WEBVTT - Our Mailbox is Full 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:12.040 Welcome to Jay dot Ill a production of My Heart Radio. Hi, ladies, 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:14.440 this is Nadia from New York. I just want to 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:18.759 say I can't even refer to a specific episode. I've 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.560 listened to them all multiple times over. I just want 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:25.000 to say, in each and every episode, you ladies, touch 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.160 on something that is important to me, that is laying 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:31.120 within me that I didn't even know I was laying 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:36.080 in my spirit sometimes. And I just want to thank you, Jill, Asia, Asia, 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:40.879 excuse me, and thank you for being the voice that 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:42.960 a lot of us didn't know that we needed. Thank 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:47.479 you for being the voices that educate us on our bodies, 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:51.280 our love, our beings, just everything about you. I just 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:53.080 want to thank you, ladies. I want to say that 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:54.840 you are the voice that I have been looking for. 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:58.080 You are a voice that we all need. Y'all be blessed, 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:04.399 say sweet, appreciate you, God blessed, Thank you, Thank you 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:08.399 so much. Welcome to j dot Ello podcast. And guess 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:16.320 what our voicemail is full? Is full? You called, you 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.959 left messages, you let us know how you feel about 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:23.080 what we're doing here, and I promise you would mean 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:25.960 so much to us. Um this is our first time 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:30.240 listening through to the messages, and we just want to 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:32.760 be surprised. We don't know what you're gonna say, like 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:35.200 we hate you pictures they could hit and could go 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:37.880 down like that, and I don't know. But the fact 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:41.000 that you've left such a lovely message, and you know, 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.319 you let us know that what we're doing is not 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:48.000 in vain. That feels really, really good. We're really here 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:53.080 just trying to, you know, spark that conversation. We're just 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.360 trying to spark that conversation so that you can get 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.919 through to the other side of the world. Honey, We're 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:03.840 all trying to get to the other side. Listen and 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.120 put our feet in the grass and smell the flowers 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:10.040 on the way. I want to acknowledge that the young 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:13.560 lady who left that message took the time to pronounce 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:20.519 my name God she let's sake, and then she charged 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.280 to circle back, and there was such a lesson in 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:28.359 that to make a mistake. Amen, Amen says circle back. 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:30.679 That is the one thing you back on. J d 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:33.400 il if anything was how to stay asa. How about 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:39.360 that Ada Graydon Danceler that's me, yeah, and Layahs st 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:43.200 Clair that's me. And I'm just Scott all day And 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.000 this is j d Ilda Podcast, and we're gonna listen 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.960 to these messages and see what y'all got to say. 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:54.600 Play another one. Amber, Oh my god, my name is 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:57.720 I'm calling from Atlanta and I was listening to bro 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.600 mix VAHU. I was driving. I'm an uber driver, and 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.240 I absolutely could not ride down the road to close 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.280 my eyes. That would have been a detriment to my 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.080 life and everybody else in the city of Atlanta, Georgia. 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:14.239 But in my heart, oh my god, you, I could 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:20.600 have cried the stars, the color of the stars, the 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:24.560 start flats, the bush people, the food, the tendency to 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:29.320 off the ground. Um, taking your son over the delta. Uh. 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:33.440 You guys being in Paris, experiencing the food, Uh, the 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:39.000 louse uh museum like I your words. God has really 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:43.040 gifted you with a way with words. You say something 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:46.160 and I see it, I feel it, I experienced it. 