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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion too

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Speaker 1: talked Back. Thank you guys for tuning in for a

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Speaker 1: new episode of We Talked Back. It's your girl a

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Speaker 1: j Hey, y'alls, Tim Bam, I missed you. That's the

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Speaker 1: voice you want to use. Hey, y'all, Hey y'all, Hey y'all.

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Speaker 1: Do how y'all Valentine's davin? All right? We want to

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Speaker 1: know email us tell me how you did that? Gone

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Speaker 1: four thousand over the weekend for a teddy bear? How's

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Speaker 1: your Valentine's? My Valentine's was good. I spent it in St. Thomas.

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Speaker 1: That's the first time on to St. Thomas. Is a

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Speaker 1: beautiful island. We smoked it like weed because it's damned illegal.

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Speaker 1: Next is smoking weed at the airport. Bitch. He was

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Speaker 1: looking all like sun kiss and stuff. Girl was all out.

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Speaker 1: I was like, let this big. Ain't she's shaking them

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Speaker 1: in the microphone y'all for y'all. Yeah, haven't got I

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Speaker 1: ain't got no titties for that. He's gonna be stabbing

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Speaker 1: me in my teeth in the summertime. You know, my

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Speaker 1: titty is used to really stink, and they just don't

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Speaker 1: know more like, so I ordering under these titties and

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Speaker 1: between them and underneath them. That's how that's a sign

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Speaker 1: you got a big because mine don't like cup under it.

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Speaker 1: Tempoo's our black history batty for the week. Our Black

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Speaker 1: history batty this week is Bessie string Field. She was

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Speaker 1: a badass bit since rode her motorcycle all over the

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Speaker 1: United States in the nineteen thirties, and since was only

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Speaker 1: nineteen years old. Now this is during the time where

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Speaker 1: streets weren't paved, there were dirt rolls, that there were

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Speaker 1: based on being black and a woman. But she said,

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Speaker 1: you know what funk that, I'm gonna do what I

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Speaker 1: wanna do, and what I wanna do is robing my god,

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Speaker 1: damn Harley. She lived by a simple credo. What I

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Speaker 1: did was fun and I loved it. She would navigate

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Speaker 1: through all these different challenges, like there wouldn't be places

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Speaker 1: they wouldn't let her sleep in hotels or nothing. Since

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Speaker 1: got married six times she was not playing like all right,

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Speaker 1: thank you yes. And then she also eventually became like

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Speaker 1: a dispatcher for the army, so she would use her

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Speaker 1: bike and dispatched messages from base to base on her bike. So,

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Speaker 1: Bessie string Field, you were a battie who talked back.

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Speaker 1: We salute you and we celebrate you since. So let

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Speaker 1: me tell y'all what happened without Nika. It was so

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Speaker 1: cold and without I. But I, you know, I have

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Speaker 1: to stick to my guns and do what I say

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do. So when outside my building, right across

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Speaker 1: the street of some houses, and I went to the

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Speaker 1: very first house, there was a white house, and I

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Speaker 1: thought about Donald Trump in the White House, and I

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Speaker 1: got angry. So I walked up to the house and

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Speaker 1: I just and I took off, running fast as I could.

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Speaker 1: And then this little agent lady right now, he's like,

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Speaker 1: what the funny are you're doing? She had a knife.

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Speaker 1: She started running behind me, and it was so crazy

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Speaker 1: that like, so I ran through the gate. I know

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Speaker 1: your mom used to beat your ask for line. What

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Speaker 1: are you talking about? He may have that big collaborator

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Speaker 1: story that quet that's good you up, because I was

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Speaker 1: about to tell you red oh finished, finish, please finish.

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Speaker 1: So she ran behind me. She had the knife like this,

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Speaker 1: like you know, she had a pointing down so she

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Speaker 1: was like running with it. Accident was moving fast. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was gone. I was looking back, but I was running.

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Speaker 1: She stabbed herself in the thigh and she's like, I

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Speaker 1: that went where I need help? This Asian lady stabbed herself,

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Speaker 1: So ambulade came. The amblams came and picked her up.

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Speaker 1: When we her to the hospital, her husband came met

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Speaker 1: me there, gave me reward money for helping her. And

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Speaker 1: that's how I bought the food that the spirits that

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Speaker 1: we ate it. What the bitch da how she gave

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Speaker 1: I watched that movie Judas and the Black Messiah Girl.

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Speaker 1: What you want to do, We'll be a nigga knocking

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Speaker 1: fights and white people. I want to fight some black people. Oh,

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Speaker 1: But then I wanted to fight white people today. The

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Speaker 1: way they killed Fred Hampton, it's just they shot him up.

