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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Damn? Bro?

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Speaker 1: Just cannot win, you know what I mean. But I

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Speaker 2: Oh it's hard to say, but let's find out what happens.

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Speaker 1: I thirty nine male, have been a caretaker for my

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Speaker 2: Ten years old.

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Speaker 1: Wait hold on, I was only sixteen years old when

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I had to take care of the household because my

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Speaker 1: He was the apple of my eye. I guess I

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Speaker 1: don't tell me this is going where I think it's

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Speaker 1: gonna go. That is, until I met Melissa thirty five female.

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Speaker 1: It was almost ten years ago. We dated for two

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Speaker 1: years and it was great. My brother loved her. Maybe

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that's a good thing.

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Speaker 1: One day, I was eavesdropping a conversation she was having

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Speaker 1: her friend was asking about me. Melissa said that she

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Speaker 1: but I am pretty average when it comes to doing

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Speaker 1: She told her that her fixture.

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Speaker 2: Is my brother. Ah no, why why do this?

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Speaker 1: Like if you're gonna go for someone that isn't like

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Speaker 1: Hey, okay, all good? Can you pick anyone but the brother?

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Speaker 1: Please please look at the eight billion other people. She

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Speaker 1: She thinks it's justified because she thinks Justin is better

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Speaker 1: really messing up the game over here. Obviously, Opie's brothers

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Speaker 1: But God, damn, guys, please please take it easy on

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Speaker 3: The cheating brother with his stolen girlfriend. Oh god, he

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Speaker 1: Come back again to smite Opie and destroy his poor life.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, looking at their names, it doesn't hurt

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Speaker 1: Nutsack Nice. I wouldn't have been as strong as you, man.

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Speaker 1: I mean he literally as a teenager, you know, that's

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Speaker 2: So but, guys, we have a big, fat update.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it. Hello, guys, I was thinking about

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Speaker 2: Am I right? Y'all? To ours? Come on?

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Speaker 1: When I posted this, my fiance now wife a WW

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Speaker 1: You know, Op deserves a freaking w bro. He's just

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Speaker 1: Growing up, he had been jealous of me. He was

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Speaker 1: He wants me to be with him in his most

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 1: People are asking me about my brother's life, so I

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Speaker 2: What like a doormat?

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Speaker 2: This guy? This guy's kind of wild, he's kind of funny, honestly, what.

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Speaker 1: But she knows me better than that. I am stubborn

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Speaker 1: two final comments closing us out here. Well, op, your

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Speaker 1: what she deserved. Her ex cheating on her is karma

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Speaker 2: Oh what did I say?

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Speaker 1: You've done so much for him, and I think that

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Speaker 1: I wonder how he even had the audacity to invite

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Speaker 1: I don't judge you for not forgiving him, OHP's reply.

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Speaker 1: If he truly regretted this, then he wouldn't have decided

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Speaker 1: What did he think? I will forget all the pain

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Speaker 2: Bro Okay, Ophie, you're digging it out.

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen. Man, we got a this was this

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Speaker 1: They hooked up for a long time, had an affair.

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Speaker 1: Like the affair was already like really really really really

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Speaker 2: Why would you go back? Why would you mary decide

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Speaker 1: I think op is harder on the brother than I

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Speaker 2: But he laid down the hammer pretty dang hard.

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Speaker 2: Let's get into it. My husband is cheating in line.

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Speaker 1: I can feel it, but now I know the whole truth,

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Speaker 2: I went divorce. Am I the a hole? You know?

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Speaker 1: There's always these instances where there's the cheating, but it

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Speaker 1: one way to know, I guess so. I female, twenty nine,

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Speaker 1: stopped my period for the past year. Okay, so it's like,

438
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: there's a tampon here, but I've been using him for

439
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 1: the past twelve months, and I'm pretty sure I would

440
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: know which.

441
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 2: Ones I was buying.

442
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 1: I mean, you walking in for me in the comments,

443
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: but I mean, you gotta have like a brand, right,

444
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,199
Speaker 1: you gotta have your own thing, right, let me know

445
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 1: in the comments. And I didn't even recognize the rapper style.

446
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 2: See.

