1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,000 Speaker 1: Am I they wolf for refusing to go to my 2 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: best friend's wedding for replacing me as a maid of honor? 3 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:07,560 Speaker 2: No wow, strong take from Cynthia Donald. 4 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:10,799 Speaker 1: This is all to ask should you confront friends about 5 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 1: their bad behavior or go no contact? Brilliant Leave sixteen 6 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: o two says eight months ago, my best friend of 7 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: five plus years will call her Anna twenty one announced 8 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,080 Speaker 1: that she was getting married and asked me twenty one 9 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: to be her maid of honor. 10 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:22,920 Speaker 2: Adorable. 11 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: It was a no brainer for me because we've been 12 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: each other's friend since middle school. We've been months looking 13 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: out wedding dresses, bridesmaids dresses, decorations, college schemes, going over. 14 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 2: All the guest lists, et cetera, et cetera. 15 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: At this point, everything was running smoothly and we were 16 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: on great terms. 17 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 2: Do you let me know upfront? I'd have to pay 18 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 2: for my dress and pitch in money for everything. 19 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: I knew money was tight for her and her fiance, 20 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 1: so I wanted to help, especially considering how close we were. 21 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 1: Around three months until the wedding, we were at a 22 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 1: get together and we were introduced to the girlfriend of 23 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: a friend of her fiance and my boyfriend. We'll call 24 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: her Lynn. Anna seemed to click with Lynn, and Anna 25 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: is the best friend. 26 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I already I forgot all the character. 27 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,319 Speaker 1: Yep, my best friend. Anna seemed to click with Lynn immediately. 28 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: They exchanged numbers and made plans to get coffee at 29 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,320 Speaker 1: a later date. That same night, a week after the party, 30 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: I'm on FaceTime with Anna and she's basically. 31 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 2: Gushing about Lynn, going on about how cool and funny Lynn. 32 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: Is, about her career, about all the places she's traveled 33 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: already at twenty, how it's such a small world because 34 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: Lynn's mother works with her mother, and Anna's cousin used 35 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: to babysit Lynn's little lister. 36 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 2: I know where this is going type bitch. 37 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 3: And I don't like it. 38 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 2: Type it now one bit, I see two. 39 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 3: You better not do it on my watch. 40 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 2: No, all I could do was listen it. He went 41 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 2: on and on. 42 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 1: Considering I had no connection with this girl. I was 43 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: happy for her that she met someone that she seemed 44 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: to have such chemistry. Not after long, I started noticing 45 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 1: abnormal distance from Anna. If I texted, it was at 46 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: least six hours before I got a response. Every time 47 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: other than girl, can't you text somebody back once. 48 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 2: I didn't bring it up and. 49 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: Brushed it off as stress about everything involving her big day. 50 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: I started noticing pictures of Linn on her social media 51 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: stories a lot when she and I hung out, which 52 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: wasn't much at that point. It was only to discuss 53 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: wedding technicalities and what I would be contributing financially or 54 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: other OPI is just a good old piggy bank. It's 55 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: buy the things for the wedding and nothing else. 56 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 2: You are. You are nothing but an ATM to me, 57 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:29,080 Speaker 2: nothing money, that's right. 58 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: These times were also usually cut short due to a 59 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 1: prior engagement that she had with Lynn that she had 60 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: to rush off to. How about Lynn coughs up a little, 61 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: a little dough, a little moola, a little change, a 62 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: little chut up, a little back rouse, come on, what's 63 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:46,359 Speaker 1: going on here? 64 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 2: But at this point the wedding was two weeks away. 65 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: The morning of her bachelorette party, which I took the 66 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: liberty of paying and throwing for her. 67 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 3: Whoah, maybe, girl, what are you doing? 68 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 2: What are you doing paying for there? Your own dress 69 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 2: is one thing, paying for the whole party? 70 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 1: Wow? 71 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 3: But I mean, I guess she is the maid of honor. 72 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: But something gave me the idea to ask if Lynn 73 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 1: was going to be one of the bride'smaids. I see 74 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: what I told you. He looked at me as if 75 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: she had some as mad news to tell me. I've 76 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: been thinking about this for a what and look, I'm 77 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 1: sorry I haven't told you sooner. I am making Lynn 78 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: my maid of honor. I know you've been amazing ATM 79 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:26,679 Speaker 1: Thank you. 80 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 2: My pin code will stay the same. 81 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 3: I know you gave me so much money, but you 82 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 3: can keep doing that. 83 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: You can keep doing that, and I you know what 84 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: I al' stop you. That would be that would be 85 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: selfish to not be from doing what you love. If 86 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: you love what you do, you don't work a day 87 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: in your life. And if you give me all your money, 88 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: you'll have to work until you die because you don't retire. Yeah, 89 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: pay for my wedding. 