Speaker 1: Bretant new Awkward Tuesday phone call on Your Second Date podcast,
Speaker 1: Thanks so much for being here. And yesterday we asked
Speaker 1: you to share your scariest stories because that was the
Speaker 1: question on their Date and what do you have?
Speaker 2: Alexis Dan said, I'd love to tell you guys my
Speaker 2: scary stories. Too many to choose from, but I have
Speaker 2: a bunch about sleep paralysis. My first experience in my
Speaker 2: last was really creepy, too long to tell, but if
Speaker 2: anyone wants to know, I'll share.
Speaker 3: Just ask. Oh, Dan, we did ask, Yes, we asked
Speaker 3: you to tell the story scares me.
Speaker 4: Next time.
Speaker 5: Dan's like, Hey, if you guys want me to leave
Speaker 5: a comment on this, just let me know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I tell us, all right, let us let you Dan, Yeah,
Speaker 3: let us know what you think of today's akwerd Tuesday
Speaker 3: phone call. It's brand new and it starts right now.
Speaker 6: It's broken Jeffrey in the morning, and we got an
Speaker 6: email from a woman who was desperate for our help
Speaker 6: because she's had something in her house for nine days
Speaker 6: and could not get.
Speaker 4: Rid of it.
Speaker 6: No matter what she tried, leaving the door open, showing
Speaker 6: it with a broom, it just wouldn't go. And that
Speaker 6: something is her.
Speaker 4: Mother in law?
Speaker 7: What is?
Speaker 4: I know it's even scarier than the ring.
Speaker 6: Part two, and the worst part is it's caused an
Speaker 6: issue between her and her husband. So we're going to
Speaker 6: try to assist during a brand new awkward Tuesday phone
Speaker 6: call right after this.
Speaker 4: It's awkward, It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 6: We all have informal titles on this show, like Alexis
Speaker 6: is our resident dog walker slash party girl, Jose is
Speaker 6: our resident video game expert slash professional napper.
Speaker 4: Yeah, watch me nap on stream.
Speaker 6: And Brook is the poster child for getting along with
Speaker 6: your mother in law.
Speaker 4: She is.
Speaker 6: There is not one person I know who beats Brook
Speaker 6: in total grace, humility, and tact when dealing with the
Speaker 6: mother of your spouse.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, and I appreciate that you're known as
Speaker 1: a guy that's never sarcastic.
Speaker 3: No, I love that. I love that about us.
Speaker 6: Aren't we great?
Speaker 4: Sure?
Speaker 6: Unfortunately, not everybody has that tight bond that Brooke does
Speaker 6: with her mom in law, And apparently that's the reason
Speaker 6: our listener, Abby has reached out for help today. So Abby,
Speaker 6: welcome to I la in Law's anonymous this is a
Speaker 6: safe space for you.
Speaker 4: We're happy to have you here.
Speaker 8: How you doing, I'm doing okay. How are you doing?
Speaker 4: Doing good?
Speaker 3: In law issues? I've never had him. Don't know I
Speaker 3: could give any advice.
Speaker 6: We'll see how this goes. But tell us about the
Speaker 6: situation you find yourself in.
Speaker 8: Well, I've been married for a couple of years now,
Speaker 8: and my husband is an architect and he does periodically
Speaker 8: have to travel for work. But his most recent trip,
Speaker 8: he had to be gone for about two months.
Speaker 3: Oh that's a lot of time.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, Yeah, no contact at all with him?
Speaker 3: Or like he's an architect, he's not in the secret Cia,
Speaker 3: or he.
Speaker 5: Could be architecting in the center of the Earth.
Speaker 4: He could be architecting the new Pentagon broke. I don't
Speaker 4: know how what field of work he's in exactly.
Speaker 8: No, we were able to talk and FaceTime a little bit,
Speaker 8: but it's just in a different country, so it's not
Speaker 8: really feasible for me to come visit him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: That makes sense, And it sucks when the time difference
Speaker 1: is so big and they're.
Speaker 4: On the metric system over in whatever other country. And
Speaker 4: I'm sure that plays a role in it. How many
Speaker 4: stories is this. Yeah, so a lot of confusion going
Speaker 4: on there.
