1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: I'm abandoning my fiance right before I get married, but 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: I have a good excuse. We see a lot of 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: excuses on the show about why people leave. Let's see 4 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: if this one is up to snuff. 5 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 2: We got another. 6 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: Solo for you, but but this time, let's give Riley 7 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: some love. Throw we miss Riley in the comments, if 8 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: you miss our boy. I'm doing this truly solo today. 9 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:18,440 Speaker 2: Let's dive in. 10 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: I thirty nine female, worked really hard at building my 11 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: relationship with Ryan forty three male. I accommodated him into 12 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: my schedule, did things to help him feel loved and appreciated, 13 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: and did my best to be a doting girlfriend. I'm 14 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: ashamed to admit it, but after all I've done, I 15 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: feel that I can't stand him. 16 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 2: I don't even hate him. I'm just repulsed. That sucks. 17 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 2: You were repulsed? How did you start dating? 18 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: I discovered that he's extremely immature and not in a fun, 19 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: loving way. Whenever I point this out, he says that 20 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: he's like Peter Pan. This used to cause emotional distress, 21 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: but I've passed that. He's a very controlling person who 22 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: still thinks being mommy's little boy is kind of achievement. 23 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 1: He talks about his childhood very vividly and acts like 24 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: he's still able to get away with anything. Ryan describes 25 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: his freaky fun time encounters with his exes in detail, 26 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 1: despite making me feel horrible. 27 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 2: I don't feel appreciated. 28 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: He hushes me whenever I bring up my heritage because 29 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: it's only keeping me tied to the past. 30 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 2: My god, you really haven't grown up. 31 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: This man is operating at a five year old level 32 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 1: right now. 33 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 2: Jeez. 34 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: He criticized my love for my childhood home and got 35 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: very triggered because I mentioned some dear high school friends 36 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: who happened to be guys. I've built a good career 37 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: while he games all the time. 38 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 2: I'm fed up. 39 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 1: In three years, I worked hard to complete my MBA, 40 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,919 Speaker 1: consolidate my small business, and now I have some major 41 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: companies as clients. 42 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 2: Hey, nice weargo, but we always salute a boss on 43 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 2: this show. That is correct. 44 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: Ryan keeps relying on favors to get a job, and 45 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: he keeps getting fired. What I've asked him to control 46 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: his instincts to get freebies, He's content with getting free 47 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: stuff instead of actually buying something he likes. Like last summer, 48 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: he dragged me to a kiosk at the farmer's market 49 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: because the guy offered him a free sandwich. What's eating 50 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: me up is that he can't give me a straight 51 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:21,359 Speaker 1: answer after I've become suspicious that he's lied about his degree. 52 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 1: This is very serious because it means he lied about 53 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: his prospects and he allowed me to include him in 54 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: my life, and somehow he's tried to force me to 55 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: be responsible for him. All right, this is actually a 56 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: very interesting scenario. I'm very curious in the comments, So 57 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 1: you should never lie to your partner, obviously in general, 58 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: but also about your degree. 59 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 2: But how is this worthy of ending the relationship? 60 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: I wonder because as Op was saying like it sounds 61 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: like he's like maybe he's saying like, oh, I have 62 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: all these job opportunities based on this degree that I have, 63 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: and maybe it's all this web of Lie's house of 64 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: cars that's about to come crashing down on him. 65 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 2: But while it is very bad in. 66 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: Such a huge life detail to lie about, it's obviously 67 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 1: not cheating. It's obviously not something that is, I guess 68 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: even more directly tied to the relationship. So I'm curious 69 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: everyone right now put in the comments. Do you think 70 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 1: that lying about the degree is worthy of leaving the relationship. 