1>so you' y'all beat you shut up, Hey, but your

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend and they married. But yeah, I just like things

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<v Speaker 1>that I can't have for some reason. Or I like

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<v Speaker 1>men that are emotionally unavailable because maybe I'm it's a challenge.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why men women always want to try and fix

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<v Speaker 1>and ship. We're nurturing, nurturing. Yes, you get this. You're

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<v Speaker 1>in love with the thought of being in love or

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<v Speaker 1>having this person love you the same way that you

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<v Speaker 1>think you should be being loved. But you the problem

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<v Speaker 1>is you have to find somebody that has the same

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<v Speaker 1>definition of love as you do, because just because they

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<v Speaker 1>have somebody else and you may feel like you like

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<v Speaker 1>him because they're on the tentable. Maybe that's the type

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<v Speaker 1>of person every woman is going to get. He's never

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<v Speaker 1>going to be any different. That's he shows his love

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<v Speaker 1>that way to many different women. It's very well possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me, we'd be like just trying to get that

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<v Speaker 1>person to act, like how do you want them to act?

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<v Speaker 1>You're supposed to experience as soon as they act like that,

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<v Speaker 1>do you really want that man once the woman leaves him?

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<v Speaker 1>Like see friends, you meet a guy right and he

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<v Speaker 1>somehow either he tells you up front or you find

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<v Speaker 1>out later on, and he has an old lady, do

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<v Speaker 1>you really want him as his old lady leaves his ass?

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I know people that are in relationships that started

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<v Speaker 1>that way, though got a whole family. Would haven that

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<v Speaker 1>she took from another woman. I don't think he's taken

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<v Speaker 1>because well, he left, he was ready to go, because

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<v Speaker 1>the home record is the motherfucker's in the home. But

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time, I don't know if I would

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm like Olivia Polk, I like the unavailable. You fits,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what she's so fit to remember. You didn't watch,

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<v Speaker 1>But what is that? Maybe maybe that's something you may

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<v Speaker 1>be able to find out in therapy. I need to

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<v Speaker 1>see a therapist about that, because there's plenty of eligible

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<v Speaker 1>men that which I want to talk about this. Why

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<v Speaker 1>none of y'all nigga sent me no flowers? You love

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<v Speaker 1>me so much with my d M, but you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>send me no goddamn flowers? Did you? For some of them? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>I did, But let me tell you that the flowers

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<v Speaker 1>didn't come neither, will you, nigga? Keep it moving? You

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<v Speaker 1>know I'm fumbled the pussy and that's not Mary had

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<v Speaker 1>a little lambage because that's so small flowers. What sixty

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<v Speaker 1>dollars at the most that's a small gesture to flowers

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<v Speaker 1>is more than sixty dollars girls a nice ones. So now,

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<v Speaker 1>amongst celebrities, especially, gifting has become like a war. They

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<v Speaker 1>get on social media and they try to outdo each

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<v Speaker 1>other when it comes to gifts. I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>if it's about the person anymore. It's about making it

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<v Speaker 1>look good for the ground, that's all it is. Because

0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.320
<v Speaker 1>y'all gonna get that same dick. You don't get that

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<v Speaker 1>same pussy tonight. Y'all keep buying each other stuff, Yeah,

0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:03.319
<v Speaker 1>big stuff. Did you see Like there's the R and

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<v Speaker 1>the Future had like the matching uh necklaces. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>see that, just that. I mean it's cute. I try

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<v Speaker 1>Future trying to be a better man. No, he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>do that for all. I hope Laurie ran his ass

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<v Speaker 1>to death, and I hope she really about it. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, now, yeah, let me go get me

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<v Speaker 1>a nice whole movie star. And then with rap stars,

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<v Speaker 1>why athletes, I'm just gonna get this movie star. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because Michael B. Jordan he hadn't really been with that

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<v Speaker 1>many people that we know. I don't remember anybody he's girls.

0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:38.600
<v Speaker 1>He was, you know, always around a lot of white women.

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<v Speaker 1>So she probably got his ass all the way together.

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<v Speaker 1>Bring him all home, Laurie. That seasons vagina on him. Laurie. So,

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<v Speaker 1>speaking of therapy, so I posted hoeing doesn't heal, and

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<v Speaker 1>there were a lot of women that banks are different

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<v Speaker 1>sexual healing. Babe. It's a real thing, this is, but

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't. You can't detain away. I don't feel like

0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:09.839
<v Speaker 1>you can. I try so like if you're single and

0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't even want to stay single, Like let's stay

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, you're in a relationship and your man cheats

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<v Speaker 1>on you, Do you go out and cheat? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>go cheat back as for get back or do you

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<v Speaker 1>just leave? What should a woman do? Because that would

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<v Speaker 1>be one reason the wing howing doesn't heal. So you're

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<v Speaker 1>healing from or trying to heal from a heartbreak, right

0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:31.840
<v Speaker 1>and you got this nigg in the pocket somewhere in

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<v Speaker 1>the back pocket you're ready for me to get in

0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:41.600
<v Speaker 1>a game, Like do you let him jump in the

0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:44.600
<v Speaker 1>game just because your man cheated on you? Are you

0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna be fulfilled after just letting somebody else use your

0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.800
<v Speaker 1>pussy or you just be like now you feed it

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<v Speaker 1>for new dick. After that, you might be opening up

0:14:53.160 --> 0:15:00.240
<v Speaker 1>the floodgates, the dick gates. Women, hoeing does not hell

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<v Speaker 1>because at the end of the day, you're just letting

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<v Speaker 1>somebody else use your vagina. No, so you got to

0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:09.520
<v Speaker 1>stop thinking about your vagina in terms of someone using it.

0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:12.720
<v Speaker 1>You it's yours, so you use it how you want to.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't let them use it. You use their dick,

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<v Speaker 1>not use your vagina. But you literally letting somebody go

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<v Speaker 1>inside your body. Right, so because you choose it. Though,

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<v Speaker 1>because you choose it, you take you when you say

0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:30.400
<v Speaker 1>that giving them power over your vagina. No, your vagina

0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.560
<v Speaker 1>has the power and you're using it how you want

0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:34.920
<v Speaker 1>to use it. But would you use that dick if

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<v Speaker 1>we want to put it that way, what you use

0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:41.360
<v Speaker 1>that dick? If the dick you want? Would you be

0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:46.160
<v Speaker 1>using that dick? Carently not exactly, but sometimes it's important

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<v Speaker 1>to you know, Let's say you're going through a breakup

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<v Speaker 1>and it's over. Sometimes that a b dick is like

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<v Speaker 1>good to get through and what if you're just what

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<v Speaker 1>if you just sucking a bunch of different people after

0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.560
<v Speaker 1>this breakup? As long as you're doing it was possibly

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<v Speaker 1>and safe. You know, you're a grown woman. I don't

0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:07.000
<v Speaker 1>agree with transferrent energy like that with so many people.

0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:09.800
<v Speaker 1>But if you decide to do that, that's your parogative.

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<v Speaker 1>You wrong, Like, I'm not mad, but it's not going

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<v Speaker 1>to heal you from the pain. I feel it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>cause it may cause more turmoil because just like you

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<v Speaker 1>just said, all these different energies, if you're already in

0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.440
<v Speaker 1>a down place, you don't know what these other people

0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:27.840
<v Speaker 1>doing in life for real everything they may be going

0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:29.640
<v Speaker 1>through it. So hopefully you're using a condom if you

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<v Speaker 1>just on a fucking whole rampage right quick, because all

0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:36.720
<v Speaker 1>you're doing is letting these people ejaculate that energy off

0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.800
<v Speaker 1>into your room. So now you're really trying to figure

0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:42.600
<v Speaker 1>out why the fun you feel just so discombobulated. It's

0:16:42.600 --> 0:16:45.000
<v Speaker 1>because you got all the stressed and men want to

0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:48.440
<v Speaker 1>beat the pussy up. They're relieving their stress onto you.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's no way you can heal from just having

0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:56.320
<v Speaker 1>fribulous sex. I hadn't learn that they're like one consistent

0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.760
<v Speaker 1>dick in my life. Now. I was a situation where

0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:02.800
<v Speaker 1>I distressed. Right, you're a single, single, you got like

0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.520
<v Speaker 1>two you might be fucking around with okay, but just

0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.280
<v Speaker 1>going going on a whole rampage, like really real life holing.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless that's what you do for a money, Yes, unless

0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:15.560
<v Speaker 1>that's what you're doing for a living, What are you

0:17:15.600 --> 0:17:18.639
<v Speaker 1>doing it for? You're hurting you? Like you know, women

0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:20.919
<v Speaker 1>will like let's say, so when they love dies, they

0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:24.560
<v Speaker 1>start sucking everybody. They're going through a breakup or they're

0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.399
<v Speaker 1>dealing with some type of trauma that has it's a

0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:31.480
<v Speaker 1>release for some women. They just want to feel good,

0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:35.640
<v Speaker 1>but it's only momentarily. Then then after you come then

0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:38.760
<v Speaker 1>all whatever you're suffering, do you really want to dick

0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:40.639
<v Speaker 1>or do you want somebody to be there for you?