90 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 3: Oh, I don't watch you as my maid of honor. 91 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 2: I don't. Matter of fact, you can show up. You 92 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 2: canno show up. It's up to you. It's up to you. 93 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 3: I would I would never take that choice away from you. 94 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 2: Wow. Obviously I was pushed, but I took the news 95 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 2: with a smile. 96 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 3: I to not ruin the day for Oh my god, 97 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 3: I would not take the news with mile. 98 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 2: Dude, this is bad. 99 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: Later that day, at the party, I watched as Anna 100 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: stood up with Lynn and introduced her as her maid 101 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: of honor, and most everyone collapped, but a few of 102 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: our friends looked at each other and then looked at me. 103 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 1: Everything about this went through me, so I stormed out. 104 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: I haven't seen Anna in two months or had a 105 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: real conversation about what happened. I'm conflicted about whether or 106 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: not I'm completely in the wrong. Please let me know 107 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 1: your thoughts on this. 108 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 2: Thanks. 109 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,160 Speaker 1: There is some relevant comments in an updates, But Sophia 110 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: is op in the wrong. 111 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 4: No, this is Moonlight and La La Land right now 112 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 4: at the Oscars. 113 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 3: Do you know what I'm talking about? 114 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 4: Of La La Land being called and then and then 115 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 4: they realized what they d No, it was supposed to 116 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:50,240 Speaker 4: be Moonlight. 117 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 2: But they called up La La Land instead, and so they. 118 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 3: All came up. 119 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 4: And then after all of them were up there, they 120 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 4: were like, oh, we didn't win. 121 00:04:57,720 --> 00:04:58,359 Speaker 3: It was moonlight. 122 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 2: Oh wow. All the law people came here. 123 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, and they were like, oh hey yeah, oh yeah, 124 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 4: you called up the wrong people. 125 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 2: Wow. 126 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 4: And that's what this is. This is op was called 127 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 4: to be bridesman, I mean of honor. And then once 128 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 4: she was already ready up there to accept her award, 129 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 4: notched away from her. R. P. 130 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: Floyd eighteen says, I'm going to go against the grain 131 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: and quote a line from the movie A Bronx Tail. 132 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,839 Speaker 1: There are quite a few scenes here where you see 133 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 1: the main character See trying to chase and catch this 134 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 1: guy because this guy owes him twenty bucks. In one 135 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: of the scenes where he was doing this, the mob 136 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: boss Sonny sees this going and grabs Sea. He asks 137 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: him what's going on after learning that this guy owes 138 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: sees some money, and he asked him if he even 139 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: likes this guy, and See says, no. 140 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 2: I can't. I can't. I can't stay in the guy. 141 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 2: But it's the principle. 142 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 1: Sonny says, Look, you have already solved the problem because 143 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: this person will never bother you again, and all it 144 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: costs you is a lousy twenty dollars. Interesting to the 145 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 1: commenters like, hey, you spent this money, but you spent 146 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: it and that's no. 147 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 2: I hate that. 148 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: It sounds like the comments are saying, hey, look, you 149 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: spent the money, but just cut your ties and move on. 150 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 1: You've you know, it's a it's a it's a cheap 151 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: lesson to learn who your real friends are. 152 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 3: I don't get that money back. Get the money back 153 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 3: a lot of money. 154 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: I know you have probably have a lot more invested 155 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:25,280 Speaker 1: in her party, and you probably have a lesson more 156 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 1: a lot more in the friendship. You know that this 157 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: is all it costs you to realize that this friend, 158 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: that this person is not your friend, is not a 159 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:34,280 Speaker 1: good person, and that you never have to deal with 160 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 1: him ever again. 161 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,359 Speaker 2: Problem solved. I mean, I disagree. 162 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: You need you need to remember your self worth whenever 163 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: she tries to walk back into your into your life, 164 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 1: but don't remember your net worth forgetting that money out 165 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: the door. Even if she tried to apologize, I would 166 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: simply tell her to save it and that you are 167 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: out of f's to give. 168 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 2: Keep your head up high. 169 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: Know that she will never amount to the piece of 170 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: chewed up gums stuck to the bottom of your show. 171 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: Some suwee mama. Some people have class and values, and 172 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 1: she was raised with neither. Good luck and update me 173 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 1: I think, I mean, and we we've said this before. 