1 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I am Dramas and this is the Street 2 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: Stowed Podcast, bringing your daily dose of thim and the 3 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: Stoic Philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. And with 4 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: that in mind, let's get things started with your daily 5 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: shot of inspiration. Now. Today we're gonna be talking about 6 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: being in control of your emotions, but more specifically your anger, right, 7 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: because I think it's something we all kind of need 8 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: a reminder on at times, and maybe a crash course 9 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 1: on how not to let our anger get the best 10 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 1: of us, right, and maybe give ourselves a reason to 11 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,279 Speaker 1: recognize that there are bigger things happening than what's in 12 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: front of us that is currently upsetting us. Right. A 13 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: quote that I pulled to here from Yasine Bay or 14 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: some people know him as most Deaf, he says, the 15 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: world is so dangerous, there's no need for fighting. And 16 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: to me, what he's talking about here is understanding all 17 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: that's going on in the world, right, putting it into context, 18 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: calming your anger with the understanding of how minimal it 19 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 1: is in the larger picture of life. And I'm not 20 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: here to diminish any of the ship that people are 21 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: going through in their life. Right. You're allowed to feel 22 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: all the feels, but you also have to keep in 23 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: mind that these moments will inevitably pass right, like, whatever's 24 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: making you angry that person, that situation is not only 25 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: a blip in the radar of life, but truthfully, it's 26 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: a blip in your life entirely right. It's a very, 27 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: very all a moment that you probably won't even remember, 28 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: you know, in the grand scheme of your time here 29 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: on this earth. And it leads to a sto quote 30 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: from Seneca that I think is perfectly aligned with this, 31 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: where he says, how much better to heal than seek 32 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: revenge from injury? Vengeance waste a lot of time and 33 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 1: exposes you to many more injuries than the first that 34 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: sparked it. Anger always outlasts hurt. Best to take the 35 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: opposite course. Would anyone think it normal to return a 36 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 1: kick to a mule or a bite to a dog. 37 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: Now what he's talking about here, beyond just the greater 38 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: world that's happening around us, He's also talking about the 39 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: waste of energy it is to be angry or to 40 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: seek vengeance on somebody or something, Right, Like, obviously we 41 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: don't want to be angry, We don't want to be unhappy. 42 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:00,519 Speaker 1: We don't want to feel like we've been taking advantage 43 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: of But the irony of us reacting is that we're 44 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: now giving our powers away to others, right, And we're 45 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: allowing them to influence our decisions. And at the very least, 46 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: we are allowing these people, this thing, this situation to 47 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 1: take up space in our mind, right, to take up 48 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 1: real estate, precious real estate in our mind, and and 49 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: have an effect on our mood and how we are 50 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 1: viewing life at that moment. Right. And even what you know, 51 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: Seneca is kind of talking about is that the anger, 52 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: it usually leads you to a place of even more 53 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: hurt when you when you react to it, right And 54 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: and for me, you know, I relate to this on 55 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: on a personal level just because I think the nature 56 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: of the industry that I work in and the road 57 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: that I've had, you know, not having any connections in 58 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: entertainment or media and not taking a traditional path of 59 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: of you know, a career. I've been screwed over a 60 00:03:57,080 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: lot in my life. I've been made a lot of 61 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: empty promises. I've met a lot of snakes in the grass. 62 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: I've had people steal from me, and at the end 63 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: of the day. It hurts, it's annoying, it pisses me off, 64 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: but in the grand scheme of life, it's not going 65 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: to have much of an effect on, you know, my 66 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: time here on this earth. Right the time that they 67 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: may have taken away from me, I refuse to give 68 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: them any more of it by by trying to seek revenge, 69 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,479 Speaker 1: right the money that they may have stolen from me, 70 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: you know, obviously within reason, but it's also not worth 71 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,600 Speaker 1: the time and investment it might take to get it back. 72 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to cut your losses and cut 73 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: ties with that person or that situation and move on 74 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: with your life. Right, Listen, I'm not above it. I've reacted. 75 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 1: I've had moments where I've acted out of character and 76 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:56,679 Speaker 1: didn't think about future dramas, right where somebody did something 77 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: to piss me off and I just kind of blew 78 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: up the whole situation. Right. I'm particularly talking about something 79 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: in my field in the entertainment industry, and at the 80 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: time I was on you know where I was just like, 81 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: you know, fuck this person. I don't need them to 82 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: find success or whatever it is, and you know, I 83 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: go and make a public sort of blow up of 84 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: what happened between us, and the world is small, other 85 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: people see it, other people are made aware of it, 86 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: and sometimes it has come to bite me in the 87 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: ass where people who might know that person now don't 88 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: want to work with me, or they saw how that 89 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: whole thing played out and now they have this negative 90 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: connotation with me and they're not interested in doing business. 