WEBVTT - Advice Letters 4 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.360 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You want on the 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:07.440 into the Vitamin D Podcast, and I am your host, 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:10.360 Dawn Day, here to help you get excited about your life. 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.840 I've said it before and I'll say it again. Vitamin 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:17.079 D is all about shedding light on the good and 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:21.279 the bad. Here we explore the ways in which you 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.280 can live your life on purpose and for a purpose. 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:27.520 But it's going to cause you to be authentic. It's 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:31.280 gonna challenge you to be vulnerable. It's going to require 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:35.000 you to tap into the true you. While sometimes I'll 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:39.080 go ahead and interview and have great conversations with celebrities 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:40.960 and people like you and me, and then there are 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:44.840 times that I'm taking an email back. Yeah, well, listeners 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:49.800 right in for a device about love, relationships, career, purpose, 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:54.160 anything that fancies their mind, and I share my thoughts 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.240 on them. Some you may not agree with, but things 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:03.640 that I call as looking deeper, deeper within to understanding 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:06.920 that you are the change agent and are the reason 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:10.480 whether or not you are living your best life. Now, 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.520 I'm gonna tell you now, I've said it before and 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:16.160 I'll say this again as well. I'm an air race, 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:19.160 so I'm gonna give it to you all. I hold 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:23.560 no punches because we don't have time to waste. I 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:26.840 don't want to come at you inauthentic to have you 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:30.560 thinking that I'm trying to shield you from truth. Remember 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:33.559 when we talk about vitamin D, it's shutting the light 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:37.039 that's on the good and the bad, and it doesn't 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:41.319 ex permission. So it's time to dive in. So without 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.800 further ado, let's get started and let's get ready for 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:49.760 your dose or doses a vitamin D. Get your vitaminy 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:57.480 right with me, and get excited about your lives. All right, 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:00.640 So we are in the first letter pulled out the 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:04.080 email bag. I wanna give a special thanks to my producer, 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:08.919 my assistant, my everything um in in Kurtesy for getting 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.320 all this together. So let's see what he grabbed up. 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:17.840 So here's the first one, subject help negative spiral. Dear Dawn, 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.400 I sucked in high school, and I thought I achieved 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:24.040 something by graduating just because my best friends all dropped out. 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:27.200 Then I dropped out of community college because I didn't 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.800 know what I wanted to do and couldn't find the 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:33.040 motivation or keep myself from procrastinating, which is a common 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:37.239 theme in my life now at I worked forty to 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:41.160 forty four hours a week for Amazon. I'm overweight and 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:44.280 constantly here, oh you look like you lost weight, which 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.000 is the last thing I want to hear when I 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.160 don't see it, and I still live with my mother. 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.079 Then the only thing in my life I enjoy is 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:54.040 trying to make funny content online. But I can't stay 0:02:54.040 --> 0:02:57.000 consistent with that because my only quality that anyone cares 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.600 about is that I'm funny. So I'm afraid someone I 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:02.320 know i'm role life will find them and think it's lame, 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.320 and then I will lose more confidence and won't have 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.880 any more qualities, which means I'd have nothing positive to 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:11.600 think about myself. How can I get out of this 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:15.160 negative spiral? Well, first, let me say thank you for 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:18.040 writing in. I appreciate you being vulnerable. You know it 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.760 takes a lot of guns to um write and as 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:24.120 your authentic self and then admit are some things that 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:26.520 you want to work on to get better. But the 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:29.320 fact that you're stepping forward, let's step into the light. 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.480 You know. The first thing I heard um, because I 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:35.560 always correlate things with music, which is how Vitamin D 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.960 started out. I heard Biggie in my ear, I told 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:42.600 the life I live, I went from negative to positive 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:44.520 as the first thing that came to my mind. And 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:48.080 I said that because you're almost like the roles that 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.960 grew from the concrete. Heck, so I may even say 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:55.040 you're that cold that transformed into that diamond. But here's 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.960 the thing. The thing when we talk about the roles 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:01.080 that you know outgrew its circumstance, is or that diamond 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.400 that actually or that piece of cold that transformed with 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.800 all that pressure and all those cuts, is that they 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.160 decided to step into the light. Have you heard the 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.520 song that's Little Lot of Mine, I'm gonna let it shine? Well, 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:13.640 how are you gonna shine and get out of this 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:18.040 negative spiral? When I hear Lauren Hall chiming in, how 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:21.680 you gonna win when you ain't right within? How can 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:24.039 I say this? Well, let's look at it. You said 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:29.000 that you can't find the motivation within yourself and you 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.840 can't stop that from keeping you from being procrastinating, which 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:36.440 is a common theme. How you do anything is how 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:40.479 you'll do everything. You said that you're overweight, and the 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.479 last thing you want to hear people saying, oh, you 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:47.320 look like you lost the weight. Come on now, so 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.600 now you're carrying on access baggage. And when people are 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:54.039 around you trying to speak life into you, you showed 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.320 in in a way. Now. See, my name is Dawn 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.200 Day and I tell all people all the time I 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:02.080 speak like heck, I even have life tattooed in my mouth. 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:04.680 But now I have to charge you that it's time 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:08.120 for you to speak life over yourself. But this is 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:11.279 what you have to ask yourself. What do you want 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.160 out of your life? You have to name it and 0:05:14.200 --> 0:05:17.440 to create over your life. And you have to understand 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:20.680 that this is a decision that only you can make. 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.279 You said, the only thing in my life I enjoy 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.039 is trying to make funny content online. Then do it. 