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:49.720 You can describe a particular hell of blue and I 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.480 see it, I feel it, I sense it, and I 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:55.320 get all into it. I was like Layah where her 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:59.480 eyes were closed. I am you are such a gym. Jill, 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:04.080 you are such a gym. Asia, you are such a 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:08.240 motherfucking beast. And you are so solid, and you are 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:12.320 such a balance and like Babe, you are an adventure 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.280 and me and you was like Dora. We'll be got 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:18.360 that bitch with backpack. Backpack. That's all we do. I 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:22.119 love everything that you ladies do. You women are vital 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.800 to my life. I thank you so much. I love 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:27.040 you so much, and thank you for taking me to 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:34.800 Boots Wanna and them babies. Yes, ma'am. Thank y'all so much. 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:37.560 I love y'all, and y'all be easy to be blessed 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:40.760 and enjoy your weekends. I look forward to next two stepisode. 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:44.200 Thank you, and I am talking your Instagram pages just 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:48.119 f y. I like your congratulations on goddam. I'm dropping 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:51.240 the baby off but not crying. Baby. I love y'all 0:04:51.279 --> 0:05:02.240 so much. I talk to y'all soon back. First of all, 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:05.159 Ed is about to get all my love number one 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:13.320 with that as from that was everything we'll see. Listen, 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.599 y'all try to we're starting the day off. We're starting 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:25.120 what my chest est my body. That was a sweet episode. Man, 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:28.360 that was though it was like it was it was 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:35.040 like an audio pleasure here. It was an extraordinary experience 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.320 and all the ideas that it popped. Jill like, for 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:40.320 everybody listening. I mean, I'm talking about me, but yeah, 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.880 but everybody listening was like, I could I could do 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:48.719 a little version of is what It really helped me 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:53.000 understand what's just the importance of, you know, honoring the 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:59.359 transition into adulthood, for these young people to be intentional 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:03.240 about honoring that, and that it's not just about a birthday, 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.960 it's not just about a you know, it's about it's 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:08.479 a process. Who is who do I want this person 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.440 to become? And what am I going to do to 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:14.480 show them that I'm invested in that in a way 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:17.600 that says, okay, you know what, we've gone into the 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:21.920 next stage of this. Now we did that first part 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.480 and now we're going into this next stage. And I 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:27.839 just thought it was beautiful and I loved how it 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:31.200 was just an intention. It's not all just about exactly 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:34.479 what was done, it's the intention behind what was done. 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:40.120 They Yeah, I'll provowed you. Thank you man. I just 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.000 want to do this thing as best as I possibly can. 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:47.240 And you know, just a reminder for far As bro 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:52.640 Mits Fuzz or Sismiths Fuzz, if you will um the 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:57.920 you know like that, Like, as far as those things 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:02.320 are concerned, Like I saved for two years for that. 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:04.400 I knew it was coming, and I knew what I 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.000 wanted him to experience, and I knew what I didn't 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:09.440 want to, you know, do something that was a financial 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:13.320 burden to me, because I don't. You know, people will 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:16.360 assume I ain't got no financial burdens, but you know, 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:21.200 I'm still you know, text main't come every year. Looking Rode, 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:23.920 when you said you saved for that trip, we all 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:28.800 heard you. Like, but that's also part of the intentional. 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.080 When you save, that means you you're intentional. You're making 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:39.240 a play that part. Because now at thirteen, you know 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:42.520 that would attest to this, it's gotten a lot harder. 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:48.840 I'm rough on him now, Oh I'm not. I'm not. 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:52.480 I'm not letting things slide as I would a little 0:07:52.840 --> 0:08:02.440 person and important you could get this too, but now, no, no, 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:09.560 no longer, little tink tank, no more, no more, And 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:15.680 there are consequences to your actions and far as right now, 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:21.960 I'm the one that Yeah, it's not going to be 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:25.360 all sweet, but we thank you so much, as you know, 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:28.200 for leaving that message and letting us know that. You know, 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:35.239 we're inspiring you and igniting, you know, dreams of fancy 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:38.040 and that don't have to be that fancy. It's not 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:45.000 and it could be too. It could be too. We 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:52.320 manifest luxury, talling, the manifests the best, right loaded style, 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:55.640 y'all goals, right loaded style. Let's come Yeah, what what's 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:59.640 White Loadus? White Loaders is a series on HBO about 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:03.000 fancy as hotel. The last season it was one place. 