Speaker 1: So he was gone overseas as I'm guessing when the
Speaker 1: issues started.
Speaker 8: Actually it was when he got back.
Speaker 4: Oh why what happened?
Speaker 8: Well, the day he got back, I was so excited,
Speaker 8: so happy to have him home. But when we got
Speaker 8: back from the airport, his mom called and she's like, hey,
Speaker 8: I'm on my way over and we're like okay, like
Speaker 8: nothing was planned.
Speaker 6: Okay, Oh, she invited herself over to your place when
Speaker 6: he got home.
Speaker 1: I see, and you too, were planning on making up
Speaker 1: for two months away from each other.
Speaker 4: Why are you immediate? That's immediately where you're find.
Speaker 3: That's where I would have been.
Speaker 4: Oh God, tell us what happened with the mom in law.
Speaker 8: Well, when she got there, I thought, okay, like she's
Speaker 8: just staying for dinner, Like, because I'm sure she missed you.
Speaker 8: My husbands name is Keith. I'm sure she missed Keith too. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 8: because we usually see her a couple of times a week.
Speaker 8: She doesn't live all that far but far enough.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I recommend a whole state.
Speaker 6: But whatever, ye, wherever you want, sure at least right,
Speaker 6: But this makes sense everybody's excited to see Keith again
Speaker 6: after two months away.
Speaker 4: So you have dinner together.
Speaker 8: Yeah, we all have dinner together. And then she's like, oh,
Speaker 8: my bag is in the car, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 8: I guess she's staying the night.
Speaker 3: Oh she lives like driving distance to your house, you
Speaker 3: see her.
Speaker 8: Sort of like it's not super far, it's definitely drivable,
Speaker 8: but like she also can't really drive at night.
Speaker 4: Okay, right, so she stays one night, that's okay.
Speaker 8: She didn't stay this one night. She stayed for nine days.
Speaker 7: Nine days leave.
Speaker 3: Nine days of unannounced mother in a law of time.
Speaker 5: Huh yeah, okay, Well, I mean what did your husband?
Speaker 3: I want to know what your husband said to all
Speaker 3: of this.
Speaker 8: I mean he was slightly annoyed because she just would
Speaker 8: follow us around, like whichever one of us was home,
Speaker 8: she would just follow us around, talking and asking questions,
Speaker 8: and like, oh god, it was a lot. It was
Speaker 8: a lot.
Speaker 6: Nine days of that must be pretty taxing on you mentally.
Speaker 3: So what is so bizarre? You're like, when is she
Speaker 3: going to leave?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: So what happened?
Speaker 8: So one night my husband was out, He's at the
Speaker 8: grocery store and she's following me around, and I'm just
Speaker 8: I'm at the end of my rope. I just want
Speaker 8: to be able to hang out with my husband and
Speaker 8: like pre kinnect.
Speaker 3: All the way.
Speaker 4: Sure, well what happened.
Speaker 8: I was trying to beat around the bush about when
Speaker 8: are you leaving? And she wasn't getting it, and I
Speaker 8: just got frustrated and I said, you know what, you
Speaker 8: just need to leave. You've been here for too long.
Speaker 8: You just have to go.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's understandable.
Speaker 4: Is applauding that she doesn't think he used harsh enough language.
Speaker 3: That's not true. I'm sure that she was hurt hearing that.
Speaker 8: But she was very hurt and she kind of huffed out.
Speaker 8: And then she called my husband while he was call
Speaker 8: at the grocery store and told him what happened. So
Speaker 8: I didn't even get a chance to tell him.
Speaker 4: Now, you're the bad guy.
Speaker 8: Yeah, and he thinks now that like I hate his mom,
Speaker 8: and I don't. I mean, I felt awful when she laughed.
Speaker 8: I was like, oh my god, that's not how I
Speaker 8: wanted this to play out.
Speaker 4: Yeah, even if you don't believe that, it's really nice.
