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Speaker 1: My husband told all his friends that he knows I'm

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Speaker 1: but ugly, but what he said next made it so

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Speaker 1: much worse.

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Speaker 2: I mean, saying someone's but ugly is not just someone

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Speaker 2: you're you're significant other. I mean that's already pretty crazy. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but just wait, just wait, Okay, I will just wait.

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Speaker 2: I am an unattractive woman. Damn, queen, queen, don't do it,

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Speaker 2: don't do it.

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's right. Objectively, I'm unattractive. I've always been

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Speaker 1: this way, and while I have accustomed myself to it,

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Speaker 1: it nonetheless remains a daily fact that being an ugly

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Speaker 1: woman sucks. Yeah, I don't. I don't want to affirm

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Speaker 2: Like if you affirm it, it's almost like, yeah, you're ugly,

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Speaker 2: Yeah you're crazy.

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Speaker 1: There's so many things that go into attraction, though. It's

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Speaker 1: not just what you look like, it's how you are. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so you can be attractive but ugly. Hey, whoever wants

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Speaker 1: a day op, So we'll make it happen. I'm my

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Speaker 1: husband four years ago. I guess the husband wants a

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Speaker 1: dato pee. And he is the greatest thing that's ever

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Speaker 1: happened to me. He has always and frequently told me, honey,

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Speaker 1: you're beautiful. That's great, And somehow it sounded honest without

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Speaker 1: sounding like my mother, like someone without an option to say, no,

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Speaker 1: you're you're ugly.

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Speaker 2: Oh you're beautiful, You're beautiful, You're you're beautiful, not ugly.

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Speaker 1: No, I would date you maybe. Last night Saturday, he

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Speaker 1: had a group of friends over to our home. They

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Speaker 1: meet several times a month to hang out, catch up

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Speaker 1: and play games. He has known most of these guys

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Speaker 1: preparing them some drinks and snacks when I was able

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Speaker 1: to hear them in the basement, and then I began eavesdrop,

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Speaker 1: which I know is rude, but it really wasn't intentional.

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Speaker 1: I realize they were talking about me, about wha, what's

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Speaker 1: going on there? A couple of the guys were teasing

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Speaker 1: my husband about me, specifically my looks. I'm sorry, but

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Speaker 1: what kind of friend is that? Yo? And also like

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Speaker 1: she's getting you guys snacks and drinks and you're.

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Speaker 3: Gonna be like, yo, your wife, your wife is ugly.

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Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, I invited you to my home, we're

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Speaker 3: playing some games. You're calling literally, get the fuck out.

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Speaker 1: They were specifically talking about my looks, and I could

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Speaker 1: tell it was supposed to be funny and it was not.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. There was a point where one of

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Speaker 1: them referred to me as a troll. What that is?

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Speaker 1: This was already like over the line, but that's yo, God,

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Speaker 1: God stop, and my husband blew up. We started shouting, listen,

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Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. I know that Op is ugly,

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Speaker 1: but shut up, which is tough. Ugly, but he redeems

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Speaker 1: himself a little bit. She makes me happy. Does your

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Speaker 1: bimbo of the wee do that? Jim Dave? How long

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Speaker 1: has it been since we hung out that you haven't

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Speaker 1: bitched about your wife? He went on for a while,

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Speaker 1: defending me, quote unquote, Yeah. All I could hear ringing

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Speaker 1: through my head is I know she's ugly. I know

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Speaker 1: she's ugly. I know she's ugly again and again and

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Speaker 1: again in my head, and it just broke me. I

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Speaker 1: don't know why. I've always known I'm unattractive, but he

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Speaker 1: isn't supposed to know too. He tells me I'm beautiful,

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Speaker 1: so sincerely, so consistently, and I started to believe he

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Speaker 1: thought that. I started to cry and I ran to

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Speaker 1: the shower. No one could hear me when I came

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Speaker 1: out an hour later. Everyone had gone home far earlier

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Speaker 1: than normal. I went to bed and then haven't spoken

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Speaker 1: to him all day today, But I think I've been

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Speaker 1: able to avoid letting him know I'm upset or avoiding him.

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Speaker 1: I know rationally that what he said is true and

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Speaker 1: it's sweet, and that I should be happy that he

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Speaker 1: loves me and not my body, but it doesn't seem

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Speaker 1: to matter. I just want to be pretty. God, I

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Speaker 1: feel so shallow. I've been crying all day. What do

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Speaker 1: I say for him? What do I say to him?

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Speaker 1: Part of me wants to call him a liar, to

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Speaker 1: that the greatest man I will ever meet can't find

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Speaker 1: me attractive. Gosh, what do you think she does? Dang?

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Speaker 1: What should he do? What should she do? Plastic Surger

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Speaker 1: are like Kylie Jenner. No, I'm just kidding, but I've

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Speaker 1: heard there's this like quote where it's like, no woman

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Speaker 1: When we look at the transformations of the Jennit.

