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Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. The Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the world knows Dangerous wanting to show to

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Speaker 2: breakfast Club Charlamagne da God.

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Speaker 3: Laura le Ross is here, just hilarious? Is here?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Who's feeling in for envy? Laura l Rosse is feeling

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Speaker 3: in for envy? Is a me filling in? He's here?

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Speaker 1: I'm here, but she's feeling in?

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a guest today though, because his new book,

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Speaker 2: Real Life, Real Family with the Queen of the House

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Speaker 2: Gia Casey.

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Speaker 1: Is out right now.

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Speaker 3: Will comes like April fifteenth?

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Speaker 1: Comes April fifteenth?

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Speaker 3: Yes, how you feeling?

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Speaker 5: You humbled by being given the opportunity to write a

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Speaker 5: book about something that is the most important thing to me,

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Speaker 5: the thing I'm the most passionate about, the thing that

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Speaker 5: brings me the most joy, family, parenting, my household, our home.

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Speaker 6: So yes, I'm very humbled.

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Speaker 7: This is the second book. Yes, it's amazing. You know what,

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Speaker 7: let's just rewind it back for those who don't.

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Speaker 4: Know, who is the case Secret? Where did that name

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Speaker 4: come from? How did y'all get starty?

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Speaker 3: Do you remember the KSE crew?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Our last name? What do you mean?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 6: No, no, but do you remember how we came up

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Speaker 1: How do we come up with the name.

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Speaker 5: We were doing our first podcast and it was before

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Speaker 5: we were doing like the audio version of the video version.

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Speaker 5: It was just the audio version, and we started the

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Speaker 5: podcast without a name. And we sat there and we

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Speaker 5: one of us said, well, how about the k C Crew.

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Speaker 5: You know, our last name is Casey. We have a

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Speaker 6: What about the k C Crew.

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Speaker 5: And then people you know, DMed us and emailed and whatnot,

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Speaker 5: and they said, yeah, we love that name.

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Speaker 6: We love that name.

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Speaker 5: So we decided to call ourselves the KC Crew.

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Speaker 1: Amazing that's where it came about.

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Speaker 8: And whenever you post on social you always hashtag the

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Speaker 6: Yes, V does as well.

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Speaker 8: But one of the things that you guys were really

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Speaker 5: Ki.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and you guys.

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Speaker 8: Bring them into the podcast, but you also like reflect

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Speaker 8: thought that this was great. You inspired me. This is

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Speaker 8: someone commenting to you, guys, you inspired me. I wish

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Speaker 8: all parents had this level of intention, planning and vibe.

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Speaker 8: Truth is, most parents, moms are stressed, overworked by trying

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Speaker 8: to make ends meet, in harboring trauma. Therefore, it's passed

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Speaker 8: down to the children. You've passed down light and love

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Speaker 8: but it's important because when you if you've ever been

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Speaker 5: Well, you know, that's a big misconception. People assume that

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Speaker 6: And that's something that is.

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Speaker 5: Every day so I read every single comment. I interact.

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Speaker 5: We were a middle class family. I'm from Brooklyn, from

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Speaker 5: Our kids are so conditioned to understanding that it's for

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Speaker 5: At though that's such a good question, it comes with

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Speaker 5: She could tell you a car that was driving six

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Speaker 6: How do y'all, ah, how y'all pick and choose?

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Speaker 9: Know, if it was up to me, I'm transparent with

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Speaker 2: we had the sex talk and had to have the

442
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 2: sex talks with Logan and Madison. What kind of sex

443
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 2: talk though, it wasn't a backdoor sex talk that they

444
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: just birds and beans and wasp and.

445
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 5: They got a full blown okay sex talk. They had

446
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:40,120
Speaker 5: to understand because if you leave it back.

447
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,479
Speaker 2: Door sex, if that's what I'm really trying to figure out,

448
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 2: why was the condon bloody?

449
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 4: I'm really because when somebody ran red.

