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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 1: My husband hooked up with my mom while I was pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a two for one deal right there. My

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Speaker 1: husband is cheating on me. I know this for certain.

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Speaker 1: He's doing all the things a cheating spouse would do,

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Speaker 1: like cooking up with your mom. He has taken off

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Speaker 1: his location tracker. He's been ignoring me, staying out late

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Speaker 1: with work buddies, has all the excuses for everything. I

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Speaker 1: know what this is. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: Yep, we've seen it time and time again. Oh baby,

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Speaker 2: I didn't just turn my phone off to you know,

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Speaker 2: enjoy myself.

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Speaker 1: I just forgot to click pause on hinge. I didn't

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Speaker 1: know that it would still keep my profile. Your mom

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Speaker 1: came on to me man a. When I told my

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Speaker 1: mom about my suspicion, she dropped a bombshell. My younger sister,

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Speaker 1: Emma has been acting the exact same way, are they also.

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Speaker 2: Hooking up with your sister who knows be hot?

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Speaker 1: I have two sisters, Ray married with kids, and Emma,

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Speaker 1: freshman in college, still lives at home. Mom says Emma

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Speaker 1: has been going out at the same times and being

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Speaker 1: secretive about her whereabouts, all matching my husband's patterns. Emma

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Speaker 1: and my husband have always gotten along, but looking back,

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Speaker 1: it seems like they get along too well. Is the

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Speaker 1: sister also? This is insane? What does too well mean? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my husband and I are expecting our first child, and

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Speaker 1: our five year marriage was solid until these past few

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Speaker 1: months when things started to get rocky. Then this happened.

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Speaker 1: When I confronted Emma this morning, she exploded, called me

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Speaker 1: an insecure witch for even suggesting it. I told her.

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Speaker 1: Mom told me, and now my mom's furious because I

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Speaker 1: threw her under the bus. Ray doesn't want any part

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Speaker 1: of this mess. Am I the A hole? And there

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Speaker 1: is an update? Oh my goodness. What do people post

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Speaker 1: these kind of things to? Am I the A hole?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Clearly clearly not. I mean I'm also again the title

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Speaker 1: has said the mother is the culprit here, So now

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Speaker 1: it feels like we've got multiple culprits. A few things. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you gotta consider here. One.

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Speaker 2: How alike does the mother and the daughter look, because

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Speaker 2: after a few drinks, you might be thinking you're you're

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Speaker 2: talking to your wife.

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Speaker 1: You just look a little bit more more old. Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah too. How hot? Is his mom hot? Like? Give

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Speaker 1: me a hot mom? Uh? Anne Hathaway's mom. Yeah she is,

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Speaker 1: Jennifer Lawrence. Halthaway is absolutely a mom. She's got multiple

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Speaker 1: kids and Anne Hathaway. Yes, I'm gonna give you Jennifer Lawrence.

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Speaker 1: Jennifer Lawrence. I don't believe. Yes, she was, she is.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that. That's news to me, but she is,

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Speaker 1: sure mom. But there is an update.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think he did this because he sucks?

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Speaker 2: Come on, there's gotta be something more than just that. Well,

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Speaker 2: we're we're got to find out.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's now really late where we live.

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Speaker 1: My husband has not come home, is not answered his phone.

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Speaker 1: I texted him multiple times, and I know he has

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Speaker 1: read the messages, but he won't answer his phone. I

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Speaker 1: was going to talk to him about this when he

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Speaker 1: got back, but he's not back yet. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if he's coming back. I'm thirty seven weeks pregnant, I

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Speaker 1: have preoclampsia and my blood pressure is skyrocketing. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to calm down, but how can I To everyone who

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Speaker 1: said to get a PI, I've been on unpaid FMLA

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Speaker 1: for the last month because of my BP complications. I

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Speaker 1: have no money for anything other than this child. All

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Speaker 1: of my savings are going towards my kid's future and

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Speaker 1: if there are further complications in medical bills, a p

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Speaker 1: I is not in my budget. To the people who

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Speaker 1: are telling me that I jumped to conclusions but also

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Speaker 1: are telling me to get a divorce in the same breath,

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Speaker 1: isn't a divorce also jumping to conclusions? Divorce is not

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Speaker 1: in the budget right now either. I know how much

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Speaker 1: lawyers cost. Dang man, dude, p I. You don't just

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Speaker 1: need a free time, Yeah, you just need a free

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Speaker 1: It's true. My pastures and our friends oh that too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my friends up on a blind date and I

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Speaker 2: stalk them to make.

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Speaker 1: Sure investigating his own thing. Yeah, I need to make

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Speaker 1: sure that this is working out because my my reputation

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Speaker 2: See, it was going well, but now talking to both parties.

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Speaker 2: It's not like either of them are committed to the

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Speaker 3: Guys, you can only bring a horse to water.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, exactly.

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Speaker 2: And also I'm matchmaking in LA, which is probably the

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Speaker 2: worst place to match make.

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Speaker 1: So true.

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Speaker 2: Actually, yes, nope, the cemetery is the worst place to

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Speaker 1: Well. Update three, my life is completely upended. It has

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Speaker 1: been over twenty four hours since I confronted my younger

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Speaker 1: sister Emma about cheating with my husband. I was one

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Speaker 1: hundred percent sure my husband was cheating with her based

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Speaker 1: on what our mother told me yesterday. It turns out

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Speaker 1: I was completely wrong. Oh oh no, so it was

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Speaker 1: not the mom. No, it was not the sister. Oh

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Speaker 1: she thinking, she thought so. The mom told her. It

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Speaker 1: came to her and said, like, Emma's been doing such

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Speaker 1: and such and like disappearing. At the same time, you know,

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Speaker 1: he's like, it's not my sister. Oh, then who is it. Oh?

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Speaker 1: My husband did not come home last night. I know

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Speaker 1: he read my text messages because they are marked read

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Speaker 1: Why do you even have receipts on? Put them off?