71 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 1: I'm just very curious to hear everyone's perspectives. My feelings 72 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,399 Speaker 1: for him have changed since last New Year's Eve, when 73 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 1: he stood me up to go see his family and 74 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to join. My man continues to be 75 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: a class act. We had already made plans for a quiet, 76 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: romantic evening, and I brought the food and the wine, 77 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: and he waited until two pm to let. 78 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 2: Me know that I would be spending it alone. 79 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: He said mother in law needed him because New Year's 80 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 1: Eve gives her flashbacks from father in law. As some background, 81 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: father in law left her in the nineties and married 82 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: his mistress in the two thousands. A. Yeah, that's that's 83 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: not fun. I felt horrible. He knew New Year's Eve 84 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: is important to me and that I was looking forward 85 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: to a mantic evening. That my family lives on the 86 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: other side of the country. He knows being here is 87 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: a sacrifice for me because I have kids that I 88 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 1: bend over backwards to spend time with, and that flying 89 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: every Wednesday to see them is a huge part of 90 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 1: being present. Wow, okay, op is literally catching flights and feelings, 91 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:25,599 Speaker 1: maybe to see your children. Meanwhile, our man over here 92 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: is playing video games, throwing his life down to the drain, 93 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: possibly lying about his degree. 94 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 2: Also, I'm very curious. I want to see. 95 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: Hopefully we have upcoming some interactions between her and op 96 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: Obviously we have interaction of him leaving her to BM 97 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: to spend New Year's Eve alone after they made explicit 98 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: plans to do it. Like, totally understand that his mom 99 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 1: probably is pretty heartbroken around that time of year. I'm 100 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: sure it is great for her to have someone to 101 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: spend that time with, But how did this not come 102 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: up sooner? They've been dating for three years. Obviously he 103 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: knows that she knows about his mom's situation. What if 104 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: he just went there and was like, Hey, I'm so sorry. 105 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 1: Maybe this year I am gonna go with my mom 106 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: and just like be with her and spend some time 107 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: with her, versus letting Ope do all this work to 108 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: get everything together. 109 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,279 Speaker 2: After doing all this work to build a small business. 110 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: And fly to see her children every Wednesday, is not 111 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 1: looking good for you, my boy. Editors note this reference 112 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: is to her kids and it's explained in the comments 113 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: of the update of the post. I guess we're going 114 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: to get to that later. I took a client whose 115 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: deadline was January second. Their culture doesn't celebrate in New 116 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: Year's Eve. Ah, that sucks, and I agreed because I 117 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,479 Speaker 1: needed the money. That was a game changer for me. 118 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: But my heart was broken after that. I've tried to 119 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: work around not losing my love for him, but what 120 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: I feel is that I'm experiencing the pain of losing 121 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 1: respect for this man. 122 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 2: I can't stand it. 123 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 1: I can't even look at him, and I feel very 124 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: guilty because I'm finding my happiness behind his back. I 125 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 1: feel like I'm doing something wrong. I constantly make up 126 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 1: supposed work schedules just to get away from him. I 127 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: can't take this anymore. We'll dive into this more later, 128 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: but Op, it just seems like it's just simply not 129 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 1: working anymore. 130 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 2: And you know it. 131 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 1: He probably knows it too, to a degree, although he's 132 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: like very childish. Maybe that's an act that he kind 133 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,919 Speaker 1: of puts up to possibly even deal with this. Maybe not, 134 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: but at the very least, I think let him know 135 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,039 Speaker 1: these feelings. As hard as a conversation as that is. 136 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: I'm curious everyone, what would you do let me know. 137 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: In the comments below, his sister asked me to allow 138 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: her to have her wedding at my place because she 139 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 1: can't afford anything else. And now she's not speaking to me, 140 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 1: but she still expects me to host her. Okay, wait, wait, wait, 141 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: it seems like maybe OP has already decided to leave 142 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:40,160 Speaker 1: the relationship. 