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Speaker 1: LG LG? What i'p getting off your chest? Brother? Uh?
Speaker 1: I do pretty much. I'm a core term support of mine. Uh.
Speaker 1: The way these the way the cards out here, man,
Speaker 1: they don't respect us. Fine. You know when when when
Speaker 1: you see a big truck on the road, so you
Speaker 1: gotta move to the bog. Everybody's trying to cut us off,
Speaker 1: like giving us respect out there on the road. Mane Now,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, man, Lately, I've been
Speaker 1: feeling like them truck's been driving like they, cause I
Speaker 1: feel like it's been like that the last few years,
Speaker 1: they'd be pulling up. They'd be cutting over on the
Speaker 1: side of the road like they like they're driving regular vehicles.
Speaker 1: Hey look, you gotta blue your way in out there.
Speaker 1: Y'all too big to be bullying your way in. All right,
Speaker 1: you got a mack truck, but are you food run
Speaker 1: to hit somebody? Hey, look, I ain't even gonna mack truck.
Speaker 1: I try spot cards and everything, so I got a
Speaker 1: three corps big face, you know what I mean, No
Speaker 1: trying to get to the side. You know, like I
Speaker 1: don't nobody want to set it over. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: like that. People people do try to not let trucks over,
Speaker 1: and sometimes Chuck's gotta take that because people will speed
Speaker 1: up driving your blind spot. So I know that's not
Speaker 1: an easy thing. I've seen it happen. I've probably done it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: trucks do the same thing, though. I don't like that.
Speaker 1: Y'all got you because you already got commanded the road.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, y'all can really hurt somebody,
Speaker 1: Like you can't just swerve over into another lane when
Speaker 1: you drive it a pick ass. Cars gotta be careful too,
Speaker 1: because cars be disrespectful to them. Trucks and just hop
Speaker 1: over and think the truck could just down. It goes
Speaker 1: both ways. It definitely goes both ways. That's a lot
Speaker 1: of way on the road. Man. All I'm saying is
Speaker 1: we see you know what I mean, Like we got
Speaker 1: here every day with a lot of weight. There's a
Speaker 1: lot of responsibility, you know what I mean. You and
Speaker 1: your h you and your truck. Man. Uh no, I'm
Speaker 1: actually I'm hitting hitting the work right now. I was
Speaker 1: gonna ask you blow the horn, but I thank you brother.
Speaker 1: You want you to blow up? You're always doing that.
Speaker 1: As a kid, that was the coolest thing. We used
Speaker 1: to drive to Disney back in the day and you
Speaker 1: see a truck, you get the truck driving to blow
Speaker 1: the horn. That was the coolest thing. Okay, okay, y'all
Speaker 1: never did that. Yes, no, fash him and ever you
Speaker 1: don't show them. You have your breast, that's right. If
Speaker 1: you want to sick trucks to blow you do your thing.
Speaker 1: King you see, y'all always take it too far? What
Speaker 1: y'all take it too far? What? Yeah, you've never been
Speaker 1: a Disney that's why you never did it. Hello, who's
Speaker 1: this yo? Yo? Yo? Angelie Charlotagne and God dj Z.
Speaker 1: What's fuck what getting off your CHESSBA? That is my birthday.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty six years old man, Happy birth gratulations King. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I woke up early this morning just to call you
Speaker 1: guys and say, yo, I'm so happy. Um, I'm a
Speaker 1: long time listening at first time college from Florida. Okay,
Speaker 1: happy birthday brought. How you gonna tell no, uh cash
Speaker 1: money Blaze two four ninety six. Now, I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: honest with you. That's not enough for nobody to want
Speaker 1: to put nothing in your cash app. I mean you're
Speaker 1: not the only person with a birthday out here, sir.
Speaker 1: I mean if anybody's feel gaerous, anybody's feel big fall,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah you Chagne, No, I ain't got
Speaker 1: it for you this morning. I'll be honest with what
Speaker 1: you doing for your birthday. I thought I heard you
Speaker 1: guys get that girl's sake dinner. I was like, oh, man,
Speaker 1: me and my wife girl love it. She had a
Speaker 1: better story than you did, and I think she was
Speaker 1: it was something to do with her children. I'll send
Speaker 1: you a book though. I got a copy of Anita
Speaker 1: Colpack Shallow Waters. I'll send you that for your birthday.
Speaker 1: I got you happy birthdays. Will you have a good one? Brother,
Speaker 1: you got it? Thank you? Hold on, let get your address. Hello?
Speaker 1: Who's this? This D from the DD. What I'm doing?
Speaker 1: Did from Virginia and Detroit? No oh, D from the D.
Speaker 1: D from the D. I want to get it off
Speaker 1: my chest. Hey, I am very respectable. I warning eighty one,
Speaker 1: but I am someth oud of my mama. Sorry, mama,
Speaker 1: my brother, damn my body. Everybody, just please leave me
Speaker 1: a It's okay to say right, yes it is. It's
Speaker 1: called boundaries. There's a great book called chet Boundaries, fine
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Speaker 1: I am simply the sight of everybody else and people.
Speaker 1: I wish y'all would call him the Breakfast Club with
Speaker 1: short like get out here into it. I do whatever
Speaker 1: I need to do. I live in Detroit. I hustle,
Speaker 1: I survived, Stop big, you need get it together police.
Speaker 1: That's that's all I want to say. And I have
Speaker 1: Russian power to Dinald Gillespie, my father. I love y'all.
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Speaker 1: Come on in North Carolina, Bill, get it off your chest.
Speaker 1: This is for you, Mvy. I'm so proud of you
Speaker 1: and Jail with this book. Y'all doing outstanding out here.
Speaker 1: I thought her name is good, but it's good. She
Speaker 1: she had good intentions that mama. I said, yeah, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: it's so good. But um, I went to bot my
Speaker 1: tickets for the par show, and I know that the
Speaker 1: twenty dollars tickets was out, But can you start doing
Speaker 1: family tickets because most of us have kids out here?
Speaker 1: How many kids you don't want to see themselves? I
Speaker 1: got three and a husband. How old are your kids?
Speaker 1: Three and a husband? Seventeen fourteen and seven, seventeen fourteen
Speaker 1: and ten? Oh you want family? I try to get
Speaker 1: the tickets that you know the first I think, like
Speaker 1: a thousand tickets. We're trying to do inexpensive as possible.
Speaker 1: But you hold on it and I send you a
Speaker 1: couple of tickets. All right, all Atlanta, Atlanta. That's just
Speaker 1: a lot of knife. Okay, we'll set you up. Mama
Speaker 1: holding it right? Thank you? Hello? Who's this three bad cut?
Speaker 1: I'm back? Take take us our speaker. You can hear
Speaker 1: me now, Man, I gave you better. Yeah, why you
Speaker 1: sound like you an auto to him? Bro? Bro driving man?
Speaker 1: What's happening? King? Ain't? Then auto spins up out? Dude, man?
Speaker 1: And until I heard somebody every time about bulls man
Speaker 1: over with all that he was talking about, Dick Sport
Speaker 1: and stark Man, the sports story, you gonna get you
Speaker 1: the baseballs and basketballs and and all that. Come on,
Speaker 1: get your mind out the gutter king. Okay, I know
Speaker 1: even I know, even driving trucks all night, But come on,
Speaker 1: get your mind out the gutter king, and we appreciate
Speaker 1: you too. With a truck driver, No, I ain't no
Speaker 1: truck job man, I'm driving my car. How did you
Speaker 1: get I thought he was driving truck? Man? I drive.
Speaker 1: I gotta go to rood. Okay, when you work at
Speaker 1: I work at the trust cut. I ain't gonna eat
Speaker 1: call the man getting talking about but I feel you
Speaker 1: well happy you got a job king? Yeah, man, when
Speaker 1: you gonna have one of swimming all over here Southlina.