447
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 1: I brought it to my husband's attention, and he didn't

448
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:56,919
Speaker 1: seem to understand what it was, let alone why I

449
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:00,200
Speaker 1: was holding it until I told him where I I'd

450
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 1: found it and why. I was almost certain it wasn't mine,

451
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: but I was.

452
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, babe.

453
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: You know its sometimes the tampons, they just randomly appear

454
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 1: right like like like in Pokemon, you just run around

455
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:15,959
Speaker 1: and then tampon's are just popping out of the ground.

456
00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 1: He shrugged and said it probably belonged to his coworker, Fiona.

457
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: It's not uncommon for my husband to carpool to lunch

458
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: with his coworkers, and we're both fairly close to Fiona

459
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 1: and her husband, so I figured it was entirely possible

460
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: the tampon had slipped out of her purse whenever he

461
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,119
Speaker 1: had driven with them and offered a ride. No big deal, okay,

462
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 1: I mean maybe yeah, I mean definitely sounds like a

463
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 1: plausible scenario. But is this is this where the cheating incurs?

464
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 1: Is this what goes down? I put it out of

465
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: my mind until we had dinner with Fiona and her

466
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 1: husband a couple of weeks later. I sincerely wanted to

467
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 1: believe my husband. I just couldn't get over the way

468
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: it had been tucked into the seat and how my

469
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: husband seemed to not have any regard for it whatsoever.

470
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 1: Maybe playing dumb, I don't know. I did something that

471
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: I now feel kind of crazy for doing. I faked

472
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 1: an emergency and asked Fiona if she had any tampons

473
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,200
Speaker 1: while we were out together.

474
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I see why.

475
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, I had to like do this thing,

476
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,400
Speaker 1: and it's and it's kind of weird, and you maybe

477
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 1: not feel comfortable about it. Maybe it's not the best

478
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: thing in the world to do, but I think it's

479
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: pretty innocuous. You know, there's there's a lot worse things

480
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: that people have done on very half baked suspicions, even

481
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: more half baked suspicions of their partner cheating. I don't

482
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: think it's the worst thing in the world. Maybe not

483
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 1: the best thing in the world either, but I digress.

484
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: She handed me one almost identical to the tampon I

485
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: had found in our back seat. Fiona, Look, I know

486
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: you're pulling up in my swamp trying to get with

487
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: my Shrek, but this Shrek is taken. Okay, we don't

488
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:02,679
Speaker 1: need a the princesses in this swamp, all right. I

489
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: am in this swamp. This is my man, this is

490
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:08,679
Speaker 1: my Shrek. Backup. I don't know, y'all, what do you

491
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 1: think it's getting it a little more sus if you

492
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 1: ask me. And I breathed a sigh of relief. Okay,

493
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 1: so ope's feeling good about that. Actually, so the tampon

494
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,880
Speaker 1: there was probably the same tampon here, and in all

495
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: likelihood there was an innocent explanation as to why it

496
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 1: had been left in the backseat in the first place. Ah, okay,

497
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 1: so it's like, yeah, it is her tampon, but because

498
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,959
Speaker 1: they do carpool regularly, it could have just slipped out

499
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 1: of the purse.

500
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 2: Okay, Yes, I see that. I see that.

501
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,239
Speaker 1: I thought i'd seen the last of the out of

502
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 1: place feminine hygiene products until guys, guys, until I found

503
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 1: another tampon this morning, this time in my sock drawer.

504
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 1: I fell physically ill at the thought of my husband

505
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: having an affair, and even more nauseated at the thought

506
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: that the woman he might have left these tampons out

507
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:05,159
Speaker 1: for me to find. That's low key, pretty sinister, Like

508
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: you're literally just leaving the lightest, most innocuous breadcrumbs. It's

509
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: you're exactly on the line of like, is my husband cheating?

510
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 2: Is he not? Like it?

511
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation. It's not like

512
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 1: a condom or something like that. But I don't know.

513
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: It's it's if that person is playing my games. My god,

514
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: you need to become a professional introgrator or something, because

515
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: this is crazy. If it was my husband's coworker, why

516
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 1: would she give herself away by offering me one the

517
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: other night? Yeah, I guess if it was, that kind

518
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: of goes against the theory of it was intentionally placed.

519
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 1: I guess in any other situation, I would want to

520
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 1: talk to my husband about this, but I feel too

521
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 1: sick and embarrassed to approach him with what I found.

