WEBVTT - Carefully Reckless Replay - I Do! Wait, You Don't?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effects. Hey, y'all, what's up. It's your

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<v Speaker 1>Girl j justs hilarious and carefully Reckless. Ain't going nowhere.

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<v Speaker 1>we're back on the air. Welcome back to another Carefully

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<v Speaker 1>Reckless episode with your Girl dress hilarious. Now listen, two

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<v Speaker 1>things happened to me in the past week that I

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<v Speaker 1>need to talk to you all about. Alright, grab your

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<v Speaker 1>t grab your halls. It's story time. Okay. So me

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<v Speaker 1>and my homegirl we're at a restaurant, okay, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>five star. It's really nice. It's a couple sitting across

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<v Speaker 1>from us. Now, this is like a dating scene or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Or if you want to just get dressed up and

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<v Speaker 1>go out have fun with your home girls, take some

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<v Speaker 1>drinks and ship. This is the place to get dressed

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<v Speaker 1>up for. Like I said, five star restaurants the ambiance

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<v Speaker 1>is beautiful, nothing less than ballroom. Okay, back to the

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<v Speaker 1>couple across from us. Now we see them. They're into

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<v Speaker 1>each other. They're like loving on each other. He's complimenting

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<v Speaker 1>her and we're nosy, so we hear this. She's complimenting

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<v Speaker 1>him back. They're cute. I love it. Little cute, beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>black couple. Now, she had on a beautiful gown. It

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't like you know, giving Taylor Swift like stupid gowns.

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<v Speaker 1>It was given like, oh, I'm a bad bitch. It

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<v Speaker 1>was giving like adult prom like. It was very cute though,

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<v Speaker 1>it's very cute. He had on his nice little fitted suit.

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<v Speaker 1>It was cute without the blazer though. It wasn't like

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<v Speaker 1>giving church like, but it was given like very Kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin is. Now, if y'all know anything about Kirk Franklin,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all know what that man can dress his ass off.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. So he had his nice little waves

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<v Speaker 1>and she had her cute little weave. They were cute.

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<v Speaker 1>He gets up, he goes to the bathroom. Now, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a very complimentative woman. I compliment any woman that looks good,

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<v Speaker 1>even if she don't. It's nothing wrong. With uplifting somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if you see a girl and maybe she ain't

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<v Speaker 1>in tip top shape, tell us she's in tip top shape.

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<v Speaker 1>Give us a motivation to go get in tiptop shape,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. Whatever I go over to

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<v Speaker 1>I tell her, you look so fucking cute. You and

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<v Speaker 1>your date look great as a whole. Blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, thank you so much. She's like, you're Jess.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, I'm Samantha. She's like you're lying. I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's me. It's just and so I walk away or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>I tell her she looks cute. He comes back, the

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<v Speaker 1>exchange a few words. He never sat down. This man

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<v Speaker 1>got on his knee and he pulled a ring out

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<v Speaker 1>of his little man purse. Now, yes, he did have

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<v Speaker 1>a man purse. He did not walk in there with

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<v Speaker 1>it like carrying it, you know what I'm saying over

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<v Speaker 1>his shoulder, because that would look like tragically stupid. But

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<v Speaker 1>he had a man purse. He pulled a ring box

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<v Speaker 1>out of his man purse right, got on his knee.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about he bent up that slippery earl. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't know what a slippery, earl is you

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<v Speaker 1>ain't black. It's a church sho But his was cute.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like a cute little doch in gabana church shoe.

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<v Speaker 1>He was. He was very, very cute. He proposed to

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<v Speaker 1>this beautiful girl me and my homegirl was so fucking happy.

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<v Speaker 1>On time. We were screaming, like we was telling other tables,

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<v Speaker 1>alerting them like look, y'all, look, pay attention to y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>He about to propose to her. This is beautiful. So

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<v Speaker 1>now the whole fucking restaurant just about is looking at them,

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<v Speaker 1>and he goes, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, will you

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<v Speaker 1>marry me? Go bitch, I like to just die. I

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<v Speaker 1>pulled out my phone and we recorded everybody recording this ship.

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<v Speaker 1>And she said no. Yeah, she she said no to

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<v Speaker 1>my man's and everybody immediately immediately stopped recording. It was

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<v Speaker 1>not a moment for that. And um, it was very sad,

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<v Speaker 1>i'm gonna say, because the whole restaurant got quiet. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like silence. Not even a fucking cricket was present.

