WEBVTT - Love Stories: Mary and Romain Bonnet 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:06.880 This is Amy and TJ Love Stories. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:19.680 Mary and Romayne join us now from Los Angeles. Welcome 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:21.920 and thank you all for being with us. How are 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:24.079 you doing. How're it to you today? 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:32.159 We're good, Yeah, we're good, loving kind of la. 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:35.080 Tell me this is wedding bliss still a thing for 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:38.080 you guys? Is that a far fetched idea or wedding 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:38.920 bliss is real? 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:52.040 I will go first. Okay, So I think that we 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:57.400 both have found our way in our relationship. I think 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:01.840 it took a couple of years. We fought for a 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:05.560 couple of years, and then now we're just like go 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:09.039 to our own corners, like if we have that day, 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.560 if we have something. We kind of found our way 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:15.560 where we're like, Okay, I'm really tired, I gotta go 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.320 to bed, or I'm like maybe I've got so much work. 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.280 I'm just gonna stay in the office and we just 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.160 go to our own separate corners and in the morning 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:24.640 we're better. 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:28.000 Now, how long have the two have you been married? 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:28.280 Now? 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.680 Officially, I know you met and got married within a year, 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.040 but how long have you been married? 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:38.640 Uh? 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:40.840 We used to it's been seven and halve. 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.760 Okay, I'm curious because we don't. We don't see that 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.600 a lot. Usually it's the woman given the guy a 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:50.200 hard time for not remembering. So, Mary, what are you 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:53.280 the one who just said he's better remembering. 0:01:56.160 --> 0:01:59.360 I'm like such a guy. I am the absolute worst. 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:02.880 I have those sense of time, my ADHD. I think 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:03.960 my play part. 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:05.160 I'm going to blame it on that. 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:09.120 If it isn't that, I'm still gonna blame it on it. 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:15.520 I never remember, no worries, just I was just curious. There, 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:17.600 let's get to the official list. Now, we're going to 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.760 go to our official list of the questions we asked 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:21.840 every couple, and we started with this. Both of you 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:23.760 know what. Romaine, I'll start with you on this one. 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:29.600 Five words or less describe your relationship today. 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:35.919 Uh? 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:41.120 Well, I was still loving fun in. 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:48.160 That was fine. 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:48.600 That works. 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.440 Loving fun can be intense. We'll take it. 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:53.480 That's exactly fine. 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:54.680 Mary. 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:55.520 How about you? 0:02:59.840 --> 0:03:01.799 I think. 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:11.960 Trusting also intense and. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:16.080 Frustrating appreciate. 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.440 Uh what what makes it frustrating? 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:29.280 Life? I think just life. We actually get along very 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:32.400 very well. We always get along very well. We've learned 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:38.240 to manage I think our lifestyles. But we have difficult 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:43.640 lifestyles like I mean we are in the middle of, yeah, 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.240 the public eye, where everyone's trying to tear us apart. 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:51.320 Even production is trying to like twist like scenarios, and 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:55.600 everyone has an opinion, and so we just get a 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:59.400 backlash of a lot of things. I'm much more emotional 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:03.160 than he is, and so I think everything very personally. 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:08.440 He doesn't care at all, and so that. But we 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.160 love each other so much. We actually have so much 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:14.680 fun together. We get along so well. We just have 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:18.560 like a weird. 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:22.719 And it's happed to me so too. When I see 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.640 her getting so afflicted by like stuff like that sometimes 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.839 and then I don't really know what to say because 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:31.039 I do not get affected by it. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:32.599 So sometimes I'm. 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.240 Like, I don't want to look like, you know, you 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:37.440 don't care, like I don't care, because I do. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:41.760 That's frustrating when it looks like it doesn't care. I'm like, really, 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:43.839 I don't care, like I. 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:47.440 Do, but by her being bothered by it than the 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:50.640 actual fact, you know, And so you know, I don't 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:53.479 know sometimes what to say. It's set in moments just 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:55.320 because I don't want to look like I don't care. 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:59.960 But I'm like, well, would you let those people want 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.840 what are you gonna do? Because no matter who you are, 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:04.680 what you say, always someone doesn't have something to say about. 