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Speaker 1: took it. You know. I can't watch movies like that,

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Speaker 1: Like I gotta really brace myself and really like it

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Speaker 1: stirs my soul and I feel like a lot of

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Speaker 1: it is just like to get us riled up, and

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Speaker 1: y'all niggas ain't gonna do it anyway. From I'm an

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Speaker 1: organizer that I am. Yeah, I want to organize the

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Speaker 1: real niggas, right, that's where real nigger. But you need

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Speaker 1: just be on the back lines just doing making sure

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Speaker 1: with the guns. I don't think I'm that woman. You

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Speaker 1: front with the guns. Yea, at your house. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: in the march down the street, I don't even know

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Speaker 1: if marching is really like it. Don't do nothing with that.

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Speaker 1: White people only respect, disrespect and money, nuns and if

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Speaker 1: they feel slighted any type of way, this country will

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Speaker 1: feel it. But for whatever reason, we can continuously, you know,

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Speaker 1: Our leader has gone down. Anytime we like build super

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Speaker 1: infrastructure like Tolsa, Oklahoma, they destroy it. Like it's just

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Speaker 1: countless times where we've tried to rise up and it

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Speaker 1: has just been completely destroyed. We have great leaders. They

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Speaker 1: take them from us, but we helped them times oftentimes.

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Speaker 1: Again there's a judas who helps take our great people down. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because a lot of times everybody wants to be the

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Speaker 1: that's what creates a hater. They just can't be who

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Speaker 1: that nigga is because I couldn't be a safe Thomas

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Speaker 1: this weekend. Now she's bloting to see my fucking bracelet,

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Speaker 1: a little costume jewelry. It's so cute, though, Why you

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Speaker 1: I'm not that type of friend. I always I want

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Speaker 1: so sweet, may just be so sweet. I'm just not

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Speaker 1: that thoughtful. I don't even be thinking like maybe I

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Speaker 1: am a little bit selfish. I'm gonna work on that.

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Speaker 1: The next time you go into t J Max and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna work on that. Now. I got to send

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Speaker 1: all my friends so cute ship, because I ship. Tammy

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Speaker 1: always got like a light, a little cute, little thoughtful

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Speaker 1: little book to write some And here's a grand book

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Speaker 1: I bought for you. It right down everything you're grateful for.

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Speaker 1: I did one time and never again, not again, because

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Speaker 1: one day I just meditated and I just came to

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know what the book was there?

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Speaker 1: meditation session. Um well, not necessarily meditation manifestation. Did you

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Speaker 1: see what's been going around VI Simone the video she

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Speaker 1: the nigga you want, Like if you asking for a

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Speaker 1: man that has all these different qualities, you know, trying

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Speaker 1: to fulfill those qualities in yourself. Absolutely, I don't even

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Speaker 1: understand why, because it forces you to have self accountability.

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Speaker 1: She didn't say anything wrong, you know what I'm saying. Well,

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Speaker 1: got other people in your life not that thing too,

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Speaker 1: or you're not that thing to yourself. Most importantly, I

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Speaker 1: it because she got a new nigger. Right, Yeah, they're

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Speaker 1: the single Home Girls. That's why them just mad you

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Speaker 1: you wait till you got a nigga. Now you telling

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Speaker 1: That's but that I think that's an old video. It's

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Speaker 1: just going it's recirculating. You are who you beat, so

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Speaker 1: all right, there's a lot of women who would be like,

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Speaker 1: I never had a good man. All these niggas ain't ship.

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Speaker 1: It's just just not true. If every man you suck

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Speaker 1: need to discover what's wrong with me. Is I love

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Speaker 1: men that are unattainable for whatever reason. I body's husband,

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Speaker 1: him because they're on the tentable. Maybe that's the type

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, we'd be like just trying to get that

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Speaker 1: person to act, like how do you want them to act?

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Speaker 1: You're supposed to experience as soon as they act like that,

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Speaker 1: do you really want that man once the woman leaves him?

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Speaker 1: Like see friends, you meet a guy right and he

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Speaker 1: somehow either he tells you up front or you find

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I know people that are in relationships that started

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Speaker 1: because well, he left, he was ready to go, because

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Speaker 1: the home record is the motherfucker's in the home. But

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Speaker 1: like I'm like Olivia Polk, I like the unavailable. You fits,

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Speaker 1: that's what she's so fit to remember. You didn't watch,

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Speaker 1: But what is that? Maybe maybe that's something you may

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Speaker 1: be able to find out in therapy. I need to

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Speaker 1: if you're using it to cope, if you're sucking the

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Speaker 1: Why am I doing this to myself? Because you don't

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Speaker 1: at least your male perspective. Cool, all yeah? That so

423
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 1: we posted a meme on our page, hold and Don't

424
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: heal Right. We were talking about how women sometimes fun

425
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: to cope with ship going on in their life, and

426
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: we wanted to know do men hold to heal or

427
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 1: do you'll just hold for life? I think men hold

428
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 1: for recreations, but I've heard of men fucking girls after

429
00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: a breakup to get over the girl. Heard that that's possible.

