WEBVTT - Sucking After Dark 0:00:01.440 --> 0:00:04.960 I Suck at Dating with Denungler and Jared Haven and 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:11.280 I heard Radio Podcast. Welcome to this week's episode of 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:13.880 Help I Suck at Dating. And for the listeners out 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:17.439 there that loved our episode with Tasha and Brooks, we 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:20.400 brought them back because they were so fantastic. But not 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:22.880 only are they back this time, well, I can't speak 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.439 for Brooks here, but Tasia has had a couple of 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.640 glasses of wine. Okay, I mean I've had a couple 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:32.320 of glasses of one. Myself, we have a lots is drunk. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.400 I haven't had any glasses of wine. I'm basically here 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:39.240 to keep this episode on the rails. Yeah, Brooks keeps 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:42.040 us rounded, you know. But unless we wanted to spice 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:43.839 up the show a back right, I never would have 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.120 used the words that Amy just used. But here we are. 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:49.839 Apparently we're drunk. So for this week's episode, we've got Tassia, 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:52.720 We've got Brooks and myself Tory of course, as always 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.400 reading the questions for us. We're gonna start off with 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:57.640 some as we kind of had a couple of weeks 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:00.760 ago with the just listener questions about what's going on 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:02.720 with dating? And I feel like now that tastes a 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:05.559 little bit looser, a little bit more fluid, a little 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:07.880 bit more willing to just go for the gold. She 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:12.479 might give us a better advice. Yes, of course. Okay, 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:16.839 and Brooks to the stage. The y stage of all 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:18.920 is Brooks, and he's going to be here to help 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:20.520 answer some of these questions as well. We're gonna start 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:23.600 off with some, um, some listener questions and we're gonna 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:27.240 move into a little bit more Uh how can I 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:35.119 say this, Uh, provocative, raunchier questions. I don't nothing bad. 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.000 We don't have to drop him personal experience, but just 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:39.200 like things that our listeners have asked that are a 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:42.080 little bit more X rated, if you will, I feel 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.120 like my voice is a little deeper at night. I'm 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:48.200 going to say listening to these sounds pretty good. So actually, 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:51.000 while our friends not too long ago, we're recording a 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:54.720 couple of their podcasts. They host Playing Around on I 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:57.600 Heart Radio. They also host How Men Think. Brooks is 0:01:57.640 --> 0:01:59.600 one of the co hosts on that one, and uh, 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.040 they were recording those. We were asking each other questions 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.120 in the opposite room through this card game. It was fun. 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.360 It was a little deeper than I expected. It to be, 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:09.880 but some of the questions they were interesting. So we're 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:13.200 gonna kind of play the same card game. Actually, in 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:15.200 all honesty, like I wish there was a microphone in 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.840 that room because some of the things Tastia said, Man, 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:23.000 it was weird. There's a lot to me that you 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:29.640 all don't know. It's called table topics original And like 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:31.680 I said, some of these questions, man, they're weird and 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.160 they're they're like, it doesn't help you get to know 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:35.919 anyone better. Some of them are like, what's your favorite 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.359 virgin DAKRII from your favorite bar in town? It's like, well, 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.560 who cares? But we I got a couple picked out 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.240 that I kind of enjoy and I think, actually this 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.119 first one that I have for Tassia and Brooks, because 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.400 I don't really know Brooks that well. But you're answering 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:48.800 them too, by the way, you're a no, no, no, 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.519 of course, absolutely, but uh, Tasia, this one is directed 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:54.840 at you. But I'm actually more interested in in Brooks's 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.679 response because I just don't know him as well. The 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.919 question is what do you most admire about your parents? 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:08.760 I think perseverance. I think my parents they've met each 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:12.080 other in high school, and they have gone through a 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:16.120 lot of hard times, but they're still together. And I 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.600 can't say that about a lot of other relationships that 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:24.160 I've witnessed. Um, and I know that their struggles, so 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.320 the fact that they're still together, it's it's a huge accomplishment. 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:31.200 So yeah, I would echo that for mine. My parents 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:35.240 have celebrated their forty wedding anniversary this summer, and I 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.040 think that's just so cool when I look at mom 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.280 and dad, like, I just think of them as a unit, 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:43.560 their mom and dad, and um, that's as a as 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:45.920 a child, that's so cool that whenever I see them, 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:47.560 I get to see both of them, whereas a lot 0:03:47.560 --> 0:03:49.640 of people will only get to see their father or 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:53.520 their mother their parents are divorced. Uh, that would be 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:57.840 probably the thing. And then also, um, I had one 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:02.800 other thought, what was it? Um? Oh, something I heard 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:06.360 a long time ago that really resonated with me about 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:11.440 relationships is you have people that have complementary skills with 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:17.320 similar values. Is how long term relationships last. And you 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:21.040 can have different things, but complementary skills with similar values. 