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Speaker 1: What's it's way up with Angela yee, and you know

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Speaker 1: this is what I love talking about relationships. Okay, we

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Speaker 1: got Deana Sander's here.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for coming, Thank you for having me and

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Speaker 2: joining us. Doctor Heavenly is back again.

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Speaker 1: Hey, and we had Chanelle Scott here, who is the

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Speaker 1: mastermind of this whole event that you guys are doing.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we're having candid conversations about relationships and it's centered

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Speaker 3: on a card game. But I just released Navigating Past

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Speaker 3: Pain and Trauma and conversation starters on sex and Relationships

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Speaker 3: for couples.

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Speaker 4: I like how you said sex, sex and relationships and relationships.

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Speaker 2: Let's start up with this question.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that you can I'm gonna ask the

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Speaker 1: ladies this, Could you be okay with being in a

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Speaker 1: relationship with somebody where the sex isn't that great but

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Speaker 1: you love him like everything else is perfect? So angel

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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: I've been abstinent for about four years and I did

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Speaker 3: an eight year stint, so the sex gotta be good. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I just can't wait. Yeah, I just that's just not

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Speaker 3: something that I'm willing to compromise on. So I don't

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Speaker 3: know about the other ladies. But because I've been waiting, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'm waiting for that.

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Speaker 1: But you can teach somebody to be good to write.

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Speaker 3: Angelo, I'm fifty nobody.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if you could teach though, but I know,

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Speaker 5: don't let turn it off, Daddy. I was in a

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Speaker 5: relationship before prior a few years ago, and it just

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Speaker 5: wasn't it. And I tried sexual counseling. I tried counsel

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Speaker 5: I'm talking about We tried everything, and it just it

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Speaker 2: And that was the reason for the ending of the relationship.

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Speaker 5: No, it wasn't the but that was like a major

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Speaker 5: But I tried to teach it just it just wasn't there.

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Speaker 2: What happens in sexual council.

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Speaker 5: It was just it was different stuff that they taught

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Speaker 5: us to like do different intimacy in the beginning, talk

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Speaker 5: foreplay and you know, just try different. I just really

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Speaker 3: So he knew that the sex wasn't good.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, we had talked about it. I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: And it's nice that he was open to it.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I love people. That's very open system.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: Well, doctor Heavenly, what about you? I mean you've and

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Speaker 1: people love your relationship. How it's kind of like with

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Speaker 1: you and Damian he would he can. It's kind of

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Speaker 2: Yes, right, absolutely, because.

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Speaker 1: You know, Doctor Heavenly has no problem saying with on

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Speaker 1: her mind and we don't never see him like be like, girl, what's.

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Speaker 2: Morom with you?

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Speaker 4: But he's not paying attention because it supreme concentration is

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Speaker 4: He's not really listening to what's going on because he

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's what that's fair.

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Speaker 1: So talk to me about that, like, were you guys

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Speaker 2: Because it was definitely automatic. It was automatic.

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Speaker 4: I had prayed, I put it on my vision board,

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Speaker 4: and when I saw my man, I was attracted him

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Speaker 4: because God brought him for me.

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Speaker 2: When God created the moon and the stars, he created

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Speaker 1: Real talk, right, So yeah, were there ever any times

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Speaker 1: go through rough passes, especially when you've been together a

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Speaker 6: To get through?

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, my marriage is perfect. I've been very

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Speaker 4: But honestly, yes, absolutely, Yeah, Yeah, it's been rough times

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Speaker 1: Okay, and Deanga, I want to ask you, how are

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Speaker 6: I think it's a day by day thing.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I have had better days recently since

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Speaker 5: I came into my all moment. It's just it was

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Speaker 6: I would think, why do I feel like this? Is

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Speaker 5: Be having these kind of thoughts like should I be

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Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine that because imagine if you had social

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Speaker 6: Yes, So it's just a it's a day to day thing.

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Speaker 5: But I will say I've had a lot more better

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Speaker 1: Now for you, Now, what made you put this event together?

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Speaker 3: So we have relationships Matter the show and then I

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Speaker 3: also have authored a book Relationships Matter, and so I

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Speaker 3: And so I invited a Deandra because DeAndre has experiential knowledge.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 3: No one wants to hear from someone who's never been

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Speaker 1: As far as accidents, How is that helping you?

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Speaker 3: I don't use them all the time, but I do

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Speaker 5: Because it's a lot of times where I felt I

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Speaker 5: So I'm just working on my journal to help people

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Speaker 1: I like that you're open for different things, right, like journaling, counseling,

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Speaker 2: Okay, we're not listen, We're all for that.

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Speaker 3: About I leave by being transparent. Typically, most people do

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Speaker 1: This journey of celibacy, it's gonna be Yeah, listen, I

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Speaker 3: You have to have a vision. You have to have

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Speaker 3: If you don't have that for us and it ain't

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Speaker 2: It's kind of your fault.