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Speaker 1: Turn those off? He ignores all of my calls, though

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Speaker 1: I have no idea where he was. I got about

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Speaker 1: because I was utterly exhausted. I woke up to my

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Speaker 1: older sister Ray calling, I answered it. Ray lives in

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Speaker 1: day who the boyd one says guilty party is always

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Speaker 1: trying to throw shade to get you off their sense.

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Speaker 1: See what doesn't make sense to me? Yah, it's with women.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's easier for a woman to find

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Speaker 2: be like, hey, I want you, and a guy will

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Speaker 1: That's so false. That's false. Really, a woman been hey,

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Speaker 1: and then the man's like, hot, I actually don't want

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Speaker 3: I don't know Riley, have you ever been hit on

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Speaker 3: by a woman? Like You're like a woman comes out

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Speaker 3: to you randomly and you're like, hey, I want you yeah,

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Speaker 2: One, so yeah, that's not okay.

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Speaker 1: When she knew for certain that my husband was cheating

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Speaker 3: Oh no, mama, both, he wanted the source.

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Speaker 1: I will admit I barely remember what was said because

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Speaker 1: it to remember it for the future. Wow. Ray said

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Speaker 1: that this has been going on for a few months,

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Speaker 1: so that would be before me and him were actually married.

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Speaker 1: She says that Emma would leave to go to night

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Speaker 1: also it seems like her mom is still married because parents'

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Speaker 1: also the fact that Opie's sister knew this and didn't

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Speaker 3: Hey, that's that's one way and impress your mother in law.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, what what do you got to have going

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Speaker 1: Also, people were like, we're gonna like Riley Slide with

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Speaker 1: that comment. What comment? Huh, who's tickling your butt?

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Speaker 1: I was at a club one, yes, so he was

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Speaker 1: unconsensually tickled. Yeah, not cool. She got a little. He

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Speaker 1: Oh well, I want to know if Emma also knew

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Speaker 2: Do that, or or she kneel about it, or no,

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Speaker 1: That's gross. And the dad's also in on it. I

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Speaker 1: a whole family affair. No, but at different times, at

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Speaker 2: No, Nah, they would both know by now if it wasn't. Yikes,

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Speaker 1: no idea. We know Mom probably has location tracking for Emma,

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Speaker 1: so sorry for accusing you. I just found out Mom

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Speaker 1: then you unite against mother. The most dang thing is

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Speaker 1: sick disgusting. Emma also did not come home last night,

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Speaker 1: saying that she just didn't want to get involved and

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Speaker 1: it wasn't her business. Come on, come on, it absolutely

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Speaker 1: do not like her. It's absolutely your business. That is

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Speaker 1: your sister. I understand it's your mother that makes it

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent of your business.

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Speaker 2: If you are a friend or family member, give yourself

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Speaker 2: permission to tell that friend or family member they're being

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Speaker 1: Ye dude, that like, yeah, what it's it's one hundred

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Speaker 2: That makes no sense if you're an acquaintance that's totally

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Speaker 1: Have like full information on what's going on. Yeah, yeah, business.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna take a day off one of these days,

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Speaker 2: No, this was gonna happen the second I'm move out.

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Speaker 1: Can't take six days. You can. You have it? Last

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Speaker 2: No, when it comes to stories like this, I need

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Speaker 1: Dude, he had about you. Man, it's weird. Yeah, there's

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Speaker 1: Our mother has been unusually silent. Ray apologized again over text.

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Speaker 1: I remember back when I was around eleven, they separated

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Speaker 2: Didn't think about that in the Spicy Sleep, since you'd

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Speaker 2: Yet, so probably before guys, always get consent before you

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Speaker 1: someone with money they don't have. Yeah, it's a tough

433
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 1: world right now. It would be It would be different

434
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 1: if Op and her partner had a bunch of money,

435
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 1: they were like super rich, and the mom was like, hey,

436
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,119
Speaker 1: like you know, I I've really helped out of Like

437
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 1: if you could help me pay off my debts, that'd

438
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,399
Speaker 1: be great. Still still, you know, if they say no,

439
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 1: you can't demand it. But it would make a little

440
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 1: bit more sense. But Op and her partner don't have

441
00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:34,120
Speaker 1: this money. They just don't. Yeah, it seems like their

442
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 1: mom wants them to like financially drown themselves. Yeah, they

443
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 1: don't want to do that.

444
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:43,399
Speaker 2: They don't want to do it. This is weird feeling

445
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 2: entitled to other people's money.

446
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like you, you're I don't know it. Also,

447
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:53,119
Speaker 1: it's not even like, hey, can you help me find housing,

448
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: like the things that you need to live. It's not

449
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 1: asking for that. It's asking her for her kids for

450
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 1: a trip that she doesn't need to go on.

451
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:03,920
Speaker 2: And probably should be asking this one. What does a

452
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 2: mom do? I don't Two, These are just like questions

453
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 2: I'm thinking out love.

454
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 1: Two.

455
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,160
Speaker 2: If the brother's working three jobs and paying rent, she's

456
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 2: just paying utilities words the other money going too. Three

457
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 2: Are they just bad spinders or they're just.

458
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 1: Not managing their money? Well, I think it's a partially.

459
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: The management of the money is not great.

460
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I've been eating out a lot recently because

461
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 2: just a life has been happening just getting food, and

462
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 2: I've realized like a shift in my finances where I'm like,

463
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 2: oh wow, that's I had this one habit going and

464
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,320
Speaker 2: then I went back to old habits, and I'm like,

465
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,480
Speaker 2: this is kind of crazy. You know, if people don't

466
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 2: really watch out for this, how much you can affect

467
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 2: you with my bagels?