143 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 2: We'll keep reading. 144 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: I agreed on having the wedding where I live because 145 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: I thought we could actually get to know each other 146 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: and it would help create a good relationship, which is 147 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 1: important to me. I don't know if she's not speaking 148 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: to me because she feels she doesn't need me anymore, 149 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: or because there's something I don't know that's happened. I'm 150 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: mentioning this because my sister in law female forty one 151 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,719 Speaker 1: my mother in law female sixty nine, have a history 152 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,479 Speaker 1: of playing the victim, and sister in law finds ways 153 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: to get aggravated constantly. I tried to talk to her 154 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: and she simply ignored my calls and messages. I thought 155 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: that because of this, she had decided to have her 156 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: wedding elsewhere, But now I'm being informed that I need 157 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: to remove my pets on my furniture so that she 158 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: can use my living room for her ceremony. 159 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 2: All right, listen, you can't have your cake and eat 160 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 2: it too. 161 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: You can't ghost your sister in law, not talk to her, 162 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: and then still expect to have the wedding at your house. 163 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 2: The math a math in ladies and gentlemen. 164 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: I texted and called to get clarification and was left unseen, 165 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: and honestly, I got pissed, as you should. It feels 166 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: like I'm begging to be part of their family. I'm 167 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 1: so angry and I told him and he basically kind 168 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: of shrugged. I've decided to just move out without telling him. 169 00:07:55,000 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 1: Wow oh man, and to be clear him meaning ope's man. 170 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: I talked to my landlord so that I can leave 171 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: two months earlier. I'll just take my pets and everything 172 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:10,119 Speaker 1: I own while he's at work and just drive off. 173 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 1: I'm feeling tired of feeling lonely within this relationship. Last month, 174 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: I was inducted into a career guild and refused to 175 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: take him as my plus one because they didn't want 176 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: any pictures of him next to me. 177 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 2: It would ruin the moment. I don't owe him anything. 178 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: He left me basically alone when I had COVID and 179 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: was very irritated whenever I asked him if he could 180 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: buy me some food. And also I owe him nothing 181 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: of what I am as he has never celebrated me 182 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: while I bent over backwards to help his mom. Despite 183 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 1: her attitude, I spent my birthday alone because he was busy. Okay, 184 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: we got to take a quick pause right here. So this, 185 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: I think is the territory where Opie might be metamorphosizing, evolving, changing, 186 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 1: growing into the ahole because it's very understandable, I think 187 00:08:56,800 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: with what OPI's saying, like, look at the situation with 188 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: Opie's husband where he's not going to the romantic dinner 189 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: that OPI planned for New Year's Eve, just generally seemingly 190 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 1: not being supportive as a partner, not just not pulling 191 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: his own weight. But there's something to be said of, like, 192 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: you know, he's not getting a job and all these 193 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: things for himself. I'm curious, like who owns the house, 194 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:18,079 Speaker 1: who pays for the house in the mortgage or I 195 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,680 Speaker 1: guess they have a landlord, actually, so are they splitting 196 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: the rent? Where's this guy even getting any of his 197 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: money from But all of these experiences kind of collectively 198 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: added up, ad it up, add it up, add it up. 199 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: And I don't know how much that op communicated this 200 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 1: to him, which understandably is a very very hard thing 201 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:38,560 Speaker 1: to talk about. But it seems like all these things 202 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: kind of stacked up to the point where OPI was like, 203 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: I'm done, I'm out. I would say that he at 204 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:47,319 Speaker 1: least should get an explanation, not that he like quote 205 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: unquote deserves it per se. I think that's just a 206 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 1: good practice to go by, especially like with this relationship 207 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: this sister in law less so but specifically talking about 208 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: her just leaving her partner, which it seems so far 209 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: that she is like leaving, leaving and you know, might 210 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 1: be preparing. 