WEBVTT - Selling Tampa Secrets with Sharelle Rosado 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:09.360 Welcome here is popping. Welcome to my show. I am 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:13.720 your host, and you're listening to Exactly a Mata of 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:16.479 production of My Heart Radio. Thank you so much for 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:20.680 tuning in. Thank you so much for every week. Um 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:24.000 you know we we've increased our listeners, our numbers keep 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:26.920 you know, getting higher. I am just so excited because 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:29.040 I remember when we first started, you know, the show, 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.080 and I was a look like a little nervous, and 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:34.640 now things are only but getting better. 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I didn't feel like getting dressed up energy. 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:16.680 I'm pregnant and I feel nauseous energy and I have 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:20.600 my Onesie and Mike. How do you call this STU 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:28.360 exactly and don't say, well, I'm being sad. Um. I 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:31.400 am so excited today. I really wanted to dress up 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:35.520 and be like really bourgeois, but I just I just 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:39.040 didn't happen. But today I have a really special guest. 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:41.240 I am so proud of her. I had the opportunity 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:45.520 of sharing energies and spaces with her. Um. She is 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:49.200 the founder and CEO of her own luxury real estate firm, 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:53.000 Allure Realty. UM. She's also one of the stars of 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:57.320 the Netflix show Selling Tampum. She's here to spell all 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.559 spill all the tea. And one of the great things 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.440 that I love about being able to talk to her 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.720 is the fact that one of the reasons why I 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.520 wanted to do this show is because I also wanted 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.200 to empower women. I wanted you to know, you know, 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.880 first learn there's so many things for us to learn 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:15.079 empower women. UM. Let you know that you're not alone. 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:18.160 It hasn't been an easy journey for you know people. 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:19.880 You see the people when they're in the top, but 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:24.880 the journey, the process hasn't necessarily been is easy for everyone. UM. 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.560 Some people have had it harder than others. And some 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:29.600 people really have a story to share that can be 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:32.480 inspirationally inspirational to you so that you can get your 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:37.600 ship together. So with that being said me that ai 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:42.200 s when I really say mogul so you can get 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:45.400 your notebook, get your pencil, get your pen and start 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:49.640 writing down all this tea because not only um is 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:52.200 she amazing with real estate, but again I'm being she 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:54.400 was in the army. Look, I'm not gonna tell you 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.000 too much. I'm just gonna let her tell you the team. 0:02:58.000 --> 0:02:59.680 Let me see, because you don't get my English is 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:06.639 not very good looking. Shirley Rosaldo, I mean Rosalo? Where 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.320 are you from? My father's Puerto Rican and my mom 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:14.280 is African American Jassa and Rosal was like me more, 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:17.519 she has to be maybe Dominican. She's poor a Reagan 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.480 and don't say, my love, how are you doing? How 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:22.200 are you feeling? I know that right now you're one 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:25.000 of the most amazing stages in your life because you're 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:30.440 also having a baby. Yes I am. I'm ready to 0:03:30.919 --> 0:03:34.600 give her her eviction papers, but I'm excited. Everything is 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:39.600 flourishing for myself, my agents, my business. Um, I'm just blessed, 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:43.280 truly blessed. Amen. And you know, before we get into 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:45.280 all the tea and all that good stuff, how do 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:49.320 you manage right now to still be a boss, still 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:53.880 be a mom, still be pregnant, still be an amazing wife, 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:56.320 you know, just going through the whole process. How do 0:03:56.360 --> 0:04:00.000 you find that balance? You know, just from the military, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.720 they taught you to basically you have to be ready. 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.560 If you stay ready, you don't have to get ready. 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:08.920 And that's my mentality that I live by. So trying. 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:11.160 How do you how do you stay ready for your kids? 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.120 Like you have your kids already had to take care 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:14.720 at home, but you still have to make time to 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:17.560 be on your computer, handling you know, your business. Even 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:20.600 if you have other people and you know working for you, 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:23.360 you still gotta be on top of everything that's happening. 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:25.760 And then at the nighttime when your husband, when your 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:29.200 man was not volunte you also gotta give time for that. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:32.760 It's a lot. It is a lot, so um right 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:36.560 now and enjoined, you know, my business is set. I 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:40.560 have delegated UM roles to people to make sure that 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:45.120 it's running smoothly. My kids, I have teenagers. They they 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.919 fanned for themselves at this point, and of course you 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:49.560 know I still have the one on one time with 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:53.120 them where we communicate daily, see how how school was, 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:56.880 how their day went. I have to give them their time. 