174 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: If you're like like, let's say Opie comes from a 175 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: I don't think we got any kind of sense of 176 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: Ope's financial status. Let's say Ope come has like is 177 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: a trust on baby and has all the money she 178 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: wants in the world. Yes, it makes sense just to 179 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: just cut and run because it's like the equivalent of 180 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: spending and like ten or twenty bucks or whatever. Yeah, 181 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: like if if you lent a friend ten dollars and 182 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 1: then they like stabbed you in the back in. 183 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 2: The worst way possible, it's like, okay, not worth ten dollars. 184 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: But chances are that I just don't like because that's 185 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: rewarding her. 186 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 4: She gets to do whatever she wants. And also I 187 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,239 Speaker 4: paid for her wedding or parts of her wedding. 188 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: And two back to the question of confronting, do you 189 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: confront bad friends are going no contact, which is exactly 190 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: the scenario suggested here of going no contact. I think 191 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: you confront them because then when will they learn? 192 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think you confront them and then maybe go 193 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 4: no conduct. 194 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: Yes, confront them, pryor to see if you can get 195 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: any money out. Look, the comment might be right all 196 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: in all that, maybe like you try to get the 197 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: money back in it and it never comes back. 198 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 2: But honestly, I'm. 199 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 3: Like, I just want to I just want a little confrontation. 200 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 2: I just I like justice. I want justice. 201 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 1: Oh we have an update, and actually very relevant is 202 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: the comment we just read. A comment by RP Floyd 203 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: eighteen made me realize something. If a person can be 204 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: taken from me, they weren't meant to be in my 205 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: life for the long term in the first place. I'm 206 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: going to take the high road here and use this 207 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: as a life lesson. Going against me and Sophieu's advice. 208 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: My goodness, what she did really hurts, and I'm not 209 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 1: exactly sure what to take from this experience. 210 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 2: Yet. 211 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: We have been best friends since middle school, and I'm 212 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: so serious when I say she was never toxic through 213 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: the entirety of our friendship. I appreciate everyone's input. If 214 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: I could get some advice, if at all possible, on 215 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: how to learn from this, that would be productive and helpful. 216 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 2: I would also like to add. 217 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: That I'm twenty one move to a town three hours 218 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: away from my parents one year ago. The reddit is 219 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: my best option for input and advice Right now. I'm 220 00:09:05,320 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: trying my best to put myself out there and make connections, 221 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: but making friends as an adult it's harder than I thought. 222 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:14,319 Speaker 1: Advice on that alone would be helpful. Thanks everyone again, 223 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: and we'll close out with this final relevant comment. New 224 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 1: Principle ninety one to forty five says, what to take 225 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: from this? What to take from this? Cutl amity, what 226 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: have we learned? Understand what our reasonable asks? At no 227 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: time is it okay to ask your friend to fun 228 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:32,679 Speaker 1: things like your wedding. It bothered me that she said 229 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: you had to pitch in with her wedding costs and planning. 230 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 2: Planning help is understandable. I agree with that you were. 231 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 1: Taking advantage of because you were a kind spirits the 232 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: long story short financial demands like as your responsibility when 233 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with you, as a red flag, 234 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: op responds, this really helps, Thank you, And I feel 235 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 1: like we're left with a little bit of a cliffhanger 236 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: because at first it seems op was like, let me 237 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: cut my losses, let me just move on and take 238 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: this as a lesson, And then op said Opie gets 239 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 1: the advice of like, hey, any any friend asking you 240 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: for money to contribute all of this stuff, anything more 241 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: than your time to help plan logistics, is uh, you 242 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: know you should do that? Then OPI was like, thinks 243 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,559 Speaker 1: a lot. That's that's really helpful me personally. It's a 244 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: cliffhanger kind of and I feel like she's split half 245 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:20,679 Speaker 1: and half, sob. 246 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 3: She's she's get that money and move on. 247 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: Do we think that Opie? Should the chat voted to 248 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: go get the bag? Do we think go get the 249 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: bag or or move on? 250 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 3: I do get at least some of your bag. 251 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 1: I this is just me being petty and having this 252 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 1: weird impulse to sue somebody. But I kind of want 253 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:43,719 Speaker 1: to be like, at least say like, I'm going to 254 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 1: take you to small claims court if you don't, like, 255 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: I don't know, like she just stabbed you over Honestly, 256 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: she should sit down, in all seriousness, you should sit 257 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 1: down and be like, do you really betrayed me as 258 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: a friend? And like kind of almost Opie could almost 259 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,560 Speaker 1: read that. I think, maybe add in some maybe some 260 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: more content and like clean it up, but pretty much 261 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: read most of the sentiments she shared in the story 262 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: of like, I don't she was never toxic, you were 263 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:11,679 Speaker 1: my friend, Like, yeah, I wanted to I wanted to contribute. 