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.080 Then you said, well, it's the only quality that anyone 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:32.000 cares about. And if they find out you're a lane, 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.279 what does it matter? Why do you care about what 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:37.560 other people think? When I even told you to quote 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.960 about begging, I chose the life I live. I went 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:45.280 from negative to positive. It's important that in life everything 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:46.880 is like a yen and the yang. You can't have 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:50.240 darkness without light and vice versa. But you have the 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:53.800 reasoning and you have the ability to choose how you 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:57.359 want to live. What we know life is nothing but 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:01.039 an energy source. That's what ignites us. That is that 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:04.160 little light of mind that I'm gonna let it shine? Well, 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.520 are you going to lead it in a positive direction? 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:10.800 Are you're gonna lead it into a negative direction? Again, 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:14.279 that's what you have to choose. And you have to 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:18.320 ask yourself, what do I want? And it's not thinking 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.520 about what other people are can consider what other people 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.400 are gonna make Because at the end of the day, 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:24.839 when you have to go to bed at night, when 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:27.680 you close your eyes, the only one we're signing and 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:32.440 you is you. So what say you? Because if you 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.360 keep trying to go outside to find fulfillment within, you'll 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:40.239 see that it's never enough. Remember we're all about giving 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:43.560 from our overflow. And see when we have things that 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:46.440 cause us a restraint, that caused us different knots in 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:50.000 our body and we're trying are constantly trying to fill 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:53.200 things up. See you in the situation of even wondering 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:55.960 if someone is gonna think that your laime is inviting 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.960 things to come inside of you and understanding you only 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.400 have capacity for you. So you came on this earth 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.760 not to hoard and to gather emotions and to grab 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:07.440 the feelings of everyone else. You came to live your 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.080 best life and shine, to be authentic who it is 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:14.000 that you are. Now you came in and you said, hey, 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.920 my best friends they all dropped out. I decided to 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:20.400 go to school. Then when I did it, I went 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.160 on to community college and find out I had to 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:26.160 drop out. Now you find yourself. Fast forward. I'm teen 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:30.240 years later, you're twenty six, and now you're working forty 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:33.840 to forty four hours a week. You're overweight, so probably 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:36.559 you're stressed out. And see even not only your mind 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.000 is stressed out, but now your body is having stressed 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:42.320 out so much so because of all this tension, this restriction, 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.200 you can't let like come in. How do we see 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:47.480 this in the letter? Well, you said that people are 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.880 looking at you speaking life and say, oh, wile you 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:53.240 lost weight. But guess what, because you're holding onto so 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:57.520 many feelings, so many emotions, you can't allow things to 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:01.080 be received to you, to be reflected out of you. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:05.400 Do you follow what I'm saying. You said that you 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:10.000 are afraid that you will lose more confidence. Well, it 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:13.040 sounds like you have to practice on acquiring the confidence. 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:17.640 It's confidence that resides inside of you. So in order 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.080 to do that, I challenge you to start speaking life 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:24.440 over yourself. It's time. You're gonna have to look in 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:27.720 the mirror and encourage yourself. Heck, if you think I'm kidding, 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.360 if you go in the mirror right now, right, look 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.200 at yourself and look at your ear, look at the 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:37.360 formation of it right as all these coils, these vibrations, 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:41.240 this energy source that we put out right. And it's 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:44.440 important that you realize that your ears are like an embryo. 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.440 What you put inside of them, that's where things start 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:51.040 to grow. But Aha, here's the thing that you must 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:55.439 remember between those two ears is guess what the most 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:59.160 powerful mechanism on your body where you only are using 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:04.000 a fine ninth percent, a very small percentage, It's called 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:08.920 your brain. So I'm here to say the life that 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.320 you can speak outside of your mouth, the reality that 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.440 you choose to create. And you get up and if 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.440 you want to be somebody, you want to go somewhere. 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:17.960 You're starting to wake up and pay attention to yourself. 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:22.160 Speak over it, allow it to manifest and to grow 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.880 in your ears. And I promise you, you'll step in 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:28.080 the life that you truly deserve. So don't be afraid 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:31.120 of living your best life. Don't be afraid of loving you, 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:33.920 and continue to know that if you need support, you 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:37.120 need help, seek it out and get those resources because 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:41.400 you deserve that. Remember, it's up to you to choose 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.640 the life that you want to live. Is it gonna 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:47.880 be negative or positive? All right, let's go on to 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:54.560 the next letter, subject anxiety is ruining my relationship, Dear Dawn. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.719 Most of the spats between my partner and I are 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:00.960 because I don't have a license yet, only a permit, 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:03.520 but I'm too scared to drive due to my lack 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:07.839 of experience and confidence. Granted, I'm twenty nine, but I'm 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:10.200 also from New York. It's not that big of a 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:13.440 deal here since we moved from Ithaca. Though. I get 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.560 huge amounts of anxiety when I think about having to drive, 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:19.199 because I feel like I'll mess up or someone will 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.000 hit me, and it terrifies me. I feel like a 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:25.440 total failure because I don't drive myself around and I'm 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:29.120 totally dependent on my partner to drive me here and there. 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:31.760 And I'm sure you can imagine how annoying that must 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:34.720 be for him. I have a newborn in an eighteen 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:37.000 month old, and I really need to be able to 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:39.920 drive them to their appointments and be able to take 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.840 care of my own errands. I'm just so scared to 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.120 just put my babies in the car and start driving. 