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:02.400 And then my fiance, he's lowmate it he doesn't requires 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.440 and if I want some of my wakes behind up 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:07.200 and do what I need to do and go back 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:13.240 to now you have. Selling Tampa is the follow up 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.800 of Selling Sunset on Netflix. Right, yes, we are a 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:20.240 spinoff of Selling Sunset. Okay, so tell me a little 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.400 bit about the show. The show is gonna show our 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:27.080 amazing brokerage UM and the amazing ladies of a low 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:30.080 realty that start helped me start a lot realty. It's 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:33.200 gonna show us killing the luxury market. It's hard for 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:38.800 minority women. It's a predominantly white male industry, and it's 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.159 gonna show us tapping into that market and showing that 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.479 it can be done. Of course, there's gonna be a 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.159 little drama, but what business doesn't have drama. But the 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.880 great thing about my show is that we know how 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:51.479 to bring it back together. We are a family and 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:55.159 we agree to disagree. When you're see a little bit 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:56.640 of drama, mind give me a little bit of TV 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:59.200 because you know we can't give it so cute. What's 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:01.480 that deed? Who's who's the one that's being gonna gave 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.159 bitch or whatever? Who wants the money? I mean, you 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:06.920 have some people that want to be, you know, take 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:09.120 my place, want to be the boss, but there's only 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.200 one boss within the lord, and they can't be done. 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:15.080 And if you don't like my rules, there's the door. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:20.520 I also saw I'm not sure because I saw the 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:23.000 promotions on your social media platform, which, by the way, guys, 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:24.560 I go to her Instagram every day to see her 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:28.000 she's but I saw that they're all women. I love 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:32.640 the fact they put all women together, showing you know, empowerment, unity, minorities. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:35.839 I love it, But doesn't it get a little bit 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:37.960 hard when it's a hope into women because it gets real, Caddy, 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:39.680 I know that I can't do a room for the 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:43.160 women all the time. And in business and money is 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:46.880 involved and power and status is involved, it can get 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:50.880 very complicated. No, I feel like that's the stereotype we 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:54.320 have to break. And that's what I love about uh 0:06:54.360 --> 0:07:00.160 selling Tampa. It shows powerful women, appletype females all in 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.960 one room. Yeah, we may have disagreements, we may not 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.400 agree on everything, but we know how to bring it 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:08.120 back together. And that's the stereotype we need to bring 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.760 break that just because a room full of black women 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:14.320 get together, that it's always gonna be fighting, you know, 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:18.560 punching and all this going on. But no, it's it's business. 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.040 Business is being handled at the end of the day. 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:25.600 How how do you still maintain yourself as a boss, 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.840 as a woman, as a boss with a whole bunch 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.880 of other females and not. Uh. I don't want to 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:35.320 say lower yourself, but you never have those moments where 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:37.360 you want to still because I know you're very bourgeois, 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:40.280 you're very put together, but okay, the hood is still 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:45.040 in there. Really still it's still in there. It so 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.440 how do you keep it together? And I'll be like, beats, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:50.160 let me tell you something, this is my damn firm. Like, 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:53.080 you don't have those moments that you get it. So 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:56.040 that's the thing. I don't have the acknowledge that this 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.360 is my business. They know it. I have laid the 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:02.560 ground that you know, who wants the show and they 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:05.600 respect that. Being in the military did teach me how 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:08.800 to be a strong leader and UM, I don't have 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:11.760 to raise a voice. Like I said before, I laid 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:14.040 the rules. I made the table. I brought the table. 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:17.240 If you don't like it, I can give you the ingredients. 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.920 I support you, but the sauce would never be the 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:23.760 same period. Oh my god, I love it now. If 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:26.040 there were to be uh you know other women that 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.920 want to get into the real estate UH industry, what 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:31.480 advice would you give and if they wanted to work 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:35.600 for you, how can they reach out to you? UM? 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:39.480 Advice on people getting some real estate industry? UM. Never 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:42.560 look at someone else that says and based it off yours. 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:45.120 Focus on you. Set up a plan for you that 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:48.640 benefit that compliments your what you're doing, and then go 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:52.079 from there. But once you start looking at someone else success, 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:56.080 you'll never prosper your your business will never prosper um. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.880 And keep going. You're gonna have obstacles. They're gonna come. 