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Speaker 1: Subject He's got the sugar, but he's not being sweet,

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Speaker 1: all right, Jay, listen up. Dear Steve and Shirley. My

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Speaker 1: husband and I are in our late thirties and we've

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Speaker 1: been together for almost twenty years. We have four children,

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Speaker 1: and we always had a robust sex life until two

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Speaker 1: years ago when everything changed. My husband gradually lost interest

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Speaker 1: in sex, and whenever we try, he would stop in

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Speaker 1: the middle of it and tell me he was tired.

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Speaker 1: I had no idea what was wrong with him, and

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Speaker 1: I started to think that he wasn't attracted to me anymore.

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Speaker 1: One night, when he told me no to sex, I

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Speaker 1: started crying. He finally came clean and admitted that he

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Speaker 1: was diagnosed with type two diabetes and it affected his

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Speaker 1: ability to perform. He didn't want to tell me because

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Speaker 1: he knew I would make him eat healthier meals and

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Speaker 1: stop drinking. I was mad as heck that he kept

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Speaker 1: something like this from me. After I found out about it,

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Speaker 1: he refused to change his bad lifestyle choices. So now

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Speaker 1: he has a rectile dysfunction because of all the medicine.

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Speaker 1: Because of all his medicine, I've been suffering in a

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Speaker 1: sexless marriage for the past two years. I'm miserable without sex,

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Speaker 1: and I told him he is being selfish. All he

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Speaker 1: has to do is put down the fried chicken, sweet

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Speaker 1: potato pie and the bourbon and coke and we might

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Speaker 1: be able to have sex again. He is oblivious to

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Speaker 1: my needs, and I'm growing more and more angry by

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Speaker 1: the day. Have been a faithful woman for twenty years,

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Speaker 1: but I can't go another month without releasing some of

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Speaker 1: this sexual tension. I'm thinking about cheating, and I have

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Speaker 1: someone in mind that is willing to.

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Speaker 2: Help me out. I don't feel bad about it either.

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Speaker 1: Before I do the unthinkable, how can I get my

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Speaker 1: husband to fix his health and fix our sex life?

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Speaker 1: Please help? Wow, A lot going on in this letter.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, because you know, it's really hard to

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Speaker 1: make grown people. You really can't make grown people do

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Speaker 1: what they don't want to do, and in this situation,

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Speaker 1: your husband don't want to do it.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if he would just make better food.

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Speaker 1: Choices, you know, he would be healthier and perhaps that

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Speaker 1: would help.

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Speaker 2: You're right, he is very selfish.

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Speaker 1: I think you know this is a man who doesn't

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Speaker 1: want to change. I mean, I'm sorry. He doesn't care

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Speaker 1: about himself. He doesn't care about your four kids or you.

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Speaker 1: If he did, he would try to at least eat better.

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Speaker 1: That's the very least he could do and trying, you know,

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Speaker 1: try to get healthy. A husband should never keep anything

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Speaker 1: like this from their wife.

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Speaker 2: This is very serious. You know, why didn't he tell you?

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Speaker 1: Maybe he was embarrassed, or maybe he just I don't know,

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Speaker 1: but it is selfish and he shouldn't have kept that

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Speaker 1: from you because it's a health situation and it could

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Speaker 1: get worse. You guys, are only in your late thirties.

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Speaker 1: You're only in your late thirties, So what are you

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Speaker 1: supposed to do now for sex for the rest of

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Speaker 1: your life. You're only in your late thirties. People have

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Speaker 1: sex up until their seventies and eighties. Come on, you're

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Speaker 1: just in your late thirties. Got to say this though

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Speaker 1: you and I know everyone knows cheating is wrong.

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Speaker 2: We all know that.

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Speaker 1: But I ask you, you know, what's a wife to

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Speaker 1: do in a situation like this, under the circumstances, when

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Speaker 1: her husband with his selfish behavior.

