WEBVTT - The Breakfast Club Rewind Featuring Viola Davis & Damson Idris

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<v Speaker 1>The world's most dangerous morning show, The Breakfast Club. Fast Club.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all together, y'all are like a mega for us. Y'all

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<v Speaker 1>just took over him without your podcast. This Chris Brown,

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<v Speaker 1>I've officially joined the Breakfast Club. Say something, mother, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>with it. World cups Dangerous Morning Show Breakfast Club Boy,

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<v Speaker 1>you know we are the most dangerous morning show. Listen

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<v Speaker 1>back on the Breakfast Club. Wake Up, wake up, wake y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>A good time to get it off your chat you

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<v Speaker 1>man of blast. We want to hear from you on

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<v Speaker 1>the Breakfast Block. Hello, who's this? How are you doing this?

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<v Speaker 1>LG LG? What i'p getting off your chest? Brother? Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>I do pretty much. I'm a core term support of mine. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>The way these the way the cards out here, man,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't respect us. Fine. You know when when when

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<v Speaker 1>you see a big truck on the road, so you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta move to the bog. Everybody's trying to cut us off,

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<v Speaker 1>like giving us respect out there on the road. Mane Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be honest with you, man, Lately, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like them truck's been driving like they, cause I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it's been like that the last few years,

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<v Speaker 1>they'd be pulling up. They'd be cutting over on the

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<v Speaker 1>side of the road like they like they're driving regular vehicles.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey look, you gotta blue your way in out there.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all too big to be bullying your way in. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>you got a mack truck, but are you food run

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<v Speaker 1>to hit somebody? Hey, look, I ain't even gonna mack truck.

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<v Speaker 1>I try spot cards and everything, so I got a

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<v Speaker 1>three corps big face, you know what I mean, No

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get to the side. You know, like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't nobody want to set it over. Yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like that. People people do try to not let trucks over,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes Chuck's gotta take that because people will speed

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<v Speaker 1>up driving your blind spot. So I know that's not

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<v Speaker 1>an easy thing. I've seen it happen. I've probably done it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>trucks do the same thing, though. I don't like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all got you because you already got commanded the road.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, y'all can really hurt somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you can't just swerve over into another lane when

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<v Speaker 1>you drive it a pick ass. Cars gotta be careful too,

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<v Speaker 1>because cars be disrespectful to them. Trucks and just hop

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<v Speaker 1>over and think the truck could just down. It goes

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<v Speaker 1>both ways. It definitely goes both ways. That's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of way on the road. Man. All I'm saying is

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<v Speaker 1>we see you know what I mean, Like we got

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<v Speaker 1>here every day with a lot of weight. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of responsibility, you know what I mean. You and

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<v Speaker 1>your h you and your truck. Man. Uh no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>actually I'm hitting hitting the work right now. I was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna ask you blow the horn, but I thank you brother.

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<v Speaker 1>You want you to blow up? You're always doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>As a kid, that was the coolest thing. We used

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<v Speaker 1>to drive to Disney back in the day and you

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<v Speaker 1>see a truck, you get the truck driving to blow

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<v Speaker 1>the horn. That was the coolest thing. Okay, okay, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>never did that. Yes, no, fash him and ever you

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<v Speaker 1>don't show them. You have your breast, that's right. If

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<v Speaker 1>you want to sick trucks to blow you do your thing.

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<v Speaker 1>King you see, y'all always take it too far? What

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<v Speaker 1>y'all take it too far? What? Yeah, you've never been

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<v Speaker 1>a Disney that's why you never did it. Hello, who's

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<v Speaker 1>this yo? Yo? Yo? Angelie Charlotagne and God dj Z.

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<v Speaker 1>What's fuck what getting off your CHESSBA? That is my birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm twenty six years old man, Happy birth gratulations King. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up early this morning just to call you

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<v Speaker 1>guys and say, yo, I'm so happy. Um, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>long time listening at first time college from Florida. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>happy birthday brought. How you gonna tell no, uh cash

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<v Speaker 1>money Blaze two four ninety six. Now, I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>honest with you. That's not enough for nobody to want

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<v Speaker 1>to put nothing in your cash app. I mean you're

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<v Speaker 1>not the only person with a birthday out here, sir.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean if anybody's feel gaerous, anybody's feel big fall,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Yeah you Chagne, No, I ain't got

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<v Speaker 1>it for you this morning. I'll be honest with what

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<v Speaker 1>you doing for your birthday. I thought I heard you

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<v Speaker 1>guys get that girl's sake dinner. I was like, oh, man,

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<v Speaker 1>me and my wife girl love it. She had a

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<v Speaker 1>better story than you did, and I think she was

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<v Speaker 1>it was something to do with her children. I'll send

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<v Speaker 1>you a book though. I got a copy of Anita

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<v Speaker 1>Colpack Shallow Waters. I'll send you that for your birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>I got you happy birthdays. Will you have a good one? Brother,

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<v Speaker 1>you got it? Thank you? Hold on, let get your address. Hello?

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<v Speaker 1>Who's this? This D from the DD. What I'm doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Did from Virginia and Detroit? No oh, D from the D.

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<v Speaker 1>D from the D. I want to get it off

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<v Speaker 1>my chest. Hey, I am very respectable. I warning eighty one,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am someth oud of my mama. Sorry, mama,

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<v Speaker 1>my brother, damn my body. Everybody, just please leave me

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<v Speaker 1>a It's okay to say right, yes it is. It's

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<v Speaker 1>called boundaries. There's a great book called chet Boundaries, fine

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<v Speaker 1>piece by Nidra twob Glover that talks about that. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I am simply the sight of everybody else and people.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish y'all would call him the Breakfast Club with

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<v Speaker 1>short like get out here into it. I do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>I need to do. I live in Detroit. I hustle,

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<v Speaker 1>I survived, Stop big, you need get it together police.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's all I want to say. And I have

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<v Speaker 1>Russian power to Dinald Gillespie, my father. I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Breakfast Club. I listened to you every morning. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>D have a good one. D get it off your

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<v Speaker 1>chest eight hundred five eight five one on five one.

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<v Speaker 1>If you need to vent, hit this up now. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the Breakfast Club. Good morning the Breakfast Club. This is

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<v Speaker 1>your time to get it off your chests, whether you're

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<v Speaker 1>mad or blast. So plea better have the same, Indy,

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<v Speaker 1>we want to hear from you on the Breakfast Club.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on in North Carolina, Bill, get it off your chest.

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<v Speaker 1>This is for you, Mvy. I'm so proud of you

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<v Speaker 1>and Jail with this book. Y'all doing outstanding out here.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought her name is good, but it's good. She

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<v Speaker 1>she had good intentions that mama. I said, yeah, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so good. But um, I went to bot my

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<v Speaker 1>tickets for the par show, and I know that the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty dollars tickets was out, But can you start doing

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<v Speaker 1>family tickets because most of us have kids out here?

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<v Speaker 1>How many kids you don't want to see themselves? I

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<v Speaker 1>got three and a husband. How old are your kids?

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<v Speaker 1>Three and a husband? Seventeen fourteen and seven, seventeen fourteen

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<v Speaker 1>and ten? Oh you want family? I try to get

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<v Speaker 1>the tickets that you know the first I think, like

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<v Speaker 1>a thousand tickets. We're trying to do inexpensive as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>But you hold on it and I send you a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of tickets. All right, all Atlanta, Atlanta. That's just

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of knife. Okay, we'll set you up. Mama

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<v Speaker 1>holding it right? Thank you? Hello? Who's this three bad cut?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm back? Take take us our speaker. You can hear

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<v Speaker 1>me now, Man, I gave you better. Yeah, why you

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<v Speaker 1>sound like you an auto to him? Bro? Bro driving man?

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<v Speaker 1>What's happening? King? Ain't? Then auto spins up out? Dude, man?

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<v Speaker 1>And until I heard somebody every time about bulls man

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<v Speaker 1>over with all that he was talking about, Dick Sport

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<v Speaker 1>and stark Man, the sports story, you gonna get you

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<v Speaker 1>the baseballs and basketballs and and all that. Come on,

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<v Speaker 1>get your mind out the gutter king. Okay, I know

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<v Speaker 1>even I know, even driving trucks all night, But come on,

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<v Speaker 1>get your mind out the gutter king, and we appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>you too. With a truck driver, No, I ain't no

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<v Speaker 1>truck job man, I'm driving my car. How did you

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<v Speaker 1>get I thought he was driving truck? Man? I drive.

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta go to rood. Okay, when you work at

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<v Speaker 1>I work at the trust cut. I ain't gonna eat

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<v Speaker 1>call the man getting talking about but I feel you

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<v Speaker 1>well happy you got a job king? Yeah, man, when

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<v Speaker 1>you gonna have one of swimming all over here Southlina.

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<v Speaker 1>Many don't send um. I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta we gotta figure it out. I think the

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<v Speaker 1>closest we've been to North Carolina. But we're gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>back to it as soon as this. Y'all did do

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<v Speaker 1>a seminar and Columbia before you're talking about, Yes, you

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<v Speaker 1>did with Chris Chris. We did one talking about with Chris. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we sure did. That was early on, Yeah, we sure did.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all did one of the eight three my guy Chris?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you missed that one? Brother? Hello? Who's this morning?

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning? What's your name? Absolutely? They asked to get

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<v Speaker 1>off your chest. Now, I'm tired of working. I'm tired

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<v Speaker 1>of calling to school. I'm tired of working for somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else while they live in the best life because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to live my best life. Food. So basically, Kim

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<v Speaker 1>Kardashian was right, WHOA see a little bit? Right? You're

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<v Speaker 1>tired of work and you don't feel like that to day.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel like you need to get up your ass

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<v Speaker 1>and work. Huh, I tell you a good story, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, listen. I can never tell somebody what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I met a young lady this weekend. Her name

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<v Speaker 1>was Julie. She's in Providence, Rhode Island, and she was

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<v Speaker 1>tired of getting laid off, like during the pandemic, she

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<v Speaker 1>got laid off. So you know, she launched her own restaurant.

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<v Speaker 1>And she got a restaurant downtown in Providence, Rhode Island.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. Maybe it's something that you can do.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's something you want to do. I'm in school

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<v Speaker 1>trying to open up my own doctor's offers, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>too much. It happens though. It's not easy. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>easy to be an entrepreneur. It's a lot of work.

