1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: My wife refuses to accept our divorce, and I think 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:06,200 Speaker 1: she's trying to trick me. This is OKAYOPI home to 3 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: the craziest true stories on Earth. I'm Sophia and Riley. 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: What's the best trick you've ever played? 5 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:13,160 Speaker 2: Myself? 6 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: Whoa so straight? Corner? Three? Five five five says using 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: a throwaway because I just need advice. My wife twenty 8 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: nine female and I thirty four male, have been married 9 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: for four years, and up until a year and a 10 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: half ago, things were great. Our marriage began to deteriorate 11 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:32,520 Speaker 1: after there was a significant drop in sex between us, 12 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: not intimacy, just the actual sex part of the relationship. 13 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 1: We would still cuddle and have deep intimate moments, talking 14 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: and just being around each other, but she kept rejecting 15 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 1: my attempts at taking things further past kissing. Now we 16 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 1: have had no problem communicating, so I made sure to 17 00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: address it early and we talked and made adjustments. We 18 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,200 Speaker 1: both made sure to stay in shape. We tried being 19 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: more adventurous. We went to couple's therapy slash counseling, and 20 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: even tested both of our hormone levels. Everything was normal. 21 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: Each solution would work for a little while and then 22 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 1: we'd be back to having sex maybe once a month. 23 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: I asked her several times if she was no longer 24 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: attracted to me, to which she denied every time. I 25 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 1: asked her if I was falling short in the relationship 26 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: in any way, to which she said no. Well, about 27 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:14,839 Speaker 1: a month ago, she gets back from her therapy session 28 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: and tells me that she believes that she's a sexual 29 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: and that's the reason for her libido being nonexistent as 30 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: of late. I was definitely confused because we had such 31 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: great sex for a while in the beginning of a relationship, 32 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: but her telling me that she's now a sexual was 33 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: heartbreaking because everything else is great. Obviously, I'm not going 34 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: to force her to have sex. So we had a 35 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: long conversation about a relationship, and I came to the 36 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: conclusion that we should get a divorce. WHOA yo. I 37 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:42,040 Speaker 1: feel like that's a really quick I mean, I don't know. 38 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: It depends on how many conversations they have, because this 39 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: sounds like they had one conversation. He was like, I 40 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:47,320 Speaker 1: got a divorce. 41 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 2: The biggest thing for him is sex. Yeah, and they're 42 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 2: trying new things they're working out. Guess he just can't 43 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 2: get past. This that sucks. 44 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: That does suck because like for I mean, it seems 45 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: like they still have ever like every other, they still 46 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: have great intimacy. M I don't know. I feel like 47 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: that's kind of a hasty decision to make. 48 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 2: Yeah, I sex that big. 49 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: I don't think so. But apparently he does. 50 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 2: The biggest factor of your relationship with her. I think 51 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 2: you might need to do some readjusting. Yeah, I feel 52 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 2: like that's not healthy. I don't know. 53 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: To me, Like again, everyone has their own, you know, 54 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: stuff in a relationship and their own requirements. But I 55 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: don't know. For me, I don't think that would be 56 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: something I would break up over. Yeah, especially like they've 57 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:32,839 Speaker 1: been together for four years. 58 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, and this only happened like a year and 59 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 2: a half ago. There's just not been sexually satisfied. 60 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: I say, I because she immediately rejected the idea. She said, no, 61 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: He's like, we should get a divorce, and she was like, actually, Luna, reverse, 62 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: we're gonna get remarried. We're gonna to re up our 63 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:53,839 Speaker 1: vows too bad and said we would figure something out 64 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: and wouldn't talk to me about it anymore. I don't 65 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 1: know what to say, so I dropped it. Well, three 66 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: weeks go by without sex, and I decided that I 67 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: have to do this for my own mental well being, 68 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: so I filed for divorce and had her served with 69 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: the papers. 70 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:10,399 Speaker 2: Honestly, if this, if sex is such a big part 71 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 2: of your relationship, it seems sex. 72 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:17,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, go to sex there for but her like because 73 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: she's a sexual. She just like because it's kind of 74 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: a spectrum, okay, Like some asexuals will have sex, some 75 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: will not have it at all, And it seems like 76 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: she's in the group of like, I don't want to 77 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: have it at all. 78 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. Another part of me thinks maybe he's not romantic enough, yeah, 79 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 2: or being intimate. Maybe. 80 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: I feel like there are other ways to achieve intimacy 81 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: in a relationship, and I don't think sex is like 82 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: the number one thing. Yeah, but I guess for him 83 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: it is. Last week, when I got home from work, 84 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: she was going about the day like nothing was wrong. 85 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: I asked her if she signed the papers, and she 86 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 1: flat out said we are not getting a divorce and 87 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: changed the subject and acted like things were normal. Obviously, 88 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: I thought this was crazy, so I stopped her and 89 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: said I couldn't be in a marriage devoid of sex, 90 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: and I mentioned that I was being incredibly fair with 91 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: our divorce. I don't know if that's like she just 92 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: doesn't want she wants you. She doesn't care about like 93 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: the fairness of the divorce or like the money. She 94 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: just wants to be in a relationship too. She can 95 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: keep the house that we bought and paid for with cash. 96 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: She paid a third, I paid two thirds. I'd take 97 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,479 Speaker 1: all of the debt, which isn't much. We'd split our 98 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: savings and investments in half. And she can keep two 99 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: of our three paid off cars. I only wanted to 100 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: keep my sports car. Thankfully we don't have kids. I 101 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: love her and want her to be comfortable, and I 102 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: have no problems starting over since I made a good income. 