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<v Speaker 1>It was even more awkward than if a cricket would

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<v Speaker 1>be present there. Um, So I just started clapping. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, well, great, maybe y'all are not ready. And

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<v Speaker 1>he turned around and he noticed who I was, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like even more embarrassed because he had saw

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<v Speaker 1>me recording. And I was like, I will never post this.

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<v Speaker 1>I will never hurt your feelings or put your business

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<v Speaker 1>out there like that. But here I am today talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it on the podcast, which I think is more

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<v Speaker 1>respectful than posting the video with with a guy proposing

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<v Speaker 1>and a girl saying, now, now listen, that's that story time.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I got another story I'm gonna get too later,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is what I want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>all about. That brings me to my question, is it

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<v Speaker 1>a dale breaker? Is the relationship over when the girl

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<v Speaker 1>says no, or even the guy? But in this case,

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<v Speaker 1>when the girl says no, is the relationship over? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it should be for quite a few reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>Now y'all gonna ask me why I know this. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I told you they were all for each other. They

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<v Speaker 1>were like loving on each other. Usually these days, you

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<v Speaker 1>go out and you see people on dates, but they're

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<v Speaker 1>in their phones They're not looking at each other, they're

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<v Speaker 1>not playing foot seeds, they're not touching one another anymore

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<v Speaker 1>than I looking into each other's eyes. They were doing

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<v Speaker 1>all of that. Do you understand what I'm saying? They

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<v Speaker 1>were still a beautiful couple, and I can tell that

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<v Speaker 1>they have a lot of love for each other. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know them. I don't know her, don't know

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<v Speaker 1>him from Adam and Eve. But I can tell they

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<v Speaker 1>share a lot of love and a lot of similarities. However,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not on the same page, or she wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>said no. That does not mean she does not want

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<v Speaker 1>to be with him. She even cried, she shed a tear,

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<v Speaker 1>she did. But that is a woman who was sure

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<v Speaker 1>of herself that she's not ready to take that step

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<v Speaker 1>to get married. If I had more time, and if

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<v Speaker 1>I had known her, I would have asked her, well,

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<v Speaker 1>why did you say no? Is it because he's not

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<v Speaker 1>ready you you feel like he has more growing up

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<v Speaker 1>to do? Or you guys are not on the same page.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there something that he just did? Is he just

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<v Speaker 1>proposing to make ship right because he just cheated? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know when I couldn't assume, But what I'm gonna say,

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<v Speaker 1>is the level of attention that they were giving each other.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't lead me to believe that they were over

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<v Speaker 1>after that night. She just wasn't ready to get married,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe she wasn't ready to marry him because she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think he was ready. There could have been so

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<v Speaker 1>many reasons why she didn't say yes. Maybe marriage is

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<v Speaker 1>not in her future. A lot of people feel like

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<v Speaker 1>they don't need to be married. A lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>may feel like they don't need that contractual agreement because

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<v Speaker 1>marriage is a contract. Yes it is. It's something very

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<v Speaker 1>sacred and it's beyond contracts, but illegally it's an agreement,

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<v Speaker 1>and and you're buying it to a person, and a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people feel that that's not necessary to be together,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So she could have thought

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<v Speaker 1>that way, but she could be cheating. Let's just say

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<v Speaker 1>that she she just she couldn't know she ain't ship

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<v Speaker 1>and didn't want to take this man's hand in marriage

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<v Speaker 1>because she still got some working on herself to do. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>it could be him, It could be he is just

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<v Speaker 1>not ready. Now. Listen, it takes a lot for a

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<v Speaker 1>guy to get down on his knee and propose. It

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<v Speaker 1>really does. So I'm not gonna say he wasn't ready.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say that maybe he's not ready to her.