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Speaker 2: But you wouldn't count that more when you have more.

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Speaker 2: Its the thought that counsel me.

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Speaker 1: I feel you on that though, because it is hard

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Speaker 2: And should I even bother trying? Because I can?

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Speaker 1: You know, absolutely so I don't know, but now doctor heavenly,

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Speaker 4: I think the first question was how we do it,

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Speaker 2: Just like I told her. I could be Michelle Obama,

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Speaker 2: When I'm a boss at work, I know how to.

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Speaker 2: I have to turn it all because.

445
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Speaker 4: You know, we have the gender roles, we do have

446
00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,320
Speaker 4: the foundational roles. So I have to turn the boss

447
00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:38,560
Speaker 4: off and be a wife and a mother and that's difficult,

448
00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:41,080
Speaker 4: and it's very difficult for a lot of women. I

449
00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:44,240
Speaker 4: struggle with it still, but I know that at the

450
00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,840
Speaker 4: end of the day, if he's a leader, if he's

451
00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,040
Speaker 4: worth merrit, he's a leader and I can follow him.

452
00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:50,879
Speaker 4: Now I try to steer him the other way, but

453
00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:53,560
Speaker 4: I allow him, allow him to lead.

454
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Speaker 2: And that's the issue. That's a trust thing. To trust somebody.

455
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Speaker 2: That's hard to do. I don't know if I could

456
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Speaker 2: do that for anyone else.

457
00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,560
Speaker 1: Right where you can trust enough that they know what

458
00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:04,800
Speaker 1: they're doing, that you can lean on them for help,

459
00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,000
Speaker 1: because that's like giving up a little bit of like,

460
00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, control, and I know sometimes we can be

461
00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:11,359
Speaker 1: control freaks.

462
00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why you well, she's been married for so long,

463
00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,160
Speaker 3: But that's why you have to vet your partner, right,

464
00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:18,119
Speaker 3: you got to be able to respect him. If you

465
00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,240
Speaker 3: can't respect him, and if you can't trust them to leave,

466
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Speaker 3: then that's.

467
00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:25,359
Speaker 2: Not your person, right period. You should you google him Google.

468
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:27,240
Speaker 2: People don't like that.

469
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Speaker 3: Marriage registries, target Amazon to see if there's a baby registry,

470
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Speaker 3: the s a registry, all.

471
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Speaker 2: That today, right, you gotta check off all three.

472
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Speaker 1: Now, let's just say you find something I know somebody's

473
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Speaker 1: happened to. She googled a guy and found something that

474
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Speaker 1: was a little concerning to her. Do you now go

475
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Speaker 1: and ask, like, leg, I don't google you and I've

476
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Speaker 1: seen you know this come up and hear his explanation,

477
00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:56,000
Speaker 1: because sometimes there's things that could come up and you don't.

478
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Speaker 2: Know what what came up that what came up.

479
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Speaker 1: I think she said there was like some type of

480
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Speaker 1: domestic violence, you know, situation, and she did end up

481
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Speaker 1: asking him about it, and he was, you know, he

482
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Speaker 1: basically was like, she accused him of something. It didn't

483
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Speaker 1: really happen like that and whatever.

484
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Speaker 5: Of course, but yeah, I'm like something like that, I

485
00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:21,239
Speaker 5: don't think I would ask. I would just look for

486
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Speaker 5: signs if we argue or something. But I mean, because

487
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Speaker 5: a man's gonna say that, Yeah about.

488
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Speaker 6: That, something like that, I don't think. I probably would.

489
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Speaker 3: Just watch how he handles her, how he engages her,

490
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Speaker 3: watches temper.

491
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know you brought us something good like

492
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Speaker 1: watch for clues.

493
00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:39,440
Speaker 2: If you guys are arguing.

494
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Speaker 1: Arguing is also something that is going to happen in

495
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Speaker 1: any relationship. But I think it matters a lot like

496
00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:47,000
Speaker 1: what are the rules when it comes to arguments?

497
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 3: Right?

498
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,440
Speaker 1: And so for you ladies, what would you say when

499
00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 1: it comes because I think arguing effectively is also a

500
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Speaker 1: real thing, like how do we when we get into it,

501
00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,760
Speaker 1: how do we handle that? And so is that something

502
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Speaker 1: that maybe Deanga have you said like a standard like

503
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:03,920
Speaker 1: okay when we argue?

504
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:10,199
Speaker 5: Because the DeAndre before the baby it's different than the

505
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:15,680
Speaker 5: DeAndre now dealing with postpartum. I really wish I did

506
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 5: set standards and arguments now because it's just it got

507
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,119
Speaker 5: to a point where I really couldn't control like my

508
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,879
Speaker 5: emotions with certain stuff. So I would do things or

509
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,639
Speaker 5: say things that I knew there wasn't me, you know,

510
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Speaker 5: like I would have never done that pre snow. So

511
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Speaker 5: I do wish that certain standards were set going forward.

