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Speaker 1: Trent is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 1: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Kara.

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Speaker 1: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 1: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 1: get him a second date. But first, Trent, how long

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Speaker 1: has it been since your date with Kara?

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Speaker 2: It's been like a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 3: Uh, yeah, man, I mean, look, we had a great date,

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Speaker 3: but don't really understand why she's ghosted me. But anyway,

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Speaker 3: so I work in it with a big animal guy

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Speaker 3: and I was volunteering. I was volunteering at the shelter

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Speaker 3: and that's where I met her, and you know, we

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Speaker 3: were like kind of talking just casually, and all of

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Speaker 3: a sudden, like three dogs just climbed up on us,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know, it just felt kind of happen.

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Speaker 1: Me and I was like, yeah, this might be the girl,

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Speaker 1: Okay for sure, but yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Don't I care her, have this like easy want about her.

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Speaker 3: And it seems like she likes animals the same way

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Speaker 3: I do. I mean, she was volunteering. Yeah, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: it just felt like very casual and easy and ifess

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Speaker 3: she's pretty funny she's really kind.

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Speaker 4: What was the date? So you guys met at the

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Speaker 4: shelter and you got are playing with dogs? Was that

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Speaker 4: your date or that's like how you guys started to talk.

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Speaker 3: Well, it's kind of funny. Well that's actually how we met.

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Speaker 3: But then our date was also going to the shelter there.

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Speaker 3: I thought instead of like going out to dinner, it

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Speaker 3: would be kind of fun to, you know, go to

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Speaker 3: the shelter and have a little picnic there. You know,

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Speaker 3: there's just like glass ceiling stuff with all these plants,

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Speaker 3: and it's like really good natural light. And anyways, I

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Speaker 3: brought a blanket into food, and you know, the dogs

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Speaker 3: just kind of went on a date with us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, dogs. Anything better?

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Speaker 4: Did you guys kiss? Was she flirting back? Did you

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Speaker 4: feel like you guys had serious chemistry?

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Speaker 3: I thought so until there was a parrot in the

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Speaker 3: was about to kiss her. I thought it was funny

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Speaker 3: if she got to, but.

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Speaker 4: There was a parrot too wild. I love this plates Okay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really fun. Yeah. So I don't know, I

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Speaker 3: just feel like she might be ghosting me because we

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Speaker 3: were laying on the blanket, and you know how it

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Speaker 3: is sometimes like a year a little close, and I

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Speaker 3: forget that her hair is much longer than mine and

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Speaker 3: how to navigate that. And at one point she tried

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Speaker 3: to get up and I didn't know my elbow was

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Speaker 3: on her hair and it yanked a lot of her

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Speaker 3: hair out, and I don't know. I felt very bad

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Speaker 3: and not like fully what she did yell, and then

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Speaker 3: the dogs started barking. And then remind you that the

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Speaker 3: parrots just said what it sted up with that it

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Speaker 3: was kind of a really big collapse of the date,

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Speaker 3: and its kind of just like that the date was over.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, your hair gets stripped out, and so it was

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Speaker 1: after that the date was over. And did she seem

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Speaker 3: I think she seemed like she was trying to hide

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Speaker 3: how upset she was. Okay, but you know, before the

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Speaker 3: hair pulling on, everything was perfect. So I just don't

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Speaker 1: So okay, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out.

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Speaker 1: Then Trent is on the phone and he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 1: by a woman named Kara. So we're about to call

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Speaker 1: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 1: him and maybe get him a second date. But first, Trent,

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Speaker 1: why don't you break down your situation for us again

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I met the girl Kara at the animal

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Speaker 3: shelter where we built were volunteering after on a date,

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Speaker 3: ironically to have a picnic at that same animal shelter.

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Speaker 3: He's going great, We're hanging out and we were laying

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Speaker 3: at work going to kitcher, a parish squeaked seed me,

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Speaker 4: So okay, Trent, this sounds so ridiculous. He just like

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Speaker 4: pictured this moment happening. I'm so sorry. Are you ready

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Speaker 1: To call her?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, may speak to Kara please?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? This is she? Who's this?

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Speaker 1: Hi Kara? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Kara, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my.

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Speaker 1: Name is Jubell. How are you.

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Speaker 2: Wait? This is the radio? Okay, I wasn't ready for this.

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Speaker 2: The radio is calling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah. We do a segment on the show

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Speaker 1: that's called the First Date follow Up. That's where if

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Speaker 1: you go out on a date with somebody and end

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Speaker 1: up ghosting them, that person can email us to get

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Speaker 1: you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 1: And we got an email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, okay, you have.

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Speaker 1: Any idea who would email us orre you're currently ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 5: Oh god, this is uncomfortable. I mean maybe would it

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Speaker 5: be Trent?

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Speaker 2: Probably?

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Speaker 1: Congratulations, that is correct, it is Trent. Would you mind

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Speaker 1: telling us why you're ghosting Trent?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, sure, so huh okay.

