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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to adulting. You know what the fuck

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Speaker 1: it is.

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Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just kidding, and I'm so sorry, am I.

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Speaker 2: I was just kind of living my best top titty,

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Speaker 2: freckled face, bloated Tommy DMX life if you will. I'm

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Speaker 2: Michel Vytee and I'm with my friend Jordan Carlos and

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Speaker 2: this is our podcast and.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing fine. Jordan, are you there?

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Speaker 3: Jordan?

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Speaker 1: Can you hear me?

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Speaker 3: I don't know how are you good? To see you friend?

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much. I know you're in California right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm in California right now. I'm working here. I

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Speaker 2: can't wait to leave.

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Speaker 1: Hiaw. I've never seen so many avocados.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and botox and fly booties and white jeans. I

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Speaker 2: feel like DMX because everyone's just like, why are you yelling?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not. This is just this is how

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Speaker 1: I sound.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I come out to LA and I do feel like

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Speaker 2: NSNL sketch because everyone's like, uh huh, They're just like

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Speaker 2: amused and like everyone's very long winded. I'm like, can

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Speaker 2: you get to the point because there's a subway coming.

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Speaker 1: Oh, there's no subway Harvey.

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Speaker 4: Ah, does everyone have vocal there or what?

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Speaker 2: Everyone is very nice here, but they all like speak

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Speaker 2: in email terms. They're like, I'll circle back, let's get

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Speaker 2: it together, you know what I mean? And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: you know me, I want to make a shepherd's pie

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Speaker 2: and fucking like Walt's work.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, please make a shepherd's pie. You know. Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I love Yeah, I love corporate talk.

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Speaker 3: It makes me so happy.

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Speaker 1: Corporate tart is so much better.

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Speaker 3: My brain shuts down when I get excited. I love

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Speaker 3: to have to drain blood from one part of my brain.

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Speaker 1: That what in the Nurse Jackie is going on? Stop it?

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Speaker 3: I was on Nurse Jackie? Is that what you're talking about?

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Speaker 1: No, oh my god, you were on Nurse I.

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Speaker 3: Was in the r I was run over by like

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Speaker 3: a I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I was hit by a truck and so when the

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Speaker 4: show aired, I could not watch myself. By the way,

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Speaker 4: you can ask my wife all about this.

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Speaker 2: Who Ever was booking Showtime shows definitely put Jordan on

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Speaker 2: because you were also in the affair.

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Speaker 3: I was in the affair. I was that was me.

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Speaker 1: Did you get punched out by Dominic West?

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Speaker 4: I did get punched out for real? For real by

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Speaker 4: Dominic West. Actually I think I told you this. He

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Speaker 4: was like, all right, Mike, just la get ready for it.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, okay, you're watching on your left hand,

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Speaker 4: so I can expect a right handed punch. And he's like,

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Speaker 4: he didn't like that. I knew that he'd probably throw

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Speaker 4: a haymaker from the right side. Yeah, and so he

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Speaker 4: tagged me with his left hand. Let the record that

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Speaker 4: he hit me with his left And I was happy

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Speaker 4: with myself because I was like, I took a punch

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Speaker 4: straight up to the chin, and I was like, I'm fine.

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Speaker 3: You know. It was like wait a minute.

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Speaker 1: But they just took the one take or was it

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Speaker 1: multiple takes?

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Speaker 4: Oh, it was one take. The director was like, we

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Speaker 4: got it.

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Speaker 3: It was thank.

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Speaker 2: God, that's so fucked up. Yeah, Dominic was more like

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Speaker 2: Dominic you went south.

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Speaker 3: Dominic is wild.

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Speaker 4: I mean, the man was on the wire, you know,

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Speaker 4: he's seen it all and then and then suddenly he's

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Speaker 4: king Charles, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 4: So he's throwing a lot of punches, you know what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying, Like, oh wow, So he yeah, he hit me.

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Speaker 4: But I was like I'm okay, I'm fine. I'm fine,

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Speaker 4: he didn't hurt me, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: And not me.

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Speaker 3: That was it, dude.

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Speaker 2: I'm so impressed because I've seen motherfuckers like do way

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Speaker 2: more over like a paper cut, and I'm like, what

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Speaker 2: like when I see men freak out over a paper cut,

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, I thought I was gonna drop my

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Speaker 2: uterus today, but please tell me about your paper cut.