0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:42.840
<v Speaker 1>Because after these men have sex with you and then

0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:47.600
<v Speaker 1>they leave will and like and they fuck you through

0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:54.760
<v Speaker 1>the jeans, they pass, they do anything. You don't kiss you,

0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:56.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, rubbing you, He don't love on you, and

0:17:56.800 --> 0:18:00.280
<v Speaker 1>you just get dick. I don't want that. I like

0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:04.080
<v Speaker 1>affection moding dick me too. I love like that type

0:18:04.119 --> 0:18:07.200
<v Speaker 1>of intimacy, like rubbing, kissing me for nothing, just to

0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.359
<v Speaker 1>rob me your dick cross mask while I'm cooking. I

0:18:09.440 --> 0:18:11.520
<v Speaker 1>like it like that and spitting my mouth and ship

0:18:11.760 --> 0:18:16.600
<v Speaker 1>excuse me, but nigga, like grab you body, nick and

0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:18.560
<v Speaker 1>choke the ship out of you and call your dirty

0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:21.600
<v Speaker 1>bitch and then spin your mouth. No, not your name.

0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:26.760
<v Speaker 1>I saw it on a video. I don't know, so no,

0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I got a home world. That's her specialty. She liked

0:18:30.040 --> 0:18:34.680
<v Speaker 1>the choke. I like choking. It just made me feel

0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:38.960
<v Speaker 1>like so dominant, Like shut the fuck? What the that's

0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:42.840
<v Speaker 1>that wrong? Man? Energy? You got hold on before we

0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:45.600
<v Speaker 1>get into anything else let's pay some bills real quick.

0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:54.040
<v Speaker 1>Back to the topic at hand. Does holy actually makes

0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.880
<v Speaker 1>you feel good momentarily? It was brief. After you come,

0:18:58.000 --> 0:19:01.119
<v Speaker 1>you come to your sense. Well, my niece first became

0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:05.520
<v Speaker 1>sexually active. I bought her a vibrator to try and

0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:07.920
<v Speaker 1>save her from some of the heartache that you you're

0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:10.280
<v Speaker 1>going through, all these different people just sucking. I'm trying

0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.119
<v Speaker 1>to find somebody who actually loves you, just to save

0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:15.879
<v Speaker 1>you some of that heartache. Bitch. Come and go to

0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:20.360
<v Speaker 1>sleep by yourself. Yes, have no orgasm. Go to sleep, earl.

0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:22.760
<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you something. I'm a firm believer, and

0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:27.320
<v Speaker 1>come by yourself. Yes, I kind of, let's listen. So,

0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:29.880
<v Speaker 1>but sometimes the vibrator will suck you up for other

0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:32.720
<v Speaker 1>people though, because the machine can do ship that can't do.

0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:36.840
<v Speaker 1>No man in five minutes quick, hey, look, no sweat,

0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:40.960
<v Speaker 1>no hassle, no breathing on you. I like to take

0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:45.160
<v Speaker 1>like for like fifteen minutes and then masturbate and see

0:19:45.200 --> 0:19:47.280
<v Speaker 1>if I like, if I fall straight to sleep like

0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:51.040
<v Speaker 1>well melatonin, wait till I get like real tired and

0:19:51.320 --> 0:19:54.479
<v Speaker 1>masturbating smoke. I feel like when I when I masturbate, Hi,

0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.040
<v Speaker 1>you take me a long time to come. Really, Yes,

0:19:57.840 --> 0:19:59.679
<v Speaker 1>it's like my brain because i'd be thinking about all

0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:02.240
<v Speaker 1>type ship when I'm high, like bitches the earth talking

0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:05.760
<v Speaker 1>around the flat I'm thinking about Listen, let me tell

0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:07.840
<v Speaker 1>you what I was thinking about last night. Ht Why

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<v Speaker 1>do they call it stainless steel? Like water went on

0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:14.359
<v Speaker 1>my refrigerator, it's stainless. Why is it called stainless steel?

0:20:14.359 --> 0:20:17.480
<v Speaker 1>Like it stays so easy? They should call it stainy stick.

0:20:21.280 --> 0:20:24.840
<v Speaker 1>Everything stay that even a little water can't get that.

0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:28.479
<v Speaker 1>You're supposed to use those still cleaner, like I had

0:20:28.520 --> 0:20:34.800
<v Speaker 1>to go buy actual statements, still cleaner, stainless that's bullshit. Yeah,

0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:36.440
<v Speaker 1>so I had hell on my car when I'm thinking

0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:41.760
<v Speaker 1>about dumb ship like that. Yeah so, I mean, I

0:20:41.800 --> 0:20:44.080
<v Speaker 1>want to think about all the times where I had

0:20:44.119 --> 0:20:46.600
<v Speaker 1>the most sets and what I was going through at

0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:51.399
<v Speaker 1>that time, like what made me just extra promiscuous or

0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:53.520
<v Speaker 1>I like to call it friendly pussy. I've never been

0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:57.320
<v Speaker 1>a home and I had some friendly pussy. It's a

0:20:57.400 --> 0:21:00.680
<v Speaker 1>little happy pussy, little smiley plant way when I go

0:21:00.760 --> 0:21:02.680
<v Speaker 1>said I've never been a hole. Because we already discussed

0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.760
<v Speaker 1>the two different types of uh sexually liberated women, there

0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:10.440
<v Speaker 1>are sluts and there are holes. Let's just do ship

0:21:10.520 --> 0:21:13.199
<v Speaker 1>for no reason and hose get paid. So if I

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<v Speaker 1>had to categorize myself, I'd definitely be a hope. I

0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:19.280
<v Speaker 1>was just a child of God. I don't know where

0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:23.679
<v Speaker 1>a j is talking about. Yeah, so I think about

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're going through different you meet in different people,

0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:31.840
<v Speaker 1>and maybe you have some insecurities about yourself and maybe

0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:35.200
<v Speaker 1>you're acting out via sex, which is not a healthy thing.

0:21:35.480 --> 0:21:37.600
<v Speaker 1>So you need to find out what those things are

0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:40.400
<v Speaker 1>and maybe tweak them, fix them too, where you're more

0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:43.879
<v Speaker 1>comfortable and you're not having to use your body or

0:21:43.920 --> 0:21:46.359
<v Speaker 1>somebody else's body is not let So what about that

0:21:46.520 --> 0:21:51.440
<v Speaker 1>song on Hotels is the intro with the young lady

0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:54.919
<v Speaker 1>and she's just talking about like she felt like that

0:21:55.119 --> 0:22:00.240
<v Speaker 1>was the one thing that validated her, was her sexual prowess.

0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:02.600
<v Speaker 1>She said she felt like like sex with her superpower,

0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:06.240
<v Speaker 1>and that was her only superpower. That was a problem though,

0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:09.200
<v Speaker 1>Like you're using your pussy is the only way you

0:22:09.280 --> 0:22:15.040
<v Speaker 1>feel strong and you feel validated relationship in life, then

0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:19.359
<v Speaker 1>that's unhealthy. But if you're busting it open for a

0:22:19.359 --> 0:22:21.720
<v Speaker 1>real nigga, because you're real nigga and you feel like

0:22:21.760 --> 0:22:25.080
<v Speaker 1>empowering yourself and you're doing it in a healthy way.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't see nothing wrong with that. I feel like

0:22:27.880 --> 0:22:30.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe only it's a problem when you don't have you

0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:33.359
<v Speaker 1>are trying to still figure out who you are, or

0:22:33.400 --> 0:22:35.600
<v Speaker 1>if you're using it to cope, if you're sucking the

0:22:35.640 --> 0:22:41.280
<v Speaker 1>cope with coronavirus. You know, it's not like there's some

0:22:41.320 --> 0:22:45.040
<v Speaker 1>women out there hold on corona. Now, that sounds like

0:22:45.080 --> 0:22:49.880
<v Speaker 1>a drug, like people with drug addiction addictions using expect

0:22:49.880 --> 0:22:53.480
<v Speaker 1>Anything is an excuse to drink, anything's an excuse to smoke.