468
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: Man? Well, things have changed, so you don't go to

469
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 1: get bagels as much okay, but I also got get

470
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,439
Speaker 1: discounts on maybe. So she got a bagel plug. I

471
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 1: got a bagelug. I also have a coffee plug. I

472
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 1: have multiple coffee plugs. I can get free coffee every

473
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 1: day if I go to a specific coffee shop coffee salute. Yeah, well, Macha,

474
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 1: but you know this girl, it's great gets around out, Gabby.

475
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 1: So back to it.

476
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 2: My mom did work incredibly hard for us as a

477
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 2: single mother and during grueling hours as a nanny cleaner

478
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 2: and working graveyard ships at a nursing home. She never

479
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 2: bought herself new clothes, never went out and partied, and

480
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 2: never brought home men or had boyfriends. Her life was

481
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 2: dedicated to working and providing for us. That's precisely why

482
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 2: it made sense to us that she deserves something nice

483
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 2: before she passes away dies. My mom is in her

484
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 2: sixties and still works as a custodian. We are truly

485
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 2: worried she won't make it another ten years. That's also

486
00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 2: another reason we didn't wait to take her to her homeland. Still,

487
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 2: the whole situation left a weird taste in my mouth.

488
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 2: I thought her going on the strip would undoubtedly strain

489
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 2: her relationship with my brother, well, I was wrong. Two

490
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 2: days after arriving in South Korea, my mom asked my

491
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 2: older sister Leah for five hundred bucks to cover the

492
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 2: hotel since my older sister Elena was leaving earlier than

493
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,479
Speaker 2: she was. My sister Leah and her husband are doing okay,

494
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 2: but they're struggling more than my husband and I. They're

495
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 2: both working hard and her husband is.

496
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 1: Going to school.

497
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 2: My sister explained to my mom that they're living paycheck

498
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 2: to paycheck and apologize for not being able to help.

499
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 2: Mama's response was chilling. She told my sister she was

500
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 2: glad she didn't have the money because it just confirms

501
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 2: they're not doing a good job in their lives and

502
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 2: they need to get different jobs. There's a shocking turn,

503
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 2: as my mom had been happy when Lea got her

504
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:34,479
Speaker 2: current job. She then questioned, what are they going to

505
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 2: do if she gets pregnant? Another ironic statement considering she

506
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 2: wanted my husband and me to have a baby when

507
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 2: we were living in demon grandma's basement.

508
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: Pretty hypocritical to be like, maybe you should get another

509
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: job if you can't afford to pay for me, because

510
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: I can't afford to pay for myself, and then also

511
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 1: you should have a baby. Well, what are you gonna

512
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: do when you have a baby, because it's going be

513
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: more expensive? Yeah, I pretty hypercritical. This is wild cool?

514
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 1: The only way I could have a baby as I

515
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: moved back to North Carolina. I mean not right, I

516
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: guess it right now? Yeah, I'm sure you will be ready.

517
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 2: You have a family support system. Maybe one of us

518
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 2: should have a kid and then we all can help out.

519
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: That's what I'm planning on. You're helping with my baby.

520
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: What are you gonna have a baby in my thirties?

521
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 1: That's so long? Got time you had time? You're gonna

522
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 1: be a fun uncle? Well Sam's got You're gonna be

523
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: one of the godfathers. Yeah, well Sam's gonna be an uncle,

524
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: So we can't be a godfather. I don't think so.

525
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 1: All right, then you can.

526
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 2: It's just an uncle like uncle's basically better. It's like

527
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 2: it's like uncle than godfather.

528
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 1: My well, my godfather is not one of my uncles,

529
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: but one of my uncles is Sam's godfather. Okay, anyways,

530
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 1: I don't have the godfather complex worka Well, you can

531
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 1: be one of them. Cool.

532
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 2: My mom added that she could have asked a coworker,

533
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 2: but wanted to ask family first. Finally, she declared that

534
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 2: my sister and brother Zan would no longer receive their

535
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 2: life insurance money after she passes way until they are

536
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 2: in their forties, all because my sister didn't give my

537
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 2: mom five hundred bucks for a trip she decided to

538
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 2: go on despite not having the money to do so.

539
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 2: My sister sent me the message, and I was absolutely furious.

540
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 1: Sister Leah is.

541
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 2: My best friend and the one I consider to be

542
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: my real mom. She's always been there for me, protecting

543
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 2: me and helping me through everything. She's the one who

544
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:27,919
Speaker 2: knows all my deepest, darkest secrets. I've told her that

545
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 2: I don't care if anybody else showed up to my

546
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: wedding because her presence was the only one that truly mattered.

547
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 2: My sister was crying in a bathroom stall when this

548
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 2: all went down, not because of the money. My sister

549
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,679
Speaker 2: could care less about that. She was crying because of

550
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:48,879
Speaker 2: how my mom reacted. This whole situation infuriated me, so

551
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 2: I messaged my mom telling her not to treat my

552
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 2: sister like that again. This behavior is not like my mom.

553
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 2: When did she become so greedy and she only asked

554
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 2: Leah for the money me. When she found out I knew,

555
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 2: she told Leah how cruel she was for showing her

556
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 2: the messages to me, and that she was even madder

557
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 2: at her. This wasn't the first time my mom had

558
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 2: treated my sister in such a manner, but it was

559
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 2: the first time she had reacted so harshly or that

560
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 2: the situation esculated to this point. My sister Leah had

561
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,679
Speaker 2: always been a pushover for her mom, Elena, and I

562
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 2: could always say no or argue that Leah was never

563
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 2: able to whatever my mom wanted, Leah did it, even

564
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 2: when it didn't make her happy. Leah even moved to

565
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 2: New York and was quite content there, but my mom

566
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 2: called her and told her to come back, promising that

567
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 2: if she returned, she wouldn't have to pay rent and

568
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 2: could save money. Of course, that was a lie. My

569
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 2: mom also complained that Leah had abandoned her and wasn't

570
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: a good daughter from moving to New York. Elena is

571
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 2: the oldest one, yeah, Leah's not.

