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Speaker 1: So this is the update from OP a month later. Guys, Ready,

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Speaker 1: shall I get into.

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Speaker 2: It's all right now?

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Speaker 1: My mother has been shaming me since I got married

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Speaker 1: and now is trying to marry out my minor daughters.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, this just keeps getting better. Oh boy, I

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Speaker 1: can't believe I ever had to make a post about

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Speaker 1: my mother. But here we are. My forty five female

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Speaker 1: and my mother, seventy one female, have a difficult relationship.

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Speaker 1: My mother was an old school traditional wife. She was

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Speaker 1: a homemaker, never did any work outside the house. Had

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Speaker 1: far more kids than what I think is healthy. Seven

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Speaker 3: WHOA what?

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Speaker 2: Wait? So that's how many is that? I can't mambe wow?

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Speaker 1: Thirteen thirty Jesus, I thought my grandparents were crazy with

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Speaker 1: ten kids. Thirteen is nuts. Thirteen great numbers on the

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Speaker 1: pumping them out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She is originally from Guatemala and came to the US

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Speaker 1: when she was fourteen. She married my father here, had

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Speaker 1: my siblings had old school values, something she really failed at.

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Speaker 1: Most of my siblings are as far from my mother

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Speaker 1: as humanly possible. Two of them sadly passed away. I'm

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Speaker 1: mother's bills so she can live easy. She's always been

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Speaker 1: a dramatic headache, especially when it came to my marriage.

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Speaker 1: She baby my husband always took his side. I only

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Speaker 1: wanted one kid, but my husband wanted as many as

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Speaker 1: biologically possible, which is something I have heard on a date.

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Speaker 1: A date I went on and she told me how

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Speaker 1: many kids she wanted. I'm like, wait, how many kids

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Speaker 1: you want? She's like, yeah, I want as many as

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Speaker 2: That's so funny.

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to she's trying to pump it out.

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Speaker 2: Now, she's just trying to get the thing on.

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Speaker 1: Get that thing.

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Speaker 2: See what you do, dud okay. Saying is you do.

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Speaker 3: A snip snip, stay with her, and then you get

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Speaker 3: unzib zip, and then you get a zibzip and then

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Speaker 3: you get on zip zip.

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Speaker 1: It's not like one hundred percent that the snip actually

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Speaker 2: After four months. It's good.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean you snip snip?

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Speaker 2: Wait four months?

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Speaker 1: What do you mean wait four months?

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Speaker 2: Oh? You mean I blow all your loads.

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Speaker 1: But I but I heard that like it's not always reversible.

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Speaker 3: And two like there's gotta be some where. It's like

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Speaker 3: you still end up getting pregnant anyways and get.

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Speaker 1: Creative that you adopts some from Reddit.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 1: I don't regret my youngest daughter, but after she was born,

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Speaker 1: I secretly had my tubes tiede. My mother always berated

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Speaker 1: that's not counting how she berated me for marrying old.

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Speaker 1: I married at twenty two, she married at sixteen.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, damn, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: My husband was forty nine when he died in a

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Speaker 1: They had twin boys early this year, who thankfully survived

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's absolute insanity.

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Speaker 1: So when my husband's affair came out, my mother blamed me.

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Speaker 1: She linked me to conversion camps, psychologists that claim homosexuality

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Speaker 1: She even wanted to see about doing an exorcism. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, have you ever been on exorcism YouTube?

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Speaker 2: I know a guy that does exorcisms. Us. That's kind

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Speaker 2: of show, dude. Let's get exercised.

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Speaker 1: Just get exercise. Yeah, clear the bad ju ju in.

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Speaker 2: The you guys ever feel like you have one inside

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Speaker 1: I told her to stop it or she would be

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Speaker 1: no contact with my in laws. She stopped for literally

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Speaker 1: Then my mother called saying she found husband prospects for

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Speaker 1: angry has been an understatement. She even gave some of

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Speaker 1: these men my daughter's cell phone Numbersoh, arrested her thorrow jail.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy, old old school here, we're all getting new

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Speaker 1: it's been only two weeks since I had to cut

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Speaker 1: My aunts are amazing women. Most of them are also homemakers.