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Speaker 2: So thank you so much for taking that like a champ.

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Speaker 2: But also fuck him. Can we get him on the

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Speaker 2: show anyways? You know what, we have another beautiful person

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Speaker 2: with the d name, but he's not a dick. I'm

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Speaker 2: so excited that he's on the show. He's just got

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Speaker 2: beautiful energy. He's so cool. Yes, he's written for ted Lasso.

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Speaker 4: He's got his own book in which he like explored

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Speaker 4: talking to people that do not like him.

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Speaker 3: Don't give too much away, yeah, won't do it.

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Speaker 1: Don't tell the kids what you got for Christmas.

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Speaker 3: You're right, you're right.

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Speaker 4: Give him a present holding the cards to vest but

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Speaker 4: please get ready for Dylan Maren.

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Speaker 5: I did I want to make everybody feel comfortable. That

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Speaker 5: was crazy. Oh my god, what a night y'all.

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Speaker 2: Oh my, look at these little doll faces make some noise.

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Speaker 2: If you have an office job, make some noise. If

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Speaker 2: you like your office job, wow, make some noise. If

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Speaker 2: you work for yourself, yes, I mean everyone sounds tired.

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Speaker 4: Everyone sounds tired. The people they've been standing, it's insane.

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Speaker 4: Your knees must be killing you. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 6: I mean, are these two seats taken?

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Speaker 5: There's a seat over here.

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Speaker 6: If somebody's knees is really buckling, don't be a hero.

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Speaker 4: This is this is We're just this is a wellness

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Speaker 4: check for people's knees.

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Speaker 5: You don't have to prove anything.

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Speaker 4: When you're in your upper thirties, it's hard and you're

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Speaker 4: just like, oh, what is that pain in the back?

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Speaker 6: You went to a club, waited in line? I know

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Speaker 6: if you're going to get in?

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Speaker 5: Uh No, that was that was Bloomberg was Mayor. That

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Speaker 5: was the last time I went to a club.

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Speaker 4: I mean, these we're smoking inside now to the last club.

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Speaker 5: But the last club I went to was Costco. Okay,

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Speaker 5: that's that's basically it.

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Speaker 4: Very exclusive club, very exclusive, very exclusive club.

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Speaker 6: Got great panties, high waist thongs by.

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Speaker 5: Kirkland Kirkland brand.

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Speaker 4: Baby, I don't even know. I love Costco Costco is

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Speaker 4: my ship I got.

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Speaker 5: I was. I used to live here in Gouanas And.

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Speaker 2: Could you stop saying everything like you just met it?

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Speaker 5: I can't. I used to live in Guanas, I did.

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Speaker 5: I was cool. And then I had another baby. I was.

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Speaker 4: There was a point I wore five use and uh

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Speaker 4: but there was a point. See y'all don't know about

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Speaker 4: that ship. And there was a point when when I

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Speaker 4: now instead of like stump Town, small batch, fair trade,

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Speaker 4: you know, like horse Hurrah, I get.

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Speaker 5: I literally get Kirkland three pounds. I get a three

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Speaker 5: pound jar of fucking I don't know how to do this.

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Speaker 5: I don't know how to do this. What's what's the

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Speaker 5: matter with that?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: I just I don't know who you are? I thought

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Speaker 2: I did. I'm just I think you're lost.

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Speaker 5: I am. It's true, it's true.

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Speaker 4: But now now when I stunt and now when I flyss,

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Speaker 4: it's about having the most food.

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Speaker 5: It used to be about having fly kicks and nice clothes.

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Speaker 2: Now it's like, but now your pantry looks like the bunker, Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: the doomsday room.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Oh I love it.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 4: It makes me so happy when you're over forty. This

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Speaker 4: is what it waits you. That's literally it wait.

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Speaker 2: I will say, there's no better feeling than being prepared.

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Speaker 5: But I was always like that.

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Speaker 2: Like my mom told me when I was five, I

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Speaker 2: didn't like her cereals milk ratio.

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Speaker 4: So I did you have a little briefcase that you

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Speaker 4: took to school as well?

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Speaker 2: I actually did have a briefcase that my dad didn't use.

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Speaker 5: It was like a lot.

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Speaker 2: Those were so fucking cool. I used to wear my

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Speaker 2: dad's ties to school. I was the only child. Did

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Speaker 2: I mention that too? Okay, nobody was telling me not

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Speaker 2: to do that, so I just did it.

