1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:05,080 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 3 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:17,080 Speaker 3: You look nice today as to you, Thank you so much. 4 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 4: Something significant happened this morning. 5 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 3: Yes it did. 6 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 4: I beat Tanya to work to the. 7 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 3: Podcast, Yes she did. Yes, what was it like that? 8 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 3: They know? 9 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 2: What this makes me think is that if you weren't 10 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 2: already here for your morning show, that this would happen 11 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 2: more often. 12 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 4: No, I think. So let me tell you why. There's 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 4: no proof. 14 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 3: No, let me tell you why. 15 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 1: I really cut it short this morning because I had 16 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,919 Speaker 1: a meeting. I had a meeting scheduled. 17 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 4: Cut it close. 18 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 3: I cut it too close. 19 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 1: So I had a meeting scheduled and it was when 20 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: we were going to record an hour later than we 21 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:54,639 Speaker 1: had planned, and then we moved the time up an hour, 22 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: and I was like, you know what, I'm not going 23 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: to switch my meeting because I think it's just going 24 00:00:57,440 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: to be half an hour anyway. 25 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: But I did cut it too close. Yeah, I was seven. 26 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 2: I was like seven minutes earlier than you. You were 27 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 2: seven minutes late. 28 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 3: Actually, how it's funny. 29 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: Is I was going to text on my way and 30 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: because I knew I was going to be late, but 31 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: I was like, that's not going to be the wrong time. 32 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 3: So it's fine. Whenever I'll get there, we'll start it 33 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 3: like whatever. 34 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 2: It's nice to prove everyone we're wrong once in a while. Yeah, 35 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,199 Speaker 2: not often, but every once in a while. 36 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 3: Every seven years. How long has it been, I've been 37 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:25,199 Speaker 3: doing the podcast six. 38 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:29,840 Speaker 2: Years something like that. Yeah, yeah, it'll be six years September. 39 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 2: I think first time I was after you, so it's 40 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 2: my own so I. 41 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 4: Think there's been once or twice. Anyways, it's been a 42 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:37,120 Speaker 4: long time. 43 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:40,320 Speaker 2: And again, don't have your expectations set on this happening again. 44 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 2: But it did happen on this day, which is May 45 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 2: twenty fifth, and that is the reveal that we were 46 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 2: recording this early because it's Memorial Day. 47 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 3: It's Memorial Day. 48 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 4: But the big news. 49 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 2: That has happened since the last top because we had 50 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 2: Camilla on and we didn't do like a host chat 51 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 2: where we like caught up on what's been going on. 52 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know everybody was messaging me about your one 53 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: year anniversary. 54 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 2: Oh that that did happen, But I was gonna talk 55 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 2: about your hashimotives reversal. 56 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 4: Well with you Okay, Yeah, it's. 57 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 2: Been a year since I, I guess since Haley and 58 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 2: I came out publicly as a couple, and I guess 59 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: I came out and actually I kind of I knew 60 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 2: it was coming up and around that time, but my 61 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 2: cousin actually texted me and she was like, uh. 62 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 3: You didn't happen to get your lender? 63 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 2: No? Interesting, And I don't know that like I'll celebrate 64 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 2: every single year of like. 65 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 4: Mike coming out. 66 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 3: I mean it's nice. 67 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 2: No, no, no, it's I mean it's a very It 68 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 2: was like a obviously like a huge deal in my life. 69 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 2: And I think that this past year was so it 70 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 2: was such a different feeling this year. It was like 71 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 2: free and joyful and beautiful and I felt so much 72 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,799 Speaker 2: love and support. And there's also been hard conversations I 73 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,360 Speaker 2: think sometimes with especially with social media, as we all know, 74 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 2: people just see. 75 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 4: Like the highs, and obviously coming out is a. 76 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 2: It's you kind of feel a lot of different things 77 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 2: when you do it because there's people who you know, 78 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 2: in quotes, don't get it, and it's. 79 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 4: Not really for people to get. 80 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 2: It's not something that people need to get to be 81 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 2: able to love someone else and support people, and so 82 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 2: with the like really high highs, there were also hard 83 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 2: conversations that were had, but all in all, it just 84 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 2: it was so nice, like it flew by. 85 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 4: It went by so fast. I didn't even realize it 86 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 4: had been a whole year. 87 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: I had the same thought. I was like, wow, because 88 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: I remember the night of the music video coming out. Yeah, 89 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: I went to that bar in West Hollywood. Yeah, and 90 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: I remember that night so vividly, and it feels like 91 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: that was ten years ago. 92 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 4: Oh it feels far to you. Yeah, oh see, Like 93 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 4: to me, it feels like forever. 94 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 2: Ago, six months, Like it feels like that, like right, 95 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 2: it when summer was kind of ending, but it wasn't. 96 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 2: It was like when summer was actually beard inning. 97 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 3: Remember Summers for the Girls? 98 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 4: Yes, that's right. 99 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, So yeah, it's it's been great. 100 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 4: I am still. 101 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 2: I mean I still and even still when I posted 102 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 2: about it, getting like messages from people and the reminder 103 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 2: of it being like so much bigger than my story 104 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 2: and my relationship is just always like an emotional experience, 105 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: like reading messages from people who are either still going 106 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 2: through the process of feeling ready or comfortable, and I 107 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 2: remember being in that like that feeling and being like, well, 108 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 2: I ever actually share this part of my life publicly 109 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,280 Speaker 2: because there were times where I was like, yeah, there's. 110 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: No year for four years you didn't. Yeah, but there 111 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 1: was like crazy to think. 