264 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 1: I wanted to pitch in and you hurt me so much, 265 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: you did all of these things, and. 266 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 3: Uh, and if yeah, I feel like you, I feel. 267 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: Like you used me and like I want my money back. 268 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: Maybe then see what she says. And then if not, 269 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: like now, it depends how much money was it? How 270 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: much money do you have, like kind of like we 271 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: were saying earlier. If you're like, yeah, crest one baby, whatever, 272 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: let it go, it's not worth it. But if it's 273 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: like a lot of if it's thousands of dollars, and 274 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: if it is. 275 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 4: A meaningful amount of money to you and that money 276 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 4: had the meaning to that money has been taken away, 277 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 4: then I think you should. 278 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 2: Get that back. Go for it. 279 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: And I'm I'm no lawyer, but I feel like if 280 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: you did, like a civil case or something like that 281 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:51,199 Speaker 1: where it's like, hey, I plan, I threw your party 282 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:52,719 Speaker 1: and paid for it as the maid of honor, and 283 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 1: now I was removed as the maid of honor. I look, 284 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,599 Speaker 1: I'm truly no lawyers. Is not legalvice at all, and 285 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:05,320 Speaker 1: this is not legal advice. I'm just guessing maybe that's something. 286 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:09,719 Speaker 2: Gotta be something. And to put a button on the on. 287 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 3: The question, should you put that button on it. 288 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 2: I'm putting it. 289 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 1: Should you go uh, no contact or should you confront 290 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 1: and talk with the bad friend about their bad behavior? 291 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:21,079 Speaker 2: Once again? 292 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: I think we've landed and confront the friend about their 293 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: bad behavior. Yeah, so we've we've we've we've, we've gotten there, 294 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: We've reached the summit. Confront the friends, ladies and gentlemen. 295 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:33,839 Speaker 3: Huh, we climbed over that. 296 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 2: We this is the mount everest. 297 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,559 Speaker 3: Of There's always gotta be another mountain, you. 298 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:41,560 Speaker 2: Know, no matter how I I. 299 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 4: Forget, you're always gonna have to make it move. Yes, 300 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 4: I don't remember the rest of them. 301 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 2: That was great though, What a great song. Guys. 302 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 1: This is really the last episode. If you're if you're 303 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: a member's only, you're watching this live. But if you're 304 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,839 Speaker 1: not members only, you're watching this recording. You can join 305 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:00,959 Speaker 1: the members and freaking hang with us. But this is 306 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,080 Speaker 1: a wrap. If you love us, please make sure to subscribe. 307 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 3: We Love You and My Road. 308 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. Time 309 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 2: for okop Rewam. 310 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,680 Speaker 1: I'm just so angry because my careen neighbor threw a party, 311 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: so I filed a restraining order, dat her fired from 312 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,840 Speaker 1: her job, and then took blackmail to a whole new level. 313 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 5: How do you take blackmail to a whole new level? 314 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 5: After all of that, it gets deep? Where does it 315 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 5: go from there? Like a murder? Are we about to 316 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,319 Speaker 5: see a meta take place? 317 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,079 Speaker 1: I put you in a spaceship and launch you into 318 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:38,559 Speaker 1: space with no snacks. 319 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 2: I rip out your sphincter and use it as a hat. 320 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:44,080 Speaker 2: I mean, that's pretty bad. 321 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna live pretty pretty bad. But we'll see what 322 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: OPI does to top it. 323 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 2: All right, let's see it. 324 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 1: I'm twenty female and I live in a suburban neighborhood 325 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: with my family. A few years ago, we had new 326 00:13:55,200 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: neighbors move in next door. Oh new neighbors. Oh. At 327 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: first they seemed all right, but then they turned out 328 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: to be complete party animals. 329 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 5: That's what it sounded like. Twenty four to seven exactly. 330 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 5: I feel like op sounds a little straight edge. It's like, yeah, I, well, 331 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 5: you know, we lived in a quiet neighborhood and then 332 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 5: these people who were cool as fuck moved in and 333 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 5: had all these people hanging out. 334 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: Imagine they're literally just have like like hangouts where they 335 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: just like place music, eat some chips and stuff. It's 336 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: like partiers. They were just drinking pepsi by the caseload. 