Speaker 1: Many don't send um. I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: We gotta we gotta figure it out. I think the
Speaker 1: closest we've been to North Carolina. But we're gonna get
Speaker 1: back to it as soon as this. Y'all did do
Speaker 1: a seminar and Columbia before you're talking about, Yes, you
Speaker 1: did with Chris Chris. We did one talking about with Chris. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we sure did. That was early on, Yeah, we sure did.
Speaker 1: Y'all did one of the eight three my guy Chris?
Speaker 1: Did you missed that one? Brother? Hello? Who's this morning?
Speaker 1: Good morning? What's your name? Absolutely? They asked to get
Speaker 1: off your chest. Now, I'm tired of working. I'm tired
Speaker 1: of calling to school. I'm tired of working for somebody
Speaker 1: else while they live in the best life because I
Speaker 1: want to live my best life. Food. So basically, Kim
Speaker 1: Kardashian was right, WHOA see a little bit? Right? You're
Speaker 1: tired of work and you don't feel like that to day.
Speaker 1: You feel like you need to get up your ass
Speaker 1: and work. Huh, I tell you a good story, man,
Speaker 1: I mean, listen. I can never tell somebody what to do.
Speaker 1: But I met a young lady this weekend. Her name
Speaker 1: was Julie. She's in Providence, Rhode Island, and she was
Speaker 1: tired of getting laid off, like during the pandemic, she
Speaker 1: got laid off. So you know, she launched her own restaurant.
Speaker 1: And she got a restaurant downtown in Providence, Rhode Island.
Speaker 1: So I don't know. Maybe it's something that you can do.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's something you want to do. I'm in school
Speaker 1: trying to open up my own doctor's offers, but it's
Speaker 1: too much. It happens though. It's not easy. It's not
Speaker 1: easy to be an entrepreneur. It's a lot of work.
Speaker 1: It is in school is a lot of work. Like
Speaker 1: you get up every day and you know you exhausting
Speaker 1: a lot of mental and emotional energy, physical energy. None
Speaker 1: of this is gonna be easy. I think you're probably
Speaker 1: just having a day to day. But I promise you,
Speaker 1: when you crossed that finish line, you're gonna think it
Speaker 1: was all worth it. That's all. I have a good one, Mama,
Speaker 1: Get it off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five
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Speaker 1: us up now. It was the Breakfast Club, Good morning,
Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club booting. Everybody is tj Envy, Angela Yee
Speaker 1: Scharlamagne the guy we are to breakfast Club. We gotta
Speaker 1: ah guests in the building. You know him from Snowfall
Speaker 1: and a host of other things. His birthday is one
Speaker 1: day before mine. He's a fellow Virgo damn soon. It
Speaker 1: just welcome son, Welcome, sir, damn Son. I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I didn't know your birthday was the first September, your
Speaker 1: day before. Oh thud, okay, okay. Buddy of mine is
Speaker 1: the two actually the show runnerup of Snowfall, Dave Andron
Speaker 1: Buzzo is the best. You know. Absolutely, they had us
Speaker 1: on New Yes, there you go. The first thing you
Speaker 1: said was I love New York because I love Jamaican culture. Yeah.
Speaker 1: What do you love so much about Jamaican culture? What
Speaker 1: what do you love? Obviously? Your food? Dirt chicken. I'm
Speaker 1: a guy you both, yeah, oxtail. Actually, I like to
Speaker 1: dabble one both. I like to steal food from whoever
Speaker 1: I'm eating with um plantains, do you guys say plantain
Speaker 1: or planting slanting. I feel like that's the right way
Speaker 1: to say it. I was saying it wrong. You had
Speaker 1: to switch through all different times ways. It's different kinds
Speaker 1: of ways to say things. So oh yeah, yeah, that's
Speaker 1: that's part of my life instating people. You don't have
Speaker 1: amazing Jamaican restaurants in London or in la where your shoot? No, nah,
Speaker 1: that's no man, not at all out here like missus Lilies,
Speaker 1: miss lilies m she wrote. She wrote on a gramyasels
Speaker 1: like oh where could I go? People said, um, footprints? Yes, Like,
Speaker 1: first of all, the best Caribbean food is in Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: We got footprints, we got Swede, we got Caribbean social
Speaker 1: we have this is New York. We have yes number
Speaker 1: one as well. Come on the other one quote. But
Speaker 1: I'm going to try all of it today. That's impossible.
Speaker 1: I saw you talking about how John Singleton told you
Speaker 1: to stay humble though amongst everything different people. I don't
Speaker 1: know the first time we actually met you. You You were
Speaker 1: up here with John Singleton. Yeah you don't remember you though,
Speaker 1: I remember It's like this the first oh no, no, no.
Speaker 1: There's a couple of asking guys in a dss. Yes.
Speaker 1: How has that been for you though, because obviously Snowfall
Speaker 1: is such a huge show. You guys are in the
Speaker 1: fifth season. We've watched Franklin grow up and he has
Speaker 1: got a lot of big things happening. But in real life,
Speaker 1: you've grown up too, and your star has grown up
Speaker 1: as well. Yeah. Yeah, it's a testament to John Singleton.
Speaker 1: You know. He really believed in me. And although I
Speaker 1: fought for the role, like crazy, auditioned nine times, you know,
Speaker 1: he took me to South Central, opened up the car
Speaker 1: door and said, if you survive, you got the role.
Speaker 1: And I was like walking around had to be in character.
Speaker 1: Central was that experience. Man. So I'll get to John
Speaker 1: Singleton's office and I think I'm gonna read the I'm
Speaker 1: gonna audition, right, It's like like audition number eight or
Speaker 1: something like that. And then he's like, yeah, no, we're
Speaker 1: not gonna read anything. We're just gonna take a walk
Speaker 1: someone walking around and he's like, don't break character. And
Speaker 1: he's introducing me to people, and you know, Singleton was
Speaker 1: like god in his community. Like people will be like yo, John,
Speaker 1: you know, and then they'd come up to me talking
Speaker 1: to me and like Yo, what's up, little homie. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: what's up? So I'm just pretending like that I'm from there. Um.
Speaker 1: And then his mom came and you know, I'm British.
Speaker 1: So I'm saying a bunch of British stuff in an
Speaker 1: American accent. But he didn't know you were British, right,
Speaker 1: Oh no, he knew, like he wanted to make. What
Speaker 1: kind of British stuff were you saying? You know, like
Speaker 1: you guys say like elevator, I say lyft. You know,
Speaker 1: you guys say Ben. You guys say trash or say Ben.
Speaker 1: So exactly. So I'm talking in an American accent and
Speaker 1: his mom comes like, oh, how lovely your hair looks today.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go over there and throw something in
Speaker 1: the bend and she looks over Johanna and she's like, John,
Speaker 1: he ain't from here, huh. I was like, man, Mom,
Speaker 1: just walking around Central. I wasn't scared, man, I was
Speaker 1: with joining you. It was my big brother, you know.
Speaker 1: That was my big brother missing greatly. But as far
Speaker 1: as I get in this, in this industry and on
Speaker 1: this journey, I'm always gonna on a singleton for being
Speaker 1: my foundation. Well, let's talk about the new season. So
Speaker 1: you're also producing. Yeah, in the new season. How did
Speaker 1: that come about? I forced them to take give me
Speaker 1: in prode secret no. Um. You know, when you when
Speaker 1: you've been doing the show for so long, you you
Speaker 1: pick up different traits, but at the same time, you
Speaker 1: want to be challenged. And my circles um are so
Speaker 1: bossy today that they inspire me to want to be
Speaker 1: more of a leader. That's the truth. It's like if
Speaker 1: you hang around with certain types of people having certain
Speaker 1: types of conversations and they're like, yo, bro, you should go,
Speaker 1: and then you ask, and they're like, okay, you know,
Speaker 1: I've been watching the a doc you know, and Hove
Speaker 1: was like, you know, clothes mouths don't get fit, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's true. You know, asking you shall receive and
Speaker 1: and I asked and they gave it to me, and
Speaker 1: you know, abubble things. I'm not I'm not saying my
Speaker 1: level of producing is at the level of my acting ability.