572
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I think there's also kind of a possibly

573
00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: a cultural cultural aspect here. Oh you're the dragon. No,

574
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: because the mother is originally from South Korea. So there

575
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: is like kind of a very strong like familial No

576
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 1: she went to visit.

577
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 2: That's not her home country, it is. It is a

578
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 2: spot where is the mother's home country?

579
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: Is he here right now? I don't think he's set

580
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: up on this. Tell you it's not. I don't think so. Yeah.

581
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: So basically what we learned is that the mother's home

582
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: country is South Korea and the all the kids what no, no, no, Okay,

583
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: maybe I'm wrong, but they said that they saved up

584
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: money to send the mother to her whole country.

585
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 2: But this is just a different This is a different

586
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 2: trip to South Korea because her first trip to her

587
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 2: home country didn't count. We don't know where the other

588
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 2: country or what the other country.

589
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 1: Is trying to find it. They never said, but it

590
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 1: isn't South Korea. I'm crazy. I guess maybe there's no

591
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: cultural aspect. Oh oh, oh, oh oh. I need to

592
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: do an sat right now and past my English skills.

593
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: I'm ready.

594
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 2: I'm so bad at them. I got like a seventeen

595
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 2: on act on that's on the English.

596
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: No. I needed like something in the twenties. I got

597
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 1: like a thirty math that's great. That's very good, all right.

598
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 2: This constant dynamic seemed to happen only to my sister Leah.

599
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 2: It was almost as if my mom hates her, and

600
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 2: we can't understand why Lee has always been there for

601
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: our mom, yet whenever she tries to do something for herself,

602
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,959
Speaker 2: her mom acts like it's the worst thing imaginable. Nothing

603
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 2: Leah has ever done seems to be riding her eyes.

604
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 2: My mom messages me back, saying that I need to

605
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 2: respect her and I need to stop because what she

606
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 2: wants to do with her money is her choice. She said,

607
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 2: if she wanted to take back the car, then we should,

608
00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 2: and then if I never want to talk to her again,

609
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 2: that's fine with her. I'm lost for what to do.

610
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 2: On one hand, I obviously want to cut my mom

611
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 2: out of my life and take back the car we

612
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 2: gave her. I'd rather give it to my sister in law,

613
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 2: who lives with us. She's been having car problems, and

614
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 2: I know she would treat the car better and actually

615
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 2: pay for it. Actually, my mom got furious when we

616
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 2: had my brother in law and his wife move in

617
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 2: with us, simply because we didn't ask my mom to

618
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 2: move in with us, since she needs real help. We

619
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 2: actually ask them to move in to help them escape

620
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: demon grandma's house, but that's an entirely different story. The

621
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 2: idea of cutting her out breaks my heart because I

622
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 2: love her and I will miss her terribly. I'll miss

623
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 2: her smile, hugs, cooking, or dancing. I simply miss my mom.

624
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 2: But she hurt my sister one too many times. Her

625
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 2: behavior is abhorrent, and I'm fed up. My brother's zaying

626
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 2: is completely on our side. He doesn't care about the

627
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,719
Speaker 2: money either, and he says he stopped depending on my

628
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 2: mom years ago. We're worried these outbursts are signs of

629
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: Alzheimer's or dementia. My mom always says she's forgetting things,

630
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 2: and we've been meaning to get her checked out. But

631
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: what if it's not. My brother and my birthdays are

632
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 2: coming up. At first, I consider not inviting her, but

633
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 2: I feel bad because I don't want to ruin my

634
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 2: brother's birthday. My sister Leah said she'll be there if

635
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: the rest of us are there, but she'll avoid our mom.

636
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 2: To be honest, I don't want to see my mom.

637
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 2: Do we just deal with it and keep our distance

638
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 2: or cut her out completely? Do we take away the

639
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 2: car since she said we could. She doesn't own the

640
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 2: car and my husband has a key to it. My

641
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 2: husband wants to talk to her when she returns, but

642
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 2: I'm worried she'll snap at him. She also deleted the

643
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 2: toxic message she shent to Leah. We got an update, Yeah, couldn't.

644
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 2: It's gracious.

645
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I mean, like, it's

646
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: totally up to you guys, as siblings, if you want

647
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 1: to invite her, because it seems like you're all roughly

648
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: on the same page about your feelings about your mom. Yeah,

649
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 1: if you can have another conversation where you sit down

650
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: with her and say, hey, you have repeatedly crossed our boundaries.

651
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: If you continue to do so, you're gone, You're done.

652
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: We're not gonna have a relationship with you. But it

653
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 1: does seem like you've tried that before and she's just

654
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: not willing to listen. So, but Amulen says, get her tested.

655
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: I agree. If this is a change that you've noticed

656
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 1: in her, then absolutely get her tested. See if it's,

657
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 1: you know, something medical rather than just her being mean. Yeah,

658
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: and entitled. You know, it's tough, and it's tough. I

659
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: think it might be a little bit of poor money management.

660
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: I think so, so you have a house basically has

661
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 2: four jobs earning four job income.

662
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, depending on where they live.

663
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Speaker 2: My sister Elena came back from South Korea and spoke

668
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Speaker 2: with Leah. Apparently this whole thing was a test what

669
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 2: my mom had the money the whole time. I was

670
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 2: testing my sister because she thought her husband was keeping

671
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:46,479
Speaker 2: such taking her money.

672
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: I that's got to be she's gotta be lying. She

673
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: can't be telling the truth there. She's like, I had

674
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: the money the whole time. The whole thing was a test.

675
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 2: And it turns out that not letting my sister get

676
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 2: her share of the life insurance thing.

677
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 1: Is it true?

678
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 2: You know what else is true is all the stories

679
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 2: that you can be listening to with us that are true.

680
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 1: Is all.

681
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 2: Get out pret your favorite podcast platform, switch up, okay,

682
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Speaker 2: storytellme on Apple, iHeartRadio, Spotify, and be true with us.