112 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 2: About for four years you did not I know. But 113 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:54,160 Speaker 2: it's also a reminder of how you have to do 114 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 2: things on your own time. Like I know, there was 115 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 2: time where I felt like, I know Hayley, doesn't you know. 116 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: At the beginning of our relationships, she was like, I 117 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 2: don't want to feel hidden, and so I remember thinking like, 118 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:06,599 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, do I need to like rush myself 119 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 2: to be ready to do this? But then she was like, 120 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 2: I don't need you to rush yourself. I just I 121 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 2: don't want to be hidden. So that's when it was 122 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,479 Speaker 2: kind of like, okay, privacy, there's privacy. 123 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 4: And there's hiding. 124 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I lived my life like around everyone who 125 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 2: knows me. Yeah, there was no privacy in that regard, but. 126 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 3: It is so wild to think about it. 127 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 1: And actually I remember me I realized that when we 128 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: had Camilla on because I forget how long you've been 129 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: dating Haley, I know, but how long we've all known 130 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: about it is like I. 131 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 2: Know, I know Haley and I were talking last night 132 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 2: and I was just we were facetiming and just you know, 133 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 2: being like, I miss you, I miss you. And she 134 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 2: was like, isn't it cool that we've been together for 135 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 2: five years and we're still like obsessed with each other 136 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 2: like that we still are like having a hard time 137 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 2: being away. 138 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 4: From each other. It was like, yeah, it's really cool, 139 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 4: but also it sucks. So anyways, do you still. 140 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 3: Think you're in the honeymoon phase? 141 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think there's I think it's like 142 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 2: the honeymoon phase, but mixed with the phase of like feelings. 143 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 2: I wrote this I will not read it because I 144 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 2: have embarrassing things on my notes. I just wrote these 145 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 2: thoughts about how sometimes I feel nostalgic for. 146 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 3: I say it thoughts down. This is really all I 147 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 3: needed to hear when that start happening. 148 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 5: Sitting under an elm tree, just jogging down your thoughts. 149 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,919 Speaker 2: Like dream that would be my perfect scenario, being in 150 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 2: the park. 151 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: He has been saying that like he's like Becca's turning 152 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,719 Speaker 1: a little Tanya lately. I don't know if you've been 153 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 1: noticing it, and that this just really is. 154 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 2: Something people always say that I've always been this way, 155 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 2: Like I've always written things down, like forever, even when 156 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: I was like with Robert, I would write things down 157 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 2: that I'm like a hopeless romantic. So I wrote down 158 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 2: how these thoughts about feeling nostalgic for the beginning of 159 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 2: the relationship, where it was just like you're like obsessive, 160 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 2: you can't get enough of each other. It's like it's 161 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: almost like unsafe because you feel like you're literally falling. Yeah, 162 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 2: I mean that's why it's falling in love, because you're 163 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 2: like you're just holding on for dear life, hoping it 164 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 2: works out. And then I was thinking about how I 165 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 2: still feel that way, but there's like a safety, like 166 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 2: I don't feel like I'm gonna hit the ground, like 167 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm I'm like still in that phase 168 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 2: of a like being obsessed in the honeymoon phase. 169 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 4: But I feel safe, yeah, which is like so comforting. 170 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 2: So it's that safety of like being together for a 171 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 2: long time and like knowing each other and feeling vulnerable 172 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 2: enough to share like the scary dark parts of life 173 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 2: with that person, and also feeling that rush of being 174 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 2: in love for the first time. 175 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: That's a good run five years, Yeah, that's what I'm saying, 176 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: and I feel like a lot of people say it 177 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:05,679 Speaker 1: ends after two years. 178 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, is that the market? 179 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 3: That's the market. 180 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: So that's what I've read as as it's kind of 181 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: like two to three year mark. 182 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 3: Is that how you feel? 183 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 1: Uh, I still feel like I'm in the honeymoon phase. 184 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 3: I still feel like because I still feel what you feel. 185 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: I still feel like that same kind of like giddiness 186 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: in ways, but I do feel I get what you're 187 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: saying with like the safety, like it feels more concrete. Yeah, 188 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: because like in the beginning, you're you don't know, I mean, 189 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: you know when you're gonna see the person again, but 190 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: you just want to see them. You don't know when 191 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 1: you're gonna see them, you don't when they're going to text. 192 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: Like I know where he is at all the time 193 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: of the day. 194 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 4: You know where everyone is watching. 195 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,199 Speaker 1: So like there's that level of comfort or I guess 196 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: as you'd say, safety, But I do still feel like 197 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: I have that giddiness, you know, like I still stare 198 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: at him. 199 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 3: Like like he's like my new friend. 200 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:04,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, great, happy for both of us. Has it been 201 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 2: three years three. 202 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 3: And a half? Whoh yeah, yep. 203 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 4: Sure, Like it's been three and a half years and 204 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 4: four days. 205 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 3: Years and six months accounting. 206 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 4: Well, happy for y'all. 207 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 3: Thanks, happy for y'all. 208 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 4: Thank you so much. Okay, and massive news. 209 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 2: This is actually huge because I gotta be honest, I 210 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 2: don't This is a weird thing to describe for how 211 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 2: I was feeling about your hashimotives because in my mind, 212 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 2: I was like, she's gonna do it, but I didn't 213 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 2: know that you would be able to do it as 214 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 2: fast as you did to reveal the information for those 215 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 2: who don't know. 216 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 3: Okay, so this is a scrubbing in podcast. 217 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,640 Speaker 1: No, but but we are not medical professionals, so I'm 218 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: just gonna lay that out there. 219 00:09:58,400 --> 00:09:59,319 Speaker 5: We're not y. 220 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:01,439 Speaker 3: We are not medical professionals. 