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Speaker 1: The world's most dangerous morning show, The Breakfast Club. Fast Club.

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Speaker 1: Y'all together, y'all are like a mega for us. Y'all

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Speaker 1: just took over him without your podcast. This Chris Brown,

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Speaker 1: I've officially joined the Breakfast Club. Say something, mother, I'm

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Speaker 1: with it. World cups Dangerous Morning Show Breakfast Club Boy,

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Speaker 1: you know we are the most dangerous morning show. Listen

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Speaker 1: back on the Breakfast Club. Wake Up, wake up, wake y'all.

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Speaker 1: A good time to get it off your chat you

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Speaker 1: man of blast. We want to hear from you on

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Block. Hello, who's this? How are you doing this?

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Speaker 1: LG LG? What i'p getting off your chest? Brother? Uh?

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Speaker 1: I do pretty much. I'm a core term support of mine. Uh.

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Speaker 1: The way these the way the cards out here, man,

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Speaker 1: they don't respect us. Fine. You know when when when

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Speaker 1: you see a big truck on the road, so you

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Speaker 1: gotta move to the bog. Everybody's trying to cut us off,

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Speaker 1: like giving us respect out there on the road. Mane Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, man, Lately, I've been

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Speaker 1: feeling like them truck's been driving like they, cause I

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Speaker 1: feel like it's been like that the last few years,

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Speaker 1: they'd be pulling up. They'd be cutting over on the

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Speaker 1: side of the road like they like they're driving regular vehicles.

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Speaker 1: Hey look, you gotta blue your way in out there.

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Speaker 1: Y'all too big to be bullying your way in. All right,

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Speaker 1: you got a mack truck, but are you food run

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Speaker 1: to hit somebody? Hey, look, I ain't even gonna mack truck.

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Speaker 1: I try spot cards and everything, so I got a

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Speaker 1: three corps big face, you know what I mean, No

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Speaker 1: trying to get to the side. You know, like I

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Speaker 1: don't nobody want to set it over. Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: like that. People people do try to not let trucks over,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes Chuck's gotta take that because people will speed

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Speaker 1: up driving your blind spot. So I know that's not

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Speaker 1: an easy thing. I've seen it happen. I've probably done it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: trucks do the same thing, though. I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: Y'all got you because you already got commanded the road.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, y'all can really hurt somebody,

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Speaker 1: Like you can't just swerve over into another lane when

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Speaker 1: you drive it a pick ass. Cars gotta be careful too,

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Speaker 1: because cars be disrespectful to them. Trucks and just hop

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Speaker 1: over and think the truck could just down. It goes

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Speaker 1: both ways. It definitely goes both ways. That's a lot

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Speaker 1: of way on the road. Man. All I'm saying is

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Speaker 1: we see you know what I mean, Like we got

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Speaker 1: here every day with a lot of weight. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of responsibility, you know what I mean. You and

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Speaker 1: your h you and your truck. Man. Uh no, I'm

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Speaker 1: actually I'm hitting hitting the work right now. I was

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Speaker 1: gonna ask you blow the horn, but I thank you brother.

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Speaker 1: You want you to blow up? You're always doing that.

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Speaker 1: As a kid, that was the coolest thing. We used

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Speaker 1: to drive to Disney back in the day and you

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Speaker 1: see a truck, you get the truck driving to blow

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Speaker 1: the horn. That was the coolest thing. Okay, okay, y'all

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Speaker 1: never did that. Yes, no, fash him and ever you

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Speaker 1: don't show them. You have your breast, that's right. If

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Speaker 1: you want to sick trucks to blow you do your thing.

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Speaker 1: King you see, y'all always take it too far? What

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Speaker 1: y'all take it too far? What? Yeah, you've never been

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Speaker 1: a Disney that's why you never did it. Hello, who's

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Speaker 1: this yo? Yo? Yo? Angelie Charlotagne and God dj Z.

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Speaker 1: What's fuck what getting off your CHESSBA? That is my birthday.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty six years old man, Happy birth gratulations King. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I woke up early this morning just to call you

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Speaker 1: guys and say, yo, I'm so happy. Um, I'm a

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Speaker 1: long time listening at first time college from Florida. Okay,

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Speaker 1: happy birthday brought. How you gonna tell no, uh cash

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Speaker 1: money Blaze two four ninety six. Now, I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: honest with you. That's not enough for nobody to want

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Speaker 1: to put nothing in your cash app. I mean you're

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Speaker 1: not the only person with a birthday out here, sir.

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Speaker 1: I mean if anybody's feel gaerous, anybody's feel big fall,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah you Chagne, No, I ain't got

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Speaker 1: it for you this morning. I'll be honest with what

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Speaker 1: you doing for your birthday. I thought I heard you

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Speaker 1: guys get that girl's sake dinner. I was like, oh, man,

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Speaker 1: me and my wife girl love it. She had a

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Speaker 1: better story than you did, and I think she was

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Speaker 1: it was something to do with her children. I'll send

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Speaker 1: you a book though. I got a copy of Anita

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Speaker 1: Colpack Shallow Waters. I'll send you that for your birthday.

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Speaker 1: I got you happy birthdays. Will you have a good one? Brother,

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Speaker 1: you got it? Thank you? Hold on, let get your address. Hello?

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Speaker 1: Who's this? This D from the DD. What I'm doing?

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Speaker 1: Did from Virginia and Detroit? No oh, D from the D.

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Speaker 1: D from the D. I want to get it off

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Speaker 1: my chest. Hey, I am very respectable. I warning eighty one,

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Speaker 1: but I am someth oud of my mama. Sorry, mama,

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Speaker 1: my brother, damn my body. Everybody, just please leave me

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Speaker 1: a It's okay to say right, yes it is. It's

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Speaker 1: called boundaries. There's a great book called chet Boundaries, fine

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Speaker 1: piece by Nidra twob Glover that talks about that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I am simply the sight of everybody else and people.

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Speaker 1: I wish y'all would call him the Breakfast Club with

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Speaker 1: short like get out here into it. I do whatever

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Speaker 1: I need to do. I live in Detroit. I hustle,

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Speaker 1: I survived, Stop big, you need get it together police.

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Speaker 1: That's that's all I want to say. And I have

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Speaker 1: Russian power to Dinald Gillespie, my father. I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. I listened to you every morning. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: D have a good one. D get it off your

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Speaker 1: chest eight hundred five eight five one on five one.