450
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 7: Like yeah, just ripped some my butt open, somebody ran

451
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 7: a red.

452
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,360
Speaker 8: Don't be like the first time thing?

453
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, but no they at that point I found

454
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 5: that they were old enough and mature enough, and they're

455
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:06,360
Speaker 5: encountering things now. These conversations are being had amongst their peers,

456
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,159
Speaker 5: and I knew that if I didn't set them straight,

457
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 5: that they were going to be absorbing all of this

458
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 5: wrong information and wrong ideas. So I told them sex

459
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 5: feels good. It's a pleasureful experience. God made us that

460
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 5: way because God wants us to reproduce. He wants us

461
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,680
Speaker 5: to create offspring. So he made it something that we

462
00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 5: would enjoy. But it's meant for someone that you love,

463
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 5: and that's the reason why. So they're like, oh, okay,

464
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 5: so what is it.

465
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 4: Like and what did you say?

466
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 5: Okay, if I'm being honest, I told them that there

467
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 5: is a penis, and there is a vagina and it

468
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 5: does slide in and out. And my son Logan was like,

469
00:23:51,480 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 5: so like this, yeah, they're a bad Yeah, they're eleven

470
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 5: about they're about eleven and nine.

471
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,119
Speaker 6: That I'll never forget since you asked, he was like,

472
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:15,640
Speaker 6: so is it like like? I was like, yeah, something

473
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:16,160
Speaker 6: like that.

474
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 5: I said, you know, some people look at it as

475
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 5: a negative thing.

476
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 6: No, no, no, he really didn't know. He really didn't.

477
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,880
Speaker 5: He really didn't even even like my eleven year old

478
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:29,840
Speaker 5: son right now, he does not know. He asked me

479
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,880
Speaker 5: three days ago, like what does sexual mean?

480
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:34,879
Speaker 6: I said, it's not for you. It's not for you

481
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 6: to understand right now.

482
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 5: So when they asked me questions that I don't want

483
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 5: them to know about. And he's older than Logan was,

484
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 5: But now with I have a better grip on his

485
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 5: friends and a grip on what he's exposed to on

486
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 5: his phone and whatnot in Parameter's boundaries, So I'm really

487
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 5: abreast of what he knows and what he doesn't in

488
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 5: our lines of communication are better, way better.

489
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 6: Like he like those kids.

490
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 5: They come to me every day and when they get

491
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 5: home from school, either for a half an hour an hour,

492
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 5: depending on what activity they have.

493
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 6: Afterwards, they have their turns.

494
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,160
Speaker 5: They sit at the foot of my bed, they lay

495
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 5: down or they sit down and they tell me about

496
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 5: their entire day.

497
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 6: They tell me the.

498
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 5: Best part of their day, the worst part of their day,

499
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 5: and one kind thing that they did for someone else

500
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:22,199
Speaker 5: that day. So that's just our routine, that's our ritual.

501
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 5: And they tell me everything. And you would be shocked

502
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 5: and appalled to know the things that they divulge. But

503
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 5: it's because we create that safe space, We create that

504
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 5: soft place to land, We create a no judgment zone.

505
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:39,719
Speaker 5: You could tell me anything. It could be the world's worst.

506
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 5: I will never ever judge you. I will help you

507
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 5: fix it. We'll extract all the lessons everything that you

508
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 5: need to learn from it, whether you were wrong, whether

509
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 5: you weren't whatever. It is like this is your safe

510
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 5: space and they have that foundation. So they share, they share,

511
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 5: and we take that time like we share.

512
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have six games?

513
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 7: So was there anything because y'all have all age groups?

514
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 7: So is there anything that you felt like in the

515
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 7: beginning y'all didn't know until y'all got to that six kid,

516
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 7: of course, like what were some of the I'll give

517
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 7: you an example.

518
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 4: You didn't know. You just was like, well we may

519
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:18,120
Speaker 4: and Rashan winging.

520
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 6: This, I'll give you. I'll give you an example.