103 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: But she won't budge or talk about the divorce. This 104 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: brings us to two days ago. I get home and 105 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: go to our bed and find my wife's friend, twenty 106 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: seven female in our bed naked. Oh my god. What. 107 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 1: I immediately shut the door, said sorry and went looking for 108 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 1: my wife. I feel like she's doing this, like she's like, oh, 109 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: if you have sex with this person, we can still 110 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: have our relationship. 111 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 2: Oh. 112 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 1: I feel like that's where this is going? Which is O? 113 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 2: And what kind of friend is this? 114 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: Yeah? Like, oh yeah, I feel like either the friend 115 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: is like super right die or she already liked the 116 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: guy mmmm sex? 117 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: Or I could you ever be right or dive for 118 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:09,599 Speaker 2: a friend like this? No, that's crazy, that's insane. No, 119 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:10,799 Speaker 2: I don't think I could. 120 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I'm in that. Yeah. 121 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 2: Oh gosh. 122 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 1: I found her in the kitchen and asked what her 123 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: friend was doing here, and she said that she was 124 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: here for me. Oh god. I put two and two 125 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: together and said that I'm not having sex with another 126 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,360 Speaker 1: woman in place of the woman I chose to marry. 127 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: She was adamant on saying that I could sleep with 128 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: her whenever I wanted, and that her friend agreed to it. 129 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 1: This is why old See, your husband would also have 130 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: to op He would have to agree to it too. 131 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: That's not how that works. Insane, That is not how 132 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: that works. I couldn't believe things would get this far, 133 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: so I went back to our bedroom and asked her 134 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: friend to leave. I packed a bag and I've been 135 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 1: staying in a hotel nearby since that night. My wife, 136 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,479 Speaker 1: her mother, and her sister keep calling me, but I'm 137 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 1: just not interested in hearing what they have to say. 138 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 1: This feels like a trick. I just want this whole 139 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: thing to be over. 140 00:05:56,520 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 2: Her mother and sister. 141 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, does anyone have advice? Is this some kind of 142 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,919 Speaker 1: ploy for alimony? We do have a prenup? Should I 143 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: just contact my lawyer and try and force the divorce. 144 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: I'm really uncomfortable with this entire situation. And edit, we 145 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 1: talked last night. I'll update when I get home from work, 146 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: and there is an update. Before we get into it, 147 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: let's talk that. 148 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,839 Speaker 2: I mean, sadly, it makes sense why the wife would 149 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 2: do this. Yeah, he's like he's not getting sex solution. 150 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's just like, oh maybe I can like still 151 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 1: be married to him if we do this. Definitely wrong 152 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 1: way to go about that. 153 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:32,719 Speaker 2: Wrong way to go. 154 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,359 Speaker 1: That was a discussion, But I also think that I 155 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: don't know, there should have been a longer discussion, and 156 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: maybe there were. It doesn't really say before he was like, yeah, 157 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: we're getting divorce, he says. He later implies he's like, 158 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: I'm not having sex with your friend over the person 159 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: I chose to marry, But he's like choosing to divorce her. 160 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: So it's like I don't know. At first, I was 161 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: I'm totally against her friend idea that was not well done, 162 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: like very bad, should not have done that. But like, 163 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: originally I felt really bad for her because I feel 164 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: like he's just making really hasty decisions based off of 165 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:08,679 Speaker 1: like I don't. 166 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 2: Know, yeah that that should have been a talk communication, Yeah, 167 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 2: would you want to be with someone that was okay 168 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: with that? Like okay, wife, like the wife I'm just 169 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 2: interested of like over time if this if her like 170 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 2: her husband said yes, does having sex with her friend? 171 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 2: How long until things get complicated? 172 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 1: Yeah? Jealous? Yeah? 173 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 2: And then what are you going to do? Then? 174 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: I think there's always a chance where those I feel 175 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: like in this situation it was definitely like the wrong move. 176 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: In other situations there are like ways to make it 177 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: work and like communication involved in opening your relationship. But yeah, 178 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: I just this. I think this was the wrong move 179 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: because if he had agreed to it, she's only doing 180 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: it because she's like, there's a part that you are 181 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: literally willing part of myself that you are literally willing 182 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,520 Speaker 1: to like divorce me over And I feel like this 183 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: is very desperate grab to like bring him back, which 184 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: is sad, but there's an update. Maybe it gets better. 185 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 1: Probably not. I'll try to keep this as concise as possible. 186 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,239 Speaker 1: I feel overwhelmed, so I probably won't bother with another 187 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: update after this one. I don't know. My wife came 188 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: to my hotel last night and we talked about everything. 