337 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that sugar high was insane. I'm talking 338 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: about partying three times a week, blasting loud music till 339 00:14:44,320 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: two am in the morning. 340 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 2: Two am is a little late. That's a little a 341 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 2: little late. Sounds like your apartment. I was literally about 342 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 2: to say the same thing. Broh, my god. 343 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 1: One time, we literally were like six grown men jumping 344 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: up and down, and I was like, how are the 345 00:14:58,360 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 1: police not here? Right? 346 00:14:59,400 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 6: Yeah? 347 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, the friddiness of my apartment has declined. That's true 348 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 5: in the last year, I would say that. Being said, 349 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 5: I cannot believe we didn't get the cops called on 350 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 5: us more because you could hear our music from the 351 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 5: street usually. 352 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: That's true, Yes, you could. You guys are slick. We're slick. 353 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 2: Can you say we're slick? 354 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: Over the past year and a half, we've had multiple 355 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 1: confrontations with our neighbors over petty little stuff. In fact, 356 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 1: I made a post about one of these petty confusions 357 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 1: on our neighbor on our slash malicious comply. 358 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 2: Oh we got a reddit or now. 359 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: I'm shocked that story blew up as much as it 360 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: did and Honestly, I almost forgot about the post entirely 361 00:15:34,640 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 1: until a few weeks ago. 362 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 2: Ooh, intrigue. 363 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: So our neighbors were having one of their super crazy 364 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: pool parties and it was driving everyone in the neighborhood crazy. 365 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 1: The police couldn't do much because we would make a 366 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 1: noise complaint and the police would show up, give them 367 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: a warning. Things will go quiet for maybe thirty minutes, 368 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: but then they would just go right back to partying again. 369 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: Over time, some neighbors began to give up, and eventually 370 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: some even moved away. 371 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 5: Oh my god, dude, it's gonna become parties Central. And 372 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 5: then other neighbors moved in that like to party just 373 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 5: as much as Yeah. 374 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: I'm imagining. I don't know why I like it, Like 375 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,160 Speaker 1: those like really biker gangs. Was like really old people 376 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: and they're just like blasting like Motley DC, just popping 377 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: back boiled peanuts and drinking beers all night. 378 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 2: I'm imagining the plot of Neighbors. Don have never seen 379 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 2: annie movie. 380 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 5: God editors put it in like a clip from Neighbors 381 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 5: in here has Zac Efron in it, and Joe Rogan 382 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:33,440 Speaker 5: or not sorry, Seth Rogan not Joe. 383 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 2: Rogan that would be funny, though I would watch that 384 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: movie too. At this point, my mom had finally had enough. Yeah. 385 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 1: Once the party finally seemed to wind down at around 386 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: midnight and guests started leaving, my mom marched straight up 387 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 1: to the owner of the house. We'll call her Lying 388 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: Sally because she's a pathological liar, yeah, and warned her 389 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 1: that we will start calling the cops on them more 390 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: if they don't stop. 391 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 5: I like it as like a more like we call 392 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 5: the cops every time they throw a party, but we 393 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 5: go to do it. 394 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 2: Twice as much. 395 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: It's like it's like they were they were running their 396 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:05,399 Speaker 1: blender too loud. 397 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 2: He got you now. 398 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:11,159 Speaker 1: Of course, Lying Sally and her party guest laughed and 399 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 1: started taunting my mother dang, which led to an ugly 400 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 1: screaming match. Luckily I just had the common sense to 401 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 1: record all of this just in case, and thank god 402 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: I did. At some point during the fight, Lying Sally 403 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: screams at my mom, I'm going to effing beat the 404 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 1: crap out of. 405 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:29,920 Speaker 2: You, yo. 406 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 5: Lying Sally seems not that chill, actually not chill at all. Yeah, 407 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 5: come on, I thought you were chill like that. 408 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 2: I thought this was like like low five party beats. 409 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 4: You know. 410 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:43,159 Speaker 5: No, no, maybe lying Sally is a little bit of 411 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 5: a weirdo in the worst way. 412 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 1: One of our neighbors called the cops, which I don't 413 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 1: blame him for doing. 414 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 6: So everyone just calling the cops. God, just like, please, please, 415 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 6: no one call us. 416 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 1: I was getting worried for my mom since lying Sally 417 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 1: kept threatening to beat her up. The cops came around 418 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: and everything got peacefully resolved. 