0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:56.400
<v Speaker 1>So anything could be going on, whether it's good or bad,

0:22:56.640 --> 0:22:58.680
<v Speaker 1>and it's excuse for you to just go pop that

0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:03.320
<v Speaker 1>pussy for a real nigga. No no, So a lot

0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:05.720
<v Speaker 1>of times we need to find like the root cause,

0:23:06.320 --> 0:23:10.000
<v Speaker 1>what's the root cause to me dropping all these bodies?

0:23:10.160 --> 0:23:12.320
<v Speaker 1>Why am I doing this to myself? Because you don't

0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:17.760
<v Speaker 1>really feel good. I mean, something's going on and you

0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:21.160
<v Speaker 1>have to identify that something and then you may have

0:23:21.280 --> 0:23:24.200
<v Speaker 1>more confidence, you may feel better about yourself to where

0:23:24.240 --> 0:23:27.080
<v Speaker 1>you don't even want niggas when you like that, like

0:23:27.359 --> 0:23:29.240
<v Speaker 1>you're too good for that ship. That's how I feel

0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:42.040
<v Speaker 1>non rather myself bust the said myself, Okay, it was

0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:48.119
<v Speaker 1>just as content kind of a J. I feel like

0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:50.879
<v Speaker 1>we should get a nigga's perspective on it. It's like,

0:23:51.119 --> 0:23:57.080
<v Speaker 1>let's talk to a nigga, A man a mind. All right.

0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:01.040
<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna call my great, great friend and cors

0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:04.919
<v Speaker 1>cos facts. Do you follow him on Instagram? It's dope?

0:24:05.320 --> 0:24:12.159
<v Speaker 1>All right, I'm gonna hit him out real quick. Hey, co,

0:24:13.880 --> 0:24:18.680
<v Speaker 1>what's good? How you doing great? You know, I just

0:24:18.760 --> 0:24:21.080
<v Speaker 1>wanted to hit you out real quick because it's me

0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:23.200
<v Speaker 1>and a J we're on We talked back right now,

0:24:24.200 --> 0:24:26.920
<v Speaker 1>and we wanted to ask you a question and see

0:24:26.960 --> 0:24:29.679
<v Speaker 1>what you thought and give us the male perspective, or

0:24:29.720 --> 0:24:34.800
<v Speaker 1>at least your male perspective. Cool, all yeah? That so

0:24:34.840 --> 0:24:37.800
<v Speaker 1>we posted a meme on our page, hold and Don't

0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:41.520
<v Speaker 1>heal Right. We were talking about how women sometimes fun

0:24:41.680 --> 0:24:44.240
<v Speaker 1>to cope with ship going on in their life, and

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:47.600
<v Speaker 1>we wanted to know do men hold to heal or

0:24:47.640 --> 0:24:50.800
<v Speaker 1>do you'll just hold for life? I think men hold

0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:56.800
<v Speaker 1>for recreations, but I've heard of men fucking girls after

0:24:57.040 --> 0:25:01.600
<v Speaker 1>a breakup to get over the girl. Heard that that's possible.

0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:06.840
<v Speaker 1>So have you ever hold to him? I don't I

0:25:06.880 --> 0:25:10.480
<v Speaker 1>don't know if I didn't intentionally, but you like I didn't,

0:25:10.520 --> 0:25:12.560
<v Speaker 1>I didn't plan to be like, no, I'm hurt, I'm

0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:16.320
<v Speaker 1>gonna gon that just because I'm hurt. I don't think

0:25:16.359 --> 0:25:19.480
<v Speaker 1>I did that. I think men hold naturally, So is

0:25:19.480 --> 0:25:22.439
<v Speaker 1>it not natural for women to hold them? Do you

0:25:22.480 --> 0:25:25.280
<v Speaker 1>think I can't? I can't say that. I'm not a woman,

0:25:25.359 --> 0:25:27.359
<v Speaker 1>so I can't really say that. But I think I've

0:25:27.400 --> 0:25:30.840
<v Speaker 1>heard women say that they be like heart broken and

0:25:30.880 --> 0:25:33.359
<v Speaker 1>then they go through a fuck may this shaise? And

0:25:33.400 --> 0:25:37.480
<v Speaker 1>they used because its object. Yeah, help cope with them,

0:25:37.680 --> 0:25:40.800
<v Speaker 1>cope with the pain. But for ship, yeah, for sure,

0:25:40.800 --> 0:25:44.879
<v Speaker 1>ships and giggles like men like this, men like to

0:25:44.960 --> 0:25:48.760
<v Speaker 1>take of the captain. So how do men heal? Men

0:25:48.840 --> 0:25:55.800
<v Speaker 1>don't heal up from And then like you said, sixty yeah,

0:25:55.800 --> 0:25:59.360
<v Speaker 1>and it gives me sixty eight no more. Because men

0:25:59.400 --> 0:26:01.520
<v Speaker 1>don't believe and been a lot of a lot of

0:26:01.560 --> 0:26:04.720
<v Speaker 1>black our conds. Don't believe in therapy. They don't believe

0:26:04.760 --> 0:26:08.000
<v Speaker 1>in opening up to the women. You know, they might

0:26:08.000 --> 0:26:11.160
<v Speaker 1>open up to their mother, like they they don't open

0:26:11.240 --> 0:26:13.800
<v Speaker 1>up to people that's going to help them get better.

0:26:14.040 --> 0:26:17.879
<v Speaker 1>So men would just put a little rubbing alcohol and

0:26:17.920 --> 0:26:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I said, keep moving. They just they don't want to

0:26:20.600 --> 0:26:25.119
<v Speaker 1>go to the doctor. They just for a little alcohol. Yeah.

0:26:26.240 --> 0:26:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Push up, yeah, ginger, push up. So man, that's been problems.

0:26:32.440 --> 0:26:34.760
<v Speaker 1>And then when you fifty, you got mad problems, you

0:26:34.840 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 1>got mental problems, got physical problems like way before fifty

0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:44.840
<v Speaker 1>year before. If you're lucky, you're right, that's true. But

0:26:45.040 --> 0:26:47.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't think men potentially have sex with

0:26:47.920 --> 0:26:52.560
<v Speaker 1>women to get over pains. I think men now, I

0:26:52.560 --> 0:26:56.680
<v Speaker 1>think the opposite. I think if if nickeluses bitch, he'll

0:26:56.760 --> 0:26:59.280
<v Speaker 1>be hurt for like two and a half weeks. He

0:26:59.480 --> 0:27:02.399
<v Speaker 1>might the bead, he might crying the bed to like

0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:06.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, Joe songs and ship genuine, and then after that,

0:27:07.040 --> 0:27:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I think could be to it. He going to the

0:27:09.320 --> 0:27:11.600
<v Speaker 1>next girl alive. He's gonna start a new slate. She

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 1>don't know, myn She don't know the bullshit that he did.

0:27:14.040 --> 0:27:16.920
<v Speaker 1>He could, like you know, like his under his act

0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:22.920
<v Speaker 1>was crazy, thank you and look let all the ship

0:27:23.000 --> 0:27:26.320
<v Speaker 1>out crazy. He did this. But he's not gonna tell

0:27:26.359 --> 0:27:28.600
<v Speaker 1>the eighty five things that he did to lose the bit.