430
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: So have you ever hold to him? I don't I

431
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 1: don't know if I didn't intentionally, but you like I didn't,

432
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: I didn't plan to be like, no, I'm hurt, I'm

433
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 1: gonna gon that just because I'm hurt. I don't think

434
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: I did that. I think men hold naturally, So is

435
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:22,439
Speaker 1: it not natural for women to hold them? Do you

436
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: think I can't? I can't say that. I'm not a woman,

437
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: so I can't really say that. But I think I've

438
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: heard women say that they be like heart broken and

439
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,359
Speaker 1: then they go through a fuck may this shaise? And

440
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 1: they used because its object. Yeah, help cope with them,

441
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: cope with the pain. But for ship, yeah, for sure,

442
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 1: ships and giggles like men like this, men like to

443
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: take of the captain. So how do men heal? Men

444
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: don't heal up from And then like you said, sixty yeah,

445
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:59,360
Speaker 1: and it gives me sixty eight no more. Because men

446
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: don't believe and been a lot of a lot of

447
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 1: black our conds. Don't believe in therapy. They don't believe

448
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: in opening up to the women. You know, they might

449
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,160
Speaker 1: open up to their mother, like they they don't open

450
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 1: up to people that's going to help them get better.

451
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: So men would just put a little rubbing alcohol and

452
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 1: I said, keep moving. They just they don't want to

453
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 1: go to the doctor. They just for a little alcohol. Yeah.

454
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: Push up, yeah, ginger, push up. So man, that's been problems.

455
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 1: And then when you fifty, you got mad problems, you

456
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: got mental problems, got physical problems like way before fifty

457
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 1: year before. If you're lucky, you're right, that's true. But

458
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think men potentially have sex with

459
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: women to get over pains. I think men now, I

460
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: think the opposite. I think if if nickeluses bitch, he'll

461
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: be hurt for like two and a half weeks. He

462
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 1: might the bead, he might crying the bed to like

463
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,719
Speaker 1: you know, Joe songs and ship genuine, and then after that,

464
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: I think could be to it. He going to the

465
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: next girl alive. He's gonna start a new slate. She

466
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: don't know, myn She don't know the bullshit that he did.

467
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: He could, like you know, like his under his act

468
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: was crazy, thank you and look let all the ship

469
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: out crazy. He did this. But he's not gonna tell

470
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: the eighty five things that he did to lose the bit.

471
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:32,199
Speaker 1: He's just gonna tell like crazy. So Nigga's just do

472
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:34,479
Speaker 1: that and then it's like it's like a cold thing

473
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 1: because I've been there with like you lose your girl

474
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: and you know what, you know that you deserve to

475
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 1: lose your girl, but you still be mad for like

476
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: two or three weeks, like I said, and then he

477
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: just come to like I'm just finding another girl to

478
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 1: just thought over with. Right, So Colling, that's crazy. We

479
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 1: can agree, then, thank you. We can agree that calling

480
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:55,679
Speaker 1: women crazy is like a cop out where is of

481
00:27:55,720 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 1: course the girls whom we're doing too, who were nigga

482
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: is really be crazy. So if I say, nigga, you crazy,

483
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: you're really crazy. Yeah, a woman don't tell their home

484
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 1: girls everything they did to make a nigga or leave

485
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 1: him alone, and then you said you do. Talking is

486
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: my therapy. Whoever to funk on, Listen, I'm gonna telling

487
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:20,719
Speaker 1: what the hell happened. I'm gonna tell all of them

488
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 1: ship I did. I'm gonna tell you, definitely tell you

489
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: all this the nigga did. Talking is why niggas leave

490
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: me alone. But you think you think that y'all can

491
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: honestly admit that y'all take a good man away before that.

492
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I don't like to chase. I

493
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: don't feel like I've never chased a good man. Yeah,

494
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 1: not take my chase. That's the wrong word. You think

495
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 1: you think you, your your personality or your actions scared

496
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: a good man away before. Absolutely. I can say absolutely

497
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: for me because sometimes I like my personality is a

498
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: lot and everybody can't handle it. I can't say you

499
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: a good man either, because I have talked to people

500
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: who later aron they want to tell me, oh, I

501
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: should have chose you this in the third all waiting

502
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: now married with kids and ship. Are you really a

503
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: good man? Professing your fucking love to me? Does that

504
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: make him not a good man though? Don't Yeah, because

505
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: of a listen, I'm saving their relationship, but not busting

506
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: the wide open for a nigger. That's a fact. Yeah.