221 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: However, I do want to share my story because I 222 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: feel like so much happens in the like medical world 223 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: where it's just a quick fix of like take this medication, 224 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 1: take this medication, take this, take this medication, and in 225 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: some cases you need to take the medication. So I'm 226 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: not poop pooing medication. But for me, my levels when 227 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: I had when I got diagnosed with hashimotos, my levels 228 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: were so acute, like they were off by let's say 229 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: I don't want to even give numbers, but like it 230 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: wasn't so crazy high, and I was like, if I 231 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:35,079 Speaker 1: don't do anything about this, it's only going to get worse, 232 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like if you don't do something, 233 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:40,079 Speaker 1: things just get worse. If you're sick, you know what 234 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 1: I mean, Like it just gets worse. So I was like, 235 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to do this the holistic approach and just try. 236 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: If it doesn't work out, I'll end up taking the medication. 237 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: And it is what it is, you know. And so 238 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: I started this process around like September of last year, 239 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: and the woman I was working with said it would 240 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: take maybe like six months to a year to like 241 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 1: reverse it. And so when I went to go do 242 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: my blood work, I was kind of like anticipating that 243 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 1: it was going to be the same and that nothing 244 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 1: that I had done was going to work. I was 245 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: like mentally preparing for it to like not have changed at all. 246 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 3: And so it was. 247 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: Robbie too, Like Robbie was like, I was prepared for 248 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: you to like have the same results and just be 249 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: like there for you and say it's okay, let's keep going. 250 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: Let's keep going for six more months, like you got this, 251 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: Like we were both kind of in the headspace of 252 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 1: nothing has changed, Yeah, but we have to like stick 253 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 1: with it. 254 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 3: I'm not even kidding you. 255 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: And I got the test results back and I found 256 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: that my levels were back to normal. I have never 257 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 1: felt this like rush of empowerment in my life. Yeah, 258 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 1: because my numbers went so far down, you know what 259 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: I mean. 260 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 3: Like I was like I didn't just get to normal, 261 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 3: I got like, way, way way normal numbers. 262 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 4: So you have some buffers but for now yeah. 263 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but like it's so wild because it just 264 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: goes to show you how much diet does impact our lives, 265 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like I literally I went 266 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: and I took it super serious. I went fully gluten free, 267 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: no seed oils, I went anti inflammatory. Recently, I cut 268 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: out or try to minimize caffeine and alcohol. Like I 269 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 1: really was doing everything that I was supposed to be doing, 270 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: and it feels really freaking good. 271 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 2: I was gonna I don't even know what that would 272 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 2: feel like to like to put in the effort of 273 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: something like that and commit to something that you're unsure of. 274 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:34,320 Speaker 2: Like it's not like, hey, guaranteed you're gonna have this 275 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 2: in six months, it's like it might work. 276 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: And I was getting tired of it, Like I was 277 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: kind of just like, oh, this is just like so 278 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 1: much and like and then the people that say, why 279 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: are you doing all this? You're it's not able to 280 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: be done. Why you waste your time and energy and effort. Yeah, 281 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: it did kind of wear on me. Like I was 282 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:52,200 Speaker 1: just like, oh, I'm gonna be so bummed if this 283 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: doesn't work. 284 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, of course, because you put a lot of effort 285 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 4: into it. 286 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 3: So much effort, but it freaking'ed it. 287 00:12:59,280 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 4: It worked. 288 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 2: I mean I think it's I think that anyone who 289 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 2: believes that food isn't can't heal your like food can 290 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 2: heal certain things, like what we're putting into our body 291 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 2: is crazy somebody. 292 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 3: And the thing. 293 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: But the thing was, my doctors said, when you get pregnant, 294 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 1: you have to be on this medication, like that is 295 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 1: one hundred percent. You have to be on it when 296 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:26,640 Speaker 1: you are when you decide that you want to have 297 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: a baby. 298 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 3: And so that was kind of like my goal was, 299 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 3: I really really don't want to do that. 300 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: So like my goal was I was just going to 301 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: give myself however long until I'm like ready to have 302 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:37,679 Speaker 1: a baby. That's like how long I was going to 303 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 1: try and do it naturally, and then at that point 304 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 1: I was just gonna you know. 305 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 2: Oh. She was saying, if your levels were still like this, 306 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 2: you have to be on the oh yeah interesting. 307 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, and look like I don't know what the journeys like, 308 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 1: I might it comes back because a lot of women 309 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: it happens with pregnancy because it's like a hormonal thyroid issue, 310 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: so a lot of women get it after they have 311 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:57,840 Speaker 1: a baby, and so who knows, I could it could 312 00:13:57,880 --> 00:13:58,360 Speaker 1: come back. 313 00:13:58,400 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 3: I have no idea. 314 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: So I feel like this is something that I'm gonna 315 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: focus on for the rest of my life, not in 316 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,599 Speaker 1: that way that I have been in the last ten months. 317 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:06,840 Speaker 3: But like it's always going to kind of be there. 318 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 2: I'm very proud of you. I'm very like I was like, wow, 319 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: this is really cool. 320 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 3: It really was. 321 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 2: It felt badass, especially watching you eat the ta Heen 322 00:14:19,480 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 2: and Chamoy Candy at the Angel City game. Out right 323 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:28,120 Speaker 2: before her test, I was like, Tanya, She's like, I 324 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 2: pushed it today. 325 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 3: But like now I'm going to let myself. I'm not 326 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 3: going to be as. 327 00:14:36,400 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 4: What the word is, militant. 