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Speaker 1: If you need to vent, hit this up now. It's

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Good morning the Breakfast Club. This is

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Speaker 1: your time to get it off your chests, whether you're

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Speaker 1: mad or blast. So plea better have the same, Indy,

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Speaker 1: we want to hear from you on the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Come on in North Carolina, Bill, get it off your chest.

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Speaker 1: This is for you, Mvy. I'm so proud of you

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Speaker 1: and Jail with this book. Y'all doing outstanding out here.

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Speaker 1: I thought her name is good, but it's good. She

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Speaker 1: she had good intentions that mama. I said, yeah, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: it's so good. But um, I went to bot my

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Speaker 1: tickets for the par show, and I know that the

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Speaker 1: twenty dollars tickets was out, But can you start doing

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Speaker 1: family tickets because most of us have kids out here?

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Speaker 1: How many kids you don't want to see themselves? I

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Speaker 1: got three and a husband. How old are your kids?

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Speaker 1: Three and a husband? Seventeen fourteen and seven, seventeen fourteen

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Speaker 1: and ten? Oh you want family? I try to get

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Speaker 1: the tickets that you know the first I think, like

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Speaker 1: a thousand tickets. We're trying to do inexpensive as possible.

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Speaker 1: But you hold on it and I send you a

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Speaker 1: couple of tickets. All right, all Atlanta, Atlanta. That's just

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Speaker 1: a lot of knife. Okay, we'll set you up. Mama

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Speaker 1: holding it right? Thank you? Hello? Who's this three bad cut?

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Speaker 1: I'm back? Take take us our speaker. You can hear

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Speaker 1: me now, Man, I gave you better. Yeah, why you

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Speaker 1: sound like you an auto to him? Bro? Bro driving man?

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Speaker 1: What's happening? King? Ain't? Then auto spins up out? Dude, man?

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Speaker 1: And until I heard somebody every time about bulls man

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Speaker 1: over with all that he was talking about, Dick Sport

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Speaker 1: and stark Man, the sports story, you gonna get you

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Speaker 1: the baseballs and basketballs and and all that. Come on,

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Speaker 1: get your mind out the gutter king. Okay, I know

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Speaker 1: even I know, even driving trucks all night, But come on,

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Speaker 1: get your mind out the gutter king, and we appreciate

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Speaker 1: you too. With a truck driver, No, I ain't no

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Speaker 1: truck job man, I'm driving my car. How did you

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Speaker 1: get I thought he was driving truck? Man? I drive.

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Speaker 1: I gotta go to rood. Okay, when you work at

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Speaker 1: I work at the trust cut. I ain't gonna eat

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Speaker 1: call the man getting talking about but I feel you

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Speaker 1: well happy you got a job king? Yeah, man, when

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Speaker 1: you gonna have one of swimming all over here Southlina.

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Speaker 1: Many don't send um. I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: closest we've been to North Carolina. But we're gonna get

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Speaker 1: back to it as soon as this. Y'all did do

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Speaker 1: a seminar and Columbia before you're talking about, Yes, you

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Speaker 1: did with Chris Chris. We did one talking about with Chris. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we sure did. That was early on, Yeah, we sure did.

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Speaker 1: Y'all did one of the eight three my guy Chris?

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Speaker 1: Did you missed that one? Brother? Hello? Who's this morning?

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Speaker 1: Good morning? What's your name? Absolutely? They asked to get

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Speaker 1: off your chest. Now, I'm tired of working. I'm tired

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Speaker 1: of calling to school. I'm tired of working for somebody

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Speaker 1: else while they live in the best life because I

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Speaker 1: want to live my best life. Food. So basically, Kim

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Speaker 1: Kardashian was right, WHOA see a little bit? Right? You're

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Speaker 1: tired of work and you don't feel like that to day.

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Speaker 1: You feel like you need to get up your ass

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Speaker 1: and work. Huh, I tell you a good story, man,

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Speaker 1: I mean, listen. I can never tell somebody what to do.

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Speaker 1: But I met a young lady this weekend. Her name

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Speaker 1: was Julie. She's in Providence, Rhode Island, and she was

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Speaker 1: tired of getting laid off, like during the pandemic, she

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Speaker 1: got laid off. So you know, she launched her own restaurant.

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Speaker 1: And she got a restaurant downtown in Providence, Rhode Island.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know. Maybe it's something that you can do.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's something you want to do. I'm in school

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Speaker 1: trying to open up my own doctor's offers, but it's

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Speaker 1: too much. It happens though. It's not easy. It's not

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Speaker 1: easy to be an entrepreneur. It's a lot of work.

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Speaker 1: It is in school is a lot of work. Like

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Speaker 1: you get up every day and you know you exhausting

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Speaker 1: a lot of mental and emotional energy, physical energy. None

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Speaker 1: of this is gonna be easy. I think you're probably

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Speaker 1: just having a day to day. But I promise you,

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Speaker 1: when you crossed that finish line, you're gonna think it

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Speaker 1: was all worth it. That's all. I have a good one, Mama,

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Speaker 1: Get it off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five

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Speaker 1: one on five one. If you need to vent, hit

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Speaker 1: us up now. It was the Breakfast Club, Good morning,

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club booting. Everybody is tj Envy, Angela Yee

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Speaker 1: Scharlamagne the guy we are to breakfast Club. We gotta

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Speaker 1: ah guests in the building. You know him from Snowfall

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Speaker 1: and a host of other things. His birthday is one

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Speaker 1: day before mine. He's a fellow Virgo damn soon. It

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Speaker 1: just welcome son, Welcome, sir, damn Son. I didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know your birthday was the first September, your

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Speaker 1: day before. Oh thud, okay, okay. Buddy of mine is

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Speaker 1: the two actually the show runnerup of Snowfall, Dave Andron

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Speaker 1: Buzzo is the best. You know. Absolutely, they had us

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Speaker 1: on New Yes, there you go. The first thing you

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Speaker 1: said was I love New York because I love Jamaican culture. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: What do you love so much about Jamaican culture? What

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Speaker 1: what do you love? Obviously? Your food? Dirt chicken. I'm

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Speaker 1: a guy you both, yeah, oxtail. Actually, I like to

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Speaker 1: dabble one both. I like to steal food from whoever

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Speaker 1: I'm eating with um plantains, do you guys say plantain

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Speaker 1: or planting slanting. I feel like that's the right way

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Speaker 1: to say it. I was saying it wrong. You had

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Speaker 1: to switch through all different times ways. It's different kinds

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Speaker 1: that's part of my life instating people. You don't have

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Speaker 1: amazing Jamaican restaurants in London or in la where your shoot? No, nah,

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Speaker 1: unless the person has kids with the other person, or

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Speaker 1: unless they got some type of very lucrative business together.