683
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 1: Be true to yourself with us. Dude, what what do

684
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: you mean a test? I don't know what that means

685
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: Orangefield theory tests? Is this? She's like, I needed to

686
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: see if your husband was taking your money, so I

687
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 1: told you that you weren't getting anything wild Like, I

688
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: kind of see that, But is this? Is this even true?

689
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 1: I don't know? This is weird. I don't understand what

690
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: this test would prove. She's she's bad with her money

691
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 1: and also bad with tests. Yeah, I don't buy it.

692
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: I think there's something I don't know. I need checked out.

693
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 1: She's good checked out? Yeah, yeah, that's this is wild crazy.

694
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 2: My mom apparently told Elena just tell Leah I love

695
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: her so much, because she was under the impression of

696
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 2: Leah's husband was being financially harmful. Elena agrees that my

697
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 2: mom did not handle this the right way and told

698
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 2: my mom just to talk to us. Apparently my mom

699
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 2: didn't want Leah to repeat her mistakes that she had

700
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 2: made with my dad. But I still have concerns. Why

701
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 2: would my mom send that horrible message to me after

702
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 2: I confronted her. She could have told me she was

703
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 2: testing my sister, and why would she delete her messages

704
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 2: to my sister.

705
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: That's why I don't believe it, because it's not just

706
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: the money stuff. It was like all of the the

707
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 1: stuff that she was saying to everyone. Yeah, I had

708
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: everyone up set with her. This is weird, this is whack,

709
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: this is weird. I don't like it. And also, if

710
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: she was just trying to test Leah, then why was

711
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: she asking the rest of the kids to pay off

712
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: all of her dabts.

713
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't believe it. I'm not something's fishy here, guy,

714
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:47,200
Speaker 2: I's off here. But that's the end of that story,

715
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,839
Speaker 2: So we're gonna jump into the next story. My stepson's

716
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,240
Speaker 2: mom forbid me from sharing my culture.

717
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: We just don't do that around here. That's just none

718
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 1: a vibe. I thirty two female, have been with my husband,

719
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 1: thirty nine male, for about seven years. He has a

720
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: son from a former relationship nine, and we didn't even

721
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: know he even existed until about five years ago when

722
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:12,240
Speaker 1: his ex forty female, contacted him demanding child support. Dang.

723
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: She admits the only reason she even let him know

724
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,839
Speaker 1: about the kid was because she found out we were

725
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: engaged and she wanted to reign on his parade. Insane insane.

726
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: After a lot of back and forth and legal shenanigans,

727
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: we got sort of fifty to fifty. First was therapy, visitation, etc.

728
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: But we are now at fifty to fifty. By the way,

729
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 1: this comes from Mariachi Mariachi, and if you want to

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Speaker 1: storytime separate it.

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Speaker 3: So.

733
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 1: I come from Latin America and my stepson is really

734
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,280
Speaker 1: fascinated by many of the cultural things and the language.

735
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 1: He met my parents on their last visit, and he

736
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 1: is a really lovely, bright and curious kid. He started

737
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 1: catching out with some of the words, and now we

738
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 1: speak Spanish on a daily basis when he's with us.

739
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 1: That's huge, that's fun. Didn't have any issue until he

740
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: started to ask if he can come to my country

741
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: next time we visit. We told him we got to

742
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: discuss it amongst the adults, but he's very interested. We

743
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 1: got no issue. My family has said that he's more

744
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: than welcome. I come from a blended family and we

745
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 1: would of course cover all of the costs. She really

746
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,400
Speaker 1: disliked the idea, but not because of the travel or

747
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:26,720
Speaker 1: anything else, but because she believes we I are using

748
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: money to turn him against her. She's like, your culture's

749
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: too cool. He's gonna leave me.

750
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: Hmm.

751
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: There are many issues between them already because he thinks

752
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 1: she is a liar for not telling him about his dad.

753
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 1: And yet it's hard sometimes do we know how old

754
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 1: the sun is? Nine? Okay, but we talk a lot

755
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: son and I about having blended families and understanding parents. Anyway,

756
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,720
Speaker 1: she told me I had to stop encouraging and sharing

757
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 1: the language and the culture in my house when he's

758
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: with us, and speak the home country language or English.

759
00:37:57,200 --> 00:37:59,959
Speaker 1: I said, no, I've been very passive through the whole

760
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: thing since the beginning, but I am exhausted of her demands. Honestly,

761
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 1: I think if your partner is okay with it, then

762
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: she really has no say. And you speaking a language

763
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 1: around her son like you have fifty fifty custody, she

764
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 1: can't do anything. True, it is not harming the kid

765
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 1: at all. In fact, it's probably helping him in the

766
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:21,800
Speaker 1: long run to know another language.

767
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking about different some cultures, like where from

768
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 2: where I come from. Let's say I want to put

769
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 2: a deer head up in the house. I could probably

770
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 2: put that up in my room, but in the living room.

771
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,279
Speaker 1: I don't think Sophia would like that. I wouldn't, you know,

772
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: it would be dope and sick and cool, be so dope,

773
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: be so sid Yeah, I wouldn't. I wouldn't be into that.

774
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:44,879
Speaker 2: This mom language speaking of a language that can help

775
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 2: connect with other people if you are forbidding connection with

776
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: other people, like what like?

777
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 1: Why why are we doing that? You know? I understand

778
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 1: she is his mom, but I see no harm. And

779
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: the kids speak in Spanish like a native bless the

780
00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:01,720
Speaker 1: other two he does. Dang, it's good those three languages geez,

781
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 1: and I see no issue with him traveling abroad and

782
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: having more cultural connections. Heck, I even offered to pay

783
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 1: for her to come along with her husband. Dang, it

784
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 1: will be how much money do you have? She says,

785
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: I'm a very big snobmish a hole, and she's gonna

786
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: see how to keep the kid away from me. Not possible.