Speaker 1: They thought like my mother in law a lot, But
Speaker 1: I do love my mother in law too, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's a complicated relationship to have.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So, I mean, now that we've heard your story, you
Speaker 6: know this is the awkward Tuesday phone call. So what
Speaker 6: advice are you looking to get from us before you
Speaker 6: call your calling?
Speaker 8: Well, we're going to be calling my husband because he's
Speaker 8: been very upset with me since she last okay, And
Speaker 8: I try to talk to him about it, but he's like, okay,
Speaker 8: well you know your action said something else.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Well, we'll see if we can change his mind
Speaker 6: and get him to realize you don't hate his mother.
Speaker 6: When we come back and do your awkward Tuesday phone
Speaker 6: call right after this.
Speaker 4: It's awkward.
Speaker 3: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. You could write a Doctor
Speaker 6: Seuss book called Oh the Things you Shouldn't Say to
Speaker 6: your mother in law, And one of those things you
Speaker 6: shouldn't say to her is you need to get out
Speaker 6: of this house. You are driving me and my husband
Speaker 6: crazy right now. Please leave?
Speaker 3: Oh I don't know, I a please.
Speaker 4: Yeah I was really sugarcoating with Thatchap.
Speaker 6: But that's exactly what our listener Abby said to her
Speaker 6: mom in law, And honestly, it's kind of understandable that
Speaker 6: she did, because the mom showed up uninvited ended up
Speaker 6: spending nine straight days there.
Speaker 4: Still, though, Abby.
Speaker 6: Understands it was not a good move, especially because her
Speaker 6: husband found out. So now he thinks Abby hates his mom,
Speaker 6: and that's not a good feeling for a marriage.
Speaker 3: I think it's also not good because it's not true.
Speaker 3: She doesn't hate her. Yeah, that's her, It's just she
Speaker 3: was pushed to.
Speaker 6: The break exactly And how long ago did this happen, Abby.
Speaker 8: I was just a couple of days ago.
Speaker 6: Okay, So now Abby's come to us for advice on
Speaker 6: how to convince her husband she doesn't hate his mom.
Speaker 6: She just really wanted to reconnect with him alone just
Speaker 6: a little bit, Brook. What's your advice for how she
Speaker 6: can do that?
Speaker 3: Well, Listen, I have said a lot of things I
Speaker 3: should not have said to my mother in law.
Speaker 4: Okay, not just your mother in law, to a lot
Speaker 4: of people in the public.
Speaker 3: No, But when you're talking to your husband about your
Speaker 3: mother in law, it's a really sticky, weird space, right
Speaker 3: because that's his mom.
Speaker 1: No matter how many negative feelings or how irritated you are,
Speaker 1: that's still his mom. So he's going to defend her
Speaker 1: no matter what. I would recommend not commenting at all
Speaker 1: about her behavior and just fall on the sword you're
Speaker 1: sorry and leave it at.
Speaker 4: That, Okay, like say less.
Speaker 3: Say less and take the blame.
Speaker 4: What do you think about that? Abby?
Speaker 8: I mean, I think that there is something there, and
Speaker 8: yes I should take some blame for like especially how
Speaker 8: I acted towards her. But I still feel like her
Speaker 8: staying that long without a conversation with either one of
Speaker 8: us was kind of inappropriate on her part.
Speaker 3: So she doesn't like your advices.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Brooks, maybe you have something better. Abb Well. Action
Speaker 4: speak louder than words. So yeah, sure you could say
Speaker 4: you don't hate his mom.
Speaker 5: Like Brookes suggests it, but it would be even better
Speaker 5: to show him. So I suggest you tell your husband
Speaker 5: you want to invite his mom over for a special
Speaker 5: celebration just for her, like a I don't know, if
Speaker 5: her birthday's.
Speaker 4: Coming up, maybe be.
Speaker 5: Like let's have your mom or.
Speaker 3: Or maybe plan a thing for her and her son.
Speaker 4: And it's Abby's idea. What do you think of that?
Speaker 8: Yeah, I definitely think I could do something that's like
Speaker 8: that because her birthday is coming up.
Speaker 3: That's that was legit advice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, good job, good job.
Speaker 6: Okay, so there you go, Abby, you have a little
Speaker 6: bit of wisdom on your side now. But we're gonna
Speaker 6: dial your You're not, no, not your mother in law.