189 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,640 Speaker 1: She told me the full truth and what's going on 190 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: in her mind. 191 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 2: Number one, that's she's shooting No, she said, full truth. 192 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you were like cheating. Yeah, I mean that's 193 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,680 Speaker 1: most of the stories boom. A few of you commented 194 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: this in the last post, so you were right. She 195 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: has always been a sexual. She and her whole family 196 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: have known this since she was sixteen. Oh oh, so 197 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: he's just fighting okay. Apparently this is the reason why 198 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: her last long term relationship of three years ended. He 199 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: broke up with her after the sex between them diminished 200 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 1: to being nonexistent after the first year. She told me 201 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 1: that sex is easier for her in the beginning when 202 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:57,680 Speaker 1: emotions are running high, but she still needs to force 203 00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: herself to have it. I know they broke up due 204 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: to ears differences, but I didn't ask for details, nor 205 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: did she tell me. After a lot of apologies and crying, 206 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: she told me that I was the first person she 207 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: was able to tolerate sex with for so long that 208 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:12,959 Speaker 1: she did enjoy it a handful of times, but after 209 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: a while she still felt like she was being used. 210 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: I broke down after hearing this and started kicking myself 211 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: for not catching on to any of this. She said, 212 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:22,720 Speaker 1: she tried her best to please me as much as 213 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 1: she could. Oh, there are there's more to that update. 214 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 2: But it sucks because in a way the husband may 215 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 2: feel like she's not being intimate. No, he just wants sex. 216 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 217 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 2: Ah, that's so tough. 218 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: It's so tough, and I feel really bad for her 219 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 1: because on the one hand, I feel like there's a 220 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: part of me that's like, oh, you should disclose that, 221 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: if you know, at the beginner, like towards the beginning 222 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: of the relationship, because it is such a big part 223 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:48,559 Speaker 1: of you, like it's part of your identity. But also 224 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: there is like, especially for asexual there's a fear, you know, 225 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: because there's such a statement about like, you know, needing 226 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,079 Speaker 1: to like people needing to have sex in a relationship 227 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: and sex being the only way to have intimacy in 228 00:09:58,000 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: a relationship, which isn't true. So I feel like there's 229 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: a lot fear about that, especially since her first relationship 230 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: ended over it. 231 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, that's so sad. 232 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: It's really sad, Like she just wants to have this 233 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 1: relationship with the man that she loves and they're married. 234 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,840 Speaker 2: They are married, and it looks like they're doing well. Yeah, 235 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 2: they got a house paid for and some cars paid for. 236 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 1: She still doesn't want a divorce, and she doesn't want 237 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: the house, cars or the savings. She just wants me 238 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: and is ready to do whatever it takes to keep me. 239 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 1: She even said that she would sign a post and 240 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 1: up stating this number three. As for her friend, she 241 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 1: was there during her last breakup and helped to support 242 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,520 Speaker 1: her through it. My wife went to talk to her 243 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: after I brought up divorce and talk things out. Her 244 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: friend suggested that she open the relationship for me, but 245 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 1: she said she didn't want me sleeping with strange women. 246 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 1: So her friend volunteered herself to be the one that 247 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 1: sleeps with me. That I don't know about that friend, tricky, 248 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: I don't know about that friend. 249 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 2: I don't like that. 250 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:52,719 Speaker 1: I don't know about that. My wife thought this was 251 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 1: a great idea, which led to the fiasco at her house. 252 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: I won't comment on her appearance because it doesn't matter, 253 00:10:58,600 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: and I don't blame the friend. 254 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 2: Basically, she's hot. 255 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, I won't talk about her appearance. That's 256 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: besides the point. Number four, my lawyer got back to me, 257 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: you were all right, I don't need her permission, but 258 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 1: I will have to wait if I want to push 259 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: it through. Number five. I asked her why she lied 260 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 1: to me this entire time, and she said she was 261 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 1: tired of being rejected after revealing she was asexual. 262 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:20,959 Speaker 2: Ah, so she. 263 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:23,200 Speaker 1: Convinced herself that she would be able to force herself 264 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: to have sex during the relationship. The hormone testing, the 265 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: sessions and couple's therapy and all of our quote unquote 266 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: solutions were just buying her time to find another way 267 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: around sex or give her enough time to build up 268 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 1: the strength to start regularly having sex with me again. 269 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: Number six, Our conversation ended with us holding each other 270 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: in bed crying for a couple of hours. No, we 271 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: didn't have sex, she pleaded, I would hope not. I 272 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:47,840 Speaker 1: would hope not. 273 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:49,720 Speaker 2: Does sounds like you would. 274 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: She pleaded with me to hold off on the divorce 275 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: to look for a solution together and left my hotel 276 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: room seven. I'm not sitting alone typing this effing post. 277 00:11:57,720 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 1: I guess I found out that we don't share everything 278 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,079 Speaker 1: with each other. Thank you to everyone who's messaged me directly. 279 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: I'm still trying to get up to all of them. 280 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm going to do. There are 281 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:08,679 Speaker 1: some relevant comments and an updates. 