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Speaker 2: Yet I'm not condoning it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying she should, but I'm just saying I

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Speaker 1: understand where you're coming from your Homebord Well, sure, husband

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Speaker 1: with his selfish behavior, I just you know, I just

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Speaker 1: think that he's driving you and sending you right into

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Speaker 1: the arms of another man. I just think that's what's

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Speaker 1: happening because he won't change, and he really needs to

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Speaker 1: do that right now.

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Speaker 3: Steve, Wow, surely you almost said the unthinkable.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you was gonna startle me.

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Speaker 3: Girl.

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Speaker 2: You came up just short of saying, well, I feel.

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Speaker 4: That ain't my job, So here I go.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 4: I'm glad. Shirley kept reiterating that you all are in

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Speaker 4: your late thirties because I misread. I thought you were

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Speaker 4: thirty and you had been together for almost twenty years.

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Speaker 4: I was saying, damn, say him, dude, since she was ten.

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Speaker 4: Let her hands. Another element to it. You look at

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Speaker 4: y'all ain't in jail anyway. Oh, we've got four children.

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Speaker 4: We've always had a robust sex life, and to two

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Speaker 4: years ago, everything change.

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Speaker 3: Now here's the letter.

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Speaker 4: My husband gradually lost interest in sex, and whatever we try,

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Speaker 4: he would stop in the middle of it and tell

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Speaker 4: me he was tired. Now, hold on one, say, ain't

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Speaker 4: you supposed to be tied in the middle of it? Huh?

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Speaker 1: Hello, yeah, I mean sometimes, but this is an unusual circumstance, Steve.

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Speaker 2: You gotta admit, I mean you putting there at work.

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Speaker 2: But to stop though he stopped.

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Speaker 4: No, No, that ain't I ain't got there yet.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he tied.

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Speaker 4: What the hell he stopped for? Because you're tired, You're

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Speaker 4: supposed to be tied. It's called work, homie. You gotta

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Speaker 4: get back at it. But he stopped and say he tied.

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Speaker 4: Had no idea what was wrong? Then you thought he

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Speaker 4: wasn't attracted to you. Then one night, when he told

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Speaker 4: you no the sex and you started crying. He came

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Speaker 4: clean and said he got type two diabetes that affected

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Speaker 4: his ability to perform. He won't tell me because he

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Speaker 4: stop drinking waiting.

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Speaker 2: All of dough.

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Speaker 4: So if you ain't healthy meals and stop drinking, you

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Speaker 4: can get ridio di Beaties.

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Speaker 2: You like food and drinking that.

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Speaker 4: Damn much, but you kept from the information from the

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Speaker 4: one person who can help you get healthy. Yeah, and

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Speaker 4: you refuse to do it even though it's affecting your

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Speaker 4: sex life. How much do food mean to your fat ass?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 4: Really, you would prefer food and alcohol over sex.

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Speaker 2: This is crazy? All right, Steve, hold on to that thought.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, He's got the sugar, but he's not

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Speaker 1: being sweet. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 2: You're listening.

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Speaker 1: Morning show, all right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter.

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Speaker 2: He's got the sugar, but he's not being sweet.

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Speaker 5: Tie.

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Speaker 4: It is dude that messed around and got type two diabetes,

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Speaker 4: didn't tell his wife, the one person that would help.

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Speaker 4: And then the reason he didn't tell her because he

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Speaker 4: stop drinking. What that was your reason for not telling

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Speaker 4: your wife No, it wasn't. I didn't want to worry her,

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Speaker 4: you know, I didn't want her to stop doing what

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Speaker 4: eating pie and drinking liquor.

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Speaker 2: So now the lady.

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Speaker 4: Was mad as heck that he kept us from him,

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Speaker 4: and then after she found out, he refused to change

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Speaker 4: his lifestyle choices. So now because of all the medicine

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Speaker 4: he taken, he now has erectile dysfunction in his thirty

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Speaker 4: She has been suffering in a sexless marriage for the

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Speaker 4: past two years, and I'm miserable two years. Two years,

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Speaker 4: and I'm miserable without sex. And I told him he's

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Speaker 4: being selfish. All he gotta do is put down the

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Speaker 4: fried chicken, sweet potato pie and the bourbon and coke,

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Speaker 4: and we might be able to have sex again. Somebody

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Speaker 4: making some good ass chicken. That's all I can tell you.