507
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: So is he really about because he's ready to smash

508
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: if I allowed to? Sometimes people saying relationship about getting him?

509
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 1: How so explained? Please? Because the SoC because you have

510
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 1: sex with two where he realized how much he loves girl. Damn,

511
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: my pussy is not that wack, sir, I don't know

512
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: who you play. First of all, I'm breaking out. Let's

513
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 1: supposed to be breaking up home. No, it's a little

514
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: and look whack now, but she doesn't give good hits.

515
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: She didn't listen. Oh and you got a good It

516
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: could be every day. Okay, I've heard that. I've heard

517
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: that I gotta leave through alone because I kind of

518
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: like you better than my girl. And you don't even

519
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: like me like that because you know I've got a girl.

520
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: You're not gonna take tribute. No, I'm not funking nobody

521
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: who got a girl like that now, But guys who

522
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 1: may be single at the time, and I'm talking to

523
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: them like my personality may scare them off because I'm

524
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: like a wild card. I feel like men a lot

525
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 1: of times they find more comfort and knowing exactly who

526
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: you've been with throughout life. So like, you don't know me,

527
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: like I may not even be from the city, so

528
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 1: you can't go ask somebody about me. So that gives

529
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 1: them a little and might scare them off a little bit.

530
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: But the only thing that running is off from me

531
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: is my mouthpiece. That's it. Then love everything else about

532
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: me and then be like, yo, you don't know how

533
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: to shut the funk up. That's the truth. I'm working out.

534
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 1: I'm good. Everybody needs to work on shining some men

535
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 1: don't hold to heal, but women don't ye him, but

536
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: they don't they hold it get in trouble, and that's

537
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: why they need to heal, because they hold in the

538
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 1: first place they hold to have a good night. But

539
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: what I've heard from men who are now like married,

540
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: stuff like that, it's like once they get to a

541
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: point where they no longer need to be out here

542
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 1: in the streets, like everything else in their life falling together.

543
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 1: Like if you have a family, or maybe you might

544
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: be married, right and you stopped working around on your

545
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:35,719
Speaker 1: wife or the girl that you really you you're in

546
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: love with, but you keep working on these holes out here.

547
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: Once they stop that dumb ship and do right by

548
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: the woman in their life, everything else just starts going

549
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 1: well for them. Now I agree with that. I had that,

550
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: but yeah I had that. But a lot of guys

551
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: that I know that's very miserable. They like they don't

552
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 1: get coucie. They get couchie two tons of mind. They

553
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: gotta pay all the bills. They don't got money to

554
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: go out no more that they gotta pay everything, you know,

555
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: like they gotta be a Provada provider man. No, No,

556
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 1: it's not it's not gonna when they got to be

557
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 1: Provada and they're not getting before they getting tired of

558
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: the same opus. But let's talk about that. I know

559
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: this is going in a whole another conversation. How many

560
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: times if you if you got a girl, right, how

561
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: many times a week are you expecting sex? Um? Three?

562
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 1: Three times? That's it? Every other day? Yeah, I gotta

563
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: nigt complaining about not getting some pussy. Like literally, were

564
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: together for fourteen days, right, and three out of three month? No,

565
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: no, no no, three out of three out of the fourteen

566
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: days we didn't have sex. And he's looking at me like,

567
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 1: we fucking three years and something. So you get him three,

568
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: you get him pus three every two nine, nigger, what's

569
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: what's three months? Fourteen? No? He eleven times year? So no,

570
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 1: we had sex eleven times but not and then the

571
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 1: three times three days out out the fourteen days we

572
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 1: did not have sex. He was uh oh yeah, he

573
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: he shot all right, And I'm like, you're because you

574
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 1: keep feeding him at sea moss girl. Take him off

575
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: for that, like, I know I've been fucking like you

576
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: ain't a fucking what happened? Yeah, he was, he was

577
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: a little breedy three times a week. I'm gonna take

578
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: that name. You said about mattery though, like I'm used

579
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: to like already. What what makes you think women don't

580
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 1: get used to the dick. I'm not saying y'all don't.