282 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 2: Mmmmmmmmmm this. 283 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really hard because I feel for both of them. 284 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 2: Let's look up if you can fix asexuality. 285 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: No, it's no, don't look that up. That is not 286 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: a thing. 287 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 2: No, okay, there's nothing you could do. 288 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:31,440 Speaker 1: No, that's just a thing that Yeah, that's just the 289 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: thing that who you are, it's your identity. 290 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 2: What do you mean by that, Like, oh, oh, I 291 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 2: thought you were talking about me. 292 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: No, it's who you are. 293 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 2: It's who you are always trying to fix things. 294 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: No, a sexuality is like who you are. And again, yeah, 295 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 1: it's a spectrum. Some sexuals will have sex, some don't 296 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: have it at all. 297 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 2: Uh, it's so tough because like relationship, that is a part. 298 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: Of it, a part of some, a part of some, 299 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: and it seems like it was a part of this 300 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: and he had that expectation, which isn't just that it's wrong, 301 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: but it does really hurt when she's gone through this 302 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: before and trying to find someone who will have a 303 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: relationship and will accept that like who she is. 304 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's really hard. 305 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: Well, there's some relevant comments. This is so sad. I 306 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:14,680 Speaker 1: really hope that they like take a second and don't 307 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: get divorced and like just talk a little bit more. 308 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 2: I hope so too. 309 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: Relevant comments. How long has the wife known about the divorce, 310 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 1: Opie said. We lightly touched on the subject four months 311 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: prior to getting served. The final push was when she 312 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: discovered that she was a sexual I brought up divorce 313 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 1: at that time, but she didn't want to talk about 314 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,359 Speaker 1: it and said she won't consider divorce. I was stonewalled 315 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: from that specific conversation I filed anyway. It was the 316 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:38,959 Speaker 1: first time she refused to talk to me about any subject. 317 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 1: I was surprised since we share literally everything with each other. 318 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,440 Speaker 1: Is it a medical issue, Opie says. If it was 319 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 1: a medical issue, I wouldn't have made this post and 320 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: I'd be by my wife's side right now. But it 321 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: isn't the case, and sex is how I show and 322 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: feel my love. We only get to do this being 323 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 1: human thing once and sex is important to me. Is 324 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 1: she depressed? Opie says, I don't think she's depressed. I'm 325 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: sure her therapist would have caught it or she would 326 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: have told me, but I can't be sure. Now. Other 327 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 1: than sex, things have been normal. I can't imagine that 328 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 1: we missed anything. She really did put in a ton 329 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: of effort. We both did slash do but thank you. 330 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:12,839 Speaker 1: I know we'll both be fine. But I figure it's 331 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: better to do this now before we accidentally have children. 332 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 2: Mm. 333 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: She doesn't want to sex. There is an update though 334 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: I don't know you have children there. 335 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is really interesting. Yeah, I would say the 336 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 2: only closest thing I have is that I thought one 337 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 2: of my friends in high school were a sexual. Mm hmm, 338 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:32,160 Speaker 2: So I have to contribute to this. 339 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 1: I have friends who are a sexual, and I feel 340 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: like it's just it's Yeah, I think you just kind 341 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 1: of have to find someone who will accept that, because 342 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 1: there are people out there and if, yeah, if someone's 343 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: prizing sex over like you know their love for you, 344 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,040 Speaker 1: then they're just not the right person for you for you. Yeah, 345 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: but there's an update, and I feel like it's gonna 346 00:14:50,160 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: keep getting worse. 347 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 2: Yay or better or better? He becomes a sexual too. 348 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. After my last update, my wife asked me to 349 00:14:57,920 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 1: meet with her about a week later to discuss things 350 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 1: with her. I've been staying at the hotel with an 351 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: excited stay since the night with her friend. We met 352 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: at her house and talked for a few hours. She 353 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: started off with a ton of apologies for how she acted, 354 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: her lying about her sexuality, and not taking my sexual 355 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: needs more seriously. Before I could say anything, she presented 356 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: of signed posting up agreement she had drafted with the lawyer, 357 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 1: stating that she doesn't want anything, the house, the cars, savings, everything. 358 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:26,120 Speaker 1: I felt like the biggest a hole for thinking that 359 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 1: she was tricking me for more money. That was also 360 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 1: pretty messed up that he like he consaided. I thought 361 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: he was like, Oh, is she trying to do this 362 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: thing with her friend so that she can steal from 363 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 1: me when it's like so obvious that she was just 364 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:38,960 Speaker 1: trying to keep this relationship going. Yeah, I was kinda 365 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: messed up him. I asked her if she was serious, 366 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: and she told me to take the post up with 367 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 1: me and sign it when I'm ready. I still haven't 368 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 1: signed it. It's in my backpack. I told her, I 369 00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: still think divorce is our best course of action and 370 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 1: that we both deserve to find someone who matches our needs. 371 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 1: That's true. She still refused, and borderline begged me to reconsider. 