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:48.840 How can I overcome this? You can. First of all, 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:52.000 you're gonna have to make a decision. You're gonna have 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:56.320 to choose what do you want. You know, there's a 0:10:56.480 --> 0:11:00.000 saying that says, um, how you do anything is definitely 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:05.440 how you will do everything. And when you step up 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:09.320 to this play, are you going to strike out and 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:14.640 swing or maybe a swinging hit. It's up to you, 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:17.160 you know. On a previous episode, I spoke with a 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:19.520 young woman and I've been talking about her a lot recently, 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:23.640 which means she definitely left a great impression. Um Karen 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:28.480 Righteous Soul Malone, and she had a great analogy that 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.160 I just feel like it applies to me right now 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.800 in my life. And so many things that we may 0:11:33.960 --> 0:11:36.440 look like or say that we fear that causes us 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.640 an anxiety, that causes us a freeze. And she said, 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:43.920 you can't keep running at some point whatever this thing, 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.520 this relationship, this fear of driving, this fear of love, 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:51.079 this fear of success. That's the mountain. And at one 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:55.480 point do you stop heading towards the mountain and turning around? 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.000 And now some people say, oh, I don't want to 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.240 have time to deal with that foolishness. But then you 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:03.000 have to ask yourself, how are you going to get 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:06.000 to the other side. And here's the thing that's important 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:09.520 to realize to As she was talking about this mountain 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:14.839 and even going up the mountain, she said, sometimes you're 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:18.600 going to have to pause. A k A. Take your time, 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:22.280 a k A. Get your bearings, a k A. See 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:27.640 what's going on, a k A. Free peace, be still. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.679 See what happens when we're overload with so much anxiety. 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:38.480 It's all about confusion, it's noise, it's distraction. But just 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:41.480 like I spoke on the previous letter and we talk 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:46.040 about finding the light within, it's all within. But if 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.000 you're so busy looking without, you can't get within. So 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.960 take time with yourself. And you have to realize that 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:57.640 you can't keep running from things. If you keep allowing 0:12:57.760 --> 0:13:01.839 things to run your life, those other things will run 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:06.040 your life for you. So you can make all the 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:09.880 excuses that you want and say lack of experience, but hey, 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.960 faith without works is dead. Did you think that it 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:15.040 was gonna show up and everything was gonna appear with 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:19.280 that confidence? Oh? So are you going to live your 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.880 life in fear? Because remember, how you do anything is 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:25.000 how you'll do everything. And you said, right here, you 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.760 have a newborn in an eighteen month old, do you 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:32.240 want to instill fear on them? You know, I think 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:34.080 that's one of the powerful things that we can't do 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:37.360 as a parent, whether that be a bi a biological child, 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.280 or some sort of mentor. And it's to be that 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:44.440 beacon of strength, that courage that liked to say, I've 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.600 been through this and now I'm on the other side. 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.320 So I want you to get to the idea and 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.080 entertaining the notion of you living your best life, and 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:58.680 that means believing in yourself. If you can almost change 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:02.839 believing to be lie to be living, to be in yourself, 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:06.360 you realize that you are all that you need. So 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:10.400 you can make up all these excuses about lack of experience, 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.760 But the bottom line is that you're afraid. Are you 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.720 ready to take control of your life? It's time for 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:20.520 you to get in that driver's seat literally and drive 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:25.720 your life on the wide of your wildest dreams, because 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:28.280 at some point you're gonna realize this is going to 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.600 be taxing on your relationship. You know, you actually are 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:34.520 losing a sense of your freeing because you are allowing 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:39.600 something to captivate you. How dare you? How dare you 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.880 come on to the Vitamin D podcast and walk in 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:46.520 the realms of talking about living your best life? And 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.080 here you are locked up in handcuffs and you've swallowed 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.320 the key. Is that an insult to you or me? 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:56.800 If you think about it any time that we have 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.200 a lack of confidence to self, that's an insult to 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:05.200 self and everyone that believes in us. I don't know 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:09.160 about you, but whoever I'm with or who's ever an 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:13.680 extension of me, I want to entify each other. I 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:15.400 don't want to have to shun me light. I don't 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:17.480 want to have any situation when I'm holding you down. 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:21.320 I just want to reflect abundance. And that's confidence. And 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:26.480 sometimes that confidence even looks like, Hey, I'm scared, but 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:29.680 I'm open. So how can you get over this? About 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:34.800 how can you overcome this? Girl? Put yourself in that 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:38.280 car and put the pedal to the metal. Buckle up, 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:44.720 take it slow, but don't stop the ride, because who 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.560 knows this very ride, and I mean a pun intended 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:51.960 could be the very way of you to live your 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:54.960 best life. You better look fear in the face and 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:59.320 say you ain't got nothing on me? All right? Next 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:05.240 letter subject feeling a little lost. Dear don So, I'm 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.200 thirty two, decent job, live in a small town in 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.480 the Midwest. I have a good amount of savings, a 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:15.120 relationship that could be healthier. She thinks I don't emote enough, 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:16.960 and I think I do it just fine. But I 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:20.560 feel comfortable and things are good. Sometimes, really, I feel 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:24.480 like I've devolved into working barely maintaining social contacts and 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.200 watching shows in my free time. Could be the pandemic. 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:31.160 But also feel like this could last longer. I feel 0:16:31.240 --> 0:16:36.920 unfulfilled and alone. How do I start living? I can 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:40.680 see how you feel lost, because it sounds like you 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:44.800 don't know if you're coming a going what do I mean? Okay, Well, 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:49.160 you say you feel comfortable and things are good, but 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:53.120 then going down to only a few sentences later you say, 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:58.240 but then you're feel unfit fulfilled? You know, he said, 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:00.760 you're alone, but you have some in the house that's 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:04.840 calling out for you. You said, I feel comfortable and 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:08.399 things are good, but for who. I'm not saying that 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:10.439 everything is horrible. But I'm looking in this letter and 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.959 it's saying, Hey, everything is decent. It's a small town, 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:18.560 it's average. Where is the spark, Where is the spectacular 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:21.679 nous of it? Your girlfriend is there? You have someone 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:25.399 around you who is actually pushing you and wants you 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:28.320 to be your very best just by simply communication. But 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:30.840 I can see because if you're feeling a little lost, 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:34.080 I see how the communication between yourself may be distorted. 