211 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 2: To get ready for a divorce or something. 212 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: But I'm curious, do you think OPI is the a 213 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:13,440 Speaker 1: hole if she walks out without telling her husband, just 214 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: leaves basically with no warning, curious to see what y'all 215 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 1: are thinking. All he does is ask how much more 216 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: money I'm going to get in the future. Maybe that's 217 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: the answer on the rent and in the other payment splits. 218 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: I know this is my fault because at some point 219 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: I promised him that I would help him fund his 220 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: dream restaurant, and that was back when things were great 221 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: between us. 222 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 2: Yikes. 223 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 1: I know what's wrong to go back on my word, 224 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 1: but I can't help it. I don't want to be 225 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: in his future and I don't want to invest in 226 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: his life. I'm still down for what I'm doing. I 227 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 1: don't know if I'm being an a hole for planning 228 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:47,719 Speaker 1: on leaving him without telling him. I just don't want 229 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 1: his family to yell at me like they did to 230 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: my other sister in law when she left my brother 231 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 1: in law. Also sister in law can be very volatile, 232 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,319 Speaker 1: and both she and mother in law claimed that they 233 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: have assaulted people. But I don't know if they're just bragging. 234 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: I mean, his family is crazy, don't get me wrong. 235 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. I see no reason with basically leaving, 236 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: with cutting and running, with maybe some explanation to the husband. 237 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 2: I don't think you have to, you know, interact now. 238 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: Granted, there's many interactions that maybe we're not seeing where 239 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:23,200 Speaker 1: OP has to interact with them or you know, is 240 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: kind of hard to escape from. And they seem potentially 241 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: like straight up lunatics. So I get that there, but. 242 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 2: Let's keep reading. 243 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: He has been asking what's going on because I can 244 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: barely hide my content whenever he tries to initiate conversation 245 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 1: about helping him create a business. I'm fed up with 246 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: having to listen to his insistent questions that are making 247 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:44,719 Speaker 1: me feel very uncomfortable. I told him I'm not an 248 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: insistent person. I didn't harass him to come to my 249 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: place when he stood me up on New Year's Eve. 250 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:51,680 Speaker 1: I didn't insist that he give me a present for 251 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 1: my birthday because he's an adults. He says it's different 252 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:58,240 Speaker 1: since a business is a lifelong situation and a birthday 253 00:11:58,240 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 1: gift loses value. 254 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, wow. 255 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,839 Speaker 1: I'm clear on the end of our relationship, but I'm 256 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 1: kind of doubtful about ruining the wedding. It's ten days away, 257 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 1: am I the a hole? And we have some comments 258 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: and an updates, But let's pause here. So Opie is 259 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 1: basically planning on doing this. Opie has not yet pulled 260 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: the trigger. The clock is ticking on the wedding. I 261 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 1: don't know how y'all feel, but I am not anywhere 262 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: near as concerned I would say with the sister in law. 263 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: I feel like the sister in law lost her opportunity 264 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 1: when she started ghosting, op, Like, how do you expect 265 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: planning a wedding is already insane? How on earth in 266 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: any universe can you expect for someone to plan do 267 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 1: all the necessary things, you know, get the caterers in, 268 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: get all the decorations set up, I guess, remove the 269 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: pets from the furniture, whatever you have to do for 270 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,040 Speaker 1: a wedding. How can you expect that to happen while 271 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: you're not communicating? And sounds like almost accidentally or coincidentally 272 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:02,280 Speaker 1: telling like oh yeah, like the sister in law still 273 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 1: plans on hosting out your house, Like yeah, that's that's 274 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: going to happen. That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. So 275 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: the sister law kind of made her own bed and 276 