91 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:41,840 Speaker 1: And that all was because I decided to give that 92 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: person my time and energy and also, you know, create 93 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: this grand spectacle of it, ignoring the fact that that 94 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 1: may come to haunt future me. Right, And that's what 95 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 1: you have to keep in mind again, whatever decisions you're making, 96 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: how is it going to affect future me? And it's 97 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: a lesson that I've had to learn. I'm probably gonna 98 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: have to learn it again somewhere down the line, but 99 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: I can promise you every time that it's happened and 100 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: it's blown up in my face, I reflect on it 101 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: and I realized that having that reaction and getting that 102 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: little payback in the moment was not worth the grander 103 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: things that I ended up losing out on as a 104 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:21,719 Speaker 1: result of, you know, having a large scale reaction to 105 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: a particular situation. Now, on this topic of not letting 106 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: your anger or your emotions get the best of you. 107 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,679 Speaker 1: We've of course heard from Yasine bay Okay most Deaf. 108 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: We have heard from one of the stoics, Seneca. I've 109 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: given you a bit of insight into my own life. 110 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: Now let's talk about how you can make it your 111 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:41,719 Speaker 1: mantra for today. But first let's take a quick break 112 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: and then we'll be right now. All right, so we've 113 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:55,600 Speaker 1: heard the words of Yasine bay akay most Deaf. We've 114 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: heard one of the Stoic Seneca. I've given you some 115 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: insight into my own life around this time topic of 116 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: not allowing your emotions, specifically your anger to get the 117 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,720 Speaker 1: best of you. Now let's talk about how you can 118 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: make it your mantra for today. And I think first 119 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:15,679 Speaker 1: and foremost, you always have to recognize that you being 120 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: overcome by your anger will always take more away from 121 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 1: you than the person or thing that you are trying 122 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: to get even with. Right, if somebody does something wrong 123 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: to you, even if you get revenge, it doesn't take 124 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: away the results of them doing something bad to you. 125 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: And in fact, on top of them having done something 126 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: bad to you, on top of you having had to 127 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: go through that experience. You now are going to tack 128 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: on the amount of time that you've wasted trying to 129 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: get back at that person, right, so they end up 130 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: taking even more away from you than they initially did. 131 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 1: And again, you're not in control of what somebody may 132 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: do to you, but you are damn sure in control 133 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: of how you react and the effect that you allow 134 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 1: it to have on future you. And also remembering like, 135 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: there are so many more important things out there. Again, 136 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: there are countries at war right now. There are people 137 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: whose homes are being blown up, whose livelihoods have been 138 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: turned upside down as the result of some dictator who 139 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 1: wanted more power. Right, And this isn't diminishing what you're 140 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: going through. This isn't saying that your feelings aren't real. 141 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: You're hurt, your pain, your anger isn't real. But again, 142 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: there is so much shit happening in the world. It's 143 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: not worth you reacting to this particular situation. There are 144 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 1: so many other things that you could be focusing your time, 145 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: your energy on. Right this one thing, no matter how 146 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: it feels in the moment, is again a blip on 147 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,600 Speaker 1: the radar when it comes to what is going on 148 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: in the world. Right now and even personally for you 149 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: and your life, this is going to be a very small, 150 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: probably insignificant moment when you look back on your life, 151 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: So why give it any more attention than it deserves. 152 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: Now to recap where we were talking about, seeing Bay 153 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: talking about how the world is so dangerous, right, no 154 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: need for fighting again, There's a lot of crazy shit 155 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 1: happening in the world right now, Like when you think 156 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 1: about it like that, whatever you have going on in 157 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: front of you probably is not that big of a deal, 158 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:17,959 Speaker 1: and you could walk away from it, right And that's 159 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 1: what he's talking about. He wants to keep that in 160 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: mind of the grander things that are going on in 161 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: this world right now. And and Seneca talking about how 162 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: your revenge, your vengeance ultimately ends up causing you more 163 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: harm to you than anything else, right, and it wastes 164 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: your precious time. And even for me, reacting in the 165 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 1: moment ended up hurting future me at times, right, like 166 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: me making a big deal about something that happened possibly 167 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: led to me losing out on potential opportunities. Right again, 168 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: I was not thinking about future me. And that's what 169 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 1: I think we have to keep in mind. With all 170 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: that we're talking about here. Right when you're talking about 171 00:09:56,720 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: maintaining your anger and your emotions and not letting then 172 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,840 Speaker 1: get the best of you, think about how big this 173 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: world is and all that is going on right now, 174 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: and also think about future you. If you make this 175 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: decision to retaliate, to make a situation linger on for 176 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: longer than it needs to, is it something that is 177 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: going to benefit future you in a positive way? And 178 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: the answer is almost always no. So that's something to 179 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:27,439 Speaker 1: keep in mind in those moments where we're all inevitably 180 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: challenged with a difficult situation in life that may try 181 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,960 Speaker 1: to bring out the worst in us. Now, with that said, 182 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,440 Speaker 1: thank you so much for checking out The Street Stoke Podcast. 183 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: Do your best to apply these concepts that we've discussed 184 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: intia everyday life, and I'll catch you next time. The 185 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: Street Stoke Podcast is a production of Ihearts Michael Plura 186 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: Podcast Network.