512
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,959
Speaker 5: I would like to do that because arguments when you

513
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 5: just can't really when when you couldn't control your most

514
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,760
Speaker 5: like you're capable of saying you know anything and that,

515
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 5: and that's not good because I've never been that type

516
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Speaker 5: to really, like, you know, do stuff like that or

517
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Speaker 5: say stuff like that.

518
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Speaker 1: Right now, you're right about that because those where its

519
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: stay forever.

520
00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,119
Speaker 5: It's yeah, and then that's that's something I always remember,

521
00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 5: like I never in my past relations, I never really

522
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Speaker 5: take down like that because like you said, they say

523
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 5: forever and people don't forget that. So I do think

524
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 5: that standard should be set on how you are you

525
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 5: because people argued so many.

526
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 2: It should be.

527
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,800
Speaker 4: However, I been with my man thirty two years. I

528
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 4: think it's a double standard, just like for everything else.

529
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Speaker 4: And I know it ain't right, but I said, whatever

530
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 4: the hell come to my mind, but.

531
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Speaker 2: He been not. You know what I'm saying is that

532
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 2: a lot of different things.

533
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,679
Speaker 1: Whatever comes to your mind could be so because sometimes

534
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,120
Speaker 1: you do gotta you know, I mean.

535
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 4: I respect them, So it's certain things I'm not gonna say.

536
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:32,360
Speaker 4: But I'm saying I probably am a lot worse than

537
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,359
Speaker 4: he ever could be. I know how to do it better.

538
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 1: I kind of I can't really you know what I do,

539
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: and tell me what to think about this because this

540
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,400
Speaker 1: probably is also not that great. But I also refuse

541
00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 1: to like engage in a conversation when i'm mad.

542
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:48,239
Speaker 2: That's good, that's good. I think that's a good thing.

543
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:49,400
Speaker 2: I don't think you can do.

544
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Speaker 1: To process doing that my whole Like, if I know

545
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm mad, I can't have the conversation right now, and

546
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure I could do that, and I will say

547
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Speaker 1: to you, I don't want to talk about this because

548
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:03,399
Speaker 1: I want to say nothing crazy. Yeah, that's goodste I

549
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 1: feel like that's not good because you need to like

550
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: get it out.

551
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 3: You need to process your emotions so that you don't

552
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:11,640
Speaker 3: say something that you're gonna regret later, you know, think

553
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 3: about it all over it, and then go.

554
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 2: Back when you have calmed down and have the conversation.

555
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 3: You can save a relationship because I can tell you

556
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say something right when I'm mad, like I

557
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 3: can't hold it. That's one of those situations. I gotta

558
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 3: get it off.

559
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:26,479
Speaker 1: Have you ever said something that you wish you whitness?

560
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:26,720
Speaker 5: Like?

561
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely.

562
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Speaker 3: I think as the older I get, I think about

563
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 3: what I'm saying right. So if I do say it,

564
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,439
Speaker 3: it was very intentional and I'm not gonna regret it.

565
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 3: That's what I meant to say. When I was younger,

566
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 3: I would say whatever comes to my mind, and then

567
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 3: I would be like, well, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry,

568
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 3: But now I think through what I'm gonna say.

569
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 4: For sure, Doctor Heavily is like, you know what, I

570
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,360
Speaker 4: think through it, and I said it, but I might

571
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 4: not mean it later, but I meant it when I

572
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 4: said it, right, So for sure.

573
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,399
Speaker 1: Now, Danga, you also said the truth tell set you free?

574
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: What did you mean when you post.

575
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 2: And the truth?

576
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 4: You realize you don't need to say a lot of stuff.

577
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 4: You need to keep yourself things that happened.

578
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 2: You ain't got what I'm saying is she got her supports.

579
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 2: You do not telling me and everything. You don't need

580
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 2: to know the truth about everything. And sometimes you got

581
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 2: the straight up lie.

582
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:25,680
Speaker 3: Thinking about that, you know what, not necessarily, but just

583
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 3: tell the truth.

584
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 5: Let's okay, get a problem, I'm too honest.

585
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:39,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes it's it's a lie. It's a lie about timing.

586
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 2: Is everything? Okay, that's a fact. And if it doesn't

587
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 2: edify the.

588
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,959
Speaker 3: Relationship, some somethings people just don't need to know. You

589
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 3: have to say, okay, does this edify my relationship? And

590
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:51,239
Speaker 3: if it doesn't edify the relationship, then you don't need

591
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 3: to tell them like.

592
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 2: Is this the biggest you? I don't think we should

593
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 2: answer that. I don't know if you want what is

594
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 2: it okay to lie about? It's it's okay to lie

595
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:03,360
Speaker 2: about a lot of ship.

596
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 4: List anything that you know is gonna be an argument.