Speaker 1: My acting ability is quite horrible. I'm just saying. I'm
Speaker 1: saying I'm being a sponge and I'm being given an
Speaker 1: opportunity to learn so that I could use my platform
Speaker 1: and my brand to create more opportunities. All right, we
Speaker 1: got more with damps and injuries from snow form. When
Speaker 1: we come back, it's the breakfast club. Good morning, the
Speaker 1: breakfast club. I used still taking piano lessons? I have whoa,
Speaker 1: let's let's break this there. Where were you taking pan?
Speaker 1: Where do we see him playing piano? I don't know, Juliard, No,
Speaker 1: no playing piano. I'm just asking. I said you would
Speaker 1: taking piano lessons or something like that. Oh damn, let's
Speaker 1: see a video of it. Looked like you were good
Speaker 1: with your hands. Oh wow, I don't know. No no,
Speaker 1: no no. Um me and me and I'm never no
Speaker 1: no me and that that that queen. Um are just friends. Um,
Speaker 1: she's a great you guys were I was asking about
Speaker 1: the piano lessons. Yeah, yeah, yeah, she's a great piano player.
Speaker 1: And and I didn't know she could play piano. I
Speaker 1: didn't even think the world knew. So I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is a cool moment. I just posted with like
Speaker 1: people thought like, you know, I don't know if Angel
Speaker 1: you could play the piano, because I'm not her actually
Speaker 1: to learn. I don't know if Taylor, who's over here
Speaker 1: producer knows, you know, I don't know if she could
Speaker 1: play piano. So how did you get to Sweedie's house
Speaker 1: to see that she could actually play the piano? So
Speaker 1: she's a huge Snowfall fan, right, And that day we
Speaker 1: were at lunch, I think, talking about how we could
Speaker 1: collaborate because we actually wanted to get before. No, it
Speaker 1: wasn't a day guys are talking about collaborator. No, guys
Speaker 1: and girls could be friends. Yeah, absolutely, yeah, I agree
Speaker 1: with you. That's exactly what me and and d we
Speaker 1: were friends. Okay, all right, so go ahead. So y'all,
Speaker 1: y're on a date eating I'm sorry, oh my god,
Speaker 1: eating lunch. Yeah, but my dinner. So we're having lunch, um,
Speaker 1: and then uh, she wanted to show me her new
Speaker 1: place because I love CB two and I was gonna
Speaker 1: give us some ideas about furniture and all. And then
Speaker 1: boom we went and then she was playing piano. That's it.
Speaker 1: I was in there for like five minutes that dip
Speaker 1: top Like you also talked about that Denzel is your
Speaker 1: idol as far as acting. Oh yeah, so when you
Speaker 1: see I don't I don't. I don't want mess up
Speaker 1: the young lady's name. But when you seen a young
Speaker 1: lady interview in Denzel and she mentioned your name and
Speaker 1: he didn't know who you were. Break that down when
Speaker 1: you've seen it and how you felt like you watched
Speaker 1: the TV like, oh, Denzel and he was like, who
Speaker 1: that is? And then he asked the white guy guy, Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know who that is. No, it
Speaker 1: was it was insane. So I was at home, um,
Speaker 1: on my phone at your house. Wow, my house, my house,
Speaker 1: by myself. Yeah, by myself, and my phone's like blowing
Speaker 1: up and it's like a bunch of articles and stuff
Speaker 1: like that and people are calling me and I was
Speaker 1: like then I was like talking about you. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this is crazy. Like so then, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: that he didn't know who I was, he couldn't address
Speaker 1: But that was funny though. That was funny. But hey, man,
Speaker 1: like it's a new day, you know. Um, it's a
Speaker 1: new day. And you know you could bash uh, you know,
Speaker 1: get a notoriety through social media. I'm not gonna lie, Like,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of my kind of existence has been
Speaker 1: on that through my work and just through just being me. Um.
Speaker 1: And some people from the past still don't respect that. Um.
Speaker 1: But look what social media has done for so many
Speaker 1: people today. We have to start moving in the direction
Speaker 1: of the future. But above things and all of that,
Speaker 1: Noise Denzel Washington is my idol. He's like a god
Speaker 1: to me. Um and I will never have anything bad
Speaker 1: to ever say about him. What's next for you? What
Speaker 1: is it? What is some roles that you want to do? Wow?
Speaker 1: Is this something that you like? I would love to
Speaker 1: do that role? Like, that's my dream role? Is it
Speaker 1: an action figure? Is something musical? I love playing real people,
Speaker 1: so I'd love to play Eddie Murphy, Sidney Poitier, fellow COUTI. Um,
Speaker 1: I'm actually I don't know. I don't know. Say so,
Speaker 1: do you know who rich Pool is? Yeah? Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: about to play Richpool, really really rich Paul the Agent. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know who rich poor He has a show something
Speaker 1: about him coming out or it's in something where rich
Speaker 1: Paul is a character? No, does he No? I'm asking
Speaker 1: you it's something where he's does he? No? I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think he has a show coming out. But
Speaker 1: he's a really good friend of mine. And there's people
Speaker 1: behind this window like why did you say that? But
Speaker 1: he called me. He was like, tell the world, and
Speaker 1: I think we should. It's time we start cherishing black moguls,
Speaker 1: and Rich is someone that people need to know. This
Speaker 1: guy has completely changed the game. I'm happy and fortunate
Speaker 1: to call him a big brother, and I can't wait
Speaker 1: to honor his story. That's great. He actually right here,
Speaker 1: approached Lebron in the airport selling Jersey his story and
Speaker 1: that's how they met each other. Yeah. Yeah, and he's
Speaker 1: like and then he's as a black sports agent, he
Speaker 1: gets looked at in a completely different way. The white
Speaker 1: sports agents were so angry that he was able to
Speaker 1: come in and get like the biggest NBA player. Yeah. Story,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be amazing, man, And you should start telling
Speaker 1: the stories now while they were alive. I just had
Speaker 1: sometimes when we wait till somebody passes away to tell
Speaker 1: their story, but Damns has to leave me. Oh man,
Speaker 1: all right. I would try to get a couple of
Speaker 1: spoilers out of you, but I know you're really good though.
Speaker 1: But I think I did well. But we appreciate you
Speaker 1: for joining us. Brother, never really deal yes with everything, man.
Speaker 1: I love the fact that you're producing. I can't wait
Speaker 1: to see what else you have coming up, just because
Speaker 1: we met you so like a few years ago, and
Speaker 1: I think it's just amazing to see where you are
Speaker 1: and where the show is now, and a large part
Speaker 1: of that is because of you. So oh man, that
Speaker 1: means so much. Man, thank you, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for having me. Well, let's Damnson in dress. It's the
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Speaker 1: It's topic time called eight hundred five eight five one
Speaker 1: oh five. Want to join it to the discussion with
Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Talk about it morning. Everybody is DJ
Speaker 1: Envy Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we are the bread
Speaker 1: Fits Club. If he just joining us? Uh, Damnsonages stopped
Speaker 1: through yesterday and he was talking about his relationship with
Speaker 1: his ex. Let's listen, we're still really close, really good friends. Um.
Speaker 1: I was with her for for a very long time.
Speaker 1: I met her when I was eighteen years old. Um,
Speaker 1: who knows, man, who knows what could happen in the future.
Speaker 1: You know, she's very much still in my life. Um.
Speaker 1: We talked like every single day. You know, people struggle
Speaker 1: to keep relationships with their exes. But I am at
Speaker 1: a place in my life now where I everyone I
Speaker 1: meet I want them to be in my life forever.