521
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,400
Speaker 5: But to speak to what you said, like we wrote

522
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,679
Speaker 5: a book, that doesn't mean that we know everything, and

523
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 5: it doesn't mean that it's not an evolution. It doesn't

524
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 5: mean that we're still learning every single day. Like I

525
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 5: said earlier, it's a sense of community where we share

526
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 5: our experiences and the wins and the losses so that

527
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 5: other people can understand they're not alone.

528
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 6: And it comes in.

529
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 5: All shades, all forms, all fashions, all financial groups. We

530
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 5: all speak a universal universal language as parents with Logan,

531
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 5: so one of one of the fails, and this was

532
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 5: something that we disagreed on. So it was the explaining

533
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 5: everything to the kids.

534
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 6: I have the patience to do it.

535
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,120
Speaker 5: And he really is a because I said so type

536
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 5: of guy. And it worked beautifully with Madison, but with

537
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 5: Logan from a young age, I would explain everything to

538
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 5: him and he's a mama's.

539
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: Boy times thirty and he tells us he.

540
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 5: Is that boy, Like we have a thing, you know,

541
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 5: and I have a different thing with all of my kids,

542
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 5: but me and him.

543
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,919
Speaker 6: Have our thing. Like he calls me at.

544
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 5: All times of the day, all time. He will call

545
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 5: me at three o'clock in the morning, like at twelve

546
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,640
Speaker 5: o'clock in the afternoon, and she's like, yea, what's up, mom,

547
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 5: what's going on?

548
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:37,400
Speaker 6: You're good?

549
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm good. I was just at the club home.

550
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 5: I'm about to FaceTime you. Lucas and Andrew are here.

551
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 5: Take a look, take a look, and I'm like, what's up?

552
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 6: Sleep is up? But okay, you know what I mean.

553
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 6: Like we're very, very close.

554
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 5: But it kind of went wrong with him because what

555
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 5: we found was that we created an environment where he

556
00:27:55,680 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 5: felt that he was entitled to an explanation, and he

557
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 5: felt as though because we gave him too safe of

558
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 5: a space that he could challenge me. And he can

559
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:13,479
Speaker 5: challenge a decision that I made. And he's very and

560
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 5: he's very intelligent. He's very, very intelligent. So Rashwan always

561
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 5: says that I'm like a lawyer, right, he says it

562
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 5: all the time. I know what it feels like because

563
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 5: I have a logan and logan lawyers me, do you

564
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 5: know what I mean?

565
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 1: So they do it each other all day long.

566
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 4: Yes, all day.

567
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 5: Long, and in a lot of ways, I enjoy it

568
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,640
Speaker 5: because I feel like he really does challenge me, and

569
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 5: he's one of the only people that I feel like

570
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 5: does that in my life. And I love to see

571
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 5: the mental exercise. I love to see how his brain

572
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 5: is moving and how he's getting around the things that

573
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 5: I'm saying and things like that.

574
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 6: So it's good at his adult age.

575
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 5: Now because he's twenty one, But when he was a child,

576
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 5: it wasn't acceptable because I'm going to explain because this

577
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 5: is what I do. But now you're not understanding that

578
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 5: that's a grace that I show you. It's not something

579
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 5: that you're entitled to This is a courtesy that I'm

580
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 5: extending to you, but you're not entitled. So we had

581
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 5: to dial that back. And then we had to teach

582
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 5: boundaries and let him know his place because he started

583
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 5: to misunderstand his place. So that was that was a

584
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 5: fail in a sense. And Rashalmud always looking at me

585
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 5: like see I told you, Like see I told you.

586
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: Because he's a bad guy.

587
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 9: Because now I got to go discipline that, right, So

588
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 9: now me and Logan get into it.

589
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: And now you can't beat Logan because Logan.

590
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 9: So now I got a discipline Logan, and then me

591
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 9: and Logan get into it. But one thing about Logan

592
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 9: and all of our kids, which is the craziest thing,

593
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 9: is they're very forgiven. Like with Logan, I have to

594
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 9: get sometimes so disrespectful for him to understand.