522
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: What should I do? And there are some relevant comments.

523
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 1: I had a period thirty years and never struck my

524
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: tampon in a stock drawer. Trust your gut and get cameras.

525
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: Oh my ope, neither have I. I've considered so many

526
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 1: explanations for the tampon that wouldn't implicate my husband, but

527
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,880
Speaker 1: none of them makes sense. Really, I'm terrified to set

528
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 1: up a camera if it means confirming what I suspect

529
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, I mean, I don't know the camera

530
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: before the conversation, I don't know. I don't know real quick.

531
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: In the comments, is that something you would want to

532
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 1: do at this point? Let me know, has Fiona been

533
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: over to your house and had time to plant the tampon?

534
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 1: I did not know tampons or trees, but she's been

535
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: to our house many times and vice versa. To my knowledge,

536
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: she wasn't over anytime in the past week. So if

537
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: she planted that second tampon, I see planted like in

538
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: the sock drug.

539
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I get you. I thought she planted.

540
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: You know, she had to have found a window of

541
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 1: time when I wasn't home. Anytime she and her husband visit,

542
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: we all stay downstairs and you have to go really

543
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: out out of your way to make it to our bedroom.

544
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 1: I e. Around our dogs, over the safety gate, past

545
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: the other bedrooms. Not saying it's impossible, but definitely tricky

546
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: to do on a quick bathroom break. I would guess

547
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: how old are your kids? Could they have found a

548
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: tampon and put it in a random place?

549
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 2: Wow?

550
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: I did not think of that, but that makes a

551
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: lot of sense. Two and almost four both have a

552
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: mischievous streak, so I wouldn't want to rule out the

553
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: possibility of one of them moving stuff around. But I

554
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: couldn't imagine how they'd get their hands on one, possibly

555
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 1: two tampons that I never bought. I mean not kind

556
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: of spells that out right there, Okay, so let's take

557
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: a quick break. We got an update coming in. But

558
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: I think right now, I mean personally, I feel like

559
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: asking the husband would be the right move. And maybe

560
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: the positioning is something like, Hey, I know this might

561
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: sound super crazy, uh and you know you might think

562
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: this is a lot, but I have found these two

563
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: tampons I talked to you about the first one.

564
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 2: I just can't get it off my mind.

565
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 1: Yes, it might just be a rational of me, but

566
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't know where they're coming from. And I kind

567
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: of want to sit down and talk about it and

568
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: kind of try to figure it out, to try and

569
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: not let my brain kind of go off in this

570
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: crazy paranoid direction. You know, I feel like that's a

571
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: pretty fair way to put it. And you could even

572
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 1: be like, I'm not even necessarily trying to like accuse

573
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: you or anything. I'm just kind of like getting lost

574
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 1: in the sauce of paranoia or something like that, you know, a.

575
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 2: Delicious paranoid of Bavioli.

576
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: Yikes, But you get what I'm saying, Like, I don't

577
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: think that that would be, you know, taken too harshly

578
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: by by a person who's like pretty level headed and

579
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: is a good partner and all of that stuff.

580
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 2: I don't know.

581
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: I mean, you tell me in the comments, like, you know,

582
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 1: we mentioned the camera thing, what would you do? At

583
00:30:56,280 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 1: this point, it feels like the paranoia is kind of

584
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: starting to build an OP, which is unfortunate. I don't

585
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: want to see that for OP. But definitely definitely a

586
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: tricky situation. But we have some answers. Let's get into

587
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: the update. Contemplating every possible source of two tampons has

588
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: been my personal hell for the past few weeks, but

589
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: I wanted to share an update.

590
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 2: Yeah again, I feel like, you.

591
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 1: Know, her mind is going on and on and on

592
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 1: in these in this whirlpool of paranoia, and it's it's

593
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: I hate to see it.

594
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 2: I hate to see it.