419 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 2: Thankfully. 420 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 1: It wasn't until the next morning I reviewed the video 421 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:12,639 Speaker 1: and remembered that you can file a restraining order against 422 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:14,800 Speaker 1: someone for threat of assaults. 423 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,440 Speaker 2: Yo. Now here's the thing. 424 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 1: I knew that filing a straining order against someone can 425 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: cause that person to maybe lose their job or make 426 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,120 Speaker 1: it difficult for that person to find a future job. 427 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 2: Does a restraining order go on your record? 428 00:18:27,119 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: I guess I never knew that maybe, like you know, 429 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 1: like background check when they I bet that is. 430 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 2: Probably where it comes down. 431 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: Interesting, So it's like restraining order dan, dang, that's that's wild. 432 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:37,880 Speaker 2: Now. 433 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 1: I knew from a sticker on the back of her car. 434 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:42,440 Speaker 1: She works in daycare, which is hilarious to me. She's 435 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: like taking care of kids, Like. 436 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, she has to be. You know, she's hanging 437 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 5: around kids, is like all the time. She needs to 438 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 5: let loose like an adult. 439 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 2: Dude. Come on, now, that's the cops. They just got called. 440 00:18:57,280 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 2: Why do they keep calling? 441 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 1: They keep calling them? Now, if I were nicer person, 442 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 1: I would have just let it go. But but there's 443 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: his rudetch it's too bad. I'm petty game time baby, 444 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: So we filed the restraining order. I took my neighbor 445 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: to court, and after showing the judge the video, he 446 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:17,720 Speaker 1: was immediately on our side, especially after she had initially 447 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: tried to lie and claimed that she never once threatened 448 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:21,200 Speaker 1: my mom. 449 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 2: She didn't know I had video proof. Yeah, dude, the 450 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 2: proof is in the vid. That's why you always have 451 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,040 Speaker 2: a body cam on you. That's would go. 452 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 1: Three sixty go pros just around like through my body all. 453 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:36,720 Speaker 5: The time and then you can turn into content for 454 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:39,040 Speaker 5: okop wow, bam bingbo. 455 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,680 Speaker 1: The judge granted us the restraining order and we were 456 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:46,479 Speaker 1: jumping for joy. Meanwhile, lying Sally wouldn't stop crying and 457 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,600 Speaker 1: pleading with the judge to rethink his. 458 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 5: Bird steps in a little baby, bro, come on, you're 459 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:57,720 Speaker 5: supposed to be a daycare care giver, not a daycare kid. 460 00:19:57,800 --> 00:20:00,639 Speaker 2: Come on, come on, get out of here. Let the kids 461 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 2: influence you poorly for being a cry baby. 462 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 1: Now this this next part is extra savage. Here the 463 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:09,679 Speaker 1: real kicker. I made an anonymous call with a friend's 464 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 1: phone to the daycare center where she worked, and I 465 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 1: let her boss know everything. 466 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,200 Speaker 5: Wow, Oh geez's going insane. 467 00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 2: Du good golly. 468 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: A few days later, I noticed she had removed the 469 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,400 Speaker 1: sticker from the daycare from the back of her car. 470 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 1: Oh no, it's so sad she wanted to party. I'm 471 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: pretty sure she was fired because she started staying at 472 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: home almost twenty four to seven. Her car almost never 473 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:39,480 Speaker 1: left the driveway. 474 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 2: Oh it's rough. Oh, this girl's probably depressed too. Can't 475 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:45,360 Speaker 2: party party? 476 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:50,440 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, dude, she's struggling. Also, the best part, 477 00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: the crazy loud parties finally stopped. It's been radio silent 478 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: for a whole entire month. The neighbors just popping prozac. 479 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 2: Just like God. Can't party, I can't need takecare? Like dude, 480 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 2: what can you do? Really? All her life's meaning has disintegrated. 481 00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 1: Now you can bet that during Christmas, our closest neighbors 482 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: dropped off a lot of cookies and chocolates as a 483 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for helping ruin her life. 484 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 2: He don't cross a redditor, They'll destroy you. First question 485 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,199 Speaker 2: when you meet anyone, are you a red editor? So 486 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 2: you know, not quite help please, I'm getting away, but Sam, 487 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 2: it's not over. There's an update. 488 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: Oh so, somebody asked how the judge was able to 489 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 1: see the video because phones aren't allowed in the court room. 490 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: This is true, but we were told to have our 491 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 1: phones turned completely off once the hearing started, and lying 492 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 1: Sally straight up said to the judge, I never threatened 493 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 1: my mom. So I told the judge I have video proof, 494 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:46,399 Speaker 1: and then the judge allowed me to show it on 495 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: a projector for the entire courtroom. 496 00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 2: That was a nail in the coffin for lying Sally. 