Speaker 1: I know that's a woman that I'm gonna know forever.
Speaker 1: No answer. Could you be with somebody every day? No,
Speaker 1: unless the person has kids with the other person, or
Speaker 1: unless they got some type of very lucrative business together.
Speaker 1: There's no reason for you to be talking to your
Speaker 1: ex every day if at all, I want you. Hello,
Speaker 1: who's this this? She came up from Brooklyn? Now she camera?
Speaker 1: Could you date somebody that talks to the X every day? No?
Speaker 1: I could not. I like that. I like that what
Speaker 1: they talk about every day? Word is Bob? Talk about
Speaker 1: every day? The yam would just try to work it out.
Speaker 1: Word is Bob, That's what I'm talking about. Ain't nothing
Speaker 1: to talk about every day? Okay, every day nothing nothing
Speaker 1: I mean, don't get me wrong. There is a lot
Speaker 1: to talk about every day. But she shouldn't be talking
Speaker 1: about with him, No her, not at all. Hello, who's
Speaker 1: this Antonio? Now? What happened in your situation? Antonio? He
Speaker 1: hit me ex was like alm up three years ago
Speaker 1: and we talked about every day. Still trumpa together, try
Speaker 1: to move on. But it made the hardest move on.
Speaker 1: But I talked too much to the point where he
Speaker 1: can move back if he got it back together, and
Speaker 1: like last week, see now you're back. And that's that's exactly.
Speaker 1: That's exactly what talking to your ex every day does.
Speaker 1: It's like having a pilot light on. Eventually it's gonna
Speaker 1: catch flame. Somebody gonna turn the damn heat on. I
Speaker 1: think I said that right, somebody gonna turn the damn
Speaker 1: fireplace on. Okay, because that pilot light was lit, I
Speaker 1: thought you're talking stove, But yeah, I get what the
Speaker 1: same thing. Somebody gonna turn the stove on. Something with
Speaker 1: some fire gonna happens. What I'm trying to tell you? Hello,
Speaker 1: who's this? Marcus from Columbia, South of Carolina eight o
Speaker 1: three metro. What's happening now, Marcus? What's going on with you?
Speaker 1: You and your wife both? Um? So, my wife got
Speaker 1: a baby daddy at her and she um she's a
Speaker 1: nice lady, so she, you know, tends to try to
Speaker 1: be communicated with him because of before when I came along,
Speaker 1: he wouldn't talk to her. So I allow it to happen.
Speaker 1: I say, all right, you know, maybe y'all can bring
Speaker 1: some communication for a kid. But now I became a problem. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's calling every day. Uh it ain't bout the kids,
Speaker 1: and you seether he's trying to get to advice from
Speaker 1: her or he's just trying to hold a little small talking.
Speaker 1: He's trying to get some advice in some ass. That's
Speaker 1: the truth though, Dad, But you know, and yeah, it's
Speaker 1: only as you. I'm like, hey, I'm doing his own issues.
Speaker 1: And when he decided to do he want to deal
Speaker 1: with kids, he can communicate, but as of now that
Speaker 1: got stopped. So they got hold on they have kids together.
Speaker 1: Is he in the kid's life? No not. He's in
Speaker 1: the kid's life only when someone uh pushes them all
Speaker 1: like you don't call and say hey, I wanted to
Speaker 1: He just to the mom or her was the head.
Speaker 1: The kids want to see you or they've been asking
Speaker 1: him about you. Then he'd say, well, okay, you can
Speaker 1: bring him by. I think that in a situation like
Speaker 1: this is still tricky only because that is the baby daddy,
Speaker 1: and you know, you still you know how important it
Speaker 1: is for a father to be in a child's life.
Speaker 1: So she might still be holding out hope that he
Speaker 1: gets his stuff together so he can be in his
Speaker 1: child's life. Yeah, she know, she says that, but I
Speaker 1: keep telling how I said, if it took you to
Speaker 1: leave him, that should have been a wake up call.
Speaker 1: That's even all through these years, like keeping his older daughter,
Speaker 1: You don't, Peter don't have no He talks to her,
Speaker 1: but they don't have a father daughter communicating like a
Speaker 1: father and his daughter ship. Yeah, yeah, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: Let's cut him off? Are you stupid? Rock? Tell us
Speaker 1: you got a block? So what's the ball of the story.
Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a more. Everybody got to
Speaker 1: do what works for them. But I'm just telling you
Speaker 1: what it works for me. That don't work for me.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Unless you got a business
Speaker 1: or you got kids together, there's no reason for you
Speaker 1: to be talking to your ex every day. What you
Speaker 1: got the pilot light on for? You? Don't even use
Speaker 1: that fire place number, that five place don't work. You
Speaker 1: got a new stove electric Will you will with you
Speaker 1: this club? Good morning, the Breakfast Club. It's a five one,
Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same morning.
Speaker 1: Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlemagne, the guy. We
Speaker 1: all the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in
Speaker 1: the building, a queen a icon living. That's right, Viola Davis.
Speaker 1: Well say later you so much. Good morning. How are
Speaker 1: you today? You know what, I'm pretty good, I'm well rested,
Speaker 1: I feel alive. There you go, okay, okay, Well, thank
Speaker 1: you for taking time to come and sit with us.
Speaker 1: It's just so exciting show on the schedule of Viola
Speaker 1: Davis Finding Me. Yes, man, man, this book is such
Speaker 1: a beautiful exploration of your your inner child. Like when
Speaker 1: you started the journey of writing this book, did you
Speaker 1: know you would go on that journey with your inner
Speaker 1: child as well? Yeah. That was the whole point that
Speaker 1: I needed to find that inner child, and my inner
Speaker 1: child was one that needed both healing and needed to
Speaker 1: be celebrated. She was a survivor as well as someone
Speaker 1: who you know, held a lot of trauma. But I
Speaker 1: felt like I had to explore it because we were
Speaker 1: at that period of time. I wrote it during the pandemic,
Speaker 1: you know, the George Floyd of it all, the Almand Aubrey,
Speaker 1: Brionna Taylor of it all, everything dealing with the COVID,
Speaker 1: with the election. I felt like I was having a
Speaker 1: crisis of meaning and it was my way of pressing
Speaker 1: the reset button, just to understand, man, Viola, what are
Speaker 1: you supposed to do from here on out? It just
Speaker 1: was a big wake up call personally and you know, culturally.
Speaker 1: So that's why I wrote the book. I had to
Speaker 1: go back to the beginning of me. When you start
Speaker 1: during the pandemic, or this was something you were doing
Speaker 1: beforehand and you were just so many projects. He was like,
Speaker 1: I'll get to it though this was pandemic, this is
Speaker 1: what I want to do. Well. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: do nothing during the pandemic, but I did start during
Speaker 1: the pandemic. I had just finished How to Get Away
Speaker 1: with Murder. I literally just ended it that March, and
Speaker 1: then I started writing the book. It was something to
Speaker 1: do because otherwise I was going stir crazy. I wasn't
Speaker 1: the person who settled into the pandemic. I felt everything
Speaker 1: that was going on around me, and I felt the
Speaker 1: chaos of it and I internalized it. So this book
Speaker 1: was great therapy. So when God made you sit still
Speaker 1: in you know, during the pandemic, what did you see
Speaker 1: about yourself that you hadn't saw in a while. I
Speaker 1: saw a lot of things. I saw Viola as a survivor.
Speaker 1: I saw, you know, I keep telling this story ad nauseum.