597
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 4: Just refrain from the conversation or lie like everybody say

598
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 4: no communications because something. This is one thing men like

599
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 4: to ask bodies you got.

600
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: I am.

601
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 4: I would just say to my first, my last, and

602
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 4: my only laugh for years, Yeah, it's okay to lie.

603
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

604
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 1: I don't think you should ever ask somebody like how

605
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 1: many bodies have you had?

606
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 2: I don't think so, you know, I don't don't count exactly,

607
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:43,880
Speaker 2: don't want to.

608
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 3: Know, right, But men men want to know. As a woman,

609
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, already assumed that you have your fair share,

610
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 3: But men asked that crazy question really doesn't edify.

611
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 2: I've had to ask.

612
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 1: What did you say when somebody asked you that?

613
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 2: What you said?

614
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 5: I told you, I'm too honest. I need to learn

615
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 5: how to lie. But I'm way too honest.

616
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 4: You got to just do that that video gre girl

617
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 4: said I did it all. I've been doing this and that,

618
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 4: and I'm way too honest. So I mean I told

619
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 4: the truth.

620
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: So you gotta be like, oh, and then the twins,

621
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: I don't think, man, because I also listen.

622
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: I don't want to know.

623
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 1: I'm not asking no man, And I feel like, probably

624
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: have no idea.

625
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,360
Speaker 2: They don't. They don't. They've lost count for sure. Yeah,

626
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 2: and they never forgot people. Oh what about that? We

627
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 2: need to give them tested first.

628
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 4: The first got to be you gotta be straight up questions.

629
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 4: That's going to cancel the whole relationship. What's your credit

630
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 4: score if you don't know, it's low? Right, Okay? The

631
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 4: first wait, we ain't get down to be playing with.

632
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: It should have a In fact, it should be on

633
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,199
Speaker 2: an app when we ask these questions, just like an

634
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 2: a dental dental appointment.

635
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 4: You asked all the questions up front before you even

636
00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 4: get to the next step conversation, before you.

637
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 2: You're back outside. I don't know.

638
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 3: I don't know about the first date.

639
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 2: I want to.

640
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 3: I want to once we decide whether we're going to

641
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 3: take it to the next level. I think that's the

642
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 3: time to ask.

643
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 2: That a determining factor question. If we don't think we.

644
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 3: We gotta have a conversation first to get acquainted, to

645
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 3: find out if we even have an incompatibility, because.

646
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 2: We may have chemistry.

647
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 3: You can have chemistry and not have compatibility, right, So

648
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 3: once we decide okay, we have chemistry compatibility.

649
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 4: Just.

650
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:27,719
Speaker 3: I'm impatient two to three weeks if you see an

651
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 3: ample enough time getting to know that person, and then

652
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 3: once we decide okay, we are going to take it.

653
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 2: But you don't hand six in two weeks. No, I'm

654
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 2: just paying that thirty four. I'm like, I'm not in

655
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 2: that category.

656
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:49,439
Speaker 3: Now.

657
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 1: I'm want to ask you this because it did happen

658
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: on Married to Medicine, and I made this a topic

659
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: quiet when she's dating King and she wanted him to

660
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: move in, but he was like, I'm not moving into

661
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:01,399
Speaker 1: your house.

662
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 2: She has a beautiful house.

663
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: She does, and you know, he was like, we could

664
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 1: get something together and you could wrench your place out.

665
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 2: You like that, absolutely absolutely.

666
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: But she was like, well, this house he means a lot.

667
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 1: This is the house that like.

668
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 4: What I say is what I sit on My blog

669
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,159
Speaker 4: is do like poor she did, keep your house and

670
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 4: then get another one too, so you always have something

671
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 4: to fall back on. The equity still going over here, Renda,

672
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 4: I give it to your mama, give it to your

673
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 4: your brother, whoever. But we build something together because I

674
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:31,920
Speaker 4: don't ever want to be in a situation you say

675
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 4: this is.

676
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 2: My house or get out of my house? Right, don't

677
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 2: And he doesn't want it either. We know how we are.

678
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 2: That's a real man. Yeah, for sure, that's the mainly thing.

679
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 3: To Absolutely, I always say that my house is my

680
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 3: house is for me. If I ever connected with someone,

681
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: we would definitely have.

682
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 2: To get the movie something else.

683
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: Now, what about separate bank accounts?

684
00:28:51,920 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 2: Absolutely? Yeah, are you kidding? You don't even know about it.

685
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 4: I think we need to have a joint on his money.

686
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 4: That's another double standard. But he doesn't need to know

687
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 4: what I had.

688
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 3: Or you can create one where you guys make the

689
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 3: posites but have.

690
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 2: A joint one.

691
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

692
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 6: I think you should definitely have a joint one, but

693
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 6: definitely have you need.

694
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 4: Access to all of your husband's money. You need to

695
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 4: see what the hell he doing with right right?

696
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 2: Okay?