0:27:29.280 --> 0:27:32.199
<v Speaker 1>He's just gonna tell like crazy. So Nigga's just do

0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:34.479
<v Speaker 1>that and then it's like it's like a cold thing

0:27:34.520 --> 0:27:36.679
<v Speaker 1>because I've been there with like you lose your girl

0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:38.920
<v Speaker 1>and you know what, you know that you deserve to

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:40.840
<v Speaker 1>lose your girl, but you still be mad for like

0:27:40.960 --> 0:27:43.000
<v Speaker 1>two or three weeks, like I said, and then he

0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:45.119
<v Speaker 1>just come to like I'm just finding another girl to

0:27:45.280 --> 0:27:48.199
<v Speaker 1>just thought over with. Right, So Colling, that's crazy. We

0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:51.080
<v Speaker 1>can agree, then, thank you. We can agree that calling

0:27:51.119 --> 0:27:55.679
<v Speaker 1>women crazy is like a cop out where is of

0:27:55.720 --> 0:28:00.640
<v Speaker 1>course the girls whom we're doing too, who were nigga

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:02.840
<v Speaker 1>is really be crazy. So if I say, nigga, you crazy,

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:05.560
<v Speaker 1>you're really crazy. Yeah, a woman don't tell their home

0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:09.600
<v Speaker 1>girls everything they did to make a nigga or leave

0:28:09.680 --> 0:28:16.359
<v Speaker 1>him alone, and then you said you do. Talking is

0:28:16.400 --> 0:28:19.040
<v Speaker 1>my therapy. Whoever to funk on, Listen, I'm gonna telling

0:28:19.200 --> 0:28:20.719
<v Speaker 1>what the hell happened. I'm gonna tell all of them

0:28:20.840 --> 0:28:23.159
<v Speaker 1>ship I did. I'm gonna tell you, definitely tell you

0:28:23.200 --> 0:28:25.520
<v Speaker 1>all this the nigga did. Talking is why niggas leave

0:28:25.520 --> 0:28:31.040
<v Speaker 1>me alone. But you think you think that y'all can

0:28:31.119 --> 0:28:34.960
<v Speaker 1>honestly admit that y'all take a good man away before that.

0:28:35.119 --> 0:28:36.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't like that. I don't like to chase. I

0:28:37.080 --> 0:28:40.160
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like I've never chased a good man. Yeah,

0:28:40.240 --> 0:28:42.720
<v Speaker 1>not take my chase. That's the wrong word. You think

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:46.600
<v Speaker 1>you think you, your your personality or your actions scared

0:28:46.680 --> 0:28:51.360
<v Speaker 1>a good man away before. Absolutely. I can say absolutely

0:28:51.400 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 1>for me because sometimes I like my personality is a

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:56.560
<v Speaker 1>lot and everybody can't handle it. I can't say you

0:28:56.640 --> 0:28:59.280
<v Speaker 1>a good man either, because I have talked to people

0:28:59.360 --> 0:29:01.280
<v Speaker 1>who later aron they want to tell me, oh, I

0:29:01.320 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 1>should have chose you this in the third all waiting

0:29:03.960 --> 0:29:06.320
<v Speaker 1>now married with kids and ship. Are you really a

0:29:06.360 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 1>good man? Professing your fucking love to me? Does that

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:16.960
<v Speaker 1>make him not a good man though? Don't Yeah, because

0:29:16.960 --> 0:29:19.600
<v Speaker 1>of a listen, I'm saving their relationship, but not busting

0:29:19.600 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 1>the wide open for a nigger. That's a fact. Yeah.

0:29:22.000 --> 0:29:24.680
<v Speaker 1>So is he really about because he's ready to smash

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 1>if I allowed to? Sometimes people saying relationship about getting him?

0:29:28.640 --> 0:29:33.240
<v Speaker 1>How so explained? Please? Because the SoC because you have

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:36.240
<v Speaker 1>sex with two where he realized how much he loves girl. Damn,

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 1>my pussy is not that wack, sir, I don't know

0:29:38.160 --> 0:29:46.560
<v Speaker 1>who you play. First of all, I'm breaking out. Let's

0:29:46.560 --> 0:29:51.120
<v Speaker 1>supposed to be breaking up home. No, it's a little

0:29:53.840 --> 0:29:57.040
<v Speaker 1>and look whack now, but she doesn't give good hits.

0:29:57.080 --> 0:30:01.760
<v Speaker 1>She didn't listen. Oh and you got a good It

0:30:01.840 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>could be every day. Okay, I've heard that. I've heard

0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:09.640
<v Speaker 1>that I gotta leave through alone because I kind of

0:30:09.680 --> 0:30:11.800
<v Speaker 1>like you better than my girl. And you don't even

0:30:11.840 --> 0:30:13.480
<v Speaker 1>like me like that because you know I've got a girl.

0:30:13.800 --> 0:30:17.440
<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna take tribute. No, I'm not funking nobody

0:30:17.440 --> 0:30:19.760
<v Speaker 1>who got a girl like that now, But guys who

0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:21.800
<v Speaker 1>may be single at the time, and I'm talking to

0:30:21.840 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 1>them like my personality may scare them off because I'm

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 1>like a wild card. I feel like men a lot

0:30:28.120 --> 0:30:31.040
<v Speaker 1>of times they find more comfort and knowing exactly who

0:30:31.080 --> 0:30:34.000
<v Speaker 1>you've been with throughout life. So like, you don't know me,

0:30:34.080 --> 0:30:35.800
<v Speaker 1>like I may not even be from the city, so

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:39.240
<v Speaker 1>you can't go ask somebody about me. So that gives

0:30:39.280 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>them a little and might scare them off a little bit.

0:30:42.160 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 1>But the only thing that running is off from me

0:30:45.600 --> 0:30:50.920
<v Speaker 1>is my mouthpiece. That's it. Then love everything else about

0:30:50.960 --> 0:30:52.560
<v Speaker 1>me and then be like, yo, you don't know how

0:30:52.560 --> 0:30:57.040
<v Speaker 1>to shut the funk up. That's the truth. I'm working out.

0:30:57.600 --> 0:31:00.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm good. Everybody needs to work on shining some men

0:31:00.600 --> 0:31:07.760
<v Speaker 1>don't hold to heal, but women don't ye him, but

0:31:07.840 --> 0:31:09.920
<v Speaker 1>they don't they hold it get in trouble, and that's

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:13.400
<v Speaker 1>why they need to heal, because they hold in the

0:31:13.440 --> 0:31:16.960
<v Speaker 1>first place they hold to have a good night. But

0:31:17.040 --> 0:31:19.280
<v Speaker 1>what I've heard from men who are now like married,

0:31:19.400 --> 0:31:21.720
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that, it's like once they get to a

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:24.280
<v Speaker 1>point where they no longer need to be out here

0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:27.600
<v Speaker 1>in the streets, like everything else in their life falling together.

0:31:27.680 --> 0:31:29.440
<v Speaker 1>Like if you have a family, or maybe you might

0:31:29.480 --> 0:31:33.280
<v Speaker 1>be married, right and you stopped working around on your

0:31:33.320 --> 0:31:35.719
<v Speaker 1>wife or the girl that you really you you're in

0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:37.760
<v Speaker 1>love with, but you keep working on these holes out here.

0:31:38.160 --> 0:31:40.320
<v Speaker 1>Once they stop that dumb ship and do right by

0:31:40.360 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 1>the woman in their life, everything else just starts going

0:31:43.160 --> 0:31:45.800
<v Speaker 1>well for them. Now I agree with that. I had that,

0:31:46.120 --> 0:31:49.200
<v Speaker 1>but yeah I had that. But a lot of guys

0:31:49.240 --> 0:31:51.800
<v Speaker 1>that I know that's very miserable. They like they don't

0:31:51.840 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 1>get coucie. They get couchie two tons of mind. They

0:31:55.520 --> 0:31:58.560
<v Speaker 1>gotta pay all the bills. They don't got money to

0:31:58.720 --> 0:32:02.160
<v Speaker 1>go out no more that they gotta pay everything, you know,

0:32:02.240 --> 0:32:14.080
<v Speaker 1>like they gotta be a Provada provider man. No, No,

0:32:14.240 --> 0:32:17.200
<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not gonna when they got to be

0:32:17.280 --> 0:32:20.560
<v Speaker 1>Provada and they're not getting before they getting tired of

0:32:20.720 --> 0:32:23.280
<v Speaker 1>the same opus. But let's talk about that. I know

0:32:23.480 --> 0:32:26.760
<v Speaker 1>this is going in a whole another conversation. How many

0:32:26.800 --> 0:32:28.800
<v Speaker 1>times if you if you got a girl, right, how

0:32:28.800 --> 0:32:32.920
<v Speaker 1>many times a week are you expecting sex? Um? Three?