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Speaker 5: Did you look like a worried little ceo like on Yeah, I.

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Speaker 6: Look like Raven Simone?

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Speaker 5: Oh no, like you wrote that paper. You used to

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Speaker 5: write a paper for your block too, write Oh my god,

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Speaker 5: how fucking dare you? I wrote a paper.

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Speaker 2: It was called Head over Heels, a little magazine for

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Speaker 2: the cul de sac I lived in, And I drew

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Speaker 2: a fucking picture of a severed head in a shoe

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Speaker 2: and then all the neighbors asked my parents to ask

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Speaker 2: me to stop put a ship there, a mere box,

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Speaker 2: and it was just like a recap of what happened

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Speaker 6: I'm like, so and So's dog pooped. There was no

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Speaker 3: I was.

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Speaker 6: I was community organizing from one. It's what, okay, I mean,

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Speaker 6: the most embarrassing ship.

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Speaker 4: You did when you were little, the most embarrassing thing

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Speaker 4: I did when I was little. Yeah, oh my, I

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Speaker 4: he my pants in a soccer game and there's a

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Speaker 4: there's a picture of it because we won the championship.

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Speaker 4: And then my mom was like, you're just sweating out

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Speaker 4: the front, baby, don't worry about it.

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Speaker 5: And I was like, it's sweat. It's sweat.

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Speaker 4: It's like a sweat stain right down there.

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Speaker 5: You asked, didn't she ask me? She asked a question, Well,

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Speaker 5: I know what down there was.

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Speaker 6: You didn't have to.

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Speaker 3: Touch it in case you were lost?

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Speaker 4: Yeah I was.

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Speaker 2: I wasn't like Australia down. Oh my god, let's bring

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Speaker 2: our next guest. I can't hear about your pists anymore.

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Speaker 5: And I hate.

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Speaker 4: Schatological humor, all right, So you guys, uh, this individual

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Speaker 4: so amazing, not only a writer for ted Lasso season three,

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Speaker 4: saying yes, an accomplished writer as well, also a podcast host,

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Speaker 4: podcast host, please give.

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Speaker 5: It up for Dylan mayor get over here, perfect.

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Speaker 7: Role of the jeans. Thank you, I did it over there.

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Speaker 7: I know skinny jeans are out, guys.

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Speaker 5: That's right, it's over.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Oh god. There was a sad like yeah, god.

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Speaker 6: Wait, can I just break down?

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Speaker 2: The first time we met through Francesca Ramsay, who's fucking

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Speaker 2: hilarious and beautiful.

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Speaker 5: Follow her talk about organizing.

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Speaker 2: She loves to put together fucking things to do and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I just want to sit and drink and

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Speaker 2: eat and she's like, no, A group of us are

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Speaker 2: going to soul cycle. And that's where I met you

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Speaker 2: on a bike. It was almost like the bike was

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Speaker 2: a key of furniture. You're like, what the fuck is that.

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Speaker 7: You're down playing it? Michelle saved my life, Like I

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Speaker 7: I thought I could do it because I like ran

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Speaker 5: Thanks to you. So I'll type that shit. That's so cool.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about can we talk about your podcast,

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Speaker 2: Okay, tell everybody going are on what you do because

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Speaker 5: I love that. And then you got married after.

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Speaker 4: Out, okay, that that is between us and our therapists.

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Speaker 6: I'll fuck with you.

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Speaker 2: You don't like, Yes, it don't feel nice, It don't

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Speaker 4: I try to approach every conflict with the thought that like,

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Speaker 5: How do you fight productively? How does one are you

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Speaker 7: I think like, well, there's always like the initial like

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Speaker 3: And I was the.

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Speaker 4: Most That's the most mature ship I've ever heard.

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Speaker 3: Oh I.

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Speaker 4: We fought Dylan, You'd just be like time out, Time

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Speaker 5: What if we weren't the people we are right now?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know you love Star Wars, and I think

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Speaker 5: And I love that. He's a You're a big Star

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Speaker 7: So I'm I know why you're saying this. Yes, but

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Speaker 7: Like we are like assaulted with Star Wars every day

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Speaker 4: these people, So like, how does that play out? Does

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Speaker 7: To be clear, we never saved those words for Beato,

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Speaker 6: We go into our respective people like don't got a

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Speaker 5: I'm like I need my sleep, Yeah I'm not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like we're married forever forever, yeah, like longer than tonight.

