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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: we're back on the air. Welcome back to another Carefully

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Speaker 1: Reckless episode with your Girl dress hilarious. Now listen, two

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Speaker 1: things happened to me in the past week that I

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Speaker 1: need to talk to you all about. Alright, grab your

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Speaker 1: t grab your halls. It's story time. Okay. So me

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Speaker 1: and my homegirl we're at a restaurant, okay, and it's

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Speaker 1: five star. It's really nice. It's a couple sitting across

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Speaker 1: from us. Now, this is like a dating scene or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Or if you want to just get dressed up and

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Speaker 1: go out have fun with your home girls, take some

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Speaker 1: drinks and ship. This is the place to get dressed

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Speaker 1: up for. Like I said, five star restaurants the ambiance

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Speaker 1: is beautiful, nothing less than ballroom. Okay, back to the

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Speaker 1: couple across from us. Now we see them. They're into

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Speaker 1: each other. They're like loving on each other. He's complimenting

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Speaker 1: her and we're nosy, so we hear this. She's complimenting

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Speaker 1: him back. They're cute. I love it. Little cute, beautiful

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Speaker 1: black couple. Now, she had on a beautiful gown. It

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Speaker 1: wasn't like you know, giving Taylor Swift like stupid gowns.

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Speaker 1: It was given like, oh, I'm a bad bitch. It

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Speaker 1: was giving like adult prom like. It was very cute though,

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Speaker 1: it's very cute. He had on his nice little fitted suit.

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Speaker 1: It was cute without the blazer though. It wasn't like

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Speaker 1: giving church like, but it was given like very Kirk

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Speaker 1: y'all know what that man can dress his ass off.

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Speaker 1: I love it. So he had his nice little waves

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Speaker 1: and she had her cute little weave. They were cute.

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Speaker 1: He gets up, he goes to the bathroom. Now, I'm

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Speaker 1: a very complimentative woman. I compliment any woman that looks good,

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Speaker 1: even if she don't. It's nothing wrong. With uplifting somebody.

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Speaker 1: Even if you see a girl and maybe she ain't

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Speaker 1: in tip top shape, tell us she's in tip top shape.

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Speaker 1: Give us a motivation to go get in tiptop shape,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Whatever I go over to

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Speaker 1: I tell her, you look so fucking cute. You and

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Speaker 1: your date look great as a whole. Blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: She's like, thank you so much. She's like, you're Jess.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm Samantha. She's like you're lying. I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 1: I tell her she looks cute. He comes back, the

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Speaker 1: exchange a few words. He never sat down. This man

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Speaker 1: got on his knee and he pulled a ring out

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Speaker 1: of his little man purse. Now, yes, he did have

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Speaker 1: a man purse. He did not walk in there with

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Speaker 1: it like carrying it, you know what I'm saying over

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Speaker 1: he had a man purse. He pulled a ring box

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Speaker 1: out of his man purse right, got on his knee.

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about he bent up that slippery earl. Now,

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Speaker 1: if you don't know what a slippery, earl is you

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Speaker 1: ain't black. It's a church sho But his was cute.

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Speaker 1: It was like a cute little doch in gabana church shoe.

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Speaker 1: He was. He was very, very cute. He proposed to

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Speaker 1: this beautiful girl me and my homegirl was so fucking happy.

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Speaker 1: On time. We were screaming, like we was telling other tables,

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Speaker 1: He about to propose to her. This is beautiful. So

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Speaker 1: And she said no. Yeah, she she said no to

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Speaker 1: my man's and everybody immediately immediately stopped recording. It was

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Speaker 1: not a moment for that. And um, it was very sad,

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Speaker 1: don't think it should be for quite a few reasons.

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Speaker 1: Now y'all gonna ask me why I know this. Listen,

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Speaker 1: I told you they were all for each other. They

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Speaker 1: all of that. Do you understand what I'm saying? They

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Speaker 1: were still a beautiful couple, and I can tell that

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Speaker 1: I don't know them. I don't know her, don't know

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Speaker 1: she did. But that is a woman who was sure

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Speaker 1: Is there something that he just did? Is he just

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Speaker 1: It doesn't lead me to believe that they were over

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Speaker 1: after that night. She just wasn't ready to get married,

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Speaker 1: didn't think he was ready. There could have been so

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Speaker 1: many reasons why she didn't say yes. Maybe marriage is

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Speaker 1: marriage is a contract. Yes it is. It's something very

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Speaker 1: sacred and it's beyond contracts, but illegally it's an agreement,

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Speaker 1: lot of people feel that that's not necessary to be together,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So she could have thought

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Speaker 1: There are so many factors, so many And when she

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Speaker 1: shed that tear, she did tell him that she was sorry,

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Speaker 1: get up, you know, pulled him up, and she kissed

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Speaker 1: Nobody can take her away from you. I don't even

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Speaker 1: But brings me to my next question and the carefully

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of people go back and forth

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Speaker 1: in their minds or whatever. I don't think you should

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Speaker 1: some people just don't have it in their future. Some

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Speaker 1: In some instances it very well is. But they looked

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Speaker 1: through you. Has to be it has to be. Nobody

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Speaker 1: loved that girl, period, right And if this has happened

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Speaker 1: for the wrong reasons, Like you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm not saying everybody, but some people do. Like

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Speaker 1: and I spoke about this briefly on another podcast episode,

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Speaker 1: like I think it was like the fourth or fifth episode.

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, people they get married for the

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Speaker 1: a wife. People love that label as a wife. You

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Speaker 1: that could have been that girl's preservation, that could have

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Speaker 1: what you won't take, and then you have to know

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Speaker 1: Look at Erica and Safari. I believe that they loved

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