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Speaker 1: Subject just don't know what to do. Hello, Steve, Shirley, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: and Carla. I'm a thirty year old woman who recently

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Speaker 1: left my children's father. I left because it seems as

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Speaker 1: though we don't want the same things in life. Let's

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Speaker 1: start by saying, in the beginning of the relationship, things

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Speaker 1: were great. As you know, the beginning is always the best.

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Speaker 1: He asked me to move in with him so that

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Speaker 1: we can save money and get a house together. Mind you,

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Speaker 1: I was fine living alone with my two year old

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Speaker 1: two years later, we are still here, and I get

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Speaker 1: pregnant and I'm stressing him to move, and he is

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Speaker 1: to wait a little while longer. And I did parentheses.

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Speaker 1: I forgot to say that we are living with his mother.

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Speaker 1: I waited so long that I had another baby. That's

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Speaker 1: when I realized that he was never going to leave

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Speaker 1: his mother. So when tax time came, I took my

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Speaker 1: give me one brown penny to anything? But he but

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Speaker 1: feels that he should be able to come with me,

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Speaker 1: and I say no, and it's causing big problems. He

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Speaker 1: And when I asked why he does these things, why

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Speaker 1: Should I be scared? M I just don't know. I

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Speaker 1: just don't know what to do anymore. There are only

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Speaker 1: I've done tried them all. He just don't get it.

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Speaker 1: I need some major help. Signed stressing myself, bald. Wow, Uh,

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Speaker 1: dear stressing myself, bald. I mean this is a case

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Speaker 1: if you staying in a situation too long that wasn't

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Speaker 1: plan and uh, because that's not what you sent out

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Speaker 1: to do. You know you got caught up a little

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Speaker 1: good thing is now that you did come to your

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Speaker 1: mama's house where he'll probably be until the day he dies. Yes,

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Speaker 1: he is crazy, I say, you get a restraining order

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Speaker 1: He is trying to make you think that he'll do

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Speaker 1: He's looking in closets because he thinks you know that

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Speaker 1: can do. You're in your house. Uh, you can do

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Speaker 1: these things. I to get a restraining order because this

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Speaker 1: sounds like to me it can only get worse. So

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Speaker 1: you need to look into getting a restraining order. I'm

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Speaker 1: this crazy man who might do some harm to you

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Speaker 1: as someone else you love. But what a restraining order

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Speaker 1: only works if you're not letting him pick the keys

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Speaker 1: up taking I know she's gonna she might have to

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Speaker 1: cut that out for a minute. I know. Come on,

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Speaker 1: Steve right now. Part two of your response to Today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter, and it's not that I thought it was

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Speaker 1: time for this bad crazy We cannot make these anybody

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Speaker 1: just don't know what to do. Hello, Steve Sheley to call.

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Speaker 1: I'm a thirty year old woman who regentally left my

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Speaker 1: don't want the same things in life. Let's start by saying,

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Speaker 1: in the beginning of relationship, things were great. As you know,

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Speaker 1: I asked why do he do? Why do should say? Does?

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Speaker 1: Why does he do these things? I get no answer.

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Speaker 1: I need some major help. Sign stressing myself, bald. There's

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Speaker 1: a couple of things in here that gives me an

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Speaker 1: opportunity to reiterate to women. Ladies. First of all, get

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Speaker 1: and get the house. But before we get this house together,

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Speaker 1: am I gonna be your wife? See, you, ladies, have

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Speaker 1: an amazing amount of power within yourself if you, if

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Speaker 1: a man off always seems to you procede your better judgment.

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Speaker 1: You all know better after you read all of these letters,

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Speaker 1: all of you have the perfect answer for this woman

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Speaker 1: while the letter is being read. All of that after

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Speaker 1: the fact, When are you, ladies, going to start listening

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Speaker 1: to your intuition. God has blessed all of you with

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Speaker 1: this amazing gift called intuition. What He's given you intuition

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Speaker 1: for is to protect you from the hunter who is

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Speaker 1: us man. See, we're hunters. We have two different psychics

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Speaker 1: when we're talking to a woman, and totally different psyche

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Speaker 1: from you talking to a man. When we're approaching you.

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Speaker 1: It is about what we can get from you. That's

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Speaker 1: the initial concept. We never look across the room and

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Speaker 1: we have an understanding. So I can get what I

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Speaker 1: want to. You can have what you want, but all

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Speaker 1: my goodness, you're gonna have to earn it, because all

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Speaker 1: he wants when he first meets you it's some cookie. Please.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know who's telling you different.

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Speaker 1: I just want to get to know you and take

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Speaker 1: Skip that. Don't nobody know you that good? In the beginning,

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Speaker 1: we look over there and we want one thing from

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Speaker 1: you when we walk up to you. Now, if we're

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Speaker 1: the cookie, then we'll do that. If we really want

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Speaker 1: something else, but make a man know you so you

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Speaker 1: can know what you want. You don't went to this

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Speaker 1: man's house living with his mama. What man you haven't

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Speaker 1: we please take manhood off of this, Boys, shack men

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Speaker 1: build homes. I learned this from a preacher on TV

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Speaker 1: the other day. Boys, shack men build homes. Now, your

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Speaker 1: boy didn't even have enough sense to just move in

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Speaker 1: mama because she was doing fine before she moved in

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Speaker 1: with them. What's you're two year old? Now you haven't

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Speaker 1: had two babies, you got three Now by the boy,

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Speaker 1: live with his mama. You can't be a boy and

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Speaker 1: the difference between a boy and a man is night

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Speaker 1: at the same time. And he didn't help her get

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Speaker 1: thank you, Steve. You know we got to get out

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Speaker 1: of here. Please join me at one thirty today and

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Speaker 1: I guess we'll talk about the race there as well.

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