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<v Speaker 1>There are so many factors, so many And when she

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<v Speaker 1>shed that tear, she did tell him that she was sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>and she took his hand and she told him to

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<v Speaker 1>get up, you know, pulled him up, and she kissed

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<v Speaker 1>him and she hugged him. He was piste off as

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<v Speaker 1>a motherfucker. Let me tell you. He turned around when

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<v Speaker 1>he saw me. He was like, yo, like he looks

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<v Speaker 1>so defeated, Like, please don't post that. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>promise her I will not. I will not, But y'all

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<v Speaker 1>look so good. And I want to tell y'all, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>y'all path is, y'all build that ship together, keep it straight.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody can take her away from you. I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know that. And can't nobody take you away from her?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know you know what I'm saying, but those

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<v Speaker 1>are my positive words to them. And they left. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even think he paid the fucking bill. He was

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<v Speaker 1>so embarrassed. I said I should have paid it for him.

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<v Speaker 1>But brings me to my next question and the carefully

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<v Speaker 1>reckless discussion when is the right time to ask someone

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<v Speaker 1>to marry you? When is the right time to propose? Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of people go back and forth

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<v Speaker 1>in their minds or whatever. I don't think you should

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<v Speaker 1>propose if you've never heard your partner talk about marriage. Ever,

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<v Speaker 1>some people just don't have it in their future. Some

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<v Speaker 1>people are just not there yet. Some people just don't

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<v Speaker 1>even think of it. And this looks like a fairly

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<v Speaker 1>young couple, not saying it's it's bad to get married young.

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<v Speaker 1>In some instances it very well is. But they looked

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<v Speaker 1>younger than me. I'm twenty nine, you know I'm and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a hard twenty nine bitch. Sometimes I look thirty,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes I look twenty two. Very seldomly do I look

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<v Speaker 1>twenty two. But but so what they look like they

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<v Speaker 1>were like, but they carried themselves very, very maturely. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think there's ever like there's ever a right time.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think you just have to know there is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be a thought in your mind, something that comes

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<v Speaker 1>over you where you just know it's a feeling, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, It's like a static that goes

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<v Speaker 1>through you. Has to be it has to be. Nobody

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<v Speaker 1>is just going out buying rings and getting on their

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<v Speaker 1>knees and proposing a bitches. Nobody's just doing that. He

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<v Speaker 1>loved that girl, period, right And if this has happened

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<v Speaker 1>to you, taken to consideration in real time, there are

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<v Speaker 1>issues that won't allow someone to say yes. But does

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<v Speaker 1>that mean a relationship is over? No? No, And then listen,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to understand a lot of people get married

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<v Speaker 1>for the wrong reasons, Like you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not saying everybody, but some people do. Like

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<v Speaker 1>and I spoke about this briefly on another podcast episode,

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<v Speaker 1>like I think it was like the fourth or fifth episode.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, you know, people they get married for the

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<v Speaker 1>look of it. You know what I'm saying. They get

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<v Speaker 1>married because it's tradition or I just want to be

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<v Speaker 1>a wife. People love that label as a wife. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying When you haven't even learned yourself

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<v Speaker 1>as an individual, but you're gonna jump into a marriage

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<v Speaker 1>that could have been that girl's preservation, that could have

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<v Speaker 1>been heard Like you know what, No, I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know myself. And when I say that you don't know yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to know yourself in and out before you

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<v Speaker 1>are willing to walk down the aisle and become one

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<v Speaker 1>with someone else, because if you know yourself, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what you won't take, and then you have to know

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<v Speaker 1>the other person because you'll know what they won't take.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a very very big step. That's the biggest step

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship that I say that people take blindly.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at Erica and Safari. I believe that they loved

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<v Speaker 1>the hype. I believe she loved the hype of being married.

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<v Speaker 1>She's always wanted it. She's beautiful. He is a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>guy too, very beautiful personality, what have you. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. But they hate each other now they

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<v Speaker 1>have two children, or that's at least what they want

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<v Speaker 1>us to believe. Whether it's fake or not, because you

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<v Speaker 1>never know what's real anymore. But they can't stand each

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<v Speaker 1>other on the show online and I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what happens behind closed doors, but what they

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<v Speaker 1>show us is they can't stand each other. Two nights ago,

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<v Speaker 1>Eric ameniz As was with fucking Natalie None at a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking lounge talking about I'm saying, oh, throwing middle fingers up, whatever, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>you still got two kids with this man. Goofy. He

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<v Speaker 1>still got two kids with this man. You can live, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you can, you can live because that they were in

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<v Speaker 1>the comments like, oh, she's speaking from her place and

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<v Speaker 1>she gets upset when we tell her the truth. I

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<v Speaker 1>think the only time she's she's ever accepted the truth

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<v Speaker 1>was from Wendy Williams. But we she hates that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I love Erica, I do, but I just feel like

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<v Speaker 1>she's trying so hard to show him that she can

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<v Speaker 1>move on to that it's reflecting on her poorly, very poorly.