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<v Speaker 1>It is in school is a lot of work. Like

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<v Speaker 1>you get up every day and you know you exhausting

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of mental and emotional energy, physical energy. None

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<v Speaker 1>of this is gonna be easy. I think you're probably

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<v Speaker 1>just having a day to day. But I promise you,

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<v Speaker 1>when you crossed that finish line, you're gonna think it

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<v Speaker 1>was all worth it. That's all. I have a good one, Mama,

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<v Speaker 1>Get it off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five

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<v Speaker 1>one on five one. If you need to vent, hit

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<v Speaker 1>us up now. It was the Breakfast Club, Good morning,

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<v Speaker 1>the Breakfast Club booting. Everybody is tj Envy, Angela Yee

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<v Speaker 1>Scharlamagne the guy we are to breakfast Club. We gotta

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<v Speaker 1>ah guests in the building. You know him from Snowfall

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<v Speaker 1>and a host of other things. His birthday is one

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<v Speaker 1>day before mine. He's a fellow Virgo damn soon. It

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<v Speaker 1>just welcome son, Welcome, sir, damn Son. I didn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know your birthday was the first September, your

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<v Speaker 1>day before. Oh thud, okay, okay. Buddy of mine is

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<v Speaker 1>the two actually the show runnerup of Snowfall, Dave Andron

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<v Speaker 1>Buzzo is the best. You know. Absolutely, they had us

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<v Speaker 1>on New Yes, there you go. The first thing you

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<v Speaker 1>said was I love New York because I love Jamaican culture. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you love so much about Jamaican culture? What

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<v Speaker 1>what do you love? Obviously? Your food? Dirt chicken. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a guy you both, yeah, oxtail. Actually, I like to

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<v Speaker 1>dabble one both. I like to steal food from whoever

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<v Speaker 1>I'm eating with um plantains, do you guys say plantain

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<v Speaker 1>or planting slanting. I feel like that's the right way

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<v Speaker 1>to say it. I was saying it wrong. You had

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<v Speaker 1>to switch through all different times ways. It's different kinds

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<v Speaker 1>of ways to say things. So oh yeah, yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's part of my life instating people. You don't have

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<v Speaker 1>amazing Jamaican restaurants in London or in la where your shoot? No, nah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's no man, not at all out here like missus Lilies,

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<v Speaker 1>miss lilies m she wrote. She wrote on a gramyasels

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<v Speaker 1>like oh where could I go? People said, um, footprints? Yes, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, the best Caribbean food is in Brooklyn.

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<v Speaker 1>We got footprints, we got Swede, we got Caribbean social

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<v Speaker 1>we have this is New York. We have yes number

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<v Speaker 1>one as well. Come on the other one quote. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to try all of it today. That's impossible.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw you talking about how John Singleton told you

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<v Speaker 1>to stay humble though amongst everything different people. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know the first time we actually met you. You You were

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<v Speaker 1>up here with John Singleton. Yeah you don't remember you though,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember It's like this the first oh no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a couple of asking guys in a dss. Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>How has that been for you though, because obviously Snowfall

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<v Speaker 1>is such a huge show. You guys are in the

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<v Speaker 1>fifth season. We've watched Franklin grow up and he has

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<v Speaker 1>got a lot of big things happening. But in real life,

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<v Speaker 1>you've grown up too, and your star has grown up

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<v Speaker 1>as well. Yeah. Yeah, it's a testament to John Singleton.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. He really believed in me. And although I

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<v Speaker 1>fought for the role, like crazy, auditioned nine times, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he took me to South Central, opened up the car

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<v Speaker 1>door and said, if you survive, you got the role.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like walking around had to be in character.

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<v Speaker 1>Central was that experience. Man. So I'll get to John

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<v Speaker 1>Singleton's office and I think I'm gonna read the I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna audition, right, It's like like audition number eight or

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<v Speaker 1>something like that. And then he's like, yeah, no, we're

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna read anything. We're just gonna take a walk

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<v Speaker 1>someone walking around and he's like, don't break character. And

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<v Speaker 1>he's introducing me to people, and you know, Singleton was

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<v Speaker 1>like god in his community. Like people will be like yo, John,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and then they'd come up to me talking

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<v Speaker 1>to me and like Yo, what's up, little homie. I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up? So I'm just pretending like that I'm from there. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>And then his mom came and you know, I'm British.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm saying a bunch of British stuff in an

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<v Speaker 1>American accent. But he didn't know you were British, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, he knew, like he wanted to make. What

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<v Speaker 1>kind of British stuff were you saying? You know, like

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<v Speaker 1>you guys say like elevator, I say lyft. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys say Ben. You guys say trash or say Ben.

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<v Speaker 1>So exactly. So I'm talking in an American accent and

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<v Speaker 1>his mom comes like, oh, how lovely your hair looks today.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna go over there and throw something in

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<v Speaker 1>the bend and she looks over Johanna and she's like, John,

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<v Speaker 1>he ain't from here, huh. I was like, man, Mom,

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<v Speaker 1>just walking around Central. I wasn't scared, man, I was

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<v Speaker 1>with joining you. It was my big brother, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>That was my big brother missing greatly. But as far

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<v Speaker 1>as I get in this, in this industry and on

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<v Speaker 1>this journey, I'm always gonna on a singleton for being

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<v Speaker 1>my foundation. Well, let's talk about the new season. So

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<v Speaker 1>you're also producing. Yeah, in the new season. How did

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<v Speaker 1>that come about? I forced them to take give me

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<v Speaker 1>in prode secret no. Um. You know, when you when

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<v Speaker 1>you've been doing the show for so long, you you

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<v Speaker 1>pick up different traits, but at the same time, you

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<v Speaker 1>want to be challenged. And my circles um are so

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<v Speaker 1>bossy today that they inspire me to want to be

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<v Speaker 1>more of a leader. That's the truth. It's like if

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<v Speaker 1>you hang around with certain types of people having certain

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<v Speaker 1>types of conversations and they're like, yo, bro, you should go,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you ask, and they're like, okay, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been watching the a doc you know, and Hove

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you know, clothes mouths don't get fit, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's true. You know, asking you shall receive and

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<v Speaker 1>and I asked and they gave it to me, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, abubble things. I'm not I'm not saying my

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<v Speaker 1>level of producing is at the level of my acting ability.

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<v Speaker 1>My acting ability is quite horrible. I'm just saying. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>saying I'm being a sponge and I'm being given an

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to learn so that I could use my platform

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<v Speaker 1>and my brand to create more opportunities. All right, we

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<v Speaker 1>got more with damps and injuries from snow form. When

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<v Speaker 1>we come back, it's the breakfast club. Good morning, the

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<v Speaker 1>breakfast club. I used still taking piano lessons? I have whoa,

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<v Speaker 1>let's let's break this there. Where were you taking pan?

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<v Speaker 1>Where do we see him playing piano? I don't know, Juliard, No,

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<v Speaker 1>no playing piano. I'm just asking. I said you would

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<v Speaker 1>taking piano lessons or something like that. Oh damn, let's

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<v Speaker 1>see a video of it. Looked like you were good

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<v Speaker 1>with your hands. Oh wow, I don't know. No no,

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<v Speaker 1>no no. Um me and me and I'm never no

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<v Speaker 1>no me and that that that queen. Um are just friends. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>she's a great you guys were I was asking about

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<v Speaker 1>the piano lessons. Yeah, yeah, yeah, she's a great piano player.

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<v Speaker 1>And and I didn't know she could play piano. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even think the world knew. So I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a cool moment. I just posted with like

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<v Speaker 1>people thought like, you know, I don't know if Angel

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<v Speaker 1>you could play the piano, because I'm not her actually

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<v Speaker 1>to learn. I don't know if Taylor, who's over here

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<v Speaker 1>producer knows, you know, I don't know if she could

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<v Speaker 1>play piano. So how did you get to Sweedie's house

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<v Speaker 1>to see that she could actually play the piano? So

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<v Speaker 1>she's a huge Snowfall fan, right, And that day we

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<v Speaker 1>were at lunch, I think, talking about how we could

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<v Speaker 1>collaborate because we actually wanted to get before. No, it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't a day guys are talking about collaborator. No, guys

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<v Speaker 1>and girls could be friends. Yeah, absolutely, yeah, I agree

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<v Speaker 1>with you. That's exactly what me and and d we

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<v Speaker 1>were friends. Okay, all right, so go ahead. So y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>y're on a date eating I'm sorry, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>eating lunch. Yeah, but my dinner. So we're having lunch, um,

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<v Speaker 1>and then uh, she wanted to show me her new

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<v Speaker 1>place because I love CB two and I was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>give us some ideas about furniture and all. And then

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<v Speaker 1>boom we went and then she was playing piano. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was in there for like five minutes that dip

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<v Speaker 1>top Like you also talked about that Denzel is your

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<v Speaker 1>idol as far as acting. Oh yeah, so when you

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<v Speaker 1>see I don't I don't. I don't want mess up

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<v Speaker 1>the young lady's name. But when you seen a young

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<v Speaker 1>lady interview in Denzel and she mentioned your name and

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't know who you were. Break that down when

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<v Speaker 1>you've seen it and how you felt like you watched

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<v Speaker 1>the TV like, oh, Denzel and he was like, who

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<v Speaker 1>that is? And then he asked the white guy guy, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't know who that is. No, it

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<v Speaker 1>was it was insane. So I was at home, um,

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<v Speaker 1>on my phone at your house. Wow, my house, my house,

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<v Speaker 1>by myself. Yeah, by myself, and my phone's like blowing

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<v Speaker 1>up and it's like a bunch of articles and stuff

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<v Speaker 1>like that and people are calling me and I was

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<v Speaker 1>like then I was like talking about you. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, this is crazy. Like so then, um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that he didn't know who I was, he couldn't address

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<v Speaker 1>But that was funny though. That was funny. But hey, man,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's a new day, you know. Um, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>new day. And you know you could bash uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>get a notoriety through social media. I'm not gonna lie, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of my kind of existence has been

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<v Speaker 1>on that through my work and just through just being me. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>And some people from the past still don't respect that. Um.

0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.400
<v Speaker 1>But look what social media has done for so many

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<v Speaker 1>people today. We have to start moving in the direction

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<v Speaker 1>of the future. But above things and all of that,

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<v Speaker 1>Noise Denzel Washington is my idol. He's like a god

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<v Speaker 1>to me. Um and I will never have anything bad

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<v Speaker 1>to ever say about him. What's next for you? What

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<v Speaker 1>is it? What is some roles that you want to do? Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this something that you like? I would love to

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<v Speaker 1>do that role? Like, that's my dream role? Is it

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<v Speaker 1>an action figure? Is something musical? I love playing real people,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'd love to play Eddie Murphy, Sidney Poitier, fellow COUTI. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually I don't know. I don't know. Say so,

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<v Speaker 1>do you know who rich Pool is? Yeah? Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about to play Richpool, really really rich Paul the Agent. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know who rich poor He has a show something

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<v Speaker 1>about him coming out or it's in something where rich

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<v Speaker 1>Paul is a character? No, does he No? I'm asking

0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:57.200
<v Speaker 1>you it's something where he's does he? No? I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think he has a show coming out. But

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<v Speaker 1>he's a really good friend of mine. And there's people

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<v Speaker 1>behind this window like why did you say that? But

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<v Speaker 1>he called me. He was like, tell the world, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think we should. It's time we start cherishing black moguls,

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<v Speaker 1>and Rich is someone that people need to know. This

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<v Speaker 1>guy has completely changed the game. I'm happy and fortunate

0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:24.080
<v Speaker 1>to call him a big brother, and I can't wait

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<v Speaker 1>to honor his story. That's great. He actually right here,

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<v Speaker 1>approached Lebron in the airport selling Jersey his story and

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<v Speaker 1>that's how they met each other. Yeah. Yeah, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>like and then he's as a black sports agent, he

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<v Speaker 1>gets looked at in a completely different way. The white

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<v Speaker 1>sports agents were so angry that he was able to

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<v Speaker 1>come in and get like the biggest NBA player. Yeah. Story,

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be amazing, man, And you should start telling

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<v Speaker 1>the stories now while they were alive. I just had

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes when we wait till somebody passes away to tell

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<v Speaker 1>their story, but Damns has to leave me. Oh man,

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<v Speaker 1>all right. I would try to get a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>spoilers out of you, but I know you're really good though.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think I did well. But we appreciate you

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<v Speaker 1>for joining us. Brother, never really deal yes with everything, man.