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Speaker 4: Man that's got the least a good ass chicken. He

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Speaker 4: must be the test of it for the Pope. I's

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Speaker 4: chicken sandwich because he cared about this too. It he

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Speaker 4: all in line, lady night, waiting on it. If you

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Speaker 4: stop doing that, you canna have sex again. He's oblivious

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Speaker 4: to my needs and I'm growing more and more angry

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Speaker 4: by the day, and Lady, as you should, I've been

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Speaker 4: a faithful woman for twenty years, but I can't go

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Speaker 4: another month without releasing some of this sexual tension. Two

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Speaker 4: boy want to keep eating pie and chicken and drinking

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Speaker 4: breading and coke. Let his fat ass sit over there

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Speaker 4: and eat the pie and the chicken. I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 4: you what Sureley don't do. I say, go on and

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Speaker 4: holler at you boy whoever they do, is that you've

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Speaker 4: that's willing to help you out. Let him help you

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Speaker 4: go and do you girl, dude, free yourself, gone get

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Speaker 4: you something, because I'm gonna tell you something right now.

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Speaker 4: And the reason I'm saying you ought to go ahead

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Speaker 4: and do it, And the lady said, I don't feel

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Speaker 4: explain something to you that ain't no man nowhere gonna

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Speaker 4: let you sit over there with whole sex for two

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Speaker 4: years and don't go get it somewhere withhold something for

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Speaker 4: there twiddling his thumb.

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Speaker 3: I bet he ain't.

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Speaker 4: Two years and you all have disgusted you didne had

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Speaker 4: this man crying over some six A man started crying.

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Speaker 3: I mean, you don't give me no help? I still

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Speaker 3: are you?

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Speaker 4: Still?

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Speaker 1: No? Correct?

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Speaker 2: Like that?

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Speaker 4: Shut up crying with your punk as you for two years?

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Speaker 1: Ain't no man find to do that and possibly the

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Speaker 1: rest of her life. She's in her late thirties. What

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Speaker 1: she's supposed to do.

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Speaker 4: Call the dude, but stick yourself and arrangement, go get you.

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Speaker 4: But if you just go get if you just go

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Speaker 4: free yourself for a minute, you will feel better. You

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Speaker 4: come back and deal with it. What you what?

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm just saying, we have an expert on the show. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean we yea.

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Speaker 5: My thing is this, It is this, And I've eaten

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Speaker 5: a lot of chicken, so he's obviously he's obviously his

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Speaker 5: chicken consumption has gone way past mine. He said, how

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Speaker 5: much chickens do?

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Speaker 2: Where you eat? Where you say?

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Speaker 5: You know, I don't want sex no more because this

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Speaker 5: chicken is just too damn good. Okay. The other question

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Speaker 5: the chicken, yeah, yeah, yeah, Steve. And the other thing

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Speaker 5: is if he stops in.

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Speaker 2: The middle of sex.

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Speaker 5: He got chicken on his mind. It ain't it ain't

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Speaker 5: got nothing, yeah, and he says, wait a minute, baby.

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Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold.

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Speaker 6: On, baby.

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Speaker 5: It is ten forty five. Papa hand me that old

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Speaker 5: blue cooler and lemon. If I leave right now, I

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Speaker 5: can get droopies. He so, y'all crazy and last but

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Speaker 5: not leave. This goes to show you how much that

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Speaker 5: Papa Chicken sandwich is breaking up homes because it is.

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Speaker 6: It's people standing in line wait for the damn chicken sandwich,

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Speaker 6: which means them mate is at the house, waiting, waiting

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Speaker 6: to do the next.

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Speaker 2: In his ass in line. You're listening Morning Show