Speaker 1: I know I've told it a lot, but I've always said,
Speaker 1: you got to leave a legacy, right, So I said,
Speaker 1: you know, it's life. It's like a relay race. It's
Speaker 1: what you do with your dash of time. And what
Speaker 1: great runner you pass that baton, you know, off to
Speaker 1: You pass it on to the next generation. They pass
Speaker 1: it on to the person you know who's after them
Speaker 1: and after them. And I realized during the writing of
Speaker 1: the book, is those great runners are you at a
Speaker 1: different age? The six year old who survives it then,
Speaker 1: you know, may survive it really messy, may have been inappropriate,
Speaker 1: but she ran her leg of the race and pass
Speaker 1: a baton onto the fourteen year old Viola who said,
Speaker 1: want to be an actor In the midst of all
Speaker 1: the poverty, the abuse, the bed wedding, the sexual all
Speaker 1: of that, she wanted to be an actor. She saw
Speaker 1: a way out, and fourteen year old pass it onto
Speaker 1: the twenty eight year old who said, you know what,
Speaker 1: I need therapy because I want healthy relationships in my life.
Speaker 1: I want to be happier and I don't know how
Speaker 1: to do that. And she passed it on to the
Speaker 1: thirty four year old Viola, who got married to the
Speaker 1: fort forty five year old Viola who then became a mom.
Speaker 1: And then now I'm fifty six and I have the
Speaker 1: baton in my hand, and now what you know, what
Speaker 1: am I supposed to do with this part of my life?
Speaker 1: Because I would say, at fifty six, you're a little
Speaker 1: bit past midlife. So that's what I learned. It's like
Speaker 1: it's a constant reassessment of where do you want to be,
Speaker 1: what do your life? What do you want your life
Speaker 1: to sort of look like? And I keep coming back
Speaker 1: to this because I know I know that, I know that,
Speaker 1: I know that the number one regret of the dying
Speaker 1: is they didn't take risks, they didn't become their ideal self.
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to think that I wasn't brave,
Speaker 1: And I think that sometimes people hold off braveness and
Speaker 1: courage because they don't want to risk failure and they
Speaker 1: don't want to risk shame. And I think you got
Speaker 1: to risk it. And that's been my biggest discovery in
Speaker 1: writing the book. You're say in the book that memories
Speaker 1: are powerful, right, some people like to beget memories because
Speaker 1: it's so painful, it's so hurtful. But it seems like
Speaker 1: you use it as inspiration to push yourself hard. Why
Speaker 1: is that. I think the pain the trauma is equal
Speaker 1: to the joy and the peace in your life. I
Speaker 1: think that they're one and the same. I don't think
Speaker 1: that the pain and the trauma and the hard times
Speaker 1: are a detour from life. I think it's a part
Speaker 1: of life. And I think that when you refuse to
Speaker 1: lean in to all of it is you refuse to
Speaker 1: become connected to yourself. And that's why no one can
Speaker 1: connect with anyone else because the only time we want
Speaker 1: to meet is with great stories of overcoming and winning.
Speaker 1: And then when someone feels like they are not overcoming
Speaker 1: and they're not winning and they're not waking up happy
Speaker 1: every day, then they feel like they need to hide
Speaker 1: in the closet, not come out, not open their mouths
Speaker 1: not saying anything. There's no one to share with, there's
Speaker 1: no sacred space to be you. I count it all joy.
Speaker 1: Now when I say I count it all joy, it
Speaker 1: takes some time sometimes account it all joy. But I
Speaker 1: do believe that it's all a part of life. I've
Speaker 1: been in too many spaces where I haven't been able
Speaker 1: to connect with people. You just never know what people
Speaker 1: have gone through to get to where they are today,
Speaker 1: which is why memoir like this, where you were so
Speaker 1: open and honest about everything, it really helped us to
Speaker 1: see like where you come from when you're acting. And
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you about your relationship with your
Speaker 1: parents because in this book you talk a lot about
Speaker 1: things that happened to you when you were a child.
Speaker 1: What did you realize while writing this book about like
Speaker 1: your father and about your mother. I realized they did
Speaker 1: the best they could with what they had. That's what
Speaker 1: I realized. Because it's so hard to forgive your dad.
Speaker 1: I know, you know you talk about how abusive he
Speaker 1: was to your mother and things that you had to witness,
Speaker 1: So was it hard for you to even forgive that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: forgiveness is to me. I feel like forgiveness and faith
Speaker 1: are equal in terms of they're the hardest things to achieve.
Speaker 1: It they're so abstract. So it comes down to choice.
Speaker 1: I forgive for myself. I forgive because I don't want
Speaker 1: to carry that weight, the weight, the vengefulness of regret
Speaker 1: and all of that. For me, it blocks everything from
Speaker 1: coming into your life. And I don't think that anyone
Speaker 1: wants to see a sixty year old or here is
Speaker 1: sixty year old sitting in front of their therapists saying, I,
Speaker 1: you know, haven't been able to make my marriage work
Speaker 1: or this work in my life because what my dad
Speaker 1: did when I was five. At some point your life
Speaker 1: becomes yours as well. That you said that, because my
Speaker 1: wife was up here the other day and she was like,
Speaker 1: you know, when she forgave, she be gave for herself.
Speaker 1: And I didn't understand it at first because most people
Speaker 1: think when you forgive, your forgiving the person that hurts you.
Speaker 1: But it's actually to not to take away that pain
Speaker 1: from yourself so you don't have to deal with it anymore.
Speaker 1: That is that what you're saying when you say I
Speaker 1: forgive for myself, Well, yeah, that's part of it. I
Speaker 1: do believe it's a sort of prison. And not to
Speaker 1: get too philosophical, of course, but I believe that when
Speaker 1: you get to the end of your life, you're not
Speaker 1: thinking about all the people that you hated and all
Speaker 1: the people that did you wrong. I don't think that
Speaker 1: you're thinking about that when you're taking your last breath.
Speaker 1: I just don't. I think all of that goes away,
Speaker 1: and I think everything comes into sharp focus, which is
Speaker 1: probably making amends, probably being with the people that you love,
Speaker 1: probably sewing everything up, probably holding someone's hands. But I
Speaker 1: don't think that we're thinking about all of that. I
Speaker 1: think that once again, the only person you could say
Speaker 1: is yourself. That's the only thing that you could do.
Speaker 1: You can't keep backtracking as what wrong someone did to
Speaker 1: you or whatever. You got to figure out how to
Speaker 1: heal that. It's like, you don't you haven't met all
Speaker 1: the people who are going to love you in your
Speaker 1: life yet. And so when you meet all these people
Speaker 1: who are going to love you, they do not want
Speaker 1: to meet a vengeful person, okay, because they're going to
Speaker 1: get the overflow of that vengefulness. As a matter of fact,
Speaker 1: they're not going to get the overflow of that vengefulness.
Speaker 1: They're gonna get nothing. They're gonna go so far are
Speaker 1: with you and then it's gonna stop. I've been with
Speaker 1: those people they called emotionally unavailable. We have more with
Speaker 1: Viola Davis when we come back, don't move. It's the
Speaker 1: breakfast Club, Boilding. I love how you, you know, held
Speaker 1: your father accountable but also humanize them. Did you always
Speaker 1: see the humanity in him or was that something that
Speaker 1: happens as you got Oh do it, you know, with
Speaker 1: the more work you did on yourself. Absolutely, more work
Speaker 1: I did it on myself. The more I saw his humanity,
Speaker 1: the more I could connect the dots. You know. I
Speaker 1: thought life was like a Disney movie. People were just
Speaker 1: good or bad. That's it. The evil villain who just
Speaker 1: comes out just wants to destroy everyone. I didn't know
Speaker 1: that people acted because of specific memories once again, trauma
Speaker 1: in their lives. The people and we really demonize black people,
Speaker 1: you know, and the very way you wouldn't even be
Speaker 1: doing what you're doing if all those things hadn't happened
Speaker 1: to you as a child. Absolutely, because it was such
Speaker 1: an escape for you to be able to turn on
Speaker 1: the TV. You said it was Cicely Tyson right, that
Speaker 1: you saw that made you even say this is what
Speaker 1: I want to do. Absolutely that that woman and that
Speaker 1: performance was everything. I remember the moment I saw that
Speaker 1: performance because it was like magic. It was like it
Speaker 1: was a magician pulling a rabbit out of the hat.