0:32:33.120 --> 0:32:39.040
<v Speaker 1>Three times? That's it? Every other day? Yeah, I gotta

0:32:39.120 --> 0:32:42.720
<v Speaker 1>nigt complaining about not getting some pussy. Like literally, were

0:32:42.760 --> 0:32:49.360
<v Speaker 1>together for fourteen days, right, and three out of three month? No,

0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:51.960
<v Speaker 1>no, no no, three out of three out of the fourteen

0:32:52.040 --> 0:32:54.760
<v Speaker 1>days we didn't have sex. And he's looking at me like,

0:32:54.840 --> 0:32:58.920
<v Speaker 1>we fucking three years and something. So you get him three,

0:32:59.000 --> 0:33:02.120
<v Speaker 1>you get him pus three every two nine, nigger, what's

0:33:02.200 --> 0:33:07.880
<v Speaker 1>what's three months? Fourteen? No? He eleven times year? So no,

0:33:08.080 --> 0:33:10.640
<v Speaker 1>we had sex eleven times but not and then the

0:33:10.720 --> 0:33:13.200
<v Speaker 1>three times three days out out the fourteen days we

0:33:13.240 --> 0:33:18.360
<v Speaker 1>did not have sex. He was uh oh yeah, he

0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 1>he shot all right, And I'm like, you're because you

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:30.800
<v Speaker 1>keep feeding him at sea moss girl. Take him off

0:33:30.800 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 1>for that, like, I know I've been fucking like you

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:41.120
<v Speaker 1>ain't a fucking what happened? Yeah, he was, he was

0:33:41.160 --> 0:33:44.600
<v Speaker 1>a little breedy three times a week. I'm gonna take

0:33:44.640 --> 0:33:50.400
<v Speaker 1>that name. You said about mattery though, like I'm used

0:33:50.400 --> 0:33:54.520
<v Speaker 1>to like already. What what makes you think women don't

0:33:54.560 --> 0:33:57.600
<v Speaker 1>get used to the dick. I'm not saying y'all don't.

0:33:58.120 --> 0:34:01.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying that it costs. Like I think a man got,

0:34:02.080 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>he got a many many expect more because they got

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 1>to spend more. So that's how niggas think, whether it's

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:10.000
<v Speaker 1>right or wrong, and they can like, yo, I'm paying

0:34:10.120 --> 0:34:12.480
<v Speaker 1>seven thousand dollars in bills I want, I should get

0:34:12.520 --> 0:34:15.279
<v Speaker 1>pussy whenever I want. Because I think if a woman

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:18.560
<v Speaker 1>was paying seven thousand dollars a month in bills and

0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:20.680
<v Speaker 1>they lived with it, and they're laying next to a

0:34:20.800 --> 0:34:23.960
<v Speaker 1>stink foot nigga every every day, you're gonna want some

0:34:24.200 --> 0:34:26.640
<v Speaker 1>head and some dick. You want your actlete every day

0:34:26.680 --> 0:34:31.400
<v Speaker 1>because we're like nigger. So I'm not here laying that

0:34:31.520 --> 0:34:36.359
<v Speaker 1>to a like you know, like that's that's how men think,

0:34:36.440 --> 0:34:38.799
<v Speaker 1>Like yo, she's taking a lot of my brand. And

0:34:38.800 --> 0:34:40.400
<v Speaker 1>I think you know pussy and you don't want me

0:34:40.440 --> 0:34:42.480
<v Speaker 1>to cheat, You're gonna sunk me up about cheat too.

0:34:42.600 --> 0:34:45.920
<v Speaker 1>So it's like what I'm gonna do yeah, but a

0:34:45.960 --> 0:34:48.240
<v Speaker 1>lot of that's why a lot of married men are visible.

0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:50.720
<v Speaker 1>That's why they go to dr three times and years.

0:34:50.840 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 1>You know you're during gonna know yo, Yeah seven dollar hollars,

0:35:01.520 --> 0:35:05.000
<v Speaker 1>but y'all shows dope. I'm gonna keep it going. Thank

0:35:05.040 --> 0:35:08.120
<v Speaker 1>you so much, thank you for joining us today. We

0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:11.480
<v Speaker 1>appreciate it all right. Just hut me up. I got

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:15.120
<v Speaker 1>to do it in person soon and we let a okay,

0:35:16.120 --> 0:35:21.319
<v Speaker 1>I so again. So women just be hoing to he

0:35:21.640 --> 0:35:28.320
<v Speaker 1>intentionally and nigga's just hosed by nature, so we'd literally

0:35:28.360 --> 0:35:31.279
<v Speaker 1>be laying the bad things about me. I'm gonna go

0:35:31.440 --> 0:35:34.080
<v Speaker 1>like they don't do the same ship, Like why why,

0:35:34.239 --> 0:35:37.160
<v Speaker 1>why the funk are we so different? Because women are

0:35:37.239 --> 0:35:39.920
<v Speaker 1>from Mars and men are from Venus? What was that

0:35:39.920 --> 0:35:50.120
<v Speaker 1>bitch up from Charleston, South Carolina? Got mafia bit? Hold on.

0:35:50.239 --> 0:35:52.840
<v Speaker 1>Before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills

0:35:52.880 --> 0:36:01.080
<v Speaker 1>real quick. So I went to find some healthy ways

0:36:01.800 --> 0:36:07.239
<v Speaker 1>to not fuck to heal, so healthy ways to heal.

0:36:07.480 --> 0:36:11.440
<v Speaker 1>So um, there was a list that I found. Yoga

0:36:11.640 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 1>was on it. So you can do your downward dog

0:36:14.239 --> 0:36:18.880
<v Speaker 1>without dick behind you, just good by yourself. Um journaling,

0:36:19.360 --> 0:36:22.839
<v Speaker 1>so you can list the things, list your strengths right

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:26.040
<v Speaker 1>down your feelings, and don't draw no dicks, no draw,

0:36:26.239 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 1>no scribble um. Forgiveness, that's very important. Forgive yourself for

0:36:31.160 --> 0:36:34.560
<v Speaker 1>whatever you're going through, and forgive others, and don't forgive

0:36:34.600 --> 0:36:38.399
<v Speaker 1>them for them, forgive them for you. Mirror work, now,

0:36:38.440 --> 0:36:40.560
<v Speaker 1>this is the one that I do by myself when

0:36:40.600 --> 0:36:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm high, and it's fun. I'll be cracking up. It's

0:36:43.920 --> 0:36:46.560
<v Speaker 1>where you talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself,

0:36:46.800 --> 0:36:49.920
<v Speaker 1>how you a boss bitch? Are you a bad bitch?

0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:53.160
<v Speaker 1>How you the ship? And can't nobody funk with you?

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:55.840
<v Speaker 1>So look in the mirror right now, a j tell yourself,

0:36:56.000 --> 0:36:57.880
<v Speaker 1>who are you saying that? The mic though, so they

0:36:57.920 --> 0:37:03.520
<v Speaker 1>can what else? Who are you looking at mirror to?

0:37:03.920 --> 0:37:08.080
<v Speaker 1>No is serious as it see, Mirror work is. It's

0:37:08.160 --> 0:37:10.840
<v Speaker 1>kind of hard, right, It's hard to look at yourself

0:37:10.840 --> 0:37:16.319
<v Speaker 1>in the mirror and talk to yourself. Okay, well, when

0:37:16.360 --> 0:37:18.440
<v Speaker 1>we push it off here, we're gonna stay it in

0:37:18.440 --> 0:37:21.840
<v Speaker 1>the mirror together. And I am pride, I am power,

0:37:22.560 --> 0:37:25.800
<v Speaker 1>my badass mother who don't take no crap for nobody.

0:37:26.160 --> 0:37:28.040
<v Speaker 1>You don't know what the movie that is? You don't

0:37:28.040 --> 0:37:32.560
<v Speaker 1>watch movies then you watched too much. Want that girl,

0:37:32.640 --> 0:37:36.120
<v Speaker 1>get your life, all right. The next one is breath

0:37:36.160 --> 0:37:39.360
<v Speaker 1>work for healing. And there's this thing called harmonic breathing

0:37:39.840 --> 0:37:42.880
<v Speaker 1>and it's the ancient form of breathing that has you

0:37:43.000 --> 0:37:45.960
<v Speaker 1>utilize two breaths and one x hell for at least

0:37:46.000 --> 0:37:50.759
<v Speaker 1>seven minutes. So it's kind of like that kind of situation, right,

0:37:51.640 --> 0:37:53.920
<v Speaker 1>and um, it's kind of like a form of meditation.

0:37:54.200 --> 0:37:59.040
<v Speaker 1>So that's meditating for a breath work for healing. Uh.

0:37:59.360 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 1>One big one that we all can use in our

0:38:02.280 --> 0:38:06.560
<v Speaker 1>lives and we need it's friendship. Friendship, spending time with

0:38:06.600 --> 0:38:09.960
<v Speaker 1>your girls, getting to have you know, having fun with

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:14.120
<v Speaker 1>your girls. That's a way to cope with and heal

0:38:14.840 --> 0:38:18.320
<v Speaker 1>without fucking. Okay unless you sucking your home girls, and

0:38:18.760 --> 0:38:23.480
<v Speaker 1>some of y'all be doing that, but don't fuck them.