595
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: And the next day he's like, hey Dad, what's up.

596
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: And I'm like, hey Dad, what's up. But that's how

597
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: he is, and he just has conversations.

598
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 9: But we have those conversations and we understand and we

599
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 9: but he's the one that just like.

600
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 6: His mom, did you fail like a failure?

601
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 4: No?

602
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 5: No, I didn't feel like a failure, but I knew

603
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 5: that that technique wasn't wasn't necessarily a fail, but it

604
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 5: needed tweaking.

605
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 6: So then we had.

606
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 5: Our other four and there was a huge gap. There's

607
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 5: about nine years between Logan and London. So I wanted

608
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 5: to maintain what I always believed in and how I

609
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 5: was raised, but I wanted to implement some of because

610
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 5: I told you so as well, Like I am going

611
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 5: to explain to you, but I'm going to let you

612
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 5: know that it is because I'm showing you grace and

613
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 5: it's because I respect you. So in turn, you have

614
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 5: to respect me, and you have to respect the decision.

615
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 5: And we can talk about it as long as it's

616
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 5: coming from a good place. And I'm not sensing any

617
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 5: attitude from you, any entitlement from you, or anything that

618
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 5: I don't like to feel as we sit here and

619
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 5: discuss it. So you got to make sure you keep

620
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 5: it right. And my kids get it. So this pack

621
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 5: of three, because Peyton's three years old, but my eleven,

622
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 5: my ten, and my eight, they get it. Like I

623
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 5: tell them, if they were really curious, they might question,

624
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 5: and then after I say it again, they're like, okay, absolutely,

625
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 5: whatever it is. And so it's it's through that trial

626
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 5: and error with Madison and Logan that were able to

627
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 5: take all the good stuff, you know, all the good

628
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 5: stuff and pour it into this second batch of kids.

629
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 8: No, go ahead, I thought, I'm asking so much.

630
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 4: So no, it's okay.

631
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 7: So in the beginning, So going back to something you

632
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 7: said earlier, you were saying that the past two years

633
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 7: was very traumatic and not getting into that. How challenging

634
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 7: was it writing this book? Like was it ever moments

635
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 7: where you AMers or just you like broke down, like

636
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 7: not like giving up, But it was challenging for you

637
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 7: to get deep into any you know, any of the

638
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 7: chapters or what you win through within the pastry.

639
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 5: You you know what, I'll be honest with you, no

640
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,239
Speaker 5: pun intended, But I'm an open book. I'm not a

641
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 5: private person. I've never been a very private person. And

642
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 5: it's because I feel as though the value in life

643
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 5: is truth. You know, even if it's not pretty. You know,

644
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 5: there's no value to anything if it's not honest, if

645
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 5: it's not true, if it's not transparent, if it's bs,

646
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 5: it's worthless. You know, if you wrap everything in a

647
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 5: pretty bow, it's worthless because who can relate to you, nobody.

648
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 5: I can't relate to people that appear to be perfect

649
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 5: or pretend to be perfect, because I don't know you.

650
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 5: I don't know anybody like you, you know what I mean.

651
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 5: So anytime that I'm honest or I'm vulnerable about something,

652
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 5: to me, it's like giving a little gift from myself.

653
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 5: It's sharing something that I know other people wouldn't share

654
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 5: because they'd be too embarrassed or it disrupts the image

655
00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 5: that they're trying to present, so that I don't respect.

656
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 5: So it's very easy for me to tell my truth

657
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 5: from where I genuinely come from.

658
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 3: You know, did you have a family mission statement?

659
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 4: Yes?

660
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 3: What is the mission statement? And tell people the importance of.

661
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Speaker 9: That, well, just so we know, we don't have it

662
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 9: on our wall and then make the kids read it

663
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 9: when they walk in the house.

664
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 1: It's not like that.