787
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 1: Her husband says, I should be more understanding and not

788
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: step on her toes when the kid already is not

789
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 1: her biggest fan. I wonder why. Maybe it's the consequences

790
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:32,720
Speaker 1: of your own actions and not anything to do with ope. Yeah,

791
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,799
Speaker 1: and you don't don't fight this battle. Yeah, because you're

792
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 1: not gonna win your kids. What's gonna happen. You're gonna

793
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 1: go to court. You're right, you really can't provide for

794
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 1: this kid, So we're just gonna go full custody to them.

795
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: Be grateful for what you have. My husband says he

796
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: just wants the best for the kid and sees no

797
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 1: wrong with him learning and traveling. I would like an outside,

798
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: impartial perspective about it, and there is an update, folks.

799
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: My impartial active is that you're totally fine. Yeah. I like,

800
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 1: who cares if she's being pissy? M I mean, we

801
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: already know that she's not a good person because she

802
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: kept the knowledge of your partner's son from him for

803
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: five No, would have been for four years, because you

804
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,439
Speaker 1: said that you've learned about this five years ago. Yeah,

805
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,840
Speaker 1: so she really has no kind of leg to stand

806
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 1: on here as long as your partner is okay with it.

807
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, because dude, you know, sick would be if I

808
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: could go to other places and understand a language and

809
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: be able to connect in that kind of way.

810
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 1: I wish. I wish I actually knew Spanish. I got enough.

811
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: Keon says I knew enough to get around. He did

812
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:37,720
Speaker 1: really well.

813
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:39,759
Speaker 3: I mean, you were immerging yourself in the culture and

814
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 3: you were knocking it out of the park to day one,

815
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,320
Speaker 3: brutal Day five.

816
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,919
Speaker 1: I was like, you're ordering for yourself. I'm really proud

817
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: of you. Brutal. It was brutal, dude, you were like,

818
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: tang on it. Yeah, you're.

819
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Speaker 3: Spanol.

820
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Speaker 2: I'm really good at picking up This is one of

821
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 2: my toxic traits. I'm really good at picking up other

822
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 2: people's laugh if I like them, Like, if I like

823
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 2: their laugh, I'll pick it up. Well, I'm pretty good

824
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 2: at picking up other people's slang and everything almost picked

825
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 2: up a New York accent.

826
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Speaker 1: When I went there for a week, I was scary.

827
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Speaker 1: Update three months later, my step son is now staying

828
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: most of the time with us. Nice cool. We had

829
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 1: no battle or issue. It's just what we decided after

830
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: a proper heart of heart conversation between moms. When the

831
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: time comes where there is a possibility to go to

832
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 1: my country, we will discuss it again, But at the

833
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 1: moment it is a guess. The heart heart was a

834
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:37,240
Speaker 1: very emotional, complex talk, but I felt it had to happen.

835
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: She is, after all, part of my life forever, and

836
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,360
Speaker 1: I want her to know she is the mommy no

837
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: matter what. I saw a completely different side of her.

838
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: And I know it is not a magic wand but

839
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: I have noticed the changes. I am pregnant. I know

840
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 1: I should not say so so early. I was already

841
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: when I made my first post, but didn't even know. Wow.

842
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: But we are all so positive and almost on the

843
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:02,760
Speaker 1: clear line, even my step son's mom. Everybody has taken

844
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 1: it as a celebration. And the only time we had

845
00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 1: issue was when we talked bedrooms at our flat because

846
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: my son thought he had to give his super nice

847
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 1: one for my true baby oh as he called it.

848
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: But we assured him his bedroom is his forever unless

849
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 1: we move. My parents will be arriving in the next

850
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: few months and asked if they can bring extra gifts

851
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: to my son so it is an easier transition, and

852
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 1: his mom said yes. It seems somehow me having a

853
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: baby has made her realize we are so linked. Or

854
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe it was my husband saying he

855
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 1: would not allow more disrespect. Tellowell, this is so nice.

856
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:37,479
Speaker 1: I love that she had a conversation with his mom,

857
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 1: who like, honestly, it seems like she sucked and had

858
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: this conversation and figured it out. Yeah cool.

859
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 2: I think this is beautiful. I don't trust the real mom, though,

860
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 2: the bio mom, because if you have co parentsing, you

861
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 2: cannot cannot yeah, bad mouth the other parents or anything

862
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: like that, because the kids listen, like, Oh, if my

863
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 2: mom thinks that way, maybe I should be thinking that way,

864
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 2: and it starts to grow these ideas and the separation

865
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 2: need be unified in that aspect. And it seems like

866
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: Opie's taking the steps not to let that happen. But

867
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 2: I don't who knows what bio Mom's saying back home.

868
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 1: I hope that she's improving, yeah, because it seems like it,

869
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 1: and I really want them to all work together for

870
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: the benefit of this kid. Parents also asked if it

871
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: was okay to bring gifts for her kid, and she

872
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 1: said yes as well. My mom is the happiest person

873
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: now because she is in full shopping mode. Hellowell, she's

874
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 1: been very civil and even nice, and in response, she

875
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 1: has gained a better relationship with our son. That's all

876
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:40,879
Speaker 1: you needed to do. I am convinced he is smart

877
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,280
Speaker 1: enough to orchestrate all of it. But I have mommy

878
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: baby brain we have agreed to raise them all as

879
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 1: together as possible. Her kids are kids, ar kid. I said,

880
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: I can contribute to the education fund for all kids

881
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 1: if she allows me. How much money does Opie have, dang?

882
00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: She said yes, on the condition that they all go

883
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 1: to the same school.

884
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 3: Cool.

885
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: I want my kids in Spanish, Kita. She wants her

886
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,400
Speaker 1: as a normal kidda. I thought we would have World

887
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 1: War two again. But her husband told her, my kids

888
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: will speak Spanish no matter what she wants, and it

889
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,760
Speaker 1: is a useful language. So all kids in our tribe

890
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 1: should speak Spanish. This is so good, and she agreed.