0:38:23.520 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Counseling and therapy that is a very important one, that

0:38:27.080 --> 0:38:30.520
<v Speaker 1>big one that we all really need to utilize. We

0:38:30.600 --> 0:38:34.359
<v Speaker 1>as African Americans, we are really just starting to talk

0:38:34.400 --> 0:38:37.560
<v Speaker 1>about mental health in a way that we haven't. You know,

0:38:37.719 --> 0:38:41.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't remember growing up talking about our our mental health.

0:38:41.760 --> 0:38:44.120
<v Speaker 1>Getting the therapist is a real big thing. And your

0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:46.960
<v Speaker 1>friends cannot always be a therapist. Like, like I said,

0:38:47.000 --> 0:38:49.319
<v Speaker 1>I like to talk, and that's an outlet for me

0:38:49.400 --> 0:38:51.880
<v Speaker 1>to be able to just have a conversation with the

0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:53.799
<v Speaker 1>people I know that love to care about me. But

0:38:54.120 --> 0:38:59.279
<v Speaker 1>they can always the blind leading the blind sometimes because

0:38:59.280 --> 0:39:01.319
<v Speaker 1>I have something for is that will be like, bit

0:39:01.480 --> 0:39:03.960
<v Speaker 1>you sucking up? Or that'll make sense? Or why are

0:39:03.960 --> 0:39:06.120
<v Speaker 1>you doing that? I have some friends like that, so

0:39:06.120 --> 0:39:08.000
<v Speaker 1>it's important to have those type of friends. But so

0:39:08.239 --> 0:39:11.880
<v Speaker 1>you want somebody outside of your life, a professional I

0:39:11.920 --> 0:39:16.640
<v Speaker 1>can give you real lives guidance, you know, even adults.

0:39:16.680 --> 0:39:19.960
<v Speaker 1>Adults see guidance too. For me, I feel like it's

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:22.080
<v Speaker 1>sometimes it's hard for my friends to tell me the

0:39:22.080 --> 0:39:25.759
<v Speaker 1>truth about myself because I get like combative with my

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:28.000
<v Speaker 1>friends when they tell me the truth. Sometimes I know,

0:39:28.080 --> 0:39:31.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, luckily I like to argue. Sometimes I'd be like,

0:39:31.080 --> 0:39:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you know what, why I don't see like that because

0:39:32.040 --> 0:39:33.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm not getting my point in class. Okay, let's just

0:39:33.760 --> 0:39:36.359
<v Speaker 1>start again tomorrow. So I know I need to like

0:39:36.480 --> 0:39:39.360
<v Speaker 1>seek professional help when it comes to that, because a

0:39:39.480 --> 0:39:41.360
<v Speaker 1>bit to tell me about myself and I'll be ready

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:48.280
<v Speaker 1>to fight. And then I get instead of receiving the information,

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:50.520
<v Speaker 1>I started telling them about their ship. They ain't even

0:39:50.560 --> 0:39:54.839
<v Speaker 1>got nothing to do with the right girl. You know,

0:39:55.040 --> 0:39:58.320
<v Speaker 1>I started bringing up the ship like, so yeah, counseling

0:39:58.400 --> 0:40:00.880
<v Speaker 1>is a very good one. Um. Another way is to

0:40:01.040 --> 0:40:05.879
<v Speaker 1>help someone help someone, regardless of their gender. A lot

0:40:05.880 --> 0:40:08.319
<v Speaker 1>of women will help a nigga before they help their

0:40:08.360 --> 0:40:10.480
<v Speaker 1>own friends. Help your friends. And if one of your

0:40:10.520 --> 0:40:12.560
<v Speaker 1>friends happens to be a man and he needs to

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:19.759
<v Speaker 1>help help him, did um it says. Another one was

0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:24.400
<v Speaker 1>to laugh, so you know, spend time watching something or

0:40:24.440 --> 0:40:27.960
<v Speaker 1>doing something that makes you feel joyous inside. And then

0:40:28.000 --> 0:40:32.640
<v Speaker 1>it also offers to cry. So a lot, especially Black people,

0:40:32.680 --> 0:40:36.640
<v Speaker 1>we hold our cry. Oh not me. I look at

0:40:36.680 --> 0:40:38.560
<v Speaker 1>myself in the mirror like you were like, ugly bitch,

0:40:38.600 --> 0:40:43.239
<v Speaker 1>stop crying. So you can tell yourself that in the mirror.

0:40:43.280 --> 0:40:45.600
<v Speaker 1>But you can't say nice things see yourself. I know,

0:40:45.760 --> 0:40:48.399
<v Speaker 1>I gotta work on that. This is therapy right now.

0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:51.520
<v Speaker 1>But you get all right, So when we get after

0:40:51.560 --> 0:40:53.680
<v Speaker 1>we hate this ship up, we're gonna stand in weird.

0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:56.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm standing behind you and hold your shoulders and I'm

0:40:56.320 --> 0:40:59.560
<v Speaker 1>encourage you to say nice things to yourself. But okay,

0:40:59.640 --> 0:41:01.719
<v Speaker 1>so right when you need to cry, let it out,

0:41:01.840 --> 0:41:04.399
<v Speaker 1>like y'all be holding that ball in your throat so tight,

0:41:04.480 --> 0:41:09.319
<v Speaker 1>like holding that ship and let it go, bitch, let

0:41:09.360 --> 0:41:11.440
<v Speaker 1>it out. If you're feeling stut right now, are you

0:41:11.520 --> 0:41:15.160
<v Speaker 1>listening to this? Let that ship out, release it to

0:41:15.280 --> 0:41:18.480
<v Speaker 1>the universe so it can be done, and apologize to

0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:22.960
<v Speaker 1>yourself yourself, sorry, right, but give yourself. It's okay, bitch.

0:41:23.280 --> 0:41:27.719
<v Speaker 1>We all playing suck up. Okay. And then another one

0:41:27.960 --> 0:41:33.239
<v Speaker 1>is to work out. Exercise releases endorphins, and endorphins make

0:41:33.280 --> 0:41:35.719
<v Speaker 1>you happy, so when you're taking care of yourself, you're

0:41:35.719 --> 0:41:38.240
<v Speaker 1>gonna feel good. And go get some real workout clothes.

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Don't be in there with the big stretched out white

0:41:40.040 --> 0:41:42.120
<v Speaker 1>tea like. Go get some real workout clothes, maybe some

0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:45.000
<v Speaker 1>sneakers and match fit. It's gonna motivate you because you

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:47.120
<v Speaker 1>are look cute. You look here, and you're working on

0:41:47.680 --> 0:41:52.880
<v Speaker 1>making yourself even look look even better. And the last

0:41:52.960 --> 0:41:56.080
<v Speaker 1>one that I found a good line, it's a hug.

0:41:57.640 --> 0:41:59.640
<v Speaker 1>Come here, girl, let me get your hug right now.

0:42:00.040 --> 0:42:06.240
<v Speaker 1>M hugs heal, hugs feel good. AJ has big titties,

0:42:06.560 --> 0:42:09.880
<v Speaker 1>so her hugs feel even better. I'm gonna charge this,

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:13.839
<v Speaker 1>bitch man. We havena DEVI car that bitch, because I'm

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:16.239
<v Speaker 1>not gonna take all the sexual harassment for for their

0:42:16.440 --> 0:42:22.400
<v Speaker 1>free I'm sorry, well bad, I'll see you, but i'm

0:42:22.520 --> 0:42:26.399
<v Speaker 1>seeing your invoice. I'll see you forty. That's the going rate.

0:42:26.840 --> 0:42:30.640
<v Speaker 1>That was good, So try to implement those. They're called

0:42:31.000 --> 0:42:36.120
<v Speaker 1>fourteen ways to heal without fuckings. That's what I said,

0:42:36.160 --> 0:42:43.640
<v Speaker 1>on said fourteen ways to heal emotionally. Yeah, that's a

0:42:43.680 --> 0:42:46.279
<v Speaker 1>good list. I think we should all look within. Don't

0:42:46.320 --> 0:42:50.560
<v Speaker 1>go looking outside of yourself for healing, because it starts

0:42:50.600 --> 0:42:53.160
<v Speaker 1>with the because the better you feel about yourself, the

0:42:53.320 --> 0:42:57.719
<v Speaker 1>less access these outside entities will have to right. And

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:00.360
<v Speaker 1>you know we we allowed the world around us stuff

0:43:00.840 --> 0:43:03.080
<v Speaker 1>beat us up all the time. I know I do it.

