Speaker 1: This is Suckers. I'm Keeling Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and
Speaker 1: I'm Jared Haven at iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hey everybody, welcome to an on new episode of Suckers,
Speaker 2: Jared's edition.
Speaker 1: It's me myself.
Speaker 2: And and I am alone and talking to myself. It's Sunday,
Speaker 2: January twenty eighth.
Speaker 1: I don't know something like that. We're we're right around there.
Speaker 2: Dawson's birthday is coming up the thirty first, so happy
Speaker 2: your early birthday to my son. He's turning two. On
Speaker 2: his first birthday, he met Tom Brady. So on his
Speaker 2: second birthday, you know, I'll get him an Aladdin toy.
Speaker 2: So that's disappointing for him, garrely top meeting Tom Brady, unfortunately,
Speaker 2: but very excited for that. That's what's going on this
Speaker 2: week with me. Obviously, just came back from Disney, talked
Speaker 2: about that. Oh and that's right. We announced that Ashley's prego's.
Speaker 2: Ashley is pregnant. We are expecting our second kid. We
Speaker 2: have not revealed the gender yet. That is coming soon.
Speaker 2: We know it though, So it's going to be very
Speaker 2: hard to not refer to this child as either a
Speaker 2: girl or a boy. But I'm going to do my best,
Speaker 2: but yeah, we have a new one coming and they'll
Speaker 2: be here. July twenty ninth is the d date. So
Speaker 2: Ashley is, you know, not halfway there, but she's doing good.
Speaker 2: She's nauseous, which sucks. I feel bad for that. She's
Speaker 2: still debilitated a little bit here and there, and she
Speaker 2: still has bad nights of throwing up occasionally.
Speaker 1: It just kind of randomly comes.
Speaker 2: And of course, you know, her body's just not her
Speaker 2: own body anymore because there's a living thing growing in there.
Speaker 2: So that's uncomfortable to say the least. But her pregnancy
Speaker 2: is a lot better this time around than the first one,
Speaker 2: which is great. And she's already fourteen weeks. Fourteen weeks,
Speaker 2: so I don't know, it feels like, let's see here July,
Speaker 2: so what like March, March something that she'll be halfway
Speaker 2: something like that, which already cut right.
Speaker 1: Around the corner.
Speaker 2: I mean we're already in February nearly, which is crazy.
Speaker 2: Super Bowls almost upon us. I don't know if you
Speaker 2: guys watched the NFL, but I just saw the Chiefs
Speaker 2: win again because Patrick Mahomes is just you know, he's
Speaker 2: I saw someone compare him to Thanos from Avengers, which
Speaker 2: is a good comparison because Patrick Mahomes is inevitable and
Speaker 2: Taylor and Travis the Tea's teen t just makes my
Speaker 2: head hurt, you know, Listen, Taylor, I have so much
Speaker 2: respect for this woman. She's awesome.
Speaker 1: But I can't do it. Can't do it, guys, can't
Speaker 1: do it. I can't do it anymore.
Speaker 2: Oh, rooting for whoever's playing the Chiefs in the super Bowl,
Speaker 2: We'll see. I can talk about the Super Bowl here
Speaker 2: on this podcast, though, because even if you don't like sports,
Speaker 2: you guys are all going to watch the Super Bowl
Speaker 2: because we're going to watch the commercials. We're going to
Speaker 2: watch the halftime show, which is Usher. Why is it
Speaker 2: two thousand and four?
Speaker 1: Listen?
Speaker 2: Usher is an incredible musician who has so many hits
Speaker 2: that we've probably forgotten about because I looked up Usher's
Speaker 2: playlist and it was like his not his filmography, but
Speaker 2: his songography.
Speaker 1: I don't know what you'd call it.
Speaker 2: The music he's done in the past. He has so
Speaker 2: many hits I'm like twelve years ago, which is fine, Like, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm an old man. I'll watch Usher during the halftime show,
Speaker 2: but it's just crazy because it feels so underwhelming. It's
Speaker 2: almost like, wait a minute, can the NFL not get
Speaker 2: anybody else? They just got Rihanna. It's a huge one.
Speaker 2: Oh they had m and Ah. I love that La Show.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys remember two years ago
Speaker 2: when the Super Bowl was in LA and it was
Speaker 2: like Eminem fifty cent, Mary J. Blige, Snoop Dog, Doctor
Speaker 2: Dre because obviously Compton, they're all from southern California, and
Speaker 2: that was awesome.
Speaker 1: Oh that was so cool.