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Speaker 7: So let you you can go to bed angry, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Angry, I'll go about angry, I'll fuck angry, I'll cook angry.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you can do it all.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we do a lot of things.

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Speaker 2: Act I'm very like proactive yeah, how.

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Speaker 7: Do you angry? Proactive angry?

443
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Speaker 4: I think I think waiting the other person out, like

444
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Speaker 4: starving them out for the apologies kind of.

445
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 2: Wow, Raymond, season finale, are your warfare?

446
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 5: Weight you out? You have no idea? We will? I'm

447
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 5: in all respect, I feel like I can.

448
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 4: And it's a war of attrition. Sometimes sometimes it's a

449
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 4: war of attrition. And Dylan, you probably don't feel that

450
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:23,439
Speaker 4: way because look at the hope.

451
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 5: In your eyes. No, but it's totally fine. It's totally fine.

452
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 5: It's only fine. I want to ask you this.

453
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 4: So you made a pivot then from like working in

454
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 4: a kind of a negative, lonely space goddamn stop it,

455
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 4: to then working on ted Lasso, which is very uplifting

456
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:44,840
Speaker 4: and positive. Like, what was that like? Working like getting

457
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 4: along with people? Like you went from talking to people

458
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 4: that definitely do not like you to getting along with people.

459
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, that was It was lovely to like work around

460
00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 7: people and not alone on the internet. That opportunity actually

461
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 7: came from conversation people who hate me. Wow, Jasons, uh

462
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 7: you can hear yeah, I'll use two names. He DMed

463
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 7: me in the summer of twenty eighteen, and I was like, Okay, wow, okay,

464
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:24,719
Speaker 7: I want to say, but yes, so he DMed all

465
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 7: of us. Really, when you think about it, maybe maybe

466
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,120
Speaker 7: it's in my requests. Maybe it's it's going to lay

467
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,320
Speaker 7: in your requests. So I he DMed me in the

468
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 7: summer of twenty eighteen, and he had very nice things

469
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 7: to say about Conversations with People Who Hate Me. But

470
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 7: I also, you get a d M with the name

471
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 7: Jason Sudeikis in it, You're like, that's a catfish, Like,

472
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 7: this is not the real person. No, this is Facebook.

473
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 6: Facebook.

474
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 7: It is Facebook. What do we call the non public Facebook?

475
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 7: Was it your the Vintage? No, it wasn't my birthday

476
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 7: One's book gen one Facebook, Facebook, the Facebook Mark Zuckerberg's Facebook,

477
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 7: and he DM me and I was like, I had

478
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,600
Speaker 7: like seventy percent chance this is a catfish. And I

479
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 7: was like, at the same time, I'm producing a show

480
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 7: called Conversations with People who Hate Me, which is about

481
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 7: Internet culture, and I was like, I will continue this conversation.

482
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 7: Maybe this is an amazing episode, right, it'll be called

483
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 7: Jason sudeikas in quotes, And I was like, I'll engage him.

484
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 7: But he was also saying some really nice things really

485
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 7: complimentary things. I'm an only child, I need that and

486
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 7: so yes, and so I was like okay, and then

487
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 7: it got to the point where he was like, well, listen,

488
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,719
Speaker 7: I'd love to take you out to lunch. He was like,

489
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,199
Speaker 7: here's my number. And I was like, my kidneys are

490
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Speaker 7: about to be harvested, do.

491
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Speaker 5: You know what I mean?

492
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Speaker 7: Like, I'm about someone's gonna take my social Security And

493
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:06,719
Speaker 7: so he gave me his number. My agent was a

494
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 7: producer on Saturday Night Live. And I was like, I'm

495
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 7: not asking you to give me Jason Sudekus's number, but

496
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 7: I'm going to give you this number and you tell

497
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Speaker 7: me if it matches up. And it matched up, and uh.

498
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Speaker 6: And then you guys matched up, and then we matched.

499
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 7: Up and we're dating my husband Jason. Come on, Jason, he's.

500
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 8: Too.

501
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Speaker 2: It's like when people, like when people, especially creatives, when

502
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 2: we have a job, or like we're at a job

503
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: and we don't like like it or know what it is,

504
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 2: or we're like it's important, but how lung should I stay?