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<v Speaker 1>She's going through it and we know this, we know it.

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<v Speaker 1>But maybe you're gonna be okay, you don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>do all of that, you know what I'm saying. And

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<v Speaker 1>she probably like, bitch minjo business whatever bit. No, you

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<v Speaker 1>put it out there, so it's my business now, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. But you don't want to end

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<v Speaker 1>up like that. So at times you can't just say yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And when everything doesn't properly align, you don't just say yes. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>should she have done it differently with you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. You save him the embarrassment, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, because that could scar him from ever doing

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<v Speaker 1>that ship again if they do make it, which I

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<v Speaker 1>think they will, you know what I'm saying, because they

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<v Speaker 1>willed out holding hands still. You know, even though she led,

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<v Speaker 1>he was very embarrassed. I could scream for him. But

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<v Speaker 1>do you think she should have said yes in the

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant and then got in the car or got at home? Like, look, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>I said yes, but I don't want to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because a lot of people say yes to

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<v Speaker 1>spare the God's feelings. You know a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Now, how would I have done it? I

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<v Speaker 1>would have done it the same way depending on where

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<v Speaker 1>we were. Now, if we were around like his family

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<v Speaker 1>or like my family, or you know, at a party

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<v Speaker 1>where you know, he he invited people that I know

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<v Speaker 1>and all that ship, I would have definitely told him

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<v Speaker 1>no in front of them, just to save all the hype,

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<v Speaker 1>just to save everybody's hopes getting up and ship, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Like I I definitely don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be the barrier of bad news, but I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to say yes just to be nice. And

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<v Speaker 1>people are taking pictures. I told you we were recording

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<v Speaker 1>that couple. If somebody records me, it's going up anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>it's me ship, Why the funk Whitney record? And they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be posting and I say, no, that's gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>the first thing on all the blogs. That is not

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<v Speaker 1>what I want to do. I would never want to

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<v Speaker 1>embarrass my partner, my boyfriend, my my man. I would

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<v Speaker 1>never want to embarrass him like that. So I would

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<v Speaker 1>definitely say, Babe, not yet, not yet, or not yet,

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<v Speaker 1>not even no, just not yet. Even if I don't

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<v Speaker 1>plan to ever marry him, I'm gonna say not yet.

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<v Speaker 1>That's still saving his feelings. But being as honest as

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<v Speaker 1>you can without being disrespectful, being you know, being mean

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<v Speaker 1>about it or coming off mean. You can come off

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<v Speaker 1>very mean and not even be aware of that. You understand.

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<v Speaker 1>So if this has ever ever happened to you, make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you hit me up in the d M or

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<v Speaker 1>the email and tell me about the time. Because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to help people do this ship. There's no just

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<v Speaker 1>fix my mess today. I want to help you all privately.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to try to help you all on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. You know what I'm saying. Y'all think I

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<v Speaker 1>make fun of everything, and I do, But I will

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<v Speaker 1>gladly help like, do not leave somebody just because they

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<v Speaker 1>said no to your proposal. It could be so many reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>Now listen. Second thing that happened to me this week.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold up, Hold up. I know the ship getting good,

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<v Speaker 1>but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.

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<v Speaker 1>If you love me, you'll listen. I'm dating. I'm dating

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. He's the only one I'm dating at this point.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still in the end, the beginning stages, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, we're months in, and I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>irritated him a little bit just with my selfishness. And

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you don't know that you're being selfish. Right, So

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<v Speaker 1>he has this thing going on, I have my thing

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<v Speaker 1>going on. Right, He's forever supporting me. He knows my

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<v Speaker 1>schedule before I even tell him, Like he knows where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going before I even tell him, because he's involved.

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<v Speaker 1>He is very hands on with me. He pays attention

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<v Speaker 1>to everything. He is a very attentive guy to me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love it. However, it's not that way vice versa.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. And I was just out

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<v Speaker 1>of town recently. I had to shoot a movie in

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<v Speaker 1>Houston produced by Jamie Fox, and it a returner. Congratulations

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<v Speaker 1>to me, y'all, y'all huh, give me the applause, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Much more coming to the screen now. I was on

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<v Speaker 1>set all night, thirteen fourteen hours. Right back here at home.