Speaker 2: So it doesn't feel like that's happening in the year,
Speaker 2: but like in terms of like any guest surprise, it's.
Speaker 1: Gonna be us show.
Speaker 2: What the hell was I talking about? Ashley is pregnant,
Speaker 2: Yes she is. I'm a little nervous, little nervous because
Speaker 2: to make more of a sports reference. But you guys
Speaker 2: will get this, Like when you have one kid, you
Speaker 2: could play his own defense. It's two on one, so
Speaker 2: it's like, if he goes left, I got him, if
Speaker 2: he goes right, she's got him, and like we can
Speaker 2: just take care of him. But now we got two
Speaker 2: playing on man on man, it's one on one. Like
Speaker 2: ash you get one kid, I'll get the other and
Speaker 2: like god speed, you just take care of your you know,
Speaker 2: you do your job. I'll do my job, and then
Speaker 2: together our jobs as parents will be completed. That's nerve wracking.
Speaker 2: It's like all right, ash like you know, you take
Speaker 2: care of him, I'll take care of this one. And
Speaker 2: it's like all right, Like it's just it's just me
Speaker 2: and you, so just me and you. There's no mama
Speaker 2: in sight. Mom is out, Mama's got our own things
Speaker 2: going on. And if if this new kid's anything like Dawson,
Speaker 2: that's going to be issues because Dawson is attached to mama.
Speaker 1: It's kind of uh.
Speaker 2: It makes me sayd a little bit because a lot
Speaker 2: of times I'll take him out of the house and
Speaker 2: I'll just do something with him one on one. And
Speaker 2: we do this quite a lot because I really I
Speaker 2: love being with him one on one because you know,
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, I become the center of attention.
Speaker 2: He's so reliant on me. He's just happy to be
Speaker 2: with me, and he's reaching out holding my hand. He's
Speaker 2: just the best. But then as soon as Ashley enters
Speaker 2: the picture, everything is Mama, Mama, Mama. He literally pushes
Speaker 2: my hand away, and it's like, bro, dude, we're cool.
Speaker 2: There's no reason to have this animosity between the two
Speaker 2: of us. When mom is here, we can all be
Speaker 2: cool together. You don't have to choose. It's not like, hey,
Speaker 2: if mom and dad are in the room together, I
Speaker 2: have to choose one. No, no, no, you got us both.
Speaker 2: That's the great thing. So anyway, but I'm curious, when
Speaker 2: you know the new one comes around, how Dawson will be.
Speaker 2: I think every parent has this fear that you know
Speaker 2: the first kid is going to grow as ze men
Speaker 2: because all of a sudden, the intention is not all
Speaker 2: on them, or we're not going to love the second
Speaker 2: kid as much because I've never loved anything as much
Speaker 2: as I love Dawson. So in my mind and in
Speaker 2: my heart right now, it's like, how could I ever
Speaker 2: love anything as much as I love Dawson. It's impossible.
Speaker 2: But of course, before Dawson existed, I mean, I've been
Speaker 2: on this earth for over thirty years. I loved things,
Speaker 2: so I'm capable of loving new things. And I'm sure
Speaker 2: that you know, in a couple of years, when I
Speaker 2: grow attached to our new child, and you know, they
Speaker 2: did start developing their own personality, not going to love
Speaker 2: them for different reasons than then how I love.
Speaker 1: Dawson.
Speaker 2: I remember I was talking to Tanner. Uh So, you
Speaker 2: guys know Tanner and Jade uh from bechelor Paridity season two.
Speaker 2: They've been married for seven years now, three kids, and
Speaker 2: h you know, Tanner's brutally honest. I love it, one
Speaker 2: of his greatest qualities.
Speaker 1: You know. I asked him. I was like, do you
Speaker 1: have a favorite? You know, you have three kids?
Speaker 2: And he goes, no, you know, obviously he was talking
Speaker 2: about how you know, he had such an attachment with
Speaker 2: Emmy because that was their first but now that their
Speaker 2: kids are all, you know, coming into their own so
Speaker 2: to speak, you know, developing their own personalities, with their
Speaker 2: own quirks, and uh, the only their own things that
Speaker 2: they love, you know, And I know Tanner wouldn't lie
Speaker 2: to me. He was like, dude, I just love them
Speaker 2: all equally, now differently, Like I love them differently.
Speaker 1: It's weird. It's hard to explain.