697
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,479
Speaker 4: To see it and access it. Absolutely, you have your

698
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 4: own account. It's a double stand another one. Sorry double.

699
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 2: I appreciate you honestly and clearly it's working for you,

700
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 2: so I can't even know. You don't even know. He

701
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 2: gonna hear this, but I love him though you don't

702
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: even know what we have. He don't know. Wow, that's wild.

703
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 4: But he trusts me and trust me. I'm doing my

704
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 4: business right, so he knows that.

705
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: Now, DeAnda, How honest are you with your family about

706
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: when things are happening here? That's another thing, right, when

707
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: something happens, you get into it, do you like? Because

708
00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: sometimes we tell people things, but then we stay with

709
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: somebody and they be like, Dann, why did I you

710
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: know what she did?

711
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 2: So what do you think?

712
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts about that? Because sometimes it's like, damn,

713
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: if we're going to stay together, why am I you know?

714
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 2: Telling?

715
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 5: I don't really tell my family much stuff when it happens,

716
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 5: but I mean stuff is always online so they see it.

717
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 2: Anyways.

718
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 6: My family, we're kind.

719
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 5: Of the type of people where we're very close, but

720
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 5: we all have our own lives. So if I want

721
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 5: to talk about it, then they'll be there to listen

722
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,239
Speaker 5: and give me advice or talk to me about how

723
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 5: they feel. But if I don't bring it up, then

724
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 5: they don't bring it up either. They just you know,

725
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 5: they'd be like, you keep referencing stuff. I understand from

726
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 5: when people said I was like spassing and crashing out

727
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 5: all that crazy.

728
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 2: Listen.

729
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 1: There was an issue with Jackui's doing the album with

730
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: Daye Loaf, and then he was like, you can't be.

731
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 2: They have a child together.

732
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 4: I don't know.

733
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 2: So I love that for you, though, Jack West is somebody,

734
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 2: what are you saying my daughter?

735
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 3: I got a confession. That is what caused me to

736
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 3: contact Deandro.

737
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 2: Okay, I did the interview with you.

738
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 3: I just didn't like the commentary and I said, oh no, no, no,

739
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 3: we gotta we gotta work. We got to get in purpose,

740
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 3: We got to grind right. I need you to have

741
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 3: your vision and your project and think that you're working on.

742
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 3: And that's how we started this relationship.

743
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: No honestly with Jacques, well, Jacques did lip service and

744
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: he spoke so highly of you, you know, and then

745
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: shortly after things kind of went left and so and like,

746
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 1: I do think it's strange to be like she can't

747
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: be on set while we you know, doing a video

748
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: if you guys are together and things like that. I

749
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: don't even want to bring up things that are bothersome

750
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: to you. So I don't even want to take it there.

751
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: But you know, doctor Heavenly has no idea. Yeah, because

752
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 1: you know, if you're with somebody and they're at work

753
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: and you want to be there. But then I also

754
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 1: see this side of well, it's a business thing, and

755
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: I don't want to to understand that. Yeah, I'm never

756
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: much but but but but it.

757
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 2: Was to make her comfortable that.

758
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 4: Was an issue because yeah, they're gonna be there.

759
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 2: She don't want this woman around the hose, right, I mean.

760
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: That's respect, But why does she have to be comfort

761
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 3: Why are you uncomfortable?

762
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 2: Is the question. But I don't even know who Jacquar is.

763
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,480
Speaker 3: You're talking about the young lady that he's doing the

764
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 3: Why is she so uncomfortable with his fiance? Like I

765
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 3: feel like, and there's rules that there was something going

766
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 3: on between them years.

767
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 2: And it's gonna be with Jacquin Jacquin.

768
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 4: She likes Jacque's six Drugs and rock and roll. We

769
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:43,240
Speaker 4: already know what it is. You know what it is

770
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 4: down to get in your lane and let Jacquez do what.

771
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 2: He do heavily is crazy. I mean, but I'm.

772
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: That having just had a baby and going through postpartiment,

773
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: so you been elevated faithful.

774
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 3: But but listen, he did interview with the young lady.

775
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: Well, they had a project together.

776
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 5: I don't think he's not unfaithful. That wasn't I yeah,

777
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 5: that wasn't anybody.

778
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, we like that you're a he's a singer.

779
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: She's a rapper singer. She's a rapper, but she's got

780
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 1: a melodic tone to her. So, but you know, it's

781
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: tough when things play out online and everybody's wing in

782
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: and people are, you know, saying different things, and then,

783
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 1: like you said, they made it look like he was

784
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 1: crashing out. But that's when the conversation about postpartum depression

785
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 1: comes up, because and also sometimes not even feeling like,

786
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: you know, so confident, you know, at a time like that.

787
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 5: I think also too, I wouldn't really say it was

788
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 5: a crash out. I think the problem is because my

789
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 5: family were so vocal. You know, my daddy, he's vocal

790
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 5: on his interviews, my brother's vocal on his interviews. I

791
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 5: think it's the fact that people are just now starting

792
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 5: to get to know me and say like, oh, she's vocal.