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 1: now she's low key got to lay in it. Obviously 277 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: it's good to tell her and like be upfront and 278 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: say something along the lines of, like, listen, you stopped 279 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,199 Speaker 1: talking to me, so I assumed you weren't going to 280 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: do this. I assumed the wedding was not going to 281 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:24,960 Speaker 1: be at my place since you didn't want to talk 282 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: to me or coordinate any details. Given that there's like 283 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 1: a million details for a wedding, and I have been 284 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 1: going through all of these things, this laundry list of 285 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: things with my husband, with your brother, I am going 286 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: to leave this relationship. Sorry that you know you don't 287 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:40,160 Speaker 1: have a place, but he didn't communicate with me. I'm 288 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 1: leaving this relationship with my brother. It sounds like maybe 289 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: she's leaving the place to him. It's like a place 290 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 1: that she's renting out. So maybe the sister in law 291 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 1: could still, in theory use the place. But I would 292 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: say that it's a lot more reasonable of a scenario, 293 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: especially if op just like is direct with her since 294 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: her down. You know, soon, I think soon is good 295 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: getting it done now, since there's ten days left, so 296 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 1: this sis or not at least has some time to plan. Again, 297 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: not that they were angels to her, but it's the 298 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 1: right thing to do, I think. 299 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 2: And again the husband just he. 300 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: Just keeps showing us why they shouldn't be in a relationship. 301 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:17,080 Speaker 2: And I guess you know, this has been going on 302 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 2: for three years. 303 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: I wonder if there was a tipping point where it 304 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: kind of started becoming more and more apparent and egregious. 305 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: We see this on the show all the time. We 306 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: ask a were they're ever red flags anywhere? 307 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 2: Like anywhere earlier in the. 308 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 1: Relationship, and people just have these rose tinted glasses when 309 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:34,120 Speaker 1: they're in these relationships. They don't see all of these 310 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: red flags until they're outside of a relationship. Hindsight is 311 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 1: twenty twenty. But I would say, you know, you can leave. 312 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: That's that's perfectly fine. I mean, the sister and mother 313 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 1: in laws sound like they're trying to throw hands, So 314 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 1: get yourself out of that situation. 315 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 2: One hundred percent. 316 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: I think it could be you know, you know, a 317 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: text or email or a call or something like that, 318 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:53,200 Speaker 1: just to you know, make. 319 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 2: Sure everyone's safe. 320 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. 321 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 2: And the husband, I think you can leave, just let 322 00:14:58,040 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 2: him know. But maybe I'm wrong, Maybe I'm wrong. Let 323 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 2: me know what y'all think. But let's get into some 324 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 2: relevant comments. Is he on the lease? Make sure you're 325 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 2: covered legally. 326 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 1: He is not on the lease because of his credit 327 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:10,440 Speaker 1: and because when I got this place, I wasn't thinking 328 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: about living with anyone. I will gather all of his 329 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 1: belongings and ship them to his mother's house. 330 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 2: Ah. 331 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: So now we have the answer. So it's not that 332 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 1: the husband is on the lease. Oh he's gonna leave, 333 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:26,080 Speaker 1: which means that the husband is physically soll it's got 334 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 1: to move out immediately. I just gonna send all this stuff. Yeah, 335 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: I think just tell him. I think just tell him 336 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: and let him deal with all that crap. You know 337 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: that that's shipping all of this stuff to his mom. 338 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 1: That's a lot of work. Does he have any redeeming qualities? Yes, 339 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 1: of course, he has a sense of humor that can 340 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 1: be very heartwarming. Unfortunately that changed and it was all 341 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: pranks that stressed people out. He told me that he 342 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: had lupus and would die, and then got mad at 343 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 1: me for crying uncontrollably when he told me the truth 344 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: that it was a joke. Come on, bro, He's not 345 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 1: the type to yell. Although abuse comes from other areas 346 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: in his care. He loves his family, no question about that. 347 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 1: When we got together, I didn't care that he wasn't 348 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: financially sound because he was funny and acted like I mattered. 