418
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:55,879
Speaker 1: There's no reason for you to be talking to your

419
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 1: ex every day if at all, I want you. Hello,

420
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 1: who's this this? She came up from Brooklyn? Now she camera?

421
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 1: Could you date somebody that talks to the X every day? No?

422
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 1: I could not. I like that. I like that what

423
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 1: they talk about every day? Word is Bob? Talk about

424
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 1: every day? The yam would just try to work it out.

425
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:17,640
Speaker 1: Word is Bob, That's what I'm talking about. Ain't nothing

426
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Speaker 1: to talk about every day? Okay, every day nothing nothing

427
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: I mean, don't get me wrong. There is a lot

428
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 1: to talk about every day. But she shouldn't be talking

429
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,640
Speaker 1: about with him, No her, not at all. Hello, who's

430
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 1: this Antonio? Now? What happened in your situation? Antonio? He

431
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 1: hit me ex was like alm up three years ago

432
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:39,360
Speaker 1: and we talked about every day. Still trumpa together, try

433
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 1: to move on. But it made the hardest move on.

434
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 1: But I talked too much to the point where he

435
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: can move back if he got it back together, and

436
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 1: like last week, see now you're back. And that's that's exactly.

437
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: That's exactly what talking to your ex every day does.

438
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: It's like having a pilot light on. Eventually it's gonna

439
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 1: catch flame. Somebody gonna turn the damn heat on. I

440
00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 1: think I said that right, somebody gonna turn the damn

441
00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 1: fireplace on. Okay, because that pilot light was lit, I

442
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 1: thought you're talking stove, But yeah, I get what the

443
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: same thing. Somebody gonna turn the stove on. Something with

444
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: some fire gonna happens. What I'm trying to tell you? Hello,

445
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 1: who's this? Marcus from Columbia, South of Carolina eight o

446
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: three metro. What's happening now, Marcus? What's going on with you?

447
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 1: You and your wife both? Um? So, my wife got

448
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:23,879
Speaker 1: a baby daddy at her and she um she's a

449
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 1: nice lady, so she, you know, tends to try to

450
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: be communicated with him because of before when I came along,

451
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: he wouldn't talk to her. So I allow it to happen.

452
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 1: I say, all right, you know, maybe y'all can bring

453
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 1: some communication for a kid. But now I became a problem. Yeah,

454
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 1: he's calling every day. Uh it ain't bout the kids,

455
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 1: and you seether he's trying to get to advice from

456
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: her or he's just trying to hold a little small talking.

457
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 1: He's trying to get some advice in some ass. That's

458
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:59,479
Speaker 1: the truth though, Dad, But you know, and yeah, it's

459
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: only as you. I'm like, hey, I'm doing his own issues.

460
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 1: And when he decided to do he want to deal

461
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: with kids, he can communicate, but as of now that

462
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: got stopped. So they got hold on they have kids together.

463
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 1: Is he in the kid's life? No not. He's in

464
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: the kid's life only when someone uh pushes them all

465
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: like you don't call and say hey, I wanted to

466
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: He just to the mom or her was the head.

467
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: The kids want to see you or they've been asking

468
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,919
Speaker 1: him about you. Then he'd say, well, okay, you can

469
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: bring him by. I think that in a situation like

470
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: this is still tricky only because that is the baby daddy,

471
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: and you know, you still you know how important it

472
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 1: is for a father to be in a child's life.

473
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,119
Speaker 1: So she might still be holding out hope that he

474
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 1: gets his stuff together so he can be in his

475
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 1: child's life. Yeah, she know, she says that, but I

476
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 1: keep telling how I said, if it took you to

477
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 1: leave him, that should have been a wake up call.

478
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 1: That's even all through these years, like keeping his older daughter,

479
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,439
Speaker 1: You don't, Peter don't have no He talks to her,

480
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: but they don't have a father daughter communicating like a

481
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: father and his daughter ship. Yeah, yeah, I'm with you.

482
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,159
Speaker 1: Let's cut him off? Are you stupid? Rock? Tell us

483
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 1: you got a block? So what's the ball of the story.

484
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a more. Everybody got to

485
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: do what works for them. But I'm just telling you

486
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 1: what it works for me. That don't work for me.

487
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,479
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Unless you got a business

488
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: or you got kids together, there's no reason for you

489
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 1: to be talking to your ex every day. What you

490
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 1: got the pilot light on for? You? Don't even use

491
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: that fire place number, that five place don't work. You

492
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:35,240
Speaker 1: got a new stove electric Will you will with you

493
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:42,640
Speaker 1: this club? Good morning, the Breakfast Club. It's a five one,

494
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same morning.

495
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 1: Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlemagne, the guy. We

496
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 1: all the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in

497
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Speaker 1: the building, a queen a icon living. That's right, Viola Davis.

498
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 1: Well say later you so much. Good morning. How are

499
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: you today? You know what, I'm pretty good, I'm well rested,

500
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: I feel alive. There you go, okay, okay, Well, thank

501
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 1: you for taking time to come and sit with us.

502
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 1: It's just so exciting show on the schedule of Viola

503
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: Davis Finding Me. Yes, man, man, this book is such

504
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: a beautiful exploration of your your inner child. Like when

505
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: you started the journey of writing this book, did you

506
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 1: know you would go on that journey with your inner

507
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: child as well? Yeah. That was the whole point that

508
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 1: I needed to find that inner child, and my inner

509
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: child was one that needed both healing and needed to

510
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 1: be celebrated. She was a survivor as well as someone

511
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 1: who you know, held a lot of trauma. But I

512
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 1: felt like I had to explore it because we were

513
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 1: at that period of time. I wrote it during the pandemic,

514
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: you know, the George Floyd of it all, the Almand Aubrey,

515
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 1: Brionna Taylor of it all, everything dealing with the COVID,

516
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: with the election. I felt like I was having a

517
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: crisis of meaning and it was my way of pressing

518
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: the reset button, just to understand, man, Viola, what are

519
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: you supposed to do from here on out? It just

520
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 1: was a big wake up call personally and you know, culturally.