891
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 1: I almost fainted. What a turnaround. What happened Now we

892
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 1: decided to divide care after daycares and kidda's pre kindergarten kindergarten,

893
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: and I will speak to the kids in Spanish so

894
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,720
Speaker 1: they are all naturals. My son is the happiest because

895
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: now he feels all his families are in sync and

896
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 1: he can just chill. It makes me extremely happy. In addition,

897
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 1: she said, my son can come with us if he wants,

898
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 1: but we need to let her know at least a

899
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 1: year in advance. And she is doing the same with

900
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: us which I find reasonable. And there is a second update.

901
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: Folks hates johny og host here. We're gonna get back

902
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 1: to the stories. But he's a quick three minute break

903
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 1: of ass from our sponsors. But uh wow, we are

904
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 1: having so up. This is like we are balls rolling up. Man.

905
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is great you this. I'm so

906
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: happy me too. I mean, like, this is what I wanted.

907
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be bad, and now it isn't.

908
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 1: What kind of come to Jesus meeting or realization? Did

909
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 1: she have hope he should be a lawyer? We need

910
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: to duplicate that for story like what. There's a second

911
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 1: update one month after first update. She son's mom has

912
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,799
Speaker 1: always been in therapy. It was determined when this all

913
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: started back in the day. She was never outright cruel

914
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: or super mean. It was just that she was not

915
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: nice to me or my relationship until now that she tries,

916
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 1: she gets to say as much as I get to

917
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: say in education. I know it's weird, but I was

918
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: raised in some sort of communal weird experience, and we

919
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:45,320
Speaker 1: all excel in our areas. I would never do anything

920
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 1: to put distance between my son and his siblings. I'm

921
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 1: trying to in state that they are his siblings, and

922
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 1: for the one he already has, it is that way.

923
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: If he doesn't like it, I'll drop it. But he

924
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 1: seems very receptive to the mix of family. And I

925
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 1: think also op really understands how to do this because

926
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: she comes from a blended family, So I think that

927
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: she's really keyed into, like all the complexity that goes

928
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: on into creating this, and she's doing a great job

929
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: of orchestrating it. She has issues that have come from

930
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: other places, childhood, family, so on, and she is truly

931
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: trying to be better and not be the person that

932
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:23,760
Speaker 1: did things to just ruin an engagement. My son stays

933
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: mainly with us lately because he wants to, and that

934
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:28,319
Speaker 1: has made his relationship with his mother better. My son

935
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,879
Speaker 1: is even written in my parents will that's how much

936
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 1: I love him, So yes, he is my son too.

937
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,840
Speaker 1: My parents are here and will be staying for a while.

938
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: My in laws are very careful on their excitement, and

939
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 1: my parents, with permission, got my son on a little

940
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: adventure and assured him they love him very very much

941
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 1: and their love is infinite. He feels better now because

942
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: he said he felt maybe they won't love him anymore

943
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:54,720
Speaker 1: because of my real baby. Hmmm. No, he is in therapy,

944
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 1: always has been, but now we have addressed it. He

945
00:46:57,520 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: made it clear he wants me to still love him

946
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: like I do, and I have a shirt and my

947
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 1: will I do, I always will. He's going to a

948
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 1: solo trip with his dad and another solo trip with

949
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,839
Speaker 1: both dads, my husband and her husband. I've always got

950
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: a good relationship day and I think it never got

951
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 1: better because of this stuff. My son is involved in

952
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,879
Speaker 1: the naming of the baby. It's between us three only

953
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:25,400
Speaker 1: the drama portion. No, it was so perfect. I'm okay,

954
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

955
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 2: I think whatever's about to happen will be like a rock,

956
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 2: will be.

957
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 1: Water over a rock, Yeah, water on a duck's back. Yeah. Yeah,

958
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:37,800
Speaker 1: it's just gonna roll right off. Everything's fine, This is solid.

959
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 1: We have a solid foundation. Whatever's about to happen in

960
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: the trash bagging the whole, they will overcome it. They

961
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 1: will persevere. My husband wants us to move so we

962
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:51,359
Speaker 1: have bigger bedrooms for everybody, but I don't feel like it,

963
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:54,720
Speaker 1: because you know, pregnancy and adaptation. Okay, this is fine.

964
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 1: We can, we can, we can get over this. I

965
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: want my son to be able to adapt before we

966
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: start moving. My husband believes I'm just coddling him way

967
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 1: too much, but I explained my perspective being from a

968
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 1: blended family as a kid, and he backed off. When

969
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: we look for a place, we'll be looking for one

970
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: that we all like. End of draw abortion.

971
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:15,879
Speaker 2: Like I say, hey, Opie has your stine, she has

972
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 2: a no lockdown.

973
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 1: I've never seen this happen in a retic. Great, this

974
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 1: is wild, Opie continues. I am an insomniac and I

975
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 1: have not changed at all. So here we are only

976
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:28,759
Speaker 1: I drink no more wine anymore. Lol. My son's mom

977
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: is actually giving me really good tips. We're working in

978
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:34,439
Speaker 1: our own wills and so on, but because I am

979
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 1: developing a fear about the children's future. Yang. And lastly,

980
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:42,959
Speaker 1: my husband is the most patient, caring, loving goofy man.

981
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: I know I got little critics saying he should have

982
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 1: put it off when the bad stuff happened, but he's

983
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 1: very neutral and asked me all the time if I

984
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: was okay. He always said if I said no, he

985
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: would have changed his tune. We are so so far

986
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: from perfect. Still, we just had a discussion about the

987
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 1: type of school my son should go now a thing

988
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 1: in the country. But I am glad it is now

989
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: a discussion and not an argument. Also, the baby's doing

990
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 1: amazing And there is a third update.

991
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 2: Folks, I don't can we updates? Always give me a

992
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 2: little I'm like.