505
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Speaker 6: You never know where that ship might lead. Yeah, I've

506
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 6: had some shitty ass.

507
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 2: Jobs, like whether it's like retail for like you know,

508
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 2: hope clothes in the wall. It was Cherry Hill, it

509
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 2: was pike a bridge. It was a lot of things happening.

510
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: But also I worked at this place where the kids

511
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 2: bouncing the balls and ship oh yeah, and then the

512
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 2: kids like the parents would leave them and the kids

513
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 2: would peel all over the balls.

514
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 5: Oh.

515
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 6: And what I learned was I don't want to work there.

516
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, and to be nice to people you know that

517
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 2: work in those places.

518
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 5: Yeah. We answer questions from the audience. I love questions

519
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 5: about adulting. Are you ready for it? Honey, I'm ready

520
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 5: all right?

521
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 2: Bo Yeah, how often do I really need to change

522
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 2: my sheets?

523
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:45,239
Speaker 5: If you're asking, do it tonight? Do it tonight? Do

524
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 5: it tonight? Do that ship every week? Every week? You

525
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Speaker 5: grin Emi the fucker.

526
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes twice a week.

527
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 5: If you're twice a week week.

528
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 4: What you're doing in the bed, it depends on what

529
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 4: happens in the what happened in the bed.

530
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 5: It's a hotel, Yeah, I'm a hotel. Twice a week

531
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 5: is great.

532
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 2: It's giving outside clothes on the bed, that's what it's giving.

533
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 5: Yeah.

534
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 4: Don is a Don is a very like you know,

535
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 4: together together human being. So so I would see a

536
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 4: twice a week kind of thing for him.

537
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 3: You know you.

538
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,239
Speaker 7: I'm sorry, I'm hung up on this. You you wash

539
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 7: them twice a week.

540
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Speaker 5: I'm a once a week person. I said, sometimes twice

541
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Speaker 5: a week, depending on what happened. What did we understand?

542
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 5: We don't know what you do. We do some sex mathematics, Yeah,

543
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 5: like sex math yea yeah, yeah, okay, that makes more sense.

544
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 7: But once once a.

545
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Speaker 5: Week is absolutely That's the next question. I have so

546
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 5: many questions because I'm trying to find a good one.

547
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 4: All right, So how do I decide if I should

548
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 4: try to get pregnant slash have a child? Oh shit, okay,

549
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 4: I'm forty three years years old. I'm forty three queer,

550
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 4: it says, and now or never. Don't want to invite

551
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 4: a being into the world that will suffer.

552
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is this is a lot for me because

553
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 2: I did IVY, so I have a benign brain tumor

554
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: that makes my body think it's pregnant. So I couldn't

555
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 2: get pregnant on my own. I'm a science fucking project.

556
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 2: And you know what, that shit is not covered by insurance.

557
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 2: Being a woman is not covered by insurance, And so

558
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 2: I am really lucky that it happened to me at

559
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 2: a time where I had to pay out of pocket,

560
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 2: but it was legal. Now the shit happening in Alabama

561
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 2: and the Pope talk on his shit. Meanwhile, they got

562
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 2: all the money to support fucking pedophiles and keep them

563
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 2: under cover and shit. But women that want to have

564
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 2: families or like any type of alternative family planning, queer families,

565
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 2: cancer survivors, you know, we're trying to get our families,

566
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: and they want to like say it embryo as a

567
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 2: child and all is bullshit to stop us because we

568
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 2: are not allowed to, like you were saying last night,

569
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 2: have agency over our body because they want to fucking

570
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 2: control us. You want to have a baby, you don't

571
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: know if you want to have a baby, fucking free

572
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: your eggs and do it now, because I don't know

573
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 2: what's gonna happen in this country. None of us do.

574
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 2: And that's fucked up and that's the real real. So

575
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 2: if you see your eyes on somebody else's face, fucking

576
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 2: lock it down, bitch.

577
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 6: What's the next question.

578
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 2: I'm not fucking around now.

579
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm not trying to pivot. I'm not trying to pivot.

580
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 5: But who styled you for Survival of the Thickets. Oh oh,

581
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 5: oh my god, what a good question.

582
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 2: She is this amazing black silence name Kia Bounds. She

583
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 2: also does Black Mafia Family. She does a ton of shit.