521
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: So that's why I wrote the book. I had to

522
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: go back to the beginning of me. When you start

523
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,400
Speaker 1: during the pandemic, or this was something you were doing

524
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: beforehand and you were just so many projects. He was like,

525
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: I'll get to it though this was pandemic, this is

526
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 1: what I want to do. Well. I didn't want to

527
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: do nothing during the pandemic, but I did start during

528
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: the pandemic. I had just finished How to Get Away

529
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: with Murder. I literally just ended it that March, and

530
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 1: then I started writing the book. It was something to

531
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: do because otherwise I was going stir crazy. I wasn't

532
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: the person who settled into the pandemic. I felt everything

533
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: that was going on around me, and I felt the

534
00:28:55,360 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: chaos of it and I internalized it. So this book

535
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: was great therapy. So when God made you sit still

536
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 1: in you know, during the pandemic, what did you see

537
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 1: about yourself that you hadn't saw in a while. I

538
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 1: saw a lot of things. I saw Viola as a survivor.

539
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: I saw, you know, I keep telling this story ad nauseum.

540
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: I know I've told it a lot, but I've always said,

541
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: you got to leave a legacy, right, So I said,

542
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: you know, it's life. It's like a relay race. It's

543
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: what you do with your dash of time. And what

544
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: great runner you pass that baton, you know, off to

545
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: You pass it on to the next generation. They pass

546
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: it on to the person you know who's after them

547
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 1: and after them. And I realized during the writing of

548
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: the book, is those great runners are you at a

549
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: different age? The six year old who survives it then,

550
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: you know, may survive it really messy, may have been inappropriate,

551
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 1: but she ran her leg of the race and pass

552
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 1: a baton onto the fourteen year old Viola who said,

553
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: want to be an actor In the midst of all

554
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: the poverty, the abuse, the bed wedding, the sexual all

555
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 1: of that, she wanted to be an actor. She saw

556
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: a way out, and fourteen year old pass it onto

557
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: the twenty eight year old who said, you know what,

558
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: I need therapy because I want healthy relationships in my life.

559
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 1: I want to be happier and I don't know how

560
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: to do that. And she passed it on to the

561
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: thirty four year old Viola, who got married to the

562
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: fort forty five year old Viola who then became a mom.

563
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 1: And then now I'm fifty six and I have the

564
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: baton in my hand, and now what you know, what

565
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 1: am I supposed to do with this part of my life?

566
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: Because I would say, at fifty six, you're a little

567
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: bit past midlife. So that's what I learned. It's like

568
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: it's a constant reassessment of where do you want to be,

569
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 1: what do your life? What do you want your life

570
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: to sort of look like? And I keep coming back

571
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: to this because I know I know that, I know that,

572
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: I know that the number one regret of the dying

573
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: is they didn't take risks, they didn't become their ideal self.

574
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to think that I wasn't brave,

575
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 1: And I think that sometimes people hold off braveness and

576
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: courage because they don't want to risk failure and they

577
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: don't want to risk shame. And I think you got

578
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: to risk it. And that's been my biggest discovery in

579
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: writing the book. You're say in the book that memories

580
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: are powerful, right, some people like to beget memories because

581
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: it's so painful, it's so hurtful. But it seems like

582
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 1: you use it as inspiration to push yourself hard. Why

583
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: is that. I think the pain the trauma is equal

584
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: to the joy and the peace in your life. I

585
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: think that they're one and the same. I don't think

586
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: that the pain and the trauma and the hard times

587
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: are a detour from life. I think it's a part

588
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: of life. And I think that when you refuse to

589
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: lean in to all of it is you refuse to

590
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 1: become connected to yourself. And that's why no one can

591
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: connect with anyone else because the only time we want

592
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 1: to meet is with great stories of overcoming and winning.

593
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: And then when someone feels like they are not overcoming

594
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: and they're not winning and they're not waking up happy

595
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 1: every day, then they feel like they need to hide

596
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: in the closet, not come out, not open their mouths

597
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 1: not saying anything. There's no one to share with, there's

598
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: no sacred space to be you. I count it all joy.

599
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 1: Now when I say I count it all joy, it

600
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: takes some time sometimes account it all joy. But I

601
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 1: do believe that it's all a part of life. I've

602
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 1: been in too many spaces where I haven't been able

603
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 1: to connect with people. You just never know what people

604
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: have gone through to get to where they are today,

605
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: which is why memoir like this, where you were so

606
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 1: open and honest about everything, it really helped us to

607
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 1: see like where you come from when you're acting. And

608
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you about your relationship with your

609
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: parents because in this book you talk a lot about

610
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: things that happened to you when you were a child.

611
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,320
Speaker 1: What did you realize while writing this book about like

612
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: your father and about your mother. I realized they did

613
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: the best they could with what they had. That's what

614
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: I realized. Because it's so hard to forgive your dad.

615
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 1: I know, you know you talk about how abusive he

616
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: was to your mother and things that you had to witness,

617
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: So was it hard for you to even forgive that. Yeah,

618
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: forgiveness is to me. I feel like forgiveness and faith

619
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:42,719
Speaker 1: are equal in terms of they're the hardest things to achieve.

620
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: It they're so abstract. So it comes down to choice.

621
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Speaker 1: I forgive for myself. I forgive because I don't want

622
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 1: to carry that weight, the weight, the vengefulness of regret

623
00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: and all of that. For me, it blocks everything from

624
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: coming into your life. And I don't think that anyone

625
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: wants to see a sixty year old or here is

626
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: sixty year old sitting in front of their therapists saying, I,

627
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 1: you know, haven't been able to make my marriage work

628
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,359
Speaker 1: or this work in my life because what my dad

629
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: did when I was five. At some point your life

630
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: becomes yours as well. That you said that, because my

631
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 1: wife was up here the other day and she was like,

632
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 1: you know, when she forgave, she be gave for herself.

633
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 1: And I didn't understand it at first because most people

634
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 1: think when you forgive, your forgiving the person that hurts you.

635
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 1: But it's actually to not to take away that pain

636
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,320
Speaker 1: from yourself so you don't have to deal with it anymore.

637
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: That is that what you're saying when you say I

638
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 1: forgive for myself, Well, yeah, that's part of it. I

639
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 1: do believe it's a sort of prison. And not to

640
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: get too philosophical, of course, but I believe that when

641
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: you get to the end of your life, you're not

642
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: thinking about all the people that you hated and all

643
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 1: the people that did you wrong. I don't think that

644
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,399
Speaker 1: you're thinking about that when you're taking your last breath.

645
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 1: I just don't. I think all of that goes away,

646
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: and I think everything comes into sharp focus, which is

647
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 1: probably making amends, probably being with the people that you love,

648
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 1: probably sewing everything up, probably holding someone's hands. But I

649
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: don't think that we're thinking about all of that. I

650
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: think that once again, the only person you could say

651
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 1: is yourself. That's the only thing that you could do.