372 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: She started crying, and so did I. Seeing her like 373 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: this was devastating. I told her that her or finding 374 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 1: other women to sleep with me wasn't going to work. 375 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: What if I developed feelings for them? What if I 376 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: get one of them pregnant? Did we expect her to 377 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 1: get an abortion? She said, We'll figure it out as 378 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 1: we go along, and to please give her more time 379 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:13,920 Speaker 1: to work on other solutions. She set up appointments for 380 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: sex and hormone therapy and is seeing a sex guru. 381 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 2: I don't think he can that side that was points 382 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 2: for sex. Yeah, no, you. 383 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 1: No, that's like that's who you are, and I feel 384 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 1: like she's trying to do it for him, but unfortunately, 385 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 1: like you can't change who you are. I said that 386 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: it sounds like we're going through the same things again, 387 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: but she was adamant and pleaded with me to wait. 388 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:34,640 Speaker 1: There were more apologies on both sides, and we kissed 389 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: for a while before ending the conversation. Then I went 390 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 1: back to my hotel that night. A few days later, 391 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: I tried texting her, but she didn't respond, so I 392 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:44,560 Speaker 1: called her dad. I'm avoiding her mother and sisters since 393 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 1: they're saying the same things as my wife. Her dad 394 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: told me that she moved back home and has been 395 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: holed up in her room since her talk she called 396 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: out of work. He told me that she's barely eating, bathing, 397 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: or talking to him or her mom. He asked me 398 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: what I was going to do, but I didn't have 399 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 1: an answer for him. He just said he'd understands and 400 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: said he would be here to talk any time I 401 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 1: wanted to. So I went back to our house and 402 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 1: a good portion of her stuff was gone. The whole 403 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 1: place feels empty. I've been sleeping in one of the 404 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 1: spare rooms. I'm planning on flying to my mother's house 405 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks to spend time with my 406 00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:16,159 Speaker 1: family to decompress from this entire situation. I'm still on 407 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,200 Speaker 1: the divorce side of the fence, but I guess there's 408 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: no rush. Thank you to everyone for your insight and concern. Seriously, 409 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: I know we're all strangers, but most of you have 410 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 1: been a huge help to my mental health. Seriously, thank you. 411 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 1: That's so sadly, that's really sad because they're both they're 412 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: both I think they're both allowed to have different needs 413 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 1: in a relationship. But it is really sad that like, 414 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: she so desperately you know, wants to be in this 415 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:40,520 Speaker 1: relationship and he still loves her. 416 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:44,520 Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, yeah, it's just not it's a sex that 417 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 2: keeps getting in the way. Ah, it's so sad. 418 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: That's really sad. 419 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:50,920 Speaker 2: I don't have any I mean, she wants to see 420 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 2: a sex. Have they not done that before? 421 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, they said that they did, But I don't 422 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:57,199 Speaker 1: think that's going to solve it because again, this is 423 00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: like her identity, and I don't think it's I don't 424 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: think it's you know, whise to try and change that part. 425 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 2: Of you, Yeah, who you are in the h. 426 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: Like someone I think a partner should accept the like 427 00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: all of those part like identity, you know who you 428 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:13,920 Speaker 1: are as a person. And it seems like the husband's 429 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,440 Speaker 1: not able to So maybe that relationship wasn't right for her. 430 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: Divorce divorce seems like they're on the road to it, 431 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:21,360 Speaker 1: but you know what, we're. 432 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,960 Speaker 2: On the road to what's that, Sophia, this next story? 433 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: I ruin my parents' relationship over reading mail. Have you 434 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 1: ever read anyone's mail that wasn't yours? 435 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:32,919 Speaker 2: No? I have not. 436 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: Legally, No, I have not. 437 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 2: I would never and never have I heard it hear 438 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:39,680 Speaker 2: first Hmm. 439 00:18:39,720 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: I really don't know if I trap legally it's a 440 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:43,400 Speaker 1: legal though. 441 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 2: I would not ever plead in the fifth some would 442 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 2: say oh. 443 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:51,880 Speaker 1: Alas some would say so dandelion plant says I twenty four. 444 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: Don't want to say what I do for work, but 445 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: let's just say it's the type of job that includes 446 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:57,960 Speaker 1: a lot of written letters from clients that are supposed 447 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 1: to be confidential and only for my eyes. I'm fresh 448 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: out of college and living with my. 449 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 2: But I need to know what type of this is. 450 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:06,920 Speaker 1: I feel like there's a couple of jobs that what 451 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 1: require some confidential yeah. 452 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 2: GPT okay, so yeah, I asked chat what could her 453 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 2: job be? We got one therapist, two lawyer, three private investigator, 454 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:24,120 Speaker 2: four human resources, five medical professionals, six executive, seven financial advisor, 455 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:29,440 Speaker 2: eight diploma government official, nine clergy member, ten academic advisor. 456 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:34,480 Speaker 2: I'm going to go with eight or hr. I feel 457 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: like an investigator or government official. Investigator or government official. 458 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 1: I think HR or government officials is. 459 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:44,600 Speaker 2: I'm going to think they're a private investigator. 460 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:46,639 Speaker 1: Well, I think she's just like pretty young to be 461 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:47,719 Speaker 1: a private investigator. 462 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:53,880 Speaker 2: Wow, Ages, you heard it here first. Sofia hates young people. Yeah, 463 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:55,720 Speaker 2: she thinks they're competent. 