793
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 5: This she's never been like that, yeah, because I didn't

794
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 5: know how to work Twitter like that. Like now it's

795
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 5: like I think that that's a platform so I can

796
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 5: say what I want and people are gonna take it.

797
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 6: So it's not that all I'm crashing out.

798
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 5: It's like, oh, I'm speaking up and y'all are finally

799
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 5: just getting to see how vocal the type of person

800
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 5: now that I am.

801
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 1: But social media is never gonna you know, see things

802
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:21,359
Speaker 1: the right way they you know, because I also think

803
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: even in that relationship, you have to deal with g

804
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:25,479
Speaker 1: Z drama as well.

805
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 2: And then this it was it was like a well

806
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 2: to feel defend more espectually.

807
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 3: With him sitting beside dage Love, I wanted him to

808
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 3: just descend like it's a way to make sure she's

809
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 3: as well.

810
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,919
Speaker 2: Definitely, I don't know who I heard the names before.

811
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 4: Clearly, yeah, I don't know the song that I couldn't

812
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 4: tell you what she slapt me.

813
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,959
Speaker 1: You know, but I think you're talking about defending your women,

814
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: and that is also something I'm married to medicine.

815
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:01,359
Speaker 6: And that's okay, that's what I feel as well.

816
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Okay, that's why, because you're speaking with them,

817
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,400
Speaker 2: but you need to defend me. You don't want to

818
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:13,399
Speaker 2: make me feel, but defend me when it's no matter what.

819
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 1: Team, right, Okay, that's where I well, okay, so let's

820
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: talk about this happened on Marriage to Medicine.

821
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 2: If y'all you know, do you guys want the spirit?

822
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 2: Today's probably nobody, just like I know.

823
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:29,399
Speaker 1: All right, So let's talk about that with King King okay, right,

824
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 1: and doctor g Okay pressing charges against him because in

825
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:39,360
Speaker 1: the episode, you know, King is defending QUAD and and

826
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:41,280
Speaker 1: in that defense it does get physical.

827
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 2: We did not get physical. Didn't it cut off like

828
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 2: it did? It did not? Okay.

829
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 4: There was no touching, no, okay. But there were words

830
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 4: and he said some derogatory things about QUAD to this

831
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 4: man's face. And some of the stuff y'all saw, some.

832
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,720
Speaker 2: Of you didn't see. Okay. So when you're defending your woman,

833
00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. All yeah, I don't care.

834
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 4: What she said, but to me, she was with them people,

835
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 4: she was missed with them, She was missed with the

836
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 4: man she was talking talking because she was drinking and

837
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 4: she knew the buttons to push it she knew how

838
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 4: to get this man to act up, and she did it.

839
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 2: But you don't tell her to shut the f up. No,

840
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 2: you can't do that.

841
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 4: I mean, and my period, my husband is my wife

842
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 4: is very vocal. But if you have a problem with

843
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 4: my wife, come talk to me. And that's all King

844
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 4: was saying, and I agree with it.

845
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 3: Talk to turn men in the contexts like that and

846
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 3: expect anything more than what you got is unrealistic.

847
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:38,240
Speaker 2: And I didn't do it. I don't put my name situation.

848
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 2: I did not do none of that.

849
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 1: I'm don't think about Then pressing charges against that was

850
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: a bit move, Okay.

851
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 2: Can I say that he did?

852
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't see because if you think about that,

853
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 4: and I have double standards, but contest to charge me.

854
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 4: A lot of people trying if you didn't touch me,

855
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,240
Speaker 4: I don't think you should have been, like if you're scared.

856
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 4: But it wasn't even about him scared. He just said

857
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 4: he his ego was fractured.

858
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: Right, because and I feel like he feels like not

859
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 1: part of that. Maybe he feels maybe kind of like

860
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: people are against him because he.

861
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 2: Didn't know what it was was. He didn't want King

862
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 2: to film anymore.

863
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 4: So he felt like if I put this down and

864
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 4: I called TOR and he can't film, because we've done

865
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 4: that before. That's happened before, where somebody who's not a

866
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 4: cast member, if you go to HR, thatd be like, okay,

867
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 4: well there's no reason for this person to be on set.

868
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 4: But then we complained, you know whatever, whatever, and then

869
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 4: King was allowed to film. What they came up with

870
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 4: was we would have different time slots, okay, so he

871
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 4: could come at one time, they could come in another.

872
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: She sh this so much, y'all gotta watch it.

873
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's amazing, and then you have the reunion. Has

874
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 4: not happened yet and it's even more stag there. Absolutely not.

875
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 2: Oh so she didn't come to the reunion. She did not.

876
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 2: She didn't want to face the truth. I want to say,

877
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 2: this is going to be quite entertaining to see all

878
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 2: of this life.