652
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 1: You can't keep backtracking as what wrong someone did to

653
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: you or whatever. You got to figure out how to

654
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: heal that. It's like, you don't you haven't met all

655
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,399
Speaker 1: the people who are going to love you in your

656
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 1: life yet. And so when you meet all these people

657
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,879
Speaker 1: who are going to love you, they do not want

658
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 1: to meet a vengeful person, okay, because they're going to

659
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: get the overflow of that vengefulness. As a matter of fact,

660
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: they're not going to get the overflow of that vengefulness.

661
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: They're gonna get nothing. They're gonna go so far are

662
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: with you and then it's gonna stop. I've been with

663
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: those people they called emotionally unavailable. We have more with

664
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: Viola Davis when we come back, don't move. It's the

665
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 1: breakfast Club, Boilding. I love how you, you know, held

666
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 1: your father accountable but also humanize them. Did you always

667
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 1: see the humanity in him or was that something that

668
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: happens as you got Oh do it, you know, with

669
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: the more work you did on yourself. Absolutely, more work

670
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: I did it on myself. The more I saw his humanity,

671
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: the more I could connect the dots. You know. I

672
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: thought life was like a Disney movie. People were just

673
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: good or bad. That's it. The evil villain who just

674
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 1: comes out just wants to destroy everyone. I didn't know

675
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:46,760
Speaker 1: that people acted because of specific memories once again, trauma

676
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 1: in their lives. The people and we really demonize black people,

677
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: you know, and the very way you wouldn't even be

678
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: doing what you're doing if all those things hadn't happened

679
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: to you as a child. Absolutely, because it was such

680
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 1: an escape for you to be able to turn on

681
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: the TV. You said it was Cicely Tyson right, that

682
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 1: you saw that made you even say this is what

683
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: I want to do. Absolutely that that woman and that

684
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 1: performance was everything. I remember the moment I saw that

685
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 1: performance because it was like magic. It was like it

686
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: was a magician pulling a rabbit out of the hat.

687
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: If you've ever seen the performance, she aged from eighteen

688
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 1: to one hundred and ten, and you could not even

689
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: believe it from the first frame of that it was

690
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 1: a mini series. And literally the wind stopped blowing, the

691
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: sun came out, and I saw a portal way out

692
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 1: of the poverty, the trauma. I just felt like, if

693
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: I could do that, I could make a life. I

694
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 1: think sometimes you gotta see it, you know, And I

695
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 1: know everybody just puts faith on people, especially on us,

696
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 1: especially on black folk. Know that's all we had. And

697
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: and but it's a lot. You know. You go up

698
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 1: to young black kids who are coming from really challenging backgrounds,

699
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: and people come up to them and say, you know,

700
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: you could be what who and what you want to be.

701
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: You just have to dream big. And then once you

702
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: make it, you come back, You bring your family up,

703
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: you bring your community up. And I'm sure if that

704
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 1: kid had a language, he would say, how that's a

705
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 1: lot you just throw and then you gotta work ten

706
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: times as hard. You throw all of that on their lap,

707
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 1: and then at fifteen, if they can't even get if

708
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,479
Speaker 1: if they can't achieve it at all, if they feel

709
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: like they want to give up, then we just brate them.

710
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: It's a lot that we put on them. So sometimes

711
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: you gotta see it, you gotta hold it, you gotta

712
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 1: somebody's gotta throw you a rope they do. Honestly, what

713
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 1: was you talk about, sileague or what was some of

714
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: your positive influences? Because you know, you talk about, you know,

715
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 1: your parents and how you looked at your dad, and

716
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 1: you talked about, you know, going to the white school

717
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 1: and the white kids chase all the bricks, and you

718
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 1: talk about all those things. So what positive influence did

719
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: you have? What was your safe haven as a kid?

720
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 1: If there wasn't there was no one safe haven for me.

721
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 1: What life becomes about is how someone could take you

722
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: from A to a plus, from a plus to D,

723
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: from D to you know, to M to M. You know,

724
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 1: there are people who can carry you at different points

725
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,839
Speaker 1: in your life. It could be a teacher, it could

726
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: be a parent, it could be a relative, it could

727
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: be a stranger that gives you one word. I had

728
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 1: a lot of teachers, even the first teacher who looked

729
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: at me and he was an acting coach, who looked

730
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:46,479
Speaker 1: at me and told me I was beautiful. That meant

731
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: a lot to me. And the first person who just

732
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: came into science class because he was a teacher and

733
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: I called him in the middle of the day. He

734
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 1: was an upward bound teacher and I said, I was

735
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 1: having a panic attack. He came to the school. He

736
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 1: interrupted science class. He said, I want to see Viola.

737
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,239
Speaker 1: The science teacher said you can't do that. He said,

738
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 1: excuse me, sir, I'm gonna do it. Anybody, anybody who

739
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 1: throws you a rope and sees you and likes you.

740
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: There is something about someone looking at you and liking

741
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: you right, and even saying your potential when you can't

742
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: see it absolutely, because sometimes you tuck yourself out of

743
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,880
Speaker 1: things right because of fear. But then someone tells you,

744
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: like your science teacher, listen, you need to apply for this.

745
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 1: You can do it, And you tell yourself, I can't

746
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: do it. Why would they take me, why would they

747
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 1: accept me? But somebody else believing in you and giving

748
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:38,439
Speaker 1: you the tools like you can't make excuses anymore after

749
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,840
Speaker 1: a while. And you know what, very Seldoman, am I

750
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: in a space And I know y'all can say the

751
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: same thing, But am I in a space specially as

752
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 1: a dark skinned black woman, and could speak my truth

753
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 1: about what that means the isolation of that experience, Okay,

754
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: because it comes at you, three old, It comes at

755
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: you through yes, white America. It comes to you through

756
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:12,240
Speaker 1: the experience and the culture of America, and it comes

757
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:17,360
Speaker 1: to you through even black culture. I'm just gonna say it,

758
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: because it's called colorism. It's its own different sect of racism,

759
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 1: and it is destructive because what you tell women in

760
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: general is that beauty is a value, which it's not. Listen,

761
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm one of those people. I think everybody's beautiful, and

762
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: I really do. I don't talk about stuff like that.

763
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,359
Speaker 1: Oh yes, well the bull frogs. At a different level,

764
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 1: there was some meaning women, But you consider it a value.