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:05.760 This season it was in a in Italy off the coast, 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:08.440 and it's a it's a mystery that goes on in 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:12.480 it's fancy, extra luxurious hotel. I should watch this. I 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:15.960 like these things. Yeah, you would like it. I wanted 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:21.960 to tell you guys that I'm watching Kendred. I'm finished. 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:24.440 I finished that. I'm finished too. I didn't know talk 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:26.599 we're done. I thought it was just one season. I 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:30.960 was like, oh, okay, wait, there's more than one season. Yes, 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.640 that's up for a second season. You'll you'll figure that out. 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:38.200 You'll be like, oh, okay, okay, that's what it's gonna 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:42.480 make you do in there. Hold up, hold up, guys, 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:51.240 I'm so sorry. Stop no mm hmm, okay, that ain't 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:56.439 even know editing told you all the time. I told 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.559 the time, I said, this is the time that I'm 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:02.480 a boring on room. You booked the room for a 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:06.600 certain the room for a certain time. Y'all knocking on 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:10.120 the toe all in my audio, like what is happening? 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:13.760 That just goes to show you everybody, And it don't stop. 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:21.439 Don't stop it don't stop when you decide somebody, it 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:30.680 don't stop ever, not ever. What is kindred on? Um? 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:36.160 Hulu Hulu hulu. Okay, nobody, nobody's paying us to say 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:39.360 that you know anything. We're just watching this because we're 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:44.040 big fans of Octavia Butler and it's well done and 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:48.000 it's very interesting, and like Agia had mentioned to me, 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:50.120 I think she mentioned it privately that it was kind 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:52.079 of like heavy and you got to kind of take 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.840 a break and come back with some breaths and start again. Um, 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:59.400 just throwing that out there. But thanks y'all. We really 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:02.920 appreciate your home states. Stay safe on those roads. Um 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:14.600 just England that somebody ain't right pull off my friend, Yeah, Georgia, 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:29.480 more real talk after the break, play another one for us, 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:34.280 if you'd be so kind, My dear Emba, Hi ladies. 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.480 My name is Alicia. I was just calling because I'm 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:40.520 a great fan of the show and I actually am 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:42.760 getting caught up on the episodes now that I'm back 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:46.480 at work. And um, the June twenty second episode Your 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.720 Coaches on Camera Part one, there was an interesting part 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:54.000 in it that you guys were discussing virginity and why 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:57.640 would somebody be a virgin for some long particularly. I 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.680 think that would be a great episode topic just because 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:05.000 as a fellow virgin, I'm almost in my forties and 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.440 I'm a virgin as well. But I realized that I've 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.480 been a virgin for so long because I've had some 0:12:11.520 --> 0:12:14.640 trauma that's happened in the past year. So I stayed 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:18.360 out from going out and I stayed home. And then 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:21.520 as the time passed along, I started to get older 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:23.600 and older and older, and then I realized, like, oh 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:26.400 my gosh, I'm not living and now I'm in the 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:29.120 predicament that I'm about to be a forty year old virgin. 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:31.680 So I think that'd be a great topic if you 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.280 guys would just talk to all kinds of different virgins 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:37.680 out there and see and get their perspective on stuff 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.480 as into why they are a virgin. Thank you ladies. 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:46.440 By wow, that is a very interesting topic. I do 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:52.920 know a fifties six year old virgin. Wo. Yeah. I 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.520 have a good friend who is just turning forty and 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:58.840 actually today is having a theme party called the forty 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:02.880 year Old Virgin, and he has put out a a 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:07.480 birthday um invitation complete with the remake of the forty 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:13.880 year old version movie poster and everything. Yeah, we haven't 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:16.679 talked about that. I wonder. I wonder if your friend 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:19.720 is like he's trying and change that for the birthday. 