879
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 3: Absolutely, yes, it's gonna be amazing.

880
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 1: No, but fishing enough for your event just to have

881
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: these different perspectives, because look, whether or not I agree

882
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: with certain things and whatever, it's a great conversation, you

883
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: know what I mean?

884
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 2: And for uh and.

885
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:22,959
Speaker 1: Doctor Heavenly, always outspoken and always yes, and.

886
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:23,879
Speaker 2: I agree to disagree.

887
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 4: I'm firmly I'm not gonna be in the middle. You're

888
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,479
Speaker 4: gonna know exactly what I'm thinking and how I'm thinking,

889
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 4: and you have to respect that because, I mean, we

890
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 4: might not agree on.

891
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 2: It, but that's my stance. I don't think a man.

892
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 4: Should ever be able to tell me to shut that fuck,

893
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 4: even if I might need to right right listen to

894
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 4: my husband. That's why he's here.

895
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 2: Definitely. Yeah, Yeah, we're thinking much, DeAnda. Do you feel

896
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:50,479
Speaker 2: safe and protected now in your situation? Like you sink?

897
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 2: What happened? She's got the ring on. I don't know

898
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 2: that's from him.

899
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:59,439
Speaker 1: I always do it with somebody else. I don't talk

900
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, listen, I can't wait for this.

901
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 5: You know, we we we're trying to figure it out. Okay,

902
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 5: we're trying to figure it out. I think that's one

903
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 5: of my biggest things, though, is I want to feel,

904
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 5: you know, saphering protective, but you know, we're trying to

905
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 5: figure it out.

906
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 2: Okay. I mean I hope you do.

907
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 1: I hope that he understands where you're where you're coming from.

908
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: How old is he young? He thirty? How old is

909
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 2: dig What are you laughing?

910
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 6: At I don't even know.

911
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not sure.

912
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, go ahead, but you know, And but that

913
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:42,919
Speaker 1: does happen, right when it comes to work relationships too,

914
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 1: and you're in a relationship, how do you allow somebody

915
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: to work with.

916
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 2: Someone that you're not comfortable? And what capacity she rapping

917
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 2: on his song or something?

918
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:52,040
Speaker 1: They have an album together, they put out a project together.

919
00:39:52,440 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, you don't rap, you can't rap. Get over there.

920
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: Do you feel like there was in any way like

921
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 1: he was concerned about you being there?

922
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 2: Is there any justification for that?

923
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,720
Speaker 1: Like do you feel like, Okay, well maybe I was wild,

924
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: Like was there any reason that he should have felt

925
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: that way?

926
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 4: No?

927
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 5: I don't think so. I don't think it really was

928
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 5: a concern like that for him. I think it's just

929
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 5: as far as for her to feel more comfortable because she,

930
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 5: you know, was gonna fee uncomfortable if I'm near Wait

931
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 5: a minute, what And.

932
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 6: I feel like that because of you know, just what does.

933
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 2: She matter that.

934
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 3: That's the point to make her comfortable?

935
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 5: And yeah, I mean, you know, I just feel like

936
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 5: that it just should have been handled differently.

937
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 6: I just really just don't like how she moved like

938
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 6: it's another.

939
00:40:59,160 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 2: It's so much.

940
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 6: Stuff that I see that I hear the stuff that

941
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:02,919
Speaker 6: she does.

942
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 5: She knows what she does, even how she did something

943
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 5: on the interview they did saying she never met me,

944
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 5: like she's met me. I want to introduce myself to her,

945
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 5: trying to be you know, a good fiance.

946
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 6: And she didn't even want to sleep.

947
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:19,799
Speaker 2: Really, so you've made the effort that sounds like she's hip.

948
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,879
Speaker 4: It's kind of like or if she wants to you said,

949
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 4: what either they having sex or she wants to have sex.

950
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: Well, I don't know about I mean, I think she's

951
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: in a relationship. I from my understanding, and I know

952
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 1: they maybe had a past or something like that.

953
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, so that's really what the energy.

954
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,760
Speaker 1: It's probably just from that, like they had to pass tell.

955
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 3: Me what's going on, because but he's a he's in

956
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 3: a new relationship and he has a fiance and that

957
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 3: should be respected. You know, you don't tell your fiance no,

958
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 3: you can come, because I'm trying to make another female comfortable.

959
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 3: You got to meet in the middle somewhere, but do whatever.

960
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 3: That's only that's right because we done in your relationship.

961
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 3: We don't know what's going on. Behind closed doors. Don't

962
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 3: listen to nobody.

963
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 2: But I'm just.

964
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 6: Praying about it.

965
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 2: Listen to yourself with God.

966
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 6: What you feel shows me what's up.

967
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 5: And you know, just praying about it and taking the

968
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 5: day you walk away. My daddy said to because when

969
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 5: I just go off on people, my Daddy say, the

970
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,479
Speaker 5: thing is, my family know me, so they.