581
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying that it costs. Like I think a man got,

582
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: he got a many many expect more because they got

583
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: to spend more. So that's how niggas think, whether it's

584
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: right or wrong, and they can like, yo, I'm paying

585
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 1: seven thousand dollars in bills I want, I should get

586
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: pussy whenever I want. Because I think if a woman

587
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: was paying seven thousand dollars a month in bills and

588
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: they lived with it, and they're laying next to a

589
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: stink foot nigga every every day, you're gonna want some

590
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 1: head and some dick. You want your actlete every day

591
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 1: because we're like nigger. So I'm not here laying that

592
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 1: to a like you know, like that's that's how men think,

593
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: Like yo, she's taking a lot of my brand. And

594
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 1: I think you know pussy and you don't want me

595
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 1: to cheat, You're gonna sunk me up about cheat too.

596
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,920
Speaker 1: So it's like what I'm gonna do yeah, but a

597
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,240
Speaker 1: lot of that's why a lot of married men are visible.

598
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,720
Speaker 1: That's why they go to dr three times and years.

599
00:34:50,840 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 1: You know you're during gonna know yo, Yeah seven dollar hollars,

600
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: but y'all shows dope. I'm gonna keep it going. Thank

601
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: you so much, thank you for joining us today. We

602
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: appreciate it all right. Just hut me up. I got

603
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: to do it in person soon and we let a okay,

604
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 1: I so again. So women just be hoing to he

605
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:28,320
Speaker 1: intentionally and nigga's just hosed by nature, so we'd literally

606
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 1: be laying the bad things about me. I'm gonna go

607
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: like they don't do the same ship, Like why why,

608
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: why the funk are we so different? Because women are

609
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 1: from Mars and men are from Venus? What was that

610
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: bitch up from Charleston, South Carolina? Got mafia bit? Hold on.

611
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: Before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills

612
00:35:52,880 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: real quick. So I went to find some healthy ways

613
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 1: to not fuck to heal, so healthy ways to heal.

614
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: So um, there was a list that I found. Yoga

615
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: was on it. So you can do your downward dog

616
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:18,880
Speaker 1: without dick behind you, just good by yourself. Um journaling,

617
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: so you can list the things, list your strengths right

618
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: down your feelings, and don't draw no dicks, no draw,

619
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: no scribble um. Forgiveness, that's very important. Forgive yourself for

620
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: whatever you're going through, and forgive others, and don't forgive

621
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:38,399
Speaker 1: them for them, forgive them for you. Mirror work, now,

622
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: this is the one that I do by myself when

623
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 1: I'm high, and it's fun. I'll be cracking up. It's

624
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: where you talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself,

625
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 1: how you a boss bitch? Are you a bad bitch?

626
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: How you the ship? And can't nobody funk with you?

627
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 1: So look in the mirror right now, a j tell yourself,

628
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: who are you saying that? The mic though, so they

629
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: can what else? Who are you looking at mirror to?

630
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: No is serious as it see, Mirror work is. It's

631
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 1: kind of hard, right, It's hard to look at yourself

632
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 1: in the mirror and talk to yourself. Okay, well, when

633
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: we push it off here, we're gonna stay it in

634
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: the mirror together. And I am pride, I am power,

635
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 1: my badass mother who don't take no crap for nobody.

636
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 1: You don't know what the movie that is? You don't

637
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 1: watch movies then you watched too much. Want that girl,

638
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: get your life, all right. The next one is breath

639
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 1: work for healing. And there's this thing called harmonic breathing

640
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 1: and it's the ancient form of breathing that has you

641
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: utilize two breaths and one x hell for at least

642
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 1: seven minutes. So it's kind of like that kind of situation, right,

643
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: and um, it's kind of like a form of meditation.

644
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 1: So that's meditating for a breath work for healing. Uh.

645
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: One big one that we all can use in our

646
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: lives and we need it's friendship. Friendship, spending time with

647
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: your girls, getting to have you know, having fun with

648
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: your girls. That's a way to cope with and heal

649
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 1: without fucking. Okay unless you sucking your home girls, and

650
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 1: some of y'all be doing that, but don't fuck them.

651
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: Counseling and therapy that is a very important one, that

652
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 1: big one that we all really need to utilize. We

653
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 1: as African Americans, we are really just starting to talk

654
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 1: about mental health in a way that we haven't. You know,

655
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:41,240
Speaker 1: I don't remember growing up talking about our our mental health.

656
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: Getting the therapist is a real big thing. And your

657
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 1: friends cannot always be a therapist. Like, like I said,

658
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: I like to talk, and that's an outlet for me

659
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 1: to be able to just have a conversation with the

660
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 1: people I know that love to care about me. But

661
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:59,279
Speaker 1: they can always the blind leading the blind sometimes because

662
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 1: I have something for is that will be like, bit

663
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: you sucking up? Or that'll make sense? Or why are

664
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: you doing that? I have some friends like that, so

665
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: it's important to have those type of friends. But so

666
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,880
Speaker 1: you want somebody outside of your life, a professional I

667
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 1: can give you real lives guidance, you know, even adults.