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.680 So if that's distorted, how can you communicate with her? 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.640 It seems as though that as she's trying to call 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:43.040 out to you, you can't even hear or see her. 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:48.159 But there's a song I thought about and dr reset it. 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:51.119 She said this. Hope it doesn't cause the thing to smile. 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:53.600 You don't have to pay the laugh, and you better 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:57.280 thank God for that. It's time for you to look, 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:03.520 listen and just take inventory of everything around you. And 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:05.639 and you don't have to tell me, but tell yourself 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.600 what do you see? And be honest. I said it 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:11.240 before I said again, and I'm gonna tell you right now, 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.960 I'm gonna say it later. On Vitamin D is all 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:16.320 about shutting the light. So I don't want you to 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:18.800 take this view and look around and how you're saying, Oh, 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:22.760 everything's all good and I am comfortable. No, because you 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:28.080 feel unfulfilled. You said to feel lonely. So tell me 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:30.880 what do you see? What do you truly see? And 0:18:31.040 --> 0:18:33.040 I can see that it's not about you just only 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:35.159 seeing things that are bad, because you say that you 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:37.840 are in a relationship and you can see the fact 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.440 that somebody is yearning out for you. So you see, 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:43.800 although this is not necessarily in a totally good situation, 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:46.199 you have someone who is still choosing to show up 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.439 and to be there, but they're waiting for you to 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:51.480 show up because if you aren't communicating with them, they 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:54.119 can't even help you for what it needs. And understanding 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:58.119 you're in this relationship or a partnership, right, there's a 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:01.359 requirement on both ends. And think it first starts out 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:04.880 with communication because one needs to know what they're signing 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:08.440 up to be in. So when you talk about this 0:19:08.480 --> 0:19:12.439 whole thing of not feeling fulfilled, then you have to 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:16.760 really answer this question, are you truly comfortable? And are 0:19:16.800 --> 0:19:20.280 you truly good? Because if we don't get to that, 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:24.199 there's nothing for us to build upon, because the foundation 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:27.240 is shaking. And see, that's what happens when we're inconsistent 0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:30.280 with our truth. But if we have grace to realize 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:32.560 that the only way to see truth is to sit 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:35.399 with self to see truth. Hence, I I is not 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:38.760 only to represent who myself. I is what I see outside. 0:19:38.760 --> 0:19:41.080 So what am I seeing with self? What are you 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:47.200 seeing with yourself? Here's the thing. It's one thing to 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:51.359 stand on unleveled concrete and know it. It's another to 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:55.480 run and fall. You dig what I'm saying. See that's 0:19:55.560 --> 0:19:56.960 kind of like if you look at it. That's what 0:19:57.040 --> 0:20:01.920 fear does. Remember, Fear is the false evidence appearing real. 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:05.520 Fear is the illusion. Fear is the mindset that there 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:08.000 is something that actually is not there, but you are 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:11.560 constructing it to be there. So and sometimes this fear 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:14.440 is of manipulation with self. We're not honest with self. 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:17.639 So what happens is is that we're creating this false reality. 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:20.200 We're creating something that is not true that we are 0:20:20.680 --> 0:20:23.280 exuding as if this is life and then we allow 0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:27.000 it to control ourselves. So in this moment of you saying, oh, 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:31.280 I'm good, Oh I'm comfortable, now, you've created this false 0:20:31.359 --> 0:20:35.600 reality box so much so you so good? Your girl 0:20:36.240 --> 0:20:38.199 is trying to talk to you and tell you what 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:41.680 you need, and you can't hear her. Hence it has 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.119 a ripple effect on you. Hence why you're in the 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:48.159 house and you're feeling lonely. It goes back to what 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:51.800 I've been saying all the time, how you gonna win 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:56.960 when you ain't right within? Come again? But guess what, 0:20:58.359 --> 0:21:01.399 despite what you're going through, And I say that to 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:05.320 every person, no matter how raw and and rugged it is, 0:21:06.040 --> 0:21:10.840 when you decided to show up for yourself, you've given 0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:14.520 yourself grace to say that there's hope, there's a reason 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:20.120 for change. Remember a car doesn't start until the engine 0:21:20.280 --> 0:21:23.280 is ignited. Right, You have to put your key, you 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:25.920 have to press the button, you have to push something 0:21:25.920 --> 0:21:28.760 to igniting. Just like a match, you have to strike it. 0:21:28.760 --> 0:21:31.240 It's time for you to strike in on your line, 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:34.080 strike in so you can illuminate that life. How about that? 0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:37.720 I like that one better like your match. Allow your 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:40.160 life to shine. But that's gonna require you to come 0:21:40.160 --> 0:21:43.160 into truth, because it's only the truth that you can see. 0:21:43.200 --> 0:21:45.280 Remember that if you want to operate and fear, it's 0:21:45.359 --> 0:21:47.520 the dark. But when we talk about vitamin dy and 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:50.600 living your best life, it's all about seeking out the truth. 0:21:51.000 --> 0:21:53.640 And the truth of the matter is is that you're 0:21:53.680 --> 0:21:58.120 not comfortable and things aren't as good as you are 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:01.040 trying to make them seem. How I'm only going to 0:22:01.160 --> 0:22:05.360 answer with your good statement. I feel unfulfilled and alone. 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:09.600 So I want you to make the decision to seek 0:22:09.600 --> 0:22:12.440 yourself for who you are and then have the courage 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:14.960 to step out of it and show up for the 0:22:15.000 --> 0:22:18.320 people that love you. Okay, because if you're feeling alone 0:22:18.320 --> 0:22:21.520 and she's telling you I can't communicate, imagine how she feels. 0:22:22.400 --> 0:22:25.560 Thank you for loving on you, Thank you for being vulnerable. 0:22:26.119 --> 0:22:29.480 All right, let's go to the next one subject. Don't 0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:33.080 really want to meet my biological dad. Can't tell my 0:22:33.160 --> 0:22:37.560 sister tanged on. I'm a twenty year old woman living 0:22:37.560 --> 0:22:40.919 in Omaha. My mom left my biological father when I 0:22:41.000 --> 0:22:43.640 was two and she was twenty five. She has been 0:22:43.680 --> 0:22:47.560 with my stepdad now for about seventeen years. My biological 0:22:47.640 --> 0:22:50.760 dad had many kids with different women, so many that 0:22:50.840 --> 0:22:53.720 we don't know how many siblings there are. I have 0:22:53.760 --> 0:22:56.719 an older half sister about twenty nine, and an older 0:22:56.720 --> 0:23:00.560 half brother about thirty two thirty three. There's also two 0:23:00.600 --> 0:23:03.240 younger siblings who are a couple of months apart. I know. 0:23:04.160 --> 0:23:06.760 Two years ago I got to meet my oldest sister 0:23:06.920 --> 0:23:09.680 for the first time, along with her daughter. We got 0:23:09.720 --> 0:23:12.560 along well. It was a bit strange knowing that we 0:23:12.560 --> 0:23:15.919 were sisters but never had met before, especially since my 0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:18.639 mom helped raise her and our older brother for about 0:23:18.680 --> 0:23:22.680 five years until she left our biological dad. I met 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:25.960 my younger siblings briefly two years ago. The brother wasn't 0:23:26.000 --> 0:23:30.240 too interested, but me and my younger sister got along great. Now, 0:23:30.240 --> 0:23:33.159 after all this time, my biological dad wants to come 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:35.679 back into my life, and I don't know how I 0:23:35.720 --> 0:23:38.800 really feel about it. He messaged us all on Facebook 0:23:38.840 --> 0:23:40.840 looking to set up some sort of meeting or something, 0:23:40.840 --> 0:23:42.639 and I just don't know if I can do it. 0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:45.040 The worst part is that my sister is open to it, 0:23:45.040 --> 0:23:46.719 and I kind of feel like it will hurt our 0:23:46.760 --> 0:23:49.320 relationship if I tell her. I don't want to talk 0:23:49.359 --> 0:23:53.240 to him. Any advice on what I should do. I 0:23:53.280 --> 0:23:56.760 will say this before I say anything. Follow your truth. 