464 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:59,719 Speaker 1: Served to be private investigators. No, ouch, I said it. 465 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 2: The boys can't be offended by that. 466 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 1: I'm fresh out of college and living with my parents 467 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: so I can finish paying off for school. My work letters, 468 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 1: of course, go to my parents' address, since they live 469 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 1: miles away from a post office and driving to a 470 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,919 Speaker 1: PO box is a huge pain. The issue started with 471 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: my father ever since high school. When I received mail, 472 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 1: my dad would open it. Whenever I received Christmas slush 473 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: Birthday cards in the mail with money in them, my 474 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: dad would hand me the card and insist he'll keep 475 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 1: the money safe for me, until I demanded he handed over. 476 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 1: Any package I would order for myself, he would open 477 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:32,919 Speaker 1: and hand to me. Sometimes the products were used by 478 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: him as well, I cad. The final straw was when 479 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:38,679 Speaker 1: he received my acceptance letter to my dream college and 480 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,199 Speaker 1: instead of waiting for me to come home to open it. 481 00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: He opened it himself and called me while I was 482 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 1: at work to congratulate me. 483 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 2: That's do you know what? This guy just likes receiving presents. 484 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 1: He's like, I just want to open things. Yeah, that's crazy. 485 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 1: I've spoken to my mother about how much this makes 486 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: me feel uncomfortable, and she told me she'd speak to 487 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 1: my father about it, to which he would apologize and 488 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:01,160 Speaker 1: not do it for a week before doing it again 489 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: the next week. I had also spoken to my dad 490 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 1: about the confidentiality of the mail that I would re 491 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 1: receiving now that I'm working, and he says he understands. 492 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,400 Speaker 1: But it all came crashing down a few weeks ago. 493 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:13,240 Speaker 2: Uh oh, Dad, get too excited. 494 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,920 Speaker 1: He is like, I have to open it. You're telling 495 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,440 Speaker 1: me that there's something interesting in there. 496 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 2: I can open it. Com on, it is my address. 497 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's my mail. While I was working, my dad 498 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 1: came into my room, handed me open envelopes from my 499 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:29,439 Speaker 1: clients and even tried to have a conversation about it 500 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,560 Speaker 1: with me, but I just ignored him until he got 501 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 1: the hint and left. After work, I yelled at him 502 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:38,040 Speaker 1: for violating client confidentiality, to which he got defensive and 503 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,120 Speaker 1: said that I live in his house and any mail 504 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: sent to his house would be read by him. Furious, 505 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,240 Speaker 1: the next week, I thought I would take revenge on 506 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,200 Speaker 1: my father by going to the mailbox and reading his mail. 507 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 1: But what I found was what ended my relationship with him. 508 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 1: Oh oh uh? In the comments? Did I see you 509 00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: in the comments? 510 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 2: What do you think he found cheating? Cheating? 511 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,960 Speaker 1: It's gotta be it's gotta be the mail that he 512 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,360 Speaker 1: keeps opening. 513 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,879 Speaker 2: Like he's getting love letters from his mistress. 514 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. Yeah, she's been sending him like 515 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,120 Speaker 1: two page love letters because there's no actually no, those 516 00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 1: are pretty easily tricable. I just why is he checking 517 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:19,640 Speaker 1: all of the mail? 518 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 2: It's got important shit. 519 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like there's something going on. 520 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:24,439 Speaker 1: What do you think it is? 521 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,400 Speaker 2: What would a mistress? And honestly, I don't even think 522 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,679 Speaker 2: it was cheating. I think it was like he's up 523 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:35,959 Speaker 2: to like some sketchy business. Since she's astigator, She's like, 524 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 2: I can't do this anymore. 525 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 1: I can't do this. That's ended our relationship. I think 526 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:45,040 Speaker 1: it's not cheating. You think it's like, what's the word thought? Embezzlement? God, 527 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 1: all that jazz. I think that actually could also be it. 528 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 2: I think it's it. 529 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,160 Speaker 1: I agree. I had found credit card statements on jewelry 530 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,480 Speaker 1: and restaurants that were too fancy for my dad to 531 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: go to a loan and I don't remember the last 532 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: time my dad took my mom on a date nor 533 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:02,120 Speaker 1: bought her any jewelry. So this these she found statements 534 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:06,639 Speaker 1: like receipts on these things. Also they yeah, I think 535 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:07,919 Speaker 1: the parents are still together. 536 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,160 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I thought she was at her dad's boy. 537 00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:12,919 Speaker 1: No, no, no, they're still together. That's why she's like, oh my, 538 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,480 Speaker 1: who's this for. I also found a letter addressed to 539 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: my dad from a woman who stated how tired she 540 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: was for hiding this relationship for so long and how 541 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,520 Speaker 1: she's so desperate for his letters to reach her. I 542 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 1: was right, what, oh my god, why are they communicating 543 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 1: over like letters? 544 00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:29,840 Speaker 2: What is this? 545 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 1: What is this? Eighteen hundred? 546 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 2: It's not trackable if they don't get in the wrong hands. 547 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 2: It's not as long as no one finds the letters, though, Like, 548 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 2: that's like or snapchat, and I doubt he knows how 549 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 2: to use snaps not noted. 550 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 1: I feel like those are like if he's having to 551 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,960 Speaker 1: do so much to hide it, like he's running around 552 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: opening everyone's letters to make sure that this is not 553 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: his letter from his side lady. When my dad noticed 554 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: the mailbox was empty, my dad ran back in the 555 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,919 Speaker 1: house as white as a ghost, walked into the kitchen 556 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: to see me and my mom in the kitchen reading 557 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: his mail. Before the fighting could start, my mom asked 558 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:07,919 Speaker 1: me to leave the house, so I drove to my 559 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 1: aunt's who lived forty five minutes away, and explained everything. 