0:43:03.160 --> 0:43:06.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm watching social media and looking at these bitches on here.

0:43:06.840 --> 0:43:09.160
<v Speaker 1>I love to see black women being spoiled because I

0:43:09.200 --> 0:43:11.320
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like we're spoiled enough. But to have you

0:43:11.400 --> 0:43:14.840
<v Speaker 1>feeling less than like ship images that you see, what

0:43:14.960 --> 0:43:16.880
<v Speaker 1>have you feeling? But you have to remind yourself and

0:43:16.960 --> 0:43:20.520
<v Speaker 1>speak goodness of yourself and love of yourself all the time,

0:43:20.600 --> 0:43:23.520
<v Speaker 1>and remind yourself, like listen, if you hear the sound

0:43:23.600 --> 0:43:27.000
<v Speaker 1>of my voice right now, bait, you are that bitch, bitch,

0:43:27.480 --> 0:43:30.400
<v Speaker 1>you hear me. You are bad you. There's no one

0:43:30.520 --> 0:43:33.680
<v Speaker 1>else on this earth created like you, not one soul,

0:43:34.200 --> 0:43:37.799
<v Speaker 1>and where you're going, there's no more you. So don't

0:43:37.880 --> 0:43:40.080
<v Speaker 1>let nobody tell you that you're not that ship, because

0:43:40.120 --> 0:43:43.759
<v Speaker 1>you are so. Stop using your pussy. Stop letting them

0:43:43.880 --> 0:43:46.880
<v Speaker 1>use it, only you use it. But if you're using it,

0:43:47.520 --> 0:43:50.480
<v Speaker 1>I am a firm believer. If you are using your vagina,

0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:59.600
<v Speaker 1>please assured that you are being compensated. Please make sure

0:43:59.760 --> 0:44:02.560
<v Speaker 1>that you are being compensated. You're not just out here

0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:07.080
<v Speaker 1>frivilously using your vagina and your rent is past. You

0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:10.560
<v Speaker 1>do what makes you happy, so you cannot be happy

0:44:10.600 --> 0:44:12.879
<v Speaker 1>when your tires is bald and you know all change

0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:16.920
<v Speaker 1>you mean? I agree, I agree, but don't be a prostitute.

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:21.200
<v Speaker 1>Don't listen to it like man, girl is the oldest profession.

0:44:21.360 --> 0:44:24.560
<v Speaker 1>You can have sex with someone just because you want

0:44:24.600 --> 0:44:28.640
<v Speaker 1>to have sex and not be financially compensated for it. Right,

0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:32.080
<v Speaker 1>how many times though this it's like a three pack

0:44:32.200 --> 0:44:34.920
<v Speaker 1>or four pack? I just like you should do what

0:44:35.080 --> 0:44:38.279
<v Speaker 1>makes you happy. As long as you're happy and fulfilling it,

0:44:38.680 --> 0:44:42.560
<v Speaker 1>then do that. But if you are unhappy and you

0:44:42.760 --> 0:44:46.640
<v Speaker 1>fucking that's a problem. Absolutely, this is a great conversation.

0:44:46.719 --> 0:44:51.439
<v Speaker 1>This was. Are we gonna get in the mirror. I'm

0:44:51.440 --> 0:44:53.160
<v Speaker 1>gonna get in that mirror. Let me tell you the

0:44:53.239 --> 0:44:54.879
<v Speaker 1>hardest part from me. When I get in that mirror,

0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:58.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna take my wig off before I do. I

0:44:58.840 --> 0:45:01.759
<v Speaker 1>don't like my no problem, I don't like these meek

0:45:01.800 --> 0:45:04.279
<v Speaker 1>wheel raised without doing it when she had the white bower,

0:45:04.360 --> 0:45:07.799
<v Speaker 1>took her lashes off, took a wig off. You're looking

0:45:07.840 --> 0:45:13.640
<v Speaker 1>at your real self. It's different, different, but I'm gonna

0:45:13.640 --> 0:45:15.719
<v Speaker 1>do it. We're about to do it right now as

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:18.040
<v Speaker 1>the kid take her whef wig off, because let's sleep

0:45:18.120 --> 0:45:26.719
<v Speaker 1>that little shopping partners and always glue down tight. I'm

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:29.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna take mine off though, So do we have Oh

0:45:30.080 --> 0:45:32.320
<v Speaker 1>I do have a good random sex back for today,

0:45:34.160 --> 0:45:38.239
<v Speaker 1>let's hear it. So this random sex back. There's a

0:45:38.360 --> 0:45:41.320
<v Speaker 1>bird out there and it's called the bower birds. So

0:45:41.520 --> 0:45:44.760
<v Speaker 1>there are a couple of different species of this bird,

0:45:44.920 --> 0:45:46.719
<v Speaker 1>but they all kind of do the same kind of thing.

0:45:47.120 --> 0:45:51.160
<v Speaker 1>So the most notable characteristic of a bower bird is

0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:56.920
<v Speaker 1>there extraordinarily complex courtship and mating behavior where males build

0:45:57.120 --> 0:46:00.200
<v Speaker 1>a bower, which is like an attractive dwelling or like

0:46:00.239 --> 0:46:03.880
<v Speaker 1>a retreat to attract mates. So they build these beautiful

0:46:03.920 --> 0:46:08.000
<v Speaker 1>bower nest type things to attract the female bower bird.

0:46:08.520 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 1>So in and around the bower, the male places a

0:46:11.760 --> 0:46:16.080
<v Speaker 1>variety of brightly colored objects he has collected. So these objects,

0:46:16.200 --> 0:46:21.000
<v Speaker 1>usually different among each species, may include hundreds of shells,

0:46:21.320 --> 0:46:27.040
<v Speaker 1>these flowers, feathers, stones, berries, and even discarded plastic items coins, nails,

0:46:27.160 --> 0:46:30.600
<v Speaker 1>right for shells, or pieces of glass. The males spend

0:46:30.920 --> 0:46:35.160
<v Speaker 1>hours arranged in these collections. Several studies of different species

0:46:35.200 --> 0:46:38.600
<v Speaker 1>have shown that colors of decorations males use on their

0:46:38.680 --> 0:46:43.080
<v Speaker 1>bowers match the preferences of the female bower bird. In

0:46:43.160 --> 0:46:48.080
<v Speaker 1>addition to the bower instruction ornamentation, male birds perform involved

0:46:48.239 --> 0:46:52.080
<v Speaker 1>courtship displays to attract the female. Research suggests that the

0:46:52.200 --> 0:46:56.600
<v Speaker 1>male adjustice performance based on success and female response. Uh

0:46:56.840 --> 0:47:01.400
<v Speaker 1>mate searching females commonly visit multiple bowers, often returning to

0:47:01.520 --> 0:47:05.800
<v Speaker 1>preferred bowers several times and watching males elaborate courtship displays

0:47:05.960 --> 0:47:08.800
<v Speaker 1>and inspecting the quality of the bower. To this process,

0:47:08.880 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 1>the female reduces the set of potential mates. Many females

0:47:12.239 --> 0:47:15.719
<v Speaker 1>end up selecting the same male, and many underperforming males

0:47:15.760 --> 0:47:19.520
<v Speaker 1>are less without copulation. Females made it with top mating

0:47:19.680 --> 0:47:23.000
<v Speaker 1>males tend to return to the male the next year

0:47:23.239 --> 0:47:27.680
<v Speaker 1>and search less during you sell you read the size project, bitch.

0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:32.000
<v Speaker 1>So basically what they're saying is nicky, you gotta have

0:47:32.120 --> 0:47:35.439
<v Speaker 1>a house. The bat bird have a bomb mass that's

0:47:35.480 --> 0:47:38.680
<v Speaker 1>his ap, bitch. You got an ap and the chain

0:47:38.760 --> 0:47:42.839
<v Speaker 1>o the bout birds to attract a bird to track

0:47:42.960 --> 0:47:46.320
<v Speaker 1>his bird his bottom got If we're supposed to be

0:47:46.440 --> 0:47:52.200
<v Speaker 1>to sophisticated animals, why do these female bower birds no

0:47:52.760 --> 0:47:57.560
<v Speaker 1>to select the highest value male and he then they

0:47:57.680 --> 0:48:00.640
<v Speaker 1>come back year after year to make at that same

0:48:00.800 --> 0:48:03.520
<v Speaker 1>Now a lot of them come back for the same bird,

0:48:03.600 --> 0:48:05.719
<v Speaker 1>don't you know that right? That's what I'm saying, Yeah,

0:48:06.320 --> 0:48:08.920
<v Speaker 1>they sold about bird, were having all the bitches with

0:48:09.000 --> 0:48:13.279
<v Speaker 1>the nicest a PM. Don't sound like I don't never

0:48:13.320 --> 0:48:17.920
<v Speaker 1>forget what we are doing though, So why don't we

0:48:18.080 --> 0:48:19.799
<v Speaker 1>just act like we know what the fun is up?