349 00:16:08,360 --> 00:16:11,040 Speaker 1: We would talk endlessly and he actually made me feel 350 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:12,880 Speaker 1: like I held a place in his life. It was 351 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 1: only after he realized how much I cared for him 352 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: that things went south. Oh God, I've been abandoned emotionally 353 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:24,120 Speaker 1: and physically, and have been treated like a tool to 354 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: promote his image. I just can't look at him anymore. 355 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: Could he be having an affair? Didn't even think of that, 356 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 1: especially with not spending New Year's Eve with you. I've 357 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: had my suspicions, but have no proof. Mother in law 358 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:38,760 Speaker 1: is awfully cozy with his ex girlfriend. But it could 359 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: be someone else. That is part of my aggravation. I 360 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 1: think that they are enabling him. Okay, so this is interesting. 361 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: It looks like that OP was generally voted not the ahole, 362 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:50,480 Speaker 1: So it seems like that's what the people have read 363 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:53,200 Speaker 1: it said. But what are the people of OKAYOP got 364 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 1: to say? That's what I care about? Okay, but you 365 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:57,280 Speaker 1: know what else I care about? This next up day, 366 00:16:57,400 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 1: let's get into. 367 00:16:58,080 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 2: It, TLDR. 368 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: I moved out without telling my ex boyfriend and sister 369 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:08,200 Speaker 1: in law. Oh and they weren't even married. 370 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, wow, all right, and the sister. 371 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:14,399 Speaker 1: In law was still planning a wedding at my place 372 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: despite ignoring my constant calls to sort things out. 373 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 2: So ope, he did did try to communicate, but sister 374 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 2: la Bieghostner want to half the wedding, don't want to 375 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 2: talk to you. 376 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:27,919 Speaker 1: See, I got a short notice to remove my pets 377 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 1: and furniture so that she could have her event. My 378 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:33,480 Speaker 1: wish would have been to leave his stuff at mother 379 00:17:33,560 --> 00:17:35,960 Speaker 1: in law's place and have him figure out that I 380 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 1: left later that day, but mother in law caught me 381 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: dropping off his belongings and this originated the crap show. 382 00:17:43,240 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, yeah, that's such a hard thing to 383 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: pull off. I can see why, you know, Oh man, 384 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: it's about to go down. For a background, this man 385 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:55,240 Speaker 1: and his family ignored me when I was sick with 386 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 1: the VID and my now ex both called off our 387 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 1: New Year plans and excluded me from his family's New 388 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 1: Year's Eve celebration, despite knowing that I was very hurt 389 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: by this. He's a gamer, a lazy leech, in a 390 00:18:07,200 --> 00:18:10,360 Speaker 1: damaging presence, and I lost all my respect for him. 391 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: The wedding was canceled because I went scorched earth thanks 392 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 1: to my best friend who backed me up. First of all, 393 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,960 Speaker 1: thanks to everyone who took the time to offer their advice. 394 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,399 Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting this post to get that kind of attention, 395 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:23,600 Speaker 1: so thanks for the good will. I've been kind of 396 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: inactive due to having to deal with things so that 397 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 1: way I could move out subtle into my new place 398 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: and have lots of work from my daily career stuff. 399 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: Letting them have the wedding at my place after I 400 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:36,879 Speaker 1: was gone was not an option because, as some redditor 401 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 1: pointed out, they could trash the place. Aha. Also, there's 402 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 1: just a lot going on right now. I talked to 403 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 1: my ex boss and was as honest as possible. 404 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:46,280 Speaker 2: She was alarmed. 405 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,959 Speaker 1: Her reaction was four hundred percent more pissed off than 406 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:53,399 Speaker 1: the average redditor. Feeling empathy for my situation, she stepped 407 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 1: in because I couldn't find emergency movers. Wow, there's a 408 00:18:56,520 --> 00:18:58,960 Speaker 1: cargo division at her company, And while she couldn't send 409 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:01,639 Speaker 1: any employees to move my stuff during working hours, she 410 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 1: helped me find some employees who do moving. 