560 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 1: I came back after two days when my dad's stuff 561 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 1: was gone. My mom told me my dad's living in 562 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: a hotel and she will be in contact with a 563 00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: divorce flare. Turns out my dad has been having an 564 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: affair with a family friend. Oh my god, and we're 565 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: hiding it through letters to leave no digital footprints. Yikes, 566 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 1: my mom. My dad ended up showing my mom the 567 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 1: stashup letters he had, and she took photos of each 568 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 1: and every single letter before she asked him to leave. 569 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 1: I feel at fault because I at first wanted to 570 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,439 Speaker 1: be petty with my dad, but it unraveled into this 571 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 1: huge event and made me think, oh, wonder, no wonder, 572 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 1: he's been looking through my stuff. He was giving himself away. 573 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,439 Speaker 1: I feel like I've shattered my mom's world since I 574 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 1: can hear her cry every night since the incident. Ah, 575 00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 1: there are some top comments and an updates. 576 00:24:57,960 --> 00:24:58,879 Speaker 2: It was dad's fault. 577 00:24:58,960 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 1: It was the dad's fault. 578 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 2: I shouldn't open the mail. 579 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that wasn't you. I feel like op, he's 580 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,920 Speaker 1: trying like kind of blaming herself. But that's not your fault. 581 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,639 Speaker 1: It's not your fault, absolutely not. Like he's cheating. You 582 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,639 Speaker 1: get an award for truthfulness. 583 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 2: There you go. 584 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there are some top comments. Jilli jili was says, 585 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: you didn't ruin your parents' marriage. Your father ruined it. Nice, 586 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,840 Speaker 1: No wonder you was so controlling. Also, don't know if 587 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 1: you're in the US, but it's a crime to open 588 00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,919 Speaker 1: someone else's mail. It's not your fault. He's a bad person. 589 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: Just be glad your mother doesn't have to put up 590 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 1: with his bs anymore. So true, get him out of 591 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:34,679 Speaker 1: your life, get him out of there. 592 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 2: That is gonna. That makes sense. Why his maleh why 593 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:40,080 Speaker 2: he was so obsessive with the maile. 594 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 1: He's like, I need to know I need to know 595 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,639 Speaker 1: every male that's coming into the house. Opie responds, I 596 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: will be pursuing a case about this, thank you so much. 597 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,640 Speaker 1: I already spoke to my work about it. And then 598 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 1: XX sks xx says, you didn't ruin your parents relationship. 599 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,320 Speaker 1: Your dad having an affair ruined it. You just found 600 00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,479 Speaker 1: out about it and gave your mom the chance to 601 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 1: make an warm decision with all the facts on whether 602 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,520 Speaker 1: she wanted to be in a marriage with a cheater. Yeah, 603 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:07,320 Speaker 1: these people aren't tom facts. Batty Budget fifteen thirty three 604 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,679 Speaker 1: says that maybe her dad took her birthday money to 605 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:15,640 Speaker 1: pay for his secret life. Oh wait, because well, because 606 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 1: he was saying that when she was younger, she would 607 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,280 Speaker 1: get birthday money and he would take it from her 608 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,360 Speaker 1: and then she would have to demand him that he'd 609 00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,199 Speaker 1: give it back. So maybe he was taking some of 610 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:27,120 Speaker 1: that money. Wow, awesome. One Forever says his insane male 611 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 1: rule wasn't about invading your privacy. That was a bonus 612 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:32,480 Speaker 1: for him. It was about covering his ass for as 613 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: long as possible. He did it to himself, and there 614 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 1: is an update. Wow, this is yeah, this is crazy. Yeah, 615 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,400 Speaker 1: I'm glad they're all there leaving this dad because he's 616 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: a stinky guy. That's a fact. Stinch the stench wafts 617 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,000 Speaker 1: off him. But there's an update, so let's get into it. 618 00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 1: I'll go ahead and answer a few questions here and 619 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 1: then give an update. Number one was my dad using 620 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,160 Speaker 1: my money from the gifts to buy stuff for his mistress. 621 00:26:56,320 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 1: I'm fifty to fifty on this answer. I received cards 622 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 1: when I was younger with money, and it was the 623 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: same routine. Aunts and uncles would give me one hundred 624 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 1: dollars per card, and my dad always gave them to 625 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,960 Speaker 1: me when I was younger. One hundred dollars per card. 626 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 2: You get hundreds growing up, not as a child. Yeah, 627 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 2: I got like twenty bucks. I always get like hundreds 628 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 2: of My mom would keep them put in the bank 629 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:18,199 Speaker 2: for me. 630 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: What the heck, Yeah, I'm getting I. 631 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,120 Speaker 2: Got a lot of savings. That's so much I have 632 00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:23,960 Speaker 2: no idea about. 633 00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 1: That's great. I love that for you. I I did 634 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,120 Speaker 1: not get one hundreds growing up. No, wow, I get 635 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 1: them at like gret you know, I got them at 636 00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:34,200 Speaker 1: my twenty first birthday and my graduation party. But you know, 637 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 1: as I was graduating, yeah. 638 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 2: I get like one hundred. Probably get like four or 639 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 2: five hundreds. 640 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Wow, okay, love that for you. As 641 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,199 Speaker 1: I got older, obviously, the money reduced to twenty to 642 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,760 Speaker 1: forty dollars. I do believe my dad would give me 643 00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 1: back half my money in those cards back, which would 644 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 1: make sense as to how he was able to make 645 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 1: such huge expenses on his mistress. I need to collect 646 00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 1: proper evidence, so I plan on calling my aunts and 647 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 1: uncles and other relatives who would send me myne he's 648 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 1: literally stealing his kids' money. That's shack number two. The 649 00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: mistress would send letters addressed as a business or a 650 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 1: credit card company. If you asked me, they were doing 651 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 1: the most. When my mom would check the mail, she 652 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,280 Speaker 1: would see the letters that were addressed to my dad 653 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,359 Speaker 1: as bills or some crazy bs and never open them 654 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,920 Speaker 1: because she doesn't handle the bills. A lot of packages 655 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:19,960 Speaker 1: were sent by the mistress as well, which is why 656 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: he went through my packages. And I don't want to 657 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,879 Speaker 1: imagine what kind of crap she was mailing him. And 658 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,680 Speaker 1: now for the update, the long awaited updates. 