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<v Speaker 1>I love the fact that you're producing. I can't wait

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<v Speaker 1>to see what else you have coming up, just because

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<v Speaker 1>we met you so like a few years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just amazing to see where you are

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<v Speaker 1>and where the show is now, and a large part

0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:18.560
<v Speaker 1>of that is because of you. So oh man, that

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<v Speaker 1>means so much. Man, thank you, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for having me. Well, let's Damnson in dress. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>It's topic time called eight hundred five eight five one

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<v Speaker 1>oh five. Want to join it to the discussion with

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<v Speaker 1>the Breakfast Club. Talk about it morning. Everybody is DJ

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<v Speaker 1>Envy Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we are the bread

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<v Speaker 1>Fits Club. If he just joining us? Uh, Damnsonages stopped

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<v Speaker 1>through yesterday and he was talking about his relationship with

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<v Speaker 1>his ex. Let's listen, we're still really close, really good friends. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I was with her for for a very long time.

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<v Speaker 1>I met her when I was eighteen years old. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>who knows, man, who knows what could happen in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, she's very much still in my life. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked like every single day. You know, people struggle

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<v Speaker 1>to keep relationships with their exes. But I am at

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<v Speaker 1>a place in my life now where I everyone I

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<v Speaker 1>meet I want them to be in my life forever.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that's a woman that I'm gonna know forever.

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<v Speaker 1>No answer. Could you be with somebody every day? No,

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<v Speaker 1>unless the person has kids with the other person, or

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<v Speaker 1>unless they got some type of very lucrative business together.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no reason for you to be talking to your

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<v Speaker 1>ex every day if at all, I want you. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>who's this this? She came up from Brooklyn? Now she camera?

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<v Speaker 1>Could you date somebody that talks to the X every day? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I could not. I like that. I like that what

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<v Speaker 1>they talk about every day? Word is Bob? Talk about

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<v Speaker 1>every day? The yam would just try to work it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Word is Bob, That's what I'm talking about. Ain't nothing

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about every day? Okay, every day nothing nothing

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, don't get me wrong. There is a lot

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about every day. But she shouldn't be talking

0:23:24.200 --> 0:23:26.640
<v Speaker 1>about with him, No her, not at all. Hello, who's

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<v Speaker 1>this Antonio? Now? What happened in your situation? Antonio? He

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<v Speaker 1>hit me ex was like alm up three years ago

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<v Speaker 1>and we talked about every day. Still trumpa together, try

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<v Speaker 1>to move on. But it made the hardest move on.

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<v Speaker 1>But I talked too much to the point where he

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<v Speaker 1>can move back if he got it back together, and

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<v Speaker 1>like last week, see now you're back. And that's that's exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>That's exactly what talking to your ex every day does.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like having a pilot light on. Eventually it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>catch flame. Somebody gonna turn the damn heat on. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I said that right, somebody gonna turn the damn

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<v Speaker 1>fireplace on. Okay, because that pilot light was lit, I

0:24:02.000 --> 0:24:03.639
<v Speaker 1>thought you're talking stove, But yeah, I get what the

0:24:03.720 --> 0:24:05.840
<v Speaker 1>same thing. Somebody gonna turn the stove on. Something with

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<v Speaker 1>some fire gonna happens. What I'm trying to tell you? Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>who's this? Marcus from Columbia, South of Carolina eight o

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<v Speaker 1>three metro. What's happening now, Marcus? What's going on with you?

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<v Speaker 1>You and your wife both? Um? So, my wife got

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<v Speaker 1>a baby daddy at her and she um she's a

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<v Speaker 1>nice lady, so she, you know, tends to try to

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<v Speaker 1>be communicated with him because of before when I came along,

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<v Speaker 1>he wouldn't talk to her. So I allow it to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, all right, you know, maybe y'all can bring

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<v Speaker 1>some communication for a kid. But now I became a problem. Yeah,

0:24:40.160 --> 0:24:43.600
<v Speaker 1>he's calling every day. Uh it ain't bout the kids,

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<v Speaker 1>and you seether he's trying to get to advice from

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<v Speaker 1>her or he's just trying to hold a little small talking.

0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:55.240
<v Speaker 1>He's trying to get some advice in some ass. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the truth though, Dad, But you know, and yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>only as you. I'm like, hey, I'm doing his own issues.

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<v Speaker 1>And when he decided to do he want to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with kids, he can communicate, but as of now that

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<v Speaker 1>got stopped. So they got hold on they have kids together.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he in the kid's life? No not. He's in

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<v Speaker 1>the kid's life only when someone uh pushes them all

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<v Speaker 1>like you don't call and say hey, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>He just to the mom or her was the head.

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<v Speaker 1>The kids want to see you or they've been asking

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:32.919
<v Speaker 1>him about you. Then he'd say, well, okay, you can

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<v Speaker 1>bring him by. I think that in a situation like

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<v Speaker 1>this is still tricky only because that is the baby daddy,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, you still you know how important it

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<v Speaker 1>is for a father to be in a child's life.

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<v Speaker 1>So she might still be holding out hope that he

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<v Speaker 1>gets his stuff together so he can be in his

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:51.440
<v Speaker 1>child's life. Yeah, she know, she says that, but I

0:25:51.560 --> 0:25:54.159
<v Speaker 1>keep telling how I said, if it took you to

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<v Speaker 1>leave him, that should have been a wake up call.

0:25:57.200 --> 0:26:01.440
<v Speaker 1>That's even all through these years, like keeping his older daughter,

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<v Speaker 1>You don't, Peter don't have no He talks to her,

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<v Speaker 1>but they don't have a father daughter communicating like a

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<v Speaker 1>father and his daughter ship. Yeah, yeah, I'm with you.

0:26:12.960 --> 0:26:15.159
<v Speaker 1>Let's cut him off? Are you stupid? Rock? Tell us

0:26:15.160 --> 0:26:17.960
<v Speaker 1>you got a block? So what's the ball of the story.

0:26:18.280 --> 0:26:19.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if there's a more. Everybody got to

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<v Speaker 1>do what works for them. But I'm just telling you

0:26:21.040 --> 0:26:22.639
<v Speaker 1>what it works for me. That don't work for me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Unless you got a business

0:26:24.760 --> 0:26:26.440
<v Speaker 1>or you got kids together, there's no reason for you

0:26:26.520 --> 0:26:27.879
<v Speaker 1>to be talking to your ex every day. What you

0:26:27.920 --> 0:26:29.760
<v Speaker 1>got the pilot light on for? You? Don't even use

0:26:29.840 --> 0:26:32.119
<v Speaker 1>that fire place number, that five place don't work. You

0:26:32.160 --> 0:26:35.240
<v Speaker 1>got a new stove electric Will you will with you

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<v Speaker 1>this club? Good morning, the Breakfast Club. It's a five one,

0:26:43.680 --> 0:26:48.040
<v Speaker 1>The Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlemagne, the guy. We

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<v Speaker 1>all the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in

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<v Speaker 1>the building, a queen a icon living. That's right, Viola Davis.

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<v Speaker 1>Well say later you so much. Good morning. How are

0:27:02.760 --> 0:27:05.840
<v Speaker 1>you today? You know what, I'm pretty good, I'm well rested,

0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I feel alive. There you go, okay, okay, Well, thank

0:27:09.359 --> 0:27:10.879
<v Speaker 1>you for taking time to come and sit with us.

0:27:10.920 --> 0:27:14.439
<v Speaker 1>It's just so exciting show on the schedule of Viola

0:27:14.520 --> 0:27:18.000
<v Speaker 1>Davis Finding Me. Yes, man, man, this book is such

0:27:18.080 --> 0:27:21.560
<v Speaker 1>a beautiful exploration of your your inner child. Like when

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<v Speaker 1>you started the journey of writing this book, did you

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<v Speaker 1>know you would go on that journey with your inner

0:27:25.520 --> 0:27:28.280
<v Speaker 1>child as well? Yeah. That was the whole point that

0:27:28.440 --> 0:27:32.120
<v Speaker 1>I needed to find that inner child, and my inner

0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:36.320
<v Speaker 1>child was one that needed both healing and needed to

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<v Speaker 1>be celebrated. She was a survivor as well as someone

0:27:40.520 --> 0:27:43.280
<v Speaker 1>who you know, held a lot of trauma. But I

0:27:43.440 --> 0:27:45.359
<v Speaker 1>felt like I had to explore it because we were

0:27:45.400 --> 0:27:48.240
<v Speaker 1>at that period of time. I wrote it during the pandemic,

0:27:48.960 --> 0:27:51.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, the George Floyd of it all, the Almand Aubrey,

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:55.360
<v Speaker 1>Brionna Taylor of it all, everything dealing with the COVID,

0:27:55.480 --> 0:27:57.720
<v Speaker 1>with the election. I felt like I was having a

0:27:57.840 --> 0:28:02.879
<v Speaker 1>crisis of meaning and it was my way of pressing

0:28:02.960 --> 0:28:08.359
<v Speaker 1>the reset button, just to understand, man, Viola, what are

0:28:08.359 --> 0:28:10.560
<v Speaker 1>you supposed to do from here on out? It just

0:28:10.840 --> 0:28:15.480
<v Speaker 1>was a big wake up call personally and you know, culturally.

0:28:15.720 --> 0:28:18.000
<v Speaker 1>So that's why I wrote the book. I had to

0:28:18.359 --> 0:28:20.600
<v Speaker 1>go back to the beginning of me. When you start

0:28:20.720 --> 0:28:22.400
<v Speaker 1>during the pandemic, or this was something you were doing

0:28:22.480 --> 0:28:24.760
<v Speaker 1>beforehand and you were just so many projects. He was like,

0:28:24.800 --> 0:28:27.240
<v Speaker 1>I'll get to it though this was pandemic, this is

0:28:27.280 --> 0:28:31.159
<v Speaker 1>what I want to do. Well. I didn't want to

0:28:31.240 --> 0:28:34.720
<v Speaker 1>do nothing during the pandemic, but I did start during

0:28:34.760 --> 0:28:37.080
<v Speaker 1>the pandemic. I had just finished How to Get Away

0:28:37.119 --> 0:28:41.040
<v Speaker 1>with Murder. I literally just ended it that March, and

0:28:41.240 --> 0:28:44.280
<v Speaker 1>then I started writing the book. It was something to

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<v Speaker 1>do because otherwise I was going stir crazy. I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>the person who settled into the pandemic. I felt everything

0:28:52.760 --> 0:28:55.200
<v Speaker 1>that was going on around me, and I felt the

0:28:55.360 --> 0:29:00.360
<v Speaker 1>chaos of it and I internalized it. So this book

0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 1>was great therapy. So when God made you sit still

0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:05.720
<v Speaker 1>in you know, during the pandemic, what did you see

0:29:05.720 --> 0:29:08.480
<v Speaker 1>about yourself that you hadn't saw in a while. I

0:29:08.600 --> 0:29:11.880
<v Speaker 1>saw a lot of things. I saw Viola as a survivor.