584
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 2: She was a designer for everything that I'm writing my

585
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 2: character to be.

586
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 5: She did.

587
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 2: I really wanted to hire women of color, particularly black women,

588
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: because anytime I'm going through something or I'm trying to

589
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:59,959
Speaker 2: express something, it's like it really is like fucking family

590
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 2: on set, and we all get it. And so you know,

591
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 2: when you want to be your best, like, be sure

592
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 2: that you are around people that also want to not

593
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 2: only help you be your best, but also they come

594
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 2: wanting to win too. So Kia Bounds and I call

595
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 2: her Kiya nos No Bounds because that she's amazing. Okay,

596
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 2: she's gonna be on for season two. And I said,

597
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 2: more biscuits, more biscuits, yes, more like plus size lingerie.

598
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,479
Speaker 5: To wait, because why are you looking at me? Why

599
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 5: saying it?

600
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 2: Because my character is gonna be having a lot of

601
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 2: sex this season, lights on, lights on, lights on. She

602
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 2: does not gonna be fucking, uh huh, just fucking and sucking.

603
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 5: Huh, got it? Get off of me, all right? All right,

604
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 5: this is for everybody.

605
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 7: I feel like, yeah, we're all here together.

606
00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 4: Okay, this next question, any advice for getting along with

607
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 4: the boyfriend of my BFF who I don't get along with?

608
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 5: Or life two is love blind? Blind? Three?

609
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 4: No, you got pick one too much? How is it

610
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 4: you know you're ready to move in with someone? They

611
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 4: asked a triple headed Well you need a therapist. That's

612
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 4: a lie that I think who's in a network? It

613
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 4: was really at a cross roads. That's too much small card.

614
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 4: Yeah that's the lie. This is a little bucket we got. Okay,

615
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 4: I getting along with the BFF, Well, yeah.

616
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 7: That's the one that like hits home for me.

617
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 5: A boyfriend of my bff.

618
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, boyfriend of BFF. I like we can all be

619
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 7: adults and like we're not gonna like everyone you know.

620
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 5: You knows this is being recorded, right. Good?

621
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 7: At last, the mask comes off and I tear in

622
00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:04,239
Speaker 7: first name, last name, social blood type. I don't know

623
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 7: my blood type. We'll get to that later. That is,

624
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 7: does everyone know their blood type?

625
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 4: Yeah?

626
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, you need Oh god, I was sure there were

627
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 7: gonna be a lot of people like no, it's okay,

628
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 7: but wow, okay, shame that works I will go draw

629
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 7: blood right after this. I so yeah, I think this

630
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 7: is like the reality of like friendship that you're not

631
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 7: gonna like who everyone chooses, and you also don't you're

632
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 7: not dating them, do you know what I mean? Like

633
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 7: you can put up the wall and you don't have

634
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 7: to engage with them, and I don't think you have

635
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 7: to be their best friend.

636
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 5: It's it's kind of like a game of like you

637
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 5: know that, what's that game on?

638
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 4: Let's make a deal? Is it Plinko? Where it's like

639
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 4: you never know because people are are you guys? Have

640
00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,479
Speaker 4: you ever watched TV? But like you just never know

641
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 4: where it's going to end up. You don't know who

642
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 4: your best friend is going to like pair with, you know,

643
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 4: like I try to.

644
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 2: Bring everybody together, but then I end up talking shit

645
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 2: about them.

646
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 5: Right And it's like, which is also very fun.

647
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 4: You can't ever say you can't ever say I don't

648
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 4: like this person, They're not right for you.

649
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 2: I feel like just in the wouldn't say it to

650
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 2: your face, but you remember those moments, yeah, you remember them.

651
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 7: I also like the line I draw is like if

652
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 7: I feel that there's like something not good is about

653
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 7: to happen. And I even mean like they're emotionally unsafe,

654
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 7: do you know what I mean? Like that's when I

655
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 7: would be okay, being like let me talk to you

656
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 7: for a second, you know, But otherwise I'm like, you

657
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 7: are two consenting adults, go with God.

658
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 3: You know.

659
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:46,920
Speaker 2: Also the whole moving in and shit, it's like when

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Speaker 2: Jalsa you know what I mean, Like.