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:11.560 It's the French, right, I logically know that, but mostly 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:13.440 it doesn't feel like that. 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:17.520 So we weren't supposed to be giving advice, but on 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:22.279 this one, just validate how she's feeling. You don't have 0:05:22.360 --> 0:05:27.039 to agree with how she's feeling, but just validate that. 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.800 Yes, no, and we relate. We relate so much to 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:35.359 what you all just said. We totally get it. It's 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:37.840 you can we you can enjoy each other, you can 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.679 have your relationship. But when it's in the public eye 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:45.000 and it's constantly fodder and people are constantly scrutinizing everything, 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:49.400 that puts a lot of strain on a relationship, and 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.360 you would know and so, and you're you're being chronicled. 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.640 I mean you've got camera. How often are cameras with 0:05:56.839 --> 0:06:00.600 you all basically in your relation relationship? 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:05.719 Yeah, yeah, it makes it difficult. So I am proud 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:09.960 of us for being able to just like actually be 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:13.880 as happy as we are and just maintain our relationship. 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:18.159 I mean, everybody has issues. Everybody, you know, just fights 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:21.479 and bickers and stuff like that. But I feel like 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:28.159 overall we're great. We get along very very well, we 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:31.560 have a lot of fun, and I think overall that's 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:36.200 where we are. But of course the public eye doesn't help. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:40.320 What the public eye the public God help you know 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:41.120 least thing. 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:42.440 Before we get back to the list, you all have 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:44.000 brought up so many things we just want to talk 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.520 to you all about. But we got back to the questions. 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.960 But can I ask, if you take the cameras away, 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.359 if you take the public eye part of it away, 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:55.320 does your relationship improve? Is that really one of the 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.240 main things, if not the thing that is causing so 0:06:58.279 --> 0:06:59.320 many problems? 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:00.880 I think when. 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.760 Yeah, well, he also puts so much stress on her, 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.760 especially Yeah, so I think in the every day life, 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:10.239 you know, if you took it off, she's probably would 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:12.320 be like so much less stressed. 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:14.760 And then row you but like you know, or the 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:17.360 comments and stuff like that, and then you know. 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:21.000 I'm a perfectionist and I just I want to be 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:25.320 the best like version of me and stuff, and when 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:28.880 people say and do things, it just it bugs me 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:32.560 so much. I hate conflict, I hate like fighting, I 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:36.600 hate like drama, and so I'm in such the wrong industry. 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:40.000 Reality TV might not be for you. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.520 So yeah, I get super stressed and this poor guy, 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:44.720 but I love them. 0:07:45.120 --> 0:07:45.480 Thank you. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:47.520 We'll get back, We'll get back to the list and 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.720 let's go. We're gonna go back down to the beginning here. 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:52.240 Question we ask everybody, who of the two of you 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:53.840 said I love you first? 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:54.920 Me? 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:56.760 Yeah, probably a. 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.800 Very cool And how long before after you said I 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:03.720 love you did you decide to get engaged? 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:14.000 It wasn't very long. Well, we started dating a week 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:18.120 after we met, and then we moved in together three 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:21.239 months later, and then we got married six months later 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:25.960 and then had our wedding like a year, a year 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.640 and a half after die nice? 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:32.400 How long I love you? How long after you started 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:34.640 dating Romaine did you say I love you? And then 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:36.920 how long Mary did you before you said it back? 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:40.640 Christians? Was beginning? 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:45.679 I will say three months, four months, like three nice months? 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:47.800 Maybe right around moving time. 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.760 Let's get together. And by the way, I love you. 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:58.280 I think when you said it, I probably said it 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:05.080 right very quickly afterwards, I don't. Yeah, we have a 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:06.280 very fast relationship. 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:14.400 Hey, you know what what is I know we talked 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:17.680 a little bit about already the stress of the public 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:20.520 eye and the cameras. But do you all have like 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.600 a daily disagreement that just gets under your skin or 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:26.280 just an issue that you can't resolve that you've just 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:37.320 learned to live with. That's great. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:40.000 Being And then. 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:44.160 Like severe ADHD and. 