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.199 I don't know, okays, I'm gonna find out, you know, whenever, 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:24.640 if we do get a chance to do this as 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:28.000 an episode, you know, I'll ask him if he'd be 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:32.040 interested to come on in, come in the room and 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.920 talk about it, because I would love to see here 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.560 from a diverse group of virgins. Yeah. Man, Because what 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.680 she was saying is like hers was like, Hey, I 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.080 put it off, put it off, put it off. It 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.840 wasn't even intentional. So I'm sure there's some people where 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:49.520 it's deeply intentional like I think hers was. She said 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.800 she had been you know, she had to experience some 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:55.679 trauma and at that point you know, it's kind of 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:59.640 made a decision about it. What I've learned from the 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:03.880 field virgins that I've had the experience the pleasure to know, Um, 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:07.360 they were just good folks. But also if you stay 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:10.440 a virgin after a certain age, you tend to stay one, 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.000 you know what I mean. If you're a virgin after 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:16.120 a certain agers a shame thing. You think it's a 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:18.960 shame thing. You don't want to tappin. It's probably individual, 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.280 you know, sometimes it's habit right out of habit. I 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:25.200 mean just because I just didn't know more, because it's 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:27.000 just like I just don't. I just ain't never did. 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:30.320 So yeah, yeah, like you don't even have the desire. 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.280 I think, are they a sexual Jill? The ones that 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:37.320 you know, like do they still pleasure themselves? Or how 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:41.400 about the ones that you know? I don't know. I 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:46.120 mean we know a couple of just not too long ago, 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:50.080 look separate entity do We'll talk about it later, But 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:55.360 I know, you know, I wonder, I wonder to me, 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:57.920 I was like, I was like, something gotta go in here, 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.120 that's gotta go in there. Yes, So I'm like to 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:05.640 go in here and after Jill tell me, after Jill 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:07.080 tell me who it is. I might, I might ask 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:08.720 if I know what I'm gonna ask them. I'm curious. 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:11.200 I want to know all the things. Okay, I doubt 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.240 very much that they would talk about it, but you 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.880 never know, Okay, you never know. We can't help, but 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:19.560 you know it's okay to take some really take some anonymous. 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:23.520 No shame, we can shoot all. There's no shame, of course, 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:25.960 not none. But you know, people will put stuff on 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.840 you like yeah, and sometimes even in our tone because 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:33.040 we're so used to socialize in certain ways. I fear 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:36.520 that on that particular episode, we we ourselves may have 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:39.680 come across a little bit like, oh well, why would 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:43.760 you know, just maybe a little bit just outside of talking, 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:46.560 outside of the experience, you know what I'm saying. So oh, 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:48.120 I know. I mean that's why I asked about the 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:49.760 a sexual thing, because I think once you we get 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:51.760 to that point, I know, I'm might. You know, I 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.320 would be one of those people to be like damgn 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.480 like what is that like? Not having that in your life? 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:59.600 Like I understand maybe virgin, but and there's so many 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:04.000 days to experience intimacy that could that's would definitely be 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:11.200 even more powerful, you know, okay, you know what I mean. Yeah, ways, 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:13.040 that's why I said, it's like so many different types 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.240 of people who are probably experiencing this and that to 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:20.440 make this kind of monolithic you know, statement about what 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:24.240 that looks like, right, I mean irresponsible. It isn't fair 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:28.280 Jerry's line like are you a virgin? We need to 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.880 know your different experience. I'm just joking, but I'm not, 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:37.280 though I am. Yeah, thank you at Les, yeah for 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.720 for bringing us a topic because you know, looking for 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:44.640 something to to share and learn about. You know, it's 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:49.120 we want to learn and it's so cool because people 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:52.960 are people are amazing. Yeah, and that kind of choice 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.920 is it's one that I don't identify with. But that's 0:16:56.920 --> 0:17:01.040 what's up, Like, okay, to stop. I like how diverse 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:02.760 our people are too. It's like we got a little 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:07.119 bit everything. We got the freaking thing end and the 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:10.800 opt outs come on, you got opt out. Let's go listen. 