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Speaker 4: You, it's crazy too true, and you know what the

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Speaker 4: good thing to remember is like, don't worry about people

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Speaker 4: you know, like or you liking everybody, because not everybody

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Speaker 4: likes you.

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Speaker 7: And you know, it's just it's wild.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, what's wrong with you? It's like what? So

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Speaker 5: just remember that not everybody's gonna like you. I that

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Speaker 5: that lady doesn't like me, and I want her to

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Speaker 5: leave the room, all right. Stop. Okay, here's a good question.

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Speaker 4: I live in a one bedroom apartment, okay, flex and

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Speaker 4: he's six windows, two doors, and apparently he's developed insomnia.

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Speaker 5: How do we share our bedroom? Okay? We get it.

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Speaker 4: When he can't sleep and I'm a light sleeper. Insomnia, Well,

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I know people with insomnia and they just look miserable.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, sometimes I.

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Speaker 2: Feel like because melatonin doesn't work. They try to get

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Speaker 2: a prescription, Like, what is it? I don't know enough

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Speaker 2: about it? What is it you go to confess to

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Speaker 2: something or what what is it You need to drink

681
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Speaker 2: a little bit more? What is it a little bit less?

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Speaker 2: You need greens in your diet.

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Speaker 5: I don't think that's what it's. Somnia is actually.

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Speaker 6: Ghanda is.

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Speaker 2: Everything feels like it's actual Ganza over forty four.

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Speaker 6: It fixes fucking everything. What is it?

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Speaker 4: It's windex in my big fat green wedding. I feel

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Speaker 4: I feel like with insomnia, you know you know it. No,

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Speaker 4: not not personally, I know if it's reputation.

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Speaker 5: But like the older you get, this seems like a

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Speaker 5: younger person. The older you get, people will just get

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Speaker 5: up after a while.

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Speaker 4: Like people will just be like I was. They'll they'll

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Speaker 4: get up at three in the morning, I don't do

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Speaker 4: it and walk around and be like I'm mum about

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Speaker 4: you know, They'll just be like, they'll be up, write

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Speaker 4: a poem?

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Speaker 3: What gotcha?

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Speaker 6: The prices right? If you're gonna look there you get

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Speaker 6: in a glass of milk?

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Speaker 5: Godchamn it.

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Speaker 4: Literally like lying in bed just staring at the ceiling

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Speaker 4: because they can't you know they're not in touch with

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Speaker 4: their circadian rhythms.

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Speaker 5: What I can l O L bitch.

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Speaker 6: You saying that ship Cashure's sweater?

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Speaker 4: Is this too much? It's just too fucking much. I

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Speaker 4: feel like you should stay with this person. I'm sure

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Speaker 4: that you're in with views views of the park, but.

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Speaker 5: I do think that panoramic.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't know, but insomnia is not

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Speaker 4: a life sentence, so.

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Speaker 2: So that should be the advertising for yours, and advertising

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Speaker 2: it never goes away.

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Speaker 4: Try to love them through it, Try to love them

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Speaker 4: another gem and if you can't. And I know that

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Speaker 4: sounds crazy. I know this sounds crazy. I'm gonna see

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Speaker 4: something crazy. Are you ready for crazy? Wellness? Wellness and

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Speaker 4: crazy or the same thing?

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Speaker 5: I think?

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Speaker 4: I think your person might be on a bit too

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Speaker 4: much coffee. Needs to cut back, needs to cut back.

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Speaker 4: What do you think I just wanted to deal in

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Speaker 4: as a substitute teacher?

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Speaker 5: Go I wheel in the TV.

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Speaker 7: You know I'm shying homeward bound. That's every single time

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Speaker 7: it was homeward bound. I have seen homeward Bound twenty times.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what it was for me?

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Speaker 5: Because I'm older?

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Speaker 7: Okay, brag, Yeah, Willow. Oh yeah, yeah, will.

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Speaker 6: Guy google what Willow is?

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Speaker 5: Bitches?

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Speaker 2: I know we have to we listen. We asked every

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Speaker 2: guest what shows.

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Speaker 5: What's the most adult think you want to do that

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Speaker 5: you haven't had to do?

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Speaker 3: A goal?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, could be anything.

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Speaker 7: I would like to finally fully understand what a deductible is, Like,

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Speaker 7: let's abductive. I I no.

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Speaker 2: Problem here, he's gonna say it.

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Speaker 6: I won't get it.