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Speaker 5: I basically I overheard to I don't know how much

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Speaker 5: she told you, but I overheard two of the other

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Speaker 5: volunteers we were volunteering with sprain about Trent while I

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Speaker 5: was on the date with him, and they were whispering

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Speaker 5: about how like he's done this before, like this whole

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Speaker 5: cute volunteers, And honestly, I don't want to be the

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Speaker 5: next like Pool in his little you know, shelter dating tour.

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Speaker 1: So what did he do?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: He like it was very.

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Speaker 5: Sweet, right, like he created this like indoor picnic at

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Speaker 5: the shelter and like, you know, it's beautiful, like the

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Speaker 5: animals are there, it's it's chill, it's there's you.

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Speaker 2: Had a blanket, there's food. It was very sweet, the

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Speaker 2: dogs are there. But yeah, like I heard the volunteers like.

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Speaker 5: Talking about it and be like, yeah, he does this

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Speaker 5: I that that feels crummy, right, Like I'm like, I

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Speaker 5: don't need to be the next person he's because he

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Speaker 1: For meat, like the first time he's ever done it.

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Speaker 5: Exactly exactly, and I'm like, nope, that feels something.

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Speaker 2: Little red flag's going off.

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Speaker 1: So what a move. So he's just like an animal's

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Speaker 1: shelter player. Yeah all right, Well, thank you for telling

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Speaker 2: Kara, Yeah, thanks, hopefully it's couple.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I also let you know that Trent is

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Speaker 2: What what?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Okay, what he's here now?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Hi, Hi?

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Speaker 3: So you ghosted me over that.

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Speaker 5: Well, I don't want to be like indoor picnic girl

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Speaker 5: numbers seven you know, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, fine, but look I've done the picnics before, but

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Speaker 3: that's because it's a cool spot. But I didn't want

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, sure, mister saint, like of shelter dates, like

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Speaker 5: a creditor praying on volunteers. Do you have a punch cart,

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Speaker 5: you know, like ten picnics and you get a free

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Speaker 2: I don't know, this is katy.

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Speaker 3: I can't help. Oh come on, I can't help if

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Speaker 3: that's my move. But you can't go to guys for

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Speaker 3: creating perfect TV moments.

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Speaker 5: Okay, maybe the moments were perfect, but like your motive

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Speaker 2: I still don't even know why you like me? What

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Speaker 2: makes me so different? Like? Are you into me just

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Speaker 2: because I ghosted you?

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Speaker 5: Like I'm suddenly not available and so you can't move

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Speaker 5: on to the next girl to set the picnic up

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Speaker 3: No, it's just like it's the way you were with

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Speaker 3: the animals. You don't just play with them, and you

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Speaker 3: see them, and you remembered every dog's name, their story,

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Speaker 3: sounds like a TV moment, but look, I wasn't just

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Speaker 5: Oh that was disgustingly sweet, Like I'm pretty sure you

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Speaker 5: say that to all the girls, And yeah, I don't

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Speaker 3: Man, Look, you can say whatever you want and I'll

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Speaker 3: take it, just as long as you don't ghost me.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Like, how can I trust you?

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Speaker 5: You know, Like it's very sweet what you just said

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Speaker 5: it's sincere? I mean all the other volunteers are like

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Speaker 5: know your playbook, that you've done this before.

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Speaker 3: I've never taken another volunteer on a second date. And

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Speaker 3: how about you trust me? And so I give you

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Speaker 2: All right? So you like what you sleep with them

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Speaker 2: all the first dates and.

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Speaker 5: Then you got what you need and you don't call

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Speaker 5: them back, or or they just like, don't ghost you.

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Speaker 2: So like now now I'm a challenge. That's why you

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Speaker 3: Definitely don't to them on the first date because that

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Speaker 2: You are funny, That's that's for sure. This is so weird.

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Speaker 5: I can't believe for all the radio doing this, I

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Speaker 5: don't I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I feel weird, like I don't know you.

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Speaker 2: I feel they were.

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Speaker 3: Like and you can say whatever you want. I could

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Speaker 3: take it.

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Speaker 1: I promise, Kara, would you like another date? Which one

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Speaker 1: won't pay for it?

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Speaker 5: Maybe, but like no, no picnics, no shelter, and if

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Speaker 5: I hear you've used the same move again, like honestly.

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Speaker 2: I am, I'm sticking the dogs on you. Okay, alright,

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Speaker 2: that is.

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Speaker 3: Good deal, but only if I can keep castanova.

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Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, see this is why wouldn't need self respect? Fine, yes,

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Speaker 5: I will give you another chance.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is perfect.

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Speaker 3: It's a movie. But she was kind of you know,

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Speaker 3: tying can the whole thing, like, I can't help it

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Speaker 3: if I do TV romantic style.

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Speaker 1: Date because you're so smooth.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I can't help that I might be a

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Speaker 3: level romantic dates, and Sarah thought it was kind of

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Speaker 3: funny to call me Casanova, and I actually love it,

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Speaker 3: and I want that to be my nickname going forward.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, congratulations Casanova, you got a second date.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Kara, I promise you will not regret this, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait for you to prove it to me.