Speaker 2: But he also said, like, you know, the first year
Speaker 2: or so, it's you know, you're gonna have a favorite,
Speaker 2: but so like the first year of this kid's life,
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm still gonna be like team Dawson.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I have no doubt that once I start
Speaker 2: really growing attached to our our newborn, that I'll love this,
Speaker 2: you know, the new baby, just as much as I
Speaker 2: love Dawson. I'm glad Ashley's due during the summer. I
Speaker 2: think that's nice because then you can take like a
Speaker 2: newborn out for walks and go outside because you know,
Speaker 2: in the Northeast, obviously the weather's pretty big deal. And
Speaker 2: then you know, it's not like when when you know,
Speaker 2: Dawson was born in January, couldn't really go outside that
Speaker 2: much because it's just cold, and we're not going to
Speaker 2: take a new born out outside, you know, twenty degree weather.
Speaker 1: So but but yeah, we're going right back into it
Speaker 1: now the child. But it'll be fun.
Speaker 2: You know. I'm excited for that family of four. I
Speaker 2: had a family of four growing up with my sister
Speaker 2: and my parents. Ashley had a family of four with
Speaker 2: her sister and her parents, so we kind of feel
Speaker 2: most comfortable with that. Well, you know, you know, two kids,
Speaker 2: So I'm excited about that. But you know, I think
Speaker 2: for us right now, just kind of figuring out where
Speaker 2: we want to end up I think we've been both
Speaker 2: very honest about, you know, the conversations we've had between
Speaker 2: living in Rhode Island living in d C closer to
Speaker 2: her parents. Obviously, right now we're Rhde Island. I love
Speaker 2: Rhode Island. I love being here. But you know, I
Speaker 2: can totally see us ourselves moving down there too, and
Speaker 2: I'd be fine with that, you know. I'm told Ashley
Speaker 2: that is as well, and she doesn't believe me, and
Speaker 2: I really would be It's more of I think it's
Speaker 2: more so just it's like anything, you know, if you
Speaker 2: guys are listening to podcasts and if you had to
Speaker 2: move to a new area, if you're thinking about moving
Speaker 2: to a new area, it's tough because like I don't
Speaker 2: know what I would do down there. You know, I
Speaker 2: have Audrey's up here, which is great, and that takes
Speaker 2: up a lot of my time. And it's like, don't
Speaker 2: get me wrong, there are a lot of times I
Speaker 2: wish I could get away from Audrey's and not be
Speaker 2: there as much, because it's extremely stressful and hard to
Speaker 2: make money right now owning your own business, especially in
Speaker 2: Rhode Island. Actually, unfortunately, there was an article on this
Speaker 2: website called wallet hub. I saw someone post about it
Speaker 2: that said the Rhode Island was the worst state to
Speaker 2: open a small business in, which, you know, I can
Speaker 2: understand why it's expensive. You get a lot of taxes.
Speaker 2: It's also you know, Rhode Islanders. Things that I love
Speaker 2: about Rhode Islanders is that we're very stuck in our
Speaker 2: ways and like we like going to the places that
Speaker 2: we'd be going all of our lives. But also is
Speaker 2: tough to open a new business because a lot of
Speaker 2: people just want to go to the places that they
Speaker 2: know and they love. But also I'm trying to be
Speaker 2: a place that people know and love, and I think
Speaker 2: we're doing a pretty good job of that. But you know,
Speaker 2: a lot of a lot of long ways to go
Speaker 2: on that. But you know what's interesting about this podcast,
Speaker 2: it's literally just me rambling, you know. It's just like
Speaker 2: my inner thoughts, just spilling all the beans just from
Speaker 2: my gut, my heart, my mind. I like it, though
Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys like it.
Speaker 1: I hope you do. I like it. But yeah, so
Speaker 1: right now, you.
Speaker 2: Know, with the second baby on the way to trying
Speaker 2: to figure out like how realistic is a move down
Speaker 2: to northern Virginia, you know, and I think it's pretty realistic.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of things I love about that area,
Speaker 2: and there's a lot of things that I could see
Speaker 2: myself doing while while while living down there. But you know,
Speaker 2: we have to get our ducks in order obviously try
Speaker 2: to figure out like would we keep our place up here,
Speaker 2: would rent it out? These are all the things that
Speaker 2: you know, we we're not making any decisions on right now.
Speaker 2: But I'd be lying if I said that in twenty
Speaker 2: twenty five, you know, just next year. I mean, I
Speaker 2: could totally see it happening. Especially let's see, you know,
Speaker 2: how the rest of Ashley's pregnancy goes. I know she
Speaker 2: loves being down there when she's pregnant, which makes total sense.