Speaker 6: That conversation won't go well. No, we're dialing your husband,
Speaker 6: Keith right now, and we will step away. Let you
Speaker 6: make this awkward call.
Speaker 4: You feel ready, I think?
Speaker 7: So?
Speaker 4: Okay, good luck, good, Here we go.
Speaker 7: Hello.
Speaker 8: Hey, it's me.
Speaker 7: Hey, Hey, every BID's how are you?
Speaker 8: I'm good? How are you doing hanging in there?
Speaker 7: I guess everything considered.
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, I don't want to talk to you about that,
Speaker 8: just because I know it really upset you and your
Speaker 8: mom too, and I don't want it to be like
Speaker 8: that between all of us.
Speaker 7: You know, you can't just do that to her because
Speaker 7: she know she's good to us. She's really good to us.
Speaker 7: It's not fair.
Speaker 8: No, you're right, she is and she didn't deserve that,
Speaker 8: like fully admitting that the way I handled it was wrong.
Speaker 8: But you had been gone four months and not that
Speaker 8: I would have had a problem with her coming over,
Speaker 8: but she didn't really like let us know that she
Speaker 8: was coming or how long she was staying.
Speaker 7: You know, just stopped. Please, Okay, she's family and there's
Speaker 7: no way I'm sending my mom to a hotel. So,
Speaker 7: although I do appreciate you taking some responsibility here, I
Speaker 7: do think that it's just a little absurd that you
Speaker 7: acted the way that you did.
Speaker 8: You say absurd, but like I need you to put
Speaker 8: yourself in my shoes, because how would you react if.
Speaker 7: Like, how would I react? I would be a loving
Speaker 7: husband to your mom, and I would treat her like
Speaker 7: she's my mom, Like, come on, have you already know that?
Speaker 7: I know you know. I'll tell you one thing I
Speaker 7: wouldn't do. I wouldn't tell your mom what you told mine.
Speaker 7: My mom's coming to me now and she's telling me
Speaker 7: that I shouldn't be with someone as crude as you.
Speaker 7: You want to know why.
Speaker 8: Why?
Speaker 7: Because you told my mom that you just want her son.
Speaker 7: I just want to like, who tells that?
Speaker 4: Oh my god, what.
Speaker 7: Law is going on right now?
Speaker 4: What's happening Keith?
Speaker 7: What's happening right now?
Speaker 4: We want to know.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So, there's been a lot of people listening to
Speaker 6: this phone call because you're on the radio right now
Speaker 6: with a show called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 7: Ok, Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I am. We are stunned. Abby, this
Speaker 3: is you said that.
Speaker 7: You know, you really called the radio station.
Speaker 8: I know, I know, but I just I was having
Speaker 8: a hard time and I just needed to talk to
Speaker 8: you about it and I needed some advice, and they
Speaker 8: get really good advice, so I just thought, I was
Speaker 8: you didn't follow.
Speaker 1: Any of it.
Speaker 4: None of the advice was really taken, and you.
Speaker 3: Didn't give us the whole story.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you actually said those words.
Speaker 8: To his I said, I wanted, like, I love making sessions.
Speaker 3: Better than you.
Speaker 7: Never I would never tell your mom that. That's just
Speaker 7: so disgusting.
Speaker 6: I think they're they're you know, the words are a
Speaker 6: little harsh, but the feeling underneath it is kind of sweet,
Speaker 6: is it.
Speaker 7: Do you think I wanted my mom to know, like,
Speaker 7: you know, I got a little at home, Like.
Speaker 1: Okay, I do not want details of your marriage right now?
Speaker 4: No, I mean off air, yes, but not now.
Speaker 3: And Abby do not have a door to your bedroom?
Speaker 8: We do, but I feel awkward.
Speaker 6: Come on, Brook, you do with your in laws in
Speaker 6: the room next to you, they're in another room.
Speaker 3: Might have got her to leave sooner.
Speaker 6: The point, alexis but listen, the last thing that we
Speaker 6: want to do is shane Abby for just being honest
Speaker 6: and putting her emotions and her desires out into the world.