497 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,160 Speaker 1: Also in the comments I mentioned I have video proof 498 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,440 Speaker 1: of her kissing someone who is not her husband. 499 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:02,440 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Oh, he is ruining this woman's entire life. 500 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 2: I've met you know she'd be cheating so seriously. 501 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: Now, there are several reasons why I haven't exposed her yet. 502 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,199 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if her and her husband are an 503 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 1: open relationship, but they're both crazy enough to do it. 504 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:15,399 Speaker 1: They have kids. I'm a child whose parents almost went 505 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,399 Speaker 1: through a divorce. I know how horrible it can be. 506 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 1: I kind of hate the husband. He's always been extremely rude, 507 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,840 Speaker 1: so this is my petty revenge against him. And I'm 508 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 1: holding onto the video as blackmail just in case the 509 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:31,360 Speaker 1: party starts up again. Wow, bro, this lady is a 510 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,280 Speaker 1: pro fashion Nah. 511 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,959 Speaker 5: He is playing like forty chess over here, dude. I 512 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 5: am scared, Like, yeah, I'm scared that these kind of 513 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 5: people like exist because like mostly I just feel, you know, 514 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,440 Speaker 5: like you and you or me, like someone fucks us over. 515 00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:49,200 Speaker 2: We're like all right, I'm just we're just gonna like. 516 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 5: Move on, live and live I live, and like we'll 517 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 5: probably want to associate with them or whatever, but we're 518 00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 5: not gonna like go out of our way to ruin 519 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 5: their entire lit like this is vindictive as heck. 520 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:02,440 Speaker 2: Bro. 521 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,120 Speaker 1: And and like the other person, she basically thinks it's over. 522 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 1: She's like, all right, there was this horrendous time in 523 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:10,359 Speaker 1: my life, but you know what, it's over and I 524 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 1: can move on. Little does she know she literally has 525 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:14,680 Speaker 1: a full freaking clip. 526 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 2: Just ready to scheme in. Man. But you know, what 527 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:19,199 Speaker 2: you should always scheme on. 528 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 5: Oh what sam r slash okop show tell us your stories, 529 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 5: send them in. 530 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 2: Baby, this is Okayop. 531 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 5: I'm Samuel daughter and I'm John Fry and we tell 532 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 5: the funniest stories on the Internet. And John, boy, do 533 00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 5: I have another cancerous one for you. 534 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 2: I'm ready. It's about cancer to blow your mind. Let's 535 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 2: do it. 536 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:44,600 Speaker 5: Mom felt entitled to my wish after I was diagnosed 537 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 5: and survived cancer. 538 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:50,240 Speaker 2: Bro where do they make these moms? So? Where where 539 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:51,240 Speaker 2: did they make them? 540 00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 1: In? 541 00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:53,880 Speaker 2: Hell? Cancel? There are there are a bunch of bunch 542 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:55,840 Speaker 2: of Karen moms. 543 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 5: Can take Karen's buy a merch So today, I twenty 544 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:02,359 Speaker 5: nine female, am thirteen years in remission from cancer. I 545 00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 5: had a very aggressive type with less than a twenty 546 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 5: percent chance of survival for the first five years. But 547 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 5: that's not the story I'm here to share. It's just 548 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 5: relevant information. As I was sixteen, I qualified for Make 549 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 5: a Wish. I'd played around with a bunch of potential ideas, 550 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:20,160 Speaker 5: destination vacations, meeting my favorite band, getting electronics, all that. 551 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 5: Once the idea of traveling somewhere warm came up. My 552 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 5: mom entitled parent was convinced that that was what was 553 00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,160 Speaker 5: happening with my wish. Oh dear, the discussion of Barbados 554 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,800 Speaker 5: came up, so that's what she set her mind to. However, 555 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,359 Speaker 5: I was still on the fence, and after discussing it 556 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:38,199 Speaker 5: with my correspondent at make a wish, I wanted to 557 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:39,359 Speaker 5: meet my favorite band. 558 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 2: We would not have been able to go to. 559 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,879 Speaker 5: The Caribbean for the trip, simply because of costs, but 560 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,680 Speaker 5: we could still go somewhere warm and out of the country. 561 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 5: We live in northern Canada with negative forty celzia as 562 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 5: a winter. 563 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,520 Speaker 2: No thank you, go, no thank you. 564 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,879 Speaker 5: There was talks of Florida, California, or even Hawaii is 565 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 5: destinations to meet them. At I wrote a letter directed 566 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 5: to said band, adding how listening to them helped me 567 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 5: through treatment and that actually one song in particular that 568 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:07,440 Speaker 5: the youngest wrote really helped me. And my correspondent had 569 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 5: mailed it out to the managers and they were going 570 00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,680 Speaker 5: to begin preparations for the band to get time scheduled 571 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 5: for the wish, which all sounds great, right. They're gonna 572 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,280 Speaker 5: fly out to somewhere warm and they're gonna meet the band. 573 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 2: Oh, it's like a double whammy wish. 574 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, they maybe not Barbados because that would be 575 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:23,240 Speaker 5: too expensive, but they would be able to go to 576 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 5: like Florida. 