971
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,280
Speaker 2: Know this relationship. That's all I asked.

972
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 5: My family is the type of they're gonna support whatever

973
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 5: I want to do.

974
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:35,280
Speaker 6: He's gonna say.

975
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 5: What he how he feels, like he said how he

976
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 5: felt in the beginning when I first intimated him to it.

977
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 6: You know, that's between me and my daddy.

978
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,879
Speaker 2: I want to say now, Daddy might was right.

979
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 5: I justn't want to say now, Daddy, But my dad

980
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 5: is a type to if I'm with it and it

981
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 5: makes me happy, he gonna support it all the way.

982
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 5: And then you know, if it ends up making me sad,

983
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 5: he gonna be there to pick me up. You know,

984
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 5: my family is very supportive of any of any decisions

985
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 5: that we all make.

986
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, but we love that.

987
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: But listen, I know right now everybody is coming out

988
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 1: to this event. Yes, so this has happened in March

989
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: twenty third.

990
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:18,399
Speaker 3: Yes, Absolutely, Sunday, March twenty third in Atlanta, Georgia at

991
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 3: Curate and anyone who wants to attend can RTP for

992
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 3: complimentary tickets at Relationships Matter Live Dot even Oh, it's

993
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:26,399
Speaker 3: free free.

994
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: Some people need to come out of Yes, y'all got

995
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 4: some questions? Ask us anything about our relationship?

996
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,880
Speaker 3: Yes, transparent, candid conversations about relationship.

997
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 6: Keep it to a minimum with mine.

998
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 1: Though I would give you that, like say here, answer

999
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: these questions.

1000
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: I didn't answer them. I answered more than.

1001
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: Well, we need to just show up doctor heavenly not

1002
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: knowing who people are and asking them questions and get

1003
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 1: into that.

1004
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 2: I like that. I don't know who the hell that was.

1005
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: But people trying to say you was being shady by

1006
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: taking pictures with Angela Ukley.

1007
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 2: Like, no, she's a beautiful woman.

1008
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:13,399
Speaker 1: Now, not about her about like maybe she doesn't get

1009
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:14,320
Speaker 1: along with somebody.

1010
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 4: I don't know, you really don't. I don't know Jack,

1011
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on.

1012
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 2: In the show.

1013
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: I know Angela, I don't know her Man.

1014
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 2: I don't know. I know the ladies, I know the

1015
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:27,239
Speaker 2: old school ladies. I don't know anything. I don't know

1016
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 2: what's going on in the show.

1017
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 3: She's just taking pictures like, yeah, I don't.

1018
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 2: Want any beef between the ladies in Atlanta. You get

1019
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 2: I see a future start right here. And you're looking

1020
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 2: at the mic like I'm the gam mama, I'm the

1021
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 2: new mom.

1022
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: Hi, okay, now says look look at the dentist doctor

1023
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 1: heavenly like let me see. Well, anyway, I appreciate that

1024
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,760
Speaker 1: for you, and like this is what matters the most

1025
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 1: right here. All right, well, thank you guys, and again

1026
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:58,960
Speaker 1: marsh Whening there. How can they get tickets one more time?

1027
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 3: Relationships matter Live dot even bright dot com.

1028
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 1: All right, I'm man, I need to be in Atlanta

1029
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 1: for this.

1030
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 2: I always have a good time with you. Trying to

1031
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 2: send some of you a little bit.

1032
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 1: But that's okay, No, never, I'm just trying to listen

1033
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 1: her YouTube. That's where it's unsensitible. Yes, it's not bad.

1034
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's bad.

1035
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 2: I say positive things the whole time.

1036
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 4: The only thing that goes viralens or sentence that I

1037
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:26,879
Speaker 4: might see that might not be well.

1038
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 2: We love a viral moment. Yeah, you lead into it,

1039
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:31,240
Speaker 2: you know, but I love all the ladies in Atlanta.

1040
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 4: I love all the ladies on marriage to Medicine, and

1041
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 4: tune into our reunion as well. And we're gonna bring

1042
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 4: all our friends to you and we're gonna have a

1043
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:39,760
Speaker 4: good time.

1044
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:42,359
Speaker 1: Okay, all the friends that come in. He's Toya coming.

1045
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,359
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know, honestly, I don't really

1046
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: talk to Toy that much.

1047
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:50,480
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I cannot wait to see this reunion, y'all.

1048
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 1: I gotta find out what happened with this med gala

1049
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: with this money.

1050
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 2: Okay, go ahead, girl.

1051
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 4: It's a mess, but God stood, and we are all

1052
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 4: ladies who we're positive ladies. While you're doing each other in,

1053
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 4: we're gonna move forward in a positive way.

1054
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 2: That is gonna learn all the time.

1055
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: We don't even got a censor, doctor, heavenly, all right,

1056
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: it's way up, way