Speaker 5: It is true, she's apologizing.
Speaker 1: And Keith, I bet, I bet your mom wants grandbabies,
Speaker 1: so how those gonna happen?
Speaker 8: And you know, again, though it's a weird convo, I'm
Speaker 8: so sorry. I know I handled this completely the wrong way,
Speaker 8: Like I don't want your hun to feel unwelcome, but
Speaker 8: we need some boundaries, like just let us know she's
Speaker 8: coming instead of just showing up, and.
Speaker 3: How long she's going to stay. Like, Keith, you too
Speaker 3: need to be a team on that. For sure.
Speaker 4: It's a good point.
Speaker 7: I can see that point. If you're willing to meet.
Speaker 8: Me halfway, yeah, I totally I totally agree with you.
Speaker 8: I want to meet you halfway. I was thinking, since
Speaker 8: her birthday's coming up, I can help you guys put
Speaker 8: something together. Whatever she wants is she wants to have
Speaker 8: dinner with just you, like, that's totally fine. If she
Speaker 8: wants to come have dinner with us, if she wants
Speaker 8: me to cook, if she wants to.
Speaker 6: Go somewhere, or Abby could pop out of the birthday
Speaker 6: cake and say surprise, yes he's pregnant.
Speaker 8: I think that might be more for Keith's birthday. Yeah.
Speaker 4: With that one, Mom's like, why wasn't I invited? But
Speaker 4: clearly Keith.
Speaker 6: She she's very apologetic about how the conversation went down,
Speaker 6: has a lot of regret about it, and just really
Speaker 6: really really wants to turn back the clock to make
Speaker 6: like this never happen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she loves your.
Speaker 6: Mom, not the same way she loves you, but yes, yeah.
Speaker 7: Well I'm willing to do that, and I hope we
Speaker 7: can get past this and.
Speaker 4: I will do better. This is sounding really nice.
Speaker 6: It feels like you two are in a much better
Speaker 6: place than when we started this phone call.
Speaker 3: It looks like they need a make up love session.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Okay, well, well I guess we'll stay on the phone
Speaker 6: while you two knock it out, go for it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, while you may, you guys make up off the air.
Speaker 4: You're good though, right, Yeah?
Speaker 8: I think so.
Speaker 4: So there you go.
Speaker 6: That's your awkward Tuesday phone call on jeff Shout out
Speaker 6: to all the mom in laws.
Speaker 4: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the.
Speaker 3: Morning brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 6: Well, that's going to be a fun Thanksgiving with the
Speaker 6: whole family there.
Speaker 4: I wonder what they're going to talk about over dinner.
Speaker 3: I think it's cute. I think they're going to work
Speaker 3: it all out. Yeah, I think. Okay, if you want
Speaker 3: to know the real gossip, I think the mother in law.
Speaker 1: Is probably having a problem at her house and was
Speaker 1: trying to get away, and that's why she was there
Speaker 1: for nine days.
Speaker 3: I've been right. That is a long time to be
Speaker 3: at someone's house away from.
Speaker 6: Your own nine days, right, Yeah, I mean I didn't
Speaker 6: bring it up. It couldn't just be that she really
Speaker 6: really missed her son all that time and wanted to
Speaker 6: spend more time with them.
Speaker 4: People don't love their kids.
Speaker 5: What is the conversation that happens when they finally sit down,
Speaker 5: They're like, well, how was the love making?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I hope it was worth kicking your mother out for anyway.
Speaker 6: I do hope it's all smoothed over. And if anybody
Speaker 6: out there listening needs our advice, where can they find us?
Speaker 4: Brook? What's your Instagram handle?
Speaker 3: No, not mine?
Speaker 5: Just go to ah getting as Jose what.
Speaker 4: Do you want when you hilarious? Jose go follow him?
Speaker 4: And Alexis what's your handle?
Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey, there we go. Thank you. Someone needed
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 6: You can listen all of our awkward Tuesday second Ate
Speaker 6: updates wherever you get your podcasts at I am Brook Fox.
Speaker 3: And that's not even my handle.
Speaker 7: You