Speaker 1: If you've ever seen the performance, she aged from eighteen
Speaker 1: to one hundred and ten, and you could not even
Speaker 1: believe it from the first frame of that it was
Speaker 1: a mini series. And literally the wind stopped blowing, the
Speaker 1: sun came out, and I saw a portal way out
Speaker 1: of the poverty, the trauma. I just felt like, if
Speaker 1: I could do that, I could make a life. I
Speaker 1: think sometimes you gotta see it, you know, And I
Speaker 1: know everybody just puts faith on people, especially on us,
Speaker 1: especially on black folk. Know that's all we had. And
Speaker 1: and but it's a lot. You know. You go up
Speaker 1: to young black kids who are coming from really challenging backgrounds,
Speaker 1: and people come up to them and say, you know,
Speaker 1: you could be what who and what you want to be.
Speaker 1: You just have to dream big. And then once you
Speaker 1: make it, you come back, You bring your family up,
Speaker 1: you bring your community up. And I'm sure if that
Speaker 1: kid had a language, he would say, how that's a
Speaker 1: lot you just throw and then you gotta work ten
Speaker 1: times as hard. You throw all of that on their lap,
Speaker 1: and then at fifteen, if they can't even get if
Speaker 1: if they can't achieve it at all, if they feel
Speaker 1: like they want to give up, then we just brate them.
Speaker 1: It's a lot that we put on them. So sometimes
Speaker 1: you gotta see it, you gotta hold it, you gotta
Speaker 1: somebody's gotta throw you a rope they do. Honestly, what
Speaker 1: was you talk about, sileague or what was some of
Speaker 1: your positive influences? Because you know, you talk about, you know,
Speaker 1: your parents and how you looked at your dad, and
Speaker 1: you talked about, you know, going to the white school
Speaker 1: and the white kids chase all the bricks, and you
Speaker 1: talk about all those things. So what positive influence did
Speaker 1: you have? What was your safe haven as a kid?
Speaker 1: If there wasn't there was no one safe haven for me.
Speaker 1: What life becomes about is how someone could take you
Speaker 1: from A to a plus, from a plus to D,
Speaker 1: from D to you know, to M to M. You know,
Speaker 1: there are people who can carry you at different points
Speaker 1: in your life. It could be a teacher, it could
Speaker 1: be a parent, it could be a relative, it could
Speaker 1: be a stranger that gives you one word. I had
Speaker 1: a lot of teachers, even the first teacher who looked
Speaker 1: at me and he was an acting coach, who looked
Speaker 1: at me and told me I was beautiful. That meant
Speaker 1: a lot to me. And the first person who just
Speaker 1: came into science class because he was a teacher and
Speaker 1: I called him in the middle of the day. He
Speaker 1: was an upward bound teacher and I said, I was
Speaker 1: having a panic attack. He came to the school. He
Speaker 1: interrupted science class. He said, I want to see Viola.
Speaker 1: The science teacher said you can't do that. He said,
Speaker 1: excuse me, sir, I'm gonna do it. Anybody, anybody who
Speaker 1: throws you a rope and sees you and likes you.
Speaker 1: There is something about someone looking at you and liking
Speaker 1: you right, and even saying your potential when you can't
Speaker 1: see it absolutely, because sometimes you tuck yourself out of
Speaker 1: things right because of fear. But then someone tells you,
Speaker 1: like your science teacher, listen, you need to apply for this.
Speaker 1: You can do it, And you tell yourself, I can't
Speaker 1: do it. Why would they take me, why would they
Speaker 1: accept me? But somebody else believing in you and giving
Speaker 1: you the tools like you can't make excuses anymore after
Speaker 1: a while. And you know what, very Seldoman, am I
Speaker 1: in a space And I know y'all can say the
Speaker 1: same thing, But am I in a space specially as
Speaker 1: a dark skinned black woman, and could speak my truth
Speaker 1: about what that means the isolation of that experience, Okay,
Speaker 1: because it comes at you, three old, It comes at
Speaker 1: you through yes, white America. It comes to you through
Speaker 1: the experience and the culture of America, and it comes
Speaker 1: to you through even black culture. I'm just gonna say it,
Speaker 1: because it's called colorism. It's its own different sect of racism,
Speaker 1: and it is destructive because what you tell women in
Speaker 1: general is that beauty is a value, which it's not. Listen,
Speaker 1: I'm one of those people. I think everybody's beautiful, and
Speaker 1: I really do. I don't talk about stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, well the bull frogs. At a different level,
Speaker 1: there was some meaning women, But you consider it a value.
Speaker 1: And with someone who you feel has value, you pay
Speaker 1: attention to them, you pour into them. You think that
Speaker 1: they're smarter, more, valuable, more everything. So when you go
Speaker 1: up to little chocolate girls who are darker than a
Speaker 1: paper bag and you're constantly telling them they're not as cute,
Speaker 1: they have bad hair, they have this that you're putting
Speaker 1: negative connotations. And then you can now you can literally
Speaker 1: google people who seem to have had press conferences to
Speaker 1: talk about how unattractive they find darker skinned women. I mean,
Speaker 1: here's the thing. Even if you feel that way, why
Speaker 1: are you gonna spread that? How do you think people
Speaker 1: are gonna received that? And we know how difficult it
Speaker 1: is to get a leg up, you know in the
Speaker 1: black community, the lack of opportunity what we're running from,
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna put that on us and so
Speaker 1: and when you can't speak your truth in a room,
Speaker 1: then you feel like you have to hide yourself. It's
Speaker 1: very it's like physically painful. I want I want to
Speaker 1: ask you a couple more questions about your father, because
Speaker 1: I found that dynamic so interested. And you said something
Speaker 1: the book, and I paraphrasing, but you said your father
Speaker 1: was an abuser who became a good partner. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: this era canceled coaches. Some people couldn't even imagine that happening.
Speaker 1: Can you explain he did? And I think he always
Speaker 1: had it in him. I think he was wrestling you know.
Speaker 1: I always feel like it got two people that you
Speaker 1: wrestle with, right, and it's who you feed. And I
Speaker 1: think he fed the more violent aspects of himself. I
Speaker 1: think he was running from a lot. But in the
Speaker 1: last several decades, I think since I was probably in
Speaker 1: my twenties, he helped my mom raise a lot of
Speaker 1: my relatives children, and he loved my mother. He was
Speaker 1: always there rubbing her feet. And towards the end of
Speaker 1: his life, I mean, I say towards the end, the
Speaker 1: last couple of days of his life, my mom would
Speaker 1: always say every single day he woke up, even when
Speaker 1: he was suffering from dementia, towards the end, he would say,
Speaker 1: you know, may Alice, you know, I'm sorry about what
Speaker 1: I did to you. Wow, I'm sorry. I feel like
Speaker 1: that's everything. I mean, how many people do you know
Speaker 1: that even make amends, that even opened their mouths. And
Speaker 1: I think that that, um, I feel like that has
Speaker 1: to be acknowledged as an incredible character trait. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: don't move. We got more with Viola Davis. When we
Speaker 1: come back. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, Florida Morning.
Speaker 1: The craziest people in America come from the Bronx and
Speaker 1: all of Floridan. Yes, you are a donkey. The Florida
Speaker 1: man attacked an ATM for a very strange reason. It
Speaker 1: gave him too much money. Florida man is arrested after
Speaker 1: definitely said he rigged the door to his home in
Speaker 1: an attempt to electricate his pregnant wife. Police arrested in
Speaker 1: Orlando man for talking a flimena to breakfast club bitchy
Speaker 1: donkey other day. I don't know why y'all keep letting
Speaker 1: him get y'all lected. It's not me, It's really not me.