328 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, not not to the extreme that I was. I'm 329 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 1: going to be like a little bit more laid back 330 00:14:41,920 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 1: about it, but I'm definitely gonna like stay on the path. 331 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:48,200 Speaker 2: Well I think I think now you know how to 332 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 2: cook it home with the you know. 333 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:52,040 Speaker 1: It's yeah, now I know questions to ask you out 334 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 1: to restaurants, like I know how to order where I 335 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: don't even have to risk it. You know, like eggs 336 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: are cooked a lot in canola oil when you go 337 00:14:57,440 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: out to eat, and I can't have connol oil, so 338 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: I'd get like poached eggs, you know. 339 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 3: So it's just kind of like learning the. 340 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 4: Tips and tricks. 341 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 3: The tips and the tricks. 342 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 4: I'm very happy for you, very proud of you. 343 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 3: Thanks. Yeah, I feel I feel like wish I do next? 344 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: Oh gosh, what should I conquer next? 345 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 2: You know? 346 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 4: The options are endless, truly. 347 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 5: Yeah. 348 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: Now I'm back on my cycle sinking kick, okay, because 349 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 1: I felt like I couldn't. Really I was doing all 350 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: my cycle sinking with the workouts, but I with food. 351 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 1: I was like, there's only so much I can do. Yeah, 352 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: now I'm gonna go back to my like, yeah. 353 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 4: You gotta have something to really focus on one hundred percent. 354 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 3: I do I really do? I know. 355 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 4: You and my girlfriend. 356 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know, there's lots of options out there. 357 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 1: There's a lot, you know, there's a lot that I 358 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 1: could focus my energy on. 359 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a lot. 360 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 2: We never talked about a Haley show at the will 361 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 2: Turn cause y'all came back and y'all had seen her 362 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 2: when she opened for Love, but that was like, this 363 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 2: is her first headlining show. 364 00:15:55,600 --> 00:15:56,960 Speaker 4: I feel like that all my friends. 365 00:15:56,720 --> 00:16:00,320 Speaker 3: Saw such a difference. It was such a different friends. 366 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:01,920 Speaker 1: And it's so funny because I was saying too, I 367 00:16:01,960 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 1: was like, we just saw this show and it was 368 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: like the same albums. I was wondering if it was 369 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 1: going to be the same, and it was so different. 370 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 1: It was crazy and the crowd was wild. 371 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:12,400 Speaker 4: The crowd was insane. 372 00:16:12,440 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 2: And typically in LA, because we're like too cold and 373 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 2: jaded and we like have options for like so much 374 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:23,480 Speaker 2: entertainment here, the crowds in LA can sometimes be a little. 375 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:27,680 Speaker 4: Bit like quiet. They were rowdy that night. It was 376 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 4: a rowdy show. 377 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 3: Like they were a loudy show. 378 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 2: And it was really cool to see you know her 379 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 2: name on the what's that thing called marquee? Oh that's 380 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 2: pretty simple. I could have come up with that called 381 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:47,440 Speaker 2: something else scroll maybe. But anyways, her name on the 382 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 2: marquee was sold out underneath. 383 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 4: It was really cool. So I'm so proud of her 384 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 4: and it was so she finished the tour, I think 385 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 4: her last show. I think. I don't know if it's 386 00:16:58,560 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 4: her lot. 387 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 2: She does festival right after the tour, like right after 388 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 2: her last official show. She has a Pride festival in 389 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 2: dates here June fifth. 390 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:12,359 Speaker 4: Oh, that's like now yeah, well not no. 391 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:16,439 Speaker 1: But it's basically it's like tomorrow, it's like two weeks. 392 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 3: She's basically done with tour. 393 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:21,000 Speaker 2: Well, I go to New York on Sunday, Yeah, and 394 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,560 Speaker 2: I'm there with her for a few days until I 395 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:26,359 Speaker 2: come home on Thursday. 396 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 3: You did it. 397 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:33,680 Speaker 4: What I hold on? We can't celebrate yet. I can 398 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 4: have a spiral at any second. That's true. 399 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:39,160 Speaker 1: But I feel like you're gonna be pretty good because 400 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:42,640 Speaker 1: like we're doing this today, we have plans Tomorrow Saturday, 401 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:44,200 Speaker 1: I have to pack and then Sunday he goes here. 402 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll be good. It's it'll be uh yeah, 403 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 2: I think I'll be good. 404 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, you'll be totally yeah. Yeah, I'm not. 405 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 2: Worried about you at all, okay, great, we're gonna take 406 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 2: a break and we'll be right back. 407 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:16,920 Speaker 4: All right, we are back. 408 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: So I also did forget to mention one thing, Okay, 409 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 1: go ahead, because I just thought it was so cute. 410 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,520 Speaker 1: So the other day Ryan sent a Texas City and 411 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 1: I asking like if we were available for lunch and 412 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: to invite our significant others. And I responded and I 413 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: was like, hey, yeah, down for a cute lunch. Robbie's working, 414 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:36,240 Speaker 1: so he can't make it. He can just like swing 415 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 1: by and say hi. And Ryan's like call me. So 416 00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 1: I called him, and so he like really wanted to 417 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:41,679 Speaker 1: make sure, so he like switched the time so that 418 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: Robbie could make it. 419 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 3: Oh, I know, which was so cute. We had like 420 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 3: a really cute, nice little lunch. Do they have a 421 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:50,200 Speaker 3: bro that three of us? They do? 422 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 1: They like really like I feel like if I weren't 423 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:55,719 Speaker 1: even in the picture, I feel like, hey, well they 424 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 1: would like be cool. 425 00:18:58,080 --> 00:18:59,120 Speaker 4: Robbie's like that though. 426 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 2: Robbie gets a long with everybody, Like I feel like 427 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:03,919 Speaker 2: I could send Robbie off with any a stranger and 428 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 2: I feel like they have a great time. 429 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, it is a quality of his like a part 430 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,400 Speaker 1: of who he is that I really love a lot 431 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 1: is that he And it's not even that, it's like 432 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: he makes every person feel seen. I think that's like 433 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:19,160 Speaker 1: the best way to describe it, you know what I mean. 434 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 1: Like even when he's dropping the kids off at school, 435 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: he says hi to like every security guard and every 436 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 1: you know, staff or what do you call the people 437 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: that work at school staff not clergy staff members, no, 438 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:38,639 Speaker 1: but like the office, like the office office members. 