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.560 So my mom is really good at this, my dad 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:25.839 is really good at this, but they have the value 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:29.600 of family and love and home life and stuff. So 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:32.440 I agree with that my mom is much My mom 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:37.080 was supposed to be a nun. Yeah, my mom went 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:39.520 to high school with nuns as teachers, and she wanted 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:41.600 to be a nun. And then she came to the 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:44.400 States and she met my dad, and my dad corrupted 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:50.520 her in a good way. But no, my parents have 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:54.320 been together for thirty two years. So yeah, I often wonder. 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.440 Actually we talked about this a little bit on the 0:04:56.440 --> 0:05:00.240 podcast before if why my like cynicism towards mayor Ridge 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:02.440 comes from the fact that, like I look at you too, 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:04.120 right Brooks, I don't know that your parents are still 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.840 married happily to this day, and Tasia, obviously your your 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.159 parents are still going strong too. It's like, I wonder 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:13.480 if that instills it must like instills values and both 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:16.520 of you to like want to uh like that moving 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.159 forward in your own relationship. Yeah, for me, it does, 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.360 for sure. It's it instills hope. It gives you you 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:27.560 literally see in front of your eyes a marriage and 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:30.520 to a partnership and people committing to each other, like 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:34.159 it has to affect you, uh. And I can't speak 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:37.080 on the other side on divorce. But because I haven't 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.320 had parents obviously that have been divorced. But that has 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.320 to have an effect on your psyche and your approach 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:45.400 to a relationship, even at a like a minor subconscious 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:48.640 level or something. Um, there has to be something that's 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:52.080 that's affects kids, depending on your age when that happens, 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.440 especially if it's a kid at a developmental age ten, twelve, 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:58.200 I mean fourteen, I mean every age is development Let 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:00.560 me ask you this hypothetical or not. Let's say you 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:03.600 meet a partner that has maybe experienced trauma in some 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.919 sort in their life. Uh, and they don't have necessarily 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:09.800 the same familial background that you've experienced yourself. Is that 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:11.200 a red flag for you? Or is that the thing 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.600 that you're able to like consider and work through. Yeah, 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.720 my wife's parents were divorced, so yeah, do you know 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:19.479 if it was a mess you'vorce. I know the details 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.200 of it, but I'm not going to divulge that. Yeah, 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:25.159 it's very fair. Well me, I can tell you that 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:30.240 my parents are happily married and I'm divorced, so I 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.800 think that. Yeah, I felt a lot of pressure to 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.240 make sure that my marriage worked. But also at the 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:41.160 same time, Um, I made sure to do everything I 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:43.240 needed to do in order to know that I did 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.760 everything I could at the end of the day. So 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:50.360 um yeah, it definitely was scary to tell my parents, like, yeah, 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:52.640 it's just not working out. And do you know, I 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:54.360 think I was telling you this a little bit earlier. 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:58.480 Before my divorce, I really wasn't open with my parents 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:00.280 about like every single thing that was going on in 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:04.679 my relationships slash me in general. But because of my divorce, 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:07.240 I opened up a lot more, and like they are 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:11.680 now my closest friends in a way, because there's still 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:15.200 my parents and I really respect them. But um yeah, 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:19.120 I think the fact that they are still married does 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:21.360 kind of put like a pressure on you in a 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:24.000 way because you want to make sure that that's the 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:25.880 same for you right well. And part of the reasons 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:29.640 that I even bring up the question is because, like 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:32.400 I said, from someone from like me who, uh, my 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:34.120 family kind of broke up when I was team my 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.840 mom passed away, uh, and my parents have really liked 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:38.320 each other when I was a kid anyway, So it 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:40.200 was like growing up in a family that I didn't 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.560 really want to be together, but that was together because 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.720 they felt like they had an obligation to be which 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:46.640 I admire that sense where it's like, yeah, we have 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:48.680 an obligation to our child to raise him up in 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:51.000 a family other than separate, right, Like that's that's an 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:55.080 admirable thing. Um. And then seeing a lot of my friends, 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:57.400 I don't know, maybe it's the water in Colorado, but 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:02.200 a lot of people in Colorado seemed to get divorced, 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.800 and a lot of my friends like they've gone, like 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.120 they've had like split times between their parents, They've had 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:09.840 to decide between where do they have to spend Christmas, 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:12.800 and like their their husbands are trying to like uh, 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:14.840 extract as much as they can from the wives and 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:17.200 vice versa, like all these things. And so I think 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:21.400 that for whatever reason, I'm like a magnet to like 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:25.400 these bad aspects and attributes of marriages. And I think 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:28.040 that's part of the reason why I'm so for whatever reason, 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:31.160 anti like marriage as an institution, you know what I mean. 