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<v Speaker 1>He had an event. Now, he's an event planner. He

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<v Speaker 1>that's what he does. So I text him like eleven

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<v Speaker 1>o'clock and they're like, hey, are you home, just to

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<v Speaker 1>see because I hadn't heard from him, you know, in

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of hours. I'm like, okay, hey, you're home.

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<v Speaker 1>You're good because he had checked on me. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed that he stopped texting me. So I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you home, like you sleep? What's up? You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, keeping tabs, because that's just what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>You keep tabs on your man when you you know

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<v Speaker 1>when you do that. He faced tim to me two

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<v Speaker 1>hours later and he's like, you didn't know where I was?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, no, I thought you were home.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, I had such and such to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I had this. How did you not know that? And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like I didn't know babies, Like how could

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<v Speaker 1>you not know? Like it's like I'm in your world.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm only in your world. You have no regard for

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<v Speaker 1>what I do. It's like you don't care about what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing. But I always care about what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>I always ask you, oh, how is your show? I

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<v Speaker 1>always tell you before you show, you better go kill it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know where you're gonna be. I know what's going on,

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<v Speaker 1>which your schedule. I know everything about your schedule and

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. But you don't know shit. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>keep up with nothing that I do. And it's like

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<v Speaker 1>you don't care, you have no fucking regard. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, for a second, who the funk you talking to?

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<v Speaker 1>But then I had to realize, I'm like, this is very,

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<v Speaker 1>very true. And sometimes you have to take a step

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<v Speaker 1>back and you look and you have to see how

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<v Speaker 1>selfish you are. I'm so spoiled, and yes I can

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<v Speaker 1>be very selfish. I'm a very very good person, sweetheart.

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<v Speaker 1>But one thing I do, I do notice, and he

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<v Speaker 1>brought it to my attention. I go to extra mouth

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<v Speaker 1>for you. You don't do that for me. I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>your world, so you have to kind of collide worlds.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to kind like look at it is given.

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<v Speaker 1>Take in fifty fifty. I want how am I going

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<v Speaker 1>to expect this man to love and support everything I

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<v Speaker 1>do when I don't even take the time too and

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<v Speaker 1>it can literally take me ten seconds to learn his

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<v Speaker 1>schedule or to you know, he he does this ship

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. So it's like, y'all, I should know

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff. You know what I'm saying, especially if you're

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<v Speaker 1>seriously dating somebody. Now, if you're not funk, would dat?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I'm saying? If you're just getting

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<v Speaker 1>a dick and you just you know by bone real

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<v Speaker 1>quick and yeah, but serious dating, yes, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>be just as attentive to your partner as you want

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<v Speaker 1>him to be to you. And that goes for the

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<v Speaker 1>guys as well. And after that conversation we were able

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<v Speaker 1>to move on. He didn't hold the grudge. He even

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<v Speaker 1>said a little joke because I was in the chair

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<v Speaker 1>getting my makeup done before I actually went to film

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<v Speaker 1>on said film my scene. He's very understanding. So that

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<v Speaker 1>brings me back to the first topic. Marriage. Don't relate

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<v Speaker 1>it to me right now. Yes, I want to get married,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's not in my plans right now. Listen, right now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just dating, so shut up. You have to know

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<v Speaker 1>someone inside and out. You have to learn how to

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<v Speaker 1>be selfless. You have to make a lot of sacrifices

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<v Speaker 1>and compromise to get to that point where you say

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<v Speaker 1>yes wholeheartedly when you're being proposed to. That goes for

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<v Speaker 1>men and women, and I want y'all to take that

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<v Speaker 1>with y'all if y'all didn't take anything else. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to be mindful of the partner of who you are with,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you jump into it, you're gonna jump right

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<v Speaker 1>out of it. You're gonna wish you never did. And

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<v Speaker 1>nobody wants to get married just to get divorced, So

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean it's over if she says no, and

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean it's over if he says no. I

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<v Speaker 1>love you, guys, because I know y'all love me. Tune

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<v Speaker 1>in next Wednesday, every hump Day, and then my deepest

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<v Speaker 1>paying voice, clad Sti