665
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 9: So our mission statement is just something that we, you know,

666
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 9: as a family, we all live by, right, And I'll

667
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 9: read some of them. And the reason is is we

668
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 9: are a close unit, right, So if you see us together,

669
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 9: we're all always out together. You see me the other

670
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 9: day with Jackson, You've seen me before, and Chelan has

671
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 9: seen before.

672
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,239
Speaker 1: So the mission statement is we are a unit, right,

673
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: we all ride together like we are really a unit,

674
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Speaker 1: a unit.

675
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Speaker 9: I'm an only child, so I'm I'm heavy into taking

676
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 9: care of each other.

677
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 4: Right.

678
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 9: We respect each other, of course, it's simple, like we

679
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 9: make sure that, you know, we respect each other's feeling.

680
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 1: We always have each other's backs.

681
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 9: That's one thing that we always do, and it's you know,

682
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 9: sometimes when we have conversations up here, I always talk

683
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 9: about my kids.

684
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 1: So when they see stuff on social media.

685
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 9: At times I have to stop them because they will

686
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 9: go in, especially Logan Logan, Oh yeah, we always loved

687
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 9: uplift each other and point out the good in one another. Right,

688
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 9: So we see that more especially with our girls in

689
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 9: dance because they compete against each other a lot. So

690
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 9: when they do, we have to make sure that regardless

691
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 9: of what happens. Like a couple of weeks ago, London

692
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 9: lost and we thought London got jerked. So I told

693
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 9: you know, I had a conversation with Brooklyn, and Brooklyn

694
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:23,800
Speaker 9: was like that, don't worry, I'm gonna get first and

695
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 9: second four And she went out there and busted at

696
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 9: that first and second.

697
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 6: He got first place and second again.

698
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 9: You know gave the first place to her sister, because

699
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 9: that's what it was. We represent each other at all times.

700
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 9: That's how it always is. So we always tell our

701
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 9: kids if we're not there, you make sure that those

702
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 9: parents come back and say, oh my gosh, she was

703
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 9: such a pleasure.

704
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 1: He was polite, he was this even with Jackson at

705
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: the game.

706
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 9: You know, Jackson said thank you a million one time,

707
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 9: so you said hello million one time.

708
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 1: So you because that's what he's taught to do, that

709
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 1: you show.

710
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:54,879
Speaker 6: Respect one before you go on with that.

711
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,399
Speaker 5: My goal for my kids is that when they leave

712
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 5: our house, I want everyone that they come in contact

713
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 5: with to know that they're well loved.

714
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 6: Do you know what I mean?

715
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 5: Like, I want them to know that they're well loved.

716
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 5: What we teach you inside this house, you exemplify outside

717
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 5: of this house. And it's so interesting because you know,

718
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 5: as parents, we have a goal, you know, and these

719
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 5: are goals that we vocalize to one another. So when

720
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 5: we get calls from other parents when our kids are

721
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:30,359
Speaker 5: on a playdate, teachers principles. Both sets of kids went

722
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 5: to a new school and we got calls from like

723
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 5: the parent the teachers, like what are you guys doing

724
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,840
Speaker 5: in that house? What are you doing with these kids?

725
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,800
Speaker 5: Like I've never seen this before, and all three of

726
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 5: them are like this.

727
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 6: It lets you.

728
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 5: Know that you're doing something right, you're doing something meaningful.

729
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 6: Those teachers know.

730
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 5: That they're well loved, and of course other children are

731
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 5: well loved. It's not that, but it's coming from a

732
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,919
Speaker 5: mental space that you understand. And like what we talked

733
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 5: about earlier about articulating words and things, when you articulate

734
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 5: something to a child and you do it in a

735
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,839
Speaker 5: way where they understand what it means and what their

736
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,800
Speaker 5: actions mean. Because you can love your child to death,

737
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:16,840
Speaker 5: you could take a bullet for them. You do, you

738
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 5: work hard, you hustle, you do everything for your kids.