993
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 1: I'm scared. I always get a little scared because I'm like, oh,

994
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: it's gonna change and everything's gonna be ruined. But I

995
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: can divorced. I think it's gonna be okay. He cheated

996
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: on me. No, No, I'm I'm mad. Casting it's gonna

997
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: be perfect. Probably curveball. I need to get into it

998
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 1: right now because it needed to be perfect Curveball. Update three,

999
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,520
Speaker 1: two months after the second update. Hey guys, I like

1000
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: that I can express myself freely here. I know some

1001
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 1: think our story is weird, others wholesome, others the best,

1002
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 1: But for us, it is a sort of dream. At

1003
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: the moment, we've got a new house. Wait what dang.

1004
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 1: It was picked by the three of us, husband's son, me,

1005
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 1: and it's lovely and beautiful and all we want for

1006
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 1: our kids. I always said I wanted to have just

1007
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 1: two kids, so after this one is born, we'll be

1008
00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: closed for business, will get aasectomy, so I don't need

1009
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: a deal with hormones or birth control. I would also

1010
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: like to comment the new house is huge and it

1011
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 1: has a guest room, so my son's brother can stay

1012
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 1: whenever he wants. They have done so before. Also, my

1013
00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 1: kid turned ten. We are at a weird time, but

1014
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 1: we did a little family gathering with all sixes of

1015
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 1: his grandparents and all four his parents. He was very

1016
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 1: happy and enjoyed it with the friends he invited to it.

1017
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 1: We all coordinated presents so we didn't outstage each other

1018
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:30,319
Speaker 1: or give him repeated gifts. I was so happy we

1019
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:33,800
Speaker 1: could finally do something like this. As per my baby,

1020
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 1: she is a girl, all right. This is so lovely.

1021
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 1: I told my son and thought it might create issues,

1022
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: but he's so excited about it. Is gonna be a

1023
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:45,640
Speaker 1: big brother. We have been having family therapy too, just

1024
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 1: in case, but the therapist says the kid is doing

1025
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,360
Speaker 1: amazing and to please not overthink things. We had a

1026
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 1: gender reveal party, which I find kind of silly, but

1027
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 1: my son wanted to because they're very internet famous. He

1028
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: was just family and a couple of friends. When they

1029
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: realized it was are all. They all paused for a second,

1030
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: and my son was so excited. Then they all got

1031
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: so excited. I'm very, very happy with my family. His

1032
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: trips with his dad and dads went great, so we

1033
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: took him on a mommy trip, and we took a

1034
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 1: lot of precautions, of course, but we had a blast,

1035
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: as much of a blast as you can have with

1036
00:51:16,800 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 1: a pregnant woman in Europe. If you know, you know

1037
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: he deserves it because he is the best kid ever.

1038
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,399
Speaker 1: As for my parents, they are really happy to do

1039
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: things for the kid and love being around him. He

1040
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:30,640
Speaker 1: or anybody other than me, doesn't know about the will

1041
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:33,560
Speaker 1: or anything. He just loves them because he's nice. My

1042
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: parents are considering staying permanently because they want to be close,

1043
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,479
Speaker 1: so it might be another thing coming. My in laws

1044
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:41,840
Speaker 1: are helping them find a permanent rental or so, and

1045
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: we're just all so excited by the way. I'm so

1046
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: excited for you guys to listen to full episodes with

1047
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 1: stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast,

1048
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: or iHeartRadio and search up Okay Storytime top ten best

1049
00:51:57,320 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 1: good stories. I agree, this was so wholesome, This was

1050
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 1: so lovely and there's just a little bit left to

1051
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: the story. But like perfect number one's violin one. That's

1052
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 1: the violin one.

1053
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 2: I really liked your favorite podcast platform.

1054
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 1: I really liked the story about like sweet Mama or

1055
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:16,320
Speaker 1: something or isn't it I remember that? Yeah, I loved

1056
00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 1: that story. Got listen to it on your favorite podcast platform.

1057
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,320
Speaker 1: But folks, there's a little bit left to this story.

1058
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:25,960
Speaker 1: It's perfect. I have no notes. A great job. Everyone

1059
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 1: all around were writing a textbook. This is how you

1060
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 1: co parents. Yeah, you guys should write a book. You

1061
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 1: know what. The thing that she commonly kept bringing up,

1062
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: yeah what communication therapy therapy? Yeah, family therapy therapy. My

1063
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 1: son's in therapy, constantly talking like we were really ready

1064
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 1: to be like, you know, you don't have to listen

1065
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 1: to what the step mom says. But Opie was like, no,

1066
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to include her. I'm going to explain why

1067
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 1: it's important to do this. I'm going to get her

1068
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:54,719
Speaker 1: on my side. And she did. It's really respectful. Yeah,

1069
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: I love that. Opie continues as per mom, she has

1070
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:00,760
Speaker 1: been more understanding and nice. I understand and she was bitter,

1071
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: but she truly wants the best for our son, and

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Speaker 1: that is our biggest common ground, and yes she is

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Speaker 1: taken up Spanish, being an appright. She said she wanted

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Speaker 1: ridiculous since she's a nurse and clearly very qualified. We've

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Speaker 1: had many combos about my parents' involvement, but she is

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Speaker 1: more willing to give space. Lately, she and her family,

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Speaker 1: which have always been delightful, are now all learning the

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Speaker 1: language as a way to keep it all connected. This

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Speaker 1: is so cute. We have movie night at least twice

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Speaker 1: a week. Sometimes it's more people than other times. I

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Speaker 1: just want to let people know that it can be better,

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Speaker 1: and people are complicated and people can love unconditionally.

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Speaker 2: Yeay, I love unconditional love, and folks, that's the end

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Speaker 2: of that beautiful story and the end of that beautiful episode.

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Speaker 1: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We

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Speaker 1: love you and see you tomorrow.