765
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 1: And with someone who you feel has value, you pay

766
00:41:56,680 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 1: attention to them, you pour into them. You think that

767
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 1: they're smarter, more, valuable, more everything. So when you go

768
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: up to little chocolate girls who are darker than a

769
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: paper bag and you're constantly telling them they're not as cute,

770
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 1: they have bad hair, they have this that you're putting

771
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:20,280
Speaker 1: negative connotations. And then you can now you can literally

772
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 1: google people who seem to have had press conferences to

773
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: talk about how unattractive they find darker skinned women. I mean,

774
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: here's the thing. Even if you feel that way, why

775
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: are you gonna spread that? How do you think people

776
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: are gonna received that? And we know how difficult it

777
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: is to get a leg up, you know in the

778
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 1: black community, the lack of opportunity what we're running from,

779
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna put that on us and so

780
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,919
Speaker 1: and when you can't speak your truth in a room,

781
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: then you feel like you have to hide yourself. It's

782
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 1: very it's like physically painful. I want I want to

783
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: ask you a couple more questions about your father, because

784
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: I found that dynamic so interested. And you said something

785
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 1: the book, and I paraphrasing, but you said your father

786
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 1: was an abuser who became a good partner. Yeah, and

787
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 1: this era canceled coaches. Some people couldn't even imagine that happening.

788
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: Can you explain he did? And I think he always

789
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 1: had it in him. I think he was wrestling you know.

790
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 1: I always feel like it got two people that you

791
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: wrestle with, right, and it's who you feed. And I

792
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 1: think he fed the more violent aspects of himself. I

793
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: think he was running from a lot. But in the

794
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,320
Speaker 1: last several decades, I think since I was probably in

795
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: my twenties, he helped my mom raise a lot of

796
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: my relatives children, and he loved my mother. He was

797
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: always there rubbing her feet. And towards the end of

798
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: his life, I mean, I say towards the end, the

799
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 1: last couple of days of his life, my mom would

800
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 1: always say every single day he woke up, even when

801
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: he was suffering from dementia, towards the end, he would say,

802
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 1: you know, may Alice, you know, I'm sorry about what

803
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: I did to you. Wow, I'm sorry. I feel like

804
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:16,400
Speaker 1: that's everything. I mean, how many people do you know

805
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 1: that even make amends, that even opened their mouths. And

806
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 1: I think that that, um, I feel like that has

807
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: to be acknowledged as an incredible character trait. All right, Well,

808
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: don't move. We got more with Viola Davis. When we

809
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 1: come back. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, Florida Morning.

810
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: The craziest people in America come from the Bronx and

811
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 1: all of Floridan. Yes, you are a donkey. The Florida

812
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 1: man attacked an ATM for a very strange reason. It

813
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: gave him too much money. Florida man is arrested after

814
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,880
Speaker 1: definitely said he rigged the door to his home in

815
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 1: an attempt to electricate his pregnant wife. Police arrested in

816
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: Orlando man for talking a flimena to breakfast club bitchy

817
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 1: donkey other day. I don't know why y'all keep letting

818
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: him get y'all lected. It's not me, It's really not me.

819
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:09,839
Speaker 1: It's absolutely y'all donkey. Today from Monday, May sixteenth, goes

820
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: to a young lady named Jania Douglas of Florida, and

821
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 1: I went, did your uncle Charla always say about the

822
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 1: great state of Florida? The craziest people in America come

823
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,280
Speaker 1: from the Bronx and all the Florida in today's no exception.

824
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: I got a question for you. It's a simple one.

825
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 1: What's on your bucket list? I don't have to explain

826
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,240
Speaker 1: to you what a bucket list is due it's simply

827
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 1: a number of experiences, our achievements that a person hopes

828
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 1: to have, Our accomplished during their lifetime. I don't think

829
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 1: I've ever technically called things that I've accomplished bucket list items.

830
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 1: I'm more of a vision board type of person. But

831
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 1: we all have things we want to do in life. Okay,

832
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: some can be career oriented, some can be personal, but

833
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 1: we all simply have things we have historically wanted to do,

834
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 1: and once we did, then we scratched them off that list.

835
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: You know, we scratched them off our list. Angelie, what's

836
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: been on? It's been something on your bucket list that

837
00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 1: you scratched off? What is something on my bucket list

838
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: that I scratched off a long time ago? Buying a house? Okay, y,

839
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,320
Speaker 1: well something on your bucket listen, you scratched off traveling

840
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: in South Africa, going to South Africa. See, those are

841
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: real goals. Those are accomplishments that make sense. They're productive,

842
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 1: they're positive. Okay, they give you something to work towards.

843
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: But people's bucket lists vary for a lot of reasons.

844
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 1: And I can almost guarantee that Jania's bucket list is different,

845
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 1: okay than a lot of people's. All right. See, Jania

846
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: was recently charged with fleeing and eluding authorities and failure

847
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 1: to obey an order from a law enforcement officer when

848
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: she refused to stop. Okay, on last Thursday morning in

849
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 1: the Florida Keys, let me paint the picture for you.

850
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 1: Jania was driving to Toyota today, all right. She was

851
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: speeding and driving reckless near North Key Largo at about

852
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:50,399
Speaker 1: seven forty seven am. An officer turned on his lights

853
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 1: and siren, but Jania did not stop them. Okay, she

854
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 1: continued southbound until stopping at a three way intersection. That's

855
00:46:57,080 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 1: as far as that Toyota sedan could go. Now what

856
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: was she fleeing for? Did she have a warrant she

857
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:04,760
Speaker 1: knew about. Did she have a car full of drugs

858
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,240
Speaker 1: and guns but she under the influence of any narcotics

859
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: or alcohol? Was there a dead white woman in the trunk? No?

860
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: Her reasoning her motive was that she told the deputy

861
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: that getting arrested had been on her bucket list since

862
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 1: high school. I repeat, Jenia fled and eluded deputies and

863
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: said she did it because getting arrested was on her

864
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 1: bucket list since high school. Let me tell I think

865
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 1: she's nineteen years old. If I'm not mistaken, let me

866
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 1: be clear. Yeah, she's nineteen years old of Homestead, Florida. Listen, Yes,

867
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 1: first thing, I want to know, Jania, what else is

868
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:47,879
Speaker 1: on your list? Okay, I know it's your personal bucket list,

869
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: but you need to let somebody read over it to

870
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 1: see what else is on there, because damn man, all right,

871
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: Also need y'all to know something. Hey uncle, Okay, uncle's

872
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 1: Charlotte is old, brother Lennard is old. I'm forty three.