595
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: Shortly after posting on here, I told my sister what

596
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 1: happened the tampon in the backseat and the sock drawer,

597
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: my husband's cluelessness, the tampon from Fiona, and all the

598
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 1: things I suspected but did not want to believe. We

599
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: compared tampons save for the one in the back seat

600
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 1: I had already discarded, and they were a match, just

601
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: in different absorbancies. So I'm guessing it's like the same brand,

602
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 1: same type, but slightly different. I hadn't left either in

603
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: a place where my husband or daughters would have found

604
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: them and moved them around. My daughters didn't know what

605
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: they were or where they came from. My sister was

606
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 1: convinced it was Fiona either efing my husband, effing with me,

607
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: or both. Damn not getting double f'ed out here.

608
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:20,160
Speaker 2: No, we can't.

609
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: We can't let that happen. To Opie, direct confrontation of

610
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 1: either party still seemed like a bad idea, so she

611
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 1: suggested inviting Fiona and her husband over for our Labor

612
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: Day barbecue. Unfortunately, they already had plans.

613
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 2: See, this is.

614
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 1: Where I'm like, I can kind of understand on Fiona,

615
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:41,479
Speaker 1: You're worried, Like, Okay, what if she's innocent and I

616
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: kind of make this accusation and then it could be

617
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 1: kind of awkward. My husband is driving this person, you know,

618
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: maybe multiple times a week, and the carpool probably works

619
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: with this person.

620
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 2: I could see why Opie is.

621
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: Hesitant to talk to Fiona out of fear for maybe

622
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: falsely accusing her and maybe something else.

623
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: But what about the husband.

624
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 1: I mean, you said, like the honeymoon phase of five years,

625
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera. Like it seems like he is,

626
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 1: you know, pretty pretty down to be with you and

627
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: hopefully in that case more understanding. You're talking to me,

628
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 1: Lauren my sister, Oh, that's funny. That's literally the next line.

629
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 1: My sister and I agreed that it was too soon

630
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: for cameras without any other evidence, so it was just

631
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: a waiting game from there, watching my husband for any

632
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: change behavior there was none, or the house for any misplaced,

633
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: slash foreign items there were none also, and even the

634
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: girls for any new friends they might have met. My

635
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: sister's husband was adamant on the last point and partly

636
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: why he was inclined to believe that the tampons were harmless.

637
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 1: If anything had happened in or around our home, he said,

638
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 1: it would be nearly impossible to keep it from me

639
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 1: and the girls since my husband was the one taking

640
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 1: them to and from daycare and most activities during that week.

641
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 1: I felt a good bit of consolation in that it

642
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: wasn't until my younger daughter, two years old, came down

643
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: with something last week that I felt any differently. I

644
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 1: wanted to be the one home taking care of her,

645
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,439
Speaker 1: but my husband insisted that I stay at work while

646
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 1: he stayed home with her.

647
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 2: I was okay with that.

648
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: My sister and her husband figured it was a good

649
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 1: sign that he would take time off at a moment's notice,

650
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 1: and at that point we were already beginning to put

651
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: the tamp on fiasco behind us. By the third or

652
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: fourth day, I was just happy to see a nearly

653
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 1: healthy child and a husband who was helping see her

654
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: through it. Toward the end of the week, though, I

655
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 1: came home to something strange. Man, ohp is just not

656
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 1: getting any breaks over here? Guys, My goodness, the toddler

657
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: that I'd left that morning in an old PJS was

658
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 1: now dressed in a onesie I had never seen before. Man,

659
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 1: if this is this person dressing the baby, am I'm lost?

660
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 1: Is this mind games?

661
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: Bruh?

662
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 1: I do not know what's happening over here, also with

663
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 1: a tiny clip in her hair. I can't say that

664
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 1: I have the sharpest memory, but I have a pretty

665
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 1: good sense of what my kids wear on a day

666
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 1: to day basis, particularly what kinds of clothes they wear.

667
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 1: I'd sworn off the full length sleepsuits with snaps across

668
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 1: the front long before we'd ever had our second So

669
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,720
Speaker 1: this is also something that not only would she probably

670
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: not buy, but that they wouldn't have in the house

671
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 1: because I'm sure unless she just completely didn't communicate that

672
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 1: to her husband, I have to imagine that he would

673
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: know that.

674
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: So it's like, why would he buy it? Kind of strange.

675
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 1: The long snaps are just a pain in the ass

676
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: and a no go for efficient diaper changes in my opinion,

677
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 1: It's just not something that I would dress her in,

678
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:54,879
Speaker 1: and my husband knows as much.