0:23:57.560 --> 0:23:59.840 No one can tell you how you should feel in 0:24:00.000 --> 0:24:05.480 your relationship with your father, your sister, or yourself. But 0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:09.080 here's what I would say. These are the questions I 0:24:09.119 --> 0:24:12.160 would ask myself. Why are you upset with your father? 0:24:13.080 --> 0:24:15.720 Why don't you want to meet him? I have to 0:24:15.760 --> 0:24:23.359 ask that because this has intency restraint. It's tension. You 0:24:23.400 --> 0:24:25.920 hear what I'm saying, and we talk about stress, we 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.000 talk about anxiety. When we talk a lot of a 0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:32.280 lot about elements, you realize it's tension. And that's why 0:24:32.320 --> 0:24:35.159 when people say relax and just be, it's only because 0:24:35.200 --> 0:24:38.480 you can breathe. There's a lot of tension because this 0:24:38.560 --> 0:24:42.400 is restricting you from doing something that could be natural. 0:24:42.960 --> 0:24:45.800 It's forcing you to pivot whether than to walk freely, 0:24:46.400 --> 0:24:48.320 and no one is here to judge. You know. Like 0:24:48.359 --> 0:24:51.879 I said before, you need to make sure that you 0:24:52.000 --> 0:24:56.120 are living the life that you want to live. But 0:24:56.160 --> 0:24:59.840 my only question, or my only exclamation, my point is 0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:04.359 ensure that you are allowing yourself to be free. So 0:25:04.400 --> 0:25:08.919 this is what I was saying. One, if anything, be 0:25:09.119 --> 0:25:13.600 free enough to speak your truth. And that means even 0:25:13.600 --> 0:25:17.040 to your sister about not wanting to be around your dad. 0:25:17.440 --> 0:25:19.919 So remember when I send up previous letter. How you 0:25:19.960 --> 0:25:23.240 do anything is how you do everything. And one of 0:25:23.240 --> 0:25:25.800 the things that we have to realize and establish in 0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:30.560 a relationship is all about communication. You know what that 0:25:30.600 --> 0:25:33.919 feels like to be left out of communication. Let me 0:25:33.960 --> 0:25:37.240 go back. You just said and and it was. It 0:25:37.280 --> 0:25:38.840 was the way it was written that I can tell 0:25:38.880 --> 0:25:41.760 that there was probably an awkward moment. You said that 0:25:41.800 --> 0:25:46.240 you had just met one of your sisters and your 0:25:46.280 --> 0:25:49.960 mom had helped raised her, but you just met her. 0:25:50.560 --> 0:25:53.560 I can imagine that some type of strength. And you 0:25:53.600 --> 0:25:56.480 see how that broke down in that communication affected you. 0:25:56.480 --> 0:25:58.840 You see how that broke down communication of how you 0:25:58.880 --> 0:26:01.479 don't know all of your siblings, all these people who 0:26:01.480 --> 0:26:05.520 are an extension of you. There's no source of communication. 0:26:05.560 --> 0:26:09.760 But you've got to start that with yourself. Okay, Number two, 0:26:10.359 --> 0:26:13.240 go see your dad and see who this man is 0:26:13.320 --> 0:26:16.120 that puts that bad taste in your mouth? Why did 0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:19.359 I say bad says? You did not say anything bad 0:26:19.400 --> 0:26:21.840 about your dad or speak anything negative. But what you 0:26:21.920 --> 0:26:24.760 said was is that you didn't want to see him. 0:26:24.800 --> 0:26:27.119 He is an extension of you, not see Remember I 0:26:27.160 --> 0:26:29.240 talked about, and I said, there was a breakdown and 0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:31.800 communication as you can see, of not knowing your dad, 0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:34.200 not realizing that your mom raised a sister whom you 0:26:34.320 --> 0:26:37.000 just met only a few years ago, and you are 0:26:37.040 --> 0:26:40.520 in your twenties. Now your dad is stepping up trying 0:26:40.520 --> 0:26:43.800 to do communication. Now. We are not responsible for the 0:26:43.880 --> 0:26:47.080 things that happened to us as a child, but as 0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:50.960 an adult, we are responsible for the repair and the 0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:54.720 healing that we do for ourselves. So what say you, 0:26:56.240 --> 0:26:59.840 what's going on? Are you at least ready to communicate 0:26:59.880 --> 0:27:03.720 with yourself? Because there is some healing that needs to 0:27:03.720 --> 0:27:07.240 be done, and you need to figure out why this mountain, 0:27:07.320 --> 0:27:10.280 the same mountain that I spoke about before, it's in 0:27:10.320 --> 0:27:12.639 front of you and it makes you want to turn around. 0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:15.960 It's time for you to get on the other side 0:27:16.000 --> 0:27:19.679 of that. It's time for you to see what life 0:27:19.760 --> 0:27:24.040 looks like on the other side of the unknown, the 0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:26.800 unknown of the other pieces that make you who you are, 0:27:27.880 --> 0:27:31.000 the unknown that makes your bloodline, perhaps even the unknown 0:27:31.040 --> 0:27:33.439 of not knowing why you don't want to know your father. 0:27:34.600 --> 0:27:39.240 And it's okay, but remember, we fear what we do 0:27:39.359 --> 0:27:44.200 not see. We fear what we do not know. Rest 0:27:44.240 --> 0:27:46.720 assure when you have truth, you will see the light. 0:27:47.160 --> 0:27:49.920 Maybe there's an understanding, or maybe there's a reason why 0:27:49.920 --> 0:27:52.280 you do what you do, why certain things are attracting 0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:56.080 your life. Why didn't you like to see? Sure, the 0:27:56.160 --> 0:27:58.960 light might be brighten, you might put some sunglasses on. Yeah, 0:27:58.960 --> 0:28:01.280 you might have to put some some block on, but 0:28:01.320 --> 0:28:04.000 at least you can see the way. And when you 0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:07.400 talk about vitamin D, once again, we're talking about living 0:28:07.400 --> 0:28:10.399 your best life. And I want that for you. And 0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:13.159 that's why I'm so passionate intense about it, because there 0:28:13.200 --> 0:28:15.359 are many times in life but we can choose to 0:28:15.400 --> 0:28:17.000 go on the other side. But when are you going 0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:20.959 to choose to show up and allowing your truth to echo? 0:28:21.160 --> 0:28:24.040 Because now you're being authentic And just like there's this 0:28:24.080 --> 0:28:27.119 book because called the Four Agreements. It's about being impeccable 0:28:27.160 --> 0:28:29.919 with your word. Well, how can you be impeccable with 0:28:29.960 --> 0:28:31.639 your word if you don't even know the word it 0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:38.000 is that you're saying? What are you saying? More importantly, 0:28:38.040 --> 0:28:43.520 what do you want? If anything? Would I hear beyond 0:28:44.200 --> 0:28:47.040 the notion of why you don't want to see your 0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:50.480 father right now? Why are you afraid to speak your truth. 0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:55.520 Why are you afraid to live in your truth? Your 0:28:55.520 --> 0:29:00.040 truth is what grounds you, Your truth is what nourishes you. 0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:03.840 Your truth is what sustains you. So no matter where 0:29:03.880 --> 0:29:10.760 the wind blows, how the rainfall pours, you can still stand, 0:29:12.120 --> 0:29:15.600 You can still grow, You still have the ability to change, 0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:18.760 and you still have the ability to bear fruit, whether 0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:20.680 it be with how whether it be with creation. But 0:29:20.720 --> 0:29:24.920 it's the fact that you're exuding, exhibiting life. I want 0:29:24.960 --> 0:29:28.480 you to live, speak your truth, get the confidence to 0:29:28.520 --> 0:29:30.920 yourself and say that to your sister. She may have 0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:33.880 a word, and maybe this whole breakdown and communication that 0:29:33.920 --> 0:29:36.000 seems to have been the foundation of your life can 0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:40.040 may change change for the better good. So, if there's 0:29:40.040 --> 0:29:42.040 anything advice that I would say for you to do, 0:29:43.160 --> 0:29:48.720 figure out what's stopping you, whether it be from communicating 0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:55.920 with your sister, either communicating with yourself, or figuring why 0:29:56.120 --> 0:29:59.840 you don't want to have this communication with your dad. Okay, 0:30:00.520 --> 0:30:04.640 thank you, all right, let's go to the next one subject. 0:30:05.360 --> 0:30:09.000 How do I get back on track? Dear Don, that's background. 0:30:09.040 --> 0:30:11.520 I'm thirty two and I feel like in the past 0:30:11.560 --> 0:30:14.200 five years I lost all of my ability to try 0:30:14.200 --> 0:30:16.800 to better myself. It's hard enough going to work every 0:30:16.880 --> 0:30:18.560 day and I feel like at the end of the day, 0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:21.080 I just want to relax and do something low impact, 0:30:21.120 --> 0:30:24.239 like playing video games or smoking weed. At the end 0:30:24.240 --> 0:30:27.440 of the day, I genuinely feel like I have no energy. 0:30:27.480 --> 0:30:29.800 But I hate what I'm becoming. I feel like a 0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:32.440 waste of space. What makes it worse is that I'm 0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:36.520 dating someone really special. They do dance, they're amazing cook 0:30:36.760 --> 0:30:39.760 and they draw super well. I feel like I add 0:30:39.800 --> 0:30:43.160 nothing to the relationship, even though she reassures me constantly. 0:30:43.600 --> 0:30:45.520 I really want to get really good at something to 0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:48.000 impress her, but I don't feel like I have the 0:30:48.120 --> 0:30:51.840 energy or financial ability to pick up a new hobby. Anyway, 0:30:52.280 --> 0:30:56.120 I hope you're doing well. Any answers or advice are appreciated. 