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Speaker 1: They're actually on my side of cutting off my mother

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Speaker 1: This is just my mother being insane.

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Speaker 2: And we do have.

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Speaker 1: Another small update that I'll whizz through. We went to

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Speaker 1: The officer we spoke to was incredible and immediately help

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Speaker 1: my lawyer with all the things that were needed for

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Speaker 1: a temporary restraining order. We'll be filing it this week

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Speaker 1: we'll focus on a permanent restraining order. This is on

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Speaker 1: School has been also notified. School has also been notified

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Speaker 1: For now, we're safe and my girls have new phone numbers.

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Speaker 1: There's an update, but real quick, I mean, what do

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Speaker 1: and getting restrainer in order necessary or too far?

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Speaker 3: What do you think I think at this point, Like

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Speaker 3: if I'm OP, I'm like, I need to protect my

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Speaker 3: this nonsense with strange men, adult men reaching out to

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Speaker 2: Cannot happen any anything.

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Speaker 3: To block her gohe because like, hey, you know what

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Speaker 3: if if you want to annoy me, mess with me,

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Speaker 3: Like okay, whatever you do that to the children all.

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Speaker 2: Bets are off, cut off, done, done done.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what is going on in her head

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Speaker 1: like that. And also where are these men coming from it?

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Speaker 1: Did she put out like a Facebook thing like teenage

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Speaker 2: Gotta be some crazy stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever seen the Facebook posts where it's like

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Speaker 1: these guys trying to DM like I'm looking for wife?

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Speaker 1: Can you please DM me? And it's like hundreds of

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Speaker 1: sometimes it's like real pictures of women. But yeah, it's dude.

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Speaker 2: I believe it razy.

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Speaker 1: But we got some more of this story.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Update, So some good news came out today regarding my mother.

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Speaker 1: As of November twenty twenty four, she will be on

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Speaker 1: her own monetarily. There's also an investigation on her regarding

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Speaker 1: very old investigation reopened about a family matter I can't

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Speaker 1: Because of the charges on my mother, we might get

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Speaker 1: After talking to my daughters, the three of us agree

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Speaker 1: we don't really like our house anymore. It makes me

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Speaker 1: My girls don't like that we're so close to their grandparents,

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Speaker 1: not worth the stress. So as painful as it is,

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Speaker 1: I'm planning to do some repairs and either sell or

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Speaker 1: rent it out. It's a big house. Nine bedrooms. Whoa

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Speaker 1: nine bedrooms?

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Speaker 2: That's a lot.

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Speaker 1: That's a huge house. This is this is what confuses

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Speaker 1: me because it sounds like OPI's like kind of rich

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Speaker 1: with the lake house, in the nine bedroom house.

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Speaker 3: And like like generational wealth, like if this was her

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Speaker 3: God's house passed down to her. Gave the affair babies

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Speaker 3: twenty five k to their eighteen, like, gave them set aside.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but twenty five k saved up for someone who

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Speaker 1: has a nine bedroom house does not seem like very little. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't. It doesn't seem like or.

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Speaker 2: Maybe that was the first year of contribution.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: I think it was total, as in, like they were planning,

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Speaker 3: like the babies just were born.

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Speaker 2: They were planning on adding more and more and more

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Speaker 2: and more and more.

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Speaker 1: No, that was the twenty five thousand dollars was Oh

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Speaker 1: it's one hundred percent no longer your circus or monkeys.

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Speaker 1: Anytime you think about helping them out, slash spending money

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Speaker 1: While he was still alive enough to live comfortable. If

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Speaker 3: We did it, guys, the long did cursed episode.

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Speaker 2: My God.

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