0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:17.680
<v Speaker 1>I saw, you know, I keep telling this story ad nauseum.

0:29:17.880 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 1>I know I've told it a lot, but I've always said,

0:29:22.120 --> 0:29:24.840
<v Speaker 1>you got to leave a legacy, right, So I said,

0:29:24.960 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's life. It's like a relay race. It's

0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:29.840
<v Speaker 1>what you do with your dash of time. And what

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:33.480
<v Speaker 1>great runner you pass that baton, you know, off to

0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:36.360
<v Speaker 1>You pass it on to the next generation. They pass

0:29:36.440 --> 0:29:39.040
<v Speaker 1>it on to the person you know who's after them

0:29:39.120 --> 0:29:42.000
<v Speaker 1>and after them. And I realized during the writing of

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:45.480
<v Speaker 1>the book, is those great runners are you at a

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<v Speaker 1>different age? The six year old who survives it then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, may survive it really messy, may have been inappropriate,

0:29:54.640 --> 0:29:56.960
<v Speaker 1>but she ran her leg of the race and pass

0:29:57.000 --> 0:29:59.800
<v Speaker 1>a baton onto the fourteen year old Viola who said,

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:02.160
<v Speaker 1>want to be an actor In the midst of all

0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:06.720
<v Speaker 1>the poverty, the abuse, the bed wedding, the sexual all

0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:09.560
<v Speaker 1>of that, she wanted to be an actor. She saw

0:30:09.640 --> 0:30:12.320
<v Speaker 1>a way out, and fourteen year old pass it onto

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<v Speaker 1>the twenty eight year old who said, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I need therapy because I want healthy relationships in my life.

0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 1>I want to be happier and I don't know how

0:30:20.600 --> 0:30:22.560
<v Speaker 1>to do that. And she passed it on to the

0:30:22.640 --> 0:30:24.920
<v Speaker 1>thirty four year old Viola, who got married to the

0:30:25.000 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 1>fort forty five year old Viola who then became a mom.

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<v Speaker 1>And then now I'm fifty six and I have the

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<v Speaker 1>baton in my hand, and now what you know, what

0:30:35.680 --> 0:30:38.680
<v Speaker 1>am I supposed to do with this part of my life?

0:30:39.360 --> 0:30:42.160
<v Speaker 1>Because I would say, at fifty six, you're a little

0:30:42.320 --> 0:30:48.360
<v Speaker 1>bit past midlife. So that's what I learned. It's like

0:30:48.520 --> 0:30:52.800
<v Speaker 1>it's a constant reassessment of where do you want to be,

0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:54.880
<v Speaker 1>what do your life? What do you want your life

0:30:54.920 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 1>to sort of look like? And I keep coming back

0:30:58.240 --> 0:31:01.080
<v Speaker 1>to this because I know I know that, I know that,

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:05.120
<v Speaker 1>I know that the number one regret of the dying

0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 1>is they didn't take risks, they didn't become their ideal self.

0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:14.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't want anyone to think that I wasn't brave,

0:31:14.680 --> 0:31:18.240
<v Speaker 1>And I think that sometimes people hold off braveness and

0:31:18.400 --> 0:31:22.560
<v Speaker 1>courage because they don't want to risk failure and they

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:25.040
<v Speaker 1>don't want to risk shame. And I think you got

0:31:25.160 --> 0:31:29.320
<v Speaker 1>to risk it. And that's been my biggest discovery in

0:31:29.400 --> 0:31:31.760
<v Speaker 1>writing the book. You're say in the book that memories

0:31:31.800 --> 0:31:35.800
<v Speaker 1>are powerful, right, some people like to beget memories because

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:38.400
<v Speaker 1>it's so painful, it's so hurtful. But it seems like

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:41.440
<v Speaker 1>you use it as inspiration to push yourself hard. Why

0:31:41.600 --> 0:31:47.200
<v Speaker 1>is that. I think the pain the trauma is equal

0:31:47.280 --> 0:31:49.640
<v Speaker 1>to the joy and the peace in your life. I

0:31:49.840 --> 0:31:53.080
<v Speaker 1>think that they're one and the same. I don't think

0:31:53.200 --> 0:31:56.240
<v Speaker 1>that the pain and the trauma and the hard times

0:31:56.360 --> 0:31:58.920
<v Speaker 1>are a detour from life. I think it's a part

0:31:58.960 --> 0:32:02.360
<v Speaker 1>of life. And I think that when you refuse to

0:32:02.560 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 1>lean in to all of it is you refuse to

0:32:05.960 --> 0:32:09.560
<v Speaker 1>become connected to yourself. And that's why no one can

0:32:10.000 --> 0:32:13.280
<v Speaker 1>connect with anyone else because the only time we want

0:32:13.320 --> 0:32:16.800
<v Speaker 1>to meet is with great stories of overcoming and winning.

0:32:17.200 --> 0:32:19.760
<v Speaker 1>And then when someone feels like they are not overcoming

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:22.280
<v Speaker 1>and they're not winning and they're not waking up happy

0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:24.600
<v Speaker 1>every day, then they feel like they need to hide

0:32:24.640 --> 0:32:27.400
<v Speaker 1>in the closet, not come out, not open their mouths

0:32:27.520 --> 0:32:30.200
<v Speaker 1>not saying anything. There's no one to share with, there's

0:32:30.240 --> 0:32:34.600
<v Speaker 1>no sacred space to be you. I count it all joy.

0:32:35.280 --> 0:32:38.920
<v Speaker 1>Now when I say I count it all joy, it

0:32:39.120 --> 0:32:43.280
<v Speaker 1>takes some time sometimes account it all joy. But I

0:32:43.440 --> 0:32:46.120
<v Speaker 1>do believe that it's all a part of life. I've

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.520
<v Speaker 1>been in too many spaces where I haven't been able

0:32:48.600 --> 0:32:51.080
<v Speaker 1>to connect with people. You just never know what people

0:32:51.360 --> 0:32:53.160
<v Speaker 1>have gone through to get to where they are today,

0:32:53.200 --> 0:32:55.800
<v Speaker 1>which is why memoir like this, where you were so

0:32:56.000 --> 0:32:59.600
<v Speaker 1>open and honest about everything, it really helped us to

0:32:59.640 --> 0:33:02.840
<v Speaker 1>see like where you come from when you're acting. And

0:33:02.920 --> 0:33:04.840
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to ask you about your relationship with your

0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:08.360
<v Speaker 1>parents because in this book you talk a lot about

0:33:08.720 --> 0:33:10.480
<v Speaker 1>things that happened to you when you were a child.

0:33:11.160 --> 0:33:13.320
<v Speaker 1>What did you realize while writing this book about like

0:33:13.400 --> 0:33:16.960
<v Speaker 1>your father and about your mother. I realized they did

0:33:17.040 --> 0:33:20.200
<v Speaker 1>the best they could with what they had. That's what

0:33:20.280 --> 0:33:22.640
<v Speaker 1>I realized. Because it's so hard to forgive your dad.

0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:25.920
<v Speaker 1>I know, you know you talk about how abusive he

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.160
<v Speaker 1>was to your mother and things that you had to witness,

0:33:28.760 --> 0:33:32.640
<v Speaker 1>So was it hard for you to even forgive that. Yeah,

0:33:33.640 --> 0:33:38.000
<v Speaker 1>forgiveness is to me. I feel like forgiveness and faith

0:33:38.120 --> 0:33:42.719
<v Speaker 1>are equal in terms of they're the hardest things to achieve.

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:48.520
<v Speaker 1>It they're so abstract. So it comes down to choice.

0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:52.360
<v Speaker 1>I forgive for myself. I forgive because I don't want

0:33:52.360 --> 0:33:56.600
<v Speaker 1>to carry that weight, the weight, the vengefulness of regret

0:33:56.720 --> 0:34:00.560
<v Speaker 1>and all of that. For me, it blocks everything from

0:34:00.600 --> 0:34:04.000
<v Speaker 1>coming into your life. And I don't think that anyone

0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:06.280
<v Speaker 1>wants to see a sixty year old or here is

0:34:06.360 --> 0:34:11.040
<v Speaker 1>sixty year old sitting in front of their therapists saying, I,

0:34:11.760 --> 0:34:14.279
<v Speaker 1>you know, haven't been able to make my marriage work

0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:16.359
<v Speaker 1>or this work in my life because what my dad

0:34:16.440 --> 0:34:19.600
<v Speaker 1>did when I was five. At some point your life

0:34:19.680 --> 0:34:23.920
<v Speaker 1>becomes yours as well. That you said that, because my

0:34:24.000 --> 0:34:25.520
<v Speaker 1>wife was up here the other day and she was like,

0:34:25.719 --> 0:34:27.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, when she forgave, she be gave for herself.

0:34:27.760 --> 0:34:30.319
<v Speaker 1>And I didn't understand it at first because most people

0:34:30.400 --> 0:34:33.759
<v Speaker 1>think when you forgive, your forgiving the person that hurts you.

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:37.480
<v Speaker 1>But it's actually to not to take away that pain

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:39.320
<v Speaker 1>from yourself so you don't have to deal with it anymore.

0:34:39.360 --> 0:34:40.680
<v Speaker 1>That is that what you're saying when you say I

0:34:40.719 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 1>forgive for myself, Well, yeah, that's part of it. I

0:34:43.760 --> 0:34:47.600
<v Speaker 1>do believe it's a sort of prison. And not to

0:34:47.719 --> 0:34:51.640
<v Speaker 1>get too philosophical, of course, but I believe that when

0:34:51.680 --> 0:34:53.400
<v Speaker 1>you get to the end of your life, you're not

0:34:53.520 --> 0:34:56.239
<v Speaker 1>thinking about all the people that you hated and all

0:34:56.320 --> 0:34:59.000
<v Speaker 1>the people that did you wrong. I don't think that

0:34:59.080 --> 0:35:01.399
<v Speaker 1>you're thinking about that when you're taking your last breath.

0:35:01.719 --> 0:35:04.600
<v Speaker 1>I just don't. I think all of that goes away,

0:35:04.680 --> 0:35:08.520
<v Speaker 1>and I think everything comes into sharp focus, which is

0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:13.000
<v Speaker 1>probably making amends, probably being with the people that you love,

0:35:13.520 --> 0:35:17.920
<v Speaker 1>probably sewing everything up, probably holding someone's hands. But I

0:35:18.000 --> 0:35:20.560
<v Speaker 1>don't think that we're thinking about all of that. I

0:35:20.760 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 1>think that once again, the only person you could say

0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:27.719
<v Speaker 1>is yourself. That's the only thing that you could do.