0:30:56.760 --> 0:30:59.880 Thank you for writing in. You know, I read the 0:31:00.040 --> 0:31:03.480 US and it's admirable how you were able to step 0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:07.200 in your truth and be authentically honest with yourself. So 0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:10.200 I wonder are you depressed? And I don't say that 0:31:10.280 --> 0:31:12.680 trying to be funny. I'm just saying that literally because 0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:16.280 you sound like you're mustering everything up just to function. 0:31:17.680 --> 0:31:20.640 And whether it's diagnosed with being depressed. Have you went 0:31:20.720 --> 0:31:25.760 to go talk to somebody, have you? You said, you 0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:30.320 genuinely do not have any energy now, just like if 0:31:30.360 --> 0:31:32.880 we're not feeling well, might cough, might have a fever, 0:31:33.360 --> 0:31:36.000 you're going for a check up. But because you said 0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:39.200 you can't even muster up the energy and and and 0:31:39.360 --> 0:31:43.480 truly engaging in low vibrational activities, whether that be playing 0:31:43.560 --> 0:31:46.760 video games and smoking weed, you said you feel like 0:31:46.840 --> 0:31:50.920 you're waste of space. That's like you're saying a chair 0:31:51.600 --> 0:31:54.880 has more purpose in a space than you do. Now, 0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:58.000 you say you're dating so much special, we'll show up 0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:01.600 for them you're talking to. Are finding ways to impress 0:32:01.680 --> 0:32:04.560 somebody else? You would the way you impress somebody else 0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:06.840 as you show up being your authentic and best self, 0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:09.240 show up as the person that they fell in love with. 0:32:10.000 --> 0:32:12.080 You owe that to them, and you owe that to 0:32:12.160 --> 0:32:15.400 yourself because you have to be good for yourself to 0:32:15.440 --> 0:32:18.000 give to others. That's what I've said before. Remember when 0:32:18.040 --> 0:32:20.560 we are exuding our life, we are pouring from overflow. 0:32:21.920 --> 0:32:23.920 A light doesn't need another light to shine. A light 0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:27.160 just shines no matter the darkness. You know, I coined 0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:30.680 myself many years ago as the life Bank account expert. 0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:33.160 Hence that's why I have the notion of saying that 0:32:33.200 --> 0:32:36.320 you are your greatest asset. And it's because people need 0:32:36.400 --> 0:32:40.000 to realize what's the most valuable thing in their life, 0:32:40.040 --> 0:32:44.520 well itself, and we realize that we're not perfect. That 0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:48.320 means we're not riding or walking or running in a 0:32:48.400 --> 0:32:52.800 straight line all the time. It's a juggle. Sometimes you're 0:32:52.800 --> 0:32:55.960 gonna be depositing so much. Sometimes you're gonna withdraw things. 0:32:56.040 --> 0:32:58.120 But the only time and when it's a negative effect, 0:32:58.560 --> 0:33:01.360 if it's one extreme to the out there, because just 0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:06.480 like any day, it's not sunshine two seven, the sun 0:33:06.520 --> 0:33:09.080 does not stay in the same spine. Heck, you as 0:33:09.120 --> 0:33:13.680 a person ages that means things must move on, things 0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:19.840 must grow, And as talking about what it means to balance, 0:33:20.280 --> 0:33:23.160 you gotta realize is that that balance is sometimes it 0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.360 bounce back. Well, if you're so used to being in 0:33:25.360 --> 0:33:29.240 the back, how you're gonna bounce from that. Sometimes getting 0:33:29.240 --> 0:33:32.000 the support we need is seeking out the extra support 0:33:32.000 --> 0:33:35.000 and help and understanding that we don't have it all. 0:33:35.200 --> 0:33:37.600 And that's probably why you're in a relationship thinking about it. 0:33:38.000 --> 0:33:41.000 You're in a relationship because you want somebody to further 0:33:41.160 --> 0:33:44.280 enhance who you are. So if you're gonna go see 0:33:44.320 --> 0:33:46.680 a doctor to further enhance how your health is me 0:33:47.040 --> 0:33:49.560 if you are literally feeling drained to the bone where 0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:53.560 you are crawling out of bed, something needs to be assessed. 0:33:53.560 --> 0:33:55.760 And because you love yourself and I know you do, 0:33:56.080 --> 0:33:58.240 I don't care what you say you don't like feeling 0:33:58.240 --> 0:33:59.800 the way you did, because if that were the case, 0:33:59.840 --> 0:34:03.000 you gonna be right in me. But because you feel 0:34:03.000 --> 0:34:04.880 that way for yourself, it's time for you to show 0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:07.520 up for yourself and it's time for you to love 0:34:07.560 --> 0:34:10.280 on yourself. So getting back on track is all about 0:34:10.360 --> 0:34:12.759 tuning in. I mean, think about it. Back in the 0:34:12.840 --> 0:34:15.319 day before we actually could push your button to go 0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.520 to a certain radio dot, you have to tune in. 0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:21.960 Technology is new, but win. So I'm challenging you to 0:34:22.160 --> 0:34:25.600 tune in and whither you have to go see somebody 0:34:25.640 --> 0:34:28.000 to help you get your adjustments together, to make sure 0:34:28.040 --> 0:34:30.920 your antentas are lined up appropriately so that you can 0:34:31.000 --> 0:34:37.239 receive who you are, do what you gotta do better yourself. 0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:42.319 Because you've got somebody special, somebody that has art that 0:34:42.360 --> 0:34:46.719 wants to bring life into love on you, and you 0:34:46.760 --> 0:34:48.799 want to give you know, they say love is not 0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:51.400 all about what you can take, It's all about what 0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:54.120 you can give, and you don't want to constantly be 0:34:54.160 --> 0:34:56.640 on the receiving end. You say, she's amazing cook, she 0:34:56.680 --> 0:34:58.960 can draw, you know, she makes you feel good, She 0:34:59.040 --> 0:35:01.520 constantly builds up your confidence, and then you have nothing 0:35:01.560 --> 0:35:03.560 to give on her. So then what happens that that 0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:07.480 breaks down? We're we're pairing now, So get back on 0:35:07.560 --> 0:35:11.080 track by tuning in and like Lauren Hill, she said it, 0:35:11.360 --> 0:35:13.520 how you gonna win when you ain't right with the 0:35:14.560 --> 0:35:18.960 come again? All right? Going on to the next letter subject, 0:35:19.719 --> 0:35:24.440 getting out of a field. I hate Hi thirty five 0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:27.480 year old listener here from the US but studying abroad 0:35:27.480 --> 0:35:30.080 in the UK. I'm currently in my third year of 0:35:30.080 --> 0:35:34.279 graduate school studying engineering, and I absolutely hate it. But 0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:36.359 I put a lot of time into it, and after 0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:40.040 an unsuccessful stint as a government contractor, I'm not really 0:35:40.120 --> 0:35:43.120 keen on the private sector. My issue is the work 0:35:43.200 --> 0:35:45.960 is interesting, but everyone I've met in the field is boring. 0:35:46.360 --> 0:35:49.440 Are just not that great a person. I never considered 0:35:49.440 --> 0:35:52.359 whether liking people I worked with would matter so much, 0:35:52.360 --> 0:35:54.600 but the idea of being around these folks for the 0:35:54.640 --> 0:35:57.680 rest of my life makes me once up, You should 0:35:57.680 --> 0:36:00.279 I just quit and join the Peace Corps. Be not 0:36:00.360 --> 0:36:05.160 that drastic, but make a plan to move forward. Yes, absolutely, 0:36:05.200 --> 0:36:11.520 move forward. Move forward with your environment, Move forward with yourself. 0:36:12.680 --> 0:36:15.960 You said that your work is interesting, so do it 0:36:16.120 --> 0:36:19.319 for the work and create a different environment for your soul. 0:36:19.840 --> 0:36:22.560 Don't let anyone to displace you. So that's the sense. 0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:24.440 When you know self and you're walk into your authority, 0:36:24.680 --> 0:36:27.759 you realize the control you have on your life, how 0:36:27.800 --> 0:36:29.640 you're able to build the life that you want. But 0:36:29.680 --> 0:36:32.040 once you get in a situation when you allow fear 0:36:32.160 --> 0:36:36.560 or something outside of you, remember outside of you dictate 0:36:36.640 --> 0:36:40.239 what you're doing, that's when I think there's a problem. 0:36:40.280 --> 0:36:44.799 So allowing a certain person or persons displace you and 0:36:44.880 --> 0:36:48.080 nobody got time for that. It's time for you to 0:36:48.120 --> 0:36:52.680 live your best life, live your wildest dreams. Rihanna said it, 0:36:53.360 --> 0:36:58.680 live your life. Oh, don't really go out there and 0:36:58.760 --> 0:37:01.160 live and if it's not out there, go somewhere else 0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:03.920 and find it. It's not like you're decrepit. And this 0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:06.400 is the last resort for you. Know, you still got 0:37:06.440 --> 0:37:09.040 breath in your lungs and you're willing and enable. So 0:37:09.200 --> 0:37:11.440 if it's not this, going to something else. Not if 0:37:11.440 --> 0:37:14.000 you have a situation where you're feeling like, oh um, 0:37:14.080 --> 0:37:17.120 this field is no longer suiting for me. Engineering is 0:37:17.160 --> 0:37:18.920 what I don't want to be a part, and then 0:37:18.960 --> 0:37:21.160 step out of it. But don't just step out of 0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:25.160 it for the people, say true to yourself. Okay, all right, 0:37:25.840 --> 0:37:31.600 all right? Next letter subject midlife crisis. Oh gosh, dear Dawn, 0:37:32.000 --> 0:37:34.239 I'm forty six, and I'm having a bit of a 0:37:34.280 --> 0:37:37.719 midlife crisis. I love drawing. When I was younger, I 0:37:37.760 --> 0:37:40.520 picked it up as my major in community college. I 0:37:40.560 --> 0:37:42.720 was in one of my art classes when my teacher 0:37:42.800 --> 0:37:45.440 was talking about our motivation and whether or not we 0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:49.000 truly wanted to pursue a career in illustration. That's got 0:37:49.040 --> 0:37:51.160 me thinking whether or not I truly want to make 0:37:51.160 --> 0:37:55.200 it my career. Ultimately, I decided to No. I'm a 0:37:55.239 --> 0:37:58.240 simple guy. It doesn't take much to make me happy. 