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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subjects How could he possibly want more?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty four and my partner is

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Speaker 1: forty eight. We've been together for thirteen years total and

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Speaker 1: living together for the past nine years. He's been married before,

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Speaker 1: so he didn't want to get married again. I have

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Speaker 1: never seen a great marriage, so I'm not big on

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Speaker 1: the institution of marriage either. Even now, nothing but married

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Speaker 1: men hit on me. I'm a realist and I know

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Speaker 1: that ninety eight percent of men cheat, so I've tried

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Speaker 1: not to stress out over what my partner is doing

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Speaker 1: when he's not with me. I hoped the day would

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Speaker 1: never come when he got sloppy with it and I

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Speaker 1: started seeing signs that he's cheating. We usually have sex

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Speaker 1: when we get home from work, because when we go

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Speaker 1: to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We also

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Speaker 1: have sex in the morning and the shower, the closet

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Speaker 1: of the kitchen, or wherever we are when the urge

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Speaker 1: comes over us. That's why I was shocked to see

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Speaker 1: little signs that he might be cheating. I have seen

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Speaker 1: makeup on his clothes, he has had strings of weave

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Speaker 1: in his car, and he's starting to get texas in

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Speaker 1: the morning. He's never had his phone on silent before,

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Speaker 1: but last night I saw him switch it to silent

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Speaker 1: before he got into bed. I won't have to ask

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Speaker 1: him if he's cheating. I can just watch him and

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Speaker 1: see how he changes. I was a side piece before

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Speaker 1: I met him, and I witness how the married man

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Speaker 1: lied to his wife. I had to personally apologize to

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Speaker 1: that man's wife, and that was the end of me

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Speaker 1: being an adulterer. I am shocked that my man needs

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Speaker 1: more sex because we have sex daily times twice a day.

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Speaker 1: How could he possibly want more? What am I missing? Here?

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Speaker 1: Are men never satisfied? Please help? Well? If it's true,

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Speaker 1: the way you guys go at it the way you

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Speaker 1: say it in the letter, you would think he would

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Speaker 1: always be satisfied, or he wouldn't have the time, or

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Speaker 1: he would be way too tired. But it seemed to

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Speaker 1: have the opposite effect. It energizes him. So who knows

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Speaker 1: why he cheats? It could be anything. Only he can

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Speaker 1: answer that. It could be a reason as crazy as

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Speaker 1: the other woman was just there to he's fallen in

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Speaker 1: love with someone else. And I'm sure you having been

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Speaker 1: in this space before as a side check, as you mentioned,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It could literally be anything

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Speaker 1: or nothing in particular why he cheats. The thing that

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Speaker 1: makes your situation different is that you actually have proof here.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you have some makeup. You've seen makeup on

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Speaker 1: his clothes, You've seen strands of hair and another dead giveaway.

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Speaker 1: He has changed his behavior and he's not trying to

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Speaker 1: hide it. The decision is yours. Now. You've been with

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Speaker 1: this man for thirteen years total, no marriage in the offing,

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Speaker 1: nothing like that. You guys aren't planning.

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Speaker 2: To do that.

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Speaker 1: So what do you want? I mean? Do you want

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Speaker 1: to stay with him and to continue to see this

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Speaker 1: makeup and hear you know everywhere? Or you want to

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Speaker 1: leave and not give him another thirteen years of your life.

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Speaker 1: And then you know, you got to think about this.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes men just get tired. We get tired of each

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Speaker 1: other after so long.

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Speaker 2: Steve, First of all, I like to say, I cannot

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Speaker 2: believe Sureley's answer. I just cannot. Surely you surprised me.

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Speaker 2: We're good at it.

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Speaker 1: It's good you change's surprised.

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Speaker 2: As a person. I mean, just your answers.

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Speaker 1: You just haven't been over the years.

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Speaker 2: Oh I've been listening. Oh that's one thing I know

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Speaker 2: how to. Oh, listen, That's how I know to change.

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Speaker 1: M hm.

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Speaker 2: Hm. So glad she'd change change as well. Here I go.

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Speaker 2: I'm forty four of my partner's forty eight. This is

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Speaker 2: a woman right here. First of all, let me say

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Speaker 2: this right here. I can't help this dude in this letter.

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Speaker 2: The cat is out the bag, the gig is up,

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Speaker 2: the proof is in the pudding. Nothing I can do

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Speaker 2: for you, bro, busted caught. You ain't even trying to deny.

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Speaker 2: She has not even presented the evidence. All made an accusation.

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Speaker 2: She'd merely wrote a letter and dog you the start

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Speaker 2: the show. Please help, please help you, lady. You just

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Speaker 2: describe something. You've been married before. Your husband been married before,

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Speaker 2: so he ain't want to get married. Y'all been together

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Speaker 2: for thirteen years total, living for nine. He was married before,

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Speaker 2: so he ain't want to get married again. You did

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Speaker 2: said you ain't never seen a great man marriage, so

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Speaker 2: I ain't big on the institution of marriage now, she said,

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Speaker 2: even now? Nothe been married me and hit on me.

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Speaker 2: She said, I'm a realist, and I know ninety eight

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Speaker 2: percent of me in cheat, ninety eight percent of me.

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Speaker 2: And you know that's not a true statement. That's really

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Speaker 2: really not a true statement. And I can say that,

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Speaker 2: don't behalf of men.

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Speaker 1: She can say it as a side shick tho.

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Speaker 2: Well, just because you trifling, don't mean everybody else's trifling.

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Speaker 2: And just because your man cheat don't mean all men cheat.