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:31.840
<v Speaker 1>You can't keep backtracking as what wrong someone did to

0:35:31.960 --> 0:35:34.080
<v Speaker 1>you or whatever. You got to figure out how to

0:35:34.200 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>heal that. It's like, you don't you haven't met all

0:35:38.800 --> 0:35:41.399
<v Speaker 1>the people who are going to love you in your

0:35:41.480 --> 0:35:44.600
<v Speaker 1>life yet. And so when you meet all these people

0:35:44.640 --> 0:35:46.879
<v Speaker 1>who are going to love you, they do not want

0:35:46.880 --> 0:35:50.880
<v Speaker 1>to meet a vengeful person, okay, because they're going to

0:35:50.960 --> 0:35:54.560
<v Speaker 1>get the overflow of that vengefulness. As a matter of fact,

0:35:54.600 --> 0:35:56.960
<v Speaker 1>they're not going to get the overflow of that vengefulness.

0:35:57.000 --> 0:36:00.120
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna get nothing. They're gonna go so far are

0:36:00.200 --> 0:36:03.600
<v Speaker 1>with you and then it's gonna stop. I've been with

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:08.560
<v Speaker 1>those people they called emotionally unavailable. We have more with

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:10.920
<v Speaker 1>Viola Davis when we come back, don't move. It's the

0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:14.560
<v Speaker 1>breakfast Club, Boilding. I love how you, you know, held

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:17.320
<v Speaker 1>your father accountable but also humanize them. Did you always

0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:19.160
<v Speaker 1>see the humanity in him or was that something that

0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:21.640
<v Speaker 1>happens as you got Oh do it, you know, with

0:36:21.920 --> 0:36:24.560
<v Speaker 1>the more work you did on yourself. Absolutely, more work

0:36:24.600 --> 0:36:27.480
<v Speaker 1>I did it on myself. The more I saw his humanity,

0:36:27.719 --> 0:36:30.160
<v Speaker 1>the more I could connect the dots. You know. I

0:36:30.320 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 1>thought life was like a Disney movie. People were just

0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:37.600
<v Speaker 1>good or bad. That's it. The evil villain who just

0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:41.239
<v Speaker 1>comes out just wants to destroy everyone. I didn't know

0:36:41.400 --> 0:36:46.760
<v Speaker 1>that people acted because of specific memories once again, trauma

0:36:46.880 --> 0:36:50.920
<v Speaker 1>in their lives. The people and we really demonize black people,

0:36:53.000 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, and the very way you wouldn't even be

0:36:54.920 --> 0:36:57.520
<v Speaker 1>doing what you're doing if all those things hadn't happened

0:36:57.520 --> 0:37:00.200
<v Speaker 1>to you as a child. Absolutely, because it was such

0:37:00.239 --> 0:37:01.920
<v Speaker 1>an escape for you to be able to turn on

0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 1>the TV. You said it was Cicely Tyson right, that

0:37:04.800 --> 0:37:07.120
<v Speaker 1>you saw that made you even say this is what

0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:11.040
<v Speaker 1>I want to do. Absolutely that that woman and that

0:37:11.239 --> 0:37:16.360
<v Speaker 1>performance was everything. I remember the moment I saw that

0:37:16.520 --> 0:37:20.239
<v Speaker 1>performance because it was like magic. It was like it

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:23.279
<v Speaker 1>was a magician pulling a rabbit out of the hat.

0:37:23.400 --> 0:37:27.160
<v Speaker 1>If you've ever seen the performance, she aged from eighteen

0:37:27.239 --> 0:37:29.919
<v Speaker 1>to one hundred and ten, and you could not even

0:37:30.040 --> 0:37:32.920
<v Speaker 1>believe it from the first frame of that it was

0:37:32.960 --> 0:37:37.840
<v Speaker 1>a mini series. And literally the wind stopped blowing, the

0:37:38.040 --> 0:37:42.719
<v Speaker 1>sun came out, and I saw a portal way out

0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:48.200
<v Speaker 1>of the poverty, the trauma. I just felt like, if

0:37:48.239 --> 0:37:50.520
<v Speaker 1>I could do that, I could make a life. I

0:37:50.680 --> 0:37:53.239
<v Speaker 1>think sometimes you gotta see it, you know, And I

0:37:53.360 --> 0:37:56.719
<v Speaker 1>know everybody just puts faith on people, especially on us,

0:37:57.239 --> 0:38:01.239
<v Speaker 1>especially on black folk. Know that's all we had. And

0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:03.920
<v Speaker 1>and but it's a lot. You know. You go up

0:38:03.960 --> 0:38:07.719
<v Speaker 1>to young black kids who are coming from really challenging backgrounds,

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:09.759
<v Speaker 1>and people come up to them and say, you know,

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:12.880
<v Speaker 1>you could be what who and what you want to be.

0:38:13.080 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 1>You just have to dream big. And then once you

0:38:15.280 --> 0:38:17.600
<v Speaker 1>make it, you come back, You bring your family up,

0:38:17.680 --> 0:38:20.279
<v Speaker 1>you bring your community up. And I'm sure if that

0:38:20.440 --> 0:38:25.400
<v Speaker 1>kid had a language, he would say, how that's a

0:38:25.480 --> 0:38:28.279
<v Speaker 1>lot you just throw and then you gotta work ten

0:38:28.400 --> 0:38:31.040
<v Speaker 1>times as hard. You throw all of that on their lap,

0:38:31.400 --> 0:38:34.759
<v Speaker 1>and then at fifteen, if they can't even get if

0:38:34.920 --> 0:38:37.479
<v Speaker 1>if they can't achieve it at all, if they feel

0:38:37.560 --> 0:38:40.279
<v Speaker 1>like they want to give up, then we just brate them.

0:38:40.960 --> 0:38:43.840
<v Speaker 1>It's a lot that we put on them. So sometimes

0:38:43.920 --> 0:38:46.080
<v Speaker 1>you gotta see it, you gotta hold it, you gotta

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:49.600
<v Speaker 1>somebody's gotta throw you a rope they do. Honestly, what

0:38:49.760 --> 0:38:51.880
<v Speaker 1>was you talk about, sileague or what was some of

0:38:51.920 --> 0:38:55.080
<v Speaker 1>your positive influences? Because you know, you talk about, you know,

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.160
<v Speaker 1>your parents and how you looked at your dad, and

0:38:57.200 --> 0:38:59.040
<v Speaker 1>you talked about, you know, going to the white school

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:01.239
<v Speaker 1>and the white kids chase all the bricks, and you

0:39:01.320 --> 0:39:04.160
<v Speaker 1>talk about all those things. So what positive influence did

0:39:04.200 --> 0:39:06.480
<v Speaker 1>you have? What was your safe haven as a kid?

0:39:06.560 --> 0:39:10.719
<v Speaker 1>If there wasn't there was no one safe haven for me.

0:39:10.960 --> 0:39:14.040
<v Speaker 1>What life becomes about is how someone could take you

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:18.080
<v Speaker 1>from A to a plus, from a plus to D,

0:39:18.920 --> 0:39:23.480
<v Speaker 1>from D to you know, to M to M. You know,

0:39:23.800 --> 0:39:27.000
<v Speaker 1>there are people who can carry you at different points

0:39:27.080 --> 0:39:29.839
<v Speaker 1>in your life. It could be a teacher, it could

0:39:29.920 --> 0:39:33.200
<v Speaker 1>be a parent, it could be a relative, it could

0:39:33.239 --> 0:39:36.000
<v Speaker 1>be a stranger that gives you one word. I had

0:39:36.040 --> 0:39:40.360
<v Speaker 1>a lot of teachers, even the first teacher who looked

0:39:40.360 --> 0:39:43.120
<v Speaker 1>at me and he was an acting coach, who looked

0:39:43.120 --> 0:39:46.479
<v Speaker 1>at me and told me I was beautiful. That meant

0:39:46.560 --> 0:39:50.040
<v Speaker 1>a lot to me. And the first person who just

0:39:50.200 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 1>came into science class because he was a teacher and

0:39:53.280 --> 0:39:54.600
<v Speaker 1>I called him in the middle of the day. He

0:39:54.680 --> 0:39:56.920
<v Speaker 1>was an upward bound teacher and I said, I was

0:39:57.000 --> 0:39:59.759
<v Speaker 1>having a panic attack. He came to the school. He

0:40:00.000 --> 0:40:02.600
<v Speaker 1>interrupted science class. He said, I want to see Viola.

0:40:03.000 --> 0:40:05.239
<v Speaker 1>The science teacher said you can't do that. He said,

0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:10.200
<v Speaker 1>excuse me, sir, I'm gonna do it. Anybody, anybody who

0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:13.719
<v Speaker 1>throws you a rope and sees you and likes you.

0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:17.440
<v Speaker 1>There is something about someone looking at you and liking

0:40:17.520 --> 0:40:20.160
<v Speaker 1>you right, and even saying your potential when you can't

0:40:20.160 --> 0:40:22.840
<v Speaker 1>see it absolutely, because sometimes you tuck yourself out of

0:40:22.920 --> 0:40:25.880
<v Speaker 1>things right because of fear. But then someone tells you,

0:40:26.000 --> 0:40:28.920
<v Speaker 1>like your science teacher, listen, you need to apply for this.

0:40:29.080 --> 0:40:30.719
<v Speaker 1>You can do it, And you tell yourself, I can't

0:40:30.760 --> 0:40:32.480
<v Speaker 1>do it. Why would they take me, why would they

0:40:32.480 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 1>accept me? But somebody else believing in you and giving

0:40:35.719 --> 0:40:38.439
<v Speaker 1>you the tools like you can't make excuses anymore after

0:40:38.520 --> 0:40:41.840
<v Speaker 1>a while. And you know what, very Seldoman, am I

0:40:41.960 --> 0:40:44.560
<v Speaker 1>in a space And I know y'all can say the

0:40:44.640 --> 0:40:47.960
<v Speaker 1>same thing, But am I in a space specially as

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:50.840
<v Speaker 1>a dark skinned black woman, and could speak my truth

0:40:51.680 --> 0:40:57.360
<v Speaker 1>about what that means the isolation of that experience, Okay,

0:40:57.719 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 1>because it comes at you, three old, It comes at

0:41:01.840 --> 0:41:08.200
<v Speaker 1>you through yes, white America. It comes to you through

0:41:08.360 --> 0:41:12.240
<v Speaker 1>the experience and the culture of America, and it comes

0:41:12.400 --> 0:41:17.360
<v Speaker 1>to you through even black culture. I'm just gonna say it,

0:41:18.000 --> 0:41:22.160
<v Speaker 1>because it's called colorism. It's its own different sect of racism,

0:41:22.840 --> 0:41:27.160
<v Speaker 1>and it is destructive because what you tell women in

0:41:27.360 --> 0:41:31.840
<v Speaker 1>general is that beauty is a value, which it's not. Listen,

0:41:33.200 --> 0:41:36.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm one of those people. I think everybody's beautiful, and

0:41:36.200 --> 0:41:39.000
<v Speaker 1>I really do. I don't talk about stuff like that.

0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:44.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, well the bull frogs. At a different level,

0:41:46.000 --> 0:41:52.320
<v Speaker 1>there was some meaning women, But you consider it a value.