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:50.040 So very so. 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:53.520 I love when she leaves again a couple just because 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:55.959 the house is so perfect, but I missed her. 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:58.240 And then as soon as she comes to say she's. 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:03.760 Back, yes, teaching bud so I and I think I 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.800 have ADHD undiagnosed, both of us. We relate. 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:10.960 Okay, so see it works somehow. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.240 Have you all ever gotten to a place now at 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.280 this point in your relationship and in your marriage where 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:23.000 you've come close to or even considered breaking up and 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:27.560 calling it quits. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:34.959 No, I think I've probably threatened. I'm like, you know what, 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:40.960 But then but I definitely don't mean it and make 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:43.800 up for it, like right after I say it, because 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.280 I'm like, that was so dumb I. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:50.199 Said that, But but no, I don't think so. I 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:57.239 don't think there's anything that's actually ever really tested us. 0:10:57.720 --> 0:10:59.560 Yeah, okay, let's talk about this. 0:10:59.640 --> 0:10:59.760 Then. 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.000 How how often do you fight? 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:05.079 Not that often? 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.240 Because we also have like a little big different schedules really, 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.120 so I leave early on the morning. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.839 She walks from home mostly, so I leave early on 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:15.000 the morning and I come back. 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:18.040 Pretty late, so we get to spend dinner and then 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.319 a little bit but usually be there. 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:22.760 Wait, but we we can long really well, like on 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:24.400 weekends when you are home. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.120 I know, but that's something already. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.680 Most like we have a different schedule, so we don't 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:30.679 get to see shows out that much, so you. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:38.719 Know, you don't have opportunities to fight. Yeah, exactly, No, 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:40.520 over all we do, we do not. 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:43.000 Yeah, no, I mean, we hear from a lot of 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:45.720 couples that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and that 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.199 is a part of the key to the success of 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.959 their relationship is that they're not all up in each 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.679 other's spaces all the time. But that actually is a 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.000 good thing. We don't know anything about that. 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:57.199 Yeah, do you. 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.280 Have Do you have rules when you fight? 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.520 I know, mayor you just said you you've said some 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.959 things you probably shouldn't have said in the heat of battle. 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.280 But we talked to some couples and said they absolutely 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.120 don't use profanity, they don't threaten to leave and kinds 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:14.400 of things. Do you'll have rules when you're getting heated. 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.480 I think for the most part, we both just like 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:25.880 go to our corners. Yeah, for the most part, I think, 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:29.160 like the worst case scenario is like where he ignores 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:33.880 me and I'm like, really, it's the worst Do. 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:38.360 Not ignore me, Like please acknowledge what I'm saying right now. 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.320 And he's like, I'm not gonna talk to you like this. 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:47.800 I'm like, that's not what I get no matter what 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:51.080 I say. Usually in those situations, no matter what I say, 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:54.280 I'm wrong. So I'm like, you're not wrong. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:56.600 He's learning. 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.320 I can tell you you're doing great. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:02.240 Brother. Let me ask, do you'll have this rule about it? 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.240 Sounds like you all don't have it, but some couple 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:06.880 say we refuse to go to bed angry. Some therapists 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:08.960 will tell you to do that. Others will tell you 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:11.000 not to do that. Yes, there, it is. 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:16.439 Just that think it through, sleep it up, like like 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.800 just in the morning. It's always different, like in the 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:25.000 moment you're really mad or frustrated or whatever. And I 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.040 think if you just like sleep on it, wake up 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:32.360 in the morning and you think it through again, it's like, Okay, 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.640 it's not I'm still like frustrated, but it's not that 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.880 big of a deal, and so to me, I would 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.800 rather sleep on it. I don't want to talk right then. 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.280 Otherwise I would just keep going and going. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.120 And then he gets what he and he's so stummern 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:49.840 he'll just like me, gets heels it and he'll just 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:53.800 like we would. We would be horrible if we have 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:55.960 that role, We would be absolutely horrible. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:59.439 How much time, how much space you need after that 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.600 initial fight before you can actually come back together and 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:03.719 talk it through. 