439 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 3: Like every person that he just like comes in contact. 440 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:44,880 Speaker 1: He's like always says hi and smiles and like he's 441 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 1: just that type of person. 442 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 4: Yeah. He has a very warm, welcoming. 443 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:54,360 Speaker 1: Yeah persona soul soul. Yeah, but it's just cute. 444 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:56,760 Speaker 4: I'm really happy. I didn't see photos from this. 445 00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,719 Speaker 3: So we took a photo, but it was like not cute. 446 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 1: I just did. 447 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:02,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 448 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 4: I hate that. 449 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was unfortunate, but it was like a quick photo, 450 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,080 Speaker 1: so because we were like leaving and then I was like, yeah. 451 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 4: What's done is done. 452 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 3: What it is is a memory, Yeah, the memory. 453 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, and no one can take that away from you. 454 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 3: Nobody can take that away from me. 455 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 6: No. 456 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 2: Did you know that the five link Love languages got 457 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 2: too upgraded to seven, there's two new love languages. 458 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:28,920 Speaker 3: This is bull Why what are the two love lengths? 459 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 3: New ones? 460 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 2: Shared experiences, which is these people crave creating memorable experiences 461 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 2: and it it is what makes them feel loved and 462 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 2: close to their partner, okay, and emotional security. People who 463 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,640 Speaker 2: have this love language ultimately just want to feel seen 464 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 2: safe and listen to that sounds like. 465 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like these could be. 466 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,800 Speaker 1: And also the the shared experience is one could be gifts. 467 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, or acts of service. Okay. 468 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 2: Well I really related to these new ones and feel 469 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:06,480 Speaker 2: very excited about them. So the five love languages isn't 470 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:09,879 Speaker 2: based on like it's just someone wrote those. It's not 471 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,000 Speaker 2: like I'm rhetorical. 472 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,959 Speaker 4: It's not like the Caman. We're like my lovely. 473 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 1: I really feel like when I have really learned about something, 474 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 1: when there's like something thrown new in there, like with 475 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 1: the zodiac signs, I throw in a thirteenth one or something, 476 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:25,920 Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, no, no, we're not doing this. 477 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 2: Well that's called uh, being open to new perspectives and ideas. 478 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:32,080 Speaker 3: Oh is it? 479 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:32,440 Speaker 2: Yeah? 480 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 4: It is? 481 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:33,439 Speaker 3: Is it? 482 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 4: Yeah? 483 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 6: Anyways, so if you relate to these, I actually do 484 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 6: relate to the emotional emotional security is big that one 485 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 6: feels like it should have been in there to me. Yeah, 486 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:47,720 Speaker 6: see that's different than words of affirmation because the words 487 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:48,840 Speaker 6: don't make me feel safe. 488 00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:53,160 Speaker 1: How do you show that emotional emotional emotional security one? 489 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:54,400 Speaker 3: Like, how does one do that? 490 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: You know? Like with words of affirmation, you are speaking 491 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,880 Speaker 1: words or writing words to your partner. With acts of service, 492 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 1: that's like they all have like an action that followed them. 493 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 3: So what is the action to that one? 494 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 2: I imagine the emotion what I would interpret because I 495 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 2: don't have the answer in front of me. 496 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:12,920 Speaker 4: Maybe Easton can. 497 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,600 Speaker 2: Google it for us, But I would imagine that that 498 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 2: is words of affirmation followed by action because like that's 499 00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 2: what I struggle with sometimes when Haley says words, I'm like, 500 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:26,160 Speaker 2: what are you doing with those? 501 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:26,800 Speaker 3: Yeah? 502 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 4: What do you don't? 503 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,920 Speaker 2: Those don't do anything for me without some much Yeah, 504 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 2: give me the action. 505 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 3: I am action packs. 506 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:36,399 Speaker 1: So my jargon, save the jargon, Save the jargon for 507 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: your mama. 508 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:39,920 Speaker 4: Mm hmmm, that's the that's the famous close. 509 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:43,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's it, not save your drama for your mom. 510 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 511 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:44,760 Speaker 4: I didn't know if. 512 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 2: You knew the difference, but so, yeah, I thought those 513 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,440 Speaker 2: were interesting and I like them all. 514 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,440 Speaker 3: Right, but I have to retake the test to figure 515 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:56,000 Speaker 3: out which one. 516 00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 2: Oh maybe I don't know if they updated the test, 517 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 2: we who knows, have to find out. But by the 518 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 2: time we're in like our next five years of this podcast, 519 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:07,200 Speaker 2: they'll probably have like ten. 520 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 3: Oh, so I'm sticking to mine. Acts of service. 521 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 4: That's your number one. H Like, what's an example of that? 522 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 3: Uh, that's a great question, Mecca. 523 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 1: Acts of service is doing something that either is helpful 524 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: to me or something that I mentioned. Like let's say 525 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 1: I really want to try this new restaurant and he 526 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 1: just makes a reservation at the restaurant without telling me, 527 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: Or if I've been like saying, Oh, I really want 528 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:40,119 Speaker 1: to get this glass straw for my you know, for 529 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,439 Speaker 1: my Stanley cup, and I just never gets it for me. 530 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 3: Like that to me is like acts of service. 531 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 2: Oh I see, yeah, I like that too. Yeah, I'm 532 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 2: very much all of them. Words are actually words without 533 00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 2: action is probably my least Yeah, which words used to 534 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 2: be my most interesting? 535 00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 4: Change? Life changes? 536 00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 3: Life changes? We changed the test nearly. 537 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 4: Yes, Oh, did you find something. 538 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,200 Speaker 5: About like what what the new love languages are? 539 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,400 Speaker 4: Like, what's the action behind the emotional security. 540 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 5: One does it give so emotional security? It's a feeling 541 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 5: emotionally seen and taken care of? Is how? Is how 542 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,640 Speaker 5: harmony describes emotional security? And I'm going to see what 543 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 5: so Love Languages is owned by? Like a guy wrote it? 544 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 5: Like one guy? So he owns it. 545 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 3: What's his name again? 