Speaker 2: She loves being with her parents, you know, she and
Speaker 2: I love being with her parents. They do such a
Speaker 2: good job taking care of Dawson. Her mom's so good,
Speaker 2: her sister's so good with Dawson, and there's such giant
Speaker 2: helps that it's nice to have that. And especially when
Speaker 2: Ashley is not feeling well and she could use the help.
Speaker 2: I could use the help, so you know, that's a
Speaker 2: big factor. And then of course, after the baby comes
Speaker 2: you know, we'll need some help. I'll take some time
Speaker 2: off from Audrey's to ensure that I could be home
Speaker 2: and taking care of the newborn and helping Ashley with Dawson,
Speaker 2: doing whatever I need to do to make sure that
Speaker 2: things are going well. But I'd be lying if I
Speaker 2: said it wouldn't be easier down in northern Virginia, then
Speaker 2: it would be up here just for the simple effect
Speaker 2: of the help that we have. So, you know, we'll see,
Speaker 2: we'll see what the rest of the year brings. But
Speaker 2: also it's all exciting things. You know.
Speaker 1: I'm really not stressed out about it, honestly, I'm it's
Speaker 1: just we're breathing, you know. I think about that a lot.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, there's a friend of it was one of my
Speaker 2: cousin's friends, forty years old, passed away from cancer this
Speaker 2: past week. Just a tragic story. Got to know her
Speaker 2: well pretty well. Her names Gina, and she was always
Speaker 2: around holidays or any parties that we had. And of
Speaker 2: course her and Sarah had like a core group of friends.
Speaker 2: My cousin's name is Sarah. She probably had like four
Speaker 2: or five and anyway, it just makes you think about
Speaker 2: life and how you can never take it for granted.
Speaker 2: And there's a lot of stress full things in this
Speaker 2: life that get me stressed, you know, But I try
Speaker 2: to really center myself and just say, there's really nothing
Speaker 2: to be to be that stressed about, because life, you know,
Speaker 2: is going to go by fast. It sucks, but it's
Speaker 2: just the reality of the situation. Everybody tells you that's
Speaker 2: what happens. And you know, I'm thirty How old am
Speaker 2: I my? Thirty six years old? No, I'm thirty five.
Speaker 2: I just turned thirty five, but you know, just thirty five.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. I don't know how the hell I've been
Speaker 2: on this earth for thirty five years. I feel pretty
Speaker 2: grateful for it, pretty lucky. But anyway, I think that's
Speaker 2: actually going to do it for this week's episode, which
Speaker 2: is crazy is a sure one, but usually we try
Speaker 2: to do about fifteen minutes here. I don't know if
Speaker 2: I ended on a morbid note, but yeah, everybody who's
Speaker 2: listening to this, I hope you're enjoying it, and just
Speaker 2: make sure you just try to try to think about
Speaker 2: positively and be optimistic.
Speaker 1: You know. I heard someone say how.
Speaker 2: Optimism like, if you're optimistic, you can really move mountains
Speaker 2: and you can change things just by being to mystic
Speaker 2: and positive about something. And the older I get, the
Speaker 2: more I believe that, and so try to just remember that.
Speaker 2: You know, we're here, we're living, and that's a great thing.
Speaker 2: That's a wonderful thing. It reminds me of a Rob
Speaker 2: Thomas song. God, I'm so lame. I don't care though.
Speaker 2: It's called one less die and one less Day from
Speaker 2: Dying young. And I love that song so much because
Speaker 2: it just is a great reminder that we're one less
Speaker 2: day from dying young and getting older is a privilege. Unfortunately,
Speaker 2: it's not a right, it's a privilege. And anyway, I
Speaker 2: just wanted to reinforce that I love you all. If
Speaker 2: you guys are listening to this, you listen to Suckers.
Speaker 2: We have a brand new episode coming out this week.
Speaker 2: I think it probably already drops. To make sure you
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Speaker 2: both bad and good. Honestly, the bad doesn't bother me anymore.
Speaker 2: I know it's such a cliche thing to say, like
Speaker 2: I don't care what people think about me. It really
Speaker 2: doesn't bother me all that much anymore. Sometimes I find
Speaker 2: it entertaining to read funny things about me. AnyWho just
Speaker 2: want to say thank you.
Speaker 1: I love you all.
Speaker 2: I really do appreciate it, and make sure you guys
Speaker 2: tune in next week. We're hopefully ah, I suck just
Speaker 2: a little bit less