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:01.960 You may not get a self for the first year, 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.600 but keep if this is a passion that you want 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:08.679 to do, keep on going. UM. And for agents that 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:10.360 want to be a part of the lord. Right now, 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:13.920 I put a hold on hiring because it's crazy. But 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.080 once I do start back hurn. I do, Um, you 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:20.000 have to be an experience agent. I don't hire new agents. 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.280 What do you look for when you need to hire 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.600 people for your firm? Like I look for women that 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.720 are like this? Are they only women? Do you also 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:36.960 take except men? Or what is it that you're looking for? 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:38.840 I except men too. You just have to be a 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:41.160 go getter. You have to produce. You have to. It's 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:45.360 it's your A lot of agents interviewed the broker, but 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:47.880 I interviewed the agent. You have to show me your numbers. 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:49.480 If you're not producing and you just want to be 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.280 a part of a glamp, you think this is a 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.440 UH model agency is not. You need to show me 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:57.240 your numbers, show me that you got it, because I 0:09:57.280 --> 0:10:01.679 don't babysit. So who did that? Does better? Men? Agents 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:08.280 or women? We do it the best? Okay? Period? Because 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:09.880 I do feel like I don't want to say this 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:14.040 is a male predominated industry like pretty much every industry. UM. 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.080 I do know there's a lot of men running the 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:20.600 real estate UH industry. However, I feel that sometimes women 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:23.800 know how to use certain words or know how to 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:26.800 I don't want to say convinced, but I just feel 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.160 like the hustle is a little different. We know how 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:32.720 to convince, we know how to get that house so okay, 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:36.120 And you sell properties all over the United States. I 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:39.240 have referral partners all over the United States, and I 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:42.960 handle all over Florida. So well, talking about that, I've 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.439 heard that here in Florida houses are going to get 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:50.560 even more expensive. I heard that now you know with unfortunately, um, 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.880 certain disasters that have happened in certain states will now 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:57.840 make those properties cheaper. Is there any advice or any suggestion? 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.440 Why not suggestions, but advice that you can talk about 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:02.320 when it comes to real estate. How is the market 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:05.320 looking right now? Right now? It's crazy. It's you know, 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:07.760 it's still a seller's market. But the interest rates are 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.360 still low. And if you find something, jump on it. 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.520 Do not sit and wait thinking that the market's gonna crash. 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.320 I don't have a cross the ball. But right now 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:20.520 the market is not turning around. Um, it's it's great. 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:24.160 The it's a seller's market and if if you have it, 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:27.079 go ahead and take advantage of it. Yeah. I've heard 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:28.720 a lot of people that they're waiting for the market 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.960 to go down, for it to crash, and then you 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:32.880 know they're gonna be able to buy cheap properties. I 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:35.560 don't really think that that's gonna happen either, but um 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:37.640 that yeah, I do know that it's a sellers as 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:40.400 a seller's market right now. So basically, for those who 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:43.840 don't understand what exactly a seller's market is, what is 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:46.800 it for for them to understand a seller's market is? 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.120 Basically the seller has control over it. They have control 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:55.679 over their price. Um, it's it's more demand of people 0:11:55.760 --> 0:12:01.199 purchasing than people actually selling their home. So, um, the 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:05.240 demanded is load. People are paying outrageous prices over asking 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:08.880 price just to get home, so sellers can take advantage 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:12.360 of that and raise their price more than and sell 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:15.920 it for more than what it's worth. Oh well, I 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:17.880 mean I'm not trying to sell my house right now, 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.839 but like it sounds good to me right now. How 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:23.440 do you also feel good? Questions? How do you also 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:26.319 feel about investing outside of the United States? Are are 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.839 you a believer in that? Like there's other countries or 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:32.199 cities or I mean islands or whatever. How do you 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:35.079 feel about investing outside the US? I'm definitely a believer 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:38.440 in it. It's if you have the funds definitely jump 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:42.960 on it UM short term rental. It's not going anywhere. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:47.080 UM hotels hated. They are finding ways to, you know, 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.520 try to stop it, but it's not going anywhere. Take 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:53.160 advantage of it. That's residual income and the prices are cheap. 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:55.120 If you would have jumped on it a year ago 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.319 or right before the pandemic started, you hit a gold mom. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.800 But it's still not too like. I definitely suggest getting 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:05.400 with someone learning UM the knowledge of invest in overseas 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:09.160 and taking advantage of it. I agree a thousand percent. 