0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:00.960 I draw the things I want to whenever I want 0:38:01.000 --> 0:38:03.520 and feel good about it, even if it does have 0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:05.920 a lot of issues. Since I was a kid, I 0:38:06.000 --> 0:38:08.040 never liked the idea of people telling me when and 0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:10.440 how it should make something and what it's expected to 0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:12.840 me to be done. I work on my own time 0:38:12.960 --> 0:38:16.080 and I have my own motivations. I start landscaping business 0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:18.880 with some money I got through an inheritance, and since 0:38:18.920 --> 0:38:21.759 then I built up a comfortable life. But now I'm 0:38:21.760 --> 0:38:24.640 looking at the opportunity to retire early, and I'm wondering 0:38:24.680 --> 0:38:27.319 what should I do with my spare time. Should I 0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:30.560 go back to school and take up illustration. I feel 0:38:30.600 --> 0:38:32.360 like I get a lot of satisfaction from making a 0:38:32.480 --> 0:38:35.400 yard look presentable and having my employees do the same, 0:38:35.800 --> 0:38:38.040 But now as I look forward, I wonder I should 0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:40.800 go back to my old love. I'm sure you're wondering 0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:43.480 what the issue is. My wife doesn't want me to 0:38:43.480 --> 0:38:45.640 sit up in the house, so I have to build 0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:48.360 a studio on top of going to school. It starts 0:38:48.360 --> 0:38:50.680 to get pricing. I'm in a good spot, but I'm 0:38:50.680 --> 0:38:53.840 wondering if following my heart will endanger that. I could 0:38:53.880 --> 0:38:56.360 wait and say, but then what if the passion passes 0:38:56.400 --> 0:38:58.840 and I end up regretting it? What are your thoughts? 0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:03.759 You got money, right, you can retire early, Right, you're 0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:06.120 about to invest in your dreams and stop playing with me. 0:39:06.719 --> 0:39:09.319 I don't know if it was just a stubbornness or 0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:12.040 whatever the reason why you chose to you lose your love, 0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:16.239 But when it comes back, you'll know, and it came 0:39:16.280 --> 0:39:20.040 back to you. That's how you know it's real. It's 0:39:20.040 --> 0:39:22.759 not a foolish thing. You said that you're so comfortable. 0:39:22.800 --> 0:39:25.840 If you're so comfortable, why are you concerned about money? 0:39:26.600 --> 0:39:29.000 Not in a situation of what you're gonna enjoy, Not 0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:31.560 in a situation where you're gonna get lost in yourself. 0:39:31.760 --> 0:39:34.600 Not in a situation where otherwise you would need other 0:39:34.680 --> 0:39:36.920 means to escape that would cost money. But hence you 0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:39.160 can just draw with the gift of your own hand. 0:39:40.200 --> 0:39:43.600 You say you can. You're comfortable, but are you really comfortable? 0:39:44.600 --> 0:39:51.000 I've built up a comfortable life, have you, Because comfortability 0:39:51.000 --> 0:39:55.000 means doing what makes us happy. And also you realize 0:39:55.040 --> 0:39:58.040 that even when people who are happy and saying they're comfortable, 0:39:58.160 --> 0:40:03.320 it's truly allowing them to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Seeing 0:40:03.360 --> 0:40:06.360 what's gonna make your truly uncomfortable nous is going to 0:40:06.400 --> 0:40:09.399 be stepping out and taking a chance. Well, here's the thing. 0:40:10.160 --> 0:40:13.840 You said something about should I go back to my 0:40:13.920 --> 0:40:19.240 old love? Well, what is love? Love is about taking 0:40:19.280 --> 0:40:25.719 down your inhibitions. It's about being vulnerable, it's about being authentic, 0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:30.680 It's about being scared. Love is about taking a chance. 0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:36.600 Are you open enough to take a chance on you? See? 0:40:36.840 --> 0:40:39.120 Love can breathe life into you? And then I also 0:40:39.200 --> 0:40:42.600 cannot to win out of you. You can't wait to live. 0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:47.000 You have to live now. You have to go back 0:40:47.080 --> 0:40:51.400 to what identified as you because love and you is good. 0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:56.200 It may not be easy, but it's good. And if 0:40:56.200 --> 0:40:58.360 it's something that you enjoy, what you have all this 0:40:58.520 --> 0:41:01.239 free time, why wouldn't take a chance on it. You 0:41:01.320 --> 0:41:03.480 took a chance on taking your family in here intense 0:41:03.640 --> 0:41:07.080 and making this a landscaping business. You're telling me that 0:41:07.160 --> 0:41:08.960 now you've got a chance on something that you could see, 0:41:09.000 --> 0:41:10.840 something that you love, something that you have declared to 0:41:10.880 --> 0:41:12.440 beat your first love. You don't want to take a 0:41:12.520 --> 0:41:15.040 chance on love. Who doesn't want to take a chance 0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:17.680 on feeling good? I don't know about you. Understand that 0:41:17.760 --> 0:41:20.319 life has its tribulations, but I'm here because I want 0:41:20.320 --> 0:41:25.200 to feel good on purpose? And for what purpose? You 0:41:25.280 --> 0:41:28.120 gotta follow your dreams. Get off this funk that did 0:41:28.160 --> 0:41:31.080 it hit the fan? Get on your feet because it's 0:41:31.120 --> 0:41:34.160 time to stand. Come on dance and get with man. 0:41:34.880 --> 0:41:36.800 You got me acting out on here, but no, really 0:41:37.800 --> 0:41:39.640 go out there and do your drawing and take a 0:41:39.719 --> 0:41:42.000 chance on it. The worst thing didn't happen if you 0:41:42.120 --> 0:41:44.440 have to take a minute to slow down or as 0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:47.400 Karen alone would say, a k a righteous So just 0:41:47.480 --> 0:41:49.960 take a pause on it. Here's the thing we get 0:41:49.960 --> 0:41:52.240 so caught up and trying to plan and saying things 0:41:52.239 --> 0:41:54.120 have to be perfect and how that has to work out. 0:41:54.320 --> 0:41:57.840 Just operating the motion. The wind doesn't get permission to 0:41:57.840 --> 0:42:00.680 blow and who what's gonna blow over? It's up to 0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:03.359 that person not to get knocked down. So don't get 0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:06.359 knocked down. And if you get knocked down, get up. 0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:09.040 Let's Brown said it. If you can look up, you 0:42:09.080 --> 0:42:12.719 can get up. Hard times don't last always, but good 0:42:12.760 --> 0:42:15.719 people do. And good people are good because they are 0:42:15.719 --> 0:42:18.359 good fulfilling love. They love on themselves and they love 0:42:18.400 --> 0:42:20.239 each other. So go ahead on love on yourself and 0:42:20.280 --> 0:42:23.759 take a chance on yourself. You deserve that. Dreams are 0:42:23.760 --> 0:42:26.320 living inside if you let them breathes, you are Okay. 0:42:26.360 --> 0:42:31.840 That's it, onto the next. Here's to the last letter subject, Girl, 0:42:32.080 --> 0:42:35.080 what do I do? So I'm twenty eight, I live 0:42:35.120 --> 0:42:37.320 in Georgia. I'm thankful for where I am in life, 0:42:37.480 --> 0:42:40.680 but I'm damn near miserable. I just lost my boyfriend 0:42:40.680 --> 0:42:43.200 because he wanted to move to Cameroon. I'll say I'm 0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:45.640 thankful that I had parents to push me to finish college, 0:42:45.840 --> 0:42:47.560 and I'm thankful that I was able to land a 0:42:47.560 --> 0:42:49.799 decent entry level job out of college. But I have 0:42:49.880 --> 0:42:52.560 absolutely no passion for what I'm doing, and it's making 0:42:52.600 --> 0:42:55.560 me depressed. I work in accounting, and while I'm good 0:42:55.600 --> 0:42:58.319 with numbers and organizing, it just burns a hole in 0:42:58.400 --> 0:43:01.600 my skull with how boring it is is. It's obvious 0:43:01.600 --> 0:43:03.239 a lot of my peers at my job who do 0:43:03.320 --> 0:43:05.319 the same thing I do, have more passion for it, 0:43:05.360 --> 0:43:08.359 and they perform much better. I constantly live in a 0:43:08.360 --> 0:43:10.759 state of anxiety and stress because I don't feel like 0:43:10.840 --> 0:43:13.880 I'm doing my job well, and I have trouble motivating 0:43:13.920 --> 0:43:17.120 myself to do better because I simply hate what I do. 0:43:17.840 --> 0:43:20.400 I truly believe I was meant for more than a 0:43:20.480 --> 0:43:23.560 boring nine I've been at my current job for five 0:43:23.640 --> 0:43:26.040 years and just feel like I need to start over. 0:43:26.480 --> 0:43:29.279 It's just tough because I've had all this experience in 0:43:29.320 --> 0:43:31.520 this field that I hate. I feel like for me 0:43:31.600 --> 0:43:34.000 to advance in my life, my next step would be 0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:36.200 to find a better pain job in my film. But 0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:38.560 I can't imagine doing this for the rest of my life. 0:43:38.880 --> 0:43:41.160 How do I begin the process of creating the life 0:43:41.239 --> 0:43:44.600 I will enjoy? You better way? The S O S 0:43:44.600 --> 0:43:47.240 flag because you better check yourself before you wreck yourself. 0:43:48.120 --> 0:43:51.719 Here's the thing. It's one thing to walk in a 0:43:51.760 --> 0:43:54.160 situation and not know what's on the other side of 0:43:54.200 --> 0:43:56.640 the door. But then it takes a fool to know 0:43:56.719 --> 0:43:58.720 what's on the other side of the door and still 0:43:58.880 --> 0:44:01.040 choose to walk through the door knowing that they don't 0:44:01.040 --> 0:44:04.080 want what's on the other side. You hear it biblically, 0:44:04.719 --> 0:44:08.080 write the vision and make your plane. Hey, you ask 0:44:08.160 --> 0:44:10.279 Meek Mill. He said, if you wanted, you got to 0:44:10.320 --> 0:44:12.759 see it with a clear eyed view. Girl, what do 0:44:12.840 --> 0:44:18.319 you want? Mm hmm? What do you want? Now? You 0:44:18.360 --> 0:44:20.200 may not have all the answers right now, but I 0:44:20.239 --> 0:44:22.000 think it's probably gonna be some time that you need 0:44:22.040 --> 0:44:27.440 to start brainstorming right out the desires of your heart. Okay, 0:44:28.040 --> 0:44:29.839 you're in a beautiful moment right now. There's a lot 0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:32.839 of things transitioning, you have nothing holding you back. And 0:44:32.920 --> 0:44:37.440 sometimes when we are in this state, we're rising, you know, 0:44:37.520 --> 0:44:40.320 because we're allowing ourselves to go to the next level. 