668
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: Adults see guidance too. For me, I feel like it's

669
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 1: sometimes it's hard for my friends to tell me the

670
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: truth about myself because I get like combative with my

671
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 1: friends when they tell me the truth. Sometimes I know,

672
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: you know, luckily I like to argue. Sometimes I'd be like,

673
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 1: you know what, why I don't see like that because

674
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 1: I'm not getting my point in class. Okay, let's just

675
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: start again tomorrow. So I know I need to like

676
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 1: seek professional help when it comes to that, because a

677
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 1: bit to tell me about myself and I'll be ready

678
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:48,280
Speaker 1: to fight. And then I get instead of receiving the information,

679
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 1: I started telling them about their ship. They ain't even

680
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: got nothing to do with the right girl. You know,

681
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: I started bringing up the ship like, so yeah, counseling

682
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: is a very good one. Um. Another way is to

683
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:05,879
Speaker 1: help someone help someone, regardless of their gender. A lot

684
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 1: of women will help a nigga before they help their

685
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 1: own friends. Help your friends. And if one of your

686
00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: friends happens to be a man and he needs to

687
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: help help him, did um it says. Another one was

688
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 1: to laugh, so you know, spend time watching something or

689
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 1: doing something that makes you feel joyous inside. And then

690
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 1: it also offers to cry. So a lot, especially Black people,

691
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: we hold our cry. Oh not me. I look at

692
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: myself in the mirror like you were like, ugly bitch,

693
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 1: stop crying. So you can tell yourself that in the mirror.

694
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: But you can't say nice things see yourself. I know,

695
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 1: I gotta work on that. This is therapy right now.

696
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: But you get all right, So when we get after

697
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: we hate this ship up, we're gonna stand in weird.

698
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm standing behind you and hold your shoulders and I'm

699
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: encourage you to say nice things to yourself. But okay,

700
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: so right when you need to cry, let it out,

701
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 1: like y'all be holding that ball in your throat so tight,

702
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 1: like holding that ship and let it go, bitch, let

703
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: it out. If you're feeling stut right now, are you

704
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: listening to this? Let that ship out, release it to

705
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: the universe so it can be done, and apologize to

706
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 1: yourself yourself, sorry, right, but give yourself. It's okay, bitch.

707
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 1: We all playing suck up. Okay. And then another one

708
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 1: is to work out. Exercise releases endorphins, and endorphins make

709
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: you happy, so when you're taking care of yourself, you're

710
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,240
Speaker 1: gonna feel good. And go get some real workout clothes.

711
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 1: Don't be in there with the big stretched out white

712
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: tea like. Go get some real workout clothes, maybe some

713
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 1: sneakers and match fit. It's gonna motivate you because you

714
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: are look cute. You look here, and you're working on

715
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 1: making yourself even look look even better. And the last

716
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 1: one that I found a good line, it's a hug.

717
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: Come here, girl, let me get your hug right now.

718
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 1: M hugs heal, hugs feel good. AJ has big titties,

719
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: so her hugs feel even better. I'm gonna charge this,

720
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 1: bitch man. We havena DEVI car that bitch, because I'm

721
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 1: not gonna take all the sexual harassment for for their

722
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 1: free I'm sorry, well bad, I'll see you, but i'm

723
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:26,399
Speaker 1: seeing your invoice. I'll see you forty. That's the going rate.

724
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: That was good, So try to implement those. They're called

725
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: fourteen ways to heal without fuckings. That's what I said,

726
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: on said fourteen ways to heal emotionally. Yeah, that's a

727
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: good list. I think we should all look within. Don't

728
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: go looking outside of yourself for healing, because it starts

729
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: with the because the better you feel about yourself, the

730
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 1: less access these outside entities will have to right. And

731
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 1: you know we we allowed the world around us stuff

732
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 1: beat us up all the time. I know I do it.

733
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: I'm watching social media and looking at these bitches on here.

734
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 1: I love to see black women being spoiled because I

735
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 1: don't feel like we're spoiled enough. But to have you

736
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: feeling less than like ship images that you see, what

737
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 1: have you feeling? But you have to remind yourself and

738
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: speak goodness of yourself and love of yourself all the time,

739
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: and remind yourself, like listen, if you hear the sound

740
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: of my voice right now, bait, you are that bitch, bitch,

741
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 1: you hear me. You are bad you. There's no one

742
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: else on this earth created like you, not one soul,

743
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,799
Speaker 1: and where you're going, there's no more you. So don't

744
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: let nobody tell you that you're not that ship, because

745
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 1: you are so. Stop using your pussy. Stop letting them

746
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 1: use it, only you use it. But if you're using it,

747
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: I am a firm believer. If you are using your vagina,

748
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 1: please assured that you are being compensated. Please make sure

749
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 1: that you are being compensated. You're not just out here

750
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 1: frivilously using your vagina and your rent is past. You

751
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 1: do what makes you happy, so you cannot be happy

752
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:12,879
Speaker 1: when your tires is bald and you know all change

753
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 1: you mean? I agree, I agree, but don't be a prostitute.