411 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 2: Gigs off duty. Wow, Hey, shout out to this boss. 412 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:07,479 Speaker 2: Let's go. 413 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:10,200 Speaker 1: I talked to my family and I explained what's happening. 414 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: I flew my pets to them. I'll be completely moving 415 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:14,920 Speaker 1: back home in a few weeks so that I could 416 00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: have some elbow space because I didn't know if I 417 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: could find a new place asap that was also pet friendly. 418 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 1: The movers were very organized and thankfully took out everything 419 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 1: as quickly as permitted, I followed the Reddit advice and 420 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 1: I changed the locks. I also paid the landlord a 421 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 1: cleaning fee because the advice I got was a very 422 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: eye opening and I didn't want to linger alone. The 423 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: landlord inspected it not too much to inspect except for 424 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: any damages, which there were none, and settled on letting 425 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: me out of the lease. 426 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:43,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. 427 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 1: I mean that could have been really dicey, because I 428 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 1: mean thesees are not always the easiest things to get 429 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:53,439 Speaker 1: out of. Say amen, if you've tried, ever tried to 430 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:56,359 Speaker 1: do that. Not that I've ever done that, but shout 431 00:19:56,359 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 1: out to Opie. Opie like really finessed everything to get 432 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: out and get going in time. Shout out to the 433 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 1: boss who helped her out. But wow, this is quite 434 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:06,200 Speaker 1: an impressive feat, to be honest with you. My lawyer 435 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,560 Speaker 1: gave me plenty of advice, which comes down to him 436 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: having a different address as his official dwelling place to 437 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 1: get his male child support paperwork and where he lists 438 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: himself in official documents. Okay, so for a second, I 439 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: was like, did Ope have any kids? But it looks like, 440 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 1: at least as of this far, OPI doesn't have any 441 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,399 Speaker 1: kids with her ex. She does have two other kids, 442 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 1: but not with this guy. Thank god. As long as 443 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,840 Speaker 1: I kept detailed information of his returning property intact and 444 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:38,159 Speaker 1: not retaining his property, there wasn't much that he could claim. 445 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 1: I put all of his stuff in trash bags and 446 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 1: left it on his mother's porch. It made sense not 447 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 1: to spend a dime on shipping anything. 448 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 2: True. 449 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 1: I recorded everything and took inventory. Nothing was damaged or broken, 450 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: and my lawyer has records. Wow, op OPI played it smart. 451 00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,639 Speaker 1: My best friend is gold Rina, female forty one. She 452 00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:00,320 Speaker 1: dropped everything and had her foot up my butt, telling 453 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,679 Speaker 1: me off for allowing him to get this far in 454 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: terms of treating me badly. She has also arranged for 455 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 1: me to stay with her boyfriend's mom for a few 456 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,120 Speaker 1: days until the new place that I applied to sent. 457 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:11,359 Speaker 2: Me a notice. That is awesome. 458 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,239 Speaker 1: Shout out to Rena. Shout out to Rena. All I 459 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,399 Speaker 1: needed was a room with a bathroom or something. I 460 00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,120 Speaker 1: couldn't deal with putting all my furniture up again. As 461 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: I'm leaving the area soon, I'm paying rent at her 462 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: mother in law's house, although it's three hours away from 463 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: my office and it's not feasible for the long term, 464 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 1: So I'm going to my office two times a week 465 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 1: and doing the rest via video call. 466 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 2: Whatever I do, I won't go back to town. 467 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 1: My former boss says she's concerned and helped me get 468 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,640 Speaker 1: a small office space a meeting room for obligatory phase 469 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: meetings that I can do within a one hour distance 470 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:45,199 Speaker 1: from myself. I'm extremely grateful because I know she's not obligated. 471 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: She was always a boss when she was my superior 472 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 1: way back, but with what she's done for me, I 473 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: would call her, CALLISI and feel like it's real, shout out, 474 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: give it. 475 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 2: That, y'all. 476 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 1: Y'all know I don't watch stuff. I'm finally kind of 477 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 1: started watching that. So she's a queen to queen the 478 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,200 Speaker 1: dragons or the Mama Dragons. Correct me if I'm wrong.