659 00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:29,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is going to happen. 660 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,840 Speaker 1: I think that the mom and the dad are going 661 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,920 Speaker 1: to divorce and they're going to go no contact. It's 662 00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 1: my idea. 663 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:38,280 Speaker 2: Only reasonable thing they could do. 664 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean he's literally cheating and stealing their mail. 665 00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,280 Speaker 1: Like I said before, it's been a few weeks since 666 00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:45,400 Speaker 1: it happened. I've been doing my best to comfort my 667 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,640 Speaker 1: mother while she deals with all the legal business. And 668 00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:51,239 Speaker 1: my dad's constant appeals to my mom to apologize and 669 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,520 Speaker 1: beg for forgiveness too little, too late. I've been listening 670 00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: to her, and she keeps spiraling between wanting to forgive 671 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,320 Speaker 1: him and cursing him to help. I told her my 672 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 1: own personal opinion, which was to never take back a cheater. 673 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,120 Speaker 1: She did basically everything for him, and she shouldn't see 674 00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,160 Speaker 1: it as her not being enough for him. That's his 675 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 1: fault for not appreciating her. So true. Not you didn't 676 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 1: cause your cheater husband to cheat. He did that on 677 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 1: his own. The mistress also was a married woman. Oh God, 678 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 1: two relationships. Yikes. My mom reached out to and this 679 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,200 Speaker 1: is also the family friend I forgot ooh MESSI. My 680 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 1: mom reached out to her husband, sending him the letters 681 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,280 Speaker 1: she had taken photos of. Oh even had a long 682 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: phone call with him about what was going on. 683 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:34,760 Speaker 2: Ah. 684 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 1: He initiated the divorce and the mistress is now angry 685 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: at my father for not being more careful. Yikes, that 686 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,280 Speaker 1: is not the takeaway. The mistress's ex husband, who all 687 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:46,400 Speaker 1: call Henry, has been a best friend of my mom's 688 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,000 Speaker 1: throughout the legal cases. I hear the mistress is still 689 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 1: reaching out to forgive him, which I honestly think is 690 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,240 Speaker 1: very funny since my dad is doing the same thing. Wait, 691 00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 1: they're what they're forgiving the people they cheated on. Weird. 692 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 1: She was financially dependent on Henry, and my dad isn't 693 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 1: making enough at his job to support the lifestyle she wants. Yesterday, 694 00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 1: Henry asked my mom to come out to lunch with him. 695 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,280 Speaker 1: They've been sad shut ins for the past few days, 696 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 1: and they agreed to go get some fresh air. I 697 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 1: encouraged my mom to do such and to call me 698 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 1: if my dad or the mistress decided to show face 699 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:19,520 Speaker 1: when they went, just so I could pick her up. 700 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: My dad hasn't apologized to me at all about reading 701 00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 1: my mail. In fact, he's called me and left me 702 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,000 Speaker 1: voicemails telling me that this whole situation was my fault. 703 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 1: How does he gather that then going and crying saying 704 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,720 Speaker 1: he regrets everything and he hopes he can still be 705 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,840 Speaker 1: my dad. I honestly don't know what to do with 706 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,520 Speaker 1: him right now, other than ignore him. I don't know 707 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:40,760 Speaker 1: if there will be another update, but I will if 708 00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 1: something major happens. I hope some of what I said 709 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,880 Speaker 1: it clears things up for you all. Whoa, that's a lot. 710 00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:49,800 Speaker 2: That's the same. It's your fault. 711 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 1: It's sureful. 712 00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 2: It's yourful that you found it. Dude. The still the 713 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 2: night of the store was like, stop reading my mail. 714 00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:58,080 Speaker 2: Still has gotten the hit. 715 00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:01,440 Speaker 1: He still hasn't. No, Oh, he's like, it's not my fault. 716 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:03,560 Speaker 1: I had to do it to cheat on my wife. 717 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 1: Oh really, who's the victim here? Yeah? I know this 718 00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,880 Speaker 1: guy sucks. He abandoned his family. Ope, I feel bad 719 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: for Ope. Yeah. Those are my takeaways. 720 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 2: Those are your takeaways. 721 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 1: I feel bad. It just sucks. 722 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 2: Don't reap other people's now. 723 00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't do that. Guys, don't do it. It's illegal. 724 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 2: I love that, don't love. But it's funny how the 725 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 2: mistress found a way to communicate to him. 726 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like, we need to do it over now. 727 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 2: This is the way. 728 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,080 Speaker 1: Back in the day, They're like, we must communicate through carrier. 729 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,240 Speaker 1: Pigeon to talk about cheating. 730 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 2: What's your carrierigon's name? Yeah, old Wilson. It's just your 731 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 2: last name, yeah, Wilson. Just a good pigeon name. 732 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:50,880 Speaker 1: Just a good pigeon name, you know. You know those 733 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 1: types of names that like really strike you as pigeon names. 734 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:53,920 Speaker 2: That's a good one. 735 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,520 Speaker 1: That's how they do. Like Henry, Henry the pigeon. Is 736 00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: that a pigeonname? 737 00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:58,719 Speaker 2: So proper? 738 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 1: Henry? Now I feel like Philip. 739 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:03,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to let my kids fell little