873
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: My body different, I'm breathing different. If you don't know

874
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,080
Speaker 1: what line that movie from, you ain't black. But I'm

875
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: saying all that to say, I don't understand what's happening

876
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 1: no more, man, I don't understand this generation. I have

877
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: no clue on what is happening anymore. But I'm not

878
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: going to generalize a whole generation. We live in a

879
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: world where we have to rely on the most unpredictable

880
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 1: thing on the planet to keep us all safe, and

881
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 1: that's human behavior. The only thing that keeps us relatively

882
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: safe on this planet is the actions of each other.

883
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 1: And we are living on this third rock from the

884
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: sun with people who want to scratch getting arrested off

885
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: that bucket list. So between this and folks who just

886
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 1: wake up wanting to commit mass shootings. We doomed. What

887
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,760
Speaker 1: you need? I want you to know something. You clearly

888
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:46,399
Speaker 1: can do anything you put your mind too. Now, other

889
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 1: things you might set your mind to do, other things

890
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: you might put on your bucket list, might be a

891
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: little more difficult than getting arrested. But I believe in you,

892
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: and I hope that this situation lets you realize that

893
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 1: anything you put on your bucket list you can absolutely do.

894
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 1: Any thing you set your mind to, you can absolutely do.

895
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 1: You just need to make some adjustments to your little

896
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:09,320
Speaker 1: bucket list. Okay, once again, I'm sitting here trying to

897
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 1: understand the logic of something that is illogical. But it's

898
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 1: not illogical. It's just Florida. Please give Ja Neia Douglas

899
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 1: the sweet sounds of the Hamiltones. Oh, No, you are

900
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 1: Dogee of the Day, the Dogee oh the day. H

901
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: You want to play a game? No? I don't. Actually

902
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: they don't want to play a game. Don't want to

903
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 1: you know what? All right, I'm gonna use me you

904
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 1: to play a game. Okay, let's play a game of

905
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 1: guess what racing. Let's do it. Florida Woman nineteen years

906
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 1: old dropping a Toyota today and accused the fling. A

907
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 1: deputy says the restaurants on her bucket listens high school.

908
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 1: Al get us what racis? But she's definitely not black

909
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: because I don't think that's on our bucket list. Oh okay,

910
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,720
Speaker 1: that's never been on a bucket list. Okay, Lisa's definitely

911
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 1: not black. So what do you got? I guess white? Okay,

912
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 1: past me something wrong? Can you please arrest dj NVY

913
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 1: woman driving a Toyota? So they had nineteen years old

914
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: of Florida wanted to get arrested because she said it

915
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 1: was on her bucket list. Guess what RACI damn it man,

916
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: I was going black until you just she just had

917
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: me like thankful for a little bit. The black person

918
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 1: don't want to get arrested, Like we don't want Yeah,

919
00:50:41,120 --> 00:50:43,880
Speaker 1: we want to avoid white people. Gotta beg to the right.

920
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 1: But my gut told me black earlier though. N See

921
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:53,919
Speaker 1: what y'all always failed to realize when we do guess

922
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:56,239
Speaker 1: what race it is? We have different categories. Maybe one

923
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 1: day I gotta just run down the categories. That's the category.

924
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 1: But there's white white, you know, we have Asian, Asian, Spanish, Latino,

925
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 1: and we have black black, right, but we also got

926
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 1: nigga new yor Douglas is what we call a young

927
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:22,320
Speaker 1: nigga around these poor That's all this is, okay, powerful nigga.

928
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 1: Are you talking about Kirkland? But she can grow out

929
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:31,400
Speaker 1: of this, okay. We all have our nigga face. By

930
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:34,399
Speaker 1: the way, nigga pace is not just for black people.

931
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 1: There's white niggas too, okay, but they just can't use

932
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: the word. This was an act of Nigga Tree the

933
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Need relationship advice, need personal advice, just need

934
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 1: real advice. Haul up nown for asking morning. Everybody's dj

935
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 1: Envy Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy we all to breakfast

936
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: Club is time for asking ye Hello, who's this Hi?

937
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 1: This is Nicole, Hey, Nicole, what's your question for? Easy? Um? So,

938
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 1: the situation is, um, I've been in a relationship for

939
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 1: maybe like seventeen years. It just interns my relationship. He

940
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: had like different sexual interests and um, I thought, I'm

941
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: like the doctor doctor Natrix. I've been like control in

942
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:28,239
Speaker 1: the bedroom and he seemed like he was into it.

943
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,799
Speaker 1: I'd like to turn them out, but I don't really

944
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:35,359
Speaker 1: like when they're into it. So I've been noticing more

945
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 1: and more aware they are, Um, he is like tooking

946
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 1: his booty out or it's like hanging and I kind

947
00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:47,040
Speaker 1: of not interested in it no more. So I want

948
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 1: to know how do I bring up the conversation with

949
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: him without hurting his feelings or damasculating him because so wait,

950
00:52:56,680 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 1: let me So the problem is that you're a dominatrix, right,

951
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:04,439
Speaker 1: but he's enjoying it too much. I want to say, yeah,

952
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:07,839
Speaker 1: that's the problem. Okay, you want him, you want him

953
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: to be like anymore? It's like, are you really now

954
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:15,320
Speaker 1: like interested in bad or you know? Okay, so in

955
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 1: the beginning he wasn't enjoying it, No, he was. I

956
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 1: liked what I said, I'd like to to turn him out,

957
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 1: so he was like, have no, stay with from that area.

958
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: What you think? This is kind of like okay, so

959
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 1: you mean with you know, like putting something in his Yeah, okay,

960
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:32,719
Speaker 1: all right, Well, first of all, you said the goal

961
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: is to turn someone out. It worked, yeah, did so

962
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: now that you turn him out your board. But the

963
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 1: thing is we are like partners, and I don't know

964
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: if this is gonna mess up our actual relationship. But

965
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 1: as a dominatrix, maybe you need to find something else

966
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,040
Speaker 1: to do to him next to turn him out on.

967
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:57,840
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, LEK, what other things do you do

968
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: as a dominatrix in this relationship, because I guess the

969
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: dynamic now is messed up? Right As a dominatrix, He's

970
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 1: supposed to be like no, I don't want that, don't

971
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:09,320
Speaker 1: like that. He's resistant, but now he's like, yes, bring it,

972
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: do it to me, peg me yes. And I noticed

973
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 1: that before. I'm ready to actually take it. And I'm like,

974
00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:24,920
Speaker 1: right now, this is now, this feels like something we

975
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 1: both enjoy and it wasn't supposed to be like that.