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Speaker 7: So I just want to say before before you even

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Speaker 7: say it. It has been explained to me thirty two times,

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Speaker 7: like I I have been on the phone with Blue

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Speaker 7: Cross Blue Shield.

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Speaker 8: All the time.

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Speaker 6: It's my anthem.

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Speaker 7: Yeah I have. I have been on the phone with them.

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Speaker 7: They explain it to me every time I'm on the

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Speaker 7: phone with them, and I always preface it to be

752
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 7: like I'm so dumb, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 7: I mean, like I'm a five year I know, and

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Speaker 7: I always know their name Janet. It's like Janet, I'm

756
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Speaker 7: a little dummy, But what is a deductible? And what

757
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Speaker 7: the fuck are you talking about? Like that's honestly what

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Speaker 7: I feel. And twenty twenty four is going to be

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Speaker 7: the year that I finally understand what a deductible is yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: The deductible is the threshold at which threshold the insurance

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Speaker 4: company starts paying. Do you understand, So, if you have

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Speaker 4: a thousand dollars deductible, it.

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Speaker 7: Once again went right in and it's said threshold you need,

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Speaker 7: you need to do at least one thousand dollars of

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Speaker 7: damage to your body.

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Speaker 5: Do you understand?

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Speaker 4: So if you like, let's say you if you had

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Speaker 4: a five thousand dollars deductible and you just broke a finger,

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Speaker 4: you're better off homeboy in America breaking the whole arm,

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Speaker 4: do you understand, like shattering that shit and your spine

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Speaker 4: so that blue Cross Blue Shield takes over and says,

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Speaker 4: we got it.

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Speaker 5: Do you understand? The worse the better? But not too much.

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Speaker 8: Better because they set caps. Now, Dylan Mare and everybody.

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Speaker 1: What a cutie pie. More people like Dylan please in

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Speaker 1: the world.

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Speaker 3: Sweet soul, great hair, good hair.

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Speaker 1: That's why you gotta love your kids. That's why you

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Speaker 1: gotta love your kids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's true.

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Speaker 1: That's all.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: Some people just like kind of change the molecules around

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Speaker 4: in the room. You you know what I'm saying, and

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Speaker 4: they make it a kinder warmer place, and Dylan is

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Speaker 4: definitely that very incandescent.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, I mean, I don't know if that's a

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Speaker 2: word or a person. I don't know how to spell it,

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Speaker 2: but I'm just gonna say.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it's a bulb, like a light bulb, life bul

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Speaker 4: Sure it glows.

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Speaker 3: He's more of a forty or a sixty or a fifty.

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Speaker 2: What Jersey Public school, Catholic fucking education, you guys. I

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Speaker 2: don't know if you have like someone's birthday coming up.

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Speaker 2: I know that Mother's Day is upon us pretty soon.

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Speaker 2: Get his book, give it as a gift. Conversations with

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Speaker 2: People who Hate Me Twelve Things I learned from talking

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Speaker 2: to Internet strangers. I think it's really important and unique

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Speaker 2: the way that he's done this, because the Internet is

801
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:10,839
Speaker 2: going and nowhere, and so we do have to learn

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Speaker 2: how to deal with it and also to be kind.

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Speaker 1: That's my biggest thing.

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Speaker 2: Like, don't live in the comment section, live i RL lol,

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Speaker 2: and don't forget to check out his podcast as well.

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Speaker 2: Conversations with People who Hate Me. It's like it's mind

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Speaker 2: blowing and also entertaining, which is my favorite place to

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Speaker 2: live with elastic straps around my waist.

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Speaker 3: And don't forget his show Ted Lasso. Perhaps you've heard

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Speaker 3: of it? Oh? Pretty bad? Got yeah?

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Speaker 1: All right? Everyone, take care. Buy our merch.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 1: Our senior producer is g Howley.

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Speaker 3: Our associate producer is Christina Chamberlain.

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Speaker 1: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

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Speaker 3: Our guest booker is Patrick Cotner.

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Speaker 1: Production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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Speaker 3: Theme song and live show DJing is by DJ Don Will.

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Speaker 1: Our live producer is Makala Konazovich.

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Speaker 3: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel.

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Speaker 1: Photography by Reis vander Most.

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Speaker 4: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hartstark and Daniel Kramer.

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Speaker 1: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 3: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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