577 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 2: Her waff, I love it. I love it already. I 578 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 2: can tell it's not gonna be end well. No, no. 579 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:31,800 Speaker 2: When I told my mom what I wanted and the 580 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:35,640 Speaker 2: plan to meet the band, she went nuts. 581 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:39,360 Speaker 5: She went off about how she deserved this trip as 582 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,439 Speaker 5: much as I do because she was there for me 583 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 5: the entire time, and that if I wanted to do 584 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 5: anything besides going to Barbados, I could find another adult 585 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:55,440 Speaker 5: to supervise the trip because neither her or my stepdad 586 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:56,760 Speaker 5: would be joining me. 587 00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:01,960 Speaker 2: What God, wasn't what she wanted? Oh my god. She 588 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 2: then told me to pack my. 589 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,200 Speaker 5: Bags and I'd be staying at my dad's place till 590 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 5: I came to my senses stop and then told make 591 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 5: a wish that. 592 00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 2: We were going to Barbados. 593 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 5: You're kicking out your own daughter with cancer, own daughter 594 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,240 Speaker 5: with cancer, over a freaking make a wish. It's not 595 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,719 Speaker 5: even yours. I spent a month at my dad. I 596 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 5: spent over a month at my dad's and during this time, 597 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 5: the correspondent was trying to convince me to go through 598 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 5: with what I really wanted, but I eventually caved and 599 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 5: let my mom. 600 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 2: Have what she wanted. Oh oh man. 601 00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,760 Speaker 5: Now, my parents did make a compromise with me at 602 00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 5: the time and told me they drive me to their 603 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 5: concert in Toronto if I had paid for the entire trip. 604 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,200 Speaker 2: Bro she's a teenager with cancer. 605 00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:50,159 Speaker 5: Foolish seventeen year old me thought that was a great idea. 606 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:52,040 Speaker 5: I get to see the abandoned concert and make my 607 00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,639 Speaker 5: parents happy. In the end, it costs a lot. My 608 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,600 Speaker 5: parents complained the whole time, but at least i'd see 609 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:58,320 Speaker 5: them in concert. 610 00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:59,679 Speaker 2: Oh wow. 611 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,399 Speaker 5: The occasional time where the conversation of the trip to 612 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:05,439 Speaker 5: Barbados has come up, my mom likes to paint herself 613 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 5: as a victim after all these years. Could you imagine 614 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 5: if you'd gone through with it and we'd messed out 615 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 5: on Barbados, you would have gone with the You would 616 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,879 Speaker 5: have gone with the person's mom instead, in last us 617 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 5: her and her stepdad behind. 618 00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,360 Speaker 1: I would have never forgiven you if you'd done that. 619 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're child with cancer. 620 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 2: I know. 621 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 5: To this day. I'm still a huge fan of that band. 622 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,160 Speaker 5: They were on hiatus for a while but came back. 623 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 5: And this whole situation really sticks in my mind, especially 624 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 5: when I see them performing on shows and on their 625 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,880 Speaker 5: two tours they've done post hiatus. Yes, I saw them 626 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 5: in a concert and it was a great time. But 627 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 5: I could have physically met them and gone to a 628 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,080 Speaker 5: concert through make a wish while traveling to another country 629 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,680 Speaker 5: without having to pay out a pocket for the experience. 630 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 2: Amazing. 631 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 5: And I couldn't do any of this all because my 632 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:57,399 Speaker 5: mom felt entitled to making my wish about her rather 633 00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,600 Speaker 5: than the actual recipient of it. I understand that she 634 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,800 Speaker 5: didn't care to meet the banner self, but there could 635 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 5: have been many opportunities available aside from just doing that. 636 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,280 Speaker 2: I nearly died. It shouldn't have even been a question. 637 00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,439 Speaker 5: That it was my wish and I should do what 638 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 5: I want for my wish, especially with the extremely high 639 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,560 Speaker 5: chance of the cancer coming back. 640 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,880 Speaker 2: So what do you guys think? Do you think op 641 00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 2: he is in the wrong ear? Do you think the 642 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:21,440 Speaker 2: parents are in the wrong ear? 643 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:24,280 Speaker 1: You know who's never in the right Adam Levine, Adam, 644 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,879 Speaker 1: His existence is an insult to humanity. 645 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, and if you want to show whose boss on TikTok, 646 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 5: let's surpass him and. 647 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:35,199 Speaker 2: Followers follow us. Screw Adam Levine, But John, what do 648 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 2: you think of the like? Who's actually wrong here? 649 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 5: Gee, that's pretty obvious, y'all. 650 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,680 Speaker 2: God tell us in the commons. 651 00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,320 Speaker 1: Let us let us know, guys. Let us this one 652 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,200 Speaker 1: was a doozy. You delivered, Sam, This one was a doozy.