0:48:19.840 --> 0:48:23.920
<v Speaker 1>Because the animals, some of this is just a straight

0:48:23.960 --> 0:48:31.000
<v Speaker 1>old chicken bottom of a bowl, bird, pigeon. So that's

0:48:31.000 --> 0:48:34.320
<v Speaker 1>how right now, section for the day. You don't have

0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:37.200
<v Speaker 1>to be a pigeon of me about Burger. Yeah, Sonny,

0:48:37.920 --> 0:48:41.759
<v Speaker 1>get you a nigger with a house at least to

0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:44.719
<v Speaker 1>fuck you in, or maybe just a headboard. Let's start there.

0:48:45.640 --> 0:48:51.360
<v Speaker 1>The one time I had this and it was a

0:48:51.560 --> 0:48:54.960
<v Speaker 1>mattress on the floor with a nice comfort on it. No,

0:48:56.560 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 1>and the problems. But the problem is that woman let

0:49:00.840 --> 0:49:03.680
<v Speaker 1>him fuck them on that mattress, and that's why he

0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:06.759
<v Speaker 1>think it's okay. So if all women were on the

0:49:06.840 --> 0:49:08.840
<v Speaker 1>same page, like, listen, nigga, you got at least have

0:49:08.880 --> 0:49:12.000
<v Speaker 1>a house, car, job, and a headboard and we in there.

0:49:13.040 --> 0:49:14.920
<v Speaker 1>Niggas would not get pussy if they didn't have that

0:49:15.040 --> 0:49:18.520
<v Speaker 1>bare minimum. But here's the thing. I've seen too homeless

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:23.319
<v Speaker 1>people fucking l a. So it's they deserve each other.

0:49:23.400 --> 0:49:26.719
<v Speaker 1>But you have homeless niggas think they deserve attend. I

0:49:26.840 --> 0:49:29.040
<v Speaker 1>had a niggers stopped me and asked me for some money,

0:49:29.520 --> 0:49:31.520
<v Speaker 1>and I gave it to him and then asked me

0:49:32.200 --> 0:49:35.840
<v Speaker 1>where was it that this Carolina bitch? That night I

0:49:35.920 --> 0:49:39.120
<v Speaker 1>went to the Walgreens. Is that stups down the street

0:49:39.120 --> 0:49:41.719
<v Speaker 1>by Harris Ceater. First a dude to ask me for

0:49:41.760 --> 0:49:44.680
<v Speaker 1>a ride, Then he asked me for a place to

0:49:44.840 --> 0:49:48.160
<v Speaker 1>stay and then he asked me if I had a boyfriend,

0:49:48.640 --> 0:49:50.760
<v Speaker 1>at what point do you think you could do anything

0:49:50.800 --> 0:49:52.120
<v Speaker 1>to me? And I just looked like, I need a

0:49:52.160 --> 0:49:54.919
<v Speaker 1>homeless nigga, But listen, you do be taking homeless people,

0:49:55.040 --> 0:49:57.080
<v Speaker 1>which I'm not taking a home has grown man. And

0:49:57.200 --> 0:50:00.439
<v Speaker 1>I can't even give a man who looks my age

0:50:00.560 --> 0:50:03.000
<v Speaker 1>asking for money, and I have a hard time giving

0:50:03.040 --> 0:50:06.440
<v Speaker 1>the money. I listen, I met this right down on

0:50:07.560 --> 0:50:13.799
<v Speaker 1>UH Central in Charlotte. I meant this finest homeless nigger right,

0:50:14.560 --> 0:50:17.800
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, what you doing out here? Like baby,

0:50:18.239 --> 0:50:21.320
<v Speaker 1>damn baby, Like listen, he made this. He gave me

0:50:21.400 --> 0:50:24.160
<v Speaker 1>this elaborate story why he needed money, and it was

0:50:24.239 --> 0:50:27.120
<v Speaker 1>sounded like something that he rehearsed. You know. It's like

0:50:27.480 --> 0:50:29.440
<v Speaker 1>my daughter has in masks and she wants to rights

0:50:29.560 --> 0:50:31.400
<v Speaker 1>betree cereal and I want to go pick it up her.

0:50:31.480 --> 0:50:35.200
<v Speaker 1>So if you could, like really elaborate story. And I

0:50:35.400 --> 0:50:38.400
<v Speaker 1>was like, listening, cut the ship. I'm gonna give you

0:50:38.480 --> 0:50:40.759
<v Speaker 1>some money, but keeping one hunting with me. You're not

0:50:40.800 --> 0:50:43.000
<v Speaker 1>about to go buy no cereal for your daughter with

0:50:43.120 --> 0:50:46.520
<v Speaker 1>a mask. He's like no. I was like, listen, don't

0:50:46.560 --> 0:50:49.600
<v Speaker 1>do that. Don't use your daughters to feed your addiction.

0:50:49.719 --> 0:50:51.880
<v Speaker 1>And he probably even seen his daughter in years. Right,

0:50:52.120 --> 0:50:54.680
<v Speaker 1>his daughter was in Raleigh. She wasn't even in Charlotte.

0:50:54.800 --> 0:50:57.600
<v Speaker 1>He told me. I was like, listen, I got in mess.

0:50:57.680 --> 0:51:00.239
<v Speaker 1>Don't use that. That's not funny, that's not cool. Don't

0:51:00.280 --> 0:51:03.239
<v Speaker 1>do that. I was like, you're very young. You're still young,

0:51:03.360 --> 0:51:05.840
<v Speaker 1>and you're a good looking man. Maybe have a mental illness,

0:51:05.880 --> 0:51:07.320
<v Speaker 1>and then when you don't have support, you don't have

0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:10.000
<v Speaker 1>family to help you, you end up on the streets.

0:51:10.840 --> 0:51:12.920
<v Speaker 1>It was so sad. I almost took him home, but

0:51:13.040 --> 0:51:21.800
<v Speaker 1>I've changed my mind. I gave him the five dollars

0:51:21.880 --> 0:51:25.719
<v Speaker 1>and I kept on going to you, you might have

0:51:25.760 --> 0:51:30.239
<v Speaker 1>got to fight out of football. He's fine. To was sad.

0:51:30.320 --> 0:51:34.400
<v Speaker 1>I hated to see him out there like that before

0:51:34.480 --> 0:51:37.120
<v Speaker 1>we go. Did you see Beyonce with her ass out

0:51:41.200 --> 0:51:43.800
<v Speaker 1>like she's scared? She's scared to talk about Beyonce for

0:51:43.840 --> 0:51:48.000
<v Speaker 1>the bee Hive? Come sorry, girl, what the fund is

0:51:48.080 --> 0:51:51.160
<v Speaker 1>Beyonce doing her ass out? Girl? She met she feels

0:51:51.160 --> 0:51:54.160
<v Speaker 1>like she was missing out or something. M hmmm, girl,

0:51:54.160 --> 0:51:56.320
<v Speaker 1>if you don't talk about this, I don't want to

0:51:56.360 --> 0:52:00.640
<v Speaker 1>talk about this. Is crazy out here saying nothing about

0:52:00.680 --> 0:52:04.879
<v Speaker 1>Beyonce's certain motherfucker's ain't gonna say nothing about Beyonce say

0:52:05.520 --> 0:52:11.719
<v Speaker 1>gay people, Jesus that it knows about three people ain't

0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:15.840
<v Speaker 1>got no problems with Alright, But if you guys like

0:52:15.920 --> 0:52:23.000
<v Speaker 1>the conversation, hey, that's up on Instagram at We Talk

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<v Speaker 1>always wanted to ask a black person. Um hit us

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<v Speaker 1>We're looking for all the hip hop Harry's to come

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<v Speaker 1>out and it's just a killer fight for my love,

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<v Speaker 1>not physically. Just really set that up. No, I really

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do that. Maybe I want I need a man.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the year for me. God said I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>find love this year. He a j Tella, y you

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<v Speaker 1>that special man for me? All right? We out by