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.800 I don't really don't think you're anti marriage. Why do 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.440 you say that? Because they think deep down you really 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.160 want it, And I think deep down you would love 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:45.880 to have a family and a stable relationship, but you're 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:51.559 scared and I don't want to get to But I'm 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:54.480 just saying, like I know that there are experiences that 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:58.840 can like kind of hinder those things. But I really 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:01.120 think deep down, like you a family, and you want 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.800 something solid, you want a foundation, you want something to 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.880 build on. My big experience about having a lot of 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:08.200 stuff is it's like, let's say established a family, right, 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:10.160 Let's say I've got a wonderful wife, I've got three 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:12.199 great kids. One day I wake up and I'm like, 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:18.560 I don't want this anymore when I travel, So what 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:23.040 do you do from there? Dean? That means you make 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.360 a conscious decision to like, you know what you tell 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.560 your wife, Hey, I need to break for a second. 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.960 I'm going to go travel to you seventy for three days. 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:31.760 I just need a little bit of time for myself. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:33.640 It has nothing to do with you. It has everything 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:35.640 to do with me. But like I love you, and like, 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:38.120 let me just go do my thing. And she will 0:09:38.160 --> 0:09:40.559 support that if you are honest and open, you talk 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:44.319 about it, and you do you and you come back 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.200 and you're just like cool. But the fact that like, 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:49.280 if you need that outlet, then that should be a 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:52.600 thing that's established in your marriage. Marriage is like it's 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.559 a swing dance. It's like a thing. It's you compromise. 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:59.040 It doesn't need to be this picture that everyone thinks 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.000 it needs to be, like an to be perfect. Everything 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.959 every day is like this, that, this that, like hell no, 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:08.719 excuse my language, it's the one, but um no, it's 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.160 a compromise. Like, you need to figure out what works 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.160 for you. You You need to figure out what works for 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:14.760 your wife. Like what if your wife likes to do 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.559 like girls day every two weeks? You know what I mean? Like, 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:19.839 you need to figure out what works best for you. Guys, 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:24.280 I will say the relationships that I see, uh now 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:25.960 that I am an adult, it's weird to say that, 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:28.680 but I am an adult right twenty years old. The 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:30.559 relationships that I see among my peers, you know, the 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:34.040 friends that I've made throughout life that seeing the most successful, 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:36.080 in my opinion, are the ones that allow themselves to 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:37.880 have space from each other, the ones that allow themselves 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.560 to have friendships with other people. And like, I'm going 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:43.160 to go have a girl's weekend over here. Okay, well 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.840 I'm gonna go to the guy's house for the football game. Um, 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:48.960 and that's something that I don't think we give enough 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:50.840 credit to and something that you don't really see. I 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:53.720 think even in our our our parental relationships, where it's like, 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:55.800 you know, you've kind of gotten to this point where 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.320 you just see your your mom and your dad as 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.319 a cohesive unit, but you don't necessarily see the work 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.080 that they put it on on the back end of it, 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:02.640 you know what I mean. I think that's one thing 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:05.240 that I've realized from my divorce. Actually, if there's one 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:06.920 thing I've grown from is the fact that, like I 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:10.880 know that each person needs their own time. I think 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.319 at a young age, you always want to be around 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.800 your significant other, you know what I mean. And I 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:19.520 feel like that's one thing that I learned. You know, Yeah, 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:23.240 you guys are crushing it. Um, You're still an individual, Like, 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:25.440 you're still your own person. You're going to grow and 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.600 challenge and change in your own way, So you need 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:30.760 your space to do that, um, and a partner should 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:33.040 support that, they should want that for you. And I 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:36.040 think it's I also think that one person can't give 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:40.520 you everything in the world, right, Like you have to 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:43.240 have different friendships, you have to have different energies, you 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.839 have to be around different people. One person is not 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:48.680 going to be your be all everything, your love or 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:51.080 your confidence you're housing to your best friend. You're like, 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:54.040 they're not going to be everything. You still need other 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:56.720 parts of the world. Doesn't mean they aren't your world, 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.720 but you still need other parts of the world. I 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:01.920 love that. I agree, and I think, like you said, 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:03.280 it doesn't take just one person to give you that. 