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Speaker 2: Holy shit, it's crazy insane, especially especially Kylie. Like her

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Speaker 2: face looks so like Kim. I feel like the basic

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Speaker 2: Kylie literally just a different person, Like who are you?

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Speaker 2: What should she do? I think.

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Speaker 1: You gotta say, yeah, I gotta tell husband how you feel.

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Speaker 1: That's it. Yeah, that's all you can do. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: all you can do. And so there is an update. Oh.

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Speaker 1: First off, I'd just like to say thanks, just wow.

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Speaker 1: Over the last two days, I've had literally hundreds of

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Speaker 1: messages and private messages. You guys rock. Thank you. Seriously

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Speaker 1: look at that thread. That's got to be one of

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Speaker 1: the most best positivity and sweetness to meanness and jerks

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Speaker 1: ratio of all time on Reddit. Like, Hey, you guys

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Speaker 1: knocked it out of the park. Let's go. So yesterday,

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Speaker 1: after getting a barrage to support from you guys, I

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Speaker 1: decided to try to confront my husband over what I heard.

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Speaker 1: After we were both home, I told him, Hey, we

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Speaker 1: need to talk. Yeah, you do. I told him I'd

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Speaker 1: overheard what his friends said. He immediately started to apologize

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Speaker 1: have told him what i'd heard. Okay, that's that's probably

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Speaker 1: a pretty good response. I had to stop him to

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Speaker 1: wasn't his friends so much as it was what he said.

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Speaker 1: Right when I told him what he said, his tone changed.

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Speaker 1: I could tell he wasn't expecting to be blamed. This

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Speaker 1: whole conversation planned out. I wanted to explain how it

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Speaker 1: hear him say that behind my back. But I just

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Speaker 1: started to cry, and I just couldn't communicate what I

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Speaker 1: really wanted to say. He was awesome, though. He just

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Speaker 1: in the original thread, telling me he was angry and

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Speaker 1: didn't speak very well, that he really does find me

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Speaker 1: I calmed down pretty quick. I basically cried myself out

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Speaker 1: the day before. He took me to his computer and

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Speaker 1: showed me an email he sent to all of his

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Speaker 1: friends on Sunday, I wish I could copy paste it now,

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Speaker 1: but he basically called his friend's assholes, said they crossed

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Speaker 1: and then continued going far beyond. He said that for

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Speaker 1: an indefinite amount of time they'd have to find another host,

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Speaker 1: and they were no longer welcome in my home. Actually,

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Speaker 1: he said, oh P's home. Wow. I thought that would

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Speaker 1: make it sound like I was ordering him around being

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Speaker 1: wrong what they were doing was. Seeing him stand up

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Speaker 1: for me again made me happy, especially seeing him do

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Speaker 1: it without talking bad about me, helping me believe it

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Speaker 1: really was just the heat of the moment in a

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Speaker 2: And this was before he sent it before or he

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Speaker 2: even knew right before he knew that she knew.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow. He told me to wait in the room

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Speaker 1: and left, coming back with a folder. He said he

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Speaker 1: was going to give me this for Christmas, but that

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Speaker 1: he'd get me something else. I tried to say no,

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Speaker 1: but he insisted it was plane tickets and brochures. He

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Speaker 1: set up a trip early January to a SPA hotel

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Speaker 1: resort thing in British Columbia, and it was mind blowing.

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Speaker 1: I realized he probably spent like several thousand dollars on it,

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Speaker 1: and we budget pretty thoroughly and he shouldn't have been

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Speaker 1: planning this for more than a year and saving all

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Speaker 1: the money assigned to his weekly spending money and collecting

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Speaker 1: where I wouldn't notice change for groceries, et cetera. What

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Speaker 1: if he said like, oh, that came from my second

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Speaker 1: family's it's my mistress's money. The alternative story when I

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Speaker 1: say that, sometimes I'm not sure I deserve him. Understand

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Speaker 1: that I'm not having a crisis I need help dealing with.

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Speaker 1: He's just amazingly awesome. He's taking me out for dinner,

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Speaker 1: so I have to go, but I'll be on again tonight.

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Speaker 1: Hey A wholesome who wholesome Reddit ending?

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Speaker 2: I was I was waiting for the floor to drop out,

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Speaker 2: but it really went wow. Wow, that's I'm honestly curious

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Speaker 2: if if any of anyone watching or listening has had

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Speaker 2: experienced something similar. Yeah, I would be curious to hear

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Speaker 2: from you because that is but amazing on the husband

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Speaker 2: to like I stick up for her. Yeah yeah, like

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Speaker 2: he he did it. Like the fact that he did

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Speaker 2: it before she said anything, like when after them that

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Speaker 2: really means it. I feel like because if she had

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Speaker 2: it does he ye kind.

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Speaker 1: Of it shows that it's actually coming from a really

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Speaker 1: good place. Yes,