Speaker 1: It's absolutely y'all donkey. Today from Monday, May sixteenth, goes
Speaker 1: to a young lady named Jania Douglas of Florida, and
Speaker 1: I went, did your uncle Charla always say about the
Speaker 1: great state of Florida? The craziest people in America come
Speaker 1: from the Bronx and all the Florida in today's no exception.
Speaker 1: I got a question for you. It's a simple one.
Speaker 1: What's on your bucket list? I don't have to explain
Speaker 1: to you what a bucket list is due it's simply
Speaker 1: a number of experiences, our achievements that a person hopes
Speaker 1: to have, Our accomplished during their lifetime. I don't think
Speaker 1: I've ever technically called things that I've accomplished bucket list items.
Speaker 1: I'm more of a vision board type of person. But
Speaker 1: we all have things we want to do in life. Okay,
Speaker 1: some can be career oriented, some can be personal, but
Speaker 1: we all simply have things we have historically wanted to do,
Speaker 1: and once we did, then we scratched them off that list.
Speaker 1: You know, we scratched them off our list. Angelie, what's
Speaker 1: been on? It's been something on your bucket list that
Speaker 1: you scratched off? What is something on my bucket list
Speaker 1: that I scratched off a long time ago? Buying a house? Okay, y,
Speaker 1: well something on your bucket listen, you scratched off traveling
Speaker 1: in South Africa, going to South Africa. See, those are
Speaker 1: real goals. Those are accomplishments that make sense. They're productive,
Speaker 1: they're positive. Okay, they give you something to work towards.
Speaker 1: But people's bucket lists vary for a lot of reasons.
Speaker 1: And I can almost guarantee that Jania's bucket list is different,
Speaker 1: okay than a lot of people's. All right. See, Jania
Speaker 1: was recently charged with fleeing and eluding authorities and failure
Speaker 1: to obey an order from a law enforcement officer when
Speaker 1: she refused to stop. Okay, on last Thursday morning in
Speaker 1: the Florida Keys, let me paint the picture for you.
Speaker 1: Jania was driving to Toyota today, all right. She was
Speaker 1: speeding and driving reckless near North Key Largo at about
Speaker 1: seven forty seven am. An officer turned on his lights
Speaker 1: and siren, but Jania did not stop them. Okay, she
Speaker 1: continued southbound until stopping at a three way intersection. That's
Speaker 1: as far as that Toyota sedan could go. Now what
Speaker 1: was she fleeing for? Did she have a warrant she
Speaker 1: knew about. Did she have a car full of drugs
Speaker 1: and guns but she under the influence of any narcotics
Speaker 1: or alcohol? Was there a dead white woman in the trunk? No?
Speaker 1: Her reasoning her motive was that she told the deputy
Speaker 1: that getting arrested had been on her bucket list since
Speaker 1: high school. I repeat, Jenia fled and eluded deputies and
Speaker 1: said she did it because getting arrested was on her
Speaker 1: bucket list since high school. Let me tell I think
Speaker 1: she's nineteen years old. If I'm not mistaken, let me
Speaker 1: be clear. Yeah, she's nineteen years old of Homestead, Florida. Listen, Yes,
Speaker 1: first thing, I want to know, Jania, what else is
Speaker 1: on your list? Okay, I know it's your personal bucket list,
Speaker 1: but you need to let somebody read over it to
Speaker 1: see what else is on there, because damn man, all right,
Speaker 1: Also need y'all to know something. Hey uncle, Okay, uncle's
Speaker 1: Charlotte is old, brother Lennard is old. I'm forty three.
Speaker 1: My body different, I'm breathing different. If you don't know
Speaker 1: what line that movie from, you ain't black. But I'm
Speaker 1: saying all that to say, I don't understand what's happening
Speaker 1: no more, man, I don't understand this generation. I have
Speaker 1: no clue on what is happening anymore. But I'm not
Speaker 1: going to generalize a whole generation. We live in a
Speaker 1: world where we have to rely on the most unpredictable
Speaker 1: thing on the planet to keep us all safe, and
Speaker 1: that's human behavior. The only thing that keeps us relatively
Speaker 1: safe on this planet is the actions of each other.
Speaker 1: And we are living on this third rock from the
Speaker 1: sun with people who want to scratch getting arrested off
Speaker 1: that bucket list. So between this and folks who just
Speaker 1: wake up wanting to commit mass shootings. We doomed. What
Speaker 1: you need? I want you to know something. You clearly
Speaker 1: can do anything you put your mind too. Now, other
Speaker 1: things you might set your mind to do, other things
Speaker 1: you might put on your bucket list, might be a
Speaker 1: little more difficult than getting arrested. But I believe in you,
Speaker 1: and I hope that this situation lets you realize that
Speaker 1: anything you put on your bucket list you can absolutely do.
Speaker 1: Any thing you set your mind to, you can absolutely do.
Speaker 1: You just need to make some adjustments to your little
Speaker 1: bucket list. Okay, once again, I'm sitting here trying to
Speaker 1: understand the logic of something that is illogical. But it's
Speaker 1: not illogical. It's just Florida. Please give Ja Neia Douglas
Speaker 1: the sweet sounds of the Hamiltones. Oh, No, you are
Speaker 1: Dogee of the Day, the Dogee oh the day. H
Speaker 1: You want to play a game? No? I don't. Actually
Speaker 1: they don't want to play a game. Don't want to
Speaker 1: you know what? All right, I'm gonna use me you
Speaker 1: to play a game. Okay, let's play a game of
Speaker 1: guess what racing. Let's do it. Florida Woman nineteen years
Speaker 1: old dropping a Toyota today and accused the fling. A
Speaker 1: deputy says the restaurants on her bucket listens high school.
Speaker 1: Al get us what racis? But she's definitely not black
Speaker 1: because I don't think that's on our bucket list. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: that's never been on a bucket list. Okay, Lisa's definitely
Speaker 1: not black. So what do you got? I guess white? Okay,
Speaker 1: past me something wrong? Can you please arrest dj NVY
Speaker 1: woman driving a Toyota? So they had nineteen years old
Speaker 1: of Florida wanted to get arrested because she said it
Speaker 1: was on her bucket list. Guess what RACI damn it man,
Speaker 1: I was going black until you just she just had
Speaker 1: me like thankful for a little bit. The black person
Speaker 1: don't want to get arrested, Like we don't want Yeah,
Speaker 1: we want to avoid white people. Gotta beg to the right.
Speaker 1: But my gut told me black earlier though. N See
Speaker 1: what y'all always failed to realize when we do guess
Speaker 1: what race it is? We have different categories. Maybe one
Speaker 1: day I gotta just run down the categories. That's the category.
Speaker 1: But there's white white, you know, we have Asian, Asian, Spanish, Latino,
Speaker 1: and we have black black, right, but we also got
Speaker 1: nigga new yor Douglas is what we call a young
Speaker 1: nigga around these poor That's all this is, okay, powerful nigga.
Speaker 1: Are you talking about Kirkland? But she can grow out
Speaker 1: of this, okay. We all have our nigga face. By
Speaker 1: the way, nigga pace is not just for black people.
Speaker 1: There's white niggas too, okay, but they just can't use
Speaker 1: the word. This was an act of Nigga Tree the
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Need relationship advice, need personal advice, just need
Speaker 1: real advice. Haul up nown for asking morning. Everybody's dj
Speaker 1: Envy Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we all to breakfast
Speaker 1: Club is time for asking ye Hello, who's this Hi?
Speaker 1: This is Nicole, Hey, Nicole, what's your question for? Easy? Um? So,
Speaker 1: the situation is, um, I've been in a relationship for
Speaker 1: maybe like seventeen years. It just interns my relationship. He
Speaker 1: had like different sexual interests and um, I thought, I'm
Speaker 1: like the doctor doctor Natrix. I've been like control in
Speaker 1: the bedroom and he seemed like he was into it.