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.399 One thing I'll say about this podcast for sure, and 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:18.000 this is I really really love this. This is absolute 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:23.480 proof again that people are smart. The world will make 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:30.360 you think that everybody is you know, um lacking in capacity, 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.639 you know, but it's not true. People are actually thinking, 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:37.960 people are reading, people are questioning, people are making big 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:45.560 choices about their existence. That, um, that inspire. So I'm glad. 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:47.960 I'm glad to notice that. I'm glad to see that. 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:50.000 Keep thinking. Y'all love it. I love it. If we 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:53.000 love it, we love that. Okay. So we got a 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:57.520 message from from someone on Instagram. Um it's at Isaiah 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:02.600 Ribera two for eight and they wrote, I thank you 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:06.080 for sharing your life and doing everything that you do. 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:09.359 Just know that your podcast has blessed this little Puerto 0:18:09.440 --> 0:18:12.840 Rican boy from the hood. I appreciate everything you do. 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:16.880 Your podcast has got me through some days, and that's 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:21.679 the best man. Some days, yo, as you can do 0:18:21.800 --> 0:18:25.199 is get through. I love it. I have quite a 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:28.040 few some days, and I promise you I'm grateful to 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:31.000 have been a part of getting somebody to what's something that. Yeah, 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:38.040 I'm still I'm like urgance. Puerto Ricans. I love them. 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:41.040 We're touching people in this way. I guess that's so cool. 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.960 I like that. The brother's lessening. That's what's up right 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.679 me too. Oh let me see if I could, I 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:51.439 might got another brother for y'all since you mentioned her brother, Oh, Royce, 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:55.400 we love Royce, Royce and all all all his comments. 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:59.960 Uh Royce says episodes are great topics asked for yesterday's 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:02.560 app all the bells and whistles. Thank you all for 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:07.640 the love, knowledgeable inclusion and affirming us trans men. Shoutouts 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:10.480 to Nina Joiner, owner a Feel More Sex Shop. Oh 0:19:10.560 --> 0:19:14.359 that was a good episode. That was a good episode. Yes, 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:20.040 we learned some things. Update update. I bought the rows 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:24.639 for quite a few of my um uh senior sisters. 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.560 I'm talking about over the age of sixty five. You 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:30.560 know what I'm saying. Did you get some feedback yet? 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:35.600 The feedback is it's a hit. One said she almost 0:19:35.640 --> 0:19:37.880 had a heart attack, and the other has gone back 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:41.200 for more, more and more, and she says it keeps 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:44.240 getting better. She loves the wish she just washed it. Child. Listen, 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:47.880 I'm girl, I'm changing lives out here. You are changing lives. 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:54.359 You are changing lives. That is so dope, you know, No, seller, 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:57.359 I don't celebrate the Christmas, but I'm gonna go ahead 0:19:57.359 --> 0:20:03.240 and just do a maths send out. Huh. That is 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:08.560 everything I do want to send out. I love it. 0:20:08.880 --> 0:20:11.360 I love it, but I love that you were specific 0:20:11.359 --> 0:20:13.960 about who was going to receive them, because we forget 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:17.840 it about our our elders and our older sisters and 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:21.159 our older aunties that they they ain't you know, they 0:20:21.280 --> 0:20:25.719 still here and they still need Most times they hear 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:29.520 more than our uncles. So they need to experience pleasure 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:32.480 and and and the era that some of them came 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:37.600 from that wasn't something that some some of them talked 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:40.560 to about or that they felt was important. So I 0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:42.720 think that's really cool. I want to speak on the 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:46.240 fact that Royce really did say something about inclusion, which 0:20:46.240 --> 0:20:48.520 is important, which is just important to me in general, 0:20:48.640 --> 0:20:51.760 but I think that, um, I love. What I love 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:56.200 about this podcast is that we are always trying to 0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:58.639 make sure that we're thinking in that space that we 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.040 try to leave from that place. We can't always say 0:21:01.240 --> 0:21:04.160 or know all the things because we're not living all 0:21:04.200 --> 0:21:07.439 the experiences, but the fact that we always try to 0:21:07.440 --> 0:21:09.840 come back to the fact that yes, there are there 0:21:10.000 --> 0:21:13.240 so many experiences to be had, and that we want 0:21:13.280 --> 0:21:18.199 to affirm those experiences and we want to affirm other folks, 0:21:18.240 --> 0:21:20.960 and particularly all the different types of black folks that 0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:25.080 we know of because our community is so diverse and 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:28.199 we have so many lived experiences to draw from. So 0:21:28.440 --> 0:21:36.320 I'm just happy to hear that that is noticed and received. Amen. 