754
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: Don't listen to it like man, girl is the oldest profession.

755
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: You can have sex with someone just because you want

756
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: to have sex and not be financially compensated for it. Right,

757
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: how many times though this it's like a three pack

758
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 1: or four pack? I just like you should do what

759
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 1: makes you happy. As long as you're happy and fulfilling it,

760
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: then do that. But if you are unhappy and you

761
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 1: fucking that's a problem. Absolutely, this is a great conversation.

762
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:51,439
Speaker 1: This was. Are we gonna get in the mirror. I'm

763
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 1: gonna get in that mirror. Let me tell you the

764
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:54,879
Speaker 1: hardest part from me. When I get in that mirror,

765
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take my wig off before I do. I

766
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 1: don't like my no problem, I don't like these meek

767
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 1: wheel raised without doing it when she had the white bower,

768
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: took her lashes off, took a wig off. You're looking

769
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: at your real self. It's different, different, but I'm gonna

770
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 1: do it. We're about to do it right now as

771
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: the kid take her whef wig off, because let's sleep

772
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 1: that little shopping partners and always glue down tight. I'm

773
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: gonna take mine off though, So do we have Oh

774
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 1: I do have a good random sex back for today,

775
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 1: let's hear it. So this random sex back. There's a

776
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 1: bird out there and it's called the bower birds. So

777
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:44,760
Speaker 1: there are a couple of different species of this bird,

778
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: but they all kind of do the same kind of thing.

779
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: So the most notable characteristic of a bower bird is

780
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: there extraordinarily complex courtship and mating behavior where males build

781
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 1: a bower, which is like an attractive dwelling or like

782
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 1: a retreat to attract mates. So they build these beautiful

783
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: bower nest type things to attract the female bower bird.

784
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: So in and around the bower, the male places a

785
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: variety of brightly colored objects he has collected. So these objects,

786
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: usually different among each species, may include hundreds of shells,

787
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: these flowers, feathers, stones, berries, and even discarded plastic items coins, nails,

788
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: right for shells, or pieces of glass. The males spend

789
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: hours arranged in these collections. Several studies of different species

790
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 1: have shown that colors of decorations males use on their

791
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 1: bowers match the preferences of the female bower bird. In

792
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: addition to the bower instruction ornamentation, male birds perform involved

793
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: courtship displays to attract the female. Research suggests that the

794
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: male adjustice performance based on success and female response. Uh

795
00:46:56,840 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: mate searching females commonly visit multiple bowers, often returning to

796
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 1: preferred bowers several times and watching males elaborate courtship displays

797
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,800
Speaker 1: and inspecting the quality of the bower. To this process,

798
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 1: the female reduces the set of potential mates. Many females

799
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 1: end up selecting the same male, and many underperforming males

800
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: are less without copulation. Females made it with top mating

801
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: males tend to return to the male the next year

802
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: and search less during you sell you read the size project, bitch.

803
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: So basically what they're saying is nicky, you gotta have

804
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 1: a house. The bat bird have a bomb mass that's

805
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 1: his ap, bitch. You got an ap and the chain

806
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 1: o the bout birds to attract a bird to track

807
00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 1: his bird his bottom got If we're supposed to be

808
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 1: to sophisticated animals, why do these female bower birds no

809
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:57,560
Speaker 1: to select the highest value male and he then they

810
00:47:57,680 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: come back year after year to make at that same

811
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: Now a lot of them come back for the same bird,

812
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:05,719
Speaker 1: don't you know that right? That's what I'm saying, Yeah,

813
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 1: they sold about bird, were having all the bitches with

814
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 1: the nicest a PM. Don't sound like I don't never

815
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: forget what we are doing though, So why don't we

816
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:19,799
Speaker 1: just act like we know what the fun is up?

817
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 1: Because the animals, some of this is just a straight

818
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: old chicken bottom of a bowl, bird, pigeon. So that's

819
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:34,320
Speaker 1: how right now, section for the day. You don't have

820
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: to be a pigeon of me about Burger. Yeah, Sonny,

821
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 1: get you a nigger with a house at least to

822
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,719
Speaker 1: fuck you in, or maybe just a headboard. Let's start there.