Speaker 1: I'd like to turn them out, but I don't really
Speaker 1: like when they're into it. So I've been noticing more
Speaker 1: and more aware they are, Um, he is like tooking
Speaker 1: his booty out or it's like hanging and I kind
Speaker 1: of not interested in it no more. So I want
Speaker 1: to know how do I bring up the conversation with
Speaker 1: him without hurting his feelings or damasculating him because so wait,
Speaker 1: let me So the problem is that you're a dominatrix, right,
Speaker 1: but he's enjoying it too much. I want to say, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's the problem. Okay, you want him, you want him
Speaker 1: to be like anymore? It's like, are you really now
Speaker 1: like interested in bad or you know? Okay, so in
Speaker 1: the beginning he wasn't enjoying it, No, he was. I
Speaker 1: liked what I said, I'd like to to turn him out,
Speaker 1: so he was like, have no, stay with from that area.
Speaker 1: What you think? This is kind of like okay, so
Speaker 1: you mean with you know, like putting something in his Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, Well, first of all, you said the goal
Speaker 1: is to turn someone out. It worked, yeah, did so
Speaker 1: now that you turn him out your board. But the
Speaker 1: thing is we are like partners, and I don't know
Speaker 1: if this is gonna mess up our actual relationship. But
Speaker 1: as a dominatrix, maybe you need to find something else
Speaker 1: to do to him next to turn him out on.
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, LEK, what other things do you do
Speaker 1: as a dominatrix in this relationship, because I guess the
Speaker 1: dynamic now is messed up? Right As a dominatrix, He's
Speaker 1: supposed to be like no, I don't want that, don't
Speaker 1: like that. He's resistant, but now he's like, yes, bring it,
Speaker 1: do it to me, peg me yes. And I noticed
Speaker 1: that before. I'm ready to actually take it. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: right now, this is now, this feels like something we
Speaker 1: both enjoy and it wasn't supposed to be like that.
Speaker 1: So are there are there are there things that you
Speaker 1: do to him and that situation, that relationship to h
Speaker 1: you know, maybe there's something else you could do where
Speaker 1: you're stepping on him with the high heels, maybe a
Speaker 1: little light whipping anything like that. Yeah, we we do
Speaker 1: a little role play of you know, I don't want
Speaker 1: to say please or patient. We do like a little
Speaker 1: role plays, but like I said, it's just more of
Speaker 1: now like we regular doing regular sex. He's ready to
Speaker 1: to Susio Okay, what if he used a bigger deal? Though?
Speaker 1: Why we do this is so wrong? Why is it wrong? Men?
Speaker 1: Do not let women play in your butt unless they're
Speaker 1: willing to make a real commitment to you. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean he gave you the button. Now all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, it's too far. This is bad. Okay, they're
Speaker 1: not married, right, Actually we are married. What he gave
Speaker 1: you his butt and now you're saying it's too much?
Speaker 1: You like it and you know that, but the problem
Speaker 1: is that you did turn him out and got him
Speaker 1: to like something that he was resistant to at first,
Speaker 1: and now you don't like it anymore. So I mean,
Speaker 1: what can you do? It works? Some suggestions? If not? Like,
Speaker 1: I'm really like, I'm in a hard place because I
Speaker 1: don't want to say to him I don't want to
Speaker 1: do it anymore. And like I said, I'm the one
Speaker 1: that started. Yeah, but who maybe you could do it.
Speaker 1: Maybe you could do the opposite now right and torture
Speaker 1: him by not doing it? Man, what you don't do
Speaker 1: to another man's but somebody else will. I mean, is
Speaker 1: it is it that you don't want to peg him
Speaker 1: anymore at all? What if he acted like, don't what
Speaker 1: if he acted like he doesn't like it? Now moving
Speaker 1: forward and you let him? Can I ask him to
Speaker 1: like with just a little bit more, Yeah, tell him like,
Speaker 1: tell him like, look, the dynamics of what this was
Speaker 1: is not what it is now, and this is what
Speaker 1: I need you to do for me to fail turned on,
Speaker 1: He might actually enjoy that too. That's not fair, mama.
Speaker 1: If he likes something and now all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be a couple, you're supposed to enjoy
Speaker 1: each other, Well, she's not enjoying it for he is right,
Speaker 1: but he might enjoy also doing the role playing of
Speaker 1: acting like this is his first time doing it. He
Speaker 1: didn't want to do it in the first play why
Speaker 1: he broke down for her to do it, and now
Speaker 1: what he actually likes it? If he wants it, he
Speaker 1: might have to play along. You know why a lot
Speaker 1: of men don't like but play because they feel like
Speaker 1: it makes him feel like less of a man, right,
Speaker 1: It makes him feel like a sucker. Right. So so now, yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been vulnerable with you. You turn me out, and
Speaker 1: now you're telling me to stop back like a bitch.
Speaker 1: Well guess who turned me into one? I'm just saying, anyway,
Speaker 1: have you communicated any of this to him? Um, flight hint,
Speaker 1: but not very direct, saying oh, this is how I
Speaker 1: feel at this current moment. How can you make a change,
Speaker 1: but be direct? You're a dominatrix, Be direct, okay, and
Speaker 1: tell him, look, this ain't fun for me no more.
Speaker 1: Before it was a resistant situation. You ain't one it.
Speaker 1: Now you tuting it up that dang up daddy, make
Speaker 1: it roll like in a regular helpful situation, Like it
Speaker 1: seems like I have to take control of everything, and
Speaker 1: it's like, is that from the way our room acts?
Speaker 1: And now it's like I don't want to call him
Speaker 1: bitching out because that's I don't want to downplayed to
Speaker 1: be far from um a female dog, but like he's
Speaker 1: very now thought or he's not taking patrol as I
Speaker 1: think a man in the house. Okay, he might think
Speaker 1: this is what you want, and if you haven't communicated
Speaker 1: that you don't like it, he might think this is
Speaker 1: the dynamic that you wanted. Charlemagne did say something real true.
Speaker 1: What you don't do, somebody else will top guys, it's
Speaker 1: the truth. You turned them onto it. So he liked. Listen,
Speaker 1: you need to let him know that this is not
Speaker 1: working for you and this is not what your intention was,
Speaker 1: so he can take charge in certain situations. Again, this
Speaker 1: is why men don't open up. Our hearts are butts
Speaker 1: to people, because the situations like this. All right, but
Speaker 1: the main thing is that you're not telling him what
Speaker 1: it is that you need. You gotta let him much.
Speaker 1: She wanted it at first, and he didn't want to
Speaker 1: do it at first, and then he finally opened up
Speaker 1: and did it and turned out and you are doing
Speaker 1: that's all right, so listen, talk to him. Okay, you
Speaker 1: gotta work through this. You you begged the playing my butt.
Speaker 1: You're playing my butt now you look at me like
Speaker 1: I'm soft. Let's just keep that. This is crazy. This
Speaker 1: is this is crazy Tom. What's his number? We need
Speaker 1: to call here? No, stop it, this is Tom on
Speaker 1: the spot. Yeah, don't do it? All right, all right,
Speaker 1: this is toxically. We have no problem answering any question
Speaker 1: opened up for her. He finally he enjoys it now
Speaker 1: and now she's just gonna take it back. I'll say,
Speaker 1: y'all can't get me into communicate. We open up then,
Speaker 1: y'all tell us, y'all like what we say you say
Speaker 1: we don't share our emotions. We open up our hearts, y'all,
Speaker 1: break our hearts, y'all. Say y'all we don't want like
Speaker 1: butt play, We open our butts. Now, look to take
Speaker 1: it back. You guys have been too in to ask you.
Speaker 1: These past is crazy. Ye, this is crazy. This is foul.
Speaker 1: These toxic women. We need to protest. We get Welcome Morning,
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