546 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:30,080 Speaker 5: His name is doctor Gary Chatman. Yeah, yeah, Gary Chapman. 547 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,359 Speaker 1: You know I bought that book for Robbie on our 548 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 1: second date, second date, second after our second date. 549 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, gave third man. This man is down for. 550 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 4: A medal and a crown. 551 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 5: Wow, a crown. I have some I have some signs. Yeah, yeah, 552 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,840 Speaker 5: So here's signs that emotional security is your love language. 553 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,600 Speaker 5: You're not afraid of deep conversation. You ask a lot 554 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:57,160 Speaker 5: of questions to get to the root of situations or feelings. 555 00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 5: Friends call you to talk through issues and feelings because 556 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 5: they feel safe with you. You often ask your partner 557 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 5: how they're really feeling about a situation, and you enjoy 558 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 5: the connection that is formed by getting vulnerable with someone else. 559 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:10,639 Speaker 3: I love this one. 560 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:14,920 Speaker 2: Like this, We've really got a shift of Tanya's feelings 561 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,280 Speaker 2: about the new love Languages quickly. 562 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 3: One might be that's high up there for me that one. 563 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, I like that they add new ones. I kind 564 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 5: of do like that. But I was hoping that like 565 00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 5: it would be like there's two new love languages and 566 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,719 Speaker 5: it's emotional security brought to you by and just like 567 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 5: that a Max exclusive, Like would you find it? They 568 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 5: could be sponsored? 569 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:36,879 Speaker 3: No, I love them. 570 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 5: Someone just owns it. He could do that, get that bag, 571 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:40,280 Speaker 5: Gary Chapman. 572 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, he could do anything. He could be like emotional 573 00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,720 Speaker 2: security brought by food. 574 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, you could say the new love language is not 575 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,639 Speaker 5: Joe cheese, that's the love language. 576 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,159 Speaker 2: But yesterday Jojo posted a video of her. She was like, 577 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 2: I'm cleaning my makeup brushes and I was like, oh, 578 00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 2: I should do that. 579 00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 4: I haven't done that in a long time. 580 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:00,199 Speaker 3: I used to do it once a week. 581 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 1: It was like my Friday night, Julia, every Friday night, 582 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: because I just did. I was so tired from the 583 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 1: work week. I did not want to go out on Fridays. 584 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,360 Speaker 1: I just want to stay home, clean my makeup brushes 585 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,159 Speaker 1: and like I shake my legs. 586 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 4: Yeah I remember that. 587 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 3: So I simpler times. 588 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, very it feels like a lifetime ago. 589 00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:24,200 Speaker 2: Seriously, I was like, I'm going to do that I 590 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 2: literally put an alarm in my phone for weekly so 591 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,040 Speaker 2: that I never experienced that with myself. 592 00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,360 Speaker 4: Again, I am so weird about hygiene. 593 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,560 Speaker 3: You washing with shampoo down dish soap. 594 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 4: That's what Jojo said she used. 595 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 2: Okay, it got There was a brush that I literally 596 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 2: thought was tan and it was white. When I cleaned it, 597 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 2: I was disgusted, Like literally, I was like horrified by myself. 598 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 2: So this is your reminder go clean your brushes. It's gross. 599 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 4: We're just like putting gross face. 600 00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 3: I know it's gross. 601 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 4: Okay, should we do email? 602 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:01,359 Speaker 3: Do we need to take a break and we need 603 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 3: to take a break and come back with emails. 604 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:03,880 Speaker 4: Okay, we'll be right back. 605 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,120 Speaker 2: All right, we are back and Mark's power went out, 606 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 2: but we have Easton stepping in to read our email 607 00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 2: for today. 608 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,920 Speaker 5: Well, he boots up his generator. Thank you. I can read. 609 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,439 Speaker 5: This is from Alex. I need some advice for an 610 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:39,160 Speaker 5: ongoing argument I've been having with my husband. He works 611 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:42,080 Speaker 5: long hours most days and has a large staff below him, 612 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,439 Speaker 5: so he spends a lot of time answering questions and whatnot. 613 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:46,680 Speaker 5: When he comes home, he needs to relax and get 614 00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,159 Speaker 5: his mind off of work. He's a big sports guy, 615 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 5: and he watches games multiple nights a week that usually 616 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 5: run until the time we go to bed. He also 617 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,159 Speaker 5: loves to watch TikTok before bed. Now, my love language 618 00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 5: is quality time and I remind him of that, and 619 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 5: he thinks that me laying on the catch next toom 620 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:06,040 Speaker 5: while he watches sports is quality time. Sorry, come on, bro, 621 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,639 Speaker 5: but I need I interrupted time with him to just 622 00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 5: talk and be with one another. His argument is that 623 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,920 Speaker 5: I nag and nag that he works a lot and 624 00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,280 Speaker 5: then nag when he gets home because he watches sports. 625 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:18,240 Speaker 5: I don't mind him watching sports as long as I 626 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,240 Speaker 5: get my quality time fixed by the end of the night. 627 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,919 Speaker 5: But sometimes the games will end until ten pm and 628 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 5: then it's time for bed. I feel so frustrated asking 629 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 5: for real quality time and him taking it is me nagging. 630 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 5: I'm also six months pregnant, and I feel as though 631 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,440 Speaker 5: the time for us, just as too, is running out. 632 00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 5: How do I go about this argument? 