0:41:52.920 --> 0:41:56.640
<v Speaker 1>And with someone who you feel has value, you pay

0:41:56.680 --> 0:42:00.160
<v Speaker 1>attention to them, you pour into them. You think that

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:03.800
<v Speaker 1>they're smarter, more, valuable, more everything. So when you go

0:42:04.040 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 1>up to little chocolate girls who are darker than a

0:42:06.680 --> 0:42:11.040
<v Speaker 1>paper bag and you're constantly telling them they're not as cute,

0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:15.880
<v Speaker 1>they have bad hair, they have this that you're putting

0:42:16.000 --> 0:42:20.280
<v Speaker 1>negative connotations. And then you can now you can literally

0:42:20.520 --> 0:42:25.960
<v Speaker 1>google people who seem to have had press conferences to

0:42:26.239 --> 0:42:31.239
<v Speaker 1>talk about how unattractive they find darker skinned women. I mean,

0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:34.040
<v Speaker 1>here's the thing. Even if you feel that way, why

0:42:34.080 --> 0:42:37.160
<v Speaker 1>are you gonna spread that? How do you think people

0:42:37.160 --> 0:42:40.560
<v Speaker 1>are gonna received that? And we know how difficult it

0:42:40.760 --> 0:42:43.200
<v Speaker 1>is to get a leg up, you know in the

0:42:43.280 --> 0:42:46.719
<v Speaker 1>black community, the lack of opportunity what we're running from,

0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:50.480
<v Speaker 1>and then you're gonna put that on us and so

0:42:51.520 --> 0:42:53.919
<v Speaker 1>and when you can't speak your truth in a room,

0:42:54.560 --> 0:42:57.520
<v Speaker 1>then you feel like you have to hide yourself. It's

0:42:57.640 --> 0:43:01.239
<v Speaker 1>very it's like physically painful. I want I want to

0:43:01.239 --> 0:43:02.719
<v Speaker 1>ask you a couple more questions about your father, because

0:43:02.719 --> 0:43:05.040
<v Speaker 1>I found that dynamic so interested. And you said something

0:43:05.080 --> 0:43:06.839
<v Speaker 1>the book, and I paraphrasing, but you said your father

0:43:07.360 --> 0:43:10.400
<v Speaker 1>was an abuser who became a good partner. Yeah, and

0:43:10.480 --> 0:43:13.920
<v Speaker 1>this era canceled coaches. Some people couldn't even imagine that happening.

0:43:13.960 --> 0:43:18.080
<v Speaker 1>Can you explain he did? And I think he always

0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 1>had it in him. I think he was wrestling you know.

0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:23.640
<v Speaker 1>I always feel like it got two people that you

0:43:23.760 --> 0:43:28.120
<v Speaker 1>wrestle with, right, and it's who you feed. And I

0:43:28.239 --> 0:43:31.480
<v Speaker 1>think he fed the more violent aspects of himself. I

0:43:31.560 --> 0:43:35.000
<v Speaker 1>think he was running from a lot. But in the

0:43:35.120 --> 0:43:38.320
<v Speaker 1>last several decades, I think since I was probably in

0:43:38.440 --> 0:43:43.120
<v Speaker 1>my twenties, he helped my mom raise a lot of

0:43:43.640 --> 0:43:50.560
<v Speaker 1>my relatives children, and he loved my mother. He was

0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:54.840
<v Speaker 1>always there rubbing her feet. And towards the end of

0:43:54.920 --> 0:43:56.560
<v Speaker 1>his life, I mean, I say towards the end, the

0:43:56.680 --> 0:43:59.239
<v Speaker 1>last couple of days of his life, my mom would

0:43:59.320 --> 0:44:03.160
<v Speaker 1>always say every single day he woke up, even when

0:44:03.239 --> 0:44:06.200
<v Speaker 1>he was suffering from dementia, towards the end, he would say,

0:44:06.280 --> 0:44:08.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, may Alice, you know, I'm sorry about what

0:44:08.880 --> 0:44:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I did to you. Wow, I'm sorry. I feel like

0:44:13.480 --> 0:44:16.400
<v Speaker 1>that's everything. I mean, how many people do you know

0:44:17.239 --> 0:44:21.759
<v Speaker 1>that even make amends, that even opened their mouths. And

0:44:21.920 --> 0:44:26.000
<v Speaker 1>I think that that, um, I feel like that has

0:44:26.080 --> 0:44:30.040
<v Speaker 1>to be acknowledged as an incredible character trait. All right, Well,

0:44:30.080 --> 0:44:31.920
<v Speaker 1>don't move. We got more with Viola Davis. When we

0:44:32.040 --> 0:44:35.240
<v Speaker 1>come back. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, Florida Morning.

0:44:37.680 --> 0:44:40.000
<v Speaker 1>The craziest people in America come from the Bronx and

0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:45.200
<v Speaker 1>all of Floridan. Yes, you are a donkey. The Florida

0:44:45.280 --> 0:44:48.480
<v Speaker 1>man attacked an ATM for a very strange reason. It

0:44:48.600 --> 0:44:50.920
<v Speaker 1>gave him too much money. Florida man is arrested after

0:44:50.960 --> 0:44:52.880
<v Speaker 1>definitely said he rigged the door to his home in

0:44:52.920 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 1>an attempt to electricate his pregnant wife. Police arrested in

0:44:55.680 --> 0:44:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Orlando man for talking a flimena to breakfast club bitchy

0:44:59.320 --> 0:45:02.600
<v Speaker 1>donkey other day. I don't know why y'all keep letting

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:05.880
<v Speaker 1>him get y'all lected. It's not me, It's really not me.

0:45:06.000 --> 0:45:09.839
<v Speaker 1>It's absolutely y'all donkey. Today from Monday, May sixteenth, goes

0:45:09.880 --> 0:45:13.200
<v Speaker 1>to a young lady named Jania Douglas of Florida, and

0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:15.120
<v Speaker 1>I went, did your uncle Charla always say about the

0:45:15.200 --> 0:45:18.160
<v Speaker 1>great state of Florida? The craziest people in America come

0:45:18.200 --> 0:45:21.280
<v Speaker 1>from the Bronx and all the Florida in today's no exception.

0:45:22.520 --> 0:45:24.640
<v Speaker 1>I got a question for you. It's a simple one.

0:45:25.480 --> 0:45:28.440
<v Speaker 1>What's on your bucket list? I don't have to explain

0:45:28.480 --> 0:45:30.240
<v Speaker 1>to you what a bucket list is due it's simply

0:45:30.320 --> 0:45:33.160
<v Speaker 1>a number of experiences, our achievements that a person hopes

0:45:33.200 --> 0:45:35.319
<v Speaker 1>to have, Our accomplished during their lifetime. I don't think

0:45:35.360 --> 0:45:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I've ever technically called things that I've accomplished bucket list items.

0:45:40.680 --> 0:45:42.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm more of a vision board type of person. But

0:45:42.960 --> 0:45:44.799
<v Speaker 1>we all have things we want to do in life. Okay,

0:45:44.840 --> 0:45:47.440
<v Speaker 1>some can be career oriented, some can be personal, but

0:45:47.520 --> 0:45:50.080
<v Speaker 1>we all simply have things we have historically wanted to do,

0:45:50.560 --> 0:45:53.239
<v Speaker 1>and once we did, then we scratched them off that list.

0:45:53.600 --> 0:45:55.759
<v Speaker 1>You know, we scratched them off our list. Angelie, what's

0:45:55.800 --> 0:45:57.560
<v Speaker 1>been on? It's been something on your bucket list that

0:45:57.640 --> 0:46:01.960
<v Speaker 1>you scratched off? What is something on my bucket list

0:46:02.040 --> 0:46:06.440
<v Speaker 1>that I scratched off a long time ago? Buying a house? Okay, y,

0:46:06.560 --> 0:46:09.320
<v Speaker 1>well something on your bucket listen, you scratched off traveling

0:46:09.360 --> 0:46:12.040
<v Speaker 1>in South Africa, going to South Africa. See, those are

0:46:12.120 --> 0:46:15.960
<v Speaker 1>real goals. Those are accomplishments that make sense. They're productive,

0:46:16.200 --> 0:46:19.360
<v Speaker 1>they're positive. Okay, they give you something to work towards.

0:46:19.680 --> 0:46:22.160
<v Speaker 1>But people's bucket lists vary for a lot of reasons.

0:46:22.239 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 1>And I can almost guarantee that Jania's bucket list is different,

0:46:25.600 --> 0:46:28.360
<v Speaker 1>okay than a lot of people's. All right. See, Jania

0:46:28.480 --> 0:46:32.080
<v Speaker 1>was recently charged with fleeing and eluding authorities and failure

0:46:32.160 --> 0:46:35.000
<v Speaker 1>to obey an order from a law enforcement officer when

0:46:35.040 --> 0:46:38.560
<v Speaker 1>she refused to stop. Okay, on last Thursday morning in

0:46:38.640 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 1>the Florida Keys, let me paint the picture for you.

0:46:40.960 --> 0:46:44.279
<v Speaker 1>Jania was driving to Toyota today, all right. She was

0:46:44.360 --> 0:46:47.560
<v Speaker 1>speeding and driving reckless near North Key Largo at about

0:46:47.600 --> 0:46:50.399
<v Speaker 1>seven forty seven am. An officer turned on his lights

0:46:50.440 --> 0:46:53.239
<v Speaker 1>and siren, but Jania did not stop them. Okay, she

0:46:53.320 --> 0:46:57.040
<v Speaker 1>continued southbound until stopping at a three way intersection. That's

0:46:57.080 --> 0:47:00.279
<v Speaker 1>as far as that Toyota sedan could go. Now what

0:47:00.520 --> 0:47:02.560
<v Speaker 1>was she fleeing for? Did she have a warrant she

0:47:02.640 --> 0:47:04.760
<v Speaker 1>knew about. Did she have a car full of drugs

0:47:04.800 --> 0:47:07.240
<v Speaker 1>and guns but she under the influence of any narcotics

0:47:07.280 --> 0:47:09.759
<v Speaker 1>or alcohol? Was there a dead white woman in the trunk? No?

0:47:10.360 --> 0:47:14.000
<v Speaker 1>Her reasoning her motive was that she told the deputy

0:47:14.200 --> 0:47:18.640
<v Speaker 1>that getting arrested had been on her bucket list since

0:47:18.719 --> 0:47:23.759
<v Speaker 1>high school. I repeat, Jenia fled and eluded deputies and

0:47:23.840 --> 0:47:26.560
<v Speaker 1>said she did it because getting arrested was on her

0:47:26.640 --> 0:47:29.719
<v Speaker 1>bucket list since high school. Let me tell I think

0:47:29.760 --> 0:47:31.840
<v Speaker 1>she's nineteen years old. If I'm not mistaken, let me

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:36.799
<v Speaker 1>be clear. Yeah, she's nineteen years old of Homestead, Florida. Listen, Yes,

0:47:41.880 --> 0:47:44.040
<v Speaker 1>first thing, I want to know, Jania, what else is

0:47:44.040 --> 0:47:47.879
<v Speaker 1>on your list? Okay, I know it's your personal bucket list,

0:47:48.000 --> 0:47:49.840
<v Speaker 1>but you need to let somebody read over it to

0:47:49.920 --> 0:47:53.120
<v Speaker 1>see what else is on there, because damn man, all right,

0:47:53.680 --> 0:47:57.880
<v Speaker 1>Also need y'all to know something. Hey uncle, Okay, uncle's

0:47:57.920 --> 0:48:00.839
<v Speaker 1>Charlotte is old, brother Lennard is old. I'm forty three.