976
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 1: So are there are there are there things that you

977
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 1: do to him and that situation, that relationship to h

978
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 1: you know, maybe there's something else you could do where

979
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 1: you're stepping on him with the high heels, maybe a

980
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 1: little light whipping anything like that. Yeah, we we do

981
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: a little role play of you know, I don't want

982
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:49,839
Speaker 1: to say please or patient. We do like a little

983
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,560
Speaker 1: role plays, but like I said, it's just more of

984
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 1: now like we regular doing regular sex. He's ready to

985
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:02,879
Speaker 1: to Susio Okay, what if he used a bigger deal? Though?

986
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 1: Why we do this is so wrong? Why is it wrong? Men?

987
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:09,399
Speaker 1: Do not let women play in your butt unless they're

988
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 1: willing to make a real commitment to you. Okay, yeah,

989
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 1: I mean he gave you the button. Now all of

990
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:17,759
Speaker 1: a sudden, it's too far. This is bad. Okay, they're

991
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 1: not married, right, Actually we are married. What he gave

992
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 1: you his butt and now you're saying it's too much?

993
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 1: You like it and you know that, but the problem

994
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 1: is that you did turn him out and got him

995
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 1: to like something that he was resistant to at first,

996
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: and now you don't like it anymore. So I mean,

997
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: what can you do? It works? Some suggestions? If not? Like,

998
00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: I'm really like, I'm in a hard place because I

999
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 1: don't want to say to him I don't want to

1000
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: do it anymore. And like I said, I'm the one

1001
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: that started. Yeah, but who maybe you could do it.

1002
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:59,320
Speaker 1: Maybe you could do the opposite now right and torture

1003
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 1: him by not doing it? Man, what you don't do

1004
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 1: to another man's but somebody else will. I mean, is

1005
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 1: it is it that you don't want to peg him

1006
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:19,200
Speaker 1: anymore at all? What if he acted like, don't what

1007
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 1: if he acted like he doesn't like it? Now moving

1008
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 1: forward and you let him? Can I ask him to

1009
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 1: like with just a little bit more, Yeah, tell him like,

1010
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: tell him like, look, the dynamics of what this was

1011
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 1: is not what it is now, and this is what

1012
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 1: I need you to do for me to fail turned on,

1013
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: He might actually enjoy that too. That's not fair, mama.

1014
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:40,000
Speaker 1: If he likes something and now all of a sudden,

1015
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:41,880
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be a couple, you're supposed to enjoy

1016
00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 1: each other, Well, she's not enjoying it for he is right,

1017
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: but he might enjoy also doing the role playing of

1018
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 1: acting like this is his first time doing it. He

1019
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: didn't want to do it in the first play why

1020
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,400
Speaker 1: he broke down for her to do it, and now

1021
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 1: what he actually likes it? If he wants it, he

1022
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 1: might have to play along. You know why a lot

1023
00:56:58,000 --> 00:56:59,759
Speaker 1: of men don't like but play because they feel like

1024
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:01,520
Speaker 1: it makes him feel like less of a man, right,

1025
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:05,399
Speaker 1: It makes him feel like a sucker. Right. So so now, yeah,

1026
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: I've been vulnerable with you. You turn me out, and

1027
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:09,960
Speaker 1: now you're telling me to stop back like a bitch.

1028
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 1: Well guess who turned me into one? I'm just saying, anyway,

1029
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 1: have you communicated any of this to him? Um, flight hint,

1030
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:24,400
Speaker 1: but not very direct, saying oh, this is how I

1031
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 1: feel at this current moment. How can you make a change,

1032
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 1: but be direct? You're a dominatrix, Be direct, okay, and

1033
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 1: tell him, look, this ain't fun for me no more.

1034
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 1: Before it was a resistant situation. You ain't one it.

1035
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 1: Now you tuting it up that dang up daddy, make

1036
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: it roll like in a regular helpful situation, Like it

1037
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: seems like I have to take control of everything, and

1038
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 1: it's like, is that from the way our room acts?

1039
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:57,280
Speaker 1: And now it's like I don't want to call him

1040
00:57:57,360 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 1: bitching out because that's I don't want to downplayed to

1041
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 1: be far from um a female dog, but like he's

1042
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: very now thought or he's not taking patrol as I

1043
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 1: think a man in the house. Okay, he might think

1044
00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:14,800
Speaker 1: this is what you want, and if you haven't communicated

1045
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 1: that you don't like it, he might think this is

1046
00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:21,439
Speaker 1: the dynamic that you wanted. Charlemagne did say something real true.

1047
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 1: What you don't do, somebody else will top guys, it's

1048
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Speaker 1: the truth. You turned them onto it. So he liked. Listen,

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Speaker 1: you need to let him know that this is not

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Speaker 1: working for you and this is not what your intention was,

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Speaker 1: so he can take charge in certain situations. Again, this

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Speaker 1: is why men don't open up. Our hearts are butts

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Speaker 1: to people, because the situations like this. All right, but

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Speaker 1: the main thing is that you're not telling him what

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Speaker 1: it is that you need. You gotta let him much.

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Speaker 1: She wanted it at first, and he didn't want to

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Speaker 1: do it at first, and then he finally opened up

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Speaker 1: and did it and turned out and you are doing

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Speaker 1: that's all right, so listen, talk to him. Okay, you

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Speaker 1: gotta work through this. You you begged the playing my butt.

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Speaker 1: You're playing my butt now you look at me like

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Speaker 1: I'm soft. Let's just keep that. This is crazy. This

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Speaker 1: is this is crazy Tom. What's his number? We need

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Speaker 1: to call here? No, stop it, this is Tom on

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Speaker 1: the spot. Yeah, don't do it? All right, all right,

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Speaker 1: this is toxically. We have no problem answering any question

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Speaker 1: opened up for her. He finally he enjoys it now

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Speaker 1: and now she's just gonna take it back. I'll say,

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Speaker 1: y'all can't get me into communicate. We open up then,

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Speaker 1: y'all tell us, y'all like what we say you say

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Speaker 1: we don't share our emotions. We open up our hearts, y'all,

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Speaker 1: break our hearts, y'all. Say y'all we don't want like

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Speaker 1: butt play, We open our butts. Now, look to take

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Speaker 1: it back. You guys have been too in to ask you.

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Speaker 1: These past is crazy. Ye, this is crazy. This is foul.

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Speaker 1: These toxic women. We need to protest. We get Welcome Morning,

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Speaker 1: Everybody's DJ, Envy, Angela Yee, Charlemagne the Guy. We are

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club, so we are on vacation. So we're

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Speaker 1: We'll be back in a couple of days. All right.

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Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast Slug Morning