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Speaker 2: See now you being a side piece, how that validate

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Speaker 2: the letter anymore? How So let's go on a little

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Speaker 2: bit further. I try not to stress over what my

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Speaker 2: hope that day would never come to he got sloppy

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Speaker 2: with it. All you was hoping was and you wish

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Speaker 2: You assumed he would do it, and so now there

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Speaker 2: you have it. That's why you're not having That's why

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Speaker 2: you're not tripping now here the part though, we have

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Speaker 2: go to bed, that's sleep time, not sex time. We

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Speaker 2: have sex in the morning, in the shower, the closet,

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Speaker 2: the kitchen. Where were we at the urge come over?

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Speaker 2: That's why I was shocked. First of all, I'd like

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Speaker 2: to say, congratulations. This don't normally happen like this. I'm

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Speaker 2: here to tell you that that's the married women on

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Speaker 2: the show. Now I can tell you right now. Hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 2: they not going for all this hill and.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject

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Speaker 1: how can he possibly want more? We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter? Sorry,

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Speaker 1: how could he possibly want more?

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Speaker 2: Let me quickly go over there and here the letter

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Speaker 2: is called why would he want more? Because they married

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Speaker 2: and both of them don't want to be married. Well,

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Speaker 2: they live together, and both of them are not wanting

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Speaker 2: to get married because both of them been married before.

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Speaker 2: And she said she never seen a good marriage because

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Speaker 2: ninety eight percent of all me and cheat. I said,

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Speaker 2: that's not a true story. And then she validates this

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Speaker 2: whole letter. But I said, I used to be a

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Speaker 2: side piece. Well I ain't and what so now? So now,

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Speaker 2: since you was a side piece, what you said all

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Speaker 2: women are side pieces? Cause you'd have made the statement

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Speaker 2: that ninety eight percent of me and cheat, So I

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Speaker 2: must be you must be willing since you was a

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Speaker 2: side piece, you must be willing to say that ninety

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Speaker 2: eight percent of the women are side pieces. Do you

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Speaker 2: understand why we can't let you make that brad sweeping

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Speaker 2: statement on this show. You can't say that about me

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Speaker 2: and and you can't make that statement about women just

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Speaker 2: because you was a side piece. It's women ain't going

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Speaker 2: for that. Now your question is how could he possibly

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Speaker 2: want more? She said, we have sex when we get

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Speaker 2: sleep time, not sex time. Then we have sex in

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Speaker 2: the morning, in the shower, duck closet, the kitchen, or

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Speaker 2: wherever we are when the urge come over us. That's

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Speaker 2: why I was shocked to see little signs that he

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Speaker 2: might be cheating. I'd have seen makeup in his clothes.

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Speaker 2: He has strings weave in this car, and he's getting

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Speaker 2: text in the morning. I can't say this, dude. I

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Speaker 2: can't save the weave in the car, make up on

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Speaker 2: your clothes. I can't save you dog. Nothing I can say.

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Speaker 2: He's never had his phone on silent before, but last

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Speaker 2: night I saw him switching the silad before he got

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Speaker 1: You can't come out of life for him.

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Speaker 2: I can't help him. I can't help him because this

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Speaker 2: woman right here ain't even accusing him, because she says,

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Speaker 2: I won't have to ask him if he's cheating. I

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Speaker 2: could just watch him and see how he changes. Then

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Speaker 2: she said, I was a side piece before I met him,

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Speaker 2: and I witnessed how the married man lied to his wife.

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Speaker 2: But then you also must have witnessed how to be

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Speaker 2: a side piece. So now what you're mad at? Her fault?

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Speaker 2: Side piece? Slough mass potatoes with the light gravy, dirty rice.

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Speaker 2: Oh those are size you just mad? Said? The men

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Speaker 2: cheese show like that church is okra though that fried

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Speaker 2: over that's a good sign yumy. That's a good size.

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Speaker 1: There are some good sides.

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Speaker 2: Hell yeah, size make a meal. I had to personally

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Speaker 2: apologize to that man's wife and it was the end

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Speaker 2: of me being an adulter. Well that's good, everybody make

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Speaker 2: mistake now you all now what though? But what you want?

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Speaker 2: Because you said I am shocked and my man needs

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Speaker 2: most sex because we have sex daily, some times twice

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Speaker 2: a day, how could he possibly won't moe? That's your

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Speaker 2: only question? What am I missing here? Are men never satisfied? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Men are very satisfied a lot of times. If you

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Speaker 2: getting sex twice a day, pretty much that you the

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Speaker 2: you the topped out. I got to go to work,

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Speaker 2: going on, what the hell and quit broad sweeping everybody

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Speaker 2: under the same rug. Are men never satisfied twice a day?

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Speaker 2: Or do it for me? I'm doing I got news

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Speaker 2: for you. Matter of fact, I don't really want it

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Speaker 2: twice a day. I got to go to work, I

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Speaker 2: got a couple of Netflix series I'm caught up in.

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Speaker 2: I got to work out, and how about this here?

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Speaker 2: Damn it, I'm tired.

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Speaker 1: You would think, how.

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Speaker 2: Could he possibly want more? What am I missing here?

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Speaker 2: Are men never satisfied. Please help men satisfied all the time.

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Speaker 2: But now let's get to this question. Our men never satisfied.

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Speaker 2: I think your question need to be why is he

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Speaker 2: not satisfied with you? Yeah? I think that's what we're

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Speaker 2: Quit trying to blame this on all all. Ninety eight

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Speaker 2: percent of me in cheap when you just said you

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Speaker 2: have experience at being a side piece. So if ninety

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Speaker 2: saying all women are capable to be in side pieces.

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Speaker 2: You see how that sounds. That's not a true statement.

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Speaker 2: So now let's talk about why your man ain't satisfied

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Speaker 2: with you. It's twice a day. What is this this

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Speaker 2: y'all doing? That ain't making it work? Twice a day?

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Speaker 2: Y'all need practice better, y'all need some more technique. Y'all

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