0:48:01.120 --> 0:48:04.160
<v Speaker 1>My body different, I'm breathing different. If you don't know

0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:06.080
<v Speaker 1>what line that movie from, you ain't black. But I'm

0:48:06.080 --> 0:48:08.279
<v Speaker 1>saying all that to say, I don't understand what's happening

0:48:08.360 --> 0:48:10.440
<v Speaker 1>no more, man, I don't understand this generation. I have

0:48:10.600 --> 0:48:12.680
<v Speaker 1>no clue on what is happening anymore. But I'm not

0:48:12.760 --> 0:48:15.000
<v Speaker 1>going to generalize a whole generation. We live in a

0:48:15.080 --> 0:48:18.600
<v Speaker 1>world where we have to rely on the most unpredictable

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:20.880
<v Speaker 1>thing on the planet to keep us all safe, and

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:24.440
<v Speaker 1>that's human behavior. The only thing that keeps us relatively

0:48:24.480 --> 0:48:26.960
<v Speaker 1>safe on this planet is the actions of each other.

0:48:27.320 --> 0:48:29.520
<v Speaker 1>And we are living on this third rock from the

0:48:29.600 --> 0:48:34.520
<v Speaker 1>sun with people who want to scratch getting arrested off

0:48:34.600 --> 0:48:37.160
<v Speaker 1>that bucket list. So between this and folks who just

0:48:37.239 --> 0:48:40.160
<v Speaker 1>wake up wanting to commit mass shootings. We doomed. What

0:48:40.320 --> 0:48:42.760
<v Speaker 1>you need? I want you to know something. You clearly

0:48:42.880 --> 0:48:46.399
<v Speaker 1>can do anything you put your mind too. Now, other

0:48:46.520 --> 0:48:48.480
<v Speaker 1>things you might set your mind to do, other things

0:48:48.520 --> 0:48:50.040
<v Speaker 1>you might put on your bucket list, might be a

0:48:50.080 --> 0:48:52.759
<v Speaker 1>little more difficult than getting arrested. But I believe in you,

0:48:53.040 --> 0:48:56.080
<v Speaker 1>and I hope that this situation lets you realize that

0:48:56.440 --> 0:48:59.360
<v Speaker 1>anything you put on your bucket list you can absolutely do.

0:48:59.680 --> 0:49:02.360
<v Speaker 1>Any thing you set your mind to, you can absolutely do.

0:49:02.880 --> 0:49:05.799
<v Speaker 1>You just need to make some adjustments to your little

0:49:05.840 --> 0:49:09.320
<v Speaker 1>bucket list. Okay, once again, I'm sitting here trying to

0:49:09.400 --> 0:49:11.680
<v Speaker 1>understand the logic of something that is illogical. But it's

0:49:11.719 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 1>not illogical. It's just Florida. Please give Ja Neia Douglas

0:49:16.200 --> 0:49:19.000
<v Speaker 1>the sweet sounds of the Hamiltones. Oh, No, you are

0:49:19.680 --> 0:49:35.920
<v Speaker 1>Dogee of the Day, the Dogee oh the day. H

0:49:38.120 --> 0:49:40.440
<v Speaker 1>You want to play a game? No? I don't. Actually

0:49:40.600 --> 0:49:42.480
<v Speaker 1>they don't want to play a game. Don't want to

0:49:42.680 --> 0:49:44.040
<v Speaker 1>you know what? All right, I'm gonna use me you

0:49:44.120 --> 0:49:47.080
<v Speaker 1>to play a game. Okay, let's play a game of

0:49:47.560 --> 0:49:53.480
<v Speaker 1>guess what racing. Let's do it. Florida Woman nineteen years

0:49:53.480 --> 0:49:55.800
<v Speaker 1>old dropping a Toyota today and accused the fling. A

0:49:55.920 --> 0:49:59.080
<v Speaker 1>deputy says the restaurants on her bucket listens high school.

0:49:59.280 --> 0:50:04.120
<v Speaker 1>Al get us what racis? But she's definitely not black

0:50:04.120 --> 0:50:06.640
<v Speaker 1>because I don't think that's on our bucket list. Oh okay,

0:50:07.200 --> 0:50:09.720
<v Speaker 1>that's never been on a bucket list. Okay, Lisa's definitely

0:50:09.760 --> 0:50:16.360
<v Speaker 1>not black. So what do you got? I guess white? Okay,

0:50:17.680 --> 0:50:23.000
<v Speaker 1>past me something wrong? Can you please arrest dj NVY

0:50:23.440 --> 0:50:26.160
<v Speaker 1>woman driving a Toyota? So they had nineteen years old

0:50:26.280 --> 0:50:28.680
<v Speaker 1>of Florida wanted to get arrested because she said it

0:50:28.760 --> 0:50:33.560
<v Speaker 1>was on her bucket list. Guess what RACI damn it man,

0:50:33.600 --> 0:50:36.000
<v Speaker 1>I was going black until you just she just had

0:50:36.080 --> 0:50:38.600
<v Speaker 1>me like thankful for a little bit. The black person

0:50:38.680 --> 0:50:41.080
<v Speaker 1>don't want to get arrested, Like we don't want Yeah,

0:50:41.120 --> 0:50:43.880
<v Speaker 1>we want to avoid white people. Gotta beg to the right.

0:50:44.320 --> 0:50:51.799
<v Speaker 1>But my gut told me black earlier though. N See

0:50:51.840 --> 0:50:53.919
<v Speaker 1>what y'all always failed to realize when we do guess

0:50:54.000 --> 0:50:56.239
<v Speaker 1>what race it is? We have different categories. Maybe one

0:50:56.280 --> 0:50:58.600
<v Speaker 1>day I gotta just run down the categories. That's the category.

0:50:58.719 --> 0:51:04.360
<v Speaker 1>But there's white white, you know, we have Asian, Asian, Spanish, Latino,

0:51:04.960 --> 0:51:08.279
<v Speaker 1>and we have black black, right, but we also got

0:51:08.400 --> 0:51:13.680
<v Speaker 1>nigga new yor Douglas is what we call a young

0:51:13.760 --> 0:51:22.320
<v Speaker 1>nigga around these poor That's all this is, okay, powerful nigga.

0:51:22.640 --> 0:51:28.520
<v Speaker 1>Are you talking about Kirkland? But she can grow out

0:51:28.560 --> 0:51:31.400
<v Speaker 1>of this, okay. We all have our nigga face. By

0:51:31.440 --> 0:51:34.399
<v Speaker 1>the way, nigga pace is not just for black people.

0:51:34.640 --> 0:51:38.840
<v Speaker 1>There's white niggas too, okay, but they just can't use

0:51:38.880 --> 0:51:42.279
<v Speaker 1>the word. This was an act of Nigga Tree the

0:51:42.520 --> 0:51:51.719
<v Speaker 1>Breakfast Club. Need relationship advice, need personal advice, just need

0:51:51.840 --> 0:51:57.160
<v Speaker 1>real advice. Haul up nown for asking morning. Everybody's dj

0:51:57.719 --> 0:52:01.000
<v Speaker 1>Envy Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we all to breakfast

0:52:01.080 --> 0:52:03.920
<v Speaker 1>Club is time for asking ye Hello, who's this Hi?

0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:08.040
<v Speaker 1>This is Nicole, Hey, Nicole, what's your question for? Easy? Um? So,

0:52:08.480 --> 0:52:11.400
<v Speaker 1>the situation is, um, I've been in a relationship for

0:52:11.640 --> 0:52:16.400
<v Speaker 1>maybe like seventeen years. It just interns my relationship. He

0:52:16.520 --> 0:52:20.560
<v Speaker 1>had like different sexual interests and um, I thought, I'm

0:52:20.640 --> 0:52:24.840
<v Speaker 1>like the doctor doctor Natrix. I've been like control in

0:52:24.920 --> 0:52:28.239
<v Speaker 1>the bedroom and he seemed like he was into it.

0:52:28.960 --> 0:52:31.799
<v Speaker 1>I'd like to turn them out, but I don't really

0:52:31.920 --> 0:52:35.359
<v Speaker 1>like when they're into it. So I've been noticing more

0:52:35.440 --> 0:52:38.960
<v Speaker 1>and more aware they are, Um, he is like tooking

0:52:39.160 --> 0:52:44.239
<v Speaker 1>his booty out or it's like hanging and I kind

0:52:44.280 --> 0:52:47.040
<v Speaker 1>of not interested in it no more. So I want

0:52:47.080 --> 0:52:50.040
<v Speaker 1>to know how do I bring up the conversation with

0:52:50.920 --> 0:52:56.560
<v Speaker 1>him without hurting his feelings or damasculating him because so wait,

0:52:56.680 --> 0:53:00.319
<v Speaker 1>let me So the problem is that you're a dominatrix, right,

0:53:00.560 --> 0:53:04.439
<v Speaker 1>but he's enjoying it too much. I want to say, yeah,

0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:07.839
<v Speaker 1>that's the problem. Okay, you want him, you want him

0:53:07.880 --> 0:53:10.480
<v Speaker 1>to be like anymore? It's like, are you really now

0:53:10.640 --> 0:53:15.320
<v Speaker 1>like interested in bad or you know? Okay, so in

0:53:15.360 --> 0:53:18.600
<v Speaker 1>the beginning he wasn't enjoying it, No, he was. I

0:53:18.760 --> 0:53:20.680
<v Speaker 1>liked what I said, I'd like to to turn him out,

0:53:20.760 --> 0:53:23.440
<v Speaker 1>so he was like, have no, stay with from that area.

0:53:24.120 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 1>What you think? This is kind of like okay, so

0:53:26.680 --> 0:53:29.920
<v Speaker 1>you mean with you know, like putting something in his Yeah, okay,

0:53:30.480 --> 0:53:32.719
<v Speaker 1>all right, Well, first of all, you said the goal

0:53:32.920 --> 0:53:37.520
<v Speaker 1>is to turn someone out. It worked, yeah, did so

0:53:37.719 --> 0:53:40.239
<v Speaker 1>now that you turn him out your board. But the

0:53:40.440 --> 0:53:43.360
<v Speaker 1>thing is we are like partners, and I don't know

0:53:44.320 --> 0:53:48.200
<v Speaker 1>if this is gonna mess up our actual relationship. But

0:53:48.360 --> 0:53:50.799
<v Speaker 1>as a dominatrix, maybe you need to find something else

0:53:51.120 --> 0:53:53.040
<v Speaker 1>to do to him next to turn him out on.

0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:57.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean, okay, LEK, what other things do you do

0:53:57.960 --> 0:54:00.279
<v Speaker 1>as a dominatrix in this relationship, because I guess the

0:54:00.400 --> 0:54:03.960
<v Speaker 1>dynamic now is messed up? Right As a dominatrix, He's

0:54:03.960 --> 0:54:06.080
<v Speaker 1>supposed to be like no, I don't want that, don't

0:54:06.120 --> 0:54:09.320
<v Speaker 1>like that. He's resistant, but now he's like, yes, bring it,

0:54:09.600 --> 0:54:16.600
<v Speaker 1>do it to me, peg me yes. And I noticed

0:54:16.680 --> 0:54:21.200
<v Speaker 1>that before. I'm ready to actually take it. And I'm like,

0:54:22.400 --> 0:54:24.920
<v Speaker 1>right now, this is now, this feels like something we

0:54:25.040 --> 0:54:26.840
<v Speaker 1>both enjoy and it wasn't supposed to be like that.