679
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 2: There you go.

680
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 1: He doesn't plan for or buy the girl's clothes, and

681
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: he certainly doesn't cessorized them. So I was bewildered and

682
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,879
Speaker 1: kind of floored at the thought of someone around our

683
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: sick child without my knowledge. I didn't think twice, and

684
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: I went straight to my husband to ask if anyone

685
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: had been over to see him or the girls. He

686
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: seemed confused like before and asked me why I would

687
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 1: think that it had just been him and the kids

688
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: all day. I asked him again if someone had so

689
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 1: much as stop to say hello, and he denied it.

690
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: He told me to calm down. I might have lashed

691
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:33,479
Speaker 1: out and come forward with the accusations right then. And there,

692
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 1: but our oldest daughter was in the room, and she

693
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 1: sent something was up in a calmer voice. I asked

694
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: him a third time if anyone had been around our children,

695
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 1: and my husband swore that the girls hadn't been around

696
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 1: anyone but him. He also denied buying new clothes or

697
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 1: doing anyone's hair. With our daughter in the room and

698
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: my emotions all over the place, I decided to leave it.

699
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: I couldn't make sense of it then, and it hardly

700
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 1: seems clear now after I've driven myself half crazy with

701
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: explanations that aren't adding up, and we've got a few

702
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 1: relevant comments here to answer a couple of questions. My

703
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 1: two year old can only string together a couple of

704
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 1: words at a time when I ask her about her

705
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: time with daddy or her clothes slash bo. She answers

706
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 1: based on the cues I give her, who gave you.

707
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 2: That pretty bow? Then she repeats pretty bow, bro, come on,

708
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 2: help me out here, help me out, help you girl.

709
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 1: Out, or mama slash daddy over and over again. My

710
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: older daughter, almost four, was at daycare that morning, and

711
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 1: she can't recall anything different from that day. Doesn't remember

712
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: the PG change or the hair clip. So my guess

713
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,359
Speaker 1: is that she was changed sometime that morning, but I'm

714
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: not totally sure.

715
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:44,919
Speaker 2: Yeah.

716
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: That sucks because it's like you wanna would ask the

717
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: kids like, hey, did did dad you know? Did a

718
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 1: new friend come over? Did a new friend help give

719
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: you new pretty bow? Or something like that? But the

720
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 1: kids literally, oh man, the kids don't The four year

721
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: old doesn't know. The two year olds can only say

722
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: bo bruh every time. Bro the opie's being tortured with this.

723
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I have a forty five minute kem

724
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,719
Speaker 1: me to work, so stopping by for lunch isn't really feasible.

725
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: My sister has been kind enough to leave work and

726
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 1: drive past a few times here and there, and she

727
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: hasn't seen anything out of the ordinary. We have a

728
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: ring camera at the front door, and I've got the

729
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 1: app on my phone with notifications on nothing there yet.

730
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: If anyone has recommendations for a more discreete surveillance, I'd

731
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 1: be open to it. I'm just the least tech savvy

732
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 1: person and worry another camera will be easy to detect.

733
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 4: Lol.

734
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 1: And yes, we get our carbon monoxide detectors tested regularly.

735
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 1: Is it possible one of the clips came from the daycare.

736
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,280
Speaker 1: Interesting question. Also, maybe the onesie I don't know why,

737
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: Maybe she soiled it. I could see the hairclip being

738
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: a possibility, but less likely on the onesie. My younger

739
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: daughter hadn't been to daycare in days, and if either

740
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: of them had returned with something like that before, I

741
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: would have noticed, especially since it was the kind of

742
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: onesie I hate with the passion. People comment that they

743
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 1: can't wait to find out the ending to the saga.

744
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 1: My money's on the Hollywood horror ending. Ugh hopefully dreamed

745
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: up the dogs too, so I can finally stop picking

746
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: at their imaginary craps and whatnot. My goodness, onto the

747
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: final update. After nearly losing my mind over a hairclip

748
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: and a onesie, I realized I wasn't getting anywhere with

749
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,840
Speaker 1: the accusations and half baked guesswork.

750
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 4: I made.