823
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:51,360
Speaker 1: The one time I had this and it was a

824
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,960
Speaker 1: mattress on the floor with a nice comfort on it. No,

825
00:48:56,560 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: and the problems. But the problem is that woman let

826
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: him fuck them on that mattress, and that's why he

827
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 1: think it's okay. So if all women were on the

828
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: same page, like, listen, nigga, you got at least have

829
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 1: a house, car, job, and a headboard and we in there.

830
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 1: Niggas would not get pussy if they didn't have that

831
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: bare minimum. But here's the thing. I've seen too homeless

832
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:23,319
Speaker 1: people fucking l a. So it's they deserve each other.

833
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:26,719
Speaker 1: But you have homeless niggas think they deserve attend. I

834
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 1: had a niggers stopped me and asked me for some money,

835
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: and I gave it to him and then asked me

836
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 1: where was it that this Carolina bitch? That night I

837
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: went to the Walgreens. Is that stups down the street

838
00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 1: by Harris Ceater. First a dude to ask me for

839
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: a ride, Then he asked me for a place to

840
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 1: stay and then he asked me if I had a boyfriend,

841
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:50,760
Speaker 1: at what point do you think you could do anything

842
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 1: to me? And I just looked like, I need a

843
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Speaker 1: homeless nigga, But listen, you do be taking homeless people,

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Speaker 1: which I'm not taking a home has grown man. And

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Speaker 1: I can't even give a man who looks my age

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Speaker 1: asking for money, and I have a hard time giving

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Speaker 1: the money. I listen, I met this right down on

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Speaker 1: UH Central in Charlotte. I meant this finest homeless nigger right,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, what you doing out here? Like baby,

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Speaker 1: damn baby, Like listen, he made this. He gave me

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Speaker 1: this elaborate story why he needed money, and it was

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Speaker 1: sounded like something that he rehearsed. You know. It's like

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Speaker 1: my daughter has in masks and she wants to rights

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Speaker 1: betree cereal and I want to go pick it up her.

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Speaker 1: So if you could, like really elaborate story. And I

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Speaker 1: was like, listening, cut the ship. I'm gonna give you

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Speaker 1: some money, but keeping one hunting with me. You're not

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Speaker 1: about to go buy no cereal for your daughter with

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Speaker 1: a mask. He's like no. I was like, listen, don't

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Speaker 1: do that. Don't use your daughters to feed your addiction.

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Speaker 1: And he probably even seen his daughter in years. Right,

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Speaker 1: his daughter was in Raleigh. She wasn't even in Charlotte.

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Speaker 1: He told me. I was like, listen, I got in mess.

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Speaker 1: Don't use that. That's not funny, that's not cool. Don't

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Speaker 1: do that. I was like, you're very young. You're still young,

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Speaker 1: and you're a good looking man. Maybe have a mental illness,

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Speaker 1: and then when you don't have support, you don't have

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Speaker 1: family to help you, you end up on the streets.

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Speaker 1: It was so sad. I almost took him home, but

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Speaker 1: I've changed my mind. I gave him the five dollars

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Speaker 1: and I kept on going to you, you might have

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Speaker 1: got to fight out of football. He's fine. To was sad.

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Speaker 1: I hated to see him out there like that before

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Speaker 1: we go. Did you see Beyonce with her ass out

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Speaker 1: like she's scared? She's scared to talk about Beyonce for

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Speaker 1: the bee Hive? Come sorry, girl, what the fund is

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Speaker 1: Beyonce doing her ass out? Girl? She met she feels

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Speaker 1: like she was missing out or something. M hmmm, girl,

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Speaker 1: if you don't talk about this, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: talk about this. Is crazy out here saying nothing about

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Speaker 1: Beyonce's certain motherfucker's ain't gonna say nothing about Beyonce say

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Speaker 1: gay people, Jesus that it knows about three people ain't

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Speaker 1: got no problems with Alright, But if you guys like

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Speaker 1: the conversation, hey, that's up on Instagram at We Talk

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Speaker 1: Bad podcast. Also, we would like to hear your stories.

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Speaker 1: You watch all your dumb bitch stories. Ask a black

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Speaker 1: friend for any questions you guys may have that you've

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Speaker 1: always wanted to ask a black person. Um hit us

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Speaker 1: We're looking for all the hip hop Harry's to come

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Speaker 1: out and it's just a killer fight for my love,

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Speaker 1: not physically. Just really set that up. No, I really

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Speaker 1: wanted to do that. Maybe I want I need a man.

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Speaker 1: This is the year for me. God said I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: find love this year. He a j Tella, y you

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Speaker 1: that special man for me? All right? We out by