0:54:27.719 --> 0:54:29.560
<v Speaker 1>So are there are there are there things that you

0:54:29.719 --> 0:54:33.200
<v Speaker 1>do to him and that situation, that relationship to h

0:54:33.880 --> 0:54:35.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe there's something else you could do where

0:54:35.719 --> 0:54:37.920
<v Speaker 1>you're stepping on him with the high heels, maybe a

0:54:38.000 --> 0:54:41.719
<v Speaker 1>little light whipping anything like that. Yeah, we we do

0:54:41.840 --> 0:54:45.480
<v Speaker 1>a little role play of you know, I don't want

0:54:45.520 --> 0:54:49.839
<v Speaker 1>to say please or patient. We do like a little

0:54:49.960 --> 0:54:52.560
<v Speaker 1>role plays, but like I said, it's just more of

0:54:53.360 --> 0:54:58.800
<v Speaker 1>now like we regular doing regular sex. He's ready to

0:54:58.960 --> 0:55:02.879
<v Speaker 1>to Susio Okay, what if he used a bigger deal? Though?

0:55:03.280 --> 0:55:07.319
<v Speaker 1>Why we do this is so wrong? Why is it wrong? Men?

0:55:07.480 --> 0:55:09.399
<v Speaker 1>Do not let women play in your butt unless they're

0:55:09.400 --> 0:55:11.960
<v Speaker 1>willing to make a real commitment to you. Okay, yeah,

0:55:11.960 --> 0:55:13.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean he gave you the button. Now all of

0:55:13.520 --> 0:55:17.759
<v Speaker 1>a sudden, it's too far. This is bad. Okay, they're

0:55:17.760 --> 0:55:22.719
<v Speaker 1>not married, right, Actually we are married. What he gave

0:55:22.800 --> 0:55:25.200
<v Speaker 1>you his butt and now you're saying it's too much?

0:55:26.040 --> 0:55:29.400
<v Speaker 1>You like it and you know that, but the problem

0:55:29.640 --> 0:55:31.400
<v Speaker 1>is that you did turn him out and got him

0:55:31.440 --> 0:55:33.680
<v Speaker 1>to like something that he was resistant to at first,

0:55:33.920 --> 0:55:36.920
<v Speaker 1>and now you don't like it anymore. So I mean,

0:55:37.080 --> 0:55:43.040
<v Speaker 1>what can you do? It works? Some suggestions? If not? Like,

0:55:43.560 --> 0:55:46.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm really like, I'm in a hard place because I

0:55:46.840 --> 0:55:49.360
<v Speaker 1>don't want to say to him I don't want to

0:55:49.400 --> 0:55:51.520
<v Speaker 1>do it anymore. And like I said, I'm the one

0:55:51.600 --> 0:55:56.680
<v Speaker 1>that started. Yeah, but who maybe you could do it.

0:55:56.760 --> 0:55:59.320
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you could do the opposite now right and torture

0:55:59.400 --> 0:56:03.640
<v Speaker 1>him by not doing it? Man, what you don't do

0:56:03.760 --> 0:56:11.759
<v Speaker 1>to another man's but somebody else will. I mean, is

0:56:11.800 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 1>it is it that you don't want to peg him

0:56:13.520 --> 0:56:19.200
<v Speaker 1>anymore at all? What if he acted like, don't what

0:56:19.320 --> 0:56:21.320
<v Speaker 1>if he acted like he doesn't like it? Now moving

0:56:21.360 --> 0:56:24.200
<v Speaker 1>forward and you let him? Can I ask him to

0:56:24.560 --> 0:56:27.440
<v Speaker 1>like with just a little bit more, Yeah, tell him like,

0:56:27.560 --> 0:56:30.000
<v Speaker 1>tell him like, look, the dynamics of what this was

0:56:30.200 --> 0:56:32.000
<v Speaker 1>is not what it is now, and this is what

0:56:32.120 --> 0:56:33.840
<v Speaker 1>I need you to do for me to fail turned on,

0:56:35.080 --> 0:56:38.120
<v Speaker 1>He might actually enjoy that too. That's not fair, mama.

0:56:38.160 --> 0:56:40.000
<v Speaker 1>If he likes something and now all of a sudden,

0:56:40.000 --> 0:56:41.880
<v Speaker 1>you're supposed to be a couple, you're supposed to enjoy

0:56:42.040 --> 0:56:45.000
<v Speaker 1>each other, Well, she's not enjoying it for he is right,

0:56:45.080 --> 0:56:47.600
<v Speaker 1>but he might enjoy also doing the role playing of

0:56:47.719 --> 0:56:50.080
<v Speaker 1>acting like this is his first time doing it. He

0:56:50.120 --> 0:56:51.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to do it in the first play why

0:56:52.280 --> 0:56:54.400
<v Speaker 1>he broke down for her to do it, and now

0:56:54.480 --> 0:56:56.279
<v Speaker 1>what he actually likes it? If he wants it, he

0:56:56.360 --> 0:56:58.000
<v Speaker 1>might have to play along. You know why a lot

0:56:58.000 --> 0:56:59.759
<v Speaker 1>of men don't like but play because they feel like

0:56:59.800 --> 0:57:01.520
<v Speaker 1>it makes him feel like less of a man, right,

0:57:01.600 --> 0:57:05.399
<v Speaker 1>It makes him feel like a sucker. Right. So so now, yeah,

0:57:05.480 --> 0:57:08.400
<v Speaker 1>I've been vulnerable with you. You turn me out, and

0:57:08.520 --> 0:57:09.960
<v Speaker 1>now you're telling me to stop back like a bitch.

0:57:10.280 --> 0:57:15.120
<v Speaker 1>Well guess who turned me into one? I'm just saying, anyway,

0:57:15.160 --> 0:57:20.080
<v Speaker 1>have you communicated any of this to him? Um, flight hint,

0:57:21.480 --> 0:57:24.400
<v Speaker 1>but not very direct, saying oh, this is how I

0:57:24.480 --> 0:57:26.840
<v Speaker 1>feel at this current moment. How can you make a change,

0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:31.000
<v Speaker 1>but be direct? You're a dominatrix, Be direct, okay, and

0:57:31.160 --> 0:57:33.240
<v Speaker 1>tell him, look, this ain't fun for me no more.

0:57:33.560 --> 0:57:36.000
<v Speaker 1>Before it was a resistant situation. You ain't one it.

0:57:36.120 --> 0:57:39.480
<v Speaker 1>Now you tuting it up that dang up daddy, make

0:57:39.560 --> 0:57:46.880
<v Speaker 1>it roll like in a regular helpful situation, Like it

0:57:46.960 --> 0:57:49.760
<v Speaker 1>seems like I have to take control of everything, and

0:57:49.920 --> 0:57:55.000
<v Speaker 1>it's like, is that from the way our room acts?

0:57:55.160 --> 0:57:57.280
<v Speaker 1>And now it's like I don't want to call him

0:57:57.360 --> 0:58:00.320
<v Speaker 1>bitching out because that's I don't want to downplayed to

0:58:00.520 --> 0:58:04.560
<v Speaker 1>be far from um a female dog, but like he's

0:58:04.680 --> 0:58:08.720
<v Speaker 1>very now thought or he's not taking patrol as I

0:58:08.920 --> 0:58:12.160
<v Speaker 1>think a man in the house. Okay, he might think

0:58:12.240 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 1>this is what you want, and if you haven't communicated

0:58:14.880 --> 0:58:16.960
<v Speaker 1>that you don't like it, he might think this is

0:58:17.000 --> 0:58:21.439
<v Speaker 1>the dynamic that you wanted. Charlemagne did say something real true.

0:58:21.480 --> 0:58:23.880
<v Speaker 1>What you don't do, somebody else will top guys, it's

0:58:23.880 --> 0:58:26.160
<v Speaker 1>the truth. You turned them onto it. So he liked. Listen,

0:58:26.840 --> 0:58:28.400
<v Speaker 1>you need to let him know that this is not

0:58:28.560 --> 0:58:30.680
<v Speaker 1>working for you and this is not what your intention was,

0:58:30.760 --> 0:58:33.280
<v Speaker 1>so he can take charge in certain situations. Again, this

0:58:33.400 --> 0:58:35.479
<v Speaker 1>is why men don't open up. Our hearts are butts

0:58:35.520 --> 0:58:38.920
<v Speaker 1>to people, because the situations like this. All right, but

0:58:39.080 --> 0:58:40.960
<v Speaker 1>the main thing is that you're not telling him what

0:58:41.120 --> 0:58:43.360
<v Speaker 1>it is that you need. You gotta let him much.

0:58:43.440 --> 0:58:45.200
<v Speaker 1>She wanted it at first, and he didn't want to

0:58:45.200 --> 0:58:47.040
<v Speaker 1>do it at first, and then he finally opened up

0:58:47.240 --> 0:58:52.240
<v Speaker 1>and did it and turned out and you are doing

0:58:52.320 --> 0:58:56.760
<v Speaker 1>that's all right, so listen, talk to him. Okay, you

0:58:56.840 --> 0:58:59.760
<v Speaker 1>gotta work through this. You you begged the playing my butt.

0:59:00.040 --> 0:59:01.600
<v Speaker 1>You're playing my butt now you look at me like

0:59:01.640 --> 0:59:05.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm soft. Let's just keep that. This is crazy. This

0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:10.520
<v Speaker 1>is this is crazy Tom. What's his number? We need

0:59:10.560 --> 0:59:14.440
<v Speaker 1>to call here? No, stop it, this is Tom on

0:59:14.520 --> 0:59:16.640
<v Speaker 1>the spot. Yeah, don't do it? All right, all right,

0:59:17.360 --> 0:59:20.480
<v Speaker 1>this is toxically. We have no problem answering any question

0:59:22.240 --> 0:59:25.520
<v Speaker 1>opened up for her. He finally he enjoys it now

0:59:25.640 --> 0:59:27.920
<v Speaker 1>and now she's just gonna take it back. I'll say,

0:59:27.960 --> 0:59:30.240
<v Speaker 1>y'all can't get me into communicate. We open up then,

0:59:30.320 --> 0:59:32.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all tell us, y'all like what we say you say

0:59:32.080 --> 0:59:34.400
<v Speaker 1>we don't share our emotions. We open up our hearts, y'all,

0:59:34.400 --> 0:59:36.640
<v Speaker 1>break our hearts, y'all. Say y'all we don't want like

0:59:36.760 --> 0:59:39.360
<v Speaker 1>butt play, We open our butts. Now, look to take

0:59:39.440 --> 0:59:41.480
<v Speaker 1>it back. You guys have been too in to ask you.

0:59:41.600 --> 0:59:45.520
<v Speaker 1>These past is crazy. Ye, this is crazy. This is foul.

0:59:45.640 --> 1:00:01.600
<v Speaker 1>These toxic women. We need to protest. We get Welcome Morning,

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