751
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 1: I gotten so absorbed in the paranoia and misery of

752
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: my situation that I wasn't sleeping, eating, or caring for

753
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: my kids the way I should have been. Oh and

754
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: I wasn't getting any answers. So I decided to pull

755
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: the trigger on the hidden cameras and have them shipped

756
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:54,439
Speaker 1: to my sister's house. Don't know if I'm the biggest fan,

757
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 1: but okay. With my brother in law agreeing to help

758
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 1: with the install slash set up up over at mine

759
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,799
Speaker 1: before the cameras were ever delivered. Though I got my

760
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: long awaited confirmation last week, y'all, is this going to

761
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 1: be what we think it is? A ring notification had

762
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: alerted me to motion at the front door while I

763
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 1: was at work, half expecting to see a delivery person,

764
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: pet or a lawn care salesman for the fifteenth time.

765
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 1: You can imagine my surprise when I saw a clip

766
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: of a young woman leading my daughter into the house

767
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: hand in hand, with my husband and other daughter close

768
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: behind them. Okay, yo, It's one thing to take someone

769
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,720
Speaker 1: to your house, you know, like after hours, cheat, cheat

770
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 1: on the person you promised to spend your life with

771
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: the mother of your children and your letteger see the children,

772
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:51,360
Speaker 1: take care of the children, walk the children. God, damn

773
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: bro this man, this man, this man with my husband

774
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: and other daughter clothes behind them. The girls were supposed

775
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: to be in day and my husband at work. The woman,

776
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 1: as far as I knew, was living two states away

777
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 1: with a court order keeping her there. I immediately called

778
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,760
Speaker 1: my husband to ask him what the f this woman

779
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: was doing in our house. He didn't answer, so I

780
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 1: texted him. Even in his stupidity, he probably realized that

781
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 1: he messed up by going to the front door knowing

782
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: I had gotten the ring notification and wanted to delay

783
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 1: the inevitable by the fifth or sixth subsequent call, though

784
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: he did pick up. The woman on the camera was

785
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: my husband's sister Okay. As I would find out later,

786
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 1: she was likely the source of both the tampons, the onesie,

787
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 1: and the bow. She is also a registered sex offender

788
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 1: and a recovering addict who spent the better part of

789
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 1: her adolescence and young adulthood coercing the silence of another

790
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 1: one of my husband's family members after she had essayed them.

791
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is so much worse. This is

792
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 1: so much worse. Why would he do that in front

793
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 1: of his own children? Because it was it was one

794
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: of her husband's family members. My god, I don't even

795
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: know what to say. I don't even know what to

796
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: think right now. I hadn't seen or heard from her

797
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: in years, and from the way my husband talked about her,

798
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: I didn't expect I ever would, But here she was

799
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 1: in our house with our children. Suffice to say, I

800
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: was livid it wasn't an affair at all, and still

801
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 1: somehow infinitely more disgusting knowing who it was and why

802
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 1: all of this had been happening. Apparently, my sister in law,

803
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: fresh off another stint and rehab, had wanted to reconnect

804
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 1: and make amends with people she'd hurt, and my husband

805
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: was high on that list. My husband didn't want me

806
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: to know, or worse, try and keep her family our

807
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 1: children away from her, so they'd been meeting in secret,

808
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: often at our house while I was at work. They

809
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: would enter through the garage in my husband's car so

810
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: the ring camera at the front of the door wouldn't

811
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:10,720
Speaker 1: tip me off. Yeah, Like, it's all kind of coming

812
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 1: together now, like he has denied everything almost certainly, it

813
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 1: seems all arros are pointing to the fact that all

814
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 1: of these different clues that op was just going crazy

815
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 1: over and diving into her paranoia. Spaghetti was the sister,

816
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 1: and she did talk to him about it multiple times,

817
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: it seems, and he never came forward with the truth.

818
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: And why would he ever hide the truth in the

819
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: first place, knowing what his sister has done, not saying

820
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: that they can't reconnect as adults, for sure, But why

821
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:52,400
Speaker 1: sneak your children to see her without telling your wife?

822
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: I am, I am at a complete loss for you,

823
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,840
Speaker 1: My dude. She spent the night on a weekend I

824
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:02,120
Speaker 1: had been on a business and slept in our bed.

825
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,839
Speaker 2: Is this going even further worse? I thought?