0:44:41.040 --> 0:44:44.919 And what you gotta realize is that on this ascension, 0:44:45.960 --> 0:44:50.120 you know, this rising arrival of upwards, there's a lot 0:44:50.160 --> 0:44:54.520 of wind. You're more susceptible to get knocked over, for 0:44:54.560 --> 0:44:59.800 things to sway you because now you're expanding, you're opposing gravity. 0:45:00.880 --> 0:45:03.160 But see, here's the thing, like I've been saying, staying 0:45:03.200 --> 0:45:05.319 true itself and what it is that you want. You 0:45:05.400 --> 0:45:09.200 can't go wrong if everything is operating in the greater 0:45:09.239 --> 0:45:11.560 good for you because you believe that, because you actually 0:45:11.640 --> 0:45:14.799 see better for yourself, you actually see that you want more. 0:45:14.920 --> 0:45:16.600 You can see what it is that you don't want. 0:45:16.640 --> 0:45:18.000 You know what it's like to be in a state 0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:21.920 of not happiness, a state of anxiety, a state of stress, 0:45:22.160 --> 0:45:24.240 a state of knowing that you are meant for more. 0:45:25.560 --> 0:45:27.759 Why wouldn't you do it? Girl? How are you gonna 0:45:27.800 --> 0:45:32.560 live with no passion? Passion is the fire inside you? Well, 0:45:32.640 --> 0:45:35.160 if we want to take it back, remember this little 0:45:35.239 --> 0:45:39.440 light of mind, I'm going to let it shine. Are 0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:41.920 you gonna let your life shine? Are you gonna let 0:45:41.960 --> 0:45:44.120 your life sign so that you can see the truth 0:45:44.160 --> 0:45:46.880 and the way? Are you gonna let your life shine 0:45:47.040 --> 0:45:49.319 so that you can live your best life? Are you 0:45:49.360 --> 0:45:51.800 gonna let your life shine so that your vitamin D 0:45:51.920 --> 0:45:58.520 levels are up the bar? Are you ready to live? Period? Period? 0:45:59.440 --> 0:46:02.480 Why are you choosing? Or why would one choose to 0:46:02.520 --> 0:46:05.319 sit there to drink poison and die? You don't even 0:46:05.440 --> 0:46:09.719 enjoy the teas like for me, the way is something 0:46:09.760 --> 0:46:15.240 that I've always battled and understanding the relationship with food 0:46:15.280 --> 0:46:19.160 and how I want to exchange with it right, understanding 0:46:19.239 --> 0:46:21.959 with my truth. Okay, I can say this, oh my gosh, 0:46:22.000 --> 0:46:24.120 I want to lose weight about the bus open that 0:46:24.239 --> 0:46:28.239 cheeseburger and fries or the chips or peanut eminem's, Oh 0:46:28.280 --> 0:46:31.600 my god, whish'all love? But understanding it's the taste that 0:46:31.640 --> 0:46:33.200 it may not awesome me be good. But you don't 0:46:33.239 --> 0:46:35.440 even like the way this smells. You don't like the 0:46:35.440 --> 0:46:38.160 way it looks, you don't like the way it sounds. 0:46:38.400 --> 0:46:40.400 But yet you choose to walk in the door because 0:46:40.520 --> 0:46:43.400 you said, Oh, if I'm gonna think about expanding my career, 0:46:43.440 --> 0:46:45.560 I think about getting a higher page job, a higher 0:46:45.640 --> 0:46:47.879 level of misery. What you're gonna sit in the fire 0:46:47.920 --> 0:46:51.319 and then turn up the temperature. Come on? And I 0:46:51.400 --> 0:46:53.920 say it like that because I want that for you. 0:46:53.960 --> 0:46:56.960 I want the best for you. And this ain't it Now. 0:46:57.000 --> 0:46:58.920 It's going to require you to take some time and 0:46:58.960 --> 0:47:00.879 like I said, right the is you to make it plain. 0:47:00.960 --> 0:47:03.160 But you gotta spend some time with yourself and figure 0:47:03.160 --> 0:47:05.759 out what you don't want. But here's the beauty of it. 0:47:06.200 --> 0:47:08.800 Walk in the gratitude of knowing the blank chemists and 0:47:08.880 --> 0:47:10.640 which you can write out the life that you want. 0:47:11.520 --> 0:47:14.520 How beautiful is that? It may be scary because you 0:47:14.520 --> 0:47:17.920 have this full blank page, but it's a pain page 0:47:17.920 --> 0:47:20.640 that you can add all your colors, all your stripes, 0:47:20.719 --> 0:47:24.120 all your stickers, all the things that imagine. It's to you. 0:47:24.719 --> 0:47:27.680 There's nothing holding you back. Are you gonna choose to 0:47:27.680 --> 0:47:30.680 spread your wings and sore and go to new heights? 0:47:31.400 --> 0:47:34.160 I'm telling you the wind will shake you well if 0:47:34.200 --> 0:47:36.560 you are firm and who you are in your truth, 0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.680 that wind to get underneath your wings and your sore. 0:47:40.560 --> 0:47:45.240 You feel me? Are you ready to sore? Write it down, 0:47:45.719 --> 0:47:48.359 write the vision and make it plain. If you wanted 0:47:48.400 --> 0:47:50.160 you got to see it with a clear eye of view. 0:47:50.760 --> 0:47:52.920 It's time for you to see it. It's time for 0:47:52.960 --> 0:47:54.759 you to be it. It's time to you to breathe it. 0:47:55.239 --> 0:47:58.440 So you begin that process was simply um having a 0:47:58.480 --> 0:48:01.840 conversation with yourself and really being real about what enjoys you, 0:48:01.920 --> 0:48:04.520 what excites you. Get out there and try some new stuff, 0:48:04.600 --> 0:48:07.000 try some new things. If you have to even start 0:48:07.000 --> 0:48:09.160 out by minimizing your hours, because I'm sure you just 0:48:09.239 --> 0:48:11.040 may not want to jump out there. And if you do, 0:48:11.200 --> 0:48:13.840 that's fine. I did it a couple of times, and 0:48:13.920 --> 0:48:17.399 I've been okay because I followed Dawn's truth. And as 0:48:17.440 --> 0:48:20.080 long as you follow the truth, that means you're following 0:48:20.120 --> 0:48:26.759 the light. And that's the way you did Okay. So girl, 0:48:26.760 --> 0:48:28.600 that's what I think you need to do. Girl, I 0:48:28.600 --> 0:48:30.960 think you need to look at this opportunity. It's like, oh, 0:48:31.000 --> 0:48:33.839 I'm popping. I have so many opportunities. I don't have 0:48:33.880 --> 0:48:36.759 any bag. It's holding me back except for myself. You 0:48:36.880 --> 0:48:39.680 finished college, you can finish this next feed of your life. 0:48:39.840 --> 0:48:42.160 And like you said, it's one thing to say, oh, 0:48:42.239 --> 0:48:44.120 you want to do more, and it's another thing to 0:48:44.160 --> 0:48:45.960 know that you're meant for more and not doing it. 0:48:46.360 --> 0:48:50.080 You've got greatness inside of you, now tap in into it. 0:48:50.800 --> 0:48:53.040 That's what we're talking about. Vitamin D. That's what we 0:48:53.080 --> 0:48:56.360 mean about living your best life. Girl. Come on, do 0:48:56.480 --> 0:49:02.040 me clean? Do you clean and be seen? Oh well, 0:49:02.080 --> 0:49:04.120 that's it for the advice letters. You know. I have 0:49:04.280 --> 0:49:07.279 a ball um reading the letters that you walk in 0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:09.480 and it makes me feel good because even when I'm 0:49:09.520 --> 0:49:12.520 reading them, I start to realize different things that are 0:49:12.560 --> 0:49:15.760 in covering with myself and it puts a different perspective. 0:49:15.760 --> 0:49:18.760 And I think there's also a level of inclusion because 0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:21.880 people are listening and they're like, oh wow, that's me too, 0:49:22.239 --> 0:49:24.600 or something beautiful when you can quote unquote eat and 0:49:24.640 --> 0:49:27.200 beat and spit out the bones when talking about someone 0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:29.920 else experience, and to know that someone was so bold 0:49:29.960 --> 0:49:32.920 and vulnerable enough to share it that somebody else can 0:49:32.960 --> 0:49:34.919 eat to it. And I feel like that's what we're 0:49:35.080 --> 0:49:37.719 meant to do on his life. We all have light 0:49:37.760 --> 0:49:40.960 withinside of us, we all contain our various levels of 0:49:41.040 --> 0:49:43.480 vitamin D. But let's start and walk in the mode 0:49:43.520 --> 0:49:46.239 of edifying each other. Let's be a reflection of that. 0:49:46.440 --> 0:49:48.520 Let's be vulnerable and let's be open. Let's be in 0:49:48.560 --> 0:49:51.520 that love say we can say I'm imperfectly perfect and 0:49:51.560 --> 0:49:53.400 I'm coming through with my truth because my truth is 0:49:53.400 --> 0:49:56.040 where I was side. And if anything came off harsh, 0:49:56.120 --> 0:49:58.600 you know us out of love and you notice the 0:49:58.680 --> 0:50:02.000 area in quality. But it's all about living your best life. 0:50:02.040 --> 0:50:06.160 And another thing Karen talked about when she talked about shedding, like, hey, 0:50:06.320 --> 0:50:08.880 at night, you cut the lights off, but joy comes 0:50:08.880 --> 0:50:11.400 in the morning and everybody wants to wake up to 0:50:11.440 --> 0:50:14.400 see a new day. It may blind you for a second, 0:50:14.800 --> 0:50:18.200 but take a minute in pause, adjust your eyes so 0:50:18.239 --> 0:50:22.080 that you can see clearly. It's nothing like being put 0:50:22.120 --> 0:50:25.680 in the realm of confusion. We're seeking clarity and we're 0:50:25.680 --> 0:50:28.160 seeking true And if you heard these letters and you're 0:50:28.160 --> 0:50:30.000 like man, I would love to hear Dawn's. If I 0:50:30.080 --> 0:50:33.279 s or take on something, email them to me. I 0:50:33.520 --> 0:50:35.520 We'll get right to them and you can selling them 0:50:35.520 --> 0:50:38.959 to vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. That's 0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:43.360 vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. Now, if 0:50:43.400 --> 0:50:46.799 the podcast and waiting every Monday is not enough so 0:50:46.840 --> 0:50:48.480 that you can get you some Dawn Day a k 0:50:48.600 --> 0:50:51.200 A Vitamin D in your life. I want to encourage 0:50:51.200 --> 0:50:54.640 you to follow me on all social media. Okay, Um, 0:50:54.760 --> 0:50:58.000 Dawn Day speaks on all of it. It's Dawn d 0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:02.120 a I speaks on on social media, So hit me up, 0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:04.640 let's talk. Heck, even if you want to be a guest, 0:51:04.680 --> 0:51:08.040 we can talk about that too, because everybody deserves to 0:51:08.080 --> 0:51:10.359 have a little light in their lights. Well that's all 0:51:10.360 --> 0:51:13.000 I got from you on this episode, So until next time, 0:51:13.440 --> 0:51:16.840 always remember you are your greatest asset.