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.000 All right, one more question before we move on to 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:06.680 the next segment, which is going to get a little 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:10.360 bit more spicy. Yeah, we're gonna get spicy. But before 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.960 we do that, Uh, which is more important to you 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:18.600 guys separately? Intelligence or common sense? So book smarts or 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:24.680 street smarts, street smarts street smarts. I'm gonna say street 0:12:24.760 --> 0:12:29.320 smarts too, I think, but I hate being unanimous on 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.160 that one. So why do you say street smarts both 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:33.800 of you, guys? I mean it's I think it's I 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:37.640 think it's just life intelligence. So intelligence, you could know 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:39.839 a lot about one subject, you can know a lot 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:43.880 about like computers or whatever. But can you be a 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:47.160 good person? Are you kind to people? Can you be compassionate? 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:50.199 Do you have any sort of life skills that are 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:53.880 greater than this sort of like niche thing that you 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:57.760 are involved in. So I appreciate, man, I appreciate intelligence. 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:01.400 I have a huge appreciation for it. But um, if 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.120 people had street smarts and life skills, I think the 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:09.360 world would be a better place. I completely agree with that. 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.480 I'm not marrying you because I don't know you have 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:15.440 a degree. I'm marrying you because I don't know you 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.840 know how to navigate through life. I will say one 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:21.360 of my favorite things about Kalin is she is very 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:25.360 book smart. But when she suspects that she might be 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:30.199 wrong about something, her ability to grasp her her uh 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:33.280 misinformation and then change her mind and like and figure 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:35.640 something out really quickly, it's so impressive to me. And 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.439 that's not that isn't that's not book smarts, right, that's 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.920 like that street sense in my opinion. Uh And I 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:42.520 didn't realize that until I just said that right now. 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:44.000 But like, that's something I really admire about her, as 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:45.960 her ability to kind of like figure something out on 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:47.800 the on the on a whim like that. So I 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:49.160 agree with you, guys, And I hate the fact that 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:54.359 we all unitally agree that street smarts is more admirable, 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.920 but I guess that's just how it is. All right, 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.120 We're gonna take a quick break. But before we do that, 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:01.000 I'm not going to do anything. I don't know why 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:02.320 I said that. We're going to take a quick break. 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:04.160 We're gonna come back, but we're gonna have a little 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:06.520 bit of wine, That's why you said it. And we're 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:09.720 gonna have some tories, gonna ask some raunchy questions for us. 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.320 I'm excited for this because you know what I'm can 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.160 we not say raunchy? I'm and even saying the word 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:18.400 raunchy is Yeah, it's like a lot of challenge. I 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:20.280 feel like we're about to do like a burlesque show. 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.160 And the funny thing is, it's like the three of 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.160 us like as as good a friends as we've become 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.760 to be. Like, we don't know the sexual history at all, 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:33.040 And I'm not saying we're going to dive into sexual history, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:34.920 but like maybe we are. So stay tuned and see 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:45.680 what happens next. All right, and we are back here 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:49.400 with Brooks like and Tasia Adams, uh, and we're gonna 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.400 answer some questions that Tori has prepared for us. It's 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:55.440 gonna get a little weird. Uh, We're gonna get a 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:59.360 little bit to take everyone as uncomfortable as no. But 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.320 I'm going to s us off easy. Alright, ready, Okay, 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.560 my boyfriend won't put me on any of his social 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:08.560 media postings. Does this mean we are not a real couple? Interesting? 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.200 Right off the battle. I'm going to tackle this one first, 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.160 just because I feel like it's the most applicable for me. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.800 I think the guy's input is coming first. Yes, it's 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.480 it's I'm going to bring myself back three years because 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:20.880 that's really the only reason. That's the only way I 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:24.320 can answer this question right, because it's like, I don't 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.520 care anymore. I have a girlfriend whatever. Uh And coming 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:30.000 off a television show, when you have a girlfriend, you're 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.800 like fully invest in that relationship. But three years ago, Dean, 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.000 before he ever had ever went on television to anyone, 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:38.080 he was doing his best to conceal every relationship he 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:41.600 had until he was dead set certain in the relationship 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.880 that he wanted most. That's the one that he's gonna post. 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:46.440 It's gonna take him a while to figure it out. 