739
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 5: You love your kids, but they could still go out

740
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 5: and be a menace because the lessons may be lost.

741
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,439
Speaker 5: And these are things that a lot of parents don't

742
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 5: put into perspective when raising children because what do.

743
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 6: We usually do. We take it.

744
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 5: We take, like, you know, an idea, and we throw

745
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 5: it up against the wall and we see if it

746
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 5: sticks or not.

747
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 6: You know what I mean? Oh that worked, Oh that

748
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 6: didn't okay.

749
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,879
Speaker 5: But a lot of people don't have something tangible that

750
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 5: they can go back to and be like, this is

751
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 5: this is this is a way to create a foundation.

752
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 5: This is a way to create a structure. And because

753
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 5: we had so many ups and downs, we were able

754
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 5: to do that and put it in one place.

755
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:00,360
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest story now hate want to

756
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: tell a story was Jackson. Right.

757
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 9: So we had a parent teacher's night a couple of

758
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 9: weeks ago and a teacher came up to me.

759
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: The teacher that I had no idea you know who

760
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 1: he was a step night. Yeah, So he walks off

761
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: to me. He was like, are you Jackson's dad? And

762
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: I'm like yeah. When a teacher usually asked that' usually

763
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 1: some bs.

764
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 3: Right.

765
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:17,400
Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, hey, we go what did Jackson do?

766
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 9: And he was like, I just want to tell you, you know,

767
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 9: Jackson did something that no child or adult has done

768
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:23,320
Speaker 9: in my life.

769
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, what's that?

770
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 9: And he was like the other day, I'm walking down

771
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 9: the hall and Jackson comes running up to me and

772
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 9: he goes, you know, are you okay?

773
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 1: And the teacher was like, what do you mean? He

774
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 1: was like, you just don't look as happy as usually do,

775
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:35,800
Speaker 1: or you are right? Is anything bothering you. Would you

776
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: like to have a conversation with me and just talk

777
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 1: it through.

778
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 9: I was like, nah, you just don't seem as happy

779
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 9: as you do, but don't let things stress you out.

780
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: Just pray on it and tomorrow be better. Right and

781
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 1: if you need to talk to me, come talk to me.

782
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 9: And he said Jackson ran off and he was like,

783
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 9: I've never had an adult or a child ever do

784
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 9: that to me.

785
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 1: So he was like, whatever you're doing at home, continue that,

786
00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: and you know, I mean.

787
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 9: That just shows what the kids are learning that home

788
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 9: is worth every Yeah, so you.

789
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 3: Need to report that teacher too. He don't need to

790
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 3: be in school.

791
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 4: Was like, you got some time.

792
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 7: So it was the only person, I mean, London was

793
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 7: the only person that saw him at.

794
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: Jackson.

795
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 6: So that was stem night.

796
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 5: But at the parent teacher conference, one of the teachers

797
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 5: said that if she could use one word to describe Jackson,

798
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 5: it would be grateful. And she said, in thirty years

799
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 5: of teaching, I've never used that word with a child before.

800
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 5: I said, well, what do you mean by grateful? He says?

801
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 5: She said, every day, after every lesson, he comes up

802
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 5: to me and says, thank you for teaching. Me today

803
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 5: and I said really, And he said she said where,

804
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 5: Like where did like where does he get that from?

805
00:38:58,040 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 6: Like what's what's like? You know?

806
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 5: I said, that's his own interpretation. But when he plays

807
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 5: sports after every game, I tell him to shake the referees'

808
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 5: hand and look him in this, look him in the

809
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 5: eye a nice strong handshake, and say thank you. And

810
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,719
Speaker 5: do the same thing with your coach, because these are

811
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 5: people that give their time, that don't have to give

812
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 5: their time, and it's for you and for your benefit

813
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 5: in your learning and your greatness. So you acknowledge that

814
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 5: man or that woman and you say thank you. So

815
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 5: I think that that's his interpretation how he's doing it

816
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:29,919
Speaker 5: in another way, you know what I mean.