633 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:42,000 Speaker 2: This is so I like understand this because so Haley 634 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:45,239 Speaker 2: is like one of the hardest workers I know, and 635 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 2: she loves work, but when she gets home she has 636 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 2: to like decompress and like there is that time where 637 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 2: I'm just like, wait, I'm like so excited for her 638 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:54,600 Speaker 2: to get home and I just want to hang out, 639 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 2: and she's like I just kind of want to like 640 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 2: zone out and not have to think about anything. But 641 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 2: I think as we've had these discussions, I think she 642 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 2: knows that my one of my big love languages is 643 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 2: quality time. So it's gotten to a point where we'll 644 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,280 Speaker 2: like play cards, or we'll play a game or something 645 00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 2: to where we're not just like zoned out on a screen, 646 00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,600 Speaker 2: but we're like able to talk, but we're also doing 647 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 2: something so that she's like able to decompress, but we're 648 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 2: also like chatting and spending quality time catching up on 649 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 2: our days. So maybe there's a way where you can 650 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 2: implement something that's not because maybe he needs something to 651 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 2: focus on that's not just like sitting and staring, because 652 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 2: maybe he gets distracted. So maybe there's something. It sounds 653 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 2: like he likes games, he likes sports, so maybe there's 654 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 2: something where you can sit and do something together that's 655 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:44,240 Speaker 2: like an activity that's not you sitting on the couch 656 00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 2: while he's. 657 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 4: Watching to be that is not quality time. 658 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, and even. 659 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 1: Sometimes understand that, like sometimes like in a day you 660 00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,800 Speaker 1: just might not have anything for quality time. 661 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 3: In a day, you know what I mean. 662 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 1: So I think maybe looking at and it's gonna sound 663 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:02,240 Speaker 1: so like not fun, but like scheduling out quality time 664 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:03,880 Speaker 1: in your week and kind of like looking at like 665 00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:05,600 Speaker 1: when does he get home from work? What days are 666 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 1: the big games and he wants to watch because I 667 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 1: like Robbie likes to watch game, yes, and. 668 00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 3: I don't like it. 669 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 1: Good thing for me is I don't mind just like 670 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,840 Speaker 1: laying next to him and like cuddling. That's fine for me, 671 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 1: like and I can just like be on my phone, 672 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: so it's to me it works. But you guys can 673 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:21,760 Speaker 1: figure out what nights he wants to watch the games, 674 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 1: and then the nights out he's not watching the games, 675 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 1: you guys can do something else, which is quality time. 676 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: So maybe you can't fit in every single day, but 677 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: you can prioritize it more in a different way. 678 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 2: I was actually gonna say, schedule it out, even though 679 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 2: sometimes it feels like that feels sad that we have 680 00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,160 Speaker 2: to schedule out time because I went through that, but 681 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 2: I was like, I think it's important that it's especially 682 00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:44,960 Speaker 2: for someone like Haley. She if she has it on 683 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,239 Speaker 2: a schedule, She's like gonna make time for it. 684 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 4: So I think that and I'm the same. 685 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,920 Speaker 2: If Hailey's watching a show that I don't care about, 686 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 2: I'm very content just being on the couch. But I 687 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,440 Speaker 2: also feel like I get quality time for her at 688 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,719 Speaker 2: other times, so I'm not like yearning for it. But 689 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 2: I think is just having a conversation and being like, 690 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 2: let's schedule some time where we have I'm getting what 691 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 2: I need so that when when you need to decompress, 692 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 2: you don't feel like I'm like begging or nagging for 693 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 2: that attention. But I don't think you asking for what 694 00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:18,640 Speaker 2: you need in the relationship is nagging. I don't think 695 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 2: you should feel guilt or like shame for needing what 696 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:22,560 Speaker 2: you need. 697 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 4: And I get it. 698 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,240 Speaker 2: I would if I were pregnant and it was about 699 00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 2: to be three people in the house forever, I would 700 00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 2: be getting frustrated too doing that time together. 701 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I get mean. 702 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 1: I think it only your quality time gets less and 703 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 1: less as you bring more kids into the picture. 704 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 3: You know, That's what I'm saying. 705 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: Robby and I are time when we have the kids. 706 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 1: We don't have quality time, Yeah, we just don't. But 707 00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 1: also it's because we only have them fifty percent of 708 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,680 Speaker 1: the time. So we have them, we're really present with them, 709 00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: and we're with them all the time, and so when 710 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,680 Speaker 1: we don't, that's when we get in our quality time. 711 00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 2: Right. But I think you're I think Tanya's advice on 712 00:31:56,760 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 2: scheduling it out and just making sure that he's getting 713 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 2: what he needs, because it sounds like he might have 714 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 2: a stressful job. But also you deserve to get what 715 00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:06,080 Speaker 2: you need to. Yeah, you both do. 716 00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:07,720 Speaker 4: There's two people in the relationships. 717 00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, good luck. 718 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 4: I think we can all say if we've been. 719 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: There simpler times, you know, making the makeup brushes on 720 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: a Friday, not. 721 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:18,640 Speaker 3: A care in the world. 722 00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,400 Speaker 1: It's so funny because there are you know, like when 723 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,240 Speaker 1: you're single, there are those things that make you stressed 724 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,600 Speaker 1: and sad, and then when you're in a relationship, there 725 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:29,920 Speaker 1: are the other things that make you stressed and sad, 726 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:32,200 Speaker 1: and neither one of you know what I mean, Like, 727 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,120 Speaker 1: there's no stress or there's not there's not no stress 728 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:36,320 Speaker 1: or sadness on either end. 729 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:37,719 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean different. 730 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:42,640 Speaker 2: It's it's the grass is greener everywhere, Yeah, you know, 731 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,320 Speaker 2: but where you are you're always like, oh, I miss 732 00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 2: the days of shaving my legs and cleaning my brushes. 733 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:49,800 Speaker 4: But those days you were like, I just want to 734 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:50,800 Speaker 4: be in a relationship. 735 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to like light next to somebody 736 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:55,560 Speaker 1: in bed, Like it's all my hairy legs my Friday nights. 737 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 1: I just wanted to Yeah, clean my makeup brushes with 738 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: someone there. Yeah, eat food, shave my legs and get 739 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: in back. 740 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. 741 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And now I have that, Yeah, with a 742 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 1: lot more on the plate, a lot more at it 743 00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 1: on the plane. 744 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 2: We have a Thursday episode with Rachel Platten, who we 745 00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,680 Speaker 2: ran into at the Angel City game. 746 00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:21,240 Speaker 3: Yes, at our big soccer game, and she. 747 00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,400 Speaker 2: Wanted to come on the podcast and we were like, please, 748 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 2: we would love to have you on the podcast. 