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.040 I personally have invested in the Dominican Republic. It has 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.600 gone great for me. I am a fan of it, 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.040 especially if you want to invest in a country that 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:21.200 is touristic, especially if it's a country that is nice 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:24.000 and warm. You know, you're always find people that are 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:27.160 willing to travel over there and you know, spend a vacation, 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.560 spend a couple of weeks, Airbnb your property, or whatever 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:32.520 the case may be. So definitely, don't be scared to 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.600 do your research. Don't be scared to do your research. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:38.000 Follow me at Amada Airbnb, a Mata Airbnb. I always 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:40.320 post information there all the time. If you want to 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:42.120 ask me anythings. Feel free to slide up in my 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:44.360 d M s. I love helping people. I love seeing 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.960 people grow because it makes me feel It makes me 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:48.760 feel good to know that I was able to help 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:53.320 you somehow. So with that being said, guys, don't forget 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.679 whatever you do, do not miss out on selling Tampa, 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.000 like I said before, is the follow up of selling 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:05.080 Sunset on Netflix. You have to watch this. It's so empowering, empowering, um, 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:08.160 and it's a beautiful thing to see minorities, black women 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.520 come together show that they can be you know, intelligent, 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:16.160 powerful financially, you know, they got it together. They look beautiful. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:18.640 We need more shows like this, and I love the 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:22.400 fact that Netflix is giving platforms for shows like this 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:26.680 and women like yourself. They are so you know powerful that, Um, 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:30.280 you've been able to do so much from yourself. You know, 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:33.720 for yourself. You don't come from a rich or like 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:37.680 super wealthy household, No, no, I do not. You have 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.520 to work your way up. And that's why I wanted. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.120 I wanted to ask what made you want to get 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:46.920 into the army? How was that? What made you finally 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.200 take that decision? Okay, this is the best thing that 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:52.200 I can do in order for me to improve, you know, 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:56.120 an upgrade my life. Well as some people know. You know, 0:14:56.200 --> 0:15:00.360 I lost my track scholarship in high school. I was 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:06.080 that a pregnant mom, uh, teenager. UM, So I want 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.000 the best for my daughter. I didn't want her to 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.760 have the life that I I lived. So I decided, 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:13.080 what better life to get out of the small town 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.600 I'm in, What better life to have and have great benefits? 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.720 Why not join the military. I didn't care if the 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.640 war was going on, didn't care about any of that. 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:24.360 My main goal was to make sure that my daughter 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:27.880 was taken care of. Wow. And that's and you know 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.240 now now more than ever, you know, at least we're 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:34.120 already gone through the experience. But I am starting to 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:37.400 understand that that motherly instinct that comes out of you, 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:41.800 that you're willing to sacrifice to do anything to protect 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:43.680 that child. And you were willing to even if the 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:47.080 war was happening, even if it ben sacrificing yourself anything 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.000 just to give a better future to to your to 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:53.760 your children. Um. And then did you ever regret it? 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:55.480 Like once you were in there. Because one thing is 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:57.320 when you're like, oh, I'm gonna go to the military. 0:15:57.440 --> 0:15:59.880 Once you were there, were you ever a damn? Okay, 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:03.760 this wasn't the best idea. I didn't regret it. You know. 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:06.600 It's some things I'm not proud of that happened during 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:10.480 the military, But that's life. You're gonna go through obstacles 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:15.120 that you can't control sometimes, and um, it's a learning lesson. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.000 I feel like things that I went through it made 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:20.960 me a better person and make me the person who 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:24.240 I am today. So I'm truly grateful for the experience 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:26.800 that that I did serve while serving in the military. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.880 I'm truly grateful for being deployed. I'm truly grateful for 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:32.520 even going through the bad things that I went through 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:36.760 because it made me the strong person I am today. Amen. Amen, 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.240 for sure. And the same thing goes for having to 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.760 finally make that decision of Okay, so now I'm going 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:43.000 to go to war. But now that the go to 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:46.160 war or I go to military. Um, first of all, 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:48.240 how long were you how we're how long did you serve? 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:57.520 Twelve years, nine months, and nineteen days to what that's crazy? 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:02.320 That's a long time, Okay, but you did it and 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.880 you survived it, and look at you. You know better 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:08.480 than ever now now as a mom. At that moment, 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:11.919 especially you know the first time, Mom, how old was 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.720 your baby when you left? And how difficult was it 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.560 for you to be able to go to work and 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.080 know that, you know, you had to leave a review 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:23.639 with someone else. My daughter was six months when I 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:26.760 left to go off the training, UM, and I didn't. 