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:41.919 You you both, you both have definitely opened my mind 0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:46.000 and my eyes in a beautiful way when it comes 0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:50.600 to inclusion, because in any of us become can become insular. 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:56.600 We think that our experience is the experience, when in reality, 0:21:56.960 --> 0:21:59.760 you know, we're all living on a different plane, but 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:11.080 completely attached. Completely attached, but different wonderful, crazy, wild, funny, sad, 0:22:11.200 --> 0:22:14.639 uplifting stories. You know if if you look at it, 0:22:14.880 --> 0:22:18.240 look at humanity as a book. You know. So, I 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:22.480 really really appreciate how you have learned to me. Uh, 0:22:25.160 --> 0:22:28.320 I think we have all learned each other. Listen and 0:22:28.440 --> 0:22:30.359 learn from our listeners too, because I want to shout 0:22:30.359 --> 0:22:33.240 outs to not just Royce who is always making great 0:22:33.280 --> 0:22:36.760 comments and putting us on the things, but Donna another 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:39.800 Donna will be on Twitter like listening, ladies listen. Literally, 0:22:39.840 --> 0:22:43.560 I looked at my Twitter and they go, Donia like okay, so, uh, 0:22:43.640 --> 0:22:46.320 y'all need a good somatics person. I got that. Like 0:22:46.800 --> 0:22:50.359 our whole we have a community of amazing resource people 0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:53.000 and that's dope too. We just I just love my folks, 0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:58.920 don't you know, you know, yeah, we've feel proud over 0:22:58.920 --> 0:23:02.920 here today. We are we're feeling proud today. We enjoy 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:05.000 each other. So it's like the funny part is that 0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:07.520 we could do this and just cackle with each other 0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:11.040 and being la la happyland, just doing that, but knowing 0:23:11.200 --> 0:23:14.520 that in the process of enjoying one another's company and 0:23:14.560 --> 0:23:16.880 getting to kind of sift through and talk through all 0:23:16.880 --> 0:23:19.240 the stuff that we're thinking about and want to know 0:23:19.280 --> 0:23:22.760 about that also that's affecting other people in a positive way. 0:23:23.080 --> 0:23:25.640 What more could you really ask for after all of that? 0:23:25.800 --> 0:23:29.199 You know, that's something that you're just doing that comes natural, 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:32.879 that that just that feeds you is also feeding others. 0:23:33.040 --> 0:23:35.600 It's like it's a community. And to think we are 0:23:35.640 --> 0:23:40.439 having this conversation during the good people's quanza Okay, okay, 0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:48.040 what Habar Gandhi agent today is near a purpose? Yeah, 0:23:48.200 --> 0:23:53.640 so we're living fully, you know, we're living in our love. 0:23:53.840 --> 0:23:57.199 I think we should have a conversation about quanta. You know, 0:23:57.280 --> 0:24:00.840 I know some people are familiar with it. I'm not 0:24:00.920 --> 0:24:04.120 as familiar as most um or some but I think 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:07.120 we share a conversation about quansa where it comes from, 0:24:07.359 --> 0:24:10.479 who it comes from, and the principles of kwanza. You know, 0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:13.080 I like I like good things, you know, I like 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:18.160 things that benefit the people. You know, yeah, clans is cool. 0:24:18.280 --> 0:24:23.120 There's you know, all kinds of conversation around quansa you know, yes, 0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:27.960 so you know, let's I welcome this conversation about about 0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:31.240 the good people's coins. Thank you for today. It is 0:24:31.440 --> 0:24:33.880 is Nia and we are definitely I feel like living 0:24:33.880 --> 0:24:37.639 in our purpose. Today you say one today, on today, 0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:41.960 you say on today today, and today I say on 0:24:42.000 --> 0:24:44.560 today a lot. What's funny is that some of our 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:47.600 some of our fans actually reach out to me and 0:24:47.600 --> 0:24:50.280 and spit back the stuff I say a lot on 0:24:52.119 --> 0:24:54.600 all the good People's Internet or the good people said that. 0:24:54.960 --> 0:24:59.680 Somebody else said that. I guess, I say, listen a lot. Yeah, 0:25:00.560 --> 0:25:06.639 I think got to do. There's a baby, h it 0:25:06.760 --> 0:25:11.760 was it was the season one was White supremacy. Pull back. 0:25:11.800 --> 0:25:14.360 I pull back not because I'm afraid of the man, 0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:17.040 but because I pulled back because I want. I want 0:25:17.080 --> 0:25:19.800 you to understand that it's easy to talk to me. 0:25:19.880 --> 0:25:24.040 It is. I promise you, it's not a difficult. I 0:25:24.119 --> 0:25:32.200 promise you. Oh my god, it's hilarious. Guys. Please another 0:25:32.200 --> 0:25:36.119 one Amber. This is so nice. Thanks shau Hi. This 0:25:36.280 --> 0:25:40.360 is Mardi Um. I just finished listening to young Shonnon. 0:25:40.720 --> 0:25:43.840 I think that's how you say it, um, and I 0:25:43.920 --> 0:25:50.800 just am moved um two tears at the how eloquent 0:25:52.440 --> 0:25:57.280 this beautiful young lady is. And I have this thing 0:25:57.520 --> 0:26:02.360 to Asia and her husband. Job well done. I am 0:26:02.440 --> 0:26:07.600 so happy to know that you have parentsed six beautiful 0:26:07.720 --> 0:26:13.159 games and that their present, their extension of your brilliance, 0:26:13.240 --> 0:26:17.520