749 00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:29,720 Speaker 1: She wanted to share her story with postpartum, kind of 750 00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 1: for the first time. 751 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:34,400 Speaker 2: I think she said, so, yeah, I'm very excited about that. 752 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:38,720 Speaker 3: Upscrubbers are not judgmental and a very safe space. 753 00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 4: So yeah, come on over, come on over. So that's this. 754 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, in case you're wondering who Rachel Platten is, like. 755 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:51,360 Speaker 5: A small mode I get so I can't play too 756 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,960 Speaker 5: much because we'll get sued, but thanks Rachel. 757 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I got chills. 758 00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:58,800 Speaker 3: We play thirty seconds. 759 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,880 Speaker 5: I think thirty seconds is which thirty seconds do you want? 760 00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:02,520 Speaker 5: That's the question. 761 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:04,600 Speaker 4: This is my fight. 762 00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:16,000 Speaker 3: Ye prove all right song? Not that was no starting 763 00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:20,800 Speaker 3: right now. I'll be strong happy my fight song. 764 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,960 Speaker 4: And I don't really care nobody believe. 765 00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:31,719 Speaker 3: Because I still got a lot of fire left in me. Wait, 766 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 3: that was like thirty seconds. 767 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,279 Speaker 5: I don't know. But if you're if you work for 768 00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:37,920 Speaker 5: Rachel's record label, that you didn't hear that. 769 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:44,160 Speaker 2: Wait, I just had an idea. What we have two minutes? Yeah, 770 00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 2: can we get an update on your Uh? 771 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:51,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I thought you're talking off the air. That guy's 772 00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,080 Speaker 3: a trigger trigger Dickery Rocks. 773 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:54,319 Speaker 7: It's tricky, caught me off. 774 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,279 Speaker 4: We just the people want to know. Has there been 775 00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,479 Speaker 4: a second date? There has a secon Can date? 776 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 3: And you went to San Diego, right, Yeah, I. 777 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:04,920 Speaker 7: Went to see him San Diego. We went to the 778 00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:05,879 Speaker 7: Padres game. 779 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,319 Speaker 4: You love a sporting event. 780 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 7: I know, we always we really like to go to 781 00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,120 Speaker 7: sporting games. But it was great, it was good. I 782 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,040 Speaker 7: did not get a chance to look at the feet, 783 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,080 Speaker 7: In case you were wondering, I was too scared to love, 784 00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:19,439 Speaker 7: but but I asked. 785 00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,319 Speaker 4: I was like that you felt the feet right, and 786 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:22,360 Speaker 4: she's like, no, I felt that. 787 00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 7: I did feel the feet and they felt yeah, like 788 00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,960 Speaker 7: they don't feel rough or gross. 789 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,359 Speaker 4: So I guess that's a good sign. 790 00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,360 Speaker 5: At suld Tell, I think. 791 00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:41,759 Speaker 7: Of the long nails poked my leg. I would have 792 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,400 Speaker 7: run out the door so quickly. I would have like 793 00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,040 Speaker 7: left my bags in his place. 794 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:47,560 Speaker 4: Wouldn't have looked. 795 00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:50,600 Speaker 3: Bad A long nail is probably that. 796 00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,760 Speaker 7: Would have been devastating. Yeah, that would have been really upsetting. 797 00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,080 Speaker 2: Okay, so are their plans for a third activity, third 798 00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:57,680 Speaker 2: sporting event? 799 00:35:57,800 --> 00:35:59,439 Speaker 3: You know what the third thing is. 800 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,680 Speaker 7: We're both really busy, but we're hoping we can see 801 00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:03,600 Speaker 7: each other mid June. 802 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,520 Speaker 4: Okay, you I know, well, we have things going on. 803 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:12,400 Speaker 4: Is he still showing? Is he still sending songs? Yeah? 804 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:14,200 Speaker 5: What was the most recent song? 805 00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,399 Speaker 7: Oh my god, I'm totally exposing this poor guy. 806 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, but he didn't listen to the last one 807 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 4: because he's still. 808 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:25,800 Speaker 7: Oh my god, oh my god, this poor guy. Okay, 809 00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:27,600 Speaker 7: it was by and Bye by Camp. 810 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:29,319 Speaker 3: I didn't know. 811 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,080 Speaker 7: It, so that I liked because I got to listen 812 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:32,840 Speaker 7: to a new song. 813 00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:35,799 Speaker 4: Okay, it is what it is? 814 00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:42,759 Speaker 2: Are you sending Dermott? Dermott Kennedy songs. Sending new songs back, I'm. 815 00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,400 Speaker 3: Right, you think you'd get the hint. 816 00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:46,799 Speaker 7: Well, this one I had more of a response. I 817 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:51,000 Speaker 7: was like, Ooh, a new song. Thanks to the songs, 818 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,640 Speaker 7: I would be inclined to just be like, oh, that 819 00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:53,160 Speaker 7: sounds great. 820 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:56,839 Speaker 4: Yeah, I love listening. I would be so excited warming. 821 00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,240 Speaker 7: Up to the act of sending songs. 822 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:01,680 Speaker 3: I would be analyzing the lyrics. 823 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:02,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. 824 00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:05,399 Speaker 7: See, I'm trying not to get ahead of myself because 825 00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:08,200 Speaker 7: if the lyrics are really cute, then I might start 826 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,400 Speaker 7: thinking this is more than it is. So I'm just trying. 827 00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:12,640 Speaker 3: To But what if it is more than it is? 828 00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:13,080 Speaker 5: I don't know. 829 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:22,520 Speaker 3: Dear By, no, don't read I wait, why can I? 830 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:29,359 Speaker 7: Oh no, you can read it out loud eastn Now 831 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,920 Speaker 7: I'm thinking. Now, I'm thinking about her every day on 832 00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:34,560 Speaker 7: my mind a typical way. 833 00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:37,319 Speaker 4: Are you a life force? Thinking about her every day 834 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:38,759 Speaker 4: on my mind? A typical way? 835 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,799 Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh, thinking about you every day. 836 00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,920 Speaker 3: It's not just a song. I used to do this 837 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:48,000 Speaker 3: all the time. 838 00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:48,919 Speaker 4: Do you know what though? 839 00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 2: Like, I would be so if I was listening to 840 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 2: the lyrics and heard that, I would. 841 00:37:53,440 --> 00:38:02,600 Speaker 4: Be so giddy okay, okay, so second day has happened. 842 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:06,560 Speaker 2: All's well. We're looking for mid June. Mid June update. 843 00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:10,600 Speaker 7: Yeah, I'll report back if it happens mid June, but 844 00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,399 Speaker 7: I'm not holding my breath because that's like three weeks away. 845 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:14,520 Speaker 3: You couldn't move on. 846 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:16,239 Speaker 2: That would be a long time. Well I don't think that, 847 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,520 Speaker 2: but that's a long time to hold your breath. So yeah, 848 00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 2: we'll see all right. Thank you so much for the update, 849 00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 2: and we'll be back on Thursday. 850 00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:31,320 Speaker 6: We love you so much, love you Bye.