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:49.560 It's not good for anyone, Like, it's not good for him, 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.000 it's not good for the girls that are involved. The 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.840 fact of the matter is it's like he's basically sizing 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:59.480 up your relationship every night every time he posts. The 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.920 next post might be a relationship post. But if it's not, 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.960 it's because he's sizing up whether or not it's worth 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:08.000 posting about, because he needs to figure out if he 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:10.200 wants to continue on in the relationship or not. That's 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:14.240 really what it is. If the relationships you mean the 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:18.880 relationship post, that's like the relationship post is the new age, 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:21.000 like will you be my girlfriend? The second you post 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.480 a picture with your girlfriend, that's like you basically announcing 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:26.760 to the world I have a girlfriend. So what do 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:30.560 you guys think? I don't know. I think it's I 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.640 think it could be either or. I mean, you're entitled 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.560 to run your own feed however you want. You know 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:40.000 that doesn't that should not play any sort of um, 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:43.200 should not have any circumstance on your relationship because you 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:46.040 do or don't post. That's the logical answer, But what's 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:49.000 the reasonable answer, Because here's the thing. It's like, I 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:51.840 know married couples. I know married couples that don't post 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:53.840 about each other. They like you. It's also, you could 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:57.720 run your Instagram as a business like people people. Actually 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:01.080 that's a new job is having an Instagram can is 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:03.600 your job? You can run that as a business. Now, 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:08.199 a lot of people don't do business with their significant others. Like, 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:10.320 if you own a business a brick and mortar sword, 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:12.439 your wife doesn't have to work there. It's a modern 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.000 business Instagram, you don't have to have your significant other honor. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.440 But let's say, like for most people that are listening 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:23.240 to this that don't have a business Instagram, well, maybe 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:24.919 it's just because I've been hanging around all the bats 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:30.040 or folks. So you guys execute exceptionally and I'm trying 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:32.560 to take some hands. You're right, it's always it's so 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.359 it's always personal preference. I think that there are people 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:37.160 that post way too soon. There are people that post 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.880 away too late. If there was a spectrum, I would 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:43.280 be more on the too late side. I remember specifically, um, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.479 it's too late. Though years ago I was I was 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.080 exclusive with my girlfriend. We had been dating for so long, 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:51.600 not so long, a couple of months, right, But I 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:55.119 remember posting a photo of us like celebrating some victory 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:57.919 or whatever it was, and I remember we I posted 0:17:57.920 --> 0:17:59.359 it while I was with her, and she got like 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.480 so many from your friends like, well, I can't believe 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:03.320 Dean posted a picture of you, guys, like, I'm so 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:05.040 happy for you, Like, I'm so proud of you, know 0:18:05.200 --> 0:18:08.920 that kind of stuff. I'm saying that that is it's 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.800 a big tell in the relationship. It's like a big 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:14.920 step that's might be a bigger step than it used 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:20.000 to be. Of course, would you guys disagree? Brooks does, obviously, 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:26.000 Tasha well as her phone lights up with a new 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:33.239 Instagram notification. No, no, I feel like, um, okay, So, 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:37.600 say you're not dating anyone. People typically are texting a 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:43.119 couple of people, Is that right? So say you start 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:45.320 you want to date with someone and you start liking them, 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:48.560 but you're still like kind of texting other people. So 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:51.920 posting that photo means that those people that you are 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:54.520 texting is well aware of that, the fact that you 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:59.040 are actually more serious about someone. So um, that's how 0:18:59.080 --> 0:19:01.919 I view that. Like, it's a pretty serious post in 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:04.399 the sense of like, and I hate that posting a 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:09.000 picture means so much. Okay, absolutely, that's like the purgatory 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:13.600 into exclusivity in a sense exactly so, But honestly, I 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:15.440 feel like people should just be able to post things 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:18.800 and like people just like, here's my girlfriend on Monday, 0:19:18.840 --> 0:19:21.159 here's my girlfriend on a Saturday, here's my girlfriend on 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:24.000 a Friday. I don't know, I disagree, but anyways, we're 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.800 gonna be all ready for the next question. How many 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:34.360 dates until you can sleep with someone? M tatious? Squirm 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:42.040 it over? No, come on, I think I think the 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:44.720 first date's fine. I don't see why not if you 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.280 feel the vibe, if something's going if something's going well. 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:49.480 I'm not going to sit back and say that I've 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:52.080 never slept to someone on the first date, Like, obviously 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:54.840 that happens. It's it's it's human nature. If something is 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:59.240 going well, do you have you slept with more people 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:03.320 on the first day then a second, a second or after. 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:06.440 That's a really good question, Tor, And I'm actually kind 0:20:06.440 --> 0:20:09.440 of offended that you asked the producer Tori, I'm like, wow, 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:15.800 producing her friends out of principle. I'm going to say no, 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:20.440 I haven't, but allow me to reflect on a little 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:22.439 bit more and I might have a different answer for you. 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:25.720 I don't know. Oh man, I don't know. I was 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:31.960 so bad at the dating game. I missed that whole train. Um. 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:34.480