817
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 4: Such a beautiful family, Thank you. And this man will

818
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 4: crashed out for any of y'all. I know.

819
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 1: Behind the scenes a bunch of times.

820
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 9: And Jessica was like, yo, you crash out for you?

821
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 4: No, man, tell me I'm interested.

822
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:49,800
Speaker 1: Excuse me?

823
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 4: Shut up? Anyway, when is baby number seven?

824
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 6: The shop is closed?

825
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 5: This ship has said the shop is not closed.

826
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 6: No, no, there's no sip snip.

827
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 5: But I know how not to get pregnant. No, no,

828
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 5: I don't want them to get the case you ever wanted.

829
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 6: No, I just don't think it's necessary. I know how

830
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 6: not to get pregnant.

831
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 3: Want the husband. I'm sorry say that again for the

832
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 3: wives who want their husbands.

833
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 6: I don't know.

834
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 5: Other other women may have gotten pregnant unintentionally and have

835
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 5: a different view, But me personally, I just you know,

836
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 5: like people have asked me, like, do you want to

837
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 5: get your tubes tied? I just like our natural bodies

838
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 5: and I like them to function the way that they function.

839
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:46,760
Speaker 5: And if I can take a human precaution to prevent

840
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 5: a particular result and don't do that, I don't. I

841
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 5: don't think that it's for me. It's not necessary. I

842
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 5: absolutely understand why people do both of those procedures, but

843
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 5: for me, I just don't find it to be necessary.

844
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 5: That's all, you know.

845
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 2: April fifteen, it'll be out in bookstores everywhere everywhere you

846
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 2: buy books.

847
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 3: Man Gid, thank you for pulling up.

848
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 6: Thank you so much. You can pre order on Amazon

849
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 6: right now.

850
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 9: And for everybody else. We just want to add this

851
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 9: last part. We actually wrote it with somebody that helped

852
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 9: us out that we'll talk about that that helped us

853
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 9: with terms and helped us with different phrases and helped

854
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 9: us with made sure that we were actually doing the

855
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 9: right thing when it came to raising our kids.

856
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, so we wrote it alongside a psychologist because yes,

857
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 5: because we wanted to make sure that our outlooks were

858
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,879
Speaker 5: were on the level that I would want to put

859
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 5: it out to the public. I wanted the psychological research

860
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 5: and quarterbacking behind the way that we parent to pretty

861
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 5: much put a stamp on it, to know that what

862
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,240
Speaker 5: we're doing not just from our personal experience driven point

863
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 5: of view is sound, but from a psychological point of

864
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 5: view is also sound. I wanted to make sure that

865
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 5: alongside the true truth and the transparency and the experience

866
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 5: that we had that backing to the book as well.

867
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 5: I wanted that level of value in the book as well.

868
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 5: So and also, you know, if you have a child

869
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 5: with anxiety, add ADHD, other setbacks, other disabilities, you know

870
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 5: we speak to you in this book as well, because

871
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 5: those people are very like they don't have that many resources.

872
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 5: This book is for anyone who is a parent, a

873
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 5: single parent, a parent.

874
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: That is married, may be about to have kids.

875
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 5: Someone that wants to have a child.

876
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 4: Look over here.

877
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:39,439
Speaker 6: Thank you It's, It's, It's, It's Forever.

878
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 5: It's a very relatable book, and there's a lot of

879
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 5: exercises in the book. We kind of also created it

880
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 5: in like a workbook style, so there's a lot of reflections.

881
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 5: There's a lot of places in there for you to

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Speaker 5: answer questions, so you can kind of analyze yourself and

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Speaker 5: understand your own point of view in a way of

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Speaker 5: like articulation, where if you haven't really thought about certain things,

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Speaker 5: it'll jog you to think about things. And even if

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Speaker 5: you don't do don't take our take, it encourages you

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Speaker 5: and helps you to come up with your own takes

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Speaker 5: on parenting.

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Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning, Come Breakfast Club.