826
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 1: Hopefully this doesn't go Game of Thrones? Please God. She

827
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 1: babysat our girls on a night. My husband told me

828
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: he had dropped them off at his parents, so she

829
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: was alone.

830
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is bad.

831
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: She brought the girl's clothes and dressed my youngest in

832
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: the onesie in the bow that my husband had promised

833
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: on his life. I had dressed her in myself. I

834
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:37,879
Speaker 1: am getting I mean, red flags is like a understatement.

835
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: This is very dangerous, like very very dangerous. I mean

836
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 1: the fact that you know, why would the sister. I mean,

837
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: I guess you got to change a baby eventually, but

838
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: something about buying this onesie and then changing the baby

839
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 1: is very, very very much not sitting well with me.

840
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: My husband swore the this was all in my head.

841
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 1: The tampons, the onesie, the bow and all the rest.

842
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: He was perfectly content. To watch me agonize for weeks

843
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:12,439
Speaker 1: over a woman he insisted didn't exist, shruved off each

844
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 1: progressively more unsettling discovery like it was news to him,

845
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: and telling me I was being irrational. He insinuated that

846
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 1: I was experiencing postpartum depression two years after.

847
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 2: I had given birth. Bruh, how post can it go?

848
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 4: Dude?

849
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: I don't my God? Just more bs from this man,

850
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 1: four years after I told him that one of my

851
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 1: biggest fears for motherhood was to suffer postpartum depression like

852
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 1: my mother had with me, to not be fully present

853
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 1: for our babies and be left with the world of

854
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 1: guilt and regret as they grew older. He told me

855
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 1: I wasn't sleeping enough, that I missed the girls too much,

856
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,479
Speaker 1: that I needed to step back and evaluate the state

857
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 1: of my mental health. I gave him the benefit of

858
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:02,440
Speaker 1: the doubt because he was my husband, and because no

859
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:07,320
Speaker 1: other version of events made sense. Now, after a month

860
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: of this mind f I have nothing to show for

861
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 1: my trust but his pathetic situation and a lot of anger.

862
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 1: And it ends on one final comment and answer call

863
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: the cops and a lawyer, Opie says, already on it

864
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 1: believe me, we're going scorched earth with this mother effort.

865
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Wow.

866
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 1: When it gets worse, I mean, I'm I'm just so,

867
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 1: I'm so completely lost. And look, we see all kinds

868
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: of people that don't do anything that makes sense on

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Speaker 1: this show, right, We've seen some wackos out there. But

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Speaker 1: for Opie's husband to do all this with his kids

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Speaker 1: with his sister again, there's nothing wrong.

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Speaker 2: I think with.

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Speaker 1: Allowing at least the hands for someone to try to.

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Speaker 2: Improve themselves, better themselves.

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Speaker 1: It's better them, It's better than them staying where they're

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Speaker 1: at or becoming worse possibly because of you know, being

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Speaker 1: neglected and maybe not being able to get in touch

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Speaker 1: with or try to repair things with people that they've

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Speaker 1: you know, broken their trust and worse and worse and worse.

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Speaker 1: But Opie's husband just did not have to do this

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Speaker 1: in the oh my god, like at all. Like I

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Speaker 1: would love to know why, Like why did Opie's husband

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Speaker 1: What is his what possible justification could he possibly have

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Speaker 1: for leaving his children with his sister alone? I just

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Speaker 1: don't understand it at all. Why can't the two of

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Speaker 1: them get together as adults? You know, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: like go out, go get dinner somewhere, you know, talk,

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Speaker 1: you know, to get a coffee or something. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: like anything in the world, but what he did. I

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Speaker 1: am at a complete loss for this guy. To be

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Speaker 1: honest with you, I'm glad that Op is taking the

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Speaker 1: action that she is. I don't know that it's clear

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Speaker 1: or not if she's going to divorce. It wasn't said explicitly.

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Speaker 1: I would imagine though, when she says scorched earth, that's

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Speaker 1: what she means. I hope. So this is insanity. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. Please let us know in the comments what

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Speaker 1: you all think. What's your breakdown, what's your take? Any

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Speaker 1: advice honestly for Op or anybody in Op's position, would

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Speaker 1: love to hear it down below, But without further ado,

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Speaker 1: let's get into our final story.