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:28.720 I couldn't get her back until I got to my 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:31.760 first duty station. So it was probably like almost a 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:35.200 year later before I was able to basically bring her 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:40.080 with me. Um. It was hard, but I mean the 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:42.879 end result was great. I have a great support system, 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:46.400 my mom and my my dad. They are amazing. UM, 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:49.840 and I felt comfortable. I knew she my daughter, would 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:52.919 be taken care of leaving to you know, to deploy 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:55.720 or if I had to go spawn special missions. I 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:59.640 knew that my daughter was insane hands has your daughter 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:02.160 ever that you know? Mom, I'm kind of thinking about 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:04.280 it or what would you say if she were to 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.320 hit you up? Like Mom, you know, I'm thinking maybe 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:07.919 I would want to go to Merrige, to the to 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.200 the military. My daughter is full. She didn't have the 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:14.440 life I had growing up, so I feel like she 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:16.639 saw what I went through as a child. You know, 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:20.200 she experienced the be in a way. I don't think 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:23.040 that's a route that that they, any of my children 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:26.880 will choose because of having to leave at any drop 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.159 of a dime. Um, that's something that they don't have 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:34.840 the experience because I sacrifice tim um with my life 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:36.800 to make sure that they were good. So they have 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:39.639 a free Roight scholarship to go to college and do 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:41.600 whatever they want to do. And I'm gonna support and 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:43.640 even if they do decide to go into the military, 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:53.480 I'm going to support them. Well. You know, they've also 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:57.320 asked me now as a future mom, what are some 0:18:57.400 --> 0:18:59.680 of the things that you want to teach and implement 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:02.439 to your children? Um A, by the way that you 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:04.679 grew up. Some of the things that I want my 0:19:04.760 --> 0:19:07.919 kids to learn is um Well, I used to clean 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:10.360 houses with my mom, used to clean toilets to get 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:13.320 like fifty dollars a day. I remember selling flowers in 0:19:13.359 --> 0:19:15.680 the in the stop signed and I remember going through 0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:18.479 that whole process. Obviously, I worked hard enough that now 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:21.600 my children won't necessarily have to go through that, but 0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:25.080 I still want them to go through it, even if 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:27.400 I'm just right there at the stop siding with y'all. 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.679 But I want to see y'all sweat. I want to 0:19:29.680 --> 0:19:33.359 see y'all go through it. Is there anything that you 0:19:33.359 --> 0:19:36.720 will want your children to experience that you went through 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:39.119 that was you know that changed you or made you 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:44.200 mature or see life differently. So the things I change, 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:47.520 I have two answers for that. I definitely make sure 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:50.520 that they work hard for what they want. It's just 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:52.840 not given to them. They have to make sure that 0:19:53.119 --> 0:19:55.320 they bring home good grades. They have to make sure 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:59.239 that their chores are done. Um nothing is given. And 0:19:59.280 --> 0:20:02.880 I also I changed the narrative in my household than 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:06.320 what I hadn't. Coming from a minority household, we wasn't 0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:10.240 able to communicate with our parents. It was basically I speak, 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.440 you listen, I speak, you execute, shut up. I don't 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:15.320 want to hear anything. And that I felt like that 0:20:15.359 --> 0:20:18.760 effect that my communication skills then a young adult. So 0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:22.080 now I bring that in. I make sure I implement 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:25.520 that and I spread it to young parents and parents 0:20:25.600 --> 0:20:29.560 who are who are dealing with teenagers or children in general. 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:32.879 Make sure you communicate with your kids because it's gonna 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:36.439 help them in the long run for sure. And talking 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:39.919 about communication for a business that you definitely need to 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:42.439 know how to communicate and you gotta have you know, 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:44.879 spit that game online and know how to convince. The 0:20:45.000 --> 0:20:48.199 baby is when it comes to real estate and you 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:51.160 are a real estate mogil, you are amazing and great 0:20:51.160 --> 0:20:53.800 at what you do. You have created an empire. I 0:20:53.840 --> 0:20:55.719 love the fact that you're a woman, that you are 0:20:55.720 --> 0:20:58.639 a minority, that you were strong, that you nothing was 0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:01.040 given to you. You work for every single thing that 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:03.760 you have. I love these type of stories because I 0:21:03.800 --> 0:21:05.320 feel there's a lot of listeners. There's a lot of 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:07.639 people that feel like, oh, well, she's pretty, so she 0:21:07.800 --> 0:21:10.359 just probably pulled it off from somebody, or she da 0:21:10.480 --> 0:21:13.360 da dada. No, she worked for what she has, period, 0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:19.240 So what made you do this? Like three sixty, I'm 0:21:19.240 --> 0:21:22.080 gonna leave the military and I'm just gonna dedicate to 0:21:22.119 --> 0:21:24.880 real estate and this is what I'm gonna do. Real 0:21:25.000 --> 0:21:26.800 estate was always stuck in the back of my head. 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:29.159