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:07.920 A couple of hours? 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:09.200 All right, that's good. 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.160 Have you all ever had to? Have you ever considered 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.599 and have you ever been to couples therapy counseling of 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:15.000 any kind? 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:19.840 We did once, but there was for something, even not 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:20.680 because it wasn't good. 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:27.760 But what do you don't give? 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:30.640 It's good sometime to talk out like you know stuff, 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:34.880 but like also how we. 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:35.560 We talked things through pretty well? 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.080 What do you think about we've we've we've done some 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:45.320 stories on a couple of famous couples, even George Clooney 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:48.320 and the mall. I think Travis Kelsey and Taylor Swift. 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:51.120 They both said that they never have fought like they 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:54.680 do not fight. What do you think about couples who 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.480 don't fight. Do you think that's realistic? 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:56.880 What? 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:58.880 What are your thoughts on that? Because it makes the 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:00.640 rest of us feel like ship. 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:07.560 Well you're almost like, I mean, I know, well, it 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.080 means that that one of them is the people pleaser. 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.320 You know, I mean, like, do you have to oh 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:13.760 the was that thing? That one of them. 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:18.560 Isn't much opinion about anything, because it's impossible that the 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:20.920 person is like exactly the same seat it was in 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:21.560 the same way. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.480 But you can just respect each other and each other's 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:27.880 differences and understand like where they're coming from. 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:29.800 You don't have to agree with it, but you can 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:30.680 understand it. 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:49.680 And then you have to buy Yeah, what did we say? 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:50.640 How many years of marriage? 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:50.800 Now? 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.680 With seven and seven and a half? Seven and a half, 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:55.320 all right, so you've been married that long? If you 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:58.600 my question is what's been the best year so far? 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.720 If you can't give me a specific year, then tell 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:04.360 me this the beginning, the middle, or the end where 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.360 you are right now? What was the best part of 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:08.240 your marriage so far? 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:19.400 But the beginning it's always like you know or like 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:21.560 bubbly and like that. 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.480 I think every time we're on vacation is the best 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:30.560 are like so in love. The minute we go away, 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.640 we're so in love. We have the best time. We 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:36.840 just like reconnect and it's just immediate, but we just 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:40.000 get so wrapped up in our lives and business and 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:42.760 us and everything like that. 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:46.000 You just you're just not disconnect but almost like you know, 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:48.360 go a little are separate way. Until that's what we 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:51.080 tried to do as much as possible likely get away. 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.840 Or or try to you know, leave to go somewhere 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:54.480 every time we can. 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:58.520 Yeah, we get to reconnect and spend time actially together 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:01.760 the property and so so that helps us. 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:05.320 Yeah, yeah, we've really made a point to at least 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.399 at least once a year go on a big vacation 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:10.639 and then a couple of times a year going like 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:13.679 little staycations so that we can just or if we 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:15.480 and I just told them the other day, I was like, 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:19.920 maybe I think we need to get away because even 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:24.040 like two days just going to Malibu or Santa Barbara 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:27.639 or something like that, just get out of our normal 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:31.919 routine or our normal like environment. It does wonders. It 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:36.680 really does, like and I don't know why, because we're 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.760 the same people and that shouldn't change anything, but it does. 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:44.560 I actually think that's a great, a great sign because 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:46.800 we love to people watch, and when you see a 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:49.520 lot of couples on vacation, you don't see happy people. 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:53.560 You see people separate, reading their books and not engaging 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:55.639 on their phones. So it's cool, Like I feel like 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:59.120 that's a really good sign that your favorite moments with 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:02.800 each other are when you're alone and distracted. Most people 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:03.680 choose the district. 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.680 I absolutely chairiship, because that's that's if we could live 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:12.320 our entire life like that, we would be probably the 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:13.480 happiest couple on earth. 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:18.440 But we don't have that life so like in our 0:18:18.480 --> 0:18:22.280 own way, and so we have business schedules, different, different schedule, 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:25.240 and so it's true that it's not and we respect 0:18:25.240 --> 0:18:27.600 that so much about each other or hard we work, 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.359 but so you know, eventually, with time, you know, we 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:32.800 go a little bit o ways. 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:36.640 And then so when we get to spend actually more 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:39.560 time together properly and you know, go to be together, 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:43.639 wake up together every day, and then so that's much 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:44.600 easier to reconnect. 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:46.760 Tell me that, what do you all think about the 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.840 idea of date nights. A lot of couples have a 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:52.119 set day Thursday. We always do it Friday. What do 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:53.479 you all just think about the idea of it? 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:55.320 All the worse people? 0:18:56.640 --> 0:19:01.920 Okay, So I am such an introvert. I do not 0:19:02.160 --> 0:19:04.240 like I have that I have to put on my 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:09.080 work hat and my my personal hat, and I can't 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:13.000 go on date nights because if people look at us 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:16.680 and listen and stuff like that, I feel so uncomfortable. 0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:20.600 It was like, I have to have my workout on 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:22.359 to be able to go out and be And I 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:28.240 love meeting people. I love like being out doing stuff, 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:33.720 but I have to have I'm so private. I guess 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:36.119 I just I have to have boundaries. And when we 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:45.040 go out, like I need to go, I need to go, 0:19:45.160 --> 0:19:47.640 I'm like, I can't do it. So we don't really 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:48.360 go on date nights. 0:19:50.080 --> 0:19:54.520 So if if if your love just blossoms and flourishes 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:58.000 on vacation when you're at home and the mundane life 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:00.320 just starts eating away at you, I'm curious how you 0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:03.560 divvy up responsibilities in your house? Who does the cooking, 0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:06.520 who does the cleaning, who does the laundry? How do 0:20:06.560 --> 0:20:07.919 you figure that out? 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:10.000 I wish that really likely. 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:13.160 When it's small, I would say, like, you know, it's small, 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:15.840 depending on our schedule, and then who has time. But 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:18.080 usually we're pretty good at you know, whoever has the 0:20:18.119 --> 0:20:19.920 time to do the laundry. 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:22.760 I'm doing mother cleaning usually, but she. 0:20:23.480 --> 0:20:27.080 Even though she's the one thing at home, but no, 0:20:27.560 --> 0:20:29.959 the wors for laundry and then cooking and everything. She 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:31.600 happens a couple of times that I come home and 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:36.560 then she gets she sometimes she cooked something, but I order, I. 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:43.320 Order everything, and I have been delivered, to be fair. 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:48.040 Sometimes it's one times burn and egg, and so I'm like, okay, 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:48.919 safer for me. 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:55.120 We had a couple of things she does amazingly, but 0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:56.400 you know, keep it sure. 0:20:56.840 --> 0:20:58.800 Yeah, And of course we asked every couple of this 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:03.040 as well. How do you divvy up finances in the house? 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:06.400 One account, two accounts, three accounts? How does it work 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:07.280 for you guys? 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:14.400 We have sparate account we have. My ex husband kind 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:17.680 of traumatized me from that, and so I found bankruptcy 0:21:17.920 --> 0:21:19.800 and had to do all these things like he saw 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:22.480 all the money and stuff like that, and and wracked 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:23.960 up a bunch of stuff in my name, and so 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:28.760 I will not share an account with anybody ever again. 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:32.439 And I was like, maybe I love you. I trust you, 0:21:33.480 --> 0:21:36.360 but just for peace of mind, I need my own 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:40.800 separate accounts. We can share like expenses, we can do 0:21:40.840 --> 0:21:44.439 different things, but I cannot allow that to happen again 0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:46.120 like it was, which. 0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:47.840 I didn't account because for me, I mean like I 0:21:48.040 --> 0:21:51.439 never thought it, you know. And then I was up 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:54.120 to you know, keeping like. 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:56.720 This because we had an account we opened and together 0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:00.440 TAAs and then you know, if we received some extracuse, 0:22:00.880 --> 0:22:02.760 but use it. 0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:09.359 Yes, you just have separate, separate expenses. We share certain expenses, 0:22:09.400 --> 0:22:10.720 but we just have separate accounts. 0:22:10.800 --> 0:22:13.840 Yeah, yep, very modern way. And once you've been burned once, 0:22:13.920 --> 0:22:15.359 that makes a lot of sense. 0:22:15.400 --> 0:22:15.679 All right. 0:22:15.720 --> 0:22:17.720 When it comes to family, I know you all have 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:22.000 been very open about your fertility journey, but how important 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:25.080 is it for you right now to have kids together? 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:30.840 We've got you're for a baby. 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:36.920 Yeah, we tried, and unfortunately, I mean, I don't think 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:40.320 that's in the cards for us